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Empathic Listening
Empathic Listening
DIRECTIONS: Children communicate to parents much more than words or ideas. They
communicate their world and their feelings about their experiences. Children need us to
understand their universe of feelings as they are in the process of developing their self-
concepts and ways of viewing themselves in the world.
Behind the words often lie important feelings that reflect the child's world and view of
him/herself. Children see the world differently than adults and we need to imagine being
in their world to develop empathy, the understanding from their view. We need to
become sensitive to their feelings and reflect that we understand their world so that they
will feel free to share their inner feelings and experiences with us.
Following are some typical "messages" children send. "Listen" for the feelings behind
each of the following. Then in the right-hand column, write the feeling or feelings you
heard. Discard the "content" and write in only the feeling –usually one or several words.
Some of the statements may contain several different feelings– write in all the main
feelings you hear, numbering each different feeling. When you have finished, compare
your list with those in the Key, scoring each item according to the scoring directions.
Write empathic responses that reflect the child's feelings and place under the feelings.
1. CHILD IS FEELING
CHILD SAYS TO YOU
(2) EMPATHIC RESPONSE
a. stumped b. discouraged
EXAMPLE: "I don’t know what is wrong. I
can’t figure it out. Maybe I should just quit c. tempted to give up
trying."
CHILD IS FEELING
CHILD SAYS
EMPATHIC RESPONSE
Now, use the scoring key on the next page and score your responses:
2. Total all of your item scores and write in the total score on the Scoring Key page.
SCORING KEY