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Part i: identifying the Problem
What is Feminism?
What Does The Term “Bitch” Really Mean? 13 13 14 16 20 22 25 27 30 30 36 38 39 40 41 42 43 45 46 47 49 50 51 52 54 54 54 55 55 55 56 56 56 56 57 57 57 57 58 58 60
An Attitude of Entitlement Women Shielded From Sexual Accountability An Unfair Sexual Advantage An Unfair Economic Advantage “Equal Rights” Vs. Equal Representation of Interests How Feminism Destroys Chivalry
How Feminism affects society
How Feminism affects Women
The Victim Mentality Women Encouraged To Deceive Females Encouraged to Neglect Their Gender Roles Over-emphasizing Male Functions
How Feminism emasculates Men
The Demonization of Men Demonizing Male Sexuality Dating Incompetence The Cycle of Emasculation Lack of Men’s Resources The Failure of Men’s Rights Leadership Where Dating “Experts” Go Wrong The “Game” of Social Interaction The Nice Guy The Player
How Feminism Undermines social interaction
Why Feminism Persists
Society Not Allowing The Examination of Feminism Faulty Logic Due to Social Conditioning Recognizing The Problem And Changing Our Approach Why Your Social Interactions Fail Boring & Superficial No Direction Can’t Lead A Woman Irresponsible Passive Behavior Can’t Make A Decision Passive-aggressive Nobody Listens To You Unrealistic Expectations Poor Expression Can’t Get Your Needs Met Girls Take Advantage of You Poor Social Interaction Models Limited Social Interaction Knowledge/Experience Where To Start Social Interaction Is Universal
Part ii: Understanding the solution
How to approach social interaction
The Need For Public Scrutiny Satisfaction The Cause of Attraction Functional Knowledge Attraction Today Too Short, Too Ugly, Too [Insert Inadequacy] The Need For Principles Order Vs. Disorder Balance—The Perfect Arrangement Dispositional Order Positional Order Bringing Order To Your Social Interactions Exposing Disorder Addressing Disorder In Others Limitation prevents disorder Schedule Your Time Limitation creates Proper Form Training Produces Consistency Freedom and limitation Inward Limitation Vs. Outward Limitation Direction 62 63 65 67 68 71 74 76 78 81 82 86 86 91 92 93 97 105 106 106 108 111 112 114 116 118 119 121 129 133 134 134 136 136 141 145 146 149 149 150 152 154 155 158 158 160 161
authority—the Proper Male Form
Purpose of Authority Society Opposes Male Authority Authority Maintained By Pain & Pleasure Pleasure Establishes Authority Pain Maintains Authority Fear Authority Requires Submission Why Authority Belongs To Men Being Responsible To Those Under Your Authority Personal Authority Social Authority Exercising Functional Authority Saying “NO” Leading Honoring Vs. Obeying Giver Initiating Why Women Play Games
Bringing Others Toward An Orderly State The Relationship Between Function And Value Restoring a Proper View of Function Functional Desires Vs. Dysfunctional Desires Functional Socialization The Standard For Social Competence The Test for Dysfunction Social Interaction Does Not Happen In A Vacuum
Reasoning Attitude Vs. In Three Stages Pain Vs. Satisfaction Functional & Dysfunctional Expectations Am I able to communicate these expectations? Providing The Right Direction And Removing Options Be Specific With Your Expectations Am I Enforcing My Expectations? Complementary Expectations And Competing Expectations Pain & Pleasure 167 How to Punish How Much Pain To Apply Where To Apply Pain When To Apply Pain Maintaining Your Authority Looking For Competence Vs.Part iii: applying the solution creating and Maintaining order Types of Expectations Personal Expectations & Social Expectations How To Get Your Expectations Met What Are My Expectations? Your Expectations Should Mirror Your Needs Deprivation Vs. begging & guilting PAssive Ignoring Sending Mixed Signals 190 oppressive Punishment The Pain Fallacy Threats Ridicule Mischaracterization 194 Direct Punishment Disagreement Disapproval/Rejection Ignoring Enforcing Consequences Using Negative Associations Applying Social Pressure 197 the necessity of Rewarding How to Reward Attention Sharing Your Experiences Affection Praise Provision Giving Attention Using Positive Associations Approval/Acceptance Loving 202 204 training Your expression Removing Disorder From Your Expression Components of An Orderly Expression 207 204 205 205 206 206 206 206 207 207 207 208 5 . Actions 180 167 167 168 168 168 170 172 174 174 175 176 176 177 181 183 184 185 185 185 186 187 189 192 193 194 195 196 196 197 198 198 199 200 200 201 Passive-aggressive Punishment Complaining. Creating Competence Handling Authority Violations From Rebellion To Submission.
Approach Anxiety Candor Effects of An Orderly Expression Examples of An Orderly Expression Written Expression Oral Expression Speaking With Authority Body Language Physical Appearance 208 211 212 212 214 215 215 216 217 6 .
” “be present”) too simplistic (“be confident. But none have actually helped you fully achieve your social goals. exclusive techniques. The advice is often • • • • • short-sighted (change your wardrobe) too theoretical (“improve your vibe. They fill you with false hope and shower you with false promises. and ground-breaking methods.cleaRing oUt tHe bUllsHit Countless books have been written about social interaction. They promise secret formulas.” “be yourself”) too situational (“this only works in bars/clubs”) flat out wrong (“make sure you pay for the first date”) Today’s relationship and dating “experts” bombard you with contradictory approaches to social interaction. 7 .
these professional marketers hook you into a buying an endless parade of products directed at your emotions. Thinking you’re going to cure that overnight is delusional. they construct business models designed to capitalize on your social incompetence. Instead. This entails 8 . Social interaction businesses don’t want to tell you the truth: their expensive 3-day weekend retreats and thousand-dollar seminars won’t provide long term results. income and lifestyle. no one has been able to accurately explain the nature of social interaction. By over-emphasizing the importance of wardrobe. Developing any skill requires time and effort. After all.Yet. It took years of bad social conditioning. The vast majority focus on superficial outward changes. Other experts offer worthless feel-good advice epitomized by titles like How to Win Friends and Influence People and I’m OK. it’s much more profitable to just sell you fish than to actually teach you how to catch them yourself. Gurus claiming to teach you social skills usually package a bunch of gimmicks into a DVD with catchy titles like Seduction Secrets and Instant Sexual Charisma. you didn’t become a social hermit overnight. To protect yourself from social snake oil salesmen. diet. you must remember one important fact: social competence isn’t found in a genie bottle. You’re OK. These companies have a vested interest in keeping you dependent on their never-ending parade of “new and improved” products. social status.
If you’re looking to make an overnight change. it is necessary to distinguish between its political phases and its fundamental governing philosophy. it is not easily understood or even opposed. it’s necessary to examine the natural laws that govern all social interactions. most people view feminism as a political and social movement purporting to secure equal rights and legal protections for women. Thus. Social competence comes from consistency of application. However. At its heart.much repetition. feminism represents women’s desire to control men. women hope to gain special rights and privileges. PaRt i: iDentiFYing tHe PRobleM WHat is FeMinisM? Today. not simply learning a better way of doing things. Quick fixes appeal to an immature urge to avoid the pain of self-discipline. In fact. you’re only fooling yourself. By attempting to seize male authority through the legal system. entitling them to your male resources. Before you can develop a practical view of social interaction. your own delusional perspective must be exposed. Band-aid solutions are much more tempting than following a principled approach to social interaction. Addressing your poor social skills requires more than just changing your wardrobe or learning how to say ‘cool’ things. 9 . it can only thrive if its victims remain ignorant of damaging influence on society. But because feminism is masked by feel-good slogans of gender equality. to properly understand how feminism threatens your social competence.
we’re left with a destructive social philosophy that preys on our emotions while removing our social accountability. It even goes so far as to associate itself with the civil rights movement of African-Americans. In other words.However. limiting a woman’s job opportunities is not the same as limiting a black man’s job opportunities. For every wife encouraged to defy her husband’s authority. However. Not only does feminism poison relationships. there’s a feminist politician trampling male civil rights. there’s a single mother out there creating a future criminal. Women are limited by their own natural gender design. For every girl taught to resent male leadership. this faulty rationale completely disregards the difference between unjust oppression and natural capacity restriction. once its modern political aims are sifted out. feminism purports to protect the rights of women from male oppression. nothing more aptly captures the destructive spirit of feminism than the age old sentiment: “I don’t need a man!” While feminists celebrate the spirit of gender independence. ironically. for every woman who believes she can replace the role of a man. it erodes the very gender roles that hold society together. Since allowing them into the fire department would unnecessarily endanger the lives 10 . there’s another record-setting divorce statistic tearing apart society. Yet. In fact. countless disillusioned men go ignored.
like children. they still insists on doing it.com/watch?v=uVTQHJmRgPM http://manhood101. they act according to their immediate desires. Instead addressing the merits of your argument. they fail to consider the possible consequences of their actions. Feminists created this false association with the black civil rights movement as way of circumventing their gender limitations.com/forum/viewtopic.com/forum/viewtopic. Although this short-sighted decision places the child and others in danger. Thus. his physical appearance does not affect his ability to do his job properly. women will focus on the way you argue. More often than not.php?f=16&t=368 11 . Even the way they argue reveals their love of appearance over substance. Women also lack foresight2 because. if your 1 2 3 http://manhood101. children will be in danger of suffering the consequences of indulging their reckless whims. The exciting prospect of participating in an adult activity is just too enticing. If this protection is removed. they focus on themselves to a dysfunctional degree3. Even though the child lacks the mental and physical capacity to drive. Consider how restriction affects a child’s life. restriction must be put in place to ensure the safety of others1. Since children lack foresight. we see just how dangerous feminism is to a healthy society. This is not the same thing as preventing a black man from joining the fire department based solely on his skin color. the child requires an adult to restrict their actions for their own protection.of others. The misleading comparison between gender limitation and racial oppression allowed feminists to gain sympathy for their dysfunctional cause. they lack the capacity to understand this. whereas a woman’s lack of upper body strength does limit her job performance.youtube. But by examining the necessity of limitation. Thus.php?f=16&t=455 http://www. A child admiring a parent’s ability to drive a car may desire to take on that role. children require healthy restrictions to protect them from their own short-sighted behavior.
waiting for the inevitable crash.. our feminist society lowers academic. . Women place priority on their feelings above all else. women invariably neglect to consider the viewpoint of others. Reason and common sense come in a distant second. As Florence Nightingale once said: In one sense. they will complain about your intentions.” as Parthe [the writer’s sister] says. ..com/watch?v=x3UUVdlF8MA 12 . for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so. because of feminism’s reckless encouragement. Discovering the painful truth is less important to a woman than maintaining her pleasurable delusions. Now is not all this the result of want of sympathy?4 Thus.point hurts their feelings. they will scold you for lacking manners. our schools. Consequently. If your argument upsets their beliefs.org/wiki/Florence_Nightingale http://www. Yet.. women happily volunteer to “steer” the lives of others5.. They cannot state a fact accurately to another.youtube. our economy and our lives must all sit in the passenger seat. oblivious to the dangerous situations they create. I do believe I am “like a man. nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information. But how? In having sympathy. they are incapable of giving any in return. not for loving. 4 5 http://en. Women crave for being loved.wikiquote. They scream out at you for sympathy all day long. professional and civil service standards to accommodate women’s irresponsible desire to accept duties they were never designed to fulfill. women lack the capacity to bear the same heavy responsibilities that men bear. Without male guidance.
The damaging effects can be felt in areas of life.” refers to a repugnant or difficult woman.WHat Does tHe teRM “bitcH” ReallY Mean? The term. unattractive appearance or desperation are not uncommon8.com/forum/viewtopic. lack of social savvy. especially when men try to lead social interactions with women. Instead of respecting this male duty. condescending remarks about lack of friends.thefrisky. Instead of respecting the male leadership role. 6 7 8 http://manhood101. Bitch characteristics include: • Anger toward men • Use of insulting language • Emotionally unstable • A tendency to make demands • A self-serving attitude • Stubborn • Argumentative Examining the relationship of these aspects reveals a common pattern of dysfunctional behavior typified by women deprived of male authority. women in feminist societies are conditioned to ignore necessary gender limitations. masculinity itself is routinely mocked by women focused on dominating their male counterparts. Such women often condemn male greetings by refusing to make eye contact or offering sarcastic. Enduring this type of adversarial social interaction is commonplace for males in feminist societies. Add to this.com/post/246-automatic-online-dating-dealbreakers/ 13 . As a result. insulting remarks.php?f=16&t=451 http://manhood101. “bitch.com/forum/viewtopic. academic institutions that defer women6 and the result is a legal system that now bullies7 men into submission while encourages women to usurp or circumvent male authority. women will attempt to subvert male authority by degrading male social status. Not only is male attention taken for granted.php?f=16&t=341 http://www.
” but beneath this facade of feel-good sentiments and moral posturing lies an ugly truth: feminism conditions women to believe they unilaterally deserve what men have earned. Not surprisingly. but there exists also in the human heart a depraved taste for equality. To 14 . women find themselves living in a general state of fear—lacking direction. security and emotional comfort. these unstable unions usually fail. in fact. and reduces men to prefer equality in slavery to inequality with freedom. which impels the weak to attempt to lower the powerful to their own level. It forces women to sacrifice their most essential feminine value—their submissive attitude. It signifies in the heart of every republican: “Nobody is going to occupy a place higher than I. feminism fails to inform women about the heavy price that must be paid by those in authority positions. Democracy In America Feminists bombard society with sound bites like “gender equality” and “social diversity. Their relationships are characterized by bitter power struggles over leadership and resentful negotiations of gender roles. HoW FeMinisM aFFects societ Y an attitUDe oF entitleMent “Equality is a slogan based on envy. a manly and lawful passion for equality which excites men to wish all to be powerful and honored. Feminism advocates this competitive approach to dating under the assumption that men favor challenging women. However. As a result.” “There is. However.” — Alexis de Tocqueville. contributing to the epidemic divorce rate and mounting social isolation felt in feminist societies. As a result. this competitive dating philosophy actually hinders the development of romantic relationships. women feel entitled to male authority. This passion tends to elevate the humble to the rank of the great. Such women view courtship as a competition rather than a cooperative effort. preferring instead to adopt an aggressive and condescending style of communication.Bitches regard the feminine disposition with contempt.
based solely on their gender. This entitlement attitude is grafted into females at a young age. Even though women comparatively work less hours. Nor do they realize that a leader’s decisions are audited for competence and accountability.com/forum/viewtopic. It deceives them into believing that having their cake and eating it too is possible. Provoked by feminism’s angry demand for equal benefits. Women foolishly assume their gender will forever exempt them from the responsibilities placed on those in authority positions. Such irresponsible claims of perceived injustices characterize the indulgent nature of the feminist philosophy of entitlement.women. they are conditioned to believe gender hatred is the cause. leadership merely translates into the acquisition of personal benefits. Instead. Feminists simply lie to women by claiming they earn less than males doing the same job.co. This can be observed in feminism’s complaint about wage inequalities. According to the American research. Sacrificing themselves to meet the needs of those under their care—even if it means forfeiting their lives—never even occurs to them.php?f=16&t=455 10 http://www. women remain ignorant of the necessary sacrifices required to secure such benefits. Feminism allows women to ignore this fundamental relationship between authority and accountability. mainly among women. performing less work in less dangerous occupations. Our feminist culture raises young girls to believe their value far exceeds men. The opportunity to wield male authority without worrying about the cost is an enticing carrot.html 15 . there has been a 67 per cent increase in [Narcissism] over the past two decades.uk/femail/article-1213212/The-ego-epidemic-more-inflated-sensefabulousness.dailymail. no mention is made of these facts9. The thought of responsibility is chronically absent from their considerations. especially men.10 They soon learn that others. Girls grow up feeling they deserve better treatment than boys. are expected to shoulder 9 http://manhood101.
women are allowed to use their bodies to defraud men out of their hard earned money. they completely ignore the hypocrisy of sexualizing their own appearance.com/forum/viewtopic. Permission to entice and provoke sexual response from boys is permitted as early as elementary school. WoMen sHielDeD FRoM sexUal accoUntabilitY Even though women complain about being objectified by men. Yet no feminist is willing to hold women accountable for their systematic exploitation of male sexuality in strip clubs across the world. Adult females carry this vain selfobjectification even further.php?f=16&t=380 16 . they have no conscience about manipulating the male sex drive to fill their own bank accounts. Are they allowed to respond to female provocation? Is it fair for women to exploit male sexuality without consequence? Feminists often lament the emergence of a “rape culture” supposedly perpetuated by men.the burden of their living expenses. dress in revealing clothing and flirt with boys. publish articles about and actively promote billion-dollar makeup. fashion and cosmetic surgery industries aimed solely at drawing attention to their physical appearance. While women fault men for not being able to control their biological urges. On a daily basis. This is especially hypocritical considering that feminists try to absolve women of blame whenever a scantily 11 http://manhood101. But what about boys.11 Mothers allow their daughters to wear make-up. Society supports this view by coddling females with affirmative action programs and other genderbiased privileges unavailable to their less valuable male counterparts. Countless women buy from.
g. & Michaels. And contrary to fashionable myths.g.. males possess a far more potent sex drive than females.g. & Gebhard. In terms of our categories.stm 13 http://manhood101. Accountability for one’s appearance is ignored as feminism encourages shifting blame onto men for any negative reactions. want sex sooner within a relationship (e. engage in more initiation of sex (e. have a greater number of fantasies. animals for constantly desiring sex. Blumstein & Schwartz. McCabe. The dangerous assumption that both genders possess the same sexual appetite further exacerbates this problem.dressed female is raped. desire to have more sexual partners (e. Leiblum & Rosen. 1971. 1983). Gagnon.12 Men find themselves demonized as perverts for staring at breasts on display. are less willing to live without sexual activity (e. Oliver & Hyde. 1987). time.g. Martin. Sprecher.. Michael.com/strangenews/090129-nightmares-women. society burdens men with unfair sexual standards based on a lower female sex drive.html 17 .g.uk/2/hi/uk_news/northern_ireland/8555228. men have always pursued women. Elias.g. 2002. Barbee. and predators for seeking sexual fulfillment. masturbate more often (e. expend more resources (e..g. 1995). Boyd.g.g. Knoth..com/forum/viewtopic. & Singer. we found that. relative to women. desire and enjoy more varied sexual practices 12 http://news...g. more often experience sexual arousal (e. 1988).14 In The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships.. & Schwartz.g. Bullough. Klusmann.php?f=16&t=342 14 http://www.. 1988).13 From a biological standpoint. take more risks and make more sacrifices for sex (e. 1995)..bbc. desire sex more frequently (e. and Wenzel (2004) observe: In our review. we saw a strong pattern of findings indicating that men have a stronger sex drive than women. By failing to acknowledge the stronger biological motivation in the male sex drive. Pomeroy. 1993). 1994). Women fail to see the connection between their behavior and its consequences.co.Laumann. 1953. 1993). Eysenck. Kinsey.. Buss & Schmidt. & Brewer. men think about sex more frequently (e. money) to get sex (see Elias.livescience. 1992). Leitenberg & Henning. O’Sullivan & Byers. Harvey. Sprecher. which occur more often and are more varied (e. 1998).
More than 1.. And recent studies further supports this fundamental difference between the genders by noting that sex is optional for women: When it comes to health.000 women participated in the nationwide Women’s Wellness Survey. 6.cookinglight. David 15 The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships by John H. In case after case.org/templates/story/story. Instead.edu/lacrosseincident/ 18 .mediaradar. 3. eating. And the fact that age of consent vary from state to state only reinforces this confusion. which polled their opinions on healthy living. The Duke Lacrosse19. 7. drinking the recommended daily amount of water is more important to women than having enough sex.. Respondents ranked the following behaviors in terms of importance to overall health and well being. 4. 5.org/ http://news. And our current age of consent laws do little to clear up the confusion about acceptable sexual practices. Determining when a person should have the legal capacity to consent to sex is difficult to answer without a uniform consensus.(e.com/magazine/womens-wellness-poll-00400000054172/ http://www. society automatically designates women as victims17 while stigmatizing men as perpetrators18. it forces men to accept the absurd notion that their libidos exactly parallel that of women. When asked to prioritize behaviors related to their overall health and well being.duke. Harvey. according to a national survey conducted by our magazine. 1994)15 Even the vast majority of internet porn consumers are men. By ignoring this key difference. Laumann et al. Their priorities may surprise you: 1. Getting enough sleep Keeping stress level low Finding time to relax Eating healthfully Drinking the recommended amount of water Finding time to exercise Having enough sex16 But our feminist society fails to acknowledge such obvious gender differences. 2. Susan Sprecher 16 17 18 19 http://www. Amy Wenzel.g. women ranked drinking enough water fifth and sex seventh on the list. and exercise. society sets men up for failure.php?storyId=122243730 http://www.npr.
thesmokinggun. “If I waited until he was legal. Because feminism assigns women default victim status25.telegraph. my shame would go away. Once a person’s gender replaces the actual evidence as the overriding argument.” Now just imagine if a man posted a picture of Miley Cyrus with the headline. feminism has been excusing women from sexual accountability.com.” and.com/story/0. recently posted an article condoning the rape of minors. with the captions: “Please don’t take me to jail. DTL 22 23 http://www.sfgate.com/archive/years/2010/0113101copperfield1.foxnews. Since it’s political heyday in the 60s and 70s. a trial is no longer required.” features minors. The Frisky’s editor and regular contributor to major news organization. Men’s reputations and lives are unjustly destroyed by vindictive women permitted to abuse the justice system22. But McDonell-Parry’s cavalier attitude reflects the sexual impunity afforded to women by the feminist legal system24.html 21 http://www.com/slides/246-21-guys-were-ashamed-to-say-wed-totally-screw/P8/ 24 http://www. “21 Guys We’re Ashamed To Say We’d Totally Screw23. CNN.338268. 20 http://www. Amelia McDonell-Parry.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/7995844/Judges-told-be-morelenient-to-women-criminals.thefrisky.com/cgi-bin/article.com/news/article/141659/77/Arrested-GMU-Student-Accuses-University-Policeof-Harassment 19 .cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/EDGIJ7OQKS1. Young men find their civil rights violated as they fall victim to feminist double standards of sexual accountability. “I’d love to objectify and sexualize this minor!” Society would be screaming for his head.Copperfield20 and Kobe Bryant21 cases perfectly illustrate this disturbing legal trend.html http://www.co. Nick Jonas and Taylor Lautner.html 25 http://wusa9.2933.00.
they have virtually no legal reprisals to fear—shame doesn’t require a prison term. feminism’s everexpanding judicial bubble negates the educational sting of liability27. exploit male resources with abandon and hide behind hypocritical codes of sexual conduct. “Dorks” and “nerds” are routinely dismissed as beneath her consideration or “out of her league. on the other hand.blogspot.com/#!5783453/spring-is-no-excuse-for-street-harassment 20 . are portrayed as nothing more than relationship props designed to serve a woman’s narcissistic dating criteria.com/ 27 http://manhood101. get-out-of-jail-free sexual behavior because they realize men will inherit the blame. enabling women to engage in risky. Feminist laws act as safety nets.naafa.php?f=16&t=428 28 29 http://www. women feel encouraged to flaunt their bodies. No matter how obese or lazy a woman is. irresponsible. And for those women unfortunate enough to get caught (Debrah LaFave.” Failure to pay for a woman’s dating expenses or 26 http://falserapesociety. an UnFaiR sexUal aDvantage In contemporary romantic storylines shown on TV and in movies. Thus. female interests take precedent.org/ http://jezebel. feminism demands that society focus its attention and sympathy on her alone. justifications will be made for her behavior. Mary Kay Letourneau).com/forum/viewtopic. No matter how vindictive. there’s a victim right’s group28 ready to embrace her. self-absorbed or flagrantly disrespectful a woman’s behavior becomes. Since all sexual accountability falls on the man’s shoulders26.29 Regardless of how little a woman reciprocates in a relationship. Men. a sympathetic public ear and media celebration await them.
Instead. feminists remains silent about this biological “inequality. women realize they hold a powerful sexual advantage. while women are taught to indignantly clamor for ‘equality. men must now contend with affirmative action quotas and sexist social expectations like chivalry— both designed to nullify natural male gender advantages. Nor are men allowed to demand that women pay their fair share of dating expenses. women employ calculated flirting to tempt and tease men into thinking they will laid—all while simultaneously blaming men for not being able to control themselves. it also places society in a dire economic situation.com/forum/viewtopic.” Women are allowed to exploit this advantage without restriction. when men seek to benefit from their own natural advantages.’ they are also conditioned to ignore the hypocrisy of capitalizing on their own innate gender advantages.” In a never ending quest to please dysfunctional women. using makeup and cosmetic surgery to enhance their appearance. This allows females to choose between multiple suitors. feminists cry foul. However. emasculated men contribute to their own mistreatment and marginalization. feminism removes male authority and places it in the hands of women. Men too possess their own natural advantages in the form of superior physical strength and superior mental prowess.30 Since male biology dictates that men will initiate romantic interactions. 30 http://manhood101.php?f=16&t=380 21 . This not only ruins relationships. sexual manipulation has become a sport for today’s women. Thus. While women’s natural gender advantages are celebrated. men’s natural gender advantages are denounced as misogynistic tools of oppression. because this advantage serves women. Men who give too little are labeled as “douchebags” while men who give too much are vilified as “creepy.failure to meet other unreasonable demands incites public mockery and contempt. Consequently. No longer are men allowed to freely compete for jobs that suit their natural capacity. By wearing revealing outfits. By negating male gender advantages through legal intimidation. Yet.
But because women lack the capacity to meet the demands of the hunting job. It enacts a policy called “affirmative action” designed to provide “equality” for women. regardless of whether or not they’re qualified. their output is very poor. so the men will be given ten hunting jobs. five men lose their hunting jobs to five women. As a result. In this way. Working men end up picking up the slack created by incompetent female employees who lack the capacity to fulfill their job duties. our situation is not unlike this model.com/forum/viewtopic. As men subsidize female wages by working harder to offset female job incompetence. Now. Today. feminism enters the picture. The men’s jobs fulfill the women’s food needs and the women’s jobs fulfill the men’s clothing needs. the policy is focused on making sure everyone has access to each job. everyone’s necessities are met. Soon society suffers a food shortage. Men subsidize their female co-worker’s paychecks by producing more.php?f=16&t=455 22 . Everyone in the society will need clothing and food. Each person is given a gender-based job. 31 http://manhood101. can be constructed to expose the economic problem caused by feminism. All twenty jobs represent the entire economic structure of society. and the women will be given ten sewing jobs. higher quality goods and services while their actual compensation for work done is lower.31 Even women who don’t work receive this benefit through welfare subsidies and other programs designed to benefit “disadvantaged” female groups. Feminism entitles women to male-oriented economic positions through affirmative action quotas and other gender-biased programs. Instead of worrying about meeting the needs of society.an UnFaiR econoMic aDvantage A simplified model of society. composed of ten men and ten women. they end up essentially paying women’s taxes as well.
Thus. it fails to protect men from falling victim to traditional gender roles (the same ones denounced by feminists). Nowhere is this imbalance more clearly observed than in the economic disparity men experience in a feminist dating environment. By shaming men into acting like ‘gentlemen. But only when the reasons for gender wage disparities are examined does the ugly truth come out: feminism doesn’t just want equal pay for women—it expects entitlement wages. less demanding careers than men.’ women secure special economic entitlements. Advice 32 http://manhood101. feminism deceives society into believing an economic injustice exists. egalitarian goal. By conveniently neglecting to address the fact that women overall work less hours in less dangerous. securing equal wages for women seems like a noble. the feminist State forces employers to pay women what they think they deserve rather than what they have actually earned.php?f=16&t=380 23 .com/forum/viewtopic.On the surface.32 Work Paycheck Paycheck $ $ $ Loser $ Dating Winner Government While feminism claims to support economic equality for both genders.
Through a one-sided application of chivalry.columnists like Judy McGuire routinely advise women to exploit this hypocrisy: “Just because [a man] bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to [reciprocate]. women now receive two paychecks.”33 MONEY = SEX MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = GRATITUDE FOR PROVISION (CARING) FEMINISM = FRAUD MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = NO SEX (NO CARING) “Thanks!” Because women are essentially being subsidized by men on these dates. men allow themselves to be robbed of their 33 http://www.com/post/246-dating-donts-reasons-not-to-have-sex/ 24 .thefrisky.
“eqUal RigHts” vs.their occupations. Although the parents may opt for delicious food. both are degraded. and from so preposterous a medley of the works of nature nothing could ever result but weak men and disorderly women.”34 — Alexis de Tocqueville Voting is designed to give citizens of a state the means to have their interests represented. they have better dietary knowledge and superior financial resources. impose on both the same duties. This places them in the optimum position to provide for the children. Volume 2 (New York: The Colonial Press. the future interests of the children are more important than their immediate gratification. They would give to both the same functions. this short-sighted approach to governance presents a significant problem as the majority opinion is often detrimental to society. 25 . As responsible adults. they would mix them in all things . their pleasures. p. confounding together the different characteristics of the sexes. eqUal RePResentation oF inteRests “There are people in Europe who. a majority rule system is instituted with the intention of fairly representing all interests. Democracy In America. would make man and woman into beings not only equal but alike. In a democracy. their business. 1899).economic means. and grant to both the same rights. feminism’s manipulation of the economy affords women special rights under the facade of “equal” rights. Imagine a group of ten parents and 100 children about to eat dinner. however. It is proper 34 Alexis DeTocqueville. they are primarily concerned with the children’s health. Only the adults can vote on the menu. 705. It may readily be conceived that by thus attempting to make one sex equal to the other. Thus.
And since female self-esteem is so fragile. women are forced to govern themselves. The children will be having ice cream for dinner. The parents still vote for a balanced meal. even though they lack the capacity to do so. security and liberty are the first to be sacrificed on the Altar of Good Intentions. But now let’s include the children in the voting decision. those most in need of the law’s protection suffer from their own emotional voting decisions. Women allow their emotions to determine their governing structure35. men neglecting to care for those under their authority present just as great a problem. uneducated opinions and unstable emotions will destroy a society from within. It offers no protection against harmful self-indulgence and affords even less justice. but the children.com/article/2009/08/02/obamas-misandry-cineplex-marc-h-rudov/ 26 . women aren’t 35 http://thenononsenseman. Although the majority opinion has been fairly represented. This authority is also required to enforce the law. Ironically. Since the majority can always outvote any legal restrictions. lacking foresight and caring only about immediate gratification. the law becomes meaningless. Without the ruling principle of the law. Just as men lack the capacity to bear children. Without the ability to enforce a governing restriction. Without the stable guidance of men ruled by principle. maintaining this democratic voting system will endanger the children’s health over the long term. women value group consensus over personal integrity. the majority opinion has been fairly represented. vote for ice cream. This means women will typically side with an unjust policy as long as the majority of people have adopted it. male authority loses its foundation. negating the point of even creating laws. According to the democratic process. atrophying to mere words on paper. the common good has been sacrificed. Allowing women to vote is no different than allowing children to govern themselves. In the absence of male leadership. unjust actions. Yet. Democratic voting only caters to the lowest common denominator in society. Emotional mob rule has trampled over reason. On the other hand. Irresponsible men have driven women to mismanage their own lives.and justified for the adults to shoulder the burden of the voting responsibility.
37-38.8599.00.” Growing up without a father has a deep psychological effect on a child. a chronically overcrowded prison system populated by the offspring of single mothers36. a sociologist who studies marriage and family issues and co-authored a seminal book on low-income mothers called Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage. I didn’t want to believe it. “but her children still do.time. ‘I can be a mother and a father to a child. p. —Caitlin Flanaga.’ but it’s not true. emasculated. A generation of effeminate.html 27 . 43. damaged family structures. apathetic young men now burdens our economy. women often complain about the lack of chivalry shown by men. men have been expected to shoulder the burden of providing for those under their authority. male authority languishes in a sickened condition. shows.” Kefalas says. bitter custody battles. Women supported this functional relationship by managing the household duties. because of feminism’s insistence on including women in our governing structure. Guilty: Liberal “Victims” and Their Assault on America (New York: Crown Publishing Group. hypocritical gender standards and dysfunctionally aggressive women.com/time/nation/article/0.” says Maria Kefalas. “Women always tell me. 37 http://www. Yet today. 36 Ann Coulter. 35. 57-58. “The mom may not need that man. 2009). They point to men’s reluctance to pay for women’s dating expenses (dinner.qualified to govern society.1908243. Few things hamper a child as much as not having a father at home. Yet. “As a feminist. They require men to properly care for their needs. drinks. women fail to realize that their own self-serving demands killed chivalry. Even cultures around the world experience the debilitating effects of feminism: politically correct speech. 51. epidemic divorce rates. gifts) as evidence of this trend. Time magazine37 HoW FeMinisM DestRoYs cHivalRY Historically. a litigious attitude. But today.
However. men gradually abandoned the gentleman role. desiring to gain the same respect accorded to males by proving themselves to be “strong and independent” individuals. women were competing with the hand that fed them. it failed to warn them of the consequences. As feminism continued to belittle the notion of women depending on male support. Confused by frustrated feminism’s self-serving design.In recent history. chivalry only stressed what a man should do for a woman. they reasoned that it was a gentleman’s obligation to care for a lady. Yet. women childishly tried to reclaim their original status as social welfare recipients. It never mentioned reciprocating that sacrifice. instead of being the recipients of male affection and comfort. Feminism’s female-focused agenda forced everyone into highly competitive social and economic conditions. Now. the political arm of feminism provoked women to enter the workforce for the sake of gender equality. As budding feminists. job competition increased. women failed to realize the conflict this new economic situation would create with their natural and functional desire to be cared for by men. Women took jobs designated for men. But when such bothersome duties surfaced. After all. They failed to realize that gaining the same respect as men would require making masculine sacrifices. Feminism’s philosophy of female entitlement had turned the notion of chivalry on its head. The same 28 . Women naively expected to maintain this dysfunctional relationship indefinitely. Gender competition slowly replaced gender cooperation. they viewed financial independence from men as a blessing.
] guys in my generation don’t have manners. Championing gender-based entitlement under a banner of equality creates understandable resentment. we can be equal partners.. They can’t rely on the kindness of men they now take advantage of in the legal system. As feminism continues to degrade and devalue the male gender function.” Today. really. men began to protest with their own reluctance to follow traditional gender roles: “I feel like women have come so far because of the sexual revolution. chivalry is at odds with feminism’s “equal rights” motto. the feminist movement—we can work. they’re not gentlemen. As Rashida Jones laments. Meanwhile [. 29 . How could women still expect to be considered welfare recipients while selfishly benefiting from their newly acquired economic independence. women can no longer depend on the generosity of men they now compete against in the economy.. women’s lib. the more feminists demanded. Even as a social philosophy. chivalry is pushed over the same economic and legal cliff it created. the quicker chivalry caved. They can’t expect romance from the men whose social status they have hijacked. we can nurture. It’s sad. Thus.traditional gender roles that feminists bitterly rejected were the equitable glue that held relationships together.
Women will constantly complain about being taken advantage of or lied to. In the workplace. Anyone daring to object faces the threat of litigation.com/documents/LadiesNightsPrssRels. self-pitying stage. Thus. women are granted license to impose their hypocritical standards upon men. Not only does their self-imposed victimhood tarnish legal and professional climates. Complaints about male 38 39 http://www.php?f=16&t=341 30 . Such knee-jerk assignment of blame is the reason their relationships never improve.39 What man would dare point a finger at this legally protected gender. The legal system today reflects this social trend.doc http://manhood101.” given such a biased legal definition. How can anyone even blame a “victim.com/forum/viewtopic. Under this irresponsible legal climate. WoMen encoURageD to Deceive In countless advice columns and dating surveys. skewing verdicts in favor of women38 at the cost of personal accountability. institutionalizing women as default victims. the more women become accustomed to viewing themselves as perpetual. the courts act as enabling agents. yet feel no responsibility whatsoever for their choices in men. women lament the lack of honesty from the men they date. It’s always the “asshole” boyfriend or the “abusive and controlling” husband who causes the problems. Those who complain of being offended by men are rewarded with feminist laws favoring their arbitrary and self-righteous sense of indignation.roydenhollander. It conditions women to blame men for their problems. they can emasculate male sexuality with cavalier abandon. you are unlikely to hear of women acknowledging any fault for their failed relationships. women can now be as ultra-sensitive to sexual language as they choose. Or in social settings.HoW FeMinisM aFFects WoMen tHe victiM MentalitY Feminism strands women in an adolescent. blameless martyrs. Nowadays. it also undermines romantic lives. The more courts validate “emotional distress” claims.
” (Marilyn French) “Every year nearly four million women are beaten to death.” (Carol Gilligan) “95% of married women are dissatisfied with their sex lives.” (Lenore Weitzman) “As the river of a girl’s life flows into the sea of Western culture. As Robert Franklin notes: One of the worst aspects of feminism historically has been the willingness of certain feminists to make up “facts” and misrepresent others.deception are commonplace. and that’s all they are. Denial persists because feminism never holds women accountable to their word. The mere fact that books and articles criticizing feminist claims so often contain the word ‘myth’ says 40 The Life of Florence Nightingale: 1862-1910. she is in danger of drowning or disappearing. Instead.” (Katherine Hanson) “Women’s income level drops 73% post-divorce.”40 —Florence Nightingale Feminism trains women to excuse and justify their own dishonest approach to life. self-deception is held up as the female social interaction model. It is this tradition of intellectual dishonesty that has brought us such noteworthy gems as “all men are rapists.” (Shere Hite) “Women just are better.” (Cokie Roberts) Needless to say. But why then do women end up dating such men? Simple: women fail to account for their own dishonesty: “[Women] cannot state a fact accurately to another. I could go on almost indefinitely. Sir Edward Tyas Cook 31 . nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information.
women often advertise their innocence and high moral standing when dating. Plainly. There’s only one problem—this woman had sex on the first date. Her lie perfectly epitomizes the rampant self-deception women use to meet the dysfunctional expectations of feminism.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-showsWOMEN-biggest-cheats--theyre-just-better-lying-it. no hard feelings—just keep on looking elsewhere. appearance45. capabilities47 or limitations48. but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous. the bigger liars are women. it’s not at all unheard of for feminist academics (Gilligan and Weitzman come to mind) to base their claims on “data” which has the suspicious quality of never having been seen by anyone else. And when other academics ask to see their data. behavior46.com/?p=134 http://pewresearch.html#ixzz0Q9kaNbSi 43 http://www.billoblog.co. someone is lying here.dailymail.41 This trend is even notable in the way such women view their own sexual identity. Indeed. 41 http://manhood101.more than I ever could.php?f=16&t=475 42 http://www. When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires.com/article/5639808/women_are_waiting_until_later_in_life.php?f=16&t=368 32 .dailyexpress. Note this personal ad excerpt: I’m not looking for a one night stand.org/pubs/932/men-or-women-whos-the-better-leader http://manhood101. British men consistently claim to have had more partners than women—the current average is 13. while women claim to have had only nine.co. men will give the same answers to both.topsocialite.com/forum/viewtopic. While men might exaggerate their sexual conquests. weight44. they never produce it.com/celebrities-without-makeup/ http://www. html?cat=52 44 http://www.uk/posts/view/158792/Modern-Life-Why-women-can-t-tell-eachother-the-truth-about-size/ 45 46 47 48 http://www.associatedcontent.42 Women don’t permit themselves to hear the truth about their age43. Taking pride in their purity. If a quick fling is what you’re looking for. There is no way I’m having sex with someone unless I’m in a committed relationship. even time and again over many years. As Maureen Rice reveals: The truth is that [women] have always lied about [their] sex lives.com/forum/viewtopic.
com/site/post/246-dealbreaker-he-hated-my-clothes/ 50 http://www.. feminists feel that men should be scolded for telling a lie or telling the truth.thefrisky. Men are held hostage to this deceitful self-esteem architecture through constant threats of sexual deprivation. no one told him that honesty is not always the best policy49. By normalizing the “cougar” lifestyle.kpic. older women are given the freedom to sexually manipulate younger men with impunity. women’s loss of sexual appeal is minimized while consequences are artificially orchestrated to further their indulge their vanity.com/news/local/118023919. women focus on maintaining the euphoric flow of approval afforded by their social advantage. Amelia implies that men need to learn how to read minds better if they hope to please women ruled by a “have your cake and eat it too” philosophy. women’s tendency to remain in denial about their limitations and weaknesses is indulged by shows like Sex And The City.html 33 .Instead.50 In the process. Amelia McDonellParry. like single-minded drug addicts. 49 http://www. Furthermore.. editor-in-chief at The Frisky scolds her ex-boyfriend for the unforgiveable sin of telling the truth: “Apparently.” Apparently. Cougar Town and Desperate Housewives.
women are taught to believe that whatever gains popular acceptance must be right. provision and approval of males. And nowhere is this deceptive trend from women more apparent than in the dating arena where lying becomes par for course.oprah. independent” women show no weakness. YourTango advises women to avoid telling the truth in an article titled. Perpetuating this deception even further.As much as men are discouraged from inquiring about a woman’s age. in a vain quest to feed their malnourished self-esteem. distortions and excuses to use in various social situations52.” The article offers 54 sample lies. the article coaches them to make up imaginary excuses. the cosmetics industry—an annual multi-billion dollar charade of doctored bodies and disguised faces—manipulates women into valuing self-deception. denial requires deception. women will just as easily lie to conceal the fact. women feel pressured to impress. Feminism even teaches women how to lie more effectively51. “5 51 http://www. Men must buy into the lies being sold by feminism if women hope to successfully indulge their characteristic self-reprievals. Many advertisers now market their products to accommodate this deception. instead of simply saying no to a request.com/2011-03-23/news/women-s-funding-network-sex-trafficking-studyis-junk-science/ 52 http://www.citypages. weight or appearance. From Dove soap ads showcasing obese ladies in their underwear with the unspoken message: “Look at me! I’m fat and proud of it. however. Feminism dictates that “strong.com/article/spirit/knowyourself/pkgempoweryourself/200807_omag_no 34 . This deceptive advice is readily accepted by women desiring to feel good about themselves no matter what the cost. From cosmetic surgery to fake eyelashes. For example. A recent article from Oprah’s website encourages women to use deception by providing “54 Ways to Get Out of Doing Anything You Don’t Want to Do. this proves an impossible task for a gender designed to rely on the protection. Get used to it!” to blogs like The Rotund advocating fat acceptance.
com/200934330/5-acceptable-first-date-lies http://www. Telling white lies here and there keeps others happy and keeps us in their good graces. In fact.yourtango.Acceptable First Date Lies. who says: A little fabrication is mandatory in order to function within society.yourtango. Vicki Santillano.54 53 54 http://www. one social psychologist studying liars found that people who lie are often more popular than their honest peers.”53 This is supported by DivineCaroline’s claim from.com/200919150/white-lies-relationships 35 .
Ms. Under such flawed reasoning. “Anything more girly. Her lack of submission reveals a damaging cultural trend—hatred of healthy gender roles: PRETTY in pink? Not Deborah Watson. I think: ‘Ugh. feminism compels women to abandon this symbiotic design in favor of competing with males. Dysfunctional women no longer fear being called “bitches” because “assertive” and “independent” have become fashionable excuses for their behavior. Instead of acknowledging this culture of deception. Yet. female deception becomes a justifiable necessity. “It’s not cool to be demure.”55 55 http://www. gross! I don’t want to wear that. “Large and in charge” slogans now validate women’s disorderly eating habits. further adding to the pervasiveness of female deception. they would incur mocking allegations of sexual impotence or the catchall insult of harboring unresolved anger issues toward women. And even if these men did complain. a fashion stylist in New York.html?_r=2&8dpc 36 . Emasculated men are conditioned to excuse women from being held accountable. has turned her back on those hallowed totems of femininity in favor of the raffish look of a big T-shirt. Deceit thrives in an atmosphere devoid of respectful social standards. well-worn jeans and a graying black cotton overcoat.Irresponsible statements like these lend unwarranted scientific credibility to female deception and place additional social pressure on women to lie to avoid society’s contempt. As any man actively dating already knows.’ ” she said.” she said. Whatever provokes a second look in the mirror is quickly sanitized by the diplomatic trappings of etiquette. “you don’t ask a woman’s age or weight! How dare you!” FeMales encoURageD to neglect tHeiR genDeR Roles Females possess a nature designed to complement that of males. women see nothing wrong with their behavior. And even having such standards proves useless without the requisite male authority to enforce them. getting a phone number from a woman is about as reliable as a promise made by a used car salesman.nytimes.com/2009/12/24/fashion/24APPEAL. Watson. I just see as weak. Contempt for male authority defines the modern woman. women routinely slap euphemistic labels on top of it. “If I see a floral print or pastel dress in my closet. But because emasculated men never protest.
Through feminism’s short-sighted quest for “gender equality. Women desiring children or dependence on male financial care incur society’s contempt.Instead of tending to feminine functions like nurturing. But feminism’s insistence upon forcing females into maleoriented careers undermines the symbiotic nature of functional gender roles.wharton. Instead they’ve been taught to covet male functions in order to feel valuable. Others become seduced by the promise of social status assigned to those pursuing authoritative careers. Today. Housewives feel like pariahs. money that should rightfully be distributed to men is lost. feminism erodes our social structure. Yet their romantic lives suffer. feminism makes it impossible for healthy relationships to survive. feminism causes women to hate the very reason men value them—their feminine nature. most women still expect men to pay for their dates. Essentially. Feminism’s irresponsible handling of common gender interests also infects the national economy. As more women are artificially introduced into the workforce via affirmative action hiring policies. By condemning this complementary aspect.” women have been deceived into hating their natural function.56 By belittling functional gender roles. planning and leading. Because feminism fails to differentiate between equality of person and equality of function this leads to a grave misunderstanding of the 56 http://bpp. This restricts the financial means of males and further prevents men from caring for those under their authority.upenn. relying on the traditional model of female dependence. supporting and comforting. she abandons them for masculine functions like disciplining.pdf 37 .edu/betseys/papers/Paradox%20of%20declining%20female%20 happiness.
I’ve learned that we all want to be validated. that it means something. women need validation to feel valuable. Their value is determined by how well each fulfills their function. Today. Feminists belittle housewives for their decision to stay at home and support their husbands. Unless women carry briefcases and PhDs.worth of women. The hand is not equal to the eye in function. the more they are conditioned to hate their own feminine function. the eye cannot go anywhere. Their value is not determined by comparison. women covet strength and independence. the foot cannot see where it is going. their very worth is questioned. Both functions are vital to the proper operation of the body even though they are “unequal” in nature. We all want to feel as if our lives have been significant and purposeful. Consider the human body. but both play equally essential roles. oveR-eMPHasizing Male FUnctions Oprah Winfrey recently wrote: Isn’t meaning the common denominator of human experience? Over the years while doing my show. And without the eye. Without the foot. to know that what we say matters. Yet. instead of gentleness and submission. feminism misdirects this fundamental feminine aspiration by claiming it can only be met through developing a masculine function. But can a gender—unable to visit the bathroom alone—really be qualified to determine its own future? Does the current viral growth of gossip websites give us any indication of the 38 . Both foot and eye are unequal in function. Both carry out different but equally essential roles. The more women fall victim to feminism’s dangerous message. As Oprah stated.
com/#!5680722/duke-frat-boys-are-still-expert-douchebags 39 .superficial tendencies of women left to their own devices? Can those who avoid personal accountability for the sake of convenience ever be fit to govern a nation. and violent tendencies are all fair game for feminism’s systematic mockery 57 http://manhood101. stronger. more capable and more competent than women (as history and objective observation prove).com/forum/viewtopic. it exercises little conscience when criticizing young boys. let alone their own lives? HoW FeMinisM eMascUl ates Men tHe DeMonization oF Men Today’s feminist society subjects boys to its dysfunctional view of masculinity. boys must endure a constant assault on their gender identity. let alone voice such obvious gender differences. mommy issues.php?f=16&t=205 58 http://jezebel.58 While feminism supports ugly girls with age-old sentiments like. Instead. Accusations of small penis size. it’s still considered heresy to even think. “beauty is only skin deep”.57 Even though males are naturally smarter. faster.
boys are shamed for expressing sexual their desires. Society fails to recognize the validity of male sexual needs.edu/cgi/viewcontent. Girls’ faults are accepted. Feminism teaches young boys to fear and loathe their own sexuality. sexually depraved fools. desperately seeking the approval of women.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 40 .com/newsroom/reporting-rape-culture-media-men-sexuality/ http://digitalcommons.unl. boys are told girls mature faster. DeMonizing Male sexUalitY Whenever male sexuality is expressed.com/forum/viewtopic. The feminist media is quick to condemn young men in the court of public opinion. it’s quickly labeled as perverse. Being outwitted and outperformed by females becomes an expectation for young men growing up. Even in schools. But what are they guilty of? The same thing all men are guilty of—desiring to have their sexual needs met.60 Various news articles describe social networking sites like Myspace and Facebook as “breeding grounds for sexual predators” (read: men)”. Male social incompetence is stressed while female mental prowess is exaggerated. It’s common nowadays for males to be thought of as potential rapists and pedophiles.php?f=16&t=345 http://goodmenproject. preying on innocent “victims” (read: women). While girls are permitted to entice and provoke the male libido.of masculinity. Boys’ inadequacies are magnified.61 Society neglects to teach boys how to address the sexual desires 59 60 61 http://manhood101. The message is clear: in a feminist society. TV shows condition impressionable boys to view ridicule of their gender as a normal experience. Sexual advances are now characterized as criminal coercion tactics. girls are more valuable than boys.59 The feminist media portrays men as incompetent.
or else.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 41 . men are handed the blame for most relationship failures. men don’t consider.unl.. Instead. Women’s incessant complaints of “controlling and abusive” behavior by spouses and boyfriends are never reconciled with the fact that women actually control and abuse all the dating cards. This becomes easy when male mating strategies are characterized as criminal and immoral. ad infinitum. As a result. They feel inclined to overvalue the female gender at the expense of their own male identity.62 Common feminist slanders like “rapist”. without any relevant social training to meet their needs. Dating incoMPetence Countless advice columns make accusations of male dating incompetence: men don’t listen. men don’t appreciate. food.” Attention is focused almost entirely on addressing female whims while men find all their concerns lumped into one-dimensional categories for society to mock and condemn.. Males are left unprepared. feminism wags its finger at men 62 http://digitalcommons. but don’t touch. So-called dating experts advise men to “do it right. All the while. sports. male sexuality is suppressed under the feminist proviso look. it makes little mention of female relationship responsibilities. even psychopathic. While society trains women to seek out golden parachute marriages. Instead. According to the media.generated by girls. men today feel guilty about addressing their sexual needs. violence and sexual acquisition sum up the entirety of male interests. “pedophile” and “predator” have subtlety worked their way into our daily vocabulary.
society dismisses male concerns.” Of course. Lacking the necessary resources to meet their sexual needs in a healthy way. unrealistic ideals. Years of poor social conditioning under feminism has reduced their lives down to a conglomeration of conflicting rules. Feminism conditions men to hate their sexual necessities. But instead of offering sympathy or dating resources. these young men grow up lonely and frustrated. Men today shun the exposure of their own miserable condition. countless young men have been ill-advised to “just be yourself. Like slaves bred into captivity. unattractive social behaviors. The older they get. Obeying women at any cost and expecting Disney movie results characterizes the delusional outlook of these emasculated 42 . They would rather forfeit their authority than risk becoming social outcasts. society normalizes male emasculation. tHe cYcle oF eMascUlation Growing up. running from the truth like fearful cockroaches. this advice proves useless because their “self” is the problem.” Instead of addressing men’s social failures. the unfair assignment of shame causes men to abandon their masculinity. advising them to “take it like a man. males are subjected to these constant messages of social ridicule and sexual disapproval. Violence and inappropriate sexual behaviors consume many men today. the more they bear the fruits of these harmful messages. fear their social inadequacies and ridicule those dare speak out against this culture of shame. The systematic assault on their male identity proves too much to bear. unhealthy relationships.who have the audacity to demand gender equality for males. dysfunctional men learn to ridicule the very thought of social freedom. Throughout their lives.
Instead. They use their positions of social and economic influence to foster the cycle of emasculation. these men typically earn the “best friend” label.” emasculated male. Men today lack competent male mentors and a guiding vision of what constitutes proper masculine expression. it’s systematically justified. Discussion of female accountability is almost non-existent. there are thousands of emasculated males willing to offer unconditional approval.males. In “Act Like a Lady. Dysfunctional female behavior is not only accommodated.com/documents/PrssRelCmplnt_000. portrays cheating as an exclusively male shortcoming. On TV shows like 63 http://www. the feminist culture has molded these men into the impotent Nice Guy model. Being themselves doesn’t solve the damage already done to their gender identity. effort.DOC 43 . lack oF Men’s ResoURces Women receive access to thousands of female-focused support networks built into this feminist culture. This unhealthy social trend is then passed on to future generations as these emasculated men grow up to become role models to future generations of unsuspecting boys. money. Steve Harvey. And even though girls claim to prefer the Nice Guy. Perpetually wasting their time.roydenhollander. Women are at liberty to refuse male authority when emasculated men outnumber functional men by the thousands. thus ensuring the cycle of emasculation. they never view such males in a romantic or sexual context. and attention on females who never reciprocate. Those few men who do demand respectful treatment from women are ridiculed and dismissed as disgruntled misogynists. Think Like Man. Even feminist political and legal policies (like Joe Biden’s VAWA laws63) support this emasculated view of excusing women of all accountability. Women know that for every authoritative man who refuses to accommodate bitch behavior.
blogspot.html 44 . In a feminist’s world. economic support is unfairly funneled to women (via an emasculated male) while men’s economic status is continually neglected. Under feminist leadership. They also find acceptance for their weight issues. self-absolution is a vaccine administered to prevent the onset of reality. Gender bias also infiltrates publicly funded education systems where it should be least welcome.64 When the federal government itself supports discrimination against males. women can discuss sexual issues with impunity. The accompanying press release revealed his gender-biased goal of “improving women’s economic security by ensuring that each of the (cabinet-level) agencies is working to directly improve the economic status of women.pdf 65 http://falserapesociety. the civil rights of men remain in jeopardy.65 64 http://www. President Barak Obama himself signed an executive order creating an unconstitutional White House Council on Women and Girls. consolation is just an advice column away.” Once again. despite their indulgent lifestyles. And regardless of their incompetent relationship skills.roydenhollander. Funding “Women’s Studies” and the “Psychology of Women” takes priority over any male equivalent courses.Oprah.com/2011/04/most-important-issue-this-blog-has-ever.com/documents/FirstAmndCmplnt1. gender equality becomes a criminal shakedown of the American public. no matter how graphic.
tHe FailURe oF Men’s RigHts leaDeRsHiP Even men’s rights advocates display telltale signs of emasculation. They’re afraid by acknowledging you. hateful bastards. they will catch the evil. these deceitful leaders indoctrinate young men with the feminist agenda. Male gender performance facts are systematically suppressed. Hope you enjoy sleeping at night.such lowly. Yet even their staff is populated by hardcore feminists like Amanda Marcotte who demonize men as “rape-loving scum”: “. Mainstream “male” mentor groups are even worse. men’s rights leaders ignorantly endorse feminist gender constructs by removing inherent gender distinctions. men are led to believe their male function is less valuable than their female counterparts. In the end. Absorb it. sleazy scum that it’s no wonder no one talks to you.org/wiki/Amanda_Marcotte 45 . Thus.com/forum/viewtopic. you sick..wikipedia. Know this. The very thought of acknowledging the superior strength and intelligence of males is demonized while female capacity is exaggerated. Myths advertising female competence are reinforced. From “Angry Harry” to Paul Elam66.. men are left 66 http://manhood101.”67 Instead of teaching males how to get their needs met. Young boys are taught to hate their own masculinity.php?f=18&t=287 67 http://en. Publications like The Good Men Project purport to speak for men.
Oprah epitomizes the failed approach of female-oriented relationship advice experts remove the thought of accountability from her gender. Without intellectual honesty.” Mystery. The resources she prescribes (e. Without practical knowledge of biological gender limitations. Men are from Mars. the Men’s Rights Movement is reduced to the Wishful Thinking Movement. nationally syndicated radio talkshow host. In the hands of these con artists. From Oprah Winfrey perennially ruling female opinions with her popular “life-coaching” publications to Tom Leykis broadcasting his cut-throat male-oriented dating strategies to self-proclaimed “world’s greatest pick-up artist. Act Like a Woman) all advocate the same flawed approach. teaches men guerrilla warfare dating tactics. today’s purported experts offer incompetent advice based upon the flawed premise of feminism. On the other end of the spectrum.bargaining for sex as usual—only now with fewer bargaining chips. All fail to adequately address today’s absence of male authority. HoW FeMinisM UnDeRMines social inteR action WHeRe Dating “exPeRts” go WRong Various celebrities and mainstream personalities have joined the ranks of self-appointed dating and relationship experts. The Rules. Think Like a Man. the next generation of men have no to even address the problems created by feminism. offering his bar and club dating tactics. men have no practical means to get their expectations met. masculinity becomes a mockery. Women are From Venus.g. Her default assumption about men’s near-exclusive culpability for relationship failures prevents women from ever addressing their dysfunctional behavior. While this approach helps men 46 . Thus. Tom Leykis.
His Leykis 101 method advocates the traditional and cultural appearance of masculinity rather than its functional form. such irrelevant concerns distract men from focusing on the real issue—the loss of their authority. Another adaptive response to feminism has been the popularization of the “Seduction Community” with its various pick-up “gurus”. peeing while sitting down is a common illustration used by Leykis to illustrate “unmanly” behavior. While adhering to “manly” bathroom etiquette may seem like a justifiable prerequisite to Manhood. it overemphasizes a destructive concept of masculinity. Like other dating authorities.develop some ability to address their sexual needs. Just making the effort to initiate social interaction results in constant penalization and reprimands for 47 . Mystery. they still suffer from the same core issue—the neglect of male authority. effectively eliminating any possibility of solving it. the poster boy of this movement. men have approached women in the hopes of starting a conversation. ignorantly links bitch behavior to evolutionary development. Though well-intentioned. only to be “shot down” for doing something deemed inappropriate according to some arbitrary dating rule found in Cosmo. Although these seduction systems avoid typical Nice Guy mistakes like attempting to buy affection. such restrictions lead to neurotic. approval-seeking behaviors that discourage the exercise of male authority. they present dysfunctional female behavior as a social norm. this type of ignorant correlation presents a significant problem. For example. tHe “gaMe” oF social inteRaction Countless times. however. Leykis 101 also advocates traditional male dating practices like waiting three days to call a girl and saying as little as possible on a date.
Thus. Others sneer at the very mention of material prosperity.” Others ridicule him for being unwilling to initiate sexual activity. they begin to realize a vast network of unwritten rules stands in their way. Some refuse to date men below a certain income level. Without proper guidance to weed through this mess of conflicting advice. The more men compromise. Feminism conditions women to harbor unrealistic dating standards. the more they suffer. both genders’ needs go unanswered. only to be penalized for a lack of mind-reading skills. these behavior protocols vary sharply depending on the woman. advice and strategies. Some respond to sexual language. the more they view women like video games—to be played and discarded. Men can find themselves eliminated from romantic consideration based on any number of conflicting criteria. They end up bending over backwards to accommodate every childish expectation they encounter. passive approach. unforgiving attitude of feminism. To make matters worse. Others want to lead a relationship. guys become neurotic in their approach to dating. Taking a cursory look at female-oriented dating publications reveals a cornucopia of conflicting standards. Some fault a man for being too “forward. The more men encounter the demanding. both genders cling to unrealistic dating standards. Some find a confident demeanor too cocky. some women prefer a man who takes charge. the unhappier they become. leaving them puzzled. Emotionally frustrated women become more abrasive in their communication while sexually frustrated men fight back with coldhearted dating strategies. As men engage these dysfunctional women in conversation. the more women demand. This leads to a dating environment full of anger and resentment. Others are turned off by it. Oblivious to these contradictions.men. The “Game” of social interaction persists in its present problematic form because emasculated males allow it. Others advise against a cautious. 48 .
he’s only “nice” in his own mind. They will bend over backwards to accommodate any expectation. The only difference is his denial of the fact. While the Nice Guy claims that he wants nothing in return for his chivalrous generosity. time. milking all his attention and financial resources. The Nice Guy embodies the dishonesty inherent in all emasculated males.Video games are defined by their unforgiving nature. unless played perfectly. Instead of realizing his dishonest behavior is the cause of his problems. Mess up just once. By giving compliments and spending money. his 49 . effort. he adopts a self-pitying mind-set that characterizes all his relationships. This is a picture of women today. Thus. Outwardly. no matter how unreasonable. Unable to bear responsibility for his actions. his behavior appears selfless and altruistic.” Because of his chivalrous behavior. you lose your opportunity to go any further with them. he deceitfully hides his romantic intentions. But this approach produces two types of dysfunctional males: the neurotic Nice Guy and the disinterested Player. he secretly pines for reciprocation. and resources. But while earning ubiquitous approval from society. regardless of how little she respects him. women publicly adore the Nice Guy. they constantly seek the approval of women. Because he lacks the training to deal with the disapproval of women and the emasculating effects of feminism. he blames others for being too “mean. but inwardly his motive is the same as any other guy—he wants sex. He is a “YES” man—a man who will undermine his own authority by doing whatever a woman says. They may even lead him on for years. They ask you to perform a certain set of actions to perfection. Nice Guys vainly hope to attract women. while making him believe a relationship is imminent. and you pay the price—game over. tHe nice gUY Nice Guys fear the disapproval of women and will do anything to avoid it. Feminism conditions him to believe that sex can only be gained by catering to a woman’s every whim.
com/celebrity/celebrity-parade/2009/1228-jude-law-sherlock-holmes. His goal is simple: sexual gratification. But unlike the Nice Guy. Although women may publicly badmouth his behavior. which necessitates much deception. That’s been my experience. at a certain age you figure out what works for you and being a good boy never worked for me. Players simply don’t have the requisite social training to maintain a successful relationship where both parties needs are being met. If his expectations begin to compete with the expectations of the woman he’s dating. He usually earns the “best friend” label and nothing more. Jude Law tells Parade: I think women like bad boys.actions garner little romantic interest. the Player only cares about his needs. I just think it’s kind of a given. 68 http://www. Thus. he often maintains relationships with multiple women. he will exploit her emotional investment to get his way. they secretly crave his ability to take control. Nothing is more intoxicating than a man who knows how to get his expectations met. tHe PlaYeR On the other end of the spectrum is the Player. Nice Guys perpetually remain sexually frustrated dating punchlines. Women secretly loathe his lack of self-respect and unwillingness to lead a relationship.html 50 . You know. To this end. He understands women’s need to emotionally invest in their sexual relationships and takes advantage of this fact. ultimately his partners remain frustrated and unsatisfied. His concern is not the happiness of women but his own. they like it.parade. And if you’re a bad boy. most women remain indifferent to his attention.68 But because the player doesn’t care for her needs.
• Instead of answering why women who demand sole ownership of their bodies. a perverted version of masculinity exists where dominance over other men is celebrated while dominance over women 51 . If changing the nature of the argument fails. This creates an environment hostile to the proper exercise of male authority. • Instead of answering why women should benefit from unfair divorce laws. men are accused of having commitment issues. • Instead of answering why women demand equal pay for less work in less demanding jobs. men are accused of being sexually irresponsible. Thus it’s easy for feminists to deceptively changes the nature of the argument to absolve themselves of any blame: • Instead of answering why financially independent women should get free dinners. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to provoke violence. In fact. You’d have better luck blaming a newborn baby. Dysfunctional women condemn masculinity. female victimhood has been thoroughly ingrained into our culture that trying to hold women accountable for anything is universally condemned. are allowed to defraud men into paying child support. men are accused of being sexual predators. men are accused of being default abusers. Today. men are accused of being sexist pigs. women resort to petty threats and angry denunciations: “You’ll never get laid! You’ll never get a date!” Threatening dissenting men with sexual starvation and social ostracization is a common practice. • Instead of answering why women take advantage of the child support system. Refusal to abide by this emasculating social code even elicits public outrage. men are accused of being deadbeat dads. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to advertise their sexuality. both prevent males from regaining their Manhood.WHY FeMinisM PeRsists societY not alloWing tHe exaMination oF FeMinisM It’s difficult to even address feminism’s glaring hypocrisies and damaging social policies when women have been conditioned for so long to believe they can only be victims. men are accused of being oppressive and misogynistic. Emasculated men punish it. To even question feminism brings up immediate accusations of misogyny and sexism.
html 52 . the perfect woman is one you can control. Feminists figure it’s much easier to apply intellectually dishonest definitions to their opponents than it is to answer for their assault upon the male gender identity.is condemned. according to feminists.69 As a writer for Feministing recently stated: “For some men. All functional relationships are automatically deemed hateful when control is demonized to mean slavery. FaUltY logic DUe to social conDitioning Men growing up in this feminist culture have been conditioned to think haphazardly.” 69 http://www.”[sic] Thus. have sex with whenever you want and in a perfect world. In fact. generals hate their soldiers by controlling them with orders. Those men are what we call misogynists70. governments hate their citizens by controlling them with laws. without rhyme or reason. vacuums and cooks. parents hate their children by controlling them with boundaries and healthy people hate their own lives by exercising selfcontrol over their diet.youtube.com/watch?v=AbWxfClh-z8 70 http://www. definitive conclusions are often mocked as “intolerant.com/archives/019875.feministing. They’ve grown up under the damaging philosophy of Relativism that gives credibility to all ideas no matter how ridiculous or impractical.
principles remain the bedrock of our experiences. If you stepped off a curb and could not know for certain which direction you’d travel. Dependence upon the knowledge of a natural law’s constant nature helps you understand how to benefit from its correct application and avoid suffering the consequences of violating its boundaries. your life would become very difficult. While those who rely on their subjective opinion. especially your social interactions. 53 . Instead of seeing universal laws as a restrictive burden. Justice demands fair treatment for all parties. Such individuals not only prove unreliable. Where emotion betrays. universal principles do not play favorites. justice concerns itself with everyone’s happiness. Be thankful that the law of gravity isn’t a subjective opinion. Every facet of social interaction is governed by some universal principle. Even in the business world. People daily rely on these laws to make healthy economic decisions. Your experience would be quite frustrating without its constant nature. otherwise. principles triumph. Where will power fails. Understanding the dependable nature of any universal law (principle) becomes an absolute necessity if you hope to bring stability to your life. their social interactions are governed by their good intentions and personal opinions. principles remain steadfast. focus on their own happiness. Relativists declare “everybody is right!” Consequently. Be wary of those who champion arbitrary boundaries over absolute standards. absolute standards are not subject to anyone’s whims or personal preferences. But unlike these selfish individuals. stable natural laws govern the flow of money in the economy. Fortunately.Absolute standards do not exist in this unstable fantasy world of personal preferences and subjective emotional judgments. you should consider how they stabilize your experiences. you could no longer depend on it to govern your life. their own personal interests supersede your welfare. Universal constants remain unchanged despite what others think or do. Where good intentions falter.
natural charisma and sheer dumb luck. justify and adapt to slavery. popular dating advice. sexual techniques. You assume that social interaction is made up of cue cards with cool things to say.” friend: “Cool. Addressing feminism requires just such a radical change in perspective. Instead. WHY YoUR social inteRactions Fail You’re stranded because you view social interaction like you’re looking at a fastfood menu where all items are optional. a new question must be posed: is gender equality even necessary? Should women try to replace the role of men? Should men embrace emasculation? Or should men and women start learning how to fulfill the functions of their own respective genders. to address their chronic dissatisfaction. Instead.” friend: “Sup. It’s no longer productive to merely ask how men and women can attain gender equality. At that time. Instead of looking for palatable ways to cope with slavery. bro?. fashionable outfits. a radical approach was required. Cool.” 54 .. good looks. psychological studies. How you doing?” you: “Nothing. Just chilling. they learned to excuse. even those slaves who believed in the ideal of racial equality didn’t consider it possible to be completely free in that society. Everything you do depends solely on your personal preference. It had become so embedded in their culture and way of life that it seemed normal. All these poor misconceptions lead to today’s common social interaction problems: Boring & Superficial you: “What’s up.Recognizing tHe PRobleM anD cHanging oUR aPPRoacH Today’s situation for men ruled by feminism parallels the historical institution of slavery in the United States. Thus. a more fundamental question had to be asked: was slavery even necessary. Few could even conceive of eradicating the entire institution. compromise. even natural.
You don’t understand the material but never ask anyone for help. You put the burden on her to decide what you’re going to eat. 55 . It’s pretty good. You become angry and resentful when others do well on the test. hoping someone will reach out to you. but you rely on her to make the conversation interesting. The tests are really easy. but you’re too worried about looking stupid to ask questions. I think I’m going to do well in it. yet you do nothing to prepare yourself. where you’re going to go and what you’re going to do. I like my history of literature class though. irreSponSiBle paSSive Behavior You’re failing Economics class.no Direction [Purposeless conversations with girls you like] “Hi! So what classes are you in? I have a bunch of math classes and a theater class. The professor is great.“ can’t leaD a Woman A woman agrees to date. You sit back passively.
.” 56 .” “I’ll just watch whatever movie you guys want to watch. But I’ll probably get a sunburn and it will be so cold outside today.can’t make a DeciSion “Should we eat Mexican food or Greek food? I don’t know. Anything is fine with me. but they refuse to listen to you.[insert lofty goal]. but you have no idea how to make them stop.” “You choose where we go. I’m going to . unrealiStic expectationS You wish girls would just come up to you and ask you out.” noBoDy liStenS to you You tell your children to behave. “Someday. You dream about becoming famous and rich or changing your appearance so girls will like you.. You just want to go through life without any confrontations. You have no idea how to get them to do their chores or correct their disrespectful behavior. I know I’m going to hate it.” “I like all music equally.” paSSive-aggreSSive “Why are you being so mean to me?” “I guess we can go to the beach. You fantasize about nobody ever bothering you. You complain about it. Your friends constantly make fun of you. Whatever you want to do is fine with me. Your favorite phase begins with.
You’re not the boss! We’re a team. Your co-workers never take you seriously.” “Couples should always compromise. you’re daily bombarded with self-defeating messages. You’ll never be cool. sexless marriages.” “Bowling sucks.” “I like you. That means we’re going to see Sex And The City together. you’re swamped with a sea of poor relationships models—divorces. You think only handsome guys get the hottest girls.” This makes you jealous.” can’t get your neeDS met You spend $150 for a dinner. But it never happens. Maybe you think you have no shot with hot women because you’re not an “alpha” male. they’ll fall in love with you. girlS take aDvantage of you “You’re the guy.” “Skiing is cool. On top of that. You have to be a gentleman and pay for my dinner and drinks. You’ll never be rich.poor expreSSion “This day is good. or you’re not getting sex tonight!” PooR social inteRaction MoDels You probably think women are attracted to money. You think by being super nice to girls.” “That movie wasn’t great. From TV shows to movies to friends to family to advice columns to the internet.” “Give me an engagement ring. Just accept your fate as a lonely guy. Everywhere you go. but you can’t stop her. Your girlfriend wants to hang out with her male “friends. You weren’t born an “alpha” male. but your date never calls back. couples constantly fighting 57 . there are countless voices filling your head with these disastrous dating fallacies. She calls you “controlling and abusive” if you even try.
for control. When others remind you to “just be confident. Maybe you talk to the grocery store clerk or say hello to a neighbor. 58 . Most of it is useless and will actually prevent you from meeting your needs. students threatening their teachers. Interacting with strangers feels like climbing a mountain. children defying their parents. liMiteD social inteRaction knoWleDge/exPeRience Your view of relationships is shaped by pop culture. You socialize sporadically at best. friends and your limited social skills. But for the most part. etc. “Be nice to women” hasn’t gotten you anywhere. And “be yourself” fails because you’ve been raised to think and behave like an introverted social misfit. you’ve become isolated. And the longer you’re stranded.” you want to remind them to fuck off. you’re stuck on a secluded island of social incompetence. employees resenting their bosses. the more awkward you feel around people. Why? Simple—no direction. Social interaction problems runs rampant in our society. WHeRe to staRt Because of your poor social conditioning growing up. family.
you first need to learn how to interact with other males. Without direction. we’re going to do things differently. Sifting through social advice is the last thing a person in your position is qualified to do. You need to learn exactly what constitutes a successful social interaction. You have no idea what to say to a pretty girl because you have no idea how to express your needs in an attractive way. We’re going to focus on becoming thorough. you also have no idea what even constitutes social competence. This means starting from the ground up. If you’re in a rush to become competent in a few weeks. let me save you the trouble—you’re going to fail. you’re lost in a social wilderness without a map to direct your behavior. Making new friends seems impossible because you don’t know what to say to strangers. 59 . Unlike your prior attempts to socialize. Social training is cumulative. Instead of worrying about how to get a girlfriend. You skip steps at your own peril. Don’t skip the fundamental principles in the quest for instant social success.In short. And the very thought of a confrontation makes your skin turn white.
works on an airplane. what works in Hawaii works in Russia. it’s misunderstood by nearly everyone. ironically. The principles that govern social interaction apply to everyone. Everybody eats through their mouth. What works underwater. just like everyone feels the same gravitational pull. What works for store clerks also works for celebrities. at all times just like gravity or eating. What works for fat people also works for skinny people. No one is exempt from these universal laws.social inteRaction is UniveRsal Social interaction is universal in nature. Principles set the same boundaries and rules for everyone. 60 . Yet as universal as social interaction is.
Insecurity fuels decisions as often as imagination works to protect the self-esteem. there’s no practical way to achieve that. Not only must men weed through confusing and contradictory definitions of masculinity.PaRt ii: UnDeRstanDing tHe solUtion HoW to aPPRoacH social inteR action tHe neeD FoR PUblic scRUtinY Although there are other types of purported male-oriented resources (from religious groups to Tony Robbins to Men’s Rights Activists to the “Seduction Community”/Pickup Artists) on the web. Valuable knowledge can only be separated from good intentions by meticulous examination. There’s a lot of talk about needing to “man up. none of them offer a solution to the problem of male emasculation plaguing men today. All dysfunctional theories follow the law of entropy. Blindly accepting any theory will lead to failure. whatever lacks purpose. You should openly welcome criticism.” But without open discussion and public scrutiny. whatever fails to pass the test of public examination will inevitably move toward a greater state of disorder. they also have to deal with the con artists looking to make a quick buck off of their naivety. Don’t be afraid to treat any assumptions with unsympathetic. This ensures the division of immutable principles from emotional theories. Whatever lacks order. Public scrutiny is essential in distinguishing between unstable assumptions and objective facts. Conclusions only gain credibility if they can withstand a skeptic’s unforgiving eye. 62 . Both inhibit the discovery of true cause and effect. The truth of a matter can only be discerned when all parties are allowed to examine and test the merits of any claims. brutal analysis.
Full satisfaction represents 63 D ISORD ER . Disorder must be removed for satisfaction to exist. and love represent this ongoing thirst for satisfaction. friendship. Physical.Failure to carefully scrutinize assumptions leads to the construction of reckless theories. What conditions are necessary to produce it. so does the resulting dysfunctional behavior. satisFaction You are designed with an innate desire for pleasure. In everything you do. and spiritual forms of pleasure like eating. you need to be sure you’re depending on reliable knowledge and not just wishful thinking. In order to avoid confusion and frustration. But what brings satisfaction. ORDER When you clean your room. you experience some degree of satisfaction. you seek satisfaction as your end goal. psychological. As these errors grow more elaborate. you become more satisfied. stabilize a relationship. eat a balanced meal or accomplish a task. As you move away from disorder and progress toward a state of order.
filthy houses. experience psychological disorders as adults. Extremes of either indulgence or deprivation indicate a disorderly root perspective governing your life in a harmful way. event. Order is an indication that you’re moving in the right direction toward satisfaction. and unhealthy eating habits are all symptoms of disorder. To end in a satisfying condition. Unhappy places of poverty are lined with trash and graffiti. circumstance or person is by default moving in the wrong direction toward dissatisfaction.the highest state of order—the removal of all disorder. painful environments as a child. moving away from an orderly state creates dissatisfaction or a state of disorder. Dirty clothes. Any disorderly thing. Whatever lacks order is automatically dissatisfying. it’s necessary to create order by eliminating all disorder. Conversely. 64 . People growing up in chaotic.
Many women find men of high social status (rock stars. celebrities. the important question remains unanswered: what really attracts women? To discover the answer. and attempt to raise their social status—all for the sake of attracting women. enhance their appearance through weight training. these men begin to resent the very concept of a relationship.tHe caUse oF attRaction Men blindly search for ways to attract women. You desire sex with a woman to resolve your sexual tension. Frustrated and confused. Consider social status. proportional arrangement of their bodies expresses order. its actual significance proves quite attractive to people. Consider money. Resolving this tension brings you toward an orderly state. and influence others. Sex also leads to children. Consider sex. You can use money to buy food. it’s necessary to investigate the principle that governs attraction. This. Consider physically attractive people. develop conversational gimmicks (aka pickup lines). functions to create order when properly employed. But they often erode whenever conflict exposes a lack of male authority. in turn. like any other tool. decorate their bodies with tattoos and piercings. represented by unimpressive colored paper. money. In short. politicians) to be attractive because of their ability to garner massive social approval. Their facial symmetry along with the balanced. Granted. some men do form relationships. While its aesthetic appeal may be limited. Meanwhile. leads to an orderly social outcome—the propagation of life. They study animal mating psychology. This is naturally more attractive than a disorderly body 65 . purchase services. secure protection. support relationships. women are drawn to men of high social status who can meet this need. don fashionable clothing. Because social acceptance and approval are necessary components of an orderly life.
This is why. In most cases. even though you’re not an art critic. Your innate sense of order recognizes the natural disparity in the human form. when an amateur artist draws the human body. there exists a pleasing. 66 . varying stages of growth and old age. The closer individual elements of the body align to the specific. he’s abused the rule of proportions by drawing the legs too long or the arms too short. injuries. balanced proportions characteristic of humans. ORDER DISORDER Regardless of your cultural origin. the eyes too close or the mouth off center. you can instantly tell something is off.whose features are disproportional to others or missing altogether. we all recognize one elegant design—one universal expression of order in the human body. balanced arrangement of complementary parts that appeals to our highest aesthetic sense of order. Amid all the birth defects. the more you’re attracted to this sense of order.
Rather. Become a man who knows how to apply what he’s learned to create order. Only this proves ultimately attractive. social status and symmetrical faces on a daily basis. apples are red. We attribute love to appearance or affection to social reputation. I don’t need to ask whether or not this book is attractive. it meets the standard of attraction. Don’t strive to be a container of facts. order is produced. However. FUnctional knoWleDge Functional knowledge is attractive because it creates order when applied. Once this purpose is achieved. we mistakenly credit these agents of order for causing attraction. There is no design in a fact. Learning how to grow apple trees. just knowing this fact does not create order. Only applied knowledge contains the relevant element of order. Because it helps men arrange and control their social interactions in a satisfying manner. orderly arrangement that draws us. Facts in themselves are meaningless without purposeful arrangement. Order is the attracting principle— the common denominator fulfilling everyone’s universal need. For example. Facts need to be arranged to accomplish a purpose. it is the resulting harmonious.Because we deal with money. However. it’s not the tools themselves that cause attraction. 67 . figuring out how to build a house and discovering how to properly interact with people are examples of knowledge that brings order to your life. Functional knowledge describes this orderly arrangement of facts.
regardless of what they claim or intend.). etc. Properly functioning men and women are attracted to those who meet their needs. naturally gravitate toward romantic relationships. A strictly sexual relationship will not meet that basic human need. provision. it proves fundamentally attractive to both genders. Since order ultimately meets everyone’s needs. and women are drawn to men who provide that care. and women are ultimately attracted to men who create an orderly arrangement with that authority. companionship. This is why men and women. You may want to have sex with super models.). This means men are ultimately attracted to women who submit to their authority. Real long-term attraction is always linked to necessity. men are drawn to women who appreciate male care. support. order is established. Romantic relationships give women the opportunity to depend on men (for protection. a proper relationship is formed. and women have needs that only men can meet. etc. But in the end. You may daydream about sleeping with an entire harem of women. You will naturally gravitate toward finding one woman to meet your companionship needs. and women are attracted to men who direct and take charge of a relationship. When dependence is mutual. your need for companionship will dictate your behavior. In practical terms.attRaction toDaY In today’s disorderly social climate. security. men overemphasize the importance of physical beauty while women obsess over social status. The most orderly form of this arrangement is a romantic relationship. this means men are attracted to women who listen. Neither of these dysfunctional perspectives produce a healthy relationship. In laymen’s terms. And they give men the opportunity to depend on women (for sex. When men and women mutually depend on each other to meet their needs. affection. Romantic relationships meet the needs of both genders. Such orderly 68 . whatever you depend upon becomes attractive. children. Men have needs that only women can meet. obey and support them. stability.
People who neglect their necessities or fail to realize they are limited by necessity. No living person ever graduates from eating. Everywhere you look. Deferring to a man is equated with defeat. We’re taught to flee from our parents as soon as possible. Submission is condemned. 69 . The human life depends on so many conditions and limitations to thrive. We’re cautioned to avoid depending on others. however. Weakness is vilified. The media and pop psychology even denigrate functional relationships by assigning “dependence” a negative connotation. independence is celebrated. avoiding death means recognizing your need for life. Today’s society wrecks the potential for healthy relationships. However. It deceives women into thinking that men are only attracted to females who compete for male authority. The less you depend on others. Limitation is scorned. Tables and chairs don’t depend on anyone for anything because they lack life.relationships cause mutual satisfaction. By encouraging competition between the genders. these so-called experts fail to realize that life has always been a matter of dependence. Sentiments like “I don’t need a man” and “I’m strong and independent” are intended to impress men. Thus. We’re shamed into hiding our weaknesses and lying about our failures. From our worship of individualism to our ‘dog eat dog’ business attitude. Yet today’s dysfunctional society abhors dependence. we’re plagued with messages commanding us to be different from everyone else. this rejection of necessity undermines any potential for order in relationships. attraction is ultimately being sabotaged. True independence equates to death. the nearer you move to your grave. Leading a woman is deemed barbaric. soon find out that no human can truly live an independent life. drinking or breathing.
men no longer have the means to sustain attraction in a relationship. Society further compounds the attraction problem by employing the feminist State to replace the function of males. and an emasculated celebrity is still emasculated. Without this authority. The emphasis placed on appearance today is no coincidence.just to feel like we don’t need anyone else. courts offers social support. By the same token. women feel validated by association. a welfare system provides food and shelter. men shift their focus onto the one remaining orderly aspect of females—their physical beauty. Because men have lost their personal authority. fertility clinics provide children. men no longer have the ability to govern and create order in the lives of women. Today’s women are ushered into a dysfunctional relationship with the State. 70 . police offer protection. Men with high social status are able to acquire the approval women need and naturally seek. When society approves of these men. independent behavior of today’s women turns men off. a beautiful bitch is still a bitch. business careers provide an illusion of self-sufficiency. Thus. women now focus on the one remaining authoritative element still ruling their lives—social authority represented by social status. The competitive. death results. Independence kills attraction. women have also shifted their focus to respond to the lack of male leadership in relationships. Because new laws now limit male authority. the media provides approval. However. physical appearance and social status ultimately fall short since neither can produce or sustain an orderly relationship. the only thing left to appreciate is their physical appearance. Yet whenever independence enters relationships. As female independence increases under feminism.
In short. Abnormal height. I’m ugly. Likewise. Taxpayer-funded academic programs providing unconditional approval and resources. too sHoRt. the State’s own dysfunctional authority can’t meet the needs of women. First. you must recognize the difference between a disorderly physical appearance and a disorderly life. I’m bald.” Men today worry about not being tall enough or handsome enough to attract women. too UglY. Giving women access to higher paying jobs can’t produce satisfying relationships. big ears. Giving women custodial rights of children after a divorce will never solve the problem of overcrowded prisons created by single mothers. the state’s inability to exercise proper authority over women results in a thoroughly unsatisfying relationship. can’t bribe women into making responsible choices. You assume women reject you because of your lack of physical appeal. but can’t overrule poor spending habits that cause poverty in the first place. have no ability to train women to make responsible eating choices. By replacing the function of men. it can’t teach women to dress appropriately in public or prevent women from creating dangerous situations for themselves. the State undermines male authority— the basis for male attraction. welfare housing can provide shelter. hair loss and a crooked nose 71 . While the judicial system works to deter crime. too [inseRt inaDeqUacY] “I’m short. Ironically. acne scars. But you really have no idea what causes lasting attraction in women. And health care programs providing medical benefits.and prescription drugs provide instant pleasure.
All of these can easily be overcome. piercings. Others prove more difficult (crooked nose. obesity. balding). Unfortunately. acne and wrinkles—disorderly conditions that you were born with. The latter things result from a lack of self-control— your inability to exercise your authority to create order in your life. On the other hand. tattoos. today’s society scolds you for having crooked teeth. Being fat. Your crooked nose. on the other hand. Being short is not under your control. Some genetic disorders can be addressed quite easily (braces for crooked teeth. But you should realize that none of these conditions are significant enough to inhibit your ability to attract others. medication for acne). is under your control. But it protects against the ridicule of obesity—a disorderly condition directly under your control. your balding head. bad posture and muttering your words are all symptoms of a disorderly life. Your poor eating choices resulted in a disorderly condition (you’re fat). You were born that way.are all examples of a disorderly physical appearance. your asymmetrical 72 . your wrinkles. your discolored tooth. The former things are out of your control.
facial features. Thus. These defense-mechanisms alienate others. On the other hand. your social interactions will suffer. Instead of conveying yourself to others. People will disapprove of your defensive behavior. You don’t yet realize this. you believe yourself to be unattractive. obesity. You should do whatever is necessary to rectify disorderly conditions resulting from your negligence. While you may temporarily feel better about yourself. An ugly man who can create order will inevitably become more attractive over time than a handsome man who can’t. but your ability to create order is your most attractive feature. You respond by creating defense mechanisms to preserve your selfesteem. easily trumping your physical appearance. Creating order is always more attractive than a handsome appearance. in the long run. This belief causes your expression to suffer. To break out of this cycle. Creating order even overcomes your own plain/ugly outward appearance. you erroneously assume that women emphasis physical 73 . These are naturally offensive to others. you succumb to these negative social expectations. Third. And the cycle will repeat. Instead of acknowledging your perceived shortcoming. Second. bad hygiene. Unlike men. Because society portrays short people as less attractive. bald people as creepy and Asians as nerdy. you need to learn how to manage the expectations of others. women are not particularly attracted to physical features. The real problem begins when society attaches an undesirable association to these things. Or you begin to reject others before they can reject you. smoking. Just ask Mick Jagger. decaying teeth are all symptoms of a disorderly life. as are many other perceived shortcomings. and other naturally occurring disorderly features do not prevent you from exercising your authority to create order. they will not prevent you from attracting women. causing you to become even more defensive. you seek to deny it or distort it. being short/bald/Chinese is not that unattractive in itself.
This means you must learn how to control a social interaction by dictating how others should respond to you. tattoos. While creating a definite plan of action will help you feel more in control. You need to learn how to properly govern social traffic. you must learn how to create order. [This will be addressed in Part III]. plastic surgery and laser hair removal will not make up for a lack of authority. You follow metrosexual fashion codes— makeovers. You spend ridiculous amounts of money on unnecessary haircuts and outfits. tHe neeD FoR PRinciPles Many men make the mistake of relying on one-dimensional. bodybuilding—in a vain attempt to attract women. you need to learn how to change the negative associations connected to your appearance. You need to learn how to influence the view of others to fit your expectations. Instead of changing your physical appearance to meet the dysfunctional expectations of society. Because you lack an understanding of the principles that govern all social interactions. if it’s the wrong plan.attractiveness the way men do. it will lead nowhere. But stylish elevator shoes. you’ll make common mistakes like: • Lying to yourself and others to feel comfortable • Wearing eye-catching clothing to draw attention • Developing a repertoire of canned jokes and stories to seem interesting • Buying women drinks to gain sexual access 74 . body piercings. situationbased strategies to meet women. None of these silly remedies address the real issue hindering your attractiveness—your inability to create order. To really become attractive to women.
in a club. Yes. they actually hinder your social interaction competence. For example. in a store. at home. why. overly complicated social interactions. And the lack of flexibility along with extraneous procedures result in tedious. Principles. Additionally. For example. They are a steady foundation of laws directing and restricting all social interactions. do not suffer from environmental or circumstantial constraints. Its constant nature allows you to base your behavior upon it. Principles are universal laws governing all situations. These strategies can also backfire when unforeseen variables are introduced. Principles are responsible for giving form to specific gender functions. any shift in the social environment may even nullify their effectiveness. Whether at school. the principle of masculinity dictates that authority is the proper form required to address those needs. Consider the principle of gravity. at work. you can neglect the proper application of authority and still experience some “success” with women.• Playing hard to get • Complimenting women and “just being yourself” Although relying on situation-based strategies may feel helpful. since men require jurisdiction over women to meet the needs of women. Whether referring to the decay of a physical building or the deterioration of a social interaction. your social interactions will suffer in the long run. they also dictate how. In the same way principles govern the universe. when. in writing or 75 . regardless of the circumstances. where and with whom people socialize. on the other hand. the principle of entropy dictates that all things move toward disorder. entropy affects all situations. But without understanding this universal governing principle.
The unyielding nature of principles dictates and restricts the behavior of others. Whenever you violate social principles. your interactions become unbalanced and eventually degrade into a disorderly condition. Without understanding how immutable principles govern all your 76 . Order implies balance—a pleasing arrangement of components. but ignoring principles always results in problems. oRDeR vs.over the phone. DisoRDeR Order is a condition in which all things are properly arranged in relation to one another. the natural laws governing social interactions never change. establishing a peaceful condition. Methods and techniques can be freely violated without incident.
Either it starts giving inaccurate times. it affects the entire time-telling system. As a result. inhibiting it from moving forward. irrational perspectives. men can’t meet their sexual needs. Eventually. Unrealistic relationship expectations. dysfunctional methods and frustrating results. If a single piece becomes dislodged and fails to fulfill its necessary function. the other gender suffers as well. Pretty soon the whole clock is prevented from functioning. 77 . and women can’t meet their emotional needs. Your current condition is characterized by contradicting information. dials. Once something goes out of whack. men and women abusing and/or neglecting their gender function— all these dysfunctional elements act like monkey wrenches thrown into the gears of social interaction. Each individual part depends on all the other parts working properly for the entire system to function. This analogy illustrates the problem people experience with their social interactions today. bad social advice. It’s not just a matter of one broken. It bears all the tenets of disorder. latches and springs all depend on each other for the whole device to function properly. When either gender breaks down. it affects the harmonious arrangement of everything else because order depends on each part functioning properly and balancing against the other. Consider the inner workings of a clock. no possibility exists to create or maintain orderly relationships. This is exactly what’s occurring today as feminism emasculates men. both genders pay the price. or it stops telling time completely.social interactions. isolated social interaction but rather a systematic breakdown of their entire socializing function. The wheels.
You should reward him with pleasure. your assumptions must undergo scrutiny. lack of respect from your peers. This affects all your social interactions. Since you are part of society by definition.To remedy this. financial troubles and health problems all stem from the same source: your disorderly approach to life and society’s accommodation of that disorder. You should apply pain. balance—tHe PeRFect aRRangeMent Balance indicates an orderly arrangement has been achieved. You’re not the only one that suffers when you don’t get your expectations met. By learning how to create order. your broken function hinders all of society. he is becoming disorderly. Right now. evinced by his balanced character. he is behaving in and orderly manner. When your child refuses to listen. Focusing on addressing only the symptoms of your problem will not solve the problem. When he listens. Order merits pleasure. you will simultaneously address many of the symptoms that result from its absence. 78 . For example. whether you realize it or not. All these concerns are holistically addressed by becoming orderly. and your conclusions must be tested—you can only work toward an orderly result after all the crap has first been exposed and removed. The root cause must be addressed. Order affects all areas of your life. Order addresses your financial dilemmas and health issues. you must learn to apply merited pain and pleasure to your child’s behavior. you are full of disorder. Issues like difficulty attracting women. Disorder merits pain. as a parent. Order makes you attractive to women and gets your expectations met. A child will mature into a functioning adult under such an orderly arrangement. which in turn. affects the social interactions of everyone around you.
you are responsible for punishing (applying merited pain) and rewarding (applying merited pleasure) your child. For your body to function properly. because oxygen is so prevalent. balance is achieved. Likewise. Balance can also be illustrated by the earth’s atmosphere. Yet adding a disproportionate amount of oxygen to the atmosphere will actually destroy life. if don’t eat enough. The elements must be arranged in proper proportion to one another.As a parent. This reveals that just having the essential elements around isn’t adequate. But if you eat too much food. you must also avoid starving. There are countless degrees of disorder but only one degree of order. a balanced diet is essential. 79 . it is good to eat. The resulting satisfaction experienced by both parent and child indicates balance has been achieved. This implies there is another type of degree of order. Not only must you avoid gorging yourself. A harmonious arrangement of oxygen (21%). you will get fat and experience health problems. They don’t consider nitrogen and the other elements to be that important. his personality heads in an orderly direction. many assume it’s the only element required to sustain life. When these tools are properly applied. However. Now. Anything that does not fit the ONE perfect arrangement can only be considered part of disorder. It’s incorrect to say you’re becoming more orderly. Once the arrangement is correct. nitrogen (78%) and other elements (1%) is required to sustain life. your body will become malnourished and equally troubled. As a principle. consider eating. The painful deterrent of discipline and the pleasurable incentive of love work together to arrange his personality in an orderly way.
anything less than a balanced arrangement indicates disorder. 80 . Thus. the less dysfunctional the outcome. Once all degrees of dysfunction/disorder have been removed from something. it becomes functional/orderly. the less dysfunctional you will be. The closer individual elements move toward balanced proportions.There is only one proper arrangement for life to exist. MOST DISORDER SOME DISORDER LEAST DISORDER ORDER ACHIEVED A balanced arrangement of elements indicates order. The closer you come to the one proper arrangement. Any deviation from this perfect balance of order eventually causes death.
its gears. loving. skeleton. satisfying result. socializing. etc. dials and casing must be arranged together in an orderly way. energy must constantly be exerted to maintain order. Effort and work must be put forth to produce an orderly. Something must be sacrificed in order for something to be gained. Building a car. eating.) and dictate your various functions (working. Any purposefully designed thing contains an orderly arrangement of parts. Each of these parts must work together with all the other components. managing a business or teaching a classroom of students all require energy. If the flow of energy stops. mind. 81 . constructing a skyscraper. organs.DisPositional oRDeR How does a watch tell time. thinking. Energy must be expended to produce a functional result.) To run any orderly system—from a car to your own body—energy is required. maintaining your health. etc. springs. head. You have your own set of internal components that constitute you (eyes. heart. A watch’s internal arrangement and functioning can be referred to as its dispositional order. Whether it is a battery supplying electrical power to a computer or an athlete putting food into his body. Energy is required to both create an orderly arrangement and maintain its function. First. An orderly internal arrangement results in a properly functioning watch. the function will break down along with the arrangement itself.
Once you learn how to train your disposition to become orderly, you will have created dispositional order in yourself. That dispositional order then needs to be properly applied to your life to bring you into positional order. When a clock is assembled in an orderly way, it can tell time. The clock may then be used by people to arrange meetings, form schedules and plan ahead. This means the clock is fulfilling its purpose. It is being applied in a functional way. If however, you were to abuse the clock’s function by using it as a hammer, you would ruin its orderly condition, causing it to become useless. A clock must comply with its design—its specific function—to create positional order in its environment. Likewise, you must comply with your own gender design to become functional. This will bring your life into positional order. Just how important is positional order. Let’s say you are the best architect in the world. No one can build structures like you can. But each of your buildings sits on top of sinking marsh land. It doesn’t matter how great an architect you are if the building is positioned on unstable ground. Even if you build the most structurally sound building on earth, placing it in the wrong position renders dispositional order (structure) useless.
The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a prime example of this problem. It’s great piece of architecture. But it’s placed in a bad location. This affects its function—its usefulness. Because the position is wrong, adding more floors would cause it to topple over. A building must not only be well constructed but also properly placed. It’s position is vital to its function. Practically speaking, this means you need to maintain a functional position in life. For example, you may be very competent at wielding authority to create order. But if you’re using that authority to commit a crime, your authority is already in the wrong position. You may have excellent driving skills. But if your car has no brakes, you’re in no position to drive. You may have a great plan to save your dying company. But if you’re not the boss, you have no authority to make any changes. You may be able to figure things out faster than your peers. But if you don’t have a formal education, few people will give you the chance to prove it. You may know these principles backwards and forwards. But if you’ve burned too many bridges in your life, you may have limited the number of opportunities you get to display this. Don’t neglect the importance of maintaining your positional order.
E.g., Sadam Hussein, Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hilter
Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pain & Pleasure (Oppressive)
Functional Authority Applies Merited Pain & Pleasure (Direct/Competent)
E.g., George Washington, Sean Connery, Thomas Je erson
E.g., George Sodini, Kurt Cobain Seung-Hui Cho (VA Shooter), Je rey Dahmer, Ted Bundy
Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pleasure & Pain (Indirect/Passive-Aggressive)
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Either way. Satisfying social interactions benefit everyone involved. life blows. incompetent social skills. the more dysfunctional your attitude and behavior become. The more social frustration you experience. exPosing DisoRDeR Lack of social knowledge. poor social training and society’s dysfunctional expectations create a self-loathing cycle within you. Without authority. To accomplish this. This means you will need to train to function properly as a man. ending with you blowing away all your coworkers or classmates. And you suppress anything that would expose your feeble... And the cycle repeats itself in a downward spiral. . your perspective resembles a 86 . you will be unable to give meaningful direction to your social interactions. you create distortions to excuse your lack of friends.bRinging oRDeR to YoUR social inteRactions Order should be the litmus test for all your social interactions. This leads to the development of self-defense mechanisms. Meeting your needs requires authority. all the participants are satisfied. If your conversations wander aimlessly without direction. Your dysfunctional behavior causes others to avoid talking to you.Or maybe you’re just stuck with a computer full of porn and a lot of lonely weekends. Because of your disorderly condition. which in turn causes you to become even more dysfunctional and withdrawn. You deny the painful truth of your condition to avoid dealing with it. Because they move in an orderly direction. You deceive yourself into thinking your situation is normal. This often indicates that authority is missing. they will lead to a dissatisfying social life. This will move your social interactions in the right direction. Painful social experiences reinforce your feelings of worthlessness. you need to learn how to exercise authority over your social interactions.
she will experience physical pain. The end result is frustration. For example.fun house mirror—everything appears distorted. sensing your disgust over her appearance. mistakes cause extreme frustration and failures feel like impossible obstacles. she will continue to delude herself into thinking her weight isn’t a problem. Imagining herself to be the exception to every rule is much easier than following the rules. rules and laws. In either case. she will remain trapped in her disorderly condition. Pain dispels these delusions. It requires no responsibility to ignore warnings. selfcriticism becomes debilitating. For example. It’s more comfortable and convenient to eat without limits and avoid exercise. If she has a heart attack because of her obesity. you exaggerate your abilities to shore up your self-esteem. Pain exposes your true condition. Without pain. the message is clear: something about her is disorderly/ dysfunctional. will feel emotional pain. But in her disorderly condition. Then you’ll burden yourself with impossible expectations that you don’t have the self-discipline to accomplish. Or she will attempt to justify it by comparing herself to people more disorderly than herself—”At least I’m not as fat as her!” When enough pain is applied—through medical knowledge. failing health. and social rejection—she will be forced to discard all her 87 . Her desire to escape all pain causes her to stubbornly avoid anything or anyone that would expose her true condition. Without pain. an obese woman. Pain exposes her disorderly condition.
Your parents should have already applied discipline (pain) to your dysfunctional behavior as a child. Because your true condition remains carefully guarded by your own self-esteem. you change your behavior accordingly.excuses and delusional beliefs. Another person must administer pain to expose your disorderly condition. there is no practical way for you to deal with your social problems by yourself. This is why self-help books never help. This forces you to examine the effects of your behavior. This painful discipline lets you know your behavior is wrong. their upbringing reflects disorder. But because this undisciplined. You exhibit many of the 88 . indulgent society has discouraged parents from applying pain—a valuable educational tool—to their children. To avoid future painful effects. Or it will force you to eliminate irresponsible behavior to ensure your child’s safety. Self-discipline makes you turn in your work on time. self-discipline will cause you to eat smaller food portions and exercise more often to get you back in shape. the more motivated she’ll be to change it. This same principle applies to your social interactions. Or as a corrective measure. you were never meant to thrive alone. Self-discipline will make you a good parent. As a socially-designed being. self-discipline allows you to exercise and eat a healthy diet. Or if you screw up. You cannot address social problems by yourself. Self-discipline is the ability to restrict your own behavior. you develop a healthy self-discipline (pain) safety net. your problems require a cooperative remedy. It means you’re able to administer pain to yourself to prevent disorder from taking over your life or to correct any problems caused by your actions. as a preventative measure. self-discipline will force you become more diligent and put in more effort to ensure the job is done right. For example. The more her disorderly condition is exposed. In turn.
you’ve grown accustomed to avoiding the pain of selfdiscipline.symptoms of this disorderly behavior (no direction in life. it was obvious why I was so neurotic in my approach to socializing. our feminist Nanny State epitomizes this shortsighted approach.” This obsession with controlling every possible variable mimics the attitude of the overbearing mother who goes to absurd lengths to guard her children from ever experiencing pain. As one nerd reveals: “To me. They hope to avoid pain by anticipating its arrival. I was trying to logically plan out every possible thing to say and create a contingency plan for every situation. The government stunts the intellectual growth of its citizens by burdening them with feel-good laws. Without understanding why or how to apply pain to your disorderly behavior. anxiety. Their irrational desire to remove it from every possible social outcome reveals a paralyzing fear of pain. Your self-esteem will fight being exposed. Even exposing your 89 . she inhibits the natural maturation process stimulated by a healthy fear of pain. Men thoughtlessly trade in their civil liberties for a false sense of security. Your dysfunctional perspective is linked to your identity. On a larger scale. This is why “nerds” attempt to control every variable in their environment. inability to maintain relationships) As an adult. you have no way to resist entropy’s constant pull toward disorder. we make a blind sacrifice of common sense and reason on the altar of good intentions. making your current perspective even more stubbornly resistant to change. down to the most insignificant details. simply reading a self-help book or attending a group seminar won’t fix the problem. By placing herself as artificial buffer between her children’s actions and any painful consequence. In the rush to alleviate pain. the feeling of standing there frozen in front of a girl and not being able to control what might happen is far worse than the actual response. By doing so. When I realized this. lack of motivation. nerds will neurotically try to annihilate the existence of pain by developing complex contingency plans. employment problems. Instead of appreciating its motivational aspect. I naively hoped to avoid the possibility of ever experiencing pain. It’s difficult to expose disorder on such a large scale when so many in society have a vested interest in maintaining it. poor social skills.
This will cause you to feel terrible. 90 . This frustration is to be expected. Your selfesteem hates the exposure of your disorderly condition. To sacrifice that identity is like pushing your only friend off a cliff. Pain is necessary to cut the umbilical cord between your dysfunctional perspective and your identity. To accept change. This is why you treat any attempts to fundamentally change your perspective as cold-hearted attacks against your being. you not only have accept that you are wrong. However. Revealing an identity problem causes great distress. You even take comfort in it. exposing your disorderly condition is necessary to progress toward order. Don’t avoid it.own disorder proves a difficult task. however. It is an extremely painful matter because. changing your perspective asks you to sacrifice the belief that’s been comforting you for so long. Acknowledging you need to change equates to an admission of error on your part. You have built your sense of worth around your identity. a proper change in perspective will touch your identity at its core. When your condition is finally exposed. your self-esteem will react violently since it’s heavily invested in the deception you’ve created. you also have to accept that who you are is wrong. in effect.
However. Exposing disorder is the first step toward becoming an orderly person. Because you have finally given yourself permission to make mistakes—even fail—progressing toward order no longer seems like an impossible task. Care must be taken to apply pain and pleasure only when merited. Don’t try to force others to do what they don’t yet have the training to do. correcting disorderly behavior must be based upon the pleasurable incentive of an orderly expression—one that adequately conveys your person. Acknowledging your disorderly condition is crucial to your progress. you will then be in a position to address the disorderly state of others. In short. coupled with an orderly expression. aDDRessing DisoRDeR in otHeRs As you learn to expose disorder in yourself. When your disorder is dealt with. if you can’t meet the needs of the misbehaving party. Allowing yourself to fail in the process of moving toward order is crucial. all the correction in the world won’t matter. addressing this disorder requires a responsible approach.This acknowledgment enables you to address your disorderly condition without collapsing psychologically. A bitter medicine mixed with honey is much easier for a sick patient to swallow. Likewise. you’ll soon realize that disorder exists in everyone. will motivate others to meet your expectations over time. 91 . Only those motivated by your pleasurable expression will have enough incentive to heed your painful correction. If you aren’t able to provide this incentive. Allowing others to fail as they attempt to meet your expectations is equally important. [Both will be covered in Section III] Do not be threatened by the fact that disorder exists. they will have no reason or desire to behave. Your authority.
machine-processed.e. “It’s all good. incompetent adults. As you develop an orderly expression. are forced to lower their classroom standards. the breakdown of life is inevitable. you give them the incentive to follow it. the country and the rest of the world are now experiencing the worst financial crisis in history. The average graduate doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re.Without incentive and direction. forbidden1 to use disciplinary limitations. spending without limitation). a lack of limitation produces disaster. Why? Eating too much. Because of borrowing excesses (i. obesity plagues America. America daily produces illiterate. people feel helpless to change their disorderly lives. In essence. relying on lazy axioms like. artificially preserved foods that are quick and easy to obtain). Lack of limitation also affects our educational system. Teacher. you will cause others to become more receptive to your authority—the tool required to address their disorderly condition. eating without limitation. This apathetic generation is defined by its incompetence. Even on a national level.” From professional inefficiency to family instability to relationships failures. Coherent thoughts drown in a sea of homemade syntax and pop culture idioms.” “Whatever” and “No worries. By creating order with your authority.. 1 http://www. Eating for comfort. liMitation PRevents DisoRDeR Right now. Eating convenience food (McDonald’s. you give others the right direction to follow. The average person looks like a walrus on legs.com/2011/03/31/professor-arrested-for-battery/ 92 . chips— packaged.vsuspectator. And by conveying this order through your expression. Without limitation to keep things in good order. Snickers bars. lack of limitation ruins lives.
For example.scHeDUle YoUR tiMe Poor time management causes great stress for people. Competence is a treasure that can only be discovered when all the wrong directions are eliminated and the one right direction is made clear. By creating a map out of your time. you focus your activity toward a pre-determined direction. if you have a big math test coming up and have no study schedule planned. the 93 . Not knowing what to do paralyzes you with terror. your schedule should be designed to eliminate all the wasted activity going in the wrong direction. When you lack direction. The way to alleviate this stress is to remove your options. When creating your schedule. The point of creating a schedule is to specify and limit your time. Schedules lead to competence just like maps lead to treasure. or not at all. or an hour each week. Mapping out 3 hours for “homework” is not as good as mapping out 1 hour for algebra. This means you haven’t learned how to apply limits (self-discipline) to yourself. You have too many options. Just like a treasure map. Competent people rely on self-imposed limitations called schedules. Having more than one option indicates a lack of direction. It should point only in one direction—toward the goal. you gain a feeling of security. map out your obligations in red. or the day before the test. Be as specific as possible. Steve Jobs creates a blueprint with his time to maximize the efficiency of Apple. Limitation removes options. you feel chaotic inside because you have no idea what to expect. This includes leisure activities and rest time that can be sacrificed if necessary. These are things you are working on becoming good at or achievements you’re trying to reach. Once you have a direction to follow. Finally. These are activities that must be done—no exceptions. map out your optional time in yellow. you’ll feel overwhelmed with anxiety and despair. you can study all night. 1 hour for physics and 1 hour for English. Even the top students in school know exactly what they should be doing at any given moment because their day is planned out before they even wake up. Successful Olympic athletes create workout schedules to focus on winning a gold medal. Limiting yourself down to one option creates a direction. The more specific your schedule is. Nothing else. Then map out your goals in blue.
Even your bedtime should be scheduled. If you can’t follow it. something’s wrong. Your schedule shouldn’t have any gaps. Stick to your schedule. make sure you map out your entire week. 94 . Be sure to include every hour of the day. it defeats the point of even creating one. Change it until you can follow it. Everybody already has the useless “I need to do stuff today” schedule in their head. not break you. If your schedule is too general. Your schedule is meant to push you.more efficient your work becomes. At the very least.
it’s not a goal—it’s a distraction. the closer you come to creating a functional direction for yourself that will get you to your destination/ achievement/goal/maturity/ satisfaction. Make sure you purposefully limit your schedule by creating goals.This schedule above isn’t quite there yet. GET RID OF IT. Limitation makes life grow! The more your limit your options. Your goal should have a specific time limit and a specific 95 . They are meant to be practical and applicable to real life. If you can’t reach your goal. Goals are different from hopes and aspirations. It still has too many options.
The clearer you are with your goals. each day until completed. Or to build a model airplane. To improve your short term goals. You’re going to need to create two types of goals to end your cycle of confusion. They can be anything from earning a bachelor’s degree to building a model airplane. a good short term goal for earning a bachelor’s degree would involve studying 3 hours after school each day. Short term goals are necessary to accomplish your long term goals. the easier it will become to achieve them. Give them better direction. In the above example. you’re starring in a Disney movie—wake up. despair and apathy: Long term goals typically take more than a week to achieve. 96 . you can set aside 30 mins. Stop daydreaming. just make them more specific.strategy for attaining it. If either of these are missing.
’ 97 . The watch is limited in what it can do by the boundary of its own design walls. What the design (boundary) demands. In this way. The fence dictates where the cattle can go. That is the watch’s function. just as cattle behind the boundary of a fence must stay within a specific confined space dictated by that fence.liMitation cReates PRoPeR FoRM Form defines the boundaries of an applied principle. Likewise. When a form is created. its function is determined by that boundary. the watch must do (function). The watch’s design is its boundary. it must tell time. The watch must behave according to its boundary. when an engineer places gears together in a specific way. According to the watch’s design. the design boundary of the watch dictates where it moves. he creates a design we all recognize as a watch. the watch’s function is inherently tied to its ‘form. For example.
Good farmers know that it’s necessary to prune their crops to produce the best fruit. Take fruit-bearing trees for example. the more efficient the resulting design becomes. Without self-discipline to limit your behavior. worthless fruit. 98 .The more confining the boundary. Unpruned trees produce large crops of small. life does not mature. you will not mature. Without limitation.
The better the form. Limitation is essential to proper growth. 99 .” refers to a man who lacks limitation.The old saying. But he fails to truly master any of them because he the lacks the necessary self-discipline to become thorough. This means. And the single correct form—the most specifically limiting boundary possible—always leads to the only functional result possible. but master of none. the more specific the limitation. He may know many things superficially. “Jack of all trades. the less dysfunctional the outcome. the more efficient the result.
molding a clay pot to hold water or perfecting a jump shot to score a basket. Once the cup is 100 . You can use it as a hammer. it will only produce a functional result. form determines outcome. you can use a cup in many ways. But it was only designed with one function in mind—to drink liquid from. A functional result is the intended result. For example.Whether shaping words in a poem to touch an emotion. You can use it as a door stop. Once a thing achieves its highest form. You can even use it as a weapon.
correct form leads to the right outcome. By trying to make the form fit the outcome. Even though we need goals to keep us focused. In short. it achieves its intended purpose. instead of making the outcome fit the form.used solely for drinking. people make the mistake of focusing on the outcome instead of perfecting the form. 101 . It is at the pinnacle of its function. you actually inhibit yourself from reaching that goal. being fixated on the goal and ignoring the maintenance of proper form leads to disaster. But too often.
But if you focus on the goal of scoring instead of perfecting your shooting form. This means you need to start practicing shooting a basketball over and over in a specific way to become as efficient as possible at scoring. It allows you to do things in more than one way. even if comes from poor shooting form because it meets your goal requirement—winning the game. if your goal is to score enough points to win a basketball game. Poor form makes it very difficult to achieve the 102 . you need to develop a proper shooting form. But over the long run. Focusing only on scoring points may help you win a few games. you’re being rewarded for becoming incompetent. But you don’t realize the subtle damage being done. At first. Essentially. You are taking pleasure in an outcome produced by a dysfunctional form. it will catch up with you. Poor form is very inconsistent. you’ll start to notice dysfunction creeping in to ruin your competence. you’ll celebrate scoring any points. Poor form lacks boundaries and limitations.For example.
it consistently gets you to the same destination every single time. it aligns with the principle of direction. not the outcome. You can now produce an orderly outcome. Once your shooting form is limited to a specific motion. 103 . It directs your behavior. avoids inconsistency because it provides the ultimate limitation—direction. Because of its inherent limitation. the result becomes stable.same result twice. Good form only has one option. Anything that is limited becomes part of a stable arrangement. on the other hand. limiting your shooting form down to one option will make it much easier. Whenever anything is limited down to its most functional state. io ns Form determines outcome. Whereas shooting a DIRECTION limitation o opti o p t n s io n s opt ion s o p ti ons optio ns n opti ons opt s ion s o opti ons ns io p p ti optio o t op o n t s basketball a thousand different ways will make it much harder to score points. Focus on repeating the form. The form you develop will determine where you end up. This is because limitation is the precursor to order. It forces you to go one way. This produces order. Good form. Proper form can only be developed though repetition.
the outcome can become a distraction. To obtain a consistent outcome. 104 . Form always precedes outcome. When you remove the distraction of the outcome and instead focus on perfecting the form. you’ll discover the real secret to successfully achieving the desired result. If your outcome is inconsistent/wrong/bad. A well developed form produces consistency—backbone of competence. satisfying outcome. proper form always produces the correct. orderly. this indicates a problem with your form. it’s necessary to first perfect your form. Your desire to achieve the outcome will often undermine the development of proper form.At times.
Eventually he could do it in his sleep. Is it really that easy? No. repeatable behavior distinguishes long-term training from short-term trying. But the novice’s resulting frustration reveals the truth about training: it’s not an accident. you will lose your money trying. he practiced for ten hours to get it right. And he’s been doing it for years. He won’t tell you that before the carnival started that day. Think of any carnival game where an employee demonstrates how “easy” it is to toss a ring onto a bottle or knock over some metal pins with a single pitch. He has honed and refined his brush strokes down to a consistent. From an outsider’s perspective. It does not happen overnight. Those observing well-trained individuals applying their skill are often deceived by this simplicity and become eager to imitate it. What you see is a simple brush stroke repeated a thousand times over.tRaining PRoDUces consistencY When you observe a trained artist painting a picture. He can do it almost every time. Why. He always makes it look deceptively simple. efficient motion. Every practice toss got him closer and closer to that one simple. 105 . you notice something in his behavior that amateur artists lack—consistency. There are no shortcuts. That’s not luck. And that’s what he’s hoping for. In fact. consistency looks simple. functional motion. This consistent. Time and effort must be sacrificed to achieve consistent order. Years of study and practice result in simplified. That’s training. efficient. functional form with no excess.
Since humans have a need for order. restrictions and rules must be created to safeguard people from disorder. your view of freedom means having no restrictions. But removing restrictions and limitations affects everyone around you. inWaRD liMitation vs. The number of outward limitations reflects our ability to inwardly limit ourselves. Neglecting to restrict the behavior of people leads to anarchy. This is why our society designs laws to restrict harmful behavior. This creates a dangerous situation for everyone living around you. limitations. For example. society today is cluttered with countless laws 106 . The outward limitation of your parents is meant to teach you how to apply inward limitations to your own person. You should be free to do and say whatever you want.FReeDoM anD liMitation Currently. oUtWaRD liMitation As a child. Discipline produces maturity—the ability to govern your own behavior through self-discipline. your parents should have applied loving discipline to your disorderly behavior. chaos and disorder. if you were able to fire a gun from your house without restriction or limitation. Because of feminism. you might kill another person standing outside. Society is a reflection of the parenting we received.
designed to regulate our behavior from the outside. There is no thought of inward regulation because feminism removes personal accountability. When no one feels responsible, limitations must be created to prevent irresponsible behavior.
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For example, there are laws today preventing you from bringing your dog to the beach. Because people are too irresponsible to clean up after their dogs, outward limitations have been applied to prevent this irresponsible behavior from occurring. Instead of forcing people to become accountable for their actions, feminism creates more laws to simply eliminate the possibility of those actions even occurring. The only problem is, if people are never taught to inwardly account for their behavior, they will forever engage in irresponsible activity. Just because the State has created a law to prevent one type of irresponsible action doesn’t mean that people won’t simply express their irresponsible condition in new areas. Irresponsible behavior can never be eradicated by sweeping it under the rug and ignoring it. Laws designed to eliminate the consequences of irresponsible behavior only redirect the problem to different areas. But they never solve it.
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Without self-discipline, people are forced to rely on the State to police their behavior. The State becomes an overbearing parent applying restriction after restriction as its citizens become increasingly infantilized by feminism. Whenever people fail to inwardly regulate their behavior, the result is always an increase in outward regulations. The less self-control we have, the more State laws we require.
People desire good direction in life. Yet our culture is constantly scolding us for wanting to conform to anything. We’re told it’s better to ‘break the rules’ and ‘think outside the box.’ Individual options and preferences are praised while limitation is ridiculed as boring and mindless. Many people even demonize limitation as harmful to society. But regardless of what our current dysfunctional culture preaches, people need to know which way to go, what to say and how to behave. While imaginary TV characters flaunt their individuality and independence from society, real life people crave the ultimate restriction— direction. True direction leaves no room for an option. Functional direction doesn’t say go north or south. Instead a good direction points only to your destination and gets you there in the most efficient way possible.
There is only one way to go when you have a competent, orderly direction. True direction eliminates all optional desires and points only to one necessity. A functional direction tells you exactly what to do and lets you know exactly what is required. When you discover the right direction—the functional direction—you become free. As counterintuitive as it seems, having direction is liberating. Consider a social activity like baseball. When all the participants of a baseball game understand the rules—the limitations and restrictions— of play, they all share a mutual direction. They know what to expect from themselves and others. This facilitates an enjoyable game. Although their behavior is structured and limited by rules, they nonetheless experience freedom while playing. Conversely, if there are no agreed upon rules of play, nobody will know what to do during the game. Everyone’s experience will suffer. People will be full of anxiety, not knowing what to expect. They will worry that the other players might injure them. They will feel stupid not knowing which direction to run. Unlimited behavior options will create a miserable, unsatisfying situation for everyone involved.
It seems counterintuitive to think that removing options by adding limitations will create more freedom. But people only feel truly free when order is achieved. Direction not only creates freedom in sports, it also frees up your social interactions. When you know how to interact socially, you become eager to participate because you experience social freedom. Speaking and conveying yourself to others becomes a liberating activity. Conversely, when direction is lacking, you become paralyzed. For example, when you see 20 different brands of cereal in a supermarket or 20 different shirts on display in a clothing store, you can’t decide what to buy. You become anxious that you’re missing out on something if you make the wrong choice.
Too many options stalls movement. Too many choices undermines production. Too many alternatives inhibits proper functioning, especially during a social interaction. Even women suffer from this lack of limitation. Females have been damaged by the permissive philosophy of feminism. Society actively encourages women to usurp male authority. This is similar to how pop psychology advocates the removal of parental authority, placing it in the hands of unqualified children. For example, today’s parents face a nightmare of legal worries when attempting to discipline their children. Instead of addressing disobedience with a spanking to reassert their authority, parents now cower under the constant threat of legal reprisals. Applying merited pain to disorderly behavior is forbidden by so-called child experts. But this contempt for limitation leads to great disorder. Children eat unhealthy foods, engage in dangerous activities and resist protective restrictions whenever parental authority is absent. Without proper authority to restrict and limit their behavior, children will suffer poor health, injury or death. Limitation makes life grow properly. This principle can be seen throughout nature. The best wine is not produced by wild grapes, but by those that have been carefully pruned and tied. Restrictive training produces the most useful animals. Regimented workout programs
You will not receive an Apple paycheck. In order to control your behavior. You have the right to control and determine a course of action or a final outcome. Steve Jobs is the CEO of Apple. You will not receive job related medical benefits. Steve can no longer direct your life or make you do anything you don’t want to do. Authority brings poorly arranged things. you do not work for Apple. you are outside of his jurisdiction. however. they still have an instinctual. In short. you are free. Without it. Regulated educational training and strict discipline produce the most successful businessmen. For example. you are under his authority. If you are an employee of Apple. but it also means you will not benefit from his care. This gives him the right to make all decisions involving the Apple corporation. Even if you’ve never met the man. as long as you are employed by Apple. Those who apply limitations and restrictions to themselves. he needs authority over you. Only when you place yourself under Steve’s authority by joining the Apple corporation are you able to benefit from that authority. Even the President undergoes the strictest public scrutiny and subjects himself to the most limiting standards of personal conduct. positive response to it. he can do nothing. excel. but without provision. aUtHoRit Y—tHe PRoPeR Male FoRM PURPose oF aUtHoRitY While women and children often lack the capacity to grasp the inner workings of authority. Steve still has authority over you. Hence. events and circumstances into a state of order. Being outside of Steve’s authority will give you more freedom to do as you please. If. don’t. Authority brings order. You will not be allowed to have access to privileged information only available to Apple employees. Those who indulge unregulated whims and excesses. people are attracted to those who have the ability to create order.and confining diets produce the world’s best athletes. people. If you want your social interactions to meet 111 . Having authority means you have jurisdiction over someone or something.
your need for order, you must exercise your authority over them. In a family relationship, men need authority over women and children to meet everyone’s need for order. Authority is necessary to organize responsibilities, to correct bad behavior, to manage resources, to provide security and to enforce limits and boundaries. Consider the punk rocker lifestyle. It is the antithesis of order. In fact, its philosophy encourages the dismantling of social order. Only dysfunctional people are drawn to such a chaotic, aimless life. Their houses, cars, personal appearance and relationships display a disorderly, limitless view of life. If you were to stop taking care of your house and your appearance, both would spontaneously start resembling this lifestyle. It’s not so much a lifestyle choice as it is an act of personal neglect. Apathy and dissatisfaction fuel such disorderly living. If you fail to direct a relationship with your authority, disorder will creep in, cooperation will deteriorate, reciprocation will cease and attraction will wane. Eventually the relationship will end. Similarly, if you fail to exercise authority over your life, your health will deteriorate, your grades will drop, your income will suffer and dissatisfaction will grow. Whenever things move toward disorder, they inevitably die.
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Masculinity is properly expressed in the form of authority. Yet today’s immature society associates authority with negative stereotypes of masculinity. Men exercising their authority are branded as “controlling” and “abusive,” suffering from a superiority complex. In an article titled, “Abusive men: The Top 10 Signs
of an Abusive Man,”2 Stephany Alexander accuses men who are “always right” or “always in charge” of being abusive partners. This vilification of authority within female-oriented publications and mainstream media undermines the proper functioning of relationships. Reenforcing negative stereotypes of authority causes women to resent those who exercise it; women want male resources and care, yet they resent those providing it. Women want security, yet they resent giving up their independence. Women want all of the control in a relationship, yet they resent all responsibility that comes with it. In essence, feminism encourages women to hate their own necessities. However, this short-sighted approach destabilizes the very thing women hope to secure—healthy relationships. The current epidemic divorce rates testify to this fact. Women fail to realize that both authority and submission come with a price. Either women must give up their autonomy or learn to bear the burden of responsibility inherent to leadership. Either women must obey the men governing their relationships or start creating their own civilization by the sweat of their own brows3. Benefitting from the sacrifice of men while offering nothing in return, creates a disorderly social environment. Because feminism teaches women to remain independent within their relationships, authority is always being fought over. Women are encouraged to make their own decisions without the help of a man. Females attempting to usurp male authority, not only nullify the male function, they also endanger the foundation of orderly social interactions. Because authority is never established, accountability is never assigned. Men are simultaneously scolded for being too “controlling” and failing to take charge. Such dysfunctional social expectations inevitably result in relationship conflicts. Lack of male authority is the major source of chaos damaging
2 3 http://www.authorsden.com/categories/article_top.asp?catid=57&id=28889 http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=455
relationships today. And its long list of debilitating symptoms— skyrocketing divorce rates, rebellious children, overcrowded prisons, loss of civil rights and historic levels of prescription medication— continues to grow. Removing authority compromises the stability of any relationship and makes society unsafe. Authority gives men the means to erect civilizations and establish the rule of law. Authority allows men to care for women and children. Yet feminism’s demonization of the male gender role undermines this authority and inhibits men from meeting the obligations dictated by their authority position. Authority is urgently needed to accomplish what your male function demands— establishing and maintaining order in social interactions, and by extension, in society. You must learn to reestablish your authority.
aUtHoRitY MaintaineD bY Pain & PleasURe
Energy is required to maintain order. Without the introduction of an energizing agent, things spontaneously move toward a state of disorder. Likewise, without the requisite amount of pain and pleasure—the ordering agents of authority—people naturally move toward disorder. Even your physical body needs an ordering agent to keep it from returning to a state of chaos or death. It requires a great amount of food energy just to maintain a healthy body. Most of the energy in the food you eat
doesn’t go toward growth. It’s used to maintain your body’s orderly state of good health. And along with that pleasurable food energy, your body requires some form of painful exercise to direct it toward an orderly operation. The strain of running, lifting weights, moving furniture, cutting firewood, building a house or mowing the lawn all work to discipline your body to respond in an efficient manner. Pain directs your body away from disorder. Pain disciplines your body to maintain its healthy, orderly condition. As a result, you life becomes more enjoyable.
But without exercise, your body will soon become disorderly. It will grow fat, become sick, invite disease and breakdown. Eventually it will cease to function. Death is the ultimate sign of this disorder. Your physical environment also requires energy to maintain it. On the positive side, you need to create a good environment for yourself. On the negative side, you need to maintain it by removing dysfunctional elements causing disorder.
For example, you can buy a bike to help you meet your transportation needs. But you must maintain your bikes orderly condition. It requires
like everything else. Thus. if your authority isn’t pleasurable to those being governed by it. For example. doctor. tech support. and your money should provide for their physical needs (food. If you stop taking care of your car. personal trainer. Everyone requires pleasurable provision and painful limitation. baseball coach. This means your words should make others happy. fireman. you must be able to lead them toward a pleasurable result. This is necessary to create order. teacher. it will cause you health problems. If you stop taking care of your body. This requires the painful exertion of your muscles. plumber. Everything and everyone needs to have the energizing elements of pain and pleasure applied to them to thrive. wash the frame. You have to oil the chain. etc. If you can perform a service that brings order to others (business consultant. your actions should safeguard their welfare. This is why people are naturally drawn and attracted to ordering agents. you must keep it clean to ensure the gears work properly.an infusion of energy to prevent it from rusting and breaking down. dust will gather. Your words.). Just as a parent controls the behavior of a 116 . mentor. Those in charge must be able to meet the need for order. mechanic. actions and resources must all be used to care for those under your authority. People must see a benefit to being governed by you. it will eventually fall apart. shelter). People require the establishment and maintenance of order to lead satisfying lives. In short. Everything follows this same principle. the government is responsible for making its citizens happy. Likewise. If you are going to direct the behavior of another person. PleasURe establisHes aUtHoRitY Pleasure is required to establish your authority. scrub off the grease. parent. It has the requisite authority to control our behavior. This requires a pleasurable provision on your part. etc. If you stop taking care of your bike. policeman. clothing. the engine will die. you will always be in demand. Maintaining its orderly condition requires your painful effort. if you stop cleaning your house. it’s dysfunctional and will lead to disorder.
They are often employed to threaten or censor dissenting opinions. Such laws violate the principle of limitation. Hate crime laws. if you neglect to show them your approval. if you neglect to create 117 .child with rules. its citizens will attempt to remove authority from those who are making them unhappy. the government abuses that authority by creating dysfunctional limitations. If you neglect to cheer others up. they will remove you from their social circles. Our financial crisis and government corruption are also symptoms of dysfunctional authority. government authority is used to suppress healthy expression. the citizens become unhappy. If government authority creates enough disorder. When the government is unfit to provide security for its citizens or enforce laws in a just manner. everyone suffers. As a result of the government’s failure to meet the need for orderly social interaction. the government controls the behavior of its citizens with laws designed to safeguard everyone’s welfare. are unjust restrictions designed to benefit only one class of people. if you neglect to provide them with helpful knowledge. on the other hand. But many times. Instead of creating order by limiting harmful behavior. if you neglect to stimulate their thoughts. For example. if you fail to provide a pleasurable incentive to people in your social interactions. if you neglect to touch their emotions. speed limits are functional laws designed to safeguard the lives of all citizens on the road. Likewise.
Men who neglect to provide a pleasurable arrangement in their social interactions also fail to incite love in others. if those under your authority stop moving toward order. pain is required to maintain it. he has created a pleasurable experience for you. However. your authority becomes useless to them. For example. You become willing to be ruled by his authority and obey his direction. Thus. Pain causes those under your authority to fear your authority. Thus. clothes and feeds you. In order to motivate others to meet your expectations.order in their lives. When someone gives you pleasure. especially women. Your love for your dad becomes the basis. they require pleasure. Pain Maintains aUtHoRitY Once your authority is established. if your dad hugs. they will become disorderly. you need to apply pain to quell dysfunctional behavior. They will reject it. you have no motivation to do anything for him. the motivation behind your behavior. This causes you to love him. Unless he is threatening you with bodily harm. you have no reason to meet his expectations. This doesn’t mean you suddenly cut off the pleasure. You should give others pleasure to motivate them to move toward order. Pleasurable feelings and a valid direction motivate orderly behavior. 118 . you want to make him happy. you are motivated to meet their needs. It just means that the pleasure you provide must be conditional—it must be merited. But if you do not love your dad.
Unmerited pain causes feelings of confusion and helplessness. it motivates you to behave in an orderly way to avoid harm. If you fear touching a hot stove. Unlike fear which moves its recipients toward order. terror depends on not knowing what to expect. fire is painful to touch. Fear limits what you’re allowed to do. Why? 119 . Whereas healthy fear depends on stability. you cease all careless behavior that could injure your body. Fear is different than terror. if you fear the pain of falling off a cliff. All day long people work inside skyscrapers without feeling terrified or paralyzed. Likewise. Consider gravity. both perspective and behavior become dangerous. Fear is generated by merited pain. A painful result is guaranteed if they fall. Thus. Terror fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses. Most people fear standing near the ledge of a tall building because they realize that falling off will result in death. If they violate the law of gravity. is based on the application of unmerited pain. on the other hand. This results in extreme anxiety and mental stress. terror leads to disorder. Terror. Thus. It creates fear in you. there is a merited pain consequence in store for them. Yet this knowledge doesn’t paralyze people with terror. Eventually. it paralyzes you as there is nothing you can do to avoid being harmed.FeaR Healthy fear is necessary to maintain order. For example. you’ll be more likely to avoid reckless behavior when standing near a steep ledge.
drivers should fear the state’s authority. Any society lacking healthy fear will also be void its by-product—peace. And more importantly. when people don’t fear breaking the law. there is no means to create order. high ledges and tall office buildings. there is no respect. The fear of pain causes drivers to stop their disorderly behavior. the learning environment prospers. Even though you fear the consequences of violating gravity. the learning process is inhibited. there is no reason to fear or obey authority. People feel the freedom to indulge their whims whenever governing boundaries are removed. Fear of merited pain removes the threat of disorder. If someone breaks the speed limit. Gravity will not try to trick you or surprise you. Without fear. Its law is stable. but you are not terrified by the thought of it.Because gravity is consistent. society experiences disorder. Without fearful obedience. your relationship with it remains stable. Thus. For example. students do not fear their teachers. society experiences order. Without fear of authority. When students fear their teacher’s authority. and without respect. you know that you can avoid any painful consequences by simply behaving in an orderly way around cliffs. You fear violating the law of gravity. every single time. People even come to depend on the law of gravity because it will not change. Teachers have a hard time training their students because the students do not respect the teacher’s word. Orderly behavior will not spontaneously arise without fear’s motivating guidance to ensure its arrangement. the police have the authority to arrest that person. Because gravity is a law. people can take specific measure to avoid its harmful consequences. Without pain. disorder has no limitation or restriction. When children fear their father’s authority. 120 . Its consistent nature creates stability. But what can the police do to make drivers obey them? Just expecting drivers to stop isn’t enough. When people fear breaking the laws of their government. Fear is necessary to prevent disorderly behavior. This is why police officers need to carry a gun to enforce their expectations. Its nature is dependable. in classrooms today. Just as students need to fear their teachers. There is an absence of healthy fear. it applies everywhere the same way. Conversely. the family experiences peace.
Many men today prefer to replace fear with compromise. you represent the highest ordering agent. many authority problems stem from neglecting to supply incentives from one side. neglecting to establish it proves fatal. You can receive welfare benefits and 121 . Because your will has been subdued. In fact. The end result is love. Whenever you experience disorder in a relationship. you gain the benefits of U. if you continue to validate her with your attention. In layman’s terms: if women cease to fear you. you seek to obey the laws of the land. Neither pain nor pleasure can be missing.As a man. When people genuinely acknowledge your authority. not realizing that compromise leads to resentment. Fear is required to meet the universal need for order. You must have both. Yet because this fear provides an orderly arrangement. By neglecting to address violations of your authority with pain. On the positive side. the weaker the relationship becomes until love is entirely depleted. In fact. citizenship. they will simultaneously become attracted to you. Today. If a woman refuses to submit to your authority. Since authority is the very cement meant to hold relationships together.S. you first need to subdue their will. The more their authority is compromised. Your capacity to exercise authority is inherently attractive and fearful to all people. your efforts will backfire. aUtHoRitY ReqUiRes sUbMission To bring a person under your authority. they will also cease to love you. This means they must be conquered by both positive and negative incentives. you undermine any order previously created. affection and provisions. You are protected by the police. by obeying the laws. they will fear you. You have rights granted to you by the Constitution. she is not in a position to receive your care. the United States government has conquered you with both positive and negative incentives. you need to realize authority is missing—fear is gone.
You can be fined. the police will charge you with a crime. They can imprison you. they get shelter. When you protect them. These negative incentives serve to ensure your submission to the governing authority over you. you should require their full submission. if you disobey the laws. When you kiss them. When you spend money to buy things. receiving the benefits of your care. When you create order with your authority. Once a person agrees to submit to your 122 . When you correct them. They need to obey your laws (expectations) because they are now under your jurisdiction. they get security. Those who benefit from the order you create need to be brought into submission to your authority. They can arrest you. etc. etc. they get nourishment. It is now your job to keep them safe and happy. they get affection. You can lose your property. You get to live in a clean environment. The government can even go so far as to execute you if you disobey certain laws. The responsibility for their welfare now rests on your shoulders. When you share your knowledge. they get educated. they benefit from it. [Gaining submission in social interactions will be covered in section III] Your authority places you in the position of a sheriff. they get discipline. When you pay rent. they become the recipients. You can lose your rights. These positive incentives encourage you to submit to the governing authority of the United States. On the negative side. When you feed them. Your authority allows them to benefit from all that you have to offer.other government assistance if necessary. you are in charge. Once a person submits to your authority in a relationship. In return.
” many people. cruel misogynists. authority over another person is required. rational examination and serve to shut down discussion. especially women. and in its most vilified context. Intellectually dishonest characterizations of submission and authority undermine objective. its necessary polarity. Practically speaking.” has lost its proper context. their submission must be maintained by the application of merited pain and pleasure. this means you need to discipline bad and reward good behavior. Feminism misleads society into believing that submitting to the will of another automatically results in abuse. personality and choice. Yet for all of these relationships to function properly. We don’t characterize employer-employee relationships as slavery. Yet. Yet we don’t characterize our relationship with our father as one of slavery.authority. While Webster’s dictionary defines submission as: “yielding oneself to the authority or will of another. They mock housewives as inferior women while painting their husbands as unsophisticated. We don’t characterize student-teacher relationships as slavery. “submission. While the term “authority” still remains acceptable in modern vernacular. we can easily expose the incompetent nature of these criticisms 123 . We don’t characterize military relationships as slavery. female submission to male authority is depicted as the pinnacle of misogyny. feminists deem cooking and cleaning evil relics of a contemptible patriarchal system. erroneously believe that submission results in a complete loss of identity. Feminists have demonized the concept of submission by associating it with a condemned patriarchal system. Submission is made synonymous with slavery.
the State must use its authority to execute a punishment (e. fine. If you steal from a bank.by referencing an authority-submission relationship common to everyone’s experience: From small tribes in Africa to large metropolitan cities across the United States. In return. even to the point of sacrificing their own lives. Whenever people enter into a reciprocal relationship. In doing so. jail) against those who breach its legal agreements.g. you are essentially breaking the legal agreements governing public roads. you break the laws designed to protect the economic interests of its investors. when you exceed the speed limit. Your expectations are designed to care for those submitting to your authority. To fulfill its responsibility to its citizens. For example. designed to safeguard everyone’s interests. Everyone’s ability to purchase lifesustaining resources is put in jeopardy. Authority is required to enforce your expectations. people voluntarily submit to some type of governing authority that meets their needs. These laws must then be enforced to protect those interests and thus maintain an orderly society. each side must sacrifice its freedom. Anything less than submission will result in disorder. those who wield authority must bear the responsibility for everyone’s happiness. Nations create agreements (laws) with its citizens. 124 .. you endanger the lives of those whom the State is legally obligated to protect. If these legal agreements are broken. those receiving care are obligated to submit to the governing authority providing it. Submission is the proper attitude/behavior/condition necessary for authority to function properly. Violators must be punished to remove the disorderly condition created by their actions. all lives are put in jeopardy. A painful consequences brings society back into a state of order.
Freedom is meaningless if you must constantly worry about being shot. Without reciprocation and mutual dependence to guide your actions. both sides will remain unsatisfied. her submission actually safeguards her freedom. This is no different than immigrants losing the ‘freedom’ to exceed the speed limit. Both authority and submission are essential to meeting everyone’s need for order. she gains the right to physical protection. those who demonize authority and submission are really expressing their childish desire for immediate gratification. a well-directed life will answer her need for order. It places her in a proper position to receive her husband’s care and protection. On the contrary. 125 . romance. Whereas absolute freedom led her to a Wild West lifestyle of confusion and misery. human life becomes expendable. They fail to realize that their delusional utopia of absolute freedom will only lead to a complete disregard for human life. Thus. Self-interest always undermines the incentive to care for everyone’s mutual welfare. A wife submitting to her husband’s governing authority doesn’t lose her identity or ability to choose. peace of mind and a satisfying relationship. financial support. The only “freedom” she loses is the dysfunctional ability to act without restriction. a strong pair of arms for moving furniture and changing tires. stabbed. yell fire in a crowded theater. raped or exploited by an unrestricted society predicated on selfindulgent freedom. submitting to male authority does not result in oppressive relationships. killed. In exchange for her freedom. If either component is missing.Just as obeying the laws of the State does not suppress your identity or turn you into a slave. steal from others or engage in any other unrestricted behaviors once they become lawful citizens of a nation.
He had [an authoritative] personality. [He] dominated me in bed all the time.thefrisky. The high rate of divorce is indicative of society’s contempt for authority and submission.. just as absolute. unrestricted freedom is very dangerous to any society. But outside of bed. He could be fearless and decisive. unrestricted freedom is dangerous to any relationship. even hardcore feminists—who routinely condemn authoritative 4 http://www. weird way.html 5 http://www. there are more single people than married people.thefrisky. Even feminists themselves are hard-pressed to ignore their own natural gender design..Absolute. As The Frisky’s most staunch feminist. Today. As much as feminists love to claim that gender is a mere social construct. women are encouraged to “break the law” of reciprocation by refusing to submit to male authority. which was starting to feel like catnip in this new. Without a functional authoritysubmission relationship. break-ups and divorce) when it’s ordering agents (authority & submission) are removed. He was protective..com/post/246-moves-women-love-in-bed-but-can-be-too-afraid-to-askfor/ 6 http://www. for the first time in history. Romance will naturally entropy (fights. He could be stern and take charge when he needed to..” Yes. there is no way to protect the interests of either gender or preserve a peaceful order.dailymail. their own experience betrays their fraudulent philosophy.”6 But through actual experience she later gains a valuable realization: “. He could be a leader.. reveals: “[Women] want to be dominated: Even big-mouthed ballsy women like me enjoy being dominated! Yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of being rape-y. Because of feminism’s emphasis on self-esteem4.co.. of course. But with tons of trust and communication. I always felt ‘safe’ with him because of the way he took charge.it was [his authority]. she’ll be creaming her panties in no time!”5 Wakeman initially admits her own ignorance of gender function: “I look back now and see that [the men I dated] realized I loved [submitting] long before I did.com/post/246-first-time-for-everything-spanking/ 126 . Jessica Wakeman.uk/femail/article-1213212/The-ego-epidemic-more-inflated-sensefabulousness.
E. nor was I unhappy. Author. B.com/watch?v=ejSq-_NzAps 127 .] [he] was not abusive.youtube.. Never before in my life have I experienced such weeks-long periods of horniness! [. [. 39-44 http://www. I promise you.” In fact. the idea of [submitting to a man] aroused me more than I had ever felt before. The sexual fantasies of women.7 Such scientific observations and many others like it reveal the functional desire expressed by women8 to submit to male authority. I was not being hurt. Barbara Hariton. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship — or playing at one. During interviews with women. And I mean constantly.. 7 8 Hariton.” “.. (1973). but it is true. the significance of female submission is even backed by scientific studies such as the one conducted in 1973 by researcher and therapist E. further confirms this innate desire by giving dating tips to men that emphasize the importance of male authority in relationships: “Take Charge. We do not want to decide where to go. We will never tell you this.. Hariton discovered that the most common fantasy involved being “forcefully taken” by a man. unbelievably turned on. And as Wakeman confesses. anyway — and [submitting to his authority] got me unbelievably. Susannah Breslin. it even feels pleasurable: “I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with [submitting to a man] and..] I was horny constantly. lots of women really like it. Psychology Today. 6..men as “controlling” and “abusive”—admit that submitting to a man feels right.
and happy. This is evident in Wakeman’s own struggle with functional gender roles: “. they have little incentive to patronize sex workers. Considering that [women are ashamed to report such] fantasies.psychologytoday. thinking [this] wasn’t something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy...thefrisky.” 9 She also provides the reason why women require male authority: “Frankly. Matthew Hutson. and a creator when I wanted to be submissive 9 10 http://www. shmeminism. Why? Because in a market based upon the inability to attract women. a doer. dominant. [Remember when we said we were ‘strong and independent’ and didn’t need a man to take care of us?] We lied. points out: “A recent analysis of 20 studies over the last 30 years indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have [domination] fantasies.”10 Even the scientific community confirms this fundamental truth about female design as Psychology Today’s News Editor.“. male authority is largely absent from its customer base. feminism still conditions women to believe that competing for male authority leads to greater happiness.. interested. Yet even with vast amounts of evidence to the contrary. sheds further light on the subject by revealing a telling fact: dominatrices can make a good living while female submissives are rarely in demand. ambitious.. “...com/post/246-the-10-stupidest-mistakes-men-make-with-women/ 11 http://www. We like that. I felt conflicted about giving up my physical power. Just how. as women. self-assured. We are interested in how you portray yourself.. authoritative men can already attract women. these stats are most likely lowball figures. we’re not even sure what we want half the time.thefrisky. but you knew that already.. Thus.”11 And the porn industry. and these fantasies are frequent or preferred in 9% to 17% of women. Feminism. could a partner take me seriously as a thinker. Act confident.com/blog/brainstorm/200805/why-do-women-have-erotic-rapefantasies 128 .even though I liked the feeling of [submitting to a man]. which uniquely capitalizes on the social incompetence of men. engaged.com/post/246-10-things-guys-should-do-on-a-first-date/ http://www. I fretted.
relationships eventually break down. women assume that their authority exists independently of men’s authority. and without women submitting to that authority. they also experience much more misery.thefrisky. When relationships lack a stable leader. everyone enjoys the liberating peace of orderly relationships. Freedom that sacrifices necessity is meaningless. WHY aUtHoRitY belongs to Men Today. neither gender is satisfied. Because they see no distinction between male and female capacity. the end result is always suffering. the ability to do anything becomes contemptible if it fails to meet your needs. Whenever necessity competes with good intentions. Society must recognize the value of teaching females to submit to male authority. By robbing men of their authority.to him? What if people think I’m weird or screwed up?”12 While it’s true that women today experience much more social freedom to speak and do as they please. Only then can men and women truly benefit from the healthy exercise of authority and submission within a relationship. causing endless frustration. without men exercising authority over women. feminism has deceived women into believing their authority is autonomous. Many women even believe that 12 http://www. Feminism’s dysfunctional relationship model competes with a female’s natural submissive design. being shackled to feminism’s fraudulent ideology mocks the very purpose of freedom. Record numbers of women now take prescription medications to numb their chronic dissatisfaction. Yet.com/post/246-first-time-for-everything-spanking/ 129 . When boundaries are responsibly placed to curb disorder. and it must teach males how to exercise their authority to meet everyone’s needs. The mere “fantasy” of submitting to an authoritative man can never replace the reality of an emasculating culture that fails to meet the needs of women. feminism simultaneously deprives women of healthy male leadership.
Women are physically weaker than men in both strength and endurance. women completely ignore a key authority principle: having authority requires the capacity to enforce it. men can’t have babies or replace women as “mothers”). Thus.their authority supersedes men’s authority. And calculating complex math problems or understanding basic philosophical viewpoints proves daunting for most women. women can do nothing. most women find such tasks physically impossible.g. by virtue of necessity. This stems from the belief that sexual access—a key male need—is independently regulated by women. Just as men have certain inherent gender limitations (e.. women are also limited in their capacity by their inherent design. But women fail to realize that their ability to regulate anything is attributable solely to men—apart from male permission. and they lack the male capacity to reason. Because of feminism dysfunctional view of gender. men have been protecting and providing for women since the start of human history. 130 . Although most men find lifting heavy objects to build homes or working long hours in military training to be elementary duties.
men suddenly demanded it. Without male enforcement. Emasculated men have been similarly deceived by feminism to believe that they don’t deserve to have authority over women. And they gain invaluable technology. They fail to realize that men are stronger than women. Men must work in the most dangerous and demanding jobs because they are the only ones with the physical and mental capacity to do so13. soldier.com/forum/viewtopic. women gain civilization. women gain protection from rape and slavery. women wouldn’t be able to survive. scientist. without male consent. However. if instead of asking for sexual access. there would be absolutely nothing women could do to stop men from taking it by force. CEO and president are all male dominated professions for good reason— women can’t competently meet the physically and mentally demanding nature of these duties. men too must demand submission in order to fulfill their governing obligation. female autonomy would never exist. In short. Without men. engineer. Because men perform these duties. resources and provisions. Thus. firefighter. These 13 http://manhood101. women today have been conditioned by feminism to believe that protection is a right.Police. construction worker. not a privilege provided by men. Just as governments are responsible for protecting and providing for their citizens. women really have no autonomy. They gain houses that shield them from harsh weather. men are responsible for protecting and providing for women. And just as governing officials demand that their citizens obey the laws.php?f=16&t=455 131 . Women assume that men must protect them simply because women demand it or are entitled to it. Submission is required to maintain authority.
But the reality is. desires and activities are subject to male permission. According to feminism. Men have chosen to care for women instead of enslave them. Thus.” “You should pay for my dinner like a gentleman would. not only would women be unable to force men. that’s abusive. Only men have the innate capacity to enforce their authority. all female agendas. 132 . If men collectively stopped choosing to protect and provide for women. men and women possess equal power. women are privileged when men allow them to exercise choice. women immediately lose their privilege to do it. It is solely by male choice that women are granted any autonomy whatsoever.men fail to realize they are the ones providing protection and provision to women solely by their own gracious choice.” “When you say things that hurt my feelings. The only way women could procure uncompensated protection and provision would be to utilize the same manipulation tactic they presently rely on—passive-aggressive shaming: “You’re not a man if you don’t take care of me.” The only reason women aren’t in complete submission already is because men haven’t chosen force. You need to earn it. If men choose not to allow something.” “Expecting sex is barbaric. they would have absolutely no independent means to protect and provide for themselves.
To enforce your personal 'laws'—your expectations—in a functional way. However. 133 . however. pain and pleasure must be applied only when merited. Properly functioning parents will inflict pain to curb disorderly behavior and happily reward their children with pleasure when merited. If the rules are obeyed. both tools must be used only when appropriate. they lack the means to become orderly. your authority leads to disorder. Men are responsible for maintaining order and preventing disorder. They set up rules of conduct that should be obeyed. Remember. Without it.being ResPonsible to tHose UnDeR YoUR aUtHoRitY If you fulfill your function as a man by creating order. Women and children require a healthy administration of male authority in their lives. a reward follows—pleasure must be applied. punishment follows—pain must be inflicted. If. To maintain order. Good parents enforce their expectations with their children. If the rules are broken. The misapplication of pain and pleasure always leads to disorder. it is the wrong form of authority. then you are exercising functional authority. loving parents will never endanger a children’s life with excessive pain or pleasure. authority must meet the needs of those under your care to be functional and attractive.
On the street. Whenever he makes a product.Just as the government is charged with protecting and providing for its people. Your safety depended upon submission to parental authority. Receiving protection and provision requires relinquishing your freedom. A husband exercising authority over his wife or a general exercising authority over his soldiers are examples of personal authority. it helps perpetuate that authority by 134 . They represent the authority of Michael Jordan. you were forced to submit to your parent’s restrictive policies. PeRsonal aUtHoRitY Personal authority refers to the authority exercised by an individual. Because Michael Jordan is famous. As a citizen of this nation. you submit to searches because you want airplanes to be safe. his personal authority influences many people. But you didn’t realize that such restriction actually protected you from harm. you’re wearing Air Jordans. You thought having a curfew was unfair and infringed upon your freedom. Jordan brand shoes are an example of social authority. at airports. social aUtHoRitY Social authority is a derivative of personal authority. Protecting and providing for your interests requires submission to the governing authority just as meeting the needs of women requires submission to male authority. Now. As a child. his authority is transferred to that product. instead of wearing just any old brand of shoes. you submit to police officers because you want to be protected from criminals. you obey national security laws and observe military jurisdiction because you want your country to be protected from foreign threats. You submit to paying taxes so you’ll be provided with government services like road maintenance and health care. Proper care always requires authority. men are charged with protecting and providing for those submitting to their authority. It enforces the expectations of a group. If society accepts this authority.
when people stop valuing Michael’s authority. his shoes). This will grant you social authority over others. people will think you’re ‘cool’ (valuable).creating social expectations around the vehicle of that authority (in this case. The more powerful Michael’s authority grows. Now if you wear Air Jordans. the social 135 . the more willing people will be to meet your expectations when you display that authority on your feet. In short. As more and more people begin to value Air Jordans. Conversely. you are wearing the cumulative authority of an entire society on your feet. the social authority grows in proportion.
they move in a disorderly direction and grow increasingly dysfunctional.authority of his products will also diminish. Don’t damage your reputation in society. the more capacity you have to produce order. saYing “no” As a man. you need to learn how to confront them by saying no. your relationships to be a chronic tug-of-war and your family to be a chaotic battlefield of competing wills. Don’t neglect your chores. neglect or abuse. if you find your apartment to be a perpetual mess. poor choices. Don’t eat tons of sugar. crippling insecurities. Likewise. this indicates the absence of functional authority. A large part of a parent’s responsibility is devoted to disorder prevention: Don’t play in the street. If you are able to competently move yourself and others toward an orderly condition. Don’t be lazy. Don’t stay up too late. Children require the ordering function of their parents to maintain peaceful lives. When women operate outside the guidance of men. one of your primary functions is to prevent and remove disorder. 136 . when things and events move toward disorder. Dysfunctional authority is motivated by dysfunctional desires—your own personal wants and preferences. When someone moves toward disorder. Such a situation is doomed from the start. whether through drugs. Functional authority meets the needs of both leader and follower in a relationship. exeRcising FUnctional aUtHoRitY Exercising functional authority means moving toward a state of order. This is no different than a child trying to live productively without parental guidance. Don’t hang out with dangerous people. The less dysfunctional your authority. Conversely. Don’t take drugs. you need to apply limitation and restriction to bring things back into an orderly state. this indicates your authority is functional. Don’t make friends with people of poor character. Good parents must constantly tell their children ‘NO’ to prevent disorderly behavior. Dysfunctional authority fails to address your needs and the needs of those submitting to it.
Whereas functional men refuse to let women order them around. In short. permissive attitude. Since emasculated men in the media are your primary models of behavior. If you allow women to play with your authority. you encourage it by doing nothing to stop it. You need to learn how to stand your ground. Don’t be fooled. You need to stop catering and deferring to the demands of women and start caring about getting your own needs met. You need to stop this dysfunctional cycle. Instead of saying NO to disrespectful behavior.Permissiveness leads to problems. Being a functional man means saying ‘NO’ to bitch behavior. you will become a victim of your own careless. Women today feel entitled to do what they please without fear of reprisals because emasculated men like you allow women to seize your authority. Your passive acceptance normalizes 137 . social and financial leverage over you. You need to stop allowing your expectations to be violated. you fail to realize that your permissive (submissive) attitude only reinforces the problem. you simply adapt to bitch behavior. they remain trapped in a childish state of insecurity when divorced from male authority. Men who allow women to engage in unregulated behavior experience non-stop relationship problems. Social interactions fail because men like you assume that females are supposed to be difficult and demanding. You work only to allow women to take your earnings. you allow yourself to become a human welcome mat for women. Even though women claim to be just as capable as men. And you compromise your expectations only to allow women to gain emotional. You buy gifts only to allow women to take advantage of your affection.
They will constantly seek it out in various forms—the most popular being male attention. To properly restrict a woman. Prohibiting a woman from hanging out with other men will only 138 . Women need love and approval to maintain an orderly condition. Restricting who your sister. But it does not address the reason why such associations are formed in the first place. girlfriend or wife associates with will ensure their safety. When you take the opportunity to tell a woman NO. This practical use of his authority protects her from potential harm. If you fail to provide loving approval (pleasure). in like manner. you too will protect your girlfriend or wife from careless associations with other men. Just as loving parents routinely restrict the associations of their children as a matter of safety. But control is necessary to create and maintain any healthy relationship. you should restrict the associations of the women under your authority. you should take care to meet her needs. women will look elsewhere for it. If you realize that men mainly associate with women for sexual purposes. Women respond positively to men who refuse to tolerate disorderly female behavior. You haven’t yet realized that telling a woman ‘NO’ is one of the most valuable thing you can do for her.the problem. For example. a husband should rightly control his wife’s associations. The idea of a man controlling his wife has been demonized by society as an “abusive” character trait. you demonstrate your ability to create order in her life.
You can even make it a dietary restriction. your restriction becomes just as dysfunctional. men must give up their freedom to women. men must sacrifice their very lives. satisfying food in place of your restriction. they must sacrifice their freedom by submitting to male authority. But people are willing to sacrifice their time. Just as children must sacrifice their freedom to receive the benefit of their parent’s care. like children. privacy and freedom to feel safer. To have their sexual needs met.work if you are meeting her need for loving approval. your restriction becomes nothing more than deprivation. And since women receive the benefit of male protection and provision. if you fail to meet their needs. If you fail to provide a satisfactory alternative. Women. airport security is restrictive. If you tell a person to avoid something bad (like going to a bar) or you restrict someone from engaging in an unhealthy behavior (like taking drugs). Since men have the obligation to protect and provide for women. so too must parents sacrifice their lives to ensure the welfare of their children. Their physical and psychological welfare rest in your hands. This functional governing arrangement can even be observed in our society. they must maintain a position of authority over women. It requires passengers to submit to the limitations set by government. authority always comes with a much greater responsibility. This governing dynamic also occurs in relationships. But this carries a huge responsibility. you create a dysfunctional situation called deprivation. However. are in dire need of restriction. Although your restriction may have good intentions behind it. Today. Both genders binds themselves together to meet their needs. Restriction can never be enforced by deprivation. But if you do nothing to provide nutritious. To have security. women must give up their freedom to men. You can tell a person to avoid eating sugary foods like candy and donuts. This mutual sacrifice of freedom is necessary to maintain the relationship. while women must sacrifice their freedom. you become responsible for providing an alternative to fill the void created by your restriction. 139 .
doc http://glennsacks. Just as a citizen who refuses to acknowledge the laws of a nation. you should demand that she does all the housework without complaining. you should demand that your partner meets your sexual needs. women want to have their cake and eat it too. Women like Tyra Banks routinely use sex as a bargaining chip. forfeits his civil rights. you should never be ashamed of restricting and limiting women. Not only does it incite attraction. They wish to restrict and control men while remaining completely autonomous. Instead of mutual limitations. your authority is absent. it also allows you to fulfill your gender responsibility of 14 15 16 http://www. If you are willing to support a woman financially.com/blog/?p=4721 http://manhood101. Your loving care should always depend upon her submission.Unfortunately.php?f=16&t=205 140 .com/documents/LadiesNightsPrssRels. As a man. The exchange must be mutual in nature. You own her freedom. If you are willing to give up the right to pursue other women. yet hypocritically scold men who rely on their income or social status. To remedy this disorderly situation. If you are willing to protect and sacrifice your life for a woman. The burden of authority always requires the mutual sacrifice of freedom. she owns your life. emasculated attitude must be exposed16. relationships will collapse.roydenhollander. so too any woman who refuses to be governed by you should be cut off. Women like Oprah rely on the media to further their professional victim status yet selfrighteously condemn men for wanting equality in the classroom15. you should treat her as foreign citizen and immediately remove all her benefits. If a woman’s cooperation is absent. Stop devaluing your male function. Sacrifice and equality have been quietly replaced by entitlements and special gender privileges. feminism teaches women to neglect this necessary restriction. your permissive.com/forum/viewtopic. You must realize that if gender obligations aren’t mutual. Your support and provision should always be conditional. you should demand the final say in all relationship decisions. Women like Erin Andrews take advantage of female-friendly laws yet turn a blind eye to male gender discrimination14. If a woman refuses to submit to your governing authority.
com/forum/viewtopic. You can think and make decisions independent of your peers. and more capable. smarter18. This is your obligation as a male exercising authority. Since women deem themselves incapable of making a rational decision on their own. not by choice but by virtue of your design. you must bear more responsibility. This is why you will often witness women interrupting their girlfriend’s conversations with men and physically pulling them away (commonly referred to as “cockblocking”).php?f=16&t=534 http://manhood101. they are more than happy to place that responsibility on someone else’s shoulders. according to your function. Thus. Compared to women.com/forum/viewtopic. you possess much more natural capacity. this will produce attraction. You are stronger17. even women realize they’re incapable of making a competent decision without a man’s guidance.php?f=16&t=455 141 .creating an orderly relationship. You are designed to lead women. When you learn to take the lead and bring women into an orderly state. But do not assume leadership 17 18 http://manhood101. Being a man places you in a natural position of authority over women. leaDing Deep down.
Being unable to decide is worse than making a bad decision. But paralysis is worse than failure. Failure is necessary to properly calibrate leadership skills. There is nothing wrong with cautiously approaching a decision. As a parent. It just means you’ve failed to expose it. Going backward may feel humiliating. Instead of deciding. no correction can occur. Leading women is a lifetime obligation. incompetence becomes entrenched in paralysis. These men do not realize that pain is an integral part of moving toward order. they cringe. indecision prevents growth. But indecision will cripple. Hiding from failure doesn’t mean you’ve escaped it. All positions of authority come with a heavy price. bad decisions will sting. you will be held accountable to those submitting to your governing authority. In short. Since women lack the capacity to bear the burden of authority. Your problems stay hidden. You will waste 142 ? ? . For the rest of your life. You will spank your children when you should have praised them. Be fearful of neglecting to make any decision. Yes. Avoiding a decision will not make your responsibilities vanish or keep your failures at bay. Too many men allow themselves to be crippled by the fear of pain or the fear of failure. It merely prolongs the adolescent stage of authority. The thought of being held accountable becomes a nightmare. But going nowhere will haunt you. You will teach them bad habits and give them bad advice. and you will praise them when you should have spanked them. you will make mistakes. When a decision needs to be made.roles can be traded at your convenience. failing and learning from your mistakes. As a husband. But when no decision is made. mistakes can be adjusted. Failures can be forgiven. Don’t be afraid of making bad decisions. Your incompetence avoids exposure. you must take action. you will pay too much for a used car.
But failing to even start that process guarantees a disorderly. property and sleep. you are no longer fulfilling your leading function as a man. dissatisfying life of stagnation. Similarly. if you neglect to express your interest in her and initiate movement toward the specific direction you want her to go.money renting when you should have bought a home. You will spend your savings on a vacation when you should have saved it for an emergency. Avoid indecision at all costs. Always fail forward. This especially applies to your relationships. If you’re not leading. Order can eventually be reached by process of elimination. If you fail to direct her behavior. When speaking to a woman you’re attracted to. This means. you will end up going nowhere. If you’re not in charge of your relationship. But while bad decisions cause you to lose money. indecision will cause you to lose people. your goal should be to lead her toward a relationship. the woman is by default. This means you need to direct her toward that goal. she will be the one directing your behavior. Your mistakes may be difficult to recover from. you’re following—there is no middle ground in the universe. 143 .
Don’t be fooled if you end up in a relationship. Your goal is not to buy her dinners. In fact. But be aware that your goal is not to cover as many subjects as possible. movie tickets and jewelry. Establishing and maintaining order requires your active directing work. you must stop her. Without taking the initiative to direct your social interactions according to your expectations. Being a passive spectator waiting for something to happen does not accomplish this goal. drinks. [This will be covered in Section III].. You are merely reacting to what others around you are doing. Allowing her to violate your expectations does not accomplish this goal. You need authority to meet your expectations. Move the conversation back to what you want to talk about and move her in the same direction you’re headed. If a woman moves the conversation toward celebrities.. you will experience difficulty creating relationships or you will end up in unsatisfying ones that feel like suffocating prisons. it must move everyone in an orderly direction. All people are attracted to order. Just because you’re dating a woman doesn’t mean it’s going to work out in the end. You need to take an active hand in meeting your romantic expectations with women.Right now. Your goal is not to wait for her to make a move on you first. This does not mean you’re forced to solely talk about romantic topics. but for authority to be attractive. Talking about celebrities does not accomplish this goal. Such a dysfunctional attitude always results in disorder. the weather.. or other equally pointless topics. Your goal is not to kill time or become best friends. the direction itself is an indication of 144 . Your goal is to lead her toward a romantic relationship with you. you are a passive spectator letting things happen to you. Take the lead. Your goal is not to shower her with unreciprocated attention and affection.
A functional standard always gives you a proper indication of your deficiencies.order. obeYing Women who honor and fear your authority will obey you. you must first know where you’re going. the exercise of authority should meet a minimum ethical standard before it is obeyed. This means the authority position should always be honored and preserved. The clearer the direction becomes. But obedience should only be given to decisions that do not violate fundamental ethical principles. the more you realize where you are lacking. They will defer to your judgment. however. To lead others. this indicates a fundamental lack of direction in your social interactions. But don’t be fooled by society’s low social standards. Functional women honor your position of authority. regardless of whether it proves functional or dysfunctional. 145 . obey your commands and submit to your will. If you are experiencing awkward silences and passive periods of indecision. HonoRing vs. You must have a direction. When you compare yourself to others. it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing so bad.
he will make the right decision. women are now conditioned to fulfill the male 146 . Other times. if a husband tells his wife to buy a gift for a wedding even though the gift may be tasteless or embarrassing. This leads to a disorderly power struggle within the relationship. If he asks her to cook dinner when she’s tired or to perform her sexual duties even if she’s not in the mood. a man will make the wrong decision. do not violate any ethical boundaries. But it’s dysfunctional for a woman to play the referee. Instead of remaining in the receiving position. This symbiotic relationship results in mutual satisfaction. Order cannot be maintained if the integrity of the governing authority is compromised by a rebellious attitude. she should comply. If however. just as it’s dysfunctional for children to referee their parents’ decisions. not making the best decision. You are the responsible one providing for her needs. a guy tells his girlfriend to rob a bank or jump off a cliff. the wife should obey him. while possibly foolish or flat out wrong. the woman should still honor his position of authority over her with her attitude. Even if he asks her to dig a hole in the backyard and fill it back up. As long as a man’s authority does not threaten his woman’s life or violate any ethical boundaries. The woman is the Receiver. At times. she should obey. she meets your needs. giveR As a man. Feminism ruins this natural balance.For example. you are the Giver. Honoring and preserving authority remains the top priority. But she is free to disobey his exercise of authority as such a request violates ethical and functional boundaries. Such decisions. it should be obeyed at all times. In return. But that woman should never presume to replace the governing authority of her man. A man may consult with his woman on a decision.
gender role. They want to be perceived as the Giver. Such an arrangement is impossible to maintain. As a man, you must preserve your authority by refusing to allow a woman to compete for your function in a relationship. Nullifying your authority always removes your function. Your authority must be recognized before you allow others to benefit from it. If a woman refuses to depend on you, at that very point, you should cut off the giving—time, money, effort, attention, resources, all of it. The receiving position is conditional. Only those under your authority— those relying on you for their welfare—are in a proper position to receive what you have to offer. You can’t properly care for those who refuse to submit to your authority. As you learn about the nature of authority and how to exercise it to get your expectations met, you will begin to realize what feminism ignores: authority is a functional tool designed to meet the needs of others. Sure, you can and should use your authority to meet your expectations. But that’s only half the story. For authority to be functional, it must serve those who submit to it. Your authority is not meant to be a club to get things done your way. Your authority functions primarily as a service to those governed by it. There are innumerable ways to abuse authority, but only one way to functionally exercise it—as a service. For example, fathers require authority over their children. This allows a father to direct the behavior of his children in an orderly way. He makes sure they do their chores and eat healthy meals. The control he exercises allows him to meet his expectations, but the outcome primarily benefits the children. Thus, the proper exercise of authority always benefits those governed by it. But if fathers are careless, they can damage their children’s future. A dysfunctional exercise of authority fails to create self-discipline in a child. Consequently, many adults today are incarcerated because they lack self-control. They are the products of dysfunctional authority.
Your needs can only be met if your children’s needs are also met. If you use your authority solely to meet your own needs, It becomes dysfunctional. In a relationship, everyone’s needs are tied together; your need for order is no different than any other person’s need for order. Thus, your welfare intimately correlates with the welfare of those you govern. However, since the vast majority of men don’t know how to get their needs met, they require authority training. Such men do not yet know how to serve others. Before they can be useful, they must first learn how to gain the submission of others. Once they learn how to gain submission, they can get their expectations met. These men will then be in a position to use their authority as a service rather than a mere social advantage.
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As recipients of a man’s giving, women do everything to receive your approval. Often times women will pretend they aren’t interested in you just to get more praise from you. When you pursue a woman, she feels validated by your interest. She wants to prolong this pleasurable feeling. By pushing you away, she is hoping you will continue to pursue her. This feels even more pleasurable because she has created an artificial obstacle. The more obstacles she can get you to overcome to gain her affection, the more pleasure she feels. This eventually “turns her on” and encourages her to reciprocate at some point. Other games played by women aren’t games from their point of view. Many female behaviors are inherent to female insecurity. For example, women will flake on dates or fail to call you because they’re worried that something will go wrong. They’re anxious about how you’ll perceive them. They’re nervous and apprehensive about breaking social expectations. Insecurity causes women to waffle back and forth between decisions or neglect to make a decisions altogether. This is why it’s crucial for you to direct and bring order to a woman’s insecure life.
Some men have expressed displeasure about having to initiate the majority of social interactions with women. But this perspective completely neglects their own male design. Women only respond to what is initiated because their function is to mirror men. Women are not designed to initiate. Instead, women reflect what males project. Women react to male stimulation. Many areas of life reveal this principle. Relatively few women ever approach men. Women could never handle the rejection. Initiation is simply not part of a woman’s capacity. For a woman to open up and become receptive to
flirting, a man must first stimulate her. Their pursuit provokes sexual thoughts, reflected in a woman’s libido. Without this initial pursuit, women have nothing to react to, leaving sex drive dormant. This is why females can experience years of sexual inactivity if their interest isn’t sparked by a male initiating and showing sexual interest. Even civilization itself is a product of man’s propensity to stimulate. The number of male inventors far exceeds that of females for good reason.19 Men have built empires, invented new technologies and explored the boundaries of the universe because of their capacity to initiate and stimulate.20 Throughout history, men have always been the universal impetus. Practically speaking, for you, this translates into taking action. Instead of passively sitting by and letting a woman dictate the conversation, you should actively be stimulating her. And the most stimulating thing you can do to a woman is to direct her life toward order.
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Function is specific to form. For example, when people want to move great distances, they require a some sort of vehicle (form) to help them travel (function). The wheels on a vehicle can be many different shapes. But only the circle form perfectly fits its traveling function. Whenever something achieves its highest form, its correct function is realized. For example, a clock’s function is to tell time. There are many different types of clocks, all with varying degrees of accuracy. But the highest form of a clock gives the most accurate time. A clock with perfect form will give the correct time.
This purpose will dictate your function. you are a dysfunctional man without a purpose. If something is truly functioning. A functional clock only gives the correct time. Your own disorderly life is directly tied to your degree of dysfunction. This means its redundant to say something is functioning properly. As you learn to properly apply these universal principles to your life. you require a purpose—a blueprint for your behavior. This allows you to recognize and move toward order. Your 151 . Since you originated from order. but only one final instance of function. There are countless degrees of dysfunction. To be functional. As you exercise your authority to bring order to your life. it is dysfunctional. There is no such thing as partially functioning or somewhat functional clock. your dysfunction lessens. you are drawn to order and you are satisfied by order. Right now. you require authority—the means for creating order—to become functional. you are designed in an orderly way. as a man. its error-free nature is already implied. If something is not absolutely 100% working properly. All other forms of the clock are dysfunctional. both in your disposition and position. This means. Something cannot be considered to be functional unless its operation is 100% free of error. your purpose must be intimately related to order. To move toward an orderly state. you will also move those under your authority toward an orderly state. even though they may only be off by mere nanoseconds. This also means that there is only one functional form of the clock. you must remove dysfunctional behavior.This also means that correct form leads to one specific function.
I felt pressure to compete to see who was cooler. it is functioning properly. they attempt to compete for value as if it is some 152 .” Most people fail to make a proper connection between function and value. As a result. Order ACHIEVED LEAST DISORDER Most Disorder tHe RelationsHiP betWeen FUnction anD valUe “. whoever told the funniest jokes was the coolest guy.When hanging out with friends.authority functions to discipline disorderly people.. In this competitive mind-set. In my head I had created a finite piece of ‘cool’ pie that could only be taken by so many people. all the pie was gone. disorderly things and disorderly situations. Thus.. I felt like by the time I got there. I felt worthless comparing myself to others. If your authority is moving everything in your life toward an orderly condition. This coolness ‘value’ was determined by how many funny jokes you could tell or how many cool things you could say.
Conversely. They become useless. You may be tempted to get angry at the screwdriver. You cannot compete for value because anything of real value is determined by function alone. many fail to express this capacity. To remedy this situation. you are abusing its function. when people function according to their design. Delusional View SOCIAL STATUS WIFE CAREER HOUSE Missing Value ACHIEVEMENTS FRIENDS REALITY Finite Units of Value MONEY CAR FULFILLING YOUR FUNCTION Chasing Value worthless VALUABLE Yet. no one can replace your singular male function. their value to others remains unrealized. This can be illustrated by a simple analogy: If you use a screwdriver as a hammer. so that its proper function can be realized. Since. Likewise. their function is sacrificed. the problem isn’t with the screwdriver itself but rather the way it’s being used. it becomes worthless. feminism is attempting to force women into playing the role of a man. It was never intended to be used as a hammer. Thus.sort of tangible commodity to be won or lost. 153 . even though all humans possess the capacity to fulfill certain gender-specific functions. Today. the less valuable they become. Now. instead of behaving like women. Thus. assume male positions of authority and employ aggressive communication like men. It will be very difficult to build anything. neither can anyone steal or award you value. females are taught to behave like men. You are abusing the function of the screwdriver by violating its intended use—its proper function. they become valuable. How well you fulfill your function determines your value. But the more women neglect their female function. Then it becomes valuable. when people adopt the wrong form. however. They’re told to adopt male careers. the screwdriver must be used according to its original design.
and legally bullied into compliance by the feminist State. not its distracting effects. By refusing to acknowledge the fact that men and women are not ‘equal’ in function. Emasculated males should not be viewed as a weaker subset of men. the entire body will suffer. By demonizing functional behavior.RestoRing a PRoPeR vieW oF FUnction Today’s males reflexively defer and submit to women in the name of ‘equality’. Without one or the other. For example. dysfunctional behavior becomes unavoidable. the mind functions to decide where the body will go while the legs function to move the body to that location. People don’t choose dysfunctional behavior—feminism demands it. Their feminist upbringing is responsible for their dysfunctional behavior. threatened by social and sexual ostracization. Both genders have been deceived by feminism’s seductive ‘equality’ ruse. feminism sets men and women up for failure. Focus should be placed on the source of dysfunction. But both are essential to the successful operation of the whole body. each performs a different function of the body. Innate gender design dictates that both men and women should operate as components of a whole. Both mind and legs fulfill different (unequal) functions. however. Both mind and legs are required to fully 154 . this emasculated behavior is not the result of an inherent flaw but rather feminism’s perversion of functional gender roles. Neither should dysfunctional women be viewed as “bitches” from birth. But both functions are equally essential to the whole operation of the body. Like eye and foot.
‘Equality’ is not found in mimicking another gender’s abilities but rather in fulfilling the specific function each gender is designed to perform. But addressing their general lack of 21 http://manhood101. the entire relationship suffers. The order you bring to others is reflected in how much disorder you’ve removed from your own life.com/forum/viewforum. In like manner. Eventually the relationship will break down. DYsFUnctional DesiRes The more you learn to exercise your male function. the more you are then able to bring others toward order. fat people may seek to exercise more often or eat better food. men and women are designed to fulfill different functions according to their gender. The testimony of men21 and women22 around the world confirms this fact. Both functions are required to create satisfying relationships.html 155 . people typically focus on its symptoms while neglecting the root.com/disappointedwife. When removing disorder.php?f=18 22 http://manhood101. FUnctional DesiRes vs.meet the needs of the entire body. For example. If either gender function is neglected.
When you’re lonely. you often resort to harmful. you seek to be filled. People often refer to these all-powerful cravings as needs. For example. Whenever these necessities are met. you may decide to inject yourself with morphine to temporarily dull the pain. When you’re empty. when you fail to get your needs met. These desires are universal to all people. you experience pleasure. There are certain things your being requires to remain alive. Your wants represent your dysfunctional desires. short-sighted solutions to alleviate your suffering. their lack of self-control will manifest itself in other ways if the root cause is never addressed. However. These short-sighted solutions are commonly referred to as wants. This is much more convenient 156 . When these things are absent. They regulate your being. if you have cancer. you seek out companionship. your being experiences a painful craving that you naturally seek to fulfill to maintain order in your being. These needs are your functional desires. Their obesity is merely a symptom of the real problem.self-control is much more difficult. Even if they do manage to lose weight. you seek out food. For example. ensuring it stays in good working order. when you’re hungry.
Addressing your wants (dysfunctional desires). From a young age. prepare soil. All these short-sighted solutions neglect to address your real needs. is too painful. packages and preserves your food to accommodate your dysfunctional desire for convenience. Addressing your needs (functional desires) results in satisfaction. it will lead to a more satisfying life. For example liposuction addresses your dysfunctional desire to look good. you need to maintain an orchard. on the other hand. the more junk food you eat. It’s much easier to just go out and buy packaged apple sauce. Fillers are added to keep the price of food within the budget of the indolent. The morphine represents a short-sighted solution to your cancer problem. All this order requires much work and effort to maintain. grow them. For example. If you need transportation to work. And artificial flavors are added to appeal to a childish urge for instant gratification. For many. results in dissatisfaction. Since regular exercise meets your needs.than removing the cancer through a painful life-saving operation. you need to eat every day. Thus. society is designed to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. Food coloring is added to accommodate personal preferences. you may be tempted to eat a candy bar instead of a well prepared meal at home. but exercise addresses your functional desire to maintain a healthy body. For example. Although it may satiate your hunger. To eat whole apples. you may be tempted to buy an expensive sports car instead of an efficient vehicle with great gas mileage. thus leading to bigger problems down the road. 157 . and pick them at an appropriate time. If you’re hungry for dinner. it does not address your body’s long-term health requirements. people are conditioned to focus on their indulgences while ignoring their true necessities. obtaining food in its functional state. But eating junk food won’t address that need. the more dissatisfied you will become. the food industry processes. Today.
When you convey static information. This means listening to your ipod instead of socializing with others around you. If either party remains unsatisfied or fails to move toward order. Life is no longer being administered. Information does not cause growth. This playing video games instead of playing a sport. including relationships. your relationship stagnates because nothing living is imparted to the other person. But ultimately. both parties enjoy a mutually satisfying experience that causes the relationship to grow. when you convey your dynamic person. this is an indication that growth has ceased. But this low standard completely neglects the function of socialization—to convey your very person to another person through the vehicle of experiences. Only life can cause growth. tHe stanDaRD FoR social coMPetence A base level of social competence requires a proper destination and a vehicle to transport you there. This means feeling comfortable instead of working to become competent. Addressing your functional desires requires much more painful effort by comparison.When you lack self-discipline. This means creating more laws instead of becoming responsible for your own behavior. However. The destination is your expectation— your purpose for the socializing. meeting your needs instead of indulging your wants leads to a pleasurable state of order— satisfaction. This means watching TV instead of reading a book. The vehicle is your expression—your means for meeting your expectation. Removing disorder from your life is a daunting chore if you lack direction and motivation. Both of these must function 158 . FUnctional socialization Society contributes to your disorderly condition by maintaining dysfunctional standards for basic socialization. This means buying fast food instead of cooking your food at home. you focus on increasing your conveniences to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. Information has replaced the person. others will be presume that you possess basic social skills. if you can make small talk with another person. All living things must grow to survive. The relationship has become dysfunctional.
correctly to create satisfying social interactions. they will end in disorder. Do not 159 . Unlike the player.COM Exp REACTION TO YOUR EXPERIENCES fuel E YOUR XPRES SION Exp re ss ed unc t i o n as F al e ct ations AUTHORITATIVE MAN SATISFIED state of order ATTRACTION byproduct manginas EMASCULATED MALE ee ds FEMINIST obstacles N ur Yo bitches MAP AUTHORITY foundation MISERABLE state of disorder Feminism Desert If your expression conveys your person but your expectations (destination) are dysfunctional. His person is clearly conveyed. your relationships may start off with a bang. he is headed in the right direction. He also exercise enough authority to create an enjoyable social experience. you may have a picture perfect relationship in your head. his relationships won’t last long. Since he doesn’t understand how to practically satisfy the needs of the other party. A father. his authority is dysfunctional. But if he lacks the authority to properly convey his expectation. MANHOODACADEMY. Your expectations go hand in hand with your expression. For example. the ‘player’ type guy has developed good expression. on the other hand. but ultimately. But because he’s only concerned with his own welfare. he too will be unable to create satisfying relationships. If your expectations are functional but your expression is dysfunctional. he can’t meet their needs. may hold a functional expectation of caring for his family. but you will have no practical way of creating or maintaining one. Thus.
To discover whether a desire is functional or dysfunctional.” If each man had sex with 100 women. this desire is also dysfunctional. gives clearer insight into whether it’s functional or dysfunctional. it’s very easy to abuse your authority. 160 . While less dysfunctional than the first example. Life as a cycle of birth. apply it to a global scale. This desire is dysfunctional. But to create functional expectations. relationships would be devastated left and right due to many overlapping sexual encounters. reproduction and death will be disrupted. mankind becomes extinct. Eating a cheeseburger for dinner won’t kill you immediately (and even tastes delicious). But if you expect to eat nothing but cheeseburgers over a long period of time. Both must be functional to satisfy the needs of everyone in your social interactions. you can conclude this to be a highly dysfunctional desire. While cheeseburgers may satisfy your dysfunctional desire. you must learn how to discern the difference between functional desires and dysfunctional desires.” If everybody chose fame-based careers. this desire proves functional. you will experience long-term health problems. “I want to be a rock star. This multiplies the effect of the desire and in doing so.neglect either aspect. “I want a home. This would lead to all kinds of health and intimacy problems.” If you apply this desire to all men. anonymous and thankless duties necessary to the practical functioning of society would be neglected.” Since everybody needs shelter. leading to even greater problems. short-sighted nature. leading people physically and emotionally toward a more disorderly state. Consider the following examples: “I want to have sex with men. “I want to have sex with 100 women. tHe test FoR DYsFUnction Without functional expectations. Thus. Dysfunctional expectations are characterized by their harmful.
This is not a self-help book. Even this book represents the crystalization of the knowledge and experiences 161 . When your expectations fully match your needs. There’s really no such thing. you’ll become socially competent. The more order you bring to a relationship. Thus. order is created. But you fail to realize that social interaction. by definition. An orderly relationship results in the highest emotional investment. Functional expectations always follow functional desires. Whatever you need in life requires a matching functional expectation to address that need. is a team sport. social inteRaction Does not HaPPen in a vacUUM Many of you are under the delusion that you can learn to socialize at home by yourself. You want to practice by yourself. You figure that just by memorizing these concepts.they ultimately ruin your long term health. short-sighted desires eventually leads to a disorderly and unsatisfying condition. pursuing after dysfunctional. the more you satisfy your partner. improve by yourself and do everything by your own hand. It certainly does not happen in the vacuum of one man’s isolated experience.
Without them. or else the entire cell will eventually collapse and die. You are not 162 . This means all living things depend on each other for survival. All living things follow the principle of dependence. Society is like the ecosystem of a small pond. depending on each individual member to function properly. so too is all of society like one single cell. Like the harmonious environment of a living cell depends on all its smaller components to function together. It is even foolish to assume that your social competence only relates to you. Life is so tightly intertwined and dependent upon its neighboring components that even the slightest change alters the entire system. you would never be reading this.of many many men.
in your families and in your romantic relationships. You are incompetent because of the social incompetence of others. The cumulative social effect will influence society to either support or oppose your masculinity. Being a socially competent male today is viewed as a hateful act. social competence isn’t merely lacking in society. Attracting a woman is considered a contemptible act of misogyny. you’re in a relationship with every single person on the face of the earth. And in turn. If you’re the only person who is able to competently socialize.incompetent by your own design. This means everyone’s needs are being met in the relationship. Sure. The player looking for a one-night stand in Brazil is creating another bitter female who will advocate the removal of male authority in Sweden. Creating an orderly relationship is viewed as “abusive and controlling” behavior. you gain nothing. in the work place. Today. Your male needs will either be embraced or condemned as a group. The single-mother scolding her son’s sexuality in London is creating another emasculated male who will enforce feminism in America. Even getting your most basic expectations met is sometimes viewed as a criminal activity in the eyes of this feminist society. 163 . in the legal system. But whatever you do inevitably affects the life of the person next to you. Whether you realize it or not. each of these individual social decisions will begin to add up. One by one. depending on what each individual man does to meet them. most people are not in your immediate family or group of friends or even in the same city. your incompetence affects other people’s behavior. Their incompetence affects your behavior. just like a line of dominos falling. Social competence relies on the ability to enforce functional expectations. It’s systematically condemned in academic institutions. True social competence translates into global competence.
Dysfunctional women will be too extreme to govern. 164 . No exceptions. and society will shun you. The current feminist environment doesn’t support social competence. If you are the only socially competent person on earth. You are either getting your expectations met or meeting someone else’s expectations. The government will criminalize your behavior. It’s viewed as isolated. You’re not becoming socially competent just to get a girlfriend or find a better job or stand up to a bully. You must do whatever is necessary to acquire it. rogue behavior. There is no neutral position in life. It is necessary to shift your entire culture. it won’t matter.But this is only because socially competent men are few and far between. Social competence is like oxygen (or any other necessity). You are either influencing or being influenced. You must guard it with your life. even the whole world environment. Emasculated men will resist you. To become socially competent you must not only swim against the stream of feminism. you must learn to create a new current of social influence altogether. Your social competence isn’t just for your benefit. it’s for the benefit of every man. You’re becoming socially competent to satisfy the fundamental requirements of life. Either you must become socially competent by necessity. or you will be forced into social incompetence by consensus. You are either training someone or being trained by someone. There is no middle ground. toward social competence. You must fight against whoever tries to take it away from you. Your ability to create a functional relationship will be wasted.
DISPOSITIONAL ORDER BUILDS Expresses Dispositional Order Design Governs Everything Life Regulate Living Purpose Limits Disorderly Behavior Order Obedience FORM FUNCTION EFFECT RESOLUTION Harmony POSITIONAL ORDER RECIPIENT AGENT REFINES Chaotic Universe Truth Divide Order From Disorder Mankind Universal Principles Expose Disorder Satisfaction Controlling Female Submission Femininity Removing Feminism Seek Dispositional Order Apply Dispositional Order Authority To Discipline Attracted To Love 166 Emasculated Male Masculinity Removing Emasculation Become Attractive Love DISPOSITIONAL DISORDER DECAYS Allows Hypocrisy FORM Dysfunctional Authority POSITIONAL DISORDER FUNCTION Remove Order EFFECT Disorder RESULT Dissatisfaction RECIPIENT AGENT POLLUTES Society Feminism (Ignorance) Hides Disorder .
a social expectation is formed. independent women are attractive • Women can hit men. but men can’t hit women 167 . When an expectation is adopted by a group.PaRt iii: aPPlYing tHe solUtion cReating anD Maintaining oRDeR tYPes oF exPectations perSonal expectationS & Social expectationS Personal expectations refer to the expectations held and enforced by one person. President) • A mother and father should raise a child • Obeying traffic laws • Recycling Examples of dysfunctional social expectations: • Tipping • Welfare • Feminism • Desiring social status • Men should pay for women • Women are just as smart as men • Strong. boss. Social expectations are powerful because they are enforced by consensus—the pleasurable approval and painful disapproval of many people. Examples of functional social expectations: • Working for a living • Supporting leaders (Father.
In simple terms.HoW to get YoUR exPectations Met Now it’s time to apply what you’ve learned in section II. you need to ask yourself three questions: 1. If your expectations are dysfunctional. a police officer requires the law to direct his behavior. Similarly. you need to exercise your authority in a functional way. your need for food drives you to eat. he must enforce. This requires that your expectations lead to an orderly outcome. The law acts as his guide. Needs serve as guidelines for creating functional expectations. These natural desires are functional because they drive you toward an orderly condition. Am I enforcing my expectations? WHat aRe MY exPectations? A police officer is bound by the law and is obligated to enforce it. To create order. To practically create and maintain order in all your relationships. Without the law. Eating provides your body with food energy to maintain your body’s orderly condition. it will be impossible to create order in your relationships or your environment because your authority will be going in the wrong direction. For example. Am I able to communicate my expectations? 3. you can’t create order without having a code of conduct to direct your behavior in an functional way. What are my expectations? 2. a police officer would have no direction. Whatever the law says. 168 . This means everybody possesses the exact same needs. according to their gender. To create order. directing his actions. your needs let you know what you should expect from others. your expectationS ShoulD mirror your neeDS Your needs are universal in nature.
I need male support. I expect other men to listen to me. Here are a few examples of your functional desires and the expectations you should be developing to match them: MY neeD I need to create order. I expect a woman to meet my domestic needs (childcare. children. I need an orderly relationship. I expect the woman I’m dating to emotionally invest in me as much as I invest in her. I need sex. emotional needs. Your physical needs.) 169 . I expect to state my interest in a woman. I expect a woman to submit to my direction and support my decisions. I need to socialize. I need affection. I expect men to reciprocate my friendship. MY exPectation I expect women to fear my authority. girlfriend. mother. etc.Without expectations to govern the behavior of others. I expect my attention and affection to be fully reciprocated. I expect to obey those responsible for my care (boss. there is no way to get your needs met. I expect sex from a woman under my care. government.) to obey me. I need female support. I need love. cleaning). cooking. I need to take care of those under my authority. etc. I expect to develop a romantic relationship with the woman I’m talking to. I need a romantic relationship. teachers. father. I expect those under my care (wife. Your expectations allow you to move all types of relationships toward the ultimate goal—order/satisfaction. I need to maintain an orderly romantic relationship. psychological needs and spiritual needs all require expectations to fulfill them. employees. I need to submit to those taking care of me. Your expectations should mirror your needs (functional desires). sexual needs.
if you have access to food. women also have needs that aren’t being met in their relationships. Because of feminism’s dysfunctional social climate. If you can’t get food in a functional way (by growing or buying it). You won’t be able to think of anything but food. You will do anything to meet your need. It’s no coincidence that today. etc. In a state of deprivation. Because your needs still remain unfulfilled. the relationship will break down. Or you might even decide to eat other people. your behavior becomes dysfunctional. SatiSfaction Most people today can get many of their basic needs met. But males aren’t the only ones being deprived of their necessities. Because of feminism’s damaging influence. You might rob a bank. both gender’s social needs are neglected. Now you can concentrate on other things because the thought of hunger doesn’t consume you. you will start seeking out dysfunctional ways to meet them. you might start stealing food from others. Thus. When men lose their authority. the prescription drug 170 . they are unable to fulfill women’s emotional needs. you can meet your physical need. For example. shelter. water. you will experience nagging hunger pangs. if your sexual needs aren’t being met in a romantic relationship. eventually. air. Yet the dissatisfying state of their lives shows that their needs are not being fully met. you will employ dysfunctional solutions to meet your need.Deprivation vS. But if there’s a food shortage. For example. Deprivation results in disorder. They have access to food. pornography is one of the largest industries capitalizing on sexual deprivation in males.
org/wiki/2009_Collier_Township_shooting 171 . The epidemic social problems men and women face today are a testament to that fact.html?hpt=T2 http://manhood101. Only by developing 1 2 3 http://www. sex and companionship will never go away. you must learn how to create and maintain order. the problem is further reinforced by short-sighted solutions that normalize your deprived condition. Your need for love. Video depictions of sex can’t replace intimacy.php?f=16&t=359 http://en. everyone’s need for order remains unfulfilled. The solution is also not to adapt to the problem as the Seduction Community has done. In fact.com/forum/viewtopic.2 Quick-fix bandaid solutions only allow the problem to persist. And the solution is not to sweep the problem under the rug as feminists have done by completely ignoring your male needs3.wikipedia. Your present lack of direction is causing everyone in your relationships to suffer.cnn. The solution is not to condemn your desires.robot/index. Artificial sex robots1 can’t replace love. Just as your body is not designed to eat artificial food coloring or other chemical additives. They will never solve it. these functional desires are necessary to push you toward order. Failing to address deprivation will not magically make it disappear. Because technology can never replace male authority. Online “social” networks can’t replace in-person friendships.industry now exploits the emotional deprivation in females. your need for social interaction will not be placated by virtual reality substitutions. In fact. To answer the problem of social deprivation. Even cell phones and computers—initially created as social tools—now contribute to epidemic levels of social deprivation. Adding more conveniences to your life will never be an adequate substitute for male authority.com/2010/TECH/02/01/sex.
Eventually. satisfying conclusion. satisfying relationship should be the ultimate litmus test for your expectations. 172 .expectations to match your needs can your social problems finally be addressed. Here are some examples of functional expectations: • I expect a woman to follow my directions. always move all parties toward an orderly. And quite naturally. so I can protect her. you may expect to have a good time with your girlfriend even if she’s refusing to listen to you. It’s difficult to sacrifice your dysfunctional expectations because they lead to short-term pleasurable gains. A harmonious. This allows you to move everyone in the relationship from a state of deprivation to a state of satisfaction. you will find it increasingly difficult to get your needs met in the relationship. Your expectations must meet everyone’s needs—both yours and theirs—to establish order. the more it will undermine your authority over her. For example. Any expectation that accommodates dysfunctional behavior will lead to misery in the end. she will no longer fear your authority. you guarantee yourself a life of disorder and dissatisfaction. you will then have the direction necessary to start governing the behavior of others to meet those needs. functional & DySfunctional expectationS Just because others approve of your expectations doesn’t mean they will automatically result in satisfying relationships. Any expectation that doesn’t fully meet everyone’s needs in the relationship is dysfunctional by definition. Once these expectations are made clear. But over time. on the other hand. By maintaining dysfunctional expectations. harmonious condition. If your expectations fail to move your relationships toward an orderly. It’s tempting to preserve a happy atmosphere by ignoring her dysfunctional behavior. they should be discarded. The longer you cling to your dysfunctional expectation. All dysfunctional desires should be subordinate to this goal. Functional expectations. her love for you will also fade away.
Once an expectation fully meets everyone’s needs. Caring for personal preferences will inhibit orderly social interactions. Because of entropy. the more it meets everyone’s needs.] • I go with the flow. so my need for companionship is met.] Some expectations. [Dysfunctional. But no matter how seemingly benign an expectation is. [Dysfunctional.. Relying on entropy won’t create order. there is only one direction. it’s dysfunctional.] • I want to eat Chinese food instead of Mexican food. They require regular maintenance to remain functional. no attraction. [Dysfunctional. preferring blonds to brunettes). don't seem dysfunctional (e. if it's not moving everyone toward an orderly state. Functional means orderly. Every other direction is dysfunctional and will result in disorder. These dysfunctional expectations will result in varying degrees of disorder: • I want women to be in charge. all things are drawn toward a natural state of disorder (memory loss. sagging skin. so I can create order in her life.g. it becomes functional. • I expect a woman to show affection. With order. 173 . unkempt lawns. like your acquired personal preferences. eroding mountains). The less dysfunctional an expectation. worn down buildings.• I expect a woman to fear my authority. Your expectations are no exception. Can’t get needs met.
Drug users are warned about the dangers of their drug abuse. even if they seem harmless. Today. aM i able to coMMUnicate tHese exPectations? proviDing the right Direction anD removing optionS The second step in getting your expectations met is learning how to communicate your expectations to others. but they are never specifically told how to achieve a healthy 174 . There is no such thing as an insignificant expectation. For example. but little effort is made to mentor them. Rebellious teens are cautioned to avoid joining gangs. There is no point in deluding yourself. you must direct your children to eat healthy food (goal) while forbidding them from eating junk food (straying from the goal). and you also need to let them know if they are straying from that goal.This is not to say that failure to remove personal preferences will cause your life to immediately self-destruct. This clear communication of your expectations is necessary to create order. You must tell people what they shouldn’t do and what they should do. This means you need to give people a clear goal. as a parent. But it fails to tell you specifically what you should be doing. But you should be clear about the nature of your expectations. society often reminds you what you shouldn’t be doing. The type of expectations you cultivate will affect your life and everyone in it.
Criminals are thrown in jail for breaking the law. it’s imperative that you not only lead them in the right direction but that you also effectively communicate that direction. specific goal to move toward. If there is no law expressed. the police will be unable to prevent you from driving recklessly. To achieve order.life. If you expect others to follow you. Without specifying an orderly direction. people need restriction to curb their disorderly tendencies and a clear. failing to communicate your expectations will lead to disorder. All the emphasis is placed on avoiding dysfunctional behavior while comparatively little effort is spent teaching people how to become functional. merely removing unfavorable options will still result in an overall disorderly condition. if no speed limit exists to govern your driving behavior. Like unexpressed laws. The clearer you make your expectations. 175 . Be Specific With your expectationS Expectations are like government laws. but they are never properly educated to create functional relationships from the start. A police officer can only enforce the laws that are expressed to the citizens. the easier it is for people to follow them. there is nothing he can enforce. For example.
Requiring others to listen when you’re speaking is a much better expectation because it provides a specific course of action for the other party to follow. When your expectations are properly enforced. Although this sounds like a good idea. If however. aM i enFoRcing MY exPectations? Enforcing your expectations requires you to become responsible by providing a clear. It requires you to bear the cost of your authority. those being governed by them experience security and stability. complementary expectationS anD competing expectationS In any social interaction. there are at least two expectations present— 176 . When you’re finally able to remove all optional elements from your expectations. you fail to enforce your expectations. Because it lacks direction. they becomes functional expectations. it’s a poor expectation. they are useless. it will be difficult to get this expectation met.For example. you may expect people to respect you. People have a much more enjoyable time talking to you when they know exactly what to do to receive your approval. Clarifying your expectations removes disorder from your social interactions. functional direction that benefits those submitting to your authority. people will experience anxiety and frustration when dealing with you. the less dysfunctional your expectations become. If your expectations aren’t specific enough to direct the behavior of others to meet your need. The more you weed out optional behavior from your expectations. Remember: truly functional expectations only have one direction. Being in charge of the direction means you’re also responsible for the outcome.
On the other hand. Dysfunctional expectations compete with functional expectations. and the directing agent of pleasure. a painful punishment exposes disorderly behavior.your expectation and the other party’s expectation. Because of this. the result will be an orderly. If both party’s expectations are functional. but everybody’s needs will get met. And those receiving the punishment will fear the governing authority administering it. causing it to cease. To maintain order in a social interaction. For example. when a father rewards his children with an allowance for completing their daily chores. Pleasure. Pain & PleasURe Pain and pleasure are equally important to enforcing your functional expectations. This means only one direction will be expressed. Without the correcting agent of pain. your expectations become nothing more than impotent hopes and dreams. satisfying social interaction. he is motivating them to meet his expectations. 177 . Pain exposes disorder. Just as police officers are required to inflict a painful consequence on those who violate the law. it’s imperative to know how to address competing expectations. his children will love him. he fosters orderly behavior in those governed by his authority. you also need to administer a painful punishment to those who violate your expectations. By rewarding their obedience with pleasure. on the other hand. dysfunctional expectations will involve many different options. not only will align from the start. As long as everybody follows that direction. gives others a positive incentive to meet your functional expectations.
For example. Those who administer pain and pleasure must be very measured in their approach.asp?articlekey=51160 178 . fines).medicinenet. death sentences) than traffic offenders (traffic school.com/script/main/art. But severe. But such pleasure comes at a damaging cost to your body and psychological faculties.Together. leading to feelings of entitlement or even criminal behavior. which corresponds to men’s greater capacity to bear pain5. Too much or too little of either will inevitably result in disorder. You need enough pain to deter dysfunctional behavior and enough pleasure to incite functional behavior. there is the danger of going too far with pleasure. 4 5 http://glennsacks. you will end up creating dysfunctional behavior in others. crippling pain signals too much damage is being done.com/blog/?p=4543 http://www. your muscles experience pain. Just as with the administration of pain. This indicates growth. You can even see this principle governing your own body. Pain acts as both a message and a consequence. It will ruin work ethics. and undermine male authority by substituting bribery for discipline. Excessive pleasure also spoils the character of children. The court system applies a greater amount of pain to violent criminals (long prison terms. it lets you know where you are in relation to a boundary or law and punishes you for violating it. Even society recognizes this to a certain extent. when you work out at the gym. merited pain (punishment) and merited pleasure (reward) serve to establish and maintain order. you can obtain extreme amounts of pleasure from drugs. And males generally receive harsher discipline4 than females. For example. If pain and pleasure are applied when not merited.
encouraging future dysfunctional behavior. By failing to enforce their expectations. they perpetuate it. they ignore it. They offer excessive praise. As people mature. men not only allow bitch behavior. it is your responsibility to apply pain and pleasure when merited. most men indulge women with unmerited approval. disorderly social interactions will persist. buy expensive unappreciated gifts and shower women with unreciprocated attention. If you fail to exercise your male authority. They completely ignore obnoxious insults. men reward women who compete for male authority by praising them as “strong and independent. and childish ultimatums. Similarly. they require greater amounts of pain and pleasure to shape their behavior. Neglecting your male function will cause everyone in your relationships to suffer. hypocritical feminist standards.” Such unmerited pleasure creates an entitlement-mentality in women. At the same time. 179 . The growth of the individual must be taken into account when considering the appropriate amount of pain and pleasure to apply. Even worse. or in psychological and emotional forms such as verbal reprimands and praise. As a man. Adults require greater pain and pleasure than children. care should always be taken to administer only what is sufficient to create order. these men neglect to punish dysfunctional behavior they’ve created. When their masculinity is mocked. they do nothing. such as hitting and hugging. It is only by enforcing your functional expectations that order is created in social interactions. playing with stuffed animals will provide very little pleasurable stimulation to a mature adult. the mild pain of a spanking will do little to deter an adult offender from engaging in future criminal activity.Today. Whether pain and pleasure are applied in physical forms. When their sexual needs are neglected by women.
It’s often a result of built up frustration and resentment. You may even delude yourself into thinking that shouting equals enforcing your expectations. you spank a child stealing a quarter.”) to society’s enforcement of legal consequences (fines. But in reality. You may think that by yelling. yelling is even a substitute for punishment. Punishment can range from a verbal reaction to poor service (“Give me a refund. get out of my house. This allows resentment to build up against the offender. Now you are actively enforcing an expectation by applying a sufficient amount of pain to the offender. lethal force. For many people. This indicates a passiveaggressive to enforcing their expectations. while yelling may be appropriate for extreme situations. After enough violations have amassed and the frustration becomes too great. you should apply a sufficient amount of pain to stop their dysfunctional behavior. Some may view this as barbaric or too harsh. it generally indicates an improper exercise of authority. all your empty threats only weaken your authority. Failing to enforce your expectations will result in inward complaining. But your punishment will curb the 180 . The form of pain you chose to punish with will reveal your own state of disorder.”) to your enforcement of a personal boundary (“If you’re going to act like a bitch. however. you’re no longer threatening to punish. you’re causing others to fear your authority. Excusing dysfunctional behavior does not make it go away. This means you are responsible for knowing when. Consider why people yell in the first place.HoW to PUnisH Whenever you punish someone. incarceration. disorder will result. you will explode like a boiling pot. The gravest wrongdoings as well as the smallest infractions both require punishment. If. If you neglect either. where and how much pain to apply. For example. the death penalty).
Administering such a severe amount of pain is not only dangerous. For example. A child willfully defying his father’s authority merits a painful punishment. nor will yelling establish your authority. he may have stopped his child from defying his authority. Abuse occurs when your punishment is either unmerited or too painful. It is one of the reasons why the sales industry is so mentally and emotionally draining for people. Putting on a serious face does not automatically guarantee your expectations will be enforced. but because of the severity of the pain inflicted. A measured degree of pain must be applied in a specific direction to 6 http://www.child’s disorderly behavior6. For example. You can even sound calm and measured while showing disapproval or administering a painful consequence. Only the consistent rewarding of obedience and the strict punishing of dysfunctional behavior will create orderly social interactions. HoW MUcH Pain to aPPlY To stop dysfunctional behavior.com/index. Although the child may cry while being spanked. This indicates a functional exercise of authority. Order is thus achieved. Neither does feeling bad indicate that pain has been misapplied. But just feeling bad does not equate to abuse. Yes.htm 181 . This may be accompanied by excessive shame and persistent feelings of worthlessness (not to mention the medical emergency and physical impairment). when you reject a salesman’s offer. Rejection feels painful. you must administer enough pain to accomplish your goal. And idle threats and bribery only undermine your authority. If. But be most careful here. the child will experience terror. This responsible application of pain stops the disorderly behavior from repeating and causes the child to fear the father’s governing authority. a father spanking his disobedient child is an appropriate punishment.corpun. it also destroys a healthy relationship. you are sending a painful psychological message. he will create a more disorderly situation. Too much pain will deform responsible discipline into irresponsible abuse. the father hits the child with such force as to break a bone. however. This results in a greater degree of disorder. that pain isn’t severe enough to harm the child.
while both physical and psychological pain are necessary to create orderly social interactions. Too much pain will cause injury (disorder). you’ll develop a very dysfunctional view of how pain should be applied. Consider a child receiving a spanking for bad behavior. The administration of pain and pleasure must always be done with a view toward the goal: bringing about greater order. And once the dysfunctional behavior ceases. the parent needs to correct and prevent that dysfunctional behavior from occurring in the future. a strict boundary must be drawn. For instance. The parent’s goal is bring that child into a state of order. If you grow up in a home where your siblings received appropriate spanks for their misbehavior. the parent shouldn’t be administering a dangerous amount of pain that would permanently damage the child. The goal is not to help these men. You must be careful when dealing with anyone under your authority. If this is not your goal. but rather to profit from their suffering. the message will be ignored. It’s clear that stabbing someone is inappropriate. no matter how great or small. If too little pain is applied. You must learn how to apply fair and measured pain to others with the purpose of bringing them into an orderly condition. but it’s often less clear what amount of psychological pain should be permissible. To do this. their misuse results in serious consequences to your relationships. you’re much more likely to develop a healthy. This is why its important for you to witness functional examples of punishment that create orderly relationships. To prevent such abusive applications of pain. On the other hand. Pain serves to benefit the child’s character. The fact is.create order.” for the sake of comedy. so should the pain. popular media sanctions emotional “abuse” in the form of beautiful women offering painful ridicule to hapless “losers” and “dorks. functional view of how pain should be applied. 182 . The pain you apply must be directed at the dysfunctional behavior—not the person. will become abusive. If you’ve grown up in a home where your mother violently hurls objects at your father. your application of pain. Enough pain needs to be applied to make the punishment significant to the child.
in the form of legal consequences and physical/emotional injuries. Merely suggesting a woman meet your expectations does not employ enough pain and will fail to expose her disorderly condition. Physical injuries. This will bring about an orderly condition.g. As effectively as pain works toward exposing disorder. “I’ll kill you!”) or using physical violence (e. unmerited applications of pain should always be avoided. excessive pain is even more effective at producing disorder.. breaking bones or making death threats may cause a woman to obey you in the future. But making extreme psychological threats (e. but the cumulative effects will cause great disorder to many people’s lives. Only a merited amount of pain has the potential to create order. Thus. if you tell a disorderly woman to leave your home. In the above example. hatred and possible legal consequences can all accompany the use of excessive pain. breaking her arm or punching her in the face) are examples of dysfunctional pain.. But if you break her arm or threaten to kill her.For example. punching her in the face or threatening to kill her employs irresponsible and dangerous (not to mention illegal) amounts of pain and will likewise increase disorder for everyone involved. Her dysfunctional expectation is now competing with your functional expectation. She may defy your authority by asserting her expectation that she doesn’t need to obey you. they should never be used. you’ve created more order. Since they result in greater disorder. pain must be applied. Telling her to leave your apartment is also an extremely painful consequence. Or she may walk out and never come back.g. you may expect your girlfriend to do the dishes. in a relationship. you will create more disorder for everyone involved. On the other hand. To expose her disorderly condition. Strongly reprimanding her for disobeying your authority is a painful consequence. A merited amount of pain exposes her disorderly condition and will restore a healthy fear of your authority. she may walk out the door and come back five minutes later with a tearful apology and a submissive attitude. Either way. anxiety. Both painful consequences can potentially serve to create order. Only what is merited is functional. Applying pain requires great care and should not be taken lightly. Fear needs to be restored to make your authority effective. This will result in disorder. 183 .
This typically leads to shame in 184 . Because society conditions people to believe that dysfunctional behavior (social training) is fundamentally linked to our functional design (humanity). so should the pain. very few are able to separate disapproval (pain) directed at their actions from disapproval directed at their person. how to distinguish between a healthy and unhealthy application. great damage has been caused by both its use and neglect. WHeRe to aPPlY Pain Applying pain to dysfunctional things creates order. at no time should you break the law or use physical violence or threats of that nature. Yelling. Keep that in mind.Only a merited amount of pain can end disorder.” Thus.” This message. when dealing with women. Many people mistakenly direct pain at the psyche—the person—instead of the person’s behavior. It should be clear that punishing is intended to create order. idle threats. Pain directed at the wrong location—the person rather than the behavior—causes great damage . the result is abuse rather than correction. Pain should never be used as a means of revenge or retaliation. fails to teach people how to distinguish between “nature and nurture. But even pain directed at the right location—the dysfunctional behavior—many times still causes problems. And because society fails to teach both administers and recipients of pain how to properly apply it. a person’s design (humanity) and a person’s upbringing (social training) appear synonymous to the uneducated eye. while applying pain to functional things causes disorder. And when the disorder ceases. When pain is directed at the person rather than the behavior. and that the establishment of authority depends upon it. although well-intended. throwing pans or causing severe injury are forms of pain that should generally be avoided as they usually indicate a dysfunctional application of authority. Be aware that. Society exacerbates this problem through its popular feel-good philosophy: “Accept people for who they are.
You must be willing to preserve the integrity of your authority. you aren’t doing yourself any favors. WHen to aPPlY Pain As long as disorder/dysfunction exists. They respond to ridicule by becoming resentful of its source. even at the cost of a relationship.2933. Since training young girls to submit to male authority isn’t exactly a popular trend with parents right now in this feminist society. as soon as disorder/dysfunction ceases. Her attraction to you is the next thing to go. But unlike females.org/wiki/Columbine_High_School_massacre 185 . If you allow a woman to disregard your authority in the hopes of avoiding a confrontation. This leads to defiant and rebellious behavior. This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly. If a woman ceases to fear your authority. Conversely. are naturally authoritative by design.foxnews. you’re unlikely to find many 7 8 http://www.312018. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme manifestation being murder.7 Men. disapproval directed at their person elicits feelings of shame. In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia. pain should be applied. she will lose respect for you. Eventually that disorder will grow until it breaks down the bond of the relationship. cutting and even suicide.00. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings.html http://en. pain must be applied not only to dysfunctional behavior. maintaining your authority Do not tolerate disorderly behavior from women. You will only cause yourself more problems in the long run. but also to any dysfunctional responses.women and resentment in men.com/story/0. looking for competence vS. creating competence Functional women and functional friends don’t grow on trees because functional people are trained not found. Since women are naturally submissive by design. because that authority is the glue holding the relationship together in the first place.8 In light of most people’s inability to separate their social training from their self-esteem. on the other hand. so too should the pain.wikipedia.
things will be a lot simpler for you. Plan on training the friends with whom you interact. or when relationship disputes turn violent. If you fail to apply sufficient pain. resentment and frustration. like children. The next stage can be referred to as the passive-aggressive victim stage. During this phase. You will be mischaracterized as a bully to provoke 186 . compete against your expectations and refuse to respect you. Where her parents. Learning to get women past the first two stages is the hardest part. functional. But by recognizing these stages. If women have trouble directly competing for your authority in the first stage. they will shift gears by adopting a passive-aggressive victim role.functional women to date or functional people to befriend. Though it’s not impossible to find a functional people. Do not replace pain with the mere threat of pain or passive-aggressive whining/pleading designed to invoke guilt. Instead of looking for a needle in a haystack. Be aware that shouting and swearing are not necessary. The first stage is rebellion. When frustrated parents start screaming at their children. they will passive-aggressively try to shame you into adopting them. it’s just not very probable given the dysfunctional influence of feminism. This prevents the buildup of stress. Deal with authority violations as soon as possible and in a thorough way. If they cannot aggressively force you to adopt their expectations. usually the problem can be traced back to a much earlier violation of authority that was never addressed. hanDling authority violationS Avoiding confrontations doesn’t solve the problem of authority violations. you will move them toward an orderly state. The sooner you handle violations of your authority. the easier it will be to manage your expectations. you will fail to establish your authority. women may question your decisions. peers and society fall short. It only makes the situation worse. from reBellion to SuBmiSSion. in three StageS Women. move toward obedience in three distinct stages. If you maintain your expectations by applying pain to this dysfunctional behavior. not your frustration. you’ll need to start creating your own desirable. orderly relationship environment. These are all attempts to usurp your male authority. This is where your governing authority is challenged. you will need to pick up the slack. Idle threats and frustrated outbursts are symptoms of neglecting to establish your authority. The goal is to convey sufficient pain. Plan on training the women who come into your life.
Women need both. A submissive woman willingly meets your expectations. reaSoning 187 . So-called nice guys finish last for good reason. you will fail to induce strong emotional attachment. If you can only provide one and not the other. Women will accuse you of attacking and hurting them without cause. emasculated husbands whine about unsympathetic. Yet the common thread linking these males is their inability to directly apply pain. unappreciative wives. Pleasurable approval encourages women to affectionately accept painful discipline. a woman’s love has no basis. Merely fulfilling a woman’s wants will not meet her need for order. no building can stand. Those untrained to handle confrontation. She no longer tries to usurp your authority. But discipline provides the foundation. attraction soon follows. Immature boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. When you resist disorderly responses to your authority and continue to maintain your expectations. Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. Likewise. This is the highest state of order for a woman. Thus. Approval is the building material of love. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. Order attracts. Giving a woman everything she demands does not create attraction despite her claims to the contrary. women will have little choice but to move toward the third stage of order—submission. pain vS. “Why are you being mean to me?” is a common sentiment expressed by passive-aggressive women trying to shame you into relinquishing your authority. without discipline. Without a proper foundation.guilt. Women need more than just pleasurable incentives. Yet many men are confused when a woman who formerly showed strong interest in them unexpectedly leaves for another man. They require your loving discipline and merited approval to establish order in their lives. It is commonly assumed that women invest their deepest emotions when receiving praise and attention. Once a woman reaches a condition of submission. This is the crucial stage where a woman falls in love with you. They also need painful incentives. They require order. women require your functional authority before they will invest their deepest emotions in you. Pain and pleasure coincide with love and fear.
For women. men hope to replace pain with reason as a means of changing dysfunctional behavior. Rather than approaching this material from an objective. they end up trying to reason with women to gain their submission.com/blog/?p=4102 http://www.com/Why-Men-Earn-More-Startling/dp/0814472109/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s =books&qid=1239820854&sr=1-1 10 11 http://glennsacks.amazon.00.9 As previously discussed. As a result. They lack the necessary discipline to arrive at rational. Instead of trying to reconcile the inherent contradictions within feminism. disorder requires pain to expose its presence.9171. rational perspective.Men often make the classic mistake of arguing with women instead of applying pain to dysfunctional behavior. women’s self-esteem is central to their decision making process.10 A woman’s faculty of reason is subordinate to her emotional state. 9 http://www. in more stressful. many women reading this book allow their anger to override their reasoning faculties. For instance. Disorderly people are not exposed by reason because reason is developed through discipline.time. only disciplined people respond to reason. This of course never works. women often complain about unequal wages yet conveniently overlook the fact that men work longer hours. self-esteem preservation takes precedence over intellectual honesty. By explaining their expectations in a more thorough way. First. This makes it virtually impossible to change a woman’s mind by reason alone.972472.com/time/magazine/article/0. women don’t possess the same reasoning faculty as men.html 188 . Children lack credibility because their unstable emotions and immature reasoning faculty dictate their perspective. thus. Only disciplined people are reasonable. they will conveniently overlook arguments exposing painful hypocrisies. They are prone to allow their emotions to influence their decisions. Second. more hazardous jobs. denying and distorting the truth allows them to avoid feeling bad about themselves.11 The unreliable female reasoning faculty mirrors that of children. they allow their emotions to dictate their conclusions. objective conclusions. They assume that providing rational explanations will convince women to change their minds and behaviors. Since acknowledging hypocrisies causes women to experience painful emotions. For example.
12 http://www.uk/posts/view/158792/Modern-Life-Why-women-can-t-tell-eachother-the-truth-about-size/ 13 http://news. Reason is cultivated through training not intellectual pleading. on the other hand. this means a child can’t hear you until he first fears your disciplining authority. David Copperfield14 and Kobe Bryant15 cases. women will refuse to acknowledge your authority. Adults respond to reason because they have the self-discipline to acknowledge their own dysfunctional behavior (mistakes. To competently respond to reason.html 15 http://www. in the Duke Lacrosse13.com/cgi-bin/article. it’s unproductive to reason with dysfunctional women who refuse to submit to your male authority.co. It’s unproductive to explain to a young child why he shouldn’t play in the street until that child has enough discipline to reason effectively. they are unable to acknowledge their disorderly condition. DTL 16 http://www. irresponsible emotional accusations were made against innocent men as a means of preserving reputations and absolving dysfunctional women of personal responsibility.dailyexpress. Reasonable people have the ability to listen. Without applying pain to dysfunctional behavior. Children respond to pain.com/archive/years/2010/0113101copperfield1. If a person’s character has not been trained by the disciplining application of pain.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/EDGIJ7OQKS1. Because pain has not been applied to their dysfunctional behavior. you should focus on exposing their dysfunctional behavior through the application of pain. it’s not productive for men to enable immaturity by accommodating it with unmerited explanations.especially when the self-esteem is threatened. a person first has to be disciplined enough to apply reason.thesmokinggun. The disturbing amount of the false rape accusations16 made by women each year confirms their inability to place reason before emotion. shortcomings. reasoning with that person proves useless. flaws).htm 189 .duke. Their willingness to violate your authority with specious emotional arguments is a symptom of your failure to apply sufficient pain to establish your authority.sfgate. Unreasonable people. Instead.ipt-forensics. Likewise. not reason. despite your reasonable explanations. Thus.com/journal/volume6/j6_2_4. Practically speaking.12 For example. are products of unrestrained emotion.edu/lacrosseincident/ 14 http://www.
Once a woman’s attitude aligns with her words/actions. but not in attitude. Without a submissive attitude. You must first apply discipline to her before reasoning with her will take effect. no matter how small. This is important because sometimes women will submit in words and actions. actionS Be aware that applying pain only to dysfunctional behavior isn’t good enough. Nip things in the bud the first time around. Practically. you will be unable to get your expectations met. this means you need to discipline even her attitude. Do not let passive-aggressive attempts to mock your authority slide. her actions mean nothing. attituDe vS. a rebellious attitude is a more egregious violation of your authority. A woman’s inward attitude is much more important than her outward behavior as the former always dictates the latter. You must be sure you have a woman’s full submission before your approval will be appreciated. Be thorough. check to make sure she first fears your authority: • Does she disapprove of what you say based on her emotions? • Does she repeat arguments you’ve already addressed? • Does she focus on how you make her feel rather than on what you’re actually saying? • Does she ignore points she can’t defend? • Does she constantly mischaracterize the situation? • Does she accuse you of being mean when you don’t agree with her? All these indicate your authority is not yet established.Without self-discipline. Although a woman’s outward behavior may meet your expectations. Pain must be applied to expose her dysfunctional behavior. Sweeping disrespect under the rug. Expect and demand her full submission to your authority. will not make it go away. there is no real submission. When women agree to technically meet your expectations but still offer snide remarks or condescending commentary ridiculing your authority. Don’t be fooled by a woman’s physical compliance with your expectations. Before you attempt to reason with a woman. 190 . a woman will not respond to reason. then you know you have her full submission. If you neglect to maintain the integrity of your authority.
This encourages irresponsible behavior. You give others a reason to fear your authority. Teachers fret about their students not fulfilling their duties. husbands complain about unsympathetic. To do this. For this to happen. you undermine your authority. Allowing people to remain indecisive encourages their disorderly condition to progress. you allow others to avoid even acknowledging your expectation. a confrontation inevitably develops between the disapproved expectation and its opposing expectation. unappreciative wives. while avoiding confrontation. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. your functional expectations should put others to a decision. Authority’s function is to bring about order. If their expectation is disapproved/rejected. Yet the common thread linking these emasculated men is their inability to directly apply pain. pleasure and pain are applied 191 .putting otherS to a DeciSion If properly enforced. You cause others to mature by provoking a decision. When you allow people to ignore your expectations. Those untrained to handle confrontation. 2. fear is required. You move them toward meeting your expectation. Passive-aggRessive PUnisHMent Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. By provoking a decision. 3. you make others choose between meeting or not meeting your expectations. they feel as if their very person is being disapproved/rejected. Directly stating an expectation involves the inherent risk of having that expectation disapproved or rejected. When people avoid decisions. passiveaggressive men resort to stating their expectations indirectly. If you fail to provoke a decision. being held accountable to their expectation is a terrifying thought. people resort to passive-aggressive behavior. Boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. The passive-aggressive approach seeks to take authority. they are essentially trying to avoid responsibility. When disapproval and rejection become too terrifying to deal with. For passive-aggressive men. And if that expectation is important enough to you. This causes 3 things to happen: 1. Because the thought of disapproval/rejection is so upsetting.
Functionally applying pain and pleasure requires a direct and merited application. Passive-aggressive behavior is expressed through actions or words characterized by complaining and whining. This minimizes the chances of a confrontation occurring. Rather than stating an expectation directly—which makes you accountable to your decision and risks disapproval from others—men will often try to avoid accountability by placing the blame on the other party. to bribe the other person into forfeiting their authority. Example 1: Woman: “Why do we always have to go to Taco Bell?” [complaining] Questioning “why” implies disapproval of the expectation to eat at Taco Bell. The woman is implying that she “always” submits to the other person's authority. a passive-aggressive man will instead state. For example. begging & gUilting Complaining. while applying direct and merited pleasure maintains authority. Women should not engage in this behavior because it violates their natural position of submission. is extremely dysfunctional. Pain is applied to competing expectations in the form of indirect rather than direct disapproval/rejection. But when these two messages are used indirectly or without warrant. Further.” thus taking making himself responsible to his decision. “Why don’t we ever go to Del Taco?” Such a question places blame on the other party. And men should likewise avoid its use because it prevents them from establishing functional authority. she implies that she should be given the authority— she should be in charge. especially one who is caring for her needs. the result is confusion and disorder. “Always have to” is an indirect token of submission.simultaneously. taking a man's authority. whining and pleading are passive-aggressive behaviors that indirectly imply disapproval of a competing expectation. But since she is a woman. It implies that the man has no choice in the matter and is being ruled by the other party’s authority. Pleasure is also applied indirectly. Expectations are replaced by resentful suggestions and clear orders are replaced by an attitude of complaining. in a token showing of submission. Applying direct and merited pain establishes authority. instead of stating: “I want to go to Del Taco. 192 . coMPlaining. Passive-aggressive speech often takes the form of a question.
Example 2: Man: “Do you have to act like a bitch? [complaining] It makes me so feel so stressed out. Her emotional affect on you should only be discussed when your expectations aren’t actively conflicting. However. Also. she won’t care how she affects you. the last thing you want to do is focus on your emotional investment. Not only is this healthy. If a woman doesn’t fear your authority. Your focus should remain on your expectation being violated. When your expectations are in harmony. like during an argument where your authority hasn’t been established. not on how she affected you (emotionally or otherwise). You’re essentially validating her authority over you by letting her know how much you’ve emotionally invested in her. just this one time. Example 3: Man: “Please do it my way.” [guilting] In this example. “Do you have to. Example 4: 193 . Please?” [begging] Since the man is unable to apply pain to enforce his authority. But when your expectations are competing with hers. his design dictates that he should be the one to exercise his authority (by applying direct. This of course results in the other party losing respect for the man. Letting her know she stresses you out is not only a passive-aggressive attempt to guilt her into changing her behavior. it will also serve to solidify the relationship. questioning.” implies disapproval of the “bitch” behavior. This undermines your attempt to reestablish your own authority over her. merited pain) to enforce his expectations. he's avoiding the application of pain necessary to get his expectation met. feel free to discuss your emotional investment at will. The woman has the option of meeting his expectation. avoid making this into a therapy session. In the other party eventually becomes disgusted by this passive-aggressive behavior and completely disregards his expectations. It's dysfunctional to leave the job of enforcement up to the woman since her natural position is that of submission. it also let’s her know she’s very important to you. But since he is a man. he resorts to begging the other party to meet his expectations. because this male leaves the decision up to the female.
oPPRessive PUnisHMent Applying an insufficient amount of pain fails to create fear—the basis of establishing functional authority. Tyrants and those who oppress others often employ unmerited pain to get their expectations met. This is akin to a mother trying to reprimand a child who has run into the street by hugging and pleading with him not to “scare mommy. But while doing so. To the other party. they couldn’t care less about receiving your approval or disapproval. I get so sad. senDing MixeD signals Many men make the mistake of undermining their authority by applying pain and pleasure simultaneously. you may threaten to ignore someone who is insulting you.” Her pleasurable hug is actually reinforcing his bad behavior. For example. being ignored by you is like being ignored by a chair. you repeatedly respond to their insults. You are actually encouraging their insults by rewarding them with attention. This gives them pleasurable attention which validates their behavior. When that happens. This can cause serious physical injuries 194 . You don’t care about me!” [guilting] Here the woman tries to mischaracterize the behavior of the other party.Woman: “Whenever you don’t pay for my dinner. Passive ignoRing This is when you passive-aggressively react to someone violating your expectations (hurting your feelings for example). It doesn’t matter. But since you haven’t established your authority. thus undermining her intended application of pain. This is the basis of oppressive/ tyrannical authority. she realizes she holds all the authority in the relationship. She’s hoping the other person will begin the never-ending cycle of attempting to justify his behavior to her. You’re so mean. Many problems arise from the conflicting application of pleasure and pain. while applying excessive pain generates an unhealthy fear (terror). You feel that ignoring them and becoming distant will send them a clear message: you should feel guilty for hurting me.
he is reduced to a neurotic state of perpetual anxiety. . However. . Many dysfunctional women fall under this category. describe her as ‘Horrible Holly.. Regardless of whether unmerited pain is applied directly (e. This eventually leads to greater disorder in both behavior and perspective.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/03/05/AR2010030504326.corpun. a kick to the groin) or indirectly (e. oppressive/tyrannical applications of pain cause feelings of confusion and helplessness.html http://www.”17 Unmerited applications of pain cause an enormous amount of stress to the recipient. 17 18 http://www. But let’s use reason to examine why this fallacy is wrong and extremely damaging to society.g. Your fear of violating the law of gravity is healthy because it keeps you safe. Holy Graf. Since the recipient lacks the means to control his reward or punishment. a naval commander who was relieved after humiliating members of her crew: “. E. tHe Pain FallacY Some people have argued that spanking as a form of discipline18 is not only abusive but also teaches children to react with violence. .com/benatar. Thus. a sarcastic remark. forcing him to take a “time out” by standing alone in an empty watch room. a false rumor).g. They even cite pseudo-scientific studies to support their assumption. if a child receives arbitrary punishments instead of merited spankings. It peacefully stabilizes your relationship with gravity. neurotic behavior will develop. .g. One noncommissioned officer said Graf treated him like a toddler. Unlike merited applications of pain which move its recipients toward order. Her former crew members . Consider how the law of gravity governs your life. this violent consequence of pain doesn’t teach violence. Take for instance. . . [she called] them ‘idiots’ and ‘stupid’ as she spat a stream of obscenities.and psychological disorders. It does just the opposite. ..’ as well as a modern-day Captain Bligh. it can still damage the physical and psychological health of the recipient.htm 195 . applying unmerited pain is always dysfunctional. Terror paralyzes but fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses. Violating this law by stepping off a cliff can result in grave injury to your body.washingtonpost..
” • Pointing a gun at someone RiDicUle This involves speech or action intended to cause contemptuous laughter at a person or thing. Since women are naturally submissive by design. This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly.The problem is not with the fact that pain is being administered but rather its inconsistent and inappropriate application19. Many parents create disorderly conditions by inconsistently applying pleasure and pain to their children. they typically respond to ridicule by becoming ashamed. cutting and even suicide20.com/blogs/nurtureshock/archive/2009/12/30/never-been-spanked. For example: • “I’m going to kill you if you do that again. tHReats Threats convey retaliation rather than correction and are often extreme or irrational in nature. inconsistent and inappropriate application of pain and pleasure are the real culprits. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings. Because ridicule is a condescending and demeaning form of rejection/disapproval. In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia. you must not allow women’s immature ultimatums (“You’ll never get laid unless you give me my way”) to influence your authority. Just as a disciplining parent must ignore childish threats (“If you punish me I won’t love you”).wikipedia. Ridicule differs from functional disapproval/rejection in that the person rather than the behavior becomes the target. The resulting disorder is attributed to the choice of tool when in reality. It is a common device used in political and social satire. This problem is further exacerbated by the application of pleasure when pain is required and vise versa.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Megan_Meier 196 . Learning to apply balanced pain and pleasure requires practice.aspx http://en.newsweek. You cannot depend on women’s validation alone as a litmus of your authority. it generates two dysfunctional responses: shame and resentment. 19 20 http://blog.
the more they’re manipulated into seeking the approval of the accuser. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme result being murder (ref columbine shooters bullied). facts or reason. men feel compelled to defend their position by constantly justifying themselves. Mischaracterizations cause men to focus on their behavior—attempting to justify it—while ignoring the behavior of the accuser. Addressing mischaracterizations proves to be a losing battle as dysfunctional women do not rely on accuracy. you’re not lying.” “Are you still living in your Mommy’s basement?” “Why are you such a loser?” “That shirt is gay. Mischaracterizations are often endless and overwhelming.” *Sneering look* “why are you even talking to me?” Mimicking/mocking behavior Belittling/condescending remarks MiscHaRacteRization Women commonly employ this dysfunctional type of accusation against men. leading to defiant and rebellious behavior. For example: Tom: I don’t like that skirt. Tom begins to focus on his behavior while ignoring Jane’s dysfunctional reasoning. on the other hand. The more men try to justify themselves by answering the mischaracterizations. [justifying position to address mischaracterization. I was just trying to say I don’t like you wearing that short skirt. wearing men down.] Jane: Oh so now I’m a liar too? [mischaracterization] Tom: No. They response to ridicule by becoming angry at its source. It shows too much skin. They subtly undermine authority and make valid communication impossible until addressed. You have no style. [trying desperate to justify himself to Jane’s 197 . [mischaracterization] Tom: No. I don’t think you’re fat at all.Men. I never said that. When faced with mischaracterizations. are naturally authoritative by design. For example: • • • • • • • • “I didn’t realize they started letting blind women drive. But unlike females.” “Liberals love a good professional victim speech. Jane: Oh you think I’m fat?! Great.
When we feel the sting of pain. when we apply it to others. or it can be wantonly abused to damage and destroy. can no longer smoke • Rioters subdued by the police.mischaracterizations— a never-ending battle] Jane: Why are you yelling at me? [The mischaracterizations never end. we are letting them know that disorder/dysfunction is being expressed and need to be removed/stopped. pain functions to motivate others to move away from disorder/dysfunction. ceases her tantrum • A smoker crippled by emphysema. we know a disorderly condition exists in our behavior. Tom will soon exhaust himself trying to meet Jane’s dysfunctional expectations. must stop • A screaming child spanked by a parent. toward a state of order/ function. Similarly. must confess Like any other tool. condition or position. “That’s wrong”. must find comfort • Feminism exposed by the truth. The resulting condition of a recipient of pain indicates which whether the application is functional or dysfunctional. It can be responsibly applied to correct and instruct.] Mischaracterizations are a category of distortions (self-defense mechanisms) designed to preserve the self-esteem by shifting fault away from the offender. pain’s effectiveness is subject to the person applying it. stop destroying property • A widow missing a spouse. DisagReeMent [“No”. DiRect PUnisHMent Pain functions as an indicator of disorder/dysfunction. “I disagree”] 198 . As a valuable corrective tool. From the message sent to our brain when we stub our toe to the message society sends to criminals who break the law to the message a guilty conscience sends to a thief. ceases to ruin society • A murderer suffering from a guilty conscience. pain motivates everything to change: • An exhausted athlete experiencing injury.
Ignoring only works when the other person is emotionally invested in you. This is because they other person values your approval and disapproval... verbal cues (e. shaking your head). It reminds me of a butch dyke trying to be a man. This pain can be enhanced by associating the unwanted behavior with a some other socially despised element. If you ignore someone who doesn’t care about your approval.” • Damaging someone’s reputation. Do you understand?” • “Do not waste my time. Don’t ever let me catch you doing that again.” “No.g. Every guy hates girls that act like that. the more powerless the ignored person feels. E.” ignoRing Removing your attention sends the message that the person or expectation being ignored is beneath your consideration.” • “Stop wasting time on Facebook.” “That’s wrong. Only dorks and losers with no social life hang out there.” Interrupting.” • “Tyra Banks is an annoying bitch. • “Don’t ever disrespect me in front of my friends. Get here on time.g. This means you’ve already established your authority. This can be accomplished by refusing to acknowledge a person or an expectation. it won’t matter to them.. This painful shaming produces guilt. For example: • “It’s such a turn off when you try to act all tough.This can take be expressed through your body language (e.g. For example: • • • • • “Stop!” “Don’t do that. Disapproval/rejection is a powerful application of pain. “Be quiet. 199 . The more an expectation is ignored.” DisaPPRoval/Rejection This is akin to scolding a misbehaving child. The message should be clear—you disapprove of her actions/behavior/attitude. “No”) or both.
keeping attention focused on something else. white men are dysfunctionally associated with corporate greed. These problematic associations create dysfunctional perspectives. For example: • • • • “You don’t have to listen to me—Get out Warning a child to behave or be spanked A police officer tazing a disorderly man resisting arrest Dumping a woman who refuses to acknowledge your authority Using negative associations Society creates all sorts of dysfunctional associations. bald. or continue talking to a friend] Guy: [feeling deflated and awkward that you haven’t responded. Example 2: Girl: I don’t like that shirt you’re wearing. For example. You: I’m going to get some pizza [not acknowledging comment and not giving girl any attention] Girl: [feeling awkward/less socially valuable and now more willing to meet your expectations] enFoRcing conseqUences Consistently enforcing your expectations causes others to fear your authority. You: [ignoring threat] Guy: Hey! I’m talking to you! You: [continuing to ignore person. Asians are dysfunctionally associated with bad driving and old. 200 . blacks are dysfunctionally associated with crime and poverty.If your authority isn’t yet established (meaning you’re not able to get your expectations met with this person). Example 1: Guy: I’m going to kick your ass. you need to stick to more active applications of pain.
appearance. That’s so unattractive” Here you’ve changed the focus from meeting her expectation to meeting your expectation. shift focus onto the unattractive nature of racism. Lastly. In this case. weight. This also acts to establish your authority over her. If she accepts it. you should apply pain to expose it. let’s suppose a woman tells you that your height is unattractive. you’ve validated your own expectation. I don’t care how tall you are as long as you have a good personality. shift focus onto the unattractive behavior of gold diggers/shallow people. you should reward her with your approval. Not only can it be used to get your expectations met. you expose and break the negative association. but it can also be applied to break these dysfunctional associations. “I don’t mind talking to a tall Amazon women as long as you don’t try to act like a guy. Creating a negative association with her expectation applies pain. you’ve made your lack of height into a perfectly acceptable attribute.Oprah’s disastrous advice to women and feminism’s damaging social policies are dysfunctionally associated with positive change and growth. Validating her behavior serves to maintain your authority and encourages submission. it’s important to validate it with your approval. you can simply shift focus onto your expectation by undermining the authority of her expectation. Instead of focusing on your shortcomings as a foreigner. This makes it 201 .). it’s no longer a matter of you being too short—she’s too tall. Your authority is the key. This removes the authority of her expectation. The same principles apply. Essentially. “I love girls who aren’t stuck up and judgmental. By first applying pain. Instead of focusing on your lack of income/social status. For example.” Here. Instead of focusing on the negative association (height. Dysfunctional associations inhibiting social interaction need to be broken. Because this dysfunctional association prohibits your social interaction. etc. Now. which then allows you to replace her expectation with your own. Then you replace her expectation with your expectation. to establish your expectation. you are removing her authority and establishing yours in its place.
Now.much easier to get your expectations met in the future.” • “All guys hate it when you act stuck up. aPPlYing social PRessURe People.” • You need to observe the dress code around here. Telling your friend you hate a particular food is not as painful as hearing a group of people say it. Your individual disapproval of a certain behavior may be painful. Until this is dealt with. If either leg experiences a problem. It’s a total turn off. We (our city) don’t like tourists. specifically. especially women. it will have a negative effect on its counterpart. not as warranted but merely because you’re in a bad mood. Thus. Now your application of pain is compromised and rendered ineffective. Pain and pleasure must be applied at the appropriate time to get your expectations met in an orderly way. if either incentive is misapplied. It’s helpful to explain. Both legs must function properly for the entire body to move forward. For example: 202 . if you ruthlessly belittle and criticize a person’s behavior. tHe necessit Y oF ReWaRDing Pain and pleasure work together like a pair of legs moving in the same direction. you need to apply pleasure. For example. but the disapproval of a large group is unbearable to most. The same goes for the reverse situation where unmerited pleasure is indiscriminately applied as a bribe to curb bad behavior in lieu of confronting it with pain. the element of social pressure if very powerful in influencing the behavior of others. When others meets your expectations. any praise or reward you offer must compete with the underlying resentment a person feels toward your previous application of unmerited pain. Most Americans can’t stand foreign films. Similarly. how she met your functional expectation to identify what exactly warrants a pleasurable reward. you undermine any complementary element of pleasure you may apply later on down the line. quickly bow to social pressure. verbal praise or other pleasurable incentive. • “I don’t know how you can watch that movie. the entire walking process is thrown off. your ability to apply pleasure effectively is compromised. This can be done with a hug.
203 . Both are equally important. Just because this section is shorter in length that the pain section doesn’t mean it is less important. women suffer greatly. Don’t underestimate the necessity of pleasure when enforcing your expectations. As a man. They need the pleasurable attention of men to function properly. That’s sexy![praise the result]. I love that about you! [praise girl for meeting functional expectation] That turns me on when you act like a woman. she should be rewarded with pleasure. Just as neglecting to apply sufficient pain results in disorder. When a woman submits to your authority by meeting your functional expectations. it’s your job to reward functional submission. Not like most chicks today who try to act like men. Women have few men to instruct them.You: Men should be in charge [functional expectation] Girl: Yeah. And a sufficient amount of pleasure needs to be applied to maintain that orderly behavior. they have no idea how to employ pain in a productive way. It depends on a careful administration of merited pain and merited pleasure. I like the guy taking charge [functional expectation] You: See. Your authority is not maintained by making idle threats or employing irresponsible methods of bribery. neglecting to apply sufficient pleasure also results in disorder. this does not mean pain is more important than pleasure. It’s not enough to nod your head in agreement if a woman is meeting your expectations. The pain section is longer because many men already reward women. Today’s women turn to prescription drugs in record numbers to alleviate the symptoms of a malnourished identity—one that lacks the guidance of male authority. even for bad behavior. Psychological disorders such as panic attacks or chronic anxiety stem from a lack of corrective male authority. A sufficient amount of pain needs to be applied to gain a woman’s full submission. Both prove necessary to make your authority functional. so it needs to be thoroughly covered. Yet. The entire concept is foreign to them. This reinforces good behavior and meets a woman’s need for pleasure. this indicates a problem with your authority. If meeting your expectations becomes a miserable chore. Again. Without it. She needs an adequate reward to provide an incentive for her continued submission. Women are naturally insecure and incomplete without men. to lead them.
attention Your attention is like money. conversations become stale. A $20/hr. you become the antidote to feminism’s damaging influence upon her life. women are like leaves blowing in the winds of their own emotions and society’s dysfunctional messages. If you plan on investing your attention. Since women need affirming attention. belittling their natural appearance. HoW to ReWaRD Pleasure can take many forms. A warm smile and a tender hug brings joy to a child. Unfortunately. Without these necessities. Without it. Paying attention to someone is like giving them a dollar bill. Pleasure provides the incentive necessary to perpetuate social interactions. Today’s feminist society punishes functional women. The attention a spouse receives causes loving reciprocation. For example. Healthy dependence on men should be affirmed and rewarded. Such uneven exchanges fail to result in mutually satisfying social interactions. But like pain. Pleasure should be used to foster mutual participation in a social interaction. make sure 204 .” she is scolded by her peers for showing weakness. You must put a stop to this dysfunctional cycle. the application of pleasure can be abused. Dysfunctional “bitch” behavior persists because society punishes women who don’t act like bitches. women who don’t wear makeup are made to feel ugly. too many people use pleasure as bribe. wage compels an employee to work. if a woman isn’t acting “strong and independent. As a man. one party will dole out unmerited pleasure without end while receiving nothing in return.to discipline them and to provide them with pleasurable attention. Instead exchanging incentives. you need to counteract these harmful messages by directing women with functional messages and then rewarding them with pleasurable attention. The makeup industry sends dysfunctional messages to women. they adopt bitch behavior as a means of gaining support and acceptance. relationships become prisons and interacting with others becomes a chore. By directing and rewarding the functional behavior you expect from her. Only pleasure that creates order and maintains the integrity of your authority should be administered.
Without it. the more valuable your attention (pleasure) becomes to others. at that point. Your attention is valuable because it meets the social needs of others. For example.e. body language. STOP INVESTING. stop paying attention to her. etc. selection of subject matter. What did the trip mean to you. Women require a certain amount of pleasure from a stranger. People need human attention in order to live happy. you should stop giving her pleasure. The trip itself isn’t that important. What is important is how you experienced that trip. voice inflection. 205 . Your word choices. For example. Stop looking at her. you will need to invest 15 minutes of pleasurable attention before you start seeing steady dividends pay off in the form of pleasurable reciprocation. this is not to say that you should immediately expect her to reciprocate your pleasurable attention. facial expressions. the other person may encourage you to keep speaking to them by smiling while you talk.) If you are not receiving pleasure from her. Stop talking to her. Stop interacting with her. Other times. and an orderly arrangement of words and ideas—the more pleasure you provide to your audience. especially a guy they’ve just met. sHaRing YoUR exPeRiences Your person is conveyed to others whenever you express the experiences you go through. as incentive to start interacting. But the general rule of thumb still applies: if you’re not getting back the pleasure you’re investing in another person. etc. Not all exchanges of pleasure will happen simultaneously. In some cases. the pleasurable reciprocation will be almost immediate.you get a satisfying return on your investment. healthy lives. you should expect some form of pleasurable reciprocation (her giving you a warm smile and participating in the conversation. emotional content and arrangement of events really tell the story about you. I. they will suffer mental illness. The better you’re able to relate those experiences to others—through the use of analogies. The more competent your application of pain. sharing the fact that you went on a trip to Africa isn’t too pleasurable because you’re simply conveying objective information that countless other people have already conveyed throughout time. touching you or asking you questions about yourself. Of course. Extreme cases of attention deprivation (cabin fever or solitary confinement in prison) reveal how just how important human contact is to a person’s well being. if you’re paying attention to a woman at a bar.
For example: • “Good job!” • “That’s so sexy. Or if you fail to show me what it’s like to experience Africa from your point of view. If I. indicating your approval. For example: 206 .. I. the more I’m attracted to you. meaning the content isn’t as important as how you convey the content. aFFection When your wife or girlfriend provides you with pleasure in the form of love. Learning how to effectively share your experiences with others is a major key to creating pleasurable incentives.” • “I like that.e. the more vivid the picture you create. this typically incites you to show them affection. I lose the enjoyment of it. you provide little incentive for me to continue interacting with you. can’t relate to your experience.The trip to Africa and many other experiences are simply vehicles to convey yourself to others. This will determine whether or not the audience derives pleasure from your experience. For example: • • • • • • • Hugging Kissing Holding hands Grabbing a friend by the shoulders Touching the head Stroking the hair Softly punching or pulling the arms or body PRaise Expressing verbal or physical approval lets women know specific behaviors are desirable and should be continued. as an audience member.” PRovision Meeting the physical necessities of those submitting to your authority. Even being in the presence of close friends often moves you to touch them.
” aPPRoval/accePtance This is the opposite of disapproval/rejection. • “This dinner tastes like a gourmet chef made it. That’s rare. see how everybody listens to you. positive associations can be made to encourage and reinforce functional/good behavior. For example: • “You remind me of a porn star because you’re not uptight and you know what to do to make a man happy. That’s how the pros do it.” • Recognition for achievement. • “Your work is really impressive. That’s such a turn on!” • “Girls that don’t nag and love to please their man sexually are able to keep a man around. picnic.” • Encouraging and showing support loving Sacrificing something of yourself to benefit another person is the ultimate reward.” • “When you’re direct. Using Positive associations Like negative associations. All people need approval/ acceptance to maintain a healthy psychological state.• • • • • • • Wages for work accomplished Gifts Resources Planning a romantic event (dinner. tR aining YoUR exPRession 207 . a trip.” • “You follow directions like one of those super hot geisha girls. a date) Protection Shelter Clothing giving attention Giving someone your attention or listening and addressing an expressed concern.
then by definition. It’s about conveying and facilitating order. People want to know what type of arrangement and order you bring to your experiences.ReMoving DisoRDeR FRoM YoUR exPRession An orderly expression naturally attracts others and encourages them to respond positively. The interest is created through your 208 . An orderly expression conveys your experience of the world. lack of eye contact and a monotone. Many people make the mistake of neglecting to speak if they have no new information to convey. yelling fire in a crowded theater or employing poor grammar are examples of different types of disorderly communication. mumbling voice are expressions of disorder resulting from a lack of proper social training. Slouching shoulders. Someone more competent than you must expose the disorder in your expression to bring it back into a functioning (attractive) order. What you read in print is no substitute for real social interaction. Disorderly communication is unattractive. Lying about your intentions. It’s not necessary to travel to exotic places to have something interesting to say. Good expression comes from good training. the way others respond to you is indicative of how much or how little you’ve progressed toward an orderly condition. If your expression is not attracting others. can be dangerous and is detrimental to social interaction. emotion and body language. coMPonents oF an oRDeRlY exPRession Communication is necessary to create order in your environment and in other people. word choices. confusing. Being able to convey how and why you experience something causes others to become attracted to the orderly social experience you create. Therefore. Although you can make small improvements in your expression. major improvement requires external training. Orderly social communication conveys your thoughts. being vague. feelings and honest reactions to your experiences. giving bad advice. Hence. Communication is not about conveying information. using sarcasm. we provide the following simply as a guideline for good expression. Merely sharing a chronology of events does not convey much about your condition. They fail to realize that new information is not as stimulating as how you personally experience the information you receive. through your face. it’s disorderly. specifically your reactions to it. voice tone.
It’s okay to be nervous. This may not always be obvious. you don’t know to socialize. You don’t know how to respond to people. or whether their criticisms are valid. When you convey your reactions to your experiences. they fail to bring the other person into that experience.experience of things.” You have a history of belittling yourself. They disapprove of your nervous ticks. In fact. But with practice. So how do you remedy this? Approval. Although people commonly attempt to share their experiences with others. You don’t know where your hands go. regardless of whether their comments are directed at you. The more vividly you convey your reactions. you will realize that meeting people is a good thing. speech and clothing. In short. You don’t know what to say. other people disapprove of your behavior. Your personal arrangement of the experience matters. 209 . the more attractive and competent your expression becomes. it’s because I’m just not physically hot enough. you are creating an orderly social interaction. The disapproving voice in your head will turn every message into a damaging attack on your worth as a person. As a result. When girls give me the cold shoulder. We need social interaction. instead of saying something rude. you create your own internal messages of disapproval: “She thinks I’m disgusting. You don’t know how to initiate conversations. We are social by nature. you will read all kinds of negative messages about yourself into what people are saying or doing. I’m an ugly guy and could never date a cute girl. excited or uncomfortable when talking to a stranger. many times. And because you are not socially competent. They snub your efforts to socialize. I might as well settle for some big chubby chick because that’s the best I can do. everyone probably feels the same way about me. aPPRoacH anxietY Many new situations make us uncomfortable. As a result of receiving so much external disapproval. This is normal. A major obstacle to social interaction is not knowing what to do. A properly conveyed reaction allows the other person to join in and connect with your experience. I’ll never get a girlfriend. people will simply ignore you. not the actual experience itself. You don’t know how to get your expectations met.
This explains why women today covet male strength and independence while men foolishly neglect their authority and often feel ashamed of their own sexuality. on the other hand. resources. men and women now compete against one other for jobs. the more motivated you’ll be to interact with others. the more often you will receive acceptance and approval from others. For example. more importantly. the more incentive you give people to talk to you. And the more often you feel good. And the more a man has been victimized by feminist ideology. Approval makes you feel good. Men are shamed. Instead of healthy gender distinctions. Women are coddled. you need to elicit external approval from other people. the more you will begin to realize: I can be valuable. Men. Today. you need to become competent at social interaction. the more a woman has been indoctrinated with feminism. This means you need to become functional as a man. Parents no longer teach their boys how to wield their male authority to properly care for women. are ridiculed for their sex drive while their accomplishments are belittled. Instead of relying on each other as healthy socialization dictates. some will be more difficult to interact with than others. necessary to create a successful social interaction. The more competently you can express yourself and bring others into your experience. But there are barriers to getting that validating response. The more often you lead and exercise your authority to meet your expectations.More specifically. but strips away the very means for men to become functional. Why? Because functional male behavior is attractive and. etc. Neither do they teach their girls how to submit to male authority so that women may be in a position to receive male care. the feminist educational system indoctrinates unsuspecting children with its gender homogenization ideology. The more you are approved and accepted by others. the more adverse her initial reaction to male authority will be. Thus a competitive relationship is fostered between men and women. Feminism’s emasculating culture not only ridicules functional male behavior. approval. Women are conditioned to believe they have no value to society apart from acquiring male strength and intelligence. children are taught they cannot be valuable or “equal” unless they perform the same roles as the other gender. status. Since both genders vary in their degree of dysfunction. the more shameful and awkward he 210 . To elicit approval from others.
model or fast-food worker.feels trying to get his expectations met or expressing himself. Exposing disorder naturally leads to candor—an open. Men and women need you. they more candid their expression. It is the admission of all types of disorder and the recognition of one orderly way. your realization about the value of male authority to women will become your anchor. Although you may get nervous. to lead them in the right direction. It’s time to start realizing that there is value to be found in your male function. But. It will keep you realistic. This causes women (and men) to approve and accept me. Women will always need your male function for the simple fact that they lack the direction that only men can provide. at times. No matter how many times insecure women try to scold or shame you to protect their fragile self-esteem. The clearer they become regarding what is dysfunctional and functional. Your goal should still be to fully develop your male expression and authority. I experience practically zero nervousness approaching women because I can lead and exercise authority over them. Today. A person can only become as candid as their realization allows. Your expression must be fully developed before such difficult women will approve of you being in charge. You must be able to enforce your authority before men will listen to your views. genuine and 211 . Many guys fall for the myth that women are “strong and independent” and don’t need men. so you can exercise it in any situation. This is not a “power of positive thinking” statement. It is the proper removal of all the wrong perspectives and the adoption of the one functional view. the functional you. which further causes me to realize how valuable my authority is to them. It will give you the permission slip to talk to any woman—rock star. nothing could be further from the truth. the cure to approach anxiety is to develop competent social skills—the ability to express and exercise proper authority over women. Ultimately. You are depicted as a mere convenience rather than a necessity. canDoR Candor is more than honesty. This requires training. This is a simple yet profound fact. you must remember: you are valuable to women when you exercise your male function.
hiding your disorderly condition) and other irresponsible. But if your expression has only the outward appearance of order. your own expression lacks order. distortions (e. You are not applying pleasure to encourage orderly behavior.g. if people are exposed to it long enough.. As a result. An orderly expression will improve the expression of those exposed to it. others will value your expectations and be open to meeting them. their own expression improves and becomes more attractive. while candor is painful to dysfunctional people. it also facilitates order in others. lies. it provides pleasure to those moving away from disorder.. mischaracterizations). Conveying your expression in an orderly way shows approval for the listener. it will act as a light bulb—shining but producing no change. Not only is candor attractive because of its orderly nature. an expression that follows this principle is also inherently attractive. To put it another way. Your orderly expression provides pleasurable stimulation to the recipient.g. Even though women are often shocked by honesty and openness. disorderly forms of communication.orderly expression. and you are not applying pain to discourage disorderly behavior. An orderly expression conveys order to its recipients and directs them toward order. Because your ability to convey yourself in an orderly way creates a pleasurable experience. 212 . sarcasm). When people see someone employing good expression and receiving positive responses. It lets that person know you care enough about them to share yourself through your experiences. Candor gives others a pleasurable incentive to meet your expectations. This motivates them to emulate the orderly elements of the other person’s expression. Additionally. if you regularly communicate with a friend and that friend fails to move toward order. an orderly expression is like sunshine. Thus. their own poor expression is exposed. eFFects oF an oRDeRlY exPRession An orderly expression encourages its recipients to improve their own expression. they cannot help but get a tan. A candid person conveys order and is free of double meanings (e. It’s like a carefully arranged painting or a well composed song bringing enjoyment to the listener. denial (e.. orderly expression is crucial to forming satisfying relationships. Since order is attractive. Your expression will change them by virtue of its function. they cannot deny the attractive nature of an orderly expression full of candor.g.
this is a much better expression of personal reaction to an experience. from most disorderly to least disorderly. The same principle applies when describing your experiences. attractive candor that’s conducive to orderly social interaction. It also conveys very little personal reaction and fails to lead the interaction toward meeting an expectation.exaMPles oF an oRDeRlY exPRession The following are four examples of expression. Example #4: “Wow. generic salutation above. I want to tug on it and kiss your neck. For 213 . It invites the woman to identify with the personal reaction. I feel like I’m talking to the cover in real life.” This is a step up from the more common guarded. but since you’re here in person. I want to talk to you. the speaker has become completely transparent with his feelings and reactions to seeing this woman with whom he’s interested in starting a conversation. Even though it seems like a perfectly fine openended question designed to spark conversation. inviting. you’re cute. It makes me happy. it lacks candor. They remind me of some fashion magazine cover where the hair is perfectly arranged like a little piece of art. Example #3: “Hey. Example #1: “Hello. Example #2: “Hey. how are you?” This is a common disorderly expression which undermines healthy social interaction. They represent varying degrees of competence applied to the exact same situation of a male approaching a female.” Here. and then there are these little strands that curl off of it.” Although sparse. It gives me a nice ‘ahhhhhh’ feeling deep inside like when you eat a warm chocolate chip cookie right out of the oven. creating a dynamic shared experience on the spot. This reaction is attractive because it more plainly conveys the genuine experience of the speaker and demonstrates solid candor. This also demonstrates powerful. I picture it smelling like coconuts or something sweet. It conveys a more personal reaction and introduces an expectation. Your hair is making me think dirty thoughts. I like how your hair is straight in some places. I like your long hair. I have a crush on your hair. It’s still very generic and neglects to explore the depth of the speaker’s personal reactions to his experiences. I want to touch your hair and feel how soft it is... But the thought isn’t developed..
“I love ice cream” is much better than “people love ice cream because of its delicious flavor. It had this smooth texture and reminded me of a chocolate waterfall. avoid all-encompassing adjectives like “good” and “bad” which don’t describe your reactions in detail. It requires very little arrangement of your thoughts and reactions to that experience. It communicates your thoughts and feelings in a personalized arrangement. As previously stated. Merely reporting facts offers relatively little stimulation. This facilitates an orderly social interaction.” The former conveys your reaction to an experience. The things you experience don’t have to be fascinating to be stimulating. Your writing should primarily consist of conveying your experience rather than conveying information. It should also follow the principles outlined above. The resulting message attracts others because it displays order and provides psychological stimulation. Practice expressing your reactions to experiences rather than just conveying a laundry list of things that happened to you. Take the lead during the interaction to share your reactions to the things in your world. as the man. It’s kind of exciting because it reminds me of this chocolate store near my house that looks like a gingerbread village. I like the smell of chocolate.” This merely informs us the experience occurred. Your reaction to the most mundane experiences can stimulate others. depending on your arrangement of those experiences. you are the stimulus.example: “I ate ice cream. The degree of your experience is often much more meaningful than the experience itself. I want to start gnawing on the roof and eat up the entire store like Godzilla destroying Japan. Practice giving your reactions without being prompted or asked questions. Remember. Be sure to speak about your experience in the first person. Contrast this with the following example: “The chocolate ice cream was so delicious. The latter only conveys information. People can get the same information reading a book. Whenever I see it.” This describes your reaction to an experience. clear and should obey the major rules of grammar. This creates an 214 . You initiate. WRitten exPRession Your written expression needs to be concise. minus your all-important personal reaction.
It means you’re more concerned with meeting the expectations of others rather than expressing your own. Enunciate your words.attractive order for the reader. it’s also necessary to have others critique your writing to examine your strengths and weaknesses. expose you to more competent expression and introduce you to new ideas. regardless of the subject matter. Avoid a monotone delivery which masks how you experience the world.”. hence the reason you have trouble creating attraction. Writing down your ideas forces you organize and structure your thoughts in a clear.. “um” and “ugh” all convey your lack of order. Be clear. If you don't respect your own words. This lets others know your expectations matter. Be direct. • Consulting a dictionary and thesaurus will improve your reading comprehension and expand the depth of your communication. it's doubtful others will. This also improves your oral communication.. Over time. As a man with authority. “I guess”. which you can then incorporate into your own expression. • Solicit feedback from others. Convey your authority in your speaking. oRal exPRession Orderly oral expression requires clarity and training. • Start a blog. Align the tone and inflection of your voice with your intention and 215 . A monotone voice indicates anxiety over saying the wrong thing. Improving your writing. this will naturally expand to reflect your writing development and competence. Don't rush through what you have to say. Phrases like “I don’t know”. Here are some practical steps to accomplish this: • Reading books will expand your vocabulary. How you say something conveys a lot about your condition. It’s not only important to read great books as a means of absorbing proper writing structure. Create a daily habit of writing down a few paragraphs every day. Mumbling shows you don’t respect what you have to say. as with any other type of expression. “sorta”. you need to bear the responsibility of a decision to create order in your expression. meaningful way that others can appreciate. requires training. Slow down. “kinda”. “maybe we should.
To remedy this. When speaking to a group. I love pizza!!! sPeaking WitH aUtHoRitY When you speak with authority. emphatically drawn out voice tone is the equivalent of typing. meeting your expectations will become optional as well. Voice tone and inflection are not about variety. acknowledge the entire group with eye contact. • Stand up straight. this means removing the question mark from your voice and applying a verbal period to your expectations. women respond according to your expectations. Avoid letting your feet touch when you stand up straight. chest out. women respond according to their expectations or the dominant social expectations around them. Thus. They direct meaning and convey nuances and degrees of experience. Good body language requires training like anything else and reflects the condition of your authority. Men who speak with authority are perceived as valuable along with their expectations. Make sure you: Keep eye contact with the person you’re addressing. Relying on 216 . Don't slouch.” with a slow. Merely suggesting submission as one option tells people your expectations don’t matter to you. • Look directly at people instead of staring at them out of your peripheral vision. shoulders back. If you want to get your expectations met. Train your body language to convey an orderly (attractive) expression conducive to social interaction. when you hesitate. However. boDY langUage Your body language conveys how much or how little you've moved toward order. • Avoid drinking alcohol as a means of social lubrication. “I loooove pizza. Tone and inflection are analogous to written punctuation marks. Authority requires submission. you need to learn to speak with authority. Move your eyes slowly from person to person to acknowledge and greet. Avoid letting your eyes dart from person to person. you need to learn to speak definitively when expressing your expectations to others. • Avoid fidgeting with your hands or holding onto your own arms. Practice acknowledging and greeting each person in the group with your eye contact rather than fleeing from their gaze the moment they look back.emotions. Saying. Practically. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart.
you have something to smile about. This is why an orderly appearance is important. It quickly draws in strangers and provides a pleasant incentive to continue speaking. the more reason you’ll have to smile. • Avoid holding objects in your hands when speaking. nose and mouth all follow a designated pattern of size and spatial arrangement. • Avoid squeezing your body tightly into itself. As a result. The good news: the better you get at social interaction. This will be difficult at first. Avoid squishing your arms against your body. reinforces what you're attempting to express. If your eyeball was an inch lower or an inch bigger. especially avround your shoulders and neck. you’ll always have a reason to smile.“liquid courage” or other mood-altering substances will inhibit your ability to socialize without crutches. Maintain your personal space. it would break the specific facial symmetry associated with humans. • Avoid constantly shifting your body weight from foot to foot. The bad news: it’s very difficult to fake a warm smile because it involves your whole face. • When appropriate. A functional perspective always conveys an uplifting feeling to others. A functional perspective governs the attitude you bring to your social interactions. whether in nature. 217 . Granted some men were born with deviated septums. Smiling is also difficult if you’re extremely introverted from lack of social practice. even if your situation is depressing. This in turn makes you feel good. use your hands and arms to enhance what you're saying. giving others a strong incentive to talk to you. especially if your attitude is full of resentment or self-pity. But just as a firm handshake conveys interest. When you give others an enjoyable social experience. Drawing with your hands or using gestures to indicate something relevant. • Greet people with a smile. Order in any form. you receive their approval. A warm smile is even more attractive than a handsome face. This just gives you another reason to fidget and becomes an artificial security blanket. Your attitude really dictates the emotional message conveyed through your smile. in our verbal expression or in our physical bodies attracts us. a warm smile greets people like a physical hug. PHYsical aPPeaRance Your own facial symmetry reveals the attractive principle of order. If you work to maintain a gracious attitude. Give yourself permission to maintain a comfortable space around you. This breach of orderly design naturally repels rather than attracts. Your eyes.
218 . Properly exercising your authority can accomplish much more than a pair of designer jeans. But thankfully. this does not mean you should neglect your physical appearance entirely. it won’t matter. However. the order generated from properly exercising your male authority actually stimulates women much more than your physical appearance. Cut your finger and toe nails. Comb your hair. Practicing good hygiene contributes to maintaining an orderly physical appearance. In other words. But if you’re unable to exercise your authority. You can create an orderly appearance without obsessing over what to wear or worrying about the latest fashion trends.crooked teeth and misaligned eyes. In short. Being stylish is unnecessary (not to mention a pointless preoccupation with a dysfunctional social expectation). Shave if necessary. orderly appearance. Conversely. being well dressed and handsome may initially help you to attract a woman’s attention. all the fashion sense in the world and a strong Brad Pitt jawline will never supersede the attractive appeal of an authoritative man. Use deodorant if necessary. Wash your clothes. Brush your teeth and shower daily. work to maintain a clean.
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