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Part i: identifying the Problem
What is Feminism?
What Does The Term “Bitch” Really Mean? 13 13 14 16 20 22 25 27 30 30 36 38 39 40 41 42 43 45 46 47 49 50 51 52 54 54 54 55 55 55 56 56 56 56 57 57 57 57 58 58 60
An Attitude of Entitlement Women Shielded From Sexual Accountability An Unfair Sexual Advantage An Unfair Economic Advantage “Equal Rights” Vs. Equal Representation of Interests How Feminism Destroys Chivalry
How Feminism affects society
How Feminism affects Women
The Victim Mentality Women Encouraged To Deceive Females Encouraged to Neglect Their Gender Roles Over-emphasizing Male Functions
How Feminism emasculates Men
The Demonization of Men Demonizing Male Sexuality Dating Incompetence The Cycle of Emasculation Lack of Men’s Resources The Failure of Men’s Rights Leadership Where Dating “Experts” Go Wrong The “Game” of Social Interaction The Nice Guy The Player
How Feminism Undermines social interaction
Why Feminism Persists
Society Not Allowing The Examination of Feminism Faulty Logic Due to Social Conditioning Recognizing The Problem And Changing Our Approach Why Your Social Interactions Fail Boring & Superficial No Direction Can’t Lead A Woman Irresponsible Passive Behavior Can’t Make A Decision Passive-aggressive Nobody Listens To You Unrealistic Expectations Poor Expression Can’t Get Your Needs Met Girls Take Advantage of You Poor Social Interaction Models Limited Social Interaction Knowledge/Experience Where To Start Social Interaction Is Universal
Part ii: Understanding the solution
How to approach social interaction
The Need For Public Scrutiny Satisfaction The Cause of Attraction Functional Knowledge Attraction Today Too Short, Too Ugly, Too [Insert Inadequacy] The Need For Principles Order Vs. Disorder Balance—The Perfect Arrangement Dispositional Order Positional Order Bringing Order To Your Social Interactions Exposing Disorder Addressing Disorder In Others Limitation prevents disorder Schedule Your Time Limitation creates Proper Form Training Produces Consistency Freedom and limitation Inward Limitation Vs. Outward Limitation Direction 62 63 65 67 68 71 74 76 78 81 82 86 86 91 92 93 97 105 106 106 108 111 112 114 116 118 119 121 129 133 134 134 136 136 141 145 146 149 149 150 152 154 155 158 158 160 161
authority—the Proper Male Form
Purpose of Authority Society Opposes Male Authority Authority Maintained By Pain & Pleasure Pleasure Establishes Authority Pain Maintains Authority Fear Authority Requires Submission Why Authority Belongs To Men Being Responsible To Those Under Your Authority Personal Authority Social Authority Exercising Functional Authority Saying “NO” Leading Honoring Vs. Obeying Giver Initiating Why Women Play Games
Bringing Others Toward An Orderly State The Relationship Between Function And Value Restoring a Proper View of Function Functional Desires Vs. Dysfunctional Desires Functional Socialization The Standard For Social Competence The Test for Dysfunction Social Interaction Does Not Happen In A Vacuum
Part iii: applying the solution creating and Maintaining order Types of Expectations Personal Expectations & Social Expectations How To Get Your Expectations Met What Are My Expectations? Your Expectations Should Mirror Your Needs Deprivation Vs. Satisfaction Functional & Dysfunctional Expectations Am I able to communicate these expectations? Providing The Right Direction And Removing Options Be Specific With Your Expectations Am I Enforcing My Expectations? Complementary Expectations And Competing Expectations Pain & Pleasure 167 How to Punish How Much Pain To Apply Where To Apply Pain When To Apply Pain Maintaining Your Authority Looking For Competence Vs. Actions 180 167 167 168 168 168 170 172 174 174 175 176 176 177 181 183 184 185 185 185 186 187 189 192 193 194 195 196 196 197 198 198 199 200 200 201 Passive-aggressive Punishment Complaining. Creating Competence Handling Authority Violations From Rebellion To Submission. Reasoning Attitude Vs. In Three Stages Pain Vs. begging & guilting PAssive Ignoring Sending Mixed Signals 190 oppressive Punishment The Pain Fallacy Threats Ridicule Mischaracterization 194 Direct Punishment Disagreement Disapproval/Rejection Ignoring Enforcing Consequences Using Negative Associations Applying Social Pressure 197 the necessity of Rewarding How to Reward Attention Sharing Your Experiences Affection Praise Provision Giving Attention Using Positive Associations Approval/Acceptance Loving 202 204 training Your expression Removing Disorder From Your Expression Components of An Orderly Expression 207 204 205 205 206 206 206 206 207 207 207 208 5 .
Approach Anxiety Candor Effects of An Orderly Expression Examples of An Orderly Expression Written Expression Oral Expression Speaking With Authority Body Language Physical Appearance 208 211 212 212 214 215 215 216 217 6 .
They promise secret formulas. exclusive techniques.” “be present”) too simplistic (“be confident. The advice is often • • • • • short-sighted (change your wardrobe) too theoretical (“improve your vibe. and ground-breaking methods. But none have actually helped you fully achieve your social goals. 7 .cleaRing oUt tHe bUllsHit Countless books have been written about social interaction. They fill you with false hope and shower you with false promises.” “be yourself”) too situational (“this only works in bars/clubs”) flat out wrong (“make sure you pay for the first date”) Today’s relationship and dating “experts” bombard you with contradictory approaches to social interaction.
Thinking you’re going to cure that overnight is delusional. You’re OK. no one has been able to accurately explain the nature of social interaction. they construct business models designed to capitalize on your social incompetence. These companies have a vested interest in keeping you dependent on their never-ending parade of “new and improved” products. you didn’t become a social hermit overnight. you must remember one important fact: social competence isn’t found in a genie bottle. income and lifestyle.Yet. To protect yourself from social snake oil salesmen. diet. This entails 8 . Gurus claiming to teach you social skills usually package a bunch of gimmicks into a DVD with catchy titles like Seduction Secrets and Instant Sexual Charisma. By over-emphasizing the importance of wardrobe. these professional marketers hook you into a buying an endless parade of products directed at your emotions. Other experts offer worthless feel-good advice epitomized by titles like How to Win Friends and Influence People and I’m OK. Developing any skill requires time and effort. It took years of bad social conditioning. After all. Social interaction businesses don’t want to tell you the truth: their expensive 3-day weekend retreats and thousand-dollar seminars won’t provide long term results. it’s much more profitable to just sell you fish than to actually teach you how to catch them yourself. The vast majority focus on superficial outward changes. Instead. social status.
Thus. it can only thrive if its victims remain ignorant of damaging influence on society. it’s necessary to examine the natural laws that govern all social interactions. your own delusional perspective must be exposed. If you’re looking to make an overnight change. not simply learning a better way of doing things. to properly understand how feminism threatens your social competence. Addressing your poor social skills requires more than just changing your wardrobe or learning how to say ‘cool’ things. PaRt i: iDentiFYing tHe PRobleM WHat is FeMinisM? Today. But because feminism is masked by feel-good slogans of gender equality. By attempting to seize male authority through the legal system. 9 . most people view feminism as a political and social movement purporting to secure equal rights and legal protections for women. In fact. feminism represents women’s desire to control men. Social competence comes from consistency of application.much repetition. Quick fixes appeal to an immature urge to avoid the pain of self-discipline. At its heart. you’re only fooling yourself. Before you can develop a practical view of social interaction. it is not easily understood or even opposed. However. entitling them to your male resources. it is necessary to distinguish between its political phases and its fundamental governing philosophy. women hope to gain special rights and privileges. Band-aid solutions are much more tempting than following a principled approach to social interaction.
It even goes so far as to associate itself with the civil rights movement of African-Americans. Yet. limiting a woman’s job opportunities is not the same as limiting a black man’s job opportunities. for every woman who believes she can replace the role of a man. For every wife encouraged to defy her husband’s authority. nothing more aptly captures the destructive spirit of feminism than the age old sentiment: “I don’t need a man!” While feminists celebrate the spirit of gender independence. there’s a single mother out there creating a future criminal. Since allowing them into the fire department would unnecessarily endanger the lives 10 .However. it erodes the very gender roles that hold society together. this faulty rationale completely disregards the difference between unjust oppression and natural capacity restriction. However. feminism purports to protect the rights of women from male oppression. ironically. we’re left with a destructive social philosophy that preys on our emotions while removing our social accountability. there’s another record-setting divorce statistic tearing apart society. once its modern political aims are sifted out. In other words. countless disillusioned men go ignored. there’s a feminist politician trampling male civil rights. For every girl taught to resent male leadership. Not only does feminism poison relationships. In fact. Women are limited by their own natural gender design.
whereas a woman’s lack of upper body strength does limit her job performance.of others. Consider how restriction affects a child’s life. A child admiring a parent’s ability to drive a car may desire to take on that role. the child requires an adult to restrict their actions for their own protection. children will be in danger of suffering the consequences of indulging their reckless whims. they act according to their immediate desires. restriction must be put in place to ensure the safety of others1. if your 1 2 3 http://manhood101. they still insists on doing it. they lack the capacity to understand this. Even though the child lacks the mental and physical capacity to drive. The exciting prospect of participating in an adult activity is just too enticing. Since children lack foresight. women will focus on the way you argue. they fail to consider the possible consequences of their actions. Even the way they argue reveals their love of appearance over substance. More often than not.php?f=16&t=455 http://www.com/forum/viewtopic. Instead addressing the merits of your argument. Although this short-sighted decision places the child and others in danger. Feminists created this false association with the black civil rights movement as way of circumventing their gender limitations. like children.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=368 11 . children require healthy restrictions to protect them from their own short-sighted behavior. Thus. we see just how dangerous feminism is to a healthy society. This is not the same thing as preventing a black man from joining the fire department based solely on his skin color.youtube. his physical appearance does not affect his ability to do his job properly. Thus.com/watch?v=uVTQHJmRgPM http://manhood101. they focus on themselves to a dysfunctional degree3. If this protection is removed. But by examining the necessity of limitation. The misleading comparison between gender limitation and racial oppression allowed feminists to gain sympathy for their dysfunctional cause. Women also lack foresight2 because.
they are incapable of giving any in return. Women place priority on their feelings above all else.wikiquote. women invariably neglect to consider the viewpoint of others.. women happily volunteer to “steer” the lives of others5. nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information.com/watch?v=x3UUVdlF8MA 12 .. I do believe I am “like a man. waiting for the inevitable crash. As Florence Nightingale once said: In one sense. They cannot state a fact accurately to another. Without male guidance. Reason and common sense come in a distant second.. 4 5 http://en. . because of feminism’s reckless encouragement. . our economy and our lives must all sit in the passenger seat. for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so. Yet. women lack the capacity to bear the same heavy responsibilities that men bear.. They scream out at you for sympathy all day long. they will scold you for lacking manners. Now is not all this the result of want of sympathy?4 Thus.youtube. oblivious to the dangerous situations they create. professional and civil service standards to accommodate women’s irresponsible desire to accept duties they were never designed to fulfill. Consequently. our feminist society lowers academic.point hurts their feelings. But how? In having sympathy.org/wiki/Florence_Nightingale http://www. Discovering the painful truth is less important to a woman than maintaining her pleasurable delusions. our schools. not for loving. they will complain about your intentions. If your argument upsets their beliefs.” as Parthe [the writer’s sister] says. Women crave for being loved.
women will attempt to subvert male authority by degrading male social status. insulting remarks. Add to this. The damaging effects can be felt in areas of life. masculinity itself is routinely mocked by women focused on dominating their male counterparts. unattractive appearance or desperation are not uncommon8. especially when men try to lead social interactions with women. condescending remarks about lack of friends.com/forum/viewtopic. academic institutions that defer women6 and the result is a legal system that now bullies7 men into submission while encourages women to usurp or circumvent male authority.” refers to a repugnant or difficult woman. lack of social savvy. 6 7 8 http://manhood101. “bitch.com/forum/viewtopic. Bitch characteristics include: • Anger toward men • Use of insulting language • Emotionally unstable • A tendency to make demands • A self-serving attitude • Stubborn • Argumentative Examining the relationship of these aspects reveals a common pattern of dysfunctional behavior typified by women deprived of male authority.WHat Does tHe teRM “bitcH” ReallY Mean? The term.php?f=16&t=451 http://manhood101.com/post/246-automatic-online-dating-dealbreakers/ 13 .thefrisky.php?f=16&t=341 http://www. As a result. Enduring this type of adversarial social interaction is commonplace for males in feminist societies. Instead of respecting this male duty. Such women often condemn male greetings by refusing to make eye contact or offering sarcastic. Not only is male attention taken for granted. women in feminist societies are conditioned to ignore necessary gender limitations. Instead of respecting the male leadership role.
which impels the weak to attempt to lower the powerful to their own level. security and emotional comfort. preferring instead to adopt an aggressive and condescending style of communication. To 14 . feminism fails to inform women about the heavy price that must be paid by those in authority positions.” “There is. As a result. Democracy In America Feminists bombard society with sound bites like “gender equality” and “social diversity. Feminism advocates this competitive approach to dating under the assumption that men favor challenging women. these unstable unions usually fail. Such women view courtship as a competition rather than a cooperative effort.Bitches regard the feminine disposition with contempt. It signifies in the heart of every republican: “Nobody is going to occupy a place higher than I. Not surprisingly. this competitive dating philosophy actually hinders the development of romantic relationships. women feel entitled to male authority. HoW FeMinisM aFFects societ Y an attitUDe oF entitleMent “Equality is a slogan based on envy. women find themselves living in a general state of fear—lacking direction. contributing to the epidemic divorce rate and mounting social isolation felt in feminist societies. a manly and lawful passion for equality which excites men to wish all to be powerful and honored. However. As a result. and reduces men to prefer equality in slavery to inequality with freedom. but there exists also in the human heart a depraved taste for equality. It forces women to sacrifice their most essential feminine value—their submissive attitude. However. This passion tends to elevate the humble to the rank of the great.” — Alexis de Tocqueville. Their relationships are characterized by bitter power struggles over leadership and resentful negotiations of gender roles.” but beneath this facade of feel-good sentiments and moral posturing lies an ugly truth: feminism conditions women to believe they unilaterally deserve what men have earned. in fact.
performing less work in less dangerous occupations. Instead. there has been a 67 per cent increase in [Narcissism] over the past two decades. Even though women comparatively work less hours. Girls grow up feeling they deserve better treatment than boys. no mention is made of these facts9.10 They soon learn that others. The opportunity to wield male authority without worrying about the cost is an enticing carrot.co.women. Sacrificing themselves to meet the needs of those under their care—even if it means forfeiting their lives—never even occurs to them. Feminism allows women to ignore this fundamental relationship between authority and accountability.html 15 . especially men.uk/femail/article-1213212/The-ego-epidemic-more-inflated-sensefabulousness. leadership merely translates into the acquisition of personal benefits. Feminists simply lie to women by claiming they earn less than males doing the same job. Our feminist culture raises young girls to believe their value far exceeds men. based solely on their gender. they are conditioned to believe gender hatred is the cause.php?f=16&t=455 10 http://www.dailymail. According to the American research. Women foolishly assume their gender will forever exempt them from the responsibilities placed on those in authority positions. Such irresponsible claims of perceived injustices characterize the indulgent nature of the feminist philosophy of entitlement. Provoked by feminism’s angry demand for equal benefits. This entitlement attitude is grafted into females at a young age. It deceives them into believing that having their cake and eating it too is possible. are expected to shoulder 9 http://manhood101. This can be observed in feminism’s complaint about wage inequalities. Nor do they realize that a leader’s decisions are audited for competence and accountability. mainly among women.com/forum/viewtopic. women remain ignorant of the necessary sacrifices required to secure such benefits. The thought of responsibility is chronically absent from their considerations.
This is especially hypocritical considering that feminists try to absolve women of blame whenever a scantily 11 http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.the burden of their living expenses. WoMen sHielDeD FRoM sexUal accoUntabilitY Even though women complain about being objectified by men. dress in revealing clothing and flirt with boys. women are allowed to use their bodies to defraud men out of their hard earned money. Society supports this view by coddling females with affirmative action programs and other genderbiased privileges unavailable to their less valuable male counterparts. they completely ignore the hypocrisy of sexualizing their own appearance. fashion and cosmetic surgery industries aimed solely at drawing attention to their physical appearance. Permission to entice and provoke sexual response from boys is permitted as early as elementary school. Are they allowed to respond to female provocation? Is it fair for women to exploit male sexuality without consequence? Feminists often lament the emergence of a “rape culture” supposedly perpetuated by men.11 Mothers allow their daughters to wear make-up. But what about boys. they have no conscience about manipulating the male sex drive to fill their own bank accounts. While women fault men for not being able to control their biological urges. Countless women buy from.php?f=16&t=380 16 . publish articles about and actively promote billion-dollar makeup. On a daily basis. Yet no feminist is willing to hold women accountable for their systematic exploitation of male sexuality in strip clubs across the world. Adult females carry this vain selfobjectification even further.
are less willing to live without sexual activity (e.g. desire and enjoy more varied sexual practices 12 http://news. take more risks and make more sacrifices for sex (e. which occur more often and are more varied (e.. McCabe. 1953. Blumstein & Schwartz.. Eysenck. we saw a strong pattern of findings indicating that men have a stronger sex drive than women. 1993). 1995).g. engage in more initiation of sex (e. Oliver & Hyde.14 In The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. 1988). masturbate more often (e. Boyd. Sprecher.php?f=16&t=342 14 http://www. Klusmann. Bullough.. The dangerous assumption that both genders possess the same sexual appetite further exacerbates this problem. and Wenzel (2004) observe: In our review. & Brewer. Elias. 1983). O’Sullivan & Byers. desire to have more sexual partners (e. we found that. Buss & Schmidt. & Schwartz.g. males possess a far more potent sex drive than females. want sex sooner within a relationship (e. men think about sex more frequently (e. society burdens men with unfair sexual standards based on a lower female sex drive. Leitenberg & Henning. & Singer..g. 1998).uk/2/hi/uk_news/northern_ireland/8555228.g. relative to women.stm 13 http://manhood101.g. In terms of our categories. Gagnon. Leiblum & Rosen. 1992). 1988). time. 1971. Knoth.com/strangenews/090129-nightmares-women.com/forum/viewtopic. 1987).. Michael. Barbee.g.. money) to get sex (see Elias.Laumann. & Gebhard.g. 1995). Accountability for one’s appearance is ignored as feminism encourages shifting blame onto men for any negative reactions.. By failing to acknowledge the stronger biological motivation in the male sex drive.livescience. animals for constantly desiring sex. more often experience sexual arousal (e... Pomeroy.12 Men find themselves demonized as perverts for staring at breasts on display. 1993). Women fail to see the connection between their behavior and its consequences. Sprecher. have a greater number of fantasies. men have always pursued women. Kinsey. and predators for seeking sexual fulfillment. desire sex more frequently (e.co.dressed female is raped. 2002. expend more resources (e.g. 1994).html 17 . Martin. & Michaels. And contrary to fashionable myths.13 From a biological standpoint.g.bbc..g. Harvey.
And recent studies further supports this fundamental difference between the genders by noting that sex is optional for women: When it comes to health.g. Determining when a person should have the legal capacity to consent to sex is difficult to answer without a uniform consensus.php?storyId=122243730 http://www. 2. society automatically designates women as victims17 while stigmatizing men as perpetrators18. Amy Wenzel. 3. Susan Sprecher 16 17 18 19 http://www.org/ http://news.com/magazine/womens-wellness-poll-00400000054172/ http://www. Harvey. Respondents ranked the following behaviors in terms of importance to overall health and well being. 1994)15 Even the vast majority of internet porn consumers are men. drinking the recommended daily amount of water is more important to women than having enough sex. and exercise. Instead. which polled their opinions on healthy living. Their priorities may surprise you: 1. More than 1.duke.mediaradar. according to a national survey conducted by our magazine.. When asked to prioritize behaviors related to their overall health and well being. Getting enough sleep Keeping stress level low Finding time to relax Eating healthfully Drinking the recommended amount of water Finding time to exercise Having enough sex16 But our feminist society fails to acknowledge such obvious gender differences. And the fact that age of consent vary from state to state only reinforces this confusion. women ranked drinking enough water fifth and sex seventh on the list.edu/lacrosseincident/ 18 . David 15 The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships by John H.org/templates/story/story.000 women participated in the nationwide Women’s Wellness Survey. eating. And our current age of consent laws do little to clear up the confusion about acceptable sexual practices. 7. 6. In case after case.(e. Laumann et al. society sets men up for failure. 5.npr. 4. The Duke Lacrosse19. By ignoring this key difference.. it forces men to accept the absurd notion that their libidos exactly parallel that of women.cookinglight.
Nick Jonas and Taylor Lautner.sfgate. “I’d love to objectify and sexualize this minor!” Society would be screaming for his head.2933. CNN.” and. Men’s reputations and lives are unjustly destroyed by vindictive women permitted to abuse the justice system22.com.html http://www. Once a person’s gender replaces the actual evidence as the overriding argument. But McDonell-Parry’s cavalier attitude reflects the sexual impunity afforded to women by the feminist legal system24.com/news/article/141659/77/Arrested-GMU-Student-Accuses-University-Policeof-Harassment 19 . “If I waited until he was legal. DTL 22 23 http://www. feminism has been excusing women from sexual accountability. my shame would go away.com/story/0.thefrisky. a trial is no longer required. The Frisky’s editor and regular contributor to major news organization.” Now just imagine if a man posted a picture of Miley Cyrus with the headline. “21 Guys We’re Ashamed To Say We’d Totally Screw23.com/archive/years/2010/0113101copperfield1. Young men find their civil rights violated as they fall victim to feminist double standards of sexual accountability.com/slides/246-21-guys-were-ashamed-to-say-wed-totally-screw/P8/ 24 http://www.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/EDGIJ7OQKS1.Copperfield20 and Kobe Bryant21 cases perfectly illustrate this disturbing legal trend.com/cgi-bin/article.co.00. with the captions: “Please don’t take me to jail.html 21 http://www.thesmokinggun.” features minors.telegraph. recently posted an article condoning the rape of minors. Because feminism assigns women default victim status25.foxnews. Amelia McDonell-Parry. 20 http://www. Since it’s political heyday in the 60s and 70s.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/7995844/Judges-told-be-morelenient-to-women-criminals.338268.html 25 http://wusa9.
Thus. on the other hand. feminism demands that society focus its attention and sympathy on her alone.com/#!5783453/spring-is-no-excuse-for-street-harassment 20 .they have virtually no legal reprisals to fear—shame doesn’t require a prison term. a sympathetic public ear and media celebration await them.php?f=16&t=428 28 29 http://www.com/forum/viewtopic. Mary Kay Letourneau). No matter how obese or lazy a woman is. Men. exploit male resources with abandon and hide behind hypocritical codes of sexual conduct. justifications will be made for her behavior. Since all sexual accountability falls on the man’s shoulders26.29 Regardless of how little a woman reciprocates in a relationship. an UnFaiR sexUal aDvantage In contemporary romantic storylines shown on TV and in movies. are portrayed as nothing more than relationship props designed to serve a woman’s narcissistic dating criteria. No matter how vindictive. feminism’s everexpanding judicial bubble negates the educational sting of liability27. women feel encouraged to flaunt their bodies. get-out-of-jail-free sexual behavior because they realize men will inherit the blame. there’s a victim right’s group28 ready to embrace her.” Failure to pay for a woman’s dating expenses or 26 http://falserapesociety.blogspot. “Dorks” and “nerds” are routinely dismissed as beneath her consideration or “out of her league. Feminist laws act as safety nets. enabling women to engage in risky. And for those women unfortunate enough to get caught (Debrah LaFave.naafa. irresponsible. female interests take precedent.com/ 27 http://manhood101.org/ http://jezebel. self-absorbed or flagrantly disrespectful a woman’s behavior becomes.
while women are taught to indignantly clamor for ‘equality. Consequently. men must now contend with affirmative action quotas and sexist social expectations like chivalry— both designed to nullify natural male gender advantages. Yet. By wearing revealing outfits. women employ calculated flirting to tempt and tease men into thinking they will laid—all while simultaneously blaming men for not being able to control themselves. feminists remains silent about this biological “inequality. feminism removes male authority and places it in the hands of women. it also places society in a dire economic situation. Nor are men allowed to demand that women pay their fair share of dating expenses.’ they are also conditioned to ignore the hypocrisy of capitalizing on their own innate gender advantages.com/forum/viewtopic. This allows females to choose between multiple suitors. Men who give too little are labeled as “douchebags” while men who give too much are vilified as “creepy.php?f=16&t=380 21 .30 Since male biology dictates that men will initiate romantic interactions. However. sexual manipulation has become a sport for today’s women. This not only ruins relationships. By negating male gender advantages through legal intimidation. While women’s natural gender advantages are celebrated. No longer are men allowed to freely compete for jobs that suit their natural capacity.” Women are allowed to exploit this advantage without restriction. Men too possess their own natural advantages in the form of superior physical strength and superior mental prowess. women realize they hold a powerful sexual advantage. 30 http://manhood101. feminists cry foul.failure to meet other unreasonable demands incites public mockery and contempt. using makeup and cosmetic surgery to enhance their appearance. Instead. when men seek to benefit from their own natural advantages. emasculated men contribute to their own mistreatment and marginalization. Thus.” In a never ending quest to please dysfunctional women. because this advantage serves women. men’s natural gender advantages are denounced as misogynistic tools of oppression.
their output is very poor. everyone’s necessities are met. Soon society suffers a food shortage. As men subsidize female wages by working harder to offset female job incompetence. and the women will be given ten sewing jobs. Today. they end up essentially paying women’s taxes as well. In this way. feminism enters the picture. It enacts a policy called “affirmative action” designed to provide “equality” for women. regardless of whether or not they’re qualified. Working men end up picking up the slack created by incompetent female employees who lack the capacity to fulfill their job duties. can be constructed to expose the economic problem caused by feminism. the policy is focused on making sure everyone has access to each job. Feminism entitles women to male-oriented economic positions through affirmative action quotas and other gender-biased programs. Each person is given a gender-based job. so the men will be given ten hunting jobs. higher quality goods and services while their actual compensation for work done is lower. All twenty jobs represent the entire economic structure of society. The men’s jobs fulfill the women’s food needs and the women’s jobs fulfill the men’s clothing needs. composed of ten men and ten women. Instead of worrying about meeting the needs of society.php?f=16&t=455 22 . five men lose their hunting jobs to five women. 31 http://manhood101. Everyone in the society will need clothing and food.an UnFaiR econoMic aDvantage A simplified model of society. our situation is not unlike this model. But because women lack the capacity to meet the demands of the hunting job.com/forum/viewtopic. Now. As a result. Men subsidize their female co-worker’s paychecks by producing more.31 Even women who don’t work receive this benefit through welfare subsidies and other programs designed to benefit “disadvantaged” female groups.
Thus. egalitarian goal. feminism deceives society into believing an economic injustice exists. securing equal wages for women seems like a noble.php?f=16&t=380 23 . Nowhere is this imbalance more clearly observed than in the economic disparity men experience in a feminist dating environment.On the surface.’ women secure special economic entitlements. Advice 32 http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic. the feminist State forces employers to pay women what they think they deserve rather than what they have actually earned.32 Work Paycheck Paycheck $ $ $ Loser $ Dating Winner Government While feminism claims to support economic equality for both genders. But only when the reasons for gender wage disparities are examined does the ugly truth come out: feminism doesn’t just want equal pay for women—it expects entitlement wages. By shaming men into acting like ‘gentlemen. it fails to protect men from falling victim to traditional gender roles (the same ones denounced by feminists). By conveniently neglecting to address the fact that women overall work less hours in less dangerous. less demanding careers than men.
columnists like Judy McGuire routinely advise women to exploit this hypocrisy: “Just because [a man] bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to [reciprocate]. men allow themselves to be robbed of their 33 http://www.thefrisky. Through a one-sided application of chivalry. women now receive two paychecks.”33 MONEY = SEX MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = GRATITUDE FOR PROVISION (CARING) FEMINISM = FRAUD MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = NO SEX (NO CARING) “Thanks!” Because women are essentially being subsidized by men on these dates.com/post/246-dating-donts-reasons-not-to-have-sex/ 24 .
a majority rule system is instituted with the intention of fairly representing all interests.their occupations. and from so preposterous a medley of the works of nature nothing could ever result but weak men and disorderly women. they have better dietary knowledge and superior financial resources. It may readily be conceived that by thus attempting to make one sex equal to the other. Thus.economic means. Volume 2 (New York: The Colonial Press. their business. would make man and woman into beings not only equal but alike. Only the adults can vote on the menu. they are primarily concerned with the children’s health. and grant to both the same rights. eqUal RePResentation oF inteRests “There are people in Europe who. their pleasures. 705. 1899). feminism’s manipulation of the economy affords women special rights under the facade of “equal” rights. Imagine a group of ten parents and 100 children about to eat dinner. They would give to both the same functions. Democracy In America. 25 . p. In a democracy. This places them in the optimum position to provide for the children. they would mix them in all things . confounding together the different characteristics of the sexes.”34 — Alexis de Tocqueville Voting is designed to give citizens of a state the means to have their interests represented. As responsible adults. this short-sighted approach to governance presents a significant problem as the majority opinion is often detrimental to society. the future interests of the children are more important than their immediate gratification. both are degraded. It is proper 34 Alexis DeTocqueville. impose on both the same duties. Although the parents may opt for delicious food. “eqUal RigHts” vs. however.
The parents still vote for a balanced meal. Democratic voting only caters to the lowest common denominator in society. On the other hand. atrophying to mere words on paper. the common good has been sacrificed. According to the democratic process. women are forced to govern themselves. In the absence of male leadership. unjust actions. vote for ice cream. women value group consensus over personal integrity. uneducated opinions and unstable emotions will destroy a society from within. This authority is also required to enforce the law. lacking foresight and caring only about immediate gratification. but the children. Emotional mob rule has trampled over reason. This means women will typically side with an unjust policy as long as the majority of people have adopted it. Without the ruling principle of the law. the majority opinion has been fairly represented. men neglecting to care for those under their authority present just as great a problem. maintaining this democratic voting system will endanger the children’s health over the long term. Just as men lack the capacity to bear children. It offers no protection against harmful self-indulgence and affords even less justice. Allowing women to vote is no different than allowing children to govern themselves. The children will be having ice cream for dinner. negating the point of even creating laws. Yet. Irresponsible men have driven women to mismanage their own lives.com/article/2009/08/02/obamas-misandry-cineplex-marc-h-rudov/ 26 . male authority loses its foundation.and justified for the adults to shoulder the burden of the voting responsibility. Without the stable guidance of men ruled by principle. Since the majority can always outvote any legal restrictions. those most in need of the law’s protection suffer from their own emotional voting decisions. And since female self-esteem is so fragile. Ironically. Although the majority opinion has been fairly represented. the law becomes meaningless. But now let’s include the children in the voting decision. women aren’t 35 http://thenononsenseman. Without the ability to enforce a governing restriction. Women allow their emotions to determine their governing structure35. security and liberty are the first to be sacrificed on the Altar of Good Intentions. even though they lack the capacity to do so.
But today. 43. Few things hamper a child as much as not having a father at home. damaged family structures. Guilty: Liberal “Victims” and Their Assault on America (New York: Crown Publishing Group. Yet today. 36 Ann Coulter. drinks. “The mom may not need that man. emasculated. “but her children still do. 37 http://www. They require men to properly care for their needs.time. They point to men’s reluctance to pay for women’s dating expenses (dinner. I didn’t want to believe it.” Kefalas says. bitter custody battles. 2009).” says Maria Kefalas. men have been expected to shoulder the burden of providing for those under their authority. Even cultures around the world experience the debilitating effects of feminism: politically correct speech. p. a litigious attitude. 57-58.html 27 . 37-38. male authority languishes in a sickened condition. women often complain about the lack of chivalry shown by men.com/time/nation/article/0. Women supported this functional relationship by managing the household duties. apathetic young men now burdens our economy. a sociologist who studies marriage and family issues and co-authored a seminal book on low-income mothers called Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage. A generation of effeminate. gifts) as evidence of this trend. shows. 51.00. Yet. women fail to realize that their own self-serving demands killed chivalry.8599.1908243.qualified to govern society. because of feminism’s insistence on including women in our governing structure.” Growing up without a father has a deep psychological effect on a child. “As a feminist. hypocritical gender standards and dysfunctionally aggressive women. “Women always tell me. ‘I can be a mother and a father to a child. epidemic divorce rates. a chronically overcrowded prison system populated by the offspring of single mothers36. Time magazine37 HoW FeMinisM DestRoYs cHivalRY Historically. —Caitlin Flanaga. 35.’ but it’s not true.
Now. instead of being the recipients of male affection and comfort. But when such bothersome duties surfaced. they viewed financial independence from men as a blessing. As budding feminists. The same 28 . men gradually abandoned the gentleman role.In recent history. It never mentioned reciprocating that sacrifice. Confused by frustrated feminism’s self-serving design. Gender competition slowly replaced gender cooperation. chivalry only stressed what a man should do for a woman. After all. Feminism’s philosophy of female entitlement had turned the notion of chivalry on its head. desiring to gain the same respect accorded to males by proving themselves to be “strong and independent” individuals. Women naively expected to maintain this dysfunctional relationship indefinitely. Feminism’s female-focused agenda forced everyone into highly competitive social and economic conditions. the political arm of feminism provoked women to enter the workforce for the sake of gender equality. women childishly tried to reclaim their original status as social welfare recipients. women were competing with the hand that fed them. job competition increased. Yet. Women took jobs designated for men. They failed to realize that gaining the same respect as men would require making masculine sacrifices. women failed to realize the conflict this new economic situation would create with their natural and functional desire to be cared for by men. they reasoned that it was a gentleman’s obligation to care for a lady. However. As feminism continued to belittle the notion of women depending on male support. it failed to warn them of the consequences.
Even as a social philosophy. we can be equal partners. How could women still expect to be considered welfare recipients while selfishly benefiting from their newly acquired economic independence. They can’t expect romance from the men whose social status they have hijacked. the feminist movement—we can work. chivalry is at odds with feminism’s “equal rights” motto. really. men began to protest with their own reluctance to follow traditional gender roles: “I feel like women have come so far because of the sexual revolution. the more feminists demanded. They can’t rely on the kindness of men they now take advantage of in the legal system.” Today. As Rashida Jones laments. 29 .] guys in my generation don’t have manners. we can nurture. Championing gender-based entitlement under a banner of equality creates understandable resentment. they’re not gentlemen.traditional gender roles that feminists bitterly rejected were the equitable glue that held relationships together. It’s sad. the quicker chivalry caved. chivalry is pushed over the same economic and legal cliff it created.. women’s lib. women can no longer depend on the generosity of men they now compete against in the economy. Meanwhile [. As feminism continues to degrade and devalue the male gender function. Thus..
In the workplace.” given such a biased legal definition. How can anyone even blame a “victim. Those who complain of being offended by men are rewarded with feminist laws favoring their arbitrary and self-righteous sense of indignation. The legal system today reflects this social trend. Women will constantly complain about being taken advantage of or lied to. women are granted license to impose their hypocritical standards upon men.com/forum/viewtopic. Nowadays. skewing verdicts in favor of women38 at the cost of personal accountability.39 What man would dare point a finger at this legally protected gender. Such knee-jerk assignment of blame is the reason their relationships never improve. the more women become accustomed to viewing themselves as perpetual. the courts act as enabling agents. The more courts validate “emotional distress” claims. WoMen encoURageD to Deceive In countless advice columns and dating surveys. self-pitying stage. women can now be as ultra-sensitive to sexual language as they choose. women lament the lack of honesty from the men they date. Or in social settings. yet feel no responsibility whatsoever for their choices in men.roydenhollander. institutionalizing women as default victims. Under this irresponsible legal climate. you are unlikely to hear of women acknowledging any fault for their failed relationships.com/documents/LadiesNightsPrssRels. blameless martyrs. It conditions women to blame men for their problems. It’s always the “asshole” boyfriend or the “abusive and controlling” husband who causes the problems. Not only does their self-imposed victimhood tarnish legal and professional climates. they can emasculate male sexuality with cavalier abandon. it also undermines romantic lives.php?f=16&t=341 30 . Thus. Anyone daring to object faces the threat of litigation.doc http://manhood101.HoW FeMinisM aFFects WoMen tHe victiM MentalitY Feminism strands women in an adolescent. Complaints about male 38 39 http://www.
deception are commonplace. The mere fact that books and articles criticizing feminist claims so often contain the word ‘myth’ says 40 The Life of Florence Nightingale: 1862-1910.” (Marilyn French) “Every year nearly four million women are beaten to death.” (Carol Gilligan) “95% of married women are dissatisfied with their sex lives.” (Cokie Roberts) Needless to say. self-deception is held up as the female social interaction model. I could go on almost indefinitely. It is this tradition of intellectual dishonesty that has brought us such noteworthy gems as “all men are rapists. As Robert Franklin notes: One of the worst aspects of feminism historically has been the willingness of certain feminists to make up “facts” and misrepresent others. Sir Edward Tyas Cook 31 .” (Shere Hite) “Women just are better. she is in danger of drowning or disappearing.” (Lenore Weitzman) “As the river of a girl’s life flows into the sea of Western culture. Instead. Denial persists because feminism never holds women accountable to their word. But why then do women end up dating such men? Simple: women fail to account for their own dishonesty: “[Women] cannot state a fact accurately to another.” (Katherine Hanson) “Women’s income level drops 73% post-divorce.”40 —Florence Nightingale Feminism trains women to excuse and justify their own dishonest approach to life. nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information. and that’s all they are.
41 http://manhood101. As Maureen Rice reveals: The truth is that [women] have always lied about [their] sex lives. weight44.com/forum/viewtopic.billoblog.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-showsWOMEN-biggest-cheats--theyre-just-better-lying-it.co. capabilities47 or limitations48.php?f=16&t=368 32 . no hard feelings—just keep on looking elsewhere. Indeed. women often advertise their innocence and high moral standing when dating. even time and again over many years.com/forum/viewtopic. but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous. Taking pride in their purity. There’s only one problem—this woman had sex on the first date.co.php?f=16&t=475 42 http://www. someone is lying here.dailyexpress. the bigger liars are women. behavior46. While men might exaggerate their sexual conquests.42 Women don’t permit themselves to hear the truth about their age43.uk/posts/view/158792/Modern-Life-Why-women-can-t-tell-eachother-the-truth-about-size/ 45 46 47 48 http://www. And when other academics ask to see their data. html?cat=52 44 http://www.html#ixzz0Q9kaNbSi 43 http://www.topsocialite.dailymail. they never produce it. appearance45. British men consistently claim to have had more partners than women—the current average is 13.org/pubs/932/men-or-women-whos-the-better-leader http://manhood101.41 This trend is even notable in the way such women view their own sexual identity.com/celebrities-without-makeup/ http://www.com/article/5639808/women_are_waiting_until_later_in_life. Note this personal ad excerpt: I’m not looking for a one night stand. men will give the same answers to both. When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires.more than I ever could.associatedcontent. There is no way I’m having sex with someone unless I’m in a committed relationship. Her lie perfectly epitomizes the rampant self-deception women use to meet the dysfunctional expectations of feminism. If a quick fling is what you’re looking for. it’s not at all unheard of for feminist academics (Gilligan and Weitzman come to mind) to base their claims on “data” which has the suspicious quality of never having been seen by anyone else. while women claim to have had only nine. Plainly.com/?p=134 http://pewresearch.
Cougar Town and Desperate Housewives. feminists feel that men should be scolded for telling a lie or telling the truth. 49 http://www.50 In the process. Furthermore.com/news/local/118023919. Amelia implies that men need to learn how to read minds better if they hope to please women ruled by a “have your cake and eat it too” philosophy.” Apparently.kpic. women’s tendency to remain in denial about their limitations and weaknesses is indulged by shows like Sex And The City..thefrisky.Instead.html 33 . women’s loss of sexual appeal is minimized while consequences are artificially orchestrated to further their indulge their vanity.com/site/post/246-dealbreaker-he-hated-my-clothes/ 50 http://www. By normalizing the “cougar” lifestyle. Men are held hostage to this deceitful self-esteem architecture through constant threats of sexual deprivation. no one told him that honesty is not always the best policy49. women focus on maintaining the euphoric flow of approval afforded by their social advantage. Amelia McDonellParry. older women are given the freedom to sexually manipulate younger men with impunity.. editor-in-chief at The Frisky scolds her ex-boyfriend for the unforgiveable sin of telling the truth: “Apparently. like single-minded drug addicts.
weight or appearance. And nowhere is this deceptive trend from women more apparent than in the dating arena where lying becomes par for course. denial requires deception.” The article offers 54 sample lies. This deceptive advice is readily accepted by women desiring to feel good about themselves no matter what the cost. provision and approval of males.com/2011-03-23/news/women-s-funding-network-sex-trafficking-studyis-junk-science/ 52 http://www. women will just as easily lie to conceal the fact. the article coaches them to make up imaginary excuses. distortions and excuses to use in various social situations52.As much as men are discouraged from inquiring about a woman’s age. A recent article from Oprah’s website encourages women to use deception by providing “54 Ways to Get Out of Doing Anything You Don’t Want to Do. women feel pressured to impress. From cosmetic surgery to fake eyelashes. Feminism even teaches women how to lie more effectively51. “5 51 http://www. From Dove soap ads showcasing obese ladies in their underwear with the unspoken message: “Look at me! I’m fat and proud of it. this proves an impossible task for a gender designed to rely on the protection. Many advertisers now market their products to accommodate this deception. Feminism dictates that “strong.oprah.citypages. YourTango advises women to avoid telling the truth in an article titled.com/article/spirit/knowyourself/pkgempoweryourself/200807_omag_no 34 . in a vain quest to feed their malnourished self-esteem. For example. Men must buy into the lies being sold by feminism if women hope to successfully indulge their characteristic self-reprievals. Get used to it!” to blogs like The Rotund advocating fat acceptance. the cosmetics industry—an annual multi-billion dollar charade of doctored bodies and disguised faces—manipulates women into valuing self-deception. independent” women show no weakness. Perpetuating this deception even further. instead of simply saying no to a request. women are taught to believe that whatever gains popular acceptance must be right. however.
”53 This is supported by DivineCaroline’s claim from.com/200919150/white-lies-relationships 35 .yourtango.yourtango. one social psychologist studying liars found that people who lie are often more popular than their honest peers. who says: A little fabrication is mandatory in order to function within society. In fact. Vicki Santillano.Acceptable First Date Lies. Telling white lies here and there keeps others happy and keeps us in their good graces.com/200934330/5-acceptable-first-date-lies http://www.54 53 54 http://www.
” she said. “Large and in charge” slogans now validate women’s disorderly eating habits. Ms. Yet. “Anything more girly.com/2009/12/24/fashion/24APPEAL. Watson. Under such flawed reasoning.”55 55 http://www. well-worn jeans and a graying black cotton overcoat. Her lack of submission reveals a damaging cultural trend—hatred of healthy gender roles: PRETTY in pink? Not Deborah Watson. gross! I don’t want to wear that. But because emasculated men never protest.nytimes. “It’s not cool to be demure. further adding to the pervasiveness of female deception.html?_r=2&8dpc 36 . Whatever provokes a second look in the mirror is quickly sanitized by the diplomatic trappings of etiquette. female deception becomes a justifiable necessity. “If I see a floral print or pastel dress in my closet. getting a phone number from a woman is about as reliable as a promise made by a used car salesman. Emasculated men are conditioned to excuse women from being held accountable. “you don’t ask a woman’s age or weight! How dare you!” FeMales encoURageD to neglect tHeiR genDeR Roles Females possess a nature designed to complement that of males. Contempt for male authority defines the modern woman.Irresponsible statements like these lend unwarranted scientific credibility to female deception and place additional social pressure on women to lie to avoid society’s contempt. As any man actively dating already knows.’ ” she said. women see nothing wrong with their behavior. Dysfunctional women no longer fear being called “bitches” because “assertive” and “independent” have become fashionable excuses for their behavior. they would incur mocking allegations of sexual impotence or the catchall insult of harboring unresolved anger issues toward women. I just see as weak. women routinely slap euphemistic labels on top of it. feminism compels women to abandon this symbiotic design in favor of competing with males. And even having such standards proves useless without the requisite male authority to enforce them. has turned her back on those hallowed totems of femininity in favor of the raffish look of a big T-shirt. Instead of acknowledging this culture of deception. a fashion stylist in New York. And even if these men did complain. I think: ‘Ugh. Deceit thrives in an atmosphere devoid of respectful social standards.
feminism erodes our social structure. feminism causes women to hate the very reason men value them—their feminine nature. Essentially. supporting and comforting. But feminism’s insistence upon forcing females into maleoriented careers undermines the symbiotic nature of functional gender roles. planning and leading.edu/betseys/papers/Paradox%20of%20declining%20female%20 happiness. money that should rightfully be distributed to men is lost. Feminism’s irresponsible handling of common gender interests also infects the national economy. By condemning this complementary aspect. most women still expect men to pay for their dates. As more women are artificially introduced into the workforce via affirmative action hiring policies. Today. feminism makes it impossible for healthy relationships to survive.Instead of tending to feminine functions like nurturing.” women have been deceived into hating their natural function. Others become seduced by the promise of social status assigned to those pursuing authoritative careers. Housewives feel like pariahs. she abandons them for masculine functions like disciplining.upenn. Women desiring children or dependence on male financial care incur society’s contempt. This restricts the financial means of males and further prevents men from caring for those under their authority.wharton. relying on the traditional model of female dependence.56 By belittling functional gender roles. Through feminism’s short-sighted quest for “gender equality. Yet their romantic lives suffer.pdf 37 . Because feminism fails to differentiate between equality of person and equality of function this leads to a grave misunderstanding of the 56 http://bpp. Instead they’ve been taught to covet male functions in order to feel valuable.
The more women fall victim to feminism’s dangerous message. Both functions are vital to the proper operation of the body even though they are “unequal” in nature. instead of gentleness and submission. the foot cannot see where it is going. the more they are conditioned to hate their own feminine function. As Oprah stated. I’ve learned that we all want to be validated. women need validation to feel valuable. that it means something. Without the foot. oveR-eMPHasizing Male FUnctions Oprah Winfrey recently wrote: Isn’t meaning the common denominator of human experience? Over the years while doing my show. Today. their very worth is questioned. We all want to feel as if our lives have been significant and purposeful. Consider the human body. Their value is not determined by comparison. Yet. The hand is not equal to the eye in function. And without the eye. women covet strength and independence. but both play equally essential roles. Both foot and eye are unequal in function. Unless women carry briefcases and PhDs. Their value is determined by how well each fulfills their function. to know that what we say matters. But can a gender—unable to visit the bathroom alone—really be qualified to determine its own future? Does the current viral growth of gossip websites give us any indication of the 38 .worth of women. Feminists belittle housewives for their decision to stay at home and support their husbands. the eye cannot go anywhere. Both carry out different but equally essential roles. feminism misdirects this fundamental feminine aspiration by claiming it can only be met through developing a masculine function.
it exercises little conscience when criticizing young boys. faster. mommy issues. stronger.superficial tendencies of women left to their own devices? Can those who avoid personal accountability for the sake of convenience ever be fit to govern a nation. it’s still considered heresy to even think.com/#!5680722/duke-frat-boys-are-still-expert-douchebags 39 . let alone their own lives? HoW FeMinisM eMascUl ates Men tHe DeMonization oF Men Today’s feminist society subjects boys to its dysfunctional view of masculinity.57 Even though males are naturally smarter.58 While feminism supports ugly girls with age-old sentiments like. and violent tendencies are all fair game for feminism’s systematic mockery 57 http://manhood101. “beauty is only skin deep”. boys must endure a constant assault on their gender identity. Accusations of small penis size. let alone voice such obvious gender differences.com/forum/viewtopic. Instead.php?f=16&t=205 58 http://jezebel. more capable and more competent than women (as history and objective observation prove).
com/forum/viewtopic. preying on innocent “victims” (read: women). While girls are permitted to entice and provoke the male libido.60 Various news articles describe social networking sites like Myspace and Facebook as “breeding grounds for sexual predators” (read: men)”. Society fails to recognize the validity of male sexual needs.php?f=16&t=345 http://goodmenproject. DeMonizing Male sexUalitY Whenever male sexuality is expressed. TV shows condition impressionable boys to view ridicule of their gender as a normal experience.com/newsroom/reporting-rape-culture-media-men-sexuality/ http://digitalcommons. It’s common nowadays for males to be thought of as potential rapists and pedophiles.edu/cgi/viewcontent.61 Society neglects to teach boys how to address the sexual desires 59 60 61 http://manhood101. Boys’ inadequacies are magnified. Sexual advances are now characterized as criminal coercion tactics. Even in schools.of masculinity. it’s quickly labeled as perverse. boys are shamed for expressing sexual their desires. Feminism teaches young boys to fear and loathe their own sexuality.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 40 . The feminist media is quick to condemn young men in the court of public opinion. Girls’ faults are accepted. Being outwitted and outperformed by females becomes an expectation for young men growing up.59 The feminist media portrays men as incompetent.unl. Male social incompetence is stressed while female mental prowess is exaggerated. boys are told girls mature faster. sexually depraved fools. girls are more valuable than boys. The message is clear: in a feminist society. desperately seeking the approval of women. But what are they guilty of? The same thing all men are guilty of—desiring to have their sexual needs met.
edu/cgi/viewcontent.. even psychopathic. “pedophile” and “predator” have subtlety worked their way into our daily vocabulary. it makes little mention of female relationship responsibilities. Males are left unprepared. without any relevant social training to meet their needs. men are handed the blame for most relationship failures. Women’s incessant complaints of “controlling and abusive” behavior by spouses and boyfriends are never reconciled with the fact that women actually control and abuse all the dating cards.62 Common feminist slanders like “rapist”. While society trains women to seek out golden parachute marriages. male sexuality is suppressed under the feminist proviso look. men today feel guilty about addressing their sexual needs. Dating incoMPetence Countless advice columns make accusations of male dating incompetence: men don’t listen. According to the media.unl.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 41 . They feel inclined to overvalue the female gender at the expense of their own male identity. violence and sexual acquisition sum up the entirety of male interests. ad infinitum.” Attention is focused almost entirely on addressing female whims while men find all their concerns lumped into one-dimensional categories for society to mock and condemn.. As a result. All the while. So-called dating experts advise men to “do it right. men don’t consider. feminism wags its finger at men 62 http://digitalcommons. men don’t appreciate. sports. This becomes easy when male mating strategies are characterized as criminal and immoral. Instead.generated by girls. food. Instead. but don’t touch. or else.
unhealthy relationships. these young men grow up lonely and frustrated.” Of course.” Instead of addressing men’s social failures. unrealistic ideals. society normalizes male emasculation. Feminism conditions men to hate their sexual necessities. dysfunctional men learn to ridicule the very thought of social freedom. The older they get. Years of poor social conditioning under feminism has reduced their lives down to a conglomeration of conflicting rules. the unfair assignment of shame causes men to abandon their masculinity. countless young men have been ill-advised to “just be yourself. Like slaves bred into captivity. The systematic assault on their male identity proves too much to bear. Throughout their lives. Violence and inappropriate sexual behaviors consume many men today. Lacking the necessary resources to meet their sexual needs in a healthy way. Men today shun the exposure of their own miserable condition. this advice proves useless because their “self” is the problem. advising them to “take it like a man. They would rather forfeit their authority than risk becoming social outcasts. fear their social inadequacies and ridicule those dare speak out against this culture of shame. But instead of offering sympathy or dating resources. the more they bear the fruits of these harmful messages. males are subjected to these constant messages of social ridicule and sexual disapproval.who have the audacity to demand gender equality for males. running from the truth like fearful cockroaches. tHe cYcle oF eMascUlation Growing up. Obeying women at any cost and expecting Disney movie results characterizes the delusional outlook of these emasculated 42 . unattractive social behaviors. society dismisses male concerns.
Steve Harvey. This unhealthy social trend is then passed on to future generations as these emasculated men grow up to become role models to future generations of unsuspecting boys. effort. there are thousands of emasculated males willing to offer unconditional approval.com/documents/PrssRelCmplnt_000. Women are at liberty to refuse male authority when emasculated men outnumber functional men by the thousands. the feminist culture has molded these men into the impotent Nice Guy model. Even feminist political and legal policies (like Joe Biden’s VAWA laws63) support this emasculated view of excusing women of all accountability. In “Act Like a Lady. Dysfunctional female behavior is not only accommodated. Think Like Man. Men today lack competent male mentors and a guiding vision of what constitutes proper masculine expression. it’s systematically justified. Being themselves doesn’t solve the damage already done to their gender identity.males. Discussion of female accountability is almost non-existent. Instead. lack oF Men’s ResoURces Women receive access to thousands of female-focused support networks built into this feminist culture. these men typically earn the “best friend” label. they never view such males in a romantic or sexual context.roydenhollander. thus ensuring the cycle of emasculation. and attention on females who never reciprocate. Perpetually wasting their time. They use their positions of social and economic influence to foster the cycle of emasculation. portrays cheating as an exclusively male shortcoming. Those few men who do demand respectful treatment from women are ridiculed and dismissed as disgruntled misogynists.DOC 43 . Women know that for every authoritative man who refuses to accommodate bitch behavior. And even though girls claim to prefer the Nice Guy. On TV shows like 63 http://www.” emasculated male. money.
The accompanying press release revealed his gender-biased goal of “improving women’s economic security by ensuring that each of the (cabinet-level) agencies is working to directly improve the economic status of women.64 When the federal government itself supports discrimination against males. Under feminist leadership. self-absolution is a vaccine administered to prevent the onset of reality. Funding “Women’s Studies” and the “Psychology of Women” takes priority over any male equivalent courses. They also find acceptance for their weight issues. And regardless of their incompetent relationship skills.” Once again. despite their indulgent lifestyles. President Barak Obama himself signed an executive order creating an unconstitutional White House Council on Women and Girls.com/2011/04/most-important-issue-this-blog-has-ever. the civil rights of men remain in jeopardy.Oprah. gender equality becomes a criminal shakedown of the American public.pdf 65 http://falserapesociety.html 44 . In a feminist’s world. consolation is just an advice column away. no matter how graphic. Gender bias also infiltrates publicly funded education systems where it should be least welcome. economic support is unfairly funneled to women (via an emasculated male) while men’s economic status is continually neglected. women can discuss sexual issues with impunity.65 64 http://www.com/documents/FirstAmndCmplnt1.roydenhollander.blogspot.
From “Angry Harry” to Paul Elam66. Thus. Young boys are taught to hate their own masculinity.php?f=18&t=287 67 http://en. They’re afraid by acknowledging you. Publications like The Good Men Project purport to speak for men. The very thought of acknowledging the superior strength and intelligence of males is demonized while female capacity is exaggerated. men are left 66 http://manhood101. men’s rights leaders ignorantly endorse feminist gender constructs by removing inherent gender distinctions.”67 Instead of teaching males how to get their needs met. these deceitful leaders indoctrinate young men with the feminist agenda.. Yet even their staff is populated by hardcore feminists like Amanda Marcotte who demonize men as “rape-loving scum”: “. In the end.tHe FailURe oF Men’s RigHts leaDeRsHiP Even men’s rights advocates display telltale signs of emasculation. Mainstream “male” mentor groups are even worse. Absorb it. Male gender performance facts are systematically suppressed. sleazy scum that it’s no wonder no one talks to you. men are led to believe their male function is less valuable than their female counterparts. you sick. they will catch the evil.. hateful bastards.wikipedia. Myths advertising female competence are reinforced.such lowly. Know this.com/forum/viewtopic.org/wiki/Amanda_Marcotte 45 . Hope you enjoy sleeping at night.
Without intellectual honesty. teaches men guerrilla warfare dating tactics. masculinity becomes a mockery. men have no practical means to get their expectations met. All fail to adequately address today’s absence of male authority. HoW FeMinisM UnDeRMines social inteR action WHeRe Dating “exPeRts” go WRong Various celebrities and mainstream personalities have joined the ranks of self-appointed dating and relationship experts. From Oprah Winfrey perennially ruling female opinions with her popular “life-coaching” publications to Tom Leykis broadcasting his cut-throat male-oriented dating strategies to self-proclaimed “world’s greatest pick-up artist. the next generation of men have no to even address the problems created by feminism. the Men’s Rights Movement is reduced to the Wishful Thinking Movement. The Rules. Women are From Venus.bargaining for sex as usual—only now with fewer bargaining chips. Act Like a Woman) all advocate the same flawed approach. Without practical knowledge of biological gender limitations. Her default assumption about men’s near-exclusive culpability for relationship failures prevents women from ever addressing their dysfunctional behavior.g. Think Like a Man. On the other end of the spectrum. The resources she prescribes (e. Men are from Mars. While this approach helps men 46 . nationally syndicated radio talkshow host. In the hands of these con artists. Thus. Tom Leykis. offering his bar and club dating tactics. Oprah epitomizes the failed approach of female-oriented relationship advice experts remove the thought of accountability from her gender.” Mystery. today’s purported experts offer incompetent advice based upon the flawed premise of feminism.
His Leykis 101 method advocates the traditional and cultural appearance of masculinity rather than its functional form.develop some ability to address their sexual needs. Like other dating authorities. this type of ignorant correlation presents a significant problem. Just making the effort to initiate social interaction results in constant penalization and reprimands for 47 . peeing while sitting down is a common illustration used by Leykis to illustrate “unmanly” behavior. the poster boy of this movement. While adhering to “manly” bathroom etiquette may seem like a justifiable prerequisite to Manhood. such irrelevant concerns distract men from focusing on the real issue—the loss of their authority. Leykis 101 also advocates traditional male dating practices like waiting three days to call a girl and saying as little as possible on a date. they still suffer from the same core issue—the neglect of male authority. Mystery. only to be “shot down” for doing something deemed inappropriate according to some arbitrary dating rule found in Cosmo. Another adaptive response to feminism has been the popularization of the “Seduction Community” with its various pick-up “gurus”. effectively eliminating any possibility of solving it. men have approached women in the hopes of starting a conversation. Although these seduction systems avoid typical Nice Guy mistakes like attempting to buy affection. For example. ignorantly links bitch behavior to evolutionary development. Though well-intentioned. it overemphasizes a destructive concept of masculinity. such restrictions lead to neurotic. however. they present dysfunctional female behavior as a social norm. tHe “gaMe” oF social inteRaction Countless times. approval-seeking behaviors that discourage the exercise of male authority.
passive approach. unforgiving attitude of feminism. Emotionally frustrated women become more abrasive in their communication while sexually frustrated men fight back with coldhearted dating strategies.men. only to be penalized for a lack of mind-reading skills. they begin to realize a vast network of unwritten rules stands in their way. Some respond to sexual language. Oblivious to these contradictions. The more men encounter the demanding. This leads to a dating environment full of anger and resentment. Others are turned off by it. these behavior protocols vary sharply depending on the woman.” Others ridicule him for being unwilling to initiate sexual activity. 48 . Others advise against a cautious. Thus. Men can find themselves eliminated from romantic consideration based on any number of conflicting criteria. the more they suffer. the more women demand. To make matters worse. Others want to lead a relationship. both genders’ needs go unanswered. Some refuse to date men below a certain income level. guys become neurotic in their approach to dating. Taking a cursory look at female-oriented dating publications reveals a cornucopia of conflicting standards. As men engage these dysfunctional women in conversation. Some fault a man for being too “forward. The more men compromise. Some find a confident demeanor too cocky. advice and strategies. leaving them puzzled. Without proper guidance to weed through this mess of conflicting advice. They end up bending over backwards to accommodate every childish expectation they encounter. Feminism conditions women to harbor unrealistic dating standards. both genders cling to unrealistic dating standards. the unhappier they become. the more they view women like video games—to be played and discarded. Others sneer at the very mention of material prosperity. The “Game” of social interaction persists in its present problematic form because emasculated males allow it. some women prefer a man who takes charge.
The only difference is his denial of the fact. women publicly adore the Nice Guy. no matter how unreasonable. By giving compliments and spending money. he adopts a self-pitying mind-set that characterizes all his relationships. The Nice Guy embodies the dishonesty inherent in all emasculated males.Video games are defined by their unforgiving nature. This is a picture of women today. he’s only “nice” in his own mind. his behavior appears selfless and altruistic. They may even lead him on for years. Nice Guys vainly hope to attract women. regardless of how little she respects him. you lose your opportunity to go any further with them. time. his 49 . but inwardly his motive is the same as any other guy—he wants sex. he blames others for being too “mean. Outwardly. While the Nice Guy claims that he wants nothing in return for his chivalrous generosity. Instead of realizing his dishonest behavior is the cause of his problems. Mess up just once. and resources. He is a “YES” man—a man who will undermine his own authority by doing whatever a woman says. Feminism conditions him to believe that sex can only be gained by catering to a woman’s every whim. he deceitfully hides his romantic intentions. they constantly seek the approval of women. while making him believe a relationship is imminent. They ask you to perform a certain set of actions to perfection. and you pay the price—game over. Because he lacks the training to deal with the disapproval of women and the emasculating effects of feminism. unless played perfectly. They will bend over backwards to accommodate any expectation. effort. milking all his attention and financial resources. But this approach produces two types of dysfunctional males: the neurotic Nice Guy and the disinterested Player. Unable to bear responsibility for his actions. tHe nice gUY Nice Guys fear the disapproval of women and will do anything to avoid it. Thus. he secretly pines for reciprocation. But while earning ubiquitous approval from society.” Because of his chivalrous behavior.
he will exploit her emotional investment to get his way. Thus.com/celebrity/celebrity-parade/2009/1228-jude-law-sherlock-holmes. Jude Law tells Parade: I think women like bad boys. His concern is not the happiness of women but his own. tHe PlaYeR On the other end of the spectrum is the Player. they like it. You know. they secretly crave his ability to take control. at a certain age you figure out what works for you and being a good boy never worked for me. the Player only cares about his needs. which necessitates much deception. But unlike the Nice Guy.html 50 . Women secretly loathe his lack of self-respect and unwillingness to lead a relationship.parade. he often maintains relationships with multiple women.68 But because the player doesn’t care for her needs. Nice Guys perpetually remain sexually frustrated dating punchlines. That’s been my experience. He usually earns the “best friend” label and nothing more.actions garner little romantic interest. ultimately his partners remain frustrated and unsatisfied. I just think it’s kind of a given. He understands women’s need to emotionally invest in their sexual relationships and takes advantage of this fact. Players simply don’t have the requisite social training to maintain a successful relationship where both parties needs are being met. To this end. Nothing is more intoxicating than a man who knows how to get his expectations met. And if you’re a bad boy. If his expectations begin to compete with the expectations of the woman he’s dating. most women remain indifferent to his attention. 68 http://www. Although women may publicly badmouth his behavior. His goal is simple: sexual gratification.
• Instead of answering why women should benefit from unfair divorce laws. Today. men are accused of being sexually irresponsible. This creates an environment hostile to the proper exercise of male authority.WHY FeMinisM PeRsists societY not alloWing tHe exaMination oF FeMinisM It’s difficult to even address feminism’s glaring hypocrisies and damaging social policies when women have been conditioned for so long to believe they can only be victims. Refusal to abide by this emasculating social code even elicits public outrage. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to provoke violence. • Instead of answering why women take advantage of the child support system. Dysfunctional women condemn masculinity. women resort to petty threats and angry denunciations: “You’ll never get laid! You’ll never get a date!” Threatening dissenting men with sexual starvation and social ostracization is a common practice. • Instead of answering why women demand equal pay for less work in less demanding jobs. To even question feminism brings up immediate accusations of misogyny and sexism. a perverted version of masculinity exists where dominance over other men is celebrated while dominance over women 51 . men are accused of being default abusers. You’d have better luck blaming a newborn baby. In fact. are allowed to defraud men into paying child support. men are accused of being sexist pigs. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to advertise their sexuality. Thus it’s easy for feminists to deceptively changes the nature of the argument to absolve themselves of any blame: • Instead of answering why financially independent women should get free dinners. men are accused of being oppressive and misogynistic. men are accused of having commitment issues. men are accused of being deadbeat dads. Emasculated men punish it. • Instead of answering why women who demand sole ownership of their bodies. both prevent males from regaining their Manhood. men are accused of being sexual predators. If changing the nature of the argument fails. female victimhood has been thoroughly ingrained into our culture that trying to hold women accountable for anything is universally condemned.
FaUltY logic DUe to social conDitioning Men growing up in this feminist culture have been conditioned to think haphazardly. governments hate their citizens by controlling them with laws.com/watch?v=AbWxfClh-z8 70 http://www.youtube. vacuums and cooks. parents hate their children by controlling them with boundaries and healthy people hate their own lives by exercising selfcontrol over their diet. In fact.is condemned.com/archives/019875. Those men are what we call misogynists70. have sex with whenever you want and in a perfect world. They’ve grown up under the damaging philosophy of Relativism that gives credibility to all ideas no matter how ridiculous or impractical.”[sic] Thus.html 52 . Feminists figure it’s much easier to apply intellectually dishonest definitions to their opponents than it is to answer for their assault upon the male gender identity. according to feminists. the perfect woman is one you can control. All functional relationships are automatically deemed hateful when control is demonized to mean slavery. definitive conclusions are often mocked as “intolerant.feministing. generals hate their soldiers by controlling them with orders. without rhyme or reason.69 As a writer for Feministing recently stated: “For some men.” 69 http://www.
Universal constants remain unchanged despite what others think or do. If you stepped off a curb and could not know for certain which direction you’d travel. absolute standards are not subject to anyone’s whims or personal preferences. People daily rely on these laws to make healthy economic decisions. Where emotion betrays. you could no longer depend on it to govern your life. Fortunately. principles remain steadfast. 53 . Where good intentions falter. their social interactions are governed by their good intentions and personal opinions. their own personal interests supersede your welfare. Such individuals not only prove unreliable. Dependence upon the knowledge of a natural law’s constant nature helps you understand how to benefit from its correct application and avoid suffering the consequences of violating its boundaries. universal principles do not play favorites. your life would become very difficult. Be wary of those who champion arbitrary boundaries over absolute standards. Every facet of social interaction is governed by some universal principle. Be thankful that the law of gravity isn’t a subjective opinion. But unlike these selfish individuals. Your experience would be quite frustrating without its constant nature. justice concerns itself with everyone’s happiness. otherwise. stable natural laws govern the flow of money in the economy. Justice demands fair treatment for all parties. Relativists declare “everybody is right!” Consequently. Understanding the dependable nature of any universal law (principle) becomes an absolute necessity if you hope to bring stability to your life. focus on their own happiness. Where will power fails.Absolute standards do not exist in this unstable fantasy world of personal preferences and subjective emotional judgments. Even in the business world. especially your social interactions. principles triumph. principles remain the bedrock of our experiences. you should consider how they stabilize your experiences. While those who rely on their subjective opinion. Instead of seeing universal laws as a restrictive burden.
justify and adapt to slavery. It’s no longer productive to merely ask how men and women can attain gender equality. How you doing?” you: “Nothing. a more fundamental question had to be asked: was slavery even necessary. Everything you do depends solely on your personal preference. good looks.. a radical approach was required.” 54 . Addressing feminism requires just such a radical change in perspective. Few could even conceive of eradicating the entire institution. compromise. psychological studies. even natural. You assume that social interaction is made up of cue cards with cool things to say. Instead. Just chilling. All these poor misconceptions lead to today’s common social interaction problems: Boring & Superficial you: “What’s up. Instead of looking for palatable ways to cope with slavery. a new question must be posed: is gender equality even necessary? Should women try to replace the role of men? Should men embrace emasculation? Or should men and women start learning how to fulfill the functions of their own respective genders. to address their chronic dissatisfaction. fashionable outfits. sexual techniques. even those slaves who believed in the ideal of racial equality didn’t consider it possible to be completely free in that society. WHY YoUR social inteRactions Fail You’re stranded because you view social interaction like you’re looking at a fastfood menu where all items are optional.” friend: “Cool. Thus. At that time. bro?. they learned to excuse. popular dating advice. Instead.Recognizing tHe PRobleM anD cHanging oUR aPPRoacH Today’s situation for men ruled by feminism parallels the historical institution of slavery in the United States. Cool. It had become so embedded in their culture and way of life that it seemed normal. natural charisma and sheer dumb luck.” friend: “Sup.
It’s pretty good. 55 . where you’re going to go and what you’re going to do.no Direction [Purposeless conversations with girls you like] “Hi! So what classes are you in? I have a bunch of math classes and a theater class. yet you do nothing to prepare yourself. I like my history of literature class though. but you’re too worried about looking stupid to ask questions. The tests are really easy. but you rely on her to make the conversation interesting. You don’t understand the material but never ask anyone for help. You become angry and resentful when others do well on the test.“ can’t leaD a Woman A woman agrees to date. You sit back passively. I think I’m going to do well in it. You put the burden on her to decide what you’re going to eat. The professor is great. irreSponSiBle paSSive Behavior You’re failing Economics class. hoping someone will reach out to you.
You fantasize about nobody ever bothering you. You have no idea how to get them to do their chores or correct their disrespectful behavior. I’m going to . but they refuse to listen to you.” 56 .” paSSive-aggreSSive “Why are you being so mean to me?” “I guess we can go to the beach.” “You choose where we go. “Someday.can’t make a DeciSion “Should we eat Mexican food or Greek food? I don’t know. unrealiStic expectationS You wish girls would just come up to you and ask you out.” “I like all music equally. Whatever you want to do is fine with me. Your friends constantly make fun of you. but you have no idea how to make them stop. You just want to go through life without any confrontations. You complain about it..[insert lofty goal].” noBoDy liStenS to you You tell your children to behave. Your favorite phase begins with. I know I’m going to hate it.” “I’ll just watch whatever movie you guys want to watch. Anything is fine with me. But I’ll probably get a sunburn and it will be so cold outside today.. You dream about becoming famous and rich or changing your appearance so girls will like you.
That means we’re going to see Sex And The City together.” can’t get your neeDS met You spend $150 for a dinner.” “Couples should always compromise. From TV shows to movies to friends to family to advice columns to the internet. But it never happens. they’ll fall in love with you. Just accept your fate as a lonely guy. Your girlfriend wants to hang out with her male “friends. You’ll never be cool.” “Bowling sucks. but your date never calls back. you’re swamped with a sea of poor relationships models—divorces. girlS take aDvantage of you “You’re the guy. You think only handsome guys get the hottest girls.” “Give me an engagement ring. You have to be a gentleman and pay for my dinner and drinks. sexless marriages. but you can’t stop her.” “That movie wasn’t great. there are countless voices filling your head with these disastrous dating fallacies. You’ll never be rich. Your co-workers never take you seriously. Everywhere you go. or you’re not getting sex tonight!” PooR social inteRaction MoDels You probably think women are attracted to money.” This makes you jealous. You’re not the boss! We’re a team. couples constantly fighting 57 . you’re daily bombarded with self-defeating messages. You weren’t born an “alpha” male. On top of that.poor expreSSion “This day is good.” “Skiing is cool. You think by being super nice to girls. Maybe you think you have no shot with hot women because you’re not an “alpha” male.” “I like you. She calls you “controlling and abusive” if you even try.
And “be yourself” fails because you’ve been raised to think and behave like an introverted social misfit. liMiteD social inteRaction knoWleDge/exPeRience Your view of relationships is shaped by pop culture. 58 . friends and your limited social skills.” you want to remind them to fuck off. “Be nice to women” hasn’t gotten you anywhere.for control. Why? Simple—no direction. You socialize sporadically at best. children defying their parents. employees resenting their bosses. Maybe you talk to the grocery store clerk or say hello to a neighbor. When others remind you to “just be confident. But for the most part. And the longer you’re stranded. WHeRe to staRt Because of your poor social conditioning growing up. Social interaction problems runs rampant in our society. the more awkward you feel around people. students threatening their teachers. Most of it is useless and will actually prevent you from meeting your needs. you’re stuck on a secluded island of social incompetence. Interacting with strangers feels like climbing a mountain. etc. family. you’ve become isolated.
you first need to learn how to interact with other males. Instead of worrying about how to get a girlfriend. Without direction. Sifting through social advice is the last thing a person in your position is qualified to do. We’re going to focus on becoming thorough. This means starting from the ground up. Unlike your prior attempts to socialize. You need to learn exactly what constitutes a successful social interaction. 59 .In short. we’re going to do things differently. And the very thought of a confrontation makes your skin turn white. You skip steps at your own peril. you also have no idea what even constitutes social competence. If you’re in a rush to become competent in a few weeks. Don’t skip the fundamental principles in the quest for instant social success. You have no idea what to say to a pretty girl because you have no idea how to express your needs in an attractive way. Social training is cumulative. Making new friends seems impossible because you don’t know what to say to strangers. you’re lost in a social wilderness without a map to direct your behavior. let me save you the trouble—you’re going to fail.
Yet as universal as social interaction is. What works for store clerks also works for celebrities. Principles set the same boundaries and rules for everyone. What works underwater. what works in Hawaii works in Russia. Everybody eats through their mouth. at all times just like gravity or eating. works on an airplane. What works for fat people also works for skinny people. No one is exempt from these universal laws. just like everyone feels the same gravitational pull. it’s misunderstood by nearly everyone. 60 . The principles that govern social interaction apply to everyone. ironically.social inteRaction is UniveRsal Social interaction is universal in nature.
Public scrutiny is essential in distinguishing between unstable assumptions and objective facts. whatever lacks purpose.” But without open discussion and public scrutiny. Conclusions only gain credibility if they can withstand a skeptic’s unforgiving eye. Both inhibit the discovery of true cause and effect. This ensures the division of immutable principles from emotional theories. brutal analysis. 62 . Valuable knowledge can only be separated from good intentions by meticulous examination. All dysfunctional theories follow the law of entropy. whatever fails to pass the test of public examination will inevitably move toward a greater state of disorder.PaRt ii: UnDeRstanDing tHe solUtion HoW to aPPRoacH social inteR action tHe neeD FoR PUblic scRUtinY Although there are other types of purported male-oriented resources (from religious groups to Tony Robbins to Men’s Rights Activists to the “Seduction Community”/Pickup Artists) on the web. The truth of a matter can only be discerned when all parties are allowed to examine and test the merits of any claims. Insecurity fuels decisions as often as imagination works to protect the self-esteem. Don’t be afraid to treat any assumptions with unsympathetic. You should openly welcome criticism. there’s no practical way to achieve that. they also have to deal with the con artists looking to make a quick buck off of their naivety. Whatever lacks order. Blindly accepting any theory will lead to failure. There’s a lot of talk about needing to “man up. Not only must men weed through confusing and contradictory definitions of masculinity. none of them offer a solution to the problem of male emasculation plaguing men today.
so does the resulting dysfunctional behavior. you seek satisfaction as your end goal. ORDER When you clean your room. Disorder must be removed for satisfaction to exist. and spiritual forms of pleasure like eating. eat a balanced meal or accomplish a task. In everything you do. But what brings satisfaction. friendship. psychological. stabilize a relationship. Full satisfaction represents 63 D ISORD ER . you need to be sure you’re depending on reliable knowledge and not just wishful thinking. and love represent this ongoing thirst for satisfaction.Failure to carefully scrutinize assumptions leads to the construction of reckless theories. you become more satisfied. Physical. In order to avoid confusion and frustration. What conditions are necessary to produce it. As you move away from disorder and progress toward a state of order. you experience some degree of satisfaction. satisFaction You are designed with an innate desire for pleasure. As these errors grow more elaborate.
the highest state of order—the removal of all disorder. event. moving away from an orderly state creates dissatisfaction or a state of disorder. Whatever lacks order is automatically dissatisfying. To end in a satisfying condition. Conversely. People growing up in chaotic. Extremes of either indulgence or deprivation indicate a disorderly root perspective governing your life in a harmful way. Any disorderly thing. Order is an indication that you’re moving in the right direction toward satisfaction. and unhealthy eating habits are all symptoms of disorder. Unhappy places of poverty are lined with trash and graffiti. painful environments as a child. filthy houses. experience psychological disorders as adults. 64 . circumstance or person is by default moving in the wrong direction toward dissatisfaction. it’s necessary to create order by eliminating all disorder. Dirty clothes.
In short.tHe caUse oF attRaction Men blindly search for ways to attract women. This is naturally more attractive than a disorderly body 65 . They study animal mating psychology. Resolving this tension brings you toward an orderly state. support relationships. develop conversational gimmicks (aka pickup lines). don fashionable clothing. politicians) to be attractive because of their ability to garner massive social approval. it’s necessary to investigate the principle that governs attraction. purchase services. in turn. Consider social status. Sex also leads to children. the important question remains unanswered: what really attracts women? To discover the answer. celebrities. proportional arrangement of their bodies expresses order. represented by unimpressive colored paper. Because social acceptance and approval are necessary components of an orderly life. You desire sex with a woman to resolve your sexual tension. functions to create order when properly employed. While its aesthetic appeal may be limited. secure protection. like any other tool. and attempt to raise their social status—all for the sake of attracting women. money. Their facial symmetry along with the balanced. But they often erode whenever conflict exposes a lack of male authority. You can use money to buy food. Meanwhile. Consider sex. some men do form relationships. Many women find men of high social status (rock stars. women are drawn to men of high social status who can meet this need. and influence others. these men begin to resent the very concept of a relationship. its actual significance proves quite attractive to people. decorate their bodies with tattoos and piercings. Consider money. Consider physically attractive people. Frustrated and confused. leads to an orderly social outcome—the propagation of life. Granted. This. enhance their appearance through weight training.
injuries. In most cases. even though you’re not an art critic. 66 . he’s abused the rule of proportions by drawing the legs too long or the arms too short. The closer individual elements of the body align to the specific. balanced arrangement of complementary parts that appeals to our highest aesthetic sense of order. balanced proportions characteristic of humans. there exists a pleasing. we all recognize one elegant design—one universal expression of order in the human body. varying stages of growth and old age. ORDER DISORDER Regardless of your cultural origin. the eyes too close or the mouth off center. when an amateur artist draws the human body. This is why. you can instantly tell something is off.whose features are disproportional to others or missing altogether. Amid all the birth defects. the more you’re attracted to this sense of order. Your innate sense of order recognizes the natural disparity in the human form.
For example. Facts in themselves are meaningless without purposeful arrangement. We attribute love to appearance or affection to social reputation. we mistakenly credit these agents of order for causing attraction. figuring out how to build a house and discovering how to properly interact with people are examples of knowledge that brings order to your life. just knowing this fact does not create order. I don’t need to ask whether or not this book is attractive. social status and symmetrical faces on a daily basis. Because it helps men arrange and control their social interactions in a satisfying manner. apples are red. FUnctional knoWleDge Functional knowledge is attractive because it creates order when applied. 67 . There is no design in a fact. Functional knowledge describes this orderly arrangement of facts. Once this purpose is achieved. Only this proves ultimately attractive. Rather. it meets the standard of attraction. orderly arrangement that draws us.Because we deal with money. order is produced. Become a man who knows how to apply what he’s learned to create order. Facts need to be arranged to accomplish a purpose. However. Order is the attracting principle— the common denominator fulfilling everyone’s universal need. Only applied knowledge contains the relevant element of order. it is the resulting harmonious. it’s not the tools themselves that cause attraction. Don’t strive to be a container of facts. However. Learning how to grow apple trees.
You will naturally gravitate toward finding one woman to meet your companionship needs. When dependence is mutual. etc. and women have needs that only men can meet. obey and support them. Men have needs that only women can meet. In laymen’s terms. You may want to have sex with super models. This means men are ultimately attracted to women who submit to their authority. men are drawn to women who appreciate male care. Since order ultimately meets everyone’s needs. regardless of what they claim or intend. In practical terms.). And they give men the opportunity to depend on women (for sex. Properly functioning men and women are attracted to those who meet their needs. affection. Such orderly 68 . Neither of these dysfunctional perspectives produce a healthy relationship. You may daydream about sleeping with an entire harem of women. Romantic relationships meet the needs of both genders. children.attRaction toDaY In today’s disorderly social climate. and women are attracted to men who direct and take charge of a relationship. Romantic relationships give women the opportunity to depend on men (for protection. The most orderly form of this arrangement is a romantic relationship. etc. and women are ultimately attracted to men who create an orderly arrangement with that authority. men overemphasize the importance of physical beauty while women obsess over social status. Real long-term attraction is always linked to necessity. security. companionship. this means men are attracted to women who listen. and women are drawn to men who provide that care. But in the end. A strictly sexual relationship will not meet that basic human need. it proves fundamentally attractive to both genders. When men and women mutually depend on each other to meet their needs.). a proper relationship is formed. support. naturally gravitate toward romantic relationships. whatever you depend upon becomes attractive. This is why men and women. order is established. your need for companionship will dictate your behavior. stability. provision.
however. Today’s society wrecks the potential for healthy relationships. We’re taught to flee from our parents as soon as possible. It deceives women into thinking that men are only attracted to females who compete for male authority. The media and pop psychology even denigrate functional relationships by assigning “dependence” a negative connotation. However. Yet today’s dysfunctional society abhors dependence. From our worship of individualism to our ‘dog eat dog’ business attitude. No living person ever graduates from eating. Leading a woman is deemed barbaric. avoiding death means recognizing your need for life. 69 . these so-called experts fail to realize that life has always been a matter of dependence. this rejection of necessity undermines any potential for order in relationships. We’re cautioned to avoid depending on others. drinking or breathing. independence is celebrated. attraction is ultimately being sabotaged. We’re shamed into hiding our weaknesses and lying about our failures. People who neglect their necessities or fail to realize they are limited by necessity. Submission is condemned. Thus. Deferring to a man is equated with defeat.relationships cause mutual satisfaction. True independence equates to death. Everywhere you look. The human life depends on so many conditions and limitations to thrive. Tables and chairs don’t depend on anyone for anything because they lack life. The less you depend on others. soon find out that no human can truly live an independent life. Limitation is scorned. we’re plagued with messages commanding us to be different from everyone else. Weakness is vilified. By encouraging competition between the genders. Sentiments like “I don’t need a man” and “I’m strong and independent” are intended to impress men. the nearer you move to your grave.
men no longer have the means to sustain attraction in a relationship. Without this authority. independent behavior of today’s women turns men off. death results. the media provides approval. Thus. However. 70 . women feel validated by association. Men with high social status are able to acquire the approval women need and naturally seek. The emphasis placed on appearance today is no coincidence.just to feel like we don’t need anyone else. business careers provide an illusion of self-sufficiency. Because men have lost their personal authority. Society further compounds the attraction problem by employing the feminist State to replace the function of males. Yet whenever independence enters relationships. men no longer have the ability to govern and create order in the lives of women. The competitive. Today’s women are ushered into a dysfunctional relationship with the State. women now focus on the one remaining authoritative element still ruling their lives—social authority represented by social status. Because new laws now limit male authority. When society approves of these men. fertility clinics provide children. a welfare system provides food and shelter. men shift their focus onto the one remaining orderly aspect of females—their physical beauty. By the same token. Independence kills attraction. courts offers social support. the only thing left to appreciate is their physical appearance. and an emasculated celebrity is still emasculated. women have also shifted their focus to respond to the lack of male leadership in relationships. physical appearance and social status ultimately fall short since neither can produce or sustain an orderly relationship. a beautiful bitch is still a bitch. police offer protection. As female independence increases under feminism.
too sHoRt. it can’t teach women to dress appropriately in public or prevent women from creating dangerous situations for themselves. welfare housing can provide shelter. the State undermines male authority— the basis for male attraction. have no ability to train women to make responsible eating choices. big ears.and prescription drugs provide instant pleasure. Giving women access to higher paying jobs can’t produce satisfying relationships. And health care programs providing medical benefits. but can’t overrule poor spending habits that cause poverty in the first place. hair loss and a crooked nose 71 . the state’s inability to exercise proper authority over women results in a thoroughly unsatisfying relationship. By replacing the function of men. I’m ugly. First. Likewise. Giving women custodial rights of children after a divorce will never solve the problem of overcrowded prisons created by single mothers. I’m bald. Ironically.” Men today worry about not being tall enough or handsome enough to attract women. can’t bribe women into making responsible choices. You assume women reject you because of your lack of physical appeal. too UglY. Taxpayer-funded academic programs providing unconditional approval and resources. In short. But you really have no idea what causes lasting attraction in women. acne scars. you must recognize the difference between a disorderly physical appearance and a disorderly life. too [inseRt inaDeqUacY] “I’m short. Abnormal height. While the judicial system works to deter crime. the State’s own dysfunctional authority can’t meet the needs of women.
You were born that way. Others prove more difficult (crooked nose. Some genetic disorders can be addressed quite easily (braces for crooked teeth. The latter things result from a lack of self-control— your inability to exercise your authority to create order in your life. is under your control. obesity.are all examples of a disorderly physical appearance. on the other hand. acne and wrinkles—disorderly conditions that you were born with. bad posture and muttering your words are all symptoms of a disorderly life. The former things are out of your control. Unfortunately. piercings. your balding head. balding). Your crooked nose. But it protects against the ridicule of obesity—a disorderly condition directly under your control. Your poor eating choices resulted in a disorderly condition (you’re fat). On the other hand. today’s society scolds you for having crooked teeth. your asymmetrical 72 . But you should realize that none of these conditions are significant enough to inhibit your ability to attract others. your wrinkles. All of these can easily be overcome. Being fat. medication for acne). tattoos. Being short is not under your control. your discolored tooth.
smoking. An ugly man who can create order will inevitably become more attractive over time than a handsome man who can’t. you believe yourself to be unattractive. Creating order is always more attractive than a handsome appearance. women are not particularly attracted to physical features. Or you begin to reject others before they can reject you. Second. Unlike men. And the cycle will repeat. your social interactions will suffer. decaying teeth are all symptoms of a disorderly life. you need to learn how to manage the expectations of others. Because society portrays short people as less attractive. being short/bald/Chinese is not that unattractive in itself. you seek to deny it or distort it. you erroneously assume that women emphasis physical 73 . Thus. While you may temporarily feel better about yourself. as are many other perceived shortcomings. bald people as creepy and Asians as nerdy. You respond by creating defense mechanisms to preserve your selfesteem. easily trumping your physical appearance. causing you to become even more defensive. you succumb to these negative social expectations. and other naturally occurring disorderly features do not prevent you from exercising your authority to create order. but your ability to create order is your most attractive feature. Instead of conveying yourself to others. Just ask Mick Jagger.facial features. Instead of acknowledging your perceived shortcoming. To break out of this cycle. in the long run. Creating order even overcomes your own plain/ugly outward appearance. This belief causes your expression to suffer. You don’t yet realize this. People will disapprove of your defensive behavior. On the other hand. Third. These defense-mechanisms alienate others. obesity. You should do whatever is necessary to rectify disorderly conditions resulting from your negligence. These are naturally offensive to others. The real problem begins when society attaches an undesirable association to these things. they will not prevent you from attracting women. bad hygiene.
You follow metrosexual fashion codes— makeovers. Because you lack an understanding of the principles that govern all social interactions. you’ll make common mistakes like: • Lying to yourself and others to feel comfortable • Wearing eye-catching clothing to draw attention • Developing a repertoire of canned jokes and stories to seem interesting • Buying women drinks to gain sexual access 74 . you must learn how to create order. You need to learn how to properly govern social traffic. body piercings. tattoos. You need to learn how to influence the view of others to fit your expectations. tHe neeD FoR PRinciPles Many men make the mistake of relying on one-dimensional. This means you must learn how to control a social interaction by dictating how others should respond to you. it will lead nowhere. situationbased strategies to meet women. [This will be addressed in Part III]. bodybuilding—in a vain attempt to attract women.attractiveness the way men do. To really become attractive to women. if it’s the wrong plan. None of these silly remedies address the real issue hindering your attractiveness—your inability to create order. But stylish elevator shoes. you need to learn how to change the negative associations connected to your appearance. While creating a definite plan of action will help you feel more in control. You spend ridiculous amounts of money on unnecessary haircuts and outfits. plastic surgery and laser hair removal will not make up for a lack of authority. Instead of changing your physical appearance to meet the dysfunctional expectations of society.
in a store. your social interactions will suffer in the long run. Principles are universal laws governing all situations. Whether referring to the decay of a physical building or the deterioration of a social interaction. do not suffer from environmental or circumstantial constraints. Its constant nature allows you to base your behavior upon it. For example. For example. the principle of entropy dictates that all things move toward disorder.• Playing hard to get • Complimenting women and “just being yourself” Although relying on situation-based strategies may feel helpful. when. entropy affects all situations. in writing or 75 . overly complicated social interactions. regardless of the circumstances. they also dictate how. And the lack of flexibility along with extraneous procedures result in tedious. since men require jurisdiction over women to meet the needs of women. These strategies can also backfire when unforeseen variables are introduced. Yes. on the other hand. the principle of masculinity dictates that authority is the proper form required to address those needs. any shift in the social environment may even nullify their effectiveness. But without understanding this universal governing principle. Principles are responsible for giving form to specific gender functions. where and with whom people socialize. at work. in a club. Additionally. They are a steady foundation of laws directing and restricting all social interactions. at home. you can neglect the proper application of authority and still experience some “success” with women. Consider the principle of gravity. why. they actually hinder your social interaction competence. Principles. Whether at school. In the same way principles govern the universe.
your interactions become unbalanced and eventually degrade into a disorderly condition. the natural laws governing social interactions never change.over the phone. Order implies balance—a pleasing arrangement of components. establishing a peaceful condition. The unyielding nature of principles dictates and restricts the behavior of others. Whenever you violate social principles. Without understanding how immutable principles govern all your 76 . but ignoring principles always results in problems. oRDeR vs. DisoRDeR Order is a condition in which all things are properly arranged in relation to one another. Methods and techniques can be freely violated without incident.
It bears all the tenets of disorder. it affects the entire time-telling system. the other gender suffers as well. and women can’t meet their emotional needs. irrational perspectives. dysfunctional methods and frustrating results. 77 . isolated social interaction but rather a systematic breakdown of their entire socializing function. This is exactly what’s occurring today as feminism emasculates men. no possibility exists to create or maintain orderly relationships. The wheels. If a single piece becomes dislodged and fails to fulfill its necessary function. It’s not just a matter of one broken. men can’t meet their sexual needs. it affects the harmonious arrangement of everything else because order depends on each part functioning properly and balancing against the other. dials.social interactions. men and women abusing and/or neglecting their gender function— all these dysfunctional elements act like monkey wrenches thrown into the gears of social interaction. When either gender breaks down. Unrealistic relationship expectations. Each individual part depends on all the other parts working properly for the entire system to function. Consider the inner workings of a clock. latches and springs all depend on each other for the whole device to function properly. Either it starts giving inaccurate times. inhibiting it from moving forward. Pretty soon the whole clock is prevented from functioning. both genders pay the price. As a result. Once something goes out of whack. or it stops telling time completely. Your current condition is characterized by contradicting information. This analogy illustrates the problem people experience with their social interactions today. bad social advice. Eventually.
78 . you must learn to apply merited pain and pleasure to your child’s behavior. You should apply pain. your assumptions must undergo scrutiny. whether you realize it or not. Order addresses your financial dilemmas and health issues. he is becoming disorderly. affects the social interactions of everyone around you. Issues like difficulty attracting women. You should reward him with pleasure. you are full of disorder. By learning how to create order. Focusing on addressing only the symptoms of your problem will not solve the problem. Order makes you attractive to women and gets your expectations met. Since you are part of society by definition. When he listens. evinced by his balanced character. For example. as a parent. he is behaving in and orderly manner. Order merits pleasure. You’re not the only one that suffers when you don’t get your expectations met. and your conclusions must be tested—you can only work toward an orderly result after all the crap has first been exposed and removed. Right now. All these concerns are holistically addressed by becoming orderly. which in turn. When your child refuses to listen. Disorder merits pain. The root cause must be addressed. balance—tHe PeRFect aRRangeMent Balance indicates an orderly arrangement has been achieved. your broken function hinders all of society.To remedy this. lack of respect from your peers. you will simultaneously address many of the symptoms that result from its absence. financial troubles and health problems all stem from the same source: your disorderly approach to life and society’s accommodation of that disorder. A child will mature into a functioning adult under such an orderly arrangement. Order affects all areas of your life. This affects all your social interactions.
The elements must be arranged in proper proportion to one another. For your body to function properly. When these tools are properly applied. you are responsible for punishing (applying merited pain) and rewarding (applying merited pleasure) your child.As a parent. But if you eat too much food. your body will become malnourished and equally troubled. Yet adding a disproportionate amount of oxygen to the atmosphere will actually destroy life. The resulting satisfaction experienced by both parent and child indicates balance has been achieved. because oxygen is so prevalent. you will get fat and experience health problems. consider eating. many assume it’s the only element required to sustain life. Balance can also be illustrated by the earth’s atmosphere. Now. his personality heads in an orderly direction. A harmonious arrangement of oxygen (21%). Once the arrangement is correct. Not only must you avoid gorging yourself. nitrogen (78%) and other elements (1%) is required to sustain life. you must also avoid starving. it is good to eat. However. if don’t eat enough. balance is achieved. Anything that does not fit the ONE perfect arrangement can only be considered part of disorder. This reveals that just having the essential elements around isn’t adequate. As a principle. Likewise. This implies there is another type of degree of order. They don’t consider nitrogen and the other elements to be that important. There are countless degrees of disorder but only one degree of order. a balanced diet is essential. 79 . The painful deterrent of discipline and the pleasurable incentive of love work together to arrange his personality in an orderly way. It’s incorrect to say you’re becoming more orderly.
the less dysfunctional you will be. 80 . Thus. The closer you come to the one proper arrangement. MOST DISORDER SOME DISORDER LEAST DISORDER ORDER ACHIEVED A balanced arrangement of elements indicates order. Once all degrees of dysfunction/disorder have been removed from something. anything less than a balanced arrangement indicates disorder. the less dysfunctional the outcome. The closer individual elements move toward balanced proportions. Any deviation from this perfect balance of order eventually causes death. it becomes functional/orderly.There is only one proper arrangement for life to exist.
) and dictate your various functions (working. Effort and work must be put forth to produce an orderly. You have your own set of internal components that constitute you (eyes. A watch’s internal arrangement and functioning can be referred to as its dispositional order. eating. Any purposefully designed thing contains an orderly arrangement of parts. mind. Energy is required to both create an orderly arrangement and maintain its function. thinking. Something must be sacrificed in order for something to be gained. managing a business or teaching a classroom of students all require energy. the function will break down along with the arrangement itself. An orderly internal arrangement results in a properly functioning watch. socializing. Energy must be expended to produce a functional result. constructing a skyscraper. First. energy must constantly be exerted to maintain order. springs. its gears. loving. maintaining your health. Whether it is a battery supplying electrical power to a computer or an athlete putting food into his body. etc. If the flow of energy stops. head. 81 . skeleton.) To run any orderly system—from a car to your own body—energy is required. Each of these parts must work together with all the other components. dials and casing must be arranged together in an orderly way. satisfying result.DisPositional oRDeR How does a watch tell time. Building a car. etc. heart. organs.
Once you learn how to train your disposition to become orderly, you will have created dispositional order in yourself. That dispositional order then needs to be properly applied to your life to bring you into positional order. When a clock is assembled in an orderly way, it can tell time. The clock may then be used by people to arrange meetings, form schedules and plan ahead. This means the clock is fulfilling its purpose. It is being applied in a functional way. If however, you were to abuse the clock’s function by using it as a hammer, you would ruin its orderly condition, causing it to become useless. A clock must comply with its design—its specific function—to create positional order in its environment. Likewise, you must comply with your own gender design to become functional. This will bring your life into positional order. Just how important is positional order. Let’s say you are the best architect in the world. No one can build structures like you can. But each of your buildings sits on top of sinking marsh land. It doesn’t matter how great an architect you are if the building is positioned on unstable ground. Even if you build the most structurally sound building on earth, placing it in the wrong position renders dispositional order (structure) useless.
The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a prime example of this problem. It’s great piece of architecture. But it’s placed in a bad location. This affects its function—its usefulness. Because the position is wrong, adding more floors would cause it to topple over. A building must not only be well constructed but also properly placed. It’s position is vital to its function. Practically speaking, this means you need to maintain a functional position in life. For example, you may be very competent at wielding authority to create order. But if you’re using that authority to commit a crime, your authority is already in the wrong position. You may have excellent driving skills. But if your car has no brakes, you’re in no position to drive. You may have a great plan to save your dying company. But if you’re not the boss, you have no authority to make any changes. You may be able to figure things out faster than your peers. But if you don’t have a formal education, few people will give you the chance to prove it. You may know these principles backwards and forwards. But if you’ve burned too many bridges in your life, you may have limited the number of opportunities you get to display this. Don’t neglect the importance of maintaining your positional order.
E.g., Sadam Hussein, Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hilter
Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pain & Pleasure (Oppressive)
Functional Authority Applies Merited Pain & Pleasure (Direct/Competent)
E.g., George Washington, Sean Connery, Thomas Je erson
E.g., George Sodini, Kurt Cobain Seung-Hui Cho (VA Shooter), Je rey Dahmer, Ted Bundy
Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pleasure & Pain (Indirect/Passive-Aggressive)
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This leads to the development of self-defense mechanisms.. all the participants are satisfied. Because they move in an orderly direction. And you suppress anything that would expose your feeble. Meeting your needs requires authority. The more social frustration you experience. the more dysfunctional your attitude and behavior become. If your conversations wander aimlessly without direction. This will move your social interactions in the right direction. Either way. incompetent social skills.. poor social training and society’s dysfunctional expectations create a self-loathing cycle within you. you will be unable to give meaningful direction to your social interactions. You deceive yourself into thinking your situation is normal. life blows. Because of your disorderly condition.Or maybe you’re just stuck with a computer full of porn and a lot of lonely weekends. You deny the painful truth of your condition to avoid dealing with it. And the cycle repeats itself in a downward spiral. Without authority. . This means you will need to train to function properly as a man. exPosing DisoRDeR Lack of social knowledge. ending with you blowing away all your coworkers or classmates. This often indicates that authority is missing. To accomplish this. which in turn causes you to become even more dysfunctional and withdrawn. they will lead to a dissatisfying social life. you create distortions to excuse your lack of friends.bRinging oRDeR to YoUR social inteRactions Order should be the litmus test for all your social interactions. your perspective resembles a 86 . Painful social experiences reinforce your feelings of worthlessness. you need to learn how to exercise authority over your social interactions. Your dysfunctional behavior causes others to avoid talking to you. Satisfying social interactions benefit everyone involved.
Her desire to escape all pain causes her to stubbornly avoid anything or anyone that would expose her true condition. she will experience physical pain. It’s more comfortable and convenient to eat without limits and avoid exercise. In either case. Or she will attempt to justify it by comparing herself to people more disorderly than herself—”At least I’m not as fat as her!” When enough pain is applied—through medical knowledge. It requires no responsibility to ignore warnings. failing health. If she has a heart attack because of her obesity. selfcriticism becomes debilitating. Pain dispels these delusions. the message is clear: something about her is disorderly/ dysfunctional. Without pain. and social rejection—she will be forced to discard all her 87 . Then you’ll burden yourself with impossible expectations that you don’t have the self-discipline to accomplish. you exaggerate your abilities to shore up your self-esteem. rules and laws.fun house mirror—everything appears distorted. For example. sensing your disgust over her appearance. an obese woman. mistakes cause extreme frustration and failures feel like impossible obstacles. will feel emotional pain. Pain exposes her disorderly condition. Imagining herself to be the exception to every rule is much easier than following the rules. But in her disorderly condition. she will remain trapped in her disorderly condition. Without pain. The end result is frustration. For example. she will continue to delude herself into thinking her weight isn’t a problem. Pain exposes your true condition.
there is no practical way for you to deal with your social problems by yourself. Self-discipline is the ability to restrict your own behavior. To avoid future painful effects. You cannot address social problems by yourself. self-discipline will force you become more diligent and put in more effort to ensure the job is done right. Or as a corrective measure. Self-discipline makes you turn in your work on time. This painful discipline lets you know your behavior is wrong. you were never meant to thrive alone. self-discipline will cause you to eat smaller food portions and exercise more often to get you back in shape. indulgent society has discouraged parents from applying pain—a valuable educational tool—to their children. This same principle applies to your social interactions. you change your behavior accordingly. Self-discipline will make you a good parent. the more motivated she’ll be to change it. as a preventative measure. Another person must administer pain to expose your disorderly condition. The more her disorderly condition is exposed. In turn. It means you’re able to administer pain to yourself to prevent disorder from taking over your life or to correct any problems caused by your actions. For example. self-discipline allows you to exercise and eat a healthy diet. Because your true condition remains carefully guarded by your own self-esteem. your problems require a cooperative remedy. Or if you screw up.excuses and delusional beliefs. As a socially-designed being. You exhibit many of the 88 . Your parents should have already applied discipline (pain) to your dysfunctional behavior as a child. their upbringing reflects disorder. But because this undisciplined. This forces you to examine the effects of your behavior. you develop a healthy self-discipline (pain) safety net. This is why self-help books never help. Or it will force you to eliminate irresponsible behavior to ensure your child’s safety.
inability to maintain relationships) As an adult. it was obvious why I was so neurotic in my approach to socializing. our feminist Nanny State epitomizes this shortsighted approach. she inhibits the natural maturation process stimulated by a healthy fear of pain. On a larger scale. In the rush to alleviate pain. you have no way to resist entropy’s constant pull toward disorder. you’ve grown accustomed to avoiding the pain of selfdiscipline. I naively hoped to avoid the possibility of ever experiencing pain. By placing herself as artificial buffer between her children’s actions and any painful consequence. When I realized this. Their irrational desire to remove it from every possible social outcome reveals a paralyzing fear of pain. poor social skills. It’s difficult to expose disorder on such a large scale when so many in society have a vested interest in maintaining it. lack of motivation.” This obsession with controlling every possible variable mimics the attitude of the overbearing mother who goes to absurd lengths to guard her children from ever experiencing pain. They hope to avoid pain by anticipating its arrival.symptoms of this disorderly behavior (no direction in life. down to the most insignificant details. By doing so. nerds will neurotically try to annihilate the existence of pain by developing complex contingency plans. Without understanding why or how to apply pain to your disorderly behavior. we make a blind sacrifice of common sense and reason on the altar of good intentions. the feeling of standing there frozen in front of a girl and not being able to control what might happen is far worse than the actual response. The government stunts the intellectual growth of its citizens by burdening them with feel-good laws. anxiety. Your self-esteem will fight being exposed. Instead of appreciating its motivational aspect. I was trying to logically plan out every possible thing to say and create a contingency plan for every situation. This is why “nerds” attempt to control every variable in their environment. simply reading a self-help book or attending a group seminar won’t fix the problem. making your current perspective even more stubbornly resistant to change. Men thoughtlessly trade in their civil liberties for a false sense of security. As one nerd reveals: “To me. Even exposing your 89 . Your dysfunctional perspective is linked to your identity. employment problems.
To accept change. you not only have accept that you are wrong. However.own disorder proves a difficult task. Your selfesteem hates the exposure of your disorderly condition. exposing your disorderly condition is necessary to progress toward order. Acknowledging you need to change equates to an admission of error on your part. you also have to accept that who you are is wrong. Revealing an identity problem causes great distress. It is an extremely painful matter because. This will cause you to feel terrible. To sacrifice that identity is like pushing your only friend off a cliff. changing your perspective asks you to sacrifice the belief that’s been comforting you for so long. When your condition is finally exposed. This frustration is to be expected. however. You even take comfort in it. in effect. Don’t avoid it. This is why you treat any attempts to fundamentally change your perspective as cold-hearted attacks against your being. 90 . your self-esteem will react violently since it’s heavily invested in the deception you’ve created. Pain is necessary to cut the umbilical cord between your dysfunctional perspective and your identity. a proper change in perspective will touch your identity at its core. You have built your sense of worth around your identity.
However. 91 . if you can’t meet the needs of the misbehaving party. coupled with an orderly expression.This acknowledgment enables you to address your disorderly condition without collapsing psychologically. Exposing disorder is the first step toward becoming an orderly person. will motivate others to meet your expectations over time. aDDRessing DisoRDeR in otHeRs As you learn to expose disorder in yourself. addressing this disorder requires a responsible approach. [Both will be covered in Section III] Do not be threatened by the fact that disorder exists. Allowing yourself to fail in the process of moving toward order is crucial. Acknowledging your disorderly condition is crucial to your progress. you will then be in a position to address the disorderly state of others. correcting disorderly behavior must be based upon the pleasurable incentive of an orderly expression—one that adequately conveys your person. Allowing others to fail as they attempt to meet your expectations is equally important. In short. Only those motivated by your pleasurable expression will have enough incentive to heed your painful correction. you’ll soon realize that disorder exists in everyone. Don’t try to force others to do what they don’t yet have the training to do. Your authority. A bitter medicine mixed with honey is much easier for a sick patient to swallow. If you aren’t able to provide this incentive. Care must be taken to apply pain and pleasure only when merited. all the correction in the world won’t matter. Because you have finally given yourself permission to make mistakes—even fail—progressing toward order no longer seems like an impossible task. When your disorder is dealt with. they will have no reason or desire to behave. Likewise.
The average person looks like a walrus on legs. the country and the rest of the world are now experiencing the worst financial crisis in history. liMitation PRevents DisoRDeR Right now. eating without limitation. a lack of limitation produces disaster. By creating order with your authority. Without limitation to keep things in good order.Without incentive and direction. are forced to lower their classroom standards. Lack of limitation also affects our educational system. chips— packaged. America daily produces illiterate. forbidden1 to use disciplinary limitations. This apathetic generation is defined by its incompetence. people feel helpless to change their disorderly lives. artificially preserved foods that are quick and easy to obtain). 1 http://www.. Even on a national level. Snickers bars.vsuspectator. In essence. you will cause others to become more receptive to your authority—the tool required to address their disorderly condition. Why? Eating too much. you give others the right direction to follow. And by conveying this order through your expression. incompetent adults. machine-processed.e. you give them the incentive to follow it. Because of borrowing excesses (i. As you develop an orderly expression. relying on lazy axioms like.com/2011/03/31/professor-arrested-for-battery/ 92 . the breakdown of life is inevitable. “It’s all good. Eating convenience food (McDonald’s. The average graduate doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. Teacher. obesity plagues America. spending without limitation).” From professional inefficiency to family instability to relationships failures.” “Whatever” and “No worries. Eating for comfort. Coherent thoughts drown in a sea of homemade syntax and pop culture idioms. lack of limitation ruins lives.
Competent people rely on self-imposed limitations called schedules. By creating a map out of your time. For example. Nothing else. Just like a treasure map. The way to alleviate this stress is to remove your options. Even the top students in school know exactly what they should be doing at any given moment because their day is planned out before they even wake up. Competence is a treasure that can only be discovered when all the wrong directions are eliminated and the one right direction is made clear. your schedule should be designed to eliminate all the wasted activity going in the wrong direction. or not at all. or the day before the test. the 93 . You have too many options. Limitation removes options. you’ll feel overwhelmed with anxiety and despair. you gain a feeling of security. map out your optional time in yellow. This includes leisure activities and rest time that can be sacrificed if necessary. you focus your activity toward a pre-determined direction. The point of creating a schedule is to specify and limit your time. map out your obligations in red. When you lack direction.scHeDUle YoUR tiMe Poor time management causes great stress for people. Having more than one option indicates a lack of direction. Successful Olympic athletes create workout schedules to focus on winning a gold medal. These are things you are working on becoming good at or achievements you’re trying to reach. Mapping out 3 hours for “homework” is not as good as mapping out 1 hour for algebra. if you have a big math test coming up and have no study schedule planned. These are activities that must be done—no exceptions. Finally. you can study all night. Limiting yourself down to one option creates a direction. Be as specific as possible. or an hour each week. Schedules lead to competence just like maps lead to treasure. This means you haven’t learned how to apply limits (self-discipline) to yourself. When creating your schedule. Once you have a direction to follow. Steve Jobs creates a blueprint with his time to maximize the efficiency of Apple. Not knowing what to do paralyzes you with terror. 1 hour for physics and 1 hour for English. The more specific your schedule is. you feel chaotic inside because you have no idea what to expect. It should point only in one direction—toward the goal. Then map out your goals in blue.
more efficient your work becomes. something’s wrong. If you can’t follow it. At the very least. If your schedule is too general. Even your bedtime should be scheduled. Be sure to include every hour of the day. Everybody already has the useless “I need to do stuff today” schedule in their head. make sure you map out your entire week. 94 . Your schedule is meant to push you. Your schedule shouldn’t have any gaps. it defeats the point of even creating one. Change it until you can follow it. Stick to your schedule. not break you.
They are meant to be practical and applicable to real life. Limitation makes life grow! The more your limit your options. it’s not a goal—it’s a distraction. Your goal should have a specific time limit and a specific 95 . If you can’t reach your goal. Goals are different from hopes and aspirations. the closer you come to creating a functional direction for yourself that will get you to your destination/ achievement/goal/maturity/ satisfaction. It still has too many options. Make sure you purposefully limit your schedule by creating goals.This schedule above isn’t quite there yet. GET RID OF IT.
96 . Or to build a model airplane. They can be anything from earning a bachelor’s degree to building a model airplane. you’re starring in a Disney movie—wake up. Short term goals are necessary to accomplish your long term goals. Give them better direction. If either of these are missing. In the above example. a good short term goal for earning a bachelor’s degree would involve studying 3 hours after school each day. the easier it will become to achieve them. each day until completed. you can set aside 30 mins. The clearer you are with your goals.strategy for attaining it. To improve your short term goals. despair and apathy: Long term goals typically take more than a week to achieve. You’re going to need to create two types of goals to end your cycle of confusion. just make them more specific. Stop daydreaming.
The watch’s design is its boundary. when an engineer places gears together in a specific way.liMitation cReates PRoPeR FoRM Form defines the boundaries of an applied principle. the design boundary of the watch dictates where it moves. That is the watch’s function. What the design (boundary) demands.’ 97 . The fence dictates where the cattle can go. According to the watch’s design. just as cattle behind the boundary of a fence must stay within a specific confined space dictated by that fence. When a form is created. the watch must do (function). Likewise. The watch is limited in what it can do by the boundary of its own design walls. it must tell time. the watch’s function is inherently tied to its ‘form. its function is determined by that boundary. he creates a design we all recognize as a watch. For example. The watch must behave according to its boundary. In this way.
life does not mature. you will not mature. Good farmers know that it’s necessary to prune their crops to produce the best fruit. Take fruit-bearing trees for example. Without self-discipline to limit your behavior. Without limitation. worthless fruit. the more efficient the resulting design becomes.The more confining the boundary. Unpruned trees produce large crops of small. 98 .
The old saying. the more specific the limitation. 99 . But he fails to truly master any of them because he the lacks the necessary self-discipline to become thorough. the less dysfunctional the outcome.” refers to a man who lacks limitation. The better the form. “Jack of all trades. He may know many things superficially. but master of none. And the single correct form—the most specifically limiting boundary possible—always leads to the only functional result possible. Limitation is essential to proper growth. the more efficient the result. This means.
Once a thing achieves its highest form. form determines outcome. You can even use it as a weapon. it will only produce a functional result. You can use it as a door stop.Whether shaping words in a poem to touch an emotion. For example. You can use it as a hammer. But it was only designed with one function in mind—to drink liquid from. A functional result is the intended result. molding a clay pot to hold water or perfecting a jump shot to score a basket. Once the cup is 100 . you can use a cup in many ways.
you actually inhibit yourself from reaching that goal. In short.used solely for drinking. Even though we need goals to keep us focused. it achieves its intended purpose. people make the mistake of focusing on the outcome instead of perfecting the form. correct form leads to the right outcome. It is at the pinnacle of its function. By trying to make the form fit the outcome. instead of making the outcome fit the form. being fixated on the goal and ignoring the maintenance of proper form leads to disaster. But too often. 101 .
you’ll start to notice dysfunction creeping in to ruin your competence. It allows you to do things in more than one way. Focusing only on scoring points may help you win a few games. But if you focus on the goal of scoring instead of perfecting your shooting form. Poor form is very inconsistent. But over the long run. At first. even if comes from poor shooting form because it meets your goal requirement—winning the game. you’re being rewarded for becoming incompetent. This means you need to start practicing shooting a basketball over and over in a specific way to become as efficient as possible at scoring. you’ll celebrate scoring any points.For example. if your goal is to score enough points to win a basketball game. you need to develop a proper shooting form. Essentially. Poor form lacks boundaries and limitations. Poor form makes it very difficult to achieve the 102 . But you don’t realize the subtle damage being done. You are taking pleasure in an outcome produced by a dysfunctional form. it will catch up with you.
Focus on repeating the form. Once your shooting form is limited to a specific motion. This produces order. Because of its inherent limitation. Whereas shooting a DIRECTION limitation o opti o p t n s io n s opt ion s o p ti ons optio ns n opti ons opt s ion s o opti ons ns io p p ti optio o t op o n t s basketball a thousand different ways will make it much harder to score points. This is because limitation is the precursor to order. Anything that is limited becomes part of a stable arrangement. it consistently gets you to the same destination every single time. 103 . not the outcome. avoids inconsistency because it provides the ultimate limitation—direction. on the other hand. the result becomes stable. It directs your behavior. Whenever anything is limited down to its most functional state. It forces you to go one way. it aligns with the principle of direction. Proper form can only be developed though repetition. io ns Form determines outcome. You can now produce an orderly outcome. Good form only has one option. limiting your shooting form down to one option will make it much easier. Good form. The form you develop will determine where you end up.same result twice.
A well developed form produces consistency—backbone of competence.At times. this indicates a problem with your form. orderly. proper form always produces the correct. it’s necessary to first perfect your form. the outcome can become a distraction. If your outcome is inconsistent/wrong/bad. 104 . To obtain a consistent outcome. you’ll discover the real secret to successfully achieving the desired result. satisfying outcome. When you remove the distraction of the outcome and instead focus on perfecting the form. Your desire to achieve the outcome will often undermine the development of proper form. Form always precedes outcome.
And that’s what he’s hoping for. He can do it almost every time. It does not happen overnight. Eventually he could do it in his sleep. Think of any carnival game where an employee demonstrates how “easy” it is to toss a ring onto a bottle or knock over some metal pins with a single pitch. repeatable behavior distinguishes long-term training from short-term trying. There are no shortcuts. 105 . you will lose your money trying. efficient. He has honed and refined his brush strokes down to a consistent. Why. From an outsider’s perspective. Time and effort must be sacrificed to achieve consistent order. He always makes it look deceptively simple. consistency looks simple. Those observing well-trained individuals applying their skill are often deceived by this simplicity and become eager to imitate it. He won’t tell you that before the carnival started that day. In fact. Every practice toss got him closer and closer to that one simple. Is it really that easy? No. That’s not luck.tRaining PRoDUces consistencY When you observe a trained artist painting a picture. Years of study and practice result in simplified. And he’s been doing it for years. This consistent. functional motion. functional form with no excess. he practiced for ten hours to get it right. But the novice’s resulting frustration reveals the truth about training: it’s not an accident. you notice something in his behavior that amateur artists lack—consistency. What you see is a simple brush stroke repeated a thousand times over. efficient motion. That’s training.
inWaRD liMitation vs. But removing restrictions and limitations affects everyone around you. Society is a reflection of the parenting we received. chaos and disorder. your view of freedom means having no restrictions.FReeDoM anD liMitation Currently. The number of outward limitations reflects our ability to inwardly limit ourselves. Discipline produces maturity—the ability to govern your own behavior through self-discipline. Because of feminism. restrictions and rules must be created to safeguard people from disorder. For example. Since humans have a need for order. oUtWaRD liMitation As a child. This is why our society designs laws to restrict harmful behavior. if you were able to fire a gun from your house without restriction or limitation. your parents should have applied loving discipline to your disorderly behavior. you might kill another person standing outside. Neglecting to restrict the behavior of people leads to anarchy. limitations. society today is cluttered with countless laws 106 . You should be free to do and say whatever you want. This creates a dangerous situation for everyone living around you. The outward limitation of your parents is meant to teach you how to apply inward limitations to your own person.
designed to regulate our behavior from the outside. There is no thought of inward regulation because feminism removes personal accountability. When no one feels responsible, limitations must be created to prevent irresponsible behavior.
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Without self-discipline, people are forced to rely on the State to police their behavior. The State becomes an overbearing parent applying restriction after restriction as its citizens become increasingly infantilized by feminism. Whenever people fail to inwardly regulate their behavior, the result is always an increase in outward regulations. The less self-control we have, the more State laws we require.
People desire good direction in life. Yet our culture is constantly scolding us for wanting to conform to anything. We’re told it’s better to ‘break the rules’ and ‘think outside the box.’ Individual options and preferences are praised while limitation is ridiculed as boring and mindless. Many people even demonize limitation as harmful to society. But regardless of what our current dysfunctional culture preaches, people need to know which way to go, what to say and how to behave. While imaginary TV characters flaunt their individuality and independence from society, real life people crave the ultimate restriction— direction. True direction leaves no room for an option. Functional direction doesn’t say go north or south. Instead a good direction points only to your destination and gets you there in the most efficient way possible.
There is only one way to go when you have a competent, orderly direction. True direction eliminates all optional desires and points only to one necessity. A functional direction tells you exactly what to do and lets you know exactly what is required. When you discover the right direction—the functional direction—you become free. As counterintuitive as it seems, having direction is liberating. Consider a social activity like baseball. When all the participants of a baseball game understand the rules—the limitations and restrictions— of play, they all share a mutual direction. They know what to expect from themselves and others. This facilitates an enjoyable game. Although their behavior is structured and limited by rules, they nonetheless experience freedom while playing. Conversely, if there are no agreed upon rules of play, nobody will know what to do during the game. Everyone’s experience will suffer. People will be full of anxiety, not knowing what to expect. They will worry that the other players might injure them. They will feel stupid not knowing which direction to run. Unlimited behavior options will create a miserable, unsatisfying situation for everyone involved.
It seems counterintuitive to think that removing options by adding limitations will create more freedom. But people only feel truly free when order is achieved. Direction not only creates freedom in sports, it also frees up your social interactions. When you know how to interact socially, you become eager to participate because you experience social freedom. Speaking and conveying yourself to others becomes a liberating activity. Conversely, when direction is lacking, you become paralyzed. For example, when you see 20 different brands of cereal in a supermarket or 20 different shirts on display in a clothing store, you can’t decide what to buy. You become anxious that you’re missing out on something if you make the wrong choice.
Too many options stalls movement. Too many choices undermines production. Too many alternatives inhibits proper functioning, especially during a social interaction. Even women suffer from this lack of limitation. Females have been damaged by the permissive philosophy of feminism. Society actively encourages women to usurp male authority. This is similar to how pop psychology advocates the removal of parental authority, placing it in the hands of unqualified children. For example, today’s parents face a nightmare of legal worries when attempting to discipline their children. Instead of addressing disobedience with a spanking to reassert their authority, parents now cower under the constant threat of legal reprisals. Applying merited pain to disorderly behavior is forbidden by so-called child experts. But this contempt for limitation leads to great disorder. Children eat unhealthy foods, engage in dangerous activities and resist protective restrictions whenever parental authority is absent. Without proper authority to restrict and limit their behavior, children will suffer poor health, injury or death. Limitation makes life grow properly. This principle can be seen throughout nature. The best wine is not produced by wild grapes, but by those that have been carefully pruned and tied. Restrictive training produces the most useful animals. Regimented workout programs
Those who apply limitations and restrictions to themselves. positive response to it. Steve Jobs is the CEO of Apple. don’t. they still have an instinctual. In short. he needs authority over you. Even the President undergoes the strictest public scrutiny and subjects himself to the most limiting standards of personal conduct. Authority brings poorly arranged things. Having authority means you have jurisdiction over someone or something.and confining diets produce the world’s best athletes. In order to control your behavior. Regulated educational training and strict discipline produce the most successful businessmen. but it also means you will not benefit from his care. he can do nothing. Steve still has authority over you. Even if you’ve never met the man. You have the right to control and determine a course of action or a final outcome. If you are an employee of Apple. For example. you are free. Those who indulge unregulated whims and excesses. but without provision. Only when you place yourself under Steve’s authority by joining the Apple corporation are you able to benefit from that authority. Steve can no longer direct your life or make you do anything you don’t want to do. If. This gives him the right to make all decisions involving the Apple corporation. excel. people. events and circumstances into a state of order. as long as you are employed by Apple. You will not receive job related medical benefits. If you want your social interactions to meet 111 . you are under his authority. Hence. aUtHoRit Y—tHe PRoPeR Male FoRM PURPose oF aUtHoRitY While women and children often lack the capacity to grasp the inner workings of authority. Without it. Being outside of Steve’s authority will give you more freedom to do as you please. You will not receive an Apple paycheck. You will not be allowed to have access to privileged information only available to Apple employees. however. Authority brings order. you do not work for Apple. you are outside of his jurisdiction. people are attracted to those who have the ability to create order.
your need for order, you must exercise your authority over them. In a family relationship, men need authority over women and children to meet everyone’s need for order. Authority is necessary to organize responsibilities, to correct bad behavior, to manage resources, to provide security and to enforce limits and boundaries. Consider the punk rocker lifestyle. It is the antithesis of order. In fact, its philosophy encourages the dismantling of social order. Only dysfunctional people are drawn to such a chaotic, aimless life. Their houses, cars, personal appearance and relationships display a disorderly, limitless view of life. If you were to stop taking care of your house and your appearance, both would spontaneously start resembling this lifestyle. It’s not so much a lifestyle choice as it is an act of personal neglect. Apathy and dissatisfaction fuel such disorderly living. If you fail to direct a relationship with your authority, disorder will creep in, cooperation will deteriorate, reciprocation will cease and attraction will wane. Eventually the relationship will end. Similarly, if you fail to exercise authority over your life, your health will deteriorate, your grades will drop, your income will suffer and dissatisfaction will grow. Whenever things move toward disorder, they inevitably die.
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Masculinity is properly expressed in the form of authority. Yet today’s immature society associates authority with negative stereotypes of masculinity. Men exercising their authority are branded as “controlling” and “abusive,” suffering from a superiority complex. In an article titled, “Abusive men: The Top 10 Signs
of an Abusive Man,”2 Stephany Alexander accuses men who are “always right” or “always in charge” of being abusive partners. This vilification of authority within female-oriented publications and mainstream media undermines the proper functioning of relationships. Reenforcing negative stereotypes of authority causes women to resent those who exercise it; women want male resources and care, yet they resent those providing it. Women want security, yet they resent giving up their independence. Women want all of the control in a relationship, yet they resent all responsibility that comes with it. In essence, feminism encourages women to hate their own necessities. However, this short-sighted approach destabilizes the very thing women hope to secure—healthy relationships. The current epidemic divorce rates testify to this fact. Women fail to realize that both authority and submission come with a price. Either women must give up their autonomy or learn to bear the burden of responsibility inherent to leadership. Either women must obey the men governing their relationships or start creating their own civilization by the sweat of their own brows3. Benefitting from the sacrifice of men while offering nothing in return, creates a disorderly social environment. Because feminism teaches women to remain independent within their relationships, authority is always being fought over. Women are encouraged to make their own decisions without the help of a man. Females attempting to usurp male authority, not only nullify the male function, they also endanger the foundation of orderly social interactions. Because authority is never established, accountability is never assigned. Men are simultaneously scolded for being too “controlling” and failing to take charge. Such dysfunctional social expectations inevitably result in relationship conflicts. Lack of male authority is the major source of chaos damaging
2 3 http://www.authorsden.com/categories/article_top.asp?catid=57&id=28889 http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=455
relationships today. And its long list of debilitating symptoms— skyrocketing divorce rates, rebellious children, overcrowded prisons, loss of civil rights and historic levels of prescription medication— continues to grow. Removing authority compromises the stability of any relationship and makes society unsafe. Authority gives men the means to erect civilizations and establish the rule of law. Authority allows men to care for women and children. Yet feminism’s demonization of the male gender role undermines this authority and inhibits men from meeting the obligations dictated by their authority position. Authority is urgently needed to accomplish what your male function demands— establishing and maintaining order in social interactions, and by extension, in society. You must learn to reestablish your authority.
aUtHoRitY MaintaineD bY Pain & PleasURe
Energy is required to maintain order. Without the introduction of an energizing agent, things spontaneously move toward a state of disorder. Likewise, without the requisite amount of pain and pleasure—the ordering agents of authority—people naturally move toward disorder. Even your physical body needs an ordering agent to keep it from returning to a state of chaos or death. It requires a great amount of food energy just to maintain a healthy body. Most of the energy in the food you eat
doesn’t go toward growth. It’s used to maintain your body’s orderly state of good health. And along with that pleasurable food energy, your body requires some form of painful exercise to direct it toward an orderly operation. The strain of running, lifting weights, moving furniture, cutting firewood, building a house or mowing the lawn all work to discipline your body to respond in an efficient manner. Pain directs your body away from disorder. Pain disciplines your body to maintain its healthy, orderly condition. As a result, you life becomes more enjoyable.
But without exercise, your body will soon become disorderly. It will grow fat, become sick, invite disease and breakdown. Eventually it will cease to function. Death is the ultimate sign of this disorder. Your physical environment also requires energy to maintain it. On the positive side, you need to create a good environment for yourself. On the negative side, you need to maintain it by removing dysfunctional elements causing disorder.
For example, you can buy a bike to help you meet your transportation needs. But you must maintain your bikes orderly condition. It requires
etc. plumber. This is necessary to create order. scrub off the grease. the government is responsible for making its citizens happy. If you stop taking care of your car. etc. Those in charge must be able to meet the need for order. wash the frame. For example. if you stop cleaning your house. fireman. the engine will die. People must see a benefit to being governed by you. Likewise. it’s dysfunctional and will lead to disorder. actions and resources must all be used to care for those under your authority. policeman. it will cause you health problems. If you can perform a service that brings order to others (business consultant. and your money should provide for their physical needs (food. you will always be in demand. It has the requisite authority to control our behavior. shelter). mechanic. you must keep it clean to ensure the gears work properly. PleasURe establisHes aUtHoRitY Pleasure is required to establish your authority. baseball coach. Just as a parent controls the behavior of a 116 . clothing. dust will gather. mentor. Everything and everyone needs to have the energizing elements of pain and pleasure applied to them to thrive. Everything follows this same principle. if your authority isn’t pleasurable to those being governed by it. parent. it will eventually fall apart. If you stop taking care of your body. personal trainer. This means your words should make others happy. Everyone requires pleasurable provision and painful limitation. This requires a pleasurable provision on your part. In short. If you stop taking care of your bike. Your words. teacher. your actions should safeguard their welfare. you must be able to lead them toward a pleasurable result. doctor. If you are going to direct the behavior of another person.an infusion of energy to prevent it from rusting and breaking down. This is why people are naturally drawn and attracted to ordering agents. like everything else. tech support. This requires the painful exertion of your muscles. Thus. You have to oil the chain.). Maintaining its orderly condition requires your painful effort. People require the establishment and maintenance of order to lead satisfying lives.
Our financial crisis and government corruption are also symptoms of dysfunctional authority. the government abuses that authority by creating dysfunctional limitations. they will remove you from their social circles. If you neglect to cheer others up. But many times. If government authority creates enough disorder. if you neglect to touch their emotions. When the government is unfit to provide security for its citizens or enforce laws in a just manner. Instead of creating order by limiting harmful behavior. Hate crime laws. everyone suffers. Likewise. the government controls the behavior of its citizens with laws designed to safeguard everyone’s welfare. if you fail to provide a pleasurable incentive to people in your social interactions. if you neglect to create 117 . are unjust restrictions designed to benefit only one class of people. speed limits are functional laws designed to safeguard the lives of all citizens on the road. As a result of the government’s failure to meet the need for orderly social interaction. if you neglect to provide them with helpful knowledge. For example. Such laws violate the principle of limitation. if you neglect to show them your approval. the citizens become unhappy. if you neglect to stimulate their thoughts. its citizens will attempt to remove authority from those who are making them unhappy.child with rules. They are often employed to threaten or censor dissenting opinions. government authority is used to suppress healthy expression. on the other hand.
order in their lives. you need to apply pain to quell dysfunctional behavior. you have no motivation to do anything for him. Men who neglect to provide a pleasurable arrangement in their social interactions also fail to incite love in others. You should give others pleasure to motivate them to move toward order. Pleasurable feelings and a valid direction motivate orderly behavior. Pain Maintains aUtHoRitY Once your authority is established. you want to make him happy. they will become disorderly. your authority becomes useless to them. When someone gives you pleasure. Unless he is threatening you with bodily harm. they require pleasure. the motivation behind your behavior. You become willing to be ruled by his authority and obey his direction. However. if those under your authority stop moving toward order. you have no reason to meet his expectations. pain is required to maintain it. This causes you to love him. Thus. In order to motivate others to meet your expectations. Pain causes those under your authority to fear your authority. especially women. you are motivated to meet their needs. For example. if your dad hugs. clothes and feeds you. Your love for your dad becomes the basis. They will reject it. It just means that the pleasure you provide must be conditional—it must be merited. 118 . This doesn’t mean you suddenly cut off the pleasure. Thus. But if you do not love your dad. he has created a pleasurable experience for you.
Fear limits what you’re allowed to do. Thus. Consider gravity. This results in extreme anxiety and mental stress. It creates fear in you. Eventually. Unlike fear which moves its recipients toward order. you’ll be more likely to avoid reckless behavior when standing near a steep ledge. Thus. Why? 119 . Whereas healthy fear depends on stability. on the other hand. it paralyzes you as there is nothing you can do to avoid being harmed. fire is painful to touch. you cease all careless behavior that could injure your body. A painful result is guaranteed if they fall. Unmerited pain causes feelings of confusion and helplessness. there is a merited pain consequence in store for them. Likewise. it motivates you to behave in an orderly way to avoid harm. terror leads to disorder. terror depends on not knowing what to expect. Most people fear standing near the ledge of a tall building because they realize that falling off will result in death. All day long people work inside skyscrapers without feeling terrified or paralyzed. Fear is generated by merited pain. is based on the application of unmerited pain. For example. both perspective and behavior become dangerous. Fear is different than terror. If you fear touching a hot stove. Terror. if you fear the pain of falling off a cliff. If they violate the law of gravity. Yet this knowledge doesn’t paralyze people with terror. Terror fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses.FeaR Healthy fear is necessary to maintain order.
When people fear breaking the laws of their government. The fear of pain causes drivers to stop their disorderly behavior. you know that you can avoid any painful consequences by simply behaving in an orderly way around cliffs. Gravity will not try to trick you or surprise you. Without pain. students do not fear their teachers. Without fear of authority. Fear is necessary to prevent disorderly behavior. Without fearful obedience. Even though you fear the consequences of violating gravity. in classrooms today. and without respect. There is an absence of healthy fear. For example. Because gravity is a law. When students fear their teacher’s authority. Conversely. 120 .Because gravity is consistent. society experiences order. Any society lacking healthy fear will also be void its by-product—peace. it applies everywhere the same way. Its nature is dependable. People feel the freedom to indulge their whims whenever governing boundaries are removed. your relationship with it remains stable. When children fear their father’s authority. the family experiences peace. society experiences disorder. high ledges and tall office buildings. You fear violating the law of gravity. every single time. the learning process is inhibited. Without fear. People even come to depend on the law of gravity because it will not change. Orderly behavior will not spontaneously arise without fear’s motivating guidance to ensure its arrangement. Its law is stable. If someone breaks the speed limit. there is no reason to fear or obey authority. there is no means to create order. Its consistent nature creates stability. the learning environment prospers. there is no respect. This is why police officers need to carry a gun to enforce their expectations. when people don’t fear breaking the law. Teachers have a hard time training their students because the students do not respect the teacher’s word. people can take specific measure to avoid its harmful consequences. Fear of merited pain removes the threat of disorder. Just as students need to fear their teachers. disorder has no limitation or restriction. drivers should fear the state’s authority. Thus. And more importantly. but you are not terrified by the thought of it. But what can the police do to make drivers obey them? Just expecting drivers to stop isn’t enough. the police have the authority to arrest that person.
your efforts will backfire. you gain the benefits of U. You have rights granted to you by the Constitution. the weaker the relationship becomes until love is entirely depleted. The end result is love. neglecting to establish it proves fatal. affection and provisions. they will simultaneously become attracted to you. Today. many authority problems stem from neglecting to supply incentives from one side. Your capacity to exercise authority is inherently attractive and fearful to all people.S. In fact. they will also cease to love you. This means they must be conquered by both positive and negative incentives. Many men today prefer to replace fear with compromise. On the positive side. In fact. Yet because this fear provides an orderly arrangement. You are protected by the police. the United States government has conquered you with both positive and negative incentives. Because your will has been subdued. Since authority is the very cement meant to hold relationships together. not realizing that compromise leads to resentment. you seek to obey the laws of the land. In layman’s terms: if women cease to fear you. you represent the highest ordering agent. they will fear you.As a man. If a woman refuses to submit to your authority. she is not in a position to receive your care. You must have both. Fear is required to meet the universal need for order. if you continue to validate her with your attention. you first need to subdue their will. You can receive welfare benefits and 121 . you undermine any order previously created. citizenship. By neglecting to address violations of your authority with pain. The more their authority is compromised. aUtHoRitY ReqUiRes sUbMission To bring a person under your authority. you need to realize authority is missing—fear is gone. When people genuinely acknowledge your authority. Neither pain nor pleasure can be missing. Whenever you experience disorder in a relationship. by obeying the laws.
they become the recipients. When you kiss them. Your authority allows them to benefit from all that you have to offer. if you disobey the laws. Those who benefit from the order you create need to be brought into submission to your authority. they get educated. you are in charge. receiving the benefits of your care. They can arrest you. When you create order with your authority. The government can even go so far as to execute you if you disobey certain laws. In return. When you pay rent. When you protect them. You can be fined.other government assistance if necessary. When you spend money to buy things. These negative incentives serve to ensure your submission to the governing authority over you. you should require their full submission. they get affection. The responsibility for their welfare now rests on your shoulders. When you correct them. they benefit from it. They can imprison you. You get to live in a clean environment. the police will charge you with a crime. etc. they get nourishment. Once a person submits to your authority in a relationship. It is now your job to keep them safe and happy. On the negative side. Once a person agrees to submit to your 122 . You can lose your property. etc. These positive incentives encourage you to submit to the governing authority of the United States. You can lose your rights. They need to obey your laws (expectations) because they are now under your jurisdiction. When you feed them. they get shelter. [Gaining submission in social interactions will be covered in section III] Your authority places you in the position of a sheriff. they get discipline. When you share your knowledge. they get security.
Feminists have demonized the concept of submission by associating it with a condemned patriarchal system.authority. female submission to male authority is depicted as the pinnacle of misogyny. While Webster’s dictionary defines submission as: “yielding oneself to the authority or will of another. especially women. personality and choice. feminists deem cooking and cleaning evil relics of a contemptible patriarchal system. its necessary polarity. Feminism misleads society into believing that submitting to the will of another automatically results in abuse. rational examination and serve to shut down discussion. erroneously believe that submission results in a complete loss of identity. We don’t characterize military relationships as slavery.” many people. authority over another person is required. we can easily expose the incompetent nature of these criticisms 123 . this means you need to discipline bad and reward good behavior. Yet for all of these relationships to function properly.” has lost its proper context. We don’t characterize employer-employee relationships as slavery. They mock housewives as inferior women while painting their husbands as unsophisticated. We don’t characterize student-teacher relationships as slavery. Intellectually dishonest characterizations of submission and authority undermine objective. Yet. Yet we don’t characterize our relationship with our father as one of slavery. While the term “authority” still remains acceptable in modern vernacular. their submission must be maintained by the application of merited pain and pleasure. Submission is made synonymous with slavery. “submission. and in its most vilified context. cruel misogynists. Practically speaking.
jail) against those who breach its legal agreements. designed to safeguard everyone’s interests. A painful consequences brings society back into a state of order. 124 . To fulfill its responsibility to its citizens. Violators must be punished to remove the disorderly condition created by their actions. In return. Anything less than submission will result in disorder. those who wield authority must bear the responsibility for everyone’s happiness. when you exceed the speed limit. Your expectations are designed to care for those submitting to your authority. even to the point of sacrificing their own lives.g. Everyone’s ability to purchase lifesustaining resources is put in jeopardy. If these legal agreements are broken.. you endanger the lives of those whom the State is legally obligated to protect. all lives are put in jeopardy. Authority is required to enforce your expectations. people voluntarily submit to some type of governing authority that meets their needs.by referencing an authority-submission relationship common to everyone’s experience: From small tribes in Africa to large metropolitan cities across the United States. Nations create agreements (laws) with its citizens. These laws must then be enforced to protect those interests and thus maintain an orderly society. Whenever people enter into a reciprocal relationship. Submission is the proper attitude/behavior/condition necessary for authority to function properly. those receiving care are obligated to submit to the governing authority providing it. For example. each side must sacrifice its freedom. fine. you break the laws designed to protect the economic interests of its investors. If you steal from a bank. the State must use its authority to execute a punishment (e. In doing so. you are essentially breaking the legal agreements governing public roads.
human life becomes expendable. a strong pair of arms for moving furniture and changing tires. Whereas absolute freedom led her to a Wild West lifestyle of confusion and misery. steal from others or engage in any other unrestricted behaviors once they become lawful citizens of a nation. yell fire in a crowded theater. financial support. submitting to male authority does not result in oppressive relationships. stabbed. In exchange for her freedom. she gains the right to physical protection. Without reciprocation and mutual dependence to guide your actions. Both authority and submission are essential to meeting everyone’s need for order. This is no different than immigrants losing the ‘freedom’ to exceed the speed limit. The only “freedom” she loses is the dysfunctional ability to act without restriction. They fail to realize that their delusional utopia of absolute freedom will only lead to a complete disregard for human life. both sides will remain unsatisfied. Self-interest always undermines the incentive to care for everyone’s mutual welfare. those who demonize authority and submission are really expressing their childish desire for immediate gratification. 125 . Thus. It places her in a proper position to receive her husband’s care and protection.Just as obeying the laws of the State does not suppress your identity or turn you into a slave. A wife submitting to her husband’s governing authority doesn’t lose her identity or ability to choose. a well-directed life will answer her need for order. If either component is missing. raped or exploited by an unrestricted society predicated on selfindulgent freedom. killed. Freedom is meaningless if you must constantly worry about being shot. her submission actually safeguards her freedom. romance. peace of mind and a satisfying relationship. On the contrary.
But outside of bed. Even feminists themselves are hard-pressed to ignore their own natural gender design. unrestricted freedom is very dangerous to any society. there is no way to protect the interests of either gender or preserve a peaceful order. which was starting to feel like catnip in this new..uk/femail/article-1213212/The-ego-epidemic-more-inflated-sensefabulousness. their own experience betrays their fraudulent philosophy. Today. she’ll be creaming her panties in no time!”5 Wakeman initially admits her own ignorance of gender function: “I look back now and see that [the men I dated] realized I loved [submitting] long before I did.thefrisky. He could be stern and take charge when he needed to..thefrisky. just as absolute. weird way. women are encouraged to “break the law” of reciprocation by refusing to submit to male authority.” Yes. Without a functional authoritysubmission relationship. I always felt ‘safe’ with him because of the way he took charge. of course. break-ups and divorce) when it’s ordering agents (authority & submission) are removed.com/post/246-first-time-for-everything-spanking/ 126 .com/post/246-moves-women-love-in-bed-but-can-be-too-afraid-to-askfor/ 6 http://www..co. The high rate of divorce is indicative of society’s contempt for authority and submission.. unrestricted freedom is dangerous to any relationship.html 5 http://www. He was protective. As much as feminists love to claim that gender is a mere social construct.dailymail. But with tons of trust and communication. Jessica Wakeman..Absolute. As The Frisky’s most staunch feminist. [He] dominated me in bed all the time. He could be fearless and decisive. He had [an authoritative] personality.it was [his authority].”6 But through actual experience she later gains a valuable realization: “. Because of feminism’s emphasis on self-esteem4. even hardcore feminists—who routinely condemn authoritative 4 http://www. there are more single people than married people. Romance will naturally entropy (fights. reveals: “[Women] want to be dominated: Even big-mouthed ballsy women like me enjoy being dominated! Yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of being rape-y. for the first time in history. He could be a leader..
Hariton discovered that the most common fantasy involved being “forcefully taken” by a man. During interviews with women. Never before in my life have I experienced such weeks-long periods of horniness! [. nor was I unhappy. Susannah Breslin. B. but it is true. the significance of female submission is even backed by scientific studies such as the one conducted in 1973 by researcher and therapist E. And I mean constantly. Author. further confirms this innate desire by giving dating tips to men that emphasize the importance of male authority in relationships: “Take Charge. 7 8 Hariton.. [. lots of women really like it.” “. We will never tell you this.. Barbara Hariton. the idea of [submitting to a man] aroused me more than I had ever felt before.. E. I promise you.. I was not being hurt. And as Wakeman confesses. it even feels pleasurable: “I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with [submitting to a man] and.youtube.men as “controlling” and “abusive”—admit that submitting to a man feels right.] I was horny constantly. We do not want to decide where to go. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship — or playing at one. Psychology Today. The sexual fantasies of women..com/watch?v=ejSq-_NzAps 127 .7 Such scientific observations and many others like it reveal the functional desire expressed by women8 to submit to male authority.. anyway — and [submitting to his authority] got me unbelievably. 39-44 http://www. 6.” In fact.] [he] was not abusive. unbelievably turned on. (1973).
these stats are most likely lowball figures. Feminism. which uniquely capitalizes on the social incompetence of men. and these fantasies are frequent or preferred in 9% to 17% of women. interested. male authority is largely absent from its customer base. authoritative men can already attract women. I felt conflicted about giving up my physical power. engaged. and happy..psychologytoday. We like that.”10 Even the scientific community confirms this fundamental truth about female design as Psychology Today’s News Editor. We are interested in how you portray yourself. dominant. thinking [this] wasn’t something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy.. Act confident. “.com/blog/brainstorm/200805/why-do-women-have-erotic-rapefantasies 128 . feminism still conditions women to believe that competing for male authority leads to greater happiness. a doer. sheds further light on the subject by revealing a telling fact: dominatrices can make a good living while female submissives are rarely in demand.. Thus.. could a partner take me seriously as a thinker. and a creator when I wanted to be submissive 9 10 http://www. self-assured.com/post/246-10-things-guys-should-do-on-a-first-date/ http://www.thefrisky.” 9 She also provides the reason why women require male authority: “Frankly. shmeminism. points out: “A recent analysis of 20 studies over the last 30 years indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have [domination] fantasies. Considering that [women are ashamed to report such] fantasies. [Remember when we said we were ‘strong and independent’ and didn’t need a man to take care of us?] We lied. ambitious... Matthew Hutson. I fretted.thefrisky.. Just how.“. we’re not even sure what we want half the time.”11 And the porn industry.even though I liked the feeling of [submitting to a man].com/post/246-the-10-stupidest-mistakes-men-make-with-women/ 11 http://www. This is evident in Wakeman’s own struggle with functional gender roles: “. but you knew that already. as women. Why? Because in a market based upon the inability to attract women.. Yet even with vast amounts of evidence to the contrary. they have little incentive to patronize sex workers.
Because they see no distinction between male and female capacity. Society must recognize the value of teaching females to submit to male authority. WHY aUtHoRitY belongs to Men Today. Only then can men and women truly benefit from the healthy exercise of authority and submission within a relationship. The mere “fantasy” of submitting to an authoritative man can never replace the reality of an emasculating culture that fails to meet the needs of women. By robbing men of their authority. feminism simultaneously deprives women of healthy male leadership. causing endless frustration. When boundaries are responsibly placed to curb disorder. women assume that their authority exists independently of men’s authority. When relationships lack a stable leader. feminism has deceived women into believing their authority is autonomous. relationships eventually break down. and without women submitting to that authority.to him? What if people think I’m weird or screwed up?”12 While it’s true that women today experience much more social freedom to speak and do as they please. without men exercising authority over women. neither gender is satisfied. Yet. and it must teach males how to exercise their authority to meet everyone’s needs. Feminism’s dysfunctional relationship model competes with a female’s natural submissive design.com/post/246-first-time-for-everything-spanking/ 129 . everyone enjoys the liberating peace of orderly relationships. the end result is always suffering. Many women even believe that 12 http://www. Freedom that sacrifices necessity is meaningless. the ability to do anything becomes contemptible if it fails to meet your needs. being shackled to feminism’s fraudulent ideology mocks the very purpose of freedom. Record numbers of women now take prescription medications to numb their chronic dissatisfaction. Whenever necessity competes with good intentions. they also experience much more misery.thefrisky.
Just as men have certain inherent gender limitations (e. women can do nothing. But women fail to realize that their ability to regulate anything is attributable solely to men—apart from male permission. women are also limited in their capacity by their inherent design. And calculating complex math problems or understanding basic philosophical viewpoints proves daunting for most women. Because of feminism dysfunctional view of gender. and they lack the male capacity to reason.g. men have been protecting and providing for women since the start of human history. Although most men find lifting heavy objects to build homes or working long hours in military training to be elementary duties. women completely ignore a key authority principle: having authority requires the capacity to enforce it.their authority supersedes men’s authority. Thus. most women find such tasks physically impossible. by virtue of necessity. men can’t have babies or replace women as “mothers”). Women are physically weaker than men in both strength and endurance.. This stems from the belief that sexual access—a key male need—is independently regulated by women. 130 .
if instead of asking for sexual access. Thus. And they gain invaluable technology. firefighter. Because men perform these duties. women wouldn’t be able to survive.php?f=16&t=455 131 . These 13 http://manhood101. men are responsible for protecting and providing for women. In short. scientist. engineer. They fail to realize that men are stronger than women.Police. construction worker. women really have no autonomy. without male consent. resources and provisions. Without male enforcement. However. And just as governing officials demand that their citizens obey the laws. They gain houses that shield them from harsh weather. men too must demand submission in order to fulfill their governing obligation. CEO and president are all male dominated professions for good reason— women can’t competently meet the physically and mentally demanding nature of these duties. women today have been conditioned by feminism to believe that protection is a right. there would be absolutely nothing women could do to stop men from taking it by force. Without men. Just as governments are responsible for protecting and providing for their citizens. men suddenly demanded it. not a privilege provided by men.com/forum/viewtopic. women gain civilization. Emasculated men have been similarly deceived by feminism to believe that they don’t deserve to have authority over women. Women assume that men must protect them simply because women demand it or are entitled to it. Men must work in the most dangerous and demanding jobs because they are the only ones with the physical and mental capacity to do so13. female autonomy would never exist. soldier. women gain protection from rape and slavery. Submission is required to maintain authority.
Thus. that’s abusive. women are privileged when men allow them to exercise choice.” “You should pay for my dinner like a gentleman would. The only way women could procure uncompensated protection and provision would be to utilize the same manipulation tactic they presently rely on—passive-aggressive shaming: “You’re not a man if you don’t take care of me. 132 .” “Expecting sex is barbaric. According to feminism. If men choose not to allow something. You need to earn it.” The only reason women aren’t in complete submission already is because men haven’t chosen force.” “When you say things that hurt my feelings. Men have chosen to care for women instead of enslave them. Only men have the innate capacity to enforce their authority.men fail to realize they are the ones providing protection and provision to women solely by their own gracious choice. men and women possess equal power. If men collectively stopped choosing to protect and provide for women. all female agendas. It is solely by male choice that women are granted any autonomy whatsoever. they would have absolutely no independent means to protect and provide for themselves. But the reality is. desires and activities are subject to male permission. women immediately lose their privilege to do it. not only would women be unable to force men.
The misapplication of pain and pleasure always leads to disorder. To maintain order. they lack the means to become orderly. then you are exercising functional authority. They set up rules of conduct that should be obeyed. If. Properly functioning parents will inflict pain to curb disorderly behavior and happily reward their children with pleasure when merited. authority must meet the needs of those under your care to be functional and attractive. However. Remember. If the rules are obeyed. your authority leads to disorder. 133 .being ResPonsible to tHose UnDeR YoUR aUtHoRitY If you fulfill your function as a man by creating order. Without it. pain and pleasure must be applied only when merited. If the rules are broken. it is the wrong form of authority. Good parents enforce their expectations with their children. To enforce your personal 'laws'—your expectations—in a functional way. a reward follows—pleasure must be applied. loving parents will never endanger a children’s life with excessive pain or pleasure. however. Men are responsible for maintaining order and preventing disorder. punishment follows—pain must be inflicted. Women and children require a healthy administration of male authority in their lives. both tools must be used only when appropriate.
On the street. you obey national security laws and observe military jurisdiction because you want your country to be protected from foreign threats. Receiving protection and provision requires relinquishing your freedom. It enforces the expectations of a group. If society accepts this authority. Because Michael Jordan is famous. you submit to police officers because you want to be protected from criminals. instead of wearing just any old brand of shoes.Just as the government is charged with protecting and providing for its people. But you didn’t realize that such restriction actually protected you from harm. you were forced to submit to your parent’s restrictive policies. Protecting and providing for your interests requires submission to the governing authority just as meeting the needs of women requires submission to male authority. you’re wearing Air Jordans. his personal authority influences many people. As a child. Your safety depended upon submission to parental authority. Now. A husband exercising authority over his wife or a general exercising authority over his soldiers are examples of personal authority. You thought having a curfew was unfair and infringed upon your freedom. you submit to searches because you want airplanes to be safe. Whenever he makes a product. social aUtHoRitY Social authority is a derivative of personal authority. PeRsonal aUtHoRitY Personal authority refers to the authority exercised by an individual. it helps perpetuate that authority by 134 . You submit to paying taxes so you’ll be provided with government services like road maintenance and health care. They represent the authority of Michael Jordan. his authority is transferred to that product. Jordan brand shoes are an example of social authority. men are charged with protecting and providing for those submitting to their authority. Proper care always requires authority. As a citizen of this nation. at airports.
the more willing people will be to meet your expectations when you display that authority on your feet. Conversely. This will grant you social authority over others. As more and more people begin to value Air Jordans.creating social expectations around the vehicle of that authority (in this case. his shoes). the social 135 . when people stop valuing Michael’s authority. Now if you wear Air Jordans. the social authority grows in proportion. people will think you’re ‘cool’ (valuable). The more powerful Michael’s authority grows. you are wearing the cumulative authority of an entire society on your feet. In short.
Don’t stay up too late. whether through drugs.authority of his products will also diminish. the more capacity you have to produce order. When someone moves toward disorder. you need to apply limitation and restriction to bring things back into an orderly state. The less dysfunctional your authority. A large part of a parent’s responsibility is devoted to disorder prevention: Don’t play in the street. This is no different than a child trying to live productively without parental guidance. Children require the ordering function of their parents to maintain peaceful lives. If you are able to competently move yourself and others toward an orderly condition. Don’t hang out with dangerous people. Such a situation is doomed from the start. this indicates the absence of functional authority. Don’t be lazy. Don’t neglect your chores. Dysfunctional authority is motivated by dysfunctional desires—your own personal wants and preferences. Good parents must constantly tell their children ‘NO’ to prevent disorderly behavior. Don’t damage your reputation in society. you need to learn how to confront them by saying no. poor choices. When women operate outside the guidance of men. Functional authority meets the needs of both leader and follower in a relationship. this indicates your authority is functional. exeRcising FUnctional aUtHoRitY Exercising functional authority means moving toward a state of order. Likewise. if you find your apartment to be a perpetual mess. they move in a disorderly direction and grow increasingly dysfunctional. Don’t take drugs. Conversely. your relationships to be a chronic tug-of-war and your family to be a chaotic battlefield of competing wills. Dysfunctional authority fails to address your needs and the needs of those submitting to it. when things and events move toward disorder. Don’t eat tons of sugar. crippling insecurities. Don’t make friends with people of poor character. 136 . one of your primary functions is to prevent and remove disorder. saYing “no” As a man. neglect or abuse.
Don’t be fooled. you allow yourself to become a human welcome mat for women. You need to stop this dysfunctional cycle. you simply adapt to bitch behavior. Social interactions fail because men like you assume that females are supposed to be difficult and demanding. Since emasculated men in the media are your primary models of behavior. permissive attitude. you fail to realize that your permissive (submissive) attitude only reinforces the problem. Being a functional man means saying ‘NO’ to bitch behavior. You buy gifts only to allow women to take advantage of your affection. You need to stop allowing your expectations to be violated. In short. you encourage it by doing nothing to stop it. If you allow women to play with your authority. You need to stop catering and deferring to the demands of women and start caring about getting your own needs met. Instead of saying NO to disrespectful behavior. Women today feel entitled to do what they please without fear of reprisals because emasculated men like you allow women to seize your authority.Permissiveness leads to problems. Even though women claim to be just as capable as men. And you compromise your expectations only to allow women to gain emotional. they remain trapped in a childish state of insecurity when divorced from male authority. social and financial leverage over you. Whereas functional men refuse to let women order them around. Men who allow women to engage in unregulated behavior experience non-stop relationship problems. Your passive acceptance normalizes 137 . You need to learn how to stand your ground. You work only to allow women to take your earnings. you will become a victim of your own careless.
girlfriend or wife associates with will ensure their safety. If you fail to provide loving approval (pleasure). in like manner. women will look elsewhere for it. To properly restrict a woman. They will constantly seek it out in various forms—the most popular being male attention. Just as loving parents routinely restrict the associations of their children as a matter of safety. This practical use of his authority protects her from potential harm. Prohibiting a woman from hanging out with other men will only 138 . a husband should rightly control his wife’s associations. But it does not address the reason why such associations are formed in the first place. Restricting who your sister. When you take the opportunity to tell a woman NO. you too will protect your girlfriend or wife from careless associations with other men. For example. Women need love and approval to maintain an orderly condition. If you realize that men mainly associate with women for sexual purposes. Women respond positively to men who refuse to tolerate disorderly female behavior.the problem. But control is necessary to create and maintain any healthy relationship. you should take care to meet her needs. The idea of a man controlling his wife has been demonized by society as an “abusive” character trait. you demonstrate your ability to create order in her life. You haven’t yet realized that telling a woman ‘NO’ is one of the most valuable thing you can do for her. you should restrict the associations of the women under your authority.
authority always comes with a much greater responsibility. But if you do nothing to provide nutritious. you become responsible for providing an alternative to fill the void created by your restriction. To have security. If you tell a person to avoid something bad (like going to a bar) or you restrict someone from engaging in an unhealthy behavior (like taking drugs). men must give up their freedom to women. But this carries a huge responsibility. But people are willing to sacrifice their time. they must maintain a position of authority over women. Just as children must sacrifice their freedom to receive the benefit of their parent’s care. Since men have the obligation to protect and provide for women. women must give up their freedom to men. your restriction becomes just as dysfunctional. This governing dynamic also occurs in relationships. Women. Both genders binds themselves together to meet their needs. men must sacrifice their very lives. satisfying food in place of your restriction. Restriction can never be enforced by deprivation. are in dire need of restriction. your restriction becomes nothing more than deprivation. they must sacrifice their freedom by submitting to male authority. This mutual sacrifice of freedom is necessary to maintain the relationship. Today. Their physical and psychological welfare rest in your hands. To have their sexual needs met. like children. while women must sacrifice their freedom. You can tell a person to avoid eating sugary foods like candy and donuts. Although your restriction may have good intentions behind it. privacy and freedom to feel safer. This functional governing arrangement can even be observed in our society.work if you are meeting her need for loving approval. you create a dysfunctional situation called deprivation. 139 . It requires passengers to submit to the limitations set by government. However. If you fail to provide a satisfactory alternative. so too must parents sacrifice their lives to ensure the welfare of their children. airport security is restrictive. And since women receive the benefit of male protection and provision. if you fail to meet their needs. You can even make it a dietary restriction.
Stop devaluing your male function. If a woman refuses to submit to your governing authority. women want to have their cake and eat it too. The exchange must be mutual in nature. Your loving care should always depend upon her submission. relationships will collapse. If you are willing to give up the right to pursue other women. To remedy this disorderly situation. you should demand that your partner meets your sexual needs. she owns your life. Women like Tyra Banks routinely use sex as a bargaining chip. your permissive.php?f=16&t=205 140 .com/blog/?p=4721 http://manhood101. You own her freedom. The burden of authority always requires the mutual sacrifice of freedom. They wish to restrict and control men while remaining completely autonomous. emasculated attitude must be exposed16. Your support and provision should always be conditional. feminism teaches women to neglect this necessary restriction. Women like Oprah rely on the media to further their professional victim status yet selfrighteously condemn men for wanting equality in the classroom15. You must realize that if gender obligations aren’t mutual. Instead of mutual limitations. Sacrifice and equality have been quietly replaced by entitlements and special gender privileges. If a woman’s cooperation is absent. so too any woman who refuses to be governed by you should be cut off. yet hypocritically scold men who rely on their income or social status. it also allows you to fulfill your gender responsibility of 14 15 16 http://www. you should treat her as foreign citizen and immediately remove all her benefits. your authority is absent.com/documents/LadiesNightsPrssRels.doc http://glennsacks. Just as a citizen who refuses to acknowledge the laws of a nation.com/forum/viewtopic. Not only does it incite attraction. If you are willing to support a woman financially. you should never be ashamed of restricting and limiting women.roydenhollander. you should demand that she does all the housework without complaining. As a man. If you are willing to protect and sacrifice your life for a woman.Unfortunately. you should demand the final say in all relationship decisions. forfeits his civil rights. Women like Erin Andrews take advantage of female-friendly laws yet turn a blind eye to male gender discrimination14.
Compared to women. and more capable. You can think and make decisions independent of your peers. This is your obligation as a male exercising authority.com/forum/viewtopic. even women realize they’re incapable of making a competent decision without a man’s guidance. Thus.php?f=16&t=534 http://manhood101. you must bear more responsibility.creating an orderly relationship. they are more than happy to place that responsibility on someone else’s shoulders. according to your function. Being a man places you in a natural position of authority over women. this will produce attraction. You are stronger17.php?f=16&t=455 141 . But do not assume leadership 17 18 http://manhood101. When you learn to take the lead and bring women into an orderly state. smarter18. You are designed to lead women. Since women deem themselves incapable of making a rational decision on their own. you possess much more natural capacity. leaDing Deep down.com/forum/viewtopic. not by choice but by virtue of your design. This is why you will often witness women interrupting their girlfriend’s conversations with men and physically pulling them away (commonly referred to as “cockblocking”).
There is nothing wrong with cautiously approaching a decision. you will pay too much for a used car. Too many men allow themselves to be crippled by the fear of pain or the fear of failure. But when no decision is made. It just means you’ve failed to expose it. Going backward may feel humiliating. Failures can be forgiven. you will be held accountable to those submitting to your governing authority. When a decision needs to be made. As a husband. Don’t be afraid of making bad decisions. All positions of authority come with a heavy price.roles can be traded at your convenience. You will waste 142 ? ? . Yes. you must take action. Be fearful of neglecting to make any decision. mistakes can be adjusted. Hiding from failure doesn’t mean you’ve escaped it. Failure is necessary to properly calibrate leadership skills. Your problems stay hidden. The thought of being held accountable becomes a nightmare. As a parent. Your incompetence avoids exposure. no correction can occur. bad decisions will sting. they cringe. But paralysis is worse than failure. Leading women is a lifetime obligation. In short. you will make mistakes. Being unable to decide is worse than making a bad decision. Avoiding a decision will not make your responsibilities vanish or keep your failures at bay. Instead of deciding. Since women lack the capacity to bear the burden of authority. failing and learning from your mistakes. But going nowhere will haunt you. indecision prevents growth. You will spank your children when you should have praised them. You will teach them bad habits and give them bad advice. These men do not realize that pain is an integral part of moving toward order. and you will praise them when you should have spanked them. For the rest of your life. But indecision will cripple. It merely prolongs the adolescent stage of authority. incompetence becomes entrenched in paralysis.
If you’re not leading. indecision will cause you to lose people.money renting when you should have bought a home. 143 . If you fail to direct her behavior. property and sleep. This means. When speaking to a woman you’re attracted to. you are no longer fulfilling your leading function as a man. Similarly. Avoid indecision at all costs. your goal should be to lead her toward a relationship. Your mistakes may be difficult to recover from. she will be the one directing your behavior. you will end up going nowhere. This especially applies to your relationships. dissatisfying life of stagnation. But failing to even start that process guarantees a disorderly. if you neglect to express your interest in her and initiate movement toward the specific direction you want her to go. Always fail forward. you’re following—there is no middle ground in the universe. the woman is by default. You will spend your savings on a vacation when you should have saved it for an emergency. If you’re not in charge of your relationship. But while bad decisions cause you to lose money. Order can eventually be reached by process of elimination. This means you need to direct her toward that goal.
Take the lead. you must stop her. Being a passive spectator waiting for something to happen does not accomplish this goal. Just because you’re dating a woman doesn’t mean it’s going to work out in the end. it must move everyone in an orderly direction. But be aware that your goal is not to cover as many subjects as possible. but for authority to be attractive. You are merely reacting to what others around you are doing. the weather. you are a passive spectator letting things happen to you. All people are attracted to order. Your goal is not to shower her with unreciprocated attention and affection. [This will be covered in Section III]. Allowing her to violate your expectations does not accomplish this goal. the direction itself is an indication of 144 . movie tickets and jewelry. drinks. Talking about celebrities does not accomplish this goal. Your goal is not to wait for her to make a move on you first. Your goal is to lead her toward a romantic relationship with you.Right now. In fact. you will experience difficulty creating relationships or you will end up in unsatisfying ones that feel like suffocating prisons.. Your goal is not to kill time or become best friends. or other equally pointless topics. Without taking the initiative to direct your social interactions according to your expectations. Establishing and maintaining order requires your active directing work.. This does not mean you’re forced to solely talk about romantic topics. Move the conversation back to what you want to talk about and move her in the same direction you’re headed. Your goal is not to buy her dinners. Such a dysfunctional attitude always results in disorder. You need to take an active hand in meeting your romantic expectations with women. If a woman moves the conversation toward celebrities. You need authority to meet your expectations. Don’t be fooled if you end up in a relationship..
Functional women honor your position of authority. This means the authority position should always be honored and preserved. HonoRing vs. the exercise of authority should meet a minimum ethical standard before it is obeyed. If you are experiencing awkward silences and passive periods of indecision. They will defer to your judgment. obey your commands and submit to your will. regardless of whether it proves functional or dysfunctional. To lead others. the more you realize where you are lacking. you must first know where you’re going. But obedience should only be given to decisions that do not violate fundamental ethical principles. 145 . this indicates a fundamental lack of direction in your social interactions. obeYing Women who honor and fear your authority will obey you. You must have a direction. A functional standard always gives you a proper indication of your deficiencies. however. The clearer the direction becomes. it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing so bad. When you compare yourself to others.order. But don’t be fooled by society’s low social standards.
At times. she meets your needs. The woman is the Receiver. Instead of remaining in the receiving position. Such decisions. not making the best decision. This symbiotic relationship results in mutual satisfaction. it should be obeyed at all times. But that woman should never presume to replace the governing authority of her man. you are the Giver. just as it’s dysfunctional for children to referee their parents’ decisions. do not violate any ethical boundaries. she should obey. Even if he asks her to dig a hole in the backyard and fill it back up. Order cannot be maintained if the integrity of the governing authority is compromised by a rebellious attitude. But it’s dysfunctional for a woman to play the referee. Feminism ruins this natural balance. Other times. This leads to a disorderly power struggle within the relationship. women are now conditioned to fulfill the male 146 . Honoring and preserving authority remains the top priority. A man may consult with his woman on a decision. giveR As a man. But she is free to disobey his exercise of authority as such a request violates ethical and functional boundaries. the woman should still honor his position of authority over her with her attitude. the wife should obey him. a man will make the wrong decision. In return.For example. As long as a man’s authority does not threaten his woman’s life or violate any ethical boundaries. he will make the right decision. a guy tells his girlfriend to rob a bank or jump off a cliff. if a husband tells his wife to buy a gift for a wedding even though the gift may be tasteless or embarrassing. You are the responsible one providing for her needs. she should comply. If however. while possibly foolish or flat out wrong. If he asks her to cook dinner when she’s tired or to perform her sexual duties even if she’s not in the mood.
gender role. They want to be perceived as the Giver. Such an arrangement is impossible to maintain. As a man, you must preserve your authority by refusing to allow a woman to compete for your function in a relationship. Nullifying your authority always removes your function. Your authority must be recognized before you allow others to benefit from it. If a woman refuses to depend on you, at that very point, you should cut off the giving—time, money, effort, attention, resources, all of it. The receiving position is conditional. Only those under your authority— those relying on you for their welfare—are in a proper position to receive what you have to offer. You can’t properly care for those who refuse to submit to your authority. As you learn about the nature of authority and how to exercise it to get your expectations met, you will begin to realize what feminism ignores: authority is a functional tool designed to meet the needs of others. Sure, you can and should use your authority to meet your expectations. But that’s only half the story. For authority to be functional, it must serve those who submit to it. Your authority is not meant to be a club to get things done your way. Your authority functions primarily as a service to those governed by it. There are innumerable ways to abuse authority, but only one way to functionally exercise it—as a service. For example, fathers require authority over their children. This allows a father to direct the behavior of his children in an orderly way. He makes sure they do their chores and eat healthy meals. The control he exercises allows him to meet his expectations, but the outcome primarily benefits the children. Thus, the proper exercise of authority always benefits those governed by it. But if fathers are careless, they can damage their children’s future. A dysfunctional exercise of authority fails to create self-discipline in a child. Consequently, many adults today are incarcerated because they lack self-control. They are the products of dysfunctional authority.
Your needs can only be met if your children’s needs are also met. If you use your authority solely to meet your own needs, It becomes dysfunctional. In a relationship, everyone’s needs are tied together; your need for order is no different than any other person’s need for order. Thus, your welfare intimately correlates with the welfare of those you govern. However, since the vast majority of men don’t know how to get their needs met, they require authority training. Such men do not yet know how to serve others. Before they can be useful, they must first learn how to gain the submission of others. Once they learn how to gain submission, they can get their expectations met. These men will then be in a position to use their authority as a service rather than a mere social advantage.
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As recipients of a man’s giving, women do everything to receive your approval. Often times women will pretend they aren’t interested in you just to get more praise from you. When you pursue a woman, she feels validated by your interest. She wants to prolong this pleasurable feeling. By pushing you away, she is hoping you will continue to pursue her. This feels even more pleasurable because she has created an artificial obstacle. The more obstacles she can get you to overcome to gain her affection, the more pleasure she feels. This eventually “turns her on” and encourages her to reciprocate at some point. Other games played by women aren’t games from their point of view. Many female behaviors are inherent to female insecurity. For example, women will flake on dates or fail to call you because they’re worried that something will go wrong. They’re anxious about how you’ll perceive them. They’re nervous and apprehensive about breaking social expectations. Insecurity causes women to waffle back and forth between decisions or neglect to make a decisions altogether. This is why it’s crucial for you to direct and bring order to a woman’s insecure life.
Some men have expressed displeasure about having to initiate the majority of social interactions with women. But this perspective completely neglects their own male design. Women only respond to what is initiated because their function is to mirror men. Women are not designed to initiate. Instead, women reflect what males project. Women react to male stimulation. Many areas of life reveal this principle. Relatively few women ever approach men. Women could never handle the rejection. Initiation is simply not part of a woman’s capacity. For a woman to open up and become receptive to
flirting, a man must first stimulate her. Their pursuit provokes sexual thoughts, reflected in a woman’s libido. Without this initial pursuit, women have nothing to react to, leaving sex drive dormant. This is why females can experience years of sexual inactivity if their interest isn’t sparked by a male initiating and showing sexual interest. Even civilization itself is a product of man’s propensity to stimulate. The number of male inventors far exceeds that of females for good reason.19 Men have built empires, invented new technologies and explored the boundaries of the universe because of their capacity to initiate and stimulate.20 Throughout history, men have always been the universal impetus. Practically speaking, for you, this translates into taking action. Instead of passively sitting by and letting a woman dictate the conversation, you should actively be stimulating her. And the most stimulating thing you can do to a woman is to direct her life toward order.
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Function is specific to form. For example, when people want to move great distances, they require a some sort of vehicle (form) to help them travel (function). The wheels on a vehicle can be many different shapes. But only the circle form perfectly fits its traveling function. Whenever something achieves its highest form, its correct function is realized. For example, a clock’s function is to tell time. There are many different types of clocks, all with varying degrees of accuracy. But the highest form of a clock gives the most accurate time. A clock with perfect form will give the correct time.
Your own disorderly life is directly tied to your degree of dysfunction. If something is truly functioning. There is no such thing as partially functioning or somewhat functional clock. you are designed in an orderly way. you require a purpose—a blueprint for your behavior. your purpose must be intimately related to order. If something is not absolutely 100% working properly. There are countless degrees of dysfunction. This allows you to recognize and move toward order. This also means that there is only one functional form of the clock. This means. Since you originated from order. both in your disposition and position. To be functional. To move toward an orderly state.This also means that correct form leads to one specific function. A functional clock only gives the correct time. you will also move those under your authority toward an orderly state. Something cannot be considered to be functional unless its operation is 100% free of error. your dysfunction lessens. but only one final instance of function. Right now. as a man. it is dysfunctional. you must remove dysfunctional behavior. As you exercise your authority to bring order to your life. This means its redundant to say something is functioning properly. you are drawn to order and you are satisfied by order. This purpose will dictate your function. its error-free nature is already implied. All other forms of the clock are dysfunctional. you are a dysfunctional man without a purpose. As you learn to properly apply these universal principles to your life. even though they may only be off by mere nanoseconds. you require authority—the means for creating order—to become functional. Your 151 .
I felt pressure to compete to see who was cooler. I felt like by the time I got there. they attempt to compete for value as if it is some 152 . In this competitive mind-set. As a result. all the pie was gone. This coolness ‘value’ was determined by how many funny jokes you could tell or how many cool things you could say.authority functions to discipline disorderly people. In my head I had created a finite piece of ‘cool’ pie that could only be taken by so many people.When hanging out with friends. whoever told the funniest jokes was the coolest guy. I felt worthless comparing myself to others. If your authority is moving everything in your life toward an orderly condition.. disorderly things and disorderly situations. it is functioning properly. Order ACHIEVED LEAST DISORDER Most Disorder tHe RelationsHiP betWeen FUnction anD valUe “..” Most people fail to make a proper connection between function and value. Thus.
their function is sacrificed. They’re told to adopt male careers.sort of tangible commodity to be won or lost. no one can replace your singular male function. Thus. You cannot compete for value because anything of real value is determined by function alone. Today. You are abusing the function of the screwdriver by violating its intended use—its proper function. 153 . they become valuable. it becomes worthless. however. They become useless. This can be illustrated by a simple analogy: If you use a screwdriver as a hammer. neither can anyone steal or award you value. How well you fulfill your function determines your value. But the more women neglect their female function. Then it becomes valuable. when people function according to their design. even though all humans possess the capacity to fulfill certain gender-specific functions. so that its proper function can be realized. assume male positions of authority and employ aggressive communication like men. when people adopt the wrong form. the less valuable they become. females are taught to behave like men. You may be tempted to get angry at the screwdriver. their value to others remains unrealized. Thus. Since. feminism is attempting to force women into playing the role of a man. the screwdriver must be used according to its original design. Now. many fail to express this capacity. the problem isn’t with the screwdriver itself but rather the way it’s being used. you are abusing its function. instead of behaving like women. Likewise. Delusional View SOCIAL STATUS WIFE CAREER HOUSE Missing Value ACHIEVEMENTS FRIENDS REALITY Finite Units of Value MONEY CAR FULFILLING YOUR FUNCTION Chasing Value worthless VALUABLE Yet. Conversely. It will be very difficult to build anything. To remedy this situation. It was never intended to be used as a hammer.
Both mind and legs fulfill different (unequal) functions. not its distracting effects. dysfunctional behavior becomes unavoidable. however. By demonizing functional behavior. But both are essential to the successful operation of the whole body. Focus should be placed on the source of dysfunction. threatened by social and sexual ostracization. this emasculated behavior is not the result of an inherent flaw but rather feminism’s perversion of functional gender roles. By refusing to acknowledge the fact that men and women are not ‘equal’ in function. Emasculated males should not be viewed as a weaker subset of men. the entire body will suffer. People don’t choose dysfunctional behavior—feminism demands it.RestoRing a PRoPeR vieW oF FUnction Today’s males reflexively defer and submit to women in the name of ‘equality’. Their feminist upbringing is responsible for their dysfunctional behavior. Both genders have been deceived by feminism’s seductive ‘equality’ ruse. Both mind and legs are required to fully 154 . But both functions are equally essential to the whole operation of the body. Like eye and foot. and legally bullied into compliance by the feminist State. each performs a different function of the body. For example. feminism sets men and women up for failure. the mind functions to decide where the body will go while the legs function to move the body to that location. Neither should dysfunctional women be viewed as “bitches” from birth. Innate gender design dictates that both men and women should operate as components of a whole. Without one or the other.
But addressing their general lack of 21 http://manhood101. For example. Both functions are required to create satisfying relationships.com/forum/viewforum. In like manner. the more you are then able to bring others toward order.php?f=18 22 http://manhood101. The order you bring to others is reflected in how much disorder you’ve removed from your own life. The testimony of men21 and women22 around the world confirms this fact. fat people may seek to exercise more often or eat better food.com/disappointedwife. DYsFUnctional DesiRes The more you learn to exercise your male function. ‘Equality’ is not found in mimicking another gender’s abilities but rather in fulfilling the specific function each gender is designed to perform. Eventually the relationship will break down. FUnctional DesiRes vs. If either gender function is neglected.html 155 . the entire relationship suffers. men and women are designed to fulfill different functions according to their gender. people typically focus on its symptoms while neglecting the root. When removing disorder.meet the needs of the entire body.
your being experiences a painful craving that you naturally seek to fulfill to maintain order in your being. When you’re empty.self-control is much more difficult. Their obesity is merely a symptom of the real problem. Whenever these necessities are met. you may decide to inject yourself with morphine to temporarily dull the pain. However. Your wants represent your dysfunctional desires. ensuring it stays in good working order. Even if they do manage to lose weight. you seek to be filled. you seek out companionship. When these things are absent. They regulate your being. short-sighted solutions to alleviate your suffering. you often resort to harmful. you seek out food. if you have cancer. you experience pleasure. For example. For example. When you’re lonely. These short-sighted solutions are commonly referred to as wants. These desires are universal to all people. their lack of self-control will manifest itself in other ways if the root cause is never addressed. These needs are your functional desires. People often refer to these all-powerful cravings as needs. when you fail to get your needs met. There are certain things your being requires to remain alive. This is much more convenient 156 . when you’re hungry.
but exercise addresses your functional desire to maintain a healthy body. For many. Addressing your needs (functional desires) results in satisfaction. packages and preserves your food to accommodate your dysfunctional desire for convenience.than removing the cancer through a painful life-saving operation. If you’re hungry for dinner. For example. you may be tempted to eat a candy bar instead of a well prepared meal at home. people are conditioned to focus on their indulgences while ignoring their true necessities. you need to maintain an orchard. you may be tempted to buy an expensive sports car instead of an efficient vehicle with great gas mileage. Fillers are added to keep the price of food within the budget of the indolent. Food coloring is added to accommodate personal preferences. And artificial flavors are added to appeal to a childish urge for instant gratification. The morphine represents a short-sighted solution to your cancer problem. is too painful. If you need transportation to work. grow them. society is designed to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. Addressing your wants (dysfunctional desires). thus leading to bigger problems down the road. Thus. To eat whole apples. it will lead to a more satisfying life. From a young age. it does not address your body’s long-term health requirements. It’s much easier to just go out and buy packaged apple sauce. obtaining food in its functional state. results in dissatisfaction. on the other hand. 157 . the more junk food you eat. For example liposuction addresses your dysfunctional desire to look good. the more dissatisfied you will become. you need to eat every day. Since regular exercise meets your needs. the food industry processes. Today. All this order requires much work and effort to maintain. But eating junk food won’t address that need. prepare soil. Although it may satiate your hunger. All these short-sighted solutions neglect to address your real needs. and pick them at an appropriate time. For example.
Only life can cause growth. Life is no longer being administered. FUnctional socialization Society contributes to your disorderly condition by maintaining dysfunctional standards for basic socialization. if you can make small talk with another person. including relationships. If either party remains unsatisfied or fails to move toward order. The vehicle is your expression—your means for meeting your expectation. But this low standard completely neglects the function of socialization—to convey your very person to another person through the vehicle of experiences. This means listening to your ipod instead of socializing with others around you. This playing video games instead of playing a sport. both parties enjoy a mutually satisfying experience that causes the relationship to grow. meeting your needs instead of indulging your wants leads to a pleasurable state of order— satisfaction. All living things must grow to survive. this is an indication that growth has ceased. This means creating more laws instead of becoming responsible for your own behavior. others will be presume that you possess basic social skills. However. This means feeling comfortable instead of working to become competent. When you convey static information. The relationship has become dysfunctional. Removing disorder from your life is a daunting chore if you lack direction and motivation. you focus on increasing your conveniences to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. Information has replaced the person. tHe stanDaRD FoR social coMPetence A base level of social competence requires a proper destination and a vehicle to transport you there. your relationship stagnates because nothing living is imparted to the other person. when you convey your dynamic person. Addressing your functional desires requires much more painful effort by comparison. The destination is your expectation— your purpose for the socializing. This means watching TV instead of reading a book.When you lack self-discipline. Information does not cause growth. This means buying fast food instead of cooking your food at home. But ultimately. Both of these must function 158 .
on the other hand. But if he lacks the authority to properly convey his expectation. your relationships may start off with a bang.correctly to create satisfying social interactions. the ‘player’ type guy has developed good expression. But because he’s only concerned with his own welfare. Do not 159 . his relationships won’t last long. His person is clearly conveyed. you may have a picture perfect relationship in your head. they will end in disorder. he can’t meet their needs. he too will be unable to create satisfying relationships. Your expectations go hand in hand with your expression. but ultimately.COM Exp REACTION TO YOUR EXPERIENCES fuel E YOUR XPRES SION Exp re ss ed unc t i o n as F al e ct ations AUTHORITATIVE MAN SATISFIED state of order ATTRACTION byproduct manginas EMASCULATED MALE ee ds FEMINIST obstacles N ur Yo bitches MAP AUTHORITY foundation MISERABLE state of disorder Feminism Desert If your expression conveys your person but your expectations (destination) are dysfunctional. his authority is dysfunctional. but you will have no practical way of creating or maintaining one. If your expectations are functional but your expression is dysfunctional. He also exercise enough authority to create an enjoyable social experience. MANHOODACADEMY. he is headed in the right direction. Since he doesn’t understand how to practically satisfy the needs of the other party. For example. Thus. Unlike the player. A father. may hold a functional expectation of caring for his family.
“I want to have sex with 100 women. Consider the following examples: “I want to have sex with men. short-sighted nature.neglect either aspect. This desire is dysfunctional. “I want to be a rock star. Eating a cheeseburger for dinner won’t kill you immediately (and even tastes delicious). While cheeseburgers may satisfy your dysfunctional desire. tHe test FoR DYsFUnction Without functional expectations. reproduction and death will be disrupted.” If each man had sex with 100 women. While less dysfunctional than the first example. this desire proves functional. But if you expect to eat nothing but cheeseburgers over a long period of time. This multiplies the effect of the desire and in doing so. Dysfunctional expectations are characterized by their harmful. “I want a home. leading people physically and emotionally toward a more disorderly state. apply it to a global scale. Life as a cycle of birth. gives clearer insight into whether it’s functional or dysfunctional.” If you apply this desire to all men. it’s very easy to abuse your authority. leading to even greater problems. To discover whether a desire is functional or dysfunctional. Thus. relationships would be devastated left and right due to many overlapping sexual encounters. you can conclude this to be a highly dysfunctional desire. you will experience long-term health problems. This would lead to all kinds of health and intimacy problems. 160 . you must learn how to discern the difference between functional desires and dysfunctional desires. But to create functional expectations.” If everybody chose fame-based careers.” Since everybody needs shelter. Both must be functional to satisfy the needs of everyone in your social interactions. mankind becomes extinct. this desire is also dysfunctional. anonymous and thankless duties necessary to the practical functioning of society would be neglected.
There’s really no such thing. is a team sport.they ultimately ruin your long term health. the more you satisfy your partner. social inteRaction Does not HaPPen in a vacUUM Many of you are under the delusion that you can learn to socialize at home by yourself. The more order you bring to a relationship. you’ll become socially competent. Even this book represents the crystalization of the knowledge and experiences 161 . Functional expectations always follow functional desires. An orderly relationship results in the highest emotional investment. But you fail to realize that social interaction. It certainly does not happen in the vacuum of one man’s isolated experience. You want to practice by yourself. short-sighted desires eventually leads to a disorderly and unsatisfying condition. When your expectations fully match your needs. Whatever you need in life requires a matching functional expectation to address that need. Thus. You figure that just by memorizing these concepts. This is not a self-help book. pursuing after dysfunctional. improve by yourself and do everything by your own hand. order is created. by definition.
of many many men. depending on each individual member to function properly. Life is so tightly intertwined and dependent upon its neighboring components that even the slightest change alters the entire system. so too is all of society like one single cell. This means all living things depend on each other for survival. All living things follow the principle of dependence. Like the harmonious environment of a living cell depends on all its smaller components to function together. you would never be reading this. or else the entire cell will eventually collapse and die. It is even foolish to assume that your social competence only relates to you. Without them. You are not 162 . Society is like the ecosystem of a small pond.
Their incompetence affects your behavior. social competence isn’t merely lacking in society. in the work place. This means everyone’s needs are being met in the relationship. Your male needs will either be embraced or condemned as a group. you gain nothing. Attracting a woman is considered a contemptible act of misogyny. You are incompetent because of the social incompetence of others. Being a socially competent male today is viewed as a hateful act. True social competence translates into global competence. you’re in a relationship with every single person on the face of the earth. each of these individual social decisions will begin to add up. Creating an orderly relationship is viewed as “abusive and controlling” behavior. your incompetence affects other people’s behavior. Today. in your families and in your romantic relationships. depending on what each individual man does to meet them. The cumulative social effect will influence society to either support or oppose your masculinity. Even getting your most basic expectations met is sometimes viewed as a criminal activity in the eyes of this feminist society. The player looking for a one-night stand in Brazil is creating another bitter female who will advocate the removal of male authority in Sweden. One by one. most people are not in your immediate family or group of friends or even in the same city. The single-mother scolding her son’s sexuality in London is creating another emasculated male who will enforce feminism in America. Sure. just like a line of dominos falling. If you’re the only person who is able to competently socialize. But whatever you do inevitably affects the life of the person next to you. Whether you realize it or not. in the legal system. Social competence relies on the ability to enforce functional expectations. And in turn. 163 . It’s systematically condemned in academic institutions.incompetent by your own design.
toward social competence. it won’t matter. There is no neutral position in life. Emasculated men will resist you. You are either influencing or being influenced. You are either training someone or being trained by someone. No exceptions. It is necessary to shift your entire culture. Social competence is like oxygen (or any other necessity). Your ability to create a functional relationship will be wasted. or you will be forced into social incompetence by consensus. If you are the only socially competent person on earth.But this is only because socially competent men are few and far between. Dysfunctional women will be too extreme to govern. you must learn to create a new current of social influence altogether. It’s viewed as isolated. You must guard it with your life. it’s for the benefit of every man. Your social competence isn’t just for your benefit. You must do whatever is necessary to acquire it. The current feminist environment doesn’t support social competence. and society will shun you. There is no middle ground. You’re not becoming socially competent just to get a girlfriend or find a better job or stand up to a bully. You must fight against whoever tries to take it away from you. rogue behavior. The government will criminalize your behavior. 164 . Either you must become socially competent by necessity. To become socially competent you must not only swim against the stream of feminism. You’re becoming socially competent to satisfy the fundamental requirements of life. even the whole world environment. You are either getting your expectations met or meeting someone else’s expectations.
DISPOSITIONAL ORDER BUILDS Expresses Dispositional Order Design Governs Everything Life Regulate Living Purpose Limits Disorderly Behavior Order Obedience FORM FUNCTION EFFECT RESOLUTION Harmony POSITIONAL ORDER RECIPIENT AGENT REFINES Chaotic Universe Truth Divide Order From Disorder Mankind Universal Principles Expose Disorder Satisfaction Controlling Female Submission Femininity Removing Feminism Seek Dispositional Order Apply Dispositional Order Authority To Discipline Attracted To Love 166 Emasculated Male Masculinity Removing Emasculation Become Attractive Love DISPOSITIONAL DISORDER DECAYS Allows Hypocrisy FORM Dysfunctional Authority POSITIONAL DISORDER FUNCTION Remove Order EFFECT Disorder RESULT Dissatisfaction RECIPIENT AGENT POLLUTES Society Feminism (Ignorance) Hides Disorder .
When an expectation is adopted by a group. a social expectation is formed. President) • A mother and father should raise a child • Obeying traffic laws • Recycling Examples of dysfunctional social expectations: • Tipping • Welfare • Feminism • Desiring social status • Men should pay for women • Women are just as smart as men • Strong. Examples of functional social expectations: • Working for a living • Supporting leaders (Father. boss. Social expectations are powerful because they are enforced by consensus—the pleasurable approval and painful disapproval of many people. but men can’t hit women 167 . independent women are attractive • Women can hit men.PaRt iii: aPPlYing tHe solUtion cReating anD Maintaining oRDeR tYPes oF exPectations perSonal expectationS & Social expectationS Personal expectations refer to the expectations held and enforced by one person.
What are my expectations? 2. a police officer would have no direction. These natural desires are functional because they drive you toward an orderly condition. you need to ask yourself three questions: 1. a police officer requires the law to direct his behavior.HoW to get YoUR exPectations Met Now it’s time to apply what you’ve learned in section II. Whatever the law says. according to their gender. To create order. Eating provides your body with food energy to maintain your body’s orderly condition. This means everybody possesses the exact same needs. 168 . The law acts as his guide. you can’t create order without having a code of conduct to direct your behavior in an functional way. Am I able to communicate my expectations? 3. it will be impossible to create order in your relationships or your environment because your authority will be going in the wrong direction. Similarly. you need to exercise your authority in a functional way. your need for food drives you to eat. directing his actions. To create order. Without the law. For example. To practically create and maintain order in all your relationships. If your expectations are dysfunctional. Am I enforcing my expectations? WHat aRe MY exPectations? A police officer is bound by the law and is obligated to enforce it. This requires that your expectations lead to an orderly outcome. your expectationS ShoulD mirror your neeDS Your needs are universal in nature. he must enforce. In simple terms. your needs let you know what you should expect from others. Needs serve as guidelines for creating functional expectations.
I need a romantic relationship. etc. Your expectations allow you to move all types of relationships toward the ultimate goal—order/satisfaction. I expect men to reciprocate my friendship.) to obey me. I need to take care of those under my authority. I expect those under my care (wife. I need female support. I need to maintain an orderly romantic relationship. I expect the woman I’m dating to emotionally invest in me as much as I invest in her. teachers. father. children. I expect to state my interest in a woman. I expect sex from a woman under my care. I expect my attention and affection to be fully reciprocated. Your physical needs. I need to socialize. I need an orderly relationship. etc. there is no way to get your needs met. cooking. employees. I need love. cleaning). I expect a woman to meet my domestic needs (childcare. Here are a few examples of your functional desires and the expectations you should be developing to match them: MY neeD I need to create order. I expect to obey those responsible for my care (boss. I need affection. girlfriend. government. I need sex. Your expectations should mirror your needs (functional desires). emotional needs. I need male support. I expect other men to listen to me. I expect a woman to submit to my direction and support my decisions. sexual needs. I expect to develop a romantic relationship with the woman I’m talking to.) 169 . psychological needs and spiritual needs all require expectations to fulfill them. mother. I need to submit to those taking care of me. MY exPectation I expect women to fear my authority.Without expectations to govern the behavior of others.
the relationship will break down. You won’t be able to think of anything but food. if your sexual needs aren’t being met in a romantic relationship. shelter. For example. you will experience nagging hunger pangs. you can meet your physical need. Or you might even decide to eat other people. You will do anything to meet your need. women also have needs that aren’t being met in their relationships. pornography is one of the largest industries capitalizing on sexual deprivation in males. In a state of deprivation. It’s no coincidence that today. Now you can concentrate on other things because the thought of hunger doesn’t consume you. You might rob a bank. air. you might start stealing food from others. They have access to food. your behavior becomes dysfunctional. But if there’s a food shortage. Yet the dissatisfying state of their lives shows that their needs are not being fully met. If you can’t get food in a functional way (by growing or buying it). the prescription drug 170 . Because of feminism’s dysfunctional social climate. they are unable to fulfill women’s emotional needs. Thus. But males aren’t the only ones being deprived of their necessities. Deprivation results in disorder. if you have access to food. you will start seeking out dysfunctional ways to meet them. both gender’s social needs are neglected. Because your needs still remain unfulfilled. When men lose their authority. SatiSfaction Most people today can get many of their basic needs met. water. Because of feminism’s damaging influence. etc. eventually. For example.Deprivation vS. you will employ dysfunctional solutions to meet your need.
In fact.com/forum/viewtopic. They will never solve it. The solution is also not to adapt to the problem as the Seduction Community has done.com/2010/TECH/02/01/sex. Your present lack of direction is causing everyone in your relationships to suffer.html?hpt=T2 http://manhood101.industry now exploits the emotional deprivation in females. Because technology can never replace male authority.cnn. Failing to address deprivation will not magically make it disappear. the problem is further reinforced by short-sighted solutions that normalize your deprived condition. Only by developing 1 2 3 http://www. To answer the problem of social deprivation. these functional desires are necessary to push you toward order.php?f=16&t=359 http://en. everyone’s need for order remains unfulfilled. you must learn how to create and maintain order.2 Quick-fix bandaid solutions only allow the problem to persist.wikipedia. And the solution is not to sweep the problem under the rug as feminists have done by completely ignoring your male needs3. Online “social” networks can’t replace in-person friendships. your need for social interaction will not be placated by virtual reality substitutions. The epidemic social problems men and women face today are a testament to that fact.robot/index. Artificial sex robots1 can’t replace love.org/wiki/2009_Collier_Township_shooting 171 . Adding more conveniences to your life will never be an adequate substitute for male authority. In fact. sex and companionship will never go away. Just as your body is not designed to eat artificial food coloring or other chemical additives. Your need for love. Video depictions of sex can’t replace intimacy. The solution is not to condemn your desires. Even cell phones and computers—initially created as social tools—now contribute to epidemic levels of social deprivation.
Any expectation that doesn’t fully meet everyone’s needs in the relationship is dysfunctional by definition. Functional expectations. Your expectations must meet everyone’s needs—both yours and theirs—to establish order. It’s tempting to preserve a happy atmosphere by ignoring her dysfunctional behavior. you will find it increasingly difficult to get your needs met in the relationship. A harmonious. Once these expectations are made clear. Here are some examples of functional expectations: • I expect a woman to follow my directions. you will then have the direction necessary to start governing the behavior of others to meet those needs.expectations to match your needs can your social problems finally be addressed. All dysfunctional desires should be subordinate to this goal. she will no longer fear your authority. But over time. the more it will undermine your authority over her. so I can protect her. her love for you will also fade away. satisfying conclusion. functional & DySfunctional expectationS Just because others approve of your expectations doesn’t mean they will automatically result in satisfying relationships. For example. And quite naturally. you may expect to have a good time with your girlfriend even if she’s refusing to listen to you. By maintaining dysfunctional expectations. they should be discarded. This allows you to move everyone in the relationship from a state of deprivation to a state of satisfaction. always move all parties toward an orderly. It’s difficult to sacrifice your dysfunctional expectations because they lead to short-term pleasurable gains. Any expectation that accommodates dysfunctional behavior will lead to misery in the end. Eventually. If your expectations fail to move your relationships toward an orderly. harmonious condition. on the other hand. The longer you cling to your dysfunctional expectation. satisfying relationship should be the ultimate litmus test for your expectations. you guarantee yourself a life of disorder and dissatisfaction. 172 .
so my need for companionship is met. no attraction. preferring blonds to brunettes). the more it meets everyone’s needs. Can’t get needs met. worn down buildings. Relying on entropy won’t create order. [Dysfunctional. unkempt lawns. But no matter how seemingly benign an expectation is. Because of entropy. it’s dysfunctional. don't seem dysfunctional (e. eroding mountains).. The less dysfunctional an expectation. [Dysfunctional. 173 . Caring for personal preferences will inhibit orderly social interactions. there is only one direction. With order.] • I go with the flow.] Some expectations. so I can create order in her life. like your acquired personal preferences. [Dysfunctional. These dysfunctional expectations will result in varying degrees of disorder: • I want women to be in charge. Every other direction is dysfunctional and will result in disorder. Your expectations are no exception. Once an expectation fully meets everyone’s needs. it becomes functional.g. all things are drawn toward a natural state of disorder (memory loss.• I expect a woman to fear my authority. if it's not moving everyone toward an orderly state. • I expect a woman to show affection.] • I want to eat Chinese food instead of Mexican food. Functional means orderly. They require regular maintenance to remain functional. sagging skin.
even if they seem harmless. This clear communication of your expectations is necessary to create order. Today. The type of expectations you cultivate will affect your life and everyone in it. Rebellious teens are cautioned to avoid joining gangs. There is no such thing as an insignificant expectation.This is not to say that failure to remove personal preferences will cause your life to immediately self-destruct. There is no point in deluding yourself. as a parent. This means you need to give people a clear goal. You must tell people what they shouldn’t do and what they should do. But you should be clear about the nature of your expectations. For example. Drug users are warned about the dangers of their drug abuse. But it fails to tell you specifically what you should be doing. society often reminds you what you shouldn’t be doing. you must direct your children to eat healthy food (goal) while forbidding them from eating junk food (straying from the goal). but they are never specifically told how to achieve a healthy 174 . and you also need to let them know if they are straying from that goal. but little effort is made to mentor them. aM i able to coMMUnicate tHese exPectations? proviDing the right Direction anD removing optionS The second step in getting your expectations met is learning how to communicate your expectations to others.
merely removing unfavorable options will still result in an overall disorderly condition.life. If you expect others to follow you. Without specifying an orderly direction. there is nothing he can enforce. A police officer can only enforce the laws that are expressed to the citizens. To achieve order. All the emphasis is placed on avoiding dysfunctional behavior while comparatively little effort is spent teaching people how to become functional. the easier it is for people to follow them. failing to communicate your expectations will lead to disorder. it’s imperative that you not only lead them in the right direction but that you also effectively communicate that direction. If there is no law expressed. Criminals are thrown in jail for breaking the law. but they are never properly educated to create functional relationships from the start. the police will be unable to prevent you from driving recklessly. For example. specific goal to move toward. Like unexpressed laws. 175 . if no speed limit exists to govern your driving behavior. Be Specific With your expectationS Expectations are like government laws. The clearer you make your expectations. people need restriction to curb their disorderly tendencies and a clear.
It requires you to bear the cost of your authority. If your expectations aren’t specific enough to direct the behavior of others to meet your need. complementary expectationS anD competing expectationS In any social interaction. aM i enFoRcing MY exPectations? Enforcing your expectations requires you to become responsible by providing a clear. Clarifying your expectations removes disorder from your social interactions. functional direction that benefits those submitting to your authority. Being in charge of the direction means you’re also responsible for the outcome. you may expect people to respect you. those being governed by them experience security and stability. it’s a poor expectation. When your expectations are properly enforced. Because it lacks direction. it will be difficult to get this expectation met. they becomes functional expectations. they are useless. Although this sounds like a good idea. The more you weed out optional behavior from your expectations. Requiring others to listen when you’re speaking is a much better expectation because it provides a specific course of action for the other party to follow. People have a much more enjoyable time talking to you when they know exactly what to do to receive your approval. there are at least two expectations present— 176 .For example. Remember: truly functional expectations only have one direction. you fail to enforce your expectations. the less dysfunctional your expectations become. If however. people will experience anxiety and frustration when dealing with you. When you’re finally able to remove all optional elements from your expectations.
Without the correcting agent of pain. Pleasure. Pain exposes disorder. it’s imperative to know how to address competing expectations. when a father rewards his children with an allowance for completing their daily chores. Dysfunctional expectations compete with functional expectations. Just as police officers are required to inflict a painful consequence on those who violate the law. To maintain order in a social interaction. the result will be an orderly. not only will align from the start. On the other hand. Pain & PleasURe Pain and pleasure are equally important to enforcing your functional expectations. he fosters orderly behavior in those governed by his authority. As long as everybody follows that direction. This means only one direction will be expressed. but everybody’s needs will get met.your expectation and the other party’s expectation. If both party’s expectations are functional. and the directing agent of pleasure. a painful punishment exposes disorderly behavior. satisfying social interaction. he is motivating them to meet his expectations. his children will love him. And those receiving the punishment will fear the governing authority administering it. causing it to cease. you also need to administer a painful punishment to those who violate your expectations. on the other hand. Because of this. gives others a positive incentive to meet your functional expectations. By rewarding their obedience with pleasure. For example. 177 . dysfunctional expectations will involve many different options. your expectations become nothing more than impotent hopes and dreams.
com/blog/?p=4543 http://www. fines). Pain acts as both a message and a consequence. it lets you know where you are in relation to a boundary or law and punishes you for violating it. You can even see this principle governing your own body. Even society recognizes this to a certain extent. For example. when you work out at the gym. But severe. crippling pain signals too much damage is being done.Together. It will ruin work ethics. If pain and pleasure are applied when not merited. there is the danger of going too far with pleasure. The court system applies a greater amount of pain to violent criminals (long prison terms. you will end up creating dysfunctional behavior in others. 4 5 http://glennsacks. death sentences) than traffic offenders (traffic school. This indicates growth.com/script/main/art. Too much or too little of either will inevitably result in disorder. Just as with the administration of pain.medicinenet. your muscles experience pain. which corresponds to men’s greater capacity to bear pain5. For example. Excessive pleasure also spoils the character of children. Those who administer pain and pleasure must be very measured in their approach. and undermine male authority by substituting bribery for discipline. You need enough pain to deter dysfunctional behavior and enough pleasure to incite functional behavior. And males generally receive harsher discipline4 than females. merited pain (punishment) and merited pleasure (reward) serve to establish and maintain order.asp?articlekey=51160 178 . you can obtain extreme amounts of pleasure from drugs. But such pleasure comes at a damaging cost to your body and psychological faculties. leading to feelings of entitlement or even criminal behavior.
and childish ultimatums. As people mature. they require greater amounts of pain and pleasure to shape their behavior. these men neglect to punish dysfunctional behavior they’ve created. As a man. they perpetuate it. the mild pain of a spanking will do little to deter an adult offender from engaging in future criminal activity. By failing to enforce their expectations. or in psychological and emotional forms such as verbal reprimands and praise. encouraging future dysfunctional behavior. such as hitting and hugging. If you fail to exercise your male authority. Similarly. it is your responsibility to apply pain and pleasure when merited. disorderly social interactions will persist. they do nothing. It is only by enforcing your functional expectations that order is created in social interactions. Adults require greater pain and pleasure than children. They offer excessive praise. Whether pain and pleasure are applied in physical forms. playing with stuffed animals will provide very little pleasurable stimulation to a mature adult.” Such unmerited pleasure creates an entitlement-mentality in women. They completely ignore obnoxious insults. men not only allow bitch behavior. When their sexual needs are neglected by women. At the same time. Neglecting your male function will cause everyone in your relationships to suffer. When their masculinity is mocked. Even worse. care should always be taken to administer only what is sufficient to create order. most men indulge women with unmerited approval.Today. men reward women who compete for male authority by praising them as “strong and independent. 179 . they ignore it. buy expensive unappreciated gifts and shower women with unreciprocated attention. The growth of the individual must be taken into account when considering the appropriate amount of pain and pleasure to apply. hypocritical feminist standards.
lethal force. After enough violations have amassed and the frustration becomes too great. You may think that by yelling. If you neglect either. yelling is even a substitute for punishment.”) to society’s enforcement of legal consequences (fines. Excusing dysfunctional behavior does not make it go away. This means you are responsible for knowing when. This allows resentment to build up against the offender. however. you’re no longer threatening to punish. But in reality. But your punishment will curb the 180 . The gravest wrongdoings as well as the smallest infractions both require punishment. you should apply a sufficient amount of pain to stop their dysfunctional behavior. If. incarceration. get out of my house. Some may view this as barbaric or too harsh. You may even delude yourself into thinking that shouting equals enforcing your expectations. Now you are actively enforcing an expectation by applying a sufficient amount of pain to the offender. you spank a child stealing a quarter.”) to your enforcement of a personal boundary (“If you’re going to act like a bitch. For many people. you’re causing others to fear your authority. it generally indicates an improper exercise of authority. while yelling may be appropriate for extreme situations. the death penalty).HoW to PUnisH Whenever you punish someone. For example. This indicates a passiveaggressive to enforcing their expectations. where and how much pain to apply. Failing to enforce your expectations will result in inward complaining. Punishment can range from a verbal reaction to poor service (“Give me a refund. all your empty threats only weaken your authority. you will explode like a boiling pot. Consider why people yell in the first place. The form of pain you chose to punish with will reveal your own state of disorder. disorder will result. It’s often a result of built up frustration and resentment.
For example. when you reject a salesman’s offer. Order is thus achieved. This responsible application of pain stops the disorderly behavior from repeating and causes the child to fear the father’s governing authority. For example. Putting on a serious face does not automatically guarantee your expectations will be enforced. you are sending a painful psychological message. Only the consistent rewarding of obedience and the strict punishing of dysfunctional behavior will create orderly social interactions. Abuse occurs when your punishment is either unmerited or too painful. it also destroys a healthy relationship. And idle threats and bribery only undermine your authority. the father hits the child with such force as to break a bone. Although the child may cry while being spanked. that pain isn’t severe enough to harm the child.com/index. But be most careful here. If. Neither does feeling bad indicate that pain has been misapplied. You can even sound calm and measured while showing disapproval or administering a painful consequence. Rejection feels painful. he will create a more disorderly situation. Yes. This may be accompanied by excessive shame and persistent feelings of worthlessness (not to mention the medical emergency and physical impairment). A measured degree of pain must be applied in a specific direction to 6 http://www. Administering such a severe amount of pain is not only dangerous. A child willfully defying his father’s authority merits a painful punishment.child’s disorderly behavior6. This indicates a functional exercise of authority. HoW MUcH Pain to aPPlY To stop dysfunctional behavior. but because of the severity of the pain inflicted. the child will experience terror. you must administer enough pain to accomplish your goal. a father spanking his disobedient child is an appropriate punishment. nor will yelling establish your authority. he may have stopped his child from defying his authority. It is one of the reasons why the sales industry is so mentally and emotionally draining for people. But just feeling bad does not equate to abuse.htm 181 . however. Too much pain will deform responsible discipline into irresponsible abuse.corpun. This results in a greater degree of disorder.
It’s clear that stabbing someone is inappropriate. but it’s often less clear what amount of psychological pain should be permissible. If you grow up in a home where your siblings received appropriate spanks for their misbehavior. The goal is not to help these men. For instance. will become abusive. the message will be ignored. If you’ve grown up in a home where your mother violently hurls objects at your father. If too little pain is applied. their misuse results in serious consequences to your relationships. The administration of pain and pleasure must always be done with a view toward the goal: bringing about greater order. On the other hand. functional view of how pain should be applied. but rather to profit from their suffering. a strict boundary must be drawn. so should the pain. you’ll develop a very dysfunctional view of how pain should be applied. Pain serves to benefit the child’s character. Enough pain needs to be applied to make the punishment significant to the child. You must learn how to apply fair and measured pain to others with the purpose of bringing them into an orderly condition. The parent’s goal is bring that child into a state of order. 182 . you’re much more likely to develop a healthy. no matter how great or small. The pain you apply must be directed at the dysfunctional behavior—not the person. You must be careful when dealing with anyone under your authority.create order. This is why its important for you to witness functional examples of punishment that create orderly relationships. popular media sanctions emotional “abuse” in the form of beautiful women offering painful ridicule to hapless “losers” and “dorks. Too much pain will cause injury (disorder). The fact is. while both physical and psychological pain are necessary to create orderly social interactions. If this is not your goal. To do this.” for the sake of comedy. your application of pain. the parent shouldn’t be administering a dangerous amount of pain that would permanently damage the child. Consider a child receiving a spanking for bad behavior. the parent needs to correct and prevent that dysfunctional behavior from occurring in the future. And once the dysfunctional behavior ceases. To prevent such abusive applications of pain.
In the above example.g. Merely suggesting a woman meet your expectations does not employ enough pain and will fail to expose her disorderly condition. As effectively as pain works toward exposing disorder. Only what is merited is functional.. “I’ll kill you!”) or using physical violence (e. Applying pain requires great care and should not be taken lightly. you may expect your girlfriend to do the dishes. she may walk out the door and come back five minutes later with a tearful apology and a submissive attitude.For example. unmerited applications of pain should always be avoided. Telling her to leave your apartment is also an extremely painful consequence. but the cumulative effects will cause great disorder to many people’s lives. hatred and possible legal consequences can all accompany the use of excessive pain..g. Or she may walk out and never come back. you’ve created more order. excessive pain is even more effective at producing disorder. Thus. punching her in the face or threatening to kill her employs irresponsible and dangerous (not to mention illegal) amounts of pain and will likewise increase disorder for everyone involved. Her dysfunctional expectation is now competing with your functional expectation. Since they result in greater disorder. This will bring about an orderly condition. To expose her disorderly condition. breaking bones or making death threats may cause a woman to obey you in the future. in the form of legal consequences and physical/emotional injuries. Both painful consequences can potentially serve to create order. anxiety. you will create more disorder for everyone involved. This will result in disorder. But if you break her arm or threaten to kill her. in a relationship. Physical injuries. A merited amount of pain exposes her disorderly condition and will restore a healthy fear of your authority. pain must be applied. if you tell a disorderly woman to leave your home. Fear needs to be restored to make your authority effective. Strongly reprimanding her for disobeying your authority is a painful consequence. But making extreme psychological threats (e. breaking her arm or punching her in the face) are examples of dysfunctional pain. Either way. She may defy your authority by asserting her expectation that she doesn’t need to obey you. On the other hand. 183 . they should never be used. Only a merited amount of pain has the potential to create order.
Society exacerbates this problem through its popular feel-good philosophy: “Accept people for who they are. Keep that in mind. and that the establishment of authority depends upon it. when dealing with women. Be aware that. although well-intended. fails to teach people how to distinguish between “nature and nurture. Because society conditions people to believe that dysfunctional behavior (social training) is fundamentally linked to our functional design (humanity). idle threats. And because society fails to teach both administers and recipients of pain how to properly apply it. And when the disorder ceases. the result is abuse rather than correction.” Thus. so should the pain. very few are able to separate disapproval (pain) directed at their actions from disapproval directed at their person. When pain is directed at the person rather than the behavior. Yelling. Many people mistakenly direct pain at the psyche—the person—instead of the person’s behavior. while applying pain to functional things causes disorder. It should be clear that punishing is intended to create order. Pain should never be used as a means of revenge or retaliation.” This message. But even pain directed at the right location—the dysfunctional behavior—many times still causes problems. great damage has been caused by both its use and neglect. throwing pans or causing severe injury are forms of pain that should generally be avoided as they usually indicate a dysfunctional application of authority. Pain directed at the wrong location—the person rather than the behavior—causes great damage . This typically leads to shame in 184 . at no time should you break the law or use physical violence or threats of that nature.Only a merited amount of pain can end disorder. a person’s design (humanity) and a person’s upbringing (social training) appear synonymous to the uneducated eye. WHeRe to aPPlY Pain Applying pain to dysfunctional things creates order. how to distinguish between a healthy and unhealthy application.
as soon as disorder/dysfunction ceases. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme manifestation being murder.html http://en. But unlike females. because that authority is the glue holding the relationship together in the first place. but also to any dysfunctional responses. If you allow a woman to disregard your authority in the hopes of avoiding a confrontation. WHen to aPPlY Pain As long as disorder/dysfunction exists. on the other hand. you aren’t doing yourself any favors.org/wiki/Columbine_High_School_massacre 185 .women and resentment in men. Since training young girls to submit to male authority isn’t exactly a popular trend with parents right now in this feminist society. Eventually that disorder will grow until it breaks down the bond of the relationship. even at the cost of a relationship. You will only cause yourself more problems in the long run.wikipedia. pain must be applied not only to dysfunctional behavior. You must be willing to preserve the integrity of your authority. disapproval directed at their person elicits feelings of shame. They respond to ridicule by becoming resentful of its source. maintaining your authority Do not tolerate disorderly behavior from women.8 In light of most people’s inability to separate their social training from their self-esteem. Her attraction to you is the next thing to go. This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly. Conversely. creating competence Functional women and functional friends don’t grow on trees because functional people are trained not found. Since women are naturally submissive by design. If a woman ceases to fear your authority. she will lose respect for you. looking for competence vS. so too should the pain.312018.00.7 Men. In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings. pain should be applied. you’re unlikely to find many 7 8 http://www.com/story/0.2933. This leads to defiant and rebellious behavior.foxnews. are naturally authoritative by design. cutting and even suicide.
from reBellion to SuBmiSSion. it’s just not very probable given the dysfunctional influence of feminism. When frustrated parents start screaming at their children. Though it’s not impossible to find a functional people. The goal is to convey sufficient pain. Instead of looking for a needle in a haystack. you will need to pick up the slack. Where her parents. If you maintain your expectations by applying pain to this dysfunctional behavior. you’ll need to start creating your own desirable. usually the problem can be traced back to a much earlier violation of authority that was never addressed. This prevents the buildup of stress. During this phase. or when relationship disputes turn violent. But by recognizing these stages. hanDling authority violationS Avoiding confrontations doesn’t solve the problem of authority violations. they will passive-aggressively try to shame you into adopting them. things will be a lot simpler for you. Be aware that shouting and swearing are not necessary. If women have trouble directly competing for your authority in the first stage. The next stage can be referred to as the passive-aggressive victim stage. You will be mischaracterized as a bully to provoke 186 . resentment and frustration.functional women to date or functional people to befriend. not your frustration. Plan on training the women who come into your life. compete against your expectations and refuse to respect you. The sooner you handle violations of your authority. It only makes the situation worse. If they cannot aggressively force you to adopt their expectations. women may question your decisions. the easier it will be to manage your expectations. The first stage is rebellion. These are all attempts to usurp your male authority. move toward obedience in three distinct stages. they will shift gears by adopting a passive-aggressive victim role. Idle threats and frustrated outbursts are symptoms of neglecting to establish your authority. you will move them toward an orderly state. Deal with authority violations as soon as possible and in a thorough way. like children. you will fail to establish your authority. functional. Do not replace pain with the mere threat of pain or passive-aggressive whining/pleading designed to invoke guilt. orderly relationship environment. If you fail to apply sufficient pain. in three StageS Women. This is where your governing authority is challenged. peers and society fall short. Learning to get women past the first two stages is the hardest part. Plan on training the friends with whom you interact.
Women need both. women will have little choice but to move toward the third stage of order—submission. attraction soon follows. pain vS. emasculated husbands whine about unsympathetic. a woman’s love has no basis. A submissive woman willingly meets your expectations. But discipline provides the foundation. Those untrained to handle confrontation. unappreciative wives. Once a woman reaches a condition of submission. reaSoning 187 . So-called nice guys finish last for good reason. Without a proper foundation.guilt. They require order. She no longer tries to usurp your authority. When you resist disorderly responses to your authority and continue to maintain your expectations. Women will accuse you of attacking and hurting them without cause. Yet many men are confused when a woman who formerly showed strong interest in them unexpectedly leaves for another man. They also need painful incentives. This is the crucial stage where a woman falls in love with you. It is commonly assumed that women invest their deepest emotions when receiving praise and attention. no building can stand. If you can only provide one and not the other. Yet the common thread linking these males is their inability to directly apply pain. women require your functional authority before they will invest their deepest emotions in you. Women need more than just pleasurable incentives. “Why are you being mean to me?” is a common sentiment expressed by passive-aggressive women trying to shame you into relinquishing your authority. Immature boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. Pain and pleasure coincide with love and fear. Likewise. Approval is the building material of love. you will fail to induce strong emotional attachment. without discipline. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. This is the highest state of order for a woman. Order attracts. Giving a woman everything she demands does not create attraction despite her claims to the contrary. Pleasurable approval encourages women to affectionately accept painful discipline. They require your loving discipline and merited approval to establish order in their lives. Merely fulfilling a woman’s wants will not meet her need for order. Thus.
9171. many women reading this book allow their anger to override their reasoning faculties. First. more hazardous jobs. This of course never works. denying and distorting the truth allows them to avoid feeling bad about themselves.com/blog/?p=4102 http://www.972472.9 As previously discussed. This makes it virtually impossible to change a woman’s mind by reason alone. women’s self-esteem is central to their decision making process. men hope to replace pain with reason as a means of changing dysfunctional behavior.amazon. women often complain about unequal wages yet conveniently overlook the fact that men work longer hours.10 A woman’s faculty of reason is subordinate to her emotional state. women don’t possess the same reasoning faculty as men. They lack the necessary discipline to arrive at rational. they allow their emotions to dictate their conclusions. For instance.com/Why-Men-Earn-More-Startling/dp/0814472109/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s =books&qid=1239820854&sr=1-1 10 11 http://glennsacks. Rather than approaching this material from an objective. They assume that providing rational explanations will convince women to change their minds and behaviors.00. Second.11 The unreliable female reasoning faculty mirrors that of children. only disciplined people respond to reason. As a result. Disorderly people are not exposed by reason because reason is developed through discipline. They are prone to allow their emotions to influence their decisions.time. Children lack credibility because their unstable emotions and immature reasoning faculty dictate their perspective. 9 http://www. disorder requires pain to expose its presence. in more stressful. self-esteem preservation takes precedence over intellectual honesty. Since acknowledging hypocrisies causes women to experience painful emotions. Only disciplined people are reasonable. For example.html 188 . objective conclusions. they will conveniently overlook arguments exposing painful hypocrisies. thus. By explaining their expectations in a more thorough way. For women. rational perspective.com/time/magazine/article/0. they end up trying to reason with women to gain their submission. Instead of trying to reconcile the inherent contradictions within feminism.Men often make the classic mistake of arguing with women instead of applying pain to dysfunctional behavior.
It’s unproductive to explain to a young child why he shouldn’t play in the street until that child has enough discipline to reason effectively. Thus. on the other hand.co. Practically speaking. they are unable to acknowledge their disorderly condition. DTL 16 http://www. Reasonable people have the ability to listen.htm 189 .12 For example.com/journal/volume6/j6_2_4. irresponsible emotional accusations were made against innocent men as a means of preserving reputations and absolving dysfunctional women of personal responsibility. Without applying pain to dysfunctional behavior. a person first has to be disciplined enough to apply reason.especially when the self-esteem is threatened. it’s not productive for men to enable immaturity by accommodating it with unmerited explanations.sfgate. Likewise. women will refuse to acknowledge your authority. despite your reasonable explanations.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/EDGIJ7OQKS1. reasoning with that person proves useless. flaws). Instead.ipt-forensics. Adults respond to reason because they have the self-discipline to acknowledge their own dysfunctional behavior (mistakes.com/cgi-bin/article. shortcomings.duke.com/archive/years/2010/0113101copperfield1. To competently respond to reason. Children respond to pain. not reason. The disturbing amount of the false rape accusations16 made by women each year confirms their inability to place reason before emotion.thesmokinggun. you should focus on exposing their dysfunctional behavior through the application of pain. are products of unrestrained emotion. it’s unproductive to reason with dysfunctional women who refuse to submit to your male authority. David Copperfield14 and Kobe Bryant15 cases. Unreasonable people. Their willingness to violate your authority with specious emotional arguments is a symptom of your failure to apply sufficient pain to establish your authority. Reason is cultivated through training not intellectual pleading. If a person’s character has not been trained by the disciplining application of pain.html 15 http://www. 12 http://www. this means a child can’t hear you until he first fears your disciplining authority. in the Duke Lacrosse13.uk/posts/view/158792/Modern-Life-Why-women-can-t-tell-eachother-the-truth-about-size/ 13 http://news. Because pain has not been applied to their dysfunctional behavior.edu/lacrosseincident/ 14 http://www.dailyexpress.
Don’t be fooled by a woman’s physical compliance with your expectations. A woman’s inward attitude is much more important than her outward behavior as the former always dictates the latter. this means you need to discipline even her attitude. You must first apply discipline to her before reasoning with her will take effect. Do not let passive-aggressive attempts to mock your authority slide. Pain must be applied to expose her dysfunctional behavior. actionS Be aware that applying pain only to dysfunctional behavior isn’t good enough. Be thorough. Nip things in the bud the first time around. Without a submissive attitude. This is important because sometimes women will submit in words and actions. Sweeping disrespect under the rug. attituDe vS. her actions mean nothing. Once a woman’s attitude aligns with her words/actions. Before you attempt to reason with a woman. you will be unable to get your expectations met. When women agree to technically meet your expectations but still offer snide remarks or condescending commentary ridiculing your authority. Although a woman’s outward behavior may meet your expectations.Without self-discipline. Practically. but not in attitude. will not make it go away. You must be sure you have a woman’s full submission before your approval will be appreciated. a rebellious attitude is a more egregious violation of your authority. Expect and demand her full submission to your authority. no matter how small. 190 . If you neglect to maintain the integrity of your authority. check to make sure she first fears your authority: • Does she disapprove of what you say based on her emotions? • Does she repeat arguments you’ve already addressed? • Does she focus on how you make her feel rather than on what you’re actually saying? • Does she ignore points she can’t defend? • Does she constantly mischaracterize the situation? • Does she accuse you of being mean when you don’t agree with her? All these indicate your authority is not yet established. a woman will not respond to reason. then you know you have her full submission. there is no real submission.
you allow others to avoid even acknowledging your expectation. husbands complain about unsympathetic. while avoiding confrontation. you undermine your authority. Passive-aggRessive PUnisHMent Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. your functional expectations should put others to a decision. Allowing people to remain indecisive encourages their disorderly condition to progress. This encourages irresponsible behavior. For passive-aggressive men. fear is required. being held accountable to their expectation is a terrifying thought. When disapproval and rejection become too terrifying to deal with. you make others choose between meeting or not meeting your expectations. Because the thought of disapproval/rejection is so upsetting. unappreciative wives. Teachers fret about their students not fulfilling their duties. And if that expectation is important enough to you. For this to happen. people resort to passive-aggressive behavior. Yet the common thread linking these emasculated men is their inability to directly apply pain. The passive-aggressive approach seeks to take authority. Those untrained to handle confrontation. pleasure and pain are applied 191 . 3. Directly stating an expectation involves the inherent risk of having that expectation disapproved or rejected. This causes 3 things to happen: 1. passiveaggressive men resort to stating their expectations indirectly. they feel as if their very person is being disapproved/rejected. If you fail to provoke a decision. Authority’s function is to bring about order.putting otherS to a DeciSion If properly enforced. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. You give others a reason to fear your authority. 2. You cause others to mature by provoking a decision. When people avoid decisions. If their expectation is disapproved/rejected. they are essentially trying to avoid responsibility. When you allow people to ignore your expectations. By provoking a decision. To do this. Boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. a confrontation inevitably develops between the disapproved expectation and its opposing expectation. You move them toward meeting your expectation.
This minimizes the chances of a confrontation occurring. begging & gUilting Complaining. Expectations are replaced by resentful suggestions and clear orders are replaced by an attitude of complaining. the result is confusion and disorder. But since she is a woman. And men should likewise avoid its use because it prevents them from establishing functional authority. while applying direct and merited pleasure maintains authority. taking a man's authority. The woman is implying that she “always” submits to the other person's authority. Pleasure is also applied indirectly. Applying direct and merited pain establishes authority. “Always have to” is an indirect token of submission.simultaneously. But when these two messages are used indirectly or without warrant.” thus taking making himself responsible to his decision. to bribe the other person into forfeiting their authority. Pain is applied to competing expectations in the form of indirect rather than direct disapproval/rejection. is extremely dysfunctional. in a token showing of submission. It implies that the man has no choice in the matter and is being ruled by the other party’s authority. “Why don’t we ever go to Del Taco?” Such a question places blame on the other party. a passive-aggressive man will instead state. instead of stating: “I want to go to Del Taco. Passive-aggressive speech often takes the form of a question. especially one who is caring for her needs. whining and pleading are passive-aggressive behaviors that indirectly imply disapproval of a competing expectation. she implies that she should be given the authority— she should be in charge. For example. Example 1: Woman: “Why do we always have to go to Taco Bell?” [complaining] Questioning “why” implies disapproval of the expectation to eat at Taco Bell. Passive-aggressive behavior is expressed through actions or words characterized by complaining and whining. 192 . coMPlaining. Women should not engage in this behavior because it violates their natural position of submission. Functionally applying pain and pleasure requires a direct and merited application. Rather than stating an expectation directly—which makes you accountable to your decision and risks disapproval from others—men will often try to avoid accountability by placing the blame on the other party. Further.
he resorts to begging the other party to meet his expectations. When your expectations are in harmony. This of course results in the other party losing respect for the man. like during an argument where your authority hasn’t been established. the last thing you want to do is focus on your emotional investment. However. Also. But since he is a man. Example 4: 193 . But when your expectations are competing with hers. Not only is this healthy. not on how she affected you (emotionally or otherwise). If a woman doesn’t fear your authority. merited pain) to enforce his expectations. It's dysfunctional to leave the job of enforcement up to the woman since her natural position is that of submission. he's avoiding the application of pain necessary to get his expectation met.” [guilting] In this example. Example 3: Man: “Please do it my way. The woman has the option of meeting his expectation. This undermines your attempt to reestablish your own authority over her. In the other party eventually becomes disgusted by this passive-aggressive behavior and completely disregards his expectations. it will also serve to solidify the relationship. just this one time. You’re essentially validating her authority over you by letting her know how much you’ve emotionally invested in her.Example 2: Man: “Do you have to act like a bitch? [complaining] It makes me so feel so stressed out. Please?” [begging] Since the man is unable to apply pain to enforce his authority. Letting her know she stresses you out is not only a passive-aggressive attempt to guilt her into changing her behavior. questioning. it also let’s her know she’s very important to you. “Do you have to. Her emotional affect on you should only be discussed when your expectations aren’t actively conflicting. because this male leaves the decision up to the female. his design dictates that he should be the one to exercise his authority (by applying direct. she won’t care how she affects you.” implies disapproval of the “bitch” behavior. avoid making this into a therapy session. Your focus should remain on your expectation being violated. feel free to discuss your emotional investment at will.
But since you haven’t established your authority. Tyrants and those who oppress others often employ unmerited pain to get their expectations met. being ignored by you is like being ignored by a chair. For example. You feel that ignoring them and becoming distant will send them a clear message: you should feel guilty for hurting me. you may threaten to ignore someone who is insulting you. she realizes she holds all the authority in the relationship. senDing MixeD signals Many men make the mistake of undermining their authority by applying pain and pleasure simultaneously.” Her pleasurable hug is actually reinforcing his bad behavior. To the other party. This is the basis of oppressive/ tyrannical authority. This is akin to a mother trying to reprimand a child who has run into the street by hugging and pleading with him not to “scare mommy. Many problems arise from the conflicting application of pleasure and pain. you repeatedly respond to their insults. Passive ignoRing This is when you passive-aggressively react to someone violating your expectations (hurting your feelings for example). they couldn’t care less about receiving your approval or disapproval.Woman: “Whenever you don’t pay for my dinner. You’re so mean. I get so sad. thus undermining her intended application of pain. You don’t care about me!” [guilting] Here the woman tries to mischaracterize the behavior of the other party. It doesn’t matter. This gives them pleasurable attention which validates their behavior. This can cause serious physical injuries 194 . You are actually encouraging their insults by rewarding them with attention. When that happens. oPPRessive PUnisHMent Applying an insufficient amount of pain fails to create fear—the basis of establishing functional authority. But while doing so. while applying excessive pain generates an unhealthy fear (terror). She’s hoping the other person will begin the never-ending cycle of attempting to justify his behavior to her.
.. Holy Graf.”17 Unmerited applications of pain cause an enormous amount of stress to the recipient. This eventually leads to greater disorder in both behavior and perspective.html http://www. neurotic behavior will develop. if a child receives arbitrary punishments instead of merited spankings. 17 18 http://www. Terror paralyzes but fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses. [she called] them ‘idiots’ and ‘stupid’ as she spat a stream of obscenities. However.htm 195 .g. Many dysfunctional women fall under this category. Unlike merited applications of pain which move its recipients toward order. forcing him to take a “time out” by standing alone in an empty watch room.g. oppressive/tyrannical applications of pain cause feelings of confusion and helplessness. But let’s use reason to examine why this fallacy is wrong and extremely damaging to society.. Your fear of violating the law of gravity is healthy because it keeps you safe. Her former crew members . E. . Consider how the law of gravity governs your life. Regardless of whether unmerited pain is applied directly (e. a naval commander who was relieved after humiliating members of her crew: “.g.com/benatar.and psychological disorders. . tHe Pain FallacY Some people have argued that spanking as a form of discipline18 is not only abusive but also teaches children to react with violence.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/03/05/AR2010030504326. it can still damage the physical and psychological health of the recipient. he is reduced to a neurotic state of perpetual anxiety. Take for instance.’ as well as a modern-day Captain Bligh. Violating this law by stepping off a cliff can result in grave injury to your body. It peacefully stabilizes your relationship with gravity.. a sarcastic remark. applying unmerited pain is always dysfunctional. . a kick to the groin) or indirectly (e. this violent consequence of pain doesn’t teach violence. a false rumor).washingtonpost.corpun. Thus. describe her as ‘Horrible Holly. . . . It does just the opposite. They even cite pseudo-scientific studies to support their assumption. Since the recipient lacks the means to control his reward or punishment. One noncommissioned officer said Graf treated him like a toddler.
In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia. You cannot depend on women’s validation alone as a litmus of your authority. Since women are naturally submissive by design. Because ridicule is a condescending and demeaning form of rejection/disapproval.The problem is not with the fact that pain is being administered but rather its inconsistent and inappropriate application19. Learning to apply balanced pain and pleasure requires practice. Just as a disciplining parent must ignore childish threats (“If you punish me I won’t love you”). For example: • “I’m going to kill you if you do that again. Many parents create disorderly conditions by inconsistently applying pleasure and pain to their children. It is a common device used in political and social satire. Ridicule differs from functional disapproval/rejection in that the person rather than the behavior becomes the target. This problem is further exacerbated by the application of pleasure when pain is required and vise versa. tHReats Threats convey retaliation rather than correction and are often extreme or irrational in nature. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings.wikipedia.” • Pointing a gun at someone RiDicUle This involves speech or action intended to cause contemptuous laughter at a person or thing. they typically respond to ridicule by becoming ashamed.aspx http://en.com/blogs/nurtureshock/archive/2009/12/30/never-been-spanked. it generates two dysfunctional responses: shame and resentment. inconsistent and inappropriate application of pain and pleasure are the real culprits. you must not allow women’s immature ultimatums (“You’ll never get laid unless you give me my way”) to influence your authority. 19 20 http://blog. This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly.newsweek. cutting and even suicide20. The resulting disorder is attributed to the choice of tool when in reality.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Megan_Meier 196 .
Addressing mischaracterizations proves to be a losing battle as dysfunctional women do not rely on accuracy. Mischaracterizations are often endless and overwhelming. When faced with mischaracterizations. on the other hand. facts or reason. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme result being murder (ref columbine shooters bullied). Tom begins to focus on his behavior while ignoring Jane’s dysfunctional reasoning. you’re not lying. [trying desperate to justify himself to Jane’s 197 . are naturally authoritative by design. [justifying position to address mischaracterization. I never said that.] Jane: Oh so now I’m a liar too? [mischaracterization] Tom: No. Jane: Oh you think I’m fat?! Great. But unlike females. I don’t think you’re fat at all. For example: Tom: I don’t like that skirt. the more they’re manipulated into seeking the approval of the accuser.” “Are you still living in your Mommy’s basement?” “Why are you such a loser?” “That shirt is gay. men feel compelled to defend their position by constantly justifying themselves. I was just trying to say I don’t like you wearing that short skirt. They response to ridicule by becoming angry at its source.” “Liberals love a good professional victim speech. For example: • • • • • • • • “I didn’t realize they started letting blind women drive. They subtly undermine authority and make valid communication impossible until addressed. leading to defiant and rebellious behavior. You have no style. The more men try to justify themselves by answering the mischaracterizations. wearing men down.” *Sneering look* “why are you even talking to me?” Mimicking/mocking behavior Belittling/condescending remarks MiscHaRacteRization Women commonly employ this dysfunctional type of accusation against men. [mischaracterization] Tom: No. It shows too much skin.Men. Mischaracterizations cause men to focus on their behavior—attempting to justify it—while ignoring the behavior of the accuser.
It can be responsibly applied to correct and instruct. From the message sent to our brain when we stub our toe to the message society sends to criminals who break the law to the message a guilty conscience sends to a thief. ceases to ruin society • A murderer suffering from a guilty conscience. When we feel the sting of pain. we are letting them know that disorder/dysfunction is being expressed and need to be removed/stopped. or it can be wantonly abused to damage and destroy. pain motivates everything to change: • An exhausted athlete experiencing injury. we know a disorderly condition exists in our behavior. ceases her tantrum • A smoker crippled by emphysema. pain functions to motivate others to move away from disorder/dysfunction. Similarly. Tom will soon exhaust himself trying to meet Jane’s dysfunctional expectations.mischaracterizations— a never-ending battle] Jane: Why are you yelling at me? [The mischaracterizations never end. when we apply it to others. pain’s effectiveness is subject to the person applying it.] Mischaracterizations are a category of distortions (self-defense mechanisms) designed to preserve the self-esteem by shifting fault away from the offender. can no longer smoke • Rioters subdued by the police. DiRect PUnisHMent Pain functions as an indicator of disorder/dysfunction. “I disagree”] 198 . “That’s wrong”. DisagReeMent [“No”. must stop • A screaming child spanked by a parent. condition or position. must confess Like any other tool. must find comfort • Feminism exposed by the truth. The resulting condition of a recipient of pain indicates which whether the application is functional or dysfunctional. As a valuable corrective tool. stop destroying property • A widow missing a spouse. toward a state of order/ function.
” “No. “Be quiet. Don’t ever let me catch you doing that again. E. it won’t matter to them. Ignoring only works when the other person is emotionally invested in you.” • “Tyra Banks is an annoying bitch. This is because they other person values your approval and disapproval. This painful shaming produces guilt.. • “Don’t ever disrespect me in front of my friends. shaking your head).g. the more powerless the ignored person feels. Every guy hates girls that act like that. Do you understand?” • “Do not waste my time.” “That’s wrong. This means you’ve already established your authority.” DisaPPRoval/Rejection This is akin to scolding a misbehaving child. “No”) or both. For example: • • • • • “Stop!” “Don’t do that.g. Get here on time. If you ignore someone who doesn’t care about your approval.” Interrupting. 199 .” • “Stop wasting time on Facebook. Only dorks and losers with no social life hang out there.” • Damaging someone’s reputation.. The message should be clear—you disapprove of her actions/behavior/attitude. Disapproval/rejection is a powerful application of pain. It reminds me of a butch dyke trying to be a man.This can take be expressed through your body language (e. verbal cues (e.g.” ignoRing Removing your attention sends the message that the person or expectation being ignored is beneath your consideration. For example: • “It’s such a turn off when you try to act all tough. This pain can be enhanced by associating the unwanted behavior with a some other socially despised element.. The more an expectation is ignored. This can be accomplished by refusing to acknowledge a person or an expectation.
blacks are dysfunctionally associated with crime and poverty. you need to stick to more active applications of pain. You: I’m going to get some pizza [not acknowledging comment and not giving girl any attention] Girl: [feeling awkward/less socially valuable and now more willing to meet your expectations] enFoRcing conseqUences Consistently enforcing your expectations causes others to fear your authority. Example 1: Guy: I’m going to kick your ass. For example. Example 2: Girl: I don’t like that shirt you’re wearing. For example: • • • • “You don’t have to listen to me—Get out Warning a child to behave or be spanked A police officer tazing a disorderly man resisting arrest Dumping a woman who refuses to acknowledge your authority Using negative associations Society creates all sorts of dysfunctional associations.If your authority isn’t yet established (meaning you’re not able to get your expectations met with this person). You: [ignoring threat] Guy: Hey! I’m talking to you! You: [continuing to ignore person. bald. 200 . These problematic associations create dysfunctional perspectives. Asians are dysfunctionally associated with bad driving and old. or continue talking to a friend] Guy: [feeling deflated and awkward that you haven’t responded. white men are dysfunctionally associated with corporate greed. keeping attention focused on something else.
Now. which then allows you to replace her expectation with your own. you should apply pain to expose it. you expose and break the negative association. Your authority is the key. I don’t care how tall you are as long as you have a good personality. but it can also be applied to break these dysfunctional associations. you’ve made your lack of height into a perfectly acceptable attribute. Not only can it be used to get your expectations met. That’s so unattractive” Here you’ve changed the focus from meeting her expectation to meeting your expectation. Essentially. weight.Oprah’s disastrous advice to women and feminism’s damaging social policies are dysfunctionally associated with positive change and growth. Instead of focusing on your shortcomings as a foreigner. If she accepts it. This also acts to establish your authority over her. shift focus onto the unattractive behavior of gold diggers/shallow people. it’s no longer a matter of you being too short—she’s too tall. Instead of focusing on your lack of income/social status. Because this dysfunctional association prohibits your social interaction. “I love girls who aren’t stuck up and judgmental. Then you replace her expectation with your expectation. For example. you are removing her authority and establishing yours in its place. The same principles apply. let’s suppose a woman tells you that your height is unattractive. etc. it’s important to validate it with your approval. This makes it 201 . you can simply shift focus onto your expectation by undermining the authority of her expectation. Instead of focusing on the negative association (height. In this case. to establish your expectation. By first applying pain. you should reward her with your approval.).” Here. Dysfunctional associations inhibiting social interaction need to be broken. appearance. “I don’t mind talking to a tall Amazon women as long as you don’t try to act like a guy. Lastly. shift focus onto the unattractive nature of racism. Validating her behavior serves to maintain your authority and encourages submission. Creating a negative association with her expectation applies pain. you’ve validated your own expectation. This removes the authority of her expectation.
how she met your functional expectation to identify what exactly warrants a pleasurable reward. Telling your friend you hate a particular food is not as painful as hearing a group of people say it. your ability to apply pleasure effectively is compromised.” • “All guys hate it when you act stuck up. if either incentive is misapplied. it will have a negative effect on its counterpart. This can be done with a hug. • “I don’t know how you can watch that movie. you undermine any complementary element of pleasure you may apply later on down the line. It’s a total turn off. Similarly.” • You need to observe the dress code around here. When others meets your expectations. Both legs must function properly for the entire body to move forward. We (our city) don’t like tourists. the element of social pressure if very powerful in influencing the behavior of others. specifically. It’s helpful to explain. but the disapproval of a large group is unbearable to most. For example.much easier to get your expectations met in the future. aPPlYing social PRessURe People. if you ruthlessly belittle and criticize a person’s behavior. Thus. especially women. Now your application of pain is compromised and rendered ineffective. The same goes for the reverse situation where unmerited pleasure is indiscriminately applied as a bribe to curb bad behavior in lieu of confronting it with pain. tHe necessit Y oF ReWaRDing Pain and pleasure work together like a pair of legs moving in the same direction. Most Americans can’t stand foreign films. not as warranted but merely because you’re in a bad mood. Your individual disapproval of a certain behavior may be painful. quickly bow to social pressure. Now. any praise or reward you offer must compete with the underlying resentment a person feels toward your previous application of unmerited pain. For example: 202 . If either leg experiences a problem. Pain and pleasure must be applied at the appropriate time to get your expectations met in an orderly way. verbal praise or other pleasurable incentive. you need to apply pleasure. Until this is dealt with. the entire walking process is thrown off.
203 . Again. Don’t underestimate the necessity of pleasure when enforcing your expectations. It’s not enough to nod your head in agreement if a woman is meeting your expectations. Yet. The pain section is longer because many men already reward women. they have no idea how to employ pain in a productive way. That’s sexy![praise the result]. Just because this section is shorter in length that the pain section doesn’t mean it is less important. This reinforces good behavior and meets a woman’s need for pleasure. She needs an adequate reward to provide an incentive for her continued submission. Not like most chicks today who try to act like men. Both are equally important. to lead them. Both prove necessary to make your authority functional. Women have few men to instruct them. It depends on a careful administration of merited pain and merited pleasure. A sufficient amount of pain needs to be applied to gain a woman’s full submission. Women are naturally insecure and incomplete without men. Without it. When a woman submits to your authority by meeting your functional expectations. women suffer greatly. even for bad behavior. Just as neglecting to apply sufficient pain results in disorder. Psychological disorders such as panic attacks or chronic anxiety stem from a lack of corrective male authority. Your authority is not maintained by making idle threats or employing irresponsible methods of bribery.You: Men should be in charge [functional expectation] Girl: Yeah. so it needs to be thoroughly covered. They need the pleasurable attention of men to function properly. this does not mean pain is more important than pleasure. I love that about you! [praise girl for meeting functional expectation] That turns me on when you act like a woman. I like the guy taking charge [functional expectation] You: See. If meeting your expectations becomes a miserable chore. neglecting to apply sufficient pleasure also results in disorder. And a sufficient amount of pleasure needs to be applied to maintain that orderly behavior. As a man. this indicates a problem with your authority. it’s your job to reward functional submission. she should be rewarded with pleasure. Today’s women turn to prescription drugs in record numbers to alleviate the symptoms of a malnourished identity—one that lacks the guidance of male authority. The entire concept is foreign to them.
you become the antidote to feminism’s damaging influence upon her life. A warm smile and a tender hug brings joy to a child. Paying attention to someone is like giving them a dollar bill. As a man. If you plan on investing your attention. make sure 204 . Only pleasure that creates order and maintains the integrity of your authority should be administered. Without these necessities. HoW to ReWaRD Pleasure can take many forms. women who don’t wear makeup are made to feel ugly. Such uneven exchanges fail to result in mutually satisfying social interactions. wage compels an employee to work. But like pain. one party will dole out unmerited pleasure without end while receiving nothing in return. attention Your attention is like money. Without it. the application of pleasure can be abused. A $20/hr. Pleasure should be used to foster mutual participation in a social interaction. you need to counteract these harmful messages by directing women with functional messages and then rewarding them with pleasurable attention. Today’s feminist society punishes functional women. Healthy dependence on men should be affirmed and rewarded. they adopt bitch behavior as a means of gaining support and acceptance. Pleasure provides the incentive necessary to perpetuate social interactions. Instead exchanging incentives.” she is scolded by her peers for showing weakness. For example. too many people use pleasure as bribe.to discipline them and to provide them with pleasurable attention. Since women need affirming attention. if a woman isn’t acting “strong and independent. The attention a spouse receives causes loving reciprocation. Unfortunately. conversations become stale. The makeup industry sends dysfunctional messages to women. women are like leaves blowing in the winds of their own emotions and society’s dysfunctional messages. Dysfunctional “bitch” behavior persists because society punishes women who don’t act like bitches. belittling their natural appearance. By directing and rewarding the functional behavior you expect from her. You must put a stop to this dysfunctional cycle. relationships become prisons and interacting with others becomes a chore.
stop paying attention to her. Stop looking at her. facial expressions. as incentive to start interacting. healthy lives. if you’re paying attention to a woman at a bar. you should stop giving her pleasure. this is not to say that you should immediately expect her to reciprocate your pleasurable attention. Other times. selection of subject matter. Your word choices. Stop talking to her. the pleasurable reciprocation will be almost immediate. sHaRing YoUR exPeRiences Your person is conveyed to others whenever you express the experiences you go through. What is important is how you experienced that trip. etc. the other person may encourage you to keep speaking to them by smiling while you talk. you should expect some form of pleasurable reciprocation (her giving you a warm smile and participating in the conversation. especially a guy they’ve just met.you get a satisfying return on your investment. etc.e. For example. body language. and an orderly arrangement of words and ideas—the more pleasure you provide to your audience. at that point. People need human attention in order to live happy. Of course.) If you are not receiving pleasure from her. Your attention is valuable because it meets the social needs of others. The trip itself isn’t that important. The more competent your application of pain. 205 . I. The better you’re able to relate those experiences to others—through the use of analogies. emotional content and arrangement of events really tell the story about you. Not all exchanges of pleasure will happen simultaneously. For example. Without it. STOP INVESTING. touching you or asking you questions about yourself. In some cases. But the general rule of thumb still applies: if you’re not getting back the pleasure you’re investing in another person. voice inflection. they will suffer mental illness. you will need to invest 15 minutes of pleasurable attention before you start seeing steady dividends pay off in the form of pleasurable reciprocation. the more valuable your attention (pleasure) becomes to others. Women require a certain amount of pleasure from a stranger. Extreme cases of attention deprivation (cabin fever or solitary confinement in prison) reveal how just how important human contact is to a person’s well being. What did the trip mean to you. Stop interacting with her. sharing the fact that you went on a trip to Africa isn’t too pleasurable because you’re simply conveying objective information that countless other people have already conveyed throughout time.
the more vivid the picture you create. Or if you fail to show me what it’s like to experience Africa from your point of view. indicating your approval. meaning the content isn’t as important as how you convey the content.” • “I like that. you provide little incentive for me to continue interacting with you. I lose the enjoyment of it. For example: 206 . as an audience member. I.e. For example: • • • • • • • Hugging Kissing Holding hands Grabbing a friend by the shoulders Touching the head Stroking the hair Softly punching or pulling the arms or body PRaise Expressing verbal or physical approval lets women know specific behaviors are desirable and should be continued. aFFection When your wife or girlfriend provides you with pleasure in the form of love. For example: • “Good job!” • “That’s so sexy. This will determine whether or not the audience derives pleasure from your experience. the more I’m attracted to you. this typically incites you to show them affection.The trip to Africa and many other experiences are simply vehicles to convey yourself to others.” PRovision Meeting the physical necessities of those submitting to your authority. Learning how to effectively share your experiences with others is a major key to creating pleasurable incentives. If I. Even being in the presence of close friends often moves you to touch them. can’t relate to your experience..
All people need approval/ acceptance to maintain a healthy psychological state. That’s such a turn on!” • “Girls that don’t nag and love to please their man sexually are able to keep a man around. Using Positive associations Like negative associations. That’s rare. That’s how the pros do it. see how everybody listens to you. picnic. tR aining YoUR exPRession 207 . • “Your work is really impressive. a date) Protection Shelter Clothing giving attention Giving someone your attention or listening and addressing an expressed concern. • “This dinner tastes like a gourmet chef made it.” • Recognition for achievement.” • “When you’re direct. a trip.• • • • • • • Wages for work accomplished Gifts Resources Planning a romantic event (dinner.” aPPRoval/accePtance This is the opposite of disapproval/rejection. positive associations can be made to encourage and reinforce functional/good behavior. For example: • “You remind me of a porn star because you’re not uptight and you know what to do to make a man happy.” • Encouraging and showing support loving Sacrificing something of yourself to benefit another person is the ultimate reward.” • “You follow directions like one of those super hot geisha girls.
ReMoving DisoRDeR FRoM YoUR exPRession An orderly expression naturally attracts others and encourages them to respond positively. lack of eye contact and a monotone. can be dangerous and is detrimental to social interaction. Although you can make small improvements in your expression. Hence. It’s about conveying and facilitating order. An orderly expression conveys your experience of the world. specifically your reactions to it. yelling fire in a crowded theater or employing poor grammar are examples of different types of disorderly communication. Someone more competent than you must expose the disorder in your expression to bring it back into a functioning (attractive) order. Many people make the mistake of neglecting to speak if they have no new information to convey. They fail to realize that new information is not as stimulating as how you personally experience the information you receive. feelings and honest reactions to your experiences. Orderly social communication conveys your thoughts. through your face. Lying about your intentions. it’s disorderly. major improvement requires external training. then by definition. word choices. Slouching shoulders. giving bad advice. the way others respond to you is indicative of how much or how little you’ve progressed toward an orderly condition. Disorderly communication is unattractive. being vague. coMPonents oF an oRDeRlY exPRession Communication is necessary to create order in your environment and in other people. People want to know what type of arrangement and order you bring to your experiences. It’s not necessary to travel to exotic places to have something interesting to say. mumbling voice are expressions of disorder resulting from a lack of proper social training. emotion and body language. Good expression comes from good training. we provide the following simply as a guideline for good expression. Communication is not about conveying information. What you read in print is no substitute for real social interaction. Being able to convey how and why you experience something causes others to become attracted to the orderly social experience you create. confusing. using sarcasm. voice tone. Merely sharing a chronology of events does not convey much about your condition. Therefore. If your expression is not attracting others. The interest is created through your 208 .
They snub your efforts to socialize. You don’t know how to get your expectations met. When you convey your reactions to your experiences. many times. everyone probably feels the same way about me. Your personal arrangement of the experience matters. You don’t know how to respond to people. This is normal. you will read all kinds of negative messages about yourself into what people are saying or doing. In short. I’m an ugly guy and could never date a cute girl. speech and clothing. In fact. You don’t know what to say. people will simply ignore you. regardless of whether their comments are directed at you. aPPRoacH anxietY Many new situations make us uncomfortable. it’s because I’m just not physically hot enough. I might as well settle for some big chubby chick because that’s the best I can do. They disapprove of your nervous ticks.” You have a history of belittling yourself. A properly conveyed reaction allows the other person to join in and connect with your experience. I’ll never get a girlfriend. We are social by nature. not the actual experience itself. As a result. The disapproving voice in your head will turn every message into a damaging attack on your worth as a person. This may not always be obvious. the more attractive and competent your expression becomes. You don’t know how to initiate conversations. As a result of receiving so much external disapproval. instead of saying something rude. other people disapprove of your behavior. So how do you remedy this? Approval. When girls give me the cold shoulder. or whether their criticisms are valid. You don’t know where your hands go. you will realize that meeting people is a good thing. And because you are not socially competent. The more vividly you convey your reactions. excited or uncomfortable when talking to a stranger. you don’t know to socialize. Although people commonly attempt to share their experiences with others.experience of things. you are creating an orderly social interaction. But with practice. you create your own internal messages of disapproval: “She thinks I’m disgusting. 209 . We need social interaction. A major obstacle to social interaction is not knowing what to do. they fail to bring the other person into that experience. It’s okay to be nervous.
Instead of relying on each other as healthy socialization dictates. the more shameful and awkward he 210 . To elicit approval from others. more importantly. The more you are approved and accepted by others. Men are shamed. Today. Thus a competitive relationship is fostered between men and women. status. The more competently you can express yourself and bring others into your experience. The more often you lead and exercise your authority to meet your expectations. are ridiculed for their sex drive while their accomplishments are belittled. And the more a man has been victimized by feminist ideology. Feminism’s emasculating culture not only ridicules functional male behavior. Why? Because functional male behavior is attractive and. And the more often you feel good. but strips away the very means for men to become functional. This means you need to become functional as a man. approval. the more adverse her initial reaction to male authority will be. Women are coddled. Since both genders vary in their degree of dysfunction. the more you will begin to realize: I can be valuable. some will be more difficult to interact with than others. But there are barriers to getting that validating response. the more a woman has been indoctrinated with feminism. the more incentive you give people to talk to you.More specifically. This explains why women today covet male strength and independence while men foolishly neglect their authority and often feel ashamed of their own sexuality. Approval makes you feel good. necessary to create a successful social interaction. the more often you will receive acceptance and approval from others. Instead of healthy gender distinctions. Parents no longer teach their boys how to wield their male authority to properly care for women. resources. etc. Neither do they teach their girls how to submit to male authority so that women may be in a position to receive male care. you need to elicit external approval from other people. men and women now compete against one other for jobs. you need to become competent at social interaction. children are taught they cannot be valuable or “equal” unless they perform the same roles as the other gender. Men. on the other hand. Women are conditioned to believe they have no value to society apart from acquiring male strength and intelligence. the feminist educational system indoctrinates unsuspecting children with its gender homogenization ideology. the more motivated you’ll be to interact with others. For example.
It will keep you realistic. model or fast-food worker. Exposing disorder naturally leads to candor—an open. Today. This is not a “power of positive thinking” statement. This causes women (and men) to approve and accept me. This requires training. The clearer they become regarding what is dysfunctional and functional. It is the admission of all types of disorder and the recognition of one orderly way. Although you may get nervous. A person can only become as candid as their realization allows. you must remember: you are valuable to women when you exercise your male function.feels trying to get his expectations met or expressing himself. You are depicted as a mere convenience rather than a necessity. the functional you. This is a simple yet profound fact. canDoR Candor is more than honesty. Your expression must be fully developed before such difficult women will approve of you being in charge. It’s time to start realizing that there is value to be found in your male function. I experience practically zero nervousness approaching women because I can lead and exercise authority over them. so you can exercise it in any situation. It will give you the permission slip to talk to any woman—rock star. You must be able to enforce your authority before men will listen to your views. Your goal should still be to fully develop your male expression and authority. Ultimately. nothing could be further from the truth. Many guys fall for the myth that women are “strong and independent” and don’t need men. they more candid their expression. which further causes me to realize how valuable my authority is to them. Women will always need your male function for the simple fact that they lack the direction that only men can provide. the cure to approach anxiety is to develop competent social skills—the ability to express and exercise proper authority over women. Men and women need you. It is the proper removal of all the wrong perspectives and the adoption of the one functional view. your realization about the value of male authority to women will become your anchor. No matter how many times insecure women try to scold or shame you to protect their fragile self-esteem. genuine and 211 . to lead them in the right direction. at times. But.
while candor is painful to dysfunctional people. distortions (e. others will value your expectations and be open to meeting them. it also facilitates order in others. But if your expression has only the outward appearance of order. 212 . it will act as a light bulb—shining but producing no change. Conveying your expression in an orderly way shows approval for the listener.g. hiding your disorderly condition) and other irresponsible. A candid person conveys order and is free of double meanings (e. denial (e. An orderly expression conveys order to its recipients and directs them toward order. You are not applying pleasure to encourage orderly behavior.. Not only is candor attractive because of its orderly nature. mischaracterizations).g. an orderly expression is like sunshine.orderly expression. An orderly expression will improve the expression of those exposed to it. To put it another way. they cannot deny the attractive nature of an orderly expression full of candor. lies. Thus. Candor gives others a pleasurable incentive to meet your expectations. When people see someone employing good expression and receiving positive responses. It lets that person know you care enough about them to share yourself through your experiences. your own expression lacks order. an expression that follows this principle is also inherently attractive. Your expression will change them by virtue of its function. disorderly forms of communication. they cannot help but get a tan. orderly expression is crucial to forming satisfying relationships. it provides pleasure to those moving away from disorder... their own poor expression is exposed. Additionally. sarcasm). if you regularly communicate with a friend and that friend fails to move toward order. Because your ability to convey yourself in an orderly way creates a pleasurable experience. Since order is attractive. and you are not applying pain to discourage disorderly behavior. As a result. This motivates them to emulate the orderly elements of the other person’s expression. if people are exposed to it long enough. It’s like a carefully arranged painting or a well composed song bringing enjoyment to the listener. Your orderly expression provides pleasurable stimulation to the recipient.g. Even though women are often shocked by honesty and openness. their own expression improves and becomes more attractive. eFFects oF an oRDeRlY exPRession An orderly expression encourages its recipients to improve their own expression.
I picture it smelling like coconuts or something sweet. and then there are these little strands that curl off of it. Your hair is making me think dirty thoughts. generic salutation above. this is a much better expression of personal reaction to an experience. This also demonstrates powerful.” Here.” Although sparse. But the thought isn’t developed. Example #1: “Hello. Example #2: “Hey.. it lacks candor. It conveys a more personal reaction and introduces an expectation. attractive candor that’s conducive to orderly social interaction. I want to touch your hair and feel how soft it is. Example #4: “Wow. but since you’re here in person. It also conveys very little personal reaction and fails to lead the interaction toward meeting an expectation. how are you?” This is a common disorderly expression which undermines healthy social interaction. They represent varying degrees of competence applied to the exact same situation of a male approaching a female.” This is a step up from the more common guarded. Even though it seems like a perfectly fine openended question designed to spark conversation. I want to talk to you. They remind me of some fashion magazine cover where the hair is perfectly arranged like a little piece of art. For 213 . Example #3: “Hey. I want to tug on it and kiss your neck. It gives me a nice ‘ahhhhhh’ feeling deep inside like when you eat a warm chocolate chip cookie right out of the oven.exaMPles oF an oRDeRlY exPRession The following are four examples of expression. It makes me happy. inviting. The same principle applies when describing your experiences.. I feel like I’m talking to the cover in real life. you’re cute. It’s still very generic and neglects to explore the depth of the speaker’s personal reactions to his experiences. It invites the woman to identify with the personal reaction. creating a dynamic shared experience on the spot. the speaker has become completely transparent with his feelings and reactions to seeing this woman with whom he’s interested in starting a conversation. This reaction is attractive because it more plainly conveys the genuine experience of the speaker and demonstrates solid candor.. I like your long hair. I like how your hair is straight in some places. I have a crush on your hair. from most disorderly to least disorderly.
This creates an 214 . I like the smell of chocolate. Your reaction to the most mundane experiences can stimulate others. The things you experience don’t have to be fascinating to be stimulating. I want to start gnawing on the roof and eat up the entire store like Godzilla destroying Japan.example: “I ate ice cream. Take the lead during the interaction to share your reactions to the things in your world. Remember. Whenever I see it. It should also follow the principles outlined above.” This merely informs us the experience occurred. The latter only conveys information. Practice giving your reactions without being prompted or asked questions. Be sure to speak about your experience in the first person. You initiate. The degree of your experience is often much more meaningful than the experience itself. It requires very little arrangement of your thoughts and reactions to that experience. It communicates your thoughts and feelings in a personalized arrangement. Practice expressing your reactions to experiences rather than just conveying a laundry list of things that happened to you. avoid all-encompassing adjectives like “good” and “bad” which don’t describe your reactions in detail. It had this smooth texture and reminded me of a chocolate waterfall.” The former conveys your reaction to an experience. minus your all-important personal reaction. Your writing should primarily consist of conveying your experience rather than conveying information. As previously stated. depending on your arrangement of those experiences. “I love ice cream” is much better than “people love ice cream because of its delicious flavor. This facilitates an orderly social interaction. you are the stimulus. as the man. clear and should obey the major rules of grammar.” This describes your reaction to an experience. People can get the same information reading a book. WRitten exPRession Your written expression needs to be concise. Contrast this with the following example: “The chocolate ice cream was so delicious. It’s kind of exciting because it reminds me of this chocolate store near my house that looks like a gingerbread village. Merely reporting facts offers relatively little stimulation. The resulting message attracts others because it displays order and provides psychological stimulation.
Enunciate your words.”.. “maybe we should. “sorta”. Avoid a monotone delivery which masks how you experience the world. it’s also necessary to have others critique your writing to examine your strengths and weaknesses. this will naturally expand to reflect your writing development and competence. How you say something conveys a lot about your condition. oRal exPRession Orderly oral expression requires clarity and training. If you don't respect your own words. Create a daily habit of writing down a few paragraphs every day. requires training. which you can then incorporate into your own expression. A monotone voice indicates anxiety over saying the wrong thing. Slow down. This lets others know your expectations matter. “um” and “ugh” all convey your lack of order. hence the reason you have trouble creating attraction. expose you to more competent expression and introduce you to new ideas. it's doubtful others will. Phrases like “I don’t know”. Convey your authority in your speaking. Improving your writing. It’s not only important to read great books as a means of absorbing proper writing structure. Mumbling shows you don’t respect what you have to say. regardless of the subject matter. “I guess”. meaningful way that others can appreciate. as with any other type of expression. Writing down your ideas forces you organize and structure your thoughts in a clear. Be direct. Align the tone and inflection of your voice with your intention and 215 . “kinda”.attractive order for the reader. you need to bear the responsibility of a decision to create order in your expression. As a man with authority. • Solicit feedback from others. • Consulting a dictionary and thesaurus will improve your reading comprehension and expand the depth of your communication. • Start a blog. It means you’re more concerned with meeting the expectations of others rather than expressing your own. Here are some practical steps to accomplish this: • Reading books will expand your vocabulary. Don't rush through what you have to say. Over time. Be clear. This also improves your oral communication..
Make sure you: Keep eye contact with the person you’re addressing.emotions. Move your eyes slowly from person to person to acknowledge and greet. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart.” with a slow. Saying. Thus. Relying on 216 . When speaking to a group. • Avoid fidgeting with your hands or holding onto your own arms. women respond according to your expectations. • Look directly at people instead of staring at them out of your peripheral vision. women respond according to their expectations or the dominant social expectations around them. Practically. However. Good body language requires training like anything else and reflects the condition of your authority. you need to learn to speak definitively when expressing your expectations to others. • Stand up straight. “I loooove pizza. If you want to get your expectations met. shoulders back. acknowledge the entire group with eye contact. this means removing the question mark from your voice and applying a verbal period to your expectations. chest out. I love pizza!!! sPeaking WitH aUtHoRitY When you speak with authority. Train your body language to convey an orderly (attractive) expression conducive to social interaction. Tone and inflection are analogous to written punctuation marks. Avoid letting your eyes dart from person to person. Practice acknowledging and greeting each person in the group with your eye contact rather than fleeing from their gaze the moment they look back. when you hesitate. Men who speak with authority are perceived as valuable along with their expectations. boDY langUage Your body language conveys how much or how little you've moved toward order. Authority requires submission. Merely suggesting submission as one option tells people your expectations don’t matter to you. • Avoid drinking alcohol as a means of social lubrication. you need to learn to speak with authority. meeting your expectations will become optional as well. emphatically drawn out voice tone is the equivalent of typing. Voice tone and inflection are not about variety. Don't slouch. Avoid letting your feet touch when you stand up straight. They direct meaning and convey nuances and degrees of experience. To remedy this.
This will be difficult at first. in our verbal expression or in our physical bodies attracts us. A functional perspective governs the attitude you bring to your social interactions. A functional perspective always conveys an uplifting feeling to others. • Avoid holding objects in your hands when speaking. When you give others an enjoyable social experience. This is why an orderly appearance is important. Avoid squishing your arms against your body. The bad news: it’s very difficult to fake a warm smile because it involves your whole face. If your eyeball was an inch lower or an inch bigger. A warm smile is even more attractive than a handsome face. It quickly draws in strangers and provides a pleasant incentive to continue speaking. • Avoid squeezing your body tightly into itself. especially avround your shoulders and neck. a warm smile greets people like a physical hug. you have something to smile about. it would break the specific facial symmetry associated with humans. This in turn makes you feel good. you’ll always have a reason to smile. Order in any form. reinforces what you're attempting to express. But just as a firm handshake conveys interest. Granted some men were born with deviated septums. As a result. giving others a strong incentive to talk to you. If you work to maintain a gracious attitude. This breach of orderly design naturally repels rather than attracts. especially if your attitude is full of resentment or self-pity. The good news: the better you get at social interaction. you receive their approval. • Avoid constantly shifting your body weight from foot to foot. Maintain your personal space. This just gives you another reason to fidget and becomes an artificial security blanket.“liquid courage” or other mood-altering substances will inhibit your ability to socialize without crutches. whether in nature. • Greet people with a smile. nose and mouth all follow a designated pattern of size and spatial arrangement. PHYsical aPPeaRance Your own facial symmetry reveals the attractive principle of order. Your attitude really dictates the emotional message conveyed through your smile. Your eyes. the more reason you’ll have to smile. use your hands and arms to enhance what you're saying. Give yourself permission to maintain a comfortable space around you. Drawing with your hands or using gestures to indicate something relevant. • When appropriate. 217 . even if your situation is depressing. Smiling is also difficult if you’re extremely introverted from lack of social practice.
Being stylish is unnecessary (not to mention a pointless preoccupation with a dysfunctional social expectation). However. it won’t matter. You can create an orderly appearance without obsessing over what to wear or worrying about the latest fashion trends. Properly exercising your authority can accomplish much more than a pair of designer jeans. But thankfully. Comb your hair. In short. Brush your teeth and shower daily. the order generated from properly exercising your male authority actually stimulates women much more than your physical appearance. 218 . Cut your finger and toe nails. Conversely. In other words. being well dressed and handsome may initially help you to attract a woman’s attention. Practicing good hygiene contributes to maintaining an orderly physical appearance. Wash your clothes. Use deodorant if necessary. all the fashion sense in the world and a strong Brad Pitt jawline will never supersede the attractive appeal of an authoritative man. But if you’re unable to exercise your authority.crooked teeth and misaligned eyes. work to maintain a clean. orderly appearance. this does not mean you should neglect your physical appearance entirely. Shave if necessary.