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Part i: identifying the Problem
What is Feminism?
What Does The Term “Bitch” Really Mean? 13 13 14 16 20 22 25 27 30 30 36 38 39 40 41 42 43 45 46 47 49 50 51 52 54 54 54 55 55 55 56 56 56 56 57 57 57 57 58 58 60


An Attitude of Entitlement Women Shielded From Sexual Accountability An Unfair Sexual Advantage An Unfair Economic Advantage “Equal Rights” Vs. Equal Representation of Interests How Feminism Destroys Chivalry

How Feminism affects society


How Feminism affects Women

The Victim Mentality Women Encouraged To Deceive Females Encouraged to Neglect Their Gender Roles Over-emphasizing Male Functions


How Feminism emasculates Men
The Demonization of Men Demonizing Male Sexuality Dating Incompetence The Cycle of Emasculation Lack of Men’s Resources The Failure of Men’s Rights Leadership Where Dating “Experts” Go Wrong The “Game” of Social Interaction The Nice Guy The Player


How Feminism Undermines social interaction


Why Feminism Persists

Society Not Allowing The Examination of Feminism Faulty Logic Due to Social Conditioning Recognizing The Problem And Changing Our Approach Why Your Social Interactions Fail Boring & Superficial No Direction Can’t Lead A Woman Irresponsible Passive Behavior Can’t Make A Decision Passive-aggressive Nobody Listens To You Unrealistic Expectations Poor Expression Can’t Get Your Needs Met Girls Take Advantage of You Poor Social Interaction Models Limited Social Interaction Knowledge/Experience Where To Start Social Interaction Is Universal



Part ii: Understanding the solution
How to approach social interaction
The Need For Public Scrutiny Satisfaction The Cause of Attraction Functional Knowledge Attraction Today Too Short, Too Ugly, Too [Insert Inadequacy] The Need For Principles Order Vs. Disorder Balance—The Perfect Arrangement Dispositional Order Positional Order Bringing Order To Your Social Interactions Exposing Disorder Addressing Disorder In Others Limitation prevents disorder Schedule Your Time Limitation creates Proper Form Training Produces Consistency Freedom and limitation Inward Limitation Vs. Outward Limitation Direction 62 63 65 67 68 71 74 76 78 81 82 86 86 91 92 93 97 105 106 106 108 111 112 114 116 118 119 121 129 133 134 134 136 136 141 145 146 149 149 150 152 154 155 158 158 160 161


authority—the Proper Male Form

Purpose of Authority Society Opposes Male Authority Authority Maintained By Pain & Pleasure Pleasure Establishes Authority Pain Maintains Authority Fear Authority Requires Submission Why Authority Belongs To Men Being Responsible To Those Under Your Authority Personal Authority Social Authority Exercising Functional Authority Saying “NO” Leading Honoring Vs. Obeying Giver Initiating Why Women Play Games



Bringing Others Toward An Orderly State The Relationship Between Function And Value Restoring a Proper View of Function Functional Desires Vs. Dysfunctional Desires Functional Socialization The Standard For Social Competence The Test for Dysfunction Social Interaction Does Not Happen In A Vacuum



Reasoning Attitude Vs. begging & guilting PAssive Ignoring Sending Mixed Signals 190 oppressive Punishment The Pain Fallacy Threats Ridicule Mischaracterization 194 Direct Punishment Disagreement Disapproval/Rejection Ignoring Enforcing Consequences Using Negative Associations Applying Social Pressure 197 the necessity of Rewarding How to Reward Attention Sharing Your Experiences Affection Praise Provision Giving Attention Using Positive Associations Approval/Acceptance Loving 202 204 training Your expression Removing Disorder From Your Expression Components of An Orderly Expression 207 204 205 205 206 206 206 206 207 207 207 208 5 . Creating Competence Handling Authority Violations From Rebellion To Submission. Satisfaction Functional & Dysfunctional Expectations Am I able to communicate these expectations? Providing The Right Direction And Removing Options Be Specific With Your Expectations Am I Enforcing My Expectations? Complementary Expectations And Competing Expectations Pain & Pleasure 167 How to Punish How Much Pain To Apply Where To Apply Pain When To Apply Pain Maintaining Your Authority Looking For Competence Vs. Actions 180 167 167 168 168 168 170 172 174 174 175 176 176 177 181 183 184 185 185 185 186 187 189 192 193 194 195 196 196 197 198 198 199 200 200 201 Passive-aggressive Punishment Complaining.Part iii: applying the solution creating and Maintaining order Types of Expectations Personal Expectations & Social Expectations How To Get Your Expectations Met What Are My Expectations? Your Expectations Should Mirror Your Needs Deprivation Vs. In Three Stages Pain Vs.

Approach Anxiety Candor Effects of An Orderly Expression Examples of An Orderly Expression Written Expression Oral Expression Speaking With Authority Body Language Physical Appearance 208 211 212 212 214 215 215 216 217 6 .

cleaRing oUt tHe bUllsHit Countless books have been written about social interaction. exclusive techniques.” “be present”) too simplistic (“be confident. But none have actually helped you fully achieve your social goals. 7 . They promise secret formulas.” “be yourself”) too situational (“this only works in bars/clubs”) flat out wrong (“make sure you pay for the first date”) Today’s relationship and dating “experts” bombard you with contradictory approaches to social interaction. They fill you with false hope and shower you with false promises. The advice is often • • • • • short-sighted (change your wardrobe) too theoretical (“improve your vibe. and ground-breaking methods.

Yet. you must remember one important fact: social competence isn’t found in a genie bottle. Other experts offer worthless feel-good advice epitomized by titles like How to Win Friends and Influence People and I’m OK. Developing any skill requires time and effort. Social interaction businesses don’t want to tell you the truth: their expensive 3-day weekend retreats and thousand-dollar seminars won’t provide long term results. diet. By over-emphasizing the importance of wardrobe. they construct business models designed to capitalize on your social incompetence. no one has been able to accurately explain the nature of social interaction. you didn’t become a social hermit overnight. This entails 8 . Instead. These companies have a vested interest in keeping you dependent on their never-ending parade of “new and improved” products. It took years of bad social conditioning. You’re OK. social status. To protect yourself from social snake oil salesmen. Thinking you’re going to cure that overnight is delusional. it’s much more profitable to just sell you fish than to actually teach you how to catch them yourself. The vast majority focus on superficial outward changes. Gurus claiming to teach you social skills usually package a bunch of gimmicks into a DVD with catchy titles like Seduction Secrets and Instant Sexual Charisma. After all. income and lifestyle. these professional marketers hook you into a buying an endless parade of products directed at your emotions.

However. PaRt i: iDentiFYing tHe PRobleM WHat is FeMinisM? Today. But because feminism is masked by feel-good slogans of gender equality. women hope to gain special rights and privileges. it’s necessary to examine the natural laws that govern all social interactions. it is not easily understood or even opposed. entitling them to your male resources. Social competence comes from consistency of application. By attempting to seize male authority through the legal system. feminism represents women’s desire to control men. Band-aid solutions are much more tempting than following a principled approach to social interaction. to properly understand how feminism threatens your social competence. your own delusional perspective must be exposed.much repetition. you’re only fooling yourself. not simply learning a better way of doing things. If you’re looking to make an overnight change. 9 . Thus. Quick fixes appeal to an immature urge to avoid the pain of self-discipline. it is necessary to distinguish between its political phases and its fundamental governing philosophy. Before you can develop a practical view of social interaction. In fact. Addressing your poor social skills requires more than just changing your wardrobe or learning how to say ‘cool’ things. it can only thrive if its victims remain ignorant of damaging influence on society. most people view feminism as a political and social movement purporting to secure equal rights and legal protections for women. At its heart.

this faulty rationale completely disregards the difference between unjust oppression and natural capacity restriction. feminism purports to protect the rights of women from male oppression. It even goes so far as to associate itself with the civil rights movement of African-Americans. there’s another record-setting divorce statistic tearing apart society. For every girl taught to resent male leadership. once its modern political aims are sifted out. it erodes the very gender roles that hold society together. However.However. Women are limited by their own natural gender design. Not only does feminism poison relationships. limiting a woman’s job opportunities is not the same as limiting a black man’s job opportunities. In other words. In fact. for every woman who believes she can replace the role of a man. countless disillusioned men go ignored. ironically. Since allowing them into the fire department would unnecessarily endanger the lives 10 . For every wife encouraged to defy her husband’s authority. we’re left with a destructive social philosophy that preys on our emotions while removing our social accountability. nothing more aptly captures the destructive spirit of feminism than the age old sentiment: “I don’t need a man!” While feminists celebrate the spirit of gender independence. Yet. there’s a single mother out there creating a future criminal. there’s a feminist politician trampling male civil rights.

restriction must be put in place to ensure the safety of others1. The misleading comparison between gender limitation and racial oppression allowed feminists to gain sympathy for their dysfunctional cause. his physical appearance does not affect his ability to do his job properly. More often than not. they still insists on doing it. If this protection is removed. women will focus on the way you argue. Women also lack foresight2 because. Consider how restriction affects a child’s life. Instead addressing the merits of your argument. they lack the capacity to understand this.php?f=16&t=368 11 . children require healthy restrictions to protect them from their own short-sighted behavior. whereas a woman’s lack of upper body strength does limit her job performance. we see just how dangerous feminism is to a healthy society. This is not the same thing as preventing a black man from joining the fire department based solely on his skin color. they focus on themselves to a dysfunctional degree3.of others. they fail to consider the possible consequences of their actions. the child requires an adult to restrict their actions for their own protection. like children. if your 1 2 3 http://manhood101. Even though the child lacks the mental and physical capacity to drive. they act according to their immediate desires. A child admiring a parent’s ability to drive a car may desire to take on that role. children will be in danger of suffering the consequences of indulging their reckless whims. Feminists created this false association with the black civil rights movement as way of circumventing their gender limitations. The exciting prospect of participating in an adult activity is just too enticing. Even the way they argue reveals their love of appearance over But by examining the necessity of limitation. Although this short-sighted decision places the child and others in danger.php?f=16&t=455 http://www. Since children lack foresight.

. they are incapable of giving any in return. waiting for the inevitable crash. If your argument upsets their beliefs. women lack the capacity to bear the same heavy responsibilities that men bear. women invariably neglect to consider the viewpoint of others. Women place priority on their feelings above all else. They cannot state a fact accurately to another. . not for loving. 4 5 http://en. Yet. Reason and common sense come in a distant second. professional and civil service standards to accommodate women’s irresponsible desire to accept duties they were never designed to fulfill. Without male 12 .org/wiki/Florence_Nightingale http://www.. women happily volunteer to “steer” the lives of others5. As Florence Nightingale once said: In one sense. our economy and our lives must all sit in the passenger seat.point hurts their They scream out at you for sympathy all day long. they will scold you for lacking manners. oblivious to the dangerous situations they create.. for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so. I do believe I am “like a man. Discovering the painful truth is less important to a woman than maintaining her pleasurable delusions.” as Parthe [the writer’s sister] says. because of feminism’s reckless encouragement. But how? In having sympathy. our feminist society lowers academic. Now is not all this the result of want of sympathy?4 Thus. they will complain about your intentions. our schools. Women crave for being loved. . nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information. Consequently.wikiquote.

academic institutions that defer women6 and the result is a legal system that now bullies7 men into submission while encourages women to usurp or circumvent male authority. “bitch. The damaging effects can be felt in areas of 13 . lack of social savvy. masculinity itself is routinely mocked by women focused on dominating their male counterparts. Instead of respecting this male women in feminist societies are conditioned to ignore necessary gender limitations.php?f=16&t=451 http://manhood101. Such women often condemn male greetings by refusing to make eye contact or offering sarcastic. especially when men try to lead social interactions with women. 6 7 8 http://manhood101. Not only is male attention taken for granted. As a condescending remarks about lack of friends. women will attempt to subvert male authority by degrading male social status.” refers to a repugnant or difficult woman.WHat Does tHe teRM “bitcH” ReallY Mean? The term. insulting remarks.php?f=16&t=341 http://www. Bitch characteristics include: • Anger toward men • Use of insulting language • Emotionally unstable • A tendency to make demands • A self-serving attitude • Stubborn • Argumentative Examining the relationship of these aspects reveals a common pattern of dysfunctional behavior typified by women deprived of male authority. Instead of respecting the male leadership role. Enduring this type of adversarial social interaction is commonplace for males in feminist societies. Add to this. unattractive appearance or desperation are not uncommon8.

but there exists also in the human heart a depraved taste for equality. Not surprisingly. Such women view courtship as a competition rather than a cooperative effort. in fact. To 14 . This passion tends to elevate the humble to the rank of the great. It signifies in the heart of every republican: “Nobody is going to occupy a place higher than I. As a result. this competitive dating philosophy actually hinders the development of romantic relationships. feminism fails to inform women about the heavy price that must be paid by those in authority positions. However. these unstable unions usually fail. Feminism advocates this competitive approach to dating under the assumption that men favor challenging women.” but beneath this facade of feel-good sentiments and moral posturing lies an ugly truth: feminism conditions women to believe they unilaterally deserve what men have earned. which impels the weak to attempt to lower the powerful to their own level. HoW FeMinisM aFFects societ Y an attitUDe oF entitleMent “Equality is a slogan based on envy. However.Bitches regard the feminine disposition with contempt.” — Alexis de Tocqueville. It forces women to sacrifice their most essential feminine value—their submissive attitude. women feel entitled to male authority. and reduces men to prefer equality in slavery to inequality with freedom.” “There is. a manly and lawful passion for equality which excites men to wish all to be powerful and honored. As a result. Their relationships are characterized by bitter power struggles over leadership and resentful negotiations of gender roles. Democracy In America Feminists bombard society with sound bites like “gender equality” and “social diversity. security and emotional comfort. preferring instead to adopt an aggressive and condescending style of communication. contributing to the epidemic divorce rate and mounting social isolation felt in feminist societies. women find themselves living in a general state of fear—lacking direction.

According to the American research. Instead. mainly among women. especially men. Even though women comparatively work less hours. It deceives them into believing that having their cake and eating it too is Our feminist culture raises young girls to believe their value far exceeds men.dailymail.women. Nor do they realize that a leader’s decisions are audited for competence and accountability. Girls grow up feeling they deserve better treatment than boys. Feminism allows women to ignore this fundamental relationship between authority and accountability. based solely on their gender. Women foolishly assume their gender will forever exempt them from the responsibilities placed on those in authority positions. there has been a 67 per cent increase in [Narcissism] over the past two decades. Feminists simply lie to women by claiming they earn less than males doing the same job.php?f=16&t=455 10 http://www.10 They soon learn that others.html 15 . Provoked by feminism’s angry demand for equal benefits. This entitlement attitude is grafted into females at a young age. The opportunity to wield male authority without worrying about the cost is an enticing performing less work in less dangerous occupations. they are conditioned to believe gender hatred is the cause. no mention is made of these facts9. women remain ignorant of the necessary sacrifices required to secure such benefits. Such irresponsible claims of perceived injustices characterize the indulgent nature of the feminist philosophy of entitlement. are expected to shoulder 9 http://manhood101. Sacrificing themselves to meet the needs of those under their care—even if it means forfeiting their lives—never even occurs to them. This can be observed in feminism’s complaint about wage leadership merely translates into the acquisition of personal benefits. The thought of responsibility is chronically absent from their considerations.

publish articles about and actively promote billion-dollar makeup. Permission to entice and provoke sexual response from boys is permitted as early as elementary school. On a daily basis. While women fault men for not being able to control their biological urges.the burden of their living expenses.11 Mothers allow their daughters to wear make-up. they have no conscience about manipulating the male sex drive to fill their own bank Society supports this view by coddling females with affirmative action programs and other genderbiased privileges unavailable to their less valuable male counterparts. women are allowed to use their bodies to defraud men out of their hard earned money. Yet no feminist is willing to hold women accountable for their systematic exploitation of male sexuality in strip clubs across the world. dress in revealing clothing and flirt with boys. they completely ignore the hypocrisy of sexualizing their own appearance. WoMen sHielDeD FRoM sexUal accoUntabilitY Even though women complain about being objectified by men. But what about boys. Countless women buy from. fashion and cosmetic surgery industries aimed solely at drawing attention to their physical appearance. Are they allowed to respond to female provocation? Is it fair for women to exploit male sexuality without consequence? Feminists often lament the emergence of a “rape culture” supposedly perpetuated by men. Adult females carry this vain selfobjectification even further. This is especially hypocritical considering that feminists try to absolve women of blame whenever a scantily 11 http://manhood101.php?f=16&t=380 16 .

bbc. which occur more often and are more varied (e. 1995). Leiblum & Rosen. Martin. have a greater number of fantasies. society burdens men with unfair sexual standards based on a lower female sex engage in more initiation of sex (e.13 From a biological standpoint. & Gebhard. 1988). and predators for seeking sexual fulfillment. & Michaels.. By failing to acknowledge the stronger biological motivation in the male sex drive. Kinsey.. relative to women. men think about sex more frequently (e.. 1992). want sex sooner within a relationship (e.g. Oliver & Hyde. masturbate more often (e. Eysenck.g. men have always pursued women. take more risks and make more sacrifices for sex ( 17 .g...g. 1998). O’Sullivan & Byers. more often experience sexual arousal (e. 1993). Harvey.g. Leitenberg & Henning. animals for constantly desiring sex.g. 1971. 1988).12 Men find themselves demonized as perverts for staring at breasts on display. McCabe. we saw a strong pattern of findings indicating that men have a stronger sex drive than women..g. money) to get sex (see Elias. 1993). 1983). Barbee. we found that. And contrary to fashionable myths. 1995). Sprecher. 1994).com/forum/viewtopic. desire and enjoy more varied sexual practices 12 http://news. desire to have more sexual partners (e. 1987). The dangerous assumption that both genders possess the same sexual appetite further exacerbates this problem. In terms of our categories. Accountability for one’s appearance is ignored as feminism encourages shifting blame onto men for any negative reactions. Klusmann. Gagnon. Blumstein & Schwartz. desire sex more frequently (e.. Michael. Buss & Schmidt.g. time. Elias.stm 13 http://manhood101. 1953. & Singer. Boyd. Sprecher. 2002. expend more resources (e. males possess a far more potent sex drive than females. & Schwartz.g. Pomeroy. Women fail to see the connection between their behavior and its consequences. Knoth. & Brewer..Laumann.g.14 In The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships.dressed female is raped.g. are less willing to live without sexual activity (e.php?f=16&t=342 14 http://www. and Wenzel (2004) observe: In our review.

society sets men up for failure..npr. And the fact that age of consent vary from state to state only reinforces this confusion.000 women participated in the nationwide Women’s Wellness Survey. 7. The Duke http://news. http://www. women ranked drinking enough water fifth and sex seventh on the list. 4. 5. And recent studies further supports this fundamental difference between the genders by noting that sex is optional for women: When it comes to health. Amy Wenzel.mediaradar. 2. Getting enough sleep Keeping stress level low Finding time to relax Eating healthfully Drinking the recommended amount of water Finding time to exercise Having enough sex16 But our feminist society fails to acknowledge such obvious gender differences. it forces men to accept the absurd notion that their libidos exactly parallel that of women. More than 1.duke.php?storyId=122243730 http://www. 6. Determining when a person should have the legal capacity to consent to sex is difficult to answer without a uniform consensus. and eating. In case after case.g. society automatically designates women as victims17 while stigmatizing men as perpetrators18.(e. Susan Sprecher 16 17 18 19 http://www. 1994)15 Even the vast majority of internet porn consumers are men.cookinglight.. Their priorities may surprise you: 1. And our current age of consent laws do little to clear up the confusion about acceptable sexual practices. Respondents ranked the following behaviors in terms of importance to overall health and well being. drinking the recommended daily amount of water is more important to women than having enough sex. Instead. 18 . which polled their opinions on healthy living. By ignoring this key difference. David 15 The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships by John H. When asked to prioritize behaviors related to their overall health and well being. according to a national survey conducted by our magazine. Laumann et al.

html 21 http://www.338268. DTL 22 23 http://www. The Frisky’s editor and regular contributor to major news organization. 20 Nick Jonas and Taylor Lautner. feminism has been excusing women from sexual and Kobe Bryant21 cases perfectly illustrate this disturbing legal trend.telegraph. “If I waited until he was legal. Since it’s political heyday in the 60s and 70s. with the captions: “Please don’t take me to jail. Young men find their civil rights violated as they fall victim to feminist double standards of sexual accountability. Men’s reputations and lives are unjustly destroyed by vindictive women permitted to abuse the justice system22.thefrisky. a trial is no longer required. “I’d love to objectify and sexualize this minor!” Society would be screaming for his head. recently posted an article condoning the rape of minors.foxnews.thesmokinggun. But McDonell-Parry’s cavalier attitude reflects the sexual impunity afforded to women by the feminist legal system24. CNN. my shame would go away.html 25 http://wusa9.html 24 19 . “21 Guys We’re Ashamed To Say We’d Totally Screw23.” features minors. Because feminism assigns women default victim status25. Amelia McDonell-Parry.” and.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/” Now just imagine if a man posted a picture of Miley Cyrus with the headline. Once a person’s gender replaces the actual evidence as the overriding argument.

” Failure to pay for a woman’s dating expenses or 26 http://falserapesociety. get-out-of-jail-free sexual behavior because they realize men will inherit the blame. female interests take precedent. enabling women to engage in risky.they have virtually no legal reprisals to fear—shame doesn’t require a prison term. No matter how obese or lazy a woman is. justifications will be made for her behavior.29 Regardless of how little a woman reciprocates in a!5783453/spring-is-no-excuse-for-street-harassment 20 . Mary Kay Letourneau). No matter how vindictive. irresponsible. self-absorbed or flagrantly disrespectful a woman’s behavior becomes. Feminist laws act as safety http://jezebel. there’s a victim right’s group28 ready to embrace her.php?f=16&t=428 28 29 http://www. And for those women unfortunate enough to get caught (Debrah 27 http://manhood101. Thus.blogspot.naafa. Since all sexual accountability falls on the man’s shoulders26. are portrayed as nothing more than relationship props designed to serve a woman’s narcissistic dating criteria. a sympathetic public ear and media celebration await them. feminism demands that society focus its attention and sympathy on her alone. feminism’s everexpanding judicial bubble negates the educational sting of liability27. on the other hand. an UnFaiR sexUal aDvantage In contemporary romantic storylines shown on TV and in movies. exploit male resources with abandon and hide behind hypocritical codes of sexual conduct. “Dorks” and “nerds” are routinely dismissed as beneath her consideration or “out of her league. women feel encouraged to flaunt their bodies.

emasculated men contribute to their own mistreatment and marginalization. women realize they hold a powerful sexual advantage. This allows females to choose between multiple suitors. By wearing revealing outfits.” In a never ending quest to please dysfunctional women. women employ calculated flirting to tempt and tease men into thinking they will laid—all while simultaneously blaming men for not being able to control themselves. feminists cry foul. Yet. Consequently. it also places society in a dire economic situation. No longer are men allowed to freely compete for jobs that suit their natural Since male biology dictates that men will initiate romantic interactions. This not only ruins relationships.failure to meet other unreasonable demands incites public mockery and contempt. men’s natural gender advantages are denounced as misogynistic tools of oppression. men must now contend with affirmative action quotas and sexist social expectations like chivalry— both designed to nullify natural male gender advantages. feminists remains silent about this biological “inequality.” Women are allowed to exploit this advantage without restriction. However. Men too possess their own natural advantages in the form of superior physical strength and superior mental prowess. Thus. By negating male gender advantages through legal intimidation. Men who give too little are labeled as “douchebags” while men who give too much are vilified as “creepy. Nor are men allowed to demand that women pay their fair share of dating expenses. feminism removes male authority and places it in the hands of women.’ they are also conditioned to ignore the hypocrisy of capitalizing on their own innate gender advantages. using makeup and cosmetic surgery to enhance their appearance. because this advantage serves women.php?f=16&t=380 21 . sexual manipulation has become a sport for today’s women. While women’s natural gender advantages are celebrated. 30 http://manhood101. while women are taught to indignantly clamor for ‘equality. when men seek to benefit from their own natural advantages. Instead.

they end up essentially paying women’s taxes as well. Men subsidize their female co-worker’s paychecks by producing more. regardless of whether or not they’re qualified. Soon society suffers a food shortage. As men subsidize female wages by working harder to offset female job incompetence. But because women lack the capacity to meet the demands of the hunting job. It enacts a policy called “affirmative action” designed to provide “equality” for women. feminism enters the picture. 31 http://manhood101.php?f=16&t=455 22 . Each person is given a gender-based job. All twenty jobs represent the entire economic structure of UnFaiR econoMic aDvantage A simplified model of society. five men lose their hunting jobs to five women. everyone’s necessities are Today. higher quality goods and services while their actual compensation for work done is lower. and the women will be given ten sewing jobs. can be constructed to expose the economic problem caused by feminism. so the men will be given ten hunting jobs. Now. Feminism entitles women to male-oriented economic positions through affirmative action quotas and other gender-biased programs. our situation is not unlike this model. Instead of worrying about meeting the needs of society. composed of ten men and ten women. their output is very poor. As a result. the policy is focused on making sure everyone has access to each job. In this way. Everyone in the society will need clothing and food. The men’s jobs fulfill the women’s food needs and the women’s jobs fulfill the men’s clothing needs.31 Even women who don’t work receive this benefit through welfare subsidies and other programs designed to benefit “disadvantaged” female groups. Working men end up picking up the slack created by incompetent female employees who lack the capacity to fulfill their job duties.

32 Work Paycheck Paycheck $ $ $ Loser $ Dating Winner Government While feminism claims to support economic equality for both genders. feminism deceives society into believing an economic injustice exists. securing equal wages for women seems like a noble. Advice 32 http://manhood101. By conveniently neglecting to address the fact that women overall work less hours in less dangerous.’ women secure special economic the surface. egalitarian goal. Thus. By shaming men into acting like ‘gentlemen. But only when the reasons for gender wage disparities are examined does the ugly truth come out: feminism doesn’t just want equal pay for women—it expects entitlement wages.php?f=16&t=380 23 . Nowhere is this imbalance more clearly observed than in the economic disparity men experience in a feminist dating environment. less demanding careers than men. the feminist State forces employers to pay women what they think they deserve rather than what they have actually earned. it fails to protect men from falling victim to traditional gender roles (the same ones denounced by feminists).

thefrisky. men allow themselves to be robbed of their 33 http://www.columnists like Judy McGuire routinely advise women to exploit this hypocrisy: “Just because [a man] bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to [reciprocate]. Through a one-sided application of chivalry. women now receive two 24 .”33 MONEY = SEX MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = GRATITUDE FOR PROVISION (CARING) FEMINISM = FRAUD MEANS TO PROVIDE (CARING) = NO SEX (NO CARING) “Thanks!” Because women are essentially being subsidized by men on these dates.

they have better dietary knowledge and superior financial resources. Imagine a group of ten parents and 100 children about to eat dinner. feminism’s manipulation of the economy affords women special rights under the facade of “equal” rights. would make man and woman into beings not only equal but alike. 1899). their business. however. In a democracy. confounding together the different characteristics of the sexes. It may readily be conceived that by thus attempting to make one sex equal to the other. Democracy In America. a majority rule system is instituted with the intention of fairly representing all interests. Although the parents may opt for delicious food. As responsible adults.economic means.”34 — Alexis de Tocqueville Voting is designed to give citizens of a state the means to have their interests represented. the future interests of the children are more important than their immediate gratification. It is proper 34 Alexis DeTocqueville. “eqUal RigHts” vs. They would give to both the same functions. This places them in the optimum position to provide for the children. 705. Only the adults can vote on the menu. both are degraded. Volume 2 (New York: The Colonial Press. they would mix them in all things . impose on both the same duties. 25 . eqUal RePResentation oF inteRests “There are people in Europe who. and grant to both the same rights. p. Thus. and from so preposterous a medley of the works of nature nothing could ever result but weak men and disorderly women. they are primarily concerned with the children’s health. their pleasures.their occupations. this short-sighted approach to governance presents a significant problem as the majority opinion is often detrimental to society.

Women allow their emotions to determine their governing structure35. men neglecting to care for those under their authority present just as great a problem. On the other hand. Just as men lack the capacity to bear children. atrophying to mere words on paper. Ironically. This authority is also required to enforce the law. This means women will typically side with an unjust policy as long as the majority of people have adopted it. According to the democratic process. In the absence of male leadership. those most in need of the law’s protection suffer from their own emotional voting decisions. maintaining this democratic voting system will endanger the children’s health over the long term. Irresponsible men have driven women to mismanage their own lives. vote for ice cream. security and liberty are the first to be sacrificed on the Altar of Good Intentions. lacking foresight and caring only about immediate gratification. Yet. even though they lack the capacity to do so. uneducated opinions and unstable emotions will destroy a society from within. the law becomes meaningless. the majority opinion has been fairly represented. women aren’t 35 http://thenononsenseman. Although the majority opinion has been fairly 26 . Emotional mob rule has trampled over reason. negating the point of even creating laws. unjust actions. The parents still vote for a balanced meal. male authority loses its foundation. but the children. And since female self-esteem is so fragile. The children will be having ice cream for dinner. Without the stable guidance of men ruled by principle. Democratic voting only caters to the lowest common denominator in society. Without the ruling principle of the law.and justified for the adults to shoulder the burden of the voting responsibility. the common good has been sacrificed. women value group consensus over personal integrity. Without the ability to enforce a governing restriction. But now let’s include the children in the voting decision. Allowing women to vote is no different than allowing children to govern themselves. Since the majority can always outvote any legal restrictions. women are forced to govern themselves. It offers no protection against harmful self-indulgence and affords even less justice.

qualified to govern society. male authority languishes in a sickened condition. 2009).’ but it’s not true. They require men to properly care for their needs. Yet. 37-38. a litigious attitude.” Growing up without a father has a deep psychological effect on a child.time.00. Women supported this functional relationship by managing the household duties. because of feminism’s insistence on including women in our governing structure. hypocritical gender standards and dysfunctionally aggressive women. A generation of effeminate. p. Guilty: Liberal “Victims” and Their Assault on America (New York: Crown Publishing Group. 35. 51. women fail to realize that their own self-serving demands killed chivalry.html 27 .1908243. shows.” Kefalas says. I didn’t want to believe it.8599. But emasculated. apathetic young men now burdens our economy. “The mom may not need that man. damaged family structures. —Caitlin Flanaga. a chronically overcrowded prison system populated by the offspring of single mothers36. Even cultures around the world experience the debilitating effects of feminism: politically correct speech. 36 Ann Coulter. Few things hamper a child as much as not having a father at home. 37 http://www. ‘I can be a mother and a father to a child. women often complain about the lack of chivalry shown by men. “Women always tell me. a sociologist who studies marriage and family issues and co-authored a seminal book on low-income mothers called Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage. gifts) as evidence of this trend. Yet today. drinks. bitter custody battles. 43. “but her children still do. “As a feminist. Time magazine37 HoW FeMinisM DestRoYs cHivalRY Historically. 57-58. epidemic divorce rates. men have been expected to shoulder the burden of providing for those under their authority. They point to men’s reluctance to pay for women’s dating expenses (dinner.” says Maria Kefalas.

Confused by frustrated feminism’s self-serving design. they viewed financial independence from men as a blessing. As budding feminists. women failed to realize the conflict this new economic situation would create with their natural and functional desire to be cared for by men. But when such bothersome duties surfaced. Women naively expected to maintain this dysfunctional relationship indefinitely. they reasoned that it was a gentleman’s obligation to care for a lady. Gender competition slowly replaced gender cooperation. However. chivalry only stressed what a man should do for a woman. women childishly tried to reclaim their original status as social welfare recipients. The same 28 . After all. As feminism continued to belittle the notion of women depending on male support. They failed to realize that gaining the same respect as men would require making masculine sacrifices. Feminism’s philosophy of female entitlement had turned the notion of chivalry on its head. men gradually abandoned the gentleman role. the political arm of feminism provoked women to enter the workforce for the sake of gender equality. Yet. desiring to gain the same respect accorded to males by proving themselves to be “strong and independent” individuals. instead of being the recipients of male affection and comfort. job competition increased. It never mentioned reciprocating that sacrifice. Feminism’s female-focused agenda forced everyone into highly competitive social and economic conditions. Now. Women took jobs designated for men. it failed to warn them of the consequences. women were competing with the hand that fed them.In recent history.

the feminist movement—we can work. Thus.. Championing gender-based entitlement under a banner of equality creates understandable resentment. we can be equal partners. How could women still expect to be considered welfare recipients while selfishly benefiting from their newly acquired economic independence.traditional gender roles that feminists bitterly rejected were the equitable glue that held relationships together. 29 .. the more feminists demanded.] guys in my generation don’t have manners. As Rashida Jones laments. the quicker chivalry caved. Meanwhile [. They can’t expect romance from the men whose social status they have hijacked. really.” Today. chivalry is at odds with feminism’s “equal rights” motto. It’s sad. they’re not gentlemen. Even as a social philosophy. They can’t rely on the kindness of men they now take advantage of in the legal system. As feminism continues to degrade and devalue the male gender function. men began to protest with their own reluctance to follow traditional gender roles: “I feel like women have come so far because of the sexual revolution. chivalry is pushed over the same economic and legal cliff it created. women can no longer depend on the generosity of men they now compete against in the economy. we can nurture. women’s lib.

39 What man would dare point a finger at this legally protected yet feel no responsibility whatsoever for their choices in men. Complaints about male 38 39 http://www. WoMen encoURageD to Deceive In countless advice columns and dating surveys. self-pitying stage. women lament the lack of honesty from the men they date. Not only does their self-imposed victimhood tarnish legal and professional climates. The more courts validate “emotional distress” claims. skewing verdicts in favor of women38 at the cost of personal accountability. It’s always the “asshole” boyfriend or the “abusive and controlling” husband who causes the problems. institutionalizing women as default victims. How can anyone even blame a “victim. Women will constantly complain about being taken advantage of or lied to. they can emasculate male sexuality with cavalier abandon. the courts act as enabling agents. The legal system today reflects this social trend. the more women become accustomed to viewing themselves as perpetual. Anyone daring to object faces the threat of litigation.” given such a biased legal definition.php?f=16&t=341 30 . you are unlikely to hear of women acknowledging any fault for their failed relationships. Or in social settings. blameless martyrs. It conditions women to blame men for their problems. Those who complain of being offended by men are rewarded with feminist laws favoring their arbitrary and self-righteous sense of indignation. Thus. it also undermines romantic Such knee-jerk assignment of blame is the reason their relationships never improve. In the workplace.HoW FeMinisM aFFects WoMen tHe victiM MentalitY Feminism strands women in an adolescent. women are granted license to impose their hypocritical standards upon men. women can now be as ultra-sensitive to sexual language as they choose. Nowadays. Under this irresponsible legal climate.roydenhollander.doc http://manhood101.

” (Marilyn French) “Every year nearly four million women are beaten to death. Denial persists because feminism never holds women accountable to their word. Sir Edward Tyas Cook 31 .” (Katherine Hanson) “Women’s income level drops 73% post-divorce.”40 —Florence Nightingale Feminism trains women to excuse and justify their own dishonest approach to life. Instead. I could go on almost indefinitely.deception are commonplace.” (Lenore Weitzman) “As the river of a girl’s life flows into the sea of Western culture. nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information. she is in danger of drowning or disappearing.” (Carol Gilligan) “95% of married women are dissatisfied with their sex lives.” (Shere Hite) “Women just are better. But why then do women end up dating such men? Simple: women fail to account for their own dishonesty: “[Women] cannot state a fact accurately to another. and that’s all they are. The mere fact that books and articles criticizing feminist claims so often contain the word ‘myth’ says 40 The Life of Florence Nightingale: 1862-1910. As Robert Franklin notes: One of the worst aspects of feminism historically has been the willingness of certain feminists to make up “facts” and misrepresent others.” (Cokie Roberts) Needless to say. self-deception is held up as the female social interaction model. It is this tradition of intellectual dishonesty that has brought us such noteworthy gems as “all men are rapists.

org/pubs/932/men-or-women-whos-the-better-leader http://manhood101. There is no way I’m having sex with someone unless I’m in a committed relationship.41 This trend is even notable in the way such women view their own sexual identity. Note this personal ad excerpt: I’m not looking for a one night stand. Her lie perfectly epitomizes the rampant self-deception women use to meet the dysfunctional expectations of feminism. the bigger liars are women. When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires. weight44. it’s not at all unheard of for feminist academics (Gilligan and Weitzman come to mind) to base their claims on “data” which has the suspicious quality of never having been seen by anyone else.html#ixzz0Q9kaNbSi 43 http://www. 41 http://manhood101. but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous. And when other academics ask to see their someone is lying 45 46 47 48 http://www. As Maureen Rice reveals: The truth is that [women] have always lied about [their] sex appearance45.billoblog. Taking pride in their purity. capabilities47 or limitations48. html?cat=52 44 http://www. Plainly.php?f=16&t=368 32 .php?f=16&t=475 42 British men consistently claim to have had more partners than women—the current average is 13. women often advertise their innocence and high moral standing when dating. while women claim to have had only http://www. behavior46.more than I ever could. If a quick fling is what you’re looking they never produce it. no hard feelings—just keep on looking elsewhere. There’s only one problem—this woman had sex on the first date.associatedcontent.42 Women don’t permit themselves to hear the truth about their age43. men will give the same answers to both. While men might exaggerate their sexual conquests. even time and again over many years.dailymail.

Men are held hostage to this deceitful self-esteem architecture through constant threats of sexual deprivation.kpic. older women are given the freedom to sexually manipulate younger men with impunity.. 49 http://www. like single-minded drug addicts. editor-in-chief at The Frisky scolds her ex-boyfriend for the unforgiveable sin of telling the truth: “ 50 http://www. Amelia implies that men need to learn how to read minds better if they hope to please women ruled by a “have your cake and eat it too” philosophy.50 In the process.thefrisky. Amelia McDonellParry. women’s loss of sexual appeal is minimized while consequences are artificially orchestrated to further their indulge their vanity.. Furthermore. no one told him that honesty is not always the best policy49. women’s tendency to remain in denial about their limitations and weaknesses is indulged by shows like Sex And The City. By normalizing the “cougar” lifestyle. Cougar Town and Desperate women focus on maintaining the euphoric flow of approval afforded by their social advantage.html 33 . feminists feel that men should be scolded for telling a lie or telling the truth.Instead.” Apparently.

weight or appearance. And nowhere is this deceptive trend from women more apparent than in the dating arena where lying becomes par for course. “5 51 http://www.oprah. instead of simply saying no to a 34 . Perpetuating this deception even further. Men must buy into the lies being sold by feminism if women hope to successfully indulge their characteristic self-reprievals. the article coaches them to make up imaginary excuses. independent” women show no weakness. distortions and excuses to use in various social situations52. Get used to it!” to blogs like The Rotund advocating fat acceptance. From cosmetic surgery to fake eyelashes. women are taught to believe that whatever gains popular acceptance must be right. the cosmetics industry—an annual multi-billion dollar charade of doctored bodies and disguised faces—manipulates women into valuing self-deception. This deceptive advice is readily accepted by women desiring to feel good about themselves no matter what the cost. For example. Feminism even teaches women how to lie more effectively51. Many advertisers now market their products to accommodate this deception. provision and approval of males. Feminism dictates that “strong. in a vain quest to feed their malnourished self-esteem. this proves an impossible task for a gender designed to rely on the protection. women will just as easily lie to conceal the fact. however. women feel pressured to impress. From Dove soap ads showcasing obese ladies in their underwear with the unspoken message: “Look at me! I’m fat and proud of 52 http://www. denial requires deception.As much as men are discouraged from inquiring about a woman’s age.” The article offers 54 sample lies. A recent article from Oprah’s website encourages women to use deception by providing “54 Ways to Get Out of Doing Anything You Don’t Want to Do. YourTango advises women to avoid telling the truth in an article titled.

In fact. one social psychologist studying liars found that people who lie are often more popular than their honest peers.”53 This is supported by DivineCaroline’s claim 35 . Vicki Santillano.yourtango.Acceptable First Date Lies. who says: A little fabrication is mandatory in order to function within society. Telling white lies here and there keeps others happy and keeps us in their good graces.54 53 54 http://www.

further adding to the pervasiveness of female deception. I just see as weak. Instead of acknowledging this culture of deception. gross! I don’t want to wear that. feminism compels women to abandon this symbiotic design in favor of competing with males. As any man actively dating already knows.html?_r=2&8dpc 36 . a fashion stylist in New York.’ ” she said. Her lack of submission reveals a damaging cultural trend—hatred of healthy gender roles: PRETTY in pink? Not Deborah Watson. female deception becomes a justifiable necessity. Under such flawed reasoning. Dysfunctional women no longer fear being called “bitches” because “assertive” and “independent” have become fashionable excuses for their behavior.”55 55 http://www. “Large and in charge” slogans now validate women’s disorderly eating habits. “It’s not cool to be demure. And even having such standards proves useless without the requisite male authority to enforce them. they would incur mocking allegations of sexual impotence or the catchall insult of harboring unresolved anger issues toward women. women routinely slap euphemistic labels on top of it. “you don’t ask a woman’s age or weight! How dare you!” FeMales encoURageD to neglect tHeiR genDeR Roles Females possess a nature designed to complement that of males. And even if these men did complain. But because emasculated men never protest. women see nothing wrong with their behavior. well-worn jeans and a graying black cotton overcoat.nytimes.Irresponsible statements like these lend unwarranted scientific credibility to female deception and place additional social pressure on women to lie to avoid society’s contempt. Yet. Whatever provokes a second look in the mirror is quickly sanitized by the diplomatic trappings of etiquette. getting a phone number from a woman is about as reliable as a promise made by a used car salesman. has turned her back on those hallowed totems of femininity in favor of the raffish look of a big T-shirt. “If I see a floral print or pastel dress in my closet. Watson.” she said. Emasculated men are conditioned to excuse women from being held accountable. I think: ‘Ugh. Deceit thrives in an atmosphere devoid of respectful social standards. “Anything more girly. Contempt for male authority defines the modern woman.

56 By belittling functional gender roles. feminism makes it impossible for healthy relationships to survive. Through feminism’s short-sighted quest for “gender equality. By condemning this complementary aspect. As more women are artificially introduced into the workforce via affirmative action hiring policies. she abandons them for masculine functions like disciplining. But feminism’s insistence upon forcing females into maleoriented careers undermines the symbiotic nature of functional gender roles. This restricts the financial means of males and further prevents men from caring for those under their authority. feminism causes women to hate the very reason men value them—their feminine nature.wharton. Instead they’ve been taught to covet male functions in order to feel valuable. Because feminism fails to differentiate between equality of person and equality of function this leads to a grave misunderstanding of the 56 http://bpp. supporting and comforting. Others become seduced by the promise of social status assigned to those pursuing authoritative careers. Feminism’s irresponsible handling of common gender interests also infects the national economy.” women have been deceived into hating their natural function. Housewives feel like pariahs.pdf 37 . Today. Essentially. feminism erodes our social structure. money that should rightfully be distributed to men is happiness. most women still expect men to pay for their dates. Yet their romantic lives suffer.upenn. planning and leading.Instead of tending to feminine functions like nurturing. Women desiring children or dependence on male financial care incur society’s contempt. relying on the traditional model of female dependence.

the foot cannot see where it is going. the eye cannot go anywhere. I’ve learned that we all want to be validated. Without the foot. the more they are conditioned to hate their own feminine function. women covet strength and independence. Both foot and eye are unequal in function. Yet. Consider the human body. The more women fall victim to feminism’s dangerous message. feminism misdirects this fundamental feminine aspiration by claiming it can only be met through developing a masculine function. Unless women carry briefcases and PhDs. women need validation to feel valuable. Their value is determined by how well each fulfills their function.worth of women. As Oprah stated. But can a gender—unable to visit the bathroom alone—really be qualified to determine its own future? Does the current viral growth of gossip websites give us any indication of the 38 . The hand is not equal to the eye in function. And without the eye. We all want to feel as if our lives have been significant and purposeful. that it means something. but both play equally essential roles. instead of gentleness and submission. Their value is not determined by comparison. their very worth is questioned. Both carry out different but equally essential roles. Feminists belittle housewives for their decision to stay at home and support their husbands. Today. oveR-eMPHasizing Male FUnctions Oprah Winfrey recently wrote: Isn’t meaning the common denominator of human experience? Over the years while doing my show. Both functions are vital to the proper operation of the body even though they are “unequal” in nature. to know that what we say matters.

let alone their own lives? HoW FeMinisM eMascUl ates Men tHe DeMonization oF Men Today’s feminist society subjects boys to its dysfunctional view of masculinity. it exercises little conscience when criticizing young boys. Accusations of small penis size.superficial tendencies of women left to their own devices? Can those who avoid personal accountability for the sake of convenience ever be fit to govern a nation. stronger. more capable and more competent than women (as history and objective observation prove). let alone voice such obvious gender differences. mommy issues. “beauty is only skin deep”.57 Even though males are naturally smarter. and violent tendencies are all fair game for feminism’s systematic mockery 57 http://manhood101. Instead.php?f=16&t=205 58 http://jezebel. boys must endure a constant assault on their gender!5680722/duke-frat-boys-are-still-expert-douchebags 39 . it’s still considered heresy to even think.58 While feminism supports ugly girls with age-old sentiments like.

The feminist media is quick to condemn young men in the court of public opinion. girls are more valuable than boys. While girls are permitted to entice and provoke the male libido. sexually depraved fools.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 40 . Being outwitted and outperformed by females becomes an expectation for young men growing up. Society fails to recognize the validity of male sexual needs. preying on innocent “victims” (read: women).php?f=16&t=345 http://goodmenproject. Feminism teaches young boys to fear and loathe their own sexuality. desperately seeking the approval of women. It’s common nowadays for males to be thought of as potential rapists and pedophiles. Even in The feminist media portrays men as http://digitalcommons.60 Various news articles describe social networking sites like Myspace and Facebook as “breeding grounds for sexual predators” (read: men)”. TV shows condition impressionable boys to view ridicule of their gender as a normal experience. Girls’ faults are accepted.61 Society neglects to teach boys how to address the sexual desires 59 60 61 http://manhood101.of DeMonizing Male sexUalitY Whenever male sexuality is expressed. The message is clear: in a feminist society. boys are shamed for expressing sexual their desires. But what are they guilty of? The same thing all men are guilty of—desiring to have their sexual needs met. boys are told girls mature faster. Sexual advances are now characterized as criminal coercion tactics. it’s quickly labeled as perverse. Male social incompetence is stressed while female mental prowess is exaggerated.unl. Boys’ inadequacies are magnified.

While society trains women to seek out golden parachute marriages.. it makes little mention of female relationship responsibilities. Women’s incessant complaints of “controlling and abusive” behavior by spouses and boyfriends are never reconciled with the fact that women actually control and abuse all the dating cards. men don’t consider. Instead. All the while. sports. They feel inclined to overvalue the female gender at the expense of their own male identity. men are handed the blame for most relationship failures. According to the media.” Attention is focused almost entirely on addressing female whims while men find all their concerns lumped into one-dimensional categories for society to mock and condemn.62 Common feminist slanders like “rapist”.generated by girls. Instead. without any relevant social training to meet their needs. or else. men today feel guilty about addressing their sexual needs. but don’t touch. men don’t appreciate.cgi?article=1125&context=psychfacpub 41 . male sexuality is suppressed under the feminist proviso ad infinitum. This becomes easy when male mating strategies are characterized as criminal and immoral. “pedophile” and “predator” have subtlety worked their way into our daily vocabulary. food. even psychopathic. So-called dating experts advise men to “do it right. violence and sexual acquisition sum up the entirety of male interests.. feminism wags its finger at men 62 http://digitalcommons. Dating incoMPetence Countless advice columns make accusations of male dating incompetence: men don’t listen. As a result. Males are left unprepared.unl.

Throughout their lives. the unfair assignment of shame causes men to abandon their masculinity. Violence and inappropriate sexual behaviors consume many men today. unhealthy relationships. fear their social inadequacies and ridicule those dare speak out against this culture of shame. But instead of offering sympathy or dating resources. society normalizes male emasculation. males are subjected to these constant messages of social ridicule and sexual disapproval. The systematic assault on their male identity proves too much to bear. tHe cYcle oF eMascUlation Growing up. unattractive social behaviors. Feminism conditions men to hate their sexual necessities. Years of poor social conditioning under feminism has reduced their lives down to a conglomeration of conflicting rules. Like slaves bred into captivity. Men today shun the exposure of their own miserable condition. The older they get.” Instead of addressing men’s social failures. running from the truth like fearful cockroaches. this advice proves useless because their “self” is the problem. society dismisses male concerns. Obeying women at any cost and expecting Disney movie results characterizes the delusional outlook of these emasculated 42 . They would rather forfeit their authority than risk becoming social outcasts. advising them to “take it like a man.who have the audacity to demand gender equality for males.” Of course. unrealistic ideals. dysfunctional men learn to ridicule the very thought of social freedom. the more they bear the fruits of these harmful messages. countless young men have been ill-advised to “just be yourself. Lacking the necessary resources to meet their sexual needs in a healthy way. these young men grow up lonely and frustrated.

and attention on females who never reciprocate. On TV shows like 63 http://www. Women are at liberty to refuse male authority when emasculated men outnumber functional men by the thousands.males. thus ensuring the cycle of emasculation. effort.” emasculated male. Being themselves doesn’t solve the damage already done to their gender identity. This unhealthy social trend is then passed on to future generations as these emasculated men grow up to become role models to future generations of unsuspecting boys. Women know that for every authoritative man who refuses to accommodate bitch behavior. Even feminist political and legal policies (like Joe Biden’s VAWA laws63) support this emasculated view of excusing women of all accountability. Dysfunctional female behavior is not only accommodated. Discussion of female accountability is almost non-existent. They use their positions of social and economic influence to foster the cycle of money. it’s systematically justified.DOC 43 . And even though girls claim to prefer the Nice Guy. Those few men who do demand respectful treatment from women are ridiculed and dismissed as disgruntled misogynists. these men typically earn the “best friend” label. Perpetually wasting their time. In “Act Like a Lady. lack oF Men’s ResoURces Women receive access to thousands of female-focused support networks built into this feminist culture. there are thousands of emasculated males willing to offer unconditional approval. Steve Harvey. Men today lack competent male mentors and a guiding vision of what constitutes proper masculine expression. Instead.roydenhollander. Think Like Man. the feminist culture has molded these men into the impotent Nice Guy model. portrays cheating as an exclusively male shortcoming. they never view such males in a romantic or sexual context.

pdf 65 http://falserapesociety.” Once again.roydenhollander. They also find acceptance for their weight issues.blogspot.64 When the federal government itself supports discrimination against males. In a feminist’s world.65 64 http://www.Oprah.html 44 . despite their indulgent lifestyles. Under feminist leadership. And regardless of their incompetent relationship skills. gender equality becomes a criminal shakedown of the American economic support is unfairly funneled to women (via an emasculated male) while men’s economic status is continually neglected. The accompanying press release revealed his gender-biased goal of “improving women’s economic security by ensuring that each of the (cabinet-level) agencies is working to directly improve the economic status of women. the civil rights of men remain in no matter how graphic. women can discuss sexual issues with impunity. President Barak Obama himself signed an executive order creating an unconstitutional White House Council on Women and Girls. Funding “Women’s Studies” and the “Psychology of Women” takes priority over any male equivalent courses. consolation is just an advice column away. self-absolution is a vaccine administered to prevent the onset of reality. Gender bias also infiltrates publicly funded education systems where it should be least welcome.

com/forum/viewtopic. they will catch the evil.php?f=18&t=287 67 http://en.wikipedia. Know this. you sick. Hope you enjoy sleeping at night. sleazy scum that it’s no wonder no one talks to you.such lowly. Thus. Publications like The Good Men Project purport to speak for men. From “Angry Harry” to Paul Elam66. Absorb it. Male gender performance facts are systematically suppressed. Yet even their staff is populated by hardcore feminists like Amanda Marcotte who demonize men as “rape-loving scum”: “. Myths advertising female competence are reinforced. In the end. Young boys are taught to hate their own masculinity. men are led to believe their male function is less valuable than their female 45 . They’re afraid by acknowledging you.. The very thought of acknowledging the superior strength and intelligence of males is demonized while female capacity is exaggerated..tHe FailURe oF Men’s RigHts leaDeRsHiP Even men’s rights advocates display telltale signs of emasculation. hateful bastards. men are left 66 http://manhood101. men’s rights leaders ignorantly endorse feminist gender constructs by removing inherent gender distinctions.”67 Instead of teaching males how to get their needs met. Mainstream “male” mentor groups are even worse. these deceitful leaders indoctrinate young men with the feminist agenda.

Her default assumption about men’s near-exclusive culpability for relationship failures prevents women from ever addressing their dysfunctional behavior. Act Like a Woman) all advocate the same flawed approach.bargaining for sex as usual—only now with fewer bargaining chips. Without intellectual honesty.g. Oprah epitomizes the failed approach of female-oriented relationship advice experts remove the thought of accountability from her gender. On the other end of the spectrum. offering his bar and club dating tactics. Men are from Mars. the Men’s Rights Movement is reduced to the Wishful Thinking Movement. The Rules. Think Like a Man. Tom Leykis. Women are From Venus. masculinity becomes a mockery. All fail to adequately address today’s absence of male authority. HoW FeMinisM UnDeRMines social inteR action WHeRe Dating “exPeRts” go WRong Various celebrities and mainstream personalities have joined the ranks of self-appointed dating and relationship experts. today’s purported experts offer incompetent advice based upon the flawed premise of feminism.” Mystery. While this approach helps men 46 . From Oprah Winfrey perennially ruling female opinions with her popular “life-coaching” publications to Tom Leykis broadcasting his cut-throat male-oriented dating strategies to self-proclaimed “world’s greatest pick-up artist. teaches men guerrilla warfare dating tactics. the next generation of men have no to even address the problems created by feminism. nationally syndicated radio talkshow host. In the hands of these con artists. Without practical knowledge of biological gender limitations. The resources she prescribes (e. men have no practical means to get their expectations met. Thus.

tHe “gaMe” oF social inteRaction Countless times. Although these seduction systems avoid typical Nice Guy mistakes like attempting to buy affection. effectively eliminating any possibility of solving it. this type of ignorant correlation presents a significant problem. the poster boy of this movement. however. While adhering to “manly” bathroom etiquette may seem like a justifiable prerequisite to Manhood. they still suffer from the same core issue—the neglect of male authority. it overemphasizes a destructive concept of masculinity. Mystery. men have approached women in the hopes of starting a conversation. peeing while sitting down is a common illustration used by Leykis to illustrate “unmanly” behavior. His Leykis 101 method advocates the traditional and cultural appearance of masculinity rather than its functional form. such irrelevant concerns distract men from focusing on the real issue—the loss of their authority. Leykis 101 also advocates traditional male dating practices like waiting three days to call a girl and saying as little as possible on a date. Just making the effort to initiate social interaction results in constant penalization and reprimands for 47 . only to be “shot down” for doing something deemed inappropriate according to some arbitrary dating rule found in Cosmo.develop some ability to address their sexual needs. For example. Though well-intentioned. such restrictions lead to neurotic. Another adaptive response to feminism has been the popularization of the “Seduction Community” with its various pick-up “gurus”. they present dysfunctional female behavior as a social norm. ignorantly links bitch behavior to evolutionary development. Like other dating authorities. approval-seeking behaviors that discourage the exercise of male authority.

the unhappier they become. advice and The “Game” of social interaction persists in its present problematic form because emasculated males allow it. Emotionally frustrated women become more abrasive in their communication while sexually frustrated men fight back with coldhearted dating strategies. Oblivious to these contradictions. To make matters worse. The more men compromise. Others advise against a cautious. both genders’ needs go unanswered. Feminism conditions women to harbor unrealistic dating standards. The more men encounter the demanding. Some respond to sexual language. only to be penalized for a lack of mind-reading skills. Some fault a man for being too “forward. the more they view women like video games—to be played and discarded. Some find a confident demeanor too cocky. Others are turned off by it. leaving them puzzled. Others sneer at the very mention of material prosperity. As men engage these dysfunctional women in conversation. passive approach. They end up bending over backwards to accommodate every childish expectation they encounter. Without proper guidance to weed through this mess of conflicting advice. some women prefer a man who takes charge. the more they suffer. the more women demand. Thus. This leads to a dating environment full of anger and resentment. Some refuse to date men below a certain income level. Taking a cursory look at female-oriented dating publications reveals a cornucopia of conflicting standards. Men can find themselves eliminated from romantic consideration based on any number of conflicting criteria. Others want to lead a relationship. 48 .” Others ridicule him for being unwilling to initiate sexual activity. these behavior protocols vary sharply depending on the woman. they begin to realize a vast network of unwritten rules stands in their way. unforgiving attitude of feminism. guys become neurotic in their approach to dating. both genders cling to unrealistic dating standards.

Video games are defined by their unforgiving nature. you lose your opportunity to go any further with them. tHe nice gUY Nice Guys fear the disapproval of women and will do anything to avoid it. Nice Guys vainly hope to attract women. unless played perfectly. By giving compliments and spending money. and resources. Unable to bear responsibility for his actions. he blames others for being too “mean. his behavior appears selfless and altruistic. regardless of how little she respects him. This is a picture of women today. while making him believe a relationship is imminent.” Because of his chivalrous behavior. women publicly adore the Nice Guy. he secretly pines for reciprocation. Feminism conditions him to believe that sex can only be gained by catering to a woman’s every whim. he’s only “nice” in his own mind. and you pay the price—game over. milking all his attention and financial resources. Mess up just once. They will bend over backwards to accommodate any expectation. But this approach produces two types of dysfunctional males: the neurotic Nice Guy and the disinterested Player. He is a “YES” man—a man who will undermine his own authority by doing whatever a woman says. Outwardly. The Nice Guy embodies the dishonesty inherent in all emasculated males. The only difference is his denial of the fact. They ask you to perform a certain set of actions to perfection. no matter how unreasonable. They may even lead him on for years. his 49 . they constantly seek the approval of women. Thus. While the Nice Guy claims that he wants nothing in return for his chivalrous generosity. he deceitfully hides his romantic intentions. But while earning ubiquitous approval from society. he adopts a self-pitying mind-set that characterizes all his relationships. Because he lacks the training to deal with the disapproval of women and the emasculating effects of feminism. Instead of realizing his dishonest behavior is the cause of his problems. time. effort. but inwardly his motive is the same as any other guy—he wants sex.

Nothing is more intoxicating than a man who knows how to get his expectations met. And if you’re a bad boy. If his expectations begin to compete with the expectations of the woman he’s dating.html 50 . Nice Guys perpetually remain sexually frustrated dating punchlines. which necessitates much deception.actions garner little romantic interest. Although women may publicly badmouth his behavior.parade.68 But because the player doesn’t care for her needs. He understands women’s need to emotionally invest in their sexual relationships and takes advantage of this fact. the Player only cares about his needs. tHe PlaYeR On the other end of the spectrum is the Player. But unlike the Nice Guy. His concern is not the happiness of women but his own. Players simply don’t have the requisite social training to maintain a successful relationship where both parties needs are being met. 68 http://www. To this end. That’s been my experience. they like it. Women secretly loathe his lack of self-respect and unwillingness to lead a relationship. he will exploit her emotional investment to get his way. Jude Law tells Parade: I think women like bad boys. ultimately his partners remain frustrated and unsatisfied. He usually earns the “best friend” label and nothing more. You know. he often maintains relationships with multiple women. at a certain age you figure out what works for you and being a good boy never worked for me. I just think it’s kind of a given. most women remain indifferent to his attention. His goal is simple: sexual gratification. they secretly crave his ability to take control.

• Instead of answering why women demand equal pay for less work in less demanding jobs. In fact. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to provoke violence. Refusal to abide by this emasculating social code even elicits public outrage. are allowed to defraud men into paying child support. men are accused of being sexually irresponsible. men are accused of being oppressive and misogynistic. female victimhood has been thoroughly ingrained into our culture that trying to hold women accountable for anything is universally condemned. men are accused of having commitment issues. Emasculated men punish it. • Instead of answering why women who demand sole ownership of their bodies. a perverted version of masculinity exists where dominance over other men is celebrated while dominance over women 51 . men are accused of being default abusers. • Instead of answering why women should benefit from unfair divorce laws. • Instead of answering why women take advantage of the child support system. men are accused of being sexist pigs. If changing the nature of the argument fails. • Instead of answering why women are allowed to advertise their sexuality. men are accused of being deadbeat dads. Today. men are accused of being sexual predators. You’d have better luck blaming a newborn baby. women resort to petty threats and angry denunciations: “You’ll never get laid! You’ll never get a date!” Threatening dissenting men with sexual starvation and social ostracization is a common practice. Dysfunctional women condemn masculinity. Thus it’s easy for feminists to deceptively changes the nature of the argument to absolve themselves of any blame: • Instead of answering why financially independent women should get free dinners. This creates an environment hostile to the proper exercise of male authority. both prevent males from regaining their Manhood.WHY FeMinisM PeRsists societY not alloWing tHe exaMination oF FeMinisM It’s difficult to even address feminism’s glaring hypocrisies and damaging social policies when women have been conditioned for so long to believe they can only be victims. To even question feminism brings up immediate accusations of misogyny and sexism.

parents hate their children by controlling them with boundaries and healthy people hate their own lives by exercising selfcontrol over their diet. They’ve grown up under the damaging philosophy of Relativism that gives credibility to all ideas no matter how ridiculous or impractical. without rhyme or reason. All functional relationships are automatically deemed hateful when control is demonized to mean slavery. governments hate their citizens by controlling them with laws.html 52 . Feminists figure it’s much easier to apply intellectually dishonest definitions to their opponents than it is to answer for their assault upon the male gender identity.feministing. In fact. vacuums and cooks.” 69 http://www.”[sic] Thus. definitive conclusions are often mocked as “ condemned. generals hate their soldiers by controlling them with orders. Those men are what we call misogynists70. FaUltY logic DUe to social conDitioning Men growing up in this feminist culture have been conditioned to think 70 have sex with whenever you want and in a perfect world.69 As a writer for Feministing recently stated: “For some men. the perfect woman is one you can control. according to feminists.

Relativists declare “everybody is right!” Consequently. principles triumph. Such individuals not only prove unreliable. Justice demands fair treatment for all parties. absolute standards are not subject to anyone’s whims or personal preferences. their own personal interests supersede your welfare. principles remain steadfast. principles remain the bedrock of our experiences. stable natural laws govern the flow of money in the economy. focus on their own happiness. Even in the business world. your life would become very difficult. If you stepped off a curb and could not know for certain which direction you’d travel. 53 . Be thankful that the law of gravity isn’t a subjective opinion. especially your social interactions. Where good intentions falter. While those who rely on their subjective opinion.Absolute standards do not exist in this unstable fantasy world of personal preferences and subjective emotional judgments. Fortunately. Where will power fails. Understanding the dependable nature of any universal law (principle) becomes an absolute necessity if you hope to bring stability to your life. People daily rely on these laws to make healthy economic decisions. Your experience would be quite frustrating without its constant nature. Every facet of social interaction is governed by some universal principle. their social interactions are governed by their good intentions and personal opinions. Dependence upon the knowledge of a natural law’s constant nature helps you understand how to benefit from its correct application and avoid suffering the consequences of violating its boundaries. justice concerns itself with everyone’s happiness. you should consider how they stabilize your experiences. otherwise. Be wary of those who champion arbitrary boundaries over absolute standards. universal principles do not play favorites. Where emotion betrays. Instead of seeing universal laws as a restrictive burden. But unlike these selfish individuals. Universal constants remain unchanged despite what others think or do. you could no longer depend on it to govern your life.

a new question must be posed: is gender equality even necessary? Should women try to replace the role of men? Should men embrace emasculation? Or should men and women start learning how to fulfill the functions of their own respective genders. even those slaves who believed in the ideal of racial equality didn’t consider it possible to be completely free in that society. WHY YoUR social inteRactions Fail You’re stranded because you view social interaction like you’re looking at a fastfood menu where all items are optional.” friend: “Sup. At that time. good looks. Instead. Cool.” friend: “Cool. Thus. Instead. Instead of looking for palatable ways to cope with slavery. Addressing feminism requires just such a radical change in perspective. fashionable outfits. compromise. It had become so embedded in their culture and way of life that it seemed normal. Everything you do depends solely on your personal preference. psychological studies. How you doing?” you: “Nothing. a more fundamental question had to be asked: was slavery even necessary. sexual techniques. It’s no longer productive to merely ask how men and women can attain gender equality. they learned to excuse. even natural.. You assume that social interaction is made up of cue cards with cool things to say. Just chilling.” 54 . to address their chronic dissatisfaction. justify and adapt to slavery. popular dating advice. All these poor misconceptions lead to today’s common social interaction problems: Boring & Superficial you: “What’s up.Recognizing tHe PRobleM anD cHanging oUR aPPRoacH Today’s situation for men ruled by feminism parallels the historical institution of slavery in the United States. natural charisma and sheer dumb luck. bro?. Few could even conceive of eradicating the entire institution. a radical approach was required.

hoping someone will reach out to you. The professor is great. You become angry and resentful when others do well on the test. yet you do nothing to prepare yourself. where you’re going to go and what you’re going to do.“ can’t leaD a Woman A woman agrees to date. You sit back passively. The tests are really easy. but you’re too worried about looking stupid to ask questions. I think I’m going to do well in it. You put the burden on her to decide what you’re going to eat. but you rely on her to make the conversation interesting. You don’t understand the material but never ask anyone for help. 55 . I like my history of literature class Direction [Purposeless conversations with girls you like] “Hi! So what classes are you in? I have a bunch of math classes and a theater class. It’s pretty good. irreSponSiBle paSSive Behavior You’re failing Economics class.

“Someday. You complain about it. You have no idea how to get them to do their chores or correct their disrespectful behavior. but they refuse to listen to you. but you have no idea how to make them stop. Whatever you want to do is fine with me. You fantasize about nobody ever bothering you. I know I’m going to hate it.” noBoDy liStenS to you You tell your children to behave. Your friends constantly make fun of you..[insert lofty goal].” “You choose where we go.” “I like all music equally.” “I’ll just watch whatever movie you guys want to watch. You just want to go through life without any confrontations.. I’m going to .” paSSive-aggreSSive “Why are you being so mean to me?” “I guess we can go to the beach. Your favorite phase begins with. You dream about becoming famous and rich or changing your appearance so girls will like you.” 56 .can’t make a DeciSion “Should we eat Mexican food or Greek food? I don’t know. Anything is fine with me. unrealiStic expectationS You wish girls would just come up to you and ask you out. But I’ll probably get a sunburn and it will be so cold outside today.

” “That movie wasn’t great. You think only handsome guys get the hottest girls. You have to be a gentleman and pay for my dinner and drinks. You’re not the boss! We’re a team. Maybe you think you have no shot with hot women because you’re not an “alpha” male.” “Bowling sucks. girlS take aDvantage of you “You’re the guy. but your date never calls back. you’re swamped with a sea of poor relationships models—divorces. they’ll fall in love with you. You weren’t born an “alpha” male.” “I like you.” “Give me an engagement ring. you’re daily bombarded with self-defeating messages. sexless marriages. couples constantly fighting 57 . Everywhere you go. You’ll never be rich. From TV shows to movies to friends to family to advice columns to the internet.poor expreSSion “This day is good. Your girlfriend wants to hang out with her male “friends. but you can’t stop her. On top of that. You think by being super nice to girls. That means we’re going to see Sex And The City together.” “Couples should always compromise. there are countless voices filling your head with these disastrous dating fallacies. She calls you “controlling and abusive” if you even try. Just accept your fate as a lonely guy.” “Skiing is cool.” This makes you jealous. Your co-workers never take you seriously. You’ll never be cool. or you’re not getting sex tonight!” PooR social inteRaction MoDels You probably think women are attracted to money.” can’t get your neeDS met You spend $150 for a dinner. But it never happens.

the more awkward you feel around people. And “be yourself” fails because you’ve been raised to think and behave like an introverted social misfit. employees resenting their bosses. “Be nice to women” hasn’t gotten you anywhere. Social interaction problems runs rampant in our society. you’re stuck on a secluded island of social incompetence. Maybe you talk to the grocery store clerk or say hello to a neighbor. Most of it is useless and will actually prevent you from meeting your needs. etc. friends and your limited social skills. family. When others remind you to “just be confident. students threatening their teachers.for control. 58 . liMiteD social inteRaction knoWleDge/exPeRience Your view of relationships is shaped by pop culture. You socialize sporadically at best. Why? Simple—no direction. But for the most part. children defying their parents.” you want to remind them to fuck off. WHeRe to staRt Because of your poor social conditioning growing up. Interacting with strangers feels like climbing a mountain. And the longer you’re stranded. you’ve become isolated.

You have no idea what to say to a pretty girl because you have no idea how to express your needs in an attractive way. We’re going to focus on becoming thorough. you also have no idea what even constitutes social competence. You skip steps at your own peril. 59 . we’re going to do things differently. Making new friends seems impossible because you don’t know what to say to strangers. This means starting from the ground up. And the very thought of a confrontation makes your skin turn white. Social training is cumulative. you first need to learn how to interact with other males. Instead of worrying about how to get a girlfriend. Unlike your prior attempts to socialize. you’re lost in a social wilderness without a map to direct your behavior.In short. Don’t skip the fundamental principles in the quest for instant social success. Without direction. Sifting through social advice is the last thing a person in your position is qualified to do. If you’re in a rush to become competent in a few weeks. let me save you the trouble—you’re going to fail. You need to learn exactly what constitutes a successful social interaction.

just like everyone feels the same gravitational pull. What works underwater. at all times just like gravity or eating. What works for fat people also works for skinny people. 60 . it’s misunderstood by nearly everyone. Principles set the same boundaries and rules for inteRaction is UniveRsal Social interaction is universal in nature. Everybody eats through their mouth. what works in Hawaii works in Russia. The principles that govern social interaction apply to everyone. works on an airplane. No one is exempt from these universal laws. Yet as universal as social interaction is. ironically. What works for store clerks also works for celebrities.

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Public scrutiny is essential in distinguishing between unstable assumptions and objective facts. Don’t be afraid to treat any assumptions with unsympathetic. Both inhibit the discovery of true cause and effect. Not only must men weed through confusing and contradictory definitions of masculinity. Insecurity fuels decisions as often as imagination works to protect the self-esteem. The truth of a matter can only be discerned when all parties are allowed to examine and test the merits of any claims. You should openly welcome criticism. This ensures the division of immutable principles from emotional theories. All dysfunctional theories follow the law of entropy.” But without open discussion and public scrutiny. Blindly accepting any theory will lead to failure. they also have to deal with the con artists looking to make a quick buck off of their naivety. there’s no practical way to achieve that. 62 . There’s a lot of talk about needing to “man up. brutal analysis. Valuable knowledge can only be separated from good intentions by meticulous examination. whatever fails to pass the test of public examination will inevitably move toward a greater state of disorder. Whatever lacks order.PaRt ii: UnDeRstanDing tHe solUtion HoW to aPPRoacH social inteR action tHe neeD FoR PUblic scRUtinY Although there are other types of purported male-oriented resources (from religious groups to Tony Robbins to Men’s Rights Activists to the “Seduction Community”/Pickup Artists) on the web. none of them offer a solution to the problem of male emasculation plaguing men today. whatever lacks purpose. Conclusions only gain credibility if they can withstand a skeptic’s unforgiving eye.

Full satisfaction represents 63 D ISORD ER . In everything you do. In order to avoid confusion and frustration. But what brings satisfaction. stabilize a relationship. Disorder must be removed for satisfaction to exist. As these errors grow more elaborate. you become more satisfied. psychological. and love represent this ongoing thirst for satisfaction. As you move away from disorder and progress toward a state of order. you experience some degree of satisfaction. friendship. ORDER When you clean your room. so does the resulting dysfunctional behavior.Failure to carefully scrutinize assumptions leads to the construction of reckless theories. you seek satisfaction as your end goal. Physical. What conditions are necessary to produce it. and spiritual forms of pleasure like eating. satisFaction You are designed with an innate desire for pleasure. you need to be sure you’re depending on reliable knowledge and not just wishful thinking. eat a balanced meal or accomplish a task.

it’s necessary to create order by eliminating all disorder. Unhappy places of poverty are lined with trash and graffiti. People growing up in chaotic. painful environments as a child. Whatever lacks order is automatically dissatisfying. event. circumstance or person is by default moving in the wrong direction toward dissatisfaction. moving away from an orderly state creates dissatisfaction or a state of disorder. filthy houses. Dirty clothes.the highest state of order—the removal of all disorder. and unhealthy eating habits are all symptoms of disorder. experience psychological disorders as adults. Conversely. Extremes of either indulgence or deprivation indicate a disorderly root perspective governing your life in a harmful way. To end in a satisfying condition. Any disorderly thing. 64 . Order is an indication that you’re moving in the right direction toward satisfaction.

tHe caUse oF attRaction Men blindly search for ways to attract women. Sex also leads to children. money. Meanwhile. it’s necessary to investigate the principle that governs attraction. Many women find men of high social status (rock stars. and attempt to raise their social status—all for the sake of attracting women. women are drawn to men of high social status who can meet this need. Their facial symmetry along with the balanced. While its aesthetic appeal may be limited. leads to an orderly social outcome—the propagation of life. You desire sex with a woman to resolve your sexual tension. Consider money. politicians) to be attractive because of their ability to garner massive social approval. functions to create order when properly employed. like any other tool. purchase services. But they often erode whenever conflict exposes a lack of male authority. some men do form relationships. secure protection. and influence others. decorate their bodies with tattoos and piercings. support relationships. This. Consider physically attractive people. in turn. its actual significance proves quite attractive to people. enhance their appearance through weight training. the important question remains unanswered: what really attracts women? To discover the answer. Resolving this tension brings you toward an orderly state. Granted. celebrities. Consider sex. these men begin to resent the very concept of a relationship. represented by unimpressive colored paper. You can use money to buy food. This is naturally more attractive than a disorderly body 65 . don fashionable clothing. They study animal mating psychology. Because social acceptance and approval are necessary components of an orderly life. In short. develop conversational gimmicks (aka pickup lines). Consider social status. proportional arrangement of their bodies expresses order. Frustrated and confused.

even though you’re not an art critic. varying stages of growth and old age. The closer individual elements of the body align to the specific. Your innate sense of order recognizes the natural disparity in the human form. we all recognize one elegant design—one universal expression of order in the human body.whose features are disproportional to others or missing altogether. the more you’re attracted to this sense of order. you can instantly tell something is off. ORDER DISORDER Regardless of your cultural origin. injuries. balanced arrangement of complementary parts that appeals to our highest aesthetic sense of order. This is why. balanced proportions characteristic of humans. when an amateur artist draws the human body. there exists a pleasing. 66 . In most cases. he’s abused the rule of proportions by drawing the legs too long or the arms too short. Amid all the birth defects. the eyes too close or the mouth off center.

Because we deal with money. Facts in themselves are meaningless without purposeful arrangement. Functional knowledge describes this orderly arrangement of facts. Facts need to be arranged to accomplish a purpose. However. it’s not the tools themselves that cause attraction. just knowing this fact does not create order. social status and symmetrical faces on a daily basis. orderly arrangement that draws us. we mistakenly credit these agents of order for causing attraction. 67 . For example. Become a man who knows how to apply what he’s learned to create order. Don’t strive to be a container of facts. apples are red. There is no design in a fact. Only applied knowledge contains the relevant element of order. We attribute love to appearance or affection to social reputation. Learning how to grow apple trees. it is the resulting harmonious. Order is the attracting principle— the common denominator fulfilling everyone’s universal need. Only this proves ultimately attractive. Once this purpose is achieved. However. order is produced. Rather. I don’t need to ask whether or not this book is attractive. Because it helps men arrange and control their social interactions in a satisfying manner. it meets the standard of attraction. FUnctional knoWleDge Functional knowledge is attractive because it creates order when applied. figuring out how to build a house and discovering how to properly interact with people are examples of knowledge that brings order to your life.

companionship. In laymen’s terms. this means men are attracted to women who listen. A strictly sexual relationship will not meet that basic human need. But in the end. This is why men and women. Romantic relationships meet the needs of both genders. etc. You may want to have sex with super models.). etc. a proper relationship is formed. security. And they give men the opportunity to depend on women (for sex. whatever you depend upon becomes attractive. men are drawn to women who appreciate male care. Properly functioning men and women are attracted to those who meet their needs. it proves fundamentally attractive to both genders.attRaction toDaY In today’s disorderly social climate. regardless of what they claim or intend. and women are ultimately attracted to men who create an orderly arrangement with that authority. naturally gravitate toward romantic relationships. The most orderly form of this arrangement is a romantic relationship.). your need for companionship will dictate your behavior. Real long-term attraction is always linked to necessity. support. children. You may daydream about sleeping with an entire harem of women. men overemphasize the importance of physical beauty while women obsess over social status. Romantic relationships give women the opportunity to depend on men (for protection. stability. obey and support them. and women are attracted to men who direct and take charge of a relationship. This means men are ultimately attracted to women who submit to their authority. affection. Such orderly 68 . order is established. You will naturally gravitate toward finding one woman to meet your companionship needs. In practical terms. Neither of these dysfunctional perspectives produce a healthy relationship. Men have needs that only women can meet. and women have needs that only men can meet. When men and women mutually depend on each other to meet their needs. provision. When dependence is mutual. and women are drawn to men who provide that care. Since order ultimately meets everyone’s needs.

Submission is condemned. we’re plagued with messages commanding us to be different from everyone else. attraction is ultimately being sabotaged. soon find out that no human can truly live an independent life. Everywhere you look. independence is celebrated. Tables and chairs don’t depend on anyone for anything because they lack life. The less you depend on others. Leading a woman is deemed barbaric. Weakness is vilified. It deceives women into thinking that men are only attracted to females who compete for male authority. No living person ever graduates from eating. By encouraging competition between the genders. However. these so-called experts fail to realize that life has always been a matter of dependence. avoiding death means recognizing your need for life. We’re shamed into hiding our weaknesses and lying about our failures. We’re cautioned to avoid depending on others. From our worship of individualism to our ‘dog eat dog’ business attitude. 69 . Limitation is scorned. Today’s society wrecks the potential for healthy relationships. Sentiments like “I don’t need a man” and “I’m strong and independent” are intended to impress men. True independence equates to death. the nearer you move to your grave.relationships cause mutual satisfaction. this rejection of necessity undermines any potential for order in relationships. The media and pop psychology even denigrate functional relationships by assigning “dependence” a negative connotation. We’re taught to flee from our parents as soon as possible. The human life depends on so many conditions and limitations to thrive. Thus. however. People who neglect their necessities or fail to realize they are limited by necessity. Yet today’s dysfunctional society abhors dependence. drinking or breathing. Deferring to a man is equated with defeat.

police offer protection. a welfare system provides food and shelter. courts offers social support. women have also shifted their focus to respond to the lack of male leadership in relationships. women feel validated by association. As female independence increases under feminism. the media provides approval. physical appearance and social status ultimately fall short since neither can produce or sustain an orderly relationship. men shift their focus onto the one remaining orderly aspect of females—their physical beauty. a beautiful bitch is still a bitch. The emphasis placed on appearance today is no coincidence. By the same token. men no longer have the ability to govern and create order in the lives of women. and an emasculated celebrity is still emasculated. Without this authority. Men with high social status are able to acquire the approval women need and naturally seek. the only thing left to appreciate is their physical appearance. Today’s women are ushered into a dysfunctional relationship with the State. The competitive. When society approves of these men. Independence kills attraction. Society further compounds the attraction problem by employing the feminist State to replace the function of males. Yet whenever independence enters relationships. men no longer have the means to sustain attraction in a relationship. Because new laws now limit male authority. Thus. independent behavior of today’s women turns men off. death results. women now focus on the one remaining authoritative element still ruling their lives—social authority represented by social status. fertility clinics provide children. business careers provide an illusion of self-sufficiency. However. Because men have lost their personal authority.just to feel like we don’t need anyone else. 70 .

but can’t overrule poor spending habits that cause poverty in the first place. welfare housing can provide shelter. the state’s inability to exercise proper authority over women results in a thoroughly unsatisfying relationship. big ears. Ironically. Abnormal height. First. the State undermines male authority— the basis for male attraction. it can’t teach women to dress appropriately in public or prevent women from creating dangerous situations for themselves. too [inseRt inaDeqUacY] “I’m short. Giving women custodial rights of children after a divorce will never solve the problem of overcrowded prisons created by single mothers. can’t bribe women into making responsible choices. And health care programs providing medical benefits.and prescription drugs provide instant pleasure. hair loss and a crooked nose 71 . While the judicial system works to deter crime. too sHoRt. You assume women reject you because of your lack of physical appeal. you must recognize the difference between a disorderly physical appearance and a disorderly life. acne scars. too UglY. I’m bald. Likewise. In short. I’m ugly.” Men today worry about not being tall enough or handsome enough to attract women. the State’s own dysfunctional authority can’t meet the needs of women. By replacing the function of men. have no ability to train women to make responsible eating choices. Giving women access to higher paying jobs can’t produce satisfying relationships. But you really have no idea what causes lasting attraction in women. Taxpayer-funded academic programs providing unconditional approval and resources.

Your poor eating choices resulted in a disorderly condition (you’re fat). The latter things result from a lack of self-control— your inability to exercise your authority to create order in your life. The former things are out of your control. bad posture and muttering your words are all symptoms of a disorderly life. Some genetic disorders can be addressed quite easily (braces for crooked teeth. Being short is not under your control. Being fat. On the other hand. But you should realize that none of these conditions are significant enough to inhibit your ability to attract others. medication for acne). You were born that way. All of these can easily be overcome. your asymmetrical 72 . Your crooked nose. obesity. balding). is under your control. Others prove more difficult (crooked nose. tattoos. But it protects against the ridicule of obesity—a disorderly condition directly under your control. on the other hand. acne and wrinkles—disorderly conditions that you were born with. your wrinkles.are all examples of a disorderly physical appearance. piercings. your balding head. your discolored tooth. Unfortunately. today’s society scolds you for having crooked teeth.

being short/bald/Chinese is not that unattractive in itself. Or you begin to reject others before they can reject you. women are not particularly attracted to physical features.facial features. Third. This belief causes your expression to suffer. decaying teeth are all symptoms of a disorderly life. easily trumping your physical appearance. you need to learn how to manage the expectations of others. You don’t yet realize this. your social interactions will suffer. they will not prevent you from attracting women. obesity. These are naturally offensive to others. you believe yourself to be unattractive. Second. You respond by creating defense mechanisms to preserve your selfesteem. causing you to become even more defensive. Because society portrays short people as less attractive. On the other hand. While you may temporarily feel better about yourself. in the long run. as are many other perceived shortcomings. you seek to deny it or distort it. You should do whatever is necessary to rectify disorderly conditions resulting from your negligence. Creating order is always more attractive than a handsome appearance. you succumb to these negative social expectations. bad hygiene. People will disapprove of your defensive behavior. Thus. Unlike men. Instead of acknowledging your perceived shortcoming. bald people as creepy and Asians as nerdy. you erroneously assume that women emphasis physical 73 . Just ask Mick Jagger. but your ability to create order is your most attractive feature. And the cycle will repeat. These defense-mechanisms alienate others. The real problem begins when society attaches an undesirable association to these things. and other naturally occurring disorderly features do not prevent you from exercising your authority to create order. To break out of this cycle. smoking. Instead of conveying yourself to others. Creating order even overcomes your own plain/ugly outward appearance. An ugly man who can create order will inevitably become more attractive over time than a handsome man who can’t.

tHe neeD FoR PRinciPles Many men make the mistake of relying on one-dimensional. body piercings. Because you lack an understanding of the principles that govern all social interactions. You need to learn how to properly govern social traffic. if it’s the wrong plan. But stylish elevator shoes. None of these silly remedies address the real issue hindering your attractiveness—your inability to create order. bodybuilding—in a vain attempt to attract women. [This will be addressed in Part III]. You follow metrosexual fashion codes— makeovers. it will lead nowhere. Instead of changing your physical appearance to meet the dysfunctional expectations of society. To really become attractive to women. situationbased strategies to meet women. you need to learn how to change the negative associations connected to your appearance.attractiveness the way men do. You spend ridiculous amounts of money on unnecessary haircuts and outfits. You need to learn how to influence the view of others to fit your expectations. you must learn how to create order. plastic surgery and laser hair removal will not make up for a lack of authority. While creating a definite plan of action will help you feel more in control. tattoos. This means you must learn how to control a social interaction by dictating how others should respond to you. you’ll make common mistakes like: • Lying to yourself and others to feel comfortable • Wearing eye-catching clothing to draw attention • Developing a repertoire of canned jokes and stories to seem interesting • Buying women drinks to gain sexual access 74 .

Additionally. you can neglect the proper application of authority and still experience some “success” with women. For example. Yes. any shift in the social environment may even nullify their effectiveness. Principles. Its constant nature allows you to base your behavior upon it. These strategies can also backfire when unforeseen variables are introduced. Principles are responsible for giving form to specific gender functions. where and with whom people socialize. And the lack of flexibility along with extraneous procedures result in tedious. when. on the other hand. In the same way principles govern the universe. at work. Principles are universal laws governing all situations. entropy affects all situations. regardless of the circumstances. They are a steady foundation of laws directing and restricting all social interactions. since men require jurisdiction over women to meet the needs of women. in writing or 75 . Consider the principle of gravity. why. the principle of masculinity dictates that authority is the proper form required to address those needs. Whether at school. overly complicated social interactions. the principle of entropy dictates that all things move toward disorder. in a store. do not suffer from environmental or circumstantial constraints. they also dictate how. at home. your social interactions will suffer in the long run. they actually hinder your social interaction competence. For example. But without understanding this universal governing principle. Whether referring to the decay of a physical building or the deterioration of a social interaction.• Playing hard to get • Complimenting women and “just being yourself” Although relying on situation-based strategies may feel helpful. in a club.

The unyielding nature of principles dictates and restricts the behavior of others. but ignoring principles always results in problems.over the phone. your interactions become unbalanced and eventually degrade into a disorderly condition. oRDeR vs. Order implies balance—a pleasing arrangement of components. establishing a peaceful condition. the natural laws governing social interactions never change. Methods and techniques can be freely violated without incident. DisoRDeR Order is a condition in which all things are properly arranged in relation to one another. Without understanding how immutable principles govern all your 76 . Whenever you violate social principles.

inhibiting it from moving forward. or it stops telling time completely. Unrealistic relationship expectations. isolated social interaction but rather a systematic breakdown of their entire socializing function. Each individual part depends on all the other parts working properly for the entire system to function. It bears all the tenets of disorder. Either it starts giving inaccurate times. latches and springs all depend on each other for the whole device to function properly. irrational perspectives. Eventually. The wheels. Consider the inner workings of a clock. it affects the harmonious arrangement of everything else because order depends on each part functioning properly and balancing against the other. This is exactly what’s occurring today as feminism emasculates men. 77 .social interactions. Pretty soon the whole clock is prevented from functioning. bad social advice. the other gender suffers as well. men and women abusing and/or neglecting their gender function— all these dysfunctional elements act like monkey wrenches thrown into the gears of social interaction. It’s not just a matter of one broken. both genders pay the price. If a single piece becomes dislodged and fails to fulfill its necessary function. men can’t meet their sexual needs. dials. dysfunctional methods and frustrating results. When either gender breaks down. and women can’t meet their emotional needs. As a result. Once something goes out of whack. This analogy illustrates the problem people experience with their social interactions today. no possibility exists to create or maintain orderly relationships. it affects the entire time-telling system. Your current condition is characterized by contradicting information.

When your child refuses to listen. Order addresses your financial dilemmas and health issues. Disorder merits pain. balance—tHe PeRFect aRRangeMent Balance indicates an orderly arrangement has been achieved. Order affects all areas of your life. your broken function hinders all of society. When he listens. affects the social interactions of everyone around you. The root cause must be addressed. Right now. which in turn. you will simultaneously address many of the symptoms that result from its absence. This affects all your social interactions. Issues like difficulty attracting women. lack of respect from your peers. You should apply pain. you must learn to apply merited pain and pleasure to your child’s behavior. your assumptions must undergo scrutiny. You should reward him with pleasure. 78 . evinced by his balanced character. Order makes you attractive to women and gets your expectations met. you are full of disorder. By learning how to create order. All these concerns are holistically addressed by becoming orderly.To remedy this. A child will mature into a functioning adult under such an orderly arrangement. Focusing on addressing only the symptoms of your problem will not solve the problem. For example. he is becoming disorderly. Order merits pleasure. whether you realize it or not. financial troubles and health problems all stem from the same source: your disorderly approach to life and society’s accommodation of that disorder. he is behaving in and orderly manner. Since you are part of society by definition. and your conclusions must be tested—you can only work toward an orderly result after all the crap has first been exposed and removed. as a parent. You’re not the only one that suffers when you don’t get your expectations met.

Not only must you avoid gorging yourself. Balance can also be illustrated by the earth’s atmosphere. As a principle. you must also avoid starving. This reveals that just having the essential elements around isn’t adequate. you are responsible for punishing (applying merited pain) and rewarding (applying merited pleasure) your child. A harmonious arrangement of oxygen (21%). The painful deterrent of discipline and the pleasurable incentive of love work together to arrange his personality in an orderly way. But if you eat too much food. Now. it is good to eat. Anything that does not fit the ONE perfect arrangement can only be considered part of disorder. 79 . The elements must be arranged in proper proportion to one another. There are countless degrees of disorder but only one degree of order. his personality heads in an orderly direction. Likewise. They don’t consider nitrogen and the other elements to be that important. It’s incorrect to say you’re becoming more orderly. The resulting satisfaction experienced by both parent and child indicates balance has been achieved.As a parent. For your body to function properly. many assume it’s the only element required to sustain life. nitrogen (78%) and other elements (1%) is required to sustain life. because oxygen is so prevalent. a balanced diet is essential. you will get fat and experience health problems. Once the arrangement is correct. This implies there is another type of degree of order. if don’t eat enough. your body will become malnourished and equally troubled. Yet adding a disproportionate amount of oxygen to the atmosphere will actually destroy life. consider eating. When these tools are properly applied. However. balance is achieved.

There is only one proper arrangement for life to exist. it becomes functional/orderly. Once all degrees of dysfunction/disorder have been removed from something. The closer individual elements move toward balanced proportions. Thus. the less dysfunctional the outcome. MOST DISORDER SOME DISORDER LEAST DISORDER ORDER ACHIEVED A balanced arrangement of elements indicates order. The closer you come to the one proper arrangement. 80 . the less dysfunctional you will be. anything less than a balanced arrangement indicates disorder. Any deviation from this perfect balance of order eventually causes death.

mind.) and dictate your various functions (working. the function will break down along with the arrangement itself. energy must constantly be exerted to maintain order. dials and casing must be arranged together in an orderly way. If the flow of energy stops. Energy must be expended to produce a functional result.DisPositional oRDeR How does a watch tell time. loving. maintaining your health. organs. Any purposefully designed thing contains an orderly arrangement of parts. You have your own set of internal components that constitute you (eyes. Energy is required to both create an orderly arrangement and maintain its function. managing a business or teaching a classroom of students all require energy. A watch’s internal arrangement and functioning can be referred to as its dispositional order. An orderly internal arrangement results in a properly functioning watch. Whether it is a battery supplying electrical power to a computer or an athlete putting food into his body. eating. skeleton. First. its gears. etc. head. Something must be sacrificed in order for something to be gained. heart. Effort and work must be put forth to produce an orderly. Each of these parts must work together with all the other components. constructing a skyscraper. etc. springs. socializing. Building a car. 81 . satisfying result. thinking.) To run any orderly system—from a car to your own body—energy is required.

Positional oRDeR
Once you learn how to train your disposition to become orderly, you will have created dispositional order in yourself. That dispositional order then needs to be properly applied to your life to bring you into positional order. When a clock is assembled in an orderly way, it can tell time. The clock may then be used by people to arrange meetings, form schedules and plan ahead. This means the clock is fulfilling its purpose. It is being applied in a functional way. If however, you were to abuse the clock’s function by using it as a hammer, you would ruin its orderly condition, causing it to become useless. A clock must comply with its design—its specific function—to create positional order in its environment. Likewise, you must comply with your own gender design to become functional. This will bring your life into positional order. Just how important is positional order. Let’s say you are the best architect in the world. No one can build structures like you can. But each of your buildings sits on top of sinking marsh land. It doesn’t matter how great an architect you are if the building is positioned on unstable ground. Even if you build the most structurally sound building on earth, placing it in the wrong position renders dispositional order (structure) useless.

The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a prime example of this problem. It’s great piece of architecture. But it’s placed in a bad location. This affects its function—its usefulness. Because the position is wrong, adding more floors would cause it to topple over. A building must not only be well constructed but also properly placed. It’s position is vital to its function. Practically speaking, this means you need to maintain a functional position in life. For example, you may be very competent at wielding authority to create order. But if you’re using that authority to commit a crime, your authority is already in the wrong position. You may have excellent driving skills. But if your car has no brakes, you’re in no position to drive. You may have a great plan to save your dying company. But if you’re not the boss, you have no authority to make any changes. You may be able to figure things out faster than your peers. But if you don’t have a formal education, few people will give you the chance to prove it. You may know these principles backwards and forwards. But if you’ve burned too many bridges in your life, you may have limited the number of opportunities you get to display this. Don’t neglect the importance of maintaining your positional order.



E.g., Sadam Hussein, Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hilter

Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pain & Pleasure (Oppressive)

Functional Authority Applies Merited Pain & Pleasure (Direct/Competent)
E.g., George Washington, Sean Connery, Thomas Je erson

E.g., George Sodini, Kurt Cobain Seung-Hui Cho (VA Shooter), Je rey Dahmer, Ted Bundy

Dysfunctional Authority Applies Unmerited Pleasure & Pain (Indirect/Passive-Aggressive)





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ending with you blowing away all your coworkers or classmates. the more dysfunctional your attitude and behavior become. you need to learn how to exercise authority over your social interactions.. Because of your disorderly condition. Without authority. Meeting your needs requires authority. incompetent social skills. Either way. If your conversations wander aimlessly without direction. poor social training and society’s dysfunctional expectations create a self-loathing cycle within you. This leads to the development of self-defense mechanisms. This will move your social interactions in the right direction.bRinging oRDeR to YoUR social inteRactions Order should be the litmus test for all your social interactions. You deceive yourself into thinking your situation is normal. Satisfying social interactions benefit everyone involved. life blows.. You deny the painful truth of your condition to avoid dealing with it. To accomplish this. This often indicates that authority is missing. And you suppress anything that would expose your feeble. And the cycle repeats itself in a downward spiral. your perspective resembles a 86 . This means you will need to train to function properly as a man. you create distortions to excuse your lack of friends. Painful social experiences reinforce your feelings of worthlessness. Your dysfunctional behavior causes others to avoid talking to you. . exPosing DisoRDeR Lack of social knowledge. all the participants are satisfied. you will be unable to give meaningful direction to your social interactions. Because they move in an orderly direction. The more social frustration you experience.Or maybe you’re just stuck with a computer full of porn and a lot of lonely weekends. which in turn causes you to become even more dysfunctional and withdrawn. they will lead to a dissatisfying social life.

Then you’ll burden yourself with impossible expectations that you don’t have the self-discipline to accomplish. sensing your disgust over her house mirror—everything appears distorted. For example. Her desire to escape all pain causes her to stubbornly avoid anything or anyone that would expose her true condition. If she has a heart attack because of her obesity. But in her disorderly condition. Imagining herself to be the exception to every rule is much easier than following the rules. you exaggerate your abilities to shore up your self-esteem. an obese woman. she will experience physical pain. In either case. Or she will attempt to justify it by comparing herself to people more disorderly than herself—”At least I’m not as fat as her!” When enough pain is applied—through medical knowledge. It requires no responsibility to ignore warnings. Without pain. Pain exposes her disorderly condition. failing health. she will remain trapped in her disorderly condition. selfcriticism becomes debilitating. Without pain. mistakes cause extreme frustration and failures feel like impossible obstacles. For example. Pain exposes your true condition. rules and laws. the message is clear: something about her is disorderly/ dysfunctional. The end result is frustration. she will continue to delude herself into thinking her weight isn’t a problem. and social rejection—she will be forced to discard all her 87 . will feel emotional pain. It’s more comfortable and convenient to eat without limits and avoid exercise. Pain dispels these delusions.

This is why self-help books never help. their upbringing reflects disorder. you change your behavior accordingly. you develop a healthy self-discipline (pain) safety net. Self-discipline will make you a good parent. The more her disorderly condition is exposed. self-discipline will cause you to eat smaller food portions and exercise more often to get you back in shape. Or it will force you to eliminate irresponsible behavior to ensure your child’s safety. But because this undisciplined. Or as a corrective measure. the more motivated she’ll be to change it. This same principle applies to your social interactions. self-discipline will force you become more diligent and put in more effort to ensure the job is done right. Another person must administer pain to expose your disorderly condition. self-discipline allows you to exercise and eat a healthy diet. your problems require a cooperative remedy. Self-discipline is the ability to restrict your own behavior. As a socially-designed being. you were never meant to thrive alone. This forces you to examine the effects of your behavior. This painful discipline lets you know your behavior is wrong. Because your true condition remains carefully guarded by your own self-esteem. In turn.excuses and delusional beliefs. Self-discipline makes you turn in your work on time. indulgent society has discouraged parents from applying pain—a valuable educational tool—to their children. Your parents should have already applied discipline (pain) to your dysfunctional behavior as a child. It means you’re able to administer pain to yourself to prevent disorder from taking over your life or to correct any problems caused by your actions. Or if you screw up. You cannot address social problems by yourself. You exhibit many of the 88 . For example. To avoid future painful effects. there is no practical way for you to deal with your social problems by yourself. as a preventative measure.

you’ve grown accustomed to avoiding the pain of selfdiscipline. Even exposing your 89 . inability to maintain relationships) As an adult. I was trying to logically plan out every possible thing to say and create a contingency plan for every situation. On a larger scale. you have no way to resist entropy’s constant pull toward disorder. Men thoughtlessly trade in their civil liberties for a false sense of security. it was obvious why I was so neurotic in my approach to socializing. the feeling of standing there frozen in front of a girl and not being able to control what might happen is far worse than the actual response. Instead of appreciating its motivational aspect. we make a blind sacrifice of common sense and reason on the altar of good intentions. By doing so. anxiety. I naively hoped to avoid the possibility of ever experiencing pain. By placing herself as artificial buffer between her children’s actions and any painful consequence. our feminist Nanny State epitomizes this shortsighted approach. Their irrational desire to remove it from every possible social outcome reveals a paralyzing fear of pain. Your self-esteem will fight being exposed. This is why “nerds” attempt to control every variable in their environment. Without understanding why or how to apply pain to your disorderly behavior. As one nerd reveals: “To me. simply reading a self-help book or attending a group seminar won’t fix the problem. making your current perspective even more stubbornly resistant to change.” This obsession with controlling every possible variable mimics the attitude of the overbearing mother who goes to absurd lengths to guard her children from ever experiencing pain. It’s difficult to expose disorder on such a large scale when so many in society have a vested interest in maintaining it.symptoms of this disorderly behavior (no direction in life. Your dysfunctional perspective is linked to your identity. she inhibits the natural maturation process stimulated by a healthy fear of pain. poor social skills. down to the most insignificant details. nerds will neurotically try to annihilate the existence of pain by developing complex contingency plans. When I realized this. employment problems. The government stunts the intellectual growth of its citizens by burdening them with feel-good laws. lack of motivation. They hope to avoid pain by anticipating its arrival. In the rush to alleviate pain.

own disorder proves a difficult task. This frustration is to be expected. exposing your disorderly condition is necessary to progress toward order. Your selfesteem hates the exposure of your disorderly condition. This is why you treat any attempts to fundamentally change your perspective as cold-hearted attacks against your being. Revealing an identity problem causes great distress. It is an extremely painful matter because. Don’t avoid it. changing your perspective asks you to sacrifice the belief that’s been comforting you for so long. a proper change in perspective will touch your identity at its core. This will cause you to feel terrible. However. Acknowledging you need to change equates to an admission of error on your part. You even take comfort in it. however. To sacrifice that identity is like pushing your only friend off a cliff. You have built your sense of worth around your identity. your self-esteem will react violently since it’s heavily invested in the deception you’ve created. To accept change. Pain is necessary to cut the umbilical cord between your dysfunctional perspective and your identity. you also have to accept that who you are is wrong. in effect. 90 . you not only have accept that you are wrong. When your condition is finally exposed.

Only those motivated by your pleasurable expression will have enough incentive to heed your painful correction.This acknowledgment enables you to address your disorderly condition without collapsing psychologically. correcting disorderly behavior must be based upon the pleasurable incentive of an orderly expression—one that adequately conveys your person. Exposing disorder is the first step toward becoming an orderly person. A bitter medicine mixed with honey is much easier for a sick patient to swallow. coupled with an orderly expression. they will have no reason or desire to behave. [Both will be covered in Section III] Do not be threatened by the fact that disorder exists. Allowing yourself to fail in the process of moving toward order is crucial. will motivate others to meet your expectations over time. addressing this disorder requires a responsible approach. 91 . However. In short. Allowing others to fail as they attempt to meet your expectations is equally important. Acknowledging your disorderly condition is crucial to your progress. you will then be in a position to address the disorderly state of others. Likewise. you’ll soon realize that disorder exists in everyone. Don’t try to force others to do what they don’t yet have the training to do. Your authority. aDDRessing DisoRDeR in otHeRs As you learn to expose disorder in yourself. if you can’t meet the needs of the misbehaving party. If you aren’t able to provide this incentive. Because you have finally given yourself permission to make mistakes—even fail—progressing toward order no longer seems like an impossible task. Care must be taken to apply pain and pleasure only when merited. all the correction in the world won’t matter. When your disorder is dealt with.

Teacher. By creating order with your authority. Even on a national level. The average graduate doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. liMitation PRevents DisoRDeR Right now. artificially preserved foods that are quick and easy to obtain). As you develop an orderly expression. Eating for comfort.Without incentive and direction. “It’s all good. machine-processed. Coherent thoughts drown in a sea of homemade syntax and pop culture idioms.e. And by conveying this order through your expression. spending without limitation). a lack of limitation produces disaster.. you give them the incentive to follow it. lack of limitation ruins 92 . obesity plagues America. the country and the rest of the world are now experiencing the worst financial crisis in history. This apathetic generation is defined by its incompetence. eating without limitation. Snickers bars.” “Whatever” and “No worries. Because of borrowing excesses (i. you will cause others to become more receptive to your authority—the tool required to address their disorderly condition. In essence. people feel helpless to change their disorderly lives. Eating convenience food (McDonald’s. The average person looks like a walrus on legs. Without limitation to keep things in good order. Lack of limitation also affects our educational system. are forced to lower their classroom standards. relying on lazy axioms like.vsuspectator. you give others the right direction to follow. chips— packaged. 1 http://www. incompetent adults. America daily produces illiterate. the breakdown of life is inevitable. forbidden1 to use disciplinary limitations. Why? Eating too much.” From professional inefficiency to family instability to relationships failures.

the 93 . if you have a big math test coming up and have no study schedule planned. The way to alleviate this stress is to remove your options. Then map out your goals in blue. Once you have a direction to follow. you focus your activity toward a pre-determined direction. your schedule should be designed to eliminate all the wasted activity going in the wrong direction. 1 hour for physics and 1 hour for English. When you lack direction. Steve Jobs creates a blueprint with his time to maximize the efficiency of Apple. You have too many options. map out your optional time in yellow. you feel chaotic inside because you have no idea what to expect. Competence is a treasure that can only be discovered when all the wrong directions are eliminated and the one right direction is made clear. you’ll feel overwhelmed with anxiety and despair. When creating your schedule. Competent people rely on self-imposed limitations called schedules. The more specific your schedule is. Having more than one option indicates a lack of direction. For example. Successful Olympic athletes create workout schedules to focus on winning a gold medal. The point of creating a schedule is to specify and limit your time. or not at all. you gain a feeling of security. Finally. or the day before the test. Limiting yourself down to one option creates a direction.scHeDUle YoUR tiMe Poor time management causes great stress for people. By creating a map out of your time. you can study all night. These are things you are working on becoming good at or achievements you’re trying to reach. Not knowing what to do paralyzes you with terror. or an hour each week. Limitation removes options. map out your obligations in red. This includes leisure activities and rest time that can be sacrificed if necessary. Even the top students in school know exactly what they should be doing at any given moment because their day is planned out before they even wake up. Nothing else. Mapping out 3 hours for “homework” is not as good as mapping out 1 hour for algebra. Just like a treasure map. Be as specific as possible. These are activities that must be done—no exceptions. This means you haven’t learned how to apply limits (self-discipline) to yourself. It should point only in one direction—toward the goal. Schedules lead to competence just like maps lead to treasure.

Even your bedtime should be scheduled. Your schedule shouldn’t have any gaps. Everybody already has the useless “I need to do stuff today” schedule in their head. If your schedule is too general. not break you. Change it until you can follow it.more efficient your work becomes. it defeats the point of even creating one. If you can’t follow it. Your schedule is meant to push you. At the very least. 94 . Stick to your schedule. make sure you map out your entire week. Be sure to include every hour of the day. something’s wrong.

GET RID OF IT. Your goal should have a specific time limit and a specific 95 . Goals are different from hopes and aspirations.This schedule above isn’t quite there yet. Limitation makes life grow! The more your limit your options. They are meant to be practical and applicable to real life. it’s not a goal—it’s a distraction. the closer you come to creating a functional direction for yourself that will get you to your destination/ achievement/goal/maturity/ satisfaction. Make sure you purposefully limit your schedule by creating goals. It still has too many options. If you can’t reach your goal.

Stop daydreaming. 96 . a good short term goal for earning a bachelor’s degree would involve studying 3 hours after school each day. Short term goals are necessary to accomplish your long term goals. you can set aside 30 mins. the easier it will become to achieve them. just make them more specific. Give them better direction. To improve your short term goals.strategy for attaining it. The clearer you are with your goals. Or to build a model airplane. you’re starring in a Disney movie—wake up. You’re going to need to create two types of goals to end your cycle of confusion. They can be anything from earning a bachelor’s degree to building a model airplane. despair and apathy: Long term goals typically take more than a week to achieve. each day until completed. In the above example. If either of these are missing.

Likewise. When a form is created. In this way. it must tell time. According to the watch’s design. The watch’s design is its boundary. the watch must do (function).’ 97 . The fence dictates where the cattle can go. The watch must behave according to its boundary. For example.liMitation cReates PRoPeR FoRM Form defines the boundaries of an applied principle. its function is determined by that boundary. The watch is limited in what it can do by the boundary of its own design walls. just as cattle behind the boundary of a fence must stay within a specific confined space dictated by that fence. the design boundary of the watch dictates where it moves. What the design (boundary) demands. when an engineer places gears together in a specific way. he creates a design we all recognize as a watch. the watch’s function is inherently tied to its ‘form. That is the watch’s function.

the more efficient the resulting design becomes. life does not mature.The more confining the boundary. Good farmers know that it’s necessary to prune their crops to produce the best fruit. Without limitation. 98 . worthless fruit. Without self-discipline to limit your behavior. you will not mature. Take fruit-bearing trees for example. Unpruned trees produce large crops of small.

The better the form. 99 . This means. And the single correct form—the most specifically limiting boundary possible—always leads to the only functional result possible. Limitation is essential to proper growth. But he fails to truly master any of them because he the lacks the necessary self-discipline to become thorough. “Jack of all trades. He may know many things superficially.” refers to a man who lacks limitation. the more specific the limitation. the more efficient the result. the less dysfunctional the outcome.The old saying. but master of none.

it will only produce a functional result. For example. You can even use it as a weapon. A functional result is the intended result.Whether shaping words in a poem to touch an emotion. You can use it as a hammer. But it was only designed with one function in mind—to drink liquid from. form determines outcome. Once the cup is 100 . you can use a cup in many ways. Once a thing achieves its highest form. molding a clay pot to hold water or perfecting a jump shot to score a basket. You can use it as a door stop.

being fixated on the goal and ignoring the maintenance of proper form leads to disaster. you actually inhibit yourself from reaching that goal. instead of making the outcome fit the form. It is at the pinnacle of its function. correct form leads to the right outcome. 101 . But too often. By trying to make the form fit the outcome. people make the mistake of focusing on the outcome instead of perfecting the form.used solely for drinking. it achieves its intended purpose. In short. Even though we need goals to keep us focused.

It allows you to do things in more than one way. it will catch up with you. you’ll celebrate scoring any points. Poor form is very inconsistent. Focusing only on scoring points may help you win a few games. Essentially. But if you focus on the goal of scoring instead of perfecting your shooting form. But over the long run. you’re being rewarded for becoming incompetent. You are taking pleasure in an outcome produced by a dysfunctional form. if your goal is to score enough points to win a basketball game.For example. This means you need to start practicing shooting a basketball over and over in a specific way to become as efficient as possible at scoring. you’ll start to notice dysfunction creeping in to ruin your competence. Poor form makes it very difficult to achieve the 102 . Poor form lacks boundaries and limitations. even if comes from poor shooting form because it meets your goal requirement—winning the game. At first. you need to develop a proper shooting form. But you don’t realize the subtle damage being done.

Anything that is limited becomes part of a stable arrangement. it aligns with the principle of direction. It directs your behavior. This produces order. Good form. The form you develop will determine where you end up. 103 . Because of its inherent limitation. Good form only has one option. This is because limitation is the precursor to order. Whereas shooting a DIRECTION limitation o opti o p t n s io n s opt ion s o p ti ons optio ns n opti ons opt s ion s o opti ons ns io p p ti optio o t op o n t s basketball a thousand different ways will make it much harder to score points. limiting your shooting form down to one option will make it much easier. on the other hand. Proper form can only be developed though repetition. it consistently gets you to the same destination every single time. not the outcome. Whenever anything is limited down to its most functional state. Focus on repeating the form. avoids inconsistency because it provides the ultimate limitation—direction. You can now produce an orderly outcome. io ns Form determines outcome. the result becomes stable.same result twice. Once your shooting form is limited to a specific motion. It forces you to go one way.

If your outcome is inconsistent/wrong/bad. Form always precedes outcome. To obtain a consistent outcome. orderly. Your desire to achieve the outcome will often undermine the development of proper form. proper form always produces the correct. it’s necessary to first perfect your form.At times. satisfying outcome. this indicates a problem with your form. When you remove the distraction of the outcome and instead focus on perfecting the form. the outcome can become a distraction. 104 . you’ll discover the real secret to successfully achieving the desired result. A well developed form produces consistency—backbone of competence.

He won’t tell you that before the carnival started that day. He always makes it look deceptively simple. Eventually he could do it in his sleep. That’s training. Those observing well-trained individuals applying their skill are often deceived by this simplicity and become eager to imitate it. you will lose your money trying. Every practice toss got him closer and closer to that one simple. efficient. consistency looks simple. It does not happen overnight. But the novice’s resulting frustration reveals the truth about training: it’s not an accident. And he’s been doing it for years. And that’s what he’s hoping for. In fact. Why. he practiced for ten hours to get it right. Is it really that easy? No.tRaining PRoDUces consistencY When you observe a trained artist painting a picture. functional motion. functional form with no excess. Time and effort must be sacrificed to achieve consistent order. He has honed and refined his brush strokes down to a consistent. What you see is a simple brush stroke repeated a thousand times over. 105 . Think of any carnival game where an employee demonstrates how “easy” it is to toss a ring onto a bottle or knock over some metal pins with a single pitch. He can do it almost every time. From an outsider’s perspective. Years of study and practice result in simplified. There are no shortcuts. That’s not luck. you notice something in his behavior that amateur artists lack—consistency. This consistent. efficient motion. repeatable behavior distinguishes long-term training from short-term trying.

Society is a reflection of the parenting we received. restrictions and rules must be created to safeguard people from disorder. Neglecting to restrict the behavior of people leads to anarchy. This creates a dangerous situation for everyone living around you. limitations. You should be free to do and say whatever you want. your view of freedom means having no restrictions. your parents should have applied loving discipline to your disorderly behavior. The number of outward limitations reflects our ability to inwardly limit ourselves. But removing restrictions and limitations affects everyone around you. society today is cluttered with countless laws 106 . if you were able to fire a gun from your house without restriction or limitation. oUtWaRD liMitation As a child. For example. This is why our society designs laws to restrict harmful behavior. The outward limitation of your parents is meant to teach you how to apply inward limitations to your own person. Because of feminism. you might kill another person standing outside.FReeDoM anD liMitation Currently. Since humans have a need for order. chaos and disorder. inWaRD liMitation vs. Discipline produces maturity—the ability to govern your own behavior through self-discipline.

designed to regulate our behavior from the outside. There is no thought of inward regulation because feminism removes personal accountability. When no one feels responsible, limitations must be created to prevent irresponsible behavior.

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For example, there are laws today preventing you from bringing your dog to the beach. Because people are too irresponsible to clean up after their dogs, outward limitations have been applied to prevent this irresponsible behavior from occurring. Instead of forcing people to become accountable for their actions, feminism creates more laws to simply eliminate the possibility of those actions even occurring. The only problem is, if people are never taught to inwardly account for their behavior, they will forever engage in irresponsible activity. Just because the State has created a law to prevent one type of irresponsible action doesn’t mean that people won’t simply express their irresponsible condition in new areas. Irresponsible behavior can never be eradicated by sweeping it under the rug and ignoring it. Laws designed to eliminate the consequences of irresponsible behavior only redirect the problem to different areas. But they never solve it.
















Without self-discipline, people are forced to rely on the State to police their behavior. The State becomes an overbearing parent applying restriction after restriction as its citizens become increasingly infantilized by feminism. Whenever people fail to inwardly regulate their behavior, the result is always an increase in outward regulations. The less self-control we have, the more State laws we require.

People desire good direction in life. Yet our culture is constantly scolding us for wanting to conform to anything. We’re told it’s better to ‘break the rules’ and ‘think outside the box.’ Individual options and preferences are praised while limitation is ridiculed as boring and mindless. Many people even demonize limitation as harmful to society. But regardless of what our current dysfunctional culture preaches, people need to know which way to go, what to say and how to behave. While imaginary TV characters flaunt their individuality and independence from society, real life people crave the ultimate restriction— direction. True direction leaves no room for an option. Functional direction doesn’t say go north or south. Instead a good direction points only to your destination and gets you there in the most efficient way possible.


There is only one way to go when you have a competent, orderly direction. True direction eliminates all optional desires and points only to one necessity. A functional direction tells you exactly what to do and lets you know exactly what is required. When you discover the right direction—the functional direction—you become free. As counterintuitive as it seems, having direction is liberating. Consider a social activity like baseball. When all the participants of a baseball game understand the rules—the limitations and restrictions— of play, they all share a mutual direction. They know what to expect from themselves and others. This facilitates an enjoyable game. Although their behavior is structured and limited by rules, they nonetheless experience freedom while playing. Conversely, if there are no agreed upon rules of play, nobody will know what to do during the game. Everyone’s experience will suffer. People will be full of anxiety, not knowing what to expect. They will worry that the other players might injure them. They will feel stupid not knowing which direction to run. Unlimited behavior options will create a miserable, unsatisfying situation for everyone involved.

It seems counterintuitive to think that removing options by adding limitations will create more freedom. But people only feel truly free when order is achieved. Direction not only creates freedom in sports, it also frees up your social interactions. When you know how to interact socially, you become eager to participate because you experience social freedom. Speaking and conveying yourself to others becomes a liberating activity. Conversely, when direction is lacking, you become paralyzed. For example, when you see 20 different brands of cereal in a supermarket or 20 different shirts on display in a clothing store, you can’t decide what to buy. You become anxious that you’re missing out on something if you make the wrong choice.

Too many options stalls movement. Too many choices undermines production. Too many alternatives inhibits proper functioning, especially during a social interaction. Even women suffer from this lack of limitation. Females have been damaged by the permissive philosophy of feminism. Society actively encourages women to usurp male authority. This is similar to how pop psychology advocates the removal of parental authority, placing it in the hands of unqualified children. For example, today’s parents face a nightmare of legal worries when attempting to discipline their children. Instead of addressing disobedience with a spanking to reassert their authority, parents now cower under the constant threat of legal reprisals. Applying merited pain to disorderly behavior is forbidden by so-called child experts. But this contempt for limitation leads to great disorder. Children eat unhealthy foods, engage in dangerous activities and resist protective restrictions whenever parental authority is absent. Without proper authority to restrict and limit their behavior, children will suffer poor health, injury or death. Limitation makes life grow properly. This principle can be seen throughout nature. The best wine is not produced by wild grapes, but by those that have been carefully pruned and tied. Restrictive training produces the most useful animals. Regimented workout programs

Those who apply limitations and restrictions to themselves. Without it. you are free. If you are an employee of Apple. as long as you are employed by Apple. If you want your social interactions to meet 111 . You will not be allowed to have access to privileged information only available to Apple employees. people. For example. events and circumstances into a state of order. he can do nothing.and confining diets produce the world’s best athletes. you are under his authority. Even if you’ve never met the man. but it also means you will not benefit from his care. Authority brings poorly arranged things. Steve still has authority over you. you are outside of his jurisdiction. don’t. Steve Jobs is the CEO of Apple. This gives him the right to make all decisions involving the Apple corporation. You will not receive an Apple paycheck. they still have an instinctual. You will not receive job related medical benefits. Steve can no longer direct your life or make you do anything you don’t want to do. however. Authority brings order. Only when you place yourself under Steve’s authority by joining the Apple corporation are you able to benefit from that authority. You have the right to control and determine a course of action or a final outcome. positive response to it. Being outside of Steve’s authority will give you more freedom to do as you please. In short. excel. he needs authority over you. Regulated educational training and strict discipline produce the most successful businessmen. aUtHoRit Y—tHe PRoPeR Male FoRM PURPose oF aUtHoRitY While women and children often lack the capacity to grasp the inner workings of authority. Hence. If. Having authority means you have jurisdiction over someone or something. In order to control your behavior. but without provision. you do not work for Apple. people are attracted to those who have the ability to create order. Those who indulge unregulated whims and excesses. Even the President undergoes the strictest public scrutiny and subjects himself to the most limiting standards of personal conduct.

your need for order, you must exercise your authority over them. In a family relationship, men need authority over women and children to meet everyone’s need for order. Authority is necessary to organize responsibilities, to correct bad behavior, to manage resources, to provide security and to enforce limits and boundaries. Consider the punk rocker lifestyle. It is the antithesis of order. In fact, its philosophy encourages the dismantling of social order. Only dysfunctional people are drawn to such a chaotic, aimless life. Their houses, cars, personal appearance and relationships display a disorderly, limitless view of life. If you were to stop taking care of your house and your appearance, both would spontaneously start resembling this lifestyle. It’s not so much a lifestyle choice as it is an act of personal neglect. Apathy and dissatisfaction fuel such disorderly living. If you fail to direct a relationship with your authority, disorder will creep in, cooperation will deteriorate, reciprocation will cease and attraction will wane. Eventually the relationship will end. Similarly, if you fail to exercise authority over your life, your health will deteriorate, your grades will drop, your income will suffer and dissatisfaction will grow. Whenever things move toward disorder, they inevitably die.

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Masculinity is properly expressed in the form of authority. Yet today’s immature society associates authority with negative stereotypes of masculinity. Men exercising their authority are branded as “controlling” and “abusive,” suffering from a superiority complex. In an article titled, “Abusive men: The Top 10 Signs


of an Abusive Man,”2 Stephany Alexander accuses men who are “always right” or “always in charge” of being abusive partners. This vilification of authority within female-oriented publications and mainstream media undermines the proper functioning of relationships. Reenforcing negative stereotypes of authority causes women to resent those who exercise it; women want male resources and care, yet they resent those providing it. Women want security, yet they resent giving up their independence. Women want all of the control in a relationship, yet they resent all responsibility that comes with it. In essence, feminism encourages women to hate their own necessities. However, this short-sighted approach destabilizes the very thing women hope to secure—healthy relationships. The current epidemic divorce rates testify to this fact. Women fail to realize that both authority and submission come with a price. Either women must give up their autonomy or learn to bear the burden of responsibility inherent to leadership. Either women must obey the men governing their relationships or start creating their own civilization by the sweat of their own brows3. Benefitting from the sacrifice of men while offering nothing in return, creates a disorderly social environment. Because feminism teaches women to remain independent within their relationships, authority is always being fought over. Women are encouraged to make their own decisions without the help of a man. Females attempting to usurp male authority, not only nullify the male function, they also endanger the foundation of orderly social interactions. Because authority is never established, accountability is never assigned. Men are simultaneously scolded for being too “controlling” and failing to take charge. Such dysfunctional social expectations inevitably result in relationship conflicts. Lack of male authority is the major source of chaos damaging
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relationships today. And its long list of debilitating symptoms— skyrocketing divorce rates, rebellious children, overcrowded prisons, loss of civil rights and historic levels of prescription medication— continues to grow. Removing authority compromises the stability of any relationship and makes society unsafe. Authority gives men the means to erect civilizations and establish the rule of law. Authority allows men to care for women and children. Yet feminism’s demonization of the male gender role undermines this authority and inhibits men from meeting the obligations dictated by their authority position. Authority is urgently needed to accomplish what your male function demands— establishing and maintaining order in social interactions, and by extension, in society. You must learn to reestablish your authority.

aUtHoRitY MaintaineD bY Pain & PleasURe
Energy is required to maintain order. Without the introduction of an energizing agent, things spontaneously move toward a state of disorder. Likewise, without the requisite amount of pain and pleasure—the ordering agents of authority—people naturally move toward disorder. Even your physical body needs an ordering agent to keep it from returning to a state of chaos or death. It requires a great amount of food energy just to maintain a healthy body. Most of the energy in the food you eat

doesn’t go toward growth. It’s used to maintain your body’s orderly state of good health. And along with that pleasurable food energy, your body requires some form of painful exercise to direct it toward an orderly operation. The strain of running, lifting weights, moving furniture, cutting firewood, building a house or mowing the lawn all work to discipline your body to respond in an efficient manner. Pain directs your body away from disorder. Pain disciplines your body to maintain its healthy, orderly condition. As a result, you life becomes more enjoyable.

But without exercise, your body will soon become disorderly. It will grow fat, become sick, invite disease and breakdown. Eventually it will cease to function. Death is the ultimate sign of this disorder. Your physical environment also requires energy to maintain it. On the positive side, you need to create a good environment for yourself. On the negative side, you need to maintain it by removing dysfunctional elements causing disorder.

For example, you can buy a bike to help you meet your transportation needs. But you must maintain your bikes orderly condition. It requires

This is necessary to create order. the engine will die. Those in charge must be able to meet the need for order. your actions should safeguard their welfare. actions and resources must all be used to care for those under your authority. if you stop cleaning your house. Everything and everyone needs to have the energizing elements of pain and pleasure applied to them to thrive. People require the establishment and maintenance of order to lead satisfying lives. the government is responsible for making its citizens happy. it will eventually fall apart. like everything else. doctor. baseball coach. scrub off the grease.). mentor. Likewise. you must be able to lead them toward a pleasurable result. dust will gather. People must see a benefit to being governed by you. parent. policeman. PleasURe establisHes aUtHoRitY Pleasure is required to establish your authority. Just as a parent controls the behavior of a 116 . It has the requisite authority to control our behavior. Everyone requires pleasurable provision and painful limitation. Maintaining its orderly condition requires your painful effort. Everything follows this same principle. it will cause you health problems. you will always be in demand. it’s dysfunctional and will lead to disorder. wash the frame. Thus. clothing. This means your words should make others happy. personal trainer. etc. infusion of energy to prevent it from rusting and breaking down. This requires a pleasurable provision on your part. If you stop taking care of your body. you must keep it clean to ensure the gears work properly. If you are going to direct the behavior of another person. tech support. You have to oil the chain. plumber. If you stop taking care of your bike. fireman. In short. and your money should provide for their physical needs (food. If you can perform a service that brings order to others (business consultant. This is why people are naturally drawn and attracted to ordering agents. shelter). This requires the painful exertion of your muscles. teacher. For example. If you stop taking care of your car. if your authority isn’t pleasurable to those being governed by it. mechanic. Your words.

If government authority creates enough disorder. Our financial crisis and government corruption are also symptoms of dysfunctional authority. if you neglect to create 117 . Instead of creating order by limiting harmful behavior. they will remove you from their social circles. are unjust restrictions designed to benefit only one class of people. For example. speed limits are functional laws designed to safeguard the lives of all citizens on the road. everyone suffers. As a result of the government’s failure to meet the need for orderly social interaction. When the government is unfit to provide security for its citizens or enforce laws in a just manner. the government controls the behavior of its citizens with laws designed to safeguard everyone’s welfare. Likewise. if you neglect to stimulate their thoughts. But many times. If you neglect to cheer others up. if you neglect to show them your approval. Hate crime laws. if you neglect to touch their emotions.child with rules. on the other hand. government authority is used to suppress healthy expression. its citizens will attempt to remove authority from those who are making them unhappy. if you fail to provide a pleasurable incentive to people in your social interactions. the citizens become unhappy. They are often employed to threaten or censor dissenting opinions. the government abuses that authority by creating dysfunctional limitations. Such laws violate the principle of limitation. if you neglect to provide them with helpful knowledge.

You become willing to be ruled by his authority and obey his direction. This doesn’t mean you suddenly cut off the pleasure. When someone gives you pleasure. You should give others pleasure to motivate them to move toward order. Pleasurable feelings and a valid direction motivate orderly behavior. if your dad hugs. Thus. you need to apply pain to quell dysfunctional behavior. Unless he is threatening you with bodily harm. They will reject it. if those under your authority stop moving toward order. you have no motivation to do anything for him. Your love for your dad becomes the basis. your authority becomes useless to them.order in their lives. they will become disorderly. the motivation behind your behavior. But if you do not love your dad. For example. This causes you to love him. Pain Maintains aUtHoRitY Once your authority is established. 118 . Thus. you want to make him happy. However. they require pleasure. pain is required to maintain it. Men who neglect to provide a pleasurable arrangement in their social interactions also fail to incite love in others. he has created a pleasurable experience for you. Pain causes those under your authority to fear your authority. you have no reason to meet his expectations. In order to motivate others to meet your expectations. especially women. It just means that the pleasure you provide must be conditional—it must be merited. you are motivated to meet their needs. clothes and feeds you.

Fear is different than terror. A painful result is guaranteed if they fall. Thus. it motivates you to behave in an orderly way to avoid harm. you’ll be more likely to avoid reckless behavior when standing near a steep ledge. Yet this knowledge doesn’t paralyze people with terror. Unlike fear which moves its recipients toward order. Eventually. Fear is generated by merited pain.FeaR Healthy fear is necessary to maintain order. All day long people work inside skyscrapers without feeling terrified or paralyzed. Most people fear standing near the ledge of a tall building because they realize that falling off will result in death. It creates fear in you. terror leads to disorder. Fear limits what you’re allowed to do. Likewise. Unmerited pain causes feelings of confusion and helplessness. Terror. Consider gravity. terror depends on not knowing what to expect. Thus. on the other hand. This results in extreme anxiety and mental stress. Whereas healthy fear depends on stability. Terror fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses. Why? 119 . you cease all careless behavior that could injure your body. it paralyzes you as there is nothing you can do to avoid being harmed. For example. there is a merited pain consequence in store for them. if you fear the pain of falling off a cliff. both perspective and behavior become dangerous. fire is painful to touch. If they violate the law of gravity. If you fear touching a hot stove. is based on the application of unmerited pain.

Any society lacking healthy fear will also be void its by-product—peace. society experiences disorder. Orderly behavior will not spontaneously arise without fear’s motivating guidance to ensure its arrangement. the learning environment prospers. Because gravity is a law. there is no means to create order. every single time. drivers should fear the state’s authority. the police have the authority to arrest that person. And more importantly.Because gravity is consistent. students do not fear their teachers. disorder has no limitation or restriction. Its law is stable. Without fearful obedience. it applies everywhere the same way. Even though you fear the consequences of violating gravity. If someone breaks the speed limit. Gravity will not try to trick you or surprise you. When children fear their father’s authority. people can take specific measure to avoid its harmful consequences. People feel the freedom to indulge their whims whenever governing boundaries are removed. Its nature is dependable. Thus. You fear violating the law of gravity. your relationship with it remains stable. you know that you can avoid any painful consequences by simply behaving in an orderly way around cliffs. there is no respect. Without pain. There is an absence of healthy fear. Fear of merited pain removes the threat of disorder. when people don’t fear breaking the law. Without fear. People even come to depend on the law of gravity because it will not change. there is no reason to fear or obey authority. and without respect. For example. Teachers have a hard time training their students because the students do not respect the teacher’s word. Without fear of authority. This is why police officers need to carry a gun to enforce their expectations. high ledges and tall office buildings. the learning process is inhibited. Conversely. Its consistent nature creates stability. The fear of pain causes drivers to stop their disorderly behavior. the family experiences peace. When students fear their teacher’s authority. society experiences order. But what can the police do to make drivers obey them? Just expecting drivers to stop isn’t enough. Fear is necessary to prevent disorderly behavior. Just as students need to fear their teachers. When people fear breaking the laws of their government. in classrooms today. 120 . but you are not terrified by the thought of it.

they will simultaneously become attracted to you. Since authority is the very cement meant to hold relationships together.S. many authority problems stem from neglecting to supply incentives from one side. she is not in a position to receive your care. you represent the highest ordering agent. The more their authority is compromised. they will fear you. you first need to subdue their will. Your capacity to exercise authority is inherently attractive and fearful to all people. By neglecting to address violations of your authority with pain. affection and provisions. The end result is love. the weaker the relationship becomes until love is entirely depleted. aUtHoRitY ReqUiRes sUbMission To bring a person under your authority. Whenever you experience disorder in a relationship. Because your will has been subdued. You can receive welfare benefits and 121 . When people genuinely acknowledge your authority. Today. In fact. you need to realize authority is missing—fear is gone. You are protected by the police. Many men today prefer to replace fear with compromise. you seek to obey the laws of the land. Yet because this fear provides an orderly arrangement. not realizing that compromise leads to resentment. if you continue to validate her with your attention. If a woman refuses to submit to your authority. Fear is required to meet the universal need for order. by obeying the laws.As a man. citizenship. the United States government has conquered you with both positive and negative incentives. Neither pain nor pleasure can be missing. You must have both. You have rights granted to you by the Constitution. neglecting to establish it proves fatal. In fact. your efforts will backfire. In layman’s terms: if women cease to fear you. you undermine any order previously created. you gain the benefits of U. This means they must be conquered by both positive and negative incentives. they will also cease to love you. On the positive side.

When you protect them. [Gaining submission in social interactions will be covered in section III] Your authority places you in the position of a sheriff. The government can even go so far as to execute you if you disobey certain laws. They can arrest you. When you create order with your authority. They need to obey your laws (expectations) because they are now under your jurisdiction. The responsibility for their welfare now rests on your shoulders. etc. When you kiss them. they get educated. receiving the benefits of your care. When you share your knowledge. They can imprison you. You can lose your rights. These negative incentives serve to ensure your submission to the governing authority over you. When you feed them. You can lose your property. they get discipline.other government assistance if necessary. they get nourishment. On the negative side. Once a person agrees to submit to your 122 . When you spend money to buy things. they get shelter. etc. they benefit from it. It is now your job to keep them safe and happy. When you pay rent. You get to live in a clean environment. In return. the police will charge you with a crime. Those who benefit from the order you create need to be brought into submission to your authority. they become the recipients. When you correct them. they get security. they get affection. Once a person submits to your authority in a relationship. if you disobey the laws. you should require their full submission. You can be fined. Your authority allows them to benefit from all that you have to offer. you are in charge. These positive incentives encourage you to submit to the governing authority of the United States.

their submission must be maintained by the application of merited pain and pleasure. While Webster’s dictionary defines submission as: “yielding oneself to the authority or will of another. We don’t characterize military relationships as slavery. Yet. this means you need to discipline bad and reward good behavior. erroneously believe that submission results in a complete loss of identity. While the term “authority” still remains acceptable in modern vernacular. personality and choice. feminists deem cooking and cleaning evil relics of a contemptible patriarchal system. Submission is made synonymous with slavery. Feminists have demonized the concept of submission by associating it with a condemned patriarchal system. rational examination and serve to shut down discussion.” has lost its proper context. We don’t characterize employer-employee relationships as slavery.authority. female submission to male authority is depicted as the pinnacle of misogyny. Intellectually dishonest characterizations of submission and authority undermine objective. cruel misogynists.” many people. we can easily expose the incompetent nature of these criticisms 123 . Yet for all of these relationships to function properly. Yet we don’t characterize our relationship with our father as one of slavery. Practically speaking. and in its most vilified context. “submission. authority over another person is required. Feminism misleads society into believing that submitting to the will of another automatically results in abuse. They mock housewives as inferior women while painting their husbands as unsophisticated. its necessary polarity. especially women. We don’t characterize student-teacher relationships as slavery.

A painful consequences brings society back into a state of order. Everyone’s ability to purchase lifesustaining resources is put in jeopardy. designed to safeguard everyone’s interests. Submission is the proper attitude/behavior/condition necessary for authority to function properly. Anything less than submission will result in disorder. you are essentially breaking the legal agreements governing public roads. Nations create agreements (laws) with its citizens. 124 . In doing so. Violators must be punished to remove the disorderly condition created by their actions. If you steal from a bank. If these legal agreements are broken. you endanger the lives of those whom the State is legally obligated to protect. fine. In return. those receiving care are obligated to submit to the governing authority providing it. even to the point of sacrificing their own referencing an authority-submission relationship common to everyone’s experience: From small tribes in Africa to large metropolitan cities across the United States. the State must use its authority to execute a punishment (e. Authority is required to enforce your expectations. people voluntarily submit to some type of governing authority that meets their needs. Whenever people enter into a reciprocal relationship. jail) against those who breach its legal agreements. each side must sacrifice its freedom. those who wield authority must bear the responsibility for everyone’s happiness. when you exceed the speed limit. Your expectations are designed to care for those submitting to your authority. To fulfill its responsibility to its citizens.. These laws must then be enforced to protect those interests and thus maintain an orderly society. For example. all lives are put in jeopardy. you break the laws designed to protect the economic interests of its investors.g.

Thus. submitting to male authority does not result in oppressive relationships. both sides will remain unsatisfied. A wife submitting to her husband’s governing authority doesn’t lose her identity or ability to choose. killed. human life becomes expendable. Without reciprocation and mutual dependence to guide your actions. Freedom is meaningless if you must constantly worry about being shot. They fail to realize that their delusional utopia of absolute freedom will only lead to a complete disregard for human life. yell fire in a crowded theater. It places her in a proper position to receive her husband’s care and protection. her submission actually safeguards her freedom. romance. raped or exploited by an unrestricted society predicated on selfindulgent freedom. 125 . financial support.Just as obeying the laws of the State does not suppress your identity or turn you into a slave. those who demonize authority and submission are really expressing their childish desire for immediate gratification. In exchange for her freedom. The only “freedom” she loses is the dysfunctional ability to act without restriction. Both authority and submission are essential to meeting everyone’s need for order. steal from others or engage in any other unrestricted behaviors once they become lawful citizens of a nation. On the contrary. peace of mind and a satisfying relationship. If either component is missing. This is no different than immigrants losing the ‘freedom’ to exceed the speed limit. a well-directed life will answer her need for order. a strong pair of arms for moving furniture and changing tires. she gains the right to physical protection. Self-interest always undermines the incentive to care for everyone’s mutual welfare. stabbed. Whereas absolute freedom led her to a Wild West lifestyle of confusion and misery.

html 5 http://www. He could be stern and take charge when he needed to. which was starting to feel like catnip in this new.. Today.. As much as feminists love to claim that gender is a mere social construct. He could be fearless and decisive. Romance will naturally entropy (fights. As The Frisky’s most staunch feminist. The high rate of divorce is indicative of society’s contempt for authority and submission.Absolute. weird was [his authority]. I always felt ‘safe’ with him because of the way he took charge. But outside of bed. [He] dominated me in bed all the time. He was protective. He could be a Even feminists themselves are hard-pressed to ignore their own natural gender design. reveals: “[Women] want to be dominated: Even big-mouthed ballsy women like me enjoy being dominated! Yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of being rape-y.” Yes.. unrestricted freedom is very dangerous to any society.. Without a functional authoritysubmission relationship. just as absolute. their own experience betrays their fraudulent philosophy. she’ll be creaming her panties in no time!”5 Wakeman initially admits her own ignorance of gender function: “I look back now and see that [the men I dated] realized I loved [submitting] long before I did. Because of feminism’s emphasis on self-esteem4.”6 But through actual experience she later gains a valuable realization: “. there are more single people than married people. break-ups and divorce) when it’s ordering agents (authority & submission) are 6 126 . for the first time in history.. Jessica Wakeman. women are encouraged to “break the law” of reciprocation by refusing to submit to male authority. unrestricted freedom is dangerous to any relationship. of course. He had [an authoritative] personality. But with tons of trust and communication. even hardcore feminists—who routinely condemn authoritative 4 http://www. there is no way to protect the interests of either gender or preserve a peaceful order.

the significance of female submission is even backed by scientific studies such as the one conducted in 1973 by researcher and therapist E. anyway — and [submitting to his authority] got me unbelievably.” “. but it is true. the idea of [submitting to a man] aroused me more than I had ever felt before.. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship — or playing at 127 . [.. lots of women really like it. (1973). We do not want to decide where to as “controlling” and “abusive”—admit that submitting to a man feels right. The sexual fantasies of women. Barbara Hariton. further confirms this innate desire by giving dating tips to men that emphasize the importance of male authority in relationships: “Take Charge. 6. Susannah Breslin. 7 8 Hariton. it even feels pleasurable: “I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with [submitting to a man] and.] I was horny constantly. And I mean 39-44 http://www..] [he] was not abusive. nor was I unhappy. And as Wakeman confesses. E.7 Such scientific observations and many others like it reveal the functional desire expressed by women8 to submit to male authority. Never before in my life have I experienced such weeks-long periods of horniness! [. I was not being hurt. unbelievably turned on. B. During interviews with women. We will never tell you this. Hariton discovered that the most common fantasy involved being “forcefully taken” by a man. I promise you. Author. Psychology Today..” In fact.

even though I liked the feeling of [submitting to a man].. thinking [this] wasn’t something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy. which uniquely capitalizes on the social incompetence of men. Considering that [women are ashamed to report such] fantasies... a doer. I fretted. [Remember when we said we were ‘strong and independent’ and didn’t need a man to take care of us?] We lied.psychologytoday. self-assured. Matthew Hutson.. they have little incentive to patronize sex workers. could a partner take me seriously as a thinker.thefrisky. Act confident. sheds further light on the subject by revealing a telling fact: dominatrices can make a good living while female submissives are rarely in demand. Just how.“. we’re not even sure what we want half the time. interested. I felt conflicted about giving up my physical power.thefrisky. We like that.”10 Even the scientific community confirms this fundamental truth about female design as Psychology Today’s News http://www.... but you knew that already. “.”11 And the porn industry. and these fantasies are frequent or preferred in 9% to 17% of women. 11 http://www. ambitious. points out: “A recent analysis of 20 studies over the last 30 years indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have [domination] fantasies. feminism still conditions women to believe that competing for male authority leads to greater happiness. Why? Because in a market based upon the inability to attract women. Feminism. shmeminism. dominant. male authority is largely absent from its customer base. We are interested in how you portray yourself. Yet even with vast amounts of evidence to the contrary. these stats are most likely lowball 128 . engaged.” 9 She also provides the reason why women require male authority: “Frankly. as women. and a creator when I wanted to be submissive 9 10 http://www. authoritative men can already attract women. and happy.. This is evident in Wakeman’s own struggle with functional gender roles: “.

Feminism’s dysfunctional relationship model competes with a female’s natural submissive design. feminism simultaneously deprives women of healthy male leadership. neither gender is satisfied. Because they see no distinction between male and female 129 . being shackled to feminism’s fraudulent ideology mocks the very purpose of freedom. Society must recognize the value of teaching females to submit to male authority. The mere “fantasy” of submitting to an authoritative man can never replace the reality of an emasculating culture that fails to meet the needs of women. Whenever necessity competes with good intentions. and without women submitting to that authority.thefrisky. causing endless frustration. without men exercising authority over women. WHY aUtHoRitY belongs to Men Today. When boundaries are responsibly placed to curb disorder. feminism has deceived women into believing their authority is autonomous. Many women even believe that 12 http://www. Only then can men and women truly benefit from the healthy exercise of authority and submission within a relationship. Record numbers of women now take prescription medications to numb their chronic dissatisfaction. When relationships lack a stable leader. relationships eventually break down. By robbing men of their authority. the ability to do anything becomes contemptible if it fails to meet your needs. women assume that their authority exists independently of men’s authority. Freedom that sacrifices necessity is meaningless. they also experience much more misery. and it must teach males how to exercise their authority to meet everyone’s needs. him? What if people think I’m weird or screwed up?”12 While it’s true that women today experience much more social freedom to speak and do as they please. everyone enjoys the liberating peace of orderly relationships. the end result is always suffering.

Although most men find lifting heavy objects to build homes or working long hours in military training to be elementary duties.g. and they lack the male capacity to reason. But women fail to realize that their ability to regulate anything is attributable solely to men—apart from male permission.. women are also limited in their capacity by their inherent design. men have been protecting and providing for women since the start of human history.their authority supersedes men’s authority. Just as men have certain inherent gender limitations (e. And calculating complex math problems or understanding basic philosophical viewpoints proves daunting for most women. Because of feminism dysfunctional view of gender. women can do nothing. by virtue of necessity. This stems from the belief that sexual access—a key male need—is independently regulated by women. Thus. 130 . women completely ignore a key authority principle: having authority requires the capacity to enforce it. most women find such tasks physically impossible. Women are physically weaker than men in both strength and endurance. men can’t have babies or replace women as “mothers”).

They gain houses that shield them from harsh weather. female autonomy would never exist. Men must work in the most dangerous and demanding jobs because they are the only ones with the physical and mental capacity to do so13. men too must demand submission in order to fulfill their governing obligation. Because men perform these duties. scientist. women gain civilization. not a privilege provided by men. engineer. women really have no autonomy. without male consent. resources and provisions. And they gain invaluable technology. men are responsible for protecting and providing for women. firefighter. Thus. women gain protection from rape and slavery. if instead of asking for sexual access. there would be absolutely nothing women could do to stop men from taking it by force. construction worker. And just as governing officials demand that their citizens obey the laws. Emasculated men have been similarly deceived by feminism to believe that they don’t deserve to have authority over In short. However. Submission is required to maintain authority.php?f=16&t=455 131 . women wouldn’t be able to survive. Without male enforcement. Women assume that men must protect them simply because women demand it or are entitled to it.Police. men suddenly demanded it. CEO and president are all male dominated professions for good reason— women can’t competently meet the physically and mentally demanding nature of these duties. Without men. Just as governments are responsible for protecting and providing for their citizens. They fail to realize that men are stronger than women. women today have been conditioned by feminism to believe that protection is a right. soldier. These 13 http://manhood101.

But the reality is.” “Expecting sex is barbaric.” The only reason women aren’t in complete submission already is because men haven’t chosen force. all female agendas. It is solely by male choice that women are granted any autonomy whatsoever. 132 . If men choose not to allow fail to realize they are the ones providing protection and provision to women solely by their own gracious choice. that’s abusive. The only way women could procure uncompensated protection and provision would be to utilize the same manipulation tactic they presently rely on—passive-aggressive shaming: “You’re not a man if you don’t take care of me. they would have absolutely no independent means to protect and provide for themselves. Thus. You need to earn it.” “When you say things that hurt my feelings. not only would women be unable to force men. If men collectively stopped choosing to protect and provide for women. women immediately lose their privilege to do it. desires and activities are subject to male permission. men and women possess equal power. women are privileged when men allow them to exercise choice. Only men have the innate capacity to enforce their authority.” “You should pay for my dinner like a gentleman would. According to feminism. Men have chosen to care for women instead of enslave them.

Good parents enforce their expectations with their children. pain and pleasure must be applied only when merited. they lack the means to become orderly. authority must meet the needs of those under your care to be functional and attractive. 133 . If the rules are obeyed. punishment follows—pain must be inflicted.being ResPonsible to tHose UnDeR YoUR aUtHoRitY If you fulfill your function as a man by creating order. Properly functioning parents will inflict pain to curb disorderly behavior and happily reward their children with pleasure when merited. then you are exercising functional authority. If the rules are broken. Remember. it is the wrong form of authority. a reward follows—pleasure must be applied. If. They set up rules of conduct that should be obeyed. Without it. however. To enforce your personal 'laws'—your expectations—in a functional way. both tools must be used only when appropriate. To maintain order. loving parents will never endanger a children’s life with excessive pain or pleasure. The misapplication of pain and pleasure always leads to disorder. Women and children require a healthy administration of male authority in their lives. your authority leads to disorder. Men are responsible for maintaining order and preventing disorder. However.

his authority is transferred to that product. social aUtHoRitY Social authority is a derivative of personal authority. Protecting and providing for your interests requires submission to the governing authority just as meeting the needs of women requires submission to male authority. his personal authority influences many people. But you didn’t realize that such restriction actually protected you from harm. men are charged with protecting and providing for those submitting to their authority.Just as the government is charged with protecting and providing for its people. A husband exercising authority over his wife or a general exercising authority over his soldiers are examples of personal authority. Receiving protection and provision requires relinquishing your freedom. You submit to paying taxes so you’ll be provided with government services like road maintenance and health care. PeRsonal aUtHoRitY Personal authority refers to the authority exercised by an individual. Whenever he makes a product. You thought having a curfew was unfair and infringed upon your freedom. They represent the authority of Michael Jordan. you obey national security laws and observe military jurisdiction because you want your country to be protected from foreign threats. at airports. Now. As a child. Jordan brand shoes are an example of social authority. you submit to police officers because you want to be protected from criminals. you were forced to submit to your parent’s restrictive policies. Your safety depended upon submission to parental authority. it helps perpetuate that authority by 134 . As a citizen of this nation. you’re wearing Air Jordans. Because Michael Jordan is famous. Proper care always requires authority. It enforces the expectations of a group. On the street. If society accepts this authority. you submit to searches because you want airplanes to be safe. instead of wearing just any old brand of shoes.

people will think you’re ‘cool’ (valuable). Now if you wear Air Jordans. The more powerful Michael’s authority grows. the more willing people will be to meet your expectations when you display that authority on your feet. his shoes). the social authority grows in proportion. In short. As more and more people begin to value Air Jordans. you are wearing the cumulative authority of an entire society on your feet.creating social expectations around the vehicle of that authority (in this case. when people stop valuing Michael’s authority. This will grant you social authority over others. the social 135 . Conversely.

Good parents must constantly tell their children ‘NO’ to prevent disorderly behavior. Functional authority meets the needs of both leader and follower in a relationship. exeRcising FUnctional aUtHoRitY Exercising functional authority means moving toward a state of order. crippling insecurities. Don’t make friends with people of poor character. Don’t neglect your chores. they move in a disorderly direction and grow increasingly dysfunctional. your relationships to be a chronic tug-of-war and your family to be a chaotic battlefield of competing wills. 136 . This is no different than a child trying to live productively without parental guidance. Don’t damage your reputation in society. Dysfunctional authority is motivated by dysfunctional desires—your own personal wants and preferences. Likewise. Don’t hang out with dangerous people. Children require the ordering function of their parents to maintain peaceful lives. Don’t be lazy. Don’t stay up too late. The less dysfunctional your authority. when things and events move toward disorder. this indicates your authority is functional. Don’t take drugs.authority of his products will also diminish. Dysfunctional authority fails to address your needs and the needs of those submitting to it. saYing “no” As a man. you need to apply limitation and restriction to bring things back into an orderly state. A large part of a parent’s responsibility is devoted to disorder prevention: Don’t play in the street. neglect or abuse. When women operate outside the guidance of men. poor choices. If you are able to competently move yourself and others toward an orderly condition. the more capacity you have to produce order. whether through drugs. Don’t eat tons of sugar. Such a situation is doomed from the start. Conversely. one of your primary functions is to prevent and remove disorder. When someone moves toward disorder. this indicates the absence of functional authority. you need to learn how to confront them by saying no. if you find your apartment to be a perpetual mess.

You buy gifts only to allow women to take advantage of your affection. If you allow women to play with your authority. Social interactions fail because men like you assume that females are supposed to be difficult and demanding. You need to learn how to stand your ground. Don’t be fooled. social and financial leverage over you. Women today feel entitled to do what they please without fear of reprisals because emasculated men like you allow women to seize your authority. Whereas functional men refuse to let women order them around. you allow yourself to become a human welcome mat for women. you encourage it by doing nothing to stop it. You need to stop catering and deferring to the demands of women and start caring about getting your own needs met.Permissiveness leads to problems. you simply adapt to bitch behavior. they remain trapped in a childish state of insecurity when divorced from male authority. Instead of saying NO to disrespectful behavior. you fail to realize that your permissive (submissive) attitude only reinforces the problem. You work only to allow women to take your earnings. Even though women claim to be just as capable as men. You need to stop allowing your expectations to be violated. you will become a victim of your own careless. Being a functional man means saying ‘NO’ to bitch behavior. Men who allow women to engage in unregulated behavior experience non-stop relationship problems. Since emasculated men in the media are your primary models of behavior. Your passive acceptance normalizes 137 . permissive attitude. In short. And you compromise your expectations only to allow women to gain emotional. You need to stop this dysfunctional cycle.

When you take the opportunity to tell a woman NO. The idea of a man controlling his wife has been demonized by society as an “abusive” character trait. Restricting who your sister. Women need love and approval to maintain an orderly condition. Women respond positively to men who refuse to tolerate disorderly female behavior. a husband should rightly control his wife’s associations. you should restrict the associations of the women under your authority. you should take care to meet her needs. you too will protect your girlfriend or wife from careless associations with other men. For example. This practical use of his authority protects her from potential harm. But it does not address the reason why such associations are formed in the first place. To properly restrict a woman. If you fail to provide loving approval (pleasure). Just as loving parents routinely restrict the associations of their children as a matter of safety. But control is necessary to create and maintain any healthy relationship. They will constantly seek it out in various forms—the most popular being male attention. Prohibiting a woman from hanging out with other men will only 138 . you demonstrate your ability to create order in her life. You haven’t yet realized that telling a woman ‘NO’ is one of the most valuable thing you can do for her. women will look elsewhere for it. in like manner.the problem. If you realize that men mainly associate with women for sexual purposes. girlfriend or wife associates with will ensure their safety.

like children. 139 . You can even make it a dietary restriction. if you fail to meet their needs. your restriction becomes just as dysfunctional. men must give up their freedom to women. so too must parents sacrifice their lives to ensure the welfare of their children. This mutual sacrifice of freedom is necessary to maintain the relationship. But this carries a huge responsibility. Women. Both genders binds themselves together to meet their needs. are in dire need of restriction. You can tell a person to avoid eating sugary foods like candy and donuts. However. If you fail to provide a satisfactory alternative. satisfying food in place of your restriction. you become responsible for providing an alternative to fill the void created by your restriction. This governing dynamic also occurs in relationships. To have their sexual needs met. But people are willing to sacrifice their time. Their physical and psychological welfare rest in your hands. men must sacrifice their very lives. Just as children must sacrifice their freedom to receive the benefit of their parent’s care. But if you do nothing to provide nutritious. To have security. Today. they must maintain a position of authority over women. airport security is restrictive. your restriction becomes nothing more than deprivation. And since women receive the benefit of male protection and provision. you create a dysfunctional situation called deprivation. Since men have the obligation to protect and provide for women. while women must sacrifice their freedom. Restriction can never be enforced by deprivation. women must give up their freedom to if you are meeting her need for loving approval. authority always comes with a much greater responsibility. If you tell a person to avoid something bad (like going to a bar) or you restrict someone from engaging in an unhealthy behavior (like taking drugs). they must sacrifice their freedom by submitting to male authority. privacy and freedom to feel safer. This functional governing arrangement can even be observed in our society. Although your restriction may have good intentions behind it. It requires passengers to submit to the limitations set by government.

Unfortunately. you should treat her as foreign citizen and immediately remove all her http://manhood101. Women like Oprah rely on the media to further their professional victim status yet selfrighteously condemn men for wanting equality in the classroom15. If you are willing to support a woman financially. feminism teaches women to neglect this necessary restriction. you should demand that your partner meets your sexual needs. If you are willing to give up the right to pursue other women. The burden of authority always requires the mutual sacrifice of freedom. Sacrifice and equality have been quietly replaced by entitlements and special gender privileges. Women like Tyra Banks routinely use sex as a bargaining chip. Just as a citizen who refuses to acknowledge the laws of a nation.php?f=16&t=205 140 . Your loving care should always depend upon her submission. Stop devaluing your male function. you should never be ashamed of restricting and limiting women. forfeits his civil rights. relationships will The exchange must be mutual in nature. so too any woman who refuses to be governed by you should be cut off. You own her freedom. If a woman refuses to submit to your governing authority. you should demand that she does all the housework without complaining. she owns your life. yet hypocritically scold men who rely on their income or social status. you should demand the final say in all relationship If a woman’s cooperation is absent. your permissive. To remedy this disorderly situation. If you are willing to protect and sacrifice your life for a woman. Instead of mutual limitations. women want to have their cake and eat it too.doc http://glennsacks. Your support and provision should always be conditional. emasculated attitude must be exposed16.roydenhollander. your authority is absent. Not only does it incite attraction. You must realize that if gender obligations aren’t mutual. They wish to restrict and control men while remaining completely autonomous. As a man. it also allows you to fulfill your gender responsibility of 14 15 16 http://www. Women like Erin Andrews take advantage of female-friendly laws yet turn a blind eye to male gender discrimination14.

even women realize they’re incapable of making a competent decision without a man’s guidance.creating an orderly relationship. This is why you will often witness women interrupting their girlfriend’s conversations with men and physically pulling them away (commonly referred to as “cockblocking”). Thus. they are more than happy to place that responsibility on someone else’s according to your function.php?f=16&t=534 http://manhood101. You are designed to lead women. and more capable. You can think and make decisions independent of your peers. smarter18. you must bear more responsibility. But do not assume leadership 17 18 http://manhood101. this will produce attraction. This is your obligation as a male exercising authority. leaDing Deep down. you possess much more natural capacity. Being a man places you in a natural position of authority over women. Compared to women. not by choice but by virtue of your design. When you learn to take the lead and bring women into an orderly state. Since women deem themselves incapable of making a rational decision on their own. You are 141 .

These men do not realize that pain is an integral part of moving toward order. and you will praise them when you should have spanked them. incompetence becomes entrenched in paralysis. bad decisions will sting. But when no decision is made. Failure is necessary to properly calibrate leadership skills. Don’t be afraid of making bad decisions. As a parent. The thought of being held accountable becomes a nightmare. But paralysis is worse than failure. you will be held accountable to those submitting to your governing authority. Failures can be forgiven. As a husband. But going nowhere will haunt you. All positions of authority come with a heavy price. failing and learning from your mistakes. they cringe. For the rest of your life. you will pay too much for a used car.roles can be traded at your convenience. Being unable to decide is worse than making a bad decision. Your problems stay hidden. Yes. Instead of deciding. Be fearful of neglecting to make any decision. mistakes can be adjusted. Hiding from failure doesn’t mean you’ve escaped it. You will waste 142 ? ? . There is nothing wrong with cautiously approaching a decision. Since women lack the capacity to bear the burden of authority. Avoiding a decision will not make your responsibilities vanish or keep your failures at bay. It just means you’ve failed to expose it. Going backward may feel humiliating. no correction can occur. Leading women is a lifetime obligation. In short. you must take action. You will teach them bad habits and give them bad advice. Your incompetence avoids exposure. Too many men allow themselves to be crippled by the fear of pain or the fear of failure. It merely prolongs the adolescent stage of authority. You will spank your children when you should have praised them. When a decision needs to be made. indecision prevents growth. But indecision will cripple. you will make mistakes.

you’re following—there is no middle ground in the universe. This means. Your mistakes may be difficult to recover renting when you should have bought a home. But failing to even start that process guarantees a disorderly. Similarly. But while bad decisions cause you to lose money. This especially applies to your relationships. if you neglect to express your interest in her and initiate movement toward the specific direction you want her to go. dissatisfying life of stagnation. Always fail forward. indecision will cause you to lose people. You will spend your savings on a vacation when you should have saved it for an emergency. When speaking to a woman you’re attracted to. Avoid indecision at all costs. If you’re not leading. property and sleep. 143 . your goal should be to lead her toward a relationship. This means you need to direct her toward that goal. If you fail to direct her behavior. she will be the one directing your behavior. you will end up going nowhere. you are no longer fulfilling your leading function as a man. the woman is by default. If you’re not in charge of your relationship. Order can eventually be reached by process of elimination.

but for authority to be attractive. or other equally pointless topics.. Talking about celebrities does not accomplish this goal. Take the lead. All people are attracted to order. In fact. the weather. This does not mean you’re forced to solely talk about romantic topics. you are a passive spectator letting things happen to you. Your goal is not to wait for her to make a move on you first... you will experience difficulty creating relationships or you will end up in unsatisfying ones that feel like suffocating prisons. Establishing and maintaining order requires your active directing work. you must stop her. Being a passive spectator waiting for something to happen does not accomplish this goal. Your goal is to lead her toward a romantic relationship with you. But be aware that your goal is not to cover as many subjects as possible. Allowing her to violate your expectations does not accomplish this goal. the direction itself is an indication of 144 . You are merely reacting to what others around you are doing. Without taking the initiative to direct your social interactions according to your expectations. If a woman moves the conversation toward celebrities.Right now. You need authority to meet your expectations. drinks. You need to take an active hand in meeting your romantic expectations with women. Your goal is not to kill time or become best friends. movie tickets and jewelry. [This will be covered in Section III]. Such a dysfunctional attitude always results in disorder. Don’t be fooled if you end up in a relationship. Your goal is not to buy her dinners. Move the conversation back to what you want to talk about and move her in the same direction you’re headed. Just because you’re dating a woman doesn’t mean it’s going to work out in the end. it must move everyone in an orderly direction. Your goal is not to shower her with unreciprocated attention and affection.

you must first know where you’re going. If you are experiencing awkward silences and passive periods of indecision. But don’t be fooled by society’s low social standards. HonoRing vs. To lead others. You must have a direction. This means the authority position should always be honored and preserved. obeYing Women who honor and fear your authority will obey you. the exercise of authority should meet a minimum ethical standard before it is obeyed. 145 . obey your commands and submit to your will. A functional standard always gives you a proper indication of your deficiencies. But obedience should only be given to decisions that do not violate fundamental ethical principles. it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing so bad. the more you realize where you are lacking. They will defer to your judgment. however. this indicates a fundamental lack of direction in your social interactions. regardless of whether it proves functional or dysfunctional. Functional women honor your position of authority.order. When you compare yourself to others. The clearer the direction becomes.

giveR As a man. Instead of remaining in the receiving position. not making the best decision. Such decisions. while possibly foolish or flat out wrong. In return. it should be obeyed at all times. As long as a man’s authority does not threaten his woman’s life or violate any ethical boundaries. This symbiotic relationship results in mutual satisfaction. If he asks her to cook dinner when she’s tired or to perform her sexual duties even if she’s not in the mood. But that woman should never presume to replace the governing authority of her man. The woman is the Receiver. a man will make the wrong decision. you are the Giver. If however. a guy tells his girlfriend to rob a bank or jump off a cliff. But she is free to disobey his exercise of authority as such a request violates ethical and functional boundaries. the wife should obey him. Even if he asks her to dig a hole in the backyard and fill it back up. This leads to a disorderly power struggle within the relationship. Other times.For example. But it’s dysfunctional for a woman to play the referee. do not violate any ethical boundaries. A man may consult with his woman on a decision. Order cannot be maintained if the integrity of the governing authority is compromised by a rebellious attitude. if a husband tells his wife to buy a gift for a wedding even though the gift may be tasteless or embarrassing. she meets your needs. You are the responsible one providing for her needs. she should comply. he will make the right decision. the woman should still honor his position of authority over her with her attitude. At times. Honoring and preserving authority remains the top priority. she should obey. just as it’s dysfunctional for children to referee their parents’ decisions. Feminism ruins this natural balance. women are now conditioned to fulfill the male 146 .

gender role. They want to be perceived as the Giver. Such an arrangement is impossible to maintain. As a man, you must preserve your authority by refusing to allow a woman to compete for your function in a relationship. Nullifying your authority always removes your function. Your authority must be recognized before you allow others to benefit from it. If a woman refuses to depend on you, at that very point, you should cut off the giving—time, money, effort, attention, resources, all of it. The receiving position is conditional. Only those under your authority— those relying on you for their welfare—are in a proper position to receive what you have to offer. You can’t properly care for those who refuse to submit to your authority. As you learn about the nature of authority and how to exercise it to get your expectations met, you will begin to realize what feminism ignores: authority is a functional tool designed to meet the needs of others. Sure, you can and should use your authority to meet your expectations. But that’s only half the story. For authority to be functional, it must serve those who submit to it. Your authority is not meant to be a club to get things done your way. Your authority functions primarily as a service to those governed by it. There are innumerable ways to abuse authority, but only one way to functionally exercise it—as a service. For example, fathers require authority over their children. This allows a father to direct the behavior of his children in an orderly way. He makes sure they do their chores and eat healthy meals. The control he exercises allows him to meet his expectations, but the outcome primarily benefits the children. Thus, the proper exercise of authority always benefits those governed by it. But if fathers are careless, they can damage their children’s future. A dysfunctional exercise of authority fails to create self-discipline in a child. Consequently, many adults today are incarcerated because they lack self-control. They are the products of dysfunctional authority.


Your needs can only be met if your children’s needs are also met. If you use your authority solely to meet your own needs, It becomes dysfunctional. In a relationship, everyone’s needs are tied together; your need for order is no different than any other person’s need for order. Thus, your welfare intimately correlates with the welfare of those you govern. However, since the vast majority of men don’t know how to get their needs met, they require authority training. Such men do not yet know how to serve others. Before they can be useful, they must first learn how to gain the submission of others. Once they learn how to gain submission, they can get their expectations met. These men will then be in a position to use their authority as a service rather than a mere social advantage.


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As recipients of a man’s giving, women do everything to receive your approval. Often times women will pretend they aren’t interested in you just to get more praise from you. When you pursue a woman, she feels validated by your interest. She wants to prolong this pleasurable feeling. By pushing you away, she is hoping you will continue to pursue her. This feels even more pleasurable because she has created an artificial obstacle. The more obstacles she can get you to overcome to gain her affection, the more pleasure she feels. This eventually “turns her on” and encourages her to reciprocate at some point. Other games played by women aren’t games from their point of view. Many female behaviors are inherent to female insecurity. For example, women will flake on dates or fail to call you because they’re worried that something will go wrong. They’re anxious about how you’ll perceive them. They’re nervous and apprehensive about breaking social expectations. Insecurity causes women to waffle back and forth between decisions or neglect to make a decisions altogether. This is why it’s crucial for you to direct and bring order to a woman’s insecure life.

Some men have expressed displeasure about having to initiate the majority of social interactions with women. But this perspective completely neglects their own male design. Women only respond to what is initiated because their function is to mirror men. Women are not designed to initiate. Instead, women reflect what males project. Women react to male stimulation. Many areas of life reveal this principle. Relatively few women ever approach men. Women could never handle the rejection. Initiation is simply not part of a woman’s capacity. For a woman to open up and become receptive to


flirting, a man must first stimulate her. Their pursuit provokes sexual thoughts, reflected in a woman’s libido. Without this initial pursuit, women have nothing to react to, leaving sex drive dormant. This is why females can experience years of sexual inactivity if their interest isn’t sparked by a male initiating and showing sexual interest. Even civilization itself is a product of man’s propensity to stimulate. The number of male inventors far exceeds that of females for good reason.19 Men have built empires, invented new technologies and explored the boundaries of the universe because of their capacity to initiate and stimulate.20 Throughout history, men have always been the universal impetus. Practically speaking, for you, this translates into taking action. Instead of passively sitting by and letting a woman dictate the conversation, you should actively be stimulating her. And the most stimulating thing you can do to a woman is to direct her life toward order.

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Function is specific to form. For example, when people want to move great distances, they require a some sort of vehicle (form) to help them travel (function). The wheels on a vehicle can be many different shapes. But only the circle form perfectly fits its traveling function. Whenever something achieves its highest form, its correct function is realized. For example, a clock’s function is to tell time. There are many different types of clocks, all with varying degrees of accuracy. But the highest form of a clock gives the most accurate time. A clock with perfect form will give the correct time.

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both in your disposition and position. If something is not absolutely 100% working properly. Your own disorderly life is directly tied to your degree of dysfunction. you will also move those under your authority toward an orderly state. you must remove dysfunctional behavior. Since you originated from order. you are designed in an orderly way. you require a purpose—a blueprint for your behavior. As you exercise your authority to bring order to your life. All other forms of the clock are dysfunctional. As you learn to properly apply these universal principles to your life. you are drawn to order and you are satisfied by order. If something is truly functioning. To be functional. To move toward an orderly state. but only one final instance of function.This also means that correct form leads to one specific function. Right now. This purpose will dictate your function. There is no such thing as partially functioning or somewhat functional clock. it is dysfunctional. as a man. This also means that there is only one functional form of the clock. Something cannot be considered to be functional unless its operation is 100% free of error. you are a dysfunctional man without a purpose. your dysfunction lessens. There are countless degrees of dysfunction. This means. A functional clock only gives the correct time. Your 151 . This means its redundant to say something is functioning properly. you require authority—the means for creating order—to become functional. your purpose must be intimately related to order. its error-free nature is already implied. This allows you to recognize and move toward order. even though they may only be off by mere nanoseconds.

Order ACHIEVED LEAST DISORDER Most Disorder tHe RelationsHiP betWeen FUnction anD valUe “. In my head I had created a finite piece of ‘cool’ pie that could only be taken by so many people. This coolness ‘value’ was determined by how many funny jokes you could tell or how many cool things you could say. I felt like by the time I got there.When hanging out with friends.” Most people fail to make a proper connection between function and value. whoever told the funniest jokes was the coolest guy. all the pie was gone. I felt worthless comparing myself to others. Thus. I felt pressure to compete to see who was cooler. If your authority is moving everything in your life toward an orderly condition. disorderly things and disorderly situations. As a result. they attempt to compete for value as if it is some 152 .authority functions to discipline disorderly people. it is functioning properly.. In this competitive mind-set..

You cannot compete for value because anything of real value is determined by function alone. neither can anyone steal or award you value. They’re told to adopt male careers. you are abusing its function. You may be tempted to get angry at the screwdriver. instead of behaving like women. however. Delusional View SOCIAL STATUS WIFE CAREER HOUSE Missing Value ACHIEVEMENTS FRIENDS REALITY Finite Units of Value MONEY CAR FULFILLING YOUR FUNCTION Chasing Value worthless VALUABLE Yet. To remedy this situation. You are abusing the function of the screwdriver by violating its intended use—its proper function. when people adopt the wrong form. Conversely. Now. many fail to express this capacity. no one can replace your singular male function. their value to others remains unrealized. It will be very difficult to build anything. assume male positions of authority and employ aggressive communication like men. feminism is attempting to force women into playing the role of a man.sort of tangible commodity to be won or lost. Thus. females are taught to behave like men. Today. Thus. Since. How well you fulfill your function determines your value. They become useless. 153 . they become valuable. It was never intended to be used as a hammer. the problem isn’t with the screwdriver itself but rather the way it’s being used. This can be illustrated by a simple analogy: If you use a screwdriver as a hammer. even though all humans possess the capacity to fulfill certain gender-specific functions. their function is sacrificed. so that its proper function can be realized. But the more women neglect their female function. Then it becomes valuable. it becomes worthless. the less valuable they become. when people function according to their design. Likewise. the screwdriver must be used according to its original design.

this emasculated behavior is not the result of an inherent flaw but rather feminism’s perversion of functional gender roles. But both functions are equally essential to the whole operation of the body. People don’t choose dysfunctional behavior—feminism demands it. Focus should be placed on the source of dysfunction. however. By demonizing functional behavior. Both genders have been deceived by feminism’s seductive ‘equality’ ruse. dysfunctional behavior becomes unavoidable.RestoRing a PRoPeR vieW oF FUnction Today’s males reflexively defer and submit to women in the name of ‘equality’. Like eye and foot. By refusing to acknowledge the fact that men and women are not ‘equal’ in function. Without one or the other. and legally bullied into compliance by the feminist State. the entire body will suffer. Emasculated males should not be viewed as a weaker subset of men. Both mind and legs fulfill different (unequal) functions. Their feminist upbringing is responsible for their dysfunctional behavior. For example. Neither should dysfunctional women be viewed as “bitches” from birth. Innate gender design dictates that both men and women should operate as components of a whole. But both are essential to the successful operation of the whole body. feminism sets men and women up for failure. each performs a different function of the body. the mind functions to decide where the body will go while the legs function to move the body to that location. not its distracting effects. Both mind and legs are required to fully 154 . threatened by social and sexual ostracization.

com/disappointedwife. But addressing their general lack of 21 http://manhood101.php?f=18 22 http://manhood101. FUnctional DesiRes vs. fat people may seek to exercise more often or eat better the needs of the entire the entire relationship suffers. the more you are then able to bring others toward order. For example. When removing disorder. ‘Equality’ is not found in mimicking another gender’s abilities but rather in fulfilling the specific function each gender is designed to perform. The testimony of men21 and women22 around the world confirms this fact.html 155 . men and women are designed to fulfill different functions according to their gender. DYsFUnctional DesiRes The more you learn to exercise your male function. If either gender function is neglected. people typically focus on its symptoms while neglecting the root. In like manner. Both functions are required to create satisfying relationships. Eventually the relationship will break down. The order you bring to others is reflected in how much disorder you’ve removed from your own life.

This is much more convenient 156 . People often refer to these all-powerful cravings as needs. when you fail to get your needs met. When these things are absent. their lack of self-control will manifest itself in other ways if the root cause is never addressed. Their obesity is merely a symptom of the real problem. you seek to be filled. These needs are your functional desires. These short-sighted solutions are commonly referred to as wants. They regulate your being. if you have cancer. when you’re hungry. your being experiences a painful craving that you naturally seek to fulfill to maintain order in your being. short-sighted solutions to alleviate your suffering. For example. When you’re lonely. Your wants represent your dysfunctional desires. These desires are universal to all people. When you’re empty. Even if they do manage to lose weight. you seek out food. you often resort to harmful. ensuring it stays in good working order. There are certain things your being requires to remain alive. you seek out companionship. However. Whenever these necessities are met. For example. you experience pleasure.self-control is much more difficult. you may decide to inject yourself with morphine to temporarily dull the pain.

is too painful.than removing the cancer through a painful life-saving operation. Addressing your needs (functional desires) results in satisfaction. the food industry processes. Food coloring is added to accommodate personal preferences. you need to eat every day. you may be tempted to buy an expensive sports car instead of an efficient vehicle with great gas mileage. on the other hand. The morphine represents a short-sighted solution to your cancer problem. and pick them at an appropriate time. grow them. But eating junk food won’t address that need. Addressing your wants (dysfunctional desires). packages and preserves your food to accommodate your dysfunctional desire for convenience. For example liposuction addresses your dysfunctional desire to look good. It’s much easier to just go out and buy packaged apple sauce. thus leading to bigger problems down the road. the more dissatisfied you will become. For example. Although it may satiate your hunger. To eat whole apples. but exercise addresses your functional desire to maintain a healthy body. If you need transportation to work. Thus. If you’re hungry for dinner. you may be tempted to eat a candy bar instead of a well prepared meal at home. it will lead to a more satisfying life. you need to maintain an orchard. the more junk food you eat. 157 . people are conditioned to focus on their indulgences while ignoring their true necessities. society is designed to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. it does not address your body’s long-term health requirements. For many. From a young age. For example. obtaining food in its functional state. All this order requires much work and effort to maintain. Fillers are added to keep the price of food within the budget of the indolent. Today. Since regular exercise meets your needs. And artificial flavors are added to appeal to a childish urge for instant gratification. results in dissatisfaction. prepare soil. All these short-sighted solutions neglect to address your real needs.

Addressing your functional desires requires much more painful effort by comparison. This means listening to your ipod instead of socializing with others around you. If either party remains unsatisfied or fails to move toward order. Removing disorder from your life is a daunting chore if you lack direction and motivation. This means watching TV instead of reading a book. you focus on increasing your conveniences to accommodate your dysfunctional desires. This means creating more laws instead of becoming responsible for your own behavior. FUnctional socialization Society contributes to your disorderly condition by maintaining dysfunctional standards for basic socialization. Only life can cause growth. this is an indication that growth has ceased. But ultimately. Both of these must function 158 . This means feeling comfortable instead of working to become competent. others will be presume that you possess basic social skills. both parties enjoy a mutually satisfying experience that causes the relationship to grow. This playing video games instead of playing a sport. including relationships. meeting your needs instead of indulging your wants leads to a pleasurable state of order— satisfaction. Life is no longer being administered. But this low standard completely neglects the function of socialization—to convey your very person to another person through the vehicle of experiences. your relationship stagnates because nothing living is imparted to the other person.When you lack self-discipline. when you convey your dynamic person. The destination is your expectation— your purpose for the socializing. if you can make small talk with another person. The relationship has become dysfunctional. When you convey static information. tHe stanDaRD FoR social coMPetence A base level of social competence requires a proper destination and a vehicle to transport you there. This means buying fast food instead of cooking your food at home. Information has replaced the person. Information does not cause growth. However. The vehicle is your expression—your means for meeting your expectation. All living things must grow to survive.

He also exercise enough authority to create an enjoyable social experience. he too will be unable to create satisfying relationships. your relationships may start off with a bang. Thus. A father. you may have a picture perfect relationship in your head. MANHOODACADEMY. the ‘player’ type guy has developed good expression. For example. Do not 159 . on the other hand. But because he’s only concerned with his own welfare. but you will have no practical way of creating or maintaining one. may hold a functional expectation of caring for his family. but ultimately. he can’t meet their needs. they will end in disorder. His person is clearly conveyed. But if he lacks the authority to properly convey his expectation. Your expectations go hand in hand with your expression. Unlike the player. his relationships won’t last long.COM Exp REACTION TO YOUR EXPERIENCES fuel E YOUR XPRES SION Exp re ss ed unc t i o n as F al e ct ations AUTHORITATIVE MAN SATISFIED state of order ATTRACTION byproduct manginas EMASCULATED MALE ee ds FEMINIST obstacles N ur Yo bitches MAP AUTHORITY foundation MISERABLE state of disorder Feminism Desert If your expression conveys your person but your expectations (destination) are dysfunctional. Since he doesn’t understand how to practically satisfy the needs of the other party. he is headed in the right direction. his authority is dysfunctional.correctly to create satisfying social interactions. If your expectations are functional but your expression is dysfunctional.

Dysfunctional expectations are characterized by their harmful. leading to even greater problems. 160 .” If everybody chose fame-based careers. “I want a home. But to create functional expectations. this desire proves functional. reproduction and death will be disrupted. To discover whether a desire is functional or dysfunctional. it’s very easy to abuse your authority. Thus. Consider the following examples: “I want to have sex with men. Both must be functional to satisfy the needs of everyone in your social interactions. mankind becomes extinct. apply it to a global scale. gives clearer insight into whether it’s functional or dysfunctional. This would lead to all kinds of health and intimacy problems.” Since everybody needs shelter.” If you apply this desire to all men. But if you expect to eat nothing but cheeseburgers over a long period of time. “I want to have sex with 100 women. While cheeseburgers may satisfy your dysfunctional desire. leading people physically and emotionally toward a more disorderly state. you must learn how to discern the difference between functional desires and dysfunctional desires.” If each man had sex with 100 women. “I want to be a rock star. anonymous and thankless duties necessary to the practical functioning of society would be neglected. you will experience long-term health problems. Life as a cycle of birth. While less dysfunctional than the first example. Eating a cheeseburger for dinner won’t kill you immediately (and even tastes delicious). this desire is also dysfunctional. This multiplies the effect of the desire and in doing so. tHe test FoR DYsFUnction Without functional expectations. This desire is dysfunctional. relationships would be devastated left and right due to many overlapping sexual encounters. short-sighted nature. you can conclude this to be a highly dysfunctional desire.neglect either aspect.

When your expectations fully match your needs. But you fail to realize that social interaction.they ultimately ruin your long term health. you’ll become socially competent. An orderly relationship results in the highest emotional investment. social inteRaction Does not HaPPen in a vacUUM Many of you are under the delusion that you can learn to socialize at home by yourself. by definition. It certainly does not happen in the vacuum of one man’s isolated experience. The more order you bring to a relationship. the more you satisfy your partner. You figure that just by memorizing these concepts. This is not a self-help book. Thus. short-sighted desires eventually leads to a disorderly and unsatisfying condition. order is created. Even this book represents the crystalization of the knowledge and experiences 161 . You want to practice by yourself. Functional expectations always follow functional desires. improve by yourself and do everything by your own hand. Whatever you need in life requires a matching functional expectation to address that need. is a team sport. pursuing after dysfunctional. There’s really no such thing.

All living things follow the principle of dependence. so too is all of society like one single cell.of many many men. Like the harmonious environment of a living cell depends on all its smaller components to function together. Life is so tightly intertwined and dependent upon its neighboring components that even the slightest change alters the entire system. Without them. You are not 162 . This means all living things depend on each other for survival. or else the entire cell will eventually collapse and die. you would never be reading this. Society is like the ecosystem of a small pond. depending on each individual member to function properly. It is even foolish to assume that your social competence only relates to you.

depending on what each individual man does to meet them. in the legal system. most people are not in your immediate family or group of friends or even in the same city. Today.incompetent by your own design. Sure. Being a socially competent male today is viewed as a hateful act. Their incompetence affects your behavior. The player looking for a one-night stand in Brazil is creating another bitter female who will advocate the removal of male authority in Sweden. Even getting your most basic expectations met is sometimes viewed as a criminal activity in the eyes of this feminist society. If you’re the only person who is able to competently socialize. But whatever you do inevitably affects the life of the person next to you. One by one. Creating an orderly relationship is viewed as “abusive and controlling” behavior. This means everyone’s needs are being met in the relationship. Attracting a woman is considered a contemptible act of misogyny. you gain nothing. It’s systematically condemned in academic institutions. And in turn. You are incompetent because of the social incompetence of others. The cumulative social effect will influence society to either support or oppose your masculinity. each of these individual social decisions will begin to add up. in the work place. just like a line of dominos falling. Your male needs will either be embraced or condemned as a group. The single-mother scolding her son’s sexuality in London is creating another emasculated male who will enforce feminism in America. 163 . social competence isn’t merely lacking in society. your incompetence affects other people’s behavior. True social competence translates into global competence. you’re in a relationship with every single person on the face of the earth. Social competence relies on the ability to enforce functional expectations. in your families and in your romantic relationships. Whether you realize it or not.

Your social competence isn’t just for your benefit. There is no middle ground. It is necessary to shift your entire culture. You must fight against whoever tries to take it away from you.But this is only because socially competent men are few and far between. Social competence is like oxygen (or any other necessity). You are either getting your expectations met or meeting someone else’s expectations. The current feminist environment doesn’t support social competence. Either you must become socially competent by necessity. Emasculated men will resist you. It’s viewed as isolated. You must guard it with your life. You’re becoming socially competent to satisfy the fundamental requirements of life. You must do whatever is necessary to acquire it. it’s for the benefit of every man. You’re not becoming socially competent just to get a girlfriend or find a better job or stand up to a bully. To become socially competent you must not only swim against the stream of feminism. No exceptions. The government will criminalize your behavior. You are either training someone or being trained by someone. toward social competence. You are either influencing or being influenced. rogue behavior. or you will be forced into social incompetence by consensus. and society will shun you. 164 . you must learn to create a new current of social influence altogether. If you are the only socially competent person on earth. Dysfunctional women will be too extreme to govern. There is no neutral position in life. even the whole world environment. it won’t matter. Your ability to create a functional relationship will be wasted.

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DISPOSITIONAL ORDER BUILDS Expresses Dispositional Order Design Governs Everything Life Regulate Living Purpose Limits Disorderly Behavior Order Obedience FORM FUNCTION EFFECT RESOLUTION Harmony POSITIONAL ORDER RECIPIENT AGENT REFINES Chaotic Universe Truth Divide Order From Disorder Mankind Universal Principles Expose Disorder Satisfaction Controlling Female Submission Femininity Removing Feminism Seek Dispositional Order Apply Dispositional Order Authority To Discipline Attracted To Love 166 Emasculated Male Masculinity Removing Emasculation Become Attractive Love DISPOSITIONAL DISORDER DECAYS Allows Hypocrisy FORM Dysfunctional Authority POSITIONAL DISORDER FUNCTION Remove Order EFFECT Disorder RESULT Dissatisfaction RECIPIENT AGENT POLLUTES Society Feminism (Ignorance) Hides Disorder .

a social expectation is formed. boss. When an expectation is adopted by a group. President) • A mother and father should raise a child • Obeying traffic laws • Recycling Examples of dysfunctional social expectations: • Tipping • Welfare • Feminism • Desiring social status • Men should pay for women • Women are just as smart as men • Strong. but men can’t hit women 167 . Social expectations are powerful because they are enforced by consensus—the pleasurable approval and painful disapproval of many people.PaRt iii: aPPlYing tHe solUtion cReating anD Maintaining oRDeR tYPes oF exPectations perSonal expectationS & Social expectationS Personal expectations refer to the expectations held and enforced by one person. independent women are attractive • Women can hit men. Examples of functional social expectations: • Working for a living • Supporting leaders (Father.

This means everybody possesses the exact same needs. 168 . Needs serve as guidelines for creating functional expectations. you can’t create order without having a code of conduct to direct your behavior in an functional way. Without the law. Whatever the law says. your need for food drives you to eat. For example. you need to exercise your authority in a functional way. These natural desires are functional because they drive you toward an orderly condition. The law acts as his guide. a police officer requires the law to direct his behavior. directing his actions. your expectationS ShoulD mirror your neeDS Your needs are universal in nature. To create order. To create order. your needs let you know what you should expect from others. according to their gender. you need to ask yourself three questions: 1. In simple terms. it will be impossible to create order in your relationships or your environment because your authority will be going in the wrong direction. Am I able to communicate my expectations? 3. If your expectations are dysfunctional. This requires that your expectations lead to an orderly outcome. What are my expectations? 2. he must enforce. Eating provides your body with food energy to maintain your body’s orderly condition. Similarly. To practically create and maintain order in all your relationships.HoW to get YoUR exPectations Met Now it’s time to apply what you’ve learned in section II. a police officer would have no direction. Am I enforcing my expectations? WHat aRe MY exPectations? A police officer is bound by the law and is obligated to enforce it.

Your expectations allow you to move all types of relationships toward the ultimate goal—order/satisfaction. teachers. Here are a few examples of your functional desires and the expectations you should be developing to match them: MY neeD I need to create order. girlfriend. MY exPectation I expect women to fear my authority. Your expectations should mirror your needs (functional desires). I expect to develop a romantic relationship with the woman I’m talking to. father. mother. I expect to state my interest in a woman. I need male support.) 169 . children. emotional needs. etc. cooking. I need affection. psychological needs and spiritual needs all require expectations to fulfill them. I expect those under my care (wife. I expect my attention and affection to be fully reciprocated. I expect other men to listen to me. there is no way to get your needs met. I need female support. government. I need sex. I need an orderly relationship. I expect the woman I’m dating to emotionally invest in me as much as I invest in her. I need to socialize.Without expectations to govern the behavior of others.) to obey me. I need to submit to those taking care of me. I need love. I expect men to reciprocate my friendship. I need to maintain an orderly romantic relationship. I expect a woman to submit to my direction and support my decisions. I need to take care of those under my authority. I expect to obey those responsible for my care (boss. I need a romantic relationship. cleaning). etc. employees. I expect a woman to meet my domestic needs (childcare. I expect sex from a woman under my care. Your physical needs. sexual needs.

the prescription drug 170 . You will do anything to meet your need. But if there’s a food shortage. They have access to food. But males aren’t the only ones being deprived of their necessities. shelter. For example. For example. Now you can concentrate on other things because the thought of hunger doesn’t consume you. It’s no coincidence that today. your behavior becomes dysfunctional. Thus. they are unable to fulfill women’s emotional needs. if your sexual needs aren’t being met in a romantic relationship. you will employ dysfunctional solutions to meet your need. both gender’s social needs are neglected. pornography is one of the largest industries capitalizing on sexual deprivation in males. Because your needs still remain unfulfilled. Or you might even decide to eat other people. You won’t be able to think of anything but food. If you can’t get food in a functional way (by growing or buying it). water.Deprivation vS. You might rob a bank. etc. the relationship will break down. you might start stealing food from others. you will start seeking out dysfunctional ways to meet them. Yet the dissatisfying state of their lives shows that their needs are not being fully met. Deprivation results in disorder. if you have access to food. you can meet your physical need. you will experience nagging hunger pangs. air. SatiSfaction Most people today can get many of their basic needs met. When men lose their authority. women also have needs that aren’t being met in their relationships. In a state of deprivation. Because of feminism’s dysfunctional social climate. eventually. Because of feminism’s damaging influence.

Your present lack of direction is causing everyone in your relationships to suffer. Online “social” networks can’t replace in-person friendships. The solution is not to condemn your desires. Your need for love. these functional desires are necessary to push you toward order.robot/index. Video depictions of sex can’t replace intimacy.html?hpt=T2 Even cell phones and computers—initially created as social tools—now contribute to epidemic levels of social 171 .2 Quick-fix bandaid solutions only allow the problem to persist. Only by developing 1 2 3 http://www. your need for social interaction will not be placated by virtual reality substitutions.php?f=16&t=359 http://en. In fact. The epidemic social problems men and women face today are a testament to that fact. To answer the problem of social deprivation. Because technology can never replace male authority. Failing to address deprivation will not magically make it disappear. you must learn how to create and maintain order. the problem is further reinforced by short-sighted solutions that normalize your deprived condition. Artificial sex robots1 can’t replace love. Just as your body is not designed to eat artificial food coloring or other chemical additives.cnn. everyone’s need for order remains unfulfilled. The solution is also not to adapt to the problem as the Seduction Community has done. They will never solve it. sex and companionship will never go away.wikipedia.industry now exploits the emotional deprivation in females. And the solution is not to sweep the problem under the rug as feminists have done by completely ignoring your male needs3. Adding more conveniences to your life will never be an adequate substitute for male authority. In fact.

It’s tempting to preserve a happy atmosphere by ignoring her dysfunctional behavior. functional & DySfunctional expectationS Just because others approve of your expectations doesn’t mean they will automatically result in satisfying relationships. they should be discarded.expectations to match your needs can your social problems finally be addressed. But over time. It’s difficult to sacrifice your dysfunctional expectations because they lead to short-term pleasurable gains. And quite naturally. you guarantee yourself a life of disorder and dissatisfaction. the more it will undermine your authority over her. 172 . The longer you cling to your dysfunctional expectation. satisfying conclusion. If your expectations fail to move your relationships toward an orderly. you may expect to have a good time with your girlfriend even if she’s refusing to listen to you. her love for you will also fade away. you will then have the direction necessary to start governing the behavior of others to meet those needs. For example. Eventually. so I can protect her. Here are some examples of functional expectations: • I expect a woman to follow my directions. Once these expectations are made clear. Any expectation that accommodates dysfunctional behavior will lead to misery in the end. All dysfunctional desires should be subordinate to this goal. This allows you to move everyone in the relationship from a state of deprivation to a state of satisfaction. Your expectations must meet everyone’s needs—both yours and theirs—to establish order. you will find it increasingly difficult to get your needs met in the relationship. Any expectation that doesn’t fully meet everyone’s needs in the relationship is dysfunctional by definition. satisfying relationship should be the ultimate litmus test for your expectations. she will no longer fear your authority. always move all parties toward an orderly. harmonious condition. A harmonious. on the other hand. By maintaining dysfunctional expectations. Functional expectations.

173 .g. Relying on entropy won’t create order. Because of entropy. Every other direction is dysfunctional and will result in disorder. if it's not moving everyone toward an orderly state. unkempt lawns. no attraction. like your acquired personal preferences. Functional means orderly. [Dysfunctional. so my need for companionship is met. They require regular maintenance to remain functional. don't seem dysfunctional (e. there is only one direction. Can’t get needs met. [Dysfunctional.] Some expectations. The less dysfunctional an expectation. Once an expectation fully meets everyone’s needs. [Dysfunctional.] • I go with the flow. Caring for personal preferences will inhibit orderly social interactions. eroding mountains). preferring blonds to brunettes). These dysfunctional expectations will result in varying degrees of disorder: • I want women to be in charge. sagging skin.• I expect a woman to fear my authority. it becomes functional. the more it meets everyone’s needs. Your expectations are no exception.. But no matter how seemingly benign an expectation is. worn down buildings.] • I want to eat Chinese food instead of Mexican food. With order. all things are drawn toward a natural state of disorder (memory loss. so I can create order in her life. it’s dysfunctional. • I expect a woman to show affection.

Drug users are warned about the dangers of their drug abuse. This means you need to give people a clear goal. The type of expectations you cultivate will affect your life and everyone in it. as a parent. But you should be clear about the nature of your expectations. There is no such thing as an insignificant expectation. society often reminds you what you shouldn’t be doing. You must tell people what they shouldn’t do and what they should do. Rebellious teens are cautioned to avoid joining gangs. even if they seem harmless. There is no point in deluding yourself. and you also need to let them know if they are straying from that goal. Today. But it fails to tell you specifically what you should be doing. aM i able to coMMUnicate tHese exPectations? proviDing the right Direction anD removing optionS The second step in getting your expectations met is learning how to communicate your expectations to others. For example. but they are never specifically told how to achieve a healthy 174 . This clear communication of your expectations is necessary to create order.This is not to say that failure to remove personal preferences will cause your life to immediately self-destruct. you must direct your children to eat healthy food (goal) while forbidding them from eating junk food (straying from the goal). but little effort is made to mentor them.

but they are never properly educated to create functional relationships from the start. For example. failing to communicate your expectations will lead to disorder. All the emphasis is placed on avoiding dysfunctional behavior while comparatively little effort is spent teaching people how to become functional. 175 . if no speed limit exists to govern your driving behavior. it’s imperative that you not only lead them in the right direction but that you also effectively communicate that direction. Be Specific With your expectationS Expectations are like government laws. the easier it is for people to follow them. If there is no law expressed. Criminals are thrown in jail for breaking the law. Like unexpressed laws. specific goal to move Without specifying an orderly direction. The clearer you make your expectations. the police will be unable to prevent you from driving recklessly. A police officer can only enforce the laws that are expressed to the citizens. If you expect others to follow you. merely removing unfavorable options will still result in an overall disorderly condition. people need restriction to curb their disorderly tendencies and a clear. there is nothing he can enforce. To achieve order.

It requires you to bear the cost of your authority. there are at least two expectations present— 176 . they are useless. they becomes functional expectations. it will be difficult to get this expectation met. The more you weed out optional behavior from your expectations. Remember: truly functional expectations only have one direction. If however. Because it lacks direction. you may expect people to respect you. Requiring others to listen when you’re speaking is a much better expectation because it provides a specific course of action for the other party to follow. it’s a poor expectation. the less dysfunctional your expectations become. aM i enFoRcing MY exPectations? Enforcing your expectations requires you to become responsible by providing a clear. Being in charge of the direction means you’re also responsible for the outcome. When your expectations are properly enforced.For example. functional direction that benefits those submitting to your authority. People have a much more enjoyable time talking to you when they know exactly what to do to receive your approval. When you’re finally able to remove all optional elements from your expectations. you fail to enforce your expectations. If your expectations aren’t specific enough to direct the behavior of others to meet your need. people will experience anxiety and frustration when dealing with you. Although this sounds like a good idea. those being governed by them experience security and stability. complementary expectationS anD competing expectationS In any social interaction. Clarifying your expectations removes disorder from your social interactions.

This means only one direction will be expressed. On the other hand. gives others a positive incentive to meet your functional expectations. but everybody’s needs will get met. his children will love him. Just as police officers are required to inflict a painful consequence on those who violate the law. a painful punishment exposes disorderly behavior. you also need to administer a painful punishment to those who violate your expectations. Pain & PleasURe Pain and pleasure are equally important to enforcing your functional expectations. And those receiving the punishment will fear the governing authority administering it. 177 . Because of this. he fosters orderly behavior in those governed by his authority. As long as everybody follows that direction.your expectation and the other party’s expectation. not only will align from the start. and the directing agent of pleasure. he is motivating them to meet his expectations. causing it to cease. For example. dysfunctional expectations will involve many different options. Pleasure. it’s imperative to know how to address competing expectations. Dysfunctional expectations compete with functional expectations. the result will be an orderly. your expectations become nothing more than impotent hopes and dreams. To maintain order in a social interaction. satisfying social interaction. Without the correcting agent of pain. on the other hand. when a father rewards his children with an allowance for completing their daily chores. Pain exposes disorder. If both party’s expectations are functional. By rewarding their obedience with pleasure.

You need enough pain to deter dysfunctional behavior and enough pleasure to incite functional behavior. For example. 4 5 http://glennsacks.Together. you will end up creating dysfunctional behavior in others. This indicates growth. you can obtain extreme amounts of pleasure from drugs. The court system applies a greater amount of pain to violent criminals (long prison If pain and pleasure are applied when not http://www. For example. merited pain (punishment) and merited pleasure (reward) serve to establish and maintain order. when you work out at the gym. But such pleasure comes at a damaging cost to your body and psychological faculties. Too much or too little of either will inevitably result in disorder. Excessive pleasure also spoils the character of children.asp?articlekey=51160 178 . Those who administer pain and pleasure must be very measured in their approach. You can even see this principle governing your own body. crippling pain signals too much damage is being done. fines). leading to feelings of entitlement or even criminal behavior. Even society recognizes this to a certain extent. there is the danger of going too far with pleasure. And males generally receive harsher discipline4 than females. death sentences) than traffic offenders (traffic school. your muscles experience pain.medicinenet. it lets you know where you are in relation to a boundary or law and punishes you for violating it. which corresponds to men’s greater capacity to bear pain5. It will ruin work ethics. But severe. and undermine male authority by substituting bribery for discipline. Pain acts as both a message and a consequence. Just as with the administration of pain.

At the same time. the mild pain of a spanking will do little to deter an adult offender from engaging in future criminal activity. Whether pain and pleasure are applied in physical forms. it is your responsibility to apply pain and pleasure when merited. they perpetuate it. When their masculinity is mocked. and childish ultimatums. care should always be taken to administer only what is sufficient to create order. they ignore it. buy expensive unappreciated gifts and shower women with unreciprocated attention. It is only by enforcing your functional expectations that order is created in social interactions. encouraging future dysfunctional behavior. playing with stuffed animals will provide very little pleasurable stimulation to a mature adult. As a man. By failing to enforce their expectations. Similarly. they do nothing. When their sexual needs are neglected by women. The growth of the individual must be taken into account when considering the appropriate amount of pain and pleasure to apply. men not only allow bitch behavior. hypocritical feminist standards. disorderly social interactions will persist. such as hitting and hugging. Even worse. Neglecting your male function will cause everyone in your relationships to suffer. these men neglect to punish dysfunctional behavior they’ve created. men reward women who compete for male authority by praising them as “strong and independent. As people mature. They completely ignore obnoxious insults. most men indulge women with unmerited approval. They offer excessive praise. they require greater amounts of pain and pleasure to shape their behavior.Today. or in psychological and emotional forms such as verbal reprimands and praise. 179 . If you fail to exercise your male authority. Adults require greater pain and pleasure than children.” Such unmerited pleasure creates an entitlement-mentality in women.

You may even delude yourself into thinking that shouting equals enforcing your expectations. If. It’s often a result of built up frustration and resentment. all your empty threats only weaken your authority. If you neglect either. lethal force. Punishment can range from a verbal reaction to poor service (“Give me a refund. get out of my house. it generally indicates an improper exercise of authority. Excusing dysfunctional behavior does not make it go away.”) to your enforcement of a personal boundary (“If you’re going to act like a bitch. Some may view this as barbaric or too harsh. But your punishment will curb the 180 . The gravest wrongdoings as well as the smallest infractions both require punishment. After enough violations have amassed and the frustration becomes too great. the death penalty). however. Consider why people yell in the first place. you’re causing others to fear your authority. Now you are actively enforcing an expectation by applying a sufficient amount of pain to the offender. you spank a child stealing a quarter.”) to society’s enforcement of legal consequences (fines. This means you are responsible for knowing when. Failing to enforce your expectations will result in inward complaining. This allows resentment to build up against the offender. For many people. This indicates a passiveaggressive to enforcing their expectations. But in reality. You may think that by yelling. while yelling may be appropriate for extreme situations. you’re no longer threatening to punish. disorder will result.HoW to PUnisH Whenever you punish someone. yelling is even a substitute for punishment. you will explode like a boiling pot. you should apply a sufficient amount of pain to stop their dysfunctional behavior. The form of pain you chose to punish with will reveal your own state of disorder. where and how much pain to apply. incarceration. For example.

It is one of the reasons why the sales industry is so mentally and emotionally draining for people.corpun. A measured degree of pain must be applied in a specific direction to 6 http://www. you are sending a painful psychological message. This responsible application of pain stops the disorderly behavior from repeating and causes the child to fear the father’s governing authority. the child will experience terror. You can even sound calm and measured while showing disapproval or administering a painful consequence. For example. Order is thus achieved. If.htm 181 . you must administer enough pain to accomplish your goal. This may be accompanied by excessive shame and persistent feelings of worthlessness (not to mention the medical emergency and physical impairment). This indicates a functional exercise of authority. This results in a greater degree of disorder. For example. Only the consistent rewarding of obedience and the strict punishing of dysfunctional behavior will create orderly social interactions. he will create a more disorderly situation.child’s disorderly behavior6. that pain isn’t severe enough to harm the child. HoW MUcH Pain to aPPlY To stop dysfunctional behavior. A child willfully defying his father’s authority merits a painful punishment. however. nor will yelling establish your And idle threats and bribery only undermine your authority. he may have stopped his child from defying his authority. Too much pain will deform responsible discipline into irresponsible abuse. Neither does feeling bad indicate that pain has been misapplied. Yes. it also destroys a healthy relationship. But just feeling bad does not equate to abuse. Rejection feels painful. Putting on a serious face does not automatically guarantee your expectations will be enforced. but because of the severity of the pain inflicted. when you reject a salesman’s offer. the father hits the child with such force as to break a bone. a father spanking his disobedient child is an appropriate punishment. But be most careful here. Although the child may cry while being spanked. Administering such a severe amount of pain is not only dangerous. Abuse occurs when your punishment is either unmerited or too painful.

the message will be ignored. For instance. The fact is. If you grow up in a home where your siblings received appropriate spanks for their misbehavior.create order. Pain serves to benefit the child’s character. The administration of pain and pleasure must always be done with a view toward the goal: bringing about greater order. You must be careful when dealing with anyone under your authority. This is why its important for you to witness functional examples of punishment that create orderly relationships. The parent’s goal is bring that child into a state of order.” for the sake of comedy. so should the pain. And once the dysfunctional behavior ceases. you’re much more likely to develop a healthy. but it’s often less clear what amount of psychological pain should be permissible. The pain you apply must be directed at the dysfunctional behavior—not the person. The goal is not to help these men. Enough pain needs to be applied to make the punishment significant to the child. but rather to profit from their suffering. Consider a child receiving a spanking for bad behavior. no matter how great or small. It’s clear that stabbing someone is inappropriate. will become abusive. To prevent such abusive applications of pain. popular media sanctions emotional “abuse” in the form of beautiful women offering painful ridicule to hapless “losers” and “dorks. 182 . You must learn how to apply fair and measured pain to others with the purpose of bringing them into an orderly condition. functional view of how pain should be applied. Too much pain will cause injury (disorder). their misuse results in serious consequences to your relationships. you’ll develop a very dysfunctional view of how pain should be applied. the parent needs to correct and prevent that dysfunctional behavior from occurring in the future. To do this. If too little pain is applied. On the other hand. If this is not your goal. the parent shouldn’t be administering a dangerous amount of pain that would permanently damage the child. while both physical and psychological pain are necessary to create orderly social interactions. a strict boundary must be drawn. If you’ve grown up in a home where your mother violently hurls objects at your father. your application of pain.

anxiety.. they should never be used. in a relationship.g. A merited amount of pain exposes her disorderly condition and will restore a healthy fear of your authority. Fear needs to be restored to make your authority effective. breaking bones or making death threats may cause a woman to obey you in the future. Applying pain requires great care and should not be taken lightly. As effectively as pain works toward exposing disorder. but the cumulative effects will cause great disorder to many people’s lives. she may walk out the door and come back five minutes later with a tearful apology and a submissive attitude. 183 . unmerited applications of pain should always be avoided. Strongly reprimanding her for disobeying your authority is a painful consequence. But making extreme psychological threats (e. Either way. This will bring about an orderly condition. “I’ll kill you!”) or using physical violence (e. She may defy your authority by asserting her expectation that she doesn’t need to obey you. pain must be applied. This will result in disorder. excessive pain is even more effective at producing disorder. breaking her arm or punching her in the face) are examples of dysfunctional pain. To expose her disorderly condition. Or she may walk out and never come back.For example.g. hatred and possible legal consequences can all accompany the use of excessive pain. In the above example. Merely suggesting a woman meet your expectations does not employ enough pain and will fail to expose her disorderly condition. Since they result in greater disorder. Telling her to leave your apartment is also an extremely painful consequence. if you tell a disorderly woman to leave your home. Only a merited amount of pain has the potential to create order. in the form of legal consequences and physical/emotional injuries. Physical injuries. punching her in the face or threatening to kill her employs irresponsible and dangerous (not to mention illegal) amounts of pain and will likewise increase disorder for everyone involved. you will create more disorder for everyone involved. Only what is merited is functional.. Her dysfunctional expectation is now competing with your functional expectation. Both painful consequences can potentially serve to create order. you may expect your girlfriend to do the dishes. But if you break her arm or threaten to kill her. On the other hand. Thus. you’ve created more order.

Be aware that.Only a merited amount of pain can end disorder. Yelling. how to distinguish between a healthy and unhealthy application. although well-intended. Because society conditions people to believe that dysfunctional behavior (social training) is fundamentally linked to our functional design (humanity). at no time should you break the law or use physical violence or threats of that nature. so should the pain. And because society fails to teach both administers and recipients of pain how to properly apply it. This typically leads to shame in 184 . WHeRe to aPPlY Pain Applying pain to dysfunctional things creates order. And when the disorder ceases. fails to teach people how to distinguish between “nature and nurture. It should be clear that punishing is intended to create order. Society exacerbates this problem through its popular feel-good philosophy: “Accept people for who they are. while applying pain to functional things causes disorder. Pain directed at the wrong location—the person rather than the behavior—causes great damage . throwing pans or causing severe injury are forms of pain that should generally be avoided as they usually indicate a dysfunctional application of authority. But even pain directed at the right location—the dysfunctional behavior—many times still causes problems. when dealing with women. and that the establishment of authority depends upon it. great damage has been caused by both its use and neglect. the result is abuse rather than correction. idle threats. Keep that in mind.” Thus. Many people mistakenly direct pain at the psyche—the person—instead of the person’s behavior. When pain is directed at the person rather than the behavior. a person’s design (humanity) and a person’s upbringing (social training) appear synonymous to the uneducated eye. Pain should never be used as a means of revenge or retaliation. very few are able to separate disapproval (pain) directed at their actions from disapproval directed at their person.” This message.

This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly. But unlike females. so too should the pain. creating competence Functional women and functional friends don’t grow on trees because functional people are trained not found. looking for competence vS. cutting and even suicide. are naturally authoritative by design. maintaining your authority Do not tolerate disorderly behavior from women.312018. WHen to aPPlY Pain As long as disorder/dysfunction exists. In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia.foxnews.8 In light of most people’s inability to separate their social training from their self-esteem. you’re unlikely to find many 7 8 http://www. You must be willing to preserve the integrity of your authority.2933. If you allow a woman to disregard your authority in the hopes of avoiding a confrontation.7 Men. she will lose respect for you. but also to any dysfunctional responses. you aren’t doing yourself any 185 . You will only cause yourself more problems in the long run. This leads to defiant and rebellious behavior. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme manifestation being Eventually that disorder will grow until it breaks down the bond of the relationship.women and resentment in men. disapproval directed at their person elicits feelings of shame. pain should be applied. because that authority is the glue holding the relationship together in the first place.00. on the other hand. If a woman ceases to fear your authority.wikipedia. Since women are naturally submissive by design. Conversely. even at the cost of a relationship.html http://en. Her attraction to you is the next thing to go. as soon as disorder/dysfunction ceases. They respond to ridicule by becoming resentful of its source. pain must be applied not only to dysfunctional behavior. Since training young girls to submit to male authority isn’t exactly a popular trend with parents right now in this feminist society.

they will passive-aggressively try to shame you into adopting them. things will be a lot simpler for you. If women have trouble directly competing for your authority in the first stage. The first stage is rebellion. not your frustration. The sooner you handle violations of your authority. During this phase. It only makes the situation worse. Idle threats and frustrated outbursts are symptoms of neglecting to establish your authority. Learning to get women past the first two stages is the hardest part. you will fail to establish your authority. Where her parents. Be aware that shouting and swearing are not necessary. resentment and frustration. women may question your decisions. Deal with authority violations as soon as possible and in a thorough way. These are all attempts to usurp your male authority. But by recognizing these stages. it’s just not very probable given the dysfunctional influence of feminism. like children. from reBellion to SuBmiSSion. Instead of looking for a needle in a haystack. or when relationship disputes turn violent. in three StageS Women. Though it’s not impossible to find a functional people. you will need to pick up the slack. You will be mischaracterized as a bully to provoke 186 . This prevents the buildup of stress. The goal is to convey sufficient pain. the easier it will be to manage your expectations. compete against your expectations and refuse to respect you. The next stage can be referred to as the passive-aggressive victim stage. orderly relationship environment. peers and society fall short.functional women to date or functional people to befriend. When frustrated parents start screaming at their children. If you fail to apply sufficient pain. usually the problem can be traced back to a much earlier violation of authority that was never addressed. Do not replace pain with the mere threat of pain or passive-aggressive whining/pleading designed to invoke guilt. you will move them toward an orderly state. hanDling authority violationS Avoiding confrontations doesn’t solve the problem of authority violations. Plan on training the friends with whom you interact. you’ll need to start creating your own desirable. This is where your governing authority is challenged. Plan on training the women who come into your life. they will shift gears by adopting a passive-aggressive victim role. If you maintain your expectations by applying pain to this dysfunctional behavior. move toward obedience in three distinct stages. If they cannot aggressively force you to adopt their expectations. functional.

They require order. A submissive woman willingly meets your expectations. Without a proper foundation. without discipline. Yet the common thread linking these males is their inability to directly apply pain. you will fail to induce strong emotional attachment. She no longer tries to usurp your authority. They also need painful incentives. Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. Once a woman reaches a condition of submission. So-called nice guys finish last for good reason. Merely fulfilling a woman’s wants will not meet her need for order. Yet many men are confused when a woman who formerly showed strong interest in them unexpectedly leaves for another man. It is commonly assumed that women invest their deepest emotions when receiving praise and attention.guilt. Approval is the building material of love. reaSoning 187 . They require your loving discipline and merited approval to establish order in their lives. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. Women will accuse you of attacking and hurting them without cause. pain vS. Immature boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. no building can stand. Those untrained to handle confrontation. But discipline provides the foundation. When you resist disorderly responses to your authority and continue to maintain your expectations. If you can only provide one and not the other. women require your functional authority before they will invest their deepest emotions in you. Order attracts. Women need more than just pleasurable incentives. “Why are you being mean to me?” is a common sentiment expressed by passive-aggressive women trying to shame you into relinquishing your authority. emasculated husbands whine about unsympathetic. Women need both. unappreciative wives. This is the crucial stage where a woman falls in love with you. Pleasurable approval encourages women to affectionately accept painful discipline. a woman’s love has no basis. women will have little choice but to move toward the third stage of order—submission. attraction soon follows. Thus. Giving a woman everything she demands does not create attraction despite her claims to the contrary. This is the highest state of order for a woman. Likewise. Pain and pleasure coincide with love and fear.

Men often make the classic mistake of arguing with women instead of applying pain to dysfunctional behavior.972472. disorder requires pain to expose its presence. rational perspective. women’s self-esteem is central to their decision making process.00. Second. For instance. Instead of trying to reconcile the inherent contradictions within many women reading this book allow their anger to override their reasoning faculties. 9 http://www. They assume that providing rational explanations will convince women to change their minds and behaviors.10 A woman’s faculty of reason is subordinate to her emotional state. This makes it virtually impossible to change a woman’s mind by reason alone. they will conveniently overlook arguments exposing painful hypocrisies. men hope to replace pain with reason as a means of changing dysfunctional behavior. self-esteem preservation takes precedence over intellectual honesty. in more stressful. By explaining their expectations in a more thorough way. denying and distorting the truth allows them to avoid feeling bad about themselves.html 188 . more hazardous jobs. they allow their emotions to dictate their conclusions. For women. they end up trying to reason with women to gain their submission.9 As previously discussed. women don’t possess the same reasoning faculty as men.11 The unreliable female reasoning faculty mirrors that of children.time. For =books&qid=1239820854&sr=1-1 10 11 http://glennsacks. As a result. women often complain about unequal wages yet conveniently overlook the fact that men work longer hours. Only disciplined people are reasonable. Since acknowledging hypocrisies causes women to experience painful emotions. Disorderly people are not exposed by reason because reason is developed through http://www.9171. objective conclusions. Rather than approaching this material from an objective. only disciplined people respond to reason. First. They are prone to allow their emotions to influence their decisions. This of course never works. They lack the necessary discipline to arrive at rational. thus. Children lack credibility because their unstable emotions and immature reasoning faculty dictate their perspective.

despite your reasonable explanations. they are unable to acknowledge their disorderly condition. Without applying pain to dysfunctional behavior.duke. irresponsible emotional accusations were made against innocent men as a means of preserving reputations and absolving dysfunctional women of personal responsibility.thesmokinggun. Unreasonable people. David Copperfield14 and Kobe Bryant15 cases. it’s unproductive to reason with dysfunctional women who refuse to submit to your male reasoning with that person proves useless. flaws).edu/lacrosseincident/ 14 http://www. are products of unrestrained emotion. It’s unproductive to explain to a young child why he shouldn’t play in the street until that child has enough discipline to reason effectively.dailyexpress. If a person’s character has not been trained by the disciplining application of 13 The disturbing amount of the false rape accusations16 made by women each year confirms their inability to place reason before emotion.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2004/08/01/EDGIJ7OQKS1. this means a child can’t hear you until he first fears your disciplining authority. in the Duke Lacrosse13. women will refuse to acknowledge your authority. you should focus on exposing their dysfunctional behavior through the application of pain. it’s not productive for men to enable immaturity by accommodating it with unmerited explanations.html 15 http://www.especially when the self-esteem is threatened.sfgate. on the other hand. Because pain has not been applied to their dysfunctional behavior. Practically speaking. not reason. Reason is cultivated through training not intellectual pleading.htm 189 . Adults respond to reason because they have the self-discipline to acknowledge their own dysfunctional behavior (mistakes.12 For example. Children respond to pain. To competently respond to reason. Instead. DTL 16 http://www. shortcomings. 12 http://www. Their willingness to violate your authority with specious emotional arguments is a symptom of your failure to apply sufficient pain to establish your authority. a person first has to be disciplined enough to apply reason.ipt-forensics. Reasonable people have the ability to listen.

actionS Be aware that applying pain only to dysfunctional behavior isn’t good enough. but not in attitude. Be thorough. there is no real submission. will not make it go away. Once a woman’s attitude aligns with her words/actions. no matter how small. You must be sure you have a woman’s full submission before your approval will be appreciated. This is important because sometimes women will submit in words and actions. Sweeping disrespect under the rug. 190 . If you neglect to maintain the integrity of your authority. Before you attempt to reason with a woman. you will be unable to get your expectations met. Nip things in the bud the first time around. a woman will not respond to reason. Although a woman’s outward behavior may meet your expectations. Do not let passive-aggressive attempts to mock your authority slide. When women agree to technically meet your expectations but still offer snide remarks or condescending commentary ridiculing your authority. this means you need to discipline even her attitude. Expect and demand her full submission to your authority. her actions mean nothing. then you know you have her full submission. attituDe vS. check to make sure she first fears your authority: • Does she disapprove of what you say based on her emotions? • Does she repeat arguments you’ve already addressed? • Does she focus on how you make her feel rather than on what you’re actually saying? • Does she ignore points she can’t defend? • Does she constantly mischaracterize the situation? • Does she accuse you of being mean when you don’t agree with her? All these indicate your authority is not yet established. You must first apply discipline to her before reasoning with her will take effect. A woman’s inward attitude is much more important than her outward behavior as the former always dictates the latter. Practically.Without self-discipline. Don’t be fooled by a woman’s physical compliance with your expectations. a rebellious attitude is a more egregious violation of your authority. Pain must be applied to expose her dysfunctional behavior. Without a submissive attitude.

Boyfriends whine about their girlfriends not taking care of their sexual needs. a confrontation inevitably develops between the disapproved expectation and its opposing expectation. being held accountable to their expectation is a terrifying thought. When disapproval and rejection become too terrifying to deal with. Passive-aggRessive PUnisHMent Even men make the mistake of employing passive-aggressive behaviors when trying to take back their authority. To do this. you allow others to avoid even acknowledging your expectation. people resort to passive-aggressive behavior. Allowing people to remain indecisive encourages their disorderly condition to progress. For passive-aggressive men. If you fail to provoke a decision. Because the thought of disapproval/rejection is so upsetting. passiveaggressive men resort to stating their expectations indirectly. If their expectation is disapproved/rejected. they are essentially trying to avoid responsibility. You move them toward meeting your expectation. they feel as if their very person is being disapproved/rejected. This encourages irresponsible behavior. When you allow people to ignore your expectations. 3. husbands complain about unsympathetic. Directly stating an expectation involves the inherent risk of having that expectation disapproved or rejected. your functional expectations should put others to a decision. For this to happen. You cause others to mature by provoking a decision. Yet the common thread linking these emasculated men is their inability to directly apply pain. while avoiding confrontation. fear is required.putting otherS to a DeciSion If properly enforced. pleasure and pain are applied 191 . you make others choose between meeting or not meeting your expectations. 2. Authority’s function is to bring about order. Those untrained to handle confrontation. You give others a reason to fear your authority. The passive-aggressive approach seeks to take authority. By provoking a decision. This causes 3 things to happen: 1. often complain about the very circumstances they help create. you undermine your authority. Teachers fret about their students not fulfilling their duties. When people avoid decisions. And if that expectation is important enough to you. unappreciative wives.

Expectations are replaced by resentful suggestions and clear orders are replaced by an attitude of complaining. Passive-aggressive behavior is expressed through actions or words characterized by complaining and whining. Passive-aggressive speech often takes the form of a question. coMPlaining. Pain is applied to competing expectations in the form of indirect rather than direct disapproval/rejection.simultaneously. taking a man's authority. And men should likewise avoid its use because it prevents them from establishing functional authority. The woman is implying that she “always” submits to the other person's authority. to bribe the other person into forfeiting their authority. Women should not engage in this behavior because it violates their natural position of submission. For example. Pleasure is also applied indirectly. a passive-aggressive man will instead state.” thus taking making himself responsible to his decision. But when these two messages are used indirectly or without warrant. “Always have to” is an indirect token of submission. Applying direct and merited pain establishes authority. whining and pleading are passive-aggressive behaviors that indirectly imply disapproval of a competing expectation. This minimizes the chances of a confrontation occurring. Example 1: Woman: “Why do we always have to go to Taco Bell?” [complaining] Questioning “why” implies disapproval of the expectation to eat at Taco Bell. begging & gUilting Complaining. while applying direct and merited pleasure maintains authority. instead of stating: “I want to go to Del Taco. “Why don’t we ever go to Del Taco?” Such a question places blame on the other party. Further. in a token showing of submission. especially one who is caring for her needs. she implies that she should be given the authority— she should be in charge. Functionally applying pain and pleasure requires a direct and merited application. is extremely dysfunctional. 192 . Rather than stating an expectation directly—which makes you accountable to your decision and risks disapproval from others—men will often try to avoid accountability by placing the blame on the other party. the result is confusion and disorder. It implies that the man has no choice in the matter and is being ruled by the other party’s authority. But since she is a woman.

It's dysfunctional to leave the job of enforcement up to the woman since her natural position is that of submission. If a woman doesn’t fear your authority. When your expectations are in harmony. not on how she affected you (emotionally or otherwise). In the other party eventually becomes disgusted by this passive-aggressive behavior and completely disregards his expectations. it also let’s her know she’s very important to you. This of course results in the other party losing respect for the man.” [guilting] In this example. avoid making this into a therapy session. Letting her know she stresses you out is not only a passive-aggressive attempt to guilt her into changing her behavior. Also. Your focus should remain on your expectation being violated. questioning. This undermines your attempt to reestablish your own authority over her. the last thing you want to do is focus on your emotional investment. just this one time. because this male leaves the decision up to the female. However. feel free to discuss your emotional investment at will. merited pain) to enforce his expectations. like during an argument where your authority hasn’t been established. she won’t care how she affects you.” implies disapproval of the “bitch” behavior. Example 3: Man: “Please do it my way. he's avoiding the application of pain necessary to get his expectation met. The woman has the option of meeting his expectation. Example 4: 193 . But since he is a man. “Do you have to. he resorts to begging the other party to meet his expectations. his design dictates that he should be the one to exercise his authority (by applying direct.Example 2: Man: “Do you have to act like a bitch? [complaining] It makes me so feel so stressed out. Not only is this healthy. You’re essentially validating her authority over you by letting her know how much you’ve emotionally invested in her. Please?” [begging] Since the man is unable to apply pain to enforce his authority. it will also serve to solidify the relationship. But when your expectations are competing with hers. Her emotional affect on you should only be discussed when your expectations aren’t actively conflicting.

while applying excessive pain generates an unhealthy fear (terror). you repeatedly respond to their insults. But since you haven’t established your authority. To the other party. Tyrants and those who oppress others often employ unmerited pain to get their expectations met. You don’t care about me!” [guilting] Here the woman tries to mischaracterize the behavior of the other party. You’re so mean. they couldn’t care less about receiving your approval or disapproval. oPPRessive PUnisHMent Applying an insufficient amount of pain fails to create fear—the basis of establishing functional authority. When that happens. being ignored by you is like being ignored by a chair. For example. thus undermining her intended application of pain.” Her pleasurable hug is actually reinforcing his bad behavior. senDing MixeD signals Many men make the mistake of undermining their authority by applying pain and pleasure simultaneously. You are actually encouraging their insults by rewarding them with attention. This gives them pleasurable attention which validates their behavior. This is akin to a mother trying to reprimand a child who has run into the street by hugging and pleading with him not to “scare mommy. Many problems arise from the conflicting application of pleasure and pain. But while doing so. You feel that ignoring them and becoming distant will send them a clear message: you should feel guilty for hurting me.Woman: “Whenever you don’t pay for my dinner. This can cause serious physical injuries 194 . She’s hoping the other person will begin the never-ending cycle of attempting to justify his behavior to her. you may threaten to ignore someone who is insulting you. This is the basis of oppressive/ tyrannical authority. I get so sad. Passive ignoRing This is when you passive-aggressively react to someone violating your expectations (hurting your feelings for example). It doesn’t matter. she realizes she holds all the authority in the relationship.

. he is reduced to a neurotic state of perpetual a kick to the groin) or indirectly (e. 17 18 http://www.corpun.’ as well as a modern-day Captain Bligh. Take for instance. However. describe her as ‘Horrible Holly. Unlike merited applications of pain which move its recipients toward order.g. Her former crew members . Consider how the law of gravity governs your life. Thus. It does just the opposite. They even cite pseudo-scientific studies to support their assumption. . . oppressive/tyrannical applications of pain cause feelings of confusion and helplessness. This eventually leads to greater disorder in both behavior and perspective. Terror paralyzes but fails to restrict dysfunctional impulses. forcing him to take a “time out” by standing alone in an empty watch room.and psychological disorders. E. a false rumor). One noncommissioned officer said Graf treated him like a toddler. neurotic behavior will develop.. Violating this law by stepping off a cliff can result in grave injury to your body.washingtonpost. But let’s use reason to examine why this fallacy is wrong and extremely damaging to society.. .g. applying unmerited pain is always dysfunctional. a sarcastic remark.htm 195 . this violent consequence of pain doesn’t teach violence. It peacefully stabilizes your relationship with gravity. Since the recipient lacks the means to control his reward or punishment.html http://www.”17 Unmerited applications of pain cause an enormous amount of stress to the recipient. . . . Holy Graf. [she called] them ‘idiots’ and ‘stupid’ as she spat a stream of obscenities. if a child receives arbitrary punishments instead of merited it can still damage the physical and psychological health of the recipient.. Many dysfunctional women fall under this category. a naval commander who was relieved after humiliating members of her crew: “. Your fear of violating the law of gravity is healthy because it keeps you safe. Regardless of whether unmerited pain is applied directly (e.g. tHe Pain FallacY Some people have argued that spanking as a form of discipline18 is not only abusive but also teaches children to react with violence.

For example: • “I’m going to kill you if you do that again. Ridicule differs from functional disapproval/rejection in that the person rather than the behavior becomes the cutting and even suicide20. it generates two dysfunctional responses: shame and resentment. You cannot depend on women’s validation alone as a litmus of your authority.newsweek. you must not allow women’s immature ultimatums (“You’ll never get laid unless you give me my way”) to influence your 196 . Because ridicule is a condescending and demeaning form of rejection/disapproval. Learning to apply balanced pain and pleasure requires practice. inconsistent and inappropriate application of pain and pleasure are the real culprits. The resulting disorder is attributed to the choice of tool when in reality. they typically respond to ridicule by becoming ashamed. In extreme cases this can lead to bulimia.” • Pointing a gun at someone RiDicUle This involves speech or action intended to cause contemptuous laughter at a person or thing. Women begin to resent the part of themselves that they perceive to be causing the most shameful feelings.aspx http://en. This problem is further exacerbated by the application of pleasure when pain is required and vise versa. Just as a disciplining parent must ignore childish threats (“If you punish me I won’t love you”).The problem is not with the fact that pain is being administered but rather its inconsistent and inappropriate application19. Many parents create disorderly conditions by inconsistently applying pleasure and pain to their children. This resentment turns to anger directed inwardly.wikipedia. Since women are naturally submissive by design. It is a common device used in political and social satire. 19 20 http://blog. tHReats Threats convey retaliation rather than correction and are often extreme or irrational in nature.

you’re not lying. For example: • • • • • • • • “I didn’t realize they started letting blind women drive. I don’t think you’re fat at all. Tom begins to focus on his behavior while ignoring Jane’s dysfunctional reasoning. They response to ridicule by becoming angry at its source. male hatred is generally turned outward at what they perceive to be the source of ridicule—the most extreme result being murder (ref columbine shooters bullied).” *Sneering look* “why are you even talking to me?” Mimicking/mocking behavior Belittling/condescending remarks MiscHaRacteRization Women commonly employ this dysfunctional type of accusation against men. They subtly undermine authority and make valid communication impossible until addressed.] Jane: Oh so now I’m a liar too? [mischaracterization] Tom: No. Addressing mischaracterizations proves to be a losing battle as dysfunctional women do not rely on accuracy. the more they’re manipulated into seeking the approval of the accuser. on the other hand. The more men try to justify themselves by answering the mischaracterizations. leading to defiant and rebellious behavior. Jane: Oh you think I’m fat?! Great. facts or reason. [justifying position to address mischaracterization. I was just trying to say I don’t like you wearing that short skirt. are naturally authoritative by design.Men. Mischaracterizations cause men to focus on their behavior—attempting to justify it—while ignoring the behavior of the accuser. For example: Tom: I don’t like that skirt. When faced with mischaracterizations. men feel compelled to defend their position by constantly justifying themselves. wearing men down. You have no style.” “Liberals love a good professional victim speech. But unlike females. [mischaracterization] Tom: No. [trying desperate to justify himself to Jane’s 197 . I never said that. Mischaracterizations are often endless and overwhelming. It shows too much skin.” “Are you still living in your Mommy’s basement?” “Why are you such a loser?” “That shirt is gay.

From the message sent to our brain when we stub our toe to the message society sends to criminals who break the law to the message a guilty conscience sends to a thief. must confess Like any other tool.] Mischaracterizations are a category of distortions (self-defense mechanisms) designed to preserve the self-esteem by shifting fault away from the offender. ceases her tantrum • A smoker crippled by emphysema. or it can be wantonly abused to damage and destroy. must stop • A screaming child spanked by a parent. DiRect PUnisHMent Pain functions as an indicator of disorder/dysfunction. pain functions to motivate others to move away from disorder/dysfunction. DisagReeMent [“No”. As a valuable corrective tool. pain’s effectiveness is subject to the person applying it. when we apply it to others.mischaracterizations— a never-ending battle] Jane: Why are you yelling at me? [The mischaracterizations never end. It can be responsibly applied to correct and instruct. toward a state of order/ function. we are letting them know that disorder/dysfunction is being expressed and need to be removed/stopped. stop destroying property • A widow missing a spouse. Similarly. Tom will soon exhaust himself trying to meet Jane’s dysfunctional expectations. When we feel the sting of pain. The resulting condition of a recipient of pain indicates which whether the application is functional or dysfunctional. can no longer smoke • Rioters subdued by the police. “That’s wrong”. ceases to ruin society • A murderer suffering from a guilty conscience. pain motivates everything to change: • An exhausted athlete experiencing injury. must find comfort • Feminism exposed by the truth. “I disagree”] 198 . we know a disorderly condition exists in our behavior. condition or position.

” • “Tyra Banks is an annoying bitch. “Be quiet.This can take be expressed through your body language (e.g. The more an expectation is ignored. 199 . Every guy hates girls that act like that. This can be accomplished by refusing to acknowledge a person or an expectation.” DisaPPRoval/Rejection This is akin to scolding a misbehaving child. Do you understand?” • “Do not waste my time. the more powerless the ignored person feels. This pain can be enhanced by associating the unwanted behavior with a some other socially despised element. shaking your head). Get here on time.” • Damaging someone’s reputation. Only dorks and losers with no social life hang out there.g.” • “Stop wasting time on Facebook. • “Don’t ever disrespect me in front of my friends.” Interrupting. This is because they other person values your approval and disapproval. This means you’ve already established your authority. This painful shaming produces guilt.” “No. It reminds me of a butch dyke trying to be a man. “No”) or both. Ignoring only works when the other person is emotionally invested in you. verbal cues (e. If you ignore someone who doesn’t care about your approval. For example: • “It’s such a turn off when you try to act all tough.. For example: • • • • • “Stop!” “Don’t do that. Disapproval/rejection is a powerful application of pain.” “That’s wrong. it won’t matter to them.” ignoRing Removing your attention sends the message that the person or expectation being ignored is beneath your consideration. E. The message should be clear—you disapprove of her actions/behavior/attitude.g. Don’t ever let me catch you doing that again...

or continue talking to a friend] Guy: [feeling deflated and awkward that you haven’t responded. blacks are dysfunctionally associated with crime and poverty. keeping attention focused on something else. bald. white men are dysfunctionally associated with corporate greed. For example. you need to stick to more active applications of pain. You: [ignoring threat] Guy: Hey! I’m talking to you! You: [continuing to ignore person. These problematic associations create dysfunctional perspectives. 200 . For example: • • • • “You don’t have to listen to me—Get out Warning a child to behave or be spanked A police officer tazing a disorderly man resisting arrest Dumping a woman who refuses to acknowledge your authority Using negative associations Society creates all sorts of dysfunctional associations.If your authority isn’t yet established (meaning you’re not able to get your expectations met with this person). Asians are dysfunctionally associated with bad driving and old. Example 1: Guy: I’m going to kick your ass. You: I’m going to get some pizza [not acknowledging comment and not giving girl any attention] Girl: [feeling awkward/less socially valuable and now more willing to meet your expectations] enFoRcing conseqUences Consistently enforcing your expectations causes others to fear your authority. Example 2: Girl: I don’t like that shirt you’re wearing.

In this case. This makes it 201 . you expose and break the negative association. which then allows you to replace her expectation with your own. you should reward her with your approval. Essentially. Instead of focusing on your lack of income/social status. Instead of focusing on your shortcomings as a foreigner. If she accepts it. let’s suppose a woman tells you that your height is unattractive. The same principles apply. weight.Oprah’s disastrous advice to women and feminism’s damaging social policies are dysfunctionally associated with positive change and growth. For example. shift focus onto the unattractive behavior of gold diggers/shallow people. Not only can it be used to get your expectations met. “I love girls who aren’t stuck up and judgmental. Lastly. you should apply pain to expose it. you’ve validated your own expectation. appearance. to establish your expectation.” Here. This removes the authority of her expectation. etc. Creating a negative association with her expectation applies pain. it’s important to validate it with your approval. you are removing her authority and establishing yours in its place. Validating her behavior serves to maintain your authority and encourages submission. you’ve made your lack of height into a perfectly acceptable attribute. Dysfunctional associations inhibiting social interaction need to be broken. By first applying pain. Then you replace her expectation with your expectation. but it can also be applied to break these dysfunctional associations. you can simply shift focus onto your expectation by undermining the authority of her expectation. I don’t care how tall you are as long as you have a good personality. “I don’t mind talking to a tall Amazon women as long as you don’t try to act like a guy. Your authority is the key. This also acts to establish your authority over her. shift focus onto the unattractive nature of racism. Now.). it’s no longer a matter of you being too short—she’s too tall. Because this dysfunctional association prohibits your social interaction. That’s so unattractive” Here you’ve changed the focus from meeting her expectation to meeting your expectation. Instead of focusing on the negative association (height.

• “I don’t know how you can watch that movie. It’s helpful to explain. not as warranted but merely because you’re in a bad mood. Until this is dealt with. specifically. the element of social pressure if very powerful in influencing the behavior of others. tHe necessit Y oF ReWaRDing Pain and pleasure work together like a pair of legs moving in the same direction. Both legs must function properly for the entire body to move forward. When others meets your expectations. If either leg experiences a problem. your ability to apply pleasure effectively is compromised. you need to apply pleasure. This can be done with a hug. Your individual disapproval of a certain behavior may be painful. Most Americans can’t stand foreign films. For example: 202 . especially women. any praise or reward you offer must compete with the underlying resentment a person feels toward your previous application of unmerited pain. but the disapproval of a large group is unbearable to most. if either incentive is misapplied. For example. Now. you undermine any complementary element of pleasure you may apply later on down the line. Pain and pleasure must be applied at the appropriate time to get your expectations met in an orderly way. the entire walking process is thrown off. verbal praise or other pleasurable incentive. We (our city) don’t like tourists. Now your application of pain is compromised and rendered ineffective. It’s a total turn off. aPPlYing social PRessURe People. The same goes for the reverse situation where unmerited pleasure is indiscriminately applied as a bribe to curb bad behavior in lieu of confronting it with pain. if you ruthlessly belittle and criticize a person’s behavior. how she met your functional expectation to identify what exactly warrants a pleasurable reward. Telling your friend you hate a particular food is not as painful as hearing a group of people say it. Similarly. quickly bow to social pressure. Thus.” • “All guys hate it when you act stuck up.much easier to get your expectations met in the future. it will have a negative effect on its counterpart.” • You need to observe the dress code around here.

The entire concept is foreign to them. As a man. neglecting to apply sufficient pleasure also results in disorder. That’s sexy![praise the result]. Don’t underestimate the necessity of pleasure when enforcing your expectations. The pain section is longer because many men already reward women. Yet. Just because this section is shorter in length that the pain section doesn’t mean it is less important. I love that about you! [praise girl for meeting functional expectation] That turns me on when you act like a woman. this does not mean pain is more important than pleasure. Again. When a woman submits to your authority by meeting your functional expectations. Not like most chicks today who try to act like men. Both are equally important. Women have few men to instruct them. Both prove necessary to make your authority functional. If meeting your expectations becomes a miserable chore. 203 . she should be rewarded with pleasure. so it needs to be thoroughly covered. to lead them. even for bad behavior. Today’s women turn to prescription drugs in record numbers to alleviate the symptoms of a malnourished identity—one that lacks the guidance of male authority. I like the guy taking charge [functional expectation] You: See. She needs an adequate reward to provide an incentive for her continued submission. This reinforces good behavior and meets a woman’s need for pleasure.You: Men should be in charge [functional expectation] Girl: Yeah. And a sufficient amount of pleasure needs to be applied to maintain that orderly behavior. Your authority is not maintained by making idle threats or employing irresponsible methods of bribery. Just as neglecting to apply sufficient pain results in disorder. It’s not enough to nod your head in agreement if a woman is meeting your expectations. Without it. They need the pleasurable attention of men to function properly. they have no idea how to employ pain in a productive way. it’s your job to reward functional submission. Women are naturally insecure and incomplete without men. Psychological disorders such as panic attacks or chronic anxiety stem from a lack of corrective male authority. It depends on a careful administration of merited pain and merited pleasure. women suffer greatly. A sufficient amount of pain needs to be applied to gain a woman’s full submission. this indicates a problem with your authority.

to discipline them and to provide them with pleasurable attention. Dysfunctional “bitch” behavior persists because society punishes women who don’t act like bitches. By directing and rewarding the functional behavior you expect from her. A $20/hr. you become the antidote to feminism’s damaging influence upon her life. You must put a stop to this dysfunctional cycle. women are like leaves blowing in the winds of their own emotions and society’s dysfunctional messages. HoW to ReWaRD Pleasure can take many forms. Since women need affirming attention. you need to counteract these harmful messages by directing women with functional messages and then rewarding them with pleasurable attention. If you plan on investing your attention. make sure 204 . Paying attention to someone is like giving them a dollar bill. if a woman isn’t acting “strong and independent. women who don’t wear makeup are made to feel ugly. they adopt bitch behavior as a means of gaining support and acceptance. But like pain. one party will dole out unmerited pleasure without end while receiving nothing in return. Pleasure provides the incentive necessary to perpetuate social interactions. The attention a spouse receives causes loving reciprocation. Without it.” she is scolded by her peers for showing weakness. belittling their natural appearance. A warm smile and a tender hug brings joy to a child. conversations become stale. Unfortunately. wage compels an employee to work. Such uneven exchanges fail to result in mutually satisfying social interactions. attention Your attention is like money. Today’s feminist society punishes functional women. Pleasure should be used to foster mutual participation in a social interaction. For example. Without these necessities. Healthy dependence on men should be affirmed and rewarded. Instead exchanging incentives. too many people use pleasure as bribe. relationships become prisons and interacting with others becomes a chore. the application of pleasure can be abused. As a man. The makeup industry sends dysfunctional messages to women. Only pleasure that creates order and maintains the integrity of your authority should be administered.

What did the trip mean to you. But the general rule of thumb still applies: if you’re not getting back the pleasure you’re investing in another person. Stop looking at her. if you’re paying attention to a woman at a bar. you should stop giving her pleasure. body language. at that point. Your word choices. The trip itself isn’t that important. Extreme cases of attention deprivation (cabin fever or solitary confinement in prison) reveal how just how important human contact is to a person’s well being. Of course. etc. Women require a certain amount of pleasure from a stranger. STOP INVESTING. The better you’re able to relate those experiences to others—through the use of analogies. the pleasurable reciprocation will be almost immediate. 205 . the more valuable your attention (pleasure) becomes to others. sHaRing YoUR exPeRiences Your person is conveyed to others whenever you express the experiences you go through. the other person may encourage you to keep speaking to them by smiling while you talk. this is not to say that you should immediately expect her to reciprocate your pleasurable attention. The more competent your application of pain. Stop interacting with her. People need human attention in order to live happy.) If you are not receiving pleasure from her. Other times. For example.e. I. What is important is how you experienced that trip. selection of subject matter. healthy lives. they will suffer mental illness. especially a guy they’ve just met. For example. In some cases. voice inflection. as incentive to start interacting. Not all exchanges of pleasure will happen simultaneously. sharing the fact that you went on a trip to Africa isn’t too pleasurable because you’re simply conveying objective information that countless other people have already conveyed throughout time. Your attention is valuable because it meets the social needs of others. you will need to invest 15 minutes of pleasurable attention before you start seeing steady dividends pay off in the form of pleasurable reciprocation. facial expressions. Stop talking to her. and an orderly arrangement of words and ideas—the more pleasure you provide to your get a satisfying return on your investment. touching you or asking you questions about yourself. emotional content and arrangement of events really tell the story about you. etc. Without it. stop paying attention to her. you should expect some form of pleasurable reciprocation (her giving you a warm smile and participating in the conversation.

For example: • “Good job!” • “That’s so sexy.” • “I like that. the more I’m attracted to you. For example: • • • • • • • Hugging Kissing Holding hands Grabbing a friend by the shoulders Touching the head Stroking the hair Softly punching or pulling the arms or body PRaise Expressing verbal or physical approval lets women know specific behaviors are desirable and should be continued. Learning how to effectively share your experiences with others is a major key to creating pleasurable incentives. as an audience member. This will determine whether or not the audience derives pleasure from your experience. this typically incites you to show them affection.. the more vivid the picture you create. can’t relate to your experience. Or if you fail to show me what it’s like to experience Africa from your point of view. I. Even being in the presence of close friends often moves you to touch them. indicating your approval. If I.e. meaning the content isn’t as important as how you convey the content. For example: 206 . aFFection When your wife or girlfriend provides you with pleasure in the form of love.” PRovision Meeting the physical necessities of those submitting to your authority. you provide little incentive for me to continue interacting with you.The trip to Africa and many other experiences are simply vehicles to convey yourself to others. I lose the enjoyment of it.

That’s rare. That’s such a turn on!” • “Girls that don’t nag and love to please their man sexually are able to keep a man around. • “This dinner tastes like a gourmet chef made it. picnic. All people need approval/ acceptance to maintain a healthy psychological state.” • Encouraging and showing support loving Sacrificing something of yourself to benefit another person is the ultimate reward. • “Your work is really impressive. For example: • “You remind me of a porn star because you’re not uptight and you know what to do to make a man happy. see how everybody listens to you. positive associations can be made to encourage and reinforce functional/good behavior. Using Positive associations Like negative associations. That’s how the pros do it.” • “You follow directions like one of those super hot geisha girls. tR aining YoUR exPRession 207 .• • • • • • • Wages for work accomplished Gifts Resources Planning a romantic event (dinner.” aPPRoval/accePtance This is the opposite of disapproval/rejection. a trip.” • Recognition for achievement.” • “When you’re direct. a date) Protection Shelter Clothing giving attention Giving someone your attention or listening and addressing an expressed concern.

Orderly social communication conveys your thoughts. the way others respond to you is indicative of how much or how little you’ve progressed toward an orderly condition. major improvement requires external training. coMPonents oF an oRDeRlY exPRession Communication is necessary to create order in your environment and in other people. being vague. through your face. specifically your reactions to it. Communication is not about conveying information. If your expression is not attracting others. can be dangerous and is detrimental to social interaction.ReMoving DisoRDeR FRoM YoUR exPRession An orderly expression naturally attracts others and encourages them to respond positively. emotion and body language. Good expression comes from good training. yelling fire in a crowded theater or employing poor grammar are examples of different types of disorderly communication. word choices. Disorderly communication is unattractive. Many people make the mistake of neglecting to speak if they have no new information to convey. mumbling voice are expressions of disorder resulting from a lack of proper social training. What you read in print is no substitute for real social interaction. it’s disorderly. Being able to convey how and why you experience something causes others to become attracted to the orderly social experience you create. An orderly expression conveys your experience of the world. Lying about your intentions. The interest is created through your 208 . Although you can make small improvements in your expression. Merely sharing a chronology of events does not convey much about your condition. using sarcasm. voice tone. They fail to realize that new information is not as stimulating as how you personally experience the information you receive. lack of eye contact and a monotone. Therefore. we provide the following simply as a guideline for good expression. It’s not necessary to travel to exotic places to have something interesting to say. It’s about conveying and facilitating order. People want to know what type of arrangement and order you bring to your experiences. confusing. Hence. Slouching shoulders. Someone more competent than you must expose the disorder in your expression to bring it back into a functioning (attractive) order. then by definition. feelings and honest reactions to your experiences. giving bad advice.

When you convey your reactions to your experiences. They disapprove of your nervous ticks.experience of things. We need social interaction. not the actual experience itself.” You have a history of belittling yourself. As a result. This is normal. you create your own internal messages of disapproval: “She thinks I’m disgusting. other people disapprove of your behavior. As a result of receiving so much external disapproval. people will simply ignore you. Although people commonly attempt to share their experiences with others. instead of saying something rude. I’m an ugly guy and could never date a cute girl. But with practice. aPPRoacH anxietY Many new situations make us uncomfortable. the more attractive and competent your expression becomes. regardless of whether their comments are directed at you. So how do you remedy this? Approval. You don’t know what to say. I’ll never get a girlfriend. In fact. you will read all kinds of negative messages about yourself into what people are saying or doing. The more vividly you convey your reactions. they fail to bring the other person into that experience. Your personal arrangement of the experience matters. everyone probably feels the same way about me. You don’t know how to get your expectations met. We are social by nature. A major obstacle to social interaction is not knowing what to do. When girls give me the cold shoulder. This may not always be obvious. you are creating an orderly social interaction. A properly conveyed reaction allows the other person to join in and connect with your experience. You don’t know how to respond to people. it’s because I’m just not physically hot enough. The disapproving voice in your head will turn every message into a damaging attack on your worth as a person. or whether their criticisms are valid. It’s okay to be nervous. They snub your efforts to socialize. you will realize that meeting people is a good thing. You don’t know where your hands go. You don’t know how to initiate conversations. In short. excited or uncomfortable when talking to a stranger. And because you are not socially competent. I might as well settle for some big chubby chick because that’s the best I can do. speech and clothing. many times. 209 . you don’t know to socialize.

Instead of relying on each other as healthy socialization dictates. the more often you will receive acceptance and approval from others.More specifically. Feminism’s emasculating culture not only ridicules functional male behavior. Parents no longer teach their boys how to wield their male authority to properly care for women. the more you will begin to realize: I can be valuable. This explains why women today covet male strength and independence while men foolishly neglect their authority and often feel ashamed of their own sexuality. Women are conditioned to believe they have no value to society apart from acquiring male strength and intelligence. Neither do they teach their girls how to submit to male authority so that women may be in a position to receive male care. Men are shamed. Thus a competitive relationship is fostered between men and women. But there are barriers to getting that validating response. you need to become competent at social interaction. resources. And the more a man has been victimized by feminist ideology. The more you are approved and accepted by others. more importantly. the more motivated you’ll be to interact with others. Instead of healthy gender distinctions. the more shameful and awkward he 210 . the feminist educational system indoctrinates unsuspecting children with its gender homogenization ideology. etc. Women are coddled. Men. And the more often you feel good. some will be more difficult to interact with than others. but strips away the very means for men to become functional. The more competently you can express yourself and bring others into your experience. the more a woman has been indoctrinated with feminism. This means you need to become functional as a man. are ridiculed for their sex drive while their accomplishments are belittled. The more often you lead and exercise your authority to meet your expectations. status. To elicit approval from others. the more adverse her initial reaction to male authority will be. Since both genders vary in their degree of dysfunction. Approval makes you feel good. the more incentive you give people to talk to you. For example. Today. children are taught they cannot be valuable or “equal” unless they perform the same roles as the other gender. necessary to create a successful social interaction. approval. you need to elicit external approval from other people. men and women now compete against one other for jobs. on the other hand. Why? Because functional male behavior is attractive and.

canDoR Candor is more than honesty. Although you may get nervous. which further causes me to realize how valuable my authority is to them. It will keep you realistic. to lead them in the right direction. I experience practically zero nervousness approaching women because I can lead and exercise authority over them. It’s time to start realizing that there is value to be found in your male function. No matter how many times insecure women try to scold or shame you to protect their fragile self-esteem. A person can only become as candid as their realization allows. This requires training. Today. Your expression must be fully developed before such difficult women will approve of you being in charge. the functional you. you must remember: you are valuable to women when you exercise your male function. Your goal should still be to fully develop your male expression and authority. Women will always need your male function for the simple fact that they lack the direction that only men can provide. nothing could be further from the truth. Many guys fall for the myth that women are “strong and independent” and don’t need men. genuine and 211 . the cure to approach anxiety is to develop competent social skills—the ability to express and exercise proper authority over women. This causes women (and men) to approve and accept me. This is a simple yet profound fact. Exposing disorder naturally leads to candor—an open.feels trying to get his expectations met or expressing himself. at times. Men and women need you. so you can exercise it in any situation. You are depicted as a mere convenience rather than a necessity. they more candid their expression. model or fast-food worker. The clearer they become regarding what is dysfunctional and functional. Ultimately. It will give you the permission slip to talk to any woman—rock star. It is the admission of all types of disorder and the recognition of one orderly way. You must be able to enforce your authority before men will listen to your views. This is not a “power of positive thinking” statement. It is the proper removal of all the wrong perspectives and the adoption of the one functional view. your realization about the value of male authority to women will become your anchor. But.

it provides pleasure to those moving away from disorder. an orderly expression is like sunshine. Because your ability to convey yourself in an orderly way creates a pleasurable experience.g. if people are exposed to it long enough. Even though women are often shocked by honesty and openness. It lets that person know you care enough about them to share yourself through your experiences. An orderly expression will improve the expression of those exposed to it. 212 . Your orderly expression provides pleasurable stimulation to the recipient. if you regularly communicate with a friend and that friend fails to move toward order. Candor gives others a pleasurable incentive to meet your expectations. others will value your expectations and be open to meeting them. they cannot deny the attractive nature of an orderly expression full of candor. their own expression improves and becomes more attractive. As a result.. an expression that follows this principle is also inherently attractive. orderly expression is crucial to forming satisfying relationships.. your own expression lacks order. it will act as a light bulb—shining but producing no change. hiding your disorderly condition) and other irresponsible.orderly expression. An orderly expression conveys order to its recipients and directs them toward order. sarcasm). eFFects oF an oRDeRlY exPRession An orderly expression encourages its recipients to improve their own expression. Thus. Since order is attractive. It’s like a carefully arranged painting or a well composed song bringing enjoyment to the listener. and you are not applying pain to discourage disorderly behavior. while candor is painful to dysfunctional people. it also facilitates order in others. they cannot help but get a tan.g. A candid person conveys order and is free of double meanings (e. disorderly forms of communication. But if your expression has only the outward appearance of order. You are not applying pleasure to encourage orderly behavior. their own poor expression is exposed. To put it another way. When people see someone employing good expression and receiving positive responses. Conveying your expression in an orderly way shows approval for the listener. distortions (e. Not only is candor attractive because of its orderly nature. Your expression will change them by virtue of its function.. mischaracterizations). lies.g. denial (e. Additionally. This motivates them to emulate the orderly elements of the other person’s expression.

and then there are these little strands that curl off of it.. This reaction is attractive because it more plainly conveys the genuine experience of the speaker and demonstrates solid candor. I have a crush on your hair. attractive candor that’s conducive to orderly social interaction. But the thought isn’t developed. It conveys a more personal reaction and introduces an expectation. They remind me of some fashion magazine cover where the hair is perfectly arranged like a little piece of art. It invites the woman to identify with the personal reaction. It’s still very generic and neglects to explore the depth of the speaker’s personal reactions to his experiences. inviting. I like your long hair. creating a dynamic shared experience on the spot.” This is a step up from the more common guarded. I feel like I’m talking to the cover in real life. but since you’re here in person. Example #3: “Hey. Your hair is making me think dirty thoughts. I picture it smelling like coconuts or something sweet. I like how your hair is straight in some places. It gives me a nice ‘ahhhhhh’ feeling deep inside like when you eat a warm chocolate chip cookie right out of the oven.exaMPles oF an oRDeRlY exPRession The following are four examples of expression.” Although sparse.” Here. The same principle applies when describing your experiences. the speaker has become completely transparent with his feelings and reactions to seeing this woman with whom he’s interested in starting a conversation. Even though it seems like a perfectly fine openended question designed to spark conversation. It makes me happy. it lacks candor. from most disorderly to least disorderly. generic salutation above. Example #4: “Wow. Example #2: “Hey. you’re cute. I want to tug on it and kiss your neck. how are you?” This is a common disorderly expression which undermines healthy social interaction. This also demonstrates powerful. this is a much better expression of personal reaction to an experience. Example #1: “Hello. They represent varying degrees of competence applied to the exact same situation of a male approaching a female. I want to touch your hair and feel how soft it is. I want to talk to you. For 213 ... It also conveys very little personal reaction and fails to lead the interaction toward meeting an expectation.

The resulting message attracts others because it displays order and provides psychological stimulation. Merely reporting facts offers relatively little stimulation. Practice giving your reactions without being prompted or asked questions.” The former conveys your reaction to an experience. Your writing should primarily consist of conveying your experience rather than conveying information. Practice expressing your reactions to experiences rather than just conveying a laundry list of things that happened to you. Contrast this with the following example: “The chocolate ice cream was so delicious. It had this smooth texture and reminded me of a chocolate waterfall. It should also follow the principles outlined above.” This merely informs us the experience occurred. minus your all-important personal reaction. Remember. You initiate. It requires very little arrangement of your thoughts and reactions to that experience. avoid all-encompassing adjectives like “good” and “bad” which don’t describe your reactions in detail. as the man. I want to start gnawing on the roof and eat up the entire store like Godzilla destroying Japan. As previously stated. I like the smell of chocolate. It communicates your thoughts and feelings in a personalized arrangement. you are the stimulus. People can get the same information reading a book. It’s kind of exciting because it reminds me of this chocolate store near my house that looks like a gingerbread village. This facilitates an orderly social interaction. This creates an 214 . depending on your arrangement of those experiences. The latter only conveys information. Take the lead during the interaction to share your reactions to the things in your world.example: “I ate ice cream. “I love ice cream” is much better than “people love ice cream because of its delicious flavor. WRitten exPRession Your written expression needs to be concise. The things you experience don’t have to be fascinating to be stimulating. Your reaction to the most mundane experiences can stimulate others. Be sure to speak about your experience in the first person. clear and should obey the major rules of grammar.” This describes your reaction to an experience. The degree of your experience is often much more meaningful than the experience itself. Whenever I see it.

Writing down your ideas forces you organize and structure your thoughts in a clear. As a man with authority.attractive order for the reader. “I guess”. it’s also necessary to have others critique your writing to examine your strengths and weaknesses. It means you’re more concerned with meeting the expectations of others rather than expressing your own. which you can then incorporate into your own expression.. as with any other type of expression. It’s not only important to read great books as a means of absorbing proper writing structure. “maybe we should. you need to bear the responsibility of a decision to create order in your expression. expose you to more competent expression and introduce you to new ideas. How you say something conveys a lot about your condition. oRal exPRession Orderly oral expression requires clarity and training. Over time. Here are some practical steps to accomplish this: • Reading books will expand your vocabulary. Avoid a monotone delivery which masks how you experience the world. • Solicit feedback from others. this will naturally expand to reflect your writing development and competence. Be clear. Phrases like “I don’t know”. Don't rush through what you have to say. Be direct. • Start a blog. Align the tone and inflection of your voice with your intention and 215 . meaningful way that others can appreciate. A monotone voice indicates anxiety over saying the wrong thing. regardless of the subject matter. “um” and “ugh” all convey your lack of order. Mumbling shows you don’t respect what you have to say. Enunciate your words. it's doubtful others will. Convey your authority in your speaking. “kinda”. • Consulting a dictionary and thesaurus will improve your reading comprehension and expand the depth of your communication. This lets others know your expectations matter.. hence the reason you have trouble creating attraction. “sorta”. This also improves your oral communication. Slow down. If you don't respect your own words. Create a daily habit of writing down a few paragraphs every day.”. Improving your writing. requires training.

Practically. • Avoid fidgeting with your hands or holding onto your own arms. Men who speak with authority are perceived as valuable along with their expectations. Make sure you: Keep eye contact with the person you’re addressing. women respond according to your expectations. Tone and inflection are analogous to written punctuation marks. you need to learn to speak with authority. emphatically drawn out voice tone is the equivalent of typing. However. Thus. Train your body language to convey an orderly (attractive) expression conducive to social interaction. To remedy this. Good body language requires training like anything else and reflects the condition of your authority. Avoid letting your eyes dart from person to person. Don't slouch. Relying on 216 . when you hesitate. They direct meaning and convey nuances and degrees of experience. Practice acknowledging and greeting each person in the group with your eye contact rather than fleeing from their gaze the moment they look back. Saying. Merely suggesting submission as one option tells people your expectations don’t matter to you. If you want to get your expectations met. Voice tone and inflection are not about variety.emotions. shoulders back. • Look directly at people instead of staring at them out of your peripheral vision. Move your eyes slowly from person to person to acknowledge and greet. “I loooove pizza.” with a slow. women respond according to their expectations or the dominant social expectations around them. meeting your expectations will become optional as well. Avoid letting your feet touch when you stand up straight. I love pizza!!! sPeaking WitH aUtHoRitY When you speak with authority. When speaking to a group. you need to learn to speak definitively when expressing your expectations to others. this means removing the question mark from your voice and applying a verbal period to your expectations. chest out. acknowledge the entire group with eye contact. • Avoid drinking alcohol as a means of social lubrication. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart. Authority requires submission. boDY langUage Your body language conveys how much or how little you've moved toward order. • Stand up straight.

This in turn makes you feel good. Smiling is also difficult if you’re extremely introverted from lack of social practice. • Avoid squeezing your body tightly into itself. Give yourself permission to maintain a comfortable space around you. PHYsical aPPeaRance Your own facial symmetry reveals the attractive principle of order. It quickly draws in strangers and provides a pleasant incentive to continue speaking. 217 . in our verbal expression or in our physical bodies attracts us. Maintain your personal space. Granted some men were born with deviated septums. Avoid squishing your arms against your body. • Avoid constantly shifting your body weight from foot to foot. a warm smile greets people like a physical hug. A functional perspective always conveys an uplifting feeling to others. The bad news: it’s very difficult to fake a warm smile because it involves your whole face. giving others a strong incentive to talk to you. use your hands and arms to enhance what you're saying. • Avoid holding objects in your hands when speaking. Order in any form. • When appropriate. you’ll always have a reason to smile. If you work to maintain a gracious attitude. you have something to smile about. especially avround your shoulders and neck. reinforces what you're attempting to express. you receive their approval. This is why an orderly appearance is important. it would break the specific facial symmetry associated with humans. When you give others an enjoyable social experience. Drawing with your hands or using gestures to indicate something relevant. especially if your attitude is full of resentment or self-pity. This will be difficult at first. nose and mouth all follow a designated pattern of size and spatial arrangement. whether in nature. Your attitude really dictates the emotional message conveyed through your smile.“liquid courage” or other mood-altering substances will inhibit your ability to socialize without crutches. As a result. The good news: the better you get at social interaction. If your eyeball was an inch lower or an inch bigger. • Greet people with a smile. This just gives you another reason to fidget and becomes an artificial security blanket. the more reason you’ll have to smile. This breach of orderly design naturally repels rather than attracts. Your eyes. But just as a firm handshake conveys interest. A functional perspective governs the attitude you bring to your social interactions. A warm smile is even more attractive than a handsome face. even if your situation is depressing.

this does not mean you should neglect your physical appearance entirely. Practicing good hygiene contributes to maintaining an orderly physical appearance. Cut your finger and toe nails. However. work to maintain a clean. Brush your teeth and shower daily. Wash your clothes. Being stylish is unnecessary (not to mention a pointless preoccupation with a dysfunctional social expectation). Comb your hair.crooked teeth and misaligned eyes. But if you’re unable to exercise your authority. Properly exercising your authority can accomplish much more than a pair of designer jeans. all the fashion sense in the world and a strong Brad Pitt jawline will never supersede the attractive appeal of an authoritative man. Shave if necessary. the order generated from properly exercising your male authority actually stimulates women much more than your physical appearance. In short. being well dressed and handsome may initially help you to attract a woman’s attention. Conversely. In other words. 218 . orderly appearance. it won’t matter. You can create an orderly appearance without obsessing over what to wear or worrying about the latest fashion trends. But thankfully. Use deodorant if necessary.

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