ALDERSGATE COLLEGE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

HIGH SCHOOL

MODULE 8: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Teacher/s: Mr. Graniel G. Miranda

Mrs. Rachelle B. Mamuric
Miss Cristine Joy R. Ramos
Mrs. Jessavel R. Sabado
Miss Kristine V. Salvatera
Mr. Rommel B. Capelo
Level: Grade 11/12
Allotted Time: 5 hours

OVERVIEW

This module is designed to help you understand the different types of emotions and how they are
expressed.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES

Upon completion of this module, you should be able to:

1. explain how understanding the intensity and differentiation of emotions helps in communicating
expressions;
2. share your positive and negative emotions and how you express or hide them; and
3. compose and maintain a journal.

PRETEST

Directions: Attached herewith is an EQ Emotional Intelligence Self-Assessment.

Complete each competency page and use the last page to chart your scores.

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LEARNING FOCUS

Emotion
Emotion is one of the most important aspects of behavior. Our emotions make us truly human. We
are real and different from other creations because of our emotions. The word emotion came from a Latin
word "emovere” which means “to stir, move out or excite”.
A theory that emphasizes interpersonal, intrapersonal and practical aspects of intelligence is called
emotional intelligence which has been popularized by Daniel Goleman (1995) in his book Emotional
Intelligence. The concept of emotional intelligence was initially developed by Peter Salovery and John
Mayer (1990), who define it as the ability to perceive and express emotion accurately and adaptively (such
as taking the perspective of others), to understand emotion and emotional knowledge (such as
understanding the roles that emotions play in friendship and marriage), to use feelings to facilitate thought
(such as being in a positive mood, which is linked to creative thinking), and to manage emotions in oneself
and others (such as being able to control one's anger). Santrock, J. Psychology Essentials 2, updated
edition, McGraw Hills New York, 2005

The Seat of Emotion (Aguinaldo, M., 2003)

The seat of emotion is the amygdala. It is an almond-shaped cluster of interconnected structures in
the brain stem. If the amygdala is severed from the rest of the brain, the result is affective blindness or the
striking inability to gauge the emotional significance of events. The person can no longer recognize close
friends, relatives or even his mother. He remains unconcerned even in times of personal and familial
tragedies. Without the amygdala, the person loses recognition of feelings and significance and personal
meanings of life.

Classifications of Emotions
There are pleasant emotions, such as love, feelings of accomplishment and affection; there are
also unpleasant emotions, such as fear, anxiety and anger.
Anxieties, enthusiasm, apprehension, desires and the pleasantness and unpleasantness of life
experiences elicit the powers of emotion. Positive emotions result in the effectiveness and efficiency of
individuals. Negative emotions result in the ineffectiveness and inefficiency of individuals.
There are eight classifications of emotions. (Aguinaldo, M., 2003)
1. Anger - (fury, outrage, resentment, animosity, annoyance, irritability, hatred, violence)
2. Sadness - (grief, gloom, melancholy, self-pity, dejection, despair, depression)
3. Fear - (anxiety, apprehension, nervousness, concern, dread, terror, panic)
4. Enjoyment - (happiness, joy, relief, contentment, pride, thrill, satisfaction, ecstasy,
mania)
5. Love – (acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, devotion, infatuation, agape)
6. Surprise - (shock, astonishment, amazement, wonder)
7. Disgust - (contempt, scorn, abhorrence, aversion, distaste,)
8. Shame - (guilt, embarrassment, remorse, regret, humiliation, contrition)

Fear
It is a reaction to the threat of a loss or an injury. It is experienced when an unpredictable or
unexpected situation arises and one is confused about what to do. Fear in moderate intensity is normal and
a necessity for survival.
It is wise to learn how to overcome fear.
1. Accept that you are afraid.
2. Share it with someone. Friends can give encouragement
3. Get information about what frightens you. It prevents misinformation and distortions.
4. Understand yourself. Find out why you have this fear.

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Anger
It is the flash of rage you feel when a child defies you or a lover betrays a trust. It's the slow burn at
injustice or at violent crime, anger may look like a sulk, a burst of temper, the merest flicker of a frown. Or it
may be a remark not made but the face unnaturally red.
Control is the key to the avoidance of extreme expression of anger, as it is with other intense
emotional states. Controlling anger requires redirecting aggressive feelings into some constructive pattern of
behavior:
1. Learn to understand yourself and what bothers you.
2. Calm down after you become angry.
3. Avoid situations that irritate you.
4. If you are already mad and getting madder, siphon off the rage harmlessly. Anger is like
a dynamite and is dangerous.

Seven Steps to Healthy Anger Release (from The Complete Guide to Your Emotions and Your
Health)
1. Recognize the anger you're feeling.
2. Decide what made you angry
3. Give the “provoke” the benefit of the doubt
4. Do some relaxation exercise or count to ten
5. Make your grievance known without attacking the other person
6. Listen and understand
7. Forgive

Grief or Sadness
It is a deep sense of loss or separation which may trigger the feelings of grief or sadness.
According to Rubler-Rose, there are five stages of reactions to a deep feeling of grief or sadness.
First, we are shocked and we deny the reality of the situation.
Second, we become enraged and we blame others and even God for the misfortune.
Third, we bargain and enter into a deal with God for Him to turn things the way we want
them to.
Fourth, we fall into depression and feel as if the world has fallen on us.
Fifth, we learn to accept. It makes us overcome grief and resume our lives again.
The first step that will really help overcome grief is to learn to “let go and let God”.

How to cope with loneliness (from Who Says You Can't):

1. Face your loneliness. The best way to cure it is to express yourself without embarrassment.
2. Take practical steps. Relax and chat with somebody. Be involved in a small group that has a
definite purpose.
3. Share. Share your thoughts with others.
4. Learn to develop close relationships and friendship with people you can trust.

Love
It is a strong feeling of attachment to another person. It includes showing of affection,
thoughtfulness, sharing and caring. Like other emotions, love can be shown constructively or destructively.
When expressed positively, it allows man to transcend his own needs and perform heroic and venerable
deeds. Negatively, it may lead to selfishness, extreme dependence, or even desolation.

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Too much of anything is wrong. When caring is carried too far, it becomes suffocating and will not
give room enough to grow. Loving another person does not mean giving in to all his wishes. Too much
acceptance of another person's dependence on you can do more harm than good. Even when done with all
sincerity and good intention, giving into our loved one's childishness, insecurities and helplessness only
prevents him from discovering the best in himself. And until he discovers himself, he will never be content.
Do not confuse caring from controlling. Allow the other person to make mistakes. He will learn more and
grow, becoming more mature from every mistake that he makes in his life.

Jealousy
It is an emotion brought about by a threat of taking the love and attention of the person we cherish.
The root cause of jealousy is a deep sense of insecurity. The best thing to do is to trust yourself. Believe in
yourself. Bring out the best in yourself. Be aware of limitations and improve them. Be confident. Trust
others. Believe that others are basically good. They are sincere and loyal to you.

Guilt
It is a lingering feeling which is more focused on ourselves rather than on others. It starts from the
feeling of remorse for a mistake that we have made. The following steps can help free us from feelings of
guilt.
1. Accept that you have wronged others.
2. Seek forgiveness of the person you have wronged.
3. Believed that you have been forgiven.
4. Seek the cause of the mistake.
5. Resolve not to make the same mistake.

Effects of Emotion (Bustos et.al, 2000).... (Avelino, S. et.al., 2009)

Emotions are accompanied by glandular, muscular, mental and physical effects on the human
organism. Experiences that are accompanied by intense emotions are not only clearly remembered but are
also likely to have profound positive and negative effects on our personality. When the negative far
outweighs the positive effects, it becomes necessary for us to control our emotions. Unless we do this, our
mental health is jeopardized and we may soon find ourselves suffering from some form of maladjustment.
Intense emotions can also have inhibiting effects on our thought processes as thinking, remembering,
reasoning and learning.
Emotional Control
As we have pointed out in the preceding discussion, emotions have their positive and negative
effects. Since emotions are normal experiences in our daily lives, we have everything to gain by them if we
can experience them without serious consequences to ourselves and others. What we only need is
emotional control. Emotional control is not inhibiting or repressing our emotions. Rather, it means directing
and managing emotional experiences such that they will not have negative consequences.
To achieve emotional control, Guilford (Bustos, 2000) gives the following suggestions:
1. Avoid emotion-provoking situations. Emotional responses are caused by stimuli. One
should guard against running away from emotional problems.
2. Change the emotion-provoking situations. Attitudes may be changed, as in making
friends out of enemies. Hate may turn into love. Sometimes, removal of the source of the
emotion may help.
3. Increase skills for coping with the situation. Efforts should be directed towards
developing necessary skills and abilities to cope with the situation.
4. Re-interpret the situation. Sometimes the oversensitive type of person needs to analyze
the actions and words of others. He has to be convinced that his fears are groundless.
5. Keep working toward a goal.
6. Find substitute outlets. Substitute goals may not solve the problem, but they may
lessen the tension.
7. Develop a sense of humor. As the old adage says, “laughter is the best medicine”.

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Achieving Emotional Maturity (Aguinaldo, M. 2003)

The following are the characteristics of an emotionally mature person:
1. He/She expresses his/her emotion in a constructive way, can share himself/herself with
others sincerely and productively.
2. He/She can accept responsibility and fulfill his/her duties and obligations satisfactorily.
3. He/She knows that a good relationship means giving and receiving considerations; does
not enter into a relationship to satisfy his/her own needs.
4. He/She respects and loves his/her neighbor and believes in the inherent dignity of a human
person.
5. He/She does not discriminate against people.
6. He/She knows his goal and works to attain them.
7. He/She enjoys being with people and is sensitive to their needs. He/She has the ability to
put himself in another person's place.
8. He/She has a well-directed sense of humor. “He laughs with people; not laugh at people”.
9. He/She is flexible and has the ability to defer; has the ability to adjust to sudden turn of
events in his/her life; he/she is patient and is able to put another person's interest before
him/ her.
10. He/She can follow directions and accepts criticism without being offended. He/She takes
suggestions gracefully and takes it as an opportunity for self-improvement.

Reference/s:
Education Development Center. Mindanao Youth for Development Project, 2016
https://www.deped.gov.ph/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/SHS-Core_Personal-
Development-CG.pdf
https:// PracticalEQ.pdf

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Name:__________________________________________________
Grade Level/Strand:______________________________ Score: ____________________

LEARNING ACTIVITIES

Activity 1 - How well do you understand this lesson?

Directions: Read the following items and express yourself by giving a short answer.

1. What are the different emotions? (5 points)

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Directions: Write a journal on your learnings about emotions. How does releasing anger help in achieving
emotional intelligence? (50 points)

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POSTTEST

MULTIPLE CHOICE
Directions: Read the following items and encircle the letter that corresponds to the correct answer. (10
points)
1. Emotional maturity is
a. learning to live with emotions
b. keeping emotions within reasonable bounds
c. behaving oneself all the time
d. all of the above

2. Which one is the best description of an emotionally mature person?

a. has the ability to handle emotions properly
b. has good mental health
c. feels adequate and worthy
d. none of the above

3. It gives joy or sadness in life

a. friends
b. attitude
c. money
d.family

4. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. enjoys being with people
b. sensitive to other people's needs
c. shy and uncooperative

5. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. follows direction
b. accepts criticism
c. easily offended

6. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. flexible
b. has the ability to defer
c. impatient
7. Which of the following does not belong to the group?
a. has a good sense of humor
b. laughs at people
c. laughs with people

8. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. takes opportunity for self-improvement
b. has a high drive frustration
c. takes suggestions gracefully

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9. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. knows his goals and work to attain them
b. loves himself too much
c. believes in the inherent dignity of man

10. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

a. avoid thought-provoking situations
b. Increase skills for coping with the situation
c. Keep working toward a goal.

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