Raising Sexually Pure Children

OMOSEBI Mary Omolola PhD
RAISING
SEXUALLY PURE
CHILDREN
RAISING SEXUALLY PURE
CHILDREN
BY

Raising Sexually Pure Children
Copyright © 2017 OMOSEBI Mary Omolola PhD
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DEDICATION
I dedicate this book to all parents and parents-to-be.
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments iv
Introduction v
1. Parenting Today …………………………………… 1
2. Train Your Child In The Way Of the Lord ……… 5
3. Pray For and With Your Child ………………….. 11
4. Be Your Child’s Main Tutor on Sex-Related

Issues…………………………………………… 14
5. Be a Good Example……………………………. 18
6. Love and Care for Your Child …………………. 22
7. Be Involved in Your Child’s Life ………………. 25
8. Be Discreet With Your Sex Life ………………. 29
9. Carefully Choose Your Child’s Handlers ……… 32
Related Questions and Answers …………….. 35
Final Words ……………………………………39
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
With special thanks to:
The Holy Trinity for the grace to belong to the

Kingdom of Light and for continual inspiration and
revelation.
My husband, Engr. Omosebi Olushola Adebiyi for

your unwavering support to fulfil my purpose.
My children, Deborah and Daniel for being sources

of joy to me always.
My parents, siblings and in-laws for your
encouragement and prayers.
My mentors for not holding back godly advice from
me and my mentees for seeing me worthy of
emulation.
Sister Arinola BA for inspiring me to put this
together.
All my friends everywhere who have always prayed
for me, encouraged me and shown me love in the
course of my journey here on earth.
You, reading this book.
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INTRODUCTION
I was invited to minister to a group of married folks

a while ago on the very topic of this book. In the
course of preparing for the ministration, I got
thinking and the reality of the current level of
decadence of our world really dawned on me.
It is indeed really scary but true that a lot of terrible

things are happening in the world putting our
children at risk of serious sexual pollution.
However, even though the issue of raising sexually

pure children in a sexually perverted world is an
aspect of parenting that in reality can make parents
worry, you really don’t have to worry.
You practically cannot be with your child 24/7 but

you can help them stay safe whether you are there
or not.
It is the duty of parents to protect the innocence of

their children by being cautious and watching over
them keenly and with a great sense of purpose.
In this book, you will find out some practical steps

you can take as a parent to protect your children
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from the ravenous wolves called sex predators out

there.
It is indeed really important to arm your children

with the right ammunition so that they can live in
this sexually perverse world without becoming
victims or being polluted.
I trust God to help you see all He wants you to see

concerning this issue as you go through this book.
-Omosebi Mary Omolola PhD
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Parenting Today
To start with, let me remind you of the fact that

children are the heritage of the Lord. They belong to
Him. Children are gifts given to us by God; parents
are simply custodians.
God's intention for giving children to His children

(the parents) is so that we can multiply a godly
generation.
He wants parents to care for and watch over their

children; following His example.
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He wants parents to brood over their children. For

these children to turn out fine, they need favourable
brooding conditions.
To narrow this down to the issue at hand, if we will

be true to ourselves we will see how much of a
herculean task it is to raise sexually pure children in
this time and age.
It is rather sad that so much is happening in our

world today which indicates that the environmental
conditions are just not too favourable. We hear
stories of children being molested virtually every
day by people who are meant to take care of them.
This is a call for concern.
It is a situation that should make us "be at

attention" as parents.
The truth is that things that many people my age did

not get to hear/know about when we were in our
early teenage years are things that some infants are
exposed to today.
The peculiarity of this generation makes things like

discussing the topic of this book like I am now,
something that we cannot afford to take with levity.
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Our children will have to relate with other people at

one point or the other in their lives no matter how
much we try to shield them from the world.
We cannot be with them every second of the day

hence the need to equip them adequately because
we do not have control over what goes on with
those other people that they get to relate with most
especially when they are not under our watch. Now,
that's the real deal in this matter.
The idea of this book is to sensitize parents about

the need to nudge their children towards choosing
sexual purity as they go through life in a world
where sexual pervasion is sadly encouraged.
Now, what is sexual purity?
Sexual purity simply is choosing to refrain from

sexual activity outside the bounds of marriage. It is
the decision to guard your heart and mind by not
allowing impure thoughts or attitudes take over.
You have to make a choice to be sexually pure. This

is because as humans, we have desires and we have
to be intentional about our lives.
This is the message we have to pass across to our

children and applies to both our boys and girls. In
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other words, we need to teach these lessons to all

our children irrespective of their gender.
God vouched for Abraham to be able to teach his

children appropriately (Genesis 18:19).
I believe that God wants to be able to vouch for you

too to see to it that a godly heritage is established in
your children.
God has given all parents the assignment of

teaching their children; and teachings about sexual
purity are definitely part of the curriculum.
What then can parents do to help in the

preservation of their children’s sexual sanity and
guiding them to choose to be sexually pure?
I will share a few things in the following chapters as

ministered to my heart concerning this issue.
Please, come along with me...
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Train Your Child In The Way Of the

Lord
My leading favourite Scripture when it comes to

parenting/child training is Isaiah 54:13:
All your children will have God for their teacher—

what a mentor for your children! (MSG)
And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and

great shall be the peace of thy children. (KJV)
From this Scripture we see that when our children

have God as their teacher, they will experience
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peace. And when they are at peace, we too

inadvertently will be at peace.
It is therefore very important that we dedicate our

children to the Lord. I am not talking about taking
them to church after the 40th day for dedication but
truly leading them to Christ and seeing to it that
they dedicate their lives to Jesus.
Jesus is the foundation that we NEED to set our

children's feet on. This is the bedrock on which
every other thing rests.
If the foundations be destroyed, what can the

righteous do? (Psalms 11:3 KJV)
So how do we set their feet on God's path?
Teach them God's Words.
How many of us take time out on a daily basis to

teach our children something from God's Word?
How can we even do this if we ourselves do not take
adequate time out to feast on God's Word
ourselves?
It is very important for parents to be well grounded

in the Lord because it is practically impossible to
help another being when you yourself have nothing
to offer.
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The truth is that there cannot be void hearts. If we

refuse to fill the hearts of our children with God's
Words, some other things will fill up their hearts.
And the odds are that the summary of those things
will be corruption.
When I see the way little children nowadays sing all

the lyrics of secular music without missing any lines
and dance all the dancing styles in vogue with all
zeal; some with really sensual moves not fit for their
age-range while they know virtually nothing about
God’s Words, my heart weeps.
I challenge you as a parent or parent-to-be to

champion the movement for the hearts of your
children to be filled with the Word of God.
One of the verses of the Bible that I was made to

memorise as a child is Psalm 119 verse 11:
“I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might

not sin against you (NLT).”
It is very clear from the verse above that when we

keep the Word of God in our hearts, we leave no
room for sin to take root in our hearts because there
is no extra space for it.
For our children to understand the path they need

to journey on in life, they need God's Words.
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The Word of God will shine light on their path lest

they stumble in life. Remember what the Psalmist
had to say about God's Word?
Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for

my path. (Psalms 119:105 NLT)
Apart from teaching them God's Words, we need

also to encourage them to memorize Scriptures.
Some examples...
Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the

Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by
God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought
you with a high price. So you must honor God with
your body. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NLT)
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to

give your bodies to God because of all he has done
for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the
kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to
worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs
of this world, but let God transform you into a new
person by changing the way you think. Then you will
learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and
pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:1-2 NLT)
Teach them to personalize the Scriptures; saying

something like "My body is the temple of the Holy
Spirit."
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Take them to church and let them actively

participate in Christian Activities.
Your children are not too young to begin to serve in

church.
Have you considered just how old Samuel was when

his mother went to drop him in the temple so that
he could start serving before the Lord? Samuel was
just a lad for crying out loud and you are there
saying your 10-year old is just a child and that she
still needs to grow a little bit more before she can
start serving her maker. You are very much
mistaken.
It is wisdom to let your child grow into the Kingdom

culture right from infancy than to wait until later for
incorporation. By that time, it might be too late
because he/she would be used to the culture of the
world.
In essence, it’s not too early for your children to

begin understanding the code of conduct they are
expected to live by.
Believe it or not, the most reliable insurance for your

children is allowing them hide in the hollow of God’s
hands. Only in God can they be totally safe and
secure.
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God will not permit anyone to hurt them because

they are His.
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Pray For and With Your Child
I am a firm believer in the fact that we cannot do

without prayers as children of God.
The awesome thing is that we get to chart the

course of our children’s lives in the place of prayer.
Praying is therefore not something we can take with
levity as parents.
Take it or leave it; the spiritual settles the physical.
“For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood

enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the
unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark
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world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly

places.” (Ephesians 6:12 NLT)
Pray and pray for your children at every available

opportune time. Pray for your children without
ceasing: in every season.
Offering up prayers to God is the duty of both

mothers and fathers.
Lay hands on your children when they are sleeping

and speak the grace of Chastity into their lives.
... Pray that they will hate sin.
... Pray that God will paralyze the thoughts of evil

ones towards them.
... Pray that they will not be victims of evil

circumstances.
... Seal up their hearts with the Blood of Jesus;

declaring that no corruption is allowed into their
hearts.
...And so many other prayer points as you are

inspired by the Holy Spirit to pray.
We indeed do not know what to pray for but The

Holy Spirit our Teacher will always be there to teach
us what to pray about per time.
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Be assured through Jesus' words:
“I tell you the truth, whatever you forbid on earth

will be forbidden in heaven, and whatever you
permit on earth will be permitted in heaven.
(Matthew 18:18 NLT)
You have been given the power to decree and it will

be established.
The most effective way to pray is to pray the Word

of God into your children’s lives. Continually speak
the Word of life into their being. God’s Word is
potent and has great integrity.
“… For thou hast magnified thy word above all thy

name.” (Psalm 138:2)
Yes, God honours His Words a great deal.
Remember to join hands with your children to pray

as much as possible too.
Prayers work wonders...
Have faith in God to help your children live right.
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Be Your Child’s Main Tutor on Sex-

Related Issues
One thing that I believe helped me personally while

growing up is the fact that my mom took her time to
teach me sex education; starting really early.
The truth is that many parents shy away from

teaching their children about sex. In this generation
however, we need to be wary of making the same
mistakes some of our own parents made.
No one is saying you should teach them how to have

sex.
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Sex education is about equipping your

children/teenagers with age appropriate knowledge
about sex/sexuality.
It is primarily the duty of parents to equip their

children with knowledge pertaining to sex and
sexuality.
It is not advisable to delegate these teachings to the

media or other people generally. If you don't want
them to inculcate wrong ideas from unverified
sources, you better do the needful.
They will get to know about these things whether

you teach them or not anyway.
It is therefore imperative, following the dynamics of

this generation not to be "slow" with passing on
required knowledge about sex to your children.
I will emphasize again the importance of starting

early as I remember the motto of the Children
Evangelism Ministry... "Catch them Young"
What are you expected to teach your children?
Teach them about their bodies.
Sex educators advice that adults tell the young ones

the true names of the parts of their bodies. Teach
your child about the parts of his/her body that are
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private. Give direct instructions as to not let anyone

touch them in those places.
You might think that your child does not understand

what you are telling him/her but the truth is that
your child does.
I still vividly remember my mother describing to me

how the hymen gets broken and never grow back
upon penetration by making an 'O' with her thumb
and the second finger and then blocking the hole
with two fingers on the other hand. I was a teenager
at that time!
We need to get real.
Children need to know about issues pertaining to

sexual orientations too.
Let them know the dangers of pornography,

engaging with the opposite sex amorously, etc.
Show them from the Biblical standpoint the dangers

attached to engaging in sexual immorality.
Also, inform them in clear terms about the physical

ills that accompany sexual impurity e.g unplanned
pregnancy, STIs and death.
You can still learn about a few more things you need
to incorporate into your sex education curriculum in
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the ‘Related Questions and Answers’ segment of

this book.
Your children need to know that sex is not love as

they grow into their teenage years.
Tell them never to give their bodies in exchange for

favours.
Encourage your child as much as you can to love

him/herself.
Let them know God cares for them and you do too.
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Be a Good Example
Parents are expected to be role models to their

children in all aspects of life.
It is imperative that you live a sexually pure life if

you desire to raise sexually pure children. The fruit
sure doesn’t fall far from the tree that produced it.
Have you ever heard about the concept of the

anointing transfer from the pulpit to the pews?
What this means it that whatever anointing or

contaminated vibe a leader carries automatically
runs from the head down to the body; in this case
from the parents to their children.
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You might be engaging in immorality in secret and

the pollution will be affecting your children’s ability
to stay sexually pure.
Why would you expect your children to be sexually

pure when you are a pornography addict or you
engage in extramarital affairs?
This goes beyond you saying that your children are

not directly/physically learning any of the evil vices
from you.
You have to know that those who engage in any

form of sexual immorality are accursed. God will
surely judge people who are immoral and those who
commit adultery (Hebrews 13:4).
You might want to find out what happened to

Achan in the Bible. He kept some accursed things
and caused the nation of Israel to lose a battle that
they should have won. In the end, he was stoned to
death when his sin was brought to light. The sad
part was that he was not the only one who suffered
the consequences of his actions; his entire
household paid his debt with him.
Look here friend, don’t bring calamity upon your

children because of your inability to control yourself.
It is possible that you do not get the reward for your
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wrongdoings now but you will; and it might just be

waiting to manifest in the future of your children.
I therefore encourage you to repent today if you are

walking on the path of sexual immorality.
Another side to this is when your children know that

you do not speak against sexual impurity when you
should.
For instance, let’s say you are watching a movie

together as a family and they are showcasing sexual
impurity, I believe you should not just keep quiet.
Pass the message across to your children that you
are against such practices. Remember your silence
at times might be taken for consent.
This might seem like a trivial issue but in reality it is

not.
Every opportunity to communicate to your children

what you know is right when it comes to sexual
purity (just like every other issue of life) should be
maximised.
It is your duty to teach them to differentiate right

from wrong. Never assume that they already know
what’s right. Even if you are sure you have taught
them about the issue, there is no harm in reiterating
the point using the reverse technique: throw the
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challenge at them to tell you what they think about

the incidence currently under consideration.
It is therefore important to learn how to comport

yourself properly at all times. Watch your thoughts
and actions always.
Your children are watching you.
They are your mirror images; able to perfectly

transcribe your actions without you asking them to
do so.
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Love and Care for Your Child
One of the duties of parents is to cater for the needs

of their children. It is also expected of them to love
their children.
Every normal parent desires to give good gifts to

his/her children.
It is however sad that some parents don't care how

their children fare. They forget that doing that
opens up the way for evil people to take advantage
of these children.
Our Father in Heaven is supposed to be our number

one parenting mentor. He says even if a mother
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forgets her suckling child, he will never forget His

children.
Parents, please try as much as you can to provide

the basic needs of your children. Do not give a
foothold to the enemy to take advantage of them.
I remember how back in the day, my mother would

buy assorted stuff out of her meagre salary any time
she could and share amongst my siblings and I. She
would tell us things like, "You can't say that you
don't know what corned beef or cheese, etc tastes
like..." She would say to us that she didn't want us
to get out of the home and start feeling like
anything was a big deal. She would take us to parks
for picnics and those memories are stuck in my
mental faculty. It was as though she had planned to
do something different for us once she got her
salary every month.
I tell you, this act moulded my mentality. Yes, I

wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth but
nothing ever felt like a big deal to me.
So even when I got into the university and eateries

were getting common (with which a number of girls
were enticed), it was still no big deal for me even
though I had not been in one at that time.
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I will like to add at this point that you should not

forget to teach your children about contentment
too.
This is very important because if they refuse to learn

how to be contented with whatever they have, they
stand at a risk of being enticed with gifts from
potential predators no matter what you provide for
them.
Love your children in words and actions. Be sure to

tell your children that you love them. Embrace them
lovingly. Fill their love-tanks with loving words and
actions constantly. This will boost their self-esteem
and in turn help them not to go on with their lives
being needy for affection.
When they are convinced of the fact that you love

them, no one will be able to deceive them with
some fake love somewhere.
Finally on this subject of love, discipline is an act of

love that should be taken seriously.
Don’t be slothful with making sure that you instruct

them to live disciplined lives and correct them when
they go out of line.
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Be Involved in Your Child’s Life
I intentionally decided to separate this point from

the previous one so that I can show you how
important it is for parents to get involved in their
children's lives.
You really need to be your child's best friend. Your

child should be able to trust you and feel free to talk
to you about anything and everything. They should
be able to discuss with you as friend with friend. It is
therefore imperative that you develop a good
rapport with your children.
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It is not a wise move at all to act like a terrorist at

home. If you are an “Osama Bin Daddy (or
mummy)” reading this book right now, please you
need to change.
Be friendly so that your children can find a friend in

you.
Make a rule (informal); or maybe I should say a pact

with them, that there can't be secrets between you.
Tell them point blank that if anyone asks them not

to tell, they must tell you because you are an
exception to that secrecy code anytime.
Monitor what they watch/read/listen to.
O yes. Don't allow them feed their eyes with junks

from TV, magazines, novels, etc.
The truth is that they might have access to the

internet and other media of corruption outside the
home so it is important to tell them clearly what's
right and what's not.
And in this age of social media, I think it is very

important that parents stay updated too. It's a good
thing to monitor them on these platforms too. Don't
stay as an "old-school momma or papa" who
doesn't know what's going on in the cyber world
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(and doesn't care to know) all your life. You really

cannot afford to.
Monitor their friendships too. Yes, right from their

kindergarten years get to know who your children’s
friends are.
Visit your children as often as you can. Give them

surprise visits especially those in boarding schools or
in tertiary institutions. Don't make a habit of just
dumping your child in school without checking up
on him/her ever. That even communicates to the
child that you are trying to rid yourself of him/her
maybe because he/she is a pain in your neck or that
you don’t think he/she is that important to you.
Finally on this, you need to learn to listen to your

children. This is an art that you might need to learn
intentionally because it does not come to everyone
naturally.
Even if you are so busy at the very moment your

child seeks your attention, ask him/her to give you
some time and be sure to go back to him/her with
the intention of hearing him/her out.
Learning to set your tech devices aside in order to

listen to your child whenever he/she wants to talk
with you; giving them your full attention.
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Don't get tired of listening to your children. Probe

further into any issue raised by your child. Do not
encourage surface level discussions. Ask questions
that will give you more than "Yes/No" answers.
If you keep shunning your children or not giving

them attention when they seek to talk to you, you
will clog the communication lines between you and
them.
Before you know what's happening, they begin to

keep things to themselves and worse off seek to be
heard by anyone else who cares to listen.
Now that's not good for our parenting business.
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Be Discreet With Your Sex Life
You see, parents really need to be careful else we

expose our children to live pornography right within
our homes.
It is not advisable to have sex while your children

are in the room (even if they are sleeping). I read
that once a child is around 2-3 years, parents should
try as much as possible not to have sexual relations
while the children are in the same room with them. I
see a lot of sense in this claim.
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By their second year of life, children become aware

of their environments.
This is why it is advisable to separate their rooms

from yours as soon as you can.
I once heard about a child who was caught

romancing a boy in a corner in school and upon
probing further, she revealed that she used to see
her mum and dad doing the deed (while they
thought she was asleep). She claimed that she only
pretended to be asleep on many occasions. She
even said that the noises used to wake her up. This
girl was about six years and was sleeping in the
same room with her parents, though on different
beds.
Can you beat that?
Can you just imagine the kind of

psychological/emotional effect such exposure
would have on that little girl as she grows older.
To be realistic, the economic situation of the home

during certain periods might not make it practicable
to separate rooms.
We sure don’t want to cripple your sex life yet your

children’s sanity is very important too.
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This therefore calls for wisdom if you find yourself in

such a situation, while you work and pray for better
living conditions. You really need to work round
making sure both sides of the coin do not suffer.
There will always be a way out.
Sit together with your spouse and discuss what

measure to put in place to ensure that you strike a
balance.
It’s either you move your intimacy sessions into the

living room while the children are sleeping or you
engage them in the living room while you take over
the room before it is time for them to retire to bed;
remembering to lock the door behind you in both
cases.
I have also heard of children peeping into their

parent’s rooms through key holes or cracks in the
doors and seeing them live and direct while in the
act of lovemaking. Carry out your own research on
every avenue for exposure and block them before
your children find them.
You cannot afford to be careless please.
Don’t choose expressing your passion above

protecting the innocence of your child. Be as
cautious as you can be at all times.
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Carefully Choose Your Child’s

Handlers
Decisions pertaining to choosing your child’s

handlers are very crucial and should never be
downplayed even though this is coming as the last
point on my list.
It is very important that you are led by God in

choosing your children’s nannies, schools, lesson
teachers, etc.
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Don't enrol your child in a school simply based on

the recommendation of your friends or the fact that
it just fits your social status.
Visit anywhere your child will be kept and get to

know those that will be directly involved in handling
him/her.
If you have a check in your spirit about any of the

handlers, don't just wave it off. Make sure you pray
through about what God will have you do and what
steps He wants you to take.
Be mindful of who you keep your children with

generally.
We have seen even blood relations get possessed by

the devil and molest their nieces or nephews.
Although some of the people you might want to

keep your children with won't molest your children
physically, they may have low moral standards.
For instance, there might be things you normally

would not allow your children watch on the
television but your neighbour, brother or sister may
not feel that there is anything wrong with that
hence exposing your children to such corrupt
knowledge.
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This is one reason I am practically not in support of

my children going on holidays where I won't be able
to monitor them seeing that they are still in their
formative years.
We shouldn't by any means let our guards down as

parents.
We are in a delicate age and we need to guard our

loins in seeking to protect the wonderful gifts of
God to us as parents.
We must put spiritual, emotional, psychological and

physical fences in place in order to keep our children
safe.
May God help you as I ask Him to help me too!
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Related Questions and Answers
QUESTION 1
Can you tell us what area of human sexuality to

instruct them about with respect to their age?
Answer:
6months -2years: Teach them the correct name of

each part of their bodies. Sex educators advice that
children be taught the correct names for their
genitals (penis, scrotum, vulva, vagina, anus).
3-5 years: They begin to get curious at about this

age range. Answer their questions carefully. For
instance your child may ask how she entered into
mummy's tummy. Simply answering that a seed
from dad and an egg from mum came together to
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grow in a special place for babies, called her womb.

No explicit answers please. They should now be
told what the good touches are and which touches
are bad for them.
6-9 years: It is important to let your child's curiosity

guide you at this point. Generally though, it's time to
teach them about puberty. You may want to get
children books on reproduction and go through
them together at this point. If you are caught off
guard with some of their questions (some of them
are that inquisitive), promise to get back with the
answer so that you can gather your thoughts (or
seek counsel on how to answer the question from
professionals) and not end up giving too much than
they need. Just make sure you attend to the
questions please, whether immediately or later.
9-12 years: Now they are approaching their teenage

years. Assure them that what's going on in their
bodies (budding of the breasts, acne, body hairs Etc)
is normal to every girl or boy and you went through
this stage too.
They need to know now the risks of getting sexually

involved (pregnancy, STIs). Talk to them about
God's stand when it comes to sex.
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Teenagers: Their hormones begin to rage now. Talk

more about their inner feelings and build up their
self-esteem at this stage. Let them know that most
of the things shown on media are not real and that
there are definitely teens like him/her who have not
violated themselves sexually. Tell them no one has
the right to force them into allowing them be
touched inappropriately or having sex with them.
At this point they need to know all the necessary

information and the pros and cons of the options
they have when it comes to decision making. Then
we will have to pray that they make the right
choices.
Overall, study your child closely. Individual

uniqueness should dictate your pace when it comes
to sex educating your children.
These are some of the things I have come to learn as

per age-appropriate sex education and I hope it
helps.
Question 2.
At what age can we tell our kids to start cleaning

after themselves or bathing themselves. I am asking
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because I think we should, at some point, tell them

that people seeing them naked is not allowed.
What do you think, ma?
Answer
Generally, children should begin to bath themselves

when they are about 5 or 6 years old. They should
be able to start bathing themselves at this age;
although while still being supervised. They will
definitely still need help from older attendants to
wash their backs and rinse their bodies properly. It's
actually good to allow them participate in their
bathing process even earlier to help them ease into
‘independence’ even faster.
However, some children still need supervision till

they are 8 or 9. "Weaning" them from supervised
bath sessions should definitely be a gradual process
but I believe strongly by the time they are entering
puberty they should be able to clean and bath
themselves. And that starts early for some (7-8
years).
Each child is different though and should be studied

to know when he or she is ready to be by
himself/herself in the bath.
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Final Words
Indeed we can do all things through Christ who

strengthens us.
Let's go ahead and pay attention to each of our

children and allow God grant us deeper
understanding of each of these children. This is
important because each child is unique and the
strategy needed to help him/her scale through
unscathed may also be unique to him/her.
God bless!
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I will like to hear from you if you have been

inspired and blessed by this book.
Contact me via
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I dedicate this book to all parents and parents-to-be.

1. Parenting Today …………………………………… 1

2. Train Your Child In The Way Of the Lord ……… 5

3. Pray For and With Your Child ………………….. 11

4. Be Your Child’s Main Tutor on Sex-Related

6. Love and Care for Your Child …………………. 22

7. Be Involved in Your Child’s Life ………………. 25

8. Be Discreet With Your Sex Life ………………. 29

9. Carefully Choose Your Child’s Handlers ……… 32

Related Questions and Answers …………….. 35

Final Words ……………………………………39

With special thanks to:

The Holy Trinity for the grace to belong to the

My husband, Engr. Omosebi Olushola Adebiyi for

My children, Deborah and Daniel for being sources

I was invited to minister to a group of married folks

It is indeed really scary but true that a lot of terrible

However, even though the issue of raising sexually

You practically cannot be with your child 24/7 but

It is the duty of parents to protect the innocence of

In this book, you will find out some practical steps

from the ravenous wolves called sex predators out

It is indeed really important to arm your children

I trust God to help you see all He wants you to see

-Omosebi Mary Omolola PhD

To start with, let me remind you of the fact that

God's intention for giving children to His children

He wants parents to care for and watch over their

He wants parents to brood over their children. For

To narrow this down to the issue at hand, if we will

It is rather sad that so much is happening in our

This is a call for concern.

It is a situation that should make us "be at

The truth is that things that many people my age did

The peculiarity of this generation makes things like

Our children will have to relate with other people at

We cannot be with them every second of the day

The idea of this book is to sensitize parents about

Now, what is sexual purity?

Sexual purity simply is choosing to refrain from

You have to make a choice to be sexually pure. This

This is the message we have to pass across to our

other words, we need to teach these lessons to all

God vouched for Abraham to be able to teach his

I believe that God wants to be able to vouch for you

God has given all parents the assignment of

What then can parents do to help in the

I will share a few things in the following chapters as

Please, come along with me...

Train Your Child In The Way Of the

My leading favourite Scripture when it comes to

All your children will have God for their teacher—

And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and

From this Scripture we see that when our children

peace. And when they are at peace, we too

It is therefore very important that we dedicate our

Jesus is the foundation that we NEED to set our

If the foundations be destroyed, what can the