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GRASP Social Skills Programme
Programme Rationale
The GRASP programme is designed to target those pupils who may be feeling
vulnerable in school, particularly with regard to intimidation or social pressures
from peers.
Pupils who are at risk of succumbing to negative peer pressure, feel threatened
by the aggressive behaviour of others, have a poor self image, and/or low
confidence could benefit from the programme.
The programme is suitable for pupils in Key Stage 2, although could be adapted
to target other age groups, as appropriate.
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GRASP Social Skills Programme
Pupil Selection and Monitoring
It is advised that those conducting the programme with pupils select children
for the group with care. Consideration should be given to the group dynamics,
to ensure that pupils selected will be able to work well together. Someone
with a good prior knowledge of the pupils is therefore most appropriate to
assist with selection.
The Strengths and Difficulties Questionnaire (SDQ), which can be accessed free
of charge online (www.sdqinfo.com), is a useful resource for this purpose. In
order to make the assessment as thorough as possible, staff should endeavour
to receive parent/carer input, by sending them versions of the questionnaire
for completion. Staff, parent and pupil versions of the SDQ are available, and
can be printed off from the website. The questionnaires can be scored by
hand, or online (www.sdqscore.net).
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GRASP Social Skills Programme
Session Outlines
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Session 1: ‘Feeling Good’
Materials:
A4 paper
Pencils
Flip chart and pen
‘Make It Positive’ sheets
Certificates
Welcome:
“Before we start our first activity, let’s get to know each other, because some people might
not know everyone’s name. Let’s take it in turns to say our name, and something that we
really like to do, such as a hobby or game.” (If a pupil does not wish to contribute, then
move on to the next, and let them know that this is OK).
Group Rules:
“Before we can start the activities, we need to set some rules for our group. Why do you
think that is? What do rules help us do? (Receive responses). Rules help us to get on better
together, and make sure everyone feels OK within the group. Can anyone think of a rule we
could have for our group?”
List the rules on a flip chart or large sheet of paper, reframing responses positively, as
appropriate. (E.g. If a pupil says ‘don’t kick’ say: “What will you be doing if you follow that
rule?” and reframe as ‘keep hands and feet to yourself’). Try to encourage each pupil to
provide a rule.
Make sure to include the basics: listening to each other, waiting your turn to speak, sharing,
respecting others etc. Finally, ask pupils to sign the rules in agreement.
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Hand every pupil a blank sheet of A4 paper. Ask them to draw around their hand, and write
their name above it. The papers are then passed in a clockwise direction, and each pupil
writes a positive comment on everyone else’s sheet inside the hands. This continues until
every child has written a comment on everyone else’s paper.
Read out the following negative examples, and ask pupils to think how these could be
turned into a positive, before providing possible responses:
Review:
“Today we have been learning about feeling good about ourselves. We have been thinking
about things that we are good at, and how to deal with the bad feelings we might have
about things we find hard.”
“Over the next week, please can you practice nice things to say to yourself which help you
feel better about things you find hard, or which upset you?”
Certificates:
Hand out certificates to pupils, and remind them that their task to practice is written on it,
for their parents/carers to help them with.
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Session 2: ‘Express Yourself’
Materials:
Flip chart and pen
Passive, aggressive, assertive cards
‘Being Assertive’ sheets
Passive and aggressive sentences
A4 paper
Pencils
Certificates
Group Purpose:
Reiterate this section as necessary: “Can everyone remember why we are meeting as a
group? (Wait for responses). We are meeting for 5 weeks to work on some important
social skills. Can everyone remember what social skills are? (Check understanding). They
are the things that help us get on with and talk to other people.”
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The first type of communication we will look at is ‘aggressive’. When we are aggressive, we
do not seem to care about other people’s feelings as much as our own, and only bother
about getting our own way, or making our point.
The second way of communicating that we will look at is ‘passive’. When we communicate
passively, we do not seem to care about our own feelings as much as the other person’s.
We end up not really getting what we want. We might feel like we don’t deserve to be
heard, and care more about not upsetting other people than getting our point of view
across.
The last way of communicating that we will look at is ‘assertive’. When we communicate
assertively, we show that we care about the feelings of others and ourselves equally. This is
the best way of communicating, as you are less likely to upset other people, get to say how
you feel, and are more likely to get what you want, meaning that everyone can be happier.
We are now going to look at some of the things we might say or do for each type of
communication style.”
Place the ‘passive’, ‘aggressive’ and ‘assertive’ headings cards in the middle of the table.
Ask children to pick one card at a time each, containing a word or phrase, and place it in the
category they think it belongs. Discuss each one in turn as a group, and decide on the most
appropriate category, using the initial definitions as a guide.
Give pupils a list of sentences containing aggressive or passive sentences. Pupils need to try
and convert them into an assertive communication. This can be done individually, in
writing, or as a group discussion, depending on ability levels of the group, and preferred
learning styles.
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Give pupils the opportunity to practice assertive communication. Ask them to work in pairs,
and role play a situation of their choosing from the flipchart. Pupils need to take it in turns
being the assertive child.
Review:
“Today we have been learning about how we communicate. We have talked about the
three different types of communication- passive, aggressive and assertive, and practiced
being assertive.”
“Over the next week, please can you practice being assertive? Pay attention to what your
body is doing (eye contact etc.), and try to do some of the things we talked about on the
‘being assertive’ sheet. Everyone try to remember one example of being assertive for next
week.”
Certificates:
Hand out certificates to pupils, and remind them that their task to practice is written on it,
for their parents/carers to help them with.
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Session 3: ‘Managing Anger’
Materials:
Flip chart and pen
Different coloured pens
Pencils
Paper
Volcano in my tummy worksheet
Certificates
Group Purpose:
Reiterate this section as necessary: “Can everyone remember why we are meeting as a
group? (Wait for responses). We are meeting for 5 weeks to work on some important
social skills. Can everyone remember what social skills are? (Check understanding). They
are the things that help us get on with and talk to other people.”
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bottled up it can become explosive. Using violence to show anger is not ok but safely
showing anger is healthy.”
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Session 4: ‘Solving Problems’
Materials:
Flip chart and pen
A4 paper
Different coloured pens
Pencils
Certificates
Group Purpose:
Reiterate this section as necessary: “Can everyone remember why we are meeting as a
group? (Wait for responses). We are meeting for 5 weeks to work on some important
social skills. Can everyone remember what social skills are? (Check understanding). They
are the things that help us get on with and talk to other people.”
Imagine you are standing in front of a massive tree. This tree has deep, deep roots and
branches that reach out in every direction. This tree is home to your very own treehouse.
This is a treehouse of your own design. Picture how you would like your treehouse to look.
(Pause between each idea) You can add swings, windows, trapdoors, plants, animals, your
favorite things, your favorite colors, just allow yourself to design the treehouse anyway you
like.
Can you see it? Good. Now allow yourself to travel inside the treehouse. (Pause) Are you
inside? Good.
Inside the treehouse, imagine anything that makes you feel good to think about. Place
pillows, waterfalls, plants, trees, birds, pictures of mountains, anything that you would like
that you feel good when you think about it. Go ahead and design the inside of your
treehouse now.
Know that when you go inside your treehouse you feel really really relaxed. This is a place
to let go of all your thoughts, all your worries.
Take a deep breath and allow yourself to feel very peaceful and relaxed inside your
treehouse.
This is a place that you can go any time you would like to feel more peaceful and calm.
Know that your treehouse is available to you any time you would like. You can visit here
whenever you would like.
Now take a deep breath and imagine yourself walking down out of your treehouse. Gently
bring your attention back to the room. You can open your eyes whenever you are ready.
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looked at what anger means and how it can make our bodies feel. Can anybody remember
what can happen when we feel angry? (Receive responses, and provide praise). Remember
that anger is an emotion that everyone feels. It’s okay to get angry. Can anybody give an
example of when they have been angry in the last week???” (Receive responses, and
provide praise).
Activity 1: Relaxation
(Add script)
Someone talks to you in class, you tell them to be quiet and the teacher tells you off for
talking
Someone calls you a nasty name, it makes you angry.
Someone at school keeps calling you names. It makes you want to miss school.
Your friends all keep falling out and asking you to take sides.
You don’t know what to do next, but the teacher is busy.
Your older brother wants to watch a different TV programme than you.
“What other sorts of problems might there be? Try to think of things that you have a
problem with at school.” (Receive examples, and write on the flip chart).
Go through each problem, and ask children to put their hands up if it’s been a problem for
them. Select the problem that seems to be the most common. On a piece of flipchart
paper, write the problem in a bubble in the middle.
Ask children for all the possible solutions to the problem, positive AND negative. Write
responses around the edge. Ask children to decide if the solution is positive or negative,
and write the two in different colours. Explain that these are the ‘actions’ or ‘choices’ that a
person can make.
Once this is done, go through the solutions one at a time, and ask children what might
happen in each instance. Explain that these are the ‘consequences’. Again, record all
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responses. The finished brainstorm should enable you to be able to select one or two
positive courses of action. An example brainstorm is shown below:
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They might call you
more names. You
They might speak You might get into might get into
to the children and trouble. You could trouble. It might
ask them to stop. get hit back harder.
end in a big fight.
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Activity 3: Safe ways to get angry
Provide children with a ‘ways to get angry sheet’.
“Feeling angry is okay, but violence and abuse is a behaviour and that’s not okay.” Ask them
to think of things they can do when there angry to safely deal with their feelings. Possible
responses include, tell others how you feel, complain, talk to someone, do something
physical, figure out a peaceful way of changing things. Ask students to read one idea to the
group.
Review:
“Today we have been learning about how to solve problems when we are angry. We have
talked about the types of things that might make us angry and safe ways to behave when
we are feeling angry.”
Over the next week, please can you practice trying to solve problems? Take one problem
that makes you feel angry, and do a brainstorm for it, like we have done today.”
Certificates:
Hand out certificates to pupils, and remind them that their task to practice is written on it,
for their parents/carers to help them with.
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Session 5: ‘Review’
Materials:
Flip chart and pen
A4 paper
Pencils
Feel Good Shield
Quiz sheets
Questionnaires
Certificates
Group Purpose:
Reiterate this section as necessary: “Can everyone remember why we are meeting as a
group? (Wait for responses). We are meeting for 5 weeks to work on some important
social skills. Can everyone remember what social skills are? (Check understanding). They
are the things that help us get on with and talk to other people.”
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Activity 3: Feel Good Shield
“We have learnt that we all have things that we are good at. These things could be different
from other people, or the same. Sometimes, we might not know the things we are good at,
and find it hard to think of things that make us feel good about ourselves. So, what we are
going to do now is take a few minutes to think of some of the things we feel we are good at.
Other people may have told us that we are good at them, or they may be things we find
easy or enjoy. I would like you to all draw some special pictures that shows the things you
are good at, to help remind ourselves that we all have things we can do well. This is going to
be called a ‘Feeling Good Shield’.”
Activity 2: Quiz
Provide pupils with a multi-choice quiz to determine what pupils have learnt from the
programme.
Activity 3: Questionnaires
Provide all pupils with a copy of the pupil questionnaire for completion. Provide the school
partner with a separate questionnaire, and ask them to complete it before the end of the
session if possible.
Goodbyes:
“It’s time for us to finish now. Well done for completing the programme. I hope you have
enjoyed it, and that you have learnt lots of important things. I have enjoyed working with
you. I hope the things that you have learnt help you in school.”
Certificates:
Hand out the final certificates to pupils.
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References
Mortimer, H. (2007) Worry Box: Managing Anxiety in Young Children, Stafford: QEd
Publications.
Scarpaci, R. (2006) Bullying: Effective Strategies for Its Prevention, Indianapolis: Kappa Delta
Pi.
Stallard, P. (2002) Think Good- Feel Good, John Wiley and Sons.
Wilding, C. and Milne, A. (2008) Teach Yourself Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Oxford:
Bookpoint Ltd.
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