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INTERSUBJECTIVITY
ON THE COUCH
Recognition and Destruction
in the Work of Jessica Benjamin
Johanna Meehan
T
he work of Jessica Benjamin complicates the notion of
intersubjectivity found at the heart of Jürgen Haber-
mas’s communicative theory of ethics and creates space
for a feminist understanding of relationships in the personal and
political sphere. While Habermas famously emphasizes the
significance of language and rationality in the dynamics of
intersubjectivity, Benjamin describes the extralinguistic forces
that propel the psychic self.1 Not denying the importance of lan-
guage and rationality, Benjamin offers a way to understand the
origins of language in extralinguistic forms of intersubjective
experience and explains how the irrational, the unconscious, and
the negative influence the way we relate to and communicate
with others.
In her work, Benjamin contrasts two kinds of interactive
experience. In a fully interactive experience, mutual recognition
characterizes the experience and enables intersubjectivity. In
what Benjamin calls “destruction,” the intrapsychic process fails
to attain true intersubjective relatedness. Both experiences are
inevitable dimensions of subjectivity and relationships with
BENJAMIN’S THEORY
OF RECOGNITION
Thus, she claims, Habermas does not account for the negative
aspects of an intersubjective relationship that also constitute a
sense of self and other. Benjamin argues that linguistic rational-
ity, no matter how important, is not the sole dimension of inter-
subjective relating. Linguistic rationality is not the only, or even
the most significant, axis constituting self/other identities.5
We experience a sense of self and other by engaging not only
through linguistically mediated rational engagement but also
through feelings and fantasy, love and identification, repudiation
and projection, and introjection and splitting. Understanding
this is crucially important in conceiving how we might engage
ethically with others as well as in the diagnosis of domination.
Thus an account of intersubjectivity that offers real insight into
human domination and its possible alternatives must include an
analysis of the psychological aspects of our relationships to our-
selves, to others, and to the world. Benjamin argues that only
when we acknowledge and understand the irrational, extralin-
guistic dimension of intersubjectivity can we begin to grasp the
mechanics of domination and attempts to dominate disguised
as rational acts, bending language and desires to their ends.6
Without an understanding of the bonds of love, the capacity
for hate, omnipotence, and submission, the potential for mis-
recognition and destruction, and the ordinary versus the extraor-
dinary, positive and negative aspects of human interactions
remain outside the purview of our theorizing and beyond the
ken of our emancipatory aims. With such an account in hand,
we can begin to think about what responsible and moral psychic
intersubjectivity might be like and understand why a moral psy-
chic intersubjectivity requires a reflective responsibility for recip-
rocal interactions with others.
Affective understanding can be reached only by what Benja-
min describes as the position of the third, a psychic position that
recognizes not only the desires of the self or the desires of another
to whom we submit, but a position that also manages to sustain
the tension of affectively holding both at once. Benjamin’s notion
of the third is an interesting rethinking of normative inter-
subjectivity, one that includes linguistic as well as psychic
dimensions.
BENJAMIN’S ACCOUNT OF
SELF/OTHER RELATIONSHIP S
other) and those that are merely fantasized (relating from the
intrapsychic space of the unconscious and its operations of
fantasy).
Benjamin and other similarly committed contemporary psy-
choanalysts emphasize the significance of understanding the
nature of relationships between people as an antidote to past
monadological tendencies in the field. This does not exclude a
recognition that both intrapsychic and intersubjective under-
standings are crucial to understanding the relational formation
of selves. Benjamin further clarifies, “To recognize the intersub-
jective self is not to deny the importance of the intrapsychic; the
inner world of fantasy, wish, anxiety, and defense; of bodily sym-
bols and images whose connections defy the ordinary rules of
ordinary rules of logic and language. In the inner world, the sub-
ject incorporates and expels, identifies with and repudiates the
other, not as a real being, but as a mental object.”16 Indeed, the
intrapsychic dimension gives the self its interiority, its depth, its
unique associations and meanings. It forms the background
against which “the real other stands out in relief.”17 The interac-
tion of the intersubjective and the intrapsychic relational per-
spectives, and the ability to sustain both perspectives while
maintaining their distinctness—in theory and in practice—will
prove to be the critical and normative center of Benjamin’s
theory.
Like intersubjective theorists of all persuasions, Benjamin
maintains that nature, individual will, and activity do not fully
determine the self. In a self-consciously neo-Hegelian move,
Benjamin locates the self ’s genesis in someone’s response to it.18
While the human infant might survive without the attachment
experience so connected to another’s recognition of it, its self-
hood depends upon a certain kind of social engagement. We
become present to ourselves when someone becomes aware of
THIRDNESS IN P SYCHIATRY
AND POLITICS
must meet each other halfway. Benjamin makes clear what must
be included in that half way and just why achieving it is the hard-
est half, by far.
While Habermas tends to focus on the linguistic dimensions
of intersubjectivity and the role that language plays in consti-
tuting our relationships with others, his original insight is about
the fundamentally intersubjective nature of human development
and social experience. It is first intersubjectivity and then the lan-
guage that it enables and develops that is at the core of human
experience. This central insight suggests that despite his focus
on the role that language and the rationality it enables plays in
intersubjective experience, a communicative account of ethics
should also include a recognition of the pre- and extralinguistic
dimensions of intersubjective relating as well as the role that
affects and irrational and unconscious forces play in our rela-
tionships with others.
Benjamin’s descriptions of the psychic dimensions of inter-
subjectivity, including the role gender plays in that experience,
as well as her description of the complex forms of relating
demanded by the moral third suggest ways to extend and com-
plicate Habermas’s analysis. Benjamin offers insight into dimen-
sions of identity that Habermas does not explore and challenges
his account of the level at which our efforts at egalitarian inter-
subjectivity fail.
Habermas does not explore the impact of gender or sexual-
ity, and he ascribes our moral and political failures to institu-
tional failures or cognitive disruptions. Benjamin describes the
intricate dynamics of social subjectivity and attributes the obsta-
cles facing just and human interactions to the outcome of deep
psychic struggles between the possibility of recognition and the
threat of destruction. Appreciating the pull of these two psy-
chic poles of interaction is critical for understanding relationships
NOTES
1. Jürgen Habermas, The Theory of Communicative Action: Reason and the
Rationalization of Society, vol 1. (Boston: Beacon, 1989).
2. Jessica Benjamin, Like Subjects, Love Objects: Essays on Recognition and
Sexual Difference (New Haven: Yale University Press, 1995), xix.
3. Jessica Benjamin, “Two-Way Streets: Recognition of Difference and
the Intersubjective Third,” differences: A Journal of Feminist Cultural
Studies 17, no. 1 (2006): 119.
4. Habermas, The Theory of Communicative Action.
5. Jessica Benjamin, Bonds of Love, Psychoanalysis, Feminism, and the Prob-
lem of Domination (New York: Pantheon, 1988), 185–186.
6. Benjamin, 185–186.
7. Benjamin, 19.
8. Benjamin, 17.
9. Benjamin, 18.
10. Daniel Stern, The Interpersonal World of the Infant: A View from Psycho-
analysis and Developmental Psychology (New York City: Basic Books,
1985).
11. Habermas, Theory of Communicative Action.
12. Stern, The Interpersonal World of the Infant, 134.
13. Jessica Benjamin, Beyond Doer and Done To: Recognition Theory, Inter-
subjectivity, and the Third (New York: Routledge, 2018) 2.
14. Benjamin, The Bonds of Love, 15.
15. Benjamin, 17.
16. Benjamin, 21.
17. Benjamin, 21.
18. See G. W. F. Hegel, Phenomenology of Spirit, trans. A. V. Miller
(Oxford: Clarendon, 1977).
19. Benjamin, The Bonds of Love, 21.
20. Donald Winnicott, Playing and Reality (New York: Basic Books, 1971).