SENIOR

HIGH

Personal Development
Activity Sheet
Quarter 2 – MELC 1
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

REGION VI – WESTERN VISAYAS

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FOR SENIOR HIGH
Learning Activity Sheet No. 1, Week 1, Quarter 2
First Edition, 2021

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Introductory Message
Welcome to learning area and grade level!

The Learning Activity Sheet is a product of the collaborative efforts of the

Schools Division of Negros Occidental and DepEd Regional Office VI - Western
Visayas through the Curriculum and Learning Management Division (CLMD). This is
developed to guide the learning facilitators (teachers, parents and responsible adults)
in helping the learners meet the standards set by the K to 12 Basic Education
Curriculum.

The Learning Activity Sheet is self-directed instructional materials aimed to

guide the learners in accomplishing activities at their own pace and time using the
contextualized resources in the community. This will also assist the learners in
acquiring the lifelong learning skills, knowledge and attitudes for productivity and
employment.

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learning activities specified in each Most Essential Learning Competency (MELC) with
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continue learning even if you are not in school. This learning material provides you with
meaningful and engaging activities for independent learning. Being an active learner,
carefully read and understand the instructions then perform the activities and answer
the assessments. This will be returned to your facilitator on the agreed schedule.
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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

I. LEARNING COMPETENCY WITH CODE

1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions (ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.1)

II. BACKGROUND INFORMATION FOR LEARNERS

To fully understand this topic about personal relationship, these following questions will help you
have an idea what is this really all about.
1. Why do we say ‘No man is an island’?
2. How are we different from animals?
3. What is the difference between family, friends/friendship, and partnership/romantic relationships?
4. Why are relationships important to us humans?
5. What are the most common problems in a relationship?
WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?
Personal Relationship refers to the association and close connections between people,
formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are formed by mutual
experiences. Teenagers commonly have relationships with their family, friends and significant other.
The changes in a teen’s physical and cognitive development come with big changes in their
relationship with family and friends. In adolescence stage, a new understanding of one’s self occurs.
This may include independence, identity and self-esteem.

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships refer to
close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often
grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we
need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In our model there are three kinds of
personal relationships:
Family Relationship
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this varies
greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons who
are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household." But many people
have family they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary
across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a family are
support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of
community. Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its definition has
evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family structures and roles can provide
as much comfort and support as traditional forms.
Family is defined as “two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption, and
who live together as one household.” It includes siblings and parents who may with you as you grow
up, and relatives such as grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins who you may not see frequently.

Family bond plays a vital role in person’s well-being since it may form other kinds of
relationships such as friendships and romantic relationships. Having strong family relationships is ideal
although it doesn’t happen always. There should be love and closeness. Parents and older relatives
role is to guide discipline and support you when needed. Arguments, disagreements, moments of
anger and hurt are normal in a family since you spend so much time together, and these are short
lived for families still love and care about each other. There is an increase of arguments and conflicts
with parents when teenagers assert their independence and find their identity as adult. These shall
pass after teenage years.

In some families, there is little physical contact whereas in others, it is common for family
members to express affection by means such as hugging, kissing on the cheek or forehead, patting
the head or tousling the hair, patting on the back etc. It is common for babies and younger children to
be carried or held.

Friendships

Friends are the people who we are not related to but who we choose to interact with. They are
the people who we trust, respect, care about and feel that we can confide in and want to spend time
with. A friendship is a reciprocal relationship. Both people must see each other as a friend for it to
exist.

There are different degrees of friendship. You may find that you feel closer to some friends
than others. This is perfectly normal. Some friends, especially if they have only been known for a short
time or are not seen very often, may not be appropriate to confide in about personal issues or
concerns. You may find that you feel more comfortable and able to confide in friends whom you have
known for longer or spend more time with.

Furthermore, friends who are very close and know each other well are referred to as “best
friends or close friends”. Some people have many friends, while others may only have one or two.
There is no right or wrong number of friends to have and everyone is different. Good friendships are
mutually respectful, supportive and share common interests and ideas. It should be built on honesty,
support and loyalty.

Some friendships can be close while some friends choose to greet each other by hugging or
kissing on the cheek, other friendships may have no physical contact, or may simply shake hands.
Romantic contact or Being intimate physically is not appropriate in a friendship.

A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other
in times of ned. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the
book Connected, find that the average person has about six close ties—though some have more, and
many have only one or none. Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—research
indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.
Romantic Relationships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience this kind of
relationship with only one person at a time.
A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly attracted to the other person, both to
their personality and, often, also physically and should be reciprocated by the other person in the
relationship. A romantic relationship exists between a boyfriend and girlfriend (in a heterosexual
relationship) or a boyfriend and boyfriend or girlfriend and girlfriend (in a homosexual relationship) or
spouses (in a marriage) or life partners (in a civil partnership or long-term unmarried relationship).
People in a romantic relationship often see each other and when apart will find ways to contact each
other by phone and the like. A romantic relationship is the closest form of relationship in which, the two
people who are involved will often describe themselves as being attracted to each other and/or “in
love”. They feel a strong connection and bond to each other that they do not feel with anyone else,
even close friends. The bond is also exclusive and monogamous.

Arguments and disagreements occur in romantic relationships sometimes. These arguments

can be overcome through effective communication, understanding and compromise. In other cases, if
there are frequent arguments, the two people involved my decide to end the relationship. Relationships
can be of varying duration. Some relationships quickly become apparent that the two people involved
are not compatible and do not want to spend their lives together, and so the relationship may end after
only a few months. In other cases, both may be together for many years or may stay together for the
rest of their lives.

Successful romantic relationships are built on love, trust, respect, support, acceptance, shared
interests and a desire for the two people involved to share their lives together and end with marriage.
For teenagers, various kinds of physical contact are not appropriate. These include prolonged cuddling
and holding, kissing on the lips and sexual intercourse. Pre- marital sex is unacceptable.

WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and wellbeing. There is compelling
evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Conversely, the health
risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are comparable to the risks associated with cigarette
smoking, blood pressure, and obesity.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social relationships are 50% less
likely to die prematurely. Similarly, Dan Buettner’s Blue Zones research calculates that committing to
a life partner can add 3 years to life expectancy (Researchers Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler
have found that men’s life expectancy benefits from marriage more than women’s do.)
• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer against the effects of
stress. In a study of over 100 people, researchers found that people who completed a stressful task
experienced a faster recovery when they were reminded of people with whom they had strong
relationships. (Those who were reminded of stressful relationships, on the other hand, experienced
even more stress and higher blood pressure.)
• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college students who reported
having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a common cold when exposed to the virus. In
addition, 2012 international Gallup poll found that people who feel they have friends and family to
count on are generally more satisfied with their personal health than people who feel isolated. And
hanging out with healthy people increases your own likelihood of health—in their book Connected,
Christakis and Fowler show that non-obese people are more likely to have non-obese friends because
healthy habits spread through our social networks.

• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000 people found that
doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your wellbeing as a 50% increase in income!
On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health consequences, such as:
• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with depression, and now research is
backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast cancer patients found that those with fewer
satisfying social connections experienced higher levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

• Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a correlation between
loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack of social connections can increase
your chances of becoming sick.

• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a group of 229 adults over
five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood pressure even years later, indicating that
the effects of isolation have long lasting consequences.

25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

1. Here is the list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by couples
2. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet
relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
3. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around your gender, or your
partner's gender
4. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
5. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for whatever
reason
6. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
 7. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress, long-term illness,
mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many
more
8. Bored in or with Your Relationship
9. Dealing with a jealous partner
10. Having 'blended' family issues
11. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious
relationship problem.
12. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
13. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other issues
14. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess / knight and not
seeing the 'real' human being
15. Addictions - substance abuse
16. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
17. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you
18. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
19. Lack of communication about important matters
20. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It is not always
women who complain about this relationship problem!
21. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness: feeling the relationship
is one-sided is a big one!
22. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship
dynamics
23. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or both
24. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the children
25. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive to
address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot be changed
26. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems after the birth of your
baby.

III. ACCOMPANYING DEPED TEXTBOOK AND EDUCATIONAL SITES

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT BOOK, Page 60-64
IV. EXERCISES / ACTIVITIES
Activity1 STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS. State whether these statements are TRUE or
FALSE.
1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
2. To love someone, we must love our self first.
3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us
build and maintain relationships.
4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words,
more likely than not, our relationship is doing good.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved one has hurt us.
7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good relationships.
9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships.
10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in relationships.
11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay connected by spending time with
us and letting us know that they love us.
12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in relationships.
13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to healthy relationships.
15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information, inspiration, practice,
and social support.
Activity 2. STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS. Agree or disagree on the statement
1. It is important to stick on your goal rather than entering in a relationship.
2. Always maintain positive attitude towards your goal.
3. It is necessary to have someone by your side when you’re down.
4. When in doubt, maintain a good relationship with God.
5. Problems are common, make your problem, problem you.
6. Always listen to yourself and not to others.
7. Loving means hurting oneself.
8. Stay away from people who are bad influence
9. Never looked back from your family that hurt you.
10. Social media is the best way to express your feelings.
Activity 3. My Family, Friends and Significant Other’s Portrait
In silence, think about your family – the members, your friends, and significant other (if there’s
any), their current situations, and the quality of your relationships with them. In a blank sheet of paper,
divide the paper into three and draw or illustrate the portrait of your family, friends and significant other
(if there’s any). Remember that there is no right or wrong illustration. Your illustration/ drawing should
reflect how you perceive your family, friends and your partner (if there’s any) and the relationship you
have with them right now. At the back of the paper, answer the following questions.
Guide Questions:
1. How did you feel when you were creating the portrait of your family? Friends? Partner (if there’s
any)?
2. How easy or difficult was it for you to come up with the drawings/ illustration? What made it
easy? What made it difficult?
3. What new things did you realize or discover about your family/ friends/ partner (if there’s any)
after making your drawing?
V. GUIDE QUESTIONS
Use these guide questions to share your thoughts, feelings, and opinion about your personal
relationship.
1. What kind of relationship do you have in your family, friends, or partner (if there’s any)?
2. What is your role in the relationship?
3. Are you satisfied with the type of relationship that you have with them?
4. Do you believe that your relationship with them can be improved?
5. In what ways can you help to improve your relationship with them?
VI. REFLECTIONS
Write a reflection paper on your relationships, why they are important, and how you intend to keep the
good relationships strong and healthy.
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 Rubrics in answering Activity 3, Guide questions and Reflections
Exemplary 4 Sufficient 3 Minimal 2 Beginning
points points points 1 point
Self- Student demonstrates Student demonstrates Student demonstrates Student
disclosure / an in-depth reflection a general reflection on, a minimal reflection on, demonstrates a lack
Depth of on, and and personalization of, and personalization of, of reflection on, or
reflection personalization the theories, concepts, the theories, concepts, personalization of,
of the theories, and/or strategies and/or strategies the theories,
concepts, and/or presented in the course presented in the concepts, and/or
strategies presented in materials. Viewpoints course materials. strategies
the course materials. and interpretations are Viewpoints and presented in the
Viewpoints and supported. Appropriate interpretations are course materials.
interpretations are examples are provided unsupported or Viewpoints
insightful and well from personal supported with flawed and interpretations
supported. Clear, experiences, as arguments. Examples are missing,
detailed examples from applicable. are not provided or are inappropriate,
personal experiences irrelevant to the and/or unsupported.
are provided, as assignment. Examples are not
applicable. provided.
Connection Student makes in- Student goes into little Student merely
to outside depth synthesis of detail explaining some identifies some
experiences thoughtfully selected specific ideas or issues general ideas or
aspects of from outside issues from outside
experiences related to experiences related to experiences related
the topic and makes the topic and m very to the topic.
clear connections few connections
between what is between what is
learned from outside learned from outside
experiences and the experiences and the
topic. topic.
Connection Student makes in- Student goes into more Student goes into little Student identifies
to readings depth synthesis of detail explaining some detail explaining some some general ideas
thoughtfully selected specific ideas or issues specific ideas or issues or issues from
aspects of readings from readings related from readings related readings related to
related to the topic to the topic and makes to the topic and makes the topic. Readings
and makes clear general connections general connections are only those
connections between between what is between what is assigned for the
what is learned from learned from readings learned from readings topic.
readings and the and the topic. Includes and the topic.
topic. Includes reference to at least
reference to at least one reading other than
two readings other those assigned for
than those assigned class.
for class.
Connection Student synthesizes, Student synthesizes Student attempts to Student has
to class analyzes and clearly some directly synthesize some difficulty restating
discussions evaluates thoughtfully appropriate ideas or directly appropriate some general ideas
& unit selected aspects of issues from the class ideas or issues from or issues from the
objectives ideas or issues from discussion as they the class discussion class discussion as
the class discussion relate to this topic. as they relate to this they relate to this
as they relate to this topic. topic.
topic.
VII. REFERENCE FOR LEARNERS
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Apurado, A., “Learning Acitivity Sheets in Personality Development”,

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1PVQyOM1Z1kJjhb-ZkpubByS1qA6iZMFK

Clark-Lempers, D., J.D. Lempers & C. Ho. (1991). Early, Middle, and Late Adolescents'
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Roldan, Amelia S. (2003). On Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on Personality Development

and Character Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS),
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“Personal Relationship”, accessed last June 13, 2020,

https://www.slideshare.net/PennVillanueva/personal-relationship

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Source: http://www.professional-counselling.com/common-relationship-problems.html
Source:http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-wellbeing/relationships/whypersonal-
relationships-are-important
VIII. ANSWER KEY

ACTIVITY 1
1. TRUE 6. TRUE 11. TRUE
2. TRUE 7.FALSE 12. TRUE
3. TRUE 8.TRUE 13. FALSE
4. FALSE 9.TRUE 14. TRUE
5. TRUE 10.FALSE 15. TRUE
ACTIVITY 2
1. AGREE
2. AGREE
3. AGREE
4. AGREE
5. AGREE
6. DISAGREE
7. DISAGREE
8. AGREE
9. DISAGREE
10. DISAGRE
ACTIVITY 3
Answers may yary
GUIDE QUESTIONS
Answers may vary
REFLECTIONS
Answers may vary