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Course-Reader-2009 Hakomi
Course-Reader-2009 Hakomi
on the
Refined Hakomi Method
of
Mindfulness-Based,
Assisted Self-Discovery
Why Self-Discovery 5
Hakomi’s Uniqueness 6
Statement of Purpose 6
About Humans 6
Prototypic Healing 6
Section I. The Fundamental Situation 7
1. The Nature of Mind 7
a. Consciousness is Choice 7
b. Consciousness is Limited 8
c. Helping Our Clients Become Conscious 9
d. Insight 11
2. The Unconscious 12
a. The Unconscious I 12
b. The Unconscious II 13
c. The Adaptive Unconscious 15
d. Found in Translation 18
3. Belief and Implicit Belief 19
a. “We Are Such Stuff…” 19
b. Implicit Beliefs 19
c. Implicit Beliefs as Rules 20
d. Rules of Thumb 21
4. Mindfulness and Mindfulness-Based Self-study 23
a. What Mindfulness Is 24
i. How to Get into Mindfulness and What it Feels Like 24
ii. How Mindfulness is Used in Evoking Reactions 24
iii. How to Study Your Reactions 25
iv. How to Report Your Reactions 26
v. When the Reaction Includes the Expression of Strong Emotion 26
5. Musings on the Self 26
a. About Prediction 27
Section II. The Method 28
1. A Brief Overview 28
2. An Outline of the Method 30
3. Recent Thinking That Has Refined the Method 34
a. The Adaptive Unconscious 34
b. The Healing Process 35
c. The Process in Graphic Form 36
4. The Process as Three Phases and Six Skill Sets 37
a. Three Phases 37
i. Phase One: Preparation Phase 37
ii. Phase Two: Assisted Self-Study Phase 37
iii. Phase Three: The Healing Phase 38
b. The Six Skill Sets 39
i. State of Mind Skills 40
“Personality resides in two places…” One is the adaptive unconscious, measurable by indirect
techniques, knowable by indirect means. Let’s call that personality, the adaptive self. It is all the
ways we learned to be in the world, our dispositions and motives, our habit patterns. The other
personality, according to Wilson, is the constructed self, all those practiced enactments of who are
that we offer up to each other.
About these two selves, the adaptive and the constructed, there is increasing evidence that they
are, amazingly enough, “relatively independent”. So, we have choices when it comes to knowing
each other, and knowing our selves. We can learn about each other through an exchange of sto-
ries, stories about our constructed selves. Or we can know each other through “indirect tech-
niques”. (I’ll be talking about them, in a moment.) If I, as a Hakomi practitioner, can learn about
you using such techniques, I may also be able to help you to know your adaptive self. Assisting
someone self discover is the goal of the method.
Questions aren’t the way to learn about the adaptive self. Ask a question, you’ll get a construed
answer. To consciously interact with the adaptive self, you’ll have to use those indirect techniques
that are the heart of the Hakomi Method. While there are interactions going on between two
people at the level of their adaptive selves, normally, the influences on those interactions are hap-
pening more or less outside of consciousness. Here, very briefly, is how we do it consciously in the
service of self-discovery:
We pay attention to the client’s habitual expressions and behaviors. We make experienced guesses
about the historical situations that might have influenced the development of those habits and
expressions.3 We then test our guesses using “little experiments” done with the client in a calm,
self-observing state. The little experiments are simple statements or gentle nonverbal interven-
tions, that are designed to evoke reactions that reveal the beliefs, “dispositions and motives” of the
adaptive self.
You want to use experiments—which are just a better way to ask questions—if you want to talk to
the adaptive unconscious. Second, there are two kinds of selves, conscious and nonconscious. In
this work, we intentionally communicate with the adaptive unconscious, by our tone of voice and
by contacting the experiences and actions that are controlled by it.
1
Wilson, Timothy D. (2004). Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious. Cambridge,
MA: Belknap, Harvard University Press.
2
from T.S. Eliot’s poem, The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.
3
We call the client’s habitual expressions and behaviors, “indicators” and the client’s calm, self-observing
state, “mindfulness”.
4
Tiller, William A. Dibble, Walter E., Fandel, J. Gregory (2005), Some Science Adventures with Real
Magic, Pavior Publishing, Walnut Creek, CA (page 245)
5
Quoting the economist, Brian Arthur, in the book, Presence: An Exploration of Profound Change in
People, Organizations, and Society by P. Senge, Scharmer, J. Jaworski, and B. S. Flowers
6
And, of course, that means “and Brain”. A good book about the Mind and Brain, is: Schwartz, Jeffrey M.
and Begley, Sharon. (2002). The Mind and the Brain: Neuroplasticity and the Power of Mental Force New
York: Regan Books, Harper Collins, Publishers
7
Hawkins, Jeff and Blakeslee, Sandra, (2004) On Intelligence. New York: Times Books, Henry Holt and
Company, LLC. See also, an important paper in the Readings and on my website:
http://www.hakomi.com/welcome
8
A favorite saying of his. (Personal communication.) A good book about Feldenkrais is Making
Connections: Hasidic Roots and Resonance in the teachings of Moshe Feldenkrais by David Kaetz. River
Center, Vancouver, B. C.
9
Phantoms in the Brain, pg. 238
10
In Toward a Science of Consciousness III. Eds. Stuart R. Hameroff, Alfred W. Kaszniak, and David J.
Chalmers. 1999. M.I.T. Press.
11
Calvin, William H. (2001). How Brains Think: Evolving Intelligence, Then and Now. New York: Basic
Books.
12
Brooks, David (June 26, 2009) Human Nature Today. New York Times.
13
Wilber, Ken (1995) Sex, Ecology, Spirituality.: The Spirit of Evolution. Shambhala
14
Bargh, J. Chartrand, T., The Unbearable Automaticity of Being, available on the web at:
http://www-pu.informatik.uni-tuebingen.de/trivia/Bargh.pdf
15
Wilson, Timothy D. (2004). Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious. Cambridge,
MA: Belknap, Harvard University Press.
16
This topic is written about as “cognitive load.”
17
Swiller, J. Cognitive Load Theory. Go to http://tip.psychology.org/sweller.html
18
i of the vortex, pg. 254
19
In i of the vortex, Chapters 3 & 8.
20
One more good book to mention is Blink: Gladwell, Malcolm (2005) : The Power of Thinking Without
Thinking. New York: Little Brown. A particularly pertinent section is the one on improvisational theater,
starting on page 111.
21
From: The of Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind.
22
See also the discussion of Janet’s ideas, in the section called, Some Essential Aspects of the Method.
23
Words by Hal David Music by Burt Bacharach (1969) I'll Never Fall in Love Again. Originally written
for the 1968 musical, Promises, Promises.
24
It’s important to remember that successful avoidance is its own reward. Every time we avoid something
successfully, the habit to do so becomes stronger.
25
Janet, Pierre.1925. Principles of Psychotherapy. G. Allen & Unwin Ltd.: London
26
from The Symptom Path to Enlightenment by Ernst Rossi, pg 125
27
the word abaissement is French for lowering.
28
Ellenberger, Henri F. (1981) The Discovery of the Unconscious. Basic Books
29
I remember that the case was made years ago in an article from the magazine ReVision, by an Irish
psychotherapist. Could not find the reference.
Psychotherapy, like other forms of medical intervention, is now expected to be “evidence-based,” and
the evidence doesn’t support the view that talking about childhood experiences has therapeutic value.
Research shows that the effective forms of psychotherapy are those that focus on people’s current prob-
lems, rather than their ancient history. — Judith Rich Harris30
I’ll try reconciling these two points of view: “undigested childhood experiences” and the idea that
talking about childhood doesn’t help. First, the second idea. This one is my own idea and it’s
about “missing experiences”. I am going to offer a very obvious point. When painful experiences
don’t complete, it is because support for its completion was missing. We can then ask, what are
those conditions and actions that support the completion of painful experiences? Here’s what I
think main ones are: a feeling of safety and being protected, enough time, the presence of a
skilled, compassionate person, and the physical comfort needed to contain the whole process of
completion.
Safety is needed to allow the overwhelmed mind to turn inward and work on completing the
experience. That process is called “integration”. Time is needed because integration takes time.
What we do in Hakomi is start the process of integration in such a way that it has a very strong
possibility of completing. We don’t always complete long-standing unintegrated experiences in
one shot but, often we do. Still, it may only need one good therapy session to start a process that
leads naturally to a successful completion. A skilled, compassionate person is needed because the
initial effort to complete includes the effort to bring unintegrated experience into present aware-
ness and to contain the emotions released by that awareness.
Insight31
There seems to be an inherent need in our species to know how things hang together, to make
sense of our experiences, to have reasons and explanations for the how and why of them. Some-
times it’s easy, sometimes a little work is required (think of quantum theory for example), and
sometimes, it’s almost impossible. When things happen that overwhelm the mind, like trauma or
incredible complexity, making sense doesn’t happen. Another important barrier to making sense
is the large amount of behaviors that are initiated and controlled by the adaptive unconscious.
When things don’t hang together, especially when they involve painful experiences and significant
people in our lives, the memory is avoided. Though repressed, it can still have strong effects. The
more powerful of these experiences usually happens in childhood, as the person’s mind is as open
then as it will ever be. In our work with clients, those buried memories and painful emotions
sometimes come suddenly into the client’s awareness. When that happens in the therapy setting,
the impulse to make sense arrives with them often overrides the habit of repressing them. Then,
the client’s adult mind may now have spontaneous insights that move the process along and begin
to resolve the issues that those earlier experiences created. Often, very little support from the
therapist is needed. The therapist’s silence and some comforting to help with the emotions, are all
that’s needed.
The client’s face can often reveal that she or he is having insights. There may be sounds like “oh”
and nodding of the head. These are signs that the client is doing internal work. It’s best that the
therapist remain silent at these times.
Insights create meaningful histories. They make sense of what happened. They provide a way to
summarize remembered events and place in a framework that makes sense of them. The memo-
30
From No Two Alike by Judith Rich Harris, pg 138
31
Thanks to Carmen Senosiain for seeing that this section needed to be written.
The Unconscious
The Unconscious: I
Self-States: Multiplicity.
In Philip Bromberg’s book, Awakening the Dreamer, he clarifies the general observation that many
people, over many, many years have talked about, the multiplicity of selves. The idea is that we‘re
composed of many selves. Various theorists talk about it. In Internal Family Systems, the selves
are categorized. There are managers, exiles, fire fighters and the leader. Other thinkers divide it
differently. Fritz Perls talked about top dogs and bottom dogs. Freud, ego, superego and id. There
are probably fifteen more or less reasonable theories of multiple sub-personalities. The useful idea
is that we each have several selves. It is the nature of their relationships that makes one who one
is. Here’s what on Hippolyte Taine said about it, as quoted in Bromberg32
One can compare the mind of a man to a theater of indefinite depth whose apron is very narrow but
whose stage becomes larger away from the apron. On this lighted apron there is room for one actor only.
He enters, gestures for a moment and leaves. Another arrives then another and so on. Among the scenery
and on the far off back stage there are multitudes of obscure forms whom a summons can bring on the
stage and unknown evolutions take place incessantly among this crowd of actors.
Hippolyte Taine wrote that in 1817. So the idea of a multiplicity is not new.
There is one actor on stage and there’s a multiple of them offstage. Offstage, there are two kinds
of actors. There are actors who can come on stage when they are needed, when some situation
calls for a particular actor. That’s automatic. He stays off stage until such a situation arises. The
other actors remain off stage. If they are having an effect, it’s not noticed by consciousness. These
actors come on stage when the situation deems it appropriate. Bromberg calls these actors being
offstage, normal dissociation. It’s dissociation, but it’s natural and necessary for ordinary functioning.
Here’s an example from when I was in undergraduate school: I was walking on campus with a
buddy of mine who was in a jazz group with me. I played bass for a little extra money in those
days. We were talking the way jazz musicians talk. We had our own language and, being just our-
selves, we quite naturally used it. “Yeah, man, it was groovy.” “I’m hip, man, I dig it.” We were
walking along as we often did and we were talking that way. At one point, I noticed the chairman
of the English department coming towards us. He was, one of my closest mentors. At the time, I
was the editor of the literary magazine which was published by English department. So, when Dr.
Brody got within ear shot, the jazz guy I left the stage and was immediately replaced by the editor
of the literary magazine, who said, in very proper English, “Good morning Dr. Brody. How are
you, sir?” Dr. B. replied is his Chairman-of-the-Department self, “I’m fine Ronald, and how are
you?” And I said, still being my editor-of-the-literary-magazine self, “I’m fine, sir, thank you.” He
walked past us and, when I looked at my jazz buddy, he was standing there with his mouth open
and an expression that said, “What the @#&*% was that?”
I hadn’t even noticed that I had shifted selves. My buddy’s look woke me up to it. I had a tough
time explaining it. That’s a perfect example of how we can unconsciously switch roles, and have
a whole new self-state emerge. Now suppose I had seen somebody I really disliked. I would have
switched to even different self-state, one motivated by that emotion. We do this kind of thing all
day long. These different self-states are patterns of adaptation, unified adaptive patterns, evoked
32
Bromberg, Philip M. (2006) Awakening the Dreamer: Clinical Journeys. Mahwah, NJ: The Analytic
Press.
The Unconscious II
33
I’ve made an appendix of the references and quotes, all of which talk about how unconscious we are, It’s
Appendix VI.
34
Llinás, Rodolfo R. (2002). i of the vortex: From Neurons to Self. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.
Wilson’s book brings light to the fact that we are much less aware or consciously in control of our
experiences than we ordinarily assume. What’s new here is that the adaptive unconscious is not
simply the unconscious of Freud—a cauldron of repressed desires—with its repressive forces and pow-
erful, irrational impulses. Wilson states, “…a good deal of human perception, memory, and ac-
tion occurs without conscious deliberation or will…” Deliberation, according to Ramachandran,
is making a choice from a set of options and he believes this is the main function of conscious-
ness.36 Nonconscious “thoughts” tendencies, and foundational memories are important compo-
nents of core material. When you add rationalization, you get this:
All men have two reasons for everything they do:
a good reason and the real reason.
—J. P. Morgan
And, I might add, very often without being conscious of the real reason.
35
With a few quotes from Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious by Wilson,
Timothy D. (2004). Cambridge, MA: Belknap, Harvard University Press. I’ve added a few comments on
those excerpts. The Unbearable Automaticity of Being is also well worth looking at.
36
See Phantoms in the Brain.
37
Gladwell, Malcolm (2005) Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking. New York: Little Brown. In
Blink, Gladwell discusses both Wilson’s and Bargh.
38
Mindfulness in Plain English
39
One example of modularity is the visual system. It has over fifty separate neural circuits, each one having
a particular part in creating what appears in consciousness as a unified, integrated, stable visual image. The
amount of processing that’s needed to create that image is prodigious and enormously complex. Yet, we are
normally aware of nothing but the outcome.
40
Two books that examine what particular neurological disorders reveal about the modularity of the brain
are: Phantoms in the Brain by V. S. Ramachandran and Altered Egos: How the Brain Creates the Self by
Todd E. Feinberg.
41
Dörner, Dietrich (Author), Kimber, Rita (Translator), Kimber, Robert (Translator), (1997) The Logic of
Failure: Recognizing and Avoiding Error in Complex Situation. Perseus Books Group
42
Wegner, Daniel M. (2003) The Illusion of Conscious Will (Bradford Books) The MIT Press
43
Mischel, Walter. 1968, Personality and assessment. New York: Wiley.
44
Rhodes, Richard. (2000) Why They Kill: The Discoveries of a Maverick Criminologist. Vintage Books.
45
See in the Introduction, the section on Why Self-Discovery.
The brain appears to use the very same neural circuits to execute an unconscious act as it does a conscious
one.46
….this question of how much conscious control we have over our judgments, decisions, and behavior is one
of the most basic and important questions of human existence.47
…we engage in conscious thought, and it fills much of our waking life. But what most people are not
aware of, and are sometimes shocked to discover, is that most of our thought—an estimated 98 percent—is
not conscious. It is below the level of consciousness. It is what our brains are doing that we cannot see or
hear. It is called the cognitive unconscious, and the scientific evidence for its existence and for many of its
properties is overwhelming. Unconscious thought is reflexive—automatic, uncontrolled. Think of the knee
reflex, what your leg does when the doctor taps your knee. Conscious thought is reflective, like looking at
yourself in the mirror.48
The difference between reflexive and reflective is discussed elsewhere as the difference between
reactions and responses.49 Because statements often evoke reactions that do not seem to be
appropriate to their literal meaning I use a particular technique to help clarify what’s going on.
Here’s an example:
In couples therapy, I typically start by helping each partner to come up with a short, precise
statement about their experience of the relationship. Then, I use those statements as probes. In
one session I was doing, one partner, a man, offered the statement, “I need more free time.” His
wife, who was in mindfulness, heard that statement and reacted immediately by feeling hurt.
When something like that happens in therapy, I ask the person receiving the probe to learn what
translation they’re making of their partner’s statement. (Of course it’s not the conscious mind
that’s doing the translating; it’s the adaptive unconscious.) I tell the person reacting something like
this: “Please notice what you hear (or what you think it means) when your partner says”… then I
have the partner say the probe again.
What the woman in this example heard, when her husband repeated the statement was, “I don’t
love you anymore.” That’s what the statement “meant” to her. Or rather, that’s what it was
translated into by her adaptive unconscious. Importantly, until we did it again, she was not con-
scious of even having that idea; she was aware only of feeling hurt. She heard one thing and re-
acted to something different, the meaning her unconscious mind had given it. It’s usually the case
with such translations, that the automatic translation is associated with a core issue that’s created
a perceptual bias.
It’s not just statements that are unconsciously assigned meaning. All kinds of behaviors are also.
Ordinary gestures and tones of voice are given meaning, usually without conscious thought. The
behaviors are given meaning at an unconscious level and that meaning generates reactions in the
people observing the behaviors. It’s what makes indicators, indicators.
Perceptions are also “given meanings”. Here’s a quote from an article called, The Itch:
….perception is the brain’s best guess about what is happening in the outside world. …. our weaver-brain
assembles as its best hypothesis of what is out there from the slivers of information we get. Perception is in-
ference.50
46
Carey, Benedict, Who’s Minding the Mind? Science News, July 31, 2007
47
Bargh, J. and Chartrand, T., The Unbearable Automaticity of Being, available on the web at:
http://www-pu.informatik.uni-tuebingen.de/trivia/Bargh.pdf p.3
48
Lakeoff, George 2009 The Political Mind. NY: Penguin Books, pg 9
49
Page 26.
50
Gawande, Atul, The Itch, The New Yorker Magazine, June 30, 2008
51
For example: Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious by Timothy D. Wilson;
Making Up the Mind: How the Brain Creates Our Mental World by Chris Frith and The Illusion of
Conscious Will by Daniel M. Wegner.
52
Llinás, Rodolfo R. (2002). i of the vortex: From Neurons to Self. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.
53
http://www.psywww.com/intropsych/ch03_states/hidden_observer.html
54
from The Developing Mind, pg. 29.
55
Calvin, William H. (2001). How Brains Think: Evolving Intelligence, Then and Now. New York: Basic
Books.
Rules of Thumb
An interested observer, noticing someone’s habitual behavior patterns, might easily have ideas
about the unconscious rules behind those patterns.56 A therapist might notice that a client thinks
silently, without attempting to engage the therapist in the process. A therapist trained to think
about indicators would quickly have ideas about self-reliance, weaknesses to be avoided, growing
up too quickly and a rule about not counting on others to help.
Thinking this way helps therapists understand how clients they organize their experiences.57
Understanding these things allows therapists to help clients become aware of them. In most peo-
ple, these organizing influences are no more conscious than the organizing principles that govern
riding a bicycle. Think of this: chimpanzees can learn to ride bicycles using the very same princi-
ples without having a way to talk about it.
We speak properly. We somehow know the how of grammar, without necessarily knowing the
facts of grammar. Even though most of us cannot name all the rules of that grammar, we speak
correctly. So, in some sense, we know the rules. But this knowing how is not the same as knowing
56
A good exercise that shows this is the ‘I have an idea about you’ one.
57
For example, organizing needs into weaknesses to be avoided.
58
Pattern recognition: a couple of good books to read are: The Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel and A
General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, et al. See also, Gerald Edelman’s, Bright Air, Brilliant Fire.
59
For research on this, read Jaak Panksepp’s Affective Neuroscience and Alan Schore’s Affect Regulation.
60
The repeated iteration of even a very simple formula can give rise to something as infinitely complex as
the Mandelbrot Set.
61
Steven Johnson, Emergence: The Connected Lives of Ants, Brains, Cities, and Software
62
No one has ever succeeded in teaching an individual ant anything even as simple as a two choice maze.
About ants, one might want to read Edward O. Wilson or a book called, How the Leopard Changed Its
Spots by Brian Goodwin.
Sitting quietly and listening carefully to yourself, you can observe the main voice in which your
thoughts recite themselves.64
According to the buddhadharma, spirituality means relating with the working basis of one's existence,
which is one's state of mind. The method for beginning to relate directly with mind is the practice of
mindfulness.65
…the capacity to observe one's inner experience in what the ancient texts call a ‘fully aware and
non-clinging’ way66.
Bare Attention [mindfulness] is the clear and single-minded awareness of what actually happens to
us and in us at the successive moments of perception.67
The fundamental insight of most Eastern schools of spirituality, however, is that while thinking is a
practical necessity, the failure to recognize thoughts as thoughts, moment after moment, is what gives
each of us the feeling that we call "I," and this is the string upon which all our states of suffering
and dissatisfaction are strung.68
Control of attention is the ultimate individual power.69
Our ability to perceive the world around us seems so effortless that we tend to take it for granted. But
just think of what's involved. You have two tiny upside down distorted images inside your eyeballs
but what you see is a vivid three-dimensional world out there in front of you and this transformation
is nothing short of a miracle.70
63
I have one, interesting example of the power of local rules. William R. Bartmann became a billionaire by
changing one very simple local rule. Banks recover bad debts by paying people to pursue debtors and
hound them with great persistence and much guilt slinging and accusatory language. On average, they get
back1% of their money. Bartmann became a billionaire by buying those same bad debts and recovered nine
cents on the dollar on those same debts. He instituted one simple rule that all the people working for him
as debt collectors followed: Be polite! This simple local rule earned him an 800% profit.
64
Thurman, Robert. (1999). Inner Revolution. New York: Riverhead Trade Paperback
65
The Four Foundations of Mindfulness Meditation, Excerpted in the Shambhala Sun, March 2000.
66
From The Mind and the Brain: Neuroplasticity and the Power of Mental Force. I recommend this book
for its clear, scientific presentation of the case for free will. —RK
67
From The Power of Mindfulness
68
From The End of Faith, Religion, Terror, and the Future of Reason
69
Brooks, David (December 16, 2008) Lost in the Crowd. The New York Times
70
Rieth Lectures: The Emerging Mind, Lecture 2: Synapses and the Self. This lecture and four others can be
found at: http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/reith2003/reith2003_lecture2.shtml
71
Frith, Chris (2007) Making Up The Mind, How the Brain Creates our Mental World Wiley. pg. 68.
ISBN-10: 1405160225, ISBN-13: 978-1405160223
72
Natalie Depraz Francisco J. Varela and Pierre Vermersch To appear in: M.Velmans (Ed.), Investigating
Phenomenal Consciousness, Benjamin Publishers, Amsterdam, 1999
73
http://www.enneagram.com/helen_palmer.html
74
Reactions will arise and die away by themselves, if we do not allow them to lead into further actions.
“I" has always been the magnificent mystery; I believe, I say, I whatever. But one must understand
that there is no such tangible thing. It is just a particular mental state, a generated abstract entity we
refer to as "I" or “self.”
So what is the self then? Well, it is a very important and useful construct, a complicated eigen (self)
vector. It exists only as a calculated entity. Consider the following two examples of what I mean. First
we have the concept of Uncle Sam. When one reads in the newspapers, “Uncle Sam bombards
Belgrade,” everyone understands that the U.S. Armed Forces have been deployed against that country.
However, there is no such entity as Uncle Sam. It is a convenient symbol and even a convenient
concept that implies existence, but it is a category without elements. The "I" of the vortex, that which
we work for and suffer for, is just a convenient word that stands for as global an event as does the
concept of Uncle Sam vis a vis the reality of a complex, heterogeneous United States.
The thalamocortical system is a close to isochronic sphere that synchronously relates the sensory-
referred properties of the external world to internally generated motivations and memories. This
temporally coherent event that binds, in the time domain, the fractured components of external and
internal reality into a single construct is what we call the “self."
— Rudolpho Llinás78
I am struck by the close resemblance of Llinás’ statements to Buddhist ideas. I’m thinking of, All is
without a self. Llinás’ says the self is just a particular mental state. In my mind that changes everything. I
talked about this in the opening section of this handbook, Why Self Discovery. We have and use
75
Taking over is discussed in the section on Support for Healing Skills.
76
Following is discussed in the section on Some Essential Aspects of the Refined Method.
77
Using assistants is discussed in the section on Some Essential Aspects of the Refined Method.
78
Llinás, Rodolfo R. (2002). i of the vortex: From Neurons to Self. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.
And that’s just Llinás. Then there’s autobiographical memory and the adaptive self. Here’s how
intense it is: when you Google “the self” and you get 155,000,000 entries (in 0.15 seconds, by the
way). I won’t go into all of them.
79
See the Hippolyte Taine quote on page 18???
80
For more on this, see Why God Won't Go Away: Brain Science and the Biology of Belief by A. Newberg,
E. G. D'Aquili, V. Rause. 2002. New York: Ballantine Books
81
Llinás, Rodolfo R. (2002) ibid.
82
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allostasis
83
The book to read is Hawkins, Jeff (2004) On Intelligence New York: Holt Paperbacks.
A good therapist, shares control with everything present, sometimes moving deeply into to the unfolding
action, sometimes waiting quietly as the other does inner work, surfing gracefully the changing
amplitudes of intimacy. —Ron Kurtz
Hakomi deals with the organization of experience. For people having experiences — that’s you,
me and everyone else — an experience just happens, full blown and immediate. We see what we
see without feeling or sensing how the brain creates images.84 We see the shapes and colors, we
speak words and sentences, we make hundreds of movements with our eyes, all without
experiencing how our brains do these things. All experience is the outcome of complex organizing
processes of the brain, processes which take place outside of consciousness.
For vision, there are fifty or so different centers in the brain that contribute to the final visual
experience.85 These centers handle things like color, depth and sequence. Their functions become
obvious only when they cease to function normally. There are some unconscious organizers that
exert a very strong influence on our whole way of being. As Hakomi therapists, these are the
organizers we’re interested in. They are emotions, beliefs, attitudes, early learning, adaptations
and memories. We call these organizers core material. Often, they are as inaccessible to the ordinary
consciousness as are the circuits in the brain that create vision.
However, using this method, some of them can be made conscious. The method makes core
material conscious. Some core material causes unnecessary suffering and the method provides a
way to reduce it. Some suffering is unnecessary because the core material that organizes it, is no
longer applicable. Some beliefs, adaptations, etc. developed in early life situations no longer
pertain, but are still active. Though the current situation has changed, the old adaptations are still
be automatically applied. Outdated or not, they go on organizing experience, causing problems
and unnecessary suffering.86 So, we work to bring core material into consciousness. Doing so
offers the person a chance to reduce that kind of suffering. Once in consciousness, core material
can be examined and revised and its influence eliminated or greatly diminished. The way we do
this is unique.
We do something that no other therapy that I know of does. We do “experiments” with clients
while they are in a mindful state. These experiments are brief and evocative. They are created on
the basis of what we have observed about the individual and they are designed to evoke reactions
that will lead directly to emotional release and/or insight. And mindfulness is essential. When
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Frith, Chris (2007) Making Up The Mind, How the Brain Creates our Mental World Wiley.
ISBN-10: 1405160225, ISBN-13: 978-1405160223
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Crick, F. & Koch, C. 1995. Are we aware of neural activity in primary visual cortex? Nature 375: 121-
23.
86
Of course, some suffering is normal and perhaps, necessary. Grief over a death might be an example.
87
For more about this, see Damasio, Antonio. (2003). Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling
Brain. New York: Harcourt.
88
See “Hakomi’s uniqueness on page 2.
89
For a detailed explanation of mindfulness and how it is used, see page 22!
There is now convincing evidence that much of our behavior happens without conscious
awareness. On this subject, I can recommend four books two articles.90 The words used to
describe that part of the mind which carries out these behaviors is the “adaptive unconscious”.
My study of and application of this idea is the first of four ideas which are the topics of this outline
and the most important additions to my thinking over the last few years.
The Adaptive Unconscious.
a. the actions of the AU are generally unnoticed, habitual, and many are indications of early
adaptive learning, such as learning the grammar of ones native tongue.
b. some characteristics of the operations of the AU, according to Wilson are, it is
nonconscious, fast, unintentional, uncontrollable, and effortless.
c. the operations of the AU can be observed when a person is in a mindful state.
d. the paper on Cognitive Load by Swiller discusses the limitations of consciousness, as does V.
S. Ramachandran in his book, Phantoms in the Brain.
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Strangers to Ourselves. Wilson, T.,
The Illusion of Conscious Will, Wegner, D.
Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking. Gladwell, M.
Making Up The Mind, How the Brain Creates our Mental World, Frith, C.
Bargh, J. and Chartrand, T., The Unbearable Automaticity of Being, available on the web at:
http://www-pu.informatik.uni-tuebingen.de/trivia/Bargh.pdf
Cognitive Load Theory. Swiller, J. available on the web at : http://tip.psychology.org/sweller.html
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In the Update Handbook of 2006
Three Phases
1. Preparation
2. Assisted Self-Study
3. Mental-Emotional Healing
All three phases operate within a context characterized by an embodiment within a set of well-
defined Principles.92
Phase One: Preparation Phase
1. loving presence
a. this phase is highly dependent on your own state of mind skills.
b. search for inspiration (for compassion, appreciation, love)
c. search for signs of the person’s present experience
d. make initial observations of the person’s “qualities”.
2. if possible, develop an hypothesis about the person’s models of self and world, based on the
indicators you’ve observed.
3. develop and do an experiment with the indicator you’ve chosen to work with.
a. these experiments are done with the person in a state of mindfulness93 in order to bring the
actions of the adaptive unconscious into awareness
b. the goals of such experiments are two-fold:
i. bringing the person’s unconscious models into consciousness
ii. initiating phase three: mental-emotional healing
c. experiments can be attempts to offer a kind of mental-emotional nourishment that your
hypothesis predicts the person will either have difficulty accepting or will experience as
very nourishing, or...
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The Principles are described in detail on page ???.
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Mindfulness is described in detail starting on page 20.
5. the person’s models of self and world become conscious and clear to him or her, or…
6. the process moves spontaneously into the mental-emotional healing phase.
4. during this phase, the primary tasks for the practitioner are:
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Please refer to the paper entitled To Heal Is To Be Whole Again which follows The Six Skill Sets. It
discusses the spontaneous re-adaptation towards wholeness and integrity.
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“…we can define automaticity as thinking that satisfies all or most of these criteria.” Wilson, Timothy
D. (2004). Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious. Cambridge, MA: Belknap,
Harvard University Press. (pg. 53)
I’ve summarized the skills needed for the Hakomi Method and organized them into six basic skill
sets. If you learn and practice these, you have a very good chance of becoming competent in the
method. Although each skill is unique and can be learned and practice separately, they function
within a session as an integrated whole. Here are the six sets in outline:
The Six Skill Sets
a. I have begun to see learning skills as much more important than learning theory. I see the
process as requiring six sets of skills, as follows:
i. State of Mind
ii. Relational
iii. Observational
iv. Modeling
v. Experimental
vi. Support for Healing
b. These skill sets are described in more detail below.
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In some cases, the person will not spontaneously respond. If that happens, help them to recover.
The main skill in this first set is a combination of two very important habits which set ones
state of mind. The state of mind is called loving presence and it is an integrated combination of
attitude, emotional state and focus of attention. These skills help a practitioner develop a state
of mind and being that is expressed effortlessly through ones demeanor and actions. This state
of mind has a profound effect on the development of relationships.
a. of all six sets, this is the most important. Reaching and maintaining a present-
centered, loving state is the first task of the therapist. Learning to do this is an
essential part of the trainings. Some people are already good at this and are naturally
drawn to the work. Learning how to look and listen to someone with the intention to
find something that inspires and maintains compassion, as well as the habit of staying
completely focused on what’s happening in the present, are the basic skills.
b. Being present means keeping your mind focused on what is going on for you and the
client right now, moment to moment. To train your mind to be present like that, you
have to train it away from one of our strongest, most common habits, the habit of
gathering information through asking questions and conducting ordinary
conversations. Those are bad habits, if you’re trying to be present.97 So, you have to
train your mind not to get drawn away from present experience by getting overly
focused on ideas, stories and conversation.
c. Other skills in this set are:
i. being patient
ii. being and staying calm
Without these habits of state of being, not much in the way of a connection to a client and his or
her adaptive unconscious will be possible. Without that connection, the process goes very slowly,
if it moves at all.
2. Relational Skills
These are skills that build and maintain a strong connection with people. The principle ones
are all about demonstrating these qualities and attributes:
a. through your behavior and a few short, accurate, non-disruptive contact statements, you
show that you are aware of what the other person is presently experiencing. getting and
staying in contact is the primary skill for connecting and staying connected. It creates the
sense in others that you are with them, aware of their feelings and present experiences. It
makes you able to anticipate their needs and work to provide help.
b. through your tone of voice, pace, posture and gestures, you show that you are patient,
sympathetic and non-judgmental.
c. your facial expressions, head movements and gestures show that you understand what
the person is saying, thinking and feeling
d. you work to gain a general understanding the person’s present situation and history.
You build a model in your mind that makes sense of the way they feel, think and
organize their life
e. you make a habit of keeping silent when the client needs time to think and remember
f. ways to intervene to move the process forward are part of this skill set. They are discussed
later in a section entitled, When and How to Intervene to Move the Process Forward on page 57.
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See the paper, Habits as Causes of Failure on page 55.
What’s needed most is a good set of attentional and recognition skills. Here’s a few of each:
a. Attentional Skills:
i. keeping your attention focused on present behaviors
ii. regularly scanning the face and body for signs of present experience
iii. regularly scanning the other’s behavior for possible indicators of unconscious
material (Note: A list of indicators appears in this document as Appendix 1.)
b. Emotion and Attitude Recognition Skills:
i. recognizing emotions quickly by subtle changes in tone of voice and/or facial
expression
ii. recognizing statements implied through tone of voice and gestures.
iii. being able to guess at the meaning of postures, gestures, etc.
iv. “feeling” the emotions in others, through limbic resonance and mirroring
v. recognizing the client’s need for silence
vi. recognizing the signs of integration and memory processes
4. Modeling Skills
The bridge between observation and experiment is the ability to create models of the laws
governing the behavior you’re observing. We could call these skills, modeling skills.
a. This is the method of science. Richard Feynman, the Nobel physicist, tells us the
three steps of science are: make a guess; calculate the implications of your guess; and
test your guess on the basis of your calculations.98 “If my guess is true, then if I do
this, this will happen.” That’s the gist of it.
b. we use our ability to observe behavior, especially indicators and our knowledge of
indicators, to make guesses about the person’s beliefs and models of self and world.
c. then we test our guesses by doing experiments. The outcomes of our experiments
allow us to evaluate and refine our guesses.
d. There is a mathematical theorem that describes how perceptions (sensory models of
the world) are continuously updated in the nervous system. It’s called, Bayes
Theorem, after the mathematician who discovered it.99 It describes mathematically
how models and beliefs are changed in the face of new evidence. It helps us
understand how some models can be believed so strongly. It suggests to me how
models (beliefs, e.g.) can become so strong in the face of contradictory evidence or no
evidence at all.
e. The general idea of modeling this:
i. we need to make guesses about what beliefs (models) are organizing the client’s
behavior and we need to do that by observing that behavior. This is a “reverse
engineering” problem.100
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The book is: Five Easy Pieces.
99
A paper entitled, How Bayesian math can help us understand the brain on this can be found at:
http://www.scientificblogging.com/profile/news It is written about in Making Up the Mind: How the Brain
Creates Our Mental World.
100
Note. Forward and reverse engineering and the method. E.g., forward engineering: 2 + 2 = ? This one is
easy. 2 + 2 = 4. Reverse engineering: a + b = 15. This one is harder. There are many possible answers. 5
+10, 4 + 11, etc. Guessing what beliefs and models are shaping a person’s behavior is a reverse engineering
problem. It could be any one of many possible beliefs. Why is he crying? Could be sad. Could be cutting
These are the skills you will need to create and execute good experiments.
a. creating hypotheses about core material from your observations of the client
b. helping the client become mindful when doing experiments
c. creating and executing experiments, using this form: describe how you’d like client to
participate, get permission, ask for mindfulness and wait for signs or a signal that
mindfulness is occurring, do the experiment, and observe its outcome or ask about that
d. follow the spontaneous reactions to an experiment and use them to support the unfolding
healing process (not as easy as it sounds)
e. be able to follow up with another experiment, if that seems useful
f. use the outcomes of experiments to think about missing experiences
In this model, what is seen as primary in shaping experience is not external reality—not what is
cognized, not the object of awareness—but rather the properties of that moment of mind itself.
—Daniel Goleman101
The phrase state of mind has much more precise meaning nowadays than it had just a few decades
ago. Neurological research has revealed much about exactly what states the brain can be in when
people interact.102 Many books have been written on the interaction of caregivers and the infants
in their care.103 Adults in relationship also affect each others’ states of mind. For the very intimate
onions. Could be something in his eye. We observe behavior and have to guess about the beliefs and
models. That’s a reverse engineering problem. Guesses are required. Hopefully, educated guesses.
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Writing on the Tibetan model of what shapes experience; Goleman, Daniel. Tibetan and Western Models
of Mental Health, In: H.H. Dali Lama. (1991) MindScience—An East-West Dialogue, Boston: Wisdom
Publications. (pg. 92)
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A good example would be the research on limbic resonance. For more about that, see: Lewis, Thomas
(Author), Amini, Fari (Author), Lannon, Richard(Author), (2001). A General Theory of Love. New York:
Vintage Books. For more about social engagement, see the paper: Neuroception: A Subconscious System
for Detecting Threats and Safety, at this web page: http://bbc.psych.uic.edu/pdf/Neuroception.pdf
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Schore, Allan N., (1994) Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self (The Neurobiology of Emotional
Development), Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Publishers, Gerhardt, Sue (2004). Why Love Matters: How
Affection Shapes a Baby's Brain, New York: Brunner-Routledge, and Cassidy, Jude (Ed.) and Shaver,
Phillip R. (1999). Handbook of Attachment: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications. New York: The
Guilford Press)
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It should be noted that, in this aspect, the method is solidly aligned with the most universal spiritual
teachings: agape in Christianity, compassion and mindfulness in Buddhism, nonviolence and non-
separation in both.
105
From a forthcoming book on Loving Presence, by Donna Martin and myself.
106
Margaret Brenman-Gibson, (1992) in Worlds in Harmony: Dialogs on Compassionate Action, H. H. H.
Dalai Lama, Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press
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Gendlin, E. T. The Primacy of Human Presence: Small Steps of the Therapy Process: How They Come
and How to Help Them Come, In G. Lietaer, J. Rombants and R. Van Balen eds. (1990) Client-Centered
and Experiential Psychotherapy in the Nineties, Leuven/Louvain, Belgium: Leuven University Press,
Nonverbal Indicators
Accessing the kinds of beliefs that pervasively and unconsciously influence experience requires
that the therapist get ideas about what the client’s formative early experiences were or what
implicit beliefs the client’s behaviors are expressing. To gather this information, the therapist
focuses attention on the qualities of the client’s habitual posture, tone of voice, facial expressions,
gestures, eye contact, speech patterns and such.108 Many of these qualities are habitual nonverbal
expressions of implicit beliefs. We call them indicators. (In the vernacular: “clues.”)
As you may imagine, there are many such indicators. Some can be completely obvious as to what
they say about the client. Others require that the therapist learn them over time. In Bioenergetics,
for example, the indicators are often postural. A sunken chest and locked knees for a Bioenergetic
therapist would be indicators of “an oral pattern”.109 Given that pattern, the therapist has both a
diagnosis and a way to proceed with treatment. Almost all methods of psychotherapy use
particular sets of indicators this way and usually refer to them “symptoms”. In this method, we
use indicators differently. We use them to get ideas for experiments.
As we interact and relate to others, we don’t normally focus on their little, seemingly insignificant
habits. In an ordinary interaction, conversation is most important; we might not consciously think
about a person’s subtle nonverbal behaviors. We might ignore a slight feeling of discomfort (about
not being believed) which results from the way the other person is looking at us with her head
always turned to one side. Odds are she won’t be consciously aware of either the angle of her
head or the skepticism it indicates. This level of interaction is usually handled by the adaptive
unconscious. In Hakomi, we consciously search for indicators and the turning of the head is a
common one. Through experimenting with it many times, I have come to expect that it can
indicate formative experiences of not being told the truth or not being understood. The emotion
associated with it is usually hurt. Though the hurt is not being felt at the moment, it is an
expression of the implicit belief: “I must be careful about what people are telling me! I could get
hurt again.” Though not conscious, this belief is controlling present behavior and experience.
Indicators are the external expressions of this process.
In Hakomi, we use indicators to create experiments, experiments designed to trigger reactions.
This is a vital piece of the method. It is our clear intention to study a client’s behavior not for
symptoms of disease but for sources of experiments. We anticipate that the experiments we carry
out will bring the unconscious, adaptive processes driving that behavior into the client’s
awareness. A therapist using this approach is thought of as having an experimental attitude. We
are evidence seekers, evidence which is gathered on the spot, evidence that clients can use to
understand themselves. The basic idea is this: (1) indicators suggest experiments; (2) experiments
108
A few examples would be: ending verbal statements with the inflection of a question or an habitually sad
looking face or tilt of the head.
109
One book precisely about this is: Depression and the Body: The Biological Basis of Faith and Reality by
Alexander Lowen.
Experiments110
The method is designed to lead clients towards greater consciousness of the implicit beliefs
that organize their reactions and experiences. That kind of information is not readily available to
consciousness. So, we don’t just ask for the information. Questioning doesn’t usually yield the
kind of information we’re after. What we do is: we create experiments using our guesses about
what the unconscious material might be. We get our guesses from behaviors that the surface
expressions of those deep structures. We call them indicators. Good experiments almost always
evoke the memories, images and beliefs that exist at the deeper levels. In order to make conscious
what was unconscious (and to satisfy our curiosity by being detectives and scientists), we think,
guess and we experiment. All our techniques serve that end.
The discoveries that clients make are the outcomes of experiments. It’s what this method does
that other methods don’t do. This is the only method I know of that does experiments in
mindfulness. These experiments create moments of insight, you could say, assisted insight. Here’s
the sequence: (1) once our relationship with the client is in place and the client understands what
we’re doing, we study the client for indicators and make our guesses about what they might mean
and/or what experiment we might do to both test our guesses and possibly bring unconscious
material into the client’s consciousness. (2) We set the experiment up carefully: we prepare the
client; we help the client become mindful; we explain what we’re going to do. (3) We wait for the
exactly right moment and when everything’s ready, we carefully do the experiment. (4) Then we
watch for and/or ask for the outcome: the client’s immediate reaction.
The process starts with loving presence and loving presence is maintained throughout. Still,
you have to switch gears at some point so that you’re doing two things at once. You’re in loving
presence which should be an habitual state of mind that shapes all your behavior (your pace, your
tone of voice, the way you look at people). At the same time, another habitual part of you is
looking for indicators. You’re also listening for key words and phrases. You’re thinking about the
client’s belief system and childhood. All this is going on in the early phases of a session. Loving
presence, however is the priority. Some part of you has to maintain loving presence even while
you’re doing all this gathering of information. You need information… so you can experiment!
Given that loving presence has been established, you search for indicators. When you find
one, you create an experiment using it. You have to have the idea that the indicator is one that
will probably lead to deeper material. You have to imagine what kind of experiments you could
do with that indicator and maybe even what reactions they might lead to. Your experience with
the method over time will help you do that. You do all this in your mind because you have to
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Talk given in class, August 2003
You set up experiments to test your ideas about the client. And the experiments you set up
are also designed to evoke something. The reactions evoked give you answers to your questions
and, if the experiments are good ones, they move the process towards insight and change. If you
think not sharing is the result of a core belief that says, “don’t expect help”, then you do a probe
like, “I’ll help you.” Or, you ask the client to fall backwards without looking back and you catch
them. If falling back is difficult for the client or if saying “I’ll help you” triggers crying and
sadness, then you’ve tested your idea and you’ve moved the process.
I have one more very important thing to say about experiments. When you do an experiment,
be sure to get the data. Get the data! Get the results! Your asking the client to, “Please notice your
immediate reaction when….” You want to know what happened. If you can’t see and hear what
happened, get a report! That’s one reason you did the experiment. To find out what would
happen. You’re not just curious, you also need that information to move the process. Of course,
many times you will have noticed what happened. In that case, you don’t have to ask for the data;
you’ve already got it. Make a contact statement or something!
Well, what if they don’t tell you their immediate reaction? What if they get dreamy and start
saying something like, “You know, my mother used to make these cookies.” Do you want to hear
about cookies or do you want to know what the client experienced when you did the experiment?
You’re not there to listen to stories. An experiment can lead to diversions. If it seems to doing
that, interrupt. When you get a chance say, “So, you’re remembering those great cookies, eh. I
get that they tasted really good. But, you didn’t tell me what happened with the experiment. Can
you tell me that.” Get the data!
To summarize: by noticing indicators and making deductions, you get ideas about the client.
Then, you test those ideas by doing experiments. So, it’s get ideas and test. Get ideas and test.
That’s the information gathering operation within the therapy process. Experiments often evoke
strong emotions and insights. That’s another good thing that can happen. When it does happen,
you follow through by working with the management of the emotion. All of this leads to
discoveries. The process works when the client discovers something about his or her deepest
convictions and models of the world. Because we’re looking for that same information, we’re
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Blurb, on the back cover of: The Ontogenetic Basis of Human Anatomy: A Biodynamic Approach to
Development from Conception to Birth by Erich Blechschmidt. 2004, North Atlantic Books, Berkeley, CA.
112
See the section on Following, page ……..
113
Quote from the 2006 Update Handbook.
114
In Good Poems, selected and Introduced by Garrison Keillor (pg156)
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Chapter 1 of a forthcoming book by the Hakomi Trainers. Please do not reproduce!
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The book to read is: Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious by Timothy Wilson.
Belknap Press, May 15, 2004
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“Whatever particular theory is subscribed to, all agree that expectations of other people and how they
will behave are inscribed in the brain outside conscious awareness, in the period of infancy, and that they
underpin our behavior in relationships through life. We are not aware of our own assumptions, but they are
there, based on these earliest experiences.” —Sue Gerhardt, in Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a
Baby's Brain, Brunner-Routledge; December 20, 2004
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“During these periods of abaissement [a lowering of psychic energy], Janet found, our psyche seems to
lose some of its capacity to synthesize reality into a meaningful whole. It we encounter a traumatic or
strong emotional event during these periods, the mind lacks its usual ability to make sense of it and fit it
properly into a meaningful, secure whole …. During abaissement, we tend to be emotionally vulnerable
and easily overwhelmed; we can register the life experiences, but we cannot properly ‘digest’ them. The
emotional experience floats in our unconscious, unassimilated, in effect, jamming the gears of the mind.”
—E. Rossi
119
The book to read is: The Symptom Path to Enlightenment by Ernst Rossi, especially pg 125.
120
These assumptions are not verbal, but are implicit in the habits which express them.
121
Natalie Depraz, Francisco J. Varela and Pierre Vermersch; In: M.Velmans (Ed.), Investigating
Phenomenal Consciousness, Benjamin Publishers, Amsterdam, 1999
(1) the client’s commitment and ability to enter into the process consciously and willingly,
and…
(2) the therapist’s ability to be present and compassionate, and to…
(3) understand nonverbal expressions as signs of present experience, and to…
(4) notice and understand the client’s non-conscious, habitual behaviors as indicators of
implicit beliefs and formative experiences, and to…
(5) create experiments which will trigger reactions that can lead to emotional release and self-
understanding, and to…
(6) enable positive emotional experiences previously rare or entirely missing.
A picture has emerged of a set of pervasive, adaptive, sophisticated mental processes that occur
largely out of view. Indeed, some researchers have gone so far as to suggest that the unconscious
mind does virtually all the work and that conscious will may be an illusion.122
Every creature with a brain has myriad predictions encoded in what it has learned123
All living organisms from the humble amoeba to the human are born with devices designed to
solve automatically, no proper reasoning required, the basic problems of life.124
The one thing we most want to help clients discover and change is the habitual ways they create
unnecessary suffering for themselves and others. The logic is this:
(1) Experience is organized by habits that function outside of consciousness.
(2) The most significant of these organizing habits are those that were learned early in life and
developed in reaction to compelling, formative experiences.125
(3) Such habits are stored in implicit memory and are not normally accessible to con-
sciousness.126
(4) They are automated procedures, triggered by perceptions of internal and external realities,
perceptions which themselves are influenced by organizing habits. (Given all this, it’s easy to
see how the whole system can regress so easily into unsupported virtual realities.)
(5) They are the functional equivalents of implicit beliefs 127
122
Strangers to Ourselves by Timothy Wilson, pg 5
123
John Holland, quoted in the book Complexity by Michael Waldrop, page 147
124
Damasio, A. 2003, Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling Brain
125
The book to read is Sue Gerhardt’s book, Why Love Matters and, for the relevant research, read Schore,
A. (1994) Affect Regulation and the Self: The Neurobiology of Affective Development. Oxford Press, and
the Handbook of Attachment (1999), Eds. Cassidy, J. and Shaver, P.R., New York, The Guilford Press
126
Implicit memory [sometimes called, procedural memory, sometimes, emotional memory] involves parts
of the brain that do not require conscious processing during encoding or retrieval. When implicit memory
is retrieved, the neural net profiles that are reactivated involve circuits in the brain that are a fundamental
part of our everyday experience of life: behaviors, emotions, and images. These implicit elements form
part of the foundation for our subjective sense of ourselves: We act, feel, and imagine without recognition
of the influence of past experience on our present reality. —Daniel Siegel, The Developing Mind, pg. 29.
Also, to at least one great neuroscientist: “The brain is a virtual reality machine.” “Consider, that the
waking state is dreamlike, in exactly the same sense that dreams are wakelike.” —Rodolfo R. Llinás, i of
the vortex: From Neuron to Self .
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“ Prediction is the ultimate and most pervasive of all brain functions” —Rodolfo R. Llinás, ibid.
“Fitness constrains regulation to be efficient, which implies preventing errors and minimizing costs. Both
needs are best accomplished by using prior information to predict demand and then adjusting all parameters
Indicators
A therapy session requires that the therapist be doing many things at once. Besides following the
conversation, getting and staying in loving presence, tracking the client’s present experience and
making contact statements, there’s searching for indicators. We all need to train ourselves to the point
where the adaptive unconscious will handle most of it. This need to multi-task is why it takes
deliberate practice for thousands of hours to become expert in anything.128,129 When the adaptive
unconscious handles things, it leaves you time to think. In this case, to think about what a new
indicator might mean and what experiment you can use to deal with it. Given that…
Working with indicators means: you are studying the client’s behavior for something interesting,
something that might be connected to a core belief. Some indicators, you’ll already know about,
from reading, practice, watching sessions and studying tapes. Others, you’ll discover as you go
along. You get a feel for what’s interesting that way. You get to know what deeper material might
be connected to the indicator.
This is how the process starts: conversation, loving presence, tracking and contact, getting a feel
for the client’s personality and searching for indicators. This first phase continues for awhile
(awhile being anywhere from a few minutes to several sessions). The process can’t proceed to the
next step, finding indicators and thinking little experiments, until the first phase has done two
things, (1) the client feel safe and has confidence in the therapist. And (2), you’ve gotten an idea
about an indicator and an experiment to do with it. While you’ve been establishing that sense of
safety and understanding for the client, you’ve been searching for an indicator. With a little
experience doing this, you’ll be able to find lots of good indicators. The more experience, the
easier it becomes. It’s mostly an intuitive process, sensing that there is a message in a piece of
behavior and learning to read those messages.
Early in the process, the therapist must focus attention on the client’s habitual posture, tone of
voice, facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, speech patterns and such.130 Many of these
qualities are habitual nonverbal expressions of core material. They’re clues as to what sort of
situations they were created to deal with, what adaptations the person made, deliberately or
procedurally. I call them indicators.
As you may imagine, there are lots of possible indicators. Some of them can be completely
obvious as to what they say about the client. Some of them are, like language, learned through use
over time, In Bioenergetics, for example, indicators are often postural. A sunken chest and locked
knees for a Bioenergetic therapist would be indicators of “an oral pattern”.131 Given that pattern,
the therapist has both a diagnosis and a way to proceed with treatment. Almost all methods of
to meet it.” — Peter Sterling from his paper: Principles of allostasis: optimal design, predictive regulation,
pathophysiology and rational therapeutics.
128
Brooks, David, Genius: The Modern View. New York Times, May 1, 2009.
129
Gladwell, Malcolm (2008) Outliers: The Story of Success New York: Little Brown
130
A few examples would be: ending verbal statements with the inflection of a question or an habitually sad
looking face or tilt of the head.
131
One book precisely about this is: Depression and the Body: The Biological Basis of Faith and Reality by
Alexander Lowen.
132
A good place to look is: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=a-look-tells-all
133
The late Art Pepper, jazz saxophone player.
134
For different cultures, like the Japanese culture, you may have to go more slowly and take a few other
steps first, like acknowledging the theme of the client’s presentation, before switching to an indicator.
135
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microexpression
Head nodding - Eyes checking Do you get it? Reaching for understanding
Head turned to one side or tilted Doubt, disbelief, mistrust
Chin thrust forward challenge/ stubbornness/
Chin held high unaffected, “above it all”, superior
Eyes always searching vigilance, fear, trauma
Eyes focused on therapist not sure of having people’s attention and/or
understanding
Eyes usually closed not wanting to be interrupted
Pace of speech fast not sure attention will last
Many Self-Interruptions fear of making mistakes
Voice very soft low energy, blocked emotions
Facial Expression (when relaxed) general mood, usual emotion or basic attitude
Following
“The best leader follows.” I first read that in the Tao Te Ching some 43 years ago. I’m still learning
what it means. Here are my thoughts on it this morning, May 23, 2007:
The keys to following are a present-centered awareness and an openness to changing direction
when the moment calls for it. These are the qualities I look for in students’ work. When these
qualities function in a fully integrated way, they create a sense of spaciousness and grace for
everyone involved. Those who learn to do this, find their work not only successful, but effortless
and pleasurable. Let’s look deeper!
It’s effortless because the skills involved have been learned and incorporated. They are habits
now, and are controlled not by conscious intent, but as adaptations to recognizable situations.
Simple automatic actions and simple guiding rules for those actions are the business of the
136
Effortlessness is one of five defining features of actions performed by the adaptive unconscious. The
others are: such actions are nonconscious, fast, unintentional, and uncontrollable. You can read about this
in Wilson, Timothy D. (2004). Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious. Cambridge,
MA: Belknap, Harvard University Press. pg. 53.
137
quoting the economist, Brian Arthur, in the book, Presence: An Exploration of Profound Change in
People, Organizations, and Society by P. Senge, Scharmer, J. Jaworski, and B. S. Flowers
“ .... the famous first sentence of Tolstoy’s great novel Anna Karenina: ‘Happy
families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.’ By that sentence,
Tolstoy meant that, in order to be happy, a marriage must succeed in many
different respects: sexual attraction, agreement about money, child discipline,
religion, in-laws, and other vital issues. Failure in any one of those essential respects
can doom a marriage even if it has all the other ingredients for happiness.”
“This principle can be extended to understanding much else about life besides
marriage. We tend to seek easy, single-factor explanations of success. For most
important things, though, success actually requires avoiding many separate possible
causes of failure.”
—Jared Diamond138
This principle can certainly be applied to doing psychotherapy. A general version of the principle
would be this: “Any complex system has many ways it can fail.” The method is certainly a complex
system. For it to succeed, the practitioner must have an array of useful habits and must avoid
some important ones that tend to disrupt the process. There are three habits, based on very
common attitudes, that inevitable cause the method to fail like a bad marriage.
What might be a good habit in one situation can easily be a bad one in a very different situation.
For the refined method, there are three all too common habits that have seriously damaging
effects on the process. These are: (1) having to be in control; (2) focusing on figuring everything
out; and (3) getting stuck in conversations. Although these three are related, I’ll discuss them one
at a time. I’ll discuss their sources in western culture and the effects they have on the process.
Habit One: Having to Be in Control
Mastery of the world is achieved by letting things take their natural course.
—Tao Te Ching139
Newton’s laws state that an object at rest remains at rest unless acted upon by an external force.
He also stated that an object in motion continues in motion, unless acted upon by an external
force. In other words, things don’t move on their own. An external force is always necessary.
That’s a good definition of a “thing”. It’s a serious mistake to think that living things operate the
same way. Newton’s laws work really well for objects possessing only mass (if there are such
things140), but humans and other living things are not simply mass; they’re also, to varying
degrees, self-determined, aware and intelligent. They move on their own. Newton had a powerful
influence on the images of reality and the philosophy of the western world. In that image, reality
is made up of atoms —solid, separate, isolated, indivisible objects. Billiard balls that only move
when acted upon by an external force. And who or what is that force? Well, when practitioners assume
138
Diamond, Jared (1997) Guns, Germs, and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies. W.W. Norton &
Company, ISBN 0-393-03891-2 (pg. 157).
139
Chapter 48, Patrick M. Byrn translation. Found at: http://wayist.org/ttc%20compared/byrn.htm#top
140
For a good review of the consciousness of everything, including non-living matter, see Ervin Laszlo’s
Science and the Akashic Field: An Integral Theory of Everything. 2004. Inner Traditions. Rochester, VT
141
1999Mark A. Hubble, Barry L. Duncan, Scott D. Miller Eds. American Psychological Association
(APA)
142
Ibid, page 91 See also: Science and the Akashic Field and William Tiller’s Adventures in Real Magic.
143
See Jaak Panksepp’s book, Affective Neuroscience.
Well, I’m more than a little puzzled myself. I mean about the idea that humans are, or even could
be, rational animals. Damasio wrote a whole book about how useless reason is without emotions
to give values to its application.144
There are many good reasons for peace in the world, but reason won’t suffice to bring it. It will
take feeling and motivated effort, and enough love for ourselves and for each other to be kind and
caring towards all humanity. That’s a tall order, I admit, but it’s also not something we can afford
to fail at. So it’s worth a serious look at the possible causes of failure.
Negative Effects of Habit Two:
Anyway, after rambling on a while, here’s the point: when we start with the implicit belief that the
client’s behavior is a puzzle to unravel. When we act like we have to figure it these things out,
before we do anything, we generally ask questions and follow up questions and, in our minds, we
search for the sources of the client’s suffering in the answers, explanations and stories the client
responds with. When our approach is mostly thinking like this, the whole process gets skewed into
the abstract. The whole idea that thinking is our primary tool and our primary job is wrong and
detrimental to the process.
Alternatives:
This approach is sometimes called, “leading with your head”. For the kind of intimate and subtle
connection that encourages another’s healing, more than thinking is required. Our job is to
provide two things: (1) a context that stimulates and supports the client’s natural healing processes
and (2) a way to help initiate that process. For the first, loving presence, careful observation and a
lot of experience with nonverbal indicators are what’s needed. The focus of attention needs to be
constant, careful observation. The habit of figuring things out takes too much consciousness away
from that. For the second thing, stimulating a healing process, setting up and doing little
experiments in mindfulness is just the thing. Doing good experiments is a very effective way to
bring feelings, beliefs and memories out of the unconscious, so that healing old hurts can begin.
When the client realizes how and why he habitually organizes his experience the way he does,
change becomes possible.
144
Damasio, Antonio R. (1995) Descartes' Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain. Harper
Perennial ISBN-10: 0380726475, ISBN-13: 978-0380726479
145
from a Michael Fleming interview in the March 2004 issue of Playboy magazine
146
I like to think of it as “triggering people,” something like pushing them off the high diving board. A
detailed description of doing little experiments is given below in the section entitled Experiments.
The Hakomi Method of psychotherapy has been recently described by its creator, Ron Kurtz, as
a method of assisted self-study.
What Hakomi is interested in studying is the organization of experience.
To do this, Hakomi uses mindfulness – a kind of quiet, non-interfering attention to present moment
experience – and little experiments to evoke experiences to study. The attention in Hakomi is on
present experience.
The Hakomi practitioner is trained to pay attention to two things about present experience: first,
what it is (i.e. what is happening now); and second, how it is being organized. We call this way of
paying attention “tracking”. First, we are tracking signs of the client’s present experience.
Secondly, we are tracking for indicators of how the client is organizing present experience.
Experience is organized by habits. Some habits create experiences of suffering, suffering which is,
in effect, unnecessary. This is the kind of experience that we can actually help the client with. We
can also help with the kind of suffering that is normal, like grief for the loss of a loved one. If the
client’s present experience is painful because of difficult life events happening in present time, we
can offer compassion and comfort. We also offer comfort when the client is experiencing
emotional pain related to some past experience that has been brought to consciousness by the
therapeutic work. But normally, we are mostly interested in helping the client become awake in
the present moment and aware of the possibility that some kind of nourishing experience,
formally unavailable, is available right now.
So, in Hakomi, we are not working on the person’s history. We are, after all, only able to guess at
someone’s history. Even someone’s memory is not a reliable source of information about their
history. Remembering, however, is a present time experience and, as such, it can reveal how
someone organizes experience. It is this organization of experience that we want to address as this
is what causes unnecessary suffering in present time.
The Hakomi Way is grounded in spiritual understanding from Taoism and Buddhism. Taoism
teaches us that what happens is what happens. There is no should or should not about what
happens… or what has happened. We rest into things as they are and as they are unfolding.
Buddhism teaches us about wisdom and compassion. As in Buddhism, we understand that the
only reality is the present. The past is a dream. The future is a dream. Only the present moment
is real. This is wisdom. However, many of us continue to experience the present as if in a dream.
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Donna Martin, a long-time Hakomi Trainer, is one of my very closest colleagues. She can be contacted
at www.hakomi.ca
Preface
It is the ability to keep finding solutions that is important; any one solution is temporary. There are no
permanently right answers. The capacity to keep changing, to find what works now, is what keeps any
organism alive.
— Margaret Wheatley, A Simpler Way
The business schools reward difficult complex behaviour more than simple behaviour, but simple
behaviour is more effective.
— Warren Buffett
Since its inception in 1980, Hakomi has always been relatively simple as psychotherapies go: its
theoretical teachings are quite modest; it makes do with only a few simple maps of the
psychological territory; it offers just a handful of techniques. When Ron Kurtz first presented
Hakomi to the world in a formal way, he did so in a textbook just 200 pages in length, which he
has found little need to expand on or modify since its publication some 15 years ago. Training in
the Hakomi method has typically been accomplished in some 300-400 classroom hours (with, of
course, many additional hours of practice required for mastery). By almost any measure, Hakomi
has, from its beginning, been about as simplified as a tool for human transformation can be. And
that simplicity—its uncluttered vision of the human change process—has been part of Hakomi's
wide appeal.
Hakomi was one of the earliest of the body-centered psychotherapies, recognizing in the client's
embodied expression - in her gestures, posture, facial expressions, habits, tone of voice, and
physical structure - an invaluable source of "real-time" information about the largely unconscious
beliefs and assumptions that shape her outlook on life. Hakomi was one of the first
psychotherapies to make use of mindfulness within a therapeutic setting, as a technique for
allowing the client to study her own experience in a careful, non-reactive way. Hakomi was
perhaps unique at the time in basing its entire structure and method on spiritual principles,
including non-violence, interconnectedness, and organicity. And Hakomi introduced into
psychotherapy the whole idea of the "experimental attitude", whereby therapist and client
together conduct “little experiments” with the goal of having the client experience her own
limiting belief structures directly, in her own body.
It isn't my intention to trace the evolution of Hakomi over the last 25 years, or even to contrast
(except occasionally) "classic" Hakomi with the newer Hakomi Simplified. My goal is simply to
describe Hakomi as Ron Kurtz himself is currently articulating it, teaching it, and practicing it.
He has described certain aspects of it himself in a series of short pieces which are collected in a
document named "Readings".
My purpose in this paper isn't to explain how to do Hakomi therapy; that's what the trainings are
for. What I want to explore, from my own perspective of course, is the understanding of the
“human change process” which the Hakomi method and practices imply. I want to examine the
rationale for an endeavor that we all understand is a not altogether rational.
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Randall Keller studied with me for several years. — RK
As Ron presents it, Hakomi Simplified consists of six major tasks, that is, six activities that the
therapist must perform (or be continually performing) during the course of a therapy session.
These activities are:
1. Creating a positive emotional context through loving presence and contact.
A positive emotional context is one in which the client feels welcome and safe and understood.
This is largely created by the therapist being in a state of "loving presence" and by "contacting"
the client. (Note: we will define all of the terms used in this summary much more precisely as we
go on).
2. Observing, hypothesizing, and noticing indicators.
While resting in our attitude of loving presence and maintaining contact, we must also be
gathering information about the client's emotional state, her beliefs, and her strategies. We do this
in large part by observing her nonverbal behavior. As we listen to the client's story and make our
observations of her nonverbal behavior, we start getting ideas about what one of her “core issues”
may be, and we look for an "indicator" that might serve as the basis for an experiment. We
imagine the experiment we might want to try.
3. Shifting the client's attention to the indicator.
We contact the client as gracefully as possible, though perhaps interrupting her story, and reorient
her attention to the indicator.
4. Establishing mindfulness and doing the experiment.
We outline for the client the experiment we have in mind, and possibly the reasons why we want
to try it. If she is interested in the experiment and willing to try it, we assist her into a state of
mindfulness, and do the experiment.
5. Working with the outcome of the experiment.
The "outcome" of the experiment is the simply client's response: the emotions, reactions,
thoughts, memories, etc. We "work" with the outcome usually by responding in ways that either
help to deepen the experience, or that elicit the meaning of the experience. [We may simply provide
physical contact, like a hand on the client's arm, and wait silently while the client works internally to integrate the
experience. -RK ] At some point, we may help the client to revise an inaccurate, over-generalized
assumption about life, replacing it with an understanding that is more realistic and more nuanced.
6. Offering nourishment to satisfy the "missing experience".
With the client entertaining a new, more hopeful understanding of her situation, it becomes
possible to offer the nourishing experience that's been missing until now, and so we do. We help
the client savor and integrate this nourishment.
An example
Let's follow a simple example through the same steps:
1. Creating a positive emotional context through loving presence and contact.
Therapist: (warmly), "Feeling a little shy, huh."
2. Observing, hypothesizing, and noticing indicators.
The therapist, noting how quiet and hesitant the client is in speaking, imagines she finds it difficult
to make herself heard, or perhaps, to ask for what she wants. He considers the experiment of
offering an appropriate verbal probe.
3. Shifting the client's attention to the indicator.
Before I undertake a much more detailed examination of the Hakomi Simplified process, I want
to spell out three concepts that I believe are helpful in comprehending its overall therapeutic
framework. These concepts are: virtual reality; limbic resonance; and the missing experience.
Virtual Reality
Ron sometimes invokes this concept to try and elucidate the big picture of our situation as human
beings. I want to elaborate on this metaphor or perspective.
The term itself, of course, comes from the field of computer simulation, and is a technique
whereby complex computer programs (or “algorithms”) generate a simulated (or “virtual”)
physical reality, which a person can then interact with in various ways. The word virtual means
"being something in effect, even if not in fact." A group of people sharing a common interest (in,
say, ruby-throated hummingbirds), who are connected only through the Internet, is a "virtual
community;" they are located near one another electronically rather than, as would be traditional,
geographically. A boy whose friend's dad took more interest in him than his own father died might
say later of the friends' dad: he virtually raised me; he was my father in effect, if not in fact.
Virtualities are real and effective, even if not tangible or visible.
Task One:
Creating a Positive Emotional Context
through Loving Presence and Contact
Ron has always emphasized the presence and personhood of the therapist as the single most
important element in successful therapy, aside from the readiness and willingness of the client
herself. He has stressed the importance of the therapist being warm and accepting, caring and
gentle, patient and understanding. He has reminded us that, with the client before him, a master
therapist rests secure in his knowing that there is no real problem here. The client is not a
problem waiting to be solved by some clever therapeutic intervention or interpretation, but an
able-bodied soul merely needing some kind of recognition or encouragement or clarification. Ron
has insisted that we give our attention to the whole person who is there before us, whose struggles
and griefs are in many ways peripheral to the actual capacity and vitality of this evolving,
embodied being who has come to see us. He has asked us to look deeply enough at the person
before us to feel inspired and nourished by the beauty or courage or shared humanity we behold.
Over the last decade or so, Ron has come to name this constellation of helpful therapist qualities,
attitudes, and assumptions as loving presence. The very first of the workshops in the Hakomi
Simplified Foundational Series is, The Practice of Loving Presence, and consists of a series of talks and
exercises Ron has devised to allow participants to experience this spacious and compassionate
state of being. The paramount importance of the therapist's own person and presence in the
healing "equation" has been central in Hakomi from the start, and has become even more so in
Hakomi Simplified.
Quick Review
Loving presence, as Ron is now using the phrase, incorporates into a single concept much of what
he used to discuss more in terms of the principles. If we briefly review the principles with respect
to how each one translates into specific ways of being with the client, we'll see this.
Organicity refers to the fact that complex living systems, such as human beings, are self-
organizing and self-directing. In the psychotherapeutic world, this inner, organismic thrust has
sometimes been referred to as the actualizing tendency. It is akin to what A. H. Almaas calls the
"dynamic optimizing thrust of being”.
This means that, as therapists, we can assume there is a life-positive, self-directing, self-healing
energy and intelligence at work within the client. Our task is simply to create the setting, the
emotional climate, that facilitates the emergence of this natural impulse toward health and
wholeness in our clients.
[In finding indicators of core material and doing little experiments with them, we're attempting to initiate this
organic healing process. Very often it begins with bringing the emotional pain that's been avoided into consciousness
and along with the emotions associated with it. This spontaneous rise of emotions is, in fact, the beginning of the
healing process. -RK]
Mindfulness refers to the understanding that real change comes about through awareness, not
effort. When we are truly aware of our experience, when we have what focusing (Eugene Gendlin's
work) calls the "bodily felt sense" of it, our experience naturally reveals its inherent meaning, and
it continues evolving in a self-directed, life-positive direction.
As therapists, we trust that if we can assist the client into a willfully passive "encounter" with her
present-moment somatic experience, then her own awareness will facilitate (provide the context
for) whatever change (or next step) needs to occur.
Non-violence is being mindful of organicity. It's the recognition that there is a natural way that life
is wanting to unfold, and aligning ourselves with - not against - this organic, intelligent process.
As therapists, this means we have no agendas or intentions of our own that we aren't willing to
abandon at once if they somehow conflict with what is emerging from the client. It means we
support the client's so-called defenses (her "management behaviors"); we don't offer advice or
interpretations; and we don't ask questions unless doing so serves the client.
Loving presence, as Ron is defining it now, includes yet one more aspect: the therapist "activity"
of seeking for and finding, in the client, something that inspires or nourishes him.
We want to try and appreciate the client as we might a work of art, or prize the client as we would
something precious, or savor the client as we might some exotic delicacy. If we hope to remain
focused and attentive, and in heartfelt connection with the client, we must be being nourished in
the process. Seeking inspiration in the client also has the effect of making our rapport with the
client more human, more grounded in the here and now. Our loving presence isn't a gift we are
offering to someone who is subtly lower than us on the great chain of being; it is part of an
exchange between two beings who are inherently equal, equally capable of being inspired by each
other. This is therapy as sacrament, therapy as spiritual practice, therapy as high art. And we're
just getting started! We're not even out of task one yet.
I'll close this section with a quotation. The philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein had a concept he
called “sound human understanding.” Although these words seem to name what might be a
rather balanced, reasonable attitude, in fact the phrase expresses something quite close to what we
mean by “loving presence.” Another writer, in describing sound human understanding, says that
this concept of Wittgenstein's is:
. . .the expression of a religious commitment; it is the expression . . . of a fundamental and
pervasive stance to all that is, a stance which treats the world as a miracle, as an object of love, not
of will. The sound human understanding is the mark of such love, for it is a feature of love that it
never literalizes any perception; love is always ready to go deeper, to see through whatever has
already been seen. From the perspective of loving attention, no story is ever over; no depths are
ever fully plumbed. The world and its beings are a miracle, never to be comprehended, with
depths never to be exhausted. Thus the sound human understanding is essentially a religious
response . . . . It is a response that makes sheer acknowledgement, not control, central.
(James Edwards, Ethics without philosophy: Wittgenstein and the moral life)
It is nicely confirming that one of our greatest philosophers has equated what we think of as loving
presence (referred to as loving attention in the quotation) with a concept sound human understanding - that
makes such an attitude seem obvious and reasonable.
Contact and contact statements
If the therapist is in a state of loving presence, or something relatively close to it, then probably
the therapist and client are already beginning to feel connected, to feel in contact with each other.
This is the most important aspect of what Hakomi means by "contact": this on-going sense of
rapport or connection, of being on the same page with one another, looking out in the same
direction. Being in contact is fundamental, and is a key element in establishing the healing
relationship.
Within this state of being in contact, it is also helpful to occasionally contact the client: to name or
reflect some aspect of the client's present experience back to her, especially her inner experience.
Making "contact statements" like this is a way of letting the client know and feel that we are
"tracking" her process accurately (or, if we aren't, to be corrected). So one reason we contact the
client in this manner is to (hopefully) demonstrate that we understand what she's communicating
and what she's feeling.
Task Two
Observing, Hypothesizing, and
Selecting an Indicator
Task Three
Shifting the Client's Attention
to the Indicator
This task is pretty straightforward. We've noticed something interesting about the client that we
suspect might give us access to some deeper level of material. Now we need to find out if the client
shares our interest and curiosity. And so we wait for an opportune moment to share our
observation. Ideally, the client pauses in her story and perhaps looks to us for some kind of
Task Four
Establishing Mindfulness and
Doing the Experiment
Mindfulness
In its simplest application, mindfulness means paying attention. It is pretty much what mom meant
when she said to us, as we were spilling or bumping or dirtying something: "Will you please watch
what you're doing!" Her exasperated admonition was a call for us to be mindful of our actions,
especially those aspects of our activity that we weren't focused on. Our goal, for instance, may
have been to fill the dog's water bowl as full as possible at the sink and then place it outside the
back door. The fact that we spilled some water on the kitchen floor as we carried the bowl didn't
really matter to us. Our attention was elsewhere, on our goal. We weren't paying attention to
(weren't noticing as relevant) the water slopping over the edge of the bowl.
Eckhart Tolle has popularized the "power of now", the enormous shift of consciousness that takes
place when we deliberately and regularly bring our otherwise scattered attention back into a
unified focus in the present. When we "watch what we're doing", when we are actually present to
ourselves and our surroundings, and to our present moment experiencing, then our sense of who
we are and what is possible are greatly expanded. "Your point of power is in the present", Seth
(through Jane Roberts) insisted, in book after book. Whatever reality the past and future may
have, whatever influence they may in fact exert on us, our only practical point of contact with
them is right here and right now. So that's where we need to be too.
When we speak of mindfulness in Hakomi, we are usually referring to this point in the process
where we are now, in task four, in relation to the client and the upcoming experiment. But of
course, mindfulness also relates to the therapist. The basis of loving presence, as well as the whole
ambience of the healing relationship, is mindfulness. So, what do we mean by that?
Mindfulness is a state of consciousness, and the fact that we have to name it and describe it
suggests that it isn't our ordinary state of consciousness. Ordinarily, we are not being mindful. Thus
it becomes possible, in part, to describe mindfulness in terms of how it is different from ordinary
consciousness.
In our familiar, ordinary state of consciousness, we are mostly busy figuring things out: what to do
next; how to accomplish so-and-so; planning, scheduling, managing time and resources;
wondering what will happen if we do this instead of that; and so on. So one (admittedly over-
simplified) way of describing ordinary consciousness would be to call it "strategic". It is survival
oriented. We're using our minds to run our lives, to take care of business, to create small spheres
of order in what will surely otherwise be chaos if we don't personally take charge, if we don't come
up with a strategy.
Mindfulness, in contrast, is a non-strategic state of consciousness. In mindfulness, we are mostly
"busy" appreciating things: how beautiful the flowers are; how lovely this person is; how gracious
the day feels; how wonderful it is to breathe and move about in such a surprising and delightful
Task Five
Working with the Outcome
of the Experiment
Getting the Data
In order to have any outcome to work with, the first order of business is to get a report from the
client on precisely what she experienced during the experiment. In other words, get the data.
Scientists do experiments because they hope to learn something or confirm something. So do we.
Scientists take careful note of the results they obtain. We should do the same.
Ideally, we would like the client to report on her experience while it is happening, and from
within the experience itself. Some clients, however, have their experience, then come out and tell
us about it. In either case, if they don't tell us, we have to ask, because the data determines what
we do next, where we go from here.
[Of course, it's also quite possible that we would see an obvious effect of an experiment. In which case, we would not
have to ask for it. If it is an emotional reaction, our best bet is just to recognize it, either by making a contact
statement or simply putting a gentle hand on the client. After that, it is most important to remain silent until the
client talks or does something new. In this way, we wait for direction which we take from the client's spontaneous
“movements” through the process, like memories “popping up” or impulses to do something. When these arise, we
follow and support the them as central to the healing process. -RK]
Accessing, Deepening, and Processing
Typically, an experiment will result in some form of present experience: sensation, emotion,
thoughts. This is already a good start. While in a state of mindfulness, the client has moved into a
deeper awareness of some aspect of her actual present-moment experience. What we need to do
then is help her stay with that experience longer, so that it deepens or opens up in some way, or so
that it stabilizes. If a verbal probe elicited a feeling of sadness, we might simply suggest that she
"stay with the sadness", or we might ask her what kind of sadness it is, or what the sadness seems
to be saying. We want her to feel the sadness fully, while at the same time maintaining some
distance from it. We want her to come into a relationship with her sadness: it is part of her, but not
all of her. She is close to it, but not overwhelmed.
[This is no longer part of the method as I now teach it. It was part of the original Hakomi Method, but is really not
necessary and even disruptive. As I mentioned above, I now wait silently, sometimes with a hand on the client, in
order to allow the client the freedom to move spontaneously into a healing process. It is the silent attention, loving
presence and the comforting hand that invites the client to be inside following her own healing process. As that
proceeds, we also follow and support it. We become “assistants” to the process and forgo directing it. In fact, our
whole participation is as an assistant to someone seeking to understand and heal herself. We share the process with
the client and are directed by the operations of her adaptive unconscious. -RK]
Task Six
Offering Nourishment
to Satisfy the "Missing Experience"
Most of what needs to be said here I have already said, in the overview of task six, and in the
section on the missing experience. To summarize, in one way or another, most often simply
through his kind words and compassionate presence, the therapist offers the client her missing
experience, the nourishment all of her processing and openness have prepared her to receive. The
therapist's energetic and perhaps physical embrace, the atmosphere of trust and intimacy that
now fills the space, the client's openness to her own inner resources, visiting angels perhaps - all of
these combine somehow to answer the particular soulful longing that has made itself known
during the session. And so the client experiences feeling truly safe and welcome, or deeply seen
and valued as a person, or unconditionally honored in some way she's been waiting for all her life.
She cries a little, she laughs a little. And for the moment at least, all is well.
After Word
Where two or more are gathered together in the name of healing, with at least a minimal degree
of humility and trust, something else enters in to the midst of that relationship. The combined
intention of healer and “healee” to alleviate suffering, to walk a step or two further into the heart's
labyrinth serves as an invitation or call, perhaps even a summons, to those greater energies and
beings which express the universe's true nature: compassion, beauty, wholeness. When we commit
ourselves to healing, providence moves too, and whatever healing takes place comes about more
through grace then merit, more through sincerity than preparation, more through surrender than
effort. How it all works is still mostly a mystery, but with Hakomi, Ron has found, and now offers
us, a skillful way of participating in this mystery with those who come to us, a participation which
naturally facilitates our own continued healing and growth at the same time, the ultimate win-win
situation.
End of Randall Keller's Hakomi Simplified 2004
Appendix I.
Books and Articles Cited
Amen, Daniel, M.D. (2008) Magnificent Mind at Any Age: Natural Ways to Unleash Your Brain's
Maximum Potential. Harmony. ISBN-10: 0307339092, ISBN-13: 978-0307339096
Arien, Angeles (1993) The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Teacher, Healer,
and Visionary. New York, NY: HarperOne ISBN-10: 0062500597 ISBN-13: 978-0062500595
Bargh, J. Chartrand, T., The Unbearable Automaticity of Being, available on the web at:
http://www-pu.informatik.uni-tuebingen.de/trivia/Bargh.pdf
Bateson, Gregory (1979). Mind and Nature: A Necessary Unity. New York, NY: Bantam Books 1979
Becker, Robert (Author), Selden, Gary (Author). (1998). The Body Electric: Electromagnetism and the
Foundation of Life. New York: Harper Paperbacks
Blechschmidt, Erich and Freeman, Brian. (2004). The Ontogenetic Basis of Human Anatomy: The
Biodynamic Approach to Development from Conception to Adulthood. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books
1. Character Theory (This was replaced by the more general category, Indicators.)
2. Reading Bodies, particularly Posture and Structure (Again, replaced by indicators.)
3. Experiments
4. Use of Mindfulness
5. Nonviolence
6. Tracking and Contact
7. Probes
8. Taking Over
9. Offering Emotional Nourishment
10. Concepts: Core Beliefs, Unconscious, Explicit Memory and Defenses.
Major Refinements:
1. Loving Presence
2. Using Assistants
3. Searching For and Using Indicators
4. The Operational Shift to Holding the Work as Assisted Self-Study
5. Adapting to the Adaptive Unconscious
6. Irritations (Pierre Janet’s ideas about what happens)
7. Following (responding to spontaneous impulses and behaviors)
In Detail:
1. Character Theory. This derived from my interest in Bioenergetics and the work of Wilhelm
Reich. It was taught, both as theory and method in the original trainings held in Vermont,
Connecticut and Colorado, in the late 70’s and early 80’s.
2. Reading Bodies (Posture and Structure). This was a direct outcome of studying Bioenergetics
and Reich. I would ask people to stand and I’d look at them for the kinds of bodily signs talked
about by Alexander Lowen, in his many books. A book about this, written by Hector Prestera,
M.D. and myself, was published in 1976.150
3. Experiments. I learned to use these when I studied Gestalt, back in the late 60’s, at Esalen and
as a teacher at San Francisco State. It was a very experimental time, with the whole culture
experimenting with new ways to be and to relate.
4. Use of Mindfulness. Asking people to become mindful before doing an experiment was
something that came out of my private practice around 1974. I was motivated by the idea that
people in mindfulness could observe their reactions and begin to understand their true beliefs
about themselves and the world, the beliefs that organize their behavior and experience. This
was and is a direct way to support self-study and self-discovery. My meditation practice, a
retreat with Chögyam Trungpa, and workshops Moshe Feldenkrais and Ruthy Alon were all
part the inspiration.
5. Nonviolence. This inspiration also came in the 60’s. Partly it was the temper of the times, the
Viet Nam war, Flower Children and a couple of years of teaching at San Francisco State. It
was the coming of Buddhism to America, my love of the Tao Te Ching and anti war
movement. To me, nonviolence means not persisting, not forcing anything, not using power or
coercion or acting authoritarian. This sentiment was the main reason I gave up using
bioenergetic methods.
6. Tracking and Contact. Of course contact came from Rogerian Therapy, which I read about in
graduate school and taught later in college. The idea of tracking (constantly following the
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These are covered in great detail in Kurtz, Ron (1997) Body-Centered Psychotherapy: The Hakomi
Method: The Integrated Use of Mindfulness, Nonviolence and the Body. Mendocino, CA: Life Rhythm.
150
Kurtz, Ron (Author) and Prestera, Hector (Author) (1976). The Body Reveals. An Illustrated Guide to
the Psychology of the Body. New York: Harper and Row.
a. Core Beliefs: Core beliefs were what we called the general organizers of experience.
b. Gaining the Cooperation of the Unconscious: We thought of the unconscious much the
same way as Freud and Jung did, though they certainly had their differences. Some of the
ideas about this came from the work of Milton Erickson.
c. Defenses: The idea of psychological defenses was and still is quite common in the field.
These ten components make up a good portion of the original method. They came together over
two and a half decades of learning, practice teaching and training people. Used together in an
integrated way, they make an effective method for helping others with their personal growth and
emotional healing. They are taught and practiced today in at least thirteen countries and used by
hundreds of practitioners.
Since the early 90’s, when I resigned as director of the Hakomi Institute, I have continued to
refine the method and to teach these refinements in workshops and trainings along with several
newer trainers who have trained and worked with me, rather than the Institute. Some of them,
like Donna Martin, have been working and teaching with for fifteen years or more.
Some of the refinements were made as far back as the early 90’s and some as recently as the last
three months. I’d like to describe the major ones and the changes they made to the method.
The Refinements
1. Loving Presence. The progression here was this: at first, I thought mostly about techniques, the
momentary interventions I’d learned from Gestalt and Bioenergetics. After thinking about
these for a while, I began to see how they formed a unified method, the when and how to use
the techniques and the theory that made sense of them. After a while of thinking, teaching and
writing about method and techniques, I began to see how they had to fit within the
151
Senge, P. Scharmer, C. O., Jaworski, J. and Flowers, B. S. (2005) Presence: An Exploration of Profound
Change in People, Organizations, and Society. New York, Currency ISBN-10: 038551624X, ISBN-13:
978-0385516242
These additional ideas are discussed in the full text of this Training Handbook. They are only
listed here:
b. The Six Skill Sets (see page xx of this 2008 Training Handbook)
c. Adaptive Unconscious and Procedural Memory (see page 8 of the 2008 Training
Handbook)
d. Moving the Process Forward (see page xx of this 2008 Training Handbook)
e. Mental-Emotional Healing (see page xx of this 2008 Training Handbook)
f. Letting Things Take Their Natural Course (see the section on Following)
g. Evoking Healing Processes (see page xx of this 2008 Training Handbook, Experiments)
h. Following (see page xx of this 2008 Training Handbook)
i. Comfort as Essential to Integration (See Touching and Comforting, this page)
Mutual Causality
In this doctrine [the Dharma] everything arises through mutual conditioning in a reciprocal
interaction. Indeed the very word Dharma conveys not a substance or essence, but orderly process
itself—the way things work.
—Joanna Macy152
A good therapist, shares control with everything present, sometimes moving deeply into the unfolding
action, sometimes waiting quietly as the other does inner work, surfing gracefully the changing
amplitudes of intimacy. —R.K.
From the perspective of mutuality, our part in the client’s process is basically to assist in the
client’s self-study. We do not need to see ourselves as directors of the process. When we don’t, a
new kind of relationship can emerge, one of mutual influences. Our respect for the healing power
that lies within the client gives rise to the client feeling free to go inside and feel what’s next for
her. The client’s sense of safety and freedom allows her to consider our suggestions and ideas
without the need to defend against being manipulated. Her respect for our suggestions makes our
adjustments to her spontaneous behaviors simple and generally successful.
Not a Lot, But Enough
152
Macy, Joanna (1991) Mutual Causality in Buddhism and General Systems Theory: The Dharma of
Natural Systems. Albany, NY: State University of New York Press. Page xi.
153
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/194
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http://web.mit.edu/invent/a-winners/a-mead.html
155
President of Rhode Island School of Design
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http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/a/alberteins103652.html
157
A tune like Autumn Leaves is like that. There must be at least fifty jazz versions of it that have been
recorded. I have 32 versions myself.
158
Kelley, Kevin, (1994). Out of Control: The New Biology of Machines, Social Systems, and the Economic
World. New York: Perseus Books Group
159
Mental modeling is what we’re doing when we use external signs to get ideas about what the other
person is feeling or thinking at the moment, or when we get ideas or make guesses about his or her history,
adaptations and beliefs. Tracking for the client’s present experience is one example.
1. References:
a. A few examples from Who’s Minding the Mind160
the new studies reveal a subconscious brain that is far more active, purposeful and independent than
previously known. Goals, whether to eat, mate or devour an iced latte, are like neural software programs
that can only be run one at a time, and the unconscious is perfectly capable of running the program it
chooses.
we’re finding that we have these unconscious behavioral guidance systems that are continually furnishing
suggestions through the day about what to do next, and the brain is considering and often acting on those,
all before conscious awareness.”
Dr. Bargh added: “Sometimes those goals are in line with our conscious intentions and purposes, and
sometimes they’re not.”
“Sometimes non-conscious effects can be bigger in sheer magnitude than conscious ones,” Dr. Schaller said,
“because we can’t moderate stuff we don’t have conscious access to, and the goal stays active.”
The brain appears to use the very same neural circuits to execute an unconscious act as it does a conscious
one.161
b. From Strangers to Ourselves162
A picture has emerged of a set of pervasive, adaptive, sophisticated mental processes that occur largely out of
view. Indeed, some researchers have gone so far as to suggest that the unconscious mind does virtually all the
work and that conscious will may be an illusion.
…the modern view of the adaptive unconscious is that a lot of the interesting stuff about the human
mind—judgments, feelings, motives—occur outside of awareness for reasons of efficiency, and not because
of repression. Just as the architecture of the mind prevents low-level processing (e.g. perceptual processes)
from reaching consciousness, so are many higher-order psychological processes and states inaccessible.
c. From Making Up The Mind: How the Brain Creates our Mental World163
We do not perceive the object in front of our eyes until the brain has made unconscious inferences
abut what that object may be. We are not aware of the action we are about to perform until the
brain has made an unconscious choice about what that action should be.
d. From The Itch164
Such findings open up a fascinating prospect: perhaps many patients whom doctors treat as having a nerve
injury or a disease have, instead, what might be called sensor syndromes. When your car’s dashboard warning
light keeps telling you that there is an engine failure, but the mechanics can’t find anything wrong, the sensor
itself may be the problem. This is no less true for human beings. Our sensations of pain, itch, nausea, and
fatigue are normally protective. Unmoored from physical reality, however, they can become a nightmare.
e. From The Unbearable Automaticity of Being165
160
Carey, Benedict (July 31, 2007) Who’s Minding the Mind? The New York Times Company,
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/31/health/psychology/31subl.html?th&emc=th
161
ibid
162
Wilson, Timothy D. (2004). Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious. Cambridge,
MA: Belknap, Harvard University Press.
163
Frith, Chris (2007) Making Up The Mind, How the Brain Creates our Mental World Wiley.
ISBN-10: 1405160225, ISBN-13: 978-1405160223
164
Gawande, Atul (June 30, 2008) The Itch, in The New Yorker Magazine.
g. From Damasio169
All living organisms from the humble amoeba to the human are born with devices designed to solve
automatically, no proper reasoning required, the basic problems of life.
165
Bargh, J. Chartrand, T., The Unbearable Automaticity of Being, available on the web at:
http://www-pu.informatik.uni-tuebingen.de/trivia/Bargh.pdf p.3
166
Llinás, Rodolfo R. (2002). i of the vortex: From Neurons to Self. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.
167
i of the vortex, pg. 254
168
In i of the vortex, Chapters 3 & 8.
169
Damasio, A. 2003, Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling Brain
The Rewards: You will learn a modern, effective scientific approach to helping people change.
You will gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others and greater freedom to choose what
you will do and feel. You will find greater pleasure in everyday living and will be able to develop
richer, happier relationships.
End of Reader
170
Such statements are always potentially nourishing, never hurtful or discouraging.
171
From the Cognitive Load Theory article mentioned in footnote 11.