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access to Frontiers: A Journal of Women Studies
Karen Mueller
Margie Whittaker Leidig
Introduction
We think that there are three major reasons why women have not
expressed anger directly. Probably the most important and pervasive
is the conditioning that women receive thrdughout their lives. This
conditioning subtly teaches women to "be nice," "be sweet," and
above all "don't be angry." These messages are obvious in our child-
ren's school texts, television messages, and in the role modeling we
all received when we were young girls.
Secondly, because women have traditionally been economically
dependent on men,1 expressing anger at the person who represents our
support poses a risk for many women. This person can be a husband,
on whom a woman is economically dependent; a father, on whom she was
dependent as a child; or a boss, on whom she may be dependent for
her continued salary.
Traditionally, one of the strongest reasons women have been
afraid to express anger directly, especially to men, is that we fear
men physically. Because men are usually taller and stronger, we are
vulnerable to assaults, rapes, physical beatings, or the threat of
them. The male response to a female who "gets out of line" can be
a definite physical threat and a strong message not to express anger.2
Sources of Anger
Two of the factors noted above are also important here. These
two factors are fear of physical reprisal and economic dependence
on men. The fear that women have of men's strength also can be a
source of anger at times. A good example would be the feeling of
anger at having to limit hitchhiking because of the fear of rape.
Further, feeling economically dependent also can engender anger.
Another major source of anger in women is the manner in which
most women are treated by most men. We call these "social put-downs,"
"objectification," and "infantilization." Most women can "get in
touch with" anger caused by these sources very quickly. Examples
of the above are the following: adult women addressed as "baby,"
"chick," "girl"; having to yell and pound the table in an office
meeting to get the attention of the predominately male group; "don't
you worry your little head about X--I know best" from an otherwise
incompetent male. Lengthy lists with some very subtle examples of
this source of anger easily can be generated. Expressed anger in
response to this type of put-down, however, does leave women open
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detailed the general stages of anger and we have offered some sug-
gestions for the resolution of anger. Finally, we have offered
suggestions for helping women learn to become more effective and
powerful in dealing with situations which produce the overwhelming
anger experienced by many women as they begin taking stock of their
lives.
NOTES
6Laura Huxley, You Are Not the Target (New York: Farrar,
Strauss and Giroux, 1963).
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