Change Your Life Book2

Table of Contents
52 — Annalie Coetzer — Disciplined Action

53 — Lauren Stewart — Write it Down
54 — Debra Moffitt — Trust Your Inner Guidance
3 — John Bardos — Welcome 56 — Lisa Metzgar, PhD — Simple Steps
4 — Courageous Kitchen — Making a Difference 58 — Camillo Loken — Be True to Yourself
5 — Rob Cubbon — You Are Your Thoughts 59 — Chris Spink — The Most Important Thing
6 — Tyler Tervooren — Run for Focus 61 — Evelyn Ryan — Forgiveness
7 — Derek Franklin — Daily Success Routine 62 — Lucy Pearce — Do What You Can
9 — Dragos Roua — What’s Your “Running” 63 — Chris Croft — Write it Down
10 — James McCrae — What’s Your Daily Practice 65 — Lauren Bromberg — What is Beauty?
11 — Abder-Rahman Ali — Becoming Productive 67 — Molly Larkin — Survive the Loss of a Loved One
12 — Alex Strauss — A Transformational Practice 69 — Neil Thompson — Be Tuned in to Grief
14 — Lisa Kardos — Draw the Box 70 — Robyn Pearce — The Time Queen
15 — Amy Botes — Good Public Speaking 72 — Megan Jackson — Sit Still
17 — Giles Johnston — Get Results and Reclaim Your Life! 73 — Scott Asai — Forget College
19 — Chris Johnstone — The Boat and Water Level 74 — Sherianna Boyle — Shaping Your Intentions
21 — Tony Michalski — Forget the Rules for Success 75 — Jake Vayda — Attach Habits to Each of Your Values
23 — Bertold Ulsamer — Learn to Let Go 76 — S. Renee Smith — The Power of Intention
24 — Boom Shikha — Meditation Brings Focus 78 — Stephen Connor — Tips for Real Inner Growth
25 — Mary Wingo — De-Stress 79 — Fliss Kay — Write, Write, Write
27 — Cassie Mendoza Jones — Out of the Comparison Trap 80 — Loretta Breuning — Details Matter
29 — Dan LeFave — Skyrocket Your Day 81 — Teagan Fea — Dialogue with your Mind Every Day
31 — Lori Deschene — Accepting What Is 82 — Rhonda Britten — No One Can Be Fearless Alone
33 — Lisa Broesch — What Matters Most? 83 — Theolyn Cortens — Meditation
35 — Timo Kiander — Start Today 84 — Margaret Paul — Follow Your Feelings
36 — David J. Bookbinder — Acceptance: It’s Already There 85 — Tony Riches — Do it Daily
38 — Derek Doepker — 3 Magic Words 86 — Agnes Bogardi — What Doesn’t Serve You?
39 — Dan Johnston — Slow Is Smooth, Smooth Is Fast 88 — Zoe Davenport — Look Inward
41 — Rayne Hall — Gratitude Lists 90 — Alina Margineanu — One Question that Changed My Life
43 — Eric Maisel — Discipline to Devotion 91 — Carolyn Yoder — Our Bodies Know the Way
44 — Gail Brenner — Take Action 93 — Richard Longworth — Meditate
45 — Gerald Weinberg — The First Giver’s Fact 95 — Adrian Landsberg — Just. Keep. Going.
46 — Ian Thorp — Ask Your Soul for Answers 96 — Thibaut Meurisse — Have Goals, Not Dreams
47 — Sara Kravitz — Done is the New Perfect 97 — Diana Fitts — Focus On Your Priorities
48 — Michael Motta — Journal to Success 98 — Cody McKibben — Choose Wisely
49 — Dr. Jason Selk — No Excuses 99 — Jenny Blake — Your Body is Your Business
51 — Kshitij Prasai — Go Neutral 100 — John Bardos — Thank You for Reading!
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Advice
Rob Cubbon You Are Your Thoughts
When I was in my early thirties I was living and working in London.
RobCubbon.com Although I was able to support myself and I had many friends, I was
unhappy.
Through complete chance I got interested in personal development.

After reading a few books on NLP, positive thinking, Buddism, non-
duality, etc., I was hooked.
Suddenly, I had the belief that my life could improve by my own efforts
Bio and my own efforts alone. This contrasted with my old belief – that a
good life was caused by external stimuli.
I’m an Amazon bestselling author, online course creator, graphic Good luck, bad luck or the situations you find yourself in appear as
designer, an ex-slacker turned entrepreneur. Ten years ago, I had a job though they’re affecting you but they aren’t. You are.
and I hated it. Now I’m an entrepreneur and travel the world doing
what I want. I realised I could improve my mood by elevating my thoughts. I started
to identify the first thoughts that would lead to a downward spiral of
negative self-talk, and stopped myself as quickly as I could.
Also, at the same time I started meditating. A few days later I stopped
a smoking pack of cigarettes a day. This was a habit I’d had since the
age of 18.
I still meditate every day.

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Advice
Tyler Tervooren Run for Focus
The one thing I do almost every day that has changed my life and
Riskology.co transformed me tremendously is exercise. But not for the obvious
health benefits.
I used to struggle a lot to stay on task and keep myself focused. I

thought I had ADHD and even talked several doctors to get their
opinions. I did the screenings and took the tests and... I didn’t have
ADHD. So, I had to ask, “What the heck is going on with me? Why can’t
I stay focused?”
Bio I would start a project with a lot of passion and motivation, only to
later slow down and lose focus. After a lot of introspection, I realized
Tyler Tervooren is the founder of Riskology where he writes for it was happening because I would get to a turning point in the project
introverts about the science and strategies for becoming a great and not know what to do next. I would spin my wheels for days or even
leader. He loves finding new ideas and testing them on himself—a weeks—too hesitant to take any decisive action and too busy to sit
human guinea pig for your entertainment. He’s run a marathon on down and confidently think through what to do next.
every continent, leads three businesses, and has organized three
successful Guinness World Record attempts for thousands of But when I would go running, my head became totally clear. I could
participants. focus on my problems and action steps became obvious. Running is
like a focused planning session for me. Something about the rhythm
puts me into a bit of a trance and allows my brain to make connections
and decisions that it just won’t do any other time.
So now, when I’m feeling stuck, I go for a run and everything is much
clearer at the end.

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Advice
Derek Franklin Daily Success Routine
My #1 personal development strategy is to design and
DerekFranklin.com CONSISTENTLY practice a daily success routine, or what some would
call a morning routine.
For me, a daily success routine is 30-60 minutes that I set aside EVERY
morning to think about, feel, express, and connect with ideas, beliefs,
and goals that matter to me and that I want to heavily influence my
thinking and emotions.
Bio I’ve found that there are some incredible benefits to regularly
practicing a daily success routine.
Derek is a writer, speaker, and personal development coach. John Assaraf once stated that one hour a day doing your daily success
routine is the equivalent to nine, 40-hour work weeks a year.
Since 1998, he has:
That ís 9 weeks of full-time training, shaping your thinking and
• Written 5 best-selling print books for Adobe Press that have sold emotions to become the person you want to be, living the life you want
over 250,000 copies in more than a dozen languages worldwide to live...THAT’S POWERFUL!
• Worked as Creative Director for a nationally recognized media
company, with clients that included Adidas and Papa Johns Without question - this is representative of the results I’ve personally
• Created several software products used by over 10000 satisfied experienced, and it’s why I love my routine!
users
• Achieved multiple 5-figure sales days for my products/services There are a number of different approaches to designing and
• Launched 25+ projects online - everything from software, video practicing a daily success routine, but the one I take involves some
courses, to ebooks, to a membership site very basic steps:
1. I put on my headphones and listen to some peaceful, instrumental

music (no singing - it’s too distracting) - search YouTube for ‘relaxdaily’
and you’ll discover the type of music I’m talking about

2. I scroll through a digital album of photos that represent everything I Try this... get an index card and create a list of 5-7 specific things you
see and do living my perfect life, as well as select photos of some of the can spend time expressing your thoughts and feelings about each day
best memories of my life (use some of the elements I’ve shared as a starting point, if you like),
such as:
3. As I scroll through these images, I express out loud (in a normal
talking voice) what each item means to me - why I love it • Freestyle whatever is on my mind
• What am I grateful for?
4. After that, I spend 10 minutes expressing out loud whatever is on • What’s something I learned recently, why is it awesome, and how do
my mind - this is similar to a popular idea known as Morning Pages I intend to use it?
(freestyle journaling 3 pages every morning) except I don’t write down • How would I describe living my perfect day - what does it look like
my thoughts, I SAY them out loud! and how does it make me feel?
• What specific habit do I plan on practicing that will help me acheive a
5. Next, I express out loud 20 specific things I’m grateful for goal that I have and how do I plan on practicing it?
• What’s a belief I have (maybe a favorite quote) and why do I believe
6. Following that, I’ll spend 5-10 minutes expressing out loud it’s true?
something I recently learned and how I intend to use it, a belief I hold
and why I believe it to be true, as well as specific small habits I intend
to practice in order to become who I want to become
There are some additional elements, but that’s the basic idea.
As you’ll notice, I’m a BIG believer in EXPRESSING OUT LOUD (or

saying them in a normal talking voice) things that matter - even over
writing them down. This is because our words have incredible power
to transform our thinking and emotions (which is the whole point of
practicing a daily success routine).
Expressing your thoughts out loud is not only an effective way to bring
clarity to your thinking, but I’ve found it to be an instant trigger to
spark strong emotions (think about the difference between writing
down the words of a song as opposed to singing them out loud and
you’ll know what I mean).

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Advice
Dragos Roua What’s Your “Running”
Running, for instance, was my response to the pressure I was feeling
DragosRoua.com in other areas of my life. When depression kicks in (and it will kick in,
at some point, no matter how much you try to prevent it) you have to
find your own way to deal with it. Not by escaping or avoiding it. But
by going through it. That’s what running did for me: it helped me to go
through depression, by giving me another way to put meaning on my
actions.
We’re not after money, in this life, although there is a lot of social
Bio pressure in that direction. We’re not after happiness, in the sense of
the paradisiac lifestyle ubiquitously pictured on backgrounds made
of tropical islands and beaches (although having those experiences is
I’m a story teller, entrepreneur and geek. I created from scratch an nice to have). We’re not even after intimate relationships, although
online publishing agency in the early 2000s and sold it milliseconds they do count a lot.
before the Lehman Brothers moment, in 2008.
The only thing that we’re after in this life is meaning. How do we put
After that, I started to blog at DragosRoua.com, which is constantly meaning on top of this uncontrollable, recurring chaos that surrounds
included each year in Top 100 Self-Help blogs since 2014. us? How do we find our own understanding, how do we overcome our
limitations, how do we put order around us?
I’m also an ultra-runner, competing regularly in races well over the
length of a marathon, the longest - so far - being a 222km around lake Running brought meaning to my life, again, when it was fading away in
Balaton (Ultrabalaton), finished in 31 hours. I created from scratch my all other areas: emotional, financial or social.
own productivity framework, called Assess, Decide, Do (described in
the book included in the bundle) which also features its own mobile Find your own running.
app in the App Store.

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Advice
James McCrae What’s Your Daily Practice
The most important personal development tip I can share is having a
ShitYourEgoSays.com daily practice of some kind. The good news? There is no wrong way
to have a daily practice. We get to play around with different rituals
– meditation, yoga, journaling, dance, plant medicine, nutrition – and
even create our own. It’s like the world is full of music samples and we
can remix them together to make our own song.
There is nothing dogmatic about personal practice. The only thing that
matters is commitment. The point is not to worship some invisible
Bio deity (although that is a perfectly acceptable practice to choose). The

point is to connect with ourselves, and to synchronize the heart and
mind. Having a daily ritual is more important than choosing the right
James McCrae is an award-winning strategist and author of the best- ritual. So let’s not worry about getting it right. There is no right. There
selling Hay House book Sh#t Your Ego Says. He has been described be is only practice.
The Huffington Post as “the Eckhart Tolle of the Internet Generation.”
My daily practice of choice is meditation. But like most people, I
He works with people and organizations around the world to unlock don’t always have time to sit still for 20 minutes. So I have adopted a
creative potential and turn imagination into results. An avid supporter meditation style from Kundalini yoga called “breath of fire.” Breath
of basketball, burritos, and yoga, James lives in New York City. of Fire involves rapid inhales and exhales through the nose while
pumping your stomach. That’s it. And because it can be done for any
amount of time, it’s the perfect meditation to squeeze in between
meetings at work or tasks at home. I do Breath of Fire for 30-60
seconds before everything important throughout the day. While short
bursts of meditation may not seem extremely valuable, doing them on
a consistent basis has given me the confidence to approach every task
with a fresh mind and energized spirit.

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Advice
Abder-Rahman Ali Two Steps to Becoming Productive
I have tried different productivity strategies that had a big impact on
Abder.io my life. I will mention two strategies here, but you can see the other
strategies in my How I Became Productive book.
During my masters degree I had the desire to achieve excellent

grades. The strategy that had a big impact on achieving “A” grades was
surprisingly a very simple yet effective strategy. That strategy was
Setting Your Goals Explicitly. For me to achieve that, at a small piece
of paper I just wrote the letter “A” and kept that paper in front of me
Bio all the time while studying. Whenever I used to spot the paper if I was
feeling a bit bored, I immediately felt the enthusiasm coming to me
again.
Abder-Rahman is currently a PhD candidate at the University of
Stirling, UK, working on applying Deep Learning for melanoma The other strategy I liked is Take it to the End. This strategy also
detection. He is very interested in digital health, medical image helped me during my studies when I used to come to some complex
analysis, fuzzy logic, and productivity. He has published 3 books on topic that I need to understand from other resources. I found myself
productivity in addition to different articles. You can learn more about jumping from resource to another without grasping the idea. I then
Abder from his website Abder.io thought of taking one resource at a time and trying to understand the
topic only from that resource, that is to take it to the last point where
the resource will take me. This saved me a lot of time, and helped me in
achieving results, which is understanding the topic.

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Advice
Alex Strauss A Transformational Practice
Incredibly, the simple practice of moving through a natural setting in a
TheMindfulWalker.com state of intense present-moment awareness has the power to restore
our peaceful “default settings” and clear out years of excess mental
baggage (even without therapy!), dramatically reducing stress, and
naturally reigniting passion for life, creativity, and mental clarity.
When I started taking short walks in my neighborhood more than

a decade ago, I was under a lot of what I perceived as stress and in
something of a mental slump. By day, I was scurrying to make a buck
Bio and keep up the pace as a wife and a mom to my two young daughters.
By night, I was a worrier, lying awake calculating my bills and running
through my laundry list of personal or professional “problems”. I
Alex Strauss is not a guru, a “leading authority”, or even a particularly worried about my kids, my bank account, my weight, my business, the
brilliant person. In 2007, she was simply a busy and somewhat melting polar ice caps, poverty, you name it. Worry was my constant
overwhelmed magazine editor, science writer, and mother of two who companion.
literally stumbled into the ancient and life-transforming practice of
walking in Nature. Even though I considered myself a “spiritual” person, I found that my
faith in a higher power wasn’t really doing much to help me feel better
Prone to depression and low on creative energy, Alex turned to daily on a day-to-day basis. I needed something a little more down-to-
walks in an effort to save both her sanity and her soul. What she found earth than prayer. So I went searching, immersing myself in books on
was a simple but profound path to a healthier, happier, and more psychology, spirituality, exercise, nutrition, and simplified living. After
peaceful life through mindful movement and a deeper connection supper, while the kids did their homework, I walked my dog in our
with the natural world. Through her Amazon bestseller The Mindful wooded neighborhood, listening to bird songs, and contemplating the
Walker, her popular video blog TheMindfulWalker.com, and her audio things I was learning.
programs, Alex now teaches other busy people how clarity, energy,
deep peace (and great legs) really can be a walk in the park! At the time, I had no idea that this simple practice was going to so
completely transform the way I think, deal with stress, make decisions,
keep my body fit and strong, relate to other people and Creation, and
even understand God.

But after logging more than 6,000 miles’ worth of these ‘mindful same token, yoga, Tai Chi, jogging and extreme mountain biking aren’t
walks’, I came to believe that this thing I was doing – taking short, for everyone either. Few practices are.
quiet, contemplative walks in nature – was, in and of itself, a powerful
and underutilized practice that other busy, stressed-out people just On the other hand, walking is just so natural that it’s hard to deny that
like me might also want to try. it is meant for everyone, from the yogi to the couch potato. The same
goes for time spent in nature. Even if you do not consider yourself a
What (Exactly) is Mindful Walking? “nature lover”, I’d lay odds that, at some point in your life, you’ve hung
At it’s core, mindful walking is really just a more thoughtful and a picture on your wall or used a screensaver on your phone, tablet, or
intentional way to approach the simple but largely lost art of “taking a laptop featuring a mountain, forest, waterfall, lake or beach scene. We
walk”. It’s a practice long embraced by brilliant minds from Einstein to all have. It’s natural.
Steve Jobs.
Do you have a sound machine by your bed, or use one on your phone?
In contrast to mindless wandering – which, arguably, has merits of it’s What’s on it? Usually, the sounds of wind, rain, ocean waves, birds
own – mindful walking is a disciplined practice that lets the walker or crickets. Why are these sounds so much more soothing for so
take full advantage of the synergy between Movement, Mindfulness many people than man-made sounds? Because human beings are
(intense present moment awareness), and Nature. programmed to feel better, calmer, stronger and happier when we are
exposed to nature. It’s in our DNA. And hundreds of scientific studies
Yep, they really do work together. And like any practice, the more back it up.
you engage in mindful walking, the better and more consistent your
positive results will be. Walking is a natural way to move, and spending time in nature is a
natural way to calm our minds and center our souls. Mindful walking
Why Walking? is about relearning to do what we were pre-programmed to do. And
I’m not here to convince you that you’ll feel happier and calmer if you when you find yourself doing something you were meant to do, it feels
are more mindful and get more fresh air and exercise. You probably pretty awesome.
already know that both mindfulness and movement have the power
to lower blood pressure, improve sleep, boost brain function, make us Adapted from The Mindful Walker (Amazon, 2016) by Alex Strauss.
more compassionate, and so on. Learn more and access a free audio course and walking meditation at
TheMindfulWalker.com.
We can also probably agree that there are plenty of ways to get
exercise or achieve the highly-sought state of “mindfulness”. One
of the most popular and time-honored is meditation. Though I have
tried traditional meditation, I’m far from an authority on the subject.
But I know enough to realize that it is not everyone’s cup of tea. I, for
instance, never fail to itch or nod off when I try to meditate. By the

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Advice
Lisa Kardos Draw the Box
My top tip for individuals is to “draw the box.” In engineering, we often
OptimizeBooks.com physically draw a box around the system we are trying to optimize,
allowing us to focus on the conditions we have control over. This helps
us achieve our desired outcome (such as an increase in our production
amount). Similarly, if people are in difficult situations, or are looking
to achieve particular goals, they can draw a stick-figure of themselves
with a box around it. What is inside the box is what can be controlled
for self-improvement, whereas everything on the outside of the box
consists of things we should not be spending our energy on.
Bio As a personal example, I wanted to obtain my Ph.D. so I could have the

option of working closely with college students, since college can be a
Dr. Lisa Kardos earned her B.S., M.S., and Ph.D. degrees in Chemical very challenging time; I felt it was an area where I could be helpful.
Engineering from New Jersey Institute of Technology (NJIT). A keynote
speaker on the university level, Dr. Kardos enjoys helping college Over the eight years of pursuing my degree at night while working
students and young professionals overcome challenges and achieve their full-time, all kinds of obstacles were thrown my way. I experienced
dreams. An earlier role of advising undergraduates as the Coordinator of everything from tragedies to disparaging comments. It was very hard
the Undergraduate Program in Chemical Engineering (NJIT), in addition when my first Ph.D. advisor passed away unexpectedly, and it was also
to her years of experience helping students as an Adjunct Professor, hard to persist, day after day, year after year, when people kept saying,
inspired her to write her first book, Optimize for Victory. An Amazon “You’re still working on that?” Sometimes I lost traction because I had
bestseller, her book ranked #15 in Women and Business upon its release. to take a semester off for business travel. I also got married and had
my first child while working on it. It was a lot to manage and it wasn’t
Since the publication of her first book, she has released two additional easy, but I finished because I kept drawing the box. It’s a simple tool
titles: Optimize Your Productivity and Success Blueprint. She also launched any person can apply to help keep their energy on the things that
an online school in October 2015 to help professionals advance their matter.
lives and careers: the Lisa Kardos School of Excellence featuring her
signature program, the Design Your Success Academy.
When Dr. Kardos is not writing, speaking, or teaching, she enjoys

spending time with her husband and two children.

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Advice
Amy Botes Amy’s personal development tips for good public
PeppedProductions.co.uk speaking:
You wouldn’t know it now but when I was 11 years old, I was very shy.
I found it extremely difficult to speak in public. That was until I found
drama. Playing someone else somehow unlocked my ability to speak in
front of large crowds. I was not only good at it, I enjoyed it. So how do
you unlock your ability to act?
We are all born with an innate ability to act but too often bad habits
get in the way. Start by videoing yourself doing a part of your speech.
Bio Look at the way you are standing, how you are using gesture and what
you could correct to give you better presence.
Amy Botes is a RADA trained Actress. She has worked throughout the Think about how you are breathing. Many of us forget how to breath
UK and the United States. She graduated from the Royal Academy properly. We tend to breath into our shoulders taking shallow breaths
of Dramatic Art in 2004 and went on to perform at the Royal instead of breathing deep into our stomachs. If you do this, you not
Shakespeare Company both at Stratford Upon Avon and London’s only feed the brain with oxygen, you also power your voice and release
West End. She also took on main parts in a multitude of theatres tension in your body. The body, mind and breath are intrinsically linked
including Salisbury Playhouse and the Birmingham Rep. After having and so be aware of this.
her daughter in 2011, she became an Entrepreneur and launched
EPM Services which helped start up companies reach their potential. Think about how you are colouring your delivery. Prepare your script.
After 5 years of EPM services she decided to marry her knowledge Think about how you are using rhythm, phrasing, emphasis, pause,
of business and professional acting by creating a new company called pace, pitch and volume. You can even mark out where you are going to
PEPPED Productions. breath in the same way a professional singer would mark a score.
As Richard Branson said ‘Over prepare and then go with the flow’.
This is key to any good performance as you have to be aware of the
audience and they are different every night and so if you don’t go with
the flow, you may find yourself forcing a pre-prepared performance
that is just not appropriate to the given circumstances.

I remember performing ‘Much Ado About Nothing’ in Newcastle after
an extremely successful run in Stratford-Upon-Avon. It was absolutely
fantastic in Stratford as we had an audience full of wildly enthusiastic
teenagers but then when we got to Newcastle, we gave the same
performance and the audience reaction was muted. What we had
failed to do was adapt to the more discerning, serious audience and
the play bombed on the first preview in Newcastle.
However, we learnt our lesson and had adapted by the press night a
few days later. Never underestimate the role of the audience in your
performance.
Above all – try to remember that no one can see what is happening
inside and so very few people will be able to detect that you are
nervous. Try to let any anxiety wash over you and get the first line
out. Once you have done this, you will be flying high! I had to perform
Hermia in ‘A Midsummer Night’s Dream’ in front of an audience of
3000 people. We were performing it with an orchestra who were
playing an overture for 15 minutes whilst we, the cast members, sat
amongst them. I have never been so nervous in my whole entire life.
My palms were sweating, my breathing was all over the place and my
thoughts were racing. The one thing that saved me was saying my first
line to myself over and over again. Then I had to spring up on to a chair
and say my first line. It was like an out of body experience but once I
had managed to get the first line out – the rest just followed.

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Advice
Giles Johnston A Simple Approach to Get Results and Reclaim
Smartspeed.co.uk Your Life!
Many years ago I worked as a Production Manager, running a factory
that was always late with its orders. Customers would harass me
constantly throughout my long working day and I spent a good chunk
of this part of my career lying to customers, underperforming and
feeling burnt out. I didn’t feel great and the results weren’t reflective
of what I thought I could achieve professionally.
One day, when I decided that I didn’t want this ‘blip’ to be part of my
Bio CV, I listed out exactly what I needed to improve in the business so
that I could get things back under control.
Giles Johnston is a Chartered Engineer who spends most of his time To get my life and career back under control I followed this cycle:
in factories working out why they don’t deliver their products and
projects on time. 1. I decided what activities needed to be improved in this business.
His career experience has covered numerous roles within engineering, 2. Created mini action plans to support each improvement (who, when
production, project management and consulting. and what).
He has transformed factory outputs, successfully managed technology 3. Made the plans visible (get them off the computer and onto a wall).
transfer projects and helped business owners to regain control over
their businesses and reclaim their sanity. 4. Generated strategies to free up time to so that I could undertake the
plans.
Giles has also written a number of books, toolkits and courses
that have encapsulated his experiences and practical methods for 5. Started my working day with plans and commited to what would get
improving productivity and operational performance. completed that day.
6. Added new plans to my workload as old ones got completed.

The performance of the business soared in many ways during the next
four months, including:
• The factory’s on time delivery rate leaped from 22% to 98%.
• The factory’s lead time dropped from 20 weeks to 3.5 weeks.
And, our sales increased from £10M to £30M in a two year

period (with no extra staff or overtime) on the back of these small
improvements. You can imagine that our profit levels really improved
and that our customers loved us!
But, for me:
• I got to spend more of my time doing the fun things with my team
(which led to further productivity improvements).
• I had more time for my hobbies and family life (as I wasn’t spending
excessive hours at work).
• I formed the habit of wanting to make businesses work better (and

what employer doesn’t want that?).
Have fun with this approach and enjoy watching your personal
productivity and results soar.

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Advice
Chris Johnstone The Boat and Water Level
Over thirty years ago, when I was a medical student in London, I went
CollegeofWellBeing.com to a talk by holistic medicine pioneer Professor Patrick Pietroni. He
taught me about a picture that has become one of my most valued
resilience tools. Being well and healthy, he said, is a bit like rowing a
boat. Illness, or other kinds of problems, can thought of as crashing
into a rock.
Bio
Dr Chris Johnstone is one of the UK’s leading resilience trainers, with
over 30 years experience in this field. He graduated in medicine with
distinction in 1986 and for many years ran a groupwork programme in
the UK National Health Service teaching resilience skills. Influenced Most approaches to tackling difficulties tend to focus on the rock.
much by Positive Psychology, he trained with Martin Seligman in 2005. Healthcare professionals are like geologists who know lots about
His books include Find Your Power – a toolkit for resilience and positive rocks you might hit. But the problem, or rock, is only half the story. The
change and Active Hope (co-authored with Joanna Macy). water level, said Patrick, represents our background level of resilience.
When we’re feeling good in ourselves, with our emotional reserves at a
Living in the north of Scotland, he runs online trainings in resilience higher level, we may float over rocks that on a bad day we’d hit. When
and positive psychology at CollegeofWellBeing.com. we’re feeling depleted, our water levels low, we’re more likely to crash.
When I teach resilience, I use this boat and water level metaphor as a
mapping tool. I ask people to draw a horizontal line to represent their
water level of resilience, and then put in downward arrows for factors
that lower this, and upward arrows for those that strengthen it.

A sentence starter I use to help people identify downward arrows is
‘When I face a difficult situation, I’m more likely to struggle when…’
For example, I’m more likely to struggle when I haven’t been sleeping
well, when my diet is poor, and when I’m already overloaded or
stressed.
The other side of this is the upward arrow sentence that starts “I tend
to cope better when…”. This invites our identification of resilience
factors such as support from friends, feeling determined and having a
well-developed toolkit of strategies.
When I’m feeling challenged or overwhelmed, I say to myself “Chris,

how’s my water level doing?”. This reminds me to pay attention to the
little steps I can take to nourish my capacity to face whatever’s there.
That includes things like self-compassion, taking renewal pauses,
sometimes saying no and othertimes finding a stronger yes.
Watch the Boat and Water level video on You Tube at

https://youtu.be/poUgfSjdhEo.

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Advice
Tony Michalski Forget the Rules for Success
Laws were made to be bent. Rules were made to be broken. You know
KallistiPublishing.com that.
The guilty go free. The outliers change the world. The crazy ones have
it all.
So why do you spend so much time looking for or studying the laws of
success? Or the rules of success?
Bio It doesn’t make sense.
Don’t worry, though. I did the same thing. I studied the rules. I knew
Tony Michalski is the founder and owner of Kallisti Publishing — “The the laws by heart. I “dressed for success,” I was the earliest of the “early
Books You Need to Succeed.” He introduced Charles F. Haanel and “The birds,” and I “attracted” until I couldn’t attract anymore.
Master Key System” to the world in 2000 and continues to bring forth
new books that expand minds and fatten wallets. His book “The Master Do you know what I got for it?
Key Workbook” is a best seller. Tony also founded TheAttainer.com
and MasterKeyCoaching.com. Just the same as you get for it: not a whole lot. I had a success here and
there, but nothing major. Nothing significant.
That is not until I stopped going by the rules and following all the laws
and instead allowed myself to be guided by something else.
I took to studying — and I mean REALLY studying — the successful

people of the world. Company founders. Innovators. Revolutionaries.
Industrialists. Magnates. Hedge fund managers. Athletes. Thinkers.
I wanted to know what rules they followed that I didn’t. I wanted to

know what laws they knew that I didn’t.

That’s when I discovered that there weren’t any. I knew them all just As I wrote, these axioms may seem simple. They are. These axioms
the same as them. But that’s when I saw the thread that tied all their may seem like you already know them. That may also be true.
success together. That’s when I saw the real answer.
But unless you know and feel these axioms bone-deep — that level of
You see, all those laws and rules are just the surface. And they can be knowing that goes to the root, instinctual level — you won’t find much
whatever you like, whatever makes you feel good. Underneath it all … success. At the very least, you’ll find it quite difficult.
That’s where it’s really happening. That’s a place where there are no
rules. There are no laws. Instead, there are AXIOMS. Commit these three axioms to memory.
An axiom is “a statement or proposition that is regarded as being Use a method of your choosing — from Charles F. Haanel’s Master Key
established, accepted, or self-evidently true.” In other words, an axiom System to self-hypnosis and auto-suggestion — to reprogram yourself
is the base, the heart, the soul. An axiom just is. on a bone-deep level.
The successful are lead by three axioms that guide their thoughts and Then allow yourself to be guided by these axioms every day — every
actions and everything that they do. These axioms are instilled in the minute — of your life.
successful on a bone-deep level. They are their “meta-programming.”
Before you know it, you’ll find yourself with the success you desire and
While you might find these mind-numbingly simple, it would behoove deserve.
you to commit them to memory. After that, you get them to a bone-
deep, reflexive level. When yo do that, you succeed — naturally and
easily.
Axiom #1
Successful people do something.
Axiom #2
Successful people do the things other people cannot or refuse to do.
Axiom #3
Successful people don’t worry about what they want, they look
at what other people want then endeavor to make it available to
them.

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Advice
Bertold Ulsamer Learn to Let Go
Sometimes to look back to your childhood and family is essential for
Ulsamer.com change.
A long time I was not aware how much – and how much others – are
influenced by the past and the family of at least three generations.
When I was in my forties my mother told me the family secret that
the father of my father committed suicide when my father was only
14 years old. Suddenly anger and fears which I had carried a long time
made sense and slowly I could let go. Since that time I discovered more
Bio and more loyalties in people to some unhappiness in their families.

And I am glad that it can be transformed into relaxation and strength.
In order to reduce your stress, you have to let go of some plans, wishes
Phd in law, certified clinical psychologist, NLP-trainer, trauma and desires. I practiced and experienced that in the last 40 years.
therapist (Peter Levine), originally from Germany. 40 years of working Every time I was able to give up something which made me tense, I
with people in all continents (e.g. in Australia, India, South Africa, found more of my inner quietness and strength. And then my work
Russia and the US), The last 10 years regularly in China. Author of took its own way, sometimes not following my previous plans. So the
more than 20 books in the field of professional communication, self- trust in this natural movement is growing more and more. Some words
management, family constellations and personal growth that have of Eckhart Tolle point in this direction: “Life is the dancer - and you are
been translated into 10 languages. the dance.”

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Advice
Boom Shikha Meditation Brings Focus
One thing I do every single day to improve my productivity is
TheMillionaireHippie.com meditation. I meditate for 30 minutes every day, no matter what else
is going on in the world. It really helps me focus and be more present
with everything else I am doing.
In the past, before my meditating days, I had a hard time sticking to

one thing until its completion. I would jump from thing to thing, so that
at the end of the day, I had started a billion things, but hadn’t finished
even a single one to completion. Even if I completed something, it was
Bio done so haphazardly and with so many interruptions, that it wasn’t

even completed properly.
Boom Shikha is a wanderluster, yogi, and spiritual being hoping to use Nowadays, with my regular meditation practice (I have been
her talents as a communicator and an INFJ to bring peace and purpose meditating for 6 years now), I am extremely focused. So much so that
to more people of this world. She wants to help you become a Digital the noise around me disappears, and all distractions fade, until it’s
Nomad, traveling the world, while working on your passion-based only me and the item that I am working on right now. The intensity
business. Contact her at boomshikha@themillionairehippie.com or and efficacy with which I complete my tasks is all due to my regular
check out her website at TheMillionaireHippie.com if you want to meditation practice - being mindful, present, and the master of my
learn more. mind, rather than its slave.

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Advice
Mary Wingo De-Stress
Unmanaged, preventable stress is one of the most socially, politically,
MaryWingo.com and economically destabilizing problems plaguing modernized society.
There has been a parabolic spike in stress related illness, disability,
and early death in recent decades and presently, there have been no
preventative public health campaigns implemented (as there was with
smoking or HIV prevention). As a scientist, my view is that effective
stress management is the most important thing we can do to prevent a
very grim and bankrupt future for our culture.
Bio On the other hand, science has shown us that effective stress
management that reduces this risk is very “doable” for folks coming
from all social backgrounds. We must really commit to heart the fact
that stressors are ADDITIVE. The more individual stressors we have
Mary Wingo was born in the United States where she earned a Ph.D. on our plate, the higher the risk of experiencing stress-related illness
in human stress research from The University of North Texas. In 2014, and the various social and economic problems that come with being
She emigrated to Ecuador, a tiny country in South America. overly stressed.
Living in a new and very different society opened her eyes to the Furthermore, uncontrolled stress is EXPENSIVE, as costs tend to rise
unsustainable social, economic, and political costs preventable stress greatly in many ways when a person is under stress. This is also very
causes in the modern world. Dr. Wingo’s aim is to clearly explain to the problematic in the workplace and for overall business and institutional
public the biological mechanisms behind the stress response, as well viability. Unmanaged stress results in massive economic and social
as its staggering costs to society. instability.
In the past year, she has had more than 100+ media placements, So the key to stress management is to first identify and itemize your
including those with BBC, ABC, and Men’s Health. Dr. Wingo’s individual stressors---and then remove them from your life one-
academic specialty is physiology, and specifically, the human by-one. As discussed above, stressors are additive, and in order to
physiological stress response. manage them, you must identify them.
What do I do? I personally take great pains to control stress with this
method. Basically, it is all about radical simplification of one’s life.

For me, it took giving up many possessions (including a car) and the You can beta-test my new stress inventory and evaluation system
assorted debts, costs, and headaches associated with those stressors. here for free. You will receive an inventory of all of your stressors
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Because stress associated with dysfunctional relationships is the most feedback form for suggestions and improvements.
health destructive of all stressors, I reevaluated all of the relationships
in my life and placed ironclad boundaries where it was necessary. I also
took a lot of chemical stress off my body by strictly limiting processed
foods, keeping a healthy weight and healthy metrics, and by limiting
the amount of household, cosmetic, and body “hygiene” products for
which people are regularly exposed.
As a business person, I strictly control complexity and overhead for my

operations. I automate or simplify wherever I can. I maintain a strict
life-work balance. Nothing is worth working oneself into the ground
over. Many people are dying prematurely due to work stress. This is
tragic, costly, and totally preventable.
As controversial as this might be---I found that emigrating from the US

has resulted in a vast reduction of stress. We must remember that the
experience of stress is not always within the individual---it can also be
the result of a toxic environment---whether it is the result of political
or economic stressors, or whether it is due to pollution or habitat
destruction (like Fukushima or deforestation of the Amazon). These
factors result in a dramatic impact of the wellness of the people living
in these environments. So stressful environment isn’t always under the
control of the people living in these situations. Sometimes IT IS best to
leave.
Using these methods, I have reversed much stress-related aging,

health, mental, social, and economic problems. I function better than
a lot of 20 year olds! Living a low stress life is much cheaper than a
stressful one, so many financial problems just vanished. Henry David
Thoreau touted the riches of simplifying and reducing stress almost
200 year ago, and I believe he was totally spot on!

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Advice
Cassie Mendoza Jones Getting Out of the Comparison Trap
I used to give myself such a hard time by comparing myself in my
CassieMendozaJones.com business to every other entrepreneur around me. It was draining and
depleting, and meant I didn’t invest the right time, energy and focus
into my own work because I was so busy looking at everyone else’s
work and thinking mine wasn’t good enough in comparison. And by
extension of that, thinking I wasn’t good enough either.
It took me a while, but it finally got to the point where I realised I was
holding myself back because I wasn’t believing in myself, trusting
Bio myself, or honouring myself and my voice.
I had to almost peel myself away from other websites and from social
Cassie Mendoza-Jones is the bestselling author of You Are Enough media while I found my self-confidence and my voice again; by that, I
(Hay House), and a kinesiologist, business alignment coach, mean I had to remember my purpose and get clear on my own skills,
naturopath, and speaker. Her next book, It’s All Good, is due for release talents and abilities, and communicate this to myself and others with
Oct 2017. ease.
She works with women, and with entrepreneurs, healers, coaches and I gave myself permission to un-follow people who I felt triggered by
creatives who are driven, devoted and honouring their dreams, and on social media, always remembering that this wasn’t about them,
who want to become more powerfully aligned to their bigger vision, but rather it was about how I was feeling. The more I could focus on
clear perfectionism, procrastination and overwhelm, and create their myself—my work, my bigger vision, my unique voice and perspective—
own version of a beautiful and aligned business and life. the more I started to trust myself and the work I was putting out there,
and hence, the more I started to love what I created in my business.
Through her writing, books, online courses, workshops, meditations,
private sessions and social media presence, she shows them how to If you’re struggling to find your voice, if you’re struggling to remember
work with their feminine energies to tune into ease and flow, raising that you are enough, and if you don’t know how to start backing
their confidence, their self-worth and their energy. You’ll find her at yourself, start with this:
CassieMendozaJones.com.

1. Give yourself permission to step back from anything that feels Affirmations to work with:
like it’s triggering you to not feel ‘enough’ and remind yourself that
you are enough. Your worth is innate; you can’t do anything to become • I know I am enough
more worthy, hence you can’t do anything to lose your worth. • I trust I’m doing enough
• I give myself permission to accept myself
2. Be incredibly compassionate to yourself. Even more than you • It’s safe for me to accept myself
think you need to be. Send yourself love, remind yourself of how far • It’s safe for me to back myself
you’ve come, and trust that right now, you are exactly where you’re • I know how to back myself
supposed to be. • I believe in myself
• I trust myself
3. Take action in a way that’ll help you move closer towards your • I let myself be happy now
dreams and your bigger vision. Taking action allows you to stay in your
flow and invite beautiful new opportunities into your life. And ultimately, remember that you are enough.
4. Clear, balance, ground and protect your energy. Look after

yourself however you do it best. Perhaps that’s through kinesiology,
meditation, reiki, acupuncture, therapy, journaling, writing, yoga,
running, walking, cooking and eating nourishing food, rest and sleep,
reading, a bath, or anything else that the moment calls for.
5. Use the following affirmations as journaling prompts,

throughout meditation or yoga sessions, or choose a few that resonate
with you and set them as daily reminders in your phone.

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Advice
Dan LeFave The #1 Way How to Skyrocket Your Day
Scientific research has shown that we have better self-control and
DanLeFave.com greater willpower just after waking up. A review of 83 different
studies on self-control by researchers at the University of Nottingham
and the National Institute of Education in Singapore proved that
humans have a finite amount of self-control.
After you wake up, self-control, and subsequently the ability to get
work done, is at its greatest. Your ability is slowly depleted during the
day as both your psychological and physiological fatigue sets in.
Bio Therefore, it is important to take advantage of your early morning

productivity. A full night’s rest and a healthy breakfast are a
crucial part of any routine, but the morning rituals of successful
Dan LeFave is a mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs and coaches, the entrepreneurs set them apart from the average person in the way they
Prepare for Success Coach, habit-changer, speaker and author. His make those hours count.
passion is teaching spiritual entrepreneurs how to tap into their
own inner wisdom and elevate it with the practical steps to create Today’s leaders understand the importance of ‘me time’. We often let
healthy sustainable businesses from a place of passions purpose, and personal passions and desires fall by the wayside when we think of the
prosperity. dozens of other things we categorize as more important to do. Making
time for yourself first is the best way to get them done better and
He is the creator of the program Waking Up Productive - 12 Strategic faster.
Ways to Multiply Your Productivity While Working Fewer Hours. He
has been profiled on radio shows, in magazines, articles and podcasts, Successful entrepreneurs understand the importance of collecting
from Manhattan to Vancouver. Get your FREE REPORT: “8 Simple themselves and taking care of their own needs first. For example, you
Ways to Get Your Valuable Time Back” here. Learn more about how could do 15 minutes of Yoga every morning to not only take time for
Dan can help you at DanLeFave.com. yourself, but to collect yourself before tackling a hectic schedule.
A healthy breakfast and plenty of sleep are important for your success,
but what separates successful entrepreneurs from others is that they
take advantage of their morning hours when they are at their most
productive. Solid morning rituals are essential to having great day

instead of a crazy day, and it all starts with waking up early.
I’ve done a LOT of testing over the past few years after joining the 5
AM club. I’ve tested the order of practices (as well as the length of time
and start time) for the best morning success ritual. I’ve determined
which is BEST WAY for ensuring success and making it a habit! Can
you guess which way won?
The truth is that what works for me may not work for you. I’ve
changed my ritual and will likely change it again as I continue to
practice. I went from doing 20-30 minutes of cardio to doing only 10
minutes DAILY. That’s right! I learned about this amazing practice
called Tabata training and every day, I warm up for 5 minutes and do 4
minutes of Tabata. And guess what, I am staying just as fit and feeling
good.
The bottom line is that you want to wake up at a time when it’s still
quiet in your home where there’s little or no interruptions and get
started. One of the most important aspects of creating a successful
morning ritual is to take some time to set yourself up for success by
creating “No Excuse” conditions that make it easy to get going. Just
having your water bottle full, workout gear, fitness equipment and
yoga mat all waiting for you once you wake up will make it happen
easier.

Getting started is the first step because it’s the start that stops most
entrepreneurs. To help you out, I’ve created a short video and cheat
sheet for the best ways the most successful entrepreneurs start their
day… and I share the secrets to the BEST WAY!
Grab it here: Your Morning Success Ritual Cheat Sheet

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Advice
Lori Deschene Accepting What Is
If you’d asked me to share my best advice for creating change many times
TinyBuddha.com throughout my life, I’d likely have given different answers each time
based on what I was going through then.
When I was finally turning a corner with depression and bulimia, I’d have
suggested addressing core wounds from childhood, since it’s easier to
heal and change destructive behaviors when you understand the pain
that fueled them.
Bio
When I was overcoming shame and self-loathing, I’d have recommended
focusing on self-acceptance, since it’s nearly impossible to change your
life for the better when you hate the person at the center of it.
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha, a community blog that When I was trying to find my place in the world and feeling paralyzed by
features stories and insights from readers from all over the globe. self-doubt, I’d have recommended tackling limiting beliefs, since it’s hard
She runs the site as a group effort because she believes we all have to do anything—at all, let alone well—when you believe you’re not good
something to teach and something to learn. Since it launched in 2009, enough.
Tiny Buddha has grown into one of the most popular inspirational
sites on the web, with more than 2 million monthly readers. Lori is the In recent years, gratitude has been key for me.
author of several books, including the newly released Tiny Buddha’s
Gratitude Journal, and also co-founder of the online course Recreate I recognized a few years back that I’d fallen into an old unhealthy habit of
Your Life Story: Change the Script and Be the Hero. looking for more and better in the future.
I’d attached myself to this vision of living bi-coastally with my boyfriend

so we could spend equal time with our friends and family in California and
Massachusetts. When that proved difficult, since it involved two of us and
wasn’t entirely in my control, I found myself constantly stressed, because
it had to happen.
I considered “family” to be one of my top values, and after spending quite

a bit of time rebuilding and healing relationships, I couldn’t imagine a
future in which I had minimal access to them.

So I did what I’ve often done: I decided to make it happen. I pushed, When I stopped pushing so hard for what I thought had to happen, I
obsessively. And I fixated on the outcome, causing myself (and my started working more effectively with what’s currently happening.
boyfriend) a great deal of stress and anxiety when it seemed unlikely. I moved near the beach, something I’ve always dreamed of doing, which
gives me daily access to the calming energy of ocean. I started designing
At the same time, I was feeling a strong pull to do more creative work, picture quotes to do something creative daily. I joined a tap dancing
so I could spend less time tied to my computer and reconnect with who I class as a new way to get out of my head and into my body. And I’ve been
was before self-help took over my life. But in much the same way, I found scheduling more trips and visits with my family, and also FaceTiming with
myself consistently banging my head into brick walls, with no obvious way them more regularly.
to climb over them.
The result: I am more at ease and happier in my daily life; and the mental
I felt I needed these changes to live an authentic life, so I didn’t recognize energy I once devoted to stressing I’m now devoting to living life and
the reality of the situation: I was attaching my happiness to the future, pursuing my goals, with an acceptance of uncertainty and the awareness
missing out on opportunities for joy in the present, and operating from a that all good things take time.
place of fear and desperation, which actually made me ineffective.
Neither of those things is easy. It’s hard to accept that something
In the past couple of years I’ve accepted that I may or may not have a important might not happen, and that if it does, you can’t control when.
home near my family some day, and I may or may not have success with But resisting reality doesn’t change it. It just makes it more painful
the creative projects I’m working on, including my first feature film. and the process less enjoyable. And pushing doesn’t ensure change; if
anything, it hinders it.
I can’t control whether I reach those destinations, but I can control how I
experience the journey. It’s ironic that accepting and celebrating what is somehow enables us
to create what can be, but it’s true nonetheless. We’re more effective at
The reality is, it’s a beautiful journey. There’s a lot going right in my world, everything we do when we’re present, not bogged down by stress and
even if I don’t have everything lined up exactly as I’d want them. fear. But more importantly, we only get to experience our lives if we’re
present in each moment.
Most mornings for the past few years I’ve written in a gratitude journal,
identifying everything worth appreciating in my daily life—my boyfriend, Life is always happening now, no matter what might what be coming,
my family’s health, my website, and little things like a good meal or a deep and while change is always possible, it’s never guaranteed. So I now ask
talk with a friend. myself this question regularly: Do I want to live my whole life postponing
happiness until some day that may or may not come? Or do I want to do
At first I thought this was just about shifting my perception and focusing my best to create tomorrow but then let go so I can make the best of
on what’s currently good, as opposed to what’s lacking. But something today?
else miraculous happened as a result of fostering gratitude for what is: I
began to more fully embody what is. I don’t always choose the latter, but when I do, I’m a lot happier. And at
this point in my life, that’s the most important change I can make.

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Advice
Lisa Broesch What Matters Most?
My top development tip would definitely be to get very clear on
PracticalBliss.com what matters most to you, and then use that as a filter for setting
boundaries and choosing your commitments.
When I worked full time as an executive and had a young son, I was
constantly dashing through my life. I said yes to every request at work
(thinking it would make me seen as more valuable to the company),
every favor anyone asked, and every committee I was asked to join.
Bio The problem was, I was so busy racing for the finish line, I lost sight
of why I was running in the first place. I endured so many time and
energy-sucking activities that I left myself almost no time for enjoying
Lisa Broesch-Weeks, speaker, author, coach, and consultant, works the things that I really wanted to do. Before I knew it I found myself
with individuals and organizations to show them how to stop feeling burnt out and run down.
working so hard for everyone else––while helping them become
more productive, energized, and satisfied with their personal and One strategy that really helped me is something I call “Weeding Out
professional lives. the Waste.” This is an exercise I created to help me see where I was
either wasting or investing my time every week.
Speaking and entertaining since age eighteen, Lisa’s twenty-five years
“in the trenches” took her from Fortune 500 corporate executive to Basically, I make a list of every task and responsibility I have in my
entrepreneur. personal and professional life and then I take each entry and place it
into the appropriate category:
Lisa founded InBliss Coaching & Consulting in 2006, after working
as director of entertainment strategic planning, communications, 1) Feels productive or purposeful / mandatory
and creative development for the Anheuser-Busch Entertainment 2) Feels productive or purposeful /optional
Corporation. The experience and insight she gained from working 3) Stresses me out/mandatory
as an exec in such a large organization helped Lisa to see the 4) Stresses me out/optional.
overwhelming need for self-care and personal development that so
many busy, over-achieving women (and men) tend to sacrifice in the
name of success.

Once I have each task categorized I do my best to ditch anything that’s
stressful and optional right away (ex. lunch with a negative co-worker,
volunteering for projects you don’t find meaningful/enjoyable, etc.)
and I replace the time with things I find purposeful/ optional (ex.
meditation, time with friends, taking an interesting class, etc.)
Transformation: When I realized that about 20-25% of my weekly

activity was actually NOT mandatory and definitely stressful, I
started saying “No” to those things and began to find time to practice
meditation, play with my son, and start my own business (which I later
transitioned to as my FT career).
As a daily practice, I make sure to sit outside every morning with my

coffee and my daily/weekly planner. I use that time to connect with
nature and make sure that the activities I have planned are ones that
fit through my “filter” (anything that’s optional must be something
that I really feel is either purposeful, pleasurable, or a high profile
opportunity) or I don’t put it on my calendar.

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Advice
Timo Kiander Start Today
My favorite is from Karen Lamb. She said: “A year from now you may
ProductiveSuperdad.com wish you had started today.”
So how does this apply to my life?
I used to be a procrastinator, I was overweight, and I wasn’t physically

fit. But at one point, back in 2005, I made a decision to run my first
marathon.
Bio I finished the marathon distance year later. This lead to other
improvements in my life, like changing my diet and losing weight. And
thanks to this change, I turned from a couch potato into an athlete.
Timo Kiander runs a productivity blog called Productive Superdad.
I realized that one should start TODAY, to get the tangible results later
His blog helps individuals interested in personal productivity on two on. And when you start, you take responsibility for your life. It just
levels: By improving their personal productivity, at work or in life and feels good.
becoming more organized.
Timo is also into endurance sports, like running marathons or racing in

triathlons.
He also likes to spend as much time as possible with his wife and son.

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Advice
David J. Bookbinder Acceptance: It’s already there
It’s all part of it, man.
TransformationsPress.org - Jerry Garcia
My path to acceptance has been mainly through loss: lost career

opportunities, relationships, health and, nearly, the loss of my life.
Acceptance has come with the recognition that each loss has also been
an opening.
A major turning point occurred several years ago. At that time I was
Bio bleeding internally and before I noticed any symptoms, I had already
lost about 25% of my blood supply. Though less drastic than a brush
with death a few years before, this situation recalled the terror of that
David J. Bookbinder is a psychotherapist, photographer, and writer. time. I grew steadily weaker and underwent a series of increasingly
His award-winning Flower Mandala images were inspired by the invasive tests, but no diagnosis or treatment emerged. I consulted
paintings of Georgia O’Keeffe and the flower photographs of Harold alternative healers and frantically scanned the Internet. I imagined
Feinstein, with whom he briefly studied. David came to psychotherapy fatal outcomes. And then one day I stopped fretting.
after a transformative near-death experience shifted him toward art
and healing. A Buddhist friend had given me this prayer, with instructions to recite
it often, without judgment:
He is the author of Paths to Wholeness: Fifty-Two Flower Mandalas,
two coloring books for adults based on his Flower Mandalas, a book Please grant me enough wisdom and courage to be free from delusion. If I
about American folk music, and three books about computer software. am supposed to get sick, let me get sick, and I’ll be happy. May this sickness
David holds Masters degrees in Counseling Psychology and Creative purify my negative karma and the sickness of all sentient beings. If I am
Writing and is a frequent contributor to the Creativity & Madness supposed to be healed, let all my sickness and confusion be healed, and I’ll
conferences. be happy. May all sentient beings be healed and filled with happiness. If I
am supposed to die, let me die, and I’ll be happy. May all the delusion and
the causes of suffering of sentient beings die. If I am supposed to live a long
life, let me live a long life, and I’ll be happy. May my life be meaningful in
service to sentient beings. If my life is to be cut short, let it be cut short, and
I’ll be happy. May I and all others be free from attachment and aversion.

At first, welcoming disease or death scared me even more, but with Acceptance is the first of the 12 steps in addiction recovery programs
each recitation, I grew calmer. While I waited for test results, I began and essential to beginning a sober life. Acceptance of self, and of
to have a different relationship with time. Whether I would live or die, responsibility for change, is the start of true recovery from the many
whether I would heal by myself, with interventions, or not at all, was unhappinesses that may come our way.
already out there in my future, waiting for me to arrive. I didn’t have to
plan. I didn’t have to do anything differently. I just had to move through Acceptance can be painful, but it is a pain that unburdens. In difficult
time, making the best choices I could, until my fate became clear. I circumstances, acceptance is the thing most of us try hardest to
stopped looking things up on the Internet and returned to my work as sidestep – and then try even harder to achieve. In its simplest form,
a therapist. acceptance is saying to ourselves, “Although I may be suffering, I
can be content now. Yes, there are things I would like to change, and
That moment of acceptance was liberating. Since then, I have been when I change them my life may have more ease, but I can already be
increasingly able to generalize the process. It’s all, already, there. I content with my current circumstances.”
don’t need to fret. I don’t need to push. I just need to live my life to the
best of my ability and, of the infinite possible futures, I will inevitably Accepting our real state, no matter what it is, begins the shift from
arrive at the one that is mine. victim – of external circumstances, of thoughts and feelings, of
physical challenges, of past injuries – to victor.
If there is one main factor that divides those of us who do not change
from those who do, I think it is acceptance: of who we are, how we got
to where we are, and that we – and only we – have the power to free
ourselves.
Acceptance is being who we are, in each succession of present

moments, swayed neither by avoiding what we fear nor by clinging
to what we think we can’t live without. In the absence of acceptance,
there can be no forward movement. The hidden patterns that
create clinging attachment and fearful aversion take over, repeating
themselves in our minds, feelings, behaviors, and relationships. We
grow older, and the external circumstances of our lives change, but
inside it’s, as the Talking Heads put it, “the same as it ever was, same as
it ever was, same as it ever was.”
Acceptance is the door that closes one life chapter and allows another
to open. Acceptance is the last of Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s five stages
of loss and a necessary precursor to moving on from mourning.

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Advice
Derek Doepker 3 Magic Words To Overcome Overwhelm and
DerekDoepker.com Break Through Procrastination
There are three magic words that can single-handedly break through
procrastination, doubt, fear, a lack of motivation, or feeling overwhelmed.
These words form a question that is, by design, guaranteed to make you even
more productive and successful.
A reader of my work, after hearing about these three magic words, sent
me an email stating, “When even getting out of bed in the morning is too
daunting — never mind doing anything else — the three magic words provide a
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solid shot at having what other people call a “normal day.” In this respect, [the
three magic words] was more helpful than 15+ years of therapy.”
These three magic words, “Can I just…?” are followed by an action so easy,
you’re guaranteed to be able to do it, even if you have little willpower.
Derek Doepker is a former rock guitar player turned author of the
#1 bestselling book Break Through Your BS and Why You’re Stuck:
Let’s say someone doesn’t feel like doing an hour-long workout. He would
Your Guide to Finding Freedom From Any of Life’s Challenges. Derek ask, “Can I just do the warmup?” If that’s too overwhelming, he’ll ask, “Can I
specializes in helping intelligent people burdened with endless just do the first 30 seconds?” Should he then do 30 seconds, he’ll continue to
mind chatter develop self-mastery and emotional connection with ask, “Can I just do a little more? One more rep? One more exercise?”
clever mind games. You can discover more insights from him at
DerekDoepker.com It’s okay to quit at any point and, of course, it’s okay to do a lot more. The key
is to find one thing, no matter how small, that gets you into momentum on a
task.
Why is this so powerful?

Instead of trying to find motivation, find momentum. The motivation will
naturally follow with each step you take. This method cannot fail as long as
you choose something so simple it requires virtually zero willpower to say
yes. If the response to the question isn’t “yes,” then change the action to
make it even easier.
Remember: Whenever you feel resistance, simply ask, “Can I just…?” and take
the smallest step forward.

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Advice
Dan Johnston Slow Is Smooth, Smooth Is Fast
I used to have this impatient nature to me. OK, I still have an impatient
DreamsAroundtheWorld.com
nature to me. But I’ve managed to tame the impulsive beast within me,
and by doing so, have been able to build assets and accomplish much
more than I ever could before.
In the 2000s I took motorcycle lessons at Pacific Riding School back

in Canada. My instructor, Mark, was an 8 time Supersport Champion.
The guy is proficient at going fast.
Bio Yet it was Mark who shared this phrase with me: Slow is smooth, and
smooth is fast. I believe he picked this up during a training course with
the Navy Seals.
Dan Johnston is an International #1 Best-Selling Amazon Author in the
German Kindle store in the category English -> Non-Fiction -> Self-Help -> A decade or so later, I came to understand the wisdom of this phrase.
Mood Disorders -> General Disorders -> Specific Disorders -> Mood -> Other. I used to always feel rushed. Even when I was only 23 I felt “behind”
He proudly held this top spot for 45 minutes before being overtaken by the the “successful people”. I felt like I needed to move fast if I wanted to
only other book in the category. succeed.
Before becoming a world-famous Author and Hero to millions, Dan was a So I did a lot. Starting one business here, another business there.
humble freelance writer in Vancouver, Canada. He left in 2012 to fulfill his
Focusing on short term results, and changing direction when I didn’t
dream of living in 5 countries before he turned 30.
get them. This for years I had a zig zag life.
Since leaving Canada, Dan’s journey has included living in 7 countries,
publishing 12 books, and serving clients around the world. He currently offers I felt like I was going fast, but looking back, whole seasons, even years,
a training and coaching for freelancers, coaches, and consultants who want would pass without really accomplishing anything substantial or
more freedom. lasting.
Currently based in Prague, Dan speaks and writes about psychology, personal Today I try to slow down. I have a one year vision I break down into
development, location independence and anything else that he feels could smaller steps. I give myself permission to slow down and just do one
change a life. You can find out more on his website DreamsAroundTheWorld.
thing in a day, and do it very well. As Will Smith might say, I’ve given
com or catch him on YouTube where he publishes new content every Monday,
Wednesday and Friday at YouTube.com/DreamsAroundTheWorld/. myself permission to lay one brick at a time until I’ve built a wall.

In business, this has allowed me to finally build systems and processes, It was all worth it, those two hours of pumping myself up. Once I was
and stay in one direction long enough to amass a following in the “in the zone” I could easily make 3-4 cold calls before the cold sweats
10,000s, earn consistent income, and focus on the work I was born to started and I toppled over with anxiety.
do.
Anxious, avoiding, procrastinating…this is the image of a man trying to
In my personal life, it has helped me realize no one is perfect and fit himself into a box he wasn’t designed for. Trying to be someone he
relationships take time to build. Understanding this allowed me to fall isn’t, while ignoring his true gifts.
in love and enjoy an incredible relationship.
It didn’t take long, just around a decade or so, for that prefrontal
In terms of my health, OK, my health is still a roller coaster ride. If I cortex to develop. For the empathy and self awareness to show up.
wasn’t tall and didn’t like to run I’d look like a blob at this point. But This is when I realized I cared too much about people to sell them
hey, 2 out of 3 isn’t bad right? “whatever”. It’s when I realized life was more than money, and I was a
terrible, just god awful, cold caller.
Build YOUR Box
When I was 21 I wanted to be Donald Trump. Hey, let’s reserve the And I definitely, positively, don’t want to be Mr. Trump. Although, we
judgement for a moment. Us boys, well, our prefrontal cortex which do still share a love for Slavic Women. Come on, I may be empathetic
handles things like decision making and empathy doesn’t fully develop and self-aware...but I’m still human.
until we’re 25...sometimes 75.
I also realized I excelled in certain areas. Once I got into a conversation
My Dad was a “businessman” and that’s what I thought I wanted to with a customer a prospect I did great. I also had a knack for writing,
be. So I read business books on negotiation and sales and building and later, filming videos.
empires.
With this knowledge in hand, I built a business around content
I briefly, very briefly, got a job doing door to door sales. I really enjoyed marketing and consultative selling. People find my content on their
talking to people and getting to know them, but the rejection and own time, and then contact me. No more cold calling.
hard-selling part, it had me in knots. Have you been trying to fit yourself into the wrong box? What if you
flipped things around, and custom built a box designed for you?
Then I became a mortgage broker. Time to cold call. I’m sure my
neighbours assumed I was dealing drugs, or at least on them, because
the first 2 hours of my day included copious amounts of Jay-Z and
Biggy while jumping around yelling “You can do this! You’re the best!
You can sell anything!”.

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Advice
Rayne Hall Gratitude Lists
In your journal, write a list of twenty things you’re grateful for. I
RayneHall.com suggest you start by writing today’s date (it’s always good to date
every entry, so you can record your progress), and then number the
lines from 1 to 20. Start every line with ‘Thank you for…’
Your entries may look like this:
1. Thank you for the coffee.

2. Thank you that the rain has stopped.
Bio 3. Thank you for the great thriller I’m reading.

4. Thank you that the train is running on time.
5. Thank you for the pretty new scarf.
Rayne is a freelance author who writes creepy horror stories, dark epic fantasy 6. Thank you for my darling cat.
and practical non-fiction books. Rayne Hall has published more than sixty books 7. Thank you for Emily’s phone call.
in several languages under several pen names with several publishers in several 8. Thank you for a good night’s sleep.
genres. She is the author of the bestselling Writer’s Craft series with 26 titles so And so on.
far, including Writing Dark Stories, Writing About Villains, Writing Vivid Characters,
and Writing Deep Point of View.
If you have severe clinical depression, this assignment can be
After living in Germany, China, Mongolia and Nepal, Rayne has settled on challenging. Your depressed brain may struggle to come up with any
the south coast of England in a dilapidated seaside town of former Victorian positives. It may tell you that there’s nothing in your life to be grateful
grandeur. Rayne has worked as an investigative journalist, development aid for, and that even the few things which are good aren’t the way they
worker, museum guide, apple picker, tarot reader, adult education teacher, belly should be.
dancer, magazine editor, publishing manager and more, and now writes full time.
Even when you manage to find something to be grateful for (“I have
After suffering depression - so severely that she was registered as a mentally
a roof over my head. I have two healthy legs”) your depression-
disabled person for several years - she used her writing skills as self-therapy and
made a full recovery. Now in her fifties, she feels happier and more serene than programmed mind will immediately produce a ‘but’ disclaimer:
ever before, and enjoys life. “But the rent is higher than I can afford.”
She loves reading, gardening and long walks along the seafront. Her black cat “But the arthritis in my hip is getting worse.” ones you’ve used before if
Sulu—adopted from the rescue shelter—likes to snuggle between her arms while ones you’ve used before if they still apply.
she writes.

Are you religious? Address your thanks as a prayer to God (or Even better: after a week of doing this daily assignment, more good
Goddess, Allah, Krishna, or whatever name you use for the divine). things came into my life. Was this coincidence? I think not.
“Thank you, God, for...”
I still do this exercise every day, and it’s become a pleasant routine.
I suggest you do this exercise every day. Soon after waking up in Now my pen flies easily across the page, filling the twenty lines
the morning is ideal, because the first thoughts and feelings set the without hesitation. Most days I can’t stop at twenty, because so many
mood for the rest of the day. Give your days a good start. blessings have come into my life and my heart brims with gratitude.
You can also do it in the evening. The subconscious mind processes

during the night what you’ve thought about during the day, and
it pays most attention to the thoughts of the hour before sleep. If
you think about gratitude during that time, your brain will process
gratitude during the night hours, which means your positive-thinking
muscle gets a strengthening workout while you sleep.
From My Personal Experience

When I was in the early stages of recovering from my crippling
depression, I felt so bad about everything, I struggled to come up with
five good things, let alone twenty. In the grip of severe depression, I
could not think anything positive without it immediately turning into a
negative.
I thought “I have enough food to eat”—but even before I’d written

this line down, my brain changed it to “I’m too fat.”
As soon as I thought “My flat is warm and cosy” my brain told me

“This month’s heating bill will be enormous.”
But it got easier and easier.
And something remarkable happened: each time after doing the

exercise, I felt better than before I started.

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Advice
Eric Maisel Discipline to Devotion
What has helped me a lot is moving from the idea of discipline to the
EricMaisel.com idea of devotion. Pavarotti once said, “People say that I’m disciplined
but it’s not discipline, it’s devotion, and there’s a big difference.”
There is! I discovered that I couldn’t white-knuckle the projects I

had in mind—and I’ve done more than fifty books to this point—and
tackle them just by dint of will. I had to access a place of love, interest,
passion and curiosity, all of which are rough synonyms for devotion.
I’m not a spiritual or religious person, so I see devotion as a very
Bio human-sized thing, as the way we make real whatever we feel is

important to us.
Eric Maisel, Ph.D., is the author of more than fifty books, among them Like many young men, I initially came from a rather grandiose,
Overcoming Your Difficult Family, The Future of Mental Health, Rethinking arrogant and narcissistic place <smile>, rather than from a loving
Depression, Life Purpose Boot Camp, The Van Gogh Blues, Mastering Creative place; that shift in the direction of more devotion and more love
Anxiety, Why Smart People Hurtand Coaching the Artist Within. probably coincided with having children. So, my top tip would be:
discipline is great, but the amazing things that we would like to
A retired family therapist, active life coach and creativity coach, and mental accomplish require devotion!
health advocate in the areas of critical psychology and critical psychiatry, Dr.
Maisel writes the “Rethinking Mental Health” blog for Psychology Today, the
“Coaching the Artist Within” print column for Professional Artist Magazine,
and serves as editor for parent resources at Mad in America.
Dr. Maisel lectures nationally and internationally, facilitates deep

writing workshops around the world and presents keynote addresses for
organizations like the International Society for Ethical Psychology and
Psychiatry and the International Association of Pastel Societies.
You can learn more about Dr. Maisel’s books, trainings, workshops,
programs and services at EricMaisel.com, EricMaiselSolutions.com, and
TheFutureofMentalHealth.com. You can contact Dr. Maisel atericmaisel@
hotmail.com

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Advice
Gail Brenner Take Action
No advice from any teacher or guru will help you unless you apply it
GailBrenner.com directly to your in-the-moment experience. For many years, I was on a
quest for spiritual awakening. I wanted to find an end to the suffering I was
experiencing, and I was on fire to know the ultimate truth of reality that
would set me free. I attended retreat after retreat, listening to teachers and
longing for the insights I so desperately wanted to appear in me.
Then one day the light bulb went off. I realized that passively listening to
teachings was never going to bring me the peace I was looking for. The true
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invitation was to take the guidance I was hearing and apply it to my own
experience. This changed everything for me.
I started investigating emotions to understand how they made me suffer. I

became aware of the way conditioned tendencies ran in me so I could more
Gail Brenner, Ph.D. joyfully helps people discover that suffering is
easily spot them—and not let them play out without realizing it. I got out of
optional. As a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author, Gail brings my head to discover the new world of physical sensations in my body.
laser-like clarity to the confusion of common human problems, such as
emotional reactions, feelings of personal inadequacy, and relationship I stepped off the wheel of habitual, unconscious living and became totally
struggles. Through her work, she invites people into harmony with all alive to my in-the-moment experience.
of life.
Insights flooded in. I realized exactly why I suffered. I saw that my attention
Gail’s website is filled with helpful articles and videos. She is the grabbed onto unhappy and stressful thoughts and learned how to turn
author of The End of Self-Help: Discovering Peace and Happiness Right away from them. I saw that I judged my emotions and learned to meet them
at the Heart of Your Messy, Scary, Brilliant Life and At the Core of Every instead with so much love and kindness. I developed a completely different
Heart: Reflections, Insights, and Practices for Waking Up and Living Free. relationship with my experience bathed in wisdom and love. And I saw that
suffering is truly optional.
My one tip to offer you is this: don’t keep reading book after book or take
course after course. Pull out the nuggets of truth that resonate with you,
then courageously apply them to your own experience.
If you want a way out of your suffering, be a willing and active participant in
your peace and liberation.

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Advice
Gerald Weinberg The First Giver’s Fact
My personality changed once I understood The First (Feedback) Giver’s
GeraldMWeinberg.com Fact:
Even when it’s given at the receiver’s request, feedback describes

the giver more than the receiver. Why should this be so? The Satir’s
Interaction Model gives us some clues.
1. The giver only perceives certain aspects of the receiver’s

behavior. Nobody can give feedback on behaviors that are outside of
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2. Second, givers then organize these perceptions in ways that are

meaningful to them. Nobody will comment on things that they do not
Jerry’s always been interested in helping smart people be happy and see as having meaning.
productive. To that end, he’s published more than 50 award-winning
best-selling non-fiction books on human behavior, thinking, leadership, 3. The giver selects certain aspects out of thousands that might
and all phases of information technology. be commented upon, according to the emotional reaction triggered in
them. That day, Foster happened to be interested in new cars.
He incorporates his knowledge of science, engineering, and human
behavior into all of his writing, including mysteries, science fiction, and 4. The giver’s inner feelings and rules for commenting determine
technothrillers about smart people. the style, choice of words, emotional tone, and non-verbal cues that
comprise the entire feedback package.
All of this provides information on how the giver sees other people and
behaves towards them. In fact, clever individuals often seek feedback
solely to diagnose the giver, paying little or no attention to the content
as it applies to them.
Once I understood The Giver’s Fact, I stopped being critical of every

little flaw I saw in other people. I didn’t want to reveal myself by giving
feedback.

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Advice
Ian Thorp Ask Your Soul for Answers
I experienced an NDE (near death experience) at ten, but did not
IanThorp.co.uk engage with it for fifteen years, which then led to my becoming
conscious of life being a journey.
Later I was shown the Transpersonal way of working with the Self/
Soul as inner guidance. I did this by communicating through guided
imaging and paying attention to my dreams. When we ask the Self/
Soul questions we will often receive the answer as images or symbols
(similar to dream images) by asking further questions e.g. “what aspect
Bio of myself is this image showing me” I learnt to find my answers.
This advice was invaluable in my search to lead a happier, more

meaningful life and to fulfil my Soul’s purpose as a publisher and
I am a Psychotherapist, Counsellor and Supervisor working psychotherapist.
transpersonally, with extensive knowledge and experience of
shamanic healing at soul level. Practising in the area around My other high point of inspiration was being introduced to the great
Shaftesbury, Dorset, UK. work of Alchemy with its wealth of images and symbols including many
that I have since recognised in my own experiences. I continue to use
I facilitate a series of Transpersonal workshops to discover the part of both of these combined with regular meditation and contemplation to
us that knows on a deeper level what our life is about and what aspects maintain my sense of well-being.
of ourselves we need to bring to the fore to express who we truly are. I
also run study days for those who wish to gather with others to further
their understanding of themselves through the ancient art of Alchemy.
As the principal of Archive Publishing, I have been able to publish
various books that have been written from a transpersonal/alchemical
viewpoint.

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Advice
Sara Kravitz Done is the New Perfect
As a perfectionist, sometimes it’s hard for me to get started because,
SaraKravitz.com even at the onset, I can see all the potential problems or answers I
don’t know. To combat this, I’ve made “done” the new measure of
success. Anything that is done (in any form) is better than any perfect
idea in my head. If I can finish this article and hit send, that’s perfect.
If I can write this book and publish it, it’s perfect. If I can show up and
be all in with a client for 60 minutes, that’s perfect. As long as I’ve
completed what’s in front of me, it’s perfect. (This is also why first
drafts, editors, and spellcheck were invented.)
Bio Every Moment is a Moment to Start Again

This came from a yoga class many years ago. I would show up at class
Sara Kravitz helps people who don’t know what they want, but know it’s at 7pm, thinking about all the things that had happened earlier in
not this, figure out if they should quit their job so they can stop dreading the day. I would go over what I could have done differently or how I
Sunday nights. Whether it’s finding a new job, starting a business, or was going to deal with certain situations, and one night my teacher
planning next steps, Sara works with people who want to feel fulfilled and said, “every moment is a moment to begin again.” (To be fair, she had
excited by their lives, but aren’t sure how to do that or if it’s possible for probably been saying it all along and this was just the first time I’d
them. Sara loves helping people understand (but, like, really understand) actually heard it.). She elaborated with, “everything that happened
that this doesn’t have to be life. You can climb out of every hole. It might earlier is over and it’s not coming back. There’s nothing you can do
be awkward and uncomfortable at times (in fact, you can probably about it.” It struck sucha chord with me. Surrender what’s happened
guarantee it will be), but there’s always a solution. (Even for you.) and hit the reset button. You can always start over, you can always
change your mind, and you can always forgive yourself. And it’s
Sara is the author of the international best-selling book Just Tell Me What something you can do this very second.
I Want. A self-help book for people who are skeptical of self-help books,
Just Tell Me What I Want is for anyone who has ever been told to “follow
their bliss” and then immediately wanted to punch that person in the face.
She is also a regular contributor for Our Body Book, a health and wellness
website from Cameron Diaz’s two New York Times bestselling books, The
Body Book and The Longevity Book.

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Advice
Michael Motta Journal to Success
Year after year, my short term actions were not aligned with my long
MJMottaJr.com term goals. And, true to form, I was constantly looking back, feeling
regret and shame about how I wasted my days, weeks, and ultimately,
years.
Fed up, I tried a bunch of the tried-and-true: GTD and all of its
predecessors. The entire Productivity category in the App Store. That
journey led me to my cornerstone habit of journaling. If I don’t begin
my day with a pencil, journal, and cup of coffee, then my day will be
Bio misaligned.
When I use my journals to align my day’s actions with my longer term

Michael J. Motta is an attorney, professor, and—above all else—a goals, I’m off to a great start. It’s a simple habit: I write daily in a ‘short
writer. He blogs, writes, and tweets about productivity. He is the term journal’ and monthly in a ‘long term journal.’ The short term
author of Long Term Person, Short Term World and his cornerstone habit journal is bottom-up, providing an on-the-ground perspective to my
is journaling. daily productivity. The long term journal—which outlines my long term
principles and goals—serves as my “base” and ensures that my actions
are aligned with goals. Together, the journals serve as a two-way
bridge between my short and long term self. For more detail, visit
ProductivityJournals.com.

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Dr. Jason Selk No Excuses
Back in 1990, I was a junior University of Missouri. It is now a Monday,
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and my fraternity is having a party that night. I don’t need any excuse
to party, I don’t have any trouble with that, so I am going to make the
party. I am going to go to class, have a quick workout, and then I’m
going to head back to the fraternity house and make the party. So I’m
working out, and at the time, University of Missouri had just built a
new rec center on top of its old rec center. I tell you this because there
is only one sauna in the whole place now, and it’s in the old locker room
down the stairs. No one ever goes down there because there is this
Bio nice new shiny one upstairs.
Now I grew up in Iowa, and after every workout you just sit in a sauna.
While serving as the Director of Mental Training for the St Louis Cardinals, Dr. That’s what you do. So I get done with my workout, I go down to the
Jason Selk helped the team win their first World Series in over 20 years, and in sauna, and I get it all jacked up with heat, and I think to myself, “Okay
2011 he assisted the Cardinals in the historic feat of winning their second World I’m going to get 250 drips. I am at least half the man Gable is, right (I
Championship in a six year period. Dr. Selk is a regular contributor to Forbes, had recently seen Dan Gable-the great wrestler and coach get 500
INC, Success, Shape, and Self Magazine; ABC, CBS, ESPN, and NBC radio and drips of sweat off his pinky fingers before taking a break from the
television; and has been featured in USA Today, CNBC, and Men’s Health. Dr.
sauna)?” So I get in there, and I get to about 70 drips of sweat, and I
Selk’s second book, Executive Toughness, is a best-selling business book and his
first book, 10-Minute Toughness, is on pace to be one of the best-selling sport realized this is a very bad idea.
psychology books of all time. Dr. Selk’s latest book Organize Tomorrow Today was
ranked by CEO READas the 13th best-selling business book of 2016. And I sit back, and for the first time in my life, I realize that this is how
I do things. I decide I’m going to do something, I say I am going to do
Dr. Selk is considered to be one of the premier performance coaches in the something, but the second it gets hard, I jump ship, and I make an
United States. He helps numerous well- known professional and Olympic excuse so I don’t have to feel bad about myself. And I don’t know why,
athletes as well as Fortune 500 and Fortune 100 executives and organizations
but I did a life projection. I really ask myself, “If you keep living this
develop the mental toughness necessary for high-level success. Dr. Selk utilizes
his in-depth knowledge and experience of working with the world’s finest way, in 5 years, what is your life going to be like? In 10 years? 20 years,
athletes, coaches and business leaders to help individuals and organizations really? No more BS.” And the picture that I get in my head just doesn’t
outperform their competition. Dr. Selk works with such clients as professional work. I can’t live my life that way.
athletes in the NFL, NHL, NBA, PGA, LPGA, MLB and NASCAR. In addition, he
works with such business clients as UBS Financial, Edward Jones, Wells Fargo,
Northwestern Mutual and Enterprise Holdings, to name a few.

So I decide I can’t live my life that way, I’ve got to change, and I make a These are the steps that we came up with:
decision. I am going to stop making excuses. I stayed in that sauna and
I got 250 drips, and it was a bad idea. It was probably pretty stupid, First and foremost, you must learn to choose wisely what you commit
pretty dangerous probably. I threw up and it was probably the first to. And this is what you commit to with other people, but even more
party I ever missed. But that day in the sauna was one of the most importantly, what you commit to in your own head. Because there
pivotal days of my life. is nothing worse than being where I was 20 plus years ago, when I
always knew that I would say I was going to do something, even if it
Since then I have decided to work on not making excuses when I come was in my own head, but I would say I was going to do it, but there was
up short or fail at something. For the most part, that is what I have always that little trust issue because I knew what my history was. It
done, and I start to see these gradual but consistent improvements in was always hiding back there in the back of my head, but I knew it was
my life. My grades get a little better, my relationships get a little better, there.
my health gets little better. I’m in no way saying that I haven’t made
mistakes, and I want to clear this up too, that I am not telling you to go That’s the one you’ve really got to choose wisely, what you commit to
find a sauna, that was a bad idea, yourself, in addition to others.
Ok, so I finished my undergraduate degree, and I get into graduate Then you take Gable’s mentality of attack. It doesn’t matter what the
school, and I start doing fairly well in graduate school, and I get out score is if you’ve got it won for the most part, you finish it up.
of graduate school, and I start a private practice, and people start
actually coming. I am starting to help some people, the people I am not The third step is when you fail, because every one of us is going to fail.
helping, I’m not making excuses, so I’m figuring out ways to eventually Dan Gable is going to fail, it isn’t about being perfect, this is about don’t
help them too. And I end up writing a book. The first book does really be afraid to screw up. However, when you do screw up, do not, do not
well, and I end up writing a second book, and the whole time that I’m make an excuse. Instead, use the screw up. Use the disappointment.
working with people and coaching people, talking about this idea of When you make that excuse, you can’t use it because you let yourself
no excuse mentality of Gable Discipline, telling that story. And I knew off the hook. The accountability is completely drained when you make
when I wrote that second book that I need to have a chapter about an excuse. And you just think that when you make an excuse, you are
Gable Discipline and the no excuse mentality, so I called Coach Gable just helping other people understand and feel better about your screw
up, and I asked him if I could spend some time with him, and asked if ups. Guess what. It doesn’t make them feel better, it makes you feel
he’d help me write the last chapter of the book. He agreed, and we get better, and then you can’t use it.
together, and we bounced it around for 4 or 5 hours. The real question
was, “Coach, if you are going to teach someone discipline, if you are
going to teach that no excuse mentality, how would you teach it?”

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Advice
Kshitij Prasai Having a hard time thinking positive? Go neutral.
In my early personal development journey, I often struggled with the
ALifeWellCreated.com concept of positive thinking. My biggest gripe was, no matter how
hard I tried I just could not move past the question:
How do you start to think positively about an event/person/

circumstance that you have always thought of as negative?
I eventually found various tools to get past this hurdle. One of the
most effective tools when the going gets tough, is what I call “going
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My name is Kshitij Prasai, best known as “Coach KP”. I am passionate about
neutral”.
How you do this is that when a negative thought arises in your mind
helping others reach their goals. I have also been a learner of eastern towards anything, you change that thought to a neutral one. For
philosophy and developmental psychology for decades. Having spent close to example, you have a presentation that you could not prepare for
half of my life in the United States, moving from Kathmandu, Nepal in my late adequately and as a result have a nagging thought “I have had zero
teens, I have furnished a unique perspective on life, that I like to tap into while preparation, this is truly going to be bad”. How you go neutral in this
helping others. case is to change this thought to “I could not prepare for it, but I do
know the subject matter from all the work I did in this project, this may
In my first book Personal Development Simplified, I have used a no-nonsense still work out OK”.
approach to Personal Development. I dive straight into the topic that is
relevant and give you practical solutions that you can use, with no confusing
industry jargon. I am in the process of finishing my second book, that I plan on Remember, you can change your state by changing your thought.
having published by Fall 2017. The theme of the book is Conscious Optimism. Once you get to a position of neutrality, your approach to the problem
This book is designed to equip the readers with tools necessary for going from will change. This elevated state of frame, can be leveraged to get to a
a place of stagnation to a place of action. I am very excited about it. positive state, if time and circumstances permit. If not, it is still a much
desired place to be compared to a negative/depressed/pessimistic
Besides personal development and coaching, I have a Bachelor’s and a frame during crunch time.
Master’s degree in Computer Science and a thriving career in technology.
As you can see, “going neutral” is a simple concept and the return on
Writing about personal development is a passion, because as a self-help
investment it bears is huge.
student I was fortunate enough to read a tremendous amount of material that
helped me in my journey. This is my way to give back to the world.

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Annalie Coetzer Disciplined Action
Have faith in yourself and in your own abilities. I believe that each
LifeSuccessBlog.com and every person has the ability to achieve success and that the only
limiting factor is ourselves. Your imagination is your only limitation.
Once you made a clear decision, set your goals (plan how you will get
there) and set a deadline. See failure as a stepping stone. Do not give
up. If your heart is in this, you are programmed for success.
The first business I founded was not a success at first as I missed

something very important, the skill of delayed gratification. I learned
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delay gratification, to be diciplined and take action rather than doing
what seems easier. I began to to experience success in my business as
delayed gratification lead to having the self-discipline to apply my goal
As successful entrepreneur I learnt valuable life lessons towards my setting strategy on a daily basis. It is most critical for my productivity
own personal growth. I can now share personal time tested strategies to manage my time in such a way that I complete all the goals set for
trough my personal development books. My topics of interest include that specific day.
but is not limited to self-confidence, self-image and self-discipline.

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Lauren Stewart Write it Down
To avoid feeling overwhelmed, I routinely write down lists of
FindYourMagicHSP.com everything I need to get accomplished, no matter how basic or
mundane. I advise my clients to do the same and go through the list
one thing at a time, starting with easier tasks like “brush my teeth”.
This helps when I start getting that overwhelming feeling of too much
to do and not enough time.
Find Your Why

My best tips for anxiety are to first “find your why”. Why might you be
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is one thing you can do to “fix this why” right now? After that, my best
advice for anxiety is to focus on helping others. Put your focus on
Lauren Stewart is a coach for highly sensitive people. As a highly something that will make someone else happy or help someone out.
sensitive person herself, she has developed courses and other material Most of the time, this keeps my anxiety at bay. When I first started my
to help sensitive souls learn to truly love and embrace their sensitivity website and coaching and focused more of my time on helping others,
and deal with the challenges. She is also a freelancer who lives and my anxiety has diminished quite a bit.
works in Michigan and has a degree in Journalism.

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Debra Moffitt Trust Your Inner Guidance
On my path, I’ve met many teachers, a few coaches, and some truly
DebraMoffitt.com wise souls. Some wanted to tell me what to do and how to live. But
on this path, no matter how much anyone told me about life, the only
thing that made any of their advice real, was putting it into practice.
Meditation and developing true self-confidence are two practices that
have created space for big transformation.
1) Make Meditation a Must

Most of my teachers said, “meditate.” So I started. I didn’t do well at
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little by little I trained and tamed my mind until now, years later I can
sit in meditation (most of the time) and find it beneficial. The benefits
Debra Moffitt is an author who leads workshops and retreats on for the simple light meditation I learned in India range from greater
writing, creativity, and spirituality, in the United States and worldwide. productivity and creativity, to greater insight into my own inner
She teaches at the Sophia Institute in Charleston, SC and theEsalen workings.
Institute in Big Sur, California. She is the author of the award-winning
books, Awake in the World, Garden of Bliss, and Riviera Stories. Her Meditation has ignited my dream life and set my creativity on fire. I
blogs have appeared on Beliefnet.com and Intentblog.com. Debra make a point of sitting in meditation -- same time, same place, twice a
worked in international business until she felt a deeper calling to day. If I’m travelling or have to be out, I tune in at the same time even if
write. She also hosts a weekly radio show on UnityFM, Divinely I’m at a dinner or in a crowd. Learning to give yourself space and time
Inspired Living. to meditate is the highest act of self-care and self esteem. It’s one of
the best ways to develop self-confidence too.
The more I meditate, the more my intuition and inner guidance grows.
Meditation literally helps me to tune into guidance that keeps me out
of trouble. It helps me to stay in the creative flow and makes life a joy.
But even when life brings challenges, as it always does, meditation is
my place to receive healing. It’s the one “fix” that will nourish you in
every way.

2) Develop Self-Confidence
Real self-confidence comes from the inside out. It comes from knowing
one’s self in the depths and the only way to get there is via meditation
and introspection. Before I followed my heart and began to write full
time, I worked in international business. I had lots of stuff.
A beautiful sea view apartment. Expensive clothes and I dined in

gourmet French Riviera restaurants. When I left business to write full
time, I made a conscious decision to follow what felt right -- and not
what others thought I should do, or what society and media wanted
me to think I should do. I found my innermost urges and soul desires
and started to work to achieve them.
Working from inner guidance out is not always easy. Sometimes you’re
the only one dancing to the tune you hear. But don’t stop listening.
There’s nothing more rewarding than following that inner guidance to
your most elevated and blissful life experience.

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Lisa Metzgar, PhD Simple Steps
I am the type of person that tends to take on too much in life. I
BioFunctionalHealth.com make huge goals and take on huge projects that end up looking
like Mt Everest. I would get very overwhelmed and just ended up
procrastinating because it felt too much to accomplish. It would
create stress and anxiety and then I would feel like a failure because I
would end up not completing anything.
This is how my clients feel when they think about changing their health
habits. It often feels like an impossible feat to lose weight, change
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long for them to throw up their hands in defeat and stop coming in for
guidance.
Lisa has been in the alternative health field since 1996 guiding people
on their health journey. She is a science geek at heart becoming Now there is nothing wrong with having big goals and wanting to
interested in nutrition and psychology while getting her degree in accomplish big projects but you need a game plan that includes simple
biology at UCSD. She then continued on to get her Holistic Health steps that you do consistently to move you in the direction of these
Practitioner training at Body Mind College in San Diego, CA where goals.
she also taught massage therapy and body mind retreats, and her
PhD in Holistic Nutrition at Clayton College on Natural Health. She I learned this valuable lesson when I decided to train for a marathon.
has been practicing in Reno, NV and has several online courses to help I was never a runner and I had only done one 10K run previous to
people stay on a healthy path. You can connect with her on Facebook deciding to take on this mountain of a goal. I knew that I needed two
at Biofunctional Health and visit her website at BioFunctionalHealth. things to accomplish this goal…a coaching program and a huge “why”. I
com. joined Team in Training for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. This
organization trained you to do endurance events like marathons in
return for you raising money for Leukemia and Lymphoma research.
My grandfather had passed from Lymphoma so there was my huge

“why” and the coaching took you basically from couch to marathon. It
started with running a mile and stepped you up gradually to get you to
that start line. If you could do the steps every week needed to train,

you could do the marathon. I didn’t care how long it took me to run the eating one sprig of broccoli with your lunch? You can see how easy
marathon, I just wanted to finish. it is to incorporate one simple step to get you started on the path to
your goal. If you have been procrastinating getting started on your
So week after week we slowly increased the running and I was able to goals, just start with your small step and you will see how fast the
accomplish something that I truly never thought I could do. I enjoyed momentum gets going to get your there.
the process so much that I became a mentor the next year to help
others to do accomplish their goal of running a marathon. I never in a million years would have thought I could run a marathon
but that experience has taught me that whatever I put my mind to, as
This was a game changer for my health coaching practice. I realized long as I have some action, that I can accomplish anything. I just need
that losing weight or starting an exercise program for many was an two things…a strong “why” and simple steps done consistently to get
unachievable goal in a lot of client’s minds. Many times it kept them me to that goal.
from even starting their journey. I realized through my own journey
that I had to approach the coaching the same way that I approached
my own training. I had to start with simple steps and to get to the core
of their “why”.
You can apply these steps to anything that you want to change in your
life. Start with something small and just master that one step. With
weight loss, many times I just start with drinking water. Most people
don’t drink enough water so I start my clients with drinking a 16 oz.
glass of water first thing in the morning. After about a week, this
starts to become a habit and we start to build on that by making small
changes in their diets. Over time, their health habits start to change
and it leads to long lasting results.
If you have a big goal you want to accomplish, start with a small step.
Make it a laughably small step. For example, a dentist wanted his
patient to start flossing so he recommended that patient start flossing
just one tooth to start.
Now of course this was laughable, so the patient did floss them
all. Maybe you want to start an exercise program. Start marching
in front of the television during the commercial, or take a 5 minute
walk. Soon you will start to add more to that simple step. How about

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The best tip I give people who want to change their lives is this:
Camillo Loken
Be True to Yourself.
One-Mind-One-Energy.com Set your goals from the heart, from passion. Not from what other
people or society says is the “right” thing to do.
For 40 years I was living a life where I tried to live up to other peoples
expectations. And I was struggling However, when I shifted my focus
inward and started listening to my inner voice and my intuition I was
able to turn my life around. For the first time in my life I was being true
to myself.
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Camillo Loken is an Author & Speaker in the self-development field with
My advice is to practice a daily routine of meditation, yoga,
mindfulness or walks in nature to calm the mind down. It will hep you
become more in harmony with who you really are. Every morning
a speciality in bridging science and spirituality. He has published several
books, online personal development courses and held hundreds of talks and
when I wake up I also do my best to appreciate all that I have to be
seminars. thankful for. My wife and my kids, good health, clean drinking water,
fresh air to breath and much more.
Camillo has appeared on national TV, radio stations, magazines and
newspapers several times with his insight and knowledge about how to Start your day with an attitude of gratitude. Also, every night when
raise human consciousness. He´s been invited to speak at different spiritual you go to bed decide what you want to prioritise the next day on your
conferences in his own country (Norway) and the US. He was invited to a journey towards your goal. Intention is a powerful tool.
private face-to-face meeting with the world famous spiritual guru Sri Sri
Ravi Shankar ranked as one of the top influential people in India by Forbes
Magazine.
On his quest to learn more about the secret of the Universe he met,
interviewed and also worked with some incredible insightful people:
Professors in quantum mechanics and psycho-energetic science and other
scientists, highly successful actors, artists, multi-millionaires, a successful
Hollywood director and more. His journey also led him to meetings with
people with near-death experiences, famous psychics and mediums,
channelers and shamans. As a result the bridge between science and
spirituality became very clear to him.

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Chris Spink The Most Important Thing You Can Do for Yourself
Did you know that the most important thing you can do for yourself and
FulfillmentMastery.com the world is choosing to feel good? Feeling good is the key to whatever you
want to be, do or have. You are the creator of your reality and the formula for
creating everything you desire is simple:
Feel good + Law of Attraction = All Your Dreams and Desires.
Before I discovered this formula and learned how to implement it in my life

successfully, Rhea, my wife, and I were living on welfare and a very small
annual income of only $12,000. But before long, using this formula, we had
Bio manifested enough abundance and wealth to become financially free and
could choose whether to work again or not. We had managed to create a
multi-million dollar property portfolio in just five short years.
Chris is a personal and spiritual growth explorer. He is an International After learning this simple but extremely powerful formula things began to
bestselling author who has spent over 30 years of his life studying mind turn around for us so fast, that I knew I had discovered something really
science and consciousness expanding practices to uncover the amazing amazing. Something that would finally allow me to replace my struggle and
power of the human mind and how to harness that power. hard work with fast effortless real life results.
I believe the key for us was, we were not actually looking to become rich or
He is a fully trained and qualified Registered Nurse, Counsellor, Clinical wealthy, we were just living a comfortable and happy life. We felt as if we
Hypnotherapist and Law of Attraction Life Coach. were wealthy even though we had very little.
Chris is passionate about empowering others so they can STOP their This is the key to attracting wealth for anybody, that is, to live your life
toxic thinking and limiting beliefs and START creating a life of increased as if you are wealthy to enjoy every moment and not get caught up in the
prosperity, loving relationships, vibrant health and blissful joy. things you don’t have. If you can let go of focusing on what you don’t have
and instead focus only on what you want and feeling good, then the Law of
For the last 25 years he has been helping people as a certified Clinical Attraction can work in powerful ways to move you towards everything that
Hypnotherapist. He helps people change their subconscious limiting beliefs, you desire.
which then allows them to manifest love, health and wealth into their
lives. Chris has created two highly successful online homestudy programs It definitely worked for us. Rhea and I now live in a beautiful apartment
called Effortless Manifestation, Live Life by Design Not Default and the overlooking the ocean on the wonderful east coast of Australia. We watch
introductory program where over 6000 students have already learned how whales as they travel by from our balcony and we also have the luxury of time
to manifest their ideal life. and money to travel the world visiting many amazing countries with their

awe-inspiring natural vistas. This is something that I did not think possible As I was saying one of the best times to focus on appreciation is after a good
when we first started this amazing adventure toward financial freedom night’s sleep. So I suggest that when you wake up you are in the perfect place
utilising the Law of Attraction, but now it is not just a dream it is our reality. to start your appreciation party. Your thoughts from the day before have
stopped and you can start to deliberately focus on thinking better feeling
Everyone wants to feel good and if you can choose to feel good first without thoughts and appreciation.
conditions changing, you will have attained manifesting mastery. Instead of
needing the world and people around you to change before you feel good, Just start by looking around you and noticing things that make you happy.
you can feel good and watch the world change to match your good feeling. Hold your attention on one of these happy things and think about how
wonderful, beautiful or useful it is. The longer you focus on it the longer your
The easiest way I have found to be happy and feel good, is to wake up every positive feeling about it will increase. Then look around and find another
day with the intention to feel good. The momentum of certain thoughts from thing to appreciate and continue the process for as long as it feels good. As
the day before has stopped while you sleep, so this is the best time of day to you focus on appreciation and things that feel good it will become easier
set this intention. When you start your day feeling good, focusing on things to maintain a higher vibration and the law of attraction will then deliver to
that you appreciate, the law of attraction brings you more thoughts that feel you more thoughts, experiences, people and things throughout your day to
good. match your good feeling.
When you practice appreciation for what is working in your life and notice The more you practice feeling good and appreciation for no reason the more
things around you that you appreciate, everything begins to look brighter you will realise feeling good is your choice. You don’t have to feel good just
and more enjoyable. Every morning look for reasons to feel good. Find because something good is happening in your life. I’d also like you to know
positive things from your past. Look for positive things happening right now. that when you feel good and are in a state of appreciation you are attracting
Look for positive things that you want in the future. Smile a lot. It is your all the increased prosperity, loving relationships, vibrant health and blissful
natural state to be a happy person. It’s natural for you to love and to laugh. joy that you want.
When you appreciate the things that are good in your life everything starts When you change your mind you literally change your reality. You get
to feel better. You can appreciate how amazing our bodies are, doing all whatever you put your attention on. But I don’t want you to take my word for
the things necessary to keep us alive. Like our hearts pumping our blood it or just believe me. I want you to improve the way that you feel and see for
throughout our body without us even having to think about it, or how our yourself if this works or not. Either way, if you wind up feeling better, I think
planet continues to revolve around its access as we revolve around the sun. that would be a great thing don’t you?
There is so much that is working in our lives that we take for granted. But Even though I no longer need to work I have become passionate about
when we appreciate what we have, instead of complaining about everything sharing what I’ve learned, to help others achieve the same success and ability
we don’t have, we simply attract more things to appreciate. Research also to manifest abundance that I have. This is why I created my program called
shows that when you are in a positive, appreciative mindset, it helps to Effortless Manifestation. If you would like to know more please visit my
achieve a higher success rate at work, better health, and peak performance website FulfillmentMastery.com.
in sports, a greater sense of well-being, and a quicker rate of recovery from
illness.

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Evelyn Ryan Forgiveness
Forgiveness is part of healing. It is not a prerequisite to healing. It is a
YourLifeLifter.com point we reach when we understand and accept the truth about what
happened to us from a position of emotional neutrality without the
pain, blame, and shame that our abusers showered on us.
It is not excusing our attackers. It is accepting what happened and

letting go of the resentment and thoughts of revenge that cause us to
continue to transfer our power and energy to our abusers.
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Evelyn Ryan is the Founder of YourLifeLifter, promoting optimal emotional
Before we can heal, our focus must be on our own selves. To fully
heal, we must accept the role we played in our abuse and forgive
ourselves without judgment. Understanding why we were targeted
and physical health and personal authenticity. She a certified professional life and what makes us vulnerable to attack is critical to healing. It is close
coach, self help blogger, abuse recovery expert, ACE Certified Health Coach, to impossible to fully accept what happened to us without judgment
career coach, healer, businesswoman, consultant, master problem solver, until we have healed from the abuse, recovered from the trauma, and
mother and author of the best seller, Take Your Power Back: Healing Lessons, stopped believing we are victims.
Tips, and Tools for Abuse Survivors.
As a survivor, I can say that I do not excuse the despicable acts of
She applies her knowledge gained from over 20 years of study on health the abusers in my life, but I am clear on what happened and why it
and nutrition, abuse, trauma, and personality disorders and 35 years of happened in my childhood, why I was targeted, and why it continued
experience as an authority in solving problems in high risk industries to
into my adulthood. I have accepted responsibility for the role I
identify quick effective solutions that address the specific root causes of our
played in my abuse without judgment. I am clear that the abuse
chronic emotional pain and unhealthiness and help us improve and sustain
our lives and personal power. Evelyn holds advanced degrees in science no longer continues because I do not think like a victim so I am no
and management as well as multiple professional certifications in life and longer a victim. I choose not to participate in the dysfunction, so it is
health coaching, organizational excellence, and process improvement. She diffused and goes away. Abusers continue to target me, but I am not
has been featured in magazine, internet and national syndicated radio and emotionally vested. I no longer fear them. I no longer feel defenseless
film. For over 20 years, she has served as a career coach for adults and grade or powerless, so I am no longer vulnerable.
school and high school students and designed problem solving workshops in
support of the Expanding Your Horizon Network, which inspires more than
25,000 girls each year to pursue careers in Science, Technology, Engineering
and Mathematics (STEM).

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Lucy Pearce Do What You Can
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are” has been my motto for
LucyHPearce.com the past fifteen years. I came across these words one day in a book I was reading
and it was as if they turned a light on inside. I adopted it as my mantra, and
repeat it to myself every time I feel stuck or despondent. Which was very much
how I felt that day I found them. Those words have seen me go from pregnant
wanna-be writer to author of six books, and founder of a women’s publishing
house, on a shoe string, with three kids in tow.
Before I always used to think I had to have a PhD in order to be expert enough
to write a book or that I had to find the perfect publisher. I also thought I’d have
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to wait until the kids were grown up, or live in London, or have enough money
to not have to work for two years whilst I wrote a book. But I realised that these
were all ways of giving my power away to others, and make excuses for not doing
what I really wanted.
Lucy Pearce is the author of six non-fiction books for women, her most
recent is Full Circle Health: integrated health charting for women. Her “Do what you can” acknowledges that all we can ever do is to start from where
we are now – there is nothing to wait for, there is always some action we can
others include #1 Amazon bestsellers Burning Woman; Moon Time and
make, however small, in the direction of our dreams. It may not be perfect, it
The Rainbow Way. She is also a vibrant artist.
may not be fancy, it may not be what everyone else has done. But it starts the
creative flow, it gets us into a proactive frame of mind, that rather than waiting
Her work has been published in dozens of online and print media for conditions to be perfect, we can take action.
outlets including: Tiny Buddha, Rebelle Society, Green Parent, The Irish
Examiner, Modern Mum. So for me, it meant that I would write whilst the baby slept. And then it was that
I would do a correspondence writing course about how to get published. Then
She receives regular requests to teach, speak and contribute to it was finding magazines who published the sort of thing I wrote, and send them
publications on women’s creativity, cycle wisdom and women’s article ideas. I didn’t need childcare for this, I didn’t need the gorgeous writing
empowerment. Her own e-courses include: WORD+image; Your shed of my dreams. I could start from where I was.
Authentic Voice and Be Your Own Publisher. Details of all these can be
When we start out, we can get daunted by the scale of what we dream of. If you’d
found on her website – LucyHPearce.com where she blogs on creativity
told me even 5 years ago that I would be running my own publishing company I
and paradigm shifting. In 2014 Lucy established Womancraft Publishing, would have laughed in your face. 5 years ago I was only writing down the ideas
publishing life-changing, paradigm-shifting books by women, for women. for my first book. But when we use this approach, we break down our dreams
into baby steps, doable steps that we can take action on, and rather than feel
She is, amongst all this work, also the mother of three young children who dwarfed by them, rather than focus on what we don’t have, what we can’t do yet,
lives in East Cork, Ireland. we focus on what we can. And that is more than enough.

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Advice
Chris Croft Write it Down
The one thing that has changed my life the most, more than a
ChrisCroftTraining.co.uk Cambridge Degree and an MBA and all those pieces of paper, was
writing down my life goals.
I can’t even remember who first told me about this, but I was lent a
book which described how successful people always have their goals
written down: you have to know where you’re going if you’re not going
to end up somewhere you don’t want to be - most people drift through
life, and I remember thinking “Yes, that’s me, I have no idea where my
Bio life will go next, and it feels as if it might not go anywhere”.
So I wrote a list of what I would like to be doing - some Have’s but

Chris Croft has an Engineering Degree from Cambridge and an MBA, mostly Do’s - in my ideal life. I didn’t put a timeline, I just described my
worked as a senior manager in manufacturing for 10 years and then ideal life. In fact, I broke most of the rules because as well as no time
as a university lecturer for five years before starting his own training line and not much detail, I didn’t put it on the wall or get pictures to go
company in 1995. with it, I just wrote it and then forgot about it.
Since then he has trained over 80,000 people, and his free email tips And then about three years later I was moving house to start a new job
are sent to 20,000 people (Free-Management-Tips.co.uk). Chris runs as General Manager of a factory, and I found the piece of paper, ...and
training courses in Project Management, Time Management and when I read it again I saw that everything I had written had all come
similar subjects almost every day, mostly in the UK and has popular true, already! So I immediately wrote a second list (which was much
Udemy courses on project management, assertiveness, negotiation, shorter, it just said “To find a job that I really enjoy, and to only work 3
problem solving, and happiness. His lynda.com project management days a week” - and then a few years later, now working as a university
course has had over a million views. lecturer, I realised that I had done that one too. So now I KNOW it
works and my list is huge! The goals on my list continue to be achieved,
for example a million views of my project management course on
lynda.com and a million views of my Youtube channel.

How does it work?
Well, I think it’s a combination of driving in the right direction, like
setting a mental satnav which guides you each time you come to
a decision point, and also driving faster since you are more self
disciplined and more assertive if you have a destination - if it doesn’t
contribute to my goals then I am more likely to say no to it.
Both of these, the direction and the speed, are only subtle
improvements but they are enough to add up over time and make a big
difference to where you end up.
So - please do write a list today, and it should cover the things you
want to achieve both at home and work, and also the things you enjoy
doing, which you would like to do more to, at home and at work. Aim
high, put in as much detail as you can (e.g. not just “to travel” but where
to, exactly?) and put it on the wall where you will see it every day.
Onwards and upwards!

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Advice
Lauren Bromberg What is Beauty?
Growing up I got the very conflicting messages of, you’re beautiful
SunshineYOUniversity.com because of your blue eyes and blond hair and you can’t be beautiful
because you’re fat. I was fat shamed long before it was fashionable.
And the funny thing, I wasn’t fat. Like, really. Look at pictures of me
from that time frame and I look like any other kid. But in my mind I
was ginormous. I didn’t get picked to sit on Shamu (ah, the 80’s) and I
was certain it was because I was too fat for him to hold me. I thought I
was going to break the whale.
Bio I spent years of my life hating myself and dieting and hating myself for
dieting. Then a couple of things happened one after the other and I
realized that I’d been wasting my time focusing on the wrong things.
Lauren Bromberg is a writer, full time coach to women of all ages,
and founder of Sunshine YOUniversity. Her focus is helping women A person, whose opinion I trust, told me I was beautiful. Of course I
overcome their fears and insecurities to lead the lives they imagine. thought he was crazy, but he assured me that he was, in fact, serious.
I probably would have chalked it up to kindness, but then something
Hi, I’m Lauren. I’ve graduated university, held many jobs, and worked else happened.
with all kinds of people. What I’ve found there is no substitute for
believing in yourself and knowing your capabilities. I was watching a movie with a friend and talking about the absolute
perfection of Hugh Jackman when she hit me with a bombshell. She
So many of our worst decisions come from being scared and insecure. didn’t think HJ was handsome!! What? How is that possible?
That’s why I love working with women and teaching them how being
confident isn’t being a blow hard and being clear about what you want But then I remembered my friend. And then I remembered all the
isn’t being selfish. times I debated with my friends about people we all found cute (or not
cute). And it struck me.
Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

Who knew? All that time I thought of myself as fat (I was just slightly
overweight) it never occurred to me that I might be wrong about
myself.
Once I realized that different people find different things attractive,

my entire outlook on the world changed. I no longer had to worry
about what other people thought of me. Who cares if they think I’m
“hot” or “not?” Random people’s opinions no longer held sway over
me.
I still put effort into my appearance, but I do it because I want to do it.

I want to go into the world looking good.
Take a few minutes and think about the last time you told yourself
you’re beautiful. If you do it often, great!! High five. But if you, more
often than not, call yourself names (fat, lazy, ugly) then I want you to
stop right this instant. You are just as beautiful and deserving of love
and respect as any super model.
Until we meet again,
Live. Laugh. Shine!

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Advice
Molly Larkin How to Survive the Loss of a Loved One
Last month, one of my dearest friends died unexpectedly of a brain
MollyLarkin.com aneurism. Dealing with her death has been a roller coaster of
emotions and a powerful lesson in how to survive the loss of a loved
one.
What I learned about surviving the loss:

Embrace the Native perspective that death is a natural part of life.
It is not feared in indigenous societies. There is a teaching that death
is not the opposite of life – it is the opposite of birth. Embrace that. It’s
Bio
Molly has been a student of personal growth since the age of 7, when her
only us survivors who grieve because we miss our loved one, yet our
loved ones have gone on to a beautiful afterlife.
second grade teacher said that humans only use 10% of their brains. Right The sooner we come to understand that it’s a natural journey, the
then and there she made a decision to learn to use 100% of her brain and easier it will be for us to accept.
that decision set her on a lifetime quest for personal development.
“There is no death, only a change of worlds.” Chief Seattle
As a healing practitioner and spiritual coach, Molly works with an
international clientele of people, pets and horses, both in person and via I encourage you to try and come to view death as illustrated by this
long distance. She also teaches personal growth and spirituality workshops beautiful prayer written by Mary Elizabeth Frye in 1932. It perfectly
worldwide. reflects the Native American view of death:
She has studied with indigenous elders from around the world for over 30
years and was an apprentice to Muskogee Creek elder Marcellus “Bear
Heart” Williams for 15 years, learning many of his medicine ways.
With Bear Heart, she co-authored the international best-seller, The Wind
Is My Mother; The Life and Teachings of a Native American Shaman. She is
also the creator of the online course: Meditations on the Natural World.
She writes the spiritual/inspirational blog, Ancient Wisdom for Balanced

Living, at her website MollyLarkin.com.

Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep
[by Mary Elizabeth Frye]
Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet white doves in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.

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Advice
Neil Thompson Be Tuned in to Grief
What really made a huge difference to me many years ago was the
NeilThompson.info realization that grief is not a reaction to death; it is much more than
that. Grief is our reaction to any significant loss. So often, it seems, if
no one has died in a particular situation, then the role of grief does not
get considered.
When I first became aware of this tendency to disregard the loss

issues involved, I started to notice just how many of the challenges
we face in life have their roots in grief, in losses that have not been
Bio recognized or dealt with. That simple realization has opened very
many emotional doors for me and for the people I have tried to help
over the years.
Neil Thompson PhD is a writer and educator based in Wales. His
published work is renowned for presenting complex ideas clearly and
accessibly without oversimplifying them.
He has 37 books to his name and he has also produced a range of

e-learning courses, DVDs and e-books. He was the founder of the self-
help website, HumanSolutions.org.uk. His personal website and blog
are at NeilThompson.info.

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Advice
Robyn Pearce The Time Queen
These two tips are the ones that, once I learnt to apply them, were
GettingaGrip.com the keys that shifted me from ‘always late and struggling’ to the ‘Time
Queen’ reputation I now enjoy. And year on year, many readers
and audiences also tell me these same tips have made an enormous
difference to their lives.
Explanation First:
We fit broadly into one of two styles when it comes to processing
time - we’re either in-time or through-time. The in-timers, bless their
Bio socks, are great at being fully present, totally in the moment (which
is why this style is called in-time, not because they’re punctual!), but
challenged at getting places or completing tasks on time. For an in-
The burnt-out and time-poor realtor who became the Time Queen timer, it seems efficient to fit in ‘one more thing’. Ironically, they fear
that to get somewhere early is to waste time.
In the mid-1980s Robyn Pearce was a country girl and single mother
of six children, struggling to survive on welfare in a low-income Through-timers, on the other hand, are more objective; able to detach,
isolated region of the Far North of New Zealand. Her commercial to see themselves outside of the events they’re involved in. They
experience was virtually nil. Desperate to get out of the poverty trap, seem to be effortlessly punctual. Their ability to easily see ‘through’
she took a risk and moved, with no employment on offer, to Auckland, or along a time continuum makes it automatic for them estimate how
New Zealand’s largest city. The first job she managed to secure paid long they’ll need for any activity. And they hate being held up by those
just a little better than the welfare she’d survived on in the country. tardy in-timers.
In less than a year she stumbled into real estate and money started to
flow. However, it didn’t take her very long to realize that, although she For each style, their strength is also their weakness. And opposites
was a very hard worker, one of her greatest weaknesses and limiting often attract - driving each other nuts until they learn to play to their
behaviors was the way she used her time. Although she got excellent strengths and support the other’s weakness.
sales results, and it was a great relief to get off the government
handouts, it was often at the expense of her health and personal time.
Repeated physical burn-out was the result.

The in-timer’s skill is at being fully present and focused on what
they’re doing. Their downside is that it’s hard to extract themselves
and forward plan. It can be done - I’m one, but I can never completely
relax on it. Punctuality doesn’t come naturally to me. (I reward myself
for good behavior now and then by reverting to type when it doesn’t
matter!)
The through-timer’s strength is their ability to detach, keep focused

on the ‘main’ thing, to be aware of the passage of time and its
consequences. On the other hand, this same skill can cause them to be
seen as abrupt and distant. They have to work harder to ensure that
they’re not perceived as disinterested.
Solutions for the In-Timers (who are the ones perceived as having time
‘issues’):
1. Get ready first. Prepare everything you need for the day, either
at the beginning of the day or even the night before. Then set an alert
on your phone to remind you when you need to pack up and depart.
Give yourself 10 minutes longer than you think you’ll need, and don’t
ignore the alert. You’ll be delighted with how much less stress you
experience. No more frenetic last-minute rushing around: you get
places on time!
2. Don’t do that one last thing. As soon as you find yourself

tempted to squeeze in just one more task before you leave, you can
guarantee you’ll be late. Don’t do it!

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Advice
Megan Jackson Sit Still
13 years ago I began to meditate after a family breakdown and years
SincereTarot.com of unconscious living and free falling. I had an experience that shifted
my consciousness and led me on a path of healing and creating a life of
not only creating inner peace but also abundance of meaningful and
loving relationships and life events. In my practice I have seen many
people overcome negativity, depression and anxiety and also create a
more fulfilling and prosperous life through mindfulness practice and
meditation.
Bio Sitting still and observing our thoughts, even for only 10 minutes a
day, gives our minds space from the chatter and creates a gap between
the unconscious and the conscious thoughts that are ruling our life.
I am Megan Jackson, a spiritual counsellor, author, artist, mindfulness It creates a stillness that helps us to be with our thoughts and create
and meditation facilitator living in Brisbane Australia. I have been more positive life affirming ones, heal what needs to heal and creates
working with people to overcome depression, anxiety, negative
thoughts, loss, grief and poverty consciousness for some years now Doing this everyday will change your life - it takes about 30 days
through meditation, mindfulness and self realisation. of consistent practice to see real changes and 120 days for the new
neural pathways to be fully developed.

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Advice
Scott Asai Forget College
As an introvert, once I adopted the concept of making networking a
GrowingForward.net lifestyle instead of a goal my connection base grew both in quality and
quantity.
If I could go back in time I would have skipped college. Instead I

would’ve taken roles in sales, business development and did more
public speaking.
College doesn’t give you the skills to succeed in the real world. I
Bio believe sales, communication and follow-up is what’s needed to thrive.
You can start doing that now.

I’ve been a coach by nature since volunteering as a youth basketball
coach over 20 years ago. Since then I’ve been a career coach and
executive coach for Millennials, both corporate and for individuals, at
my company Growing Forward.
Recently I managed a staff of 30 virtually weekly via video

conferencing. My leadership style is to leverage personal strengths
using the StrengthsFinder. I have a B.A. in Psychology, M.A. in
Organizational Leadership and am a Certified Professional Coach.

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Advice
Sherianna Boyle Shaping Your Intentions
I have huge confession. I am a former goal addict. The challenge with
SheriannaBoyle.com goal setting is you can have a love hate relationship with them. You
love them when you achieve them and want to throw them overboard
when you don’t. Nonetheless, I don’t set goals anymore. Why, because
my brain couldn’t go as wide as my heart and I am girl with big dreams
so I had to find another way.
That is when I started to dive into intentions. This was new territory
for me and like anything new they took time to master. What I have
Bio learned is intentions are not set, they are shaped and as this occurs
you get to transform into that of which you desire.
Sherianna Boyle is the author of seven books. Her book The Four The Skill
Gifts of Anxiety was endorsed by The National Association of Mental What I learned is my intentions are shaped by how I show up in the
Health, and Choosing Love was listed as the top ten must reads in present moment. This means what I choose to be aware of and the
Metro US and her book The Conscious Parenting Guide to Childhood energy I am contributing to the relationships within and around me. If
Anxiety is a highly sought out resource. I show up scattered and fearful, this inevitably shapes my intentions
into being protective, weary and guarded even if I didn’t set out to be
Her most recent publication Mantras Made Easy can be found in all that way.
bookshops as well as Whole Foods Markets. Emotional Detox is set to
be released in January 2018, Simon & Schuster. Each morning I shape my intentions by sitting in a chair and observing
how I am showing up in my body. I do this by scanning my body with
Sherianna is an adjunct Psychology Professor, seasoned Yoga and awareness from head to toe noticing the areas where the energy
Meditation instructor and some of her profound work has been as an was open (light) and closed (tight) without judgment. As this occurs
Energy Therapist. my breathing naturally increases. I allow and honor the process by
keeping organic. In other words, rather than taint the energy with my
Her books, downloads and services can be found at SheriannaBoyle. thoughts I allow my intentions to emerge. They channel through me,
com. giving me permission to feel their presence. I know they have arrived
when I am able to notice what I appreciate. It is usually the simple
things, a smile, wave, hug, or bird outside my window.

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Advice
Jake Vayda Attach Habits to Each of Your Values
His name was Adrian. He told everyone around him that he loved his
JakeVayda.com friends. However, months went by without Adrian every expressing
intentionally to get coffee or initiating hang outs. We started believing
that he actually didn’t care about any of us because he would never
put the effort into forging healthy relationships.
So many of us say we care about something but we never attach an

action to it. If you care about being fit, link a habit of going to the gym
three times a week at 7:30AM. If you care about reading, set a time
Bio every day to read for 5 minutes. If you have values and you do not set
a habit to each of them, you will not live the life you could and you
become just another soul who talks more than they act.
My name is Jake Vayda and I am a dreamer. I am a online instructor,
blogger and a speaker who strives to help young restless people NEVER take the easy way out
shatter self-doubt so they can dream bigger. I live in San Diego, We sat down as a family and decided that we would start an
California and I am currently obtaining my master’s degree. With organization. We went to Maine for the summer and spent four
students in 100+ countries and 60+ speaking opportunities, I look straight months working eight-hour days. Yet, after 1/3 of a year, and
forward to partner with those who want to dream bigger. 100s of hours, we were still far off in actually launching. Even today,
we are still in the process of creating this organization. There are
no shortcuts to making a tangible difference in this world besides
perseverance.
In today’s world, there seems to be “Get rich fast” schemes or

“Overnight Success”; there are NO overnight successes stories in
history, EVER. Those who got “lucky” failed in the long term. Take the
time and put in the work needed: Reflection, reading, exercising, and
taking care of those closest to you. The hard way, but the ONLY way to
success is through having habits that reflect the person you want to be
tomorrow.

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Advice
S. Renee Smith The Pain & Pressure of Goal-Setting, But the Power
Srenee.com of Intention
I had just completed the 13th chapter for Self-Esteem for Dummies,
Creating and Reaching Your Goals. I had worked in corporate America
so I knew exactly how to set goals. As a former director of public
relations at a university, I knew how to teach others to do the same.
There was only one problem; I didn’t always achieve the goals I set for
myself. That doesn’t mean the strategies I shared didn’t work. They
just didn’t always work for me.
Bio In fact, as I shared in Confession of a Coach, which ends the chapter,

over the course of my life, I have had more failures than successes. The
truth that I later discovered is that my struggle to set goals could be
S. Renee Smith is a nationally recognized and self-esteem and found in my beliefs that I didn’t think the goals I was setting were even
attainable. You see, goal-setting isn’t just about writing down some
branding expert, coach, speaker and author of three books including
miscellaneous information that sounds impressive to you or your boss,
There Is More Inside, The Bridge to Your Brand, Our Hearts Wonder:
your beliefs are the fertile ground in which goals grow and eventually
Prayer to Heal Your Heart & Calm Your Soul, and co-author of Self-
come to pass.
Esteem for Dummies. For more information visit Srenee.com.
I had been scarred by traditional goal-setting in my early 20s. I
experienced so many setbacks that I felt that goal-setting was a set-up
for disappointment. I was done with traditional goals setting. Instead
of writing goals, objectives and day-to-day action steps, I’d write down
what I wanted to achieve. Yeah, that’s sorta like a goal. The difference
is I’d write what I desired to create from my heart. It had to have
meaning for someone other than myself. It had to bring value to the
planet.
My “goals” did not become my daily, weekly or even yearly reference

guide. In fact, many of them are written down in journals between
pages of a day of gratitude and a moment of wonder. Perhaps if I had

some well-laid out plan, I would have more abundance. Most important, I’ve worked hardest at being a quality human
being—a person whom I and others can trust, depend on and believe
You know, the stuff we label as prosperity. The more of what I already in.
have, but don’t use. Maybe never having a bill to pay, personal internal
struggle to understand or doubt to overcome would bring me more How I live my life doesn’t negate the value of every goal you’ve written
joy. or process you’ve followed to reach your goals; in fact, it confirms the
power of it. What it offers is an alternative for some people, perhaps
This is what I trust: My goal every day is to wake up with an open heart you, who may not have the courage to write a goal as it is traditionally
and be used by God. Interestingly, this approach has taken me to every done. Or, right now, you may not have the strength to look uncertainty
place and created every experience and “more” that I’ve scribbled
in the eyes every day.
down over the years as important to me.
I offer you this lifeline to give you what it gives me, hope—something
For example, in December 2000, I wrote a love letter to an invisible
man that I wanted as my husband. I thanked him for how he that will get you started. All you need is an open heart and willingness
communicated and treated me. I told him what I love about him and to scribble down your desires, put them in a secret place, and quietly
that I was looking forward to our trip together. In 2014, unbeknown to ask: “What do I do next?”
me, I met the invisible man in Washington, DC while I was volunteering
as an honorary commander for the Air Force. After six months of
sporadically staying in touch, in 2015, he traveled two and a half hours
to attend to my first book signing for Self-Esteem for Dummies. We
married in Venice, Italy in 2017.
In January 1999, I wrote this: “I will write three books.” No date,

timeframe, writing goals. Nothing, just that statement. I’ve written
three books and the fourth book was a call in 2014 while I was
home sick with an offer to co-author a book for the world’s best-
selling reference brand book series published by Wiley. No goals. No
objectives. No action steps. No cold calling.
Here’s what I’ve done to get what I’ve got. I’ve worked hard, had super-
sized faith, and dug deep within myself when I’ve needed to. I’ve made
good decisions. I’ve made bad decisions, yet when I noticed that I was
going down the wrong path, I’d make a U-turn versus continuing until
I’d get to a dead end.

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Advice
Stephen Connor Tips for Real Inner Growth
- Meditate and create the ability to let go of thoughts that cause you
StephenConnor.org unnecessary suffering.
- With the help of the above, let go of all your beliefs, especially the ones that
manifest into low self-worth and self-defeating doubts and fears, and enhance
the trust and faith in yourself.
My Personal Experience
Gratitude, love, confidence, independence and authenticity are words that can
guide you on your quest for a more fulfilling and rewarding life. These words
Bio made the ultimate difference on my inner journey of self discovery.
For over ten years I searched for some form of inspiration or new knowledge
that would bring an end to the low self worth, confusion and anxiety that had
Stephen is passionate about helping and supporting others in been my constant companion.
developing a mindful lifestyle. He has a diploma in Health Counselling
and has been a keynote speaker at various mental health forums. He I had attended numerous personal development workshops, events and
is founder of the mindful practice ‘Love Meditation’, and lives in his spiritual centres in this period and even spent an emotionally challenging
hometown of Sydney with his loving partner Dianne. His extended seven months in a Uruguayan spiritual centre with fifty-two other brave and
beautiful souls trying to better themselves.
family and grandchildren keep him busy whenever he is not writing.
This experience had a profound impact on me, but I still felt there was
something missing. It was not until two years later, whilst in another spiritual
centre in Mexican, that I knew my searching had ended.
As I woke one morning I was surprisingly consumed by an intense fear but

was soon relieved when a deep feeling of calm came over me. An inner voice
directed me to thoughts of self trust and faith. My reliance on any form of
external belief or guidance fell away instantly.
When you let go of all your beliefs, and enhance a deep faith and trust in
yourself, your confidence and independence will grow. With a conscious focus
on gratitude, and being open, authentic and loving, your self worth will flourish
and you will feel as if truly have something to give.

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Advice
Fliss Kay Write, write, write:
Every day I’d get overwhelmed and anxious, with loads of thoughts
SweetCleanLiving.com swirling in my head - so much so that I would be unable to function.
I found that writing everything down - what’s worrying you, a list of
things you need to do or remember - massively helped to stop the
‘overwhelm’!
Leave if you need to:

When I’d be overwhelmed (see above), or feel helpless, or indecisive
(or any other negative emotion), I would allow myself to take a 5
Bio minute break - even going on a little walk to clear my head. This not
only calmed me down, but allowed me a little distance and time to
think about why I’d felt that way in the first place.
Fliss is an entrepreneur and life coach over at SweetCleanLiving. Five
years ago, she realized she needed a life change - and set about making
it happen, eventually establishing Sweet Clean Living to share her
tips and advice for others looking to do the same. Fliss was a high-
school English teacher for 5 years, later working in the hi-tech sector
before leaving to establish her own online business. She lives with her
husband, two cats and a dog.

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Advice
Loretta Breuning Details Matter
I was fired from my first job at age 16, but I learned to be accountable
InnerMammalInstitute.org for my work no matter how insignificant it appears.
I worked behind the counter at a dry cleaners after school when I

was 16. I got fired in 3 weeks because I was absent-mindedly putting
clothes in the wrong place. Imagine people showing up before their
wedding or bar mitzvah and their clothes were missing because I mis-
filed them! I could have driven the owner out of business. I realized
that I had not been paying close attention to the numbers on the
Bio clothing tickets because I thought it was a “dumb job.”
After I was fired, I realized that details matter in the workplace. I

learned to double-check, and more importantly, to know that my
Dr. Loretta Breuning is Founder of the Inner Mammal Institute and actions have consequences. If I want the money, I need to take
author of Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain your brain to boost your responsibility for the consequences.
serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin. She’s Professor Emerita
of Management at California State University, East Bay. As a teacher I remember waiting for the bus to go home after I got fired. Instead of
and mom, she was not convinced by prevailing theories of human spiraling in shame, I thought, “I will find another job tomorrow.” I found
motivation. Then she learned about the brain chemistry we share with one in a few days, and even raised my pay from $1.60 an hour to $1.65.
earlier mammals, and everything made sense. So she began creating
resources to help people manage their inner mammal.

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Teagan Fea Dialogue with your Mind Every Day. Give Your
TeaganFea.com Mind Clear & Concise Instructions.
The mind does what it thinks you want it to do so every day, dialogue
with your mind. Tell your mind what you want. Give it clear and concise
instructions.
An example of this is as follows. If you want to get up early to exercise

but you wake up feeling lazy, tell your mind, ‘I want to do exercise, I
love the way it makes me feel!’ The mind will then come onboard. I use
this technique every day. It keeps me in a positive frame of mind and
Bio has assisted me to achieve my goals and dreams.
When you get up in the morning Rampage

With over 17 years of experience as a Yoga/Mindfulness Teacher and I do this every day. As soon as I wake up I rampage. I say things like, ‘I’m
Therapist, Teagan inspires and educates people how to change and so excited about the opportunities and the people I will meet today. I
transform their lives. As an international teacher, she has taught in feel amazing to be alive. I’m so thankful for the amazing clients I work
Australia, New Zealand, Peru, and Mexico and have assisted hundreds of with and the life I am living. I love who I am and that I am an amazing
people to find inner peace through yoga, meditation, & counseling. woman.
As a Coach and Counselor, Teagan is an an expert in working with anxiety If my mind goes to a negative place during the day, I rampage again.
and depression. She pioneered a wholistic approach that assists people This keeps my mind in a positive state and aligned with all that I want
to transform their lives, using Yoga Therapy and Somatic Psychotherapy. to create in my life. It is one of the most powerful tools I work with. It
This work has been recognised for assisting and affecting positive change puts positive suggestions in the mind and rewires the subconscious
in hundreds of people particularly those who suffer from anxiety and mind.
depression disorders. Teagan was invited to speak at the 17th World
Summit on Positive Psychology & Psychotherapy in Canada, about her
work.
Teagan is also a Rapid Transformational Therapist having been trained

by world renowned Hypnotherapist Marisa Peer. As an online educator,
she has changed the lives of over 2870 students who are enrolled in her
programs.

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Rhonda Britten “No One Can Be Fearless Alone” ~ Rhonda Britten
I say this over and over and over again in my workshops, my keynotes,
FearlessLiving.org to my core team and my clients. “No one can be fearless alone.”
Fear is tricky. It wants to keep you stuck and what better way to do
that than to isolate you. Away from sound advice, away from people
who believe in you, away from another perspective. Away.
Fear tricks you to keep you focused on your current symptoms like,
“I gotta quit worrying” or “What is wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I
Bio get off my butt?” or a thousand other ways to prove that YOU are the
problem.
Because if fear is effective, you won’t feel worthy to go after your

Rhonda Britten - Emmy Award-winner, Repeat Oprah Guest, Tedx dream, you won’t feel like you deserve love or that you’ve earned a
Speaker, Huffington Post Blogger – has changed lives in over 600 better life.
episodes of reality television. She is the author of four bestsellers
including her seminal work “Fearless Living: Living Without Excuses Being fearless isn’t about jumping out of a plane, it’s about jumping
and Love Without Regret” and is the Founder of the Fearless Living into your life. Fully. Completely. As You! The real, true, authentic,
Institute. With her daily appearance on the hit daytime show, “Starting heart-loving, passionate YOU.
Over,” she was the first Life Coach on television in the world and
was named its “Most Valuable Player” by The New York Times and Find your people. Surround yourself with people who believe in you.
Herald as “America’s Favorite Life Coach.” She is an expert on fear and And then, together, get out there and be fearless. Ready? Set. Jump!
fearlessness. Find out more at FearlessLiving.org.

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Theolyn Cortens Meditation
Regular, preferably twice-daily meditation is the basic building
Theolyn.com block for all spiritual development. I tried Buddhist meditation as a
teenager and found it hard going. In my late twenties I discovered
Transcendental Meditation (TM) and learned how to use a mantra –
a simple sound-shape that we use to tease the mind out of its usual
limiting structures. In my teaching, I help people get the hang of how
to use a sound-shape – I use the word zera, a Hebrew word meaning
‘seed’.
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I was brought up in an isolated country area in the UK – perfect for a
After learning this method for my meditations, my spiritual evolution
accelerated rapidly. A year or so later I was privileged to experience
a spiritual illumination. One afternoon, I found myself being filled
natural mystic! My aunt introduced me to astrology when I was only nine with blazing light, which rapidly entered my head and then moved
years old. The skies at night were clear and I was entranced by the stars. I around all the cells in my body. After this event, I experienced several
often felt they were singing to me! weeks of intense bliss – I was in seventh heaven! Gradually, I got
myself grounded, but from that time I have easily been able to tune
I was always interested in metaphysical and spiritual subjects. I studied into higher dimensions and receive wise inspiration to share with the
Buddhism and Eastern Spirituality, and got my First Class Honours in world.
Comparative Religion and Philosophy, then later followed Masters and
Ph.D programmes, researching into spiritual experiences. My books are Live Fully
about Angels (see Amazon for all the titles) and have been translated into Choose your favourite way to live fully in your body. I practice a daily
several languages, so I have taught classes in Europe and Scandinavia. I Qi Gong routine, exercise using Pilates, Yoga and ballet movements,
have channeled angelic messages for a deck of cards — The Angels Script and go cycling whenever I get the chance. I also follow a simple,
— and I teach people how to reach deep, inner states of consciousness to vegetarian diet. We need to develop our Heavenly consciousness, but
meet angels and other guides. we must still honour our physicality and live a full life on Earth.
I have been meditating for over 40 years – over 10,000 hours – so I think
it is fair to claim I am a master meditator who can support you getting the
meditation habit in your life! If you give yourself the gift of learning how
to reach the Divine Source within, you won’t ever regret it.

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Margaret Paul Follow Your Feelings
Whenever I feel anxious or stressed, I immediately go through a six-step
InnerBonding.com process to discover what I’m telling myself and how I’m treating myself
that is causing these feelings. Within minutes, the anxiety or stress is
gone and I’m back to feeling relaxed and peaceful inside.
Here are the six steps:
Step 1 - Breathe into your body, scanning your body for physical
sensations and emotions. Move TOWARD your feelings with compassion
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rather than away from.
Step 2 - Make a conscious decision that you want to learn about what
your feelings are telling you. All feelings have important information for
Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post you about whether you are loving yourself or abandoning yourself, or
and MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner about whether others are being loving or unloving.
Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-
healing software program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner Step 3 - Dialogue with your feelings to discover what they are telling
and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio you about how you are treating yourself. If you are feeling anxious,
and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include depressed, guilty or shamed, angry, empty or alone, then you are likely
“Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You” (and subsequent titles judging yourself, ignoring your feeling with addictions or making others
“Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By God,” and “...By My Kids”), responsible for your feelings. Open to learning about your beliefs that are
“Healing Your Aloneness” and “Inner Bonding.” Margaret holds a PhD causing you to abandon yourself.
in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and
Step 4 - Imagine an older wiser part of you - your inner or higher self,
artist. She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes
and ask for the truth about any beliefs and about what the loving action
and seminars for over 48 years.
would be toward yourself.
Margaret lives in Colorado. She has three children and three
Step 5 - Take the loving action on your own behalf that your wise self is
grandchildren. In her spare time, she loves to play with her guiding you to take.
grandchildren, paint, read, make pottery and kayak.
Step 6 - Evaluate how you feel after taking the loving action.

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Tony Riches Do it Daily
I thought I didn’t have time to write a book, then I found if you write
TonyRiches.com one page a day, that’s a book a year! I’ve now written one book each
year for the past eight years - and have become an international best-
selling author.
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Tony Riches is a full time author of international best-selling historical
fiction, including his Tudor Trilogy, which has been #1 on Amazon in
the US, UK and Australia. He lives with his wife in Pembrokeshire,
Wales UK.

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Agnes Bogardi What Doesn’t Serve You?
The very best thing that worked for me were affirmations. You can
AgnesBogardi.com use generic ones, just Google affirmations or search social media for
“#affirmation” and you will find an overwhelming amount of them, but
I think the best is to find what ideas and self-talk doesn’t help. What
doesn’t serve you anymore and write down the positive versions.
Choose 2-3 from each field of your life like how you handle or think
about money, how you talk about your body or health, about your
family or relationships and turn them into positive ones.
Bio When we moved to the UK in 2011 my English was more than poor –
as I lived 4 years in Germany. Before that, everything I wanted to say
came out in German. I really had trouble with interviews and phone
When I looked back on my life a couple of years ago searching for calls. I remember we lived in a fairly nice area, but needed 20 minute
my soul purpose I realized that I was always a helper. I was always bus drives to the underground station.
supporting and helping people (in the bank, in Germany as an au-pair,
as a personal assistant and also after that I “accidently” ended in So I put my 10 biggest fears and self-doubts to paper and found a
different support positions.) And enjoyed it, helping people, giving positive affirmation instead. Every morning commuting, I read that
advice and turned out I’m not a stranger to technology. piece of paper over and over and over again.
The other main path I was able to see as an advantage after a while “I communicate easily and effortlessly. I enjoy my new position.
that I’m a great starter. I started my life a couple times over from Everyone likes me and my manager is really happy with my job.” And so
scratch, in new countries, at home and I figured that I’m not such as on.
a finisher, but I’m just passionate about starting something, putting
dreams and ideas together. With my technological experience and 4 As you can see my biggest fears were that I suck in English, everyone
years in online marketing I can add my own spin to it and there you go, will hate me and that I can’t do my job properly because of a lack of
you have a new business, a new online, reoccurring, residual income language skills.
stream.
After a couple of weeks of struggling in a very trying environment I
was moved to an easier support line inside the company and one of
my new colleagues gave me a tip about a great company and the next

thing I knew I quit and was working for a brilliant company. The key thing is to get used to the routine and adjust your affirmations
if necessary. The world will open up and you will see opportunities
I still had those fears and I was still working on them, but it really come up. I’m a huge believer that everything happens with a reason,
changed my life and the way I thought about myself. I knew I could be even if it doesn’t feel pleasant at that time.
better and I did improve. My new job came with more work and stress,
but I got the job. My new manager liked me and my work environment
became so much better. I was really grateful for the change.
Of course, after a while this wasn’t enough, I aimed for more freedom,
less commuting. Four hours a day on trains and underground is not
ideal at all.
So, I adjusted my affirmations accordingly. One day my manager

called us into the office and told us that the office in London won’t be
available anymore and we would need to go back to our main office
which is exactly on the opposite side of London. Instead of 4 hours a
day it would be 6, just the commuting to spend 9 hours at work.
I was devastated. I blamed the affirmations, I asked for more freedom

but not so much freedom that I lose my job. I kept adjusting my
affirmations and in a couple of days it just hit me: I could easily work
from home. So I took a deep breath, I repeated my mantra over and
over again: “Everything turns out in my best interest!”, and I asked to
work from home and they said yes! But only to me! My other colleague
apparently wasn’t trustworthy, so he quit.
So, I ended up with extra time for myself, I was able to spend my
morning – instead of commuting – in the gym, I had time to cook fresh
meals for lunch and even had more time for self-exploration and
soul-searching. I wrote the book (included in the Better You Bundle)
about the steps I made in order to get up from the couch and become
healthier, start an online business and I’m in the process of becoming a
personal trainer.

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Zoe Davenport Look Inward
It can certainly be a roller coaster as we navigate our way through our
ZoeDavenport.co.uk lives, looking for transformations, shifts and to better our outcomes and
personal experiences.
For someone who has been full time on this awakening path for a number
of years there are a couple of key things I felt called to share which have
helped guide me immensely.
Remember - Personal transformation is an inside job, something through
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the course of our lives we are always working on and looking to break
through old habits and negative beliefs.
Zoe Davenport is a channel, master ascension guide and crystalline grid These key things have helped me immensely on my spiritual path navigate
activator. Her multi-dimensional connection helps to expand her vibration my way through these changes with grace and ease.
to support those on the ascension path.
These are my top 11 self-care tricks I use to expand my heart and raise my
Your current reality holds the potential vibration for you to ascend into vibration
ascension mastery. Zoe assists you to master your pure creative potential
by guiding you through your ascension awakening in order to gain access to 1 - Daily morning meditation routine at least 10-20 minutes as soon as
all that you set out to achieve in this incarnation. you wake up
2 - A decent 8 hours sleep a night at the same times
Every aspect of her work is dedicated to help you achieve an accelerated 3 - Drinking high quality water and clean organic foods
ascension timeline by accessing your creative potential of Ascension 4 - Surrounding yourself with people who authentically support you
Mastery through heart opening - healing and shedding lifetimes of 5 - Meeting yourself where you are at - honouring Yin time for rest or
stagnation. You will align with abundance; abundance of Love, connection,
action Yang.
collaboration, co-creation, harmony, success, happiness, peace and the
6- Monthly massage/energy healing
desire to step forward into the new paradigm.
7 - Daily heart openings through visualisations
8 - Daily walk in green spaces
Zoe has been called to work with the paradigm game changers of existence
9 - Checking in with my daily needs to avoid energetic overwhelm
right now - to hold the space needed for those called to step up and become
10 - At least 30minutes - 1 hour personal development daily
the way showers paving the way for mass global awakening through
breaking free for their perceived limitations and karmic moulds. 11 - Yoga

In addition to this I ground in my energies 20-30 times daily through
calling in white light through the crown of my head and filling my
entire being with crystalline energy, allowing this to flow through the
soles of my feet and down into the centre of the Earth then calling the
light to bounce back up into my feet body and into my heart. While
I’m doing this I imagine each inhalation I am receiving love and each
exhalation gifting love back out to the universe as I imagine this light
radiating 360* from my heart clearing my auric field and the space I am
in.
This a great energy technique to keep the flow of energy moving

through you.
This is my list that lifts me up and makes me feels in alignment with my

path and very grounded.
Have some fun and make your own list of what would feel joyful, loving
and expanded to you and then the secret is repetition.
Try to keep to it for at least 30 days and you will really start to see
improvements in your well being and energy.
We are ALL energy and the more we do each day to honour our
spiritual, emotional and physical needs will raise our vibration and
allow our intuition to increase and awareness of our universe to
expand. All of our being is being guided through the ascension process
and a daily self-care with loving intentions will ease us into a greater
expression of self.

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Alina Margineanu The One Question that Changed My Life
Some years back I was working as a Category Manager for a renowned
AlinaMargineanu.com retail company in Bucharest. It seemed like a real “dream job” – it was
exactly in the field I had studied during college, great salary, great
benefits, I had also personal assistant and not to mention that the
office was only 5 minutes away from my house. Actually, it was the
highest rank I could have reached in Purchasing.
When, one day, one question popped up in my mind and sounded like
this: “Would you like to do this till the time of your retirement?” And
Bio then the answer came to me as a shock: “No.”
Then, as I was in awe, another question came up: “Well, then what
My name is Alina Margineanu and I am NLP Coach, Trainer & Facilitator WOULD you like to do until that time will come?...”
- internationally certified by organizations such as IANLP, EANLP &
ARONLP and member of ARC Pro since 2012. I am graduate of Noble This is how my journey to a completely new profession has started:
Manhattan Coaching (UK) and also I attended numerous international with a question. And up to this day and hopefully for many days
courses and professional trainings with prestigious speakers and trainers and long years to come I find questions as being the most powerful
such as: T.Harv Eker, Gregg Braden, Gerry Robert, Stephen Gilligan transformational forces. And I am deeply grateful that through my
work as a coach I get the opportunity of asking people questions that
I conduct 1 to 1 coaching sessions, seminars & workshops especially transform their lives.
for people that are going through transition phases in their lives and
who want to overcome their limitations in order to enjoy professional And this is what I say to all the people who feel that they need to
performance and success as well as a fulfilling, happy and balanced make a change in their life, but don’t quite know what exactly is it
personal life. that they need to start with: ASK yourself questions! And then let
the answers come to you. It may not always be easy, but in the long
As my intention is to be able to help as many people as possible through run, you’ll congratulate yourself for doing that. And never forget to
my work, I am also developing means for online interaction through #followyourbliss!
online courses, webinars and online coaching. By now I have students
from more than 50 countries enrolled in my courses and the number is
going up as I follow my mission in life.

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Carolyn Yoder Our Bodies Know the Way
On a balmy day in May 1994, my doctor phoned and told me tests
PeaceAfterTrauma.com confirmed that I had multiple sclerosis (MS), a chronic degenerative
neurological disease for which there is no known cause or cure.
Over the next few weeks, I discovered an important life lesson. It’s a
lesson that can help us deal with the ordinary kind of stress and tension
we face every day. It’s also a key to healing for individuals and groups
impacted by trauma from abuse, accidents, dignity violations, natural
disasters or war.
Bio After that shocking phone call, I spent most of the next two weeks
crying, sometimes even howling, with fear and bewilderment whenever I
was alone. The emotion welled up like giant waves and was hard to hold
Carolyn Yoder is a licensed psychotherapist with over two decades back, although I’d rein it in before our children came home from school.
of experience working with trauma-impacted individuals and
communities in the US, Asia, Africa, the Middle East and the Caucasus. At times, I stopped crying long enough to laugh: I sounded like a wolf
or wounded bear. Miserable as I felt, it was a relief to know I still had a
She believes that we all can increase our resilience by being trauma- sense of humor! Sometimes I trembled, had trouble breathing or just
informed in these turbulent times. She trains individuals and groups sat immobilized, staring at nothing. Then another wave of sobbing would
to address the effects of trauma in their communities whether hit.
from terrorism, historical harms, political turmoil, natural disasters,
accidents or abuse. Back then, I knew little about shock and trauma. Now I recognize I was
experiencing and releasing the trauma energy of fight-flight-freeze, the
The justice-informed, conflict-informed approach to transforming body’s physical response to shock, threat and fear.
trauma is described in her book, The Little Book of Trauma Healing:
When Violence Strikes and Community Security is Threatened, (Good After two long weeks of wondering if I was losing my mind, something
Books, 2005) unexpected happened. A peaceful, positive calm emerged inside me
along with heightened mental clarity and a renewed zest for life. I
decided that I would face the future positively, mourn any losses I might
experience, and then move on, focusing on what I had rather than what
I’d lost.

Yet right on the heel of that seemingly noble thought came a different our heath over the long haul.
kind of wave: a fierce certainty that a positive attitude wasn’t enough. I
wanted health! What if, in spite of the doctor’s prognosis of a downhill We can release tension and stress through mindfully bringing our
progression, there was a way to slow---or did I even dare think it--- to awareness to sensations in our body and letting them move through
reverse the disease progress? If so, wouldn’t a logical first step be us. It’s often a quiet and gentle process, not as dramatic as crying for
building up my body through a healthy diet, exercise and managing two weeks! Tools like Emotional Freedom Technique, which involves
stress, so that the natural, self-healing abilities inside us all could tapping on acupuncture points while naming thoughts, emotions and
function optimally? body sensations, are easy to learn and facilitate rapid release. If it
feels overwhelming or difficult to do this work alone, listen to that
Over the ensuing months and years, I followed that holistic path. caution and find a professional trained in somatic (body) work to guide
Rather than getting worse, my symptoms slowly decreased, then you.
disappeared. I’m not cured. I have to maintain the diet, exercise and
keep stress from building up or symptoms return. But I’m healthier I often wonder what would have happened if I had suppressed the
today than I was the day of that phone call and live a full and active life. shaking and crying and simply soldiered on. Would the wave of
And I haven’t cried about having MS since May of 1994! positive resolve also have been blocked? Cycles of violence against
ourselves that come out as addictions, depression, silence or suicide
The life lesson I learned in those frightening weeks (and which trauma are hallmarks of unreleased trauma. So are cycles of violence acted
research confirms) is that our bodies know how to release stress and out against others through bullying, domestic violence, or war.
trauma naturally, allowing creative thinking and responses to emerge
about whatever is facing us. People sometimes respond skeptically to the idea that our bodies
know the way through stress, hurt, shock and trauma. It seems too
Release of stress, shock and trauma energy happens through shaking, simple---or too threatening. But it’s foundational to letting go of a
trembling, crying, laughing, hot and cold flushes, and even yawning. stressful situation at the office or the trauma of war. I share this life
This resets our nervous system. Our rational brain, which gets lesson with the individuals and groups I work with, not only because
bypassed during fight, flight and freeze so we can survive, comes back it is evidence based, but also because I’ve experienced from the inside
on line again, so we can do whole-brain integrated thinking rather out how transformative it can be.
than merely reacting. Yet we often block these natural trauma release
responses fearing that we’ll be overwhelmed or the emotions and
sensations mean we’re losing it or being weak.
I understand the sentiment behind advice to “get over it,” “pull yourself
together,” or “think positively.” There are times we have to keep going
in the moment or for a season and need to put our emotions on hold.
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Richard Longworth Meditate
Because of stress and a highly charged event, I had health problems
Turnsio.com – this was back in 2002. I consulted a cardiologist, who tried many
treatments but wasn’t able to rectify my problem. After six months, I
decided to take control of my own situation. I had read and researched
much about spirituality since 1985, a sort of intellectual exercise.
However, when I applied the learning to my particular health situation
it became an awakening experience. I resolved my health (stress)
problem almost immediately through meditation.
Bio When I returned to the cardiologist and told her how I had resolved
my irregular heartbeat, she stated that it was not possible, it must
have been the medication that eventually worked. The outcome was
Richard spent his career as a systems analyst and a university an immense transformation of the self. In my daily life, I now allow my
instructor. He has conducted post-graduate work in education and being to predominate my doing: possibly a Kundalini affect.
humanistic psychology; presented IT papers at national conferences,
a World Congress and has been published in various journals. His In my situation, it was a traumatic event that created the opportunity
present interests lie primarily in the Sharing Economy and the for change, and only when I was ready did it happen. But in cases
application of technology as a platform in providing a sustainable where the person wants to evolve, I would suggest, start by
future, near zero-based marginal costs. In retirement, Richard becoming aware of the space between words, breathing, thinking
develops and supports online platforms for small communities, NPOs, and particularly during quiet times… so slow down and embrace the
sociopreneurs. present moment.
I started meditation back in 1985 and tried many suggested

techniques including TM, Vipassana without much success, although
at the time I thought it was working for me...calming, an escape...but
my mind kept wandering off.

Then, as I mentioned, I tried again...this time a Christian Meditation
approach, by repeating the Aramaic phrase, “Marantha.” It worked
miraculously. Thoughts were dispelled... a new experience, an
awakening so to speak.
I often use the analogy of a passenger train...at first moving very

quickly...then slowing down, till I could see that there were people in
the restaurant car eating, people in the smoking car with cigars etc.. I
became more keenly aware.
There was an adaption period, filled mostly with joy. I became more
cognizant of nature particularly living creatures. I find it difficult to
destroy any living form. Just recently my grandson found it interesting
that I saved a bee that was floating in a bucket of water. Also, I became
much more tolerant, and kinder, caring, appreciative, respectuful. I
don’t believe though it was a technique or a specific strategy that I can
pass on; merely, I was “ready for it.”

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Adrian Landsberg Just. Keep. Going.
The biggest tip I would give anyone in life is something that I’ve
TheLifeStyleCompound.com learned by climbing some of the worlds bigger mountains, especially
one in particular; Mount Kilimanjaro.
I was only 30 minutes from the top of the mountain when I mentally
and physically felt like I couldn’t go on. I literally dropped to my knees
in the snow and was ready to give up. I had no more energy left to go
on.
Bio But then I thought about how far I’d come, not how far I had to go. I
thought about the thousands of miles I’d come to be here. I thought
about NOT stopping but to keep on going. And this pain that I was
Hey I’m Adrian. I used to be a welder. I found the online world. Started experiencing was only going to be temporary.
a business. Quit my job. Now I inspire people to create a life of
freedom with a laptop business. The Life Style Compound is my way to It sounds simple but this little (or big) lesson has helped me in many
inspire and show you how to live life on YOUR terms. areas of my life.
Just. Keep. Going. No matter what. No matter how hard it gets. The
fruits of your labour will only be shown to you once you can show that
you can survive the tough stuff.

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Thibaut Meurisse Have Goals, Not Dreams
WhatisPersonalDevelopment.org I started setting goals back in 2014. Since then, I have created a blog,
written hundreds of articles, and published several books regarding
personal development. All this while holding a full-time job! I believe
that other people can accomplish just as much, if not more, with the
power of goal-setting. Setting goals on a daily basis has enabled me
to increase my productivity in ways I never would have imagined. It
has helped me stay focused and make consistent progress towards
building my dream career.
Bio Stop talking about your dreams and saying you’re going to do X, Y,
or Z one day. Start talking about your goals instead. In the words of
Napoleon Hill, “Goals are dreams with a deadline”.
Thibaut Meurisse is a personal development blogger and author, as
well as the founder of WhatisPersonalDevelopment.org. Obsessed Resolve to turn your wildest dreams into goals and take the first step
with self-improvement and fascinated by the power of the brain, that comes to mind no matter how small. Send that email, buy that
his personal mission is to help people find their passion and build book, or talk to that person. Take that walk, write that first page, or
the skills to make a living from it. He has been featured on several start that project.
personal development websites, including TinyBuddha, Lifehack,
MotivationGrid, Goalcast, Stevenaitchison, and FinerMinds. Then take another step tomorrow, the next day, and the day after that.
Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You don’t need to wait
for “someday”. Start writing down your goals today, then see where
you are in a year. You’ll be closer to your goal than you are right now!

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Diana Fitts Focus On Your Priorities
My number one personal development tip is to keep a list of your
BetterThanAlive.com priorities on your mirror and update it on a regular basis. As a runner,
I’d been training to reach a 2:59 time goal. As each marathon passed
and I inched closer to my goal, my gut started whispering to me that
I was on the wrong path. It didn’t “feel right.” One morning, as I was
looking at my list of priorities, I realized that my desired priorities
weren’t matching my in vivo priorities. While running fell in the
number 3 slot below my friends and family and career, my behaviors
and actions had allowed it to sneak into the coveted number one
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While society and everyone around me encouraged me to push

towards my marathon goals, my priorities indicated I should do
Diana Fitts is the author of 3 books surrounding goal setting, otherwise. If I truly cared about my friends and family and career,
productivity, and running. By providing strategies for readers to take I needed to change my behaviors so that I was actually acting in
control of their goals and see them through to success, her work accordance with my desired priorities. It was challenging to let go of a
emphasizes taking action today, helping readers understand the steps running goal that would have granted me a good deal of societal and
and lifestyle changes that will jumpstart progress. Diana consistently personal pride and success. However, my list of desired priorities told
shares her work on her blog BetterThanAlive.com. To jumpstart your me that it wouldn’t have made me happy, as running does more harm
own goals, grab her free Goal Setting Guide. than good for my life when it occupies the number one spot.
By writing down my priorities and reevaluating them on a regular

basis, I ensured that my actions aligned with my values. While it
resulted in challenging decisions and letting go of things I care about,
it ultimately allowed me to focus on the people and aspirations I truly
cared about.

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Advice
Cody McKibben Choose Wisely
The secret to life is deceptively simple: choose carefully what you
ThrillingHeroics.com focus your attention on. Namely, focus on the things you genuinely and
deeply want more of. Look for what makes you happy.
Don’t obsess over the things that frustrate you. Don’t let anger, or
resentment, become the center of attention.
Because as the saying goes, what you focus on grows. When I

started to focus on cultivating an attitude of gratitude, my whole life
Bio transformed. And I find that when I consciously acknowledge the

experiences, the people, and events I’m grateful and thankful for,
somehow I tend to find more and more similar things that inspire
Cody is the author of the forthcoming adventure psychology book gratitude.
Chasing the Sun, told through 9 years of memoirs traveling around the
globe and detailing his transformation into fatherhood. Whereas, when I focus on my problems — when I go into emergency
mode fighting fires and looking for every little detail of what is wrong
He is a professional photographer, mythology researcher, and founder with my work and family life — then I’ll find plenty of problems.
of the HERO Project - an entrepreneurial education startup dedicated
to developing personal growth tools around the Hero’s Journey. Seek, and you shall find. So seek the right things, and discipline your
mind to search for opportunities rather than limitations.
I highly recommend any ambitious young person in the world today

develop a regular gratitude practice as part of your daily rituals – write
your answers in some kind of journal, or keep an ongoing note on your
computer — but start the day with 3 things you’re thankful for, and end
your day with 3 amazing things that happened for you. (If you have a
hard time getting started, I recommend trying the 5 Minute Journal)
You’ll be surprised how quickly this daily practice can change your
outlook, and even your circumstances.

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Advice
Jenny Blake Your Body is Your Business
I realized very quickly into my solopreneurship journey that my
PivotMethod.com body—and by extension, my routines—were the fuel for my business.
If I was operating at fifty percent effectiveness due to lack of sleep or
exercise, then as its sole employee, so would my business. That was
unacceptable to me! Not to mention unsustainable. Success, to me,
has as much to do with how I run my business and my life as it does
what I choose to work on. I came to adopt the motto, “Your body
is your business,” and I make my physical health and vitality a top
priority. My staples are yoga, meditation, pilates, walking, eating well,
Bio and getting plenty of sleep. Those elements of my happiness formula

are what lead me to my energetic and creative best.
I start to wind down for the evening as soon as I leave the house in the
Jenny Blake is an author, career and business strategist and afternoons for yoga or a walk with a friend. That means I don’t respond
international speaker who helps people organize their brain, move to email (unless I feel like it or there’s something particularly pressing),
beyond burnout, and build sustainable, dynamic careers they love. She and I don’t even put pressure on myself to check after about 5pm. I
is the author of PIVOT: The Only Move That Matters is Your Next One have dinner around 6 or 7, then watch a show, read a little bit, and go
(Portfolio/Penguin Random House, September 2016), which won an to sleep. As I lay my head down on the pillow, I love the nights where I
award for Axiom Best Business Book in the careers category, and Life remember to go through my set-of “wind down” questions — they help
After College (Running Press, 2011). me clear my mind, and often help me fall right asleep. Here they are:
After two years at a technology start-up followed by five years at • What was my highlight of the day? My low?
Google in Training and Career Development, Jenny moved to New • What is one thing I’m proud of or want to celebrate?
York City in 2011 where she has been running her own consulting • What is one (or more) things I’m grateful for?
business in the years since. Jenny combines her love of technology • What is one unanswered question I’m facing?
with her superpower of simplifying complexity to help clients pivot
their career or business. Her motto: if change is the only constant, let’s
get better at it.
Today you can find her at PivotMethod.com. Subscribe to the Pivot

Podcast and follow her on Twitter @jenny_blake.

Thank You
Thank You for Reading!
John Bardos
BundlesforGood.com
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I hope you enjoyed this Change Your Life! ebook. Implementing just one or
two of these ideas can have a dramatic impact on your life. Even just 5 or
10 minutes a day will compound over time to set you on a path to a Better
You. There is no better investment than an investment in yourself.
I also want to thank all the contributors to this ebook and the Better
You Bundles for Good coming on July 27th to July 30th, 2017. There are
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52 — Annalie Coetzer — Disciplined Action

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The charity began in 2009 as a small Bangkok based initiative called In

I’ve had a several opportunities to visit and volunteer with the

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Through complete chance I got interested in personal development.

I still meditate every day.

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I used to struggle a lot to stay on task and keep myself focused. I

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1. I put on my headphones and listen to some peaceful, instrumental

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As you’ll notice, I’m a BIG believer in EXPRESSING OUT LOUD (or

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Bio deity (although that is a perfectly acceptable practice to choose). The

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During my masters degree I had the desire to achieve excellent

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When I started taking short walks in my neighborhood more than

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Bio As a personal example, I wanted to obtain my Ph.D. so I could have the

When Dr. Kardos is not writing, speaking, or teaching, she enjoys

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6. Added new plans to my workload as old ones got completed.

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• The factory’s on time delivery rate leaped from 22% to 98%.

• The factory’s lead time dropped from 20 weeks to 3.5 weeks.

And, our sales increased from £10M to £30M in a two year

But, for me:

• I formed the habit of wanting to make businesses work better (and

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When I’m feeling challenged or overwhelmed, I say to myself “Chris,

Watch the Boat and Water level video on You Tube at

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Bio It doesn’t make sense.

I took to studying — and I mean REALLY studying — the successful

I wanted to know what rules they followed that I didn’t. I wanted to

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Bio and more loyalties in people to some unhappiness in their families.

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In the past, before my meditating days, I had a hard time sticking to

Bio done so haphazardly and with so many interruptions, that it wasn’t

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As a business person, I strictly control complexity and overhead for my

As controversial as this might be---I found that emigrating from the US

Using these methods, I have reversed much stress-related aging,

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Bio myself, or honouring myself and my voice.

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4. Clear, balance, ground and protect your energy. Look after

5. Use the following affirmations as journaling prompts,

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Bio Therefore, it is important to take advantage of your early morning

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