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Highly emotionally intelligent people are successful in both their professional and
personal lives. Their ability to truly connect and empathize with people makes them
better leaders, communicators and relationship builders.
Unfortunately, many people lack the basic skills. So let’s see where you rank. Can
you tell what’s the emotionally intelligent reaction to these 10 situations?
Ask for more details and tell them how you’d solve the problem.
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You’ve just started a new job, and you’re chatting for the first time with
the person you’ll be working with the most. What’s the best way to make
them think highly of you right away?
Share how successful you were in your last job and tell them how you
think you’ll be able to contribute.
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You were supposed to meet a friend for coffee to talk about issues she’s
3 been having with her partner, but you got caught up at work. You get an
irritated text from her saying she’s been waiting for over an hour and that
she’s going home. What do you tell her?
“Sorry! I couldn’t help it. My boss called me into a meeting and I had no
way to get out of it.”
“I can see why you’re upset. I’m so sorry. I got called into a meeting and
I had no way to get out of it.”
“Look at it from the right perspective. It’s not really that big a deal, is
it?”
4
Your friend has an annoying habit of showing up late, or worse, texting to
say she can’t make it after you’ve already arrived. What do you say to
her?
“I feel like you’re disrespecting my time by being late, and it really hurts
my feelings.”
“This is annoying. But I value our friendship, so I’ll deal with it.”
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“Look, I know you didn’t mean to do it, so I’m not angry at your mistake,
but I am worried.”
“I’m not angry. I’m just disappointed. In the future, can you double
check the numbers with me?”
“Mistakes happen. But let’s work on repairing the damage and figure
out how to avoid it in the future.”
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campaign. Right after Colleague 1 outlines her plans for an email blast,
Colleague 2 says email blasts are a waste of time and that you should do
a targeted letter to a small number of influencers instead. What do you
say?
“You both make good points. Let’s discuss more and see how we can
balance both ideas.”
“I agree, [Colleague 2]. Let’s not bother with the email blast.”
“[Colleague 1] has been here the longest, so let’s take their advice.”
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Do a deep dive into researching your company’s sales for the past year.
Take a look at the big picture to get a broad idea of what you need to
do.
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You didn’t get that big promotion you were hoping for, even though
everyone felt certain that you would. Your friends and co-workers gather
around you to see how you’re doing. What do you say?
“I’m definitely not feeling great about it, but that’s the way things go
sometimes. Thanks for your concern.”
9
Your boss just finished outlining a revamped project you’ve been working
on. He expects you to get started ASAP, but you’re a little confused about
what he’s driving at. What do you say to him?
“I’m on it.”
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Keep your head down and say nothing.
Tell the SVP you won’t stand for that kind of language.
Explain how it really wasn’t your fault. You’re just starting out and you
hadn’t gotten to that part in your training.
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do when talking to others
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secure than most’
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