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by Gracie Shinn
Hello Madame Chairman and Fellow Students! Let’s dive right in.
What do I believe is the role of the Christian woman? There are so many places I could start.
Whether women should talk in the church. Whether we should keep the house. Whether we should be
But I don’t want to start with any of that. In fact, there are two places I had to debate a long
time on, before deciding. Adam and Eve, right after she’s eaten the fruit. Or Jesus, at the garden of
How many of you are Christians, in here?Do you know what that makes you? The bride of
Christ.
Revelation 19 says- “Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and
exult and give Him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself
ready” You, the church, are Christ’s submissive bride. But before we could be made His bride, a price
had to be paid. We were unable to pay it, so He took it on Himself, and died. Sweating drops of blood,
because of his emotional pain. But he so looked foward to the future, to that pure and spotless bride,
clothed in white! Knowing her forever. Because of that joy set before Him, He endured the cross.
I’m sure you know the story. In Genesis, Adam and Eve were in the garden, when a snake spoke
to Eve and convinced her to disobey God. She picked the fruit, which gave knowledge of good and
evil, believing it would make her like God. And Adam? Who was with her? He said nothing. When she
turned to Adam, she held it out to him, smiling, saying, “It’s good! Take it! Eat it! It will make us like
God!” Forgetting that they were already created in the image of God.
Adam took it and ate. And thus? The curse has passed on to all of mankind.
But… what if Adam had not been passive? What if he had spoken? What if he had tried to stop
her? What if he had shook his head, and said, “No! We can’t do this!”
Imagine God appearing,“What has this woman done, under your care?”
And Adam saying, “She ate the fruit. Oh, God? What will happen now?”
And Adam, with tears racing down his cheeks, says, “No! Please, God? Isn’t there another way!
Please!”
And God, with tears in His own eyes says, “You die for her.”
What if the first Adam had done what he was called by God to do?
But he didn’t. We fell deeper and deeper into a pit we could not get out of, no matter how hard
we tried. God knew it was impossible for us to save ourselves, that what we’d done demanded blood.
So Jesus came, the Word, the Last Adam. He came, and sweated drops of blood, and washed the
feet of Judas, and begged God to forgive the ones who were spitting on Him, and nailing Him to the
cross.
Ephesians 5 says- “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the
head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the
church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”
That’s… pretty simply put, isn’t it? The husband is the head of the wife in the same way that
Christ is the head of the church… His bride that He bought with his own blood.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” We’re all
women, in this context. We are all the blood-bought bride of Christ, that is called to submit to Him, to
be silent when He’s speaking, and follow His lead. “In the same way husbands should love their wives
Ladies. You are worth more than rubies, God says! And it has nothing to do with your looks.
Your value and your worth are not contingent on men lusting after you.
Yet so many believe that very thing. We believe that after our beauty is gone, as our hair grays,
as wrinkles start to form, that we start to lose our value. That’s a lie. Outward beauty is fragile! It will
fade. ‘Vanity’ means to be ‘marked by futility’. The Bible tells us to cultivate inner beauty, that won’t
ever rot away… That’s the beauty that God delights in. ‘Man (and woman) look on the outward
You deserve to be honored and respected and protected. You are not a piece of meat, to satisfy
Your price is above rubies! God tells us this, in Prov. 31:10. And unless the man you plan to
marry believes the same, he has no business marrying you. And you have no business encouraging it.
Jesus, the last Adam, did what the first Adam failed to do. He’s the rescuer. The one who can
make all things new. The speaking husband, the Word of God.
and defend her. He is to give himself up for her, to take up his cross daily, even if she’s pitiful to him.
But ladies… You are supposed to be the church, to your husbands. You’re supposed to be a joy
set before his eyes, that makes the cross worth it! You are to be the treasure worth everything, to him.
You are called to help him, and submit to him, and love him- by God.
Just for the fun of it, let’s say I’m a wife. Let’s say that I’m an educated woman. I have laid
down all my pursuits, to be able to submit myself to my husband’s vision for our family. I do not
contradict him in front of others- I show him that respect and honour. I communicate to our family, and
others, the vision my husband has established for our family. I have forsaken all other opportunities for
independent fulfillment and independent use of my gifts, in order to put those gifts in subjection to my
But what if I tweak it, just a bit? What if it’s no longer me and my husband? But me and a
future President of the United States. And I say the exact same phrases.
Let’s say I’m an educated woman, and am serving the president. I work for his vision above my
own. I do not contradict the president in front of others- I show him that respect and honour. I
communicate to my family, and others, the vision the president has established. I have forsaken all
other opportunities for independent fufillment for the sake of partnering with the president to fufill his
agenda.
How come the second time I’m a sort of “hero”? But in the first there’s something wrong with
it? For some reason we believe that working for some man in the White House, has more value than
laying down our lives for a man who would also lay down his for us.
This is why it’s so important to be certain about who you marry. To be certain about a man’s
dreams for his future, and how steady he will be to act on them. To be certain he knows what love is,
knows he’s loved by God, and that he is to love you like Christ loves the church.
Like deciding whether or not to serve a president, make sure it’s a man you’re willing to support
your whole life, or suffer the consequences that come from doing so.
Genesis 3 says- “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” This is part
What do you think, this means? For the woman’s ‘desire to be for her husband’? Perhaps, that
she’ll want to serve her husband, and he’ll rule over her? Or, that she’ll be passionately affectionate to
No. The word used here for ‘desire’ is only used three other times in the Bible. The second, is
when God is talking to Cain, “Sin’s desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” Sin desired to rule
This Hebrew word for ‘desire’, ‘tesh-oo-kah’, means ‘a desire to suppress’. A desire to rule
over.
We, women, were cursed with desire to rule over our husbands. And our husbands were cursed
with women who would always be trying to steal their God-given role of leadership.
God is trying to undo the curse in the garden. He is trying to make all things new! We,
Christians, are to be salt in this world. Light in the darkness. Marriage done properly reflects the
Kingdom of Heaven!
Women are called to submission, in so many places in the Bible- 1 Corinthians, Titus,
things, that will make me look dumb? What if he asks me to do things… I just don’t want to do? What
if Christ asks you to do things you don’t understand? What if He asks you to do things, that will make
you look dumb? What if He asks you to do things… you just don’t want to do?
Ephesians 5:24 says- ‘Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their
husbands in everything.’
We have unhealthy masculinity that women are supposed to submit to. It doesn’t take much of
an imagination to figure out where Feminism comes from. It comes from men whose duty from God is
to defend and protect and speak for women… Who choose to destroy, instead of defend. To blame
women for their own issues, instead of standing and saying it’s their own fault. It’s men who choose to
‘bridge builder’. The one who stands in the gap, and prays. The woman is supposed to pray for him,
Like Caleb mentioned in a speech, long ago. He loves stories with chivalry, and knights…
because men with honour and integrity are so hard to find these days, and he wants to emulate men of
valour who defend, not men who hide behind the valour of others, or see it as something to be
forgotten.
When you have true masculinity, it puts the framework in place to understand the true calling of
being a good bride, who honours her husband, and honours God by doing that.
But what if my husband is not a believer? What if he does things, just out of spite? What if he
And what about if the woman is less than satisfactory, men? Are you released from loving her, if
Jesus said in Matthew 5- ‘Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that
hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you. For if you love those who
love you, what’s the big deal about that? Doesn’t everyone do that?’ We are called to something more.
1 Peter 3 says, ‘Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not
obey the word, they may be won by the conduct of their wives.”
And 1 Corinthians- ‘If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live
with her, she should not divorce him.” Skipping a bit, “But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be
so. In such cases the brother or sister is set free. God has called you to peace. For how do you know,
wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your
wife?’
It’s… laid out pretty well, isn’t it? We are called to love, even when it’s not easy. Just like
Christ.
But, what if he’s physically harming you? I don’t have time, at the moment, to answer that. But
there will be a five minute Q&A, after the speech where you can ask me anything you’d like.
A big thing brought up, when talking about a woman’s role, is this verse in 1 Corinthians- ‘The
women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in
submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at
Are you wondering how I’m going to get out of this one? The answer is, I don’t have to. God
said it, Paul even says- ‘If anyone thinks that he is spiritual he should acknowledge that the things I am
This passage is about order. The verses before what I read to you, and the verses after.
Do you guys know Corinth was messed up? If there’s something wrong the church can do, they
did it. It’s believed by many scholars that Paul sent them four or more letters, only two of which we
still have today, correcting them for their behaviour. In the first 10+ chapters, of this book, we see how
LISTEN UP.”
A few verses before the ‘silent woman’ verse, says, ‘‘If there is a tongue given, there must be an
interpreter.” In other words, if you’re going to speak in tongues, someone needs to be able to interpret
it. ‘But if there is no one to interpret, let each of them keep silent in church and speak to only himself
and to God.’
Wait… We usually ignore this verse, too, don’t we? Did you know that the verses that cause
most of the ‘womanhood’ debate, are in the same chapter of the Bible?
This chapter is talking about order, and propriety, and how things are supposed to be done.
Imagine you’re the one who wants to be loudly speaking in tongues… And you’ve just been
told to be silent. “BE SILENT??? HOW DARE YOU ASK ME TO BE SILENT?” Be silent, because
you’re not helping anyone. Be quiet, so others can speak. Be quiet, because you are causing disorder
A few verses later, is- ‘The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not
permitted to speak-’
You should know, the word here for silent ‘Sigaó’, doesn’t just mean ‘be quiet’. It means, ‘Be
And the word used for ‘speak’ here, is ‘Laleó’. ‘Lah- ley- oh’. It’s such a fun sounding Greek
word, which means- To Chatter, to Prattle like a child, The incessant chirping of a bird, to order/claim
control in tone. Again. Laleo means to chatter, prattle like a child, to chirp like a bird, or claim control
in your tone.
Don’t you just love Greek? It’s so expressive!
The verse now reads, ‘The women should keep sigaó in the churches. For they are not permitted
to laleó.’
‘The women should keep silent, so others can be heard, in the churches. For they are not
permitted to chatter, prattle like children, incessantly chirp like birds, or shout over people.’
Women were allowed to speak in church! 1 Corinthians 11:5 mentions women praying and
encouraging others in church, without Paul telling them to hush up! (Just a few chapters earlier.)
The whole point of this is to keep order in the church, and edify others besides ourselves. This
still applies to us today. We are to treat everyone in love. Like 1 Cor. 13, says, in the chapter right
before this. Even if we have the answers to all mysteries, or have the gift of speaking in tongues, we are
We are not to ‘Laleo’- To prattle like children, chirp incessantly, or shout over people. We are to
be meek, preferring others more than ourselves. ‘The meek shall inherit the earth’, Jesus said. Yes, the
idea of meekness makes us feel uncomfortable. It’s like a lamb being led to the slaughter. Paul agrees,
saying, ‘We are all counted as sheep for the slaughter.’ But never forget. You have a good shepherd who
loves you. He will walk you through every trial, weeping when you weep, and rejoicing when you
rejoice.
Even if things go awfully here on earth… There’s Heaven to look forward to. The home our
Husband is preparing. Our life here on earth is only 70 or maybe 80 years, on average. That’s just a
hard pill for me to swallow, thinking about so many things… It’s hard.
For you.
What is the position of the woman? Married, single, or mother, the position of the Christian
woman is in Christ. She is in Christ, no matter what she does, and strives to stay within Christ.
All of us must guard our hearts, and bring ourselves into subjection unto the will and beauty of
Christ, to keep ourselves from bringing the same fruit of death Eve did, instead of the fruit of life, to
If you’re still having deep problems with this, there are two main possibilities, perhaps
entwined.
1. You’ve been deeply, deeply wounded. Men, who were supposed to be like Christ to you…
Hurt you. They’ve treated you like a slab of meat, only here to satisfy them. I’m sorry. We need to learn
to rest in Christ’s arms, and trust Him as the one who is loving, and kind, and the giver of true lasting
joy, and peace, who is good and patient, gentle and self-controlled… You need to know just how deeply
you are loved by Him, and know what that means, before you start to look for love in anyone else.
2. If you still disagree completely with submitting under a man, who is bound by God himself
to love and defend you… As Christ protects the church… Ask yourself, as a Christian, if you’re truly
willing to submit to Christ’s will, whatever it who. The one who loves you more than any other, and
walk with us, wherever we go. He is a faithful husband, to all us ‘women’, and will never leave us
alone.
Thank you.
For all the notes I took, to write this speech, or a copy of this speech… Please ask me after
class! I’d also heartily recommend Eric Ludy’s sermon, ‘The Position of the Woman’, and Dr. Vodie
Bouchom’s ‘Biblical Womanhood’. Though I don’t agree with everything they say, they’re amazing
sermons, that first led me to start thinking deeply about all of this.