Feelings
! Feelings Associated with Met Needs"
AFFECTIONATE EXCITED GRATEFUL HOPEFUL PEACEFUL
compassionate amazed appreciative confident calm
fond ardent moved expectant comfortable
loving aroused thankful jazzed centered
openhearted dazzled touched lighthearted content
tender energetic sanguine equanimity
warm enlivened HAPPY up fulfilled
enthusiastic amused upbeat mellow
ENGAGED exuberant blissful open
absorbed invigorated cheerful INSPIRED quiet
curious lively delighted amazed relaxed
engrossed passionate ecstatic eager relieved
enchanted surprised elated enthused satisfied
enthralled vibrant giddy motivated serene
entranced glad moved tranquil
fascinated EXHILARATED jolly psyched
interested enthralled joyful stimulated REFRESHED
intrigued radiant jubilant stirred recharged
involved electrified merry wonder rejuvenated
open euphoric overjoyed renewed
spellbound overjoyed pleased rested
stimulated thrilled rapturous restored
tickled revived
⊗ Feelings Associated with Unmet Needs⊗
ANGER CONFUSION DISQUIET(continued) FEAR SADNESS
aggravated ambivalent rattled afraid depressed
angry baffled restless anxious dejected
animosity bewildered shocked apprehensive despairing
annoyed conflicted startled dread despondent
contempt dazed surprised fearful disappointed
disgruntled discombobulated troubled foreboding discouraged
enraged disoriented turbulent frightened disheartened
exasperated mixed turmoil guarded forlorn
furious mystified uncomfortable insecure gloomy
hate perplexed uneasy leery heavy hearted
hostile puzzled unnerved mistrustful hopeless
incensed torn unsettled panicked melancholy
irate upset petrified miserable
irritated DISCONNECTION scared unhappy
irked apathetic EMBARRASSMENT shaky wistful
livid bored ashamed terrified
miffed closed chagrined trepidation TENSION
nettled detached discomfited wary anxious
outraged distant flustered worried closed
peeved indifferent mortified distressed
resentful listless self-conscious PAIN edgy
numb aching fidgety
AVERSION withdrawn FATIGUE agony frazzled
abhorrence beat anguished frustrated
appalled DISQUIET burnt out devastated jittery
bothered agitated depleted grief nervous
displeased alarmed exhausted heartbroken overwhelmed
disgust concerned listless hungry restless
dislike distraught pooped hurting stressed out
enmity disconcerted sleepy lonely
horrified dismayed tired miserable YEARNING
loathing disturbed weary regretful longing
repulsion frustrated wiped out remorseful nostalgic
revulsion perturbed worn out pining
Needs and Values
Things We All Want in Our Lives
AUTONOMY CONNECTION(continued) PEACE
choice self-connection acceptance
dignity self-expression balance
freedom shared reality beauty
independence stability communion
self-expression support ease
space to know and be known equanimity
spontaneity to see and be seen faith
trust harmony
CONNECTION understanding hope
acceptance warmth order
affection peace-of-mind
appreciation MEANING space
authenticity awareness
belonging celebration PHYSICAL
care challenge WELL-BEING
closeness clarity air
communication competence care
communion consciousness comfort
community contribution food
companionship creativity movement/exercise
compassion discovery rest/sleep
consideration efficiency safety (physical)
empathy effectiveness self-care
friendship growth sexual expression
inclusion integration shelter
inspiration integrity touch
integrity learning water
intimacy mourning
love movement PLAY
mutuality participation adventure
nurturing perspective excitement
partnership presence fun
presence progress humor
respect/self-respect purpose joy
security self-expression relaxation
self-acceptance stimulation stimulation
self-care understanding
To use this list to create more peace, harmony and understanding in your life, go to
www.theexercise.org. You can also attend “First Mondays,” a free intro and workshop on the
skills of creating human connection. For more information go to www.firstmondays.org, visit
www.nycnvc.org or call 646.201.9226.
V5.18.15 Published 2015 by The New York Center for Nonviolent Communicationsm
