Touch Exercise

Set-Up Materials Time

Comfortable and
Optional pillows
10-30 minutes
private location and blankets

Purpose:
Practice various kinds of touch with partner to learn how your

partner enjoys being aroused.

Directions:
Bring consciousness into your touch. Consider your hands and how they
move and feel. Try to bring connection from your hands to that part on
you or your partner whom you are touching. *Oils and lubes are nice
touches to incorporate.

2 TYPES OF TOUCH

Static Touch Moving Touch

Holding and not moving Short strokes, Long strokes,

circles, spirals, figure 8s.

Squeezing, Kneading, Pinching,

Scratching, Tapping, Slapping

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Adapted from:Keeping Intimacy Alive Skyler, J (2010) Touch
Spectrum of Sensation
Consider the following spectrum of sensation for how soft, light, deep

or hard your touch can be.

Communicate with your partner what TYPE of touch feels good, and

what NUMBER value you want to accompany each type.

1 2 3 4 5
Very soft
Somewhat
Soft/ Somewhat
Very deep

and light soft Hard mix hard and hard

Five Gears of Touch

Gear 1: Affectional Touch: clothes-on

(i.e..holdinghands, kissing, hugging)
1 2 3 4 5

Gear 2: Non-Genital, Sensual Touch:clothed, semi-clothed, or nude

(i.e. body massage, cuddling, showering)

1 2 3 4 5

Gear 3: Playful Touch: intermixing non-genital and genital touch,

clothed or nude (i.e.dancing, showering, cuddling on couch)

1 2 3 4 5

Modified from Sexual Awareness, by Barry & Emily McCarthy Page 2

 Gear 4:Erotic Touch: leading to arousal and orgasm
(i.e. manual, oral, or rubbing)
1 2 3 4 5

Gear 5: Sexual Pleasure Touch:integrateserotic with other forms of

pleasure (i.e. oftenleads to and/or includes intercourse)

1 2 3 4 5

Stoplight of Pleasure Zones Game

Touch, kiss, rub, or embrace various parts of the body. As you explore
different zones of pleasure from head to foot, indicate how it feels
using stoplight colors.

Red means stop — not interested.

Yellow means neutral — go slow and explore, but be

ready to stop if needed.

Green means yes.

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