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Lesson Objectives:
When you finish reading this chapter, you should be able to:
1. define terms such as “love,” “attraction,” “relationship,” and other related terms;
2. discuss different theories of love;
3. identify needs, issues, and concerns experienced by people who are in a romantic relationship; and
4. reflect upon one’s attitudes towards love, intimacy, and relationship.
Definition of Terms:
The Filipinos say “I love you” approximately 17 times a week, making us sixth among the countries in the survey,
which are most articulate and expressive.(Hegina 2015)
Complex emotions
o Combination of basic emotions in varying magnitudes and are made intricate by circumstances surrounding
the experience. Love is a complex emotion.
Theorizing Love
Psychodynamic view on love
Psychodynamic theory is a collective term, which pertains to the psychoanalytic tradition forwarded by Sigmund
Freud.
Psychodynamic theory posits that we have desires and motives fuelled by our life (eros) and death (thanatos)
instincts.
o Desirable behaviors that promote positive relationship with others might be viewed as influenced by our life
instincts,
o while aggressive behaviors that hurts, manipulate, or harm ourselves and others might be viewed as
influenced by our death instincts.
o Desirable behaviors and aggressive behaviors are though to stream from our unconscious.
Psychodynamic view puts prime on the influence of our early life experiences.
o Formative years( from conception to around six years old)- relationship with the primary caregiver
o attachment with our primary caregiver/s (typically the mother) influence our relationship in later life.
From a psychodynamic view, love can be seen as a manifestation of our eros and the placement of our libido (life
energy) unto an object (a person towards who we transfer our psychic energies to ease pain or achieve pleasure).
Color wheel of love
John Alan Lee (1973), a Canadian Psychologist, suggested that there are different types of love.
o The primary types are:
Eros(sexual and romantic)
Philia (friendly)
Storge (parental/ filial love)
o The secondary types are:
Pragma (practical love)
Agape (universal love)
Philautia (self love)
Love languages
Garry Chapman (1996) posited that there are generally five love languages;
1. words of affirmation Verbally express their thoughts and feelings of love towards the people they love
2. touch Express love non- verbally through hugs, kisses, or, simply, a tap on the back.
They value proximity and physical contact.
3. time Value quality moments.
4. gifts, and Want to show and receive affection through material objects, especially during special
occasions.
5. acts of service. Willing to serve other person by helping her or him in things that they do.
Love and Intimate Relationships
Love, although well studied and variedly- theorized, remains abstract and obscure unless viewd in the contect of human
relationship.
George Levinger (1982) postulated that there are five stages of intimate relationships.
The ABCDE of intimate relationships
o Acquintance
Attraction
Propinquity- closer to one another
Exposure- repeated interactions
Similarity-
o Buildup
Infidelity
Irreconcilable differences
o Ending
Termination of agreements
Informal or formal
Humans are social beings and the core of this nature, is relating and connecting with others. Central to understanding human
relationship is the concept of love, an experience so abstract, yet so meaningful to many people.
Lesson 7| SEX AND SENSES
Lesson Objectives
When you finish reading this chapter, you should be able to:
Definition of Terms:
Sensorium- the totality of our senses and perception; a conglomerate of the individual sense organs.
Olfaction- sense of smell.
Tactile- something associated with touch.
Pheromone- a substance believed to be emitted by organisms and which is thought to be influencing
social behaviors.
Major Histocompatibilty Complex- a set of protein molecules associated with the immune system.
Affective Primacy Hypothesis (Zajonc 1980) postulates, that in many cases, cognitive processing plays a lesser role in
compared to our emotional responses in eliciting behaviour.
Our emotions take precedent primarily because these are only processed and modulated by the limbic system- the
part of the brain involved in our behavioural and emotional responses, especially when it comes to behaviours we
need for survival: feeding, reproduction and caring for our young, and fight or flight responses.
Olfactory Experience
o sense of smell may play an important part in our sexual response.
Signature odor
Pheromones- excreted by our glands which signals mood and affects social behaviour? act as
attractants
Tactile Experiences
o Our skin totally accounts for 16 to 20% of our body weight. – every square inch of skin houses more than a
thousand nerve endings.
o Touch has some elements.
Tactile- smooth, rough, hard, or soft
Thermal- warm or cold
Vibrational- pressure of touch: strong or weak/ moving and pulsating or steady and stationary
o Different threshold of tactile experience
Primary erogenous zones
Secondary erogenous zones
o Oxytocin
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Auditory Experience
o Sounds give additional context to sexual situations.
Words that triggers sexual response or verbal expression of affection
A survey of popular music will show that love and sex are among the common theme songs nowadays.