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Today, manyfamilies find that they are unable is low. Familiesmove transnationally(Bryceson
to fulfill the goal of maintaininga household by & Vuorela, 2002; Schmalzbauer, 2004). Al-
living togetherunderthe same roof. Some mem- though the internationalseparationof families
bers migrate internationally. This article ad- is not a new phenomenon(Foner,2000; Nakano
dresses the consequences of a transnational Glenn, 1983; Thomas & Znaniecki, 1927), one
lifestyle for children who are left behind by type of transnationalfamily, thatin which moth-
migrantparents. Using ethnographicfieldwork ers leave theirchildrenbehindto workabroad,is
and interviewswith a total of 141 membersof increasinglycommon causing a plethoraof new
Mexican transnationalfamilies, I explore how researchfocusing on the lives of these transna-
children who are left behind react to parents' tional families (Dreby, 2006; Hirsch, 2003;
migrations. I focus on how Mexican children Hondagneu-Sotelo & Avila,1997;SalazarParrefias,
manifest the competingpressures theyfeel sur- 2005).
roundingparents' migrationsand consequently This articleaddressessome of the consequen-
shape family migration patterns. The article ces of the transnationallifestyle for children
shows that children may experience power, who are left behind by migrantparents. Using
albeit in differentways at differentages, while ethnographic fieldwork and interviews with
simultaneouslybeing disadvantagedas depend- a total of 141 membersof Mexicantransnational
ents and in terms of their families' socioeco- families, I explore how children who are left
nomic status. behind react to their parents' migrations. The
overallstudyis basedon interviewswith migrant
mothersand fathersresidingin CentralNew Jer-
Today,manyfamiliesfindthattheyarenot ableto
fulfill the common goal of maintaininga house- sey, andchildrenandtheircaregivers,most often
hold by living togetherunderthe same roof. By grandparents,residing in the Mixtec region of
south centralMexico. It analyzes the ways that
diversifying the residence of family members, membersof transnationalfamilies accommodate
families are able to take advantageof the dispar-
ities in the world economy. Able-bodied sons, changes in each other's lives over time. Here, I
focus on how childrenwho areleft behindmani-
daughters,brothers,sisters, aunts,uncles, moth- fest the competingpressuresthey feel surround-
ers, andfathersmove to areaswherethey canearn
more for theirhumanlabor,whereasotherfamily ing their parents' migrations and consequently
membersremainin areaswherethe cost of living shape families' migrationpatterns.
Background
Sociology Department,Kent State University, P.O. Box Over the past 20 years, an emerging area of
5190, Kent, OH 44242 (jdreby@kent.edu). research on childhood has focused on under-
Key Words:children,family, Mexico,parent-childrelations, standingchildrenas autonomousactorscreating
transnationalism. their own social worlds as distinct from and in
dynamicrelationshipto those of the adultsin their and Massey (2002) verified empiricallythat the
lives (Corsaro, 1997; Wrigley & Dreby, 2005). intergenerational transmissionof migrationexpe-
to
According Qvortrup(1999), the new sociol- rience is greatest among families headed by
ogy of childhood has been relatively divorced migrant parents. In the context of widespread
from traditional,structuralapproachesto under- migrationbetweenMexico andthe UnitedStates,
standing children's lives, which emphasize the a culture of migration within families becomes
economic and political inequalities children a crucial source of social capital passed from
experience in differentsocieties. Primarily,eth- parentsto theirchildren.
nographic studies of children's social worlds Yet childrenwho areleft behindmay also be in
have not been successful in describing how a relativelypowerlessposition vis-a-vis theirpa-
children'spower, or lack of power, in theirfam- rentsin termsof migrationdecisions. In Mexico,
ilies and in other institutions relates to their "young individuals report that they have little
families' relative position in the society in influence on their family decision-makingpro-
which they live (Wrigley & Dreby). In this arti- cesses, with parents tending to make the most
cle, I considerthe power of childrenleft behind of the decisions"(Esteinou,2004, p. 25). In terms
in transnationalfamilies in relationto theirfam- of transnationalfamilies, children are often the
ilies' social position as transnationalmigrants.I last in the link to move abroad,in part because
explore how children in Mexican transnational of parents'concernsaboutthe dangersand costs
families are, on the one hand, the least powerful of children'smigrationas well as theirdesirethat
actors within their families, but on the other children be educated in their home country
hand, very influential,both as intendedrecipi- (Hondagneu-Sotelo,1994; Levitt,2001; Massey,
ents of the benefits their families garner via Alarcon, Durand,& Gonzalez, 1987). At times,
international migration and as independent they are sent back home when they misbehave
agents with divergentneeds that are intensified in the United States (Grasmuck& Pessar, 1991;
by the separationfrom parents. Levitt). In addition, as minors, children cannot
A growing body of researchon transnational receive parents'remittancesat banks or money
families describes some of the ways children transferagencies directlyandthereforemay have
who are left behind may be both powerful and little controlover the spendingof family resour-
powerless members of their families. For one, ces. Likechildrenof divorce,childrenin Mexican
as the primarybeneficiariesof theirparents'sac- transnationalfamilies may experiencea disjunc-
rifice, children's needs may influence families' ture between their symbolic role as dependents
migrationpatterns. Research suggests that at the and their actual ability to influence the distri-
aggregate level, children with migrant parents bution of their family's economic resources
may have advantagesovertheirnonmigrantpeers (Haugen,2005).
presumablyowing to the overall economic re- More importantly,researchsuggests thatchil-
turns of migration.For example, Mexican chil- drenwho areleft behindpay the emotionalprice
dren with a U.S. migrant in the family have of separationfromparentsoverthe long run(Lev-
bettergradesthanchildrenin nonmigranthouse- itt, 2001). Childrenof migrantmen may with-
holds, which is assumed to be related to an draw emotionallyfrom their fathers;childrenof
increasein overallfinancialresourcesfor families migrant mothers may feel they lack intimacy
(Kandel& Kao, 2001). Researchhas also found and affectionand have been abandoned(Salazar
child and infanthealth in Mexican communities Parrefias,2005). When young immigrantsarere-
to be better among families with U.S. migrants united with parents,family membersmay have
(Frank, 2005; Kanaiaupuni& Donato, 1999). a difficulttime adjustingto one anotherafterlong
Moreover,althoughthe regularityof remittances periodsof separation.The ensuingconflictis par-
may vary greatly among families from different ticularly distressful for adolescents who may
regions and with differentpostmigrationexperi- have trouble adaptingto their parentsauthority
ences, social networksdeveloped duringmigra- or communicatingwiththem(Artico,2003; Men-
tion prove to be a uniformlyimportantsource of jivar, 2000; Smith, Lalonde, & Johnson, 2004).
social capital for Mexican families. Cohen One study shows that levels of depression are
(2004) found that in Oaxaca "households that higher among immigrantchildrenin the United
lack the networkties andthe resourcesnecessary Stateswho experiencedseparationpriorto migra-
to create more ties throughparticipationare at tion than those who migrate with their parents
a severe disadvantage"(p. 140). Indeed,Kandel (Suarez-Orozco, Todorova, & Louie, 2002).
Smith (2006) found thatMexicanyouth who felt illuminate the ways minor children simulta-
extremely resentfulof migrantparentswho left neously areaffectedby and influencetheirfami-
them behind were often the most violent and lies' migrationtrajectories.
aggressive members of Mexican youth gangs.
Finally, the emotional costs of separationmay METHOD
affect children'seducationalprospects.Research
in Mexico suggests that although children in Datafromthis paperwerecollectedin whatcould
migrant families may do better in school than be describedas a multisitedethnography(Mar-
their counterparts,those with migrant parents cus, 1998); it includes researchwith 44 migrant
do worse academicallythanchildrenliving with parents in the United States and with 60 chil-
boththeirparents,have fewereducationalaspira- dren of migrant parents and 37 of their care-
tions, and are more likely to drop out of school givers in a number of sites in Mexico. In the
(Gioguli, 2004; Kandel, 1998; Kandel & Kao, United States, I interviewed21 mothersand 23
2001). fathersbetween 2003 and 2004 and conducted
In summary, existing research suggests that participant observation with Mexican immi-
childrenin Mexican transnationalfamilies may grantsin CentralNew Jersey, in and aroundthe
receive certain benefits from migration as city of New Brunswick where Mexican immi-
compared to their counterpartsin nonmigrant gration skyrocketedfrom 1.3% of the popula-
households, in the form of access to migration tion in 1990 to 12.6% in 2000 (U.S. Census
networksand greateroverall economic stability. Bureau,n.d.).
At the same time, as the least powerful family As I had lived and worked with Mexicans in
members, children who are left behind appear the city since 1997, I used personal contacts to
to be most averselyaffectedby thelong-termcon- identify transnationalparentsfor interviews. In
sequencesof separation.Missingis empiricalevi- addition,althoughI am not Latinaor Mexican,
dence as to how these children are active my 5-year-old son's fatheris a Mexican immi-
participantsin Mexican transnationalfamilies. grant.Raising a child with one foot in the Mexi-
Canthesepowerlesschildrenshapetheirfamily's can immigrantcommunityoften paved the way
future? for informal conversations and observations
To date,researchon transnationalfamilieshas aboutthe flexibilityandpermanenceof families'
not been ableto adequatelyaddressthe ways chil- child-carearrangements. Despitethesecontacts,I
dren who are left behind participatein transna- found separationto be a sensitive topic for many
tional migration. Most studies that include families. Interviews often brought up issues of
children's perspectives involve interviews with maritalconflictor otherpersonalproblems,such
either adult childrenor childrenwho have since as alcohol abuse. As such, only four parentsal-
been reunited with their parents(Artico, 2003; lowed me to tape-recordthem. In most cases, I
Olwig, 1999; Salazar Parrefias,2005; Suarez- took detailednotes duringinterviewsor, in some
Orozco et al., 2002). Whereashighly important cases, afterward.During semistructuredinter-
in determiningthelong-termconsequencesof sep- views, I asked parentsaboutwhy they migrated
aration,theycannotcapturethedynamicways that to the United States, the care arrangementsfor
children, while they are children, interactwith their childrenin Mexico, how often they are in
their parentsand other family members during touch with theirchildrenand in what ways, how
periodsof separation.Moreover,althoughrecent they feel aboutliving apart,and abouttheirplans
surveyresearchwith childrenin Mexico suggests for the future.
thatparents'migrationhas some adverseimplica- At the time of the interviews,all but three of
tions for children'sschooling (see Gioguli, 2004; those I interviewedwereundocumented.Migrant
Kandel, 1998; Kandel & Kao, 2001), it cannot mothersmostly workedin local fast-foodrestau-
describethe natureof the dynamicswithin fami- rants and factories; many were periodically
lies thatmay cause these difficulties. unemployedbecauseof slowdownsin factorypro-
Because of its unique research design, this duction, or child-care responsibilities.Migrant
studyrecordsthe changingrelationshipsbetween fathers generally worked in landscaping, con-
migrant parents, children, and their caregivers struction,or privaterestaurants.The men's edu-
over time while they areexperiencingseparation. cational backgroundin Mexico was mixed; six
I now turnto my data from interviewswith 141 had completedfewer than 6 years of schooling,
membersof Mexican transnationalfamilies that nine had between 7 and 9 years of schooling,
seven had completed high school, and two had schools in San Angel andthe surroundingregion
some college-level training.Prior experiencein and interviewed15 schoolteachersand adminis-
Mexico also variedand includedfarmers(eight), trators.In San Angel, I interviewed 11 children
governmentadministrators(three),a police offi- between the ages of 5 and 7, 8 childrenaged 8 -
cer, electricians(two), and one accountant.Most 10, 9 children aged 11 - 13, 10 children aged
of the motherswere not regularlyemployedout- 14 - 16, and 9 childrenage 17 and older.
side of the home in Mexico. Two motherswere Second, I met 12 families of parents I had
college educated.With a few exceptions,the pa- already interviewed in the United States. Four
rents I interviewedhad migratedfrom the three- families lived in San Angel; visiting otherfami-
state region of Oaxaca, Guerrero,and Puebla. lies involved tripsto small towns andlargecities
The mixed socioeconomic statusof respondents within the three-stateregion of Oaxaca, Puebla,
is not surprisinggiven Ibarraranand Lubotsky's andGuerrero.Family selection was basedin part
(2005) findings that migrants from areas with on logistics andin parton opportunity.I included
lower returnson education(such as Oaxaca)are in the sample,the fourmaintypes of transnational
likely to be morebalancededucationallyspeaking families I found in interviews with migrant
thanthosefromotherareaswheremigrantsmaybe parents:(a) father-onlymigrants(threefamilies),
less educatedthannonmigrants.At the time of the (b) single-mother migrants (three families),
interviews,14 mothersand nine fathershad chil- (c) marriedparents in the United States (three
dren in the United States as well as in Mexico. families), and (d) divorced or separatedparents
Most mothershad lived apartfrom theirchildren in the United States (threefamilies). Notably, in
in Mexico for between I and4 years;most fathers five families, parents and children have since
had been away between5 and 9 years. been reunited.Work with these 12 family con-
Although in what follows I referto interviews stellationsprovidesa rich sourceof ethnographic
with parents,this articlehinges on datathatwere dataon how migrationstrategies,familyrelation-
collected in Mexico where I traveledon a Ful- ships, and children's educational outcomes
bright grant between 2004 and 2005. I rely on change over time. Moreover, triangulatingthe
two differentsamples in Mexico for interviews perspectives of multiple family members helps
with a total of 60 childrenof U.S. migrants(24 to overcome the limitationsof self-reportsnoted
preadolescents,24 adolescents, and 12 young by other family researchers(see Hansen, 2005;
adults) and 37 of their caregivers, most often Lareau,2003).
grandparents. When interviewing minor children, I used
First,I elicited an independentsampleof chil- a structuredinterviewschedule.It includedques-
dren whose parentsworked in the United States tions about why their parents migrated to the
and theircaregiversin a small town of approxi- United States, what they know of their parents'
mately 2,500 residents in the lower Mixtec life abroad,if they wantedtheirparentsto leave
region of Oaxaca, which I call San Angel. It is and if they want them to return,frequencyand
an area of high out-migration. In the early contentof phone contactand monetaryremittan-
1980s, it was estimatedthat of every 10 Mixte- ces, how they get along with theirsubstitutecare-
cans, 3 permanentlyleft the region, 4 were tem- giver, and theirown aspirations,educationaland
porary migrants,and only 3 stayed in the area otherwise,for the future.Questionsvariedsome-
(Velasco Ortiz, 1995). Surveys I conducted at whataccordingto the age of the child.Interviews
the local middle school found thatin 2004, 96% with caregiverswere open-endedinformalcon-
of students had some relatives in the United versations,which seemed to put the older resi-
States and 65% had members of their nuclear dents in town most at ease. I asked caregivers
family (parents and siblings) abroad. Twenty- abouttheirrelationshipswith the childrenas well
eight percentof studentshad one or both parents as theirobservationsregardingchildren'sdevel-
in the United States. opment, such as school performance, since
I used a snowballsampleto locateparticipants. parents'departure.As in the United States,inter-
As I spent 7 months living in San Angel, I was views were tape-recordedonly with childrenand
able to speak informally with many residents caregivers' permission. I taped interviews with
about U.S. migration,witness changes in town 18 childrenand no caregivers.I wrote notes on
when migrantsreturnedhome during the holi- all interviews and relied on detailed notes that
days, andobserveaspectsof the cultureof migra- included verbatim quotes for interviews I did
tion in everyday experiences. I also visited 23 not tape.
mother,mama.Buthe knows thatI amhis mother they returnedfromthe United States. "He would
because he says so." Nydia also explained that tell his uncles that he wasn't going to love us
her 4-year-old son in Mexico calls her mother when we came home." Whereas naming was
mom but that "He doesn't deny [thatI am] his most distressingformothers,fathersalso felt dis-
mother. He knows that I have my place [in his regardedby children'sindifference.Forexample,
life]." Althoughbiological motherswere willing when I interviewed Daniel, whose three U.S.-
to sharethe name of motherwith theirchildren's bornchildrenwent to live with theirgrandmother
primary caregiver, when children pointedly in Mexico 2 years before, he explained, "They
avoided acknowledgingtheirbiological parents, don't rememberme. You don't know what that
mothers felt offended. Naming demarcatesthe is. It is hard. They get [me] confused with
emotionalcosts of mothers'absences. a brotherof mine; they thinkhe is theirdad."
Notably, namingmarkedthe emotionaltoll of Many families describedfeelings of discom-
mothers' absences but not that of fathers. fort as temporary.In fact, some researchershave
Although children often said they have two fa- suggestedthatthis distressuponreunionwith pa-
thers, no fathersreportedtaking offense at their rentsis typicalamongyoung childrenandis short
children'snamingpractices.As SalazarParrefias lived (Bowlby, 1973 as cited in Smith et al.,
(2005) found among children of Filipino mi- 2004). But at age 30, Paulo still recalled the
grants,a mother'sabsencehas a differentmean- uneasiness he felt when his father returnedto
ing from that of a father. The use of names as visit. "Whenhe returnedaftera lot of time, well,
a sign of affectionappearsto challengemothers' I felt reallyuncomfortable,as if he was a stranger,
commitmentto a maternalidentity. for the very reason that we didn't really have
a relationshipbecause I was little when he left."
Feigning indifference.Another way preadoles- Paulo's father left when he was 11 years old
cent childrenexpressedthe emotionaleffects of and afterjust 4 years, when Paulo was 15, his
separationwas by feigning indifference about fatherstartedto visit Mexico annually.Paulosaid
theirbiologicalparents.Althoughchildrenspoke thatalthoughhe gets alongwith his father,he still
frequentlyto theirmigrantparentson the phone, felt uncomfortablearoundhim. When Paulovis-
they often communicatedan "out of sight, out of ited with his parents,I watchedhow he was out-
mind mentality." wardly affectionate with his mother yet shied
Many times childrenacted uninterestedwhen away from his father's company even after he
their parentscalled home. According to Nydia, described how importantthe father figure is to
"The only thing thatmakes me feel badly about him duringour interview.The indifferencethat
my son is when he doesn't want to talk to me. children experience when reunited with their
Sometimesthereis a little bit of distancebetween parents may have long-term consequences for
us andhe doesn't wantto talk."Nydia's son was parent-childrelationships,a finding supported
just four at the time of our interview.Lilia cared by researchwith adult children separatedfrom
for her sister's 9-year-old son after his mother parentsas minors (Olwig, 1999; Smith et al.).
migrated.She said that he often refused to talk Like Paulo,all the childrenI interviewed,even
to his motheron the phone. "I didn'twantmy sis- childrenwhose parentsleft themwhile they were
terto thinkthatI was tellinghim not to talkto her. very young indicated that their parents were
So sometimesI would trickhim to get him to talk importantto them. They generallysaid thatthey
to heron the phone ... My sisterwould cry when missed theirparents,loved them,or wantedthem
he didn't want to talk to her." to come home. Even childrenwho said they did
Childrenacted most indifferentwhen parents not love one or both of their parentssaid they
came home to visit (see also Schmalzbauer, missed them sometimesjust because they were
2004). Even whenchildrenanxiouslyawaitedpa- not around.Thus, when preadolescentchildren
rents'return,once they arrived,children'sbehav- act indifferenttowardtheirparents,whetherover
ior indicated to parents that migrationwas not thephoneor whenparentsreturnedto visit, it sug-
withouta price. Anabel was only away fromher gests not thatparentsareunimportantto thembut
threechildrenfor a year,butwhen she came back ratherthatthey feel theirparentshad not lived up
her 5-year-old twins hid from her. "They said, to theirexpectations.
since you left, we don't know you anymore."
Flor said that her son spreadthe rumorthat he Parental authoritydeferred.Preadolescentchil-
was not going to acceptherandherhusbandwhen dren almost always defer to their substitute
of Oaxaca (see also Esteinou, 2004, p. 18). It doesn't matter,becauseat this age they startques-
seems thatthis culturaltendencytowardpermis- tioning things."
sive parenting affords preadolescent children A commonly held belief is that conflict
greaterinfluencein decisionsthanis typicalwhen between parentsand childrenincreasesdramati-
parentsand childrenlive together. cally during adolescence as a byproduct of
In response, some parents I met returnedto puberty (Laursen, Coy, & Collins, 1998).
Mexico to try to win their childrenover. Betsy, Research suggests, however, that althoughcer-
for example, explained that she had wanted to tain sources of conflict may increase,such as fi-
send for her 10-year-old daughterLily, which nances, othersources of conflict, such as chores
wouldcost approximately$3,000. Lily, however, or appearance,may actuallydecreaseduringado-
said no. "I didn't insist because she has to make lescence (Galambos & Almeida, 1992). I have
the decision herself." Instead,Betsy returnedto found three types of experiences to be salient
San Angel for a 3-monthvisit whereI met andin- amongthe 24 adolescentsI interviewedin Mexi-
terviewed her. This came at significant cost as can transnationalfamilies that are distinct from
Betsy had no income duringthis period, had to those observed among the younger children:
finance her return home, and-if all went as ambiguouslines of authority,actingout, anddif-
planned-would pay forthe undocumentedcross- ficulties at school. Althoughthese three areasof
ing of both herself and her daughter.Similarly, conflict may not be all that differentfrom those
Zelia went back to San Angel for her son, Juan experienced by Mexican children living with
Luis. On the last day of her 3-week visit, 7-year- theirparents,childrenleft behinddescribedthese
old JuanLuis decidedthathe preferredto stay in conflicts as being uniquely shaped by parental
Mexico. Zelia returnedto the United Stateswith- absence.
out him. When I interviewedher a few months
laterin theUnitedStates,she waspregnantandstill Ambiguouslines of authority.Most adolescentsI
saidsheplannedto go backforJuanLuis,although met exercisedrelativelyhigh levels of freedomin
she was unsureof how she wouldfinanciallyman- their daily activities while living with substitute
age reunitingwith her son in the future. caregivers.A common patternin Mexican trans-
In summary, when preadolescent children nationalfamiliesis for caregiversin Mexico to be
make parentsfeel badly for being away, parents more lenient with young childrenthan parents.
may make significantefforts, involving substan- Dofia Eva explained,for example, "I have them
tial economic resources for low-wage workers really spoiled. Anything they ask for, if I have
in the United States, to make arrangementsto the money, they get it." Once childrenbecome
send for their children. In this way, young teenagers, however, caregivers find it difficult
children's emotional reactions to their parents' to retainauthorityover the children.A neighbor
absences often have significant economic and friend of Nicandra's two teenage children
repercussions. told me, "[W]hen their grandmotherwas here,
the boys would trick her. Once she was asleep
Adolescence they would sneak out. They basically have been
doing theirown thingforyears."DofiaLiliacom-
Whereas younger children's responses to their plained that her 10-year-old nephew "started
parents'absences subtlyremindmigrantparents going out a lot and would get into trouble. He
aboutwhatthey aremissing, olderchildrengrow wouldn't listen to me." Don Bernandosaid that
more outwardlyresentful.Fifteen year old Gre- raising his grandchildrenwas not like raising
gorio, who has lived with his grandparentshis his own children. "With my grandchildrenit is
entire life, told me that his parents' absence is different. They do what they want." His wife,
harderto deal with than when he was younger Dofia Fernanda,agreed. "I talk to them and they
"Because before I didn't feel anything . . . and just don't listen to me."
now I understanda lot of things." Accordingto Whenteenagersfindthatcaregiversarestricter
DofiaBelinda,who has raiseda totalof 10 grand- during adolescence, they often turn to their
childrenat differentpoints, the change occurs at migrantparentswho are seen to be more lenient.
about age 10. "Thatis when they startto figure Tina andBrian'saunttold me thatauthoritycon-
things out," she told me. "I always tried to tell flicts occurredbecause her mother,Dofia Silvia,
my grandchildrenthe good things about their is strictand does not let the 13- and 15-year-olds
parents, and not talk badly about them. But it go out. Tina often complainedto her fatherover
the phone andhe would tell hernot to worry,that that over the past year, she startedhanging out
he would talk to her grandmother.Accordingto with the wrong crowd at school. "It's just that,
the aunt: you know, I started hanging out with some
friends who have lots of problems, like me."
Theirfatheris far away andreallydoesn'tknow She startedcuttingclass and her gradesmidyear
what is going on here. So he can say, be nice to plummetedandshe was nearlysuspended.When
the kids, let them go out, just so they all get I interviewedTina thatpast September,she was
along. But, he is not here dealing with them.
And, if the kids get in trouble,like Briangetting quick to answer my question about what made
some girl pregnant,he will surely blame my her miss her migrantparents."I miss my moth-
motherfornot watchingoverhimenough. er's affectionandof my father,I miss thathe cor-
rects me."
Dofia Fernandaalso explained, "Their mother
and fatherhave the last word, not us. These girls Acting out. Time and time again, caregiversand
ask for permissionfromthemover thereandthen teachersI intervieweddescribedbehavioraldiffi-
they leave." In effect, teenagers used unclear culties with childrenof migrantparents(see Lev-
lines of authoritybetweenparentsandcaregivers itt, 2001). Accordingto Dofia Beatriz,motherto
to their advantage. 12, 7 of whom lived with her when her husband
Interviewswith parentssuggestthatseparation went to work in the United States for 2 years,
makes parents attempt to win their teenagers "Everythingwas destroyed[afterhe left]. Every-
respectvia friendshipratherthanparentalauthor- one was sadanddidn'teat well anymore.Some of
ity. According to migrant Wendy, a widowed them were insolent and rude to me. I think that
mother of three in Mexico, "My mother is the they lacked a paternalfigure." Dofia Fatimaex-
strictvoice andI tryto be a littlebitmorecompas- plained that when she went to the United States
sionate and understanding."Salvador told me for 3 years, she left two sons in San Angel. The
thatwhen he calls home, his 19- and 17-year-olds younger boy studied and even went on to high
say they want to go to the disco, but that their school, but her 14-year-oldson droppedout of
motherwill not let them. "LaterI talkto my wife middle school. "He would go anddrinkandthey
about it and tell her to let them." And migrant would tell me thatthey foundhim drunkhanging
father,Quirino,explained, "I try to be my son's out on the hill all the time ... thenhe went to live
friend." with his girlfriend'sparents. He got her preg-
If adolescentsexercised flexibility because of nant." To this day, the young man lives with
the ambiguityof authorityand migrantparents' his in-laws and is known to be a drunk.
eagerness to please from a distance, they were Nicandra's 16-year-old son, Miguel, articu-
not particularlyhappy about it. Rather, they lated the unique feelings of abandonmentwhen
describedexperiencesof increasedautonomyas childrenmisbehave while parentswork abroad.
somethingundesirablethatwould not have been AlthoughNicandradid not describeMiguel hav-
possible if parentswerepresent.Cindy,a 16-year- ing problemswhen she migrated,he was left back
old daughterto a single migrantmother,has been twice and droppedout at age 14. Miguel attrib-
in trouble for fighting at school and often uted most of his personalfailuresto his mother's
disobeyedherauntwhenshewentoutwithherboy- migration. For example, Miguel told me he
friend.She said, "Forme it is very exceptional- startedto smoke at the age of 12 when his mother
it is something really painful for me that my left, although he has more recently beaten the
motherisn't here with me." Cindy describedher habit. "I felt desperatebecauseI lived alone with
mother's discipline in a positive light, as some- my grandmother,only, and my brother.And I
thing she missed. startedthe habitbecause, many times, you know
it chills you out, it calms your nerves, and all
Beforewhenwe wouldcomebackfromschool, that." Miguel joined a neighborhoodgang and
well,she washereandthenaftersheleft,there was involved in simple assaults,though he was
wasno onehere.Beforeshewouldscoldus and
hit us andnow thereis no one aroundto scold or nevercaught."Tome it didn'tmatter.Not having
hitus whenwe comehomefromschool..,. now my mother,I felt strange.I felt like what did it
I amalone. matter.If I saw a personstaringat me it was like,
what do you want? I would look for a fight."
Yet Cindywas not alone in herexperience.When Miguel said he was different when his mother
I interviewedTinaat age 13 in April,she admitted returnedto visit. "I droppedall of this when she
[mom]came back. She came back and I stopped. ures with local childrenwithout migrantparents
Having her, I don't feel like smoking or doing are not available, this finding is supportedby
things thatI am not supposedto do." other researchin Mexico that describeschildren
Another mark of misbehavior families of migrantparents,particularlyboys, as having
described was older siblings abusing younger a greaterpropensityto drop out of school than
siblings. When 17-year-old Angela's mother childrenof nonmigrants(Gioguli, 2004; Kandel
joined her fatherin the United States,she moved & Kao, 2001). Moreover,thispatternof problems
into her grandparents'house andbecamerespon- contradictsthe expectationsof most parentswho
sible for washing her 11- and 13-year-old sib- often echoed Angelo who told me, "My idea is
lings' clothes, cleaning the house, and washing not to live here [U.S.]. It has always been to have
the dishes. Hergrandparents complainedthatAn- a betterlife there [Mexico]. It doesn't matterto
gela oftentook out herfrustrationon her siblings, me that I sacrificethe present-I want my chil-
hittingthem inappropriately. Faviola, auntto 11- drento have a careerin Mexico." Given theirpa-
year-oldEric, 8-year-oldEdwin, and 7-year-old rents' expectations,why do childrenleft behind
Orlandodescribeda similardynamicamong the have such troublein school?
three siblings since their mother left for the Interviewssuggest that there are four reasons
United States, a year earlier. that childrenof migrantparentshave difficulties
in school. First,many children,at all age levels,
You know, the oldest one feels very responsible experiencedlow levels of depressionafter their
for the othertwo. It is as if he takeson the role of parents'departures.Brian,in the 10thgrade,ex-
the father. He hits his brothers ... The other day,
plainedthatwhen his motherleft while he was in
oh how it mademe wantto cry ... I heardsome 7th grade, he did not feel like studying much
shouts from theirroom and I went to see what
they weredoing.The littleone [Orlando]was on
because he missed her. "It lasted about three,
the floor,doubledover andholdinghis stomach. no, I think two months." For some, the effects
The middleone [Edwin]was cryingthathis older of depressionon schooling were temporary,yet
brother[Eric]was beatingup the little one. But for most of the teenagersI interviewed,a drop
Orlandowas crying because he said his older
brothersaid, "I've hadenoughof you." The old- in performanceafter a parent's departurehad
er one [Eric]came and said that "it is just that long-term ramifications. Seventeen-year-old
I've had enoughof everythingme and me all of Roberto,who describedhimself as a very sensi-
the time.I love my brothera lot, butI get tired." tive person, told me he felt sad when he was 12
and his fatherleft for the United States. A year
Childrenof migrantparentsmay act out for sev- later, he droppedout of middle school. I asked,
eralreasons.Unlike childrenliving with theirpa- "What happened? Did you want to go to the
rents,however,childrenin transnationalfamilies U.S. with your father?""No," he answered."I
may feel that no one cares about what they are missed him. I didn't want to go to the U.S., but
doing. Although most had concernedcaregivers I simply didn't feel like studying anymore."
and parents, during adolescence, children of After 2 years,Roberto'sfathercame home. Rob-
U.S. migrantswantedto feel accountableto their erto went back to school, graduatedand, when I
parents and felt that physical separation pre- met him, was in his first year of high school. A
vented this. In addition,childrenof migrantpa- few monthslater,Robertodroppedout of school
rents may feel increased responsibility-for again. Cynthiaalso droppedout of school for no
themselves and their younger siblings-after apparentreason, much to her migrant fathers'
theirparentsleave. Some teenagerstook out the chagrin, despite claiming to me that the work
pressureof this increasedresponsibilityby acting was not hardand that she did well in school. In
aggressively. these cases and others, depressionexpressed as
apathyat school led to a permanentend to their
School performance. Aside from behavioral schooling.
problems,a more widespreaddifficulty families Second, when teenagers misbehave, it may
reportedwas in-school performance.Forty-one directlyaffect theirschool performance.School-
percent of children over age 14 I interviewed teachers I interviewed often complained of
droppedout of school in the middle of theirstud- behavioralproblemsamong childrenof U.S. mi-
ies, and 27% of those over age 7 had been left grants.When askedhow migrationaffectedtheir
back in school at least once. Some had been left schools, the most frequentresponse was disci-
back multiple times. Although comparisonfig- pline. School employees used words such as
Briannasaid that she missed her mother-who in the United States. She had dreamedof return-
she claimed not to love-most when she is at ing to Mexico once her childrenwere professio-
school, especiallyon May 10th.She told me they nals and would be able to supporther through
have a programat school and a formal dinner.I old age.
asked, "Do you go with your grandmother?" Thus, despitemigrantparents'hopes thattheir
"No," Briannaresponded, "She doesn't like to children will become professionals in Mexico
go to those kinds of things at school." Because with the supportof theirremittances,older chil-
the schools childrenattendareorganizedaround, dren appearedto often end up working in the
and expect, parentalinvolvement, parents' ab- United States like their parents. Parents must
sences are especially hardfor children. adjusttheirplans accordingly.For example, 16-
In summary,like other researchon child mi- year-oldMiguel, who had droppedout of school
grants,I suggestthatadolescenceis the age where the yearbefore, told me thathe hoped to join his
effects of migration-even when childrendo not mother in the United States because his salary
actually move-are most pronounced (Artico, working in a supermarketwas much less that
2003; Myers, 1999; Smith et al., 2004). Teen- what he calculated he could earn abroad. His
agers are resentful of their parents' absences. mother resisted, but told me later, "This was
They turnambiguityover parentalauthoritywith not my plan ... I always thoughtI would work
separationto greaterpersonalfreedom,yet they until I could go back there.But now I guess that
do not definethis as an advantage;not havingpa- all of us will end up here."
rents'aroundto scold themmadeadolescentsfeel Migrationseemed to become a viable option
their parents' absence more poignantly. More- for many older children who described their
over, authorityconflicts and resentmentbleed resentmenttowardtheirmigrantparents'as wan-
into school performance.Teenagers may have ing withtime.Accordingto 19-year-oldMarta,"I
difficulties being successful academically and was 13 when I started to feel bad about my
lack extra social support they need from area mother. I saw all my friends talking abouttheir
schools. dad or their mom and what they did together
and because I didn't have them, I felt really
Accessing their families' migration resources. bad." When I asked her if she still feels this
As is trueamongyoungerchildren,teenagers're- way, Marta explained, "I changed-I stopped
actions to theirparents'absences may affect the feeling so bad. It doesn't affect me anymore."
distribution of resources within families. For Although many do not entirelyforgive their pa-
one, when teenagers have behavior problems, rents, once childrenmatured,they stopped feel-
some parentsmake the significantexpense to re- ing so distraughtand they began to understand
turnhome andto deal with theirchildren.Nican- theirparents'actionsbetter.Indeed,scholarssug-
dra, for example, returnedtwice in response to gest that parent-childconflict decreases incre-
one of her son's problems,totalinga cost of over mentally throughout the adolescent years
$7,000. She workedat a factorywhen I firstmet (Laursenet al., 1998). When the emotionalhold
her, earningapproximately$300/week. of separationloosens, childrenof migrantparents
In addition, migrant parents often heavily often choose to take advantageof their parents'
invest in their children's educationalexpenses, migrationnetworks.
especially for high school and college when the
costs of schooling increaseconsiderablyin Mex-
ico. Lauraandherhusbandwent into debtto send
theiroldest son to studyarchitecturein theuniver- DISCUSSION
sity; he dropped out to migrate to the United This study shows that children left behind in
States when he learned of their sacrifice, and Mexican transnational families are deeply
when interviewed worked in landscaping in affected by and vulnerableto parentalabsences.
New Jersey. Similarly, migrant mother, Paula, Like other researchthat highlights the negative
workedtwo full-timejobs at fast-foodrestaurants consequences of parental absence for children
to be able to send both Cindy and Mateoto a pri- (Artico, 2003; Salazar Parrefias,2005; Smith
vate school with her remittances. She also et al., 2004; Suarez-Orozcoet al., 2002), findings
financed Mateo's first year of college, only to suggest thatchildrenleft behindmay be the most
have both childrendrop out in the midst of their disadvantaged members of Mexican transna-
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