How can I know if I have been reborn?

its meaning is not about physical birth, but its all about experiencing a spiritual
renewal. To be born again in this sense is not an actual physical rebirth, but it
indicates a spiritual rebirth.
Spiritual rebirth occurs when a person places faith in Jesus’ death and
resurrection and receives God’s forgiveness of sin (1 Peter 1:3; 1 John 2:2).
Salvation is the state of being reborn, as Jesus says, “Very truly I tell you, no
one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again” (John 3:3).
Being reborn spiritually is like a caterpillar undergoing metamorphosis and
emerging from a chrysalis as a new creature. Salvation is a spiritual
metamorphosis with radical consequences, transforming believers’ lives. When
one is born again, he or she is a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).
But how can we know that we have been spiritually reborn? Is there a
certain experience we should seek? A certain feeling we should have? What’s the
proof of the new birth?
Paul asserts that we can and should test ourselves on whether we are in the
faith (2 Corinthians 13:5). John says that we can know that we have eternal life
(1 John 5:13). God’s Word gives believers the assurance of salvation and
provides guidelines about how we can know we have been reborn.
You can know you have been reborn if you have placed faith in Jesus
Christ. Romans 10:9–11 says, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’
and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your
mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.
As Scripture says, ‘Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.’” The
only requirement for salvation is faith in the work of Jesus’ death and
resurrection (John 6:29). Nothing and no one else can save us, not even our
own good works (Acts 4:12; Ephesians 2:1–10). Once a person is saved by
placing faith in Jesus, then he or she can be assured of salvation (John 10:28).
This is the promise of God.
To have faith in Jesus means to trust Him. We place our faith in Jesus when we
recognize that we are separated from God and cannot resolve that problem
ourselves, when we understand that God has provided the payment for our sins
through Jesus’ death, and when we turn to Him in repentance and belief.
Faith in Jesus is not simply intellectual assent to the facts of His existence, His
deity, His death on the cross, or His bodily resurrection. Rather, faith in Jesus is
a heart-level trust that He is who He says He is and that He has
accomplished what He says He has accomplished. It is belief that salvation is
by God’s grace; it is reliance on the risen Lord for that salvation.
You can know you have been reborn if you bear the fruit of the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22–23 lists the qualities that believers will demonstrate as a result of
being reborn by the Holy Spirit: “Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (NLT). The work of the Holy Spirit in
your life is evidence of rebirth, as the Holy Spirit indwells you (John 14:16–17; 1
John 4:13) and controls you (Romans 8:9).
You can know you have been reborn if you bear marks of a changed life.
People will notice a change in the life of the follower of Christ because life before
salvation will look different from life in Christ. No longer will the person reborn by
the Spirit want to live in sin; children of God do not desire to habitually and
without remorse partake in the deeds of darkness (Ephesians 5:5–8; 1
Thessalonians 5:5).
Instead, believers will seek to imitate Christ: “If you know that he is righteous, you
may be sure that everyone who practices righteousness has been born of him” (1
John 2:29, ESV). Of course, no one is perfect on this side of heaven, but
Christians have been saved to do good works for the Lord, and those works are
one evidence of their rebirth (Ephesians 2:10).
You can know you have been reborn if you demonstrate love for your
neighbor. Jesus told His disciples that love would set them apart as His
followers (John 13:34–35). Having love for fellow believers is a mark of a reborn
person (1 John 4:20). Showing love to others, including one’s enemies (Matthew
5:44; Mark 12:31), is a quality of someone who has been born again.
Regardless of whether we remember the exact day, month, and year of our
salvation, we can be assured of being reborn because of our trust in Jesus and
His continued work in our lives. Because He never changes, Jesus can be
trusted as the means and assurance of salvation (Hebrews 13:8).
How should we live after we’re born again?
The birth of a baby is a wonderful event. But it’s only the beginning of the baby’s
growth and development.
In the same way, being born again is just the beginning of our Christian life. So
what should we do after we’re born again?
After being born, a baby’s primary need is to breathe and eat. A newborn doesn’t
need teachings or textbooks on how to behave. It needs air and nourishment. As
long as it receives the proper nourishment, it grows spontaneously, without any
striving or effort. The baby simply breathes and eats, and thus grows through all
the stages of life into adulthood.
It’s the same with our Christian life. Once we’re born again, our most important
need is to spiritually breathe and be nourished so this new life in our spirit
can grow. We can do this by praying, calling on the Lord’s name, and
spending time in God’s Word. As we grow, we’ll express the life of God more
and more in our daily living.
So, all of us, let's ask ourselves the question today: am I really a born again
person?
Do I have these Spiritual renewals? attitudes, behaviors, like: fruit of the
Spirit. love for your neighbor, faith & trust in Jesus Christ & a changed life.