ANGER ANGER:
Urge to defend/
FAMILY
PROMPTING EVENTS
OF ANGER
• Someone/thing gets in the way of
something you want.
• You/someone you care about is attacked,
hurt, insulted or threated.
family insulting friends, people I trust/rely on
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insigh
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INTERNAL (BODY)
EXPERIENCES OF ANGER
• Muscles, jaw, or fists clenching.
• Feeling hot; face flush; blood
boiling.
• Heart racing.
• Wanting to hurt, hit, and/or throw
things.
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Annoyed
Frustrated
Irritated
Mad
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irrational
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provoking
protect myself/others
from an attack.
Furious
Grouchy
Livid
Fuming ______________
defensive
EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF ANGER
I ___________________
dont care about your feelings
• “This is unfair.”
• “This is not my fault.” __________________
“It SHOULD/N’T be thiszway.”
Who you are is wrong
•
• “I’m right. You’re wrong.” __________________
I only care about what matters to me
• Replaying the prompting _______________ I
event over and over.
OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF ANGER
• Frowning; furrowed brow;
mean look.
• Yelling; swearing; screaming.
• Using sarcasm; biting humor.
• Criticizing others or complaining.
• Threatening or attacking others.
• Storming away; slamming doors.
• Brooding; pouting; sulking.
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 FEAR FEAR:
Belief that someone/
Jumpy
Horrified
Worried
Uneasy
______________
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FAMILY something is
dangerous.
Panicked
Shocked
Startled
Scared ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF FEAR

OF FEAR
• “Someone is going to get ___________________
hurt/die.” __________________
• Your/someone you care about’s life, • “I’m going to fail.” z
• “I’m going to lose __________________
health, or well-being is threatened.
• Being in the same/similar situation where someone/thing important to _______________
those things have happened before. me.”
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ACTIONS OF FEAR

INTERNAL (BODY) • Quickly looking around/vigilance.

EXPERIENCES OF FEAR • Shaking; trembling.
• Talking fast/nervously.
• Crying or whimpering; pleading.
• Not able to catch your breath/ • Fleeing; walking/running away.
breathe slowly or deeply. • Freezing/not moving or talking.
• Fast heartbeat. • Avoiding/hiding from what you
• Feeling nauseous; “butterflies” in fear.
your stomach.
• Wanting to run away/avoid things.
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 DISGUST DISGUST:
Revulsion/disapproval
Grossed out
Nauseated
Uncivilized
Repulsive
______________
______________
FAMILY of something
unpleasant/offensive.
Nasty
Hateful
Sickening
Vulgar ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF DISGUST

OF DISGUST
• “That is disgusting.” ___________________
• “This is toxic.” __________________
• Something near you/someone else could • “I am/They are ugly.” z
• “My/their feelings, thoughts, __________________
poison/contaminate you/someone else.
• Someone/thing you strongly dislike is in or behaviors are immoral.” _______________
your personal space.
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF DISGUST

INTERNAL (BODY) • Cringing; spitting something out;

EXPERIENCES OF DISGUST gagging; throwing up.
• Treating others/talking with
disrespect; sarcastic tone.
• Feeling sick; nauseated. • Rejecting or avoiding
• Urge to gag or throw up. something/others.
• Feeling unable to drink or eat. • Cleaning yourself/spaces;
• Feeling dirty or unclean. showering; washing up.
• Wanting to shower or get clean.
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 ENVY ENVY:
Wanting something/
Envious
Bitter
Dissatisfied
Greedy
______________
______________
FAMILY someone that
someone else has.
Wanting
Longing
Petty
Desiring ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF ENVY

OF ENVY
• “I deserve what they have.” ___________________
• “I’m so unlucky.” __________________
• Someone else gets/has something you • z
“No one appreciates me.”
• “I would really like/need…” __________________
don’t (e.g., material, reward, praise).
• You are not part of the social group you _______________
want to be apart of.
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF ENVY

INTERNAL (BODY) • Frowning, furrowed brow.

EXPERIENCES OF ENVY • Taking actions to get what you
want/improve yourself.
• Saying mean things/trying to
• Muscles tightening; feeling rigid. make others look bad.
• Having an urge to get even. • Avoiding those who have what
• Wanting others to lose what they you want.
have/have bad luck.
• Feeling motivated to improve
yourself.
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 JEALOUSY JEALOUSY:
Concern that someone
Jealous
Cautious
Possessive
Competitive
______________
______________
FAMILY wants/ will take what I
have.
Clingy
Defensive
Suspicious
Self-Protective ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF JEALOUSY

OF JEALOUSY
• “They want what I have.” ___________________
• “I must not mean anything to __________________
• An important relationship/object is in them.” z
• “They are going to break __________________
danger of being damaged or lost.
• Someone is threatening to take up/stop being friends with _______________
something important away from you. me.”
____________________________
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF HAPPINESS

INTERNAL (BODY) • Violent behavior/threats.

EXPERIENCES OF JEALOUSY • Attempting to control the person
you are afraid of losing.
• Suspicious behavior; spying;
• Muscles tense; teeth clenched. interrogating the person;
• Lump in your throat. questioning their whereabouts.
• Unable to catch your breath. • Clingy behavior; acting
• Feeling suspicious, helpless, or like dependent on someone.
you need to be in control.
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 HAPPINESS HAPPINESS:
Pleasure from having
Joyful
Amused
Calm
Optimistic
______________
______________
FAMILY or getting what I want
or need.
Delighted
Excited
Eager
Content ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF HAPPINESS

OF HAPPINESS
• “Everything is great!” ___________________
• “Phew! I’m so happy things __________________
• Things turn out better than you thought. worked out.” z
• “This is the best!” __________________
• Getting what you want/worked hard for.
• Receiving praise, love, or affection. • “They like me.” _______________
• Feeling like you belong.
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ACTIONS OF HAPPINESS

INTERNAL (BODY) • Smiling, giggling, or laughing.

EXPERIENCES OF HAPPINESS • Using an enthusiastic or excited
voice.
• Being talkative/talking a lot.
• Feeling excited, energetic, or • Telling others how you feel.
active. • Jumping up and down.
• Feeling calm, peaceful, or open. • Hugging people.
• Feeling warm. • Acting silly.
• Urge to smile, giggle, or laugh.
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 LOVE LOVE:
Affection for or
Caring
Kindness
Sympathetic
Fond of
______________
______________
FAMILY attraction to
someone/ something.
Like
Interested
Passionate
Appreciative ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF HAPPINESS

OF HAPPINESS
• “They like/love me.” ___________________
• “I like/love them.” __________________
• A person gives you what you need, want, • z
“They are attractive/hot!”
• “They’re a great person.” __________________
or value.
• Being around someone/something you • “I can depend on them.” _______________
like/have fun with.
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF HAPPINESS

INTERNAL (BODY) • Smiling; giggling.

EXPERIENCES OF HAPPINESS • Saying, “I love/like you.”
• Making/sharing eye contact with
someone.
• Feeling energized or happy. • Holding hands; hugging.
• Butterflies in stomach. • Doing nice things for the other
• Feeling calm, relaxed, or trusting. person.
• Urge to be close to someone/show • Daydreaming; fantasizing.
affection.
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 SADNESS SADNESS:
Distress from not
Disappointed
Hurt
Depressed
Miserable
______________
______________
FAMILY having or getting what
I want or need.
Rejected
Lonely
Hopeless
Grief ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF SADNESS

OF SADNESS
• “I’ll never see them again.” ___________________
• “That will never happen __________________
• Losing someone or something important. for me.” z
• “This is hopeless.” __________________
• Things are not the way you wanted or
expected them to be. • “I’m the worst – I suck.” _______________
• Being rejected or excluded.
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ACTIONS OF SADNESS

INTERNAL (BODY) • Looking down; eyes drooping.

EXPERIENCES OF SADNESS • Frowning; not smiling.
• Eyes watering; crying; sobbing.
• Saying sad things; listening to sad
• Feeling tired or low in energy. music; watching sad things.
• Feeling “hollow” or empty. • Moving slowly.
• Difficulty swallowing/breathing. • Avoiding activities; withdrawing
• Urges to cry, withdraw from from other people; not talking.
others, or stay in bed all day.
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 SHAME SHAME:
Concern others will
Shame
Disgraced
Foolish
Humiliated
______________
______________
FAMILY judge/reject me for
what I did/who I am.
Shy
Embarrassed
Regret
Self-conscious ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF SHAME

OF SHAME
• “I am not good enough.” ___________________
• “I am a loser/stupid.” __________________
• Being rejected by others.
z
• “Something is wrong with
me.” __________________
• Believing you fall short of group standards.
• Having emotions/experiences that have been • “No one will ever love me.” _______________
invalidated by others.
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF SHAME

INTERNAL (BODY) • Looking down/away from others.

EXPERIENCES OF SHAME • Bowing your head; covering your
head or face
• Blushing.
• Feeling pain in the “pit of your • Speaking quietly.
stomach” or a sense of dread. • Saying, “I’m sorry” over and over.
• Feeling hot or “in the spotlight.” • Slumped posture.
• Urges to disappear, hide, or cover • Avoiding others; hiding.
your face/body.
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 GUILT GUILT:
Something I did
Apologetic
At fault
Regret
Remorse
______________
______________
FAMILY violated my personal
values/morals.
Blameworthy
In the wrong
Responsible
Sorry ______________

PROMPTING EVENTS EVENT INTERPRETATIONS OF GUILT

OF GUILT
• “I did something wrong.” ___________________
• “That was bad.” __________________
• Doing something you believe is wrong. • “I shouldn’t have donezthat.”
• “If only I had done something __________________
• Causing harm/damage to someone/thing.
• Being reminded of something wrong you did differently...” _______________
in the past.
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________________________ OUTWARD EXPRESSIONS/
ACTIONS OF GUILT

INTERNAL (BODY) • Blushing.

EXPERIENCES OF GUILT • Admitting/hiding your guilt.
• Making resolutions to change.
• Changing your behavior.
• Feeling nervous or jittery. • Trying to fix and damage you did.
• Feeling hot/flushed. • Reaching out for help to change.
• Having difficulty breathing. • Saying, “I’m sorry.”
• Having a “sinking” feeling.
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