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 Table of Contents

Copyright Page ............................................................................................... 1

Dedication....................................................................................................... 3

Acknowledgments .......................................................................................... 4

Foreword......................................................................................................... 6

Preface ............................................................................................................ 8

Chapter 1: How It Started ............................................................................... 9

Chapter 2: My Dream Came Through ......................................................... 12

Chapter 3: The Struggle Began ................................................................... 16

Chapter 4: I Almost Lost It .......................................................................... 20

Chapter 5: The Year 2020 ........................................................................... 24

Chapter 6: My Deliverance Began .............................................................. 32

Chapter 7: What Next? ................................................................................ 41

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 Dedication
This book is dedicated to the Holy Spirit; even as He inspired me to write it,
and to every Teenager and Young Adult out there who are tired of being
quiet and unenlightened about the things that matter in their youthful age.

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 Acknowledgments
My sincere thanks to my loving parents; MR & MRS FEMI AMUPITAN
for doing their best to train me in the way I should go, and for loving,
supporting, and nurturing me to become the person I am while I ultimately
look forward to becoming the person God has made me to be. In the same
vein, I would like to appreciate my siblings: Mrs. Aderonke Akinola, Mr.
Ayorinde Amupitan, Caleb Oloruntoba Amupitan, and my cousins turned
siblings Taofeeq Salaudeen, Abdulrahman Salaudeen, and Enitan Salaudeen
for making my growing up experiences worth it, and supporting me always.
I Love You.

I cannot but express my heart-felt gratitude to a few destiny friends God

gifted me in recent years whether they had any direct or indirect
contribution to this project; Mercy Anselm, James Ayedebinu, Stephen
Ajayi, Grace Sami, Adetola Adeniran, and to every other person and
Fellowship body that has immensely contributed to my growth and
development in the past few years on campus: the Fellowship of Business
Administration Christian Students (FOBACS); where I once served as the
President with an exceptional executive body, Fellowship of Management
Sciences Christian Students (FOMACS); where I currently serve as the
President with an amazing set of executives, and the Mountain of Fire and
Miracle Campus Fellowship (MFMCF UNILORIN); where I currently serve
as the Music Director with an amazing Assistant Music Director- Busola
Elegbede, and many more that the concise nature of this project will not
permit me to mention by their names.

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Worthy of mention are: Mr. O.O Olota, Dr. O.J Omolekan, Dr. I.I Aun, and
Prof J.O Adeoti; my lecturers turn fathers. They also have served as our
patrons in the Fellowship of Business Administration Christian Students
(FOBACS) for several years, and they have guided, directed, supported,
taught, and mentored us with all their hearts, especially in the time I served
as the president of the fellowship. I am indeed grateful for your investments
in us.

I have been blessed with men and women who have also mentored and
guided me over the years and have helped me to be what I am today, and
they have not stopped doing so: Mr. Praise Ayodele, Mr. Israel Oluwashina,
Mr. Gbenga Fasakin, and Mr. Ayorinde Amupitan; my elder brother who
has always set a godly and excellent pace for me to follow.

And to my Spiritual Fathers and Mother: Apostle Joshua Selman Nimmak,

Dr. D.K Olukoya, and Dr. Mrs. Shade Olukoya. I am forever grateful for
your investments in me.

Ultimately, my highest praise goes to the LORD JESUS CHRIST who

found me worthy to entrust me with every knowledge and experience
embedded in this book, and for granting me men of skills; Dabest Concept
and Immaculate; my creative designers and Rapha Olayiwola who edited
and wrote the foreword for the book. Thanks for making this book project
less overwhelming and excellently delivered to change lives. I Pray the Lord
bless you all for impacting and imparting me mightily. I Love You.

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 Foreword
We live in a time sexual purity is regarded as trash and taken with levity
among the youth, adolescents and even younger children. Hugging, kissing,
caressing, sex chatting and all forms of sexual immorality has become the
order of the day. Many of these acts which used to be done secretly in the
past are now been done even in the full glare of the whole world.

Many who are victims of sexual immorality are struggling with the acts and
suffering from the consequences today because they were ignorant or
careless with their lives. They didn’t pay attention to what they see, hear,
touch or handle. They relate with perverse friends and visit sites to see
images and videos that arouse their feelings sexually.

In this book, “What Every Young Person Should Know”, the writer
unashamedly wrote about his personal life story of how his quest and desire
for attention, admiration and exploration led him into immorality; the
consequences of his actions; and how God in His infinite mercies saved him
and delivered him from the grip of immorality. He also wrote about some
dangers of sexual immorality, vital keys to staying sexually pure and how
his mistakes became his message.

I have read this book several times and I strongly recommend it for
teenagers and youths to learn how to stay pure and even for parents to be
intentional about the sexual purity of their children in this perverse
generation.

-Rapha Olayiwola (Author; THE TIME OF OBSCURITY).

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WAIT!!

A popular African saying goes thus, “if you want to hide anything from an
African man, put it in a book.” This saying has proved to be a fact with the
poor reading culture across the continent, especially amongst young people;
which has reflected largely in the outcomes of our lives and nations.
However, I believe you are one of the few, rewriting this status quo by
choosing to read this book. But much more, be determined to finish and
glean from this book and I believe it would change your life forever in Jesus
name.

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 Preface
I did not intend to write this book. I don’t think I had any iota of passion to
write a book. But suddenly, on a particular morning dated the 16th of
November 2021, from about 5 am to 6 am while I was having my devotion,
it was a quiet time with the Lord because I was not actively praying; I was
only still before the Lord while listening to a piece of intense worship music
by the gospel music crew, GUC – all that matters. Suddenly, something
popped up in my mind, which I knew almost immediately, was not an
ordinary thought but a commission from the Lord Jesus by His Holy Spirit
to capture my past, my pains, my struggles, my fears, and the things that
made me cry at some point, my regrets, and ultimately, my Glory, in this
book, to bless you and change your life if you decide not to be carefree with
the lessons you glean from it.

This book would take you through a portion of my personal life experiences,
with emphasis on my early University days. Some lessons from this book
are not directly outlined; it takes your ability to read with all concentration
to be able to glean these lessons.

This book will also go further to discuss some vital keys every young person
should know about this YOUTHFUL period of their lives, to guide them out
of ignorance and costly destiny mistakes with emphasis on sexual impurity
and to help those who may have been caught in the web of costly destiny
mistakes, see the LIGHT again.

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1 How It Started

I was only 17 years of age when I got admitted into the University. I was
one of the lucky few who got admitted into the University on the first sitting
for WAEC, UTME & POST- UTME all in the same year, which also made
me the first to achieve such a feat in my family. So, I got admitted into the
University early; the same year I finished Secondary school. Could this be
the reason for my naivety? Could this be why I easily got sucked into the
negative side of campus life? Maybe yes, and more because I was an
inexperienced teenager who was freed from the umbrella of his parents for
the very first time, who came into the University with the ultimate motive of
living life to the fullest, and exploring the life I was restrained from
exploring while under the cover of my parents.

Oh, what a feeling! That sweet feeling of being “in charge” of one’s own
life after a very long wait. I had just finished Secondary School where I was
the talk of the school; the ladies’ guy, one of the very many black sheep of
the school (Laugh Out Loud). So, I came into the University wanting more
of that. I wanted to be popular, I wanted to party, I wanted to have friends I
could go around cruising life with. I wanted to be a big boy. Ultimately, I
wanted to have the girls at my beck and call. This was the life I envisaged
right from my senior secondary school days. Do you know that feeling when
you feel like going wild? That was it for me. But guess what? All these were
hidden inside of my heart. So, to my parents, I left home as an innocent

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teenager. I was a churchgoer, although not the committed fire branded
brother, but I went to church often, at least to sightsee.

Being this handsome, tall fair-complexioned guy, it was easy for me to

attract the attention of the girls (Lol). This quality of mine also won me the
post of Class Representative for my course-mates, and I did not hesitate to
take up the job because I saw it as a means to achieve my goals. Firstly; for
popularity and, I did become very popular. I became a star suddenly because
many people began demanding my attention. I began attracting the girls. To
fire this up, I always dressed to kill. My clothes were always ironed out, my
haircut was always intact too. I was this hot guy! If you were to describe
me, this would be what you would say: ‘that fine, tall, and fair Class Rep’. I
was different because I didn’t portray the conventional bad boy lifestyle;
instead, I made sure I looked responsible but CLASSY. At the same time, I
was rude and confident to a fault. I never really bothered about my
academics because while in my senior secondary school, I was one of the
top guys in class both socially and academically. So, I came into the
University with the assumption that I could flex life and still do well
academically with little or no effort just as it was in my secondary school
days. How I deceived myself!

I began living the life of a star, and although I was not always comfortable
with it, I enjoyed it. I had to always dress to impress because I must not
drop my standard, I had to attend to so many people both online and in-
person every day, which gave me access to a whole lot of people. I had so
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got so engaged with the duties of the class rep, and unfortunately for me, at
the same time, mismanaged the little time I had by spending most of it
seeing movies and meeting friends. At the time I spent my time and
browsing data to see the Hollywood movie, ‘POWER’ from the first to the
fourth season, which happened to be the latest season at that time just as
some young people spent a major percentage of their two treasure-like
resources which are TIME and ACCESS TO THE INTERNET, watching
Netflix. Don’t misunderstand me to say streaming movies on Netflix is
wrong; the emphasis here is on how you spend your time. If you ever saw a
minute part of that movie ‘POWER’, you would imagine what my whole
life was about. I completely lost track of the primary purpose of being in the
University. And guess what? MY DREAM CAME THROUGH!

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2 My Dream Came Through

My biggest dream coming into the University as a teenager was to live the
life of pleasure I had always envisaged, and have as many girlfriends as
possible, with whom I could adventure as much as I wanted. On a sunny
Sunday afternoon, I was with two of my friends who happen to be Christian
ladies and roommates also, in their hostel. There was not much to worry
about, because although they were ladies, they were not my ‘target market’,
they were Christian sisters who were serious as well. Do you wonder how I
became friends with them? Lol. While with my friends, I decided to go
online to check my WhatsApp messages when I suddenly got a message
from a female course-mate who was explaining and nagging about how tired
she was because she was just moving into her new hostel, and at the same
time needed help with two major courses that we offered - they were tough
courses, so she was demanding if I could come over to her new hostel where
she lived alone, (because her roommate had not moved in) to take her some
tutorials. So as the ladies’ guy, I found a way to pacify her and promised to
come put her through the tutorials she needed. I was quite innocent here
because I wanted to help her.

Immediately, I left my Christian friends, hurried down to my hostel to

change my clothes to something more of the standard I portrayed and to also
apply some deodorants to smell nice. I hurried down to her hostel. This was
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about 4 pm on that Sunday. Cynthia (not her real name) met me with a good
smile and appreciated me for coming over to tutor her. Her apartment was a
single-room apartment with a toilet in it, but with no kitchen. Her hostel was
not kept, which showed that indeed, she was just moving into her new hostel
that day. So, I sat on the bed while I watched her prepare some noodles for
herself. When she finished eating, we began the tutorial. The room became
stuffier as the day became darker. I was still teaching her some
mathematical stuff, when at intervals; Cynthia would interrupt us with
questions unrelated to our current business. Instead, she asked questions that
ruminated around me. So, Cynthia was more focused on me even more than
on what I was teaching her. One major question Cynthia kept asking was
about my age. At this time, I had just clocked eighteen years of age two
months back. I responded truthfully that I was eighteen, but Cynthia would
not believe me, because I looked and acted much older than my age. This
discussion was taking time, which was almost frustrating to me because I
was still trying to cover a lot with her in the courses. I asked Cynthia to
allow us pend the discussion till the end of our tutorials, then we would
discuss at length, and she would get to know more about me. It was obvious
that she wanted to know more about this handsome-looking class rep. Lol.

At about 7 pm, we rounded up the tutorials, so it was time to talk. I decided

to stick with my promise, so we spoke at length. Suddenly, it was 9 pm and
I wanted to take my leave, but Cynthia had been stylishly pressing on me to
spend the night with her in her single-room apartment. But this time, she

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pressed more with the claim that if I left, she would be bored over the night,
having no one to talk with, because her roommate had not come to join her.
Gosh! What an excuse! But I succumbed because I already liked her
company too. Also, I had been noticing some strange attitudes in her since
we started the tutorials so, I was curious about knowing what she wanted
because of her strange attitudes throughout our tutorial session.

At the same time, my intuition was telling me something, but I loved what it
was telling me, so the more reason I decided to accept her plea. We still
spent the next two hours talking on issues that focused on me as the major
subject. I became certain that my appearance and every other thing that I
was doing at the time was catching some attention, especially of the ladies,
because she told me how it had caught hers too.

At about 11 pm, we became tired of talking, so we decided to sleep. I had to

pull off my shirts because of the growing heat. But she did what I could not
have imagined at that time. She began to undress to change into a big polo
which happened to be her nightwear. I had to apply some wisdom here by
looking away. Then, I became cautious at that time because the atmosphere
was rising. She insisted that I slept on the small, flat bed she had, while she
would sleep on the floor. I objected, but she insisted on sleeping on the
floor. The atmosphere grew stronger, but it was too late to do anything. I
was still hoping to pass the night there safely even though I knew that was
only going to happen by divine intervention. Even the Holy Scripture says
‘FLEE’.
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“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that
committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” (1Corinthians 6:18).

But, I could not do that because my hostel at that time would have been
locked since it was already past 11 pm. The devil peeped into the thoughts I
occupied my mind with, and the desires I always had brilliantly became
reality to me. I smelt it, but I loved the aroma. So, I wanted to smell it some
more instead of walking away when I could, not until the devil served me
the real meal because I never realized the grave consequences. And
unfortunately, I had no ability, I had no willpower, I had no inner strength to
resist and refuse it, and so like Adam and Eve, I ate the forbidden fruit and
THE STRUGGLE BEGAN!

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3 The Struggle Began

At about 5 am the next day which happened to be a Monday, I left Cynthia’s

place. I never knew the gravity of what I had just done, and I kept
reminiscing about the last night’s experience as I walked through the dark
street towards the junction to find a commercial bike. I wondered why I did
not feel different from when I used to be a virgin boy. But a notable feeling
I began to have days later was the feeling of ‘EMPTINESS’- that feeling
where you cannot tell or explain, but you feel like something major had left
or changed about you, I felt that way! This feeling did not last long because
I decided to take my mind off it and accept the experience as being part of
life. At the same time, I had this feeling of satisfaction since I had even
accomplished more than what I had envisaged. It was a negative feeling of
satisfaction indeed.

This activity between Cynthia and me soon became a normal routine, where
I had her visit me in my hostel two times after that experience, and it all
repeated itself again and again. This was where and when I began to have
some convictions. I began to feel worried, concerned, and disturbed.

I remember the sunny afternoon I was walking within my faculty in school

when suddenly, I felt something enter my chest and I was startled because it
felt like I was stoned in the chest. But almost immediately, I discovered that

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I began to have a divided mind. My mind was always totally divided,
straying to all sorts of angles. It was as if a war was ignited between two
personalities within me, so I didn’t even know myself anymore. I found it
difficult to concentrate. My mind always wanted to think about every single
thing my eyes saw, coupled with all forms of negative, filthy, wicked,
sexual thoughts that invaded my mind at intervals, yet I had no power to
stop or at least, control them. You may not know how this feels until you
experience it, which I do not hope or pray you ever do, the more reason I
wrote this book. But these are a few of the same silent troubles people who
engage or have engaged in sexual immorality of all sorts go through daily. It
is silent because they won’t tell you about it, and that’s major because they
find it difficult to explain how they feel. In most cases, they go depressed. It
was a confusing, and unexplainable feeling because I did not know how to
explain my challenge to anyone. I did not even think anyone would
understand me. So, I decided to keep my challenge to myself, but I was
dying by the day.

I was always confused. I could not make decisions for myself. I could not
control my thoughts and it was indeed a challenge. But on a faithful day, I
made up my mind to approach my two Christian friends, because, at that
time, they were the only serious-minded people I was close to. I had
surrounded myself with unserious minds. After opening up to my two
Christian friends, I was shocked and surprised when one of them also
opened up to me about how she had experienced something worse, right

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from the age of 4, 5, and 6. She explained how she was exposed to sexual
activities right from a very young age, and how she got addicted to sex as a
teenager. She also explained to me, the steps she took to break through and
break out, and she advised me to do the same, which I did. Firstly, I
approached Cynthia and verbally ended the relationship between us.
Afterward, I distanced myself from her as much as I could, I blocked
every means of communication with her both online and offline. We
were separated from each other. So, I had time to be alone, I was
delivered from her. All these happened just about 2 weeks to my first
semester examinations, so I was not in the right state of mind to sit for the
examinations, and to worsen the matter; I had not been serious with my
studies since the beginning of the semester. I hardly read for an hour in two
days. You can imagine what my results were at the end of the semester.
Painful indeed! The ‘mind struggle’ continued and was becoming more
worrisome.

The Remarkable Event

After school examinations were over, we had a short break, for which I did
not return home, but decided to stay back in school. It was in this period, on
a particular Sunday morning, that I awoke, and right in my bed, I was
having serious guilt eat me up. I felt like a serious burden was placed upon
me that I couldn’t bear. I came to that point where I thought to myself, ‘I
cannot continue this way’. I picked up my phone which was just by my head
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was a major fuel to my struggle because they sponsored LUST. Although I
could not delete all because I still had some I could not let go just easily. I
got dressed and headed to church, completely oblivious to what awaited me.

A Minister of the gospel visited our fellowship on that day, and he preached
a message that centered on ‘PURPOSE’. He spoke at length on this topic,
and all the while he spoke, it seemed as though he was speaking directly to
me, which made me scared and sorry for myself. Suddenly, the hard and
sharp guy I used to see in me could not withstand the power of a man’s
words. Guess what? I burst out in hot tears (smiles). Have you had that
feeling before?

At that point, I realized I needed serious divine help. The man of God gave
an altar call, which happened to be the time I surrendered my whole life to
the Lordship of Jesus Christ. After that single experience, an untold peace
embraced my soul immediately, and I felt whole again. I returned to my
hostel a renewed man.

“And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of

righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.” (Isaiah 32:17).

“For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and
peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.” (Romans 14:17).
So, I got born again on a Sunday also. There must be some mystery
between myself and Sundays (Lol). Allow me also add that I was born on a
Sunday- 30th December 2001, which was why I was also named Sunday.

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4 I Almost Lost It.

About a week after, still in my holidays, I met this female course-mate of

mine that attended a church adjacent to my hostel. She also did not travel
home for the break. I met her on the street of my hostel. She promised to
come around to say hello to me once she was done with church, which she
did. She visited me in my hostel, and we began having some small talks
which eventually became a long conversation. Not to worry (Lol). It was a
different conversation this time because Becky (not her real name), was
already a born-again child of God, and I too. I got born again a week before
we met. Our conversation centered on many things, but one subject I
remember we talked about the most was the person of Jesus, and our
salvation experiences. Becky and I got on so well. In a little time, we
became close friends, and then best of friends. I could hardly go a day
without seeing and talking with Becky, which was the same for her too. We
had clean intentions for our friendship. In fact, at the time, Becky was in a
long-distance relationship with Peter (not his real name) whom she often
told me about.

We were enjoying our friendship as honest God-loving young people. But

one thing that often became an issue between us was our doctrinal beliefs.
Becky had some doctrinal beliefs about the kingdom of God that I felt were

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too carnal and fleshly, and on Becky’s side, she often felt that my beliefs
were largely beliefs that caused me to live by the law- which Jesus has
fulfilled for us as Christians.
“For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God
sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin,
condemned sin in the flesh:
That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not
after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” (Romans 8:3-4).

I remember how Becky and I would argue certain concepts of the kingdom
till late at night. We just would not agree. But to be very honest, I believe I
was the stubborn and egotistic one who would never give in to what Becky
had to say. Moreover, I only got born again weeks or a few months before
that time, I had just a minute knowledge of what I argued about. But we did
every other thing in common with growing intimacy and suddenly, my
relationship with Becky started taking a new and strange turn some months
later. Feelings started developing and it was coming stronger by the day. We
thought we were safe because we were born-again Christians already, and
the fact that Becky was already in a relationship. But No, we were not. I
remember a time came when we began thinking we were God’s will for
each other, and Becky wanted to take me to meet her pastor. Laugh out
loud. We both were just eighteen years of age. This was just the second
semester of our first year in school. We had not grown to know what we

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wanted out of life, but we were already talking about marriage. You should
laugh at us here. Lol!

We Lost Control!
On a certain evening, I visited Becky in her hostel as usual. Becky’s elder
sister; Praise (not her real name) with whom she lived, visited a friend with
whom she would be spending the night. This resulted to Becky and I having
the whole time to chat like we always had. We enjoyed our conversation
which lasted till 11 pm. Again, at this time, my hostel would have been
locked. I could not return to my hostel because we had very strict rules, so
there was no hopes of having anyone open the gates for me. The only option
again was to sleep over in Becky’s hostel room with her. This was because
we lived in hostels outside the school campus. And at this time again, Becky
and I could sense the changing atmosphere. It did not take long before the
atmosphere changed. But thanks to God that Becky had the nature of God in
her already; she stopped us from going beyond bounds. And almost
immediately, we came back to our minds. The remaining part of the night
was awkward indeed.

I returned to my hostel very early the next morning knowing well enough
that we had messed up. I remember how bad I felt because I was
disappointed in myself. I asked the Lord for forgiveness, and he responded
to me and drew me closer to Himself again. But I still felt a need for Becky
and me to meet and pray together. Immediately, I gave Becky a phone call
inviting her to come and see me in my hostel so we could talk.
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Later that day, which was the day that followed the previous night’s
experience, Becky paid me a visit in my hostel. I sat on one side of my bed.
Becky sat at the other side facing me. I knew she was very anxious about
what I had to say to her, I could see it in her eyes. I spoke up, apologized to
her for what had happened between us, and I told her how I felt a need for
us to pray together, asking the Lord for his mercies. We knew we fell below
the standard of Jesus. So, we began praying. And as we prayed, we held
hands. The prayer became intense because we sincerely poured out our
hearts to God while we prayed. It was an emotional moment indeed. I
opened my eyes as we prayed, and watched Becky as deep tears came
rolling down her cheeks. I could tell that she was broken.

We rounded up the prayers and we felt a lot better. We were happy again. I
watched her wipe her tears. Shortly after, she left. At this time, we knew
that we didn’t need to spend too much time together, as the excessive
time we spent together was a major contributor to the growing
inordinate feelings we had. This experience with Becky added to the
previous issues I suffered from, but I kept them all to myself. I could not
and did not even tell my Christian friends about my experience with Becky
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5 The Year 2020

In the early part of the year 2020, there was a major issue with the Nigerian
educational system, which caused most tertiary institutions to go on an
indefinite strike. So, I returned home from school.

I still had high hopes of returning to school in a short time when the
CORONA VIRUS invaded the world, and thereby, compounded the
problem in the Nigerian educational system, as every country and every
institution went on an indefinite lockdown to curtail the spread of the virus.
At this point, returning to school anytime soon became impossible. So, I
decided to spend my break with my elder sister and her husband, and help
them, since they just had their first baby earlier in the year.

My stay with them was going smoothly. My sister worked in a

pharmaceutical company, so she was allowed to go to work during the
lockdown. Her husband also often traveled at intervals during the lockdown.
It was a time I had nothing to do, but stay home and look after my nephew,
while my sister was away at work. It was a good time for me, because I had
nothing bothering me, and I had all I needed to survive. But I decided to
invest my time in pressing into God, because I feared that too much
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fervor for God. So, I spent my time praying and fasting, learning the
scriptures.

But as I progressed, I began to notice a frequent dream of seeing myself in

compromising situations with, sometimes ladies that I knew, and
sometimes, ladies I had never seen or met in my life. When this experience
first began, I assumed it to be the normal experience of teenage boys that
human biology calls ‘Wet Dream’. So, I often would ignore it. My
assumption was beginning to be challenged when this experience started
occurring very often, and sometimes, every day of a whole week. I began
inclining that it was beyond the normal wet dream that teenage boys have,
because of the frequency at which it occurred and the scary and unpleasant
aftermath of each occurrence. I became concerned; I intensified my prayers
and fasting to challenge the issue. I thought it was a challenge I could fight
alone.

I soon realized that the more I prayed and fasted, the more intense and
recurrent the dreams became. It graduated from being a dream to an attack. I
noticed that every time I had this experience in my dream, the whole of that
day would go a negative way for me. I would be so discouraged to do
anything to better myself that my thoughts would enter an increased level of
disorderliness, and lust would be aggravated. It became more difficult for
me to concentrate. I felt so sad and weak. I often felt drained of life, and my
anger and self-hatred increased. Oftentimes, the influence of the dreams

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resulted to me being oppressed and it made me imagine and do certain
things I ordinarily would not have imagined or done.

This is how some have also imagined rape, suicide, and other negative
acts under the negative influence of such struggles and attacks
sponsored by demons, and have gotten their lives ruined completely. It
brought about a whole lot of confusion in my life. I remember how my
sister’s husband often asked me why I could not decide certain things for
myself.

It was at this time I began to realize the consequences and the eventualities
of my past life and escapades. That feeling of emptiness, self-hatred,
confusion, and ultimately, the inability to control my thoughts would be
reintroduced again, and this time, in a more intense manner after each
session of this particular dream attack. This led me to fast and pray almost
every day of my life. I became so close to God because He was the only
person I could run to. I couldn’t run to a church because, at this period,
churches were on lockdown as a result of the Corona Virus that invaded the
World. So, I was left to know God myself. My closeness with God at that
time was the good thing that happened to me as a result of those attacks.
They made me: pray more, fast more, stretch more, get more sensitive to the
Holy Spirit and His leadings, study the scriptures more, especially the book
of ‘PSALMS’ which played a major role in my deliverance process, and
ability to ward off the devil. I obeyed the scripture that says, “Submit
yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
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(James 4:7). I say this because this was a time God Himself took the
advantage to deal with me. He began the painful process of cutting away my
fleshy excesses, and I have come to understand that they were also part of
my deliverance process in disguise.

This was a time He pruned me. It was a time God worked on me. It was the
time I submitted to the leadings and dealings of God like never before. It
was a time God gave instructions that broke me. I sacrificed many things I
could never have imagined I could. It was a season of intense pruning. God
dealt with me and most importantly prepared me for the responsibilities He
has now begun to entrust me with. In this pruning period, I was made to do
away with things that meant a lot to me, things that had so much value to
me. I learned to lay them at the feet of Jesus. I remember how I had to sell a
watch I was gifted by my sister’s husband that cost about ₦20,000 in
Nigerian naira for just ₦1,500 to give to a church ministry, in obedience to
the Instructions I received from God.

Many times, I fasted and prayed at very uncomfortable times, not just to
ward-off darkness, but in obedience to the instruction received from the
Holy Spirit. At some points, I thought God was wicked, but little did I know
that He was trying to rid me of everything and the person that had occupied
His place in my heart. He was seeking to be the only One I trusted, the One
that had the final authority over me and my decisions. He wanted my All.
He wanted me to depend on Him solely. So, He eroded my heart of the
incessant love for money, food, clothes, cars, women, pride and ego,
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movies, and many other things that had occupied my heart, and of course,
He has not stopped doing so.

But I regularly lived under the intense Presence of God. It was so real that I
could feel it most time. I knew and enjoyed his Presence everywhere, not
just when I prayed alone. I came into a level of intimacy with God that I had
never experienced. It was for the Excellency of this awesome Presence I
pressed more, among others. My sister and her husband did not understand
the reason for my incessant fasting and prayer. I remember my sister’s
husband asking me one evening if I was a fanatic, because of the way I
always wanted to be locked alone in the room praying and fasting. They
didn’t understand that it was a season of my life when the Holy Spirit was
placing demands on me per time to which I must submit. They could not
understand why I declined several opportunities to go out to enjoy myself
with the rest of the family. At that time, even I myself did not understand
why it was at every time or day the family decided to go out together or do
something that seemed like an opportunity to relax that the Holy Ghost
would Instruct me to be with Him, and most times, in fasting, thereby
denying me access to be with my family. It was indeed a period of
SEPARATION. I must also note that every man that would know God must
pass through this phase of SEPARATION.

On the other hand, the devil was trying to bring me into depression through
the recurrent attacks and scary dreams I had every night. I was tired of
having those dreams, but the more I got tired, the more the dream came to
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me, so I was frustrated, tired, and scared too. I found it very difficult to
sleep at night because these dreams had gone beyond seeing myself having
an affair with women in my dreams, to seeing scary-looking demons
coming to press me down to my bed, to seeing myself swimming in the
middle of the sea with almost naked ladies, to seeing myself resisting
someone trying to initiate me into a cult group in my dream, to having
scary-looking birds coming to make scary sounds at my room’s window
during a particular time of the night, etc. It was also a time of intense
Spiritual Warfare in my life. It was as though the gates of hell were loosed
against me. For months, I rarely and hardly could sleep two hours at night.
Still, I was fasting and praying. I remember going on dry fasts for days
often. I was growing physically lean and weak.

So, I was not only facing spiritual attacks, I was having serious emotional
and psychological problems, and ultimately, I was getting weaker
physically. I became inefficient at doing my house chores. This alone, often
caused my sister and her husband not to be happy with me. For months, I
found no genuine reason to smile or laugh. I did not have a happy life,
except for the Presence of God which was a major succor to me. But at this
time, the Joy giving power of the Holy Ghost had not crystalized in my
Spirit as a revelation.

But who would I explain this to? Where would I start my explanations
from?

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One faithful day, I visited my parents in their home on the far end of Lagos
state. Things were going smoothly until I decided to sleep on the first night I
visited. At about 3 am in the middle of the night, I had this terrible attack in
the dream again. I woke up, I became so angry in my spirit and decided that
I was going to open up to my parents that night and that whatever would
happen after then, should happen. Before then, I was scared of opening up
my past to my parents because I feared what they would think of me
and say to me.

“He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and
forsaketh them shall have mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13).

I was scared and ashamed of my past. My past often haunted me. I feared
what my siblings and cousins would think of me. It wasn’t as though I was
not a Christian already neither did I need to confess my sins again for Christ
to forgive me. But I am a man under the authority of my parents, especially
as a teenager. So, there are certain information and happenings in my life I
mustn’t hide from them just as I would not hide them from my pastor or
spiritual father and my heavenly Father. I must be accountable to these
personalities how I spend my life. But at this time, I already had the
reputation of a born-again Christian amongst my siblings, cousins, and
parents. So, I feared how ashamed I would be if I told them I had messed
around having sexual relations in the past. It was going to be ego-stinging.
This made me hide my pasts and challenges from them. I did not open up to

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seek help. I didn’t want to lose the reputation of being the ‘Holiest’ amongst
the family.

I tried fighting these challenges myself. But the attacks kept increasing the
more as I tried to fight them. I was furious because I knew that the devil
found it very easy to oppress me because I kept my challenge to myself,
thinking I could fight and win alone. The devil was preying on me because I
was living in secrecy, all because I was not ready to allow my reputation to
get stained. But on this night, I was furious and angry with the devil. I did
not care anymore. I was so tired of getting oppressed cheaply by the devil.
You know that feeling when you are oppressed; rode upon or treated badly
by someone and you endure for a long time, until you cannot bear it
anymore? That was it for me. I hated the fact that some animalistic demons
were stealing away my peace and joy. I was mad at the devil. I was mad at
my situation. I determined that at any cost, this oppression must stop!

Immediately, I went to my parents in their room. They were fast asleep but I
fearlessly woke them and I made sure they were fully awake. Again, I
fearlessly told them everything I had done, my past life, what it resulted
into, and the present challenges I was experiencing. Now, they understood
the reason for my too much fasting and prayers. To my surprise, my
parents did not scold or blame me for my mistakes. In fact, they received
me in a way I never envisaged. They encouraged me, and assured me that
they would partner with me to solve the issue, so long as God is still with
us. On this night, MY DELIVERANCE BEGAN.
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6 My Deliverance Began

My parents became concerned. They supported me in prayers. Several

nights my mum would join me in prayers. My dad took me to two different
prayer mountains in Ekiti State, Nigeria. My eldest brother, at the times he
came visiting, also joined me in rigorous midnight prayers.

Luckily, at this time, the churches in Nigeria were being exempted from the
general lockdown. So, churches began operations gradually again. This gave
me the leverage of attending a church ministry next to the house where I
lived with my sister, and her family. I started attending weekly deliverance
programs. The deliverance minister was very interested in me, so he often
times prayed with me at night over phone calls. He guided me and at the
times I had those scary dreams, I would call him for help. He often helped in
the interpretation of difficult and gory dreams and he would pray with me,
recommend some other prayers I should keep praying and often encouraged
me to pray harder. He was a solace indeed.

In these times, I met MUMMY PASTOR (as I often call her), who has a
food canteen close to the house. Mummy Pastor is someone I am ever
grateful for meeting. She contributed greatly to helping me in those times.
She often encouraged me to pray harder. Although, she never knew about
my challenges, but anytime I was down, I would go to meet her because her

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words of advice were always aligned with my current situations. Mummy
Pastor encouraged me to also pray, seeking the Lord to know my PURPOSE
in life (this would be revisited later). She was also a spiritual pillar for me.
So, I was not alone anymore. I did not fight alone. I had people praying for
me. I had a greater level of peace in me because I was not hiding
anything as a secret anymore which in itself was a level of deliverance
from fear and anxiety. I began to experience some ease, even though I still
stuck to my consistent prayers, this time not only to ward off the activities
of darkness, but much more to seek the face of the Lord without fear, asking
for my Purpose in life, as I was encouraged by Mummy Pastor and one of
my Spiritual Mentors, Mr. Oluwashina Israel.

The moment I opened up, and sought for help, my deliverance began
indeed. It was in this period of my life that I realized the essence of prayer.
My predicament pushed me to the secret place. In the times of my
struggle and learning, I made a vow to God and to myself that I was
going to walk with God forever, and that I was never going to allow
anyone I know or come across make the mistakes I made or suffer the
torments I suffered. This indeed, had being my PASSION ever since. My
struggles and predicaments lasted for almost 2 years, all for the single
enjoyment of a single night and a sinfully spent 18 years of my life! And
if I would be very honest with you, I am still in my deliverance process. I
am only opportune to write this book because the Lord has greatly helped
me in the few years I have known Him and He instructed me to put together

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this book to guide, encourage and to lead young people who may be in
similar situations. But in my everyday life, I go through my deliverance
process of Mind Transformation majorly by God’s word, audio sermons,
seminars, spiritual gatherings. While I ensure that I do away with unholy
pleasures such as unholy gatherings, friendships, perverse movies, music,
and unholy words or communications.

My Mistakes Became My Message.

I took an inventory of my life, and I discovered that my exposure to

sexuality did not happen suddenly in the University. I discovered that I
started getting exposed to this negative side of life as early as twelve years
old. I remember how I had my first girlfriend in Junior Secondary School 3.
Before then, I had also come across certain people who had introduced me
to some sexual ideologies which switched on my sexual inclination and
made me fantasize sex even as a child.

My innocent mind was polluted as early as 12 years of age. This was the
seed that began to germinate, and later grew to become a large tree. This
pushed me to having girlfriends. I loved to see pornographic movies and
photographs, dirty sighted music videos etc. All these, contributed to the
pollution of my mind.

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Someone would ask, didn’t anyone notice all these in me at home? Didn’t
my parents notice this growing trend in me?

Well, this is one of the major reasons for this book. Young people are
secretive people. It wasn’t as though my parent were not doing their best to
take care of me. It was due to the fact that as in many Nigerian homes, this
issue of sexuality or sex education is always being avoided or left
undiscussed. Parents do not also establish the kind of relationship that allow
their kids to be open enough to discuss their sexuality with them.

An average Nigerian child would be exposed to the matters of sexuality first

from the society, and most times, the society exposes them to the negative
side. At the adolescent age, young people are usually exposed to a lot. And
at that time, their minds are willing and ready to learn any new thing that
comes their way. This is why adolescents and teenagers should not be left
without a serious intentional watch, mentorship and parental control. They
may look innocent, but they struggle with a lot of things beyond them that
are known to them alone, and most times, they do not understand the real
implications of these things.

These things they find difficult to communicate to their parents or anyone at

all for fear of parental sanctions, family and social stigmatization,
confusion, and ultimately, lack of a listening hear. It takes intentional watch
and mentorship, to guide them aright, to protect their innocent and curious
minds from getting polluted with wrong information.

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Guess what? Adolescents and children like to practice the new things they
learn (whether good or bad). This calls for more intentionality on the part of
the parents or guardians. In my opinion, secular movies and music videos go
a long way in doing serious harm and damage to the minds of kids and
adolescents if not controlled. The risk is higher for kids and adolescents
who get exposed to the internet and movies at a very early age without
adequate parental control.

During the times I experienced my struggles and pains, the times I still lived
in fear and regrets of my past, the times I suffered heavy spiritual attacks,
coupled with emotional and psychological disorders, divided mind and
attention, lust, inability to concentrate and ultimately, total confusion and
indecisiveness, I was on a journey I never knew about. Something major
was happening to me that I never knew about. I was experiencing a period
of making that I never realized. After some time, I realized that my
groanings had expanded from the desire for freedom to a longing to
prevent others from falling into the ditch I fell into, and to help those
who may be presently trapped to also gain freedom.

I knew I had just gone through a training school that had armed me with the
necessary zeal, compassion, knowledge, and arsenals to impact my world
and the lives around me. This is why my heart bleeds continually when I see
young people live below moral standards, and most especially, the standards
of Christ. My heart bears the pain of a travailing mother seeing that many
young people are exposed to the negative sides of their sexuality. Some
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even at the very early stages of their lives are exposed to a lot of sexually
appealing music, movies, slang, friends; many are bred in sexually loosed
communities.

The good news is that I have also heard of, seen and met with people who
were much deeper than I was in the sin of sexual immorality and have been
able to overcome. Yes, the bondage of sexual immorality can be destroyed
and overcome, but it is better not to get involved in it at all. This book is not
meant to shift your attention to trying to be moral by your abilities alone,
because you would soon discover that this world is becoming so corrupt that
your decision or discipline to avoid immorality is not enough. It would take
a real empowerment from God.

“Purity is warfare!”– Apostle Michael Orokpo

As my spiritual father, Dr. D.K Olukoya once said, “there are two organs in
the body of a man that the devil uses to plague men in these times. They are
the mouth and the sexual organ.”

This is because these two organs, as small or less significant as they may
seem, require real strength to subdue their urges. They possess very strong
urges. As a matter of fact, the devil is experienced at manipulating people
with their sexual urges. It is one of his most effective armories in derailing
destinies.

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It takes a man helped by God to gain mastery enough to subdue his sexual
urges. Such mastery does not come only by discipline, personal resolutions,
or the personal will of man.

As much as I personally encourage that a man be disciplined, cautious,

careful enough to abstain from sexual impurity, I would not deny the plain
truth that, “HE WILL KEEP THE FEET OF HIS SAINTS, and the
wicked shall be silent in darkness, FOR BY STRENGTH SHALL NO
MAN PREVAIL” (1Samuel 2:9). You cannot fight sin yourself. You
cannot stop lusting, watching porn, masturbating, fornicating or committing
adultery by your personal decisions alone. You cannot fight and win alone.
You cannot fight and win the devil in SECRECY. You must open up
yourself and allow the Lord Jesus break the power of sin in your life. You
cannot stop having guilt haunt you by your own personal will, you must
allow Jesus declare you guiltless and free by His blood.

You must make a decision today, to be free - your freedom first

happens the moment you surrender your totality to the Lordship of
Jesus.

What happens to you when you surrender to Jesus is that, you allow him
take charge of your past, your mistakes, your struggles, your pain, and even
your future. Trust me, He knows how to handle them. That’s what Jesus
loves doing, and He’s good at it. Enough of the burdens you bear. Enough
of the guilt and sorrow of heart you battle with. Enough of the things that

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make you scared, enough of the things that make you cry. Enough of the
addictions! Jesus said in Matthew 11:28, “COME UNTO ME, ALL YE
THAT LABOR AND ARE HEAVY LADEN, AND I WILL GIVE YOU
REST.”

I Am a Testimony! I am the one He picked out of the deep pit of sexual

impurity, offered me the righteousness of God at no price, cleansed me and
completely killed the incessant desire for sex and all form of sexual
immorality and lust, gave me a new and decent life, delivered me from
numerous spiritual oppressions and delivered my mind, gave me peace,
freedom and liberty, gave me strength and boldness to share my story to win
souls to Him, completely transformed my shameful past mistakes to my
present God-given message to the world, took away all the confusion I had
about my life, showed me the course of my destiny and even by Himself
granted me the ability and wisdom to write a book, this list is endless. And,
HE IS WILLING TO DO MUCH MORE FOR YOU TOO. But you must
first come to Him.

The only part I played was my desire for Him, accepting Him, believing
Him and trusting Him.

If you are willing to RECEIVE A NEW AND DECENT LIFE FROM

JESUS, please say this prayer below, from the depth of your heart with all
SERIOUSNESS AND INTENTIONALITY;

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Dear LORD JESUS, I come to You just as I am; weak and without

strength. I have realized how much I need You in my life, so I ask that

You come into my life; purge me of every sin and filthiness, take all of

me. Be my LORD AND SAVIOUR; help me to Love You and Live for

You, to Your Glory. Thank You Father, IN JESUS NAME, Amen.

CONGRATULATIONS to you if you said that prayer genuinely. You are

now a bonafide child of God.

WHAT NEXT?

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7 What Next?

Now that you are a child of God, whether you have once been involved in a
sexual sin or not, this is for YOU. At this point, you must know and engage
certain keys (which I would share below), on a steady basis to overcome the
trap of sexual impurity, especially as a young person with a promising
destiny. It is in this stage you must learn that the best way to subdue
your sexual urges is not to have it turned on at all before the set time.
When is the set time? It is the time you finally have a legally married
spouse, recognized by Christ and the law.

However, before I discuss the keys to staying sexually pure, I would like to
discuss the things you should know about sex, and the dangers of sexual
immorality.

Dangers of Sexual Immorality

I would be discussing some reasons why you should avoid sexual

immorality or to be very precise, I will term them the harms that sexual
immorality brings to a person and the society at large. In the course of my
personal experience, which I shared earlier, you should have learnt certain
negative effects of this plague, nonetheless, in this section I will highlight
them and buttress on each negative effect.

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1. It is sin, so it separates you or any society from God.

Sex is not a sinful act. In fact, it is good, because God Himself created it and
called it good. However, sex is good only if it remains within the confines
God created it to be. That is, between a married couple. It becomes bad or a
sinful act when it is abused and engaged in by two people who are not
bounded by a marriage vow. This, like every other sin, can separate a man
from God.

When a man becomes separated from God, he gives room to the devil. No
man can exist in a vacuum. You must either be with God, or be with the
devil. Sin is a plague that shifts a man out of the plan of God. God would
not commit his attention to a man living in sin perpetually and willfully.

“But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins
have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.” (Isaiah 59:2).

God is gracious, but His graciousness is not an automatic license to sin.

However, if you depend on the grace of God and then commit sin, with the
mindset that God is gracious enough to forgive you; you have committed a
willful sin. You cannot fulfill destiny in God if you are still giving yourself
to sin willfully. God’s work will still not be affected because He can replace
you with another man that is ready to yield totally to him. In a situation
where the presence of God departs from a man as a result of his sin, the
devil is given access to invade such man and wrought as many evil as he
intends with no resistance.

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You can only challenge the devil when you are with God. Sin renders a
man’s prayers impotent and largely unanswered. So, it is better to remain in
God’s court by avoiding sin like a plague. The sin of sexual immorality can
even incur the anger of God, and bring God’s destruction upon such a life
and even his/her society at large. This was the case of the cities of Sodom
and Gomorrah in Genesis 18:20-33 and Genesis 19:1-25.

2. It is sin against your own body.

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he
that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” (1Corinthians
6:18).

Fornication or any similar act of sexual immorality is you sinning against

your own body. It is you dishonoring your own body. This is because
originally, a man’s body is designed by God to be His dwelling place. But,
if for any reason, a man begins to dishonor his own body, the presence of
God departs from such a man, and then this gives the devil access to invade
such person’s body with all sorts of demons. Note that a hundred demons
can even dwell in the body of a single person, and they would carry out their
individual assignments in such a life unhindered. (Mark 5:1-13).

The mad man in Gadara had a Legion of demons in him. They were many.
Some demons caused him to dwell in graves. At the same time; some
caused him to tear himself, some caused him to be unusually strong to break
the chains that were supposed to bind him thereby preventing him from
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been treated. This is the same way a demon can cause a man to be confused
about his life, at the same time; another demon would cause him to be so
discouraged and tired of life. Another could make the same man feel so
defeated in life that he begins to contemplate suicide. All can operate at a
time. Some demons may be assigned to strengthen lust in a man. Some are
assigned to ensure addiction in such a man. Some could be assigned to
perpetuate constant bad luck and failure in the life of such a man. Some are
assigned to always harass such persons in the dream; whereby they see
demons pressing them down, they see somebody always coming to mess
them up in the dream in the name of sex, and so much more.

The shocking thing is that, all these demons can dwell in a man and operate
in such a man all at the same time. Some can even hide and wait till a
particular time of a man’s life before they begin to operate. It doesn’t mean
that they are not present there. All these demons were not supposed to be in
your body. They were not supposed to be in your life, if only you didn’t
choose to sin against your own body.

3. Sex is a covenant, more than a means of pleasure and procreation.

When two people engage in a sexual activity, they enter into a covenant
of oneness and exchange. This is because God originally ordained sex to be
between two legally married couples that have been bound by a covenant
before God. The implication of a marriage covenant is that whatever goes

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on in the life of the man is automatically permitted to repeat itself in the life
of the woman, because before God, they are one.

The man releases virtue into the woman, and she also allows the man to
share out of her virtue too. This is the mystery of Exchange and Oneness
embedded in sex and marriage. So, when a man becomes one with a harlot
through sex, that is, a random prostitute he finds in a club, all the demons in
that prostitute, is given free pathway to duplicate themselves in the man, he
releases some virtue into her, and she shares some of her virtue with him
also.

“What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for
two, saith he, shall be one flesh.” (1 Corinthians 6:16).

In the same vein, whatever demons, calamity and problem existing in the
prostitute’s life (regardless of how many they are) are given free access to
the man’s life, and vice versa. If you are diligent to observe, you would
discover that certain negative trends going on in the life of a prostitute
begins to occur in the life of the male counterpart. They may not manifest
all at the same time, which is even more dangerous because they are only
waiting for an appointed time to strike. It may be in the future, probably
when the person is relaxed or about to do something great in life. It may be
one’s unguarded hour. If you don’t chase them out, they would not leave.
They would only lurk around until they are fully matured and ready to
strike.

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You should also know that as technology and science is evolving, the
spirit realm is also evolving. The kingdom of darkness is evolving in their
strategies.

In these days, demons don’t have to wait for you as a guy to fornicate with a
lady before they invade your life. The devil found out that in this
contemporary time, men may not always subscribe to fornication and
adultery as he wants. Then he created alternatives; he introduced
masturbation, kissing, caressing or making out, He’s moving men to invent
sex toys, pornographic movies, and sexual appealing dresses. He didn’t stop
at that; he’s moving men to sing sexually polluted songs, empowering
people to build hotels and club houses that promote sexual perversion. And
as many that would partner with him in establishing these systems and
strategies, he rewards them with so much riches in order to attract more men
to subscribe to establishing his systems. This is why the richest musicians
are the once that sing nothing but ‘I want you baby, your body drives me
crazy, I fit die for your matter, your body is sexy, I want your body sleeping
in my bed, your bumbum bigger than bumbay’ and many more. The biggest
fashion brands are the once that also take major role in this strategy by the
devil. The most celebrated movies and TV shows are the once with
numerous sex scenes. The most widely known songs are those that
propagate sexual contents both in lyrics and in videos. Some even go to the
extent of going nude in music videos. Yet these are the things that are being

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propagated on TV, social media and on many other platforms for young
people to see.

The devil is not wise, but he is very cunning. Cunningness has a stint of
compromise and deceit inherent in it. The devil has now made it so easy for
himself such that if you don’t engage in fornication or adultery, you can still
get involved by watching pornographic movies or TV shows. I say it
unapologetically, that there’s hardly any Nollywood, Hollywood or
Bollywood movies etcetera that are not pornographic in nature. These
movies are so polluted that out of every ten Nollywood movie, you may not
even find any without a number of sex scenes or scenes portraying and
glorifying diabolism, that is, satanic powers (this is not the topic for today).
All because they make more sales and profit from such movies.

The devil is indeed cunning. He is making men and women with God given
talents around the world bow to him by giving them the glory of this world.
The same way he tempted Jesus.

Truly, some don’t engage in fornication or adultery outrightly, but they

listen to sexually perverted music and even watch their sexually perverted
music videos. And to those free from the above, one way or the other, you
want to look beautiful and fashionable as a lady, so he lures/manipulates
many ladies into wearing sexually appealing dresses that could cause other
men to fall just by looking at them. The devil knows that men are naturally
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courage to ask the lady out to be his girlfriend, demand sex for a price, take
advantage of such ladies or rape those in a more secretive place. It can resort
to men; lusting after such ladies in their minds, watching pornography or
masturbating with or without sex toys.

This is the mystery behind the inventions of the devil. Personally, I believe
that this is one of the major reasons for the increase in rape cases around the
world. So, as a young person you may not be engaging in outright
fornication, but you have a girlfriend or boyfriend you make out with or kiss
all the time without any reservation or apology not knowing that kissing is
also a covenant of oneness and exchange. You put your mouth in another’s,
exchanging and mixing together your saliva. What do you think this means
in the realm of the spirit? Know you not that everything you do here on
earth has a spiritual implication? Know you not that everything that now
exists as a possibility here on earth, was first a possibility in the realm of the
spirit? Even the act of kissing and its implication existed in the realm of the
spirit before it was transferred to earth.

So, it is a tragedy when even a Christian sister or any random lady, whether
believing or not, thinks that she can walk on the street with a dress that
exposes her sensitive parts, body shapes and curves and it means nothing. It
is a tragedy when a Christian brother and sister in a relationship think that it
means nothing to engage in making out or a kissing, as long as there is no
real sex. The truth is, whether or not there is a real sex, these activities are

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all invented, controlled, and managed by demons. So, the devil can access
you if you subscribe to them.

I have seen teenagers who go into relationships with the purpose of learning
for the future. That is, they go into relationships in a bid to learn what it
means to be married to someone. And, many of the times, these teenagers
have no knowledge on how to sustain a decent relationship. This is nothing
but another deceit from the devil. He makes two young people enter into a
relationship, and sometimes they even begin to cohabitate; living like
couples all in the name of learning what marriage is all about. The truth is,
twenty years in courtship does not equal a day in marriage, according to my
friend Tola.

These young people begin to mess up themselves all in the name of

experiencing and learning what marriage is all about. They do not realize
that they may only learn the sexual aspect of marriage, but certainly will not
learn the responsibility or spiritual aspects of marriage which are more
important. I will like to also emphasize that it is not sex that sustains a
marriage, because sexual pleasures fade away with time. And in these days,
not only old couples lose their sexual pleasures, even many young couples
are losing their sexual pleasures, especially couples that have been engaging
in the act of sex before marriage or from their youthful age as teenagers or
young adults. It is not even the euphoria of LOVE that sustains a marriage.
Two key things that sustain a marriage are COMPATIBILITY &
ENDURANCE, and ultimately, a relationship with God through Jesus
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Christ. If these three aspects work in a marriage, every other thing would
work. But if every other thing like money, sex, kids, cars, houses, good job
or source of income, fame and popularity etcetera work, and the three
aforementioned aspects are not in place, such marriage is only built on sand,
and would crash at the slightest blow of wind.

Keys to Stay Sexually Pure

1. YE MUST BE BORN AGAIN.
This is the first and most important key every man needs to stay sexually
pure. Being born again gives you an opportunity to develop a relationship
with the Holy Spirit who in turn will help you to mortify the deeds of the
flesh. A person who is not born again, with a working relationship with the
Holy Spirit will not see the need to be sexually pure. The highest such can
be is a Moralist. But in the days that we are coming into, Moralists will not
be able to stand the heat of sexual temptations. They can try to stand for
some time, but it won’t take long before they compromised their stance.
This is because outwardly they try to stand but their inward part; their soul
has not been renewed or transformed. They can’t sustain the convictions
that could keep them standing.

Some are moralists because their religion conditioned them to be so. Some
are moralists because personal experiences such as rape, conditioned them
to be, not because the Holy Ghost has transformed their minds to want to be
pure. The good news here is that even if you have once been involved in

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sexual sins or not, as long as you are born again and have established a
working relationship with the Holy Spirit, you can engage the other keys
and He would assist you in engaging them effectively and efficiently to
produce results. However, if you refuse to get born again and establish a
working relationship with the Holy Spirit, the other keys listed below may
not work for you.

This is another opportunity been offered to you again to make Jesus your
Lord and Savior, and allow Him set you free. Say this prayer below;

Dear LORD JESUS, I come to You just as I am; weak and without

strength. I have realized how much I need You in my life, so I ask that

You come into my life, purge me of every sin and filthiness, take all of me,

LORD, be my LORD AND SAVIOUR, help me to Love You and Live for

You and for Your Glory. Thank You Father IN JESUS NAME, Amen.

2. WALK IN THE SPIRIT, AND YE SHALL NOT FULFILL THE LUST

OF THE FLESH.
“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the
flesh.” (Galatians 5:16).
This covers several things such as having a working relationship with the
Holy Spirit, characterized by instant obedience and yielding, meditating on
God’s word to fill up your mind, praying always.

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The need for meditation on God’s word and prayer cannot be
overemphasized. The more you give yourself to meditating on God’s word
and prayer, your thirst for sin generally begins to die. The motions of sin in
the flesh are mortified. The word of God will purify your mind from dirt and
filth. After the word of God has washed your mind clean, your mind
receives enough space to think and work effectively and efficiently.

3. WATCH AND PRAY.

“Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is
willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41)
“Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to
escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son
of man.” (Luke 21:36).
The power of a sincere prayer to God cannot be overemphasized. This is
because prayer opens you up for God to search through you, to see your
weak areas and to fill you with strength. However, the power of prayer
would be undermined, until you take the conscious and intentional action of
WATCHING. Watching covers several things too. Watching is an
intentional effort of SCRUTINIZING the kind of people that you spend
most of your time with as friends, the kind of movies you see, the kind of
books you read, the kind of teachings and mindsets you accept. God will not
do this automatically or supernaturally for you. He only can grant you the
enabling grace if you are willing to accept it.

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You must end some relationships. You must keep considerable distance
from some people. You know those people, and you must do all that you
can to avoid them. You do not necessarily have to quarrel with them, but
you must realize that they cannot continue to play a major role in your life.
You must discipline your eyes to stop watching certain sexually perverted
movies. You must stop going to certain places that pollutes your mind and
eyes. Again, you know those places - you must avoid them. You must stop
listening to certain kind of music that does nothing but pollutes your soul.
You must define every relationship, and set a boundary to every
relationship, especially relationships involving people of the opposite sex.
Do not play rough or carelessly with the opposite sex, and many more that
you should and would develop and implement.

You must live by principles.

You must understand that living by certain principles does not equal to
living by or in the law. The law has been fulfilled for us, but if we must live
a responsible and Godly life, we must be disciplined enough to live by
principles. Do not be a man without STANDARDS or PRINCIPLES. They
are like a man's gate keeper. A gate keeper or security keeps the house from
being invaded, such is how a man would be secured or kept safe by his
personal principles and standards. A wise man once said that you don’t
make your principles in your weak times, you make your principles in the
time of your strength, and they will help you in your weak times. Sexual
sins cannot be avoided by just praying alone, one has to set boundaries and
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live by principles because every day the devil keeps fighting mankind with
the things that we see and hear. You must endeavor to MAKE NO
PROVISION FOR THE FLESH.

“But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the
flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.” (Romans 13:14).

Do not ever think that you are not susceptible to sexual impurity,
because if you do, you will fail to live by necessary principles, and you
may soon fall.

Do not enter into undefined and unprincipled dating relationships. Learn the
act of fleeing. Once you sense the temptation coming, before things start to
get out of control, RUN. Never hesitate to flee when in a compromising
situation. Do not be deceived to think you can control it, because you may
not be able to. Be like Joseph, run and protect your destiny. (Gen 39:11-12).

“In the battle for sexual purity, retreat is usually the first line of defense.” –
Randy Alcorn.

Be Radical!
You must be radical. Do whatever it takes to guard your sexual purity.
Being fully aware of the warfare dimension of sexual purity, you must be
willing to cut off anything that may serve as a temptation or a means of
temptation without any apology or reservation.

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“Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast
them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed,
rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire.
And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better
for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be
cast into hell fire.” (Matthew 18:8-9).

Don’t be apologetic about it. You may need to stop watching movies or
totally avoid watching the television. You may need to stop visiting or
relating with those friends. You may need to cut away the use of certain
social networks or the use of internet in total. You may need to stop yourself
from listening to certain types of music. Do not pity yourself. Make the
decisions that would suffer your flesh but save your destiny from a lifelong
mistake. What you are doing is that you are creating space for God to
work on you. You would not avoid those social networks or the internet in
total forever, but avoid it now till you are fully worked upon by God.

As often as you can, meditate on the devastating consequences of sexual

impurity. If you do this, you will be less likely to fall into it. The tragic
aspect is that most of these consequences are continuous. They don’t happen
once. Think of how it can mar a man’s destiny for life, it can result to:
losing one’s virginity for life, sexually transmitted diseases that could stay
with one for life, unwanted pregnancy, and becoming a father suddenly and
unprepared; which may lead to social stigmatization, making one a bad
example to family, friends and neighbors, the mental images of the sexual
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sins that would plague one continuously, the hindrances to marriage caused
by premarital sex or not being a virgin, hindrances to marriage caused by
being a baby Mama or Papa, especially in a continent like Africa, the greater
possibility of extramarital sex (adultery) among those who have had
premarital sex, the invasion of demons that would constantly manipulate
and oppress one and if the victim wants to be free from these demons, it
could take days, months, or years of intense fasting and prayers and
deliverance sessions and the most tragic consequence is, disappointing God
and shifting one out of His plans. The few minutes of sinful pleasures are
not worth all these tragic outcomes. These are not your portion in Jesus
Name.

4. GET A MENTOR OR AN ACCOUNATABILITY PARTNER, AND

KEEP A SPIRITUAL FAMILY.
It is said that when the devil wants to destroy a man, he isolates such man. I
believe this is true because many young people in this generation are lost
and cannot find their way because they lack someone to show them the way.

The journey of life cannot be walked alone. There is need for interaction
between men for the continuity of life. However, in a typical Nigerian
home, many parents have failed at establishing such relationships with their
children that could enable their children to discuss certain private issues of
their lives with them. Such cordial relationship is greatly scarce in the
average Nigerian home. This makes the children in their growing years to

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find it difficult to expose their feelings and struggles to their parents. And
sadly, the first Mentors children should have, are their parents.

A Mentor is one that you look up to for close guidance. One that has
successfully and experientially scaled through the challenges you are
currently struggling with, and can adequately lead and guide you to also
scale through those challenges.

An accountability partner can be a friend, sibling, or any loved one that you
are answerable to, and vice versa. How this helps is that it helps to keep you
in check always, and blesses you with a regular listening ear that you indeed
need so that you can share things that bothers you almost immediately. An
accountability partner is usually a closer and more intimate person than a
mentor, because an accountability partner is a person always at hand to
listen to you and proffer solutions. An accountability partner should not be
one who judges or condemns you, but one that can encourage you to be a
better person.

A spiritual family could be your church, a fellowship, a group or team of

people where your primary purpose of coming together is to spend time
with God, and share some spiritual bonding.

Note that anybody or group of people who should serve as your

accountability partner, mentor or spiritual family must hold sexual purity in
high regard, and must be able to hold you accountable to high standards.
You cannot be accountable to someone who is struggling with sexual purity
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or doesn’t even value sexual purity. It is best and safer to be accountable to
somebody of same gender as well.

Any young man or woman who lacks any of these three, or at worst, lacks
all three is prone to fall into sexual impurity, and other vices or errors in life.
You need them more if at all, you are already fallen into it and you’re
presently struggling. Remember that I started experiencing my deliverance
when I exposed myself to my parent, seeking for help and God helped me to
acquire spiritual mentors that were of very great help to me as well.
Although I did not have an accountability partner except for the two
Christian friends I had; they were the first set of people I opened up to when
I got into a sexual relationship with Cynthia. This means that you need to
open up. Do not keep your challenge to yourself. Seek the right counsel.

There are questions in the hearts of many adolescents and teens, even young
adults that are in dire need of an answer, but they have no one around them
who can answer those questions. Many things appear strange to the growing
adolescents and teens. They keep these things to themselves for fear of
being scolded or punished by their parents, fear of stigmatization from
family, friends and neighbors and social rejection, amongst others. As a
result of these many unanswered questions, unexplained strange occurrences
and experiences, resulting in curiosity and anxiety, many young people have
made and are making avoidable mistakes. But again, YOUR MISTAKE IS
YOUR MESSAGE!!!

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Forgive Yourself
The truth is ‘you are too imperfect to not have made a mistake’. As much as
you have realized how bad the habits you had were, the important thing is
that you can continue to live a life of victory over them in and through
Jesus. You don’t have to hate yourself; you don’t have to wallow in the
wilderness of bitterness and regrets.

The mistakes God has allowed you to make are the messages he gave
you to leverage on, in preaching His gospel to the world. Don’t be too
hard on yourself. You must let go of your past. Focus on the new life you
have got in Jesus.

The Apostle Paul said “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended:
but this one thing I do, forgetting the things which are behind, and
reaching forth unto those things which are before me”. (Philippians
3:13).

However, until you understand that your mistakes are not a disadvantage to
you, but are assets and potentials lying dormant and unrecognized in your
life which are capable of: giving you an opportunity to be relevant,
impacting the lives of others positively, and ultimately to fulfil God’s
purpose for you- until you understand these, you may not find the boldness
to stand.

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This is what you should do:
In this exercise, I encourage you to have a notepad and pen beside you. This
is essential because you will need to write down some certain things as you
go through, you may need to make some concrete decisions, you may need
to have a diary; where you write sensitive events about your life.

1. Do not hate yourself; only hate the circumstances that pushed you into
your mistakes. For some, it could be poverty, poor parental control or
family upbringing, exposure to morally dented environments, rape, lack of
listening ears, etcetera.
2. Don’t let your mistakes put you in the bondage of shame. Make up your
mind to own up on your mistakes. This means that you unapologetically
decide to accept you mistakes as part of the events that make up your life.
Remember that great people are not people without scars. Even the
Apostle Paul, admitted in Galatians 6:17 that he had scars, and these scars
of his, served as the basis of his boldness. The moment you decide to do
this, you would experience some more levels of freedom
3. Study your mistakes. Why they happened, how they happened, where
they happened, what were the major fuel to your mistakes? You can refer
to the step one.
4. With your discoveries, meditate on the areas you could have made
better decisions.
5. Go to God in prayer. Seek fellowship with the Holy Spirit. The Holy
Spirit will quicken your healing process and time goes by, as you
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 fellowship with the Lord, He would begin to teach you how you can
compassionately help people who are trapped in what you were trapped in.

Consider the following scenario:

Emmanuel, a 20year old young man had been addicted to drugs and
homosexuality since he was 13 years of age. Even after he got born again,
Emmanuel suffered from shame, stigmatization, divided mind; inability to
concentrate and focus, self-hate and bitterness. He regretted that he once
portrayed himself a gay to the world around him. Suddenly, Emmanuel
reads this book you are currently reading, and decides to not only read the
book, but to also carry out the exercises therein. Emmanuel began to study
his mistakes.

He found out that one of the reasons he was exposed to drugs early in life
was because he once saw his elder sibling doing drugs too. And as a little
boy, he was curious and fascinated to it. He decided to also try what he saw
his elder sibling doing. He tried it the first time for the fun of being curious
about taking hard drugs. He tried it the second, third, and fourth time.
Suddenly, He couldn’t stop trying it until he became addicted.

He continued his reflection process as days passed by, and also discovered
how he dabbled into homosexuality. He discovered how that his addiction to
hard drugs always led him to relate with bad friends and wrong companies.
His companionship with wrong companies triggered his interest in sexual
activities as an advanced means of enjoying being high on drugs. He got

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into sexual relationships, and pornographic movies also became his hubby.
And pornographic movies encouraged him to be creative which switched his
inclination again, to homosexuality.

He continued again and discovered how even in the midst of his inventions
and addictions, his parents didn’t help matters. He remembered that in his
growing years, his mum was too short tempered; he feared exposing his
predicaments to his mum. His dad on the other hand, was too relaxed and
carefree. He didn’t give much attention to the family. He noted that his
parents never set aside a time for the family to be very productive whether
in studying, retreating, quality discussions etcetera, but every night and day
was for watching TVs and movies. Worst of all, they never had a family
prayer time. The parents were lazy Christians. Emmanuel realized that the
beginning and the end, even the root of the mistakes in his life were largely
because of parental and family failure.

Also, Emmanuel all of a sudden, as a result of these discoveries, started

developing passionate hatred for all the evil acts he had engaged in, and
whenever he saw somebody who is engaged in what he once suffered from
whether inordinate sex, drug abuse, or anyone from a family with limited
parental control, it burns his heart so much, almost bringing him to tears.

Then, on a faithful day, Emmanuel came across a young lady who had spent
her life in prostitution because she lacked a godly family upbringing. This
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it meant to lack a good family upbringing. And suddenly, Emmanuel made a
vow to God and himself, to rescue everyone he can, who he finds living a
wayward life because of poor family upbringing. This became his pursuit
henceforward.
Emmanuel began to live a purposeful life. His mistakes became his
message. You can be that Emmanuel!

Recommended texts: Isaiah 50: 8-9, Romans 8: 28-34.

End Note

It is observed that experience is not the best teacher. Hence, it pays to learn
from the experiences of others and glean wisdom from it, instead of
spending years in trials and errors. So, I believe you have learnt from mine,
and from the simple but powerful keys I shared in this book.

The ultimate purpose of this book is not that you read it, but for you to also
act on everything you have learnt. So, make those decisions now. Set those
principles now. Run to Jesus now!

Perhaps you also have a story to share of how you suffered from the
bondage of sexual sin or any sin at all as a young person, and how you
overcame, you may write to me through mail at aopaul22@gmail.com, with
the subject MY STORY, and I would be glad to share your story
anonymously to the world to learn from through my publications.

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Perhaps you are still suffering from the bondage or the consequences of
your sexual sins or any sin at all, and you read through this book and could
still not find help or you have some questions unanswered in your heart, you
could write to me through mail as well with the subject HELP, and I would
be willing to partner with you to Your freedom, as the Lord grants me grace.

Ultimately, perhaps you gave your life to Jesus and accepted His life in the
course of reading this book, I would be glad and excited to meet you and
form a community with You. Remember that We all need a Mentor,
accountability partner and or a spiritual family. So, you could write to me
through mail with the subject I LOVE JESUS, and I would respond in seven
days.

Finally, if you read through this book and did not surrender your life to
Jesus Christ, I commend You to God, and want You to know that TRUE
FREEDOM AND LIBERTY BEGINS WITH AN ENCOUNTER WITH
JESUS. Seek this encounter!

I enjoyed writing this book, and I am sure you enjoyed reading it, and learnt
from it as well. Hence, catch me in my next book.

I LOVE YOU. JESUS LOVES YOU MORE………

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