To some people repeating the same outfit twice is as normal as brushing

teeth in the morning. It's just a part of routine that never gets thought
about. It's so normal, that it's not even a topic of conversation.
0:16

And for some people outfit repeating is somewhat of a nightmare. Wearing

the same dress to two different weddings, unthinkable, wearing the same
outfit on social media more than once, not going to happen, wearing the
same outfit to two different parties not going to happen.
0:36

There are some people who are so concerned about repeating the same
outfit twice that they'd rather not go to a party to an event to whatever
than wear the same outfit twice. I've known people like this that have
literally wanted to come up with an excuse to not go to a wedding because
they didn't want to wear the same dress that they had worn to another
wedding in the past, but they didn't have time to find a new dress.
1:00

This happens. Okay? And then, there are some people who can't be
concerned with the concept of outfit repeating because they don't have
that luxury. You know, being concerned about being seen in the same
outfit twice is absolutely a luxury it goes without saying that there are
people that would do anything for that luxury.
1:20

I think all of us can look at the concept of outfit repeating and say, why is
this even a topic of conversation? Like this is ridiculous, this is You know,
rooted in the most shallow (= not deep) values of humanity, this is
ridiculous.
1:39

This is stupid. No one should be concerned about this. There are bigger fish
to fry in this world. There are people with way worse problems. Obviously,
why is this even a topic of conversation? It's easy to say that from a bird's-
eye view.
1:55

But what's wild to me is how common it is for people to be concerned

about repeating the same outfit, more than once. Not only have I
experienced this pressure to not repeat outfits, but I've watched people in
my life stress out over this. And on social media, I've seen other people
who I don't even know stress out about this and I've also sort of seen it in
the world, you know? When you go through any influencers’ page on
Instagram you are not probably not see them wear the same thing twice.
It's even rare to find an influencer or a celebrity wearing the same piece of
clothing twice.
2:41

Like yeah, maybe sometimes, but not often. So whether it's being discussed
or not, we're seeing this stigma around outfit repeating in action with
celebrities, influencers, and even our friends and family, sometimes, you
know, people always showing up to Thanksgiving in a new outfit are always
showing up to a wedding in a new outfit and I don't even want to talk
about it because by talking about it, I'm giving it some sort of legitimacy
(the quality of being legal) or some sort of value more than it deserves.
3:16

And I don't want to do that. But at the same time, I do want to discuss it
because I think it's something a lot of people experience whether they're
fortunate enough to actually take it seriously as a concern or if they wish
that they could think of it as a concern.
3:35

It affects everybody in some way, not everybody. But it affects a lot of

people in some way or it's something that you feel everyone else is
concerned about. I remember when I was in elementary school, I wore
clothes in the most logical rational normal type of way that you could
imagine.
3:57

It was like, every year I would go to the shoes store and I'd buy a pair of
shoes, throw my old ones away. If they were destroyed, maybe get some
hand-me-downs from my older cousins. Maybe buy a few new things,
probably not, probably just take the hand-me-downs from my cousins and
that's what I would wear all year.
4:15

I would rotate between, I don't know, three tops, three pairs of pants. One
to two jackets, that's it. It was like I would wear the same thing over and
over and over and over again until we get dirty, and then I'd wash it and I
never changed my shoes.
4:31

I wore the same shoes everyday. Maybe I had a different sort of shoe for
summer, but it was like, you wear what you got until it wears out. And then
you go get a new one. That was sort of the concept, and then there were a
few backups for if things got dirty.
4:46

And I mean, obviously, when you're in elementary school, you're not really
too concerned about expressing yourself. I mean, I remember enjoying
getting dressed up into Halloween costumes, even when it was Choline and
getting into my ballet outfit, even when I was not ballet class and wearing
cheap plastic jewelry that, I don't know.
5:09

Maybe I got for my teacher, something like, I remember being excited

about getting dressed up, but when it came to day-to-day life, the way that
I wore clothes was very utilitarian (designed to
be useful rather than decorative) and straight to the point. It was like, we're
just wearing clothes to wear clothes.
5:25

That's it. You know what I'm saying? It there was no stigma (kỳ thị) when I
was a an elementary school, kid around wearing the same outfit twice.
Okay, that was not a thing. All the kids in my school were wearing the same
outfit over and over and over again because that was normal as it should
be, by the way. Like that period of my life, I think taught me how you're
supposed to wear clothes, you know what I'm saying, you buy it and you
wear it until it wears out, and then you get a new one, if you can. You know
what I'm saying? Now, it's even ridiculous to talk about it because I was
actually between ages five and nine.
6:01

Okay. Did I even have a brain? I don't know. It's questionable. In middle
school, I feel like things changed a little bit. I remember going to middle
school and I was so used to wearing the same thing every day. You know,
three days in a row where the same thing until it got dirty, right?
6:21

And I remember going to middle school in realizing, oh wait, this is not,

what's going on here? Okay, we have people showing up every day in a
different outfit and we have people showing up every day in like a cute
outfit. And I feel like prior to middle school, I was just so used to… I don't
know, wearing just kind of comfortable normal stuff to school everyday,
jeans and like a sweatshirt, you know, my jeans didn't fit perfectly in my
sweatshirt. Didn't really fit perfectly.It was like, nothing was really cute
about it. It was just, it was just clothes, that's it.
6:55

It was like survival. You know what I'm saying? We're just putting on
clothes to go to school. I saw a shift in middle school where I was like, wait
people are kind of expressing themselves in a different way and all the cool
kids seem to be wearing this and they're all kind of matching and they're all
sort of wearing the Hollister shirts and the Abercrombie jeans and the Ugg
boots in the leggings in the juicy zip ups.
7:22

And that like, I started to notice people were being stylish at school and on
top of that there, they were wearing something different every day. And I
was like, oh, so we're not wearing the same thing to school every day
anymore. Okay, got it. Because I didn't know that.
7:39

I will also say, though.What's interesting is I moved towns for middle

school. So I went to a new school with a completely new group of kids, and
this school financially, it was in a maybe a slightly wealthier area.
7:56

So I wonder if that had something to do with it, you know, maybe if I would
have stayed in the town that I grew up in, I wouldn't have seen this sort of
shift in priorities as early, or maybe it's just something that happens in
middle school. You know, kids are growing up and they start to value these
things more, I don't know.
8:16

Obviously, in middle school, kids weren't wearing a completely new outfit

every day. Like, it was still normal. Kids were wearing the same one or two
pairs of shoes.The same jacket, you know. But the shirt was changing and
the pants were changing and the hair accessories were changing, although I
do think changing your shirt every day when you start to go through
puberty (tuổi dậy thì), make sense because now you smell like shit.
8:44

Okay, you didn't smell like shit in elementary school, you could get away
with wearing the same shirt, 100 days in row because you never smelled.
But in Middle School you start to smell like shit. So it kind of makes sense
that around this time. It Became less cool to be wearing the same outfit
every day because not only do kids.
9:04

Priorities start to shift, but also kids start worrying about cleanliness
because they kind of have to because, for the First Time they're having
body odor.I hate the term Bo, like instead of saying body odor Bo body
odor, as a phrase, does not bother me.
9:22

Okay. Nope. No problem. Bo like that offends me for some reason. Okay, so
I will say, I started to feel this sort of stigma against outfit repeating in
middle school, but it wasn't really discussed yet.
9:40

And it wasn't that extreme. It wasn't on my radar in a way that was

impossible to ignore. It was like, in my peripheral, you know, it was starting
to enter my mind in subconsciously, I started to feel this pressure to wear
new fresh things everyday. But it wasn't at the forefront of my mind. I feel
like it was almost like I just started doing it and I didn't really know why I
like it was just as a means to fit in right now in high school outfit repeating
really became a part of the conversation.
10:17

What's funny about it is I went to a school that required us to wear

uniforms every day. So I wore the same khaki skirt and Polo shirt every
single day so it wasn't really a conversation at school but when it came to
football games or school dances or even just going to hang out with
friends, they're kind of was a real pressure to wear something fresh and
new every time.
10:44

And I especially noticed it in my friend group, like I noticed my friends felt

this intense pressure to constantly wear something new. And, you know,
we had a big group chat and I remember how much stress went into
picking out the perfect outfit for the football game and I remember, you
know, some of my friends feeling like they had nothing to wear even
though they definitely had a lot to where, you know what I'm saying? I
remember this starting to become an issue, like a serious issue that was
being talked about like, oh, I already wore that.
11:15

Oh, but I've already warned that too many times to football games. I can't
wear that again. Like I felt like it started to become more of a conversation
that was happening out loud. Although I will say, it wasn't a concern for
everyone. They were some of my friends that just could not have cared
less, did not give a fuck.
11:31

And then there was some of my friends that were incredibly concerned
about it. So it's sort of dependent on the person and what their priorities
were. And I remember, I started to feel this pressure really heavily as well,
trying to accumulate as many options as I could for the least amount of
money possible.
11:52

And that meant me digging around on weird websites, that sold clothes for
really cheap trying to find clothes that, you know, I could afford. This is kind
of how I discovered thrifting (tiết kiệm), you know, I didn't have my own
money to go and buy the type of options that I wanted from, you know,
normal stores.
12:12

So I was like, I'm going to go thrift shopping and find things for 1/50 of the
price so I can just have options. So I don't find myself running into this
outfit repeating stress as often. I think the outfit repeating stigma really
became obvious for me in a big way that impacted me. Once I became a
public figure on the internet, particularly on Instagram, I noticed
immediately that in order to fit in with the other public figures on the
internet.
12:49

There are some rules, you know, not outfit repeating being one of those
rules. Now I was a rebel (nổi loạn) when I first Started posting on the
internet for more than just my friends and family. I did not give a fuck
about all of the rules that come with being a public figure.
13:09

Like, you know, outfit repeating isn't cool or when you posted an Instagram
photo has to be perfect or blah blah. Like II did not care about that. I did
not listen to that. Like I knew about this stigma, I could feel it, but I didn't
care at first.
13:27

It was almost like in Middle School and High School. Lol, I cared a little bit,
but I couldn't necessarily participate fully because I didn't make my own
money. I didn't have the ability to go and buy a bunch of options whenever
I wanted. So I was somewhat aware of this stigma and I'd participate as
much as I could, but I couldn't really care about it that much because I just
didn't make my own money and my parents provided me with so much.
13:55

I'm so grateful. But, you know, they didn't provide me with this sort of
wardrobe that it would require to not outfit repeat and to not get bored of
what's in my closet constantly. You know what I'm saying? It's not a
reasonable ask from your parents, okay. And so it weirdly was a concern,
but it also kind of couldn't really be a concern.
14:14
And then when I left middle school and high school, I just ditched that
whole thing. All together and I was like, I don't give a fuck, I do not give a
fuck almost as a form of rejection against what it meant to be a public
figure.Always wearing something new and fresh always wearing something
bujji. She always looking good always doing this.
14:31

Always doing that. I was like, fuck all that it was never something that was
actually deliberately discussed, but it was always this unspoken thing
among public figures, you know? It was like it was just this unspoken thing
now, I don't know at what point this happened.
14:48

Now, eventually, I did cave to this mentality, which I'm not proud of
admitting, like I actually I'm embarrassed to admit, this, I would prefer to
not, but for the sake of this conversation, I will admit that I did eventually
cave fully to this whole stigma around out for repeating and it wasn't like a
deliberate choice on my end.
15:11

It wasn't like starting today. Now this means something to me, it was sort
of a slow burn and it happened slowly over time where I just started to care
more and more about wearing the same thing, whether it was posting on
social media or going to a party or whatever.
15:29

I slowly but surely started to care about outfit repeating and it became
something that was floating around my mind, when I was getting dressed in
the morning. I wish I could pinpoint why, or how I got to that point but I
can't I don't know what happened because I was doing so good in the
beginning.
15:52

I was like I don't give a fuck. Fuck these bad morals. You know like that
come with being a public figure where Give a fuck about the stupid stuff,
not me. And then, you know, and it kind of did become me, you know what
I'm saying? It didn't harm anyone around me or anything, but it, harmed
me in a way because it was something that stressed me out, like, I would
put on an outfit that I really liked, and then I'd be like, but I wear these
pants too much, or, but I wear this top too much or I've already worn this
dress to an event and it made me stressed out in unhappy as dumb as that
sounds.
16:29

I would get stressed out if someone would take a photo of me and I was
like, oh, that's a cool photo but I already wore that shirt in an Instagram
photo like that mattered to me at a point. Okay. I would say probably when
I was 18 or 19.No, I don't know, actually, I don't, I can't put it finger on the,
on the age, but I did subconsciously and somewhat consciously, but mainly
subconsciously start to care about this.
16:56

Now, around this time I was able to support myself, financially, where I
could sort of support this mindset, I made my own money and paid for
everything for myself for the first time in my life and I didn't know how to
use discipline with myself yet.
17:15

I didn't know I needed to. So I sort of enabled myself in a way to shop and
buy new things on a consistent basis. So that I never had to feel like I was
repeating outfits. This was a priority for me.
17:32

And for a few years, I was consistently buying clothes, buying clothes,
buying clothes, buying clothes subconsciously, stressing out about wearing
the same thing twice. And I also found myself getting really bored of
clothes after I'd wear them, especially on social media.
17:48
Like, if I post a photo in something, I'd feel like, I don't like it anymore, it
was crazy. Like I don't know how I got to this point because it's something
that I'm so not proud of like It's a terrible way to look at clothes.
18:04

It's a terrible way to look at your belongings and it's just a moral blip for me
in the funniest part about it is that throughout those years of me, giving a
fuck about outfit repeating. I never once paid attention enough to what
someone else wears to notice if they repeated an outfit or wore the same
pair of jeans, every time they went out to dinner. I Ever ever noticed that
ever yet? I cared about it. Now, before we discuss how I got over that
phase, I want to discuss a little bit more how I've seen this stigma in the
world around me, because part of me wonders, if my sudden shift from not
caring about out the repeating at all, to suddenly carrying more than I wish
to admit, part of me wonders, if as a result of the culture shifting to, and it
becoming even more stigmatized in society, I don't know.
19:09

Now, I know, I'm not the only one who has possibly lost control of their
values and has put priority on this in their life. I know, I'm not the only one,
but for all of you those who are listening, whether this is something you
care about or don't care about.
19:27

Let's just remind ourselves. Why this stigma around outfit repeating is
fucking ridiculous. Regardless of, where we stand on the topic. Number
one, repeating your outfit, doesn't mean that you don't have style.
19:47

I feel like some people feel pressure to wear something new and fresh
every time to display that they're fashionable. But that doesn't really make
sense because being fashionable has nothing to do with how frequently
you have a cool new outfit.
20:06
It just has to do with how cool the outfit you're wearing in the present
moment is whether you do or don't outfit repeat has nothing to do with
whether or not you're fashionable. And it has everything to do with what
your priorities are in life and what your resources are in life.
20:23

You know, overall this stigma is rooted in terrible values. It's basically
quantity over quality to a tee, you know, and I can't think of one occasion
where quantity is more favorable than quality.
20:40

I mean like even with money let's say you have a lot of money but it's all
illegal. You made it all illegally so you're constantly hiding it. Would you
rather have that quantity or would you rather have quality, you know, less
money but you earned it, I don't know.
20:59

No, I mean maybe maybe some would prefer the illegal money and that's
fair to but when it comes to quality of life, I think on most occasions it's
quality over quantity but this concept of outfit repeating it puts the priority
on quantity of outfits instead of the quality of one or a few really good
outfits. And that just misses the point of fashion because fashion is about
expressing yourself just as much as it's about being comfortable in what
you're wearing and appreciating what you're wearing.
21:39

And when you're so concerned about quantity, you're much less concerned
about those key values that make fashion so exciting. fashion is not about
quantity, despite what you may believe. It is truly about quality like Oh, I
think it's so much cooler to see someone wear two different outfits in
rotation, that a really cool and really them.
22:02

I think it's so much cooler to see that than to see somebody who's
constantly in a new outfit, but their closet is a mess and they have a bunch
of stuff that's like falling apart because maybe they bought, you know, like
a bunch of fast fashion, sort of things just to fill their closet. I don't know.
22:17

I just I think it's more exciting to see someone really enjoying appreciate
the pieces that they do have one amazing pair of pants that fit you amazing
that are comfortable that are your style are worth so much more in your
heart than 10 pairs of shitty pants.
22:39

They cost the same amount as that one pair of pants. I think the stigma of
really does push you to want to buy more rather than better, you know.
And that's just not right. Listen, am I saying it's wrong to buy something
new here and there and enjoy it.
22:57

No. Am I saying that we all need to be minimalists and have two outfits in
our closet that we wear every day? No, I'm not saying that. There's this
healthy balance. I think that we can find, that's somewhere in between.I
think the key is just removing the stigma around outfit repeating because
without that stigma, without that pressure, it's so much easier to shop in a
way that's responsible.
23:24

All it's so much easier to appreciate the pieces of clothing that you do have.
It's still okay to go shopping still, okay?To buy something new for a
wedding if you want to. But I think the true test to see how much you really
care. Is to ask yourself how you'd feel wearing the same dress to two
different weddings, you know, to ask yourself, how you'd feel wearing the
same outfit to two separate parties, two nights in a row, you know?
23:50

And I think once you get to a point where your answer is I don't really care.
Then naturally the way that you shop in the way that you live in the way
that you appreciate your belongings, will shift. If you're somebody who
particularly struggles with this and you have a really hard time repeating
outfits.
24:10

I'll tell you how I sort of unlearned the whole thing and restructured that
part of my brain. The first thing I did was look at myself in the face and say,
your priorities are all out of whack and you let this dumb idea tiptoe into
your mind and make a home and the lease is up and it's time for that dumb
idea to move the fuck out.
24:37

You know. It's your fault for falling for this, you know? And I think the first
step is to realize how dumb the ideology is and then to look at yourself in
the face and say this is like kind of a mistake that you made a little bit
caring about this but it's okay.
24:54

Okay, because it's up to you to change your mind until that little idea in
your brain, that it's time to move out. You have control over that. So that's
the good news. It's almost like playing bad cop with yourself and being a
little bit mean to yourself without it.
25:11

I don't know. I don't think being mean to yourself is the right way to put it,
but taking accountability for letting yourself get to a point where that
matters to you, I think taking accountability for that sorts of makes you
feel a little embarrassed a little uncomfortable inside to a point where it
shakes you a little bit and it inspires you to want to be better about the way
that you look at things because you're like I'm not really actually proud of
that.
25:39

But if you don't take accountability and look at yourself in the mirror and
say that was kind of not cool, when you cared about that, then you might
not shake yourself up (If an unpleasant experience shakes someone up, it
makes them feel shocked and upset) enough to change it and maybe this is
just the way that I handle things in the way that works for me, but that
really worked for me.
25:58

I also think the Second Step that goes hand-in-hand, with that first step is
to look at the bigger picture. And you know, if you're somebody who is
lucky enough to even have this be a concern, really sit in that and feeling
comfortable with that, because that was something I had to sort of sit with
him, feel uncomfortable with like that, I cared about this this matter to me
this actually stressed me out at one point.
26:27

You know what I'm saying? How ridiculous is that when there are truly so
many more things to be worried about. Number one, I let myself sit in the
fact that I let myself by into something as materialistic in service level as
that.
26:49

And that that's kind of embarrassing to me like I forced myself to sit in that
embarrassment and I forced myself to look at the bigger picture to look at
what life is really about. And then sort of zoom into this little tiny dumb
thing that I cared about and realize how tiny, small and ridiculous that thing
was. I do this with my anxiety as well.You know, when I get anxious about
something that is mundane or inconsequential when I get too wrapped up
in the Weeds, you know, and I get anxious about something that it's really
not that big of a deal.
27:30

I'll do the same thing. I'll zoom out and I'll look at the big picture. I'll look at
the grand scheme of things and then I'll Zoom back into my tiny little thing
and realize, wait a minute, this doesn't matter. This is not something that
actually warrants anxiety.
27:46

This means nothing in the bigger picture. And that's how I relieve my
anxiety about the small stuff, but it's the same thing with this taking a step
back so you can truly see how dumb that sort of ideology is, and naturally
that made me shop more mindfully, made me appreciate what I have and
not constantly want more and it's inspired me to reinvent things in my
closet over and over and over and over again instead of bored of
something.
28:21

I'm inspired to take something I've worn 50 times and find a new way to
wear it. Find a way to make it feel new. It's been so much more inspiring
for me actually with getting dressed in the morning. I really love the idea of
only having things in your closet that you really love and appreciate and
finding new ways to reinvent those things instead of constantly wanting
the hot new thing, all of this to say, you know, I'm somewhat embarrassed
that I ever got to this point.
28:57

Now, listen, I don't really know when this started for me. I may never figure
it out. There were some signs. When I was younger, there have been a lot
of signs in the world around me, but I can't quite pinpoint how or why it
happened. But regardless, I'm glad to say that that is no longer something
that I care about, I am now a proud.
29:20

Proud outfit repeater. And I really think outfit repeating is not only, is it so
obvious, not only is it so normal, but I think it's fucking great. It's actually
amazing, like, allowing yourself to wear the same thing twice.
29:38

Like, I have a dress right now that I love that I wore to one wedding next
time. There's a wedding on the calendar. Guess what? I'm wearing that
dress. What a relief. I don't have to worry about buying a new dress and
except know what if there's a dinner party that comes up.
29:54
That's like, you know, a little bit more dressy, guess what dress? I mean
we're probably that fucking dress, I'm going to wear that thing over and
over again until it really, it really needs to be retired. Wearing the same
sweatshirt and jeans every day for a week when I'm on vacation. What a
blissful experience really getting to just enjoy the environment around me
when I'm traveling.
30:14

What a blissful experience wearing a cute outfit, one night out to a party
and then being like, well didn't I get that dirty? I'm going to wear it again
this next night to a different party. What a blissful experience, it makes life
better not to care about outfit.
30:32

Repeating it, genuinely makes life better and for those of you who have
never thought twice about outfit repeating for whatever reason, that
maybe this whole thing, Probably sounds fucking stupid to you.And
honestly, it's Good. Because this whole thing is stupid, in the fact that it's
even a conversation today is going to keep me up at night, okay?
30:53

But if you're out there right now and you're still concerned about outfit
repeating, let me tell you something.Set yourself free, okay. Set yourself
free. And look at the bigger picture. I'm not judging you. No one should be
judging you. Okay.
31:10

Even though it's kind of ridiculous. No one's judging you. But set yourself
free from this. I had to teach myself this. Now, it's your turn. I don't know
what it is about me. I'm like, really going through this phase where I'm
really, I don't know.
31:26
I'm just having epiphanies about the way I live my life. I guess in the weird
little things that I've abided by Without Really asking any questions. This is
one of those things. So, that's all I have for today.
31:44

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32:20

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32:38

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