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Preface
Throughout your life, you are bound to meet people in many situations.
The ability to deal with them effectively largely determines your quality of
life. Good social skills are cheat codes for getting your job, scaling a
business, getting your girl, making good friends, selling your product and
whatnot. The importance of social skills in developing all realms of
human life is my primary motivation for writing this book.
I was a shy kid and had poor social skills. After losing many
opportunities, I decided to change my situation and started working on
my people skills. After spending over four years researching social skills
and talking to people, I learned the elements essential for
communicating and connecting with others. I aim to share all these with
you through this book.
The book contains seventy-five tips on social skills. These tips cover
various skills such as charisma, persuasion, flirting, connecting with
others, building genuine connections, commanding respect, resisting
manipulation, emotional intelligence, etc.
You can use this book as a to-do list. Mark the tips when you use them.
It will ensure you take action and use these tips well. If you want to
develop your skills truly, you need to put in the effort and practice these.
I have kept the tips concise. Let me know if you need any clarification
about the tips (Contact info on the last page).
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6. Make women feel emotions, and you will connect to them. Talk
about her interests, dreams, experiences and motivations. Make
her laugh, tease her, express your personality boldly, and disagree
when you want to.
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10. Use mirroring to build rapport. Adopt the same body language
and voice tone as the other person. Do it subtly so you don’t
appear to be mimicking the other person.
11. Talk to strangers. You can only get better at talking to people if
you speak to many people. Talk to people in the gym, public
transport, co-workers, etc.
15. Fix your posture and make yourself instantly attractive. Stand tall,
shoulders back, back straight and keep your head up to look ready
to inspire others.
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16. Use hand gestures while talking to animate your ideas and
make you look charismatic and confident. (A Good Resource)
17. Don’t talk too much with no value. People talking shit are
ignored. People whose words are valuable are heard and
respected.
20. Put yourself in their shoes while persuading. People don’t care
about you. They only care about themselves. Think from their
perspective to tell them what’s in it for them.
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24. Insert silences instead of the verbal clutter (uh, uhm, etc.)
Silences will help you recollect yourself and organise your
thoughts. It also allows others to follow you better.
26. Research HR, the company, and people before meeting them.
It will also help you maintain flowing and engaging conversations
with them. It shows that you are interested in the other person or
company and works like magic.
28. Give before you take. Before asking for favours, do something for
them. Before expecting respect from them, give basic respect to
them. Use reciprocity to your advantage.
29. Know what you are talking about to speak fluently and
coherently.
31. Don’t be too stressed thinking about what to say next. If you
are too overwhelmed, you will lose the context of conversations. It
is essential to ask follow-up questions to keep the conversation
flowing.
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33. Roast your friends back if you are the most roasted one in the
group. When it is too safe to mock you, everyone will do it. Notice
how the best roaster is roasted less in the group. Why? People
don’t feel safe in roasting them.
37. Avoid gossiping. People share gossip more than they share
compliments about someone. You are prone to lose trust and
reputation after gossiping. People will eventually share less
information with you in the workplace, hindering your career
growth.
38. Repeat the last few words they just spoke to make them
elaborate on their answers. An obvious alternative to this is
asking them to elaborate. It is easier to carry on the conversations
with elaborative answers from the other person.
39. Speak in terms of the other person’s interest. Think about what
they love to do and what they might want to hear about.
40. Calm their rage by letting them talk. You cannot gain their
attention if they have much more to say. Don’t tell your
clarifications and solutions before hearing them completely.
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42. Stand up for yourself. Say no when you want to. Disagree
when you want to. Do it respectfully after acknowledging the other
person’s opinion. Do it firmly.
43. Keep in mind what you want to flirt sexily. When you flirt with
women, remember why you are talking and what you want from
this interaction. You are flirting because you want her to be
romantically interested in you. It will ultimately change the way you
sound and interact with women.
44. Stop speaking through your nose. Watch this video. Practice
deep breathing (The stomach moves significantly while deep
breathing and not the chest) to add more power to your voice.
45. Develop the habit of learning the names of people. When you
try to memorise their name and say it back while addressing them,
you convey interest in them and make connections. Always clarify
if you are pronouncing their name right if it is non-trivial.
46. Learn to answer and not reveal the details with women. Learn
to be vague and mysterious. You can avoid using this if you find it
hard to maintain conversations. Otherwise, it is a great way to
keep them guessing and build interest, especially with girls.
47. Respect yourself and get respected for it. If you can’t respect
yourself, no one will.
48. Learn to read when people dislike what you are saying. Some
signals are torso and feet turning away from you while you are still
engaged, sudden squinting of eyes, and pursing of the lips.
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about your city and city name. The other person can now pick up
on these and continue the conversation.
52. Ask people about what they love the most and remember it.
Use it later as a button to engage them in conversations.
53. Review your conversations and check if you could have done
something better. Improve the mistakes next time.
54. Never depend on only one person. You will degrade your social
skills. You never know when things will go wrong, and you will lose
your loved one. Care to have someone to lead you through that
phase.
56. You can never have many good friends. You can only have a
few good friends by giving them more attention and time than
others. Few good friends are better than many fake friends.
58. Prefer face-to-face meetings over calls and calls over chats
whenever possible.
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70. People desire things that are perceived as rare or scarce. You
can use it to persuade people. You can create a sense of urgency
by telling them that your request is exclusive to some people only
for a limited time.
75. Get Rich, Fit and Work on Skills. People who are better than
others are treated respectfully and need fewer social skills.
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I encourage you to apply these key takeaways in your life. To simplify the
process, you can master one at a time and then move to the other. It will
take time to hone your skills, but it will be completely worth your time and
effort.
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Thank you.
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