Professional Documents
Culture Documents
A Thesis
Presented to
the Faculty of
Liberal Arts Department
Dr. Carlos S. Lanting College
In Partial Fulfilment
of the Requirements for the Degree
Bachelor of Science in Psychology
DECEMBER 2022
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Chapter 1
Introduction
People choose to be childless for many unheard reasons. It is
important for childless couples to be discovered, to be heard and to be
recognized. Couples who are unable to reproduce are often looked down
by a lot of people due to the expectation that a couple must have a child,
specifically married couples, while others who are child-free by choice are
sometimes stereotyped as being abnormal, despises children, and
prioritizing their own good. It appears that cultural and social expectations
exist regardless of anything an individual chooses in life. Furthermore,
researchers are becoming more interested in terms of identity for both
men and women or couples who became childless for a number of
reasons. It is particularly necessary that childless couples need to be
heard. The majority of women in the society, as well as in other countries,
place a great value on ‘’traditional’’ life approaches, such as earning a
degree and having a good career. Many women have purposefully chosen
to be childless in the past owing to poverty, health complications including
infertility, and negative childhood experiences. As a result, the number of
women without children is increasing, which is attributable to the women
position in our society into becoming more acceptable and expanding.
In the Philippines, when a married couple is unable to conceive due
to infertility, they use different ways. In some cases, childless couples are
simply adopting a child when they are not given the opportunity. This is
due to the fact that majority of Filipino wanted to have a large family.
However, many Filipino couples choose not to have children these days.
Having no child is not common in the Philippines since every couple is
expected to have a child after they get married because some people
expect that their children will soon take care of them as they get older.
These occurrences are one of the reasons why researchers are urged to
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discover why the majority of Filipino couples in this modern age prefer not
to have children.
Sub-questions
Specifically, this study seeks to answer the following questions:
● What does "family" mean to childless and child-free adult couples?
● What comes to their mind when a childless and child-free adult
couple encounters the word "Children"?
● How did the adult couple feel when they were emotionally
invalidated by those who were against being childless?
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● Did the adult couple ever feel as if they were different from other
couples because they decided not to have children?
● Is their decision to become childless and child-free motivated by
their personal life, finances, health, religion, or environment?
Theoretical Lens
Mead's (1937) Symbolic Interactionism Theory is the current
theoretical lens for this study. The symbolic interaction perspective is a
sociological theory that focuses on the symbols that helps to give meaning
to our life experiences in order to understand humans' relationships with
their societies. (Mead, 1937). Identity is the fundamental and micro-level
concept in family studies, according to symbolic interactionism; it includes
the importance of the identity, commitment to the identity, and self-
esteem toward the identity. In family and relationships, symbolic
interactionism is essential. Interactions with a word or event change an
individual's understanding of it. For instance, if a person has a good
relationship with his or her environment, he or she will see things more
positively. However, if an individual's relationship with his or her
environment is not encouraging, the meaning of the word environment
and what it represents change.
Following concepts establishing family or relationship identity,
symbolic interactionism in family studies continues with the concept of
roles. These identities, like social positions and careers, are now used in
accordance with the roles they play. As part of the socialization process,
individuals perform a continuous task of role-taking and role-formation.
This, in turn, leads to interactions, because interactions put the roles of
the individuals into action.
In relevance to this, the researchers use the Symbolic Interaction
Theory in conjunction with in-depth interviews and participant observation
in order to gain a better understanding of the symbolic worlds in which
the research subjects’ lives.
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Scope and Limitation of the Study
The participants in this study are ten (10) selected adult
heterosexual couples from Quezon City, Philippines. This study will seek to
discover the challenges, coping strategies, and viewpoints of the selected
childless adult couples who live in Quezon City. In addition, the
researchers will create interview questions that will be used in order to
collect data and information from the selected adult couples who are
childless and choose to have a child-free life. Lastly, this study is
restricted to heterosexual couples who are currently living in Tandang
Sora, Quezon City.
Definition of Terms
The following are the definition of terms that refer to a detailed
explanation of the technical terms used in the study. In addition, it
provides context for how the researchers will use the concepts or factors
discussed throughout the study.
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Chapter 2
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to these theories, it is possible to claim that there are various
viewpoints on childlessness that
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countries, like here in the Philippines, where couples suffer more for
being childless due to cultural norms (Tudy and Gauran-Tudy,
2020). Cultural pressure is palpable in the Philippines and as a
result, pressures couples to have children.
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found that the decision to be child-free may not be driven by
individual traits, but may instead be influenced by other individual
or situational factors.
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Childless couples often face taunts from their peers or family
members if they do not want to conceive a child or if they are
unable to conceive one.
Therefore, based on the literature, regardless of whether or
not to have children is a personal decision that should not be
influenced by peer pressure. The most important is someone’s
personal desire to have children or not and there is nothing to be
ashamed of in their decision to remain childless.
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Chapter 3
RESEARCH METHODOLOGY
Research Design
This research utilizes Qualitative Phenomenological Research Design
to understand the participants’ lived experiences. The main purpose of
Qualitative Phenomenological Research is to study and understand the
phenomena that have impacted the individual. By means of this,
researchers intend to explore, understand, describe, identify, and access
the needed information from the participants by operating in-depth
interviews with open-ended questions for the participants. Moreover, the
researchers utilize a qualitative phenomenological approach in order to
focus on understanding the participants’ experiences rather than putting
the researchers’ own interpretation because the goal was to see who are
the childless adult couple and how they live in their context. The
researchers aim to listen to the participants' stories in order to make a
careful description of the phenomenon.
Research Locale
The research will be conducted within Quezon City, namely in the
area of Tandang Sora Avenue, wherein the researchers assume that this
area in Quezon City provided the easiest access to the participants needed
for this study. The researchers chose Quezon City because it is one of the
Philippines' most densely populated cities as stated by Philippine Statistics
Authority, 2021. In addition, the researchers observed that, despite being
an urbanized city, numerous people in Quezon City in this modern age are
opting for a life without having children.
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Informants
I. Research Participants
Ethical Standards
The researchers’ primary responsibility of this study is to protect
the participant's safety, dignity, and rights, as well as to obtain informed
consent, anonymity, and confidentiality, since it is the researcher's
primary obligation and the typical approach in professional ethics
guidelines, it must state the following: (1) The focus of this research is on
childless and child-free heterosexual adult couples in Quezon City, and it
is exclusively for research purposes only. (2) This study will look into the
various circumstances in
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which participants find themselves when it comes to childlessness. (3) Ten
(10) childless or child-free couples are expected to take part in this study
and those participants must be able to communicate using both their
hands and their voices. (4) The researchers will ensure that there are no
known dangers associated with this study, and they will take steps to
ensure that any potential risks or discomforts do not happen to
participants. (5) The decision to participate in this study is entirely
voluntary. If the participant refuses to participate, he or she will not be
denied the treatment, services, or benefits to which he or she is entitled.
Individuals who choose to participate in this study will also be free to
withdraw at any time without consequence. (6) To protect each
participant’s anonymity, all data collected through Google form
registration and during the interview process will be anonymize by using
code-names. No names or other personally identifying information will be
used in the discussion or reporting of the results. (7) Lastly, participants
in this study will have the option to look over or make a copy of the
results for as long as they desire after the study is completed, and it will
be distributed through email or Google Drive.
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Lastly, participants in this study will also be informed by the
researchers that their precise words during the interview are needed to be
quoted for the discussion of results.
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Chapter 4
RESULTS AND DISCUSSION
A. Profile of Participants
The information gathered throughout the interview process
is anonymize by using code-names in order to protect the privacy of each
participant. In the discussion and reporting of the findings, there are no
names or other forms of personally identifiable information included.
Pertinent data were obtained from semi-structured interviews. In addition,
an audit trail was used to analyze the responses, which include
transcription, coding, and themes.
1. Ms. K and Mr. Lando have been childhood sweethearts and
friends for ten (10) years. Mr. Lando works as a customer service
representative, while Ms. K has a part-time job. The couple opted not to
have children because they appreciate having the freedom to pursue their
interests and engage in activities outside of work.
2. Ms. Joy and Mr. Laxon are both forty-three (43) years old. They
have been married for nine (9) years. Mr. Laxon works as a foreman in a
construction company, while Ms. Joy serves as a housewife. Ms. Joy's
health problems have significantly impacted her ability to conceive. The
couple decided not to have children due to both their ages and the notion
that it was already untimely to have a child.
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3. Ms. Florentino and her partner, Mr. Lucban, were childhood
friends. They have been together for nine (9) years and three (3) months.
Ms. Florentino stated that she has a lot of goals in life and she has no
desire to have a child in order to devote all of her attention in pursuing
her goals.
4. Mr. Omar and Ms. Christine met each other on social media and
they are currently celebrating three (3) years of being together. The
couple's choice to be childless was significantly influenced by Ms.
Christine's relatives and their financial circumstances.
5. Ms. Fanie and her husband, Mr. Romel, have been married for
twelve (12) years and eight (8) months. They both served as a volunteer
for the red cross, where they first met each other. The couple decided not
to have a child due to their childhood experiences and the belief that they
were already old to raise children.
6. Mr. Paul and Ms. Rodelyn currently reside in Tandang Sora,
Quezon City. They have been together for two years and five months. Mr.
Paul has an unspecified job, while Ms. Rodelyn is a twenty-one (21) year-
old college student. Ms. Rodelyn has a firm stance against having children.
Mr. Paul is somewhat uncertain, but he reluctantly agrees with Ms.
Rodelyn's decision. Mr. Paul’s family has a history of health complications
in regards to pregnancy which affected his decision into not having
children as he fears that his partner might also suffer from similar
conditions.
7. Ms. Geng and Mr. Zian met at a church gathering and have been
together for two (2) years and three (3) months. According to Ms. Geng,
Mr. Zian experienced a difficult childhood and was raised in a
dysfunctional family, which influenced the couple's decision to live a
childless life.
8. Ms. Ly, who is twenty-two (22) years old, and Mr. X, who is
twenty-seven (27) years old, have been dating for three (3) years and
one (1) month. Ms. Ly is firmly opposed to having children. The childhood
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experiences they encountered are the primary reason they opted not to
have children.
“Yung family hindi siya nalilimit lang sa blood ties since pwede
kayong maging family ng ano... kahit hindi completely related sa inyo.
Pwedeng friends ganon.... Hindi- ‘di lang siya basta kung sinong relative
or something.’’ (Mr. Lando)
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Being childless and child-free does not necessarily mean it cannot
be referred to as family. As mentioned by Mr. Paul and Mr. Joe, “Di
naman siya required sa family na kailangan may anak. Pwede naman
anak niyo is aso or- hamster or anything basta pets matatawag naman
kayong family diba.” (Mr. Paul)
“Pamilya is all about suport naman and not just about having a
children.” (Mr. Joe.)
This shows that childless and child-free couples have a different
definition of family than most people do. Family does not limit the
participants in having children. It can be in different forms: friends, pets,
etc. A child is not a requirement to be called a family. Most informants
believe that family is all about commitment and being one as a couple.
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as a responsibility. Mr. Lando’s past experiences also affected his views of
children in general. This is a common theme for childless couples with one
or both persons suffering from past traumatic experiences during
childhood.
Ms. Ly also shares the same sentiment saying that “Magulo. Kasi
meron akong pamangkin na dalawa, dalawang babae. So, ako kasi ang
nag-aalaga no’n.’’ Seeing children as a chore instead, having first-hand
experience on how hard it is to raise a child was another example of
having past experiences affecting their views on opting to have children.
There are some who sees children in a neutral way as Ms. Joy
stated, “Wala lang, natutuwa lang kami. Minsan hinihiram pa nga namin
eh, ‘di ba. Wala lang.. wala naman kaming bata eh.’’, implying a sort of
indifference towards children. Furthermore, Mr. Garang views children in a
neutral way but see them in a positive light and stating that, ‘’Ahh.. yon
pag naririnig ko ang salitang bata, naiisip ko agad ang kalayaan dahil ang
mga bata ay.. ano malaya silang gawin mga gusto nila, malaya silang
maging masaya malungkot o ano mang gusto nilang gawin malayang-
malaya sila.’’
Most couples tend to share similar sentiments towards children
referring to them as a responsibility related to an unnecessary job that
they must work on. This view often defines their general mindset towards
opting for being childless and child-free contrary to most traditional
couples seeing children as a blessing.
D. Perception of Public
The majority of childless couples experience continuous invalidation
from the people in their environment as a result of their choice to lead
child-free lives. Most adult couples claimed that other people, even their
own relatives, questioned their choice and reminded them that having a
child will be beneficial in the future since it will take care of them as they
age.
As Ms. Fanie mentioned, ‘’Oo may mga nagsasabi na bakit pa kayo nag
aasawa? bakit pa kayo nagsama kung wala kayong anak? Yung negative
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na parang inaano ka na bakit pa kayo nag sasama? na wala naman
kayong anak? useless yung.. useless ang pagiging mag asawa niyo kung
wala rin kayong anak.’’
‘’Lagi kaming di pinaniniwalaan. Sinasabi nila, “sa ngayon lang yan,
ngayon niyo lang iniisip yan, pero in the end, gugustuhin niyo rin kasi
‘pag tumanda kayo eventually sino ang mag aalaga sa inyo?” (Ms. Geng).
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naman ito, ako naman nag decide na hindi ako mag-aanak, so anong say
nila buhay ko? wala naman silang ambag sa buhay ko.’’
Contrarily, some couples' notion that they are different from other
couples derives from the generally held belief that having children is the
primary priority for the majority of couples. As mentioned by Ms. Ly, ‘’Oo,
feel ko na iba kami kasi di namin naging priority ang pagkakaroon ng
anak. Kasi di ba sa mag partner priority ang pagkakaroon ng anak para
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habang bata pa nakakapag-alaga ka na. Para pagtanda mo malaki na ang
anak mo.’’
Nevertheless, couples who feel different from other relationships do
not permit this feeling of distinctiveness from other relationships to persist
for long. Thus, these childless and child-free couples place a higher value
on their own lives, happiness, and contentment with one another than
they value the need to raise a child.
‘’Siguro ang naramdaman naming iba is that ahh.. we are free, free
from responsibility.’’ (Mr. Joe)
‘’Hindi ko iniisip yung ibang tao eh.. ang iniisip ko kami (Mr.
Romel).. maging masaya kami, hindi kami nangingialam sa kanila.
Masaya kami eh, ‘di mo naman kailangan ng talagang anak kung ‘di mo
naman kayang gampanan ‘di ba… okay na sa ‘min na walang anak.’’ (Ms.
Fanie)
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that they are concerned that if they have not fully recovered from their
upsetting childhood experience, they will unconsciously pass their trauma
on to the child and be unable to uphold their parenting responsibilities.
Another factor that influences their decision to be childless is due to
their future and goals. Most couples prioritize their careers and are more
focused on building an empire rather than having a child. As per Mr.
Lando, ‘’Mas pinipili lang namin i-pursue yung goals namin… mas
maganda yung buhay ng walang anak since walang ibang responsibilidad
ganon. Pwede kang mag focus sa goals, sa dreams, ‘yun, sa sarili.’’ This
demonstrates that the couple places value on responsibility and personal
development, wherein the accomplishment of their goals and a better
future are their main priority. Childless and child-free couples are aware of
the major responsibility that comes with parenting and they believe that
parents have responsibilities to children as well as to society. As
mentioned by Ms. Geng, “…Ang pag aanak kasi talaga malaking
responsibility siya. Kumbaga kung kailangan mo maging hands on para
alagaan yung bata, gagawin mo.”
Lastly, the informants reveal that finances and environment are the
other factors that greatly affect their decision to forgo having children. In
a third-world country where making a living is challenging, couples at the
present time are pondering if they will be able to provide financial support
for children, evidence of this was stated by Ms. Kaye and Ms. Rodelyn,
‘’Madali kasi mag anak, ang hindi madali yung mag ra-raise ka ng
bata sa ganitong estado ng buhay na sobrang hirap, andito na
nararanasan natin inflation ngayon.’’ (Ms. Kaye)
These responses illustrate the thought that went into not having
children. Being childless and child-free is not an impulsive decision, in
fact, it is carefully considered due to numerous factors.
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Chapter 5
SUMMARY OF FINDINGS, CONCLUSIONS AND RECOMMENDATIONS
Summary of Findings
The findings of the study were summarized according to the central
questions. The majority of childless couples had the same perspective
towards "Family." Most of them have a positive outlook towards the term
"Family." According to informants, a family has no boundaries. Individuals
who are not blood related can be referred to as "family." This implied that
family members were those who help others in all aspects of their lives.
According to Childless and Child-free couples, being childless or child-free
did not preclude them from being called a family. They have a different
definition of family than most people. Family does not necessarily refer to
children for the majority of participants. This can be in various forms,
including friends, pets, and so forth. A child was not required to be
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referred as a family. The majority of participants believed that family is all
about commitment and being one as a couple.
Children were viewed as a responsibility by the majority of the
participants. They explained that if they do not have the ability or capacity
to raise a child, having one was not a requirement. This implied that even
if couples will have a child, a child has their own lives and responsibilities,
and taking care of their parents is not part of their responsibility.
Additionally, they defined children as a type of responsibility as they must
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their personal choice of being child-free and childless. Their priority was
each others happiness and contentment.
Moreover, the couples were influenced by a variety of factors.
Primarily, their unpleasant upbringing had made them certain of their
decision to be childless and child-free. Furthermore, most of them are
prioritizing their careers and building their own empires over having
children. Additionally, some of them revealed that their financial and
present situation were some of the factors that lead them to be childless.
These influences demonstrated that being childless was not an impulsive
decision.
Conclusions
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Based on the indicated findings, the study had shown a childless
and child-free life was not an impulsive decision for couples; it was not an
option that they chose arbitrarily. It was a valid concern that should be
addressed with the utmost consideration for the couple. The lifestyles of
heterosexual couples who have chosen to forgo having children were
revealed insight-fully. This was been demonstrated that despite having
different upbringings and life experiences, childless and child-free adult
couples held similar perspectives on family and children. It was revealed
that a couple can be regarded as a family even in the absence of children
if they were satisfied and committed to their relationship.
Recommendations
This study revealed that childless and child-free couples constantly
encounter criticism from their relatives and friends, as well as from the
general public. The emotional invalidation and criticism that participants
experienced in their social environment were demonstrated through this
study. Therefore, family members or friends of childless and child-free
couples could learn from this study about the perspective and acceptance
that the couples need from their social environment in order to gradually
reduce the invalidation of the choice of couples. In addition, the
community may benefit from this study by having a greater understanding
of how a couple makes decisions, which could lead to society accepting
and normalizing the couple's decision to forgo having children.
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The government has the ability to influence the general public, and
the findings of this study can be used to raise public awareness about
childless and child-free couples. The government could educate the public
that living without children is completely acceptable. Moreover, the
government is encouraged to establish a program about being childless
and child-free in densely populated areas which also addresses sex
education and family planning to reduce at least the continuing increase in
the number of people or children who will only suffer in the future.
Future researchers could further improve and extend the study not
only to a certain area in Quezon City but also to the entire city.
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APPENDICES
A. Transcription
TRANSCRIPT CODES THEM
‘’Ah, para sa akin kasi, yung family hindi siya nalilimit lang sa Team
blood ties since pwede kayong maging family ng ano.. kahit
hindi completely related sa inyo. Pwedeng friends ganon. Hindi- Suppo
‘di lang siya basta kung sinong relative or something. Ayun.’’
(Mr. Lando)
‘’Yung pamilya kasi dapat nag mahahalan yan eh, ‘di ba. Kung Mahal mo
mahal mo ang asawa mo syempre mahal mo rin anak mo, ‘di Child
ba. Kaso lang pano kung wala pa kayong? (Child) Mag
mamahalan na lang din kami (Mr. Laxon). Kami na lang din
mag-alagaan dalawa ganon na lang yun. Kasi sinabihan ko na
siya eh.. “Paano kung hindi na ako magka anak, paano kung
hindi na tayo magka anak?”, “Edi hahanap na lang ako ng..
mag aampon na lang ako ng nurse” Sabi niya (Mr. Laxon), oo
mag aampon nalang ako ng nurse. “Siraulo ka pala eh”
gumanon ako sa kanya, sinampal ko natawa naman,
nagtatawanan lang naman kami pagka.. pag tungkol sa mga
ganyan. Kasi ‘di naman namin binabangit yung mga tulad ng
baby, ‘di nalang namin binabangit sa isa’t-isa yung susumbatan
ka na “‘di ka kasi magka anak kasi mataba ka” hindi. Hindi ako
sinusumbatan, oo naiintindihan niya kasi mataba ako eh. Dati
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‘di naman ako ganun kataba lumobo nang lumobo ng dahil din
sa kanya kasi magaling din siya mag alaga. Ganon, ‘di ba. Alam
ni thea yan.’’ (Ms. Joy)
‘’Yung family, siguro sa’min yun yung mga tao na united sila by
marriage and blood.’’ (Ms. Geng)
‘’Ah well for me, yung pamilya para sakin yung people who
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supports you in every aspects of your life. Through the lows
and highs of your life, yung sabihin na nating in sickness and
health, and of course yung failures and success sa life mo, Support
yung mga taong sumusuporta sayo sa mga ganong bagay.. so,
that.. thats whats family means to me.’’ (Mr. Joe) ‘’For me
kasi.. Family ano eh yung ano yung mga tao nakakaintindi sayo
katulad nga rin ng sabi nya yung nag susuport din sayo sa
kung ano mang gusto mo, yung mga taong nakakaintindi din
sayo kasi ang family hindi lang naman yan sa kadugo eh
makikita mo rin sya sa mga nakapaligid sayo sa mga kaibigan Support
mo.’’ (Ms. Kaye) Nakakaintindi
‘’Oo, kasi nag sasama naman kami (Mr. Laxon) kahit wala
kaming anak nagmamahalan naman kami sa loob bahay.
Pwede naman kami mag kuha ng bata dyan sa tabi tabi, pwede
ka naman mag ampon kung gugustuhin niyo na talaga, ‘di ba.
Pero parang sa isip pala kasi namin kung.. kung sa population
natin ngayon andami ng nagugutom na hindi kaya ng
magulang dahil sa sweldo. Eh Lalo na kung lalaki lang ang
nagt-trabaho kulang pa rin. Ano ‘di ba, lalo na may anak ka
baby nag-gagatas, nag diaper oh.. hindi naman, ‘di naman sa
ayaw namin magka anak, kaya namin. Kaya lang yung sweldo
lang ng mister ko sinasakto lang namin kasi syempre alam mo
na na mga mahal bilihin- bilihin ngayon, kuryente, ilaw. Pero
kaya, bakit hindi kaya? sinusubukan pa rin namin ‘yan kaso
lang mataba nga ko eh.. ‘di nga. ‘Di na talaga eh sayang eh 43
na ang edad ko oh.’’ (Ms. Joy)
Nag
‘’Oo naman, matatawag pa rin siyang pamilya kasi ano pa rin tutulungan
eh parang grupo pa rin kayo nag tutulungan.’’ (Ms. Florentino)
‘’Oo naman, kasi ang pamilya naman eh.. ‘di lang nasusukat sa Love
anak eh. Pwede mo maging kapamilya hindi mo kaano ano, ‘di Kapamilya
mo kadugo. Mag alaga ng ibang tao na hindi mo kadugo
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kapamilya yon. Maituturing mong kapamilya basta may.. may
love na nagbubuklod sa inyo pwede mo siyang masabing
kapamilya.’’ (Ms. F)
‘’Yes yes yes yes.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Para pano mo nasa- ano para Not required
sakin oo kasi di naman kasi hindi kasi siya req- di naman siya
required sa family na
‘’Ahmm no.. halimbawa kami wala kaming anak, pero masasabi Nagmamaha-
namin na.. masasabi namin na relasyon namin na isang lan
pamilya kasi nagmamahalan kami. Don, don don.. doon mo
makikita ang ibig sabihin ng pamilya. May dalawang taong
nagmamahalan at ayon doon mo matatawag na isa ang
pamilya.’’ (Mr. Garang)
‘’Oo naman para sakin ahh kagaya na rin ng sabi namin kanina, Support
pamilya is all about suport naman and not just about having a
children.’’ (Mr. Joe) ‘’Oo naman, kasi hindi lang naman katulad
ng.. Sabi ko kanina hindi lang naman sa kadugo mo nakikita
yung pamilya, nasa taong nakapaligid sayo sa taong
nagmamahal sayo sa mga taong nakasupporta sayo tsaka sa
mga nakakaintindi sayo.’’ (Ms. Kaye)
HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED EMOTIONAL INVALIDATION Invali
BECAUSE OTHERS DISCOVERED YOU DO NOT INTEND TO Tradition ted
HAVE CHILDREN?
Exhau
‘’Uhm, sa akin personally, ano, hindi naman sa disagree yung
parents ko pero ano, parang magkaiba lang kami ng view, kasi ting
si mama kasi parang gusto niya magka-apo pero ayaw-ayoko
naman, parang ayoko mag-anak, pero ‘di naman niya- parang
‘di naman niya tinataboy yung desicion ko. Parang nirerespect
pa rin niya pero magka-iba lang kami ng views. Uum, since
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buhay ko naman. Parang binigay niya lang sa akin yung parang
opinion niya pero ‘yun, ako pa rin magd-decide. Ah, sa kanya
(Ms. K) naman kasi, yung mother niya as in disagree sa
decision niya, parang ano, di-’di maisip nung mother niya yung
magkaroon ng partner na walang anak. Parang ayaw- ayaw na
ayaw niya (mother) yung idea ng hindi pagiging ano, pagiging
childless ba ganon kasi para sa kanya raw, masarap daw
magka-anak ganon. Oo, ayun yung parang- siguro ingrained na
rin sa tradition na ano ‘pag magkaka-anak ka sila mag-aalaga
sayo parang ganon. Ayon. ‘’ (Mr. Lando)
‘’Nung una bago lang kami dito. Sabi nila, ‘’whoo!’’ ‘di naman- Nasasaktan
hindi ‘wag niyo na kasi- may meron mga pumupunta dito mga
ayu-ayuda, mga nagtatangap ng mga ayuda, “bat ba
magtatangap ng ayuda yan si Joy eh wala naman yang anak ‘di
ba, dapat dyan yung may mga anak lang binibigyan” yun
naririnig ko sa kanila, “wag niyo na interviewhin yan si Joy kasi
wala naman anak yan eh”, wala lang, ‘di na lang ako kumikibo,
‘di ko na lang sinasabayan pero sinasabi ko kay tito mo (Mr.
Laxon) masakit sa ‘kin. Nasasaktan talaga dahil syempre asawa
mo ginaganon ka, iniisip ng mga tao baog asawa mo, parehas
kaming
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ang pagiging mag asawa niyo kung wala rin kayong anak. Kaso Oo may mga
para sa ‘kin ‘di yun ang ano yun eh, hindi ‘yun (child) ang nagsasabi
kumbaga ang sukatan ng pagmamahalan niyo mag asawa. May
anak nga kayo ‘di
‘’Di yung una talaga.. hindi yung una talaga gusto ko (have a
child).. parang di naman kayo siguro mga bata diba? Yung una
gusto ko ng.. yun loob, sa loob (sexual intercourse) kaso na
gets ko yung mga pinagsasabi niya yung mga sama ng loob
niya yung.. basta na gets ko hanggang sa yun, onti onti mga
ilang- mga ilang months yun na, napatunayan niya lahat
(reason for choosing a child-free life) na summary naman niya
okay naman pasado sa ano panlasa ng panel, okay naman. Gusto ko
Ayoko na.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Kasi ano saming dalawa magka iba kasi
kami ng belief kasi siya ano siya pro pro tama no?’’ (Ms. Nakakatakot
Rodelyn) ‘’Oo non pro.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Tapos ako.. anong non pro?
parang gus- pro life siya, ako naman ano non kumbaga sabi ko
ano di rin ako.. di rin hindi naman ako tutol sa abortion tsaka
hindi rin di naman kumbaga ayoko talaga magkaroon ng anak
kahit na may- lagi kong inoopen sa parents ko kahit sino dito
sinabi ko ayoko talaga magka anak kasi sa.. sa lahat ng paligid
na na meron ako tsaka yung mga nakikita natin ngayon na
teenage pregnancy, parang lagi.. marami din ako friends na
maagang nabuntis at age 15 17 18 19 20 ganyan laging
sinasabi sakin na mahirap maging ina so parang araw araw
tumatatak sa isip ko ay nakakatakot maging ina. Kasi nai-na..
na aano mo rin siya eh nakikita mo rin sa sariling mong nanay
diba gano yung kahirap sila maging nanay parang mo- 24/7
nanay talaga sila wala silang pahinga.’’ (Ms. Rodelyn) ‘’2
minutes na.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Che.. ano parang ano kumabaga
nakakatakot. Pano pa kaya sakin
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responsibilidad ang bata sa magulang niya hanggang sa
pagtanda. Kung tutulungan ng anak ang magulang niya it is
out of love and yun ang lahat ng yon ay out of sincerity lang
walang obligasyon na tinatanaw. Sa ’min okay lang, kasi Yes most of
personal naman naming decision yon at kami ang magdadala the time
noon hanggang huli. So, kahit ano namang isipin ng tao okay
lang naman sa’min. As long as, kaming mag-asawa (Mr. Zian) Di
ay sure kami sa desisyon namin, Okay lang.’’ (Ms. Geng) pinaniniwa-
laan
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mo din sa kanila (parent) mo lang din isspend, sa kanila mo nagtataka
lang igugugolin.’’ (Ms. Kaye) ‘’Yeah.. Yeah, I agree sa sinabi
nya na, parang ano kasi eh, once they hear you say na ‘’I dont
plan on having a children’’, parang sasabihin nila na bakit? I
mean who is going to take care of you pag nagkasakit ka?
ahh.. Diba kaya nga tayo nagtatrabaho ngayon para pag
dumating na tayo sa panahon na yon is we have enough Oo lalo nung
income to support ourselves so ahh.. so dapat talaga, I mean sa work
ahh.. ewan ko di na siguro maalis yun sa mga pilipino, pero
ahh.. hopefully ahh.. hopefully mawala na yung stigmatism Ayaw
(stigmatization) yung ganun na invalidate yung feelings ng
couple just because they don't want to have a children.’’ (Mr. Desisyon
Joe) ‘’Ako wala (she does not care on opinion of others) kasi di
naman nag mamatter yung sasabihin nila eh kasi buhay ko
naman ito ako naman nag decide na hindi ako mag-aanak so
anong say nila buhay ko, wala naman silang ambag sa buhay
ko.’’ (Ms. Kaye) ‘’Well she's true, ahh.. I mean wala naman
dapat tayong pake sa iisipin nila kasi unang una hindi naman Mag-aalaga
sila yung sumusuporta sa kung ano mang life style yung gusto
nating patakbuhin sa buhay natin, so ahh wala nalang care , as Stigmatism
long as masaya naman kami sa takbo ng buhay namin.’’ (Mr.
Joe)
HAVE YOU EVER FELT THAT YOU ARE DIFFERENT FROM OTHER Unstr
COUPLES BECAUSE OF YOUR DECISION TO LIVE A CHILD-FREE
LIFE? ge
‘’Ah, so-sa akin parang hindi naman. Parang ‘di naman ‘ba- iba Hindi naman Happi
yung ano pagiging- pagsasama namin compared sa mga mag-
partners na may anak since ayun nga, ‘di naman kailangan ng Hindi ness
anak para maturing na kayo na family, and besides meron din kailangan ng
naman kaming pets ganon so, feel ko para sa akin, parang anak
tinuturing ko na rin silang child din technically kahit ‘di siya
actual na bata ganon. Ah, meron kaming isang hamster, then
bumili kami netong recently ng dalawang love birds, and
meron din kaming ano, dalawang pusa sa bahay.’’ (Mr. Lando)
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akong anong ganyan na selos selos ganyan. Siguraduhin mo
maganda ako dyan ah. (video)’’ (Ms. Joy)
‘’Hindi naman kasi halos mga friend ko din mga kaibigan ko din
ganun din na wala pang balak (to have a child) kasi di pa, di pa
kaya yung responsibilidad kaya hindi kami naturing na iba. Ano
wait lang ano nga? Masaya kasi meron pa kong mga bagay na
kailangan gawin eh di pa.. di pa siya.. wala pa sa isip ko na
ganyan mag aanak, mag aasawa, magpapamilya hindi pa eh.
Kaya ano muna di ko siya ginugusto pa, ganun din naman yung
partner ko (Mr. Lukban).’’ (Ms. Florentino)
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naman kasi na.. naiisip ko rin yan eh, na okay lang na ‘di na
lang tayo magka anak, kasi bukod sa medyo may edad na
tayo, may edad kami, ‘di na rin namin magagampanan ng
hundred percent na maibibigay namin sa anak namin ‘di ba,
kaya maswerte rin yung.. kung magkaka anak ka lang din
naman yung bata pa. Bata ka pa mag desisyon ka mag ka
anak, ‘wag mong hintayin tumanda ka, pero kailangan alam mo
kung paano mo panindigan pagiging magulang mo, ‘di ba.’’
(Ms. Fanie)
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‘’Ahhm Hindi naman.. eh kasi kapag lumalabas kami ng asawa
ko.. ng misis ko sa mall, park, sa simbahan, nakikita ko ibang Naiiba
couples mag-asawa wala silang kasama anak. Pero nagiging
masaya sila dahil magkasama sila. Masaya silang
nagmamahalan sa isa't isa kaya masaya sila, ganun din
nararamdaman namin kaya parang wala kaming
nararamdaman na kakaiba.’’ (Mr. Garang)
‘’Yung una kasi di pa nakuha yung pangarap eh. Ako gusto ko Pangarap
pa mag teacher kahit graduate nako ng college ngayon gusto
ko mag teacher so mag aaral ulit ako. Tapos yung partner ko Luho
(Mr. Lukban) naman ang focus din kasi niya ngayon mag
review para pumasa maging pulis ganon kaya ang expect
naman non babawi sa magulang kaya di pa talaga wala pa
talaga ayun yung parang uh naging dahilan kung bakit di pa
namin naisipan magkaroon ng pamilya. Bukod sa pangarap,
pamilya. Kasi yung gusto sa buhay yung mga luho ganon.’’
(Ms. Florentino)
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‘’Hmm.. Kasi mas mauuna pa namin yung ano, yung pag iipon Pag iipon
para sa future. Kung sakali man magkaroon, ano mayroon-
mayroon kaming maibibigay sa kanya kung anong kailangan Future
niya ganon.’’ (Ms. Christine)
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isa rin yan ano.. nagtataas yung bigas lahat lahat ng mga
bilihin, kasi parang kumbaga kung ano.. kung ngayon parang di
pa namin- ano pa yung sarili namin di namin kaya buhayin,
what if gagawa pa kami ng bubuhayin namin edi pano na diba? Mahal
edi kawawa lang kung gagawa pa kami ng bubuhayin eh sarili
namin di namin kaya mabuhay.’’ (Ms. Rodelyn)
‘’Kasi hindi pa sapat yung pera. Kasi yung partner ko kasi nag-
sisideline lang siya sa Lazada. Tapos ako syempre nag-aaral
pa. Kaya di pa gano’n kalaki ang sahod naming mag-asawa
para makabuhay ng mga bata.’’ (Ms. Ly)
‘’Ano ba ahh.. unang-una kasi naming naisip “mutual” and how Trauma
the economy going right now, we don't want to raise a
children, and uhmm.. paano ba.. malaking responsibilidad yung
ano eh.. pagkakaroon ng anak eh, i mean right now we are
handling ourselves as an adult, pano pa kaya pag nag handle
kami ng bata diba? so ayun.’’ (Mr. Joe) ‘’Ayun nga di naman
kami tumatakas sa responsibility, pero parang ganun na nga
charot.’’ (Ms. Kaye) ‘’Sorry mag bbutt in lang ako, di naman Responsibili-
tayo tumatakas sa responsibility, kasi if we really if want to, we dad
can ano naman.. we can provide naman diba, we have jobs,
stable jobs, pero kasi uhmm.. it’s like we don't want to want to Economy
bring a child na ano.. na ano ba to? papalakihin namin and we
are going to be responsible with how it’s going to be as a
human being.’’ (Mr. Joe)
WHO OR WHAT INFLUENCES YOU AS A COUPLE TO LIVE A Child-
CHILD-FREE LIFE? hood
expe-
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‘’Wala naman masyado kasi financially kaya naman namin mag Goals rience
buhay ng bata kung gugustuhin namin since parehas kaming
may trabaho then ayon, feel ko ano, parang mas pinipili lang Sarili Futur
namin i-pursue yung goals namin, then ayon, mas maganda
yung buhay ng walang anak since walang ibang responsibilidad Goals
ganon. Pwede kang mag focus sa goals, sa dreams, ‘yun, sa
sarili yeah.’’ (Mr. Lando) Respo
-bility
‘’Ah mahalin niyo yung isa’t-isa ganun lang yun. Mahal niya ko
di niya di niya ko pinababayaan sa kain, siya rin naman, di ko Hirap din Finan
siya pinababayaan sa mga bagay na di na niya paghihirapan sa mag alaga ng
loob ng bahay. Parang kaming dalawa ay natutulungan nalang bata Enviro
nag aalagaan ganon. Parang dalawang matanda ba ganon ment
ganon. Di na makakagawa ng anak mag uusap nalang sila sa Nanawa ako
gabi parang ganyan lang.. Ah, kasi ano eh parang hindi naman sa sobrang
sa na ano, nako sa bata kasi yaya ako eh tatlo na inalagaan ko kakulitan
since maliliit pa, since na nasa sa tyan pa hinihintay ko na lang
lumabas ako na nagpalaki. Althea reign pangalan nung una eh Mataba ako
panganay. Althea reign yung unang panganay na inaalagaan
ko. Ang hirap din mag alaga ng bata rin kaya baby pa, nako Mabilis
ang hirap mag alaga ng baby lalo na pag nagkakasakit di mo hingalin
alam kung anong masakit sa kanila. Okay lang sana kung
malalaki na kasi nagsasalita na yan, “sakit ng ulo ko, sakit ng
tyan ko”, ganon diba. Hindi eh, pag baby hindi mo pa ma-
anuhan eh iiyak lang sila kung ano yung masakit sa kanila di
mo malaman kung anong aanuhin (give) mo sa kanila. Yung
panganay yung, panganay nung iniwanan ko yon nasa month-
5 years na. Tapos yung pangalawa 2 years old lang iniwan ko.
Tapos bumalik na naman ako kasi kinuha na naman ako kasi
nanganak na.. manganganak na naman daw kasi nga ako lang
ang pinagkakatiwalaan nila pag ano.. pagbantay sa baby. Ako
nanaman naghawak iniwan ko nanaman siya 2 years old,
huminto nako sa kanila nung 2 years old na. Pwede na niya
isa-isama ng magulang yung anak nila. Pero ang hirap sobra.
Oo 21 years old ako non nung nag alaga ako sa panganay.
Kung suma-sumahin total mo yun mga nasa sampung taon na
pero ang sahod ko nun mababa lang, may 5, 3 thousand, 2
thousand. Eh syempre ako nakikisama na lang din ako kasi
bukod sa kapitbahay namin kaibigan ko pa. Oo libre naman
lahat libre naman siya (food) lahat hindi.. hindi ako naumay sa
pag alaga ng bata, kundi na-nawa lang ako sobrang kalikutan
malikot eh..katulad ko mataba na ako, mataba ako
nakakahingal mag alaga ng bata. Na-immune ako nyan nung
nagpunta ako ng boracay beh, Dyos ko, dala ko bag, dala ko
bata yung lalakarin mo simula dito hanggang palengke,
pagkakain ka alas sais na gutom ka pa. Oo (exhausting) kaya
naano rin ako syempre naintindihan ko rin naman yun ano rin
naman parang ko na rin naman yung anak.. oo para ko na ring
mga anak mga inalagaan ko. Kasi nasasaktan din ako pag
pinapalo sila nung tatay binabato ng libro pag ‘di sila umayos
sa pag aaral nila nasasaktan din ako eh kasi para ko narin
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silang anak. Anak ko na rin sila sa puso pero ‘di galing sakin Sinubukan
ganun yun. Oh nasagot ko na ba lahat ng tanong niyo? Kunwari Natunaw
kayo di kayo magka anak, ay relax lang and Diyos naman
magbibigay niyan di naman talaga tayo e. ang diyos kapag ang
diyos ang nagbigay ng ganyan, mahalin mo na. Kung talagang
para sayo, para sayo. Kung di para sayo, okay lang tanggapin
na lang ganon. Kung talagang hindi na kayo mag kaka anak eh
tanggap ganun talaga yun lang yun e. Wala nang sumbatan
kasi nandito na tayo eh ilang taon na tayo mag asawa. Jusko
ilang taon nako nag asawa kay tito mo 36 tito mo 35 oh san ka
pa maghahabol ka pa ng last trip ng train oh wala na.
Sinubukan na namin ng isang beses di ako dinatnan ng 3
buwan na, natunaw natunaw lang kasi sa sobrang katabaan ko.
Oo nagpa ano pa nga ako eh nag pa ano tawag dito nag pa
ultrasound pa ko wala talagang nakita niya eh natunaw siya
ang sakit, sabi ko nag ano rin ako parang na dismaya rin ako
nun kasi di alam paano sasabihin kay tito mo kasi nga ganun
nga nangyari hanggang sa sinabi ko kay tito mo na ganon.
Niyaya ko siya sa ob gyne hinarap ko siya dun sa pag anuhan
ng ultrasound. Nakaharap si tito mo ‘’nasaan yung baby dun?’’,
di naman (she did not cry) na dismaya lang eh wala naman
yung sisihan na ikaw kasi ganyan ganyan wala. Ni minsan ba di
mo nga kami narinig na mag away niyan bihira bihira lang, di
yan siya nakiki ano katulad neto yung mainit ulo ko di ko siya
sasabayan di ka niya sasabayan kaya pag mainit ulo niya
galing sa trabaho wag mo sabayan ganun lang yun. Mga advice
sa inyo mga day wag pagsasabayan niyo init ng mga ulo ng
mga boyfriend niyo.’’ (Ms. Joy)
‘’Uhm.. Sila ate ko, na ‘wag muna mag-anak kasi mahirap ang
buhay ngayon. Tapos katulad nito may pandemic kaya ano,
‘yun napag isipan namin na ‘wag Finances
Mahirap
munang mag anak. Wala naman (other factor), ‘yun lang Plano
talaga. Kasi kapag wala kang finances syempre kapag nandyan
na siya (child) paano yung pangangailangan na pang gatas?
Pang diaper? Ano pag ano niya, tapos kapag lumaki na siya
kung sakaling mag aaral na siya. Yung ano niya, yung mga
kailangan niya talaga. Kasi ‘di mo naman agad agad na
pagpaplanuhan agad yung pag-aanak tapos wala kang ibibigay
sa kanya. Kaya ‘yun.’’ (Ms. Christine)
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anak kasi pareho na tayong matanda pareho na tayong may Matanda
edad hindi na natin kayang gampanan ng hundred percent.
Mahirap kasi i-asa yan sa iba or ‘di mo alam anong kalalabasan Responsibili-
sa atin, ng pagiging magulang natin, ‘di ba. Ganon lang ‘yon. dad
Oo kasi nung maliit pa ‘ko naranasan ko yung mag trabaho ng
wala pa sa edad, ‘di ba. Mga 11 years old, 13 years old Mahirap
ginagampanan ko na mag trabaho ng parang trabaho ng lalaki.
Yung magdadala ka ng mga.. alam mo yung sa ilog yung Pinagdaanan
maghahakot ka ng bato para lang makakain ka kasi yung
magulang mo hindi kayang gampanan kasi kulang ang pera.
Ah..ma.. na byudo kasi yung tatay ko maliit pa ako, so, after 3
months nag asawa siya, syempre dun na siya sa asawa niya
tapos kami iniwan sa isang bahay na walang ano.. walang nag
aalaga kundi kami sarili namin. So bilang.. bilang mga tao..
bilang bata kailangan mo kumain, kumayod ka para sa sarili
mo. Na experience ko yung ganon, ‘yun ang..’ yun din ang
nakapag desisyon sakin na baka.. halimbawa ako, pwedeng
may mangyari sakin pagka nagka anak ako so, maiiwan ko
yung baby ko, ‘di mo masasabi eh. Sa.. halimbawa matanda ka
na tapos pinilit mo magka anak, ‘pag pinilit mo mag anak hindi
mo alam
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ipaparanas kung ako magka anak, kaso ayoko man magka
anak.’’ (Ms. F)
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Rodelyn) ‘’5 kasi di gumana yung 2.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Ah okay.’’
(Ms. Rodelyn) ‘’Tubig lang.. di ano.. 5 sabay ang positive suma-
ano tuwang tuwa sila 2 hours silang na tumawa pero after 2
hours din sumugod na sa ospital kasi umiiyak na sobrang sakit
na ng tyan yun pala yung baby nasa labas na. Buhay naman
pero kada.. kada kada ano daw kada galaw..’’ (Mr. Paul)
‘’Masakit.’’ (Ms. Rodelyn) ‘’Masakit kasi sa labas ng matres
umaano.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Tyaka delikado rin siya kapag..’’ (Ms.
Rodelyn) ‘’Nakamamatay siya.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Oo.’’ (Ms. Rodelyn)
‘’Pag pangatlong baby na niya malabo na kasi sa out ano.. sa
50/50 na yon ano lang siya 10 perce- 20 or 10? percent na
lang.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’10?’’ (Ms. Rodelyn) ‘’Di ko alam eh basta 20
or 10 percent nalang mabubuhay yung bata. Mabubuhay siya
pero days.. days, mamatay din wala rin, edi wag ka na mag
anak kaya ganun din ayoko sa kanya mangyari yun kasi.. kaya
ng katawan niya pero di kaya ng bata, joke lang. Di yun, yun
lang, ayoko lang.’’ (Mr. Paul) ‘’Oo meron (childhood
experience), ano tawag dito? Sobrang naka apekto siya kasi
laging sinasabi ng ano ng parent ko, pag naka anak ka gagawin
din sayo ng anak mo yan. So tumatak sa isip ko na ano, wag
nalang ako mag anak kasi gagawin din pala ng magulang- ano
gagawin din pala ng anak ko yan sakin ganon, parang..
hanggang sa natakot nako, baka mamaya tama sila, baka
mamaya gawin din, baka mas malala pa gawin ng anak ko
yung sinabi sakin ng nanay ko, kaya tumatak talaga sa isip ko
na ay di ako mag aanak ganon, di talaga. Kumbaga lagi ko ng
nireremind sa partner ko na wag, wag ayoko pa. Lalong
sobrang ano.. so- ano eh.. kumbaga sobrang trauma din yun
kahit sinasabi lang verbally, grabeng impact yun.’’ (Ms.
Rodelyn)
‘’Sa’min wala, personal choice namin siya. Kasi yun nga big
decision siya eh. Yung mag pakasal pa nga lang, malaking
desisyon na yon. Yung mag anak ka sobrang laking desisyon
yon. Siguro yung ano lang, idea nang pagkakaroon ng anak.
Siguro yung thought na yon parang nakakatakot siya sa part ko
bilang babae. Ang dami kong questions na “what if di ko
magampanan?” “Ano ang magiging result?’’. Wala naman
akong kaso don (health, religion, finances). Siguro sa
experience ng husband ko (Mr. Zian), broken family kasi siya.
So, he was raised by a single mom and hindi siya naging
madali para sa husband ko. Kasi yung husband ko, growing up,
kailangan niya gampanan ang pagiging anak at the same time
pagiging magulang niya sa magulang niya at sa mga kapatid
niya. So, parang pinapalaki siya ng magulang niya at pinapalaki
niya rin ang magulang niya. So, magulo kasi yung family niya.
Factor din yon sa’min na kailangan namin iconsider kasi hindi Personal
pwedeng maulit. Kailangan pag-aralan namin kung paano. choice
Hindi pwedeng ganito lang, gawin lang natin mag anak lang
tayo. Hindi pwede yung ganon. Kailangan planado ang mga Childhood
bagay bagay. Hindi pwedeng tsaka mo lang gagawin pag Experience
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nandiyan na. Mahirap kasi yung ganon. Kaya hanggang maaari
iniiwasan namin yung naging experience nila magkakapatid. Responsibility
Kasi mahirap, kahit siya aaminin niya mahirap. Kaya ako
naiintindihan ko kasi alam ko yung feeling na wala kang ama.
Mahirap yung part na yon. Kaya sa’min ngayon, okay kami na
kami lang muna. Walang problema sa religion. Yun lang talaga
ang desisyon namin. Wala naman akong childhood experience.
Choice ko lang talagang di magkaanak. Kasi di ko nakikita yung
need na magka anak. Wala akong problema sa ibang aspect.
Ang pag aanak kasi talaga malaking responsibility siya.
Kumbaga kung kailangan mo maging hands on para alagaan
yung bata, gagawin mo.’’ (Ms. Geng)
‘’Siguro kaming ano isat isa.. syempre ano eh.. Hindi naman
yan namin kukunin yung influence sa ibang tao kailangan nyan
ano eh.. na kami mismo ang mag dedecide kung mag aanak
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kami or hindi pero since mutual naman and wala naman naging
hadlang doon sa gusto naming mangyari, yun na yung nakapag
desisyon namin na wag na wag kang mag anak.’’ (Ms. Kaye)
‘’Wala namang influence siguro siguro siguro one influence is
how the country or world going right now, ano na lang yun na Baog
lang yung influence namin na we don’t want to raise a child or
children sa ganitong sitwasyon.’’ (Mr. Joe) ‘’Government and Kamag-anak
yung country, yung estado ng pamumuhay natin ngayon kasi di Childhood
hindi naman ganun kadali.. hindi naman ganun kadali na mag.. Experiences
madali kasi mag anak, ang hindi madali yung mag ra-raise ka
ng bata sa ganitong estado ng buhay na sobrang hirap, andito
na nararanasan natin inflation ngayon diba.’’ (Ms. Kaye) ‘’I
think uhmm.. of course meron syempre (childhood experience),
we.. ako personally i didn't came from a well off family
syempre diba i experience yung ahh.. hirap and of course yung
hirap din ng parents ko in raising children, kaming Personal
magkakapatid, and ahh.. i didn’t want if ever I’m going to have choice
a children, i didn’t want my children or child to experience that
kaya ayaw ko.’’ (Mr. Joe) ‘’Same lang naman kami ng sagot, Hirap
since ahh.. yung hirap ng pagpapalaki sa amin ng mga
magulang ko, ayoko din namang maranasan.. i mean ayokong Government
maranasan ng bata na, bata pa lang siya dala-dala nya na yung
hirap.’’ (Ms. Kaye) Oo meron
(childhood
experience)
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B. Photo Documentation
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C. Map of Research Locale
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D. Biographical Statement
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