Link to your personal context - are any of the issues around gender and family

roles connected to your society or any personal experiences you have had?
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I feel terrible to admit this because it's not something that I'm willing to share but I
have lived in a traditional patriarchal family for my whole life and i am being taught
to become a woman of family which means I have to eventually get married to
someone that my parents want me to marry and they expect me to obey them. The
situation of Nora got me thinking a lot about my own life as someday if I am not
strong enough or lucky enough, I would be just like her, being my papa doll child
and then the other man doll child. Sometimes I truly wish that I was born being a boy
because my parents hoped I would be one and if I was, they would have been
more happy and proud. They get disappointed when i was borned a girl because I
can not carry their name and i got to marry someone someday and for them, it's a
“loss gamble". I know that because, well, they are never afraid to tell everyone how
sad they are the day i was borned, and yes, in front of me, with a lot of other
people, they would laugh like it was so funny and they would congratulate my dad
for having a baby after all. . It's broke my heart even more that these kind of
behaviors are acceptable and everyone in this society been agreed with it, like that
patriarchy system have been ingrained into their mind and they not gonna change
in any circumstances, i would cry and told them how much i want them to love me
just like they love my brother, and they told me they did, but i know that it's not true,
so for a very long time, i have tried and become the best student in the house, a
perfect child, but whatever i done, it's never enough, the moment that he say he will
left his every part of his legacy for my brother, i would ask why, and my mom would
look at me in surprise and answer that of course because he is “their son”, and all
the time he compliment my brother grades but never care about mine, i know that
it's not true. The weird thing is that I am starting to accept that, thinking that's what I
am. I would think that they care about me alot, and in fact they do, but I don't think
that love and respect can always go together. They would ban me from going out
with my friends, decide my secondary school, university for me but make me go out
and eat with people I don't want to. They protect me in their own way and by that i
mean, they would lock me up in literal meaning if it's necessary for me to listen to
them. I think that it's extremely interesting that in every feminism work I could see
myself in it, including Nora. So at some moment, I decided for myself that I would go
and study abroad, to have a proper job,a piece of my own eventually but it's just
thought because I'm trying my best but my parents want me to stay and it's usually
only what they want that matters. This whole paragraph sounds like I'm a childish,
angry, stubborn teenager that is in a puberty stage and having a daddy issue, but
it's actually some parallel of my life and the gender role issues that I have kept for
myself for a long time.
However, I love my family and my dad ofcourse, he is a caring person and he
actually loves to be a family man, we have a lot of good memories together. It got
me thinking of what its take for him to have that kind of ideology, it's quite obvious
that it’s this society that we living in is the real problem, they would taught girls and
boys in school about gender role and how a women should obey her husband and
even her son, a man to become a breadwinner and it's actually the traditional of
the country, that women have no power and in my grandma time, girls are not
allowed in school. Confucianism and the religion that we are learning from for our
whole time of history, handed down for many generations, taught us about that
idea of gender role, of how a woman should not be valued for who she is but to be
seen as an object to control. The whole education and social system have allowed
these rules, use religion as an excuse for man superiority, encourage men to feel
more powerful in any relationship and make them believe that pride is more
important than anything. This crude reality also effect all the women in that period
too, they are taught all the skills like cooking and tips to having birth in order to
satisfied man, and they would train their daughter to do the exactly same thing,
they go from being the victim of patriarchy system to the one who suppress the
other to follow these rules, they accept with their life and judging other women if
they do not having the same life, its that conservative conception turn women
against each other. I have seen a lot of women with different lives around me with
the exact same situation. They would chat and brag about family or husband like it's
the only thing they have ever known and cared about. My mom and grandma are
strong and smart women but it can't help them to fall into the same place as society
wants them to be : a mother and a wife, and it breaks my heart to see all these
women and young girls being taught like that, like an actual doll.
In conclusion, this is not just about me, i'm just another example of how women are
treated and educated in this society, it's about a whole gender, thousands of
women are being kept inside the house, being a shadow of their man. Just like i
have said, its take thousand of years for people to believe in these conception, so it
gonna take a very very long time for them to accept a new ideology, but i know
that we will not tolerate for these behavior no more and we shall fight for our own
future, and others future too.