SPIRITUAL HERITAGE EVALUATION

Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the heritage you received from your
parents as a teenager; then add your total score below.

1. To what degree were spiritual principles incorporated into daily family life?
[1] Never
[2] Rarely
[3] Sometimes
[4] Frequently
[5] Almost always
[6] Consistently

2. Which word best captures the tone of how you learned to view/relate to
God?
[1] Absent
[2] Hostile
[3] Fearful
[4] Casual
[5] Solemn
[6] Intimate

3. How would you summarize your family's level of participation in spiritual

activities?
[1] Non-existent
[2] Rare
[3] Occasional
[4] Strict
[5] Active
[6] Enthusiastic

4. How were spiritual discussions applied in your home?

[1] They weren't
[2] To control
[3] To manipulate
[4] To teach
[5] To influence
[6] To reinforce

5. What was the perspective in your home in regard to moral absolutes?

[1] If it feels good, do it!
[2] There are no absolutes
[3] Let your heart guide you
[4] Strict and legalistic
[5] Moderate conservatism
[6] Clear life boundaries

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6. How important is community worship or attending church services in your
family?
[1] Discouraged
[2] Not given any importance
[3] Not emphasized – up to the individual
[4] Important but not a strict requirement
[5] Very important – regular church attendance

7. How did your family express and live out their Christian faith in their daily
lives where there are regular and consistent exercising of spiritual disciplines
e.g. Prayer, Reading and studying the Bible, Worship, Fellowship, Service
[1] Never
[2] Infrequent
[3] Occasional
[4] Regular
[5] Always

8. Have you personally inherited any spiritual practices, beliefs, or values

from your family?
[1] Not applicable
[2] No, I have developed my own spiritual path independent of my family’s
heritage
[3] To some extent, they have influenced my spiritual journey but with
personal modifications
[4] Yes, they have strongly influenced my own spiritual journey

TOTAL SCORE (between 8 - 44)

8 - 14 Low Presence
15 - 21 Some Presence
22 - 28 Average Presence
29 - 36 Good Presence
37 – 44 High Presence

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SOCIAL HERITAGE EVALUATION
Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the heritage you received from your
parents as a teenager; then add your total score below.

1. Which of the following most closely resembles the social tone of your
family?
[1] Cruel and Abusive
[2] Critical
[3] Chaotic and Distant
[4] Stable but non-communicative
[5] Secure with open communication
[6] Loving and fun

2. What was the message of your home life regarding relationships?

[1] “Step on others to get your way”
[2] “Hurt them if they hurt you”
[3] “Demand your rights”
[4] “Mind your own business”
[5] “Treat others with respect”
[6] “Put others before yourself”

3. How were rules set and enforced in your home?

[1] Didn’t exist – everyone did their own thing
[2] In reaction to parental stress
[3] Dictatorially
[4] Inconsistently
[5] Out of concern for my well-being
[6] In the context of a loving relationship

4. Which word best characterizes the tone of communication in your home?

[1] Shouting
[2] Manipulation
[3] Confusing
[4] Clear
[5] Constructive
[6] Courteous

5. How did your family deal with wrong behavior?

[1] Subtle reinforcement of the wrong behavior
[2] Accepted in the name of love
[3] Guilt trip
[4] Severe punishment
[5] Discussion
[6] Loving, firm discipline

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6. Did your family typically interact with their neighbors and local community
where they had close-knit relationships and were actively involved in
community affairs?
[1] Never
[2] Irregular
[3] Occasionally
[4] Always

7. Were important life events and milestones in your family celebrated with
family and friends?
[1] Never
[2] Irregular
[3] Occasionally
[4] Always

8. Did your family have any specific cultural traditions or customs related to
social interactions?
[1] Not at all
[2] Occasionally
[3] Regularly

TOTAL SCORE (between 8 - 44)

8 - 14 Low Presence
15 - 21 Some Presence
22 - 28 Average Presence
29 - 35 Good Presence
36 – 41 High Presence

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EMOTIONAL HERITAGE EVALUATION
Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the heritage you received from your
parents as a teenager; then add your total score below.

1. How do you feel when you walk into your house?

[1] Dread
[2] Tension
[3] Chaos
[4] Stability
[5] Calm
[6] Warmth

2. Which word best describes the tone of your home?

[1] Hateful
[2] Angry
[3] Sad
[4] Serious
[5] Relaxed
[6] Fun

3. What was the message of your family life?

[1] You are worthless
[2] You are a burden
[3] You are OK
[4] You are respected
[5] You are important
[6] You are the greatest

4. Which word best describes the “fragrance” of your home life?

[1] Repulsive
[2] Rotten
[3] Unpleasant
[4] Neutral
[5] Fresh
[6] Sweet

5. Which occurred most frequently in your home?

[1] An intense fight
[2] The silent treatment
[3] Lack of interest
[4] A strong disagreement
[5] A kind word
[6] An affectionate hug

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6. How would you describe the overall emotional climate throughout your
family?
[1] Hostile and degrading
[2] Criticism and sarcastic
[3] Reserved and individualistic
[4] Acceptance and dynamic
[5] Expressive and nurturing

7. How has your emotional heritage shaped your own emotional experiences
and responses?
[1] It has negatively impacted my ability to understand and manage
emotions
[2] It has had minimal impact on my own emotional experiences and
responses
[3] It has provided me with unique insights and perspectives on emotions
[4] It has positively influenced my emotional awareness and expression

8. How did your family deal with grief and loss?

[1] They struggle to cope
[2] They tended to internalize their grief and try to cope privately
[3] They followed specific faith and religion which helps them cope
[4] They openly expressed their emotions and sought support from others

TOTAL SCORE (between 8 - 43)

8 - 14 Low Presence
15 - 21 Some Presence
22 - 28 Average Presence
29 - 35 Good Presence
36 – 43 High Presence

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