Sick of Feeling Stuck?

HOW TO GET UNSTUCK EVEN IF YOU

DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START

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People who achieve their goals and move forward do so by
answering the following two questions:
Look over your notes and ask yourself the question,

"Which one of these projects/goals would have the greatest

"What's the one big thing?" and "What's the one next positive impact on my life if I was to achieve it in the next
thing?" 12 weeks?"

They have narrowed down their competing priorities to As you look over everything you've written down, see if you can
always, continually make the one next choice that moves circle three to five options which might have the greatest
them towards the one big thing. positive impact on your life.

They repeat this on an ongoing basis and their good

decisions compound over time. In this How-to Guide - Sick
of Feeling Stuck? - you're going to answer the first
question in this process, "What's your one next thing?"
Step 3
Take a step back and look over the three to five options you've
highlighted. Let's make sure we're being realistic about what
can be achieved in 12 weeks.

Step 1 "Which options, if any, that you've highlighted are

unrealistic for you to achieve in the next 12 weeks?"
Grab some pen and paper or, if you prefer, you can do this step
digitally.
If any of the options you've highlighted are unrealistic, either
cross them out or rewrite them in a way that is realistic.
On the piece of paper or device, write out all of the things that come to
mind when you ask yourself,
An example might be:
"Earn my first million dollars" (unrealistic in 12 weeks) could be
"What one project or goal in my life is the most important for me to
rewritten to a realistic goal of "Reduce debt by $5,000".
achieve in the next 12 weeks?"

It's okay if your options are exciting and stretch goals, but make
You'll think of more than one option, that's great. Write out all of the
sure they're not completely unrealistic. Unrealistic goals are a
different options as they cross your mind.
sure fire way to get nowhere fast.

Examples might be:

- Finish the renovations in the bathroom
- Sort out our financial situation Step 4
- Find additional employment that's worth at least $400 a week
- Deal with stress and anxiety Look over your options now that you've rewritten and excluded
- Spend more time with the kids any that are too unrealistic. Ask yourself the question,
- Make a decision about whether to study or work next year
- Lose 10 kilos "Are there any themes here? Could I combine any of these
- Work out whether to break up with my boyfriend projects or goals into a logical larger project or goal?"

At this point you might not be able to express it as a goal, so feel free to Example: If two of the options are finance related then you
write down an area that you know you need to 'deal with' such as might look at rewriting a larger finance goal for the next 12
finances, mental health, marriage or exercise. weeks that includes both of the smaller goals you had written
down.
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Step 5
What themes stood out? Was there a logical larger goal or project that
included a couple or few of the things you wrote down?
You should now be at a point where you have one clear larger
project/goal, one clear theme or a couple of competing
projects/goals/themes that stand out.
If one thing isn't standing out yet, then ask yourself again,
"Which one of these projects/goals/themes would have the
greatest positive impact on my life if I was to achieve it in the next
12 weeks?"
You need to pick one! Sometimes there are a few great ideas, but
there's always one that's most important.
Before you continue, you must pick one option above all others that
would have the greatest positive impact on your life if you were to
achieve it in the next 12 weeks.
Make a decision now, turn to a new page and write out the one
project/goal/theme you've decided on in the following format:
'Verb' 'Project/s' by 'Date (12 weeks from now)'. It doesn't matter
whether your project/goal/theme has a measurable number attached to
it or not.
Examples:
- 'Reduce' 'debt by $5,000' by 'Wednesday 23 December 2020'
- 'Research and improve' 'stress and anxiety' by 'Tuesday 29 December
2020'
- 'Invest' 'in marriage' by 'Friday 29 January 2021'
- 'Lose' '10 kilos' by 'Monday 22 February 2021'
- 'Secure' 'additional employment of $400 a week' by 'Sunday 28
February 2021'
Step 6
You've identified your one next thing, now break it up into three smaller
achievable goals.
Step 6 (continued)
Examples:
One next thing: 'Reduce' 'debt by $5,000' by 'Wednesday 23
December 2020'
Smaller goals:
1. Buy cheaper car and sell existing car
2. Do up new budget to reduce spending
3. Refinance credit cards for cheaper rate
One next thing: 'Research and improve' 'stress and anxiety'
by 'Tuesday 29 December 2020'
Smaller goals:
1. Find and attend new psychologist
2. New exercise regime
3. Research and implement productivity tool to manage
workload at work
One next thing: 'Invest' 'in marriage' by 'Friday 29 January
2021'
Smaller goals:
1. Find and meet with mentor to help with marriage
2. Read about and implement 5 love language ideas for my
husband
3. Regular date night and getaway with each other
Step 7
Under your first smaller goal, list the action steps required to
achieve that goal. There should be approximately five to 20
action steps for each goal.
Action steps can include things like making phone calls, reading
books, creating a plan, taking photos, scheduling things in your
calendar, going to the gym and meeting with people.
Do the same for your other two smaller goals until you have
action steps listed for all three of your smaller goals.
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Step 8
Now look over each action step and create a timeline for when you need
to take each action step in order to achieve the smaller goal in 12
weeks from now.
Be realistic about how much you'll be able to do in each week and be
careful not to overload weeks one, two or three. The goal is not to
achieve your one next thing by week three but to consistently move
towards it so you can achieve it by the end of week 12.
Some of your action steps will repeat across multiple weeks. That's
okay, list these as 'Weeks 1-5', 'Weeks 1-12' or 'Week 4, 8 and 12'.
Step 9
Once you've written out a timeline for every action step for each of the
smaller goals, you're ready to create your weekly plans.
Create word documents for each week of the 12 weeks from week
one to week 12. If you're using paper and pen, give each week a
new page.
For each week on a new page, write your overall one next thing and
your three smaller goals as headlines. Then, under each smaller goal,
write the action steps for that week.
This step will take a considerable amount of time but it needs to be
done completely before starting week one. If you don't do this
completely before beginning week one it's very likely you won't succeed
at achieving your one next thing.
Step 10
Well done! If you've reached this step then you're ready to begin your
12 weeks to achieve your one next thing.
Next steps
The 12 weeks you've written out with your one next thing, three
smaller goals and action steps for each goal is your guide for
the next 12 weeks.
Whether a word document, a piece of paper for each week or
something else, you need to keep that week's page in front of
you each week.
As you begin each week, look at the page for that week and use
it as a todo list. That's not to say you wont have 100 other
things to do in life, but to achieve your one next thing you'll
need to prioritise these action steps above everything else in
the week that you've planned to do them.
As you achieve each action step each week, cross off the action
step. You'll need to move some action steps back to the next
week when you don't get to them. That's okay, but if you get to
the end of 12 weeks and you haven't achieved a majority of
what you set out to achieve then it's likely your one next thing
was unrealistic.
Towards the end of the 12 weeks - around week 11 or 12, it's
time to do this whole process again. Sometimes there will be a
theme across multiple 'one next thing's but other times you'll set
a completely new and separate one next thing for the next 12
weeks.
One big thing
Now that you've articulated and moved towards your one next
thing, it's time to articulate your one big thing. Articulating your
one big thing will help you make sure your future one next
things keep you moving forward long-term.
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thing.