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Counseling With Scripture English Outline - 1-37
Counseling With Scripture English Outline - 1-37
COURSE OBJECTIVE:
1. To understand the principles of Scriptural counseling
2. To learn to minister healing to the broken-hearted
3. To be equipped to help counselees formulate a more accurate concept of God
based on Scripture
4. To help counselees begin to build their self-worth on the forgiveness and
unconditional love of Jesus Christ
CREDIT VALUE:
Each part has a 3 credit hour value.
COURSE TEXT:
Title Author
1. Search for Significance Robert S. McGee
2. Common Care Counseling Handbook T. Edwards & W. Kimball1
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ISBN: 0-310-22560-4
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Date: _______________________________________________________________________
The above course requirements are to be completed and this affidavit turned in
within one week of the last class meeting or the student will receive a grade of
“Incomplete.”
3. One who has a genuine concern for the needs of others with a strong desire
to be used by God to help them to achieve victory in their daily lives.
4. A good listener
5. Compassionate, empathetic
7. A prayer warrior
2. To offer guidelines that will bring positive changes to the situation based
upon God’s Word.
II. Jesus is our “Wonderful Counselor” (Isaiah 9:6) and the Holy Spirit is
“another” Counselor just like Him (John 14:16-18).
B. When you counsel with Scripture, you are inviting Jesus into the situation.
2. Jesus is the Word made flesh, the living Word of God – John 1:14.
C. When you counsel with Scripture, you can expect the same anointing of the
Holy Spirit that was upon Jesus – Luke 4:18.
2. The Gospel (good news - the Word of God) is the power of God unto salva-
tion – Romans 1:16.
a. Doctrine
b. Reproof
c. Correction
d. Instruction in righteousness
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DOCTRINE (C N (Training and Establishing
(Instruction in Truth) in Righteousness)
a. “An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbor but through knowl-
edge shall the just be delivered” (Proverbs 11:9).
b. “A man's belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the
increase of his lips shall he be filled. Death and life are in the power
[“yad” — hand] of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit
thereof” (Proverbs 18:20,21).
b. “A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due
season, how good is it!” (Proverbs 15:23).
c. “The light of the eyes rejoiceth the heart: and a good report maketh the
bones fat” (Proverbs 15:30).
d. “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the
bones” (Proverbs 16:24).
1. Some have gone into captivity because the devil has deceived them because
of their ignorance of the Word of truth.
4. If you are in a wounded, rejected state and easily bruised, you need light.
b. For the Word of God is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path –
Psalm 119:105.
c. You need to hear the Word that will set you free.
5. You must both hear and understand those words that you might take corre-
sponding action (i.e. obedience to them) – Deuteronomy 5:1.
1) “He that refuses instruction despises his own soul; but he that hears
reproof gets understanding” (Proverbs 15:32).
b. Sometimes those “good words” are not necessarily what we want to hear,
but what we must hear.
1. It brings life: Man lives not by bread alone, but by every Word of God –
Matthew 4:4.
2. It brings discernment:
a. The Word of God is sharper than any two-edged sword and it will divide
the soulish from the spiritual – Hebrews 4:12.
b. One who is skillful in using the Word of God is one who has “practiced”
consistently.
1) This is the one who can discern between good and evil.
2) “But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those
who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good
and evil” (Hebrews 5:14).
H. How to establish a solid foundation in your life and in those you counsel:
a. Calling Jesus “Lord” and yet not obeying His Word is like building a
house with no foundation.
1) Coming to Jesus
3) Obeying
3. The letter of the law (the Word without the anointing) always produces death
– 2 Corinthians 3:6.
B. Captive people
C. Oppressed people
“[Rather] is not this the fast that I have chosen: to loose the bonds of wicked-
ness, to undo the bands of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and that you
break every [enslaving] yoke?... take away from your midst yokes of oppres-
sion [wherever you find them], the finger pointed in scorn [toward the
oppressed or the godly], and every form of false, harsh, unjust, and wicked
speaking” (Isaiah 58:6,9 AMP).
E. People who are physically ill – the devil can steal a person’s health by
attacking their attitudes.
1. “A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a
broken spirit dries up the bones” (Proverbs 17:22 AMP).
2. “A calm and undisturbed mind and heart are the life and health of the body,
but envy, jealousy, and wrath are like rottenness of the bones” (Proverbs
14:30 AMP).
F. People in the above categories can be of all ages and levels of maturity and
can come from all walks of life.
a. The Word of God will help them be strong and victorious in life – 1 John
2:12-14 AMP.
1) Little children: “...for His name's sake your sins are forgiven [par-
doned through His name and on account of confessing His name]”
3) Young men:
b) “...you are strong and vigorous, and the Word of God is [always]
abiding in you (in your hearts), and you have been victorious over
the wicked one.”
2. Single people
2) His Word reveals His perfect love, a love that sustains, strengthens,
completes and comforts us – whether we are single or married.
3. Married people
4. Divorced people – God hates divorce but loves divorced people. Their bro-
ken hearts need to be healed.
G. In fact, we are to teach (to make disciples, teaching them to follow God’s
precepts and instructions) all the nations of the world – Matthew 28:19.
1. What the Holy Spirit says – Mark 4:9, 23; Revelation 2:7, 11, 17, 29
2. What people are really saying – Matthew 12:34 - “Out of the abundance of
the heart the mouth speaketh.”
1. 1 Corinthians 2:9-16 – Paul clearly states that men cannot understand the
things of God apart from the Spirit’s work.
2. Galatians 5:18 – “If ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.”
b. The fact of the Holy Spirit’s involvement in counseling implies the pres-
ence of the Holy Scriptures as well.
2. A counselor cannot use the same pat answer or theory on every person.
4. By revelation of the Holy Spirit we can discern how to apply the anointed
Word of God to a given situation.
a. The problem may be genetic, and you may be led to share that we are
redeemed from the curse of the law – Galatians 3:13.
5. We can trust our Wonderful Counselor to tell us what we need to know and
what we need to do.
b. It is not based on how he feels about himself but on the incredible value
Christ places on a person’s worth – Psalms 139:13-18.
2. Significance
a. A purpose for living which gives a person a real and lasting impact on his
world.
3. Security
b. God’s plan to re-establish the love relationship between man and Himself
was fulfilled in the Lord Jesus Christ – John 3:16.
4. Love
a. He is our true source for love and acceptance. Only He knows how to
fulfill all of our needs.
1. Our relationships with our parents shape our concept of God and establish
the foundation of our emotional, relational, and spiritual health.
a. If our parents were supportive and loving, we will probably feel that God
is strong and loving.
b. If our parents were harsh and demanding, we will probably feel that it is
impossible to please God (see Colossians 3:21).
a. Feelings are neither right or wrong – feelings simply are (see Ephesians
4:26-27)
b. It’s not what occurred in your home that matters, but how you reacted
and felt about it when you were a child.
c. Each child responds differently – in fact, two children reared in the same
home will probably have different feelings about childhood events.
B. Everyone has two concepts of God – one intellectual and one emotional
b. In our hearts, we may have felt that God was critical, angry, or demanding.
2. Our intellect concept – our logical, verbal knowing about God – was devel-
oped later in our life.
a. In our heads we believe that what the Bible says about God is true.
3. The two concepts are often in conflict – giving the impression that God has a
split personality.
5. It is a great benefit to see the difference between what you know and what
you feel about God.
C. Our false concept of this “split-personality god” keeps us from believing and
trusting in the true God.
D. Four false beliefs that perpetrate the power of habitual, destructive thought pat-
terns in our lives – patterns that mar our relationships with others. (see chart)
1. False Belief #1: I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself.
b. This false belief should not be confused with healthy goal setting.
c. This false belief can result in abusive self talk as we see our own human
imperfections.
2. False Belief #2: I must have the approval of certain others to feel good about
myself. Without their approval I cannot feel good about myself.
b. Do not confuse this false belief with a healthy caring for people.
3. False Belief #3: Those who fail (including myself) are unworthy of love and
deserve to be punished.
a. This false belief leads to guilt (the fear of punishment) and the tendency
to punish others.
b. The “rules” we feel we must obey are often unwritten, but rigid. Since
they are never defined, we can’t look ahead and avoid breaking them.
a. This false belief tells us we are no more than a sum of all our past per-
formances, both good and bad (I am what I have done).
E. Believing God’s Word – the Truth – is the only way to break out of our
habitual, destructive thought patterns.
1. We need increasingly to believe that God can restore us to health and sanity
through His Son Jesus Christ.
3. In the Bible, God gives us four key truths to counteract the four false beliefs:
a. Justification
b. Reconciliation
c. Propitiation
d. Regeneration
1. Our false belief system resulted in habits that took years to develop and may
not change overnight.
2. God will open our eyes to see the extent to which we act upon these decep-
tions.
3. As we continue to take time to study God’s Word and experience His truth at
work in our lives, our perception of God, ourselves, and others will be
changed and renewed.
4. Learning to apply God’s truth to our lives may be painful at times, but will
be rich, rewarding, and exciting!
1. As forgiven people we are called to forgive those who sin against us and as
we do, we sow to the Spirit. The opposite of forgiveness is sowing to the
flesh – passing judgment either knowingly or through ignorance or a
deceived heart. Galatians 6:7,8.
2. Many believers suffer because they have not forgiven those who have hurt,
offended, or rejected them, resulting in their needs not being met for love,
approval and acceptance.
Exaggerations
Critical attitudes
Rationalization
Excessive shyness Depression Bitterness Excuse-making
Perfectionism
Compulsive work
Pleasing others
Resulting in:
“For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the
destruction of fortresses.” — 2 Corinthians 10:4
Hate Guilt
Fear Depression
Unforgiveness Loneliness
Condemnation (Blame) Illness and Disease
1. Forgetting. You may think you have forgiven when you have only tried to
forget the sin against you.
4. Asking God to forgive your offender. Not if you have not made a decision to
forgive him.
5. Asking the offender to forgive you. That comes only after you have forgiven
him and been before the Lord concerning your attitude toward him.
C. What Forgiveness is
1. A decision. An act of the will, done by faith before God, in which we give
up our right to hold another person accountable for the wrong they have done
to us.
b. View the sin from the position of Jesus on Calvary – a completed work.
D. A Statement of Forgiveness:
E. Forgiveness is a Process
2. New offenses can be forgiven as they occur without linking them to past
offenses, which have already been forgiven.
2. They provide the means for you to make contact with your clients and to
hear them accurately.
3. These skills are basic to empathy, the ability to be sensitive to and under-
stand the world of another human being.
5. They demonstrate that you are listening and encourage the client to talk more
freely. (Good listeners are a magnet.)
a. The ability to stand in the other’s shoes and feel what they are feeling
c. To listen in such a way that the other person feels valued, accepted, and
understood.
5. Movement synchrony – your body often mirrors that of your client if you are
really listening
D. Additional components
1. Really listening
3. Validating behavior
4. Approving look
5. Nodding
2. Listening communicates value and acceptance especially for women who use
it to connect and maintain relationships.
2) Not interrupting
9. Honor the person and what they have to say—“Expressing acceptance and
belief in a person often brings about faster growth than pointing out what is
wrong.” – Stoltzfus
4. Not hiding your face (Client can feel like a little kid if I do not see you are
not there.)
1. Rejection
2. Cold shoulder
3. I don’t care.
H. Mistakes
8. Not adapting the style to the client but making him adapt to you
b. You are helping them find their own solutions and hear from the Holy
Spirit. You are “teaching them how to fish.”
2. Eliminate distractions.
1. Taking back the interview if you cannot get the client to stop talking
3. Questions indicate that a person is interested in you and what you have to say.
4. Good questions help people explore themselves and their feelings more deeply.
2. They can make people put up defenses rather than open up.
C. The Bible endorses questions—they are helpful and necessary for interview-
ing but we must be aware of their limitations.
a. Stay out of the way to find out how the client perceives the situation and
defines the issues.
1) Examples: “Tell me more,” “How are your feeling?” “What are some
things you like about…?”
a) Good questions pass control to the client even though they could
be answered yes or no.
c) They provide the best overview of the situation and help define
the problem more clearly.
e) “What” questions help the client talk about facts and specifics
about a situation or event and explain what happened.
c. Closed questions ask for data and yes or no answers and ignore feelings.
1) Usually use “are” and “do.” Example: “Do you like cake?”
8) Leading closed questions like lawyers use are dangerous and may
mislead you in what your client is really expressing.
9) Warning signs
10) Convert closed questions to open ones by adding how, which, or what
d. Reflective questions help the client get in touch with what he is feeling.
1) Feed back to the client what you feel they are feeling.
3) Ask bigger questions—ones that have more options— rather than giv-
ing advice—think backward—what is the big question you are trying
to solve? They open more options.
5) Crafting great probing questions like Jesus did—the open up the tun-
nel based on intuitive listening and indicators. Pick out the most
important thing the client said that made you curious and ask the
client to explore on it further. “Tell me more about…
b) Succinct
c) Neutral
g. With children
3) Emotions (how?)
1) Use the word “family” or “group” to help them focus on their part in
the group or family.
1. These skills show the client that you have heard what has been said. When a
person feels heard, they tend to build trust in the listener and are willing to
say more.
2. Both skills use the words of the client to say back the most important things
that have been said.
3. Selecting keywords for encouraging and paraphrasing are two of the most
difficult and important skills to master.
B. The “minimal encourage” helps the client explore issues in more depth.
They are small indicators to the client that you are with them. They encour-
age the client to keep talking.
2. Verbal minimal encourages are brief utterances to help the client continue
such as Oh, So, Then? And? Uh-huh, Tell me more, repeating one to two
words.
5. Repeating words results in the client elaborating. This is used more by expe-
rienced counselors.
C. The paraphrase focuses on what has been said and uses a longer time frame.
1. Used to let the client know that they have been heard
2. Follow the paraphrase with a “check-out” question like “Am I hearing you
correctly?” or “Okay?”
Nothing is more satisfying than being heard. Your questions and the minimal encour-
age help draw out the client's story. The paraphrase shows the client that you have
accurately heard their story and issues.
In this session, you will focus on asking open questions, the minimal encourage, and the
paraphrase.
Break into groups and practice these skills with each other. Each group should have a
counselor and a client.
Practice
1. What are some of the ways you can use the concepts of questioning, the minimal
encourage, and paraphrasing in your own daily communication?
2. Practice listening to your family and friends and asking them open-ended questions.
Then report the results back to others in your group.
HD-1
Worksheet: Study the “Chart of False Beliefs.”
Then fill in the missing information in the grid below from memory.
THE
PERFORMANCE
TRAP
APPROVAL
ADDICT
THE BLAME
GAME
SHAME
Salvation is entering into a personal relationship with God thru personal faith in Jesus
Christ. Unless the Lord Jesus Christ is in a person’s life, obviously he cannot make the
necessary changes in his life. Before he trusts the Lord Jesus Christ in a personal surren-
der, the Holy Spirit must convince him that he is a born sinner.
Romans 3:23 – all have sinned and come short of the glory of God
Romans 5:12 – sin entered thru one man (Adam) and death by sin; so death passed to all
men because all have sinned
Romans 6:23 – wages of sin is death; gift of God is eternal life thru Jesus Christ our Lord
Romans 5:8 – God proves His love for us while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 10:9, 10 – if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your
heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. With the heart man believes
unto righteousness, with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
Romans 10:13 – whoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
I dare not trust the sweetest frame, but wholly lean on Jesus’ name.
When darkness veils His lovely face, I rest on His unchanging grace;
In ev’ry high and stormy gale my anchor holds within the veil.
His oath, His covenant, His blood support me in the whelming flood;
When all around my soul gives way, He then is all my hope and stay.
When He shall come with trumpet sound, O may I then in Him be found,
Dressed in His righteousness alone, faultless to stand before the throne.
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