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YOUR
RELATIONSHIP
CHECKLIST
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A NOTE FROM
THE AUTHOR
WELCOME! I"M SO GLAD YOU'RE HERE!
Relationships are hard when you don't know how to take care of
yourself. Thinking of others first is a lovely trait but can bite you in the
who-know-what later.
This checklist will uncover the health of your relationships and will
likely identify relationship patterns that may surprise you. Remember -
no one including me has perfect relationships - we are all in the
process of learning and growing.
The goal is to identify areas of strength and challenges that you may
not be aware of right now. This is how we grow - by being willing to
dig a little deeper into what may need to change.
Change doesn't have to take years. Don't worry, you are not alone in
this process, I'm right here doing the work along side you!
So let's begin!
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MICHELLE FARRIS
Licensed Psychotherapist
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LET'S BEGIN!
Go through each item on the checklist. If you have a person in your life that fits the
description, place a checkmark in the box and add the person's name next to that
description.
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RESULTS FROM YOUR
SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
CHECKLIST
Remember these results are meant to highlight relationships that work. Be gentle with
yourself: if you don't have a lot of people in your support system, building up your support
system may be something you need to work on.
Who are you able to count on from your supportive relationship checklist?
Are there others who support you that don't fit those descriptions? How do they support you?
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YOUR SUPPORTIVE
RELATIONSHIPS CHECKLIST
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YOUR CHALLENGING
RELATIONSHIPS
C H E C K L I S T
Go through each item on the checklist. If you have a person in your life that fits the
description, place a checkmark in the box and add that person's name next to the
description.
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RESULTS FROM
YOUR CHALLENGING
RELATIONSHIPS CHECKLIST
Again, remember that these results are not a judgment against you. If you have several people
that are challenging for you, this may be something you need to work on.
What relationships are the most challenging for you? What can you learn from these
relationships?
Are there other people you struggle with who don't fit those descriptions? In what ways are
these relationships difficult for you?
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REFLECTIONS
Are there any changes you might like to make as a result of this list?
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YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
B E H A V I O R C H E C K L I S T
Go through each item on the checklist, Place a checkmark in the box next to any traits that describe
your relationship behaviors. Rate each trait from 1-10. If you rate something a 2, it's likely not a big issue,
but anything over a 5 is likely signifiant.
A gentle warning: not checking off boxes doesn't mean you're defective. When you can see and
acknowledge your own actions, you show bravery and your willingness to move past old patterns.
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YOUR REFLECTIONS
How can you show yourself compassion while you deal with these challenges?
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HOW DO THE PEOPLE IN
YOUR LIFE MAKE YOU FEEL?
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HOW PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL
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REFLECTIONS
What surprised you when you made this list? Were there any ah-ha moments?
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WHAT'S NEXT?
What are your next steps that would help you to improve your relationships?
What skills would help you feel more confident in your relationships? Example:
communication skills, managing anger, setting boundaries, trusting yourself, etc.
How have you attempted to work on these issues? What's worked and what hasn't?
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WHERE DO YOU NEED HELP?
SELF-TRUST
When you struggle with doubt, relationships are
harder to navigate because you can't trust your
own perceptions.
SETTING BOUNDARIES
Relationships need boundaries in order to stay
healthy. Without them, it's difficult to advocate
for yourself.
MANAGING EMOTIONS
When you can't manage emotions effectively,
you won't be able to cope with life on life's
terms.
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Relationships
INTRODUCING
That Work
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MEET THE AUTHOR “If you can remember
MICHELLE FARRIS
what happened without
Michelle Farris is a licensed psychotherapist and
anger management specialist in San Jose,
anger or resentment, it's
California. Her mission? To teach people how to
create healthy and satisfying relationships without
healed.”
sacrificing themselves.