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YOUR
RELATIONSHIP
CHECKLIST
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A NOTE FROM
THE AUTHOR
WELCOME! I"M SO GLAD YOU'RE HERE!
Relationships are hard when you don't know how to take care of
yourself. Thinking of others first is a lovely trait but can bite you in the
who-know-what later.
This checklist will uncover the health of your relationships and will
likely identify relationship patterns that may surprise you. Remember -
no one including me has perfect relationships - we are all in the
process of learning and growing together.
The goal here is to identify areas of strength and challenges that you
may not be aware of right now. This is how we grow - by being willing
to dig a little deeper into what may need to change.
Change doesn't have to take years. Don't worry, you are not alone in
this process, I'm right here doing the work along side you!
So let's begin!
a r r i s
i c h el le F
M MICHELLE FARRIS
Licensed Psychotherapist
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LET'S BEGIN!
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RESULTS FROM YOUR
SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
CHECKLIST
These results are meant to highlight relationships that work. Be gentle with yourself: if you don't
have a lot of people on this list. Building up your support system may be your next step.
Who are you able to count on from your supportive relationship checklist?
Are there others who support you that don't fit those descriptions? How do they support you?
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YOUR SUPPORTIVE
RELATIONSHIPS CHECKLIST
Were there any people on the list that surprised you? Please explain.
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YOUR CHALLENGING
RELATIONSHIPS
CHECKLIST
Go through each item on the checklist. If you have a person in your life that fits the
description, place a checkmark in the box and add that person's name next to the
description.
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RESULTS FROM
YOUR CHALLENGING
RELATIONSHIPS CHECKLIST
These results are not a judgment against you. If you have several people that are challenging for
you, focus on taking care of yourself as best you can.
What relationships are the most challenging for you right now?
Are there other people who don't fit those descriptions that are challenging for you? List below.
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REFLECTIONS
What did you learn from making your challenging relationships list?
Are there any changes you might like to make as a result of this list?
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YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
BEHAVIOR CHECKLIST
Go through each item on the checklist, Place a checkmark in the box next to any traits that describe
your relationship behaviors. Rate each trait from 1-10. If you rate something a 2, it's likely not a problem,
but anything over a 5 is likely something that needs your attention.
A gentle warning: not checking off boxes doesn't mean anything negative about you. When you can
acknowledge your own actions, you show bravery and your willingness to move past old patterns.
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YOUR REFLECTIONS
How can you show yourself compassion while you deal with these challenges?
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HOW DO THE PEOPLE IN
YOUR LIFE MAKE YOU FEEL?
Use this list of feelings to assess how certain people make you feel. For instance, different
people provoke different emotions depending how loving the relationship is. You may smile
when thinking of your best friend but feel afraid when thinking of someone who has hurt you.
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HOW PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL
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REFLECTIONS
Who makes you feel bad about yourself or gaslights you a lot?
What did you learn from this? Were there any ah-ha moments?
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WHAT'S NEXT?
What are your next steps that would help you to improve your relationships?
What skills would make you feel more confident in relationships? Example:
communication skills, managing anger, setting boundaries, trusting yourself, etc.
How have you attempted to work on these issues? What's worked and what hasn't?
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WHERE DO YOU NEED HELP?
SELF-TRUST
When you struggle with doubt, relationships are
harder to navigate because you can't trust your
own perceptions.
SETTING BOUNDARIES
Relationships need boundaries in order to stay
healthy. Without them, it's difficult to advocate
for yourself.
MANAGING EMOTIONS
When you can't manage emotions effectively,
you won't be able to cope with life on life's
terms.
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MEET THE AUTHOR “If you can remember
MICHELLE FARRIS
what happened without
Michelle Farris is a licensed psychotherapist and
anger management specialist in San Jose,
anger or resentment, it's
California. Her mission? To teach people how to
create healthy and satisfying relationships without
healed.”
sacrificing themselves.