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Alix Needham
Self Confidence
Here are 5 ways to start freeing yourself from social anxiety and shyness.
Mind reading – assuming you know what other people are thinking about
you.
Once you have identified your negative or false beliefs, the next step is to
challenge them with rational thought and replace them with positive
affirmations.
For example, if you’re feeling anxious about going to a party because you’re
worried what people might think of you, what you will say or that people don’t
like you.
Challenging this thought with a more realistic outlook is helpful. You were
invited to the party because people want you there. Most people will be too
busy enjoying themselves to pay you too much unwanted attention. Everyone
is there to have fun. In addition, build up positive affirmations in your mind –
“the party will go well. I am relaxed and funny. I can visualise myself enjoying
it.”
Focusing On Others
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If you find your anxiety levels building up, it’s useful to have some techniques
in reserve to help you control them. Positive mantras, breathing exercises,
meditation and relaxation techniques can all be helpful and called upon when
you feel tense.
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Desensitise Gradually
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Write a list of your shyness triggers and order them by severity. Starting with
the less extreme, gradually begin to expose yourself to situations that make
you feel uncomfortable and use your new techniques to become more
comfortable with them.
Set yourself small goals at first and reward accomplishments. Find places that
make you feel calmer – perhaps a park or zoo – and work your way up to
busier or more intense situations. As you start to make progress you will be
rewarded by the new opportunities that open up to you.