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And, yeah, it sounds fancy and all, but we’re really not uncommon.
According to Aron, HSPs make up about 15 to 20 percent of the
world’s population.
Without it, sex feels incredibly pointless — more like some bizarre type
of disconnected, yet mutual, masturbation than an experience of
embodied pleasure. Hard pass.
After some trial and error, I finally figured this out in my mid-twenties.
Now, I’m just not down to be with anyone I don’t feel a connection
with.
And, for that exact reason, I highly recommend keeping a vibrator (or
two, or three, or, ya know, seven) nearby until someone you truly fancy
saunters into your life.
The best sex, to us, is built up over time and ideally has a sprinkle of
mystery. That’s not to say there isn’t room for daring adventures
— it just takes the right combination and lead up.
Even outside the bedroom, HSP sexuality can be one hell of a force. Our
inner worlds can whisk us to faraway places, sometimes delving into
deliciously indulgent memories or fantasies for the future.
Not only are we analyzing every fiber of our own sensations, we’re
simultaneously trying to imagine how it’s all going from our
partner’s perspective.
Emily Stone, PhD, LMFT, the founder and senior clinician at The Unstuck
Group, knows it well. Stone says that HSPs sometimes have a
“tendency to endure†in their relationships.
It’s not uncommon for us to neglect our own needs because
we’re more so thinking about our partner’s experience, which can
lead to getting lost in a sexual sea of thought.
When it all lines up right though, Stone says “an HSP’s gifts can
bring delight, passion, and depth to the sexual experience in ways that no
one else can.†Damn straight.
That project you were working on? Yeah, probs not gonna happen
anymore.
While it’s taken me time to learn how to speak up about what I like
and don’t like in the sheets, that assertion has helped my
relationships greatly. It’s something we can all benefit from,
regardless of where one falls on the sensitivity scale.
The same goes for HSPs. It’s our responsibility to tell our partners
what’s working and what isn’t — without worrying about
upsetting them. Again, assert yourself. Your desires are worth it.
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