Learn 3 Tantric Secrets for Extraordinary Sex...

But first, what is Tantra, really?

By Marthe Schneider

There is a lot of misinformation about Tantra these days, and there are several
different types of Tantric practice. Therefore, we would like to start by clarifying
what Tantra means according to our tradition of practice.

In the Tibetan tradition, Tantra is an energy healing program, based on the

understanding that energy precedes matter. The word Tantra literally means to
weave light and sound with form. Practically, this means using one’s imagination to
see and hear the vibration of the elemental energies that make up all phenomena,
and weave it in with form, or physical reality, like a fabric. Form can be anything
from your body to the planet and beyond.

This energy healing program balances, enriches and heals the energy body, which
then allows for healing to happen on the level of mind and body. Tantra can be
practiced non-sexually or sexually. Sexual Tantra means that the sexual energy is
harnessed and used to catalyze the healing effect of this weaving light and sound
with form. Sexual Tantra is the art of using sex as Medicine.

Most important, in this tradition, Tantra is always practiced with an altruistic

motivation: to heal self AND others.

Many types of practice called Tantra today are different from this. Firstly, they do
not weave light and sound with form. Other practices are also different in their
purpose and motivation. Many styles of Tantra today are focused more on pleasure
for self than on healing for all beings’ benefit.

In order to practice sexual Tantra by the definition of our tradition, one needs to
master certain physical skills. These skills are often referred to as Tantra in other
traditions and styles of practice, but in our tradition, they are called Sutra practices.
We want to acknowledge that the methods we share in this book are examples of
such preliminary, or sutra, practices. The two first secrets to extraordinary sex which
we are sharing with you stem from Hindu and Western -Neo Tantra. The red light
practice stems from the Tibetan Tantra Tradition.

What makes sex extraordinary?

By Devi Ward

Sex is one of the greatest forms of pleasure we can experience as human beings.
Yet, for many people sex is a topic of much pain and confusion.

This is largely due to the lack of comprehensive, pleasure based sex-education

available to us as we become sexually active and “mature.”

Yes, sex is a natural function of the human body, but just like almost every other
natural function, such as eating and walking; we do need to be educated about how
to do these activities correctly and most effectively.

For instance, we are not born knowing how to prepare a meal, or even how to hold a
fork or knife.

We need to be taught the proper way to chop vegetables and combine ingredients
to make a great meal. And, the more we learn about proper food preparation, the
better tasting and more satisfying our meals become.

The same is true for sex. We may instinctively be drawn to having sexual
experiences, but that does not necessarily mean they will be enriching or satisfying
for us.

Just like there is a vast difference between a gourmet meal and microwave ramen
noodles, there is a vast difference between ordinary sexual experiences and
extraordinary sex.
How do you know if your sex is ordinary or extraordinary?

Typically, ordinary sexual experiences will have many or some of the following
characteristics:

▪ Lack of authentic, heart centered connection

▪ Lack of eye contact

▪ Fear of communicating your desires

▪ Fear of giving feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t

▪ Confusion

▪ Uncertainty

▪ Anxiety

▪ Embarrassment

▪ Shame

▪ Guilt

▪ Insecurity

▪ Numbness or pain

▪ Disconnection from your body

▪ Short lived and over before you know it

▪ Partially or minimally satisfying

▪ Sense of this being a duty or a chore

▪ Tense, serious, and/or mechanical

Comparatively, extraordinary sexual experiences typically have many of these

characteristics:
 ▪ Profound sense of connection

▪ Deep sense of moving in harmony together

▪ Fearless eye contact

▪ Fearless verbal communication about pleasure

▪ Mutual passion and desire

▪ Pleasure, pleasure, pleasure

▪ Feelings of openness and peace

▪ Lack of anxiety or pressure

▪ Joy, fun, laughter, playfulness

Additionally, some people have reported seeing lights, experienced heightened

senses, and feelings of transcendence and communion with something greater.

Until Tantra my personal sexual experiences were sort of a mixed bag of all of the
above.

There were certain times and certain partners with whom I had extraordinary sexual
experiences full of openness, bliss and light. However, those experiences were few
and far between.

Most sexual experiences I had fell under that category of “ordinary” and were rife
with anxiety, confusion, embarrassment, lack of connection, and rarely satisfying for
my body, much less my heart and soul.

So what was it about those few experiences that made them extraordinary?

Was there some common thread I could follow that would lead me back to the
ability to recreate them?
For most people what makes a sexual experience extraordinary is the depth of
connection that you feel with that other person, but also with yourself.

This is the ability to be totally, 100% present in the moment, with no other thought
than being here, now, together.

This is the ability to be fully in your body with no distracting thoughts, no conflicting
emotions, just connected, present, relaxed and aware.

This is what Tantra is about.

We say that the ultimate goal of Tantra is cultivating relaxed awareness with focus.

It is through this present relaxed awareness that we are able to deeply and
profoundly connect with our body, with our self, and then we are able to openly and
authentically connect with our partner.

There is no connection without presence.

 Connection: The Key to Extraordinary Sex and More!
By Marci Weinstein and Devi Ward

The Tantric orientation to life (and sex) sees connection as the foundation upon
which all other things are built.

Yet, lack of connection is one of the primary ailments we experience in modern

society.

Our tendency to disconnect is easy to understand. Look at how we are conditioned.

From the time we are children we are taught to seek validation from the outside,
approval from parents and teachers, acceptance from peers, admittance to
exclusive groups or organizations, social clubs, etc.

So much of our self-worth is based on what others think of us (or what we think they
think of us), and so much time, effort and attention is placed on maintaining an
acceptable appearance for others.

When so much emphasis is placed on the acceptance and approval from the
outside, it becomes easy for us to lose touch with our true self, our authentic self.

We lose connection with ourselves and therefore with everyone and everything
around us.

We disconnect to protect ourselves, but we still have that basic human need. So, we
seek other ways to fill the void.

Researchers are discovering more and more that the root cause of many addictions
and other forms of suffering is disconnection – from ourselves, from others, from
our purpose and passions, from Source itself.
Gabor Mate, in his books and talks, has shared how childhood traumas and the
absence of nurturing and presence as infants literally wires our brains and
biochemistry in a way that predisposes us to addiction.1

In his TedTalk Johann Hari speaks of the root cause of addiction being
disconnection caused by isolation and wanting to escape from the pain of our lives.
Human beings have an innate need to bond. If we’re unable to bond with others due
to previous trauma or physical/emotional abandonment, we will bond or attach to a
substance or behavior that fulfills this need for security and connection or offers an
escape from the pain of not having it.

The world we see today, full of war, pain and suffering is a symptom of this.

If we knew and understood ourselves to be in interdependent relationships with

everyone and everything else on the planet, the world would look quite different
than it does today.

To thrive in our lives and relationships, to experience bliss and joy and freedom, we
must feel supported, connected, loved and fully present.

Tantra offers us the pathway and practices that do just that! Tantra is the yogic
practice of cultivating connection to reap its healing benefits.

Deep, nourishing intimate connection to our partner is vital to the health and
wellness of our relationship.

This type of deep nourishing connection to another is only possible when are able to
experience it for ourselves.
Luckily, traditional and modern Tantric practices offer many wonderful tools to
deepen and cultivate connection with ourselves, and because we are not separate,
with each other.

As we feed and nourish this sense of connection in our most intimate relationships, it
will naturally begin to translate to other areas of our life, and many of our other
relationships will blossom and grow as a result.

This book provides three Tantric tools for cultivating a deeply enriching and
satisfying sense of connection with yourself and your partner.

Each section contains a solo practice for you to do on your own while reading. At the
end of the book is a three part practice for you to do as a couple.

These three keys are some of the primary methods that we use ourselves to
cultivate and maintain connection in our relationships, and they are some of the
primary methods that we teach to our students and clients.

We share them with you here in the hopes that they will enrich and enhance your life
in a meaningful way.
In traditional Tantra there are three pillars; breath, sound, and movement. It was
understood that these three pillars were the keys to accessing ecstatic states of
consciousness.

In the Tibetan tradition there is a saying-

“From beginning-less time you have followed your thoughts,

now you will follow your breath.”

But why is the breath so important?

In the meditation traditions, using the breath as a point of focus is practical, since it
is always with us. But, there is more to it than that.

Your breath is literally the gateway to the present moment.

Placing your attention on your breath literally gets you out of your head (thinking
mental process) and reconnects you to your physical body.

How does this happen?

From the physiological stand point, deep conscious breathing is vital to relaxing the
nervous system and preparing the body for pleasurable and transformative healing
experiences.

The rhythm of our breath is regulated by our autonomic nervous system (ANS),
along with heart rate, blood circulation, temperature and more. The ANS regulates
all these bodily functions to meet the requirements of natural activities of living, like
digesting, sleeping, being physically active, defecating, fleeing from danger and
making love.

The activities of the ANS are heavily influenced by the state of our mind, our
hormone production and the tension in our muscles, to name a few. In turn, our state
of mind is heavily influenced by physiological factors in the ANS domain, such as our
heart rate, depth of breath, etc. Therefore, we can influence our state of mind by
influencing aspects of the ANS which are within the realm of conscious
awareness; namely, by changing our breath.

When we feel safe and comfortable our breath naturally becomes deeper and
slower: if we’re digesting a meal there is increased blood flow to our digestive
system and our heart rate is steady and calm. This is the mode of rest, digest, feed
and breed.

When our nervous system picks up signals of danger the ANS immediately switches
over to stress-response. Our breath becomes faster and more shallow, our heart
rate quickens, the blood flow to our genitals and digestive system decreases while it
increases in the muscles we need to fight or flee. It doesn’t matter to the ANS
whether the danger signal is in the form of a concern or worry that only exists in our
mind, or if we’re facing an imminent, physical threat. Concern and worry activates
the stress-response, even if we have no physical threat to fight or flee from.

Why is this relevant to sex?

Well, because in order to enjoy sex we need a balance of just enough arousal and
just enough relaxation, and the way we breathe is instrumental in making this
happen!
Optimal sensation and engorgement of erectile tissue requires increased blood flow
to the genitals. If we’re busy worrying about something, consciously or sub-
consciously that can’t happen, because it activates the stress-response.

The good news is that even though the ANS is made to operate on its own accord,
we have a built in capacity to regulate it by will. Namely, by using our breath!

Breathing deeply and mindfully stimulates the ANS to function in the mode of rest
and digest, feed and breed. Suddenly we can enjoy the rush of increased blood flow
to our genitals, we get engorged and everything’s great!

In fact, breathing deeply affects our sexual experience in several more ways:

Our diaphragm and pelvic floor muscles move down and up with every breath,
pumping used blood out of the pelvis, and fresh blood in. Good blood circulation is
equally important to both erectile and non-erectile tissue.

Breathing deeply helps us relax certain muscles to allow for the orgasmic energy
and pleasure to spread unobstructed throughout our body, not just in our genitals.
This won’t happen if we’re tensing up our jaw muscles, our gluts, abs and thigh
muscles in response to intense pleasure or stressful thinking.

And lastly, breathing deeply facilitates that ability to reconnect to the present
moment. When our mind is busy thinking thoughts of past and future, deep breaths
invite us to connect to the now through the sensation of rhythmic growing and
shrinking with every inhale and exhale. In contrast, stress has the opposite effect on
the mind by turning the focus outward in alert attention to signs of danger.

Try this experiment: Pay attention to your breathing. Notice your breathing pattern.
Is it short and shallow or full and deep? What part of your body are you breathing
into? Are you breathing into your shoulders, chest or belly?
Now take a few more breaths. What happens to your breathing pattern when you
pay attention to it? Does it slow down or speed up?

Now continue to focus on your breath, observing the rise and fall of your inhalation
and exhalation, count 10 breaths, counting at the end of each exhalation.

Now notice how you feel after counting 10 breaths: How does your body feel? How
does your mind feel?

Whatever you feel is fine, there is no right or wrong. For some people, taking 10
breaths can be a wonderful break from thinking, For others, 10 breaths can be
uncomfortable. If that is the case, we suggest doing another 10 while taking note of
any discomfort or tension in your body, and breathing directly into those areas of
discomfort or tension.

Taking the practice deeper…

This practice will take about 10 minutes to complete.

To begin sit in an upright position, with your spine straight and your back supported.
You can be sitting upright in a chair, on a couch or cross legged on the floor,
however is most comfortable for you.

Step #1 - Close your eyes and again focus on your breath, observing the rise
and fall of your inhalation and exhalation.

Step #2 – Now, place your attention on your genitals. As you inhale, imagine
your breath reaching all the way down into your pelvic floor, filling the whole
area with red light.

Now as you exhale, invite this area of your body to relax, to release, and to let
go of any tension or emotion it is holding.
Inhale, filling with red light, exhale and relax. Do this for three breaths.

Step #3 - Continue to observe your breath, and allow your awareness to

include your belly in this process: As you inhale, allowing your breath to fill
your genital area and your belly with red light, and as you exhale invite this
whole area to relax, to release, and to let go.

Inhale, filling with red light, exhale and relax. Repeat three times.

Step #4 – Now, bring your attention to your chest and throat. Allowing your
inhalation to fill your whole torso from base to chest with red light and then
exhale and allow everything to relax.

Repeat this whole torso breathing for three breaths.

Step #5 - Last round, as you inhale - see red light flash throughout your entire
body, exhale and relax. Repeat three more times.

When you complete this, just focus on your breath with no color and no
counting, until you feel ready to gently bring your awareness back to your
physical surroundings.

Step #6 – Now, take some time to write about the following:

1. How did you feel before the practice and how do you feel afterward?

2. Was it easy or difficult for you to envision the red light at any part during
the exercise?

3. Did you notice any sensations in your body while doing this practice? If so,
what were they?

4. What did you notice at the end after letting go of the color and counting?
Any particular thoughts or observations?

5. Did you enjoy the practice? If so, what did you enjoy about it? If not, what
did you find unpleasant?
There is no right or wrong answer to any of these questions, and there is not one
type of experience you should or should not be having.

The red light we used in the visualization is an example of Tantra in the Tibetan
tradition that helps to balance and enrich the fire element energy in the body.

The fire element relates to sexuality, reproductive organs, and mental acuity. If you
noticed any physical pain or discomfort in the body while doing this practice that is
usually a symptom of energy moving through the channels and/or a block
releasing.

*We include a downloadable MP3 of this meditation in our 5 part video series,
Female Pleasure Guide, where we describe the over 11 different orgasms female
bodies are capable of, 3 common “blocks to bliss” and 4 keys for awakening your
pleasure potential. Only available for a limited time so register now!
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul…

For certain the eyes hold many truths about our inner thoughts and feelings and
there is a discernible level of non-verbal communication that occurs when we meet
eye to eye.

Many people feel vulnerable or shy about making eye contact during sex. This
discomfort usually stems from a fear of being truly intimate with someone, which is
certainly understandable given all the past wounding we tend to carry with us into
each sexual experience, but let’s put this into a little perspective.

Sex is the most physically intimate experience two human beings can have. On a
physical level there is an exchange of fluids and, according to Taoist tradition,
hormonal exchange occurs as well.

One an energetic level we are literally merging energy bodies. The main energy
channel, which we call the central channel, is the core of the life-force in the body,
and can be considered the energetic equivalent of the spinal cord.

The central channel runs in a straight line from the soft spot on the top of the head
down to the perineum. There are offshoots from the central channel to the genitals
in both women and men.

In women the offshoots connect to the cervix and clitoris.

In Men the offshoots connect to the penile opening.

When a male and a female are in sexual “union,” these energy channels have the
opportunity to merge, becoming one conduit or circuit of energy. *These energy
channels will also merge in same sex couplings, though the mechanism is slightly
different.

Given the fact that you are physically and energetically becoming “one being”
doesn’t it seem kind of silly to be afraid of making eye contact with your partner?

There is a profound depth of intimacy and connection that occurs when we are able
to look deeply into our partner’s eyes while making love.

Emotional barriers gently dissolve, and we begin to relax and open to one another
on a level much deeper than the conscious mind.

Stress melts away, and we are able to feel connected to ourselves, to each other, to
our bodies, and to our pleasure!

Sometimes there is a wall of unspoken words and unprocessed emotion that makes
it challenging to make eye contact with your partner.

If this is the case, we suggest that you focus on doing the practices in this book
regularly, both with yourself and your partner, and also get some external support in
the form of a trusted friend or counselor to begin processing some of those
unexpressed emotions.

There is nothing that will kill intimacy faster than unspoken resentments, hurt, or
anger, and it is impossible to experience ecstatic states of sexual union when you
have a wall of pain between you.
Solo Exercise:

This practice will take about 10 minutes, so you will want to do it sitting down.

You will need solitude and quiet to practice this exercise effectively. You will also
want to have a journal and pen nearby for writing things down afterwards.

To begin- Sit comfortably in an upright position facing the mirror.

Step #1 - Close your eyes and place your attention on your breath. Count 10
nice deep and relaxing breaths.

Step #2 - Now open your eyes and look directly into your eyes in the mirror.
Just breath and observe.

Step #3 - Notice what thoughts are arising for you in this moment. Are they
loving and accepting or judgmental and critical? Don’t try to push anything
away, just relax and observe what is occurring with no judgment of right or
wrong, good or bad.

Step #4 - Continuing to look into your eyes and breath, think to yourself
“Source loves me exactly as I am.” You can use whatever word works for you
in place of source. You can use God, or universe, or Creator, whatever word
feels yummiest for you.

Repeat this gently to yourself over and over and over again, while making
eye contact with yourself in the mirror.

“Source loves me exactly as I am”

If you have a hard time connecting with this emotionally, think of the way a
parent loves their child. Or if you have children, think of the way you feel
about them, and infuse your statement with that emotion.
 The way you feel for you children (or pet) is the same way the universe feels
for you. Unconditional love and acceptance and a desire for your happiness,
pleasure and joy.

Continue to do this practice for approximately 10 minutes. You can certainly go

longer if you so desire.

At the end, write down the answer to the following questions:

1. How did you feel when initially making eye contact with yourself? Was
it easy or hard to do?

2. What thoughts did you notice having while doing the first part of this
practice?

3. What happened when you began thinking the suggested phrase to

yourself?

4. What else came up for you during this experience?

Again, there is no correct answer for any of these questions. This is primarily a tool
to simply connect with yourself more deeply.
Just like many people feel bashful about making eye contact during sex, verbally
communicating about your pleasure (or lack thereof) during the sexual experience
can be intimidating for many people.

For Devi, this was one of her greatest challenges when she began her Tantric
journey:

“I was literally terrified of speaking out about my pleasure during sex. I don’t mean
making the traditional moans and squeals that you hear in the movies or in porn, I
mean clearly, honestly, and verbally saying - yes, that feels good, or I like that, or I
think I need more lube.”

There are several reasons why both women and men struggle with verbally
expressing their pleasure. For women specifically, this often stems from the “good
girl complex,” this idea that the partner (male or female) is supposed to know more
about her body and her pleasure than she does herself. Devi goes on:

“How they were supposed to magically know about my pleasure is still a mystery to
me, but on some deep level I believed it was up to them to figure it out, and they
would show up in the bedroom being perfect and skillful without me needing to
make a peep.”

Many men feel pressured to be exactly perfect; they think that they’re supposed to
know how to make her see fireworks and bathe in bliss without needing any
information or guidance.
Another big reason both men and women refrain from speaking up about their
pleasure is to protecting their partner’s feelings. We often don’t speak up and offer
guidance about our sexual pleasure because we are afraid of hurting our partner’s
feelings.

In many cases this results in us or our partner merely tolerating certain experiences,
as opposed to really ENJOYING them.

Unfortunately, this can lead to hurt feelings down the line, if and when it is ever
revealed that one of you has been “suffering through” the attempts of your partner,
to any degree whatsoever.

Sex is a team sport

The thing to keep in mind is- Sex is a team sport and you are both on the SAME
team! You have the same goal and that is: to give and receive the most awesome
and amazing pleasure possible.

And, in order to do this, you must have feedback about what is working and
sometimes, what isn’t.

From a humorous perspective, we can say that the way we are taught to have sex in
this culture is like playing a game of charades. We are encouraged to make all kinds
of twists and moans and sighs to “communicate” about our pleasure, and it’s our
partners job to learn to interpret those twists and moans and sighs.

Sometimes we are lucky and our partner guesses correctly. Often this is not the
case, and we are left only partially satisfied with the experience.
And regardless of whether or not we or our partner is able to read the non-verbal
cues correctly, what a waste of time and energy it is to have to play charades during
sex!

How much easier would it be if we openly and generously give our partner the road
map to our greatest pleasure by simply using our words and communicating about
what we like.

A softly spoken “yes, I like that” or “a little softer please”, or “a little faster please” can
do wonders for our sexual experience.

Plus, verbal communication is another bridge to deeper intimacy. Every time we are
willing to be vulnerable, open and honest about our pleasure with our partner, we
move more deeply into emotional, mental and spiritual union.

So you might ask, how do I tell my partner what I don’t like?

Well, being authentic is important, but we suggest that you don’t lead with what you
aren’t enjoying.

We recommend always starting with appreciation. Ease into sexual communication

by verbally expressing what you DO like. This can literally be anything.

For example- if you like the way your partner smells, communicate that. If you like
the weight of them on your body, then communicate that. If you like the way they
stroke your hair, then communicate that.

General rule of thumb- if you think it, and it’s positive, then express it. Period. Start
with what is working and build from there.
Solo Practice

Find a quiet space where you will be undisturbed and take out your journal and a
pen.

Think about your sex life with your partner.

If you are single, think about your sexual history or your current sexual relationship
with yourself.

Now write down five things that you appreciate about your sexual experience, either
with your partner or, if you are single, in previous relationships, or with yourself.

Take some time to really feel into the energy of these appreciations.

Now from this place of appreciation, write down two things that you would like to
improve or enhance in your sex life.

Now ask yourself- Is there anything I can do to make this happen?

If you are in a relationship, please complete the partner practice at the end of this
book before sharing this with your partner.
Partner practice

This practice will take about 20 minutes.

1. Sit facing each other in a chair, or on the bed, or anywhere comfortable.

Make sure you are 100% comfortable! No compromises allowed.

2. Place one hand on partner’s chest in the center (heart center) and use the
other hand to cover their hand on you (see photo below)

Now look into each other’s eyes, with no words. Just look and observe.

3. Once you have settled into this you will begin harmonizing your breathing
pattern.

In heterosexual relationship, the male will follow the female’s breath.

In same sex, the more yang person follows more yin person’s breath.
 Continue looking into each other’s eye and harmonize your breathing pattern.
Once it is synced, the yang or male partner will say “One” out loud and you
will count 21 breaths silently to yourselves. The count is at the end of each
exhalation. When you reach 21 you both say that number out aloud.

You are still making eye contact and breathing in harmony.

This practice is called “entrainment”, and it has been proven that when one or
more people breath together at the same rate and same pace their
heartbeats will synchronize.

We can’t guarantee this will happen for everyone in 21 breaths. It may take
longer or even shorter depending on your current level of synchronization.

But 21 breaths is a good place to start, and eventually over time, you will sync
up.

4. Now continuing to make eye contact and breathing in harmony, each of you
will share three things that you appreciate about each other. The yang, or
male person will go first and share all three appreciations.

The yin or female person goes next and shares all three appreciations.

I like to say that appreciation is the sunshine that makes the flower of the
heart blossom. We may often think appreciative thoughts about our partner,
but rarely speak them out loud.

Including a daily dosage of appreciation in your intimate relationship will have

profoundly beneficial effects.

After you have completed parts 1- 4, bring out your journals and take turns sharing
the five things that you appreciate about your sex life.
This exercise is practically beneficial as your partner may have no idea that you
enjoy these things, and once they know what you like chances are they will make an
effort to do more of that.

Once you have shared appreciations, now share the two areas you would like to see
improved or enhanced, and share your thoughts around how you might go about
achieving these goals together.

And there you go!

These are Three Tantric Secrets for Extraordinary Sex.

It all starts with connection and blossoms outward from there.

Using these three practices on a regular basis will help you cultivate deeply
nourishing and enriching sexual connection that will last.

Are you feeling ready for more? Please read on…..

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not to mention practicing and teaching the methods in it!

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