THE RELATIONSHIP BLUEPRINT'S

GUIDE TO
KNOWING WHEN
IT'S TIME TO LEAVE

BY CHAILA SCOTT
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GUIDE TO KNOWING WHEN IT'S
TIME TO LEAVE

Hey There!

Thanks for utilizing The Relationship Blueprint’s: Knowing When it’s

Time to Leave. It’s a sometimes daunting and harsh reality to
consider, but sometimes it's necessary to let people go in order to
live a more fulfilled and happier life.

It is my sincerest hope that you take the information available and

apply it to your serious consideration when deciding whether or not
to dissolve of a relationship.

I normally suggest therapy to those who are reconsidering their

decision whether or not to stay in a relationship or marriage,
however, there are some conditions that absolutely shouldn’t be
tolerated under any circumstance (such as any form of abuse or
purposeful, harmful actions performed towards you.)

If you may not be sure if moving on is something that’s right for you, I
feel this tool will be of great benefit to you.

Take time and go over the guide below.

With Love and Grace,

Chaila.
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They No Longer Prioritize You or the Relationship-It may be that

the relationship was important to them in the beginning and it
showed, but they are no longer interested. They are constantly
putting the needs of others before you or are unwilling to contribute
their part to make the relationship successful. Life happens, we all
may be going through things, but if this topic has been discussed over
and over with no changes, then it may be time to consider cutting
your ties if the relationship is no longer serving you or your needs.
Value yourself enough to walk away when your partner is aware of
your needs and refuses to make the changes necessary to keep you.

They Don’t Put Any Effort into Making the Changes Necessary to
Sustain a Healthy, Loving Relationship-This is very similar to the
lack of prioritization of you and the relationship, and I’ll reiterate it
again. If your partner is making no changes to hold up their end of
creating a loving relationship after having discussions with you about
it, addressing concerns, etc. it may be time to go. Effort is everything
in a relationship and it only works when two people decide to put it
in. Effort should not be a one-sided experience; nor should you carry
the burden of shouldering an entire relationship on your own. This is
not what relationships are built on. If it’s clearly evident to you that
your partner is unwilling to put in the effort to sustain the
relationship that you both agreed upon, then it may be time to
consider making your exit.

They Don’t Place Any Value on the Efforts of Love You Show
Towards Them-Not being valued or appreciated for your efforts is
not only painful, it's damaging. Great relationships thrive on the value
we place on ourselves and one another. If your efforts to show them
how much you love and care about them are not met and
reciprocated, then it’s time to disconnect the entire relationship
because it’s one-sided. Often, the value we place on ourselves and
how we feel about ourselves is very telling of our ability to value
others. If your partner doesn’t value themselves, don’t expect them to
value you fully and truly because they won’t.
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They Often Dwell on the Past or Haven’t Fully Forgiven You for
Mistakes-Nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes. Ideally, we should
be able to make mistakes in our relationships without it being held
over our heads as leverage for being guilted or manipulated. If the
person you’re with has not left you or has taken you back, but
continues to bring up the past and your mistakes; then it's evident
that they haven’t moved on or forgiven you they’re just going through
the motions of the relationship because you are allowing them to. In
these cases, a release of the relationship is best to free up both
parties from the cycle of guilt, shame, and blame. There’s nothing that
can be built or re-established when a partner refuses to move on, but
would rather stay in the relationship for the sake of punishing you for
your actions.

They Use Your Words Against You or Say Hurtful Things-This is a

classic case of verbal abuse and manipulation. This is toxic and should
not be tolerated. Words are very powerful tools that we can use to
bless or curse one another. If your partner is speaking negatively over
your life every time there’s a disagreement; move on. Disagreements
do not have to be toxic, they can actually be civilized and peaceful.
Just because two people don’t agree, it still doesn’t mean that they
should yell, twist your words, tell you horrible things or say things in
a horrible way. Again, this should not be tolerated. If you’re
experiencing this, put a stop to it and just move on.

Their Actions Make You Question Whether or Not They Have Your
Best Interest at Heart-No one should live in a question mark about
whether or not their partner is really being loyal or is making the
moves they should be making. If your partner constantly moves in a
questionable manner that stirs up your intuition (not in a good way).
Listen to your inner guide. It's not fair to you to be in a relationship
with someone you don’t trust. If their actions are always making you
feel suspicious of their character, don’t waste another minute trying
to figure it out. You feel how you feel for a reason. Honor that.
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They Constantly Cross Your Boundaries-This is a major one.

Boundaries are important and we have to have them so that we can
continue to grow and be our best selves in controlled and safe
environments as we see fit. If there’s something that is uncool to you
that your partner keeps doing constantly, then it means they don’t
value your boundaries enough to change the behavior. Value is
extremely important. You should have boundaries. Your partner
should respect those boundaries and if they don’t then it’s time to
leave.

They Are Consistently Combative When You Express Concern-This

is not only a red flag but a sign that your partner isn’t ready to see
themselves as they truly are and won’t take your feedback about how
they can show up to be better in the relationship. This is
unfortunately common because most people would rather avoid
looking at themselves in the mirror, however, just because it's
common it doesn’t mean you should tolerate it. If your partner would
rather place the concern back on you or discuss your deficiencies
every time you bring up a concern about them, then it’s a clear sign
that they aren’t ready to be in a healthy, loving relationship. This
behavior can bring more awareness through couples therapy, but if
there’s no effort for them to make a change then you have to protect
your emotional and mental well-being by ending the relationship. If
you don’t you’ll be in for playing an unfortunate game of love and war
with the person that’s supposed to be there for you to support you,
hear your concerns, and make the changes so that you both win.