Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Camila Lopez
Chapman University
Fall 2023
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Parental Separation
affecting one-third of marriages in many societies (Xerxa et al., 2020). Separation and divorce
can cause stressful changes in families' social and physical environment. These changes can
dramatically impact the well-being and development of children (Xerxa et al., 2020). Children
from divorced families maintain a risk of developing adjustment problems that can continue into
their adult years (Xerxa et al., 2020). Compared to children from intact families, they exhibit
higher internalizing problems, which involve emotional and psychological challenges, and
externalizing problems, which are behavioral and social difficulties (van Dijk et al., 2020).
Literature Review
This literature review focuses on parental separation and aims to provide an in-depth
analysis of its impact. It will touch on various aspects such as prevalence and epidemiology,
etiological factors like infidelity, and shared risk factors such as parental conflict. Additionally,
the review will explore the concept of resilience and examine how it serves as a protective
barrier in the face of adversity. It will also discuss protective factors such as the role of social
support, school connectedness, and coping skills in decreasing the consequences of risk factors.
parental separation among unmarried couples. Both parental separation and divorce share similar
concepts and challenges; therefore, insights will be drawn from divorce-related studies to support
this overview.
Prevalence/Epidemiology
Children across the globe are experiencing a trend of increasing family instability due to
divorce and separation (D'Onofrio & Emery, 2019). This phenomenon is particularly prevalent in
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Western countries, with the United States as a prominent example (D'Onofrio & Emery, 2019). It
witnessed an early and high increase in divorce rates that commenced in the late 1960s
(D'Onofrio & Emery, 2019). Presently, in the U.S. today, it is estimated that only about 60% of
children live with their married biological parents (D'Onofrio & Emery, 2019).
Etiology
Parental separation can stem from issues of infidelity. While infidelity can vary in
generally indicates betraying and being unfaithful to one's committed partner (Salih et al., 2023).
parental connections. Commitment and exclusivity are expected within most relationships,
causing devastating hardships where conflict may appear (Salih et al., 2023). Infidelity also
breaks children's expectations of their parents, thus losing a sense of safety and security (Salih et
al., 2023). Children are more likely to experience distress due to the failure to set expectations
factor contributing to the high risk of adverse outcomes among children who experience parental
divorce (O'Hara et al., 2019). Studies have highlighted the detrimental impact of parental conflict
on children's well-being, with research suggesting that these negative repercussions are more
pronounced when conflicts involve high levels of hostility or aggression (Lange et al., 2022).
Sorek (2019) also indicated that within the processes of separation and divorce, parental conflict
is a crucial stress factor that shapes children's adjustment difficulties. Further evidence indicates
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that interparental conflict may become of greater significance for children following divorce
Post-divorce can jeopardize the relationships between parents and their children because
interparental conflicts can harm parenting, leading to negative parenting behaviors (van Dijk et
al., 2020). Negative parenting behaviors risk a child's healthy adjustment, which, in turn, can
affect their psychological and behavioral development (van Dijk et al., 2020). Essentially, the
quality of the parent-child relationship and the child's well-being are influenced by interparental
conflicts.
Resilience
Numerous children encounter adversities during their formative years, and these
challenges can affect their emotional and psychological well-being, particularly in cases
involving risks such as parental separation. In response to children's experiences with parental
separation, investigators have researched strategies to foster resilience. Resilience is the capacity
of a system to adapt successfully to challenges that threaten its function, survival, or future
Resilience encompasses protective factors that moderate the effects of adversity, each
with distinct roles that touch on the individual's well-being (Masten et al., 2018). It is vital to
acknowledge that resilience is not only a product of individual attributes but also emerges from a
combination of relationships and social support (Masten et al., 2018). Resilience can be fostered
through protective factors, including social support, school connectedness, and personal coping
strategies. These elements contribute to a child's ability to navigate challenges and adversity.
Social Support
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Social support is the positive agency that provides emotional, functional, or material
support to help individuals navigate stressful situations (Sorek, 2020). Research found that social
support yields short-term and long-term effects on a child's well-being when experiencing
parental conflicts (Sorek, 2020; Barnova et al., 2019). Sorek (2020) states that children
experiencing dysfunctional family structures benefit from high levels of social support since it
correlates with decreased anxiety levels and fewer behavioral and social difficulties. It also
enhances one's attempts to change a stressful situation, change emotional reactions to the
situation, reduce feelings of loneliness, and increase the sense of control a distressed individual
feels towards their situation (Heerde et al., 2018). Children experiencing parental separation or
divorce from high-conflict families must have a robust support system within the family but also
through external support systems such as peers, teachers, and other school members (Barnova et
al., 2019).
adolescents (Harmelen et al., 2016). They provide an opportunity to develop social skills and
self-disclosure and assist in developing self-expression and self-worth (Harmelen et al., 2016).
The impact of adolescent friendships provides lower levels of depressive symptoms among those
exposed to childhood family adversities while also contributing to higher rates of resilience in
School Connectedness
School connectedness is the belief that a student's school, peers, and teachers accept and
support their academic and personal needs (Murphy et al., 2016). Research has revealed that this
sense of belonging or connectedness is a protective factor for children facing adversity because
that sense of belonging toward school is said to represent the basic psychological need for social
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acceptance (Murphy et al., 2016; Oldfield et al., 2018). Zhang et al. (2023) and Oldfield et al.
(2018) highlight its significance as a resource for students dealing with life stresses, especially in
households with marital conflict. They can better adapt and cope with stressful experiences
arising from dysfunctional family relationships (Zhang et al., 2023; Oldfield et al., 2018).
Notably, school connectedness is a powerful psychosocial support mechanism that can recoup
deficiencies in parental support systems (Zhang et al., 2023). As a result, cultivating school
connectedness contributes to greater resilience among students (Murphy et al., 2016; Oldfield et
al., 2018).
While positive relationships with teachers and peers are critical components of school
connectedness, Kim et al. (2022) emphasize that building connections with other educators, such
as school counselors, can promote more positive outcomes. Recognizing the significance of
school connectedness helps school counselors determine its impact on adolescents' psychosocial
development (Kim et al., 2022). This understanding can empower counselors to implement
strategies, supporting their students in navigating difficulties like parental problems and
Effective/Personal Coping
Effective coping strategies can positively impact children of separated parents who
experience ongoing interparental conflict through active and secondary control methods. Active
coping strategies focus on addressing and changing the consequences of one's reaction to a
challenging situation (O'Hara et al., 2019; Camisasca et al., 2017). Research that examines
children's active coping in the aftermath of divorce has shown that children who reported using
active coping strategies experienced lower levels of anxiety, depression, aggression, and other
externalized behavioral problems (Sorek, 2019). Secondary control methods, on the other hand,
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emphasize adapting to the situation with distractions and positive thinking (O'Hara et al., 2019).
These techniques may result in a decrease in mental health problems caused by ongoing parental
Children's capability to use adaptive coping strategies, often linked to their coping
self-efficacy beliefs, may help them navigate parental conflict (Brummert et al., 2017). Coping
efficacy centers on appraising children's own coping efforts' effectiveness during stress-induced
moments (O'Hara et al., 2019). These moments of appraisal can, therefore, influence emotional
responses and incentivize individuals to continue using coping strategies to manage challenging
Methods
Procedure
Journal articles for this research were collected from Chapman University's
ERIC-EBSCO online library database, utilizing specific keywords in the search process. These
conflict," "social support," "school connectedness,” and "resilience.” This study was conducted
as a qualitative interview with a participant from a mutual acquaintance who generously shared
her experiences. The interview was conducted in person, within a study room at the interviewee's
school, and lasted approximately an hour. The interview process involved manual note-taking
and a comprehensive range of questions covering her background, family structure, and life
Interviewee
Abby is a 24-year-old Filipino female born and raised in the Philippines. When she was
two, her parents gave birth to their second child. Soon after Abby's brother was born, her parents
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decided to migrate to the United States, leaving Abby behind in the care of her uncles and aunts.
Despite her parents' absence during childhood, she found comfort and love within her extended
family, who provided her with love, warmth, and support. However, her parents and brother
would visit her once a year to spend time with the family during the holidays. In 2006, when
Abby was seven years old, her parents brought her to the United States.
As Abby grew older and reached the age of ten, she began to observe changes in her
parents' relationship. Their arguments, which often revolved around marital issues and infidelity,
became a regular occurrence. Abby felt isolated and without any source of support, especially
because she was miles away from those who made her feel safe. The arguments between Abby's
parents persisted, especially when her mother began working late nights. This led to her father's
verbal aggression upon her return home, which resulted in frequent arguments that occurred most
nights of the week. Arguments between her parents continued for two more years before a
significant shift occurred in their relationship. One night, Abby was awakened by the loud voices
of her parents bickering, but her mother's screams grew louder than usual. She walked to their
room in fear and was confronted by her father physically abusing her mother. It did not take long
for her parents to separate after this occurrence. Her mother left their household, so Abby now
lived with her brother and father. Her father disapproved of Abby maintaining contact with her
mother, so Abby would only see her once a year. Abby realized the parental separation's impact
wasn't fully set until she reached 13. Throughout middle and high school, she yearned for that
motherly figure, leaving a void that needed to be filled. However, as she entered sophomore year,
Abby began to find new support and connections that filled the void. She built meaningful
relationships with her classmates, and these connections enhanced her personal growth and
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well-being. As a result, she has made significant progress and continues to spend time with those
Findings
Abby's household needed more support and guidance due to the conflict and family
background. Despite these challenges, she ultimately emerged as an inspirational individual. She
identified three elements that nurtured her resilience during her journey: social support, school
connectedness, and personal coping strategies. These elements were her protective factors,
Social Support
Following Abby's parents' separation, her home no longer felt like a sanctuary, so she
began to occupy herself in school. By befriending peers, Abby began to feel genuine love, care,
and support through these friendships, decreasing her previous loneliness (Heerde et al., 2018).
These friendships eventually became a light in her life, providing the companionship she longed
for. As she engaged in these connections, she felt emotional support and developed social skills,
self-expression, and a sense of self-worth (Harmelen et al., 2016). Through social support, Abby
experienced high levels of resilience by exploring her identity and developing self-love (Barnova
et al., 2019; Harmelen et al., 2016). This power of resilience empowered Abby to overcome the
School Connectedness
activities, clubs, and after-school programs. This school engagement filled her schedule and gave
her a sense of belonging and acceptance. Murphy et al. (2016) and Oldfield et al. (2018) state
that this sense of belonging fulfills the psychological need for social acceptance, a need Abby
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successfully met through her involvement in school. This shift was significant, considering she
had felt like a burden in her household. Developing a deep connection with her school
community brought decreased sadness, loneliness, and stress. This aligns with the research
findings indicating that those who feel connected to school experience reduced loneliness and
stress (Zhang et al., 2023; Oldfield et al., 2018). This connection acted as a positive change in
Abby's life. She was able to learn how to manage the stress her parents brought upon her and
cope with her parent's separation by spending her time in a place she felt connected and
accepted. With these changes, she was able to excel academically, enhance her sportsmanship,
broaden her social circle, and seek guidance from school professionals.
Effective/Personal Coping
Abby recognized that acquiring a variety of coping mechanisms would help her navigate
through her parent's separation. She integrated coping strategies into her life, such as secondary
control methods, which utilize distractions and positive thinking to overcome difficulties (O'Hara
et al., 2019). This resulted in a remarkable enhancement of her overall well-being. These coping
strategies not only empowered her to navigate the ongoing conflicts within her household
stemming from her parent's divorce, but they also led her to engage with her peers and prioritize
self-care. This brought a significant shift in her perspective on life, allowing her to gain a more
positive outlook, which, in turn, led to a reduction in her stress levels and the dispersion of the
clouded mindset she had initially harbored (O'Hara et al., 2019). As she embraced these coping
strategies, she gained the confidence to confront and manage stressful situations. So, when her
parents continued in ongoing conflicts, Abby found that she no longer experienced the same
degree of stress and hopelessness that had initially weighed her down at the beginning of their
separation.
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Discussion
This study aimed to explore the aspects of resilience in children dealing with parental
separation. Following an in-depth case study involving Abby, key themes were revealed that
shaped her path to resilience: social support, school connectedness, and effective personal coping
strategies. Exploring these protective factors within Abby's life marked a significant shift,
shielding her from the ongoing adverse effects of parental separation. By fostering these
connections, she established a sense of belonging with external sources, empowered her to
discover her strength, and played a significant role in her journey towards resilience.
Implications
critical in serving as support systems for students in the school environment. Within the school
setting, they can create a safe, inclusive, and nurturing environment where students can thrive.
Moreover, they can guide students in exploring resources available within the school, such as
clubs, extracurricular activities, and sports, providing a haven for students to prosper and find
themselves. School psychologists and counselors can extend their support beyond school
grounds by making referrals to external resources that greatly benefit students who require
additional assistance or seek outlets, especially when a home does not feel like a haven. They can
also become essential adult figures for students who may lack a sense of security or comfort
around their parents. Establishing these connections with adult figures can significantly impact
students' overall well-being. Students need to experience a sense of safety and belonging in their
educational institutions, especially when they may not feel secure at home or grapple with
challenges they wish to escape. For students, school can become a sanctuary away from the
Further research into resilience among children exposed to parental separation can offer
more implications for school psychologists and counselors. While existing research has yielded
information and resources on children and their experiences in the context of parental alienation,
there is a need for more research concerning the influence of culture and family dynamics during
parental separation. The interviewee of Filipino descent highlighted how cultural perspectives
can significantly differ from one's parents. Therefore, research on cultural variations can equip
school psychologists and counselors to understand these differences better, enabling them to
Limitations
While the study revealed extraordinary insights into the protective factors affecting
within this research. First and foremost, it is essential to recognize that Abby represents just one
of many individuals navigating parental separation. As a result, the findings from her experience
may only partially generalize to the broader population with this adversity. A second limitation
arises from Abby's specific cultural and demographic background as a person of Filipino
descent. Her experiences are connected with her unique cultural context, so they may only
sometimes apply to individuals from different cultural backgrounds. The third limitation pertains
to the distinctiveness of Abby's circumstances. Her parents' marital status, which differs from a
more conventional position, sets her experiences apart from those whose parents follow a more
traditional group. This distinctiveness might affect the variations in her experience compared to
others.
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Reflection
Listening to Abby's story left me feeling touched and emotional. Her experience during her
childhood, from having both her parents in ongoing arguments to the absence of her mother, left me
deeply moved. Her expression of her emotions and the grieving process for her mother’s presence
showcased how difficult it was to navigate through that at the beginning of her parent's separation.
Listening to how she overcame these challenges through her protective factors was heartening. It was
interesting to hear how much protective factors impact someone experiencing hardship. Abby’s story
During our interview, Abby compared her story, which has stuck with me since. She
compared her journey to a rollercoaster–initially frightening, marked with ups and downs, yet
ultimately, resulting in a sense of pride for going through it. That analogy was an inspiring moment
in itself. At the beginning of the interview, she expressed feelings such as sadness, anger, and
confusion. However, as the interview continued, she began to laugh, smile, and share joyous
moments. Witnessing that emotional shift was also inspiring because it shows how resilience has
alcoholic parent, a circumstance that caused frequent arguments throughout the week. Because they
were constantly arguing, I felt isolated and alone since I did not have parental support throughout my
childhood. Similarly to Abby, the absence of a close bond with my brother further affected the lack
of support within our home. Reflecting on her story and recognizing the connection with my own
experience created a more emotional connection because it felt like we had a sense of mutual
understanding. Abby’s story was touching and inspirational, and it was an honor to speak to her and