THE VOW—2

THE VOW OF PURSUIT

Who has made a fool out of yourself for love?

Latch-hook rug
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• BY NATURE, WE PURSUE WHAT WE DON’T HAVE.

Wrote notes before we met—Mix tape—Indoor camping

(Greeter—Crafts) People tell me all the time—Out punted coverage

Amy buy me a dog! (Amy—Me/College)

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Everyone similar stories
Drove overnight, Spent whole savings concert, Sit on phone and breathe.

What happened? Stopped pursuing…

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Any other area of life—be lazy and improve? Body? Business? Yard?

Grass looks greener—time to water your own yard.

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THE VOWS

VOW #1: I PROMISE THAT GOD WILL BE MY FIRST PRIORITY

AND MY SPOUSE WILL BE MY SECOND.

VOW #2: I PROMISE TO ALWAYS PURSUE MY TWO.

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That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife,
and they become one flesh. Gen 2:24
united—(root word) dabaq (daw-bak'); cling or adhere; to catch by pur-
suit, to pursue hard with affection and devotion.
DABAQ IS TRANSLATED

I follow close behind you… Ps. 63:8 TLB

…They are joined fast to one another; they cling together and cannot be
parted. Job 41:17 NIV

They…pursued hard after them… Judg 20:45 KJV

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Favorite stories of pursuit is Jacob and Rachel.
Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful—Leah had weak eyes.

Jabob worked 7 years—Leah—Rachel.

He worked for what he already had.

I promise to always pursue my two.

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Not married—Dating—Don’t date someone who takes you for granted.

Never dresses up, Creative, Cleans car—Calls it a date, Cookies, Photo

You are worth pursuing!

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CLOSING THE GAP BETWEEN INTENTIONS AND ACTIONS

Most of us have good intentions—Feel love—Tired.

1) WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING GOOD, SAY IT.

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But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so
that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Heb 3:13

Live by—Thank you for amazing—Gorgeous—Marry all over

• Pursue her with words of affection.

Non-sex affection…Non-sexual affection.

Affection that is non-sexual.

Guys can make any statement: Rotate tires. Grab groceries.

I love you because

You honor God—You are so much fun—Self-sacrificing—Best Friend
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• Pursue him with words of affirmation. (Post sermon…)

Ladies—He is becoming what you see in him!

Don’t tell him what’s he not.

Tell him who you see him becoming.

Build him up spiritually. When you take me to church—Close to you.

You were never more attractive than when you prayed over meal.

Men—She wants to know: Do you love me today?

Ladies—He wants to know: Do you believe in me today?
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2) WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING SPECIAL, DO IT.
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If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is
sin for them. James 4:17

Come home early—Grab takeout for the park—Buy tickets game.

Guys—Little kids: Bathe the kids, Do dishes!
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Flowers to women’s group! (Worth double points when other women see)

Overwhelmed: Bag packed—Kids are at babysitter—Hotel booked!

Fill tank with gas, Write a thoughtful note, Make the bed
Watch a chick flick—instead of shoot em up.

Do something your spouse loves.

• He loves golfing—Join him.

• She loves serving in LK’s—join her!

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3) WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT, BE IT.

If only she would—If my husband would be spiritual leader.

Don’t gripe about what your spouse is not

Continue to grow into you are supposed to be.

Amy frustrated about me working… Phone aside.

Saw it—admired it.

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Amy’s take
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Woman are multipliers… if you don’t like what you’re getting…

House—Home—Love—Babies!

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• To get what you’ve never had, you must do what you’ve never done.
 • To get what you once had, you must do what you once did.

Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the
things you did at first. Rev 2:5