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How To Be
Blessed
As A Christian
Single
Real Life Biblical Answers for Real
Life Problems
Michael Eaton
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How To Be Blessed As A Christian Single. Copyright © 2004 by Michael
Eaton. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part
of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without
written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical
articles and reviews.
Every reasonable effort has been made to trace the owners of copyrighted
materials in this book, but in some instances this has proven impossible. The
author and publisher will be glad to receive information leading to more
complete acknowledgment in subsequent printings of the book, and in the
meantime extend their apologies for anyomissions.
FIRST EDITION
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This book is dedicated
to the 86 million singles
of our nation.
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Table of Contents
Dedication........................................5
Acknowledgements.............................9
Acknowledgements.............................9
Introduction......................................10
Introduction......................................10
Attractions…...............................…..16
Dating………….........................…...31
Divor
Divor ce……….........................…….54
orce……….........................…….54
Love……….........................………..58
Love……….........................………..58
Marriage…….........................……...64
Marriage…….........................……...64
Men……….......................…………86
Sex……….......................………….94
Union…......................…………….136
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Acknowledgments
I would like to acknowledge God for the gift of wisdom in
writing this book.
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Introduction
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er.. How do I turn down sexual invi-
over
tations? When offer ed I tend to ac-
offered
cept.
ag
agrree? What about people of the
bible who had mor
moree than one mate?
! If ther
theree is no penetration involv
involv
olved
ed is
that consider
considereded sex?
! I lov
lovee my wife bbut
ut it feel like I’m stuck
in an adulter ous affair and I what out
adulterous
so I can liv e?
live?
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Attactions
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Fear
“There are only three classes of people
in the world,” an unknown preacher
confessed. “Those who are afraid,
those who do not know enough to be
afraid, and those who know their
Bibles.”
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Purity
But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make
no provision for the flesh in rreg
provision egard to its lusts.
egard
Roman 13:14 NASB
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Guidance
Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your w ays acknowledg
ways acknowledgee h i m ,
and he will make your paths straight. Prov
Prov
overbs
erbs
3:5-6
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Biblical Protocol
“If your brother sins ag
brother against o and show
ainst you, ggo
him his fault, just betw een the tw
between two o of you. If
he listens to you, you hav
havee w
won
on your brbrother
other
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over But if he will not listen, take one or
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two others along, so that ‘ev
two ery matter may be
‘every
established by the testimony of tw two three
o or three
witnesses.’ Matthew 18:15-16
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Dating
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“The One”
First of all let me let you know the you are not
alone in your singleness. The U.S. Census says
the number of unmarried adults in the United
States as of March 2001 is as following:
Also let me let you know that you are not alone in
your frustration and discrimination with your fam-
ily, society at large and sadly to say even the
church. Many of the early church fathers and
mothers (like Dr. Luke, Lydia, Barnabas, Timo-
thy, Mary, Martha, Lazarus, Phoebe, Paul and Jesus
Christ himself)
were single. In sprite of this fact many singles in
our day and time feel like they are exiles in the
church. Many pastors who are single will not be
considered by pastor search committees to fill a
senior pastor position. I myself have had churches
discriminate again for me for a senior pastor po-
sition simply because I am single.
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Danger
A prudent person for esees the dang
foresees er ahead
danger
and takes pr ecautions; the simpleton ggoes
precautions; oes
blindly on and suffers the consequences. NL
NLT
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Prov
Proverbs 22:3
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Celibacy
I wish that all men w er
eree as I am. But each man
wer
has his own gift fr om God; one has this gift,
from
another has that. Now to the unmarried and
the widows I say: It is ggood
ood for them to stay
unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot contr ol
control
themselv es, they should marry
themselves, marry,, for it is better
to marry than to bburn
urn with passion. 1 Cor Cor..
7:7-9
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Insight
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Guidance
Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your w ays acknowledg
ways acknowledgee h i m ,
and he will make your paths straight. Prov
Prov
overbs
erbs
3:5-6
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tics that you are looking for you will know be-
cause you have prayed. I do not teach or believe
that God has only one person in this world that
would be right for you. I believe that there are
many people with the characteristics that you like
and are automatically drawn. When you marry,
that person becomes “the one” ideally until death
do you part.
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Divorce
Temptation
…b
…butut each one is tempted when, by his own
evil desire, he is dragg
desire, dragged away
ed away and enticed.
James 1:14
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Love
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Truth
Charm is deceptiv e, and beauty is fleeting;
deceptive,
Provb. 31:30
Provb.
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But actually
actually,, I wr ote to you not to associate
wrote
with any so-called br brother
other if he is an immoral
person, or cov etous, or an idolater
covetous, idolater,, or a rre-
e-
viler
viler,, or a drunkard, or a swindler—not ev en
even
to eat with such a one. 1Cor1Cor.. 5:11
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Marriage
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Separated
To the married I giv
givee this command (not I, bbutut
the Lord): A wife m ust not separate fr
must om her
from
husband. But if she does, she m must emain un-
ust rremain
married or else be rreconciled
econciled to her husband.
And a husband m ust not div
must divorce his wife.
orce
or
1 Cor
Cor.. 7:10-11
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Witholding
But since ther
theree is so m uch immorality
much immorality,, each
havee his own wife, and each w
man should hav oman
woman
her own husband. The husband should fulfill
his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the
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Adultery
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Struggle
For our struggle is not ag ainst flesh and blood,
against
but ag ainst the rulers, ag
against ainst the authorities,
against
ag ainst the pow
against ers of this dark w
powers world
orld and
against the spiritual for
against ces of evil in the heav-
forces
enly rrealms.
ealms. Eph. 6:12
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Polygamy
He m ust not take many wiv
must wives,
es, or his heart will
be led astray
astray..
Deuter
Deuteronomy
onomy 17:17
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Oral Sex
Marriag
Marriagee is to be held in honor among all, and
the marriag
marriagee bed is to be undefiled; for forni-
cators and adulter ers God will judg
adulterers e.
judge.
Hebr ews 13:4
Hebrews
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Men
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Fear
Virginity
An unmarried w oman or vir
woman gin is concerned
virgin
about the Lord’
Lord’ss affairs: Her aim is to be de-
voted to the Lord in both body and spirit. 1Cor
1Cor..
7:34
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Mistakes
But one thing I do: FForor
orggetting what is behind
and straining tow ard what is ahead, I pr
toward press
ess on
tow ard the ggoal
toward oal to win the prize for which God
has called me heav enw
heavenw ard in Christ Jesus. Phil.
enward
3:13-14
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Past
For this rreason
eason a man will leav
leavee his father and
mother and be united to his wife, and they will
become one flesh. The man and his wife w er
eree
wer
both naked, and they felt no shame. Gen. 2:24-
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Skeletons are symbols of that which was once alive
but now is dead. Skeletons are not put in a closet
but are buried in a grave. Unless a skeleton has
something of value, graves are not unusually dug
up. If something is dead let it stay dead. Your
pass sexually sins have no value to God. Sexual
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Some consequences:
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Temptation
And lead us not into temptation, bbut er
deliver
ut deliv
us from the evil one. FFor
from or yours is the king-
dom and the pow er and the glory for
power forev er
ever
ev er..
Amen. Matthew 6:13
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Homosexuality:
noun: a sexual attraction to (or sexual
relations with) persons of the same sex
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Lust
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a w
woman
oman
lustfully has alr eady committed adultery with
already
her in his heart. Matthew 5:28
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Touching
Flee from sexual immorality
from immorality.. All other sins a
aree outside his body
man commits ar ut he who
body,, bbut
sins sexually sins ag
against
ainst his own body body.. 1
Corinthians 6:18
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Thoughts
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Finally
inally,, br ethr
brethr en, whatsoev
ethren, whatsoever er things ar
aree true,
whatsoever
whatsoev er things ar aree honest, whatsoev
whatsoever er
things ar aree just, whatsoev
whatsoever er things ar
aree pur e,
pure,
whatsoev
whatsoever er things ar
aree lov ely
ely,, whatsoev
lovely er things
whatsoever
ar
aree of ggood
ood rreport;
eport; if ther
theree be any virtue, and
theree be any praise, think on these things.
if ther
Philippians 4:8
Definitions of lust:
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Foundation
The rain came down, the str eams rrose,
streams ose, and
the winds blew and beat ag ainst that house;
against
yet it did not fall, because it had its founda-
tion on the rrock.
ock. Matthew 7:25
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Proud
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Abstaining
Do not giv
givee what is holy to dogs, and do not
dogs,
throw your pearls befor
throw beforee swine, or they will
trample them under their feet, and turn and
tear you to pieces.
Matthew 7:6
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Sex
Put to death, ther efor
therefor e, whatev
efore, whateverer belongs to
your earthly natur e: sexual immorality
nature: immorality,, impu-
rity
rity,, lust, evil desires and ggrreed, which is idola-
desires
try
try..
Colossians 3:5
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Relationship
“I am the way and the truth and the life. No
way
one comes to the FFather through
ather (God) except through
me.”
(John 14:6)
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U. S. Census
Marriag
Marriagee and FFamily
amily
Many churches and pastors have because great at ministering and reach-
ing married couples and families. However since George Barna tells
us that 94% of Senior Pastor are married. For most pastors and churches
the singles in their church is a after thought. Some pastors and con-
gregates think that all God has called singles to do is to get married.
Most pastors know this is not true because of the high divorce rate in
the church. For most singles marriage is not the answer. Marriage
has no healing power. The answer is the healing that can take place in
the life of a person who has a deep personal relationship with God.
When this take place in singles lives we can have better marriages.
Singles Sunday
For information about Singles Sunday, seminars, resources or any council I can offer
please e-mail me at meaton11367@yahoo.com.
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