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come he
NEVER…”
“Why
does
she
ALWAYS…
”
A Gendered Look at
why “he ALWAYS” and
“she NEVER”
“Why does she
always
correct me when I
speak? It drives me
crazy, especially
when I’m trying to
make a point! Who
cares if I say, ‘He
did bad’?”
Perhaps she is more educated or of higher
socioeconomic status than you are. American
linguist, William Labov, found that the higher
one climbs up the social scale, the more formal
their speech style becomes. She may be using
prestigious forms (like “walking” instead of
“walkin”) because she is more conscious of her
social status than you are (Trudgill).
Remember: Her position in society is less
secure than yours, so she may be
“How come
he NEVER
talks about
anyone but
himself! He’s
always like ‘I
did this…, I
won that…, I
have this…,
bla bla bla’?”
This is typical. Barbara Johnstone’s research on
storytelling reveals that men are usually the
protagonists in their own stories. Men tell
stories to display their own strength, skill, and
wit. He just can’t help it, dear. Remember:
Society expects men to be strong and powerful.
Even their dangerous and heroic stories fall
victim to these expectations.
“Why does she
ALWAYS have to
argue with me
that our house is
not white? ‘It is
ecru,’ she says!”
Fishman, Pamela (1978) Interaction: the work women do. In Talbot 1998
Johnstone, Barbara (1990) Stories, Community and Place: Narratives from Middle
America.
In Talbot 1998
Johnstone, Barbara (1993) Community and contest: Midwestern men and women
creating their worlds in conversational storytelling. In Talbot 1998
Labov, William (1966) The Social Stratification of English in New York City. In
Talbot 1998
Labov, Willam and Waletsky J. (1967) Narrative anlalysis: oral versions of personal
experience. In Talbot 1998
Talbot, Mary M. (1998) Language and Gender: An Introduction. Malden, MA: Polity
Press.