Professional Documents
Culture Documents
• What is it?
• How to make it?
• When to make it?
• Any negative legal
consequences?
an admission to another of a
wrong or discourtesy done him
accompanied by an expression of
regret."
Timing – When to
apologize?
As soon as possible?
If too quick, it loses power and
legitimacy.
There should be some analysis and
introspection
A tension.
The offender may need time in order
to reflect upon the harm done, form
true remorse for the offense, and
prepare a heartfelt apology,
but the more an apology is delayed
Apology in Mediation
Deborah Levi
2. Admits fault
by Lee Taft
An Effective Apology
1. Acknowledgment
2. Explanation
3. Remorse, shame, and humility
4. Reparation
by Aaron Lazare
An Effective Apology
2. An effective explanation
“There is no excuse.”
Explain how you will make sure that it will
not happen again.
If real damage:
replace or restore
Other Disputant
You were surprised, angry, and embarrassed by
Barkai's actions at your office. It was
unnecessary. You think you lost face in front of
your co-workers. Barkai should have discussed the
matter privately with you.
You were planning to pay it back soon. You told
Barkai to leave.
Confrontations
with
Our closest
relationships
Family
Friends
Co-workers
Significant Others
Spouses
At times,
we treat family &
friends
much worse
than total strangers
The Baby Self
v.
Disengage
The vast majority
of adult arguments
between close friends
or couples
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It comes from an irrational but
powerful fear
of being misunderstood or
abandoned