TURNING POINT

WELLNESS CENTER
“In every man’s heart, there
is an emptiness only

Christ

can fill”
Learning to Live and Love
Learning to Live and Love
Part I-
CREATED BY LOVE
Part II-
CREATED TO LOVE
Part III-
A WORLD WITHOUT LOVE
In North America, you only need
to do three things to avoid
poverty:
1. Finish high school
2. Marry before having a child
3. Marry after the age of 20
 RESULT
Among those who follow such
advice, only 8 percent are poor,
while 79 percent of those who
do not are poor.
 Main Goal: Quality of Life--
I have come that ye may have life and that ye
might have it more abundantly. (John 5:24)
 When Jesus' followers have strong marriages and
stable families, the economic benefit is huge.
 The Christian view of family is best not just morally
and spiritually, but usually better financially as well.
 When the Bible teaches family stability, hard work,
wise use of time, trustworthiness, and freedom from
drunkenness, such teachings are not just essential
morally but also prevent poverty and lay a foundation
for prosperity.
 September 25th, 2007
 One out of four Filipinos aged 15-24 are
engaging in premarital sex, according to a study
by the UP Population Institute.
 This year’s study also says that close to 4 million
youngsters are engaging in premarital sex with
30% of the respondents doing it in their own
homes while 18% were doing it inside motels
and hotels.
 Source:http://www.mukamo.com/premarital-sex-high-among-
filipino-youth/
 In the US, those who married as virgins
had a divorce rate of 70% less than those
who were not. This was taken from a 700
page book compiling the results of
research that had the largest survey
respondents.

 Source: inquirer.net
 By: Dr. Bernardo M. Villegas
 OFWs in North America and Europe are
very much aware of rampant premarital
sex among adolescents in their respective
host countries.

 It is taken for granted that chastity is an

old-fashioned virtue that young people
can no longer practice because of the
sexually permissive environment in
which they live
 Deep within, these OFWs especially
mothers who left their children behind –
are still hoping and praying that their
daughters and sons continue to values
chastity and do not go the way of
adolescents in many Western societies.
 The obsession with the promotion of
artificial contraceptives among those
pushing the so-called RH Bill is partly
based on the assumption that we have to
prevent unwanted pregnancies among
adolescents who find it impossible to
avoid premarital sex.
 This presupposition is based on the empirical
observation that in many countries in the
Western World, the majority of teenage girls
have had sex before they get married.
 Those in favor of the RH Bill claim that they are
just being “realists”. To them chastity is an
impossible ideal.
 They are assuming that the youth in the
Philippines cannot rise above their purely
animal instincts.
 These law makers have given up on values and
character education of the youth and the
spiritual formation that can come from religious
faith, whatever the creed.
 Part I
CREATED BY
LOVE

God’s Greatest Miracle

FILM VIEWING

God’s Greatest Miracle

•Love vs. Infatuation
•Friendship
•Q & A
•Secrets to Find Love
•Sexuality
... Love is not breathlessness, it is not
excitement, it is not the promulgation
of promises of eternal passion. That is
just being "in love" which any of us
can convince ourselves we are. Love
itself is what is left over when being
in love has burned away, and this is
both an art and a fortunate accident…
--Augustine of Hippo
INFATUATION - In its "pure"
state, infatuation is
characterized by unrealistic
expectations of blissful
passion without positive
relationship growth or
development, and by a lack of
the trust, loyalty, commitment,
and reciprocity found in a
mature love.
 - Someone who
Friendship makes effort to be
there when you need
- Friendship begins when him.
one discovers that - Someone who can
somebody cares. always inspire you to
- A real friend is whom you
do good no matter
can be yourself – with how many miles apart
whom you don’t have to you are from each
pretend. other.
- A real friend is someone with whom you can say
what you feel – someone who will never betray
your trust.
Q & A on Love
and Dating
I got a crush on the heart-
throb of our University. One
day he asked me for a date.
After a few dates, he asked
me to “go all the way”. At
that time, I was already
madly “in love” with him.
What will I do?
Q: I made a mistake once
and lost my virginity to
a boy who left me soon
after we had sex. Should
I tell my present
boyfriend about my
past?
 Q: I like my best-
friend’s girlfriend. I
know it is wrong, but
what will I do? I can’t
get her off my mind.
 GET TO KNOW YOURSELF

• Before start looking for love

you must first know yourself
in depth. It is very important
that you know where you
come from, who you are and
where you are heading.
If you do not know yourself, which
are your tastes and preferences
and if you are unaware of your
dreams, it is very unlikely that
you can find a person that comes
along with you in this wonderful
journey called
life.
 You Cannot give
what you do not have
– learn to appreciate
who you are and
what you have
The T-A-S-T-E test
Q: Which of these two views about sex

SEX IS
is correct?
SEX IS NOTHING!
EVERYTHING!
 It is the center It is dirty
of the universe
 Life is nothing It is just a
without sex physical act
 It is the only only couples
thing that makes can talk about it
life meaningful and
exciting sexuality is not
 The greatest purity
pleasure on earth
A: Neither! Both are incorrect.
The first one overvalues sex the other undervalues it.
 Sex is good with a
definite person, for a
definite time, and in a
definite place
 SEX OUTSIDE THE
CONTEXT OF
MARRIAGE FALLS
SHORT OF GOD’S WILL
FOR HIS CHILDREN
 The way you express your thoughts and feelings

The way you perceive others, life, the world and God

The way you dress up

The way you project yourself

The way you communicate and interact with others

It includes our belief in God, our moral values

It’s also about our physical, spiritual, mental

and emotional traits that makes us man and woman.
Regaining oneself…

What if you already

fell into

temptation?
You can start
over!
It’s never too late to
change!
Forgive yourself
Find real joy in a worry-free relationship…
Learn to love yourself….
Discover what you can do!
Share your talents…
Be a dedicated and faithful
wife
Remember that you can still
be the best mother…
And an adorable
grandmother.!!!
 Chastity

Is living honestly your sex

life: If you are single, keep
yourself from pre-marital
sex, if you are married, it is
being sincere to your
spouse
Chastity
Covenant
Have you got a receipt for your wife, sir?
In AD 953 Princess Olga of Russia
introduced a law whereby men could ask
to, essentially, return their wives if they
found out they were not virgins. The
husbands could ask for monetary or
material compensation if they discovered
that their wives were more experienced
than they had hoped.
 Possible Consequences of Pre-marital Sex

Sexually Transmitted Disease/AIDS

Unwanted
Pregnancy
Guilt, Depression, Disappointment
Worry, Rejection
Early marriage
Abortion
 No one is
entitled to take
away the life of another
person.
Only GOD can!
Some Arguments Why Women Resort to Abortion

It’s just blood, not yet human

It’s my body, I have the right to

do what I want
Rape/Incest
Isn’t abortion better than
having an unwanted child?

What if the baby is deformed?

In case of ectopic pregnancies

and cancer of the uterus
 Post-abortion stress symptoms
•Flashbacks of Abortion
•Sexual Dysfunction
•Relationship Problems
•Eating Disorders
•Alcohol and Drug Abuse
Psychological Reactions:
•depression, guilt, anger,
•anxiety, suicidal thoughts,
•anniversary grief
Joshua
 A LETTER FROM AN UNBORN CHILD

Dear Mommy,

Thank you for the thought and the time you spend in prayer lifting me up
to God. It must have been a very difficult decision to go back to the time when
you and I were together. I must have been a product of a spark of love that
God allowed to live just for a little while. But something or some events or
some persons must have caused you to allow me leave you even before I could
see the light. In your womb, I must have given you so much difficulty. The
decision to let me go was not easy. Probably, you were only forced by others
to say goodbye or maybe you did not even know that I was already your baby.
But for whatever reason, the pain that went with your decision must have been
very intense that your heart broke and made you cry. Maybe the pain was too
sharp that it numbed your senses.
 Mom, today, I want you to know that you gave me a
chance to be with God ahead of you, to pray for you and
welcome you to our homecoming when both of us and God will
be together again. I want you to know that I am with God and we
are with you whenever you think of us. I forgive you and the
people who caused us pain. Until then…

Joshua
I CAN

I CAN LIVE, I CAN LOVE

I CAN REACH THE HEAVENS ABOVE
I CAN RIGHT WHAT IS WRONG
I CAN SING JUST ANY SONG
I CAN DANCE, I CAN FLY
AND TOUCH THE RAINBOW IN THE SKY
I CAN BE YOUR GOOD FRIEND
I CAN LOVE YOU UNTIL THE END
WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG TO MAKE ME SEE
HOW LUCKY I AM CO’Z I AM FREE
FREE TO DO THE THINGS I WANNA DO
WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG TO MAKE ME FEEL
THAT I CAN GIVE LOVE, A LOVE SO REAL
WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG TO LET ME KNOW?
THAT . . . .
WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG TO MAKE ME CRY
SO I WILL KNOW THE REASON WHY
I’M SO LUCKY, I CAN SMILE
I DIDN’T KNOW THIS FOR A WHILE