Self

Parenting
101
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How would you treat

yourself if you were
someone you loved?
parentin
g
• Conversation between
“inner parent” and “inner
child”.
• The process of
developing our own
mature, loving parent
who is capable of loving
all of you.
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What kind of
self – parent
are you?
What did you do to cause
the problem? Self – parent
• The inner
parent is
always there to
inform you why
you are to
blame for
whatever bad
thing happened
See it on the other guy’s 6

perspective self parent

• The inner parent
is very good at
reminding you
why the person
who hurt you had
a good reason for
doing what he
did and why you
should
What are you going to do to 7
fix it self parent
• This inner parent
doesn’t comfort
you, but instead
tells you what
you need to do
to fix the
problem that you
caused.
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parent
• This caretaker
reminds you that
your feelings are
not what they
should be and that
ultimately, your
response as the
real problem
There’s no reason to feel 9

the way you do self - parent

• The inner parent

is quick to tell
you why your
feelings make
no sense in the
world of logic.
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parent
• The inner parent is
just not interested in
your feeling
regardless of what
they are, thus
ignores your inner
experience
altogether.
Do you
recognize
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yourself in any
of these self –
parents?
Self –
Parentin
g
Strategi
es
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 Be responsible for decisions that

you make.
 Recognize that failure is real, it
hurts and it’s okay.
 It takes courage and belief that
you know about yourself.
 Get in touch with your emotions
and thoughts.
 It requires self – acceptance.
Positive self talk =
positive self parenting

The power of the word “NO”

Treat yourself
with the same 15

kindness that you

offer those you
love – no matter
what!