THE SEXUAL SELF

UNDERSTANDING THE SELF

MODULE #6

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WAYS OF EXPERIENCING
SEXUALITY
FROM CHILDHOOD TO OLD AGE….

--- THROUGH OUR PHYSICAL BODY

--- THROUGH OUR ROLES IN LIFE
--- THROUGH OUR BELIEFS
--- THROUGH OUR RELATIONSHIPS

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BUT FRANKLY SPEAKING…

There is a problem in the lack of integration among all the dimensions

of sexuality.
We also get into what society and gender dictates, but not realizing the
depth of sexuality inherent in every person.

Sexuality has different dimensions:

 Physical: the usual focus; we get stuck only on what the body is
 Mental
 Emotional
 Social/relational
 Moral/Spiritual
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SEXUALITY IS…
the sum of totality of the person –

mind, body and spirit

HUWAG TAYONG MAPAKO SA

KATAWAN LAMANG!!!

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SEXUAL ORIENTATION
SEXUAL IDENTITY – how
we label our sexual orientation

SEXUAL BEHAVIOR- what

we do sexually with others

SEXUAL ATTRACTION –
who we are attracted to

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REFLECT…
Gender identity – how you think about yourself
- sa isip
Sexual orientation – to whom you are attracted
– sa puso
Gender expression – how you demonstrate your
gender
- sa katawan
Biological sex – based on hormones,
organs and chromosomes

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 SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS A DYNAMIC SPECTRUM
AND MAY CHANGE THROUGH TIME…

In the course of time…you may be

-- always heterosexual --bisexual
predominantly heterosexual
occasionally homosexual
predominantly homosexual,
occasionally heterosexual
always homosexual

Adolescents pass through a process of discovery!

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THERE ARE ALSO DIFFERENT
WAYS OF EXPRESSIONS….
- sa lesbiana, may tibong-tibo (itsura at kilos
lalaki)
- meron namang babaeng-babae (femme)
pero may atraksyon sa kapwa babae
- sa bakla, bading, merong nagbibihis at kilos
babae
- merong matipuno at kilos lalaki

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WHAT SHOULD BE AVOIDED:
SEXUAL ABUSE AND DISCRIMINATION
demeaning behavior
Ignoring the existence
Whistling, green jokes
Discrimination in the work place
Insults
Physical harm
Rape, molestation

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UNDERSTANDING THE
SCIENCE OF LOVE
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 IS IT LOVE OR IS IT LUST????
 Love is more than having an intense longing and sexual
desire for a person.

 While a lot of factors are involved in the process of love, there are
also interrelated neurochemical processes in the brain
that contribute to the feelings of love.

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3 STAGES OF LOVE
Helen Fisher, a known biological anthropologist

 LUST

 ATTRACTION

 ATTACHMENT

Note: Distinct neurotransmitters or brain chemicals are in direct control in each

stage.
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 LUST
 the basic sex drive or libido

 It is an urge or a strong sexual desire that motivates

a person to take part in sexual activity

 More of a physical attraction toward a person

Lust is basically driven by testosterone hormone in males and estrogen hormones in

females.

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ATTRACTION
• also known as passionate/obsessive love
• the short-lived second stage of falling in love involves focusing and
giving attention to a particular person
• leads to pursuing of a specific potential partner
 caused by neurotransmitters in the brain:
 dopamine,
 norepinephrine
 serotonin

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ATTACHMENT
• the final stage of love

• There is a feeling of deep devotion and longing to be with the loved

person for a long time.

• primarily characterized by feelings of calmness, security, social comfort

and emotional union (Fisher, 1994)
• caused by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin

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THE CHEMISTRY OF LOVE

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GROUP ACTIVITY
 Divide the class into 4 groups
Choose a leader who will discuss the output of the group
Discuss on the following issues:

Gender Stereotypes in Communication

– differentiate how men and women communicate; who talks more; type of words used
Gender Differences in Emotional Expression
- type of emotions being expressed; difference in empathy
Gender Differences in Participation in Paid Work
– meaning of work for men and women; distribution of work; predominant careers/work
Gender Differences in Domestic or Household Work
– distribution of household chores; types of chores; differences in nurturing

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