Building Social

Ties
How can you build good working
relationships?
 Activity
• List down your qualities as a:
 student ______________________
 son/daughter ________________
 friend ________________________
 leader/follower _______________
Personal Development
• touches base in self-discovery
• NOT a solitary journey
• enriched through socialization
• know self more through
interactions with others
In healthy social relationships
you:
• exercise skills and show qualities
in different social contexts
• skills:
– ability to cooperate
– interact with others
– manage emotions and reactions
– apply leadership skills
In healthy social relationships
you:
• get the opportunity to receive
feedback from others
• get to know things about
yourself that you may need to
develop to become a better
person
Bill Gates:
• “We all need people who will
give us feedback. That is how we
improve.”
 Giving Feedback
• Be clear with your intention.
– why do youhave to say what you
want to say?
– is it going to help the person?
• Observe good timing
• Be kind in your words
• Be specific
– concrete examples
 Receiving Feedback
• Listen well
• Think carefully
– make sure you understand the
feedback well
– ask for clarifications
• React positively
– Check your emotion, keep calm
• Be grateful
 Activity
• Choose a partner. Write something
about each other on the same points
you listed your qualities on - as a
student, son/daughter,
friend/classmate, leader and follower
in class.
• Following notes on giving and
receiving feedback, share your notes
to each other.
• In your journal write down what you
learned from the experience.
 Social Groups
• two or more people who
interact with one another and
refer to themselves as a social
unit
• satisfies an important need:
sense of belonging, acceptance
and affiliation
 Social Groups
• Primary group
– personal or intimate in nature
– interaction is regular
– bond lasts for a long time
– not concerned with tasks
– looks after deep emotional
connections and sense of security
– you connect your identity with this
kind of group
– family, barkada
 Social Groups
• Secondary group
– task-oriented
– dynamics less personal
– members stay together until tasks are
accomplished
– identity with this group relative and
short-lived, depending on the tasks
– meeting not necessarily regular or
frequent
– work group in class for the sem; sports
team
 Social Groups
• The Norm
– reference group to which you base
your assessment
– relative standard that indicates
what is typical or average
– group has rules of behavior which
the members follow
– classroom norms
Friendship

PEER RELATIONS
 AWIT NG BARKADA
Nakasimangot ka na lang palagi
Parang ikaw lang ang nagmamay-ari
Ng lahat ng sama ng loob
Pagmumukha mo ay hindi maipinta
Nakalimutan mo na bang tumawa
Eh, sumasayad na ang nguso mo sa
lupa
Refrain
Kahit sino pa man ang may kagagawan
Ng iyong pagkabigo
Ay isipin na lang na ang buhay kung
Minsan ay nagbibiro
Nandirito kami, ang barkada mong tunay
Aawit sa 'yo
Sa lungkot at ligaya, hirap at ginhawa
Kami'y kasama mo
Kung sa pag-ibig may pinag-awayan
Kung salapi ay huwag nang pag-usapan
Tayo'y di nagbibilangan
Kung ang problema mo'y nagkatambakan
Ang mga utang 'di na mabayaran
Lahat ng bagay ay nadadaan sa usapan
(Repeat refrain)
Kung hahanapin ay kaligayahan
Maging malalim o may kababawan,
Sa iyo ay may nakalaan
Kami'y asahan at huwag kalimutan
Maging ito ay madalas o minsan
Pagkat iba na nga ang may pinagsamahan
(Repeat refrain)

Coda
Kasama mo
Kasama mo
Kasama mo...
 IN MY LIFE
There are places I remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I've loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their
meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about
them
In my life I love you more
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about
them
In my life I love you more
In my life I love you more
 Friendship
• What is friendship?
• What is a good friend?
 seven truths about 
friendships 
to remember
• 1. Friendship isn’t an obligation,
but is a gift.
• 2. Friends treat you with respect.
• 3. Friends don’t talk behind your
back.
• 4. A real friend is one who
makes you a better you.
 seven truths about 
friendships 
to remember
• 5. Friends don’t compare or
compete with each other.
• 6. Friends are there for you.
• 7. Friends love you. For you.
 Clique
• exclusive or tight group
• members interact more
intensely to the relative
exclusion of others
• prevalent in schools
• norms and group pressure
• more predisposed to peer
pressure
 Clique
• stronger social influence among
members
• acknowledged leader (“Queen
Bee”) with charisma, status,
“power”, popularity
• not necessarily gender exclusive
• transitory
How others affect us

SOCIAL INFLUENCE
 Social Influence
• phenomenon when behaviors, ways
of thinking or feelings are affected by
others or vice versa
• in the context of socializing
• with consideration to acceptable
behaviors (norms) and group
pressure
 Conformity
• act of adjusting your behaviors,
opinions or beliefs to agree with the
prevailing norm or standard
 Why do people
conform?
• acceptance of others
• anxious or have low self-
confidence
• sense of security of being part
of the group
• less friction, less attention, less
demand to explain
• safety net
 Positive and Negative
Effects of Conformity
• fosters group cohesiveness
• members united in achieving goals
• peer pressure to do bad actions
 Compliance
• an individual gives in or agrees with
the other person or group even if one
holds a different opinion about the
person or situation
• avoids confrontation
• need to avoid any disruption if a
complaint is made
• passive compliance - bending to
unreasonable demands, questionable
or improper ways just to maintain
peace
 Compliance
• may affect self-worth if excessive and
mostly passive
• may trample the dignity of an
individual
• assertiveness training may be helpful
 Identification
• when a respectable, famous, or well-
liked person exerts great influence on
others
• people follow the ways of the popular
figure
 Obedience
• act of following authority figures
• conforming to the demands of
someone who exercises influence or
power
• necessary to maintain rules and order
in the group
• destructive when there is abuse of
position or when there is lack of
competence to bear out rules
effectively
 Social roles
• William Shakespeare:

All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely
players:
They have their exits and their
entrances;
And one man in his time plays many
parts.
- from As You Like It
 Social roles
• certain roles expected based on the
kind of role you have
• role - set of behaviors, obligations
and responsibilities expected in a
given social situation
• may change, shift or take multiple
roles depending on situation, time of
life or need
• son or daughter, sibling, student
• the bigger the role, the bigger the
responsibility
 Leaders and Followers
• critical role
• two sides of the same coin
• interplay in the dynamics of success
in a group
• Leadership - act of leading a group
of people or organization to a certain
direction
 Types of Leadership
• Conservative
– particular with following procedures
– accuracy, attention to details, facts and
order most important
• Democratic
– focuses on the goals of the group and
attaining warm fellowships among the
members
– encourages members' participation and
undertaking responsibilities to
accomplish the tasks
• Task-Oriented
– group tasks and getting the job done
utmost priority
– confident, independent, go-getter
– directs and controls the behaviors of the
members to accomplish the tasks
• People-Oriented
– nurturer, relationships most important
– personal welfare and growth of members
are priorities
– warm, friendly, approachable and
considerate
 Types of Leadership
• Situational leader
– leadership stye dependent upon
the given circumstances
– adaptability to the situation
 Qualities of a Good
Leader
Boss Leader
• commands people • takes part in group
to do things work
• pushes people to • coaches people on
accomplish their how to do things
work • lets people
• his authority is the complete the tasks
stick that rules with trust
• good role-
• takes credit for
modeling
accomplishment
• acts of goodwill
but blames the
• gives people credit
group in case of
for a job well done
failure
 Qualities of a Good
Leader
• integrity
• clear vision and goals for the group
• communicates ideas very well
• concerned with others' personal
development and growth
• effectively motivates, inspires,
supports the group to work
• focuses on the group's strengths,
needs and interests
Qualities of a Good Team
Player
• understands the group's goals and
expectations
• uses skills and talents to contribute
to the accomplishment of the given
task
• cooperates with the group and
participates in the assigned activities
• genuine concern for the group's
welfare and effective completion of
group tasks
Qualities of a Good Team
Player
• shares ideas of concern
• promotes camaraderie
• observes respect for others in words
and actions
• manages time well
 Journal Activity
• Reflect on your social groups and
describe them using a concept map.
Include the following points in your
descriptions of each group:
– type of group (primary /secondary)
– influences on you
– prevailing style of leadership
– your contributions to the group
• you may add some more boxes for
your secondary groups if needed
 Journal Activity
Primary Group

Secondary Group Secondary Group

 Journal Activity
• After considering your social groups,
think of ways to enhance the
fellowship within each group. What
specific ways can you do to improve
the relationships among the
members in your groups?
• Answer the question:
• How can I be effective in dealing with
others?