LEVEL UP STRAT IN

SELF CONFIDENCE
[self – awareness]
“The ability to take an
honest look at your life
without attachment to it
being right or wrong”
Debbie Ford
 17 Self-awareness Questions that will
transform how you perceive reality

1. If the doctors told me that I have only 6 months to

live, how would I change the way I live my life?
2. What exciting challenge would I like to pursue if
there was no risk of failure or embarrassment?
3. What is your definition of success?
4. What frustrates me about myself?
5. What type of person do I want to become?
6. How do I feel when I get a compliment?
7. What am I truly afraid of?
8. How do I deal with stressful situations?
9. If I could give advice to my 18 year old self, what
would I say?
10. Is there something I used to believe in that turned
out not to be the case?
11. What would I like to be remembered for?
12. What are some of the things that make me happy?
13. What are some of the things that make me
unhappy or frustrate me?
14. What activities do I engage in to escape reality?
15. What were the biggest turning points of my life?
16. Do I always say what is really on my mind?
17. How often do I help others and how often do I ask
for help?
“self – confidence is the foundation
of all great success and
achievement”
How To Handle the Fear of Rejection

Everybody has fear and it is totally normal

Accept it as soon as possible
Thinking about fears for too long without any
action leads to paralysis, which in turn
triggers the feeling of low self esteem
 Once you take action and face your fear, you
realize that it is not as big as it seemed to be.
 FEAR OF REJECTION
 Many people are afraid of fear of rejection e.g. Fear of
talking to strangers, afraid to go to dinner parties, Public
Speaking, etc.
 Fear of Rejection is just about your perception and you
can bend your perception to your will, once you put
some effort into it
 Everybody experiences rejection as it is the nature of
human beings. Everyone is different, you cannot please
or seek validation from everyone
 HOW TO FACE IT?
1. EMBRACE the fact that people WILL reject you
2. ACCEPT it
• Rejection works as a great pre-selection mechanism – this perception
helps to totally reprogram your mind and rejection becomes a less scary
concept
• Most of the time rejection is NOT about you. It may be about the situation
or the other person
For example: People do not acknowledge your presence
and in your mind your value decreases – you need to
realize that most of the times it could be because of
something else – it could be because of the situation or
the mindset they are in
• If someone rejects you in the first few seconds, it is
not even real rejection as they do not even know you!
 FEAR OF REJECTION
In context of your own life, WELCOME Rejections. Put
less importance on the outcome. Assume that people
and situations are different and you will face rejection. Be
mentally prepared for it and understand that it probably
was for the better!
CASE STUDY
Confident Body Language

We’ll tell you How we can use

our body effectively to
communicate our message.
Body Language, Gesture and
our stance.
 Communication

Begins before you even open your mouth to speak your audiences first impression
of you is your posture and your position. You should stand facing the people
you’re talking too.
NON-VERBAL signals or Body Language is extremely important to feel and appear
confident.
TIP BEFORE YOU PRESENT YOUR SELF INFRONT
OF EVERYBODY IS “ LOOK YOUR BEST”

this is how our society works right now whether you like it or not you
will be judged by your appearance. You will feel more confident when
you look your best, I’m sure you’ve experienced this.
 Strategies to implement a confident body
language:
1. POSTURE:
• Slouching not only appears terrible but also
sends a signal to your mind that you are not
confident and has a tremendous impact on your
emotions
• Right body posture not only appears confident
but also makes you feel confident to face
various life situations including tough challenges
head-on.
TIPS That you can literally start using today to
improve your body language
i. Posture Breeds Success - Right body posture
not only appears confident but also makes you
feel confident to
Examples Of Bad Postures
• Slouching
• Hands on your hips
• Fig-leaf
 2.TYPES of postures/positions:
•Open: Appears resourceful/people find you approachable/ Confidence, Power
•Keep them at the side on your waist or use them to emphasize certain points in your
conversation
•Closed: Appears defensive/shy and lacking confidence /anxiety and passive examples are
hands in the back hands in the pocket
•Hack: Make a conscious effort to watch your posture at frequent intervals and ensure it is
open
2.Hand Gesture
DON’T TALK LIKE YOUR FAVORITE
PURPLE DINOSAUR
ALWAYS REMEMBER

•Gesture is there for you and the

audience to make a deeper
connection
 Strategies to implement a confident body
language:

3. EYE CONTACT:
• One of the most important traits of confident people is
that they can maintain direct eye-contact
• Sometimes maintaining direct contact may make you
feel uncomfortable or lose your composure
Hack: In situations like above, you can gaze at the
person’s forehead and still feel and appear
confident
• While talking to a group of people, it is important
to maintain eye contact with each one of them at
least for a few seconds, to make them feel
welcome, acknowledged and respected
 4.Slowdown Yourself Down

• Your movement your speed Hand & arms Act like

your in a pool of water and act with that speed to
show everyone that you got everything under
control even if you don’t. It also shows that
you’re not afraid.
 5. HAND SHAKE:
• Ensure that the hand shake is firm, look straight
in the person’s eyes and smile
TYPES of handshakes:
i. Palm down handshake: Makes you
appear domineering, puts other person
in defensive position
ii. Palm up handshake: Makes you appear
inferior to the other person
Hack: When you meet someone for the
first time, make a firm (not too firm, but
just right) handshake, look directly into
their eyes and smile
In a nutshell, when you meet someone for
the first time, it is human to judge
someone based on the body language and
it is important to appear confident to make
a good first impression
 Destroying Negative Self Talk
You can choose what you focus on by working on
it consciously
Catch yourself thinking negative thoughts and
reframe your thinking to focus on the positive
Think about all of the things that you are grateful
for. Gratitude will always shift your state in a
powerful way
Hack: Set some reminders throughout the
day to focus on the positive – put a note /
wristband etc
Destroying Negative Self Talk
 What is Negative Self-Talk?
What are the causes of Negative Self-Talk and
how can affect us?
 How to deal negative Self-Talk
 Recognize: Call it out for what it is
A. Be Aware
b) Name your critic
 Address: Stop it in its track
A. Put it in perspective
b) Talk it out
c) Think ‘Possibly’
 Address: Stop it in its track
A. Be Your Own Bestfriend

B. Be the bigger ‘person’

Hack: Create a winning state of mind by
sending the right signal to your brain. Eg:
Wow, I feel tremendous! I feel great! Vs. I
am fine
“Where the mind goes, the body follow”
- Arnold Schwarzenegger
 Anything is possible
• Very often certain things feel impossible at first and
then you make them happen.
• Whatever a human mind can imagine, it can create or
accomplish!
• Negative internal dialogues are NOT real and need to
be destroyed RIGHT AWAY. Switch your internal
dialogue into something positive and empowering
 Anything is possible
 Whatever other people have achieved, you can also achieve by
following the right processes and embracing the discipline to do the
uncomfortable. The truth is that all the resources are already
available
 REFRAME how you perceive reality and what is POSSIBLE for you
 All the great inventors had enough self-belief and belief in the
universe to change the status quo and go after what they wanted to
achieve. Embrace the same mindset
 Anything Is Possible In Life
When You Have These 5 Things 

1. Clarity about what you want

2. Precise planning (the knowing of how you are going
to achieve it)
3. The ability to adapt and overcome
4. Purposeful persistence
5. A make it happen mentality
Handling Daily Social
Interactions
 5 Types Social Interaction
Exchange
Competition
Cooperation
Confict
Coercion
 Handling Daily Social Interactions
Most people are not conditioned to handle daily
social interactions with confidence
You can learn it by pushing yourself on a daily
basis – step by step
Take on a “three strangers a day” challenge
Hack: Start by small, quick conversations
and push yourself step by step – eventually
it becomes your second nature. It may take
a few weeks or months, but it will happen!
 Handling Daily Social Interactions
You will be able to predict certain conversational
patterns, which will in turn help you to think
faster on your feet and appear more relaxed
As a result of the above you will become sharper
and your self esteem will grow
TRY it for yourself and see your
confidence boost!
 Practicing Gratitude
There is a strong connection between gratitude
and feeling confident
We take a lot of things for granted which other
people struggle to get in life
It is always good to pause for a moment and look
around to realize you should be grateful
 Practicing Gratitude
When you feel gratitude, your level of energy
increases and you feel better about yourself and
your confidence soars
It is important to do it over and over again to
condition yourself to always see the glass as “half
full”
ARE YOU GRATEFUL?
 Practicing Gratitude
When you delve deeper, you realize that you
already HAVE so much -> it makes you feel better
 Practicing Gratitude
TRAIN yourself to notice these small things
of gratitude around you and you will see
your confidence increase!
Embracing Vulnerability

What is Vulnerability?
 Embracing Vulnerability
How can we use vulnerability to be more confident?

1. Apologize for something you did.

2. Apologize for something you forgot to do.
3. Always say thank you.
4. Admit a weakness.
 Embracing Vulnerability
5. Share a Personal Experience when you failed
6. Confess to not knowing everything
7. Compliment people you want to become like
Embracing Vulnerability
TURN VULNERABILITY INTO A
SUPERPOWER
Here are my 4 steps to embrace vulnerability:

1. Change your mindset

2. Tear Down those walls

3. Commit to the new mindset

 Embracing Vulnerability
Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.”
“People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth
about their stories are the real badasses.
- Brene Brown
 Why I’m Great List
Most people overestimate others and
underestimate themselves
It is important to recognize your own power
Exercise: Think about and write down all of
the things you could be proud of – even the
small ones. Once you do it, read this list out
loud using the power of your emotions
 Why I’m Great List
Within a few minutes of this exercise, your state of
mind will start shifting. You will begin to summon
all the positive emotions and feel better about
yourself
Your perception of reality will change and you will
start to feel and appear more energetic and
confident