YOUTHiNSPIRE

WILL YOU MARRY YOU?

Big questions come from big
minds and they are usually
meant for big minds.
If you want a wise answer, ask a
reasonable question. – Goethe
Judge a man by his questions rather than
by his answers. Voltaire
He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but
he who does not ask remains a fool
forever. Chinese Proverb
Treat a person by the question he asks rather
than the answers he gives.
 Usual questions...
A. Will you marry me?

B. Can I be your lover?

C. Can you be my friend?

D. Will you be the mother of my

 AND WE HEAR STATEMENTS LIKE…

A. I will marry you

B. I love you and want to be with you
C. I want to be the father of your
children
D. I want to father your children
THEN THE UNUSUAL QUESTION

Will you marry you?

 WE OFTEN ASK…
Will he or she be good for me?
Instead of Will I be good for him or her?
What is he/she bringing into the relationship?
Instead of…What am I bringing into the
relationship?
Will he/she make me happy?
Instead of…Will I make him/her happy
We normally focus on the other
person becoming our desire and
delight rather than being same to
them.
Judge not, that you be not judged. For
with what judgment you judge, you will
be judged; and with the measure you
use, it will be measured back to you…
“…And why do you look at the speck in
your brother's eye, but do not consider
the plank in your own eye? Or how can
you say to your brother, 'Let me remove
the speck from your eye'; and look, a
plank is in your own eye?...”
MATTHEW 7:6
• "Do not give what is
holy to the dogs; nor
cast your pearls before
swine, lest they trample
them under their feet,
and turn and tear you in
pieces.” verse 6
 Key 1 :MATURITY

Marriage is not for boys and girls. It is for men and

women. I don’t mean age, though sometimes age counts.
 GENESIS 2:24

“Therefore a man shall leave his father

and mother and be joined to his wife,
and they shall become one flesh.”
Ability to make your own decisions and
stand by them.
Being responsible for yourself and taking the
same responsibility to meet the needs of your
partner.
Being independent in every way.
GENESIS 2:22
“And the LORD God caused
a deep sleep to fall on Adam,
and he slept; and He took
one of his ribs, and closed up
the flesh in its place. Then
the rib which the LORD God
had taken from man He
made into a woman, and He
brought her to the man….
 Some adults are childish instead of being childlike!

The childish adult is

Petty
Attention seeking and self obsessed,
Competitive ,
Arrogant,
Grudge bearing,
Inability to make decision,
Self-deception,
Forsake wise counsel
 The childlike adult exhibits kingdom virtues as
children do:
 Forgives easily (doesn’t hold on to grudges)
 Teachable and learnable
 Humble
 Trusting heart
 Optimistic
It is children who do things to please and win
favor from their parents. Decide to do what is
right; perform your responsibilities; Be
proactive in every way.
Being matured is also to be a well-balanced individual…
: ACCEPTANCE leads Appreciation

“The greatest gift that you can give to

others is the gift of unconditional love
and acceptance.” Brian Tracy
 RENEWAL

.
 Renewal
Each day must be a new day. Renew your
commitments; refresh your life; refurbish
your home; restore, reaffirm and redecorate
every bit of everything. You can make your
marriage new every day. When people are
really in love, nothing in their marriage
relationship goes old and cold.
Don’t relax and relapse into thinking
we’ve arrived. Even the snake knows
how to shed its old skin to put on a new
one. Don’t get old!
“Your skin grows old when your heart becomes cold and folds
You’re sure to live for long when your mind feels young
You begin to age on your stage when you stay on the average
You rush to the grave when your soul can’t hush the crush
Distress will make you restless to find your cells lifeless
So seek the peak of life and be quick to effect a strong kick
Saying “I’m younger than” is better than being older than
Delay to lay nay-say to strength in your day to avert decay
Always go to where you’ll glow and to life’s current, flow
Renew yourself with the morning’s dew and daily become new”
From 360 DeCrees of Deeper Reflections
 Renewal
Regeneration
Restitution
Rekindling
Rejuvenation
Rebirth
Replenishment
Restoration
 Renewal

The eagle knows how to do this

 : RELATIONSHIP

Just as attitude, relationship is everything!

Relationship is not built in a vacuum. You must create
the right atmosphere and attitude for it to mature and
blossom.
 : RELATIONSHIP

Building the marriage relationship

would come with many
inconveniences including breaking
other close ties.
 : RELATIONSHIP

Threefold Relationship
A. Vertical - Relationship with God. The
first, foremost and very important
“You shall love the
Lord your God with all
your heart, with all
your soul, and with all
your strength”
Deuteronomy 6:5
 : RELATIONSHIP

Threefold Relationship
A. Vertical - Relationship with God. The first,
foremost and very important

B. Self/Inward - Relationship with self is often

overlooked and neglected.
: RELATIONSHIP
: RELATIONSHIP
 : RELATIONSHIP

Develop a good relationship with yourself first

then you may have a good relationship with
others.
“… But you shall love
your neighbour as
yourself: I am the
Lord”
Leviticus 19:18
 : RELATIONSHIP
Threefold Relationship
A. Vertical - Relationship with God. The first, foremost
and very important
B. Self/Inward - Relationship with self is often
overlooked and neglected.

C. Horizontal - Relationship with others humans,

animals and other animate and inanimate objects. How
you relate here is a reflection of your relationship with
God and yourself
: RELATIONSHIP
 : RELATIONSHIP
“Another weekend is going, ur friends are getting married and u are still
there claiming all men are players... keep waiting u will marry a referee”
##Prez Robert Mugabe "July 2016" ##

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Then someone responded,
“The girls will soon marry lines men”
 : RELATIONSHIP
• Reconstruction
Work on yourself, your relationship and then
help your partner to work on himself or herself
“The greatest battle ever fought is the warfare
against self…”
If self is conquered, then you have truly
conquered.
 : RELATIONSHIP
• Envisioning
"If a woman rejects a man of vision and accepts a
man with television, she ends up watching the man of
vision on her husband's television." Anonymous

Your eyesight will show you the facts but your mind-
sight reveals and discovers the truth.
 : RELATIONSHIP
Learning
Mastery In Something Takes A
Keen Exercise (M.I.S.T.A.K.E).

Learn unlearn and relearn

 : RELATIONSHIP
Attitude
“Attitude is everything”
“Attitude is the magic word”

Your attitude will determine your altitude.

Your life attractions are as a result of

 : RELATIONSHIP
Trust
Trust is developed on your use of TIME
RESPECT for yourself, others and
relationship
Maintaining your UNIQUE identity
Being SINCERE
Being TACTFUL
 : RELATIONSHIP

Interest
What interests you will yield interest
for you?
 : RELATIONSHIP
Interest
What interests you will yield interest for you?

Openness
Nurture
Synergy (building and growing together)
Holiness
Investment
Being a Personable person
 : INSIGHT

We need hindsight, insight and foresight but our

INSIGHT put our hindsight and foresight in right
perspective to walk in the light.

To have insight, focus on MINDSIGHT rather than

eyesight
: INSIGHT
: INSIGHT
“The true sign of intelligence is
not knowledge but
imagination.”
Albert Einstein.

“Imagination is the light of the

mind that searches God’s ideas,
ideals and principles placed in
nature by His word through
creation for our search.”
 : ACTS OF LOVE

Marriage forms its base on the acts of love.

The little things you do and give all form the
expressions of love. You can give without
loving but you can’t love without giving. God
loved and gave His only begotten Son.
Give to God, give to yourself and give to
others
:: ACTS OF LOVE
: ACTS OF LOVE
• “Love is a force more
formidable than any other. It is
invisible - it cannot be seen or
measured, yet it is powerful
enough to transform you in a
moment, and offer you more
joy than any material
possession could” Barbara de
Angelis.”
 : GOD-FACTOR
Jesus said, “…for without me you can do nothing” John
15:5.
Paul said, “For it is God who works in you both to will
and to do for His good pleasure.” Philippians 2:13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:13
: GOD-FACTOR
: GOD-FACTOR
God made man and woman
and He made marriage as a
holy institution. You can’t do
without Him. He must be the
central focus of your
relationship. First and
foremost, relate with God and
then relate with each other.
 : EXCELLING INTO ETERNITY

If I ask you the person you would like to see

first should you die and rise on the day
Christ returns. Who would that person be?
: EXCELLING INTO ETERNITY
: EXCELLING INTO ETERNITY
 : EXCELLING INTO ETERNITY

God is excellent, His ways are excellent, He

puts in us the spirit of excellent, His abode is
excellent and He expects and demands
excellence from His people.
: EXCELLING INTO ETERNITY
 THE 8 KEYS
Maturity
Acceptance
Renewal
Relationship
Insight
Acts of Love
God-Factor
Excelling into Eternity