Transforming aggression into compassion

Group members:
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Sneha malhotra Divyanshu agnihotri Harshit purthi Jatin dev Nitin lohchub

What is aggression?
Aggression refers to any behavior that is hostile, destructive, and/or violent. Generally, aggressive behavior has the potential to inflict injury or damage to the target person or object

Causes of aggression
Unmet expectations Poisoning of ears Loosing the power of logic Loneliness Lack of attention Keeping things inside etc.

What is compassion?
It is a feeling of deep sympathy and s orrow for one who is stricken by misfortune, accompa nied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering
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Causes of compassion
Growing love with the person Being in the same situation Relationships Reality checks Self introspect

From aggression to compassion

Continuous reality checks are important One has to sit and think in which direction is his behavior directed. Empathize with the sufferer. Explaining the person that aggression causes ego depletion. Finding the core reason and solving it from the root. If personal talks do not change his min, then keeping him in situations which tell him that his aggression is wrong.

A short story depicting the topic

There was a girl by the name of ritu . She lived in Mumbai with her parents grand mom and granddad. They were a happy family together. Ritu was the closest to her grandmother. She found her friend philosopher guide teacher all in her. There was no secret which ritu hid from her grandmother, except one. No one knew that ritu hated her granddad. Just for one reason. She thought that it was her granddad who didnt love her grand mum. It was not at all true but she thought the same. Small incidents like her grandmother could not go to the movie as her grand father returned home late from the office.

Her grand mum had to wait sometimes till early morning hours without eating food if her husband was busy made her do that. She didnt realize that all these happened in every household as she was too small to understand that. Her too much love for her grandmother made her aggressive towards her grandfather. She used to shout sometimes when she was scolded for some reason by him. Or when he wanted to see the news when her favorite cartoon was on air. She never revealed it. Slowly and steadily her untreated hatred turned into major aggressiveness. Years passed by. One fine day her grandma passed away. Ritu was shook heavily down by this. She was in major shock and her aggressiveness went to such levels that she started believing that if her granddad wanted ,he could have saved her. But he didnt. days and years passed by, her aggressiveness was now being visible by her parents. They explained her a hundred times but it was too late.

One fine day her parents had to go out for some marriage to pune. She was explained that her granddad was ill so she had to take care of her. Before this day she never entered his room or even bothered to sit with him. But today she had to. She retaliated a lot but finally she agreed because of her mom. It was a Sunday afternoon. She usually used to be out the whole day on holidays as she never wanted to see her granddad. But today was different. She went to her granddads room to call him for lunch. She opened the door and saw him talking to a photograph. She was puzzled. As she clearly saw it was her grand mum's photo. He was crying like hell and saying sorry to her. His exact words were I lost my 2best friend for life. In this old age I have everything but my 2 friends are lost forever. One by chance and other by choice. he was talking about ritu and her grandmother. She was surprised to listen that he knew that ritu hated him and the reason too. But he never tried to explain her anything as he started believing that her grand mum passed because of him. For the first time ritu had tears in her eyes seeing all this. She came inside and without letting her granddad see , she picked up a letter from his bed. It was a sorry letter for ritu which he said in the letter that he would leave for her on his death bed. He just kept saying sorry for snatching her best friend from her. Something broke inside ritu. She realized that she was on her ego trip which now shook. It struck her that his granddad had lost much more than a friend. He lost an old age support, a wife, a secretor etc.

The next thing she did was called aloud her granddad and said SORRY GRANDPA. His granddad was shocked. He saw her and could not control his tears. They both hugged each other and cried aloud. She could feel the warmth of her grandmother in him. As if she again found her lost friend. From that day she took full care of him. Made him have his medicines on time, his food and his regular checkups. She would also take him on walks and sit wit him and watch cartoon. This shows that aggressiveness should be uprooted at the very rise of it. Otherwise it takes huge turns and turns into much more. Here self introspection and reality check TURNED AGRESSION INTO COMPASSION.