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How To Do The First Meeting
How To Do The First Meeting
Steve Elzinga
Coaching is not …
1. Pastoral Care = general care offered by Pastor
and/or staff
2. Counseling = a more professional, specific
care offered by Pastor or Counseling staff
3. Teaching/training/discipling = helping people
learn how to do something.
4. Mentoring = a process of helping someone
acquire skills, attitudes, behaviors already
mastered by the mentor
Coaching includes …
1. Caring (like pastoral care) but more about
challenge than comfort
2. Care to a specific need (like counseling) but is
more about the future than the past
Coaching includes …
3. Teaching/training/discipling but is more
about helping the client teach themselves
than the coach teaching the client
4. Mentoring but is less about the client
becoming like the mentor and more about
the client becoming what he or she could
become with a little bit of help
Other thoughts on Coaching:
1. Coaching is about action, not understanding
2. Coaching is client directed, not teacher
directed
3. Coaching is not about getting the client to do
what the coach wants but what the client
wants
4. Coaching is not about motivating the client; it
is helping the client motivate themselves.
Pre-requisites to coaching
1. Saving connection to Jesus
2. Receive the gift of the Holy Spirit
3. A walk with God
4. Part of the Church
5. Engaged in the 7 Connections
Client has to be willing to take
responsibility
1. Set up appointments
2. Make all the connections (appointments,
phone calls, text, message)
3. Be on time
4. Engage in the process
Client has to be willing to make the
process a priority
1. Appointments
2. Action steps
Client must be willing to pay for the
coaches time
Introduce Coaching Models
Introduce the client to the Coaching models
matrix
Start without models; use simple questions