INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT

According to communication scholar William Wilmot

and Joyce Hocker,” is an expressed struggle between at
least to interdependent parties who perceive incompatible
goals, scarce resources, interference form others in
achieving their goals.
 For example, supposed you want to go to the concert on a Friday evening and
your friend want to go to the movie .both of you explain your desire about what
you would like to do (expressed struggle) , neither of you wants to go out alone on
a Friday night (interdependence parties), you cannot go to both the movie and the
concert in the evening ( incompatible goals) , neither of you can afford to do both
because of time and money (scarce resources), and your friend will not consider
going to the concert ( interference). You have incompatible goals, and it seems one
person must lose for the other to win.
CAN COFLICT MUST BE DESTRUTIVE ?

YES conflict must be destructive in the following are present

(a) When the resolution of the conflict end with the winner and the
loser.
(b) When the individuals involve act to aggressively, when they
withdraw from each other, when they withhold theirs feelings from
each other, or when they accuse each other of causing their problem.
(c) When it prevents us to from doing our work or feeling good about
ourselves.
(d) When it force us to do things that we do not want to do
(e) When the outcome is more important than the relationship.
Of course not all relationship breakups are the result of conflict , nor
all relationship breakups a necessarily are destructive.
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