DIALECTICAL

THEORY
PUSH AND PULL
Presented by : Charelene Montilla
Relationships confront
many contradictions or
tensions which push
and pull us in many
different direction at
the same time.
 For example, as an individual you may want to be out
with your friends in the evening, but you have an
important meeting paper due in a few days that you
haven't started. Thus, you have to decide between being
your friends or beginning your paper. Or you might
want your best friend to spend more time with you but
when your friends does, you decide that you want more
time with yourself.
 This illustrates that contradictory
impulses or dialect that push and
pull us in conflicting directions with
others. By contradicting impulses we
mean that each person is having
two opposing and interacting
desires which push and pull the
relationship in different directions.
 Relationships require both the desire
to connect to another person and the
desire to retain autonomy as an
individual. We want to connect to
others such as partners, friends,
parents, siblings, or co-workers but we
also want to retain some control and
independence or autonomy over our
lives.
Intimacy as it highest level does
require a bonding that connects
us with another person
emotionally, intellectually, and
physically but it does not mean
or require a complete loss of
self . In a healthy relationships
there is a reasonable balance of
being connected and
autonomy.
Relationship that move too far in one direction or the
other in terms of control versus autonomy are usually
relationships that are extremely unstable and
potentially destructive
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