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Self Management
Santosh Bist
Far Western University
Mahendranagar, Kanchanpur
Understanding Self
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“He that would govern others must first master
himself.”
- Messinger
Self Concept
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The term self refers to someone thinks about and perceives himself or herself.
A set of characteristics (abilities, ideas or behaviours) s/he possesses or does
not possess.
It is multi-dimensional, incorporating our views of ourselves in terms of
several different aspects (e.g. physical, emotional, spiritual, professional)
Self Management: Key
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Emotional
Intelligence
Values
Temperaments
Understanding Emotional
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Intelligence
Capacity for understanding own feelings and the feelings of others, for
motivating self, and for managing emotions effectively in relationships.
Essential in effective leadership and has a direct impact on work performance.
Contributors for Managerial
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success
A strong correlation between how well an individual handled personal emotions
and the willingness of others to work with that individual.
Cognitive Intelligence (IQ) – 20%
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and others – 80%
IQ gets you hired, but EQ gets you promoted
Both combines to make you successful!
Emotional Intelligence
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Framework
• Understanding self • Understanding
emotions others emotions
Self Social
awareness awareness
Self
Relationship
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• Managing • Building
emotions interpersonal
relationship
Self-awareness
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Foundation of personal growth and success.
‘Keystone’ of emotional intelligence.
The more we are aware of our feelings, the better we can control our
behaviours and understand those of others.
“When you are self-aware, you can see where
your thoughts and emotions are guiding you”.
Competencies of Self-awareness
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Emotional Self awareness:
Recognizing emotions and the impact they have on one’s life.
Accurate self-assessment:
identifying strength and limitations.
Self-confidence:
knowing self worth and capabilities.
Methods of creating Self-
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Self analysis
Feedback from others
Personal disclosure
Reflection of the past events
Self Management
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Managing Self, also know as Self-management or 'self-control' or 'self-
regulation, which is the ability to regulate one's emotions thoughts, and behavior
effectively in different situations.
It’s about being proactive in your life, rather than reactive, and taking ownership
of your well- being and productivity.
Ability to understand one’s emotions and then use that understanding to turn
situations to your benefit.
Some Most Hard-to-Handle
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Worry
Hard-to Handle
Emotions
Anger Frustration
Managing Emotions
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Recognize emotions in their early stages before they
feel out of control.
Pay attention overall physical and psychological health
Choose someone you trust who know you well enough
to give you hones feedback
Social Awareness:
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Ability to hear and understand accurately unspoken or
partly expressed thoughts, feelings and concerns of
others.
Relationship
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Management
Understand relationship boundaries and expectations
Communicating and listening skills
Catalyst for change
Conflict management
Team spirit and collaboration
Values
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Set of personal principles, standards, concepts, beliefs and
ideas
Choose between alternatives, assumptions about the nature of
reality
Learned early, continue to develop
Differ based on culture and environment
Temperaments
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Individual differences in reactivity and self-regulation, influenced by heredity
maturation and experience. (Rothbart & Derryberry, 1981)
Types of Temperaments
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Choleric Sanguine
Result oriented People oriented
Melancholy Phlegmatic
Quality oriented Service oriented
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Thank you!
Types of Temperaments
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Sanguine: (enthusiastic, active, and social)
Explorers: are curious and energetic
Choleric: (short-tempered, fast, and irritable)
Builders: are cautious and relax
Melancholic: (analytical, wise, and quiet)
Directors: are honest, confident, assertive, and analytical
Negotiators: trusting generous, imaginative, social and open minded.
