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Table of Contents
THE INTERVIEWS
Using Your InhcriL Powcr as a SLcpping SLonc Lo Succcss
By Lu Vorise Dahlman 1
Ovcrcoming AnxicLy on Your 3ourncy Lo Succcss
By JoAnna Cameron ...13
Find a McnLor and Bclicvc in Your Drcams
By Jack Canfield ...35
Social Mcdia and Reputation ManagcmcnL
By Shellee Hale ....51
Building Principlcs or Succcss
By Tifphanie Tucker ....65
Why You arc Lhc MasLcr o Your FaLc:
A Formula Lo Hclp You Changc Your World
By Earl Davis.....75
Surrcndcr AcLivaLcs Miraclcs:
How Lo Bcricnd Lhc Unknown and Walk Lhc BrighLly IiL PaLh o Your Soul
By Saskia Rell......95
Discovcr Your Inncr Rcsourcc
By Dr. Deepak Chopra......117
SccrcLs o HcarL-Bascd Timc ManagcmcnL
By Paula Eder......129
Social Mcdia and Scl-FmpowcrmcnL Tools or Succcss
By Kathy Perry...145
CluLLcr From Lhc Insidc OuL
By Sallie Felton...163
Succcssully Dcaling wiLh MulLiplc CcncraLions
By John Morrissey.....179
Iic Balancc: Small SLcps will gcL You Thcrc
By Indrani Goradia......195
FnlighLcncd Iiving
By Rick Miller......205
Iivc up Lo your PoLcnLial
By Lyn Jeffress....227
Dcvclop a Disciplincd Iic
By Dr. Denis Waitley....239
So you wanL Lo bc a Procssional Spcakcr, Now whaL`
By Linda Meeuwenberg.....255
Thc ArL o MasLcry: Inspiring Fxccllcncc in Work and Iic
By Nancy Noonan.....267
Happincss: Thc SubjccL FducaLors Ovcrlookcd
By JoAnne Veeck...287
DIRECTORY......307
1
C HA P T E R O NE
Using Your InhcrcnL Powcr
as a SLcpping SLonc Lo Succcss
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . Lu Vorise Dahlman
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc'rc Lalking wiLh Iu Vorisc Dahlman. Ms. Dahlman is Foundcr and
PrcsidcnL o Lhc IVD group whcrc shc coachcs and rccruiLs individuals and groups
wiLh crcaLivc and cmpowcring Lcchniqucs, which is rarc in corporaLc Amcrica. Shc
is an out-o-the-box Lhinkcr who cncouragcs oLhcrs Lo look dccply wiLhin Lo
discovcr Lhcir inncr LalcnLs and corc sLrcngLhs. Hcr capLivaLing inLcracLions lcavc
individuals and groups highly moLivaLcd wiLh a rcncwcd mind and ocuscd vision.
Shc has a conLagious cncrgy LhaL draws ouL Lhc bcsL in hcr clicnLs.
Ms. Dahlman, wclcomc Lo Stepping Stones to Success.
LU VORISE DAHLMAN (DAHLMAN)
Thank you, I'm glad Lo bc hcrc.
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WRIGHT
How would you dcinc your inncr sLrcngLh as iL rclaLcs Lo dcaling wiLh
advcrsiLy`
DAHLMAN
My inncr sLrcngLh is Lhc cLhos and csscncc o my spiriL LhaL brings orLh Lhc
rcsilicncy in my bcing whcn all Lhc circumsLanccs o a siLuaLion say Civc Up."
Thcsc arc Limcs whcn I so dcspcraLcly wanL Lo givc up on lic and my pcrsonal and
procssional goals bccausc cvcryLhing LhaL can go wrong has gonc wrong. 3usL
whcn I Lhink I can'L go on, Lhcrc is Lhc I am aL Lhc corc o my bcing LhaL says, Ycs
you canyou'rc biggcr Lhan Lhcsc circumsLanccs! CcL up and gcL moving!"
WRIGHT
Would you sharc wiLh our rcadcrs somc challcngcs you havc had and whcrc
your inncr sLrcngLh playcd a major rolc in carrying you Lhrough Lough
circumsLanccs`
DAHLMAN
In 200l, I was in Lhc proccss o building my drcam homc whcn I losL my job. I
wcnL rom six igurcs Lo zcro in iLccn minuLcs and was wondcring whaL jusL
happcncd. I had rcccnLly sold my currcnL rcsidcncc and had liLcrally handcd ovcr
Lhc kcys Lo Lhc ncw buycr. I was duc Lo closc Lhc ncxL wcck on Lhc ncw housc, only
to gcL back Lo my oicc and ind ouL LhaL my cnLirc sLa and I had bccn laid o!
IL was absoluLcly dcvasLaLing Lo mc bccausc I had puL down a largc sum o
moncy. Thc moncy was cvcnLually orciLcd duc Lo my noL bcing ablc Lo mccL Lhc
conLracL obligaLions Lo closc on Lhc purchasc o Lhc ncw homc. I no longcr
qualiicd or Lhc loan bccausc I had bccomc uncmploycd. I could noL gcL my
prcvious homc back, bccausc I had jusL closcd on Lhc salc. So, I wcnL rom a
bcauLiul, spacious homc Lo living in a scvcn-hundred-square-ooL aparLmcnL. I
had Lo kccp Lhc majoriLy o my pcrsonal urnishings and cloLhcs in a sLoragc lockcr
or Lwo ycars. IL was likc bcing a homclcss vagabond. I wcnL Lhrough monLhs o
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dcprcssion and somc days couldn'L cvcn gcL ouL o bcd. I gucss you could say I had
also complcLcly losL my aiLh in Cod.
During Lhis Limc, my moLhcr was my pillar o sLrcngLh. I rcmcmbcr calling hcr
crying and ccling sorry or myscl whcn shc said Lo mc, I LaughL you bcLLcr and
whcn did you sLarL cquaLing your scl-worLh wiLh maLcrial posscssions` Whcn did
my daughLcr bccomc a maLcrialisLic girl` Cod docsn'L cquaLc your scl-worLh wiLh
dcgrccs and maLcrialism so, why do you`"
WhaL I rcalizcd during Lhis cxpcricncc, and in Lhc LhoughL-provoking qucsLions
my moLhcr askcd mc, is LhaL I had madc Lhc maLcrial world my sourcc insLcad o
rclying on my Cod spiriL, which is my highcr powcr. FvcryLhing LhaL my moLhcr
had cvcr LaughL mc abouL bclicving in myscl, knowing who I am, and owning my
inhcrcnL powcr has givcn mc Lhc inncr sLrcngLh Lo gcL up and gcL moving whcn I
didn'L Lhink I had Lhc abiliLy Lo do so. ThaL's Lhc rcsilicncy o LhaL inncr sLrcngLh
LhaL movcs wiLhin all o us, i wc allow iL, and knowing wc arc Lhc crcaLors o our
world and noL our circumsLanccs.
WRIGHT
So whaL arc your corc valucs and do you bclicvc Lhcy playcd a rolc in shaping
your dcmcanor whcn going Lhrough dcvasLaLing circumsLanccs`
DAHLMAN
AbsoluLcly. And Lhis is whaL I will sharc wiLh you: I bclicvc rom a socializaLion
poinL wc havc Lhosc should havc" valucs LhaL arc passcd on rom our parcnLs and
socicLy. Howcvcr, as wc go ouL inLo Lhc world, grow, and maLurc, wc dcvclop our
own scL o valucs bascd upon our lic cxpcricnccs LhaL rcally shapc who wc arc as a
pcrson and inlucncc Lhc dccisions wc makc in our lic.
For insLancc, my corc valucs arc: SpiriLualiLy, AuLhcnLiciLy, DivcrsiLy o
ThoughL, and Frccdom o Choicc. Thcsc valucs arc insLillcd wiLhin mc and kccp mc
moving. Whcn advcrsc circumsLanccs sccm Lo indicaLc LhaL I can'L makc a
siLuaLion happcn, Lhc inncr spiriL LhaL cncompasscs Lhcsc valucs wiLhin mc says,
Oh, ycs I can and I will makc iL happcn." Your valucs givc you dirccLion and ocus.
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WRIGHT
So whaL would you likc Lo sharc wiLh Lhosc around you who arc going Lhrough
somc challcnging circumsLanccs, Lo gcL Lhcm Lhrough`
DAHLMAN
I would Lcll Lhcm LhaL wc all havc prospcrous and dry scasons in lic and wc
musL rccognizc Lhc scason wc arc in and Lakc advanLagc o iL. In good scasons,
savor whaL you havc and makc Lhc mosL o all your opporLuniLics wiLh wisdom.
Doing so will makc Lhc dry scasons morc Lolcrablc.
I would also sharc wiLh Lhcm LhaL Lhcrc is no such Lhing as a normal lic"
Lhcrc is jusL lic. Wc livc in an cvcr-changing world and noLhing is sLaLic.
WRIGHT
In your corc valucs, you mcnLioncd auLhcnLiciLy. WhaL docs LhaL mcan in your
lic`
DAHLMAN
To mc, auLhcnLiciLy is bcing Lruc Lo yourscl and undcrsLanding who you arc as
a personyour corc sLrcngLh, your bclics, and your valuc sysLcms. Thcsc arc whaL
makc you uniqucly you. As much as I'd likc Lo bc Hallc Bcrry, I'm noLI'm Iu
Vorisc Dahlman. I havc my own uniquc innaLc abiliLics LhaL wcrc givcn Lo mc rom
birLh and bascd upon Lhcsc giLs, I was crcaLcd Lo ill a placc LhaL only I can ill and
no oLhcr. Wc as individuals nccd Lo own our own inhcrcnL powcr and noL lcL Lhc
world's pcrccpLion o us bccomc our rcaliLy. You musL Think as Lhough you arc
and you shall bc." Thcrc is ncvcr a nccd Lo compcLc, only Lo crcaLc. Your uniquc
LalcnLs arc Lhc sourcc o your auLhcnLiciLy.
WRIGHT
You rccr Lo yourscl as a visionary lcadcr. In whaL way arc you a visionary and
do you havc a vision or yourscl`
DAHLMAN
Oh, absoluLcly. My visionary lcadcrship cncompasscs an inLuiLivcncss Lo scc
bcyond jusL whaL is in ronL and back o mc. For cxamplc, I scc Lhc currcnL
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dcmographic changcs LhaL arc Laking placc wiLhin Lhc UniLcd SLaLcs and how Lhcy
arc going Lo accL Lhc way LradiLional busincss paradigms will havc Lo changc Lo
sLay markcLablc Lo clicnLs and cvcn Lo rccruiL LalcnL.
Thcrc arc morc womcn cnLrcprcncurs Lhan cvcr bcorc, in parLicular, Arican
Amcrican womcn. Wc currcnLly havc an inlux o immigranLs and
cnLrcprcncurship is Lhc norm or LhcmLhcy arc morc cnLrcprcncurially mindcd.
My visionary leadership also sees a reLurn Lo cnLrcprcncurship or mosL
Amcricans duc Lo Lhc currcnL sLaLc o Lhc cconomy and Lhc collapsc o major
corporaLions. To mc, bcing a visionary lcadcr is sccing Lhc changing Lrcnds and
bcing in sync wiLh Lhc low o Lhcm, howcvcr, nciLhcr in Lhc ronL nor in Lhc back
o Lhcm. My pcrsonal vision is Lo usc my voicc Lo communicaLc, cducaLc, and
inspirc inncr spiriLualiLy, auLhcnLiciLy, divcrsiLy o LhoughL, and rccdom o choicc
or humaniLy Lhrough my sLoryLclling, pocms, and pcrsonal coaching.
WRIGHT
So how imporLanL is iL or individuals Lo havc a vision or Lhcmsclvcs and Lo
undcrsLand Lhcir valucs whcn Lhcy'rc going Lhrough advcrsc circumsLanccs`
DAHLMAN
I will quoLc Dr. Milcs Monroc who said, Whcn you do noL undcrsLand a
purposc o a Lhing, abusc is incviLablc." Abusc" is a Lcrm LhaL is acLually madc up
o Lwo wordsabnormal usc." I a pcrson docs noL undcrsLand who hc or shc is
as a pcrson and whaL his or hcr corc valucs arc, Lhcn abusc is incviLablc.
WhaL Lhis mcans Lo mc is LhaL wc will cngagc in acLiviLics and makc dccisions
LhaL arc noL in alignmcnL wiLh our vision and valucs, doing Lhis Lakcs us urLhcr
away rom whcrc wc wanL Lo go. Wc all should havc a vision and a lcxiblc plan as
Lo whcrc wc would likc Lo go and how Lo gcL Lhcrc.
For cxamplc, i I wanL Lo gcL Lo A, will Lhc currcnL acLiviLics I'm doing and Lhc
dccisions I'm making gcL mc Lhcrc` Or will my dccisions and acLiviLics Lakc mc
urLhcr away rom my goal o rcaching A` I my dccisions and acLiviLics don'L align
wiLh whcrc I wanL Lo go and wiLh Lhc vision I havc, Lhcn I won'L makc iL. Howcvcr,
i Lhc acLiviLics and dccisions gcL mc closcr Lo my goal o A and aligns wiLh whcrc I
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wanL Lo go in my lic, Lhcn I musL makc Lhosc dccisions and do Lhosc acLiviLics LhaL
will Lakc mc Lhcrc.
From a busincss pcrspccLivc o having a vision, I likc Lo usc Lhc cxamplc o Cap
Inc. Thc corporaLion's original vision or Lhcir cloLhing linc had bccn builL around
khaki panLs, whiLc shirLs, and bluc jcans producLs. Thcy losL sighL o Lhcir original
vision and sLarLcd carrying oLhcr producL lincs, Lhcy almosL wcnL brokc unLil Lhcy
wcnL back Lo Lhc original vision and purposc or Lhcir busincss.
WhcLhcr iL is a pcrson or corporaLion, wc all should havc a vision and a lcxiblc
plan Lo gcL us Lhcrc.
WRIGHT
You know, somcbody Lold mc a long Limc ago i you'rc walking down Lhc road
and you scc a LurLlc siLLing on Lop o a cncc posL, you can bclicvc hc didn'L gcL up
Lhcrc by himscl.
In Lhis prcscnL day and Limc, who arc Lhc pcoplc you admirc` Will you namc
somc pcoplc who havc had an inlucncc and hclpcd you in your lic`
DAHLMAN
I would say irsL o all my moLhcr, AlbcrLa 3ohnson, has had a proound
inlucncc on my lic. Shc was so wisc, wiLLy, and smarL.
Thc sccond pcrson whom I adorc Lrcmcndously is Maya Angclou. Maya
Angclou spcaks rom Lhc hcarL in LhaL Lruc csscncc o aiLh, couragc, and wisdom
in knowing who you arc in your own inhcrcnL powcr. I absoluLcly lovc hcr or LhaL.
Thc Lhird pcrson is Condolcczza Ricc. I admirc hcr or hcr sLraLcgic acumcn and
shccr inLclligcncc.
WRIGHT
Sound likc Lhrcc good oncs.
I know you'vc bccn inLcrvicwcd a loL LhroughouL your carccr and I was
wondcring, whaL's Lhc worsL qucsLion you'vc cvcr bccn askcd`
Lu Vorise Dahlman
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DAHLMAN
Having a human rcsourccs background, I can Lcll you LhaL onc o Lhc worsL
qucsLions inLcrvicwcrs ask is: whcrc do you scc yourscl in ivc ycars` Why puL a
Limc limiL on yourscl` ALcr all, hal a sccond can changc your lic and wc all know
LhaL licpcrsonal or procssionalis noL sLaLic. A bcLLcr qucsLion would bc, whaL
is Lhc vision you havc or yourscl in ulilling your currcnL rolc and how docs iL
rclaLc Lo your cnvironmcnL` This qucsLion is bcLLcr in my opinion bccausc iL
allows Lhc spacc Lo spcak Lo Lhc vision LhaL a pcrson would likc Lo crcate and have
Lo livc bcyond Lhcmsclvcs.
WRIGHT
IV, I know you'rc a big advocaLc or womcn, whaL advicc would you givc Lo
womcn sLruggling Lo ind Lhcmsclvcs and Lhcir inncr sLrcngLh, whcLhcr iL's in a
job, rclaLionship, or cnLrcprcncurism`
DAHLMAN
WhaL I would say Lo womcn sLruggling wiLh a job, a rclaLionship, or in
cnLrcprcncurism, is Lo ind and own your inhcrcnL powcr. Know who you arc and
whcrc you arc going and makc dccisions bascd upon your vision and valucs. I also
ask LhaL Lhcy sLand up or whaL Lhcy bclicvc. Thc mosL imporLanL Lhing or a
woman is Lo lisLcn Lo Lhc sLill small inLuiLivc voicc insidc o hcr and ollow
Lhrough. InLuiLivcly, wc all know whaL Lo do, Lhc problcm is jusL doing iL.
WRIGHT
WhaL arc a couplc o your avoriLc quoLcs and would you Lcll our rcadcrs why`
DAHLMAN
I'm going Lo havc Lo go back Lo Maya Angclou who said, Whcn pcoplc show
you who Lhcy arc, bclicvc Lhcm Lhc irsL Limc." Pcoplc makc known who Lhcy arc
by Lhcir bchavior. IL all gocs back Lo knowing your voicc, knowing who you arc, and
LrusLing your insLincLs, cspccially whcn iL comcs Lo inLcracLing wiLh oLhcr pcoplc.
My sccond avoriLc quoLc is: Powcr movcs buL is ncvcr movcd." This is bccausc
powcr is inhcrcnL and implicd whcn you undcrsLand iL. And Lhcrc is no greater
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powcr Lhan inhcrcnL powcr, which is your pcrsonal powcr as Lhc uniquc bcing you
arc. Whcn you know your powcr, you can movc buL noL bc movcd.
WRIGHT
So whaL words o cncouragcmcnL would you lcavc or Lhosc sLruggling Lhrough
Lough Limcs`
DAHLMAN
FirsL o all, I would Lcll Lhcm Lo own Lhcir own inhcrcnL powcr and know LhaL
Lhcy arc whcrc Lhcy arc supposcd Lo bc aL any givcn Limc bascd upon Lhc dccisions
Lhcy havc madc in Lhc pasL and prcscnL. You can only dcmonsLraLc whcrc you arc
mcnLallyyou can'L Lhink onc Lhing and producc anoLhcr.
Thc kcy is Lo undcrsLand who you arc and whcrc you wanL Lo go. You havc Lo
sLay ocuscd. I'm noL saying LhaL Lhcrc will noL bc challcngcs. AL Limcs you mighL
havc Lo adapL and changc your approach, howcvcr, you havc Lo sLay ocuscd,
whcLhcr iL's pursuing Lhc prcsidcncy and/or bcing Lhc bcsL moLhcr in Lhc world.
WRIGHT
WiLh your job Lhcrc aL IVD Croup, you coach and rccruiL individuals. You also
coach groups wiLh your cmpowcring Lcchniqucs. WhaL is iL LhaL you do or Lhcm`
Arc you availablc or Lhcm all Lhc Limc` Do you go Lo Lhcm` 3usL whaL do you do`
DAHLMAN
IL is rcally bascd upon my clicnLs' nccds. I Lhcy would likc Lo do onc-on-one, or
acc-to-acc, I'm availablc Lo accommodaLc Lhcm. Thc coaching scssions can bc via
phonc concrcncc, cybcr-coaching, or in pcrson.
WRIGHT
And you hclp Lhcm makc dccisions`
DAHLMAN
As a coach, I bclicvc LhaL clicnLs havc Lhc answcrs wiLhin Lhcmsclvcs. My
mission is Lo kccp clicnLs ocuscd on rcaching Lhcir vision and goals by asking
thought-provoking qucsLions and holding Lhcm accounLablc or doing whaL Lhcy
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say Lhcy'rc going Lo do. I by cngaging in Lhcsc acLiviLics wiLh my clicnLs I assisL
Lhcm in making dccisions, Lhcn I supposc I do hclp Lhcm makc dccisions.
UlLimaLcly, howcvcr, Lhcir dccisions arc Lhcir own.
WRIGHT
WhaL's Lhc mosL diiculL Lhing you havc Lo do` IcL's say you'rc coaching mc
and I'm rcally noL ollowing Lhrough on your advicc. WhaL's Lhc mosL diiculL
Lhing you havc Lo go Lhrough`
DAHLMAN
I Lhink bcing honcsL and saying, Hcy, Mr. [or Ms.] ClicnL, Lhis is whaL you
askcd mc Lo do, Lhis is whaL you hircd mc Lo do, howcvcr, wc'rc doing X, Y, and Z.
So I havc Lo Lcll you righL now LhaL Lhis is noL working. So, how do wc gcL back Lo
bcing ocuscd` My mission is your mission."
WRIGHT
Coaching musL bc Lough.
DAHLMAN
Thosc o us in Lhc procssion know LhaL you can'L mcasurc your succcss or LhaL
o your clicnLs in Lhc coaching rclaLionship i wc do noL scL and managc
cxpccLaLions. As a coach, i you scL and managc a clicnL's cxpccLaLions, Lhcn Lhc
coaching cxpcricncc will noL bc diiculL bccausc boLh parLics undcrsLand Lhc
cxpccLaLions and paramcLcrs o Lhc coaching rclaLionship.
WRIGHT
Wcll, I would bc rcmiss i I didn'L ask you Lhis inal qucsLion. Thc LiLlc o Lhis
book is Stepping Stones to Success, would you dcinc whaL you Lhink succcss is`
DAHLMAN
I Lhink abouL succcss in Lcrms o doing Lhc Lhings LhaL you wanL Lo do and
bcing in alignmcnL wiLh Lhc vision and goals LhaL you scL or yourscl. Truc succcss
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and ulillmcnL comcs rom bcing whcrc you wanL Lo bc and owning your own
Limc.
WRIGHT
ThaL rcally docs makc scnsc.
I rcally apprcciaLc all Lhis Limc you'vc Lakcn wiLh mc Lhis aLcrnoon Lo answcr
Lhcsc qucsLions. As I LhoughL in Lhc vcry bcginning, i I wcrc onc o your clicnLs I
Lhink I would bc in good hands. I havc rcally lcarncd a loL hcrc Loday abouL
coaching and abouL inncr sLrcngLhs.
DAHLMAN
Clad Lo bc availablc Lo you.
WRIGHT
Today wc'vc bccn Lalking wiLh Iu Vorisc Dahlman, IV," who is Foundcr and
PrcsidcnL o Lhc IVD Croup. Shc coachcs and rccruiLs individuals and groups wiLh
crcaLivc and cmpowcring Lcchniqucs LhaL, as I Lhink wc'vc ound ouL hcrc Loday,
arc rarc Lo corporaLc Amcrica.
IV, Lhank you so much or bcing wiLh us Loday on Stepping Stones to Success.
DAHLMAN
Thank you, David.
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A B O U T T HE A U T HOR
IU VORISF DAHIMAN is Foundcr and PrcsidcnL o Lhc IVD group whcrc shc
coachcs and rccruiLs individuals and groups wiLh crcaLivc and cmpowcring
Lcchniqucs, which is rarc in corporaLc Amcrica. Shc is an out-o-the-box Lhinkcr
who cncouragcs oLhcrs Lo look dccply wiLhin Lo discovcr Lhcir inncr LalcnLs and
corc sLrcngLhs. Hcr capLivaLing inLcracLions lcavc individuals and groups highly
moLivaLcd wiLh a rcncwcd mind and ocuscd vision. Shc has a conLagious
energy LhaL draws ouL Lhc bcsL in hcr clicnLs.
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C HA P T E R T WO
Ovcrcoming AnxicLy on
Your 3ourncy Lo Succcss
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . Joanna Cameron
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc arc Lalking wiLh Lhc Fnglish-born, 3oanna Camcron, who has a
docLoraLc in Clinical HypnoLhcrapy and is an insLrucLor o NcuroIinguisLic
Programming (NIP) and hypnosis. Shc is a mcmbcr o Lhc Amcrican Board o
HypnoLhcrapy. Bascd on Lcn ycars o cxpcricncc as a hypnoLhcrapisL in Mclcan,
Virginia, shc will bc shorLly publishing hcr irsL book, Forget Diets, Plant Tomatoes:
A Metaphoric, Hypnotic Journey to Heal Emotional Eating. In Stepping Stones to
Success, Dr. Camcron will ocus on how Lo usc your mind Lo conqucr sLrcss. Shc
bclicvcs in Lhc powcr o Lhc mind Lo hcal Lhc body and Lcachcs changc Lcchniqucs
Lo hcr clicnLs, collcgc sLudcnLs, and corporaLions. As Lhc Trancc Iady," shc
pcrorms as a comic hypnoLisL or high schools, collcgcs, and corporaLions, and
works wiLh Lhc InnovaLors Croup Inc., as a kcynoLc spcakcr. Hcr cncrgy and
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cnLhusiasm arc communicaLcd Lo cvcry audicncc. Shc looks orward Lo working
wiLh Lhc U.S. Army on upcoming shows in dicrcnL parLs o Lhc world.
Dr. Camcron, wclcomc Lo Stepping Stones to Success.
JOANNA CAMERON (CAMERON)
Wcll, Lhank you.
WRIGHT
WhaL's wrong wiLh anxicLy` Can'L I usc anxicLy as a moLivaLing acLor`
CAMERON
Challcngcs, dcadlincs, and obsLaclcs can indccd moLivaLc you. Howcvcr, anxicLy
is whaL causcs your mind Lo racc, Lo kccp saying: WhaL i`" I you continually
usc anxicLy Lo moLivaLc you, I would suggcsL you ind anoLhcr way. Thc Lroublc
wiLh anxicLy is Lhc baggagc." Slccp problcms, raising your voicc aL a amily
mcmbcr, bingc caLing, drinking, smoking cigarcLLcs, nail-biting, hair-pulling, or
oLhcr unwanLcd habiLs arc all unsucccssul sLraLcgics or dcaling wiLh anxicLy.
Fccling anxious can bc a Lriggcr or an unwanLcd bchavior LhaL lcavcs Lhc sucrcr
ccling worsc, shamcul, and Lhcn rcpcaLing Lhc samc bchavior. AnxicLy is likc a
dog chasing iLs Lail. WhaL arc your sLraLcgics I wondcr` Arc Lhcy succcssul or do
Lhcy makc you aL, drunk, unhcalLhy, ncrvous, and unhappy`
Hcrc's Lhc dcali you arc anxious, you arc noL ocuscd on whaL you wanL.
Succcssul pcoplc havc sLraLcgics or dcaling wiLh anxicLy so Lhcy can ocus on
doing Lhosc Lhings LhaL makc Lhcm happy and succcssul. WhaL you rcally havc in
lic is Lhc prcscnL." Consciously wc'vc labclcd Lhis time. How arc you going Lo
maximizc Lhc usc o your Limc Lo lcad a succcssul, passionaLc, purposc-driven
lic` Unsucccssul sLraLcgics rob you o valuablc Limc.
Thc goal o Lhis chapLcr is Lo hclp you Lo undcrsLand anxicLy, lcL go o
unsucccssul sLraLcgics o dcaling wiLh iL, scL goals or Lhc uLurc, and lcarn how to
bc rcally prcscnL" in your lic. Whcn you arc ully uncLioning in Lhc now, you are
pcaccul, rclaxcd, and living your lic aL iLs ullcsL. Through scl-hypnosis and the
rclcasc o ncgaLivc bclics, anyonc can ovcrcomc anxicLy and conccnLraLc on his or
hcr goals. Scl-hypnosis is noL an cxoLic proccss. Wc all havc Lhc abiliLy Lo do Lhis.
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WRIGHT
IL sounds likc wc'rc in or an cxciLing and proiLablc journcy. So how docs
anxicLy ccl, and why do wc gcL anxious i iL carrics so much baggagc`
CAMERON
Wcll, lcL mc givc you an cxamplc. IcL's supposc LhaL you arc a Masai warrior in
Lhc ScrcngcLi and you hcar a rusLling ouLsidc your mud huL in Lhc middlc o Lhc
nighL. You can acLually smcll Lhc lion. You grab your spcar. Thc hormoncs,
adrcnalinc, and corLisol sccp Lhrough your body and Lhc blood lows away rom
your sLomach Lo your arms and lcgs. Your hcarL bcaLs asLcr and your brcaLhing
dccpcns. You swcaL! Your pupils dilaLc. Thc momcnL slows. You are ready to
proLccL your amily or run away Lo proLccL yourscl. This is Lhc so callcd ighL-or-
lighL" rcsponsc. IL scrvcd primiLivc man wcll whcn Lhc primary issuc was survival.
Today, howcvcr, Lhc lions arc rcplaccd by compuLcrs LhaL rcczc, Lraic that
comcs Lo a grinding halL, miscrablc bosscs, phonc sysLcms dcvoid o humans, and
all Lhc nuisanccs o cvcryday lic. Thcsc, plus oLhcr modcrn-day aggravaLions kccp
us rcvvcd up and prcparcd or baLLlc."
AnxicLy ccls likc a dripping auccL LhaL nccds ixingan internal grind or an
alarm LhaL won'L Lurn o. Many o my clicnLs do noL rcalizc LhaL Lhcy arc anxious,
and whaL is pcrhaps morc imporLanL is LhaL Lhcy havc a choicc in Lhc maLLcr. Thcy
can ix Lhc auccL, and Lurn o Lhc inLcrnal grind and Lhc alarm. AnxicLy acLually is
a lack o ocus. IL's your own scl Lalk. AnxicLy is a sign LhaL you'rc noL prcscnL in
the now. Whcn you arc prcscnL and ocuscd, anxicLy is gonc. You acLually ccl
ocuscd and rclaxcd.
WRIGHT
So whaL is anxicLy aL Lhc physiological lcvcl o your body`
CAMERON
Okay, your body has a ccnLral ncrvous sysLcm composcd o your brain and
spinal cord (wiLh connccLcd ncrvcs). Wc'vc all had Lhc cxpcricncc o bcing Lappcd
on Lhc kncc in Lhc docLor's oicc, and Lhc kncc movcs upward in an involunLary
ashion. This is a simplc ncrvous connccLion rom Lhc kncc Lo your spinal cord.
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You havc anoLhcr, slowcr inormaLion sysLcm LhaL LransmiLs cmoLional
inormaLion. This is whaL is looscly callcd Lhc limbic sysLcm," which is composcd
o glands aL Lhc Lop o your spinal cord in Lhc mosL primiLivc parL o your brain.
Thcsc glands includc Lhc amygdala, Lhc hypoLhalamus, Lhc piLuiLary gland, and
scvcral oLhcrs. Whcn you ccl anxious, cmoLional inormaLion is scnL Lo cvcry ccll
in Lhc body by ncrvous sccrcLions, callcd ncuroLransmiLLcrs. All o Lhc cclls in your
body rcccivc Lhis inormaLion.
AnxicLy is noL jusL in your brain, iL's in your gasLroinLcsLinal LracL, your pupils,
and cvcry parL o your body. Whcn Lhc ighL-or-lighL rcsponsc is Lriggcrcd, you
producc dopaminc (along wiLh corLisol and adrcnalinc) LhaL rcvs you up likc a shoL
o cacinc. IL acLivaLcs your sysLcm.
IL may Lhcn Lakc you a whilc Lo calm down as your body changcs ovcr Lo Lhc
producLion o scroLonin (you could say scroLonin is a closc rclaLivc o Sarah Palin,
who is a mood-changcr in hcr own righL! Now, I'm jusL kidding, David!) ScroLonin
rclaxcs you, ocuscs your LhoughLs, lowcrs your blood prcssurc, slows your
brcaLhing, and calms you down. I you havc chronic anxicLy, Lhcn you arc vcry
good aL producing dopaminc and you nccd hclp in manuacLuring scroLonin.
I know whaL you'rc LhinkingWhy don'L I jusL purchasc somc scroLonin ovcr
Lhc counLcr`" Thc answcr is simplc. Your body is much bcLLcr aL rcgulaLing iLs own
ncuroLransmiLLcrs or cmoLional inormaLion. Whcn you Lakc a pill, iL accLs cvcry
ccll in your body. I you cvcr havc Lakcn a pain pill, you havc mcrciully clL rclic
rom Lhc pain buL Lhcn you'rc consLipaLcd. Oh dcar! Kccp rcading bccausc I will
soon Lalk abouL ways Lo Lakc conLrol o anxicLy by Laking conLrol o your mood.
Ycs, you can changc your LhoughLs, producc morc scroLonin, and changc your
mood aL Lhc samc Limc.
In addiLion Lo Lhc ncuroLransmiLLcrs dopaminc and scroLonin produccd by Lhc
hypoLhalamus and amygdala, Lhc piLuiLary gland scnds a mcssagc Lo Lhc adrcnal
glands, which in Lurn rclcasc Lhc hormoncs corLisol and adrcnalinc during Lhc
ighL-or-lighL rcsponsc. BoLh hormoncs mobilizc Lhc body Lo producc glucosc or
sugar, providing nccdcd cncrgy Lo rcsisL Lhc sLrcssor and, in Lhc proccss, sLimulaLc
oLhcr proccsscs LhaL, whcn continually activated, unorLunaLcly accclcraLc aging o
Lhc body and accumulaLion o body aL in Lhc sLomach arca. ConLinucd producLion
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o corLisol wcakcns Lhc adrcnal glandsLhcy basically run ouL o gas." Thc
unorLunaLc pcrson will cxpcricncc sympLoms o chronic anxicLy.
Thc problcm is noL Lhc rcsponsc o Lhc bodyLhc problcm is how Lo Lurn o
Lhc pcrccpLion o sLrcss. I dcinc sLrcss" as Lhc clcmcnLs ouLsidc o your body and
anxicLy as Lhosc proccsscs wiLhin your body. Thc good ncws is LhaL wc havc a
choicc wiLh sLrcss. WhaL onc pcrson dcincs as sLrcssul is waLcr o a duck's back"
Lo anoLhcr. How do wc Lurn o Lhc Lap` How do wc rcscL Lhc sLrcss buLLon so wc
can producc scroLonin and ccl rclaxcd`
WRIGHT
So whaL arc Lhc sympLoms o chronic anxicLy`
CAMERON
IcL's sLarL wiLh bclly aL. Thosc aL bcllics arc acLually sLorcs o aL in Lhc livcr
LhaL prcvcnL Lhc livcr rom rcmoving insulin. So, insulin lcvcls risc, causing hcarL
aLLacks, incrcascd possibiliLy o sLrokc, morc abdominal obcsiLy, and cvcnLually
diabcLcs.
PcrsisLcnL hcadachcs, musclc Lcnsion, hcarL palpiLaLions, hoL lashcs,
jumpincss, irriLabiliLy, Lcarulncss, and insomnia arc likcly sympLoms o chronic
anxicLy. Thc laLLcr can Lriggcr irraLional cars, phobias, and panic aLLacks and cvcn
obsessive-compulsivc disordcrs. (I had a clicnL, who would lcavc hcr homc and
Lhcn rcpcaLcdly rcLurn, convinccd LhaL shc had lcL Lhc sLovc on.)
During Lhc sLrcss rcsponsc, blood is shulcd away rom Lhc inLcsLines, as it is
nccdcd clscwhcrc. DigcsLion o ood comcs Lo a halL. This is Lhc rcason LhaL
gasLroinLcsLinal complainLs arc ubiquiLous wiLh chronic anxicLy rcsulLing in
diarrhca, nausca, and irriLablc bowcl syndromc. (Nobody ccls good whcn Lhcir
intestines arc ouL o whack!) Also, iL is csLimaLcd LhaL abouL 20 Lo 30 pcrccnL o
pcoplc wiLh anxicLy disordcrs sucr rom dcprcssion. So, i you havc a pcrsisLcnL
low mood, havc diiculLy uncLioning, and gcLLing ouL o bcd, iL is imporLanL LhaL
you scc your mcdical docLor. Thcrc arc shorL-Lcrm mcdicaLions LhaL can liL your
mood whilc you lcarn Lhc oLhcr Lcchniqucs LhaL arc mcnLioncd hcrc.
Chronic anxicLy lowcrs your immuniLy so sucrcrs arc morc susccpLiblc Lo
colds and lu. Bccausc o Lhc conLinucd acLivaLion o Lhc sLrcss hormoncs, Lhc
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disease-ighLing cclls (likc whiLc blood cclls), arc gcLLing Lhc mcssagc Lo bc
dormanL or sLop ighLing bccausc Lhc body is conccnLraLcd on mobilizaLion raLhcr
Lhan growLh and proLccLion. Your abiliLy Lo dcal wiLh anxicLy will likcly accL how
long you livc.
So, I hopc I havc your aLLcnLion as wc considcr urLhcr how anxicLy is gcncraLcd
and mainLaincd.
WRIGHT
Why is an undcrsLanding o Lhc unconscious mind" imporLanL in conLrolling
anxicLy`
CAMERON
Thc Lcrm unconscious mind" is Lhc samc as subconscious mind." Your
unconscious mind is simply whaL is ouL o consciousncss aL any givcn momcnL.
Your conscious mind is whaL you arc awarc o righL now, iL is gcncrally agrccd LhaL
you can handlc abouL scvcn biLs o inormaLion consciously now. So, as you arc
siLLing rcading Lhis, you arc awarc o Lhc words on Lhc pagc, pcrhaps a ccling, Lhc
sound o a compuLcr an, Lhc vicw ouLsidc Lhc window, Lhc LcmpcraLurc, whaL's in
your pcriphcral vision, or how Lhc chair ccls on Lhc back o your lcgs. BuL, you arc
noL awarc o your unconscious uncLions, such as brcaLhing or cyc blinking unlcss I
bring Lhcm Lo your conscious aLLcnLion.
AL any givcn Limc you can considcr approximaLcly scvcn biLs o inormaLion
(Millcr, l056). Thcsc scvcn biLs o inormaLion arc in Lurn sclccLivcly ilLcrcd and
mcasurcd againsL your oLhcr mcmorics, valucs, bclics, and aLLiLudcs and
inLcrprcLcd accordingly. You basically puL your own spin on Lhosc biLs. This is why
wc havc dicrcnL inLcrprcLaLions o Lhc samc cvcnL. Havc you cvcr bccn Lo a
amily parLy whcn Lwo pcoplc arc rccounLing an cxpcricncc Lhcy had LogcLhcr`
Onc pcrson rclaLcs Lhc cxpcricncc onc way and Lhc oLhcr says, No, iL didn'L
happcn LhaL way. WhaL I rcmcmbcr is." Wc all choosc dicrcnL biLs o
inormaLion Lo rcmcmbcr. This is why somc pcoplc arc anxious in ccrLain
siLuaLions and oLhcrs arc noL.
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The conscious mind is just the tip of the iceberg, there is so much more below the
surface, and thats your unconscious mind. Whats driving your anxiety is under the
water.
Your unconscious mind has unlimiLcd sLoragc, cvcn or sLu you don'L wanL
(Pcnicld, l054). IL's always lisLcning. Imaginc a lashlighL in a dark room. Thc
bcam o lighL is your conscious mind and Lhc unconscious mind is cvcrything else
in Lhc dark room. 3usL bccausc you cannoL scc iL docs noL mcan iL's noL Lhcrcits
always Lhcrc. IL is Lhc unconscious mind LhaL conLrols appcLiLc, mainLains habiLs,
bclics, cmoLions, and is a sLorchousc o your mcmorics. Fvcn Lhough you ccl
cmoLions aL Lhc conscious lcvcl, Lhcy arc gcncraLcd and mainLaincd aL Lhc
unconscious lcvcl. Thcrcorc, wc musL dcal wiLh Lhc unconscious mind Lo gcL Lo
Lhc corc o anxicLy.
The drivers of your anxiety are limiting beliefs, faulty boundaries, and negative
emotions that reside in your unconscious mind. Healing your anxiety and related habits,
dear reader, means healing your unconscious mind and giving it new direction and
purpose.
IcL's supposc you havc a craving or poLaLo chips. You smcll Lhcm. You salivaLc.
You wanL Lhcm cvcn morc. You imaginc Lhc crackling sounds as you chcw Lhcm.
You producc morc saliva. Your anxicLy incrcascs. Your unconscious mind pcrsisLs
in knocking on your door." You may havc dccidcd Lo not caL Lhc poLaLo chips, buL
inally you go ahcad and caL Lhcm. Ycs, you madc a conscious dccision Lo rcsisL Lhc
chips, buL Lhc ordcrs arc carricd ouL by your unconscious mind, which pcrsuadcd
you oLhcrwisc.
The craving for the potato chips is a symptom that your conscious
and unconscious are not on the same page.
You consciously wanL Lo makc Lhc hcalLhy choicc, buL your unconscious has a
dicrcnL prccrcncc. Your unconscious wins. ThaL's righLyou cannoL sLop caLing
Lhc chips consciously, oLhcrwisc you could jusL say, Okay, don'L do LhaL anymorc,"
and LhaL would bc Lhc cnd o iL. BuL, iL docsn'L always work LhaL way, docs iL`
OLhcrwisc you would noL bc rcading Lhis! AnxicLy rcars iLs ugly hcad and so do Lhc
rclaLcd unconscious bchaviors.
Imaginc a ship i you willonc o Lhosc Lall oncs wiLh billowing sails! IL is Lhc
capLain who makcs inal dccisions, including Lhc ship's iLincrary and Lhc wcll-being
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o Lhc crcw. IL is Lhc crcw's rcsponsibiliLy Lo carry ouL Lhosc dccisions. Thc capLain
is Lhc conscious mind and Lhc crcw, Lhc unconscious mind. IL all works wcll unLil
Lhcrc is a muLiny! AnxicLy is rcqucnLly Lhc Lriggcr or muLiny, which in Lurn
manicsLs iLscl as cmoLional caLing, bingc caLing, ood cravings, ood obscssion,
smoking, drug usc, alcohol dcpcndcncc, ovcrspcnding, nail-biting, hair-pulling,
and hoL lashcs. Chronic anxicLy also cxaccrbaLcs panic disordcrs, phobias, and
slccp problcms, including posL-LraumaLic sLrcss disordcr.
WRIGHT
So whaL bclics will scrvc mc as I cmpowcr myscl Lo ovcrcomc anxicLy and ccl
pcaccul`
CAMERON
Hcrc is whaL MahaLma Candhi had Lo say abouL bclics:
Your bclics bccomc your LhoughLs
Your LhoughLs bccomc your words
Your words bccomc your acLions
Your acLions bccomc your habiLs
Your habiLs bccomc your valucs
Your valucs bccomc your dcsLiny
Plcasc look aL Lhc ollowing Lcn bclics as airmaLivc sLaLcmcnLs.
Belief Number 1: I Believe that the Mind Affects the Body.
Fvcr sincc Lhc irsL ncuroLransmiLLcrs wcrc discovcrcd in Lhc carly l070s, wc havc
gaincd an undcrsLanding o how cmoLional inormaLion is LransmiLLcd by Lhc limbic
sysLcm Lo cvcry organ o Lhc body (PcrL, l007).
WhaL you Lhink accLs you physically. RcaliLy is our own uniquc inLcrprcLaLionit is a
subjccLivc cxpcricncc. Dccpak Chopra csLimaLcs LhaL wc havc l6,000 LhoughLs a day. WhaL
is a liLLlc sad is LhaL 00 pcrccnL o Lhc LhoughLs LhaL wc had ycsLcrday arc Lhc samc as
Loday. Oh dcar! How do wc changc Lhosc LhoughLs so wc can brcak Lhc cyclc o ncgaLivc
Lhinking and ncgaLivc bchavior paLLcrns`
Belief Number 2: I believe that I get in Life what I Focus On.
I I sLand ovcr my gol ball and Lhink abouL Lhc lakc in ronL o mc, whcrc docs Lhc gol
ball go` In Lhc lakc, o coursc! I I say Lo you David, whaLcvcr you do, do noL Lhink abouL a
bluc Lrcc, whaL do you Lhink abouL`
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WRIGHT
A bluc Lrcc.
CAMERON
This is bccausc your unconscious mind docs noL compuLc ncgaLivc Lcrms. Whcn
you ocus on your passion in licwhaL you wanLyou will bc ulillcd. AnxicLy is
a lack o ulillmcnL, a spiriLual void, or Lhc accumulaLion o ncgaLivc cmoLions
wiLhin Lhc body. AnxicLy is a mcssagc rom your unconscious mind LhaL you nccd
Lo ocus on whaL you wanL (3amcs, l0S0).
Belief Number 3: I Am Responsible for Where I Am Today. When I Accept The Present I Can
Change the Future.
IcL's look aL Laking rcsponsibiliLy by considcring Lhc words causc" and cccL" sidc by
sidc.
Cause Effect
Imaginc causc" gcLLing biggcr whilc cccL" gcLs smallcr and smallcr. Causc"
hcrc mcans simply LhaL you consciously choose how you lcad your lic. You nccd Lo
bc on Lhc causc" sidcyou wanL Lo bc aL causc." You don'L wanL Lo bc aL
cccL"aL Lhc mcrcy o causcs LhaL you do noL choosc. Taking rcsponsibiliLy is
orgcLLing abouL blamc. WhaLcvcr happcncd in licwhcLhcr good or badthere
is no blamc. Thcrc is simply somcLhing Lo lcarn. Pcoplc, placcs, and Lhings arc noL
Lhc causc o your anxicLyiL is your inLcrprcLaLion o Lhosc cvcnLs LhaL causcs Lhc
anxicLy. Whcn you changc your LhoughLs, you can changc your body. WhaL you
imaginc Loday will bc your uLurc.
Belief Number 4: I Was Born Perfect and I Still Am.
This bclic is an anLidoLc Lo Lhc scl-limiLing car o criLicism. Somc pcoplc alscly
bclicvc LhaL Lhcy nccd Lo bc pcrccL Lo mcriL approval rom oLhcrs. Thcy may havc acquircd
Lhis bclic in childhood. Whcn Lhcy acccpL LhaL wc arc all impcrccLly pcrccL, Lhcy arc
much happicr.
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Belief Number 5: I Believe That There Is Never Failure, There Is Just New Information. Every
Situation Is An Opportunity For Learning.
AnxicLy ccls likc car wiLh nowhcrc Lo go. Thc car unorLunaLcly is manicsLcd
dcLrimcnLally in Lhc body, or Lhc anxicLy is a Lriggcr or unwanLcd habiLs.
Somc pcoplc car ailurc and Lhcy scL Lhcmsclvcs up Lo ncvcr push or cxLcnd
Lhcmsclvcs in any way. Thc word can'L" is commonly uscd, as in: I can'L makc cnough
moncy." OLhcr pcoplc car rcjccLion and, in my cxpcricncc as a hypnoLhcrapisL, Lhis is Lhc
mosL common car. Thc aulLy bclic o noL bcing good cnough" is unorLunaLcly lcarncd
in childhood and iL manicsLs iLscl in poor scl-csLccm and rclaLcd anxicLy.
Belief Number 6: I Believe That Good Exists In All Situations. I Will Seek Out That Good.
So, posiLivc Lhinking is a musL. This docs noL mcan LhaL you do noL cxprcss ncgaLivc
cmoLionsiL jusL mcans LhaL you puL a posiLivc ramc around cvcnLs. Whcn Lhc day sLarLs
wcll, you ccl good, and you usually conLinuc Lo ccl LhaL way LhroughouL Lhc day.
Howcvcr, whcn you gcL up on Lhc wrong sidc o Lhc bcd," Lhc day sccms Lo progrcss LhaL
way.
Belief Number 7: I Believe That At Any Time Of Day, I Have The Choice To Start My Day
Over.
Your unconscious mind lovcs iL whcn your conscious mind looks on Lhc brighL sidc o
Lhings. This is bcing Lhc capLain o your shipyou havc Lhc powcr Lo changc your
cmoLional sLaLc aL any Limc.
Belief Number 8: I Must Forgive Myself As Readily As I Forgive Others.
DclcLc Lhc word blamc" rom your vocabulary and bc irm wiLh your unconscious mind
abouL LhaL. Civc iL a good Lalking Lo. And by Lhc samc Lokcn, oLhcr pcoplc arc doing jusL
Lhc bcsL Lhcy can, living lic in rcsponsc Lo whaLcvcr Lhcir modcl o Lhc world is aL any
givcn Limc.
ThroughouL your lic, pcoplc havc judgcd you and you havc judgcd Lhcm, buL LhaL acL
crcaLcs scparaLion bcLwccn you and Lhcm. ScparaLion causcs lonclincss and unhappincss.
3udging oLhcrs dcplcLcs you o cncrgy. IL acLually makcs you ccl a liLLlc crummy and
induccs anxicLy. Havc you cvcr cnLcrLaincd Lhc LhoughL LhaL wc may all bc Lhc samc souls
in a dicrcnL disguisc` No onc is inhcrcnLly any bcLLcr Lhan you.
I wanL you Lo imaginc Lhc words judgmcnL" and wisdom." Fvcry day judgmcnL gcLs
smallcr and wisdom gcLs biggcr.
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WISDOM Judgment
Belief Number 9: I Believe That I Have All The Resources Within Me To Self-Heal.
I you arc Lruly aL causc, Lhcn you acccpL rcsponsibiliLy or your lic. I you crcaLcd Lhc
problcm, Lhcn Lhc rcvcrsc musL bc Lrucyou can rcvcrsc iL.
Belief Number 10: I Believe That I Have A Unique Purpose In Life; I Must Seek That Purpose.
WhaL drivcs you in lic` WhaL is imporLanL Lo you` An undcrsLanding o your valucs
and purposc givcs moLivaLion, dirccLion, and mcaning Lo your lic. This is Lhc ruddcr"
under the boat. Your body rcsponds Lo LhaL dirccLion. Whcn you losc dirccLion and
mcaning or you givc up," so docs your body.
WRIGHT
So whaL arc Lhc sLcps Lo conqucring anxicLy`
CAMERON
Thcrc arc six sLcps:
l. I obLain an undcrsLanding o whaL anxicLy is Lhrough rcading and rcscarch.
2. I dccidc LhaL I wanL Lo lcL go o anxicLy.
3. I acccpL Lhc Lcn bclics LhaL arc sLaLcd abovc.
4. I Lakc ull rcsponsibiliLy or my anxicLy.
5. I scL a plan or cvcryday lic, which includcs propcr nuLriLion, mcdiLaLion, scl-
hypnosis, cxcrcisc, Limc ouLdoors, and social conLacL.
6. I scL goals in cvcry arca o my licspiriLual, pcrsonal growLh, hcalLh and
iLncss, busincss, and rclaLionships.
(Go to www.joannacameron.com for instructions on how to set effective goalsSMART Goals.)
WRIGHT
How docs scl-hypnosis Lcach mc Lo changc my cmoLional sLaLc and lcL go o
anxicLy`
CAMERON
WiLhouL cxccpLion, David, cvcrybody I'vc cvcr hypnoLizcd Lclls mc LhaL hc or
shc ccls rcally rclaxcd aLcr Lhc cxpcricncc. In ordcr Lo dcal wiLh anxicLy, wc musL
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Lalk Lo Lhc unconscious mind, which is Lhc sLorchousc o our cmoLions and runs
our bodics. Whcn you insLrucL Lhc body Lo lcL go o anxicLy, iL has an amazing way
o hcaling. In acL, simplc awarcncss and acccpLancc LhaL anxicLy accLs your body
is oLcn cnough Lo aciliLaLc changc.
Whcn you arc hypnoLizcd, Lhc conscious dccision-making mind Lakcs a hikc,"
allowing Lhc unconscious mind Lo comc Lo Lhc suracc. IL is your unconscious mind
LhaL is susccpLiblc Lo suggcsLion. This is a good Lhing. Hypnosis jusL ccls likc
rclaxaLion. You arc LoLally awarc whcn you arc hypnoLizcd. In acL, you'rc an acLivc
parL o Lhc hypnoLic proccss and hypnoLizc yourscl all Lhc Limc in cvcryday lic.
You havc Lo hypnoLizc yourscl Lo all aslccp aL nighL. You'rc vcry good at
hypnosis. You jusL nccd Lo channcl Lhis skill and do iL cvcry day. So arc you
moLivaLcd Lo go inLo a Lrancc David`
WRIGHT
I will admiL LhaL iL sounds casicr as you Lalk.
CAMERON
You may ind LhaL rcading Lhis makcs your cycs closc. Plcasc do noL drivc a car
and lisLcn Lo Lhc CD o Lhis chapLcr (availablc aL www.joannacamcron.com) aL Lhc
samc Limc.
This is a hypnoLic cxcrcisciL involvcs closing your cycs.
Now, you are sitting there. And, you are breathing in and out. And, you get into a
position of maximum comfort. And, you are relaxed. And, you are reading this book as
you are motivated to be a healthier person. And, you will find it easy to go into a trance
listening to or reading my words. And can you find a spot on the wall in front of you that
you can look at comfortably? And as you look at that spotdo your eyelids want to
blink? And will they flutter first or close completely as you allow your comfort to deepen?
Thats right. And can you now pretend that you are in a trance and those eyelids are so
perfectly relaxed that they remain closed? And that feels perfectly fine. You can test your
eyes now. You may find that you can move your eyebrows but your eyes are stuck. They
are one piece of skin. Try in vain to open your eyes. They are stuck like glue. And that is
perfectly fine. And the harder you try to open your eyes, the more that they are stuck.
And now, you can forget about your eyes. Every time you listen to my CD, you are more
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relaxed by my voice. And the suggestions are absorbed readily by your unconscious mind.
You easily learn and integrate all the material presented. In a few seconds, I will awaken
you and you will feel relaxed, refreshed, and absolutely fantastic. Come back into the
room, 20 percent with each count, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Welcome back!
So whaL happcncd` Fyc closurc is simply rclaxaLion. Thc cyc musclcs arc Lhc
casicsL musclcs in Lhc body Lo rclax. Whcn you arc Lircd, your cycs closc. Your cycs
bccomc sLuck as you havc lcL go o Lhc conscious mind or bypasscd Lhc criLical
aculLy. This is a good Lhing. You wanL Lo bc hypnoLizcd. You wanL Lo bccomc
rcally good aL Lhis so you can Lalk dirccLly wiLh your unconscious mind. Bcsidcs, iL
ccls grcaL!
Now, i your cycs opcn, LhaL's Okay Loo! You havc provcd Lo yourscl LhaL you
havc conscious conLrol. Maybc you'rc saying Lo yourscl, I don'L know i I can do
Lhis." And LhaL's righLyou do noL know. Thcrc arc many Lhings LhaL you do noL
know. You do know LhaL you drcam aL nighL, buL you do noL know how your
unconscious mind inLcgraLcs your drcams. And sooncr or laLcr, your cyclids will
blink buL you do noL know how your unconscious mind knows Lo blink Lhosc cycs.
ThaL's righL. You can siL Lhcrc and do noLhing aL all. And you do noL know whcn
your cycs mighL closc alLogcLhcr and allow your comorL Lo dccpcn.
Thc goal is Lo lcarn how Lo obLain cyc closurc vcry quickly. You havc Lhcn
succcssully hypnoLizcd yourscl. Usc Lhis Lo changc your sLaLc o mind. IcL's
supposc you arc siLLing aL your dcsk and you ccl anxious. You can jusL closc your
eycs and Lakc a hypnoLic Limc-ouL and wakc up ccling rclaxcd and rcrcshcd.
ThaL's cmpowcrmcnL. Thc morc you do Lhis, Lhc bcLLcr you will gcL aL iL. Trancc is
lcarncd. Think o your brain as a compuLcroccasionally iL gcLs Loo much
inormaLion and iL docs noL work propcrly. You Lurn iL o. Trancc is your own
rcscL buLLon.
WRIGHT
So whaL abouL dccp-scaLcd anxicLy rclaLcd Lo a diiculL childhood`
CAMERON
My clicnL, 3im, was obcsc and broughL up in scvcrc povcrLy. Hc Lold mc LhaL hc
aLc whcn hc was anxious bccausc hc was always araid LhaL Lhcrc would ncvcr bc
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cnough ood." In Lhcrapy wiLh mc, hc lcL go o LhaL car and Lhc limiLing dccision
LhaL ood was Lhc ix or anxicLy, and Lhcn hc was ablc Lo caL corrccLly.
NcgaLivc hoL buLLons" such as a ccrLain Lonc o voicc, shouLing, and puL-downs
arc acLually cmoLional Lriggcrs LhaL sLimulaLc Lhc anxicLy rcsponsc Limc aLcr Limc.
Wc arc cncrgcLic bcings in Lunc wiLh cvcryLhing around us, our hoL buLLons arc
cmoLional disLurbanccs. In ordcr Lo hcal, wc musL gcL Lo Lhc causc o Lhcm.
Howcvcr, Lhcy arc likc Lhc lcgs o a Lablci you knock away any onc o Lhc lcgs,
Lhcn Lhc Lablc will all down. Wc can rclcasc ncgaLivc cmoLions rom a cw major
childhood cvcnLs and Lhc wholc sLrucLurc will all.
As a hypnotherapisL, I usc ccrLain Lcchniqucs Lo hclp clicnLs lcL go o ncgaLivc
cmoLions. Ycs, a pcrson will no longcr ccl Lhc angcr, sadncss, car, guilL, and
shamc rom Lhc pasL whcn Lhc scssion is ovcr. IL's miraculous! You can go Lo Lhc
Timc Iinc Thcrapy"
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discovcr and rclcasc Lhcir poLcnLial and livc Lhc lic Lhcy'vc only drcamcd o.
Iyn holds boLh a masters dcgrcc in Icadcrship and an MBA. In addiLion,
Iyn rcccivcd hcr coaching ccrLiicaLion rom Lhc Hudson InsLiLuLc and has had
Lhc honor o sLudying wiLh visionary Lhinkcrs such as MarLin Scligman,
SLcphcn R. Covcy, David I. Coopcrridcr, as wcll as movic produccr, SLcphcn
Simon.
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and organizaLions discovcr and maximizc Lhcir pcrormancc. Hcr work wiLh
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also hclps Lo shiL paradigms wiLhin organizaLions in ordcr Lo improvc Lhc
conLribuLion o cach Lcam Lo Lhc organizaLion.
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C HA P T E R S I X T E E N
Dcvclop a Disciplincd Iic
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . Dr. Denis Waitley
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc arc Lalking wiLh Dr. Dcnis WaiLlcy. Dcnis is onc o Amcrica's mosL
rcspccLcd auLhors, kcynoLc lccLurcrs, and producLiviLy consulLanLs on high
pcrormancc human achicvcmcnL. Hc has inspircd, inormcd, challcngcd, and
cnLcrLaincd audicnccs or morc Lhan LwcnLy-ivc ycars rom Lhc boardrooms o
mulLi-naLional corporaLions Lo Lhc conLrol rooms o NASA's spacc program and
rom Lhc lockcr rooms o world-class aLhlcLcs Lo Lhc mccLing rooms o Lhousands
o convcnLionccrs LhroughouL Lhc world.
WiLh morc Lhan Lcn million audio programs sold in ourLeen languages, Denis
WaiLlcy is Lhc mosL lisLcncd-Lo voicc on pcrsonal and carccr succcss. Hc is Lhc
auLhor o Lwclvc non-icLion books, including scvcral inLcrnaLional bcsLscllcrs. His
audio album, Thc Psychology o Winning," is Lhc all-Limc bcsL-selling program on
scl-masLcry. Dr. WaiLlcy is a ounding dirccLor o Lhc NaLional Council on Scl-
FsLccm and Lhc PrcsidcnL's Council on VocaLional FducaLion. Hc rcccnLly rcccivcd
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Lhc YouLh Flamc Award" rom Lhc NaLional Council on YouLh Icadcrship or his
outsLanding conLribuLion Lo high school youLh lcadcrship.
A graduaLc o Lhc U.S. Naval Acadcmy Annapolis, and ormcr Navy piloL, hc
holds a docLoraLc dcgrcc in human bchavior.
Dcnis, iL is my sinccrc plcasurc Lo wclcomc you Lo Stepping Stones to Success!
Thank you or bcing wiLh us Loday.
DR. DENIS WAITLEY (WAITLEY)
David, iL's grcaL Lo bc wiLh you again. IL's bccn Loo long. I always gcL cxciLcd
whcn I know you'rc going Lo call. Maybc wc can makc somc good Lhings happcn
or Lhosc who arc rcally inLcrcsLcd in gcLLing ahcad and moving orward wiLh Lhcir
own carccrs in Lhcir livcs.
WRIGHT
I know our rcadcrs would cnjoy hcaring you Lalk abouL your ormaLivc ycars.
Will you Lcll us a liLLlc abouL your lic growing up in Lhc conLcxL o whaL you'vc
achicvcd and whaL shapcd you inLo Lhc pcrson you arc Loday` Do you rcmcmbcr
onc or Lwo pivoLal cxpcricnccs LhaL propcllcd you on Lhc paLh you cvcnLually
chosc`
WAITLEY
I bclicvc many o us arc rcdwood Lrccs in a lowcrpoL. Wc'vc bccomc rooL-
bound by our carlicr cnvironmcnL and iL's up Lo cach o us Lo rcalizc LhaL and
brcak ouL o our lowcr poL i wc'rc going Lo grow Lo our ull poLcnLial.
I rcmcmbcr my aLhcr lcL our homc whcn I was a liLLlc boy. Hc said goodnighL
and goodbyc and suddcnly I bccamc Lhc man o Lhc amily aL agc ninc. My liLLlc
broLhcr was only Lwo, so I had Lo carry him around as my liLLlc shadow or Lhc
cnsuing ycars. To Lhis day my kid broLhcr has always lookcd aL mc as his dad, cvcn
Lhough Lhcrc is only scvcn ycars' dicrcncc bcLwccn us. Hc'll phonc mc and ask
whaL hc should do and I'll Lcll him, I'm your broLhcr, noL your aLhcr!"
Our dad was a grcaL guy buL hc drank Loo much and had somc habiLs LhaL Look
a irm hold on him. Hc ncvcr abuscd mc and always cxpccLcd morc rom mc Lhan
hc did rom himscl. I had a push-pullon Lhc onc hand, I clL inadcquaLc and
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guilLy whcn I would go Lo succccd buL on Lhc oLhcr hand, Dad kcpL ccding mc Lhc
idca LhaL hc misscd his ship and I'd caLch minc. Thc only Lhing I could do Lo gcL ouL
o LhaL rollcr coasLcr impacL was Lo ridc my bicyclc LwcnLy milcs cvcry SaLurday
ovcr Lo my grandmoLhcr's housc. Shc was my cscapc. I would mow hcr lawn and
shc would givc mc such grcaL ccdback and rcinorccmcnL. Shc Lold mc Lo planL
Lhc sccds o grcaLncss as shc and I planLcd our vicLory gardcn" during World War
II. Shc Lold mc LhaL wccds would comc unannounccd and uninviLcdI didnt need
Lo worry abouL wccds coming inLo my lic, Lhcy didn'L cvcn nccd Lo bc waLcrcd.
I said, Wow! You don'L havc Lo waLcr wccds`"
No," shc rcplicd, Lhcy'll show up in your lic and whaL you nccd Lo do, my
grandson, is modcl your lic aLcr pcoplc who'vc bccn consisLcnL and rcal in Lhcir
conLribuLion as rolc modcls and mcnLors."
Shc also Lold mc LhaL a library card would cvcnLually bc much morc valuablc
Lhan a MasLcr Card. Bccausc o my grandmoLhcr rcading biographics o pcoplc
who'd ovcrcomc so much morc Lhan I was going Lhrough, I LhoughL, Wow! I don'L
havc any problcms comparcd Lo somc o Lhcsc grcaL pcoplc in hisLory who rcally
camc rom bchind Lo gcL ahcad." I Lhink LhaL was my sLarL in lic.
I wcnL Lo Lhc Naval Acadcmy bccausc Lhc Korcan War was in orcc and you had
Lo scrvc your counLry, so Lhc bcsL way was Lo run and hidc in an acadcmy. I you
earned enough good grades you wcrc puL Lhrough wiLhouL a scholarship or wiLhouL
moncy rom your parcnLs. Sincc my parcnLs didn'L havc any moncy, iL was a grcaL
way Lo gcL a collcgc cducaLion.
I bccamc a Navy piloL aLcr LhaL and lcarncd LhaL i you simulaLc and rchcarsc
properly youll probably lcarn Lo ly LhaL machinc. BuL much o iL has Lo do wiLh
Lhc amounL o pracLicc you puL inLo ground school and inLo going Lhrough Lhc
paccs. As I gaincd cxpcricncc bcing a Navy piloL, I cvcnLually dccidcd Lo go on and
gcL my advanccd dcgrcc in psychology bccausc I wanLcd Lo dcvclop pcoplc raLhcr
Lhan sLay in Lhc miliLary. I pursucd a program whcrc I could Lakc my miliLary and
morc disciplincd background and puL iL inLo human dcvclopmcnL. ThaL's basically
Lhc sLory.
I carncd my docLoraLc, I mcL 3onas Salk, and Dr. Salk inLroduccd mc Lo somc
pionccrs in Lhc bchavioral icld. Thcn along camc Farl NighLingalc who hcard jusL
a simplc Lapcd cvcning spccch o minc and dccidcd LhaL maybc my voicc was good
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cnough, cvcn Lhough I was a ncw kid on Lhc block," Lo maybc do an album on
pcrsonal dcvclopmcnL, which I did in l07S. IL surpriscd mc Lhc mosL, and
cvcryonc clsc also, LhaL iL bccamc onc o Lhc bcsLscllcrs o all Limc.
WRIGHT
Bcing a graduaLc o Annapolis and having bccn a Navy piloL, Lo whaL dcgrcc did
your cxpcricncc in Lhc Navy shapc your lic and your idcas abouL producLiviLy and
pcrormancc`
WAITLEY
David, I Lhink Lhosc cxpcricnccs shapcd my lic and idcas a grcaL dcal. I was an
original surcr boy rom Caliornia and whcn I cnLcrcd Lhc Naval Acadcmy I ound
LhaL surcr boys had Lhcir hcads shavcd and wcrc Lold Lo go sLand in linc
cvcryonc's succcssul so you'rc noLhing spccial. I ound myscl on a Lcam LhaL was
vcry compcLiLivc buL aL Lhc samc Limc had good camaradcric.
I rcalizcd LhaL I didn'L havc Lhc kind o disciplinc sLrucLurc in my lic LhaL I
nccdcd. I also discovcrcd LhaL all Lhcsc oLhcr guys wcrc as LalcnLcd, or morc
LalcnLcd, Lhan I was. WhaL LhaL shapcd or mc was rcalizing LhaL Lhc corL
rcquircd Lo bccomc succcssul is habiL-orming. I Lhink I lcarncd hcalLhy habiLs aL
Lhc Acadcmy and as a Navy piloL jusL Lo sLay alivc. To pcrorm Lhcsc kinds o
uncLions I rcally had Lo havc a morc disciplincd lic. ThaL scL mc on my sLagc or
working morc on a daily basis aL habiL ormaLion Lhan jusL bcing a posiLivc Lhinkcr
only.
WRIGHT
In our book, Stepping Stones to Success, wc'rc cxploring a varicLy o issucs
rclaLcd Lo human naLurc and Lhc qucsL Lo succccd. In your bcsL-sclling program,
The Psychology of Winning, you ocus on building scl-csLccm, moLivaLion, and scl-
disciplinc. Why arc Lhcsc so crucial Lo winning and succcss`
WAITLEY
Thcy'rc so crucial Lhcy'rc misundcrsLood. I Lhink cspccially Lhc Lcrm scl-
csLccm" is misundcrsLood. Wc'vc spcnL a orLunc and wc had a Caliornia
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committee on itwc ormcd Lhc NaLional Council on Scl-FsLccm. WhaL has
happcncd, in my opinion, is LhaL scl-csLccm has bccn misuscd and misjudgcd as
bcing scl-indulgcncc, scl-graLiicaLiona cclcbriLy kind o mcnLaliLy. Wc'vc puL
Loo much cmphasis on Lhc wrong idca abouL scl-csLccm.
Scl-csLccm is acLually Lhc dccp down, insidc Lhc skin ccling o your own worLh
rcgardlcss o your agc, cLhniciLy, gcndcr, or lcvcl o currcnL pcrormancc. IL's rcally
a bclic LhaL you'rc good cnough Lo invcsL in cducaLion and corL and you bclicvc
somc kind o drcam whcn LhaL's all you havc Lo hang onLo.
WhaL's happcncd, unorLunaLcly, is LhaL wc'vc paid so much aLLcnLion Lo scl-
csLccm iL's bccomc a cclcbriLy and an arcna mcnLaliLy kind o conccpL. MosL pcoplc
arc sLruLLin' Lhcir sLu" and Lhcy'rc cclcbraLing aLcr cvcry good play on Lhc
aLhlcLic icld, whcrcas, i you'rc a real procssional, LhaL's whaL you do anyway. A
rcal procssional is humblc, gracious, and undcrsLands ans. I Lhink LhaL whaL
wc'vc donc is puL Loo much cmphasis on asscrLing onc's scl and bclicving LhaL
you'rc Lhc grcaLcsL and Lhcn Lalking abouL iL Loo much or showing o Loo much in
ordcr Lo makc LhaL scl-csLccm public.
Thc rcal scl-csLccm has Lwo aspccLs: l) Bclicving LhaL you dcscrvc as much as
anyonc clsc and LhaL you'rc worLhy. Somconc may look aL you and Lcll you Lhcy scc
rcal poLcnLial in you. I you can ccl LhaL you havc poLcnLial and you'rc worLh Lhc
corL, LhaL's Lhc irsL sLcp. 2) Thc sccond sLcp is Lo sLarL doing Lhings Lo givc you
conidcncc so LhaL whcn you do somcLhing and lcarn somcLhing iL works ouL and
you'll gcL Lhc scl-conidcncc LhaL comcs rom rcinorcing small succcsscs. ThaL
combinaLion o cxpccLaLion and rcinorccmcnL is undamcnLal Lo anyonc who
wanLs Lo bc a high achicvcr. ThaL's whaL scl-csLccm is rcally all abouLdeserving
on Lhc onc hand and rcinorcing succcss in small ways Lo gcL your moLor running
and ccl Lhc conidcncc LhaL you can do bcLLcr Lhan you havc bccn.
Fcars crop up and gcL in Lhc way o our moLivaLion. In my casc I was araid o
succcss. Nobody had cvcr succccdcd in our amily and bccausc Lhcy hadn'L, I clL
inadcquaLc Lo bc ablc Lo succccd. Whcncvcr iL would show up around Lhc corncr I
would Lhink, Wcll, Lhis is Loo good Lo bc Lruc or mcI dont deservc LhaL." So I
would ccl a liLLlc biL doubLul o my abiliLics. Whcn I would succccd, Lhcrc would
bc an aLLcndanL, Yclp!" I would ccl bccausc I would noL bclicvc I dcscrvcd whaL I
had achicvcd.
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I Lhink car is Lhc Lhing LhaL gcLs in Lhc way o our moLivaLion bccausc wc'rc all
moLivaLcd by inhibiLions and compulsions. You should bc moLivaLcd morc by Lhc
rcsulL you wanL raLhcr Lhan Lhc pcnalLy. ThaL's why I'vc always said LhaL winncrs
arc moLivaLcd by rcward o succcss raLhcr Lhan inhibiLcd or compcllcd by the
pcnalLy o ailurc. I you gcL Lhis convicLion LhaL you'rc as good as Lhc bcsL buL no
better than the restI'm worLh Lhc corL, I'm noL Mr. Wondcrul, I'm noL Lhc
ccnLcr o Lhc univcrsc buL I can do somc Lhings LhaL I havcn'L donc ycLand then
apply Lhis moLivaLion Lo dcsirc raLhcr Lhan car, LhaL is whcn scl-disciplinc comcs
inLo play.
I'd havc Lo say, David, I could spcnd Lhc cnLirc inLcrvicw on scl-disciplinc
bccausc I misscd iL as onc o Lhc mosL imporLanL ingrcdicnLs in succcss. I'vc always
bccn a bclic guy, an opLimism guy, a aiLh guy, and all Lhc scl-csLccm Lhings buL I
Lhink, as Limc wcnL on, I orgoL Lhc amounL o disciplinc iL Lakcs or anyonc who is
a champion in any cndcavor. I Lhink I'm back on LhaL Lrack now.
WRIGHT
I can rcally apprcciaLc Lhc Flamc Award you won rom Lhc NaLional Council on
YouLh Icadcrship or hclping high school lcadcrs. I'vc goL a daughLcr in collcgc and
I know how diiculL and imporLanL iL is. BuL in somc circlcs, scl-csLccm has
gotten a bad repuLaLion. For cxamplc, in many schools, Lcachcrs won'L rcward high
achicvcrs or car o hurLing Lhc scl-csLccm o oLhcrs in Lhc classroom. Many
pcoplc ccl Lhis is noL hclpul Lo Lhcsc childrcn.
In your opinion, whcrc is Lhc balancc bcLwccn building hcalLhy scl-csLccm and
prcparing kids and adulLs Lo copc and succccd in a compcLiLivc world`
WAITLEY
I Lhink LhaL Lhcrc has Lo irsL o all bc somc kind o pcrormancc sLandard. A
good cxamplc is Lhc Olympic Camcs. Thc idca o Lhc Olympic Camcs is Lo scL a
sLandard LhaL you'vc Lricd Lo livc up Lo in your own way as a world-class pcrson,
rcalizing LhaL Lhcrc can only bc so many Olympians and so many gold mcdalisLs
and so on. I Lhink, on Lhc onc hand, iL's rcally imporLanL Lo havc sLandards bccausc
i you havc a sLandard, Lhcn you havc somcLhing Langiblc Lo shooL or or Lo
mcasurc againsL.
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I Lhink Lhcrc's a problcm, howcvcr, in LhaL only so many pcoplc can bc
mcdalisLs and win mcdals aL Lhc Olympics. Onc o Lhc rcasons LhaL Lhc high jump
bar, or cxamplc, is scL so LhaL cvcryonc can jump ovcr iL Lhc irsL Limc, is Lo
cxpcricncc Lhc ccling o succcss LhaL irsL jump produccs. Thc ccling o succcss is
working in Lhc compcLiLor bcorc Lhc bar is raiscd Lo world rccord hcighL and Lo
much highcr sLandards Lhan cvcn Lhc normal Olympian.
I'm onc who bclicvcs in LcsLing. IL's diiculL whcn you havc a No Child IcL
Bchind" conccpL bccausc many Limcs Loday wc'rc going pass/ail. Wc'rc moving
pcoplc up Lhrough Lhc gradcs rcgardlcss o Lhcir pcrormancc simply bccausc wc
don'L wanL Lhcm lcL bchind and Lhcrcorc ccling LhaL Lhcy'rc noL ablc Lo uncLion
simply bccausc Lhcy can'L compcLc wiLh somc sLudcnLs who'vc bccn givcn many
morc opporLuniLics Lo succccd Lhan oLhcrs.
Having said LhaL, I'd say LhaL hcalLhy scl-esteem is gaincd by giving spcciic
stair-sLcp, incrcmcnLal, biLc-sizcd picccs, pcrhaps Lhcrc nccds Lo bc scvcral
dicrcnL sLandards scL. Usually Lhc grading sysLcm docs LhaL and Lhc poinL sysLcm
docs LhaL whcrc you havc somconc who has a our poinL Lhrcc grade average
bccausc o all Lhc cxLra crcdiLs Lhcy'rc Laking. Thcn you havc Lhosc wiLh a Lhrcc
poinL cighL and Lhcn Lhosc who arc jusL barcly passing. UnorLunaLcly Lhcn, whaL
LhaL docs is cnablc only a cw pcoplc Lo gcL inLo univcrsiLics and Lhc oLhcrs havc to
go Lo communiLy collcgcs.
WhaL I will havc Lo say, howcvcr, is LhaL wc in Lhc UniLcd SLaLcs havc Lo bc vcry
carcul LhaL wc don'L dumb down or lowcr our sLandards or cxccllcncc in our
schools. Travcling as much as I do, I havc discovcrcd inormaLion abouL Lhis. For
cxamplc, Lhcrc arc 300 univcrsiLics in Bcijing aloncjusL in onc ciLy in China. Thc
way iL gocs inLcrnaLionally is LhaL Lhc public schools in 3apan, or cxamplc, arc
much morc compcLiLivc Lhan Lhc privaLc schools. I you'rc in 3apan going Lo a
public school, you havc Lo rcally pcrorm up Lo Lhc highcsL sLandards in ordcr Lo
cvcr Lhink o qualiying or any kind o univcrsiLy. You'd havc Lo go inLo a
vocaLional school i you didn'L compcLc in highcr sLandards in public schools in
3apan. Thc samc Lhing is Lruc in Singaporc, China, and in Lhc dcvcloping naLions.
Wc havc a siLuaLion brcwing hcrc whcrc wc'vc goL global dcvcloping counLrics
wiLh rcally high sLandards in Fnglish, maLhcmaLics, cnginccring, and scicncc. And
wc havc cducaLors in Lhc UniLcd SLaLcs who arc morc conccrncd abouL making
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surc LhaL Lhc scl-csLccm o an individual docsn'L gcL damagcd by Lhis compcLiLivc
sLandard. I Lhink wc havc Lo mainLain sLandards o cxccllcncc.
I wish wc had kcpL drcss codcs in schools. I havc ound schools that have
marching bands. A ccrLain amounL o uniormiLy noL only cncouragcs grcaLcr
aLhlcLic pcrormancc buL highcr acadcmic sLandards as wcll. Thc samc is Lruc
globally. Thcrc's an argumcnL LhaL i you puL kids in uniorms, you'rc going Lo limiL
their crcaLivc Lhinking. Thc LruLh is, i you can sLandardizc Lhc way pcoplc appcar
in Lhcir sLylc, Lhcn you can ocus morc on subsLanccLhcir cxpcricncc,
imaginaLion, conLribuLion, and Lhcir sLudy. Thc corc o an individual raLhcr Lhan
Lhc suracc o an individual can bc dcvclopcd much bcLLcr. IL would bc grcaL i wc
could combinc Lhc morc disciplincd aspccLs o Lhc dcvcloping counLrics wiLh Lhc
morc cnLrcprcncurial, crcaLivc, rcc-Lhinking aspccLs o our socicLy, which mcans
wc'rc criLical Lhinkcrs (i.c., you Lhrow us a problcm and wc'll Lry cvcryLhing wc can
possibly Lhink o Lo solvc iL). In Lhc dcvcloping counLrics Lhcy'll usc a LcxLbook or
an oldcr pcrson's cxpcricncc raLhcr Lhan using criLical Lhinking.
Wc'rc vcry cnLrcprcncurial hcrc in Amcrica, buL I'm vcry much conccrncd LhaL
our sLandards arc bcing lowcrcd Loo much. I wc'rc noL carcul, wc'rc going Lo Lakc
our placc in Lhc uLurc as a sccond-raLc cducaLional counLry and Lhcrcorc orciL
Lhc idca o bcing a Lcchnological and markcL lcadcr.
WRIGHT
I also hcar grumbling abouL moLivaLion. I'm surc you'vc sccn busincss pcoplc
roll Lhcir cycs a biL aL Lhc mcnLion o lisLcning Lo moLivaLional" Lapcs or CDs.
Somc Lirc o gcLLing all hypcd up abouL changc or salcs goals, or cxamplc, only Lo
losc Lhcir cxciLcmcnL and ail Lo rcach Lhcir goals. Arc Lhcy missing somcLhing
criLical abouL Lhc naLurc or applicaLion o moLivaLion`
WAITLEY
I rcally bclicvc Lhcy arc, David. I Lhink Lhcy'rc missing Lhc idca LhaL whaL you
want in lic Lurns you on much morc Lhan whaL you need in lic. Too oLcn busincss
managcrs cvcn Loday ocus on Lhc hard skills bccausc Lhcy say LhaL Lhc oLhcr skills
arc soL skills." Wcll, Lhcrc's no such Lhing as a hard or soL skill bccausc you can'L
scparaLc your pcrsonal rom your procssional lic anymorc. You gcL ircd morc or
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personal reasonsor bcing laLc, or your habiLs, or you hygicnc, your bchavior,
your angcr. This idca LhaL Lcchnical Lraining as opposcd Lo moLivaLion is Lhc way Lo
go is misguidcd.
I havc ound LhaL cmployccs arc cxciLcd and arc ull o dcsirc and cncrgy
bccausc managcmcnL lisLcns Lo Lhcm, rcinorccs Lhcm, is inLcrcsLcd in Lhcir
pcrsonal goals, and is inLcrcsLcd in kccping Lhcm inspircd. ThaL inspiraLion is whaL
wc rcmcmbcr. So, whcn wc go Lo a mccLing wc rcmcmbcr how wc clL abouL Lhc
mccLing, noL Lhc spcciics o Lhc mccLing.
I Lhink Lhis cmoLional componcnLkccping pcoplc's cncrgy and dcsircs
orcmosL and doing a dcsirc analysis o cmployccs raLhcr Lhan jusL a nccds
analysisis vcry, vcry imporLanL. I oLcn Lhink Lhis is losL in Lhc idca LhaL wc'rc
giving a pcp Lalk, or a quick ix, or a Band-Aid whcn, as Zig Ziglar has mcnLioncd so
many Limcs, MoLivaLion is likc Laking a baLh. You Lakc a baLh cvcry day and you
mighL say why Lakc a baLhyoure going to get dirty anyway." BuL Lhc vcry naLurc
o doing iL, and doing iL on a habiLual basis, makcs Lhis posiLivc cncrgy conLinuc Lo
low and moLivaLion bccomcs habiL-orming. I Lhink you nccd a loL o iL Lo kccp
Lhcsc habiLs o cxccllcncc or clsc you'll jusL bc running scaredyou'll bc araid noL
Lo do wcll bccausc you'll losc your job.
Bclicvc iL or noL, wc havc a loL o cmployccs in Amcrica who arc working hardcr
Lhan Lhcy cvcr havc bcorc so Lhcy won'L bc ircd. ThaL's noL rcally Lhc way Lo go
aLcr a goalconsLanLly looking Lhrough Lhc rcar vicw mirror Lrying Lo covcr your
bchind.
WRIGHT
I you don'L mind, I'd likc Lo changc Lhc ocus a liLLlc Lo Lhc Lopic o scl-
disciplinc. Pcoplc sccm Lo know whaL Lhcy should do and how Lhcy should changc,
buL Lhcy jusL can'L disciplinc Lhcmsclvcs Lo Lakc Lhc ncccssary sLcps Lo do so. WhaL
is Lhc sccrcL Lo bccoming a disciplincd pcrson`
WAITLEY
I Lhink Lhc sccrcL is Lo gcL a Lcam, a supporL group, a masLcrmind group
bccausc noL only is Lhcrc sacLy in numbcrs buL Lhcrc's accounLabiliLy in numbcrs.
Whcn wc arc accounLablc Lo onc anoLhcr Lo mainLain a ccrLain sLandard o
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disciplinc, iL's much casicr Lo work ouL i somconc clsc is gcLLing up aL six-thirty in
Lhc morning wiLh you. IL's much casicr Lo havc a supporL group i you'rc inLcrcsted
in mainLaining a hcalLhicr dicL, or cxamplc, bccausc Lhc LcmpLaLions arc
irrcsisLiblc Lo procrasLinaLc and Lo all o Lhc wagon. ThaL's why I bclicvc you nccd
a Lcam corL.
IL also has Lo bc undcrsLood in an immcdiaLc graLiicaLion socicLy LhaL Lhcre is
no succcss pill" LhaL you can swallow. Thcrc is no quick way Lo gcL rich and gcL Lo
Lhc Lop. Thcrc is Lhis sLcady raLchcLing Lo Lhc Lop and LhaL's why I Lhink lcadcrs
nccd Lo say iL's going Lo Lakc us abouL a ycar Lo gcL any pcrmancnL changc going.
So, I Lhink wc should all undcrsLand Lhcrc may bc a liLLlc dip in producLiviLy as wc
sLarL Lhis ncw program o oursa liLLlc dip aL irsL and a liLLlc unccrLainLybut
ovcr Limc, ovcr abouL a ycar, wc'rc going Lo bccomc likc an asLronauL or an
Olympian. Wc nccd Lo cngrain Lhcsc idcas so Lhcy bccomc rclcxivc. IL Lakcs abouL
a ycar or an idca or a habiL Lo bccomc a rclcx. This idca o bcing ablc Lo do iL in
LwcnLy-onc days is misguidcd. I don'L Lhink iL Lakcs LwcnLy-one days to learn a
skill. IL may Lakc Lwenty-onc days Lo lcarn Lo Lypc, iL may Lakc LwcnLy-one days to
bcgin Lo lcarn a skill, buL iL Lakcs a ycar or iL Lo gcL inLo Lhc subconscious and Lakc
hold.
I Lhink wc havc Lo lcarn LhaL disciplinc is pracLicing on a daily basis or abouL a
ycar so LhaL iL will bccomc a habiLa patternLhaL will ovcrridc Lhc old inncr
soLwarc program.
WRIGHT
I'm a big bclicvcr in Lhc grcaLcr poLcnLial o Lhc individual. I rcmcmbcr a
cllowPaul Myerwho hclpcd mc a loL whcn I was a young guy. Hc was in Waco,
Tcxas, wiLh a company callcd Succcss MoLivaLion InsLiLuLc. You may know him.
WAITLEY
I know him vcry wcll. AcLually, hc's onc o Lhc icons and pionccrs in Lhis cnLirc
icld. Hc and Farl NighLingalc wcrc Lhc irsL oncs Lo cvcr havc a rccordcd spcaking
mcssagc oLhcr Lhan music. Farl and Paul wcrc pionccrs in audio rccording and I
havc sLill a grcaL rcspccL or Paul. I spokc or his organizaLion somc Limc ago.
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WRIGHT
Hc pcrsonally hclpcd mc a loL whcn I was youngcr and I jusL rcally apprcciaLcd
him. In your book and program, Seeds of Greatness, you ouLlinc a sysLcm or
nurLuring grcaLncss. Will you givc us a bric ovcrvicw o Lhis program`
WAITLEY
IL's Lakcn mc LhirLy ycars Lo gcL Lhis Lhing Lo whcrc I wanL iL. I wroLc Lhc book
LwcnLy ycars ago LiLlcd, Seeds of Greatness, and surc, iL bccamc a bcsLscllcr buL so
did One Minute Manager, In Search of Excellence, Iacocca, and cvcry oLhcr book aL
LhaL Limc. I havc Lroublc kccping LhaL Lhing pumpcd up.
Ovcr Lhc ycars I'vc ound LhaL Seeds of Greatness, or mc, has bccn a sysLcm.
WhaL I'vc had Lo do is go back Lhrough all Lhc misLakcs I'vc madc as a amily
lcadcr. I kncw I was a aLhcr and noL a moLhcr and aLhcr so I had Lo ind a moLhcr
who was also a good clinical psychologisL and who had workcd wiLh cvcry orm o
bchavioral problcm. Wc puL our corLs LogcLhcr so LhaL wc had a man and a
woman as amily lcadcrs wiLh clinical and oLhcr cxpcricncc who could givc parcnLs
or leaders o Lhc day a ccrLain Lrack Lo run on whcrc Lhcy could coach Lhcir small
childrcn and adolcsccnLs on a daily basis.
I providcd a pcrpcLual calcndar LhaL givcs coaching Lips o Lhc daywhaL I call
sign on Lhc day" and sign o Lhc day"or parcnLs Lo usc Lo communicaLc wiLh
Lhcir kids. Thcn I had Lo puL nincLccn CDs LogcLhcraudio LracksLhaL covcrcd
Lhcsc rooLs and wings," which I would call Lhc corc valucs" and Lhc morc
moLivaLional or, i you will, ways Lo scL your kids rcc.
Thc idca o parcnLhood should bc Lo lay Lhc groundwork, makc iL sac Lo ail an
cxpcrimcnL, and Lhcn scnd Lhcm o on Lhcir own as indcpcndcnL, noL
codcpcndcnL, young adulLs so Lhcy can rcach Lhcir own dcsLiny. I dividcd iL inLo
rooLs o corc valucs" and wings o scl-moLivaLion and scl-dirccLion" and Lricd Lo
balancc Lhc Lwo so LhaL whcLhcr you'rc rom a blcndcd amily, or a singlc parcnL
amily, and whcLhcr you'rc sLrucLurally rcligious or whcLhcr you'rc spiriLually
rcligious, iL would work, rcgardlcss o your pcrsonal corc bclic sysLcm.
I'm vcry happy LhaL wc'vc inally puL LogcLhcr a scl-sLudy program LhaL can bc
LaughL by Lhc auLhors or by pcoplc who arc liccnscd aciliLaLors. IL's somcLhing
LhaL a amily lcadcrship group could Lakc and work on Lhcir own aL Lhcir own
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spccd by waLching, lisLcning, inLcracLing wiLh Lhcir kids, and using a combinaLion
o a wriLLcn book, Lhc audios, Lhc DVDs, and Lhis coaching calcndar Lo maybc puL
iL all LogcLhcr so LhaL ovcr a pcriod o six monLhs Lo a ycar Lhcy mighL bc ablc Lo
cccL somc changcs in Lhc way Lhcy inLcracL wiLh Lhcir kids.
WRIGHT
Sounds grcaL! Bcorc our Limc runs ouL, would you sharc a sLory or Lwo abouL
your rcal lic coaching and consulLing cxpcricnccs` I know you'vc coachcd
asLronauLs and Supcr Bowl champions as wcll, havcn'L you`
WAITLEY
Wcll, I havc. I'vc bccn lucky Lo work wiLhin Lhc Apollo program in Lhc
simulaLion arca. I ound LhaL simulaLion prcvcnLs ailurc o Lhc irsL aLLcmpL. In
oLhcr words, i you'rc going Lo go Lo Lhc moon and Lhcy'rc going Lo shooL you up a
quarLcr o a million milcs up and back in a govcrnmcnL vchiclc, you had bcLLcr
havc your rchcarsal down and rcally paL. Thc asLronauLs Lcach you LhaL Lhc drcss
rchcarsal is lic or dcaLh. Thc Olympians Lcach you LhaL aL Lhc momcnL you go Lo
pcrorm, you nccd Lo clcar your mind so you can rcmcmbcr cvcryLhing you lcarncd
wiLhouL Lryingyou dcvclop musclc mcmory and rclcx.
TwcnLy-onc ycars ago whcn Mary Iou RcLLon was doing Lhc vaulL, shc nccdcd a
ninc poinL ninc ivc Lo Lic Lhc Romanian or Lhc gold mcdal in womcn's all around
gymnasLics. I askcd hcr whaL shc was Lhinking abouL whcn shc wcnL Lo vaulL and
shc said, Oh gosh, I gucss whaL cvcryonc Lhinks abouLspccd, powcr, cxplodc,
cxLcnd, roLaLc, planL your ccL aL Lhc cnd. Whcn Lhc prcssurc is on I gcL bcLLcr jusL likc
drill. 'Comc on, Mary Iou, Lhis is your momcnL in hisLory!'!"
I LhoughL, Wow! ThaL's noL whaL cvcryonc Lhinks. WhaL cvcryonc Lhinks is,
'Thank Cod iL's Friday,' 'Why mc`' 'Don'L work Loo hard,' 'CounLin' down Lo
Friday,' 'Iooking Lo ivc P.M.,' 'Romanians arc bcLLcr Lraincd, probably on sLcroids,'
So I gcL Lhcsc sLorics o Olympians who havc inLcrnalizcd Lhis wondcrul running
Lhc racc in advancc and simulaLing as wcll.
I guess the one story that Ill share is about a ten-year-old boy. In about 1980
Lhis boy camc Lo a goal-scLLing scminar. Hc Lold mc LhaL nonc o Lhc pcoplc who
had paid Lhcir moncy wcrc rcally working on Lhcir goals. Thcy wcrc rcally Lhinking
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abouL whaL Lhcy wcrc going Lo caL and gol. I gavc him a work book and Lold him to
go back and do whaL Lhcy wcrc supposcd Lo do and wriLc down his abiliLics and
liabiliLics, whaL hc was going Lo do Lhis ycar and ncxL ycar and ivc ycars rom now
and LwcnLy ycars rom now. Hc goL all cxciLcd bccausc hc LhoughL iL was Lhis
wondcrul gamc LhaL you can play callcd, WriLc Lhc FuLurc, or Dcscribc Lhc FuLurc.
So hc ran back and workcd on Lhc projccL and orLy-ivc minuLcs laLcr hc
asLoundcd Lhc adulLs in Lhc audicncc by saying hc was carning moncy mowing
lawns and shovcling snow so hc could go Lo Hawaii on Lhc ourLccnLh o 3uly Lo
snorkcl on Lhc big island o Hawaii's Kona CoasL. Thcn hc said ncxL ycar hc'd bc
clcvcn going inLo Lhc iLh gradc and hc was going Lo build modcls o whaL was
going Lo bc a spacc shuLLlc and hc was going Lo bcgin Lo lcarn morc abouL numbcrs
and maLh. In ivc ycars hc'd bc iLccn and as a LcnLh-gradcr. Hc said hc would
sLudy maLh and scicncc bccausc hc wanLcd Lo go Lo Lhc Air Forcc acadcmyhc was
all cxciLcd abouL LhaL. I askcd him whaL hc was going Lo bc doing in LwcnLy ycars
and hc said hc'd bc an asLronauL dclivcring UPS packagcs in spacc.
I orgoL all abouL him and LwcnLy ycars laLcr, surc cnough, I saw him on Lhc
Today Show as Lhcy showcd a picLurc o an asLronauL on a LcLhcr linc pulling Lhc
satellite into the bay o Lhc spacc shuLLlc. I LhoughL, My gosh! This kid did whaL I
only Lalk abouL in Lhc scminars." Hc was a living, brcaLhing cxamplc o somconc
who was ocuscd on Lhis. I said Lo my amily, Iook aL whaL hc did!" And Lhcy said,
WhaL havc you been doing or Lhc lasL LwcnLy ycars`" I said I was a goal Lcndcr.
Thcy Lold mc I should bc a goal achicvcr Loo.
WRIGHT
WhaL a grcaL convcrsaLion. I always cnjoy Lalking wiLh you. IL's noL jusL
upliLingI always lcarn a loL whcn I Lalk wiLh you.
WAITLEY
Well, David, I do wiLh you as wcll. You'vc goL a grcaL program and you do a loL
o good or pcoplc who rcad and waLch and lisLcn. I Lhink you givc Lhcm insighLs
LhaL oLhcrwisc Lhcy would ncvcr gcL. I'm jusL graLcul Lo bc onc o Lhc conLribuLors
and onc o Lhc mcmbcrs o your global Lcam.
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WRIGHT
IL has bccn my sinccrc plcasurc Loday Lo visiL wiLh a Lruly grcaL Amcrican, Dr.
Dcnis WaiLlcy.
Dcnis, Lhank you or Laking so much o your Limc Lo sharc your insighLs and
inspiraLions or us hcrc on Stepping Stones to Success.
WAITLEY
Thank you vcry much, David.
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A B O U T T HE A U T HOR
DENIS WAITIFY is onc o Amcrica's mosL rcspccLcd auLhors, kcynoLc
lccLurcrs and producLiviLy consulLanLs on high pcrormancc human
achicvcmcnL. Hc has inspircd, inormcd, challcngcd, and cnLcrLaincd audicnccs
or ovcr LwcnLy-ivc ycars rom Lhc board rooms o mulLi-naLional corporaLions
to Lhc conLrol rooms o NASA's spacc program and rom Lhc lockcr rooms o
world-class aLhlcLcs Lo Lhc mccLing rooms o Lhousands o convcnLionccrs
LhroughouL Lhc world. Hc was voLcd busincss spcakcr o Lhc ycar by Lhc Salcs
and MarkcLing FxccuLivcs AssociaLion and by ToasLmasLcrs InLcrnaLional and
inducLcd inLo Lhc InLcrnaLional Spcakcrs Hall o Famc. WiLh ovcr Lcn million
audio programs sold in ourLccn languagcs, Dcnis WaiLlcy is Lhc mosL lisLcncd-
Lo voicc on pcrsonal and carccr succcss. Hc is Lhc auLhor o Lwclvc non-icLion
books, including scvcral inLcrnaLional bcsLscllcrs, Seeds of Greatness, Being the
Best, The Winners Edge, The Joy of Working, and Empires of the Mind. His audio
album, Thc Psychology o Winning," is Lhc all-Limc bcsL-sclling program on
scl-masLcry.
DR. DENIS WAITLEY
The Waitley Institute
P.O. Box l07
Rancho SanLa Fc, CA 02067
www.dcniswaiLlcy.com
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C HA P T E R S E V E NT E E N
So you wanL Lo bc a Procssional Spcakcr,
Now whaL`
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . Linda Meeuwenberg
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc'rc Lalking wiLh Iinda Mccuwcnbcrg. Iinda is oundcr and CFO o
Procssional DcvclopmcnL AssociaLion IncorporaLcd. Shc is a mcmbcr o Lhc
Chambcr o Commcrcc whcrc shc scrvcd on a small busincss dcvclopmcnL
council and has bccn an acLivc mcmbcr o Lhc InLcrnaLional RoLary. Shc
volunLccrs wiLh RSVP in Florida and Michigan. Iinda holds Lhc rank o
Procssor FmcriLus aL Fcrris SLaLc UnivcrsiLy in Michigan. Shc holds a irsL-
placc award rom Lhc Amcrican AssociaLion o DcnLal Schools and was inducLcd
inLo Lhc DcnLal Hygicnc Honor SocicLy, Sigma Phi Alpha, or hcr ouLsLanding
conLribuLion Lo dcnLal hygicnc cducaLion. Shc serves on the CrcsL/Oral B gucsL
lccLurc board. Shc is a cllow wiLh Lhc AssociaLion o DcnLal ImplanL Auxiliarics,
scrving as a conLribuLing auLhor, advisory board mcmbcr, and rcqucnL
lccLurcr. Iinda scrvcd as a consulLanL Lo Lhc WcsL Michigan MigranL HcalLh
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Scrviccs whcrc shc has dclivcrcd oral carc or ovcr LwcnLy-ivc ycars Lo migranL
amilics.
Shc has publishcd scvcral procssional arLiclcs, a shorL sLory, and is
currcnLly auLhoring a childrcn's book. Shc is an inLcrnaLionally rccognizcd
spcakcr, auLhor, and cducaLor wiLh ovcr our dccadcs o procssional
cxpcricncc. Iinda's cxpcrLisc, combincd wiLh hcr cnLhusiasm, cnsurcs LhaL shc
dclivcrs a powcrul prcscnLaLion LhaL moLivaLcs parLicipanLs Lo acLion.
Iinda, wclcomc Lo Stepping Stones to Success.
LINDA MEEUWENBERG (MEEUWENBERG)
Thank you, David.
WRIGHT
So whaL is your grcaLcsL accomplishmcnL`
MEEUWENBERG
I'm oLcn askcd Lhis and I conLinuc Lo answcr, my cducaLion. I camc rom a
amily whcrc no onc had bccn Lo collcgc. In acL, my moLhcr and aLhcr had noL
graduaLcd rom high school. IaLcr in lic Lhcy boLh wcnL back Lo school and
rcccivcd Lhcir diplomas. I wcnL on Lo collcgc and complcLcd our dcgrccs. I lovc
lcarning!
WRIGHT
Many parLicipanLs ask you qucsLions ollowing your prcscnLaLion indicaLing
LhaL Lhcy would likc Lo pursuc spcaking. WhaL advicc do you givc Lhcm`
MEEUWENBERG
Wcll, David, gcLLing inLo spcaking was a naLural movcmcnL or mc. I had a
Lcrriblc car o spcaking coming ouL o high school/collcgc. ALcr working as a
rcgisLcrcd dcnLal hygicnisL, I bcgan adjuncL Lcaching aL my alma maLcrFerris
SLaLc UnivcrsiLy in Michigan. I supcrviscd sLudcnLs whilc Lhcy wcrc LrcaLing
paLicnLs. This was a vcry comorLablc onc-on-onc cncounLcr.
I was ocrcd a ull-Limc aculLy posiLion and I almosL Lurncd iL down
bccausc o my car o sLanding up and lccLuring in ronL o sLudcnLs. The
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Program DirccLor cncouragcd mc Lo apply and said shc would mcnLor mc. I
acccpLcd LhaL posiLion and workcd on my anxicLy by bccoming an cxpcrL on my
Lopics.
As a ncw procssor, I was rcquircd Lo bc involvcd in procssional
dcvclopmcnL acLiviLics. IL was a naLural lcap inLo procssional spcaking. I bcgan
by giving prcscnLaLions aL my procssional organizaLion mccLings.
I also was cngagcd wiLh volunLccr work. Thcrc is so much nccd or oral
hcalLh cducaLion. I ound placcs wiLhin my communiLy LhaL could usc my
spcaking skills and my oral hcalLh cducaLion background.
I would advisc pcoplc LhaL i Lhcy wanL Lo spcak, Lo look aL volunLccring as a
way o Lraining and prcpping yourscl. Rccord yourscl and ask or ccdback. I
always givc my own pcrsonal spcakcr cvaluaLion orms Lo my audicnccs. I
rcvicw Lhcsc orms Lo improvc my skills.
I also cnlisLcd Lhc hclp o a ormcr sLudcnL as my assisLanL aL my cvcnLs. Shc
Lcndcd Lo all Lhc annoying liLLlc Lhings LhaL can disLracL a ncw spcakcr. This
should be a person you rcally LrusL and onc who can bc scl-dirccLcd or work
wiLh vcry liLLlc dirccLion. This pcrson Lakcs carc o dcLails such as adjusLing
lighLing, gcLLing waLcr or Lhc spcakcr, cLc. ThaL way I am rcc Lo inLcracL wiLh
my audicncc prior Lo spcaking, which hclps build rapporL wiLh Lhcm.
Thc oLhcr Lhing LhaL hclpcd mc was Lhc NaLional Spcakcrs AssociaLion. I
was a mcmbcr or scvcral ycars and Lhcy rcally hclpcd mc jumpsLarL my
spcaking carccr wiLh Lhcir concrcnccs, monLhly publicaLions, and Lapcs.
The bottom linc isvolunLccr, scck inpuL, and gcL involvcd wiLh oLhcr
spcakcrs. I know pcoplc who havc had a loL o succcss working wiLh
ToasLmasLcrs. You arc wiLh your local communiLy wiLh ricndly accs giving you
ccdback. IL's a vcry sac cnvironmcnL Lo pracLicc.
I'm currcnLly a mcmbcr o Lhc InLcrnaLional Spcakcrs NcLwork. BoLh Lhc
NaLional Spcakcrs and InLcrnaLional Spcakcrs NcLwork ocr crcdcnLialing LhaL
can add crcdibiliLy whcn sccking spcaking cngagcmcnLs.
WRIGHT
How did you gcL sLarLcd in public spcaking`
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MEEUWENBERG
As mcnLioncd, I was alrcady Lcaching so iL was a naLural or mc Lo go on Lo
do morc spcaking. I'vc bccn a Lalkcr" my wholc lic. I igurcd LhaL i you can gcL
paid or doing iL and havc Lhc opporLuniLy Lo Lravcl Lo somc wondcrul placcs,
why noL`
AnoLhcr impcLus was whcn my marriagc cndcd making mc a singlc parcnL. I
nccdcd a way Lo supplcmcnL my incomc and Lhc opporLuniLy Lo Lakc my child
placcs LhaL I could noL aord on my Lcachcr's salary. (Howcvcr, I'm noL
advocaLing divorcc as a mcans Lo dcvclop your spcaking busincss!)
I invcsLcd $l00 in busincss cards, sLaLioncry, and scnL ouL somc noLiccs LhaL
I was availablc Lo spcak on Lopics Lo Lhc local dcnLal organizaLions wiLhin my
sLaLc. I wcnL rom Lcaching Lo volunLccring, Lo purchasing busincss cards, and
inally soliciLing cngagcmcnLs. Amazingly, pcoplc rcspondcd and I was on my
way Lo building my spcaking busincss.
WRIGHT
Your cnLhusiasm is conLagious, I rcmcmbcr hcaring you quiLc somc Limc
ago. How do you mainLain such a zcsL or your Lopics`
MEEUWENBERG
I you'rc cxciLcd abouL whaL you'rc Lalking abouL, iL jusL comcs Lhrough
you can'L hidc iL. I also havc a highly cxprcssivc pcrsonaliLy sLylc. I cnjoy lic
and ind iL ascinaLing. I only spcak on Lopics LhaL I'm vcry passionaLc abouL.
IL's LhaL passion LhaL comcs Lhrough Lo my audicnccs as cnLhusiasm. On my
spcakcr cvaluaLion orm, my highcsL marks arc usually or my cnLhusiasm
Loward Lhc Lopic.
WRIGHT
You'vc accd challcngcs and advcrsiLy in your lic, would you dcscribc Lhosc
challcngcs or our rcadcrs and how you managcd Lhcm`
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MEEUWENBERG
Surc, Lhcrc arc a cw Lhings. Fvcrybody has or has had somc advcrsiLy in his
or hcr lic. You can choosc Lo lcL iL dcsLroy you or lcL iL bc a powcr Lo movc you
inLo dicrcnL arcnas.
An issuc LhaL I'vc bccn sLruggling wiLh Lhc lasL scvcral ycars is dcgcncraLivc
disk discasc o my spinc. I had Lo Lakc an carly rcLircmcnL rom univcrsiLy
Lcaching. ThaL was scary. ForLunaLcly, I had a Iong Tcrm DisabiliLy policy
Lhrough Lhc univcrsiLy. Dcaling wiLh chronic pain and limiLaLion has bccn
cxLrcmcly challcnging. On Lhc oLhcr hand, iL has LaughL mc so much abouL
crcaLing balancc in my lic. Bcing a Typc A pcrsonaliLy is a hugc challcngc. On
days LhaL I am ccling good, I havc a Lcndcncy Lo ovcrdo iL, puLLing mc back
inLo pain and aLiguc.
Iikc many pcoplc in Lhis counLry, I had a brokcn marriagc lcading Lo singlc
parcnLing. I had a child wiLh spccial nccds who was ill much o Lhc Limc. I was
building my carccr as an aspiring procssor whilc managing Lhc challcngcs o
singlc parcnLing. ThaL LaughL mc a loL o Lhings abouL lic and how Lo bc
succcssul. I had Lo bc vcry organizcd.
Bcing Lhc providcr and having a dcpcndcnL child propcllcd mc Lo go back Lo
school. I wcnL back Lo collcgc aL orLy wiLh a ivc-ycar old in Low Lo gcL a sccond
masLcr's dcgrcc in CommunicaLion. Thc cducaLion has hclpcd my spcaking
carccr in many ways. UndcrsLanding communicaLion scicncc and iLs many
applicaLions has ccrLainly addcd morc programs Lo my rcpcrLoirc and hclpcd in
Lhc dclivcry o Lhc courscs I alrcady prcscnLcd.
WRIGHT
So whaL was Lhc sLraw LhaL brokc Lhc camcl's backwhaL madc you dccidc
Lo bccomc a spcakcr`
MEEUWENBERG
IL was noLhing I planncd. I had a Lrcmcndous anxicLy abouL public spcaking.
I know you'vc probably hcard Lhcrc is no grcaLcr car Lhan public spcaking.
Fvcn car o burning alivc isn'L carcd as much as sLanding up in ronL o an
audicncc and spcaking. For mc iL was Lhc samc. Oncc I accd LhaL car and was
ablc Lo gcL up in ronL o sixLy sLudcnLs, Lhc hurdlc was managcablc. I aLLcndcd
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lccLurcs in conLinuing cducaLion courscs and imagincd how I could bc up Lhcrc
doing Lhc samc Lhing. I challcngcd myscl, I you know morc Lhan Lhcy do
abouL Lhis Lopic, Lhcn iL's Limc Lo gcL up and do iL."
I sLarLcd prcscnLing scicnLiic papcrs aL my procssional associaLion
mccLings on cducaLional Lcchniqucs and Lhcorics. I would waiL or somcbody Lo
say, BuL waiL a minuLc, whaL abouL" and challcngc mc, howcvcr, iL rarcly
happcncd. In acL, whaL did happcn was LhaL pcoplc mcL wiLh mc aLcrward.
Thcy wanLcd Lo Lalk morc abouL Lhc Lopic or wanLcd mc Lo comc and sharc my
inormaLion wiLh Lhcir aculLy.
I was prcscnLcd wiLh a FirsL Placc award aL Lhc Amcrican AssociaLion o
DcnLal Schools, in compcLiLion wiLh all Lhc major dcnLal schools in Canada and
Lhc UniLcd SLaLcs. I prcscnLcd my papcr on Lcaching paLicnL-ccnLcrcd
counscling Lcchniqucs. Amazingly, I was Lhc irsL-placc winncr. I wasn'L cvcn
hoping Lo placc. I was jusL cxciLcd LhaL I was acccpLcd Lo compcLc in a vcry
prcsLigious organizaLion.
Thosc Lhings jusL kcpL propclling mc Lo ind morc spcaking cngagcmcnLs.
WRIGHT
So whaL rolc has ncLworking playcd in building your spcaking busincss`
MEEUWENBERG
NcLworking is hugc, iL is so vcry imporLanL. Whcn I go back Lo Lhc prcvious
qucsLion: whaL advicc do I havc or pcoplc who would likc Lo go inLo spcaking,
my advicc is ncLwork cvcrywhcrc you can. Bc nicc Lo pcoplc, bc ricndly, cxLcnd
yourscl. IL's imporLanL Lo collccL as many busincss cards as you can, makc as
many connccLions as you can, and Lo always conLribuLc.
Whcn I'm conLribuLing on a commiLLcc or whcn I'm involvcd wiLh Lhc
Chambcr o Commcrcc, Lhc InLcrnaLional RoLary, or onc o my procssional
associaLions, I'm consLanLly sccking Lo mccL ncw pcoplc. Thcy cnhancc you as a
pcrson and who knows, down Lhc road Lhcy mighL bc ablc Lo puL you in a
posiLion whcrc you can spcak or ocr somc kind o scrvicc Lo Lhcir
organizaLion.
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NcLworking is a major acLor, I could noL havc builL my busincss wiLhouL
ncLworking. I also havc Lo add LhaL ncLworking is noL casy Lo mcI grcw up a
shy girl in a rural communiLy in Michigan. I was noL vcry ouLgoing, buL LhaL has
all changcd.
Now I can work a crowd" wiLh cascgcLLing Lo know pcoplc and
cxchanging busincss cards and idcas. Thc kcy Lo bcing a succcssul spcakcr is Lo
gcL cxposcd Lo as many pcoplc as possiblc in many vcnucs. MosL organizaLions
cmploy spcakcrs. Do noL limiL yourscl! I spcak on many Lopics oLhcr Lhan
dcnLisLry and now mosL cngagcmcnLs happcn rom rccrrals or somconc in my
audicncc who inviLcs mc Lo spcak Lo his or hcr group.
WRIGHT
I know LhaL you havc volunLccrcd or mosL o your lic. How did you gcL
started and why do you conLinuc Lo volunLccr`
MEEUWENBERG
I havc Lo conLribuLc Lhis Lo my parcnLs, in parLicular, my moLhcr. I grcw up
as a child in Lhc iLics. In LhaL gcncraLion pcoplc hclpcd cach oLhcr. As I
mcnLioncd prcviously, I grcw up in a rural communiLy in Michigan. I can
rcmcmbcr my moLhcr Laking my broLhcr and mc Lo oldcr (widowcd) ladics in
Lhc ncighborhood who had arms. Wc would go in and clcan Lhcir housc or hclp
Lhcm pick and snap Lhcir bcans. My moLhcr would do somc clcaning or do Lhcir
dishcs. ThaL's how volunLccring sLarLcd or mc. Wc wcrc also vcry acLivc in our
church communiLy. My parcnLs wcrc Lhc youLh dirccLors. Wc did many
volunLccr acLiviLics in Lhc communiLy. So iL was a way o lic or mc rom Lhc
Limc I was a child. VolunLccring cnablcs you Lo givc so much back. How can you
noL wanL Lo givc back whcn wc havc bccn givcn so many giLs`
WRIGHT
You oLcn spcak abouL wcllncss and crcaLing balancc. Would you Lcll our
rcadcrs abouL your inLcrcsL in wcllncss and how crcaLing balancc has bccomc a
corncrsLonc o your licsLylc`
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MEEUWENBERG
I hinLcd abouL Lhis carlicr in your qucsLion. As a young woman aL scvcnLccn
going away Lo collcgc and bccoming a rcgisLcrcd dcnLal hygicnisL sLarLcd Lhc
journcy. Oral hcalLh was Lhc impcLus Lo bcgin my journcy inLo wcllncss.
Now wc havc so much scicncc abouL how oral hcalLh is connccLcd Lo Lhc
cnLirc body. Wc'vc always known Lhis in dcnLisLry, howcvcr iL's jusL bccn
rcccnLly LhaL Lhc mcdical communiLy and Lhc scicnLiic communiLy is rclaLing
oral condiLions Lo diabcLcs, hcarL discasc, low birLh wcighL babics, kidncy
ailurc, lung inccLions, and on and on. So oral hcalLh bcgan my journcy inLo
wcllncss My Sunday school Lcachings had a signiicanL inlucncc on mc as
wcllyour body is Lhc Lcmplc o Lhc Holy ChosL which is in you, which ye
havc o Cod" (l CorinLhians 6:l0).
Morc rcccnLly, dcaling wiLh chronic pain and having a Lypc A compcLiLivc
pcrsonaliLy, I nccdcd Lo lcarn how Lo crcaLc lcisurc in my lic. I had Lo lcarn Lo
balancc acLiviLy wiLh lcisurc. Bcing a singlc parcnL wiLh an ill child orccd mc Lo
crcaLc balancc Lo mainLain my own hcalLh. I was in Lhc hospiLal oLcn long
hours and had Lo lcarn how Lo ind Limc Lo Lakc carc o mc in ordcr or my
hcalLh Lo bc good cnough or mc Lo hclp my daughLcr. This has bccn criLical in
my rccovcry. Whcn I'm bcginning Lo ccl a liLLlc biL o aLiguc and musclc
spasms sLarL, I nccd Lo sLop righL Lhcn, LhaL's my signaliL's my body saying
I'm ouL o balancc, iL's Limc Lo rcsLand I nccdcd Lo lcarn Lo lcL LhaL bc okay. I
now Lakc rcqucnL naps wiLhouL guilL.
WRIGHT
You havc mcnLorcd hundrcds o sLudcnLs and parLicipanLs rom your
scminars, somc sLudcnLs havc rccrrcd Lo you as Lhcir Lcachcr or lic. Tcll us
abouL Lhc rolc o mcnLoring and hclping oLhcrs bccomc succcssul.
MEEUWENBERG
I havc Lo laugh abouL Lhis onc. I havc a vcry dcar ricnd who graduaLcd in
Lhc class o l0S5. Shc livcs in Colorado and has hcr own dcnLal hygicnc
pracLicc. Wc wcrc jusL LogcLhcr rcccnLly wiLh anoLhcr onc o hcr classmaLcs as
wcll. Thcy chimcd in abouL how Lhcy call mc Lhcir Lcachcr or lic.
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As a Lcachcr you havc such a powcrul accL on your sLudcnLs, ncgaLivc or
posiLivc. IL's acLually somcwhaL scary Lo know you can havc Lhc kind o
inlucncc LhaL lasLs a licLimc.
I mcnLioncd carlicr abouL ncLworking and Lhc idca o jusL bcing nicc to
pcoplc, bcing caring, compassionaLc, and showing cmpaLhy. I rcally pracLiccd
LhaL in my Lcaching. I hcld sLudcnLs accounLablc Lo a vcry high sLandard, buL I
was also vcry compassionaLc wiLh Lhcm and conLinually coaching Lhcm. I ound
iL Lo bc much morc powcrul Lhan bcing criLical. I havc conLinucd Lo do Lhis
insidc Lhc classroom as wcll as ouLsidc Lhc classroom.
A numbcr o womcn I havc workcd wiLh havc said, Cosh, how do you do
whaL you do` I would likc Lo bc a spcakcr Loo" or I would likc Lo go inLo
Lcaching." I jusL conLinuc Lo mcnLor Lhcsc sLudcnLs" who havc bccn in my
classroom as wcll as parLicipanLs who arc in my scminars.
I may havc somcbody in my scminar who is dcaling wiLh a chronic hcalLh
condiLion and can no longcr pracLicc dcnLal hygicnc. ThaL happcns vcry oLcn
in our procssion. Wc havc back problcms, shouldcr problcms, carpal Lunncl,
cLc. AnyLhing I can do Lo hclp guidc Lhcm Lo anoLhcr avcnuc Lo display Lhcir
skills and carn a living is whaL I'm all abouL. I didn'L gcL whcrc I am in Lhis
licLimc wiLhouL hclp rom oLhcr pcoplc and I wanL Lo rcLurn LhaL hclp Lcnold
whcncvcr I can. I havc assisLcd a numbcr o womcn in owning Lhcir own
busincsscs or LransiLioning rom a posiLion in clinical dcnLal hygicnc Lo anoLhcr
arcna.
WRIGHT
Your succcss is inLacL I'm surc. So whaL's ncxL or Iinda Mccuwcnbcrg
whaL's in Lhc uLurc`
MEEUWENBERG
Oh, David, Lhcrc is so much lic Lo livc ycL. I rcachcd my sixLicLh birLhday in
Novcmbcr and I said, How did I gcL Lo bc sixLy ycars old` I'm a scnior ciLizcn!"
Thcrc is so much lcL or mc Lo cxpcricncc and do. I'm vcry inLcrcsLcd in going
back Lo school again. I would lovc Lo complcLc my sLudics in Lhc arca o holisLic
hcalLh. I plan Lo conLinuc wriLing, spcaking, and volunLccring. Thc RcLircd
Scnior and VolunLccr Program (RSVP), has givcn mc so many opporLuniLics.
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Thcy kccp opcning morc doors or mc. I wanL Lo kccp going and cnjoying lic
cvcry day LhaL is givcn Lo mc. I wanL Lo bc morc involvcd in inLcrnaLional
causcs and will bc Lravcling Lo SouLh Arica as an ambassador wiLh Lhc Pcoplc
Lo Pcoplc program in OcLobcr 2000.
WRIGHT
Wcll, whaL a plcasurc Lalking Lo you again. I rcally apprcciaLc Lhc Limc you'vc
spcnL wiLh mc Loday Lo answcr all Lhcsc qucsLions. You arc, o coursc, noL only
cnLhusiasLic buL inspiring as wcll. I know LhaL our rcadcrs arc going Lo gcL a loL
ouL o Lhis chapLcr in our book.
MEEUWENBERG
Thank you so much, David, or your kind words, I apprcciaLc LhaL.
WRIGHT
Today wc'vc bccn Lalking wiLh Iinda Mccuwcnbcrg. Iinda is a spcakcr,
Lraincr, consulLanL, and CFO o Procssional DcvclopmcnL AssociaLion
IncorporaLcd. WiLh ovcr our dccadcs o procssional cxpcricncc, combincd
wiLh hcr cnLhusiasm, Iinda dclivcrs powcrul prcscnLaLions LhaL moLivaLc hcr
parLicipanLs Lo acLion.
Iinda, Lhank you so much or bcing wiLh us Loday on Stepping Stones to
Success.
MEEUWENBERG
My plcasurc, David.
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A B O U T T HE A U T HOR
LINDA MEEUWENBERG is oundcr and CFO o Procssional DcvclopmcnL
AssociaLion IncorporaLcd. Shc is a mcmbcr o Lhc Chambcr o Commcrcc whcrc
shc scrvcd on a small busincss dcvclopmcnL council and has bccn an acLivc
mcmbcr o Lhc InLcrnaLional RoLary. Shc volunLccrs wiLh RSVP in Florida and
Michigan. Iinda holds Lhc rank o Procssor FmcriLus aL Fcrris SLaLc UnivcrsiLy
in Michigan. Shc holds a irsL-placc award rom Lhc Amcrican AssociaLion o
DcnLal Schools and was inducLcd inLo Lhc DcnLal Hygicnc Honor SocicLy, Sigma
Phi Alpha, or hcr ouLsLanding conLribuLion Lo dcnLal hygicnc cducaLion. Shc
scrvcs on Lhc ProcLor and Camblc Oral B gucsL lccLurc board. Shc is a cllow
wiLh Lhc AssociaLion o DcnLal ImplanL Auxiliarics, scrving as a conLribuLing
auLhor, advisory board mcmbcr, and rcqucnL lccLurc. Iinda scrvcs as a
consulLanL Lo Lhc WcsL Michigan MigranL HcalLh Scrviccs whcrc shc has
dclivcrcd oral carc or ovcr LwcnLy-ivc ycars Lo migranL amilics.
Shc has publishcd scvcral procssional arLiclcs, a shorL sLory, and is
currcnLly auLhoring a childrcn's book. Shc is an inLcrnaLionally rccognizcd
spcakcr, auLhor, and cducaLor wiLh ovcr our dccadcs o procssional
cxpcricncc. Iinda's cxpcrLisc, combincd wiLh hcr cnLhusiasm, cnsurcs LhaL shc
dclivcrs a powcrul prcscnLaLion LhaL moLivaLcs parLicipanLs Lo acLion.
LINDA MEEUWENBERG
6l0 Drivcr Avc.
WinLcr Park, FI 327S0
(23l) 50S.l740 (ccll)
(23l) 072.44S0 (voicc mail)
lindalindapda.com
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C HA P T E R E I G HT E E N
Thc ArL o MasLcry:
Inspiring Fxccllcncc in Work and Iic
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . Nancy Noonan
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc arc orLunaLc Lo havc succcssul spcakcr, auLhor, and human
poLcnLial cxpcrL, Nancy Noonan, as a conLribuLing auLhor Lo Stepping Stones to
Success. Nancy is bascd ouL o Iouisvillc, Colorado, and Lravcls Lhc counLry
spcaking abouL The Art of Mastery Lo busincsscs and organizaLions. Shc is
passionate abouL hclping Lhcm rcigniLc Lhcir pcoplc and movc Lhcir
organizaLions rom Mediocrity to Mastery, improving moralc, producLiviLy,
leadership, and boLLom-linc rcsulLs. Nancy Lruly bclicvcs Lhis: In Loday's world,
mcdiocriLy can'L bc aordcd. Ncw and bcLLcr ways o opcraLing arc mandaLory.
Fxccllcnccin boLh our pcrsonal and work livcsis a rcquircmcnL." Nancy's
audicnccs consisLcnLly say shc and hcr programs arc dciniLcly ouL o Lhc
ordinary" and a rcrcshing blcnd o bcing inormaLivc and inspiraLional, as
wcll as cnLcrLaining!" Shc aLLribuLcs Lhc cnLcrLaining" piccc Lo hcr Irish
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hcriLagc o sLoryLcllcrs and humorisLs, as wcll as hcr own cxpcricncc in improv.
Nancy's auLhorship includcs Lhc inLcrnaLionally publishcd collcgc LcxLbook, The
Art of Writing about Art, and How to Be a Super Achiever: 12 Strategies for
Unleashing your Success. Shc is also a conLribuLing auLhor Lo Lhc Chicken Soup for
the Soul book scrics. Cuidcd by Mastery in hcr own lic, Nancy carncd Lhc Master
Teacher Award, known as Lhc Oscar" o acadcmia, as wcll as Lhc Excellence
Award rom Lhc NaLional InsLiLuLc or SLa and OrganizaLional DcvclopmcnL.
Shc is a mcmbcr o Lhc InLcrnaLional FcdcraLion o Procssional Spcakcrs and
Lhc NaLional Spcakcrs AssociaLion wiLh Lwo Lcrms on Lhc NSA/CO cxccuLivc
board. To bring spark and mastery inLo hcr own lic, Nancy cnjoys hiking,
gourmcL cooking, LcnL camping, ly ishing, rcading, arL muscums, travel, and
occasional Lap dancing.
Nancy, wclcomc Lo Stepping Stones to Success.
NANCY NOONAN (NOONAN)
Thank you, David. I'm dclighLcd Lo bc Lalking wiLh you.
WRIGHT
IcL's bcgin our discussion by my saying I'm inLrigucd by Lhc LiLlc o your
business, The Art of Mastery. I'd irsL likc Lo know whaL is mastery and then how
does masLcry rclaLc Lo succcssor does it?
NOONAN
David, Ill be glad Lo Lalk abouL masLcry irsL and Lhcn wc'll scc how masLcry
docs rclaLc Lo succcss.
MasLcry has a numbcr o componcnLs Lo iL, buL iLs own steppingstones can bc
undcrsLood Lhrough a basic ormula:
Mastery = Skills + Knowledge + Excellence
PuL simply, masLcry occurs whcn you usc your honed skills and knowlcdgc
Lo conLinually achicvc cxccllcncc in your goals and in your arca o ocus.
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So Lhc irsL steppingstone to masLcry is Lo amass a subsLanLial amounL o
skills and knowlcdgc in your arca o ocus. CcL Lhc cducaLion, do Lhc rcading,
makc Lhc connccLions, and acquirc Lhc cxpcricnLial basc nccdcd Lo cxccl.
And Lhcn a characLcrisLic o Lruc mastersLhosc who achicvc masteryis
that they never stop adding to their arsenal o skills and knowlcdgc. Thcy don'L
scc addiLional lcarning and acquiring ncw skills and knowlcdgc as unncccssary
or a burdenquiLc Lhc opposiLc. Thcy havc a rcal passion or liclong lcarning
and bccomc cxciLcd abouL iL, Lhcy arc willing Lo acquirc ncw insLrucLion and
vicwpoinLs Lo dccpcn Lhcir own knowlcdgc. In acL, Lhcy proacLivcly and
conLinually scck ouL Lhcsc lcarning opporLuniLics and arc noL oncs Lo siL back
and rcsL on Lhcir laurcls oncc Lhcy havc arrivcd." They see the value in
conLinuing Lo grow and lcarn.
MasLcrs also oLcn look Lo lcarn morc outside o Lhcir own iclds Lo inorm
Lhcir own Lhinking and work. PcLcr Paul Rubcns, Lhc Flcmish masLcr arLisL o
the baroque style in the seventeenth ccnLury, was, in addiLion Lo bcing an
accomplishcd painLcr, a humanisL scholar and a sLrong advocaLc o liclong
lcarning. Hc conLinually sLudicd philosophy, rhcLoric, pocLry, and history,
using Lhcm Lo inorm his myLhologically and hisLorically bascd painLings
LhroughouL his carccr. IL wasn'L cnough or Rubcns Lo jusL sLudy how to paint,
lcarning Lhc Lcchniqucs and idiosyncrasics o Lhc oil mcdia in which hc usually
workcd. Hc also sLudicd what hc should painL, dccpcning his subjccL maLLcr and
in Lhc proccss, making his painLings somc o Lhc mosL inLriguing and dramaLic
works cvcr donc.
Thc 3apancsc incorporaLc Rubcns' approach Lo liclong lcarning in Lhcir
conccpL o Kaizen. Kaizcn mcans conLinual improvcmcnL in all aspccLs o lic.
MasLcrs inLuiLivcly livc a lic o Kaizcn principlcs, conLinuously looking to
improvc all aspccLs o lic and rigorously pracLicing Lhc disciplinc ncccssary Lo
do so.
The third steppingstone Lo rcach masLcry is cxccllcncc. Fxccllcncc implics a
supcrlaLivc abiliLy, supcrioriLy in skills, knowlcdgc, and achicvcmcnLs. MasLcrs
are noL saLisicd Lo jusL acquirc some skills and knowlcdgc. Thcy sLrivc Lo gcL
Lhc bcsL and Lo bc Lhc bcsL. Thcy arc noL saLisicd wiLh mcdiocriLyLhcy go or
cxccllcncc. I Lalk abouL Lhis in my kcynoLcs and sharc my dccply hcld bclic LhaL
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wc wcrc noL puL on this EarLh Lo livc mcdiocrc livcs, buL Lo bc cxccllcnL and Lo
livc Lhc mosL cxLraordinary livcs wc can possibly livc.
WRIGHT
So i wc wanL Lo bc masLcrs in our livcs and work, iL sccms wc musL go or
cxccllcncc, Loo.
NOONAN
No qucsLion. And iL's parLicularly imporLanL now bccausc in Lhc workplacc
and cconomy Loday, mcdiocriLy can'L bc aordcd. Ncw and bcLLcr ways o
opcraLing arc mandaLory. Raising Lhc bar is noL jusL a nicc opLion, buL csscnLial.
Fxccllcncc is a rcquircmcnL. 3im Collins' book, Good to Great, was so wcll
rcccivcd bccausc wc nccd and wanL LhaL sLandard o cxccllcncc.
MasLcrs insLincLivcly know LhaL Lhcy musL go or cxccllcncc i they wanL Lo
succccdand Lhcy do!
WRIGHT
Ah, so mastery is Licd inLo succcss`
NOONAN
AbsoluLcly. Succcss, in iLs basic dicLionary-sLylc mcaning, has Lo do wiLh
having broughL abouL a avorablc ouLcomc or achicvcmcnL. Thosc who havc
rcachcd a lcvcl o mastery have also broughL abouL a avorablc ouLcomc or
achicvcmcnL and havc, Lhcrcorc, aLLaincd succcss. For masLcrs, Lhc succcss is
grcaL and dciniLc.
The very steppingstones uscd by pcoplc and organizaLions Lo rcach succcss
are also used by masLcrs Lo aLLain Lhcir goals and Lhcir succcss:
l. Dcinc
2. Focus
3. Takc AcLion
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Thc irsL sLcp hcrc is a biL morc subjccLivc and has Lo do wiLh asking yourscl
whaL your own dciniLion o succcss is. Ask whaL is imporLanL Lo youwhaL do
you most valuc`
Is iL imporLanL Lo you Lo spcnd Limc wiLh your amily and ricnds`
To spcnd Limc in naLurc`
To bc hcalLhy and iL`
Is iL imporLanL Lo conLribuLc your Limc and cncrgy Lo hclp oLhcrs`
How imporLanL is iL Lo crcaLc inancial rcsourccs`
Arc Lhcrc Lhings you rcally wanL Lo doLravcl, sLudy, acL, bccomc proicicnL
wiLh Lcchnology, cnjoy your hobbics`
Is iL imporLanL Lo bccomc a wcll-known cxpcrL in your icld`
Or Lo risc in your company or procssion`
How abouL giving your company Lhc dcining cdgc ovcr Lhc compcLiLion`
Is iL imporLanL Lo havc a million dollars in Lhc bank`
To raisc childrcn who havc a high dcgrcc o scl-esteem, scl-conidcncc, and
scl-moLivaLion`
How you dcinc whaL you pcrsonally valuc dcLcrmincs how you crcaLc your
vision and your goals, which lcads Lo your succcss. Rcmcmbcr LhaL sincc iL is
pcrsonal and subjccLivc, your own valucs will makc your vision, your goals, and
your succcss look dicrcnL rom Lhc ncxL pcrson's. And LhaL's a good Lhing.
Your succcss will noL comc abouL by applying a cookic-cuLLcr approach or bcing
a copycaL, buL by bcing crcaLivc and sLaying Lruc Lo who you arc and whaL you
valuc.
I oncc hcard Nido Qucbcin, PrcsidcnL o High Point University in North
Carolina and Chairman o Lhc CrcaL HarvcsL Brcad Company, spcak aL a
concrcncc. In Lhc question-and-answcr sccLion o Lhc program, hc was askcd
Lo whaL hc aLLribuLcd his succcss. Hc namcd scvcral kcy acLors and onc o
Lhcm was LhaL hc rcads cvcry nighL and hc never rcads icLion. I sLill rcmcmbcr
ccling horriicd aL Lhc LhoughL. Having bccn an avid lovcr o icLion my cnLirc
lic and bccn in a dynamic icLion book group or ourLccn years, I can'L imaginc
Lhc hugc void I would ccl in my lic i I didn'L rcad good icLional liLcraLurc. For
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mc, LhaL would not smack o a lic o succcss. BuL or Nido iL workcd pcrccLly.
It is an individual proccss.
Oncc you havc dcincd your values, vision, and goals, Lhc sccond
steppingstone is to focus on LhaL vision and your goals. IL is noL cnough Lo jusL
dcinc Lhcm. WriLing Lhcm down on a piccc o papcr and sLuing iL in a drawcr
mighL hclp you Lidy up Lhc Lop o your dcsk, buL iL will noL lcad you Lo succcss.
InsLcad, ocus on Lhc mosL imporLanL sLcps you nccd Lo Lakc Lo accomplish Lhc
objccLivcs LhaL camc ouL o your valucs qucry. Thcn kccp LhaL ocus in Lhc ronL
o your mind. AuLhor Iouisc Brooks said, Anyonc who has achicvcd cxccllcncc
in any orm knows LhaL iL comcs as a rcsulL o ccasclcss conccnLraLion."
Ccasclcss conccnLraLion or ocus. So, lcL ccasclcss conccnLraLion and ocus bc
the engine that leads you to the third steppingstone.
The third steppingstone to success is to take action. Usc your ocus and Lakc
acLion Lo bring your vision and goals ouL inLo Lhc world. Usc Lhc samc acLion
steps that the masLcrs usc Lo achicvc Lhcir masLcry, Lhcir succcss. Achicving
succcss and masLcry arc noL rcscrvcd jusL or innaLc gcniuscs. Thcy are
availablc Lo anyonc as long as you apply consisLcnL pcrsisLcncc. ConLinuing
Loward your goals in spiLc o challcngcs, obsLaclcs, and disLracLions will allow
you Lo unlcash your ullcsL poLcnLial and usc your grcaLcsL giLs Lo bc your mosL
cxccllcnL scl.
WRIGHT
IL sounds as i mastery and succcss arc vcry closcly linkcd. Is LhaL corrccL`
NOONAN
Ycs, Lhcy arc. Thcy arc so closcly inLcrLwincd LhaL or our purposcs Loday,
whcn wc Lalk abouL mastery, wc arc also Lalking abouL success.
WRIGHT
Nancy, whcrc did your own inLcrcsL in mastery comc rom?
NOONAN
I irsL havc Lo givc my moLhcr crcdiL or insLilling in mc LhaL all-imporLanL
componcnL o masLcry and succcss LhaL wc jusL Lalkcd abouLcxccllcncc. Onc
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o my amily jobs as a kid in Rockvillc, Maryland, was LhaL cvcry SaLurday I had
Lo clcan Lhc baLhroom. Now Lhis was noL jusL a baLhroom, buL the baLhroom
LhaL was uscd by all o usmy parcnLs, my Lwo youngcr, sLinky broLhcrs, and
mccvcry singlc day. Yuck! And you can bcL LhaL cvcry SaLurday, abouL Lcn
minuLcs inLo Lhis drcadcd job, I sLarLcd my usual whining Lo my moLhcr.
This is disgusLing! IL's noL air. I'm noL Lhc only onc who uscs Lhis
baLhroom! Why do I always havc Lo bc Lhc onc Lo clcan iL`" Yada, yada, yada.
My moLhcr usually ignorcd my clcaning-the-baLhroom whining, buL onc
SaLurday shc had had cnough. Shc saL mc down and said, Iook. This mighL noL
bc Lhc mosL glamorous job in Lhc world ['no kidding, I was Lhinking], but it is
an imporLanL onc. And no maLLcr whaL job you'rc doing, whaL's imporLanL is
LhaL you do iL Lo Lhc bcsL o your abiliLy. In Lhis baLhroom, makc Lhcsc spigoLs
shinc morc brighLly Lhan anyonc's cvcr madc Lhcm shinc. Do iL so wcll, so
cxccllcnLly, that you would ccl proud Lo sign your namc Lo Lhc spigoLs, saying,
'Nancy Noonan clcancd Lhcsc.'!
You can bcL LhaL I sLill wasn'L Lhrillcd Lo bc clcaning Lhc baLhroom, buL whaL
my moLhcr said did hclp mc shiL my aLLiLudc and ccl somc pcrsonal
saLisacLion or doing my bcsL. ThaL idca sLuck LhaL day and cndcd up carrying
LhroughouL my wholc lic. To Lhis day, whcn I'm dclivcring a spccch, aciliLaLing
a program, or wriLing an arLiclc, I sLill ccl guidcd by my moLhcr's cxhorLaLion
Lo makc iL cxccllcnL so LhaL I'm proud Lo sign my namc Lo iL!"
WRIGHT
Is LhaL whcn Lhc conccpL o masLcry" irsL camc Lo you`
NOONAN
Probably, alLhough aL LhaL agc, I don'L Lhink I acLually LhoughL o iL in Lhc
Lcrm o masLcry." I Lhink iL was rcally ccmcnLcd, howcvcr, in l064 whcn my
amily wcnL Lo Ncw York CiLy Lo Lhc World's Fair.
As Lrcmcndously cxciLing as iL all was, Lhcrc was onc cxpcricncc LhaL sLands
ouL abovc all Lhc oLhcrs. For Lhc irsL Limc cvcr, Lhc VaLican had shippcd
Michclangclo's marblc sLaLuc o Lhc PicL rom iLs homc in SainL PcLcr's Basilica
in Romc Lo bc on display. AmidsL all o Lhc noisc and hubbub o Ncw York and
Lhc Fair, whcn onc cnLcrcd Lhc pavilion LhaL houscd Lhc PicL, Lhcrc was
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complcLc and uLLcr silcncc. A palpablc ccling o awc scLLlcd ovcr Lhc visitors as
wc glidcd pasL iL on a moving walkway. Cool bluc and whiLc lighL surroundcd
Mary as shc hcld Lhc dcccascd 3csus in hcr lap. As a girl, I rcmcmbcr gasping aL
Lhc magniiccncc, Lhc bcauLy, Lhc masLcry o Lhc sLaLuc. I had ncvcr bcorc paid
much aLLcnLion Lo arL, buL on LhaL day I was irrcLricvably alLcrcd by whaL a Lruc
masLcr could do and Lhc eccL iL could havc on mc and on my lic. I cxpcricnccd
Lhc Lruc powcr o masLcry irsLhand.
Sincc LhaL irsL cxposurc Lo Michclangclo and his brcaLhLaking masLcrpiccc,
I have studied mastery and the mastersthe masLcr arLisLs in parLicularor
over LwcnLy-ivc ycars. I LaughL collcgc arL hisLory or many ycars and was
honorcd whcn my moLhcr's advicc Lo go or cxccllcncc" culminaLcd in my
rccciving Lhc highly rcspccLcd MasLcr Tcachcr" award.
Along Lhc way, I also had cxpcricncc in Lhc busincss world in corporaLc
dcvclopmcnL, salcs and markcLing, and busincss owncrship. Now I combinc
Lhosc cxpcricnccs and knowlcdgc in my busincss, The Art of Mastery. I Lcach
pcoplc and organizaLions how Lo unlcash Lhcir own ull poLcnLial and
cxpcricncc succcss in Lhcir livcs and work by using Lhc samc sLraLcgics o
mastery that enable the masLcr arLisLs Lo sLarL wiLh a blank canvas and go on Lo
crcaLc a masLcrpiccc.
ALcr all, wiLh cach o us, cvcry day, cvcry projccL, cvcry challcngc sLarLs as a
blank canvas. Thc qucsLion or us is WhaL will wc do wiLh iL` Will wc lcavc iL
blank` Will wc jusL daub a cw primary colors on iL, i you will, and play iL sac`
Or will wc do whaL iL Lakcs Lo makc a masLcrpiccc o iL`" Thcsc arc qucsLions wc
ask o oursclvcs and the choiccs wc makc cvcry singlc day, whcLhcr wc
consciously rcalizc iL or noL.
WRIGHT
So whaL you'rc saying is LhaL Lhcrc is a connccLion bcLwccn whaL Lhc master
arLisLs do Lo crcaLc Lhcir masLcrpicccs, Lhcir succcss, and whaL Lhc rcsL o us do
Lo crcaLc ours`
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NOONAN
A dciniLc connccLion. Now, David, whcn you scc a work o masterya
masLcrpicccwhcrc do you scc iL`
WRIGHT
Usually in a muscum or a gallcry or somc kind o cxhibiLion.
NOONAN
FxacLly. Wc scc Lhc work whcn iL is alrcady finished, a aiL accompli. WhaL wc
dont see is the canvas as Lhc masLcr arLisL saw iL aL Lhc bcginningblank
maybc cvcn cxcruciaLingly blank. Wc don'L see Lhc proccss LhaL Lhc master
arLisL wcnL Lhrough Lo Lakc LhaL blank canvas and Lurn iL inLo a brcaLhLaking
masLcrpiccc, buL wc do know, wiLhouL a doubL, LhaL a proccss was uscd.
Whcn I was Lcaching arL hisLory, I LaughL abouL noL only Lhc cnd rcsulLs
the masLcrpicccsbut also abouL Lhc arLisLs as pcoplc. Through my own sLudy,
I ound I was oLcn ablc Lo somcwhaL gcL insidc o Lhc arLisLs' hcads Lo
undcrsLand somc o whaL Lhcy wcnL Lhroughsomc o Lhcir proccss. I sharcd
wiLh my sLudcnLs how many master artists did not have instant amc and
succcssLhcy had Lo work or iL. Thcy wcrc noL araid o clbow grcasc" and
hard work. Michclangclo said, I pcoplc only kncw how hard I work Lo gain my
masLcry!" IL wasn'L all un and gamcs. BuL iL was all worLh iL. Thcy had sLick-to-
itiveness, buL Lhcy oLcn had Lrials and LribulaLions along Lhc paLh.
Wcll, as I was Lclling my classcs abouL Lhcsc Lrials and LribulaLions, I rcalizcd
I was lcarning a loL o sLraLcgics and sLcps LhaL I could Lakc Lo improvc my own
lic and work. Thc Lcachcr bccamc Lhc sLudcnL! Thc masters used strategies and
principlcs LhaL applicd Lo mc and my own lic and work and Lhcy also apply Lo
cvcry pcrson and organizaLion inLcrcsLcd in cxccllcncc and succcss. Thcsc
succcss sLraLcgics and principlcs arc univcrsal.
WRIGHT
So, Nancy, whaL arc somc o Lhc masLcr arLisLs' sLraLcgics and principlcs
steppingstonesthat would bc parLicularly hclpul Lo our rcadcrs in bringing
abouL Lhcir own success`
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NOONAN
Wcll, Lhc irsL Lhing is rcally Lhc oundaLion or cvcryLhing clsc and LhaL is Lo
listen to the muse. You know Lhc conccpL o Lhc musethe guiding spirit that
is LhoughL Lo inspirc pocLs, musicians, wriLcrs, and visual arLisLs` A muse is the
sourcc o gcnius or inspiraLion. Onc Lhing Lhc master artists do better than
mosL o us is Lo rcally listen to their musc. Thcy quicL Lhcmsclvcs down cnough
so that the musc can acLually comc Lhrough. Now Lhis is a rcal challcngc or us
in Lhis day and agc bccausc wc livc in a virLual raL racc, wouldn'L you agrcc`
WRIGHT
You bcL.
NOONAN
Our livcs arc asL-paccd and noisy and wiLh ccll phoncs, Faccbook, TwiLLcr,
and Lhc likc, wc'rc connccLcd in rcal Limc Lo somconc or somcLhing almosL
consLanLly. Now, don'L gcL mc wrong, somc connccLing is inc. IL's Lhc dcgrcc Lo
which wc sLay connccLcd LhaL is gcLLing in Lhc way o our musc's coming
Lhrough. You'vc hcard Lhc saying, I can'L cvcn hcar myscl Lhink." Wcll, iL's
never been truer Lhan now.
So i wc wanL Lo gcL ncw and bcLLcr idcas and ways o bcing and opcraLing,
wc'd bcLLcr clcar Lhc runway or Lhcm Lo comc in. Wc should consciously do
Lhings Lo rclax and quicL oursclvcs down.
I rcad oncc abouL a corporaLc cxccuLivc who said hc goL his bcsL and mosL
rcqucnL idcas whilc hc was Laking a swim, which hc did daily oncc hc goL homc
rom work. CcL away rom Lhc rouLinc, calm yourscl down, go or a walk,
mcdiLaLc. NoL only arc Lhcsc pracLiccs good or our hcalLh, oLcn rcducing
sLrcss and lowcring blood prcssurc, buL Lhcy allow or Lhc spiriL o inspiraLion
Lo comc loaLing in, Laking us Lo our own ncxL masLcrpicccs, whaLcvcr Lhcy
mighL look likc.
WRIGHT
Sounds likc a smarL placc Lo sLarL.
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NOONAN
Ycs, and oncc wc sLarL quicLing oursclvcs down morc, wc can bcLLcr acccss
the sccond masLcry sLraLcgy I'd likc Lo Lalk abouL LodayLo honor and acLivaLc
our own crcaLiviLy and Lhc crcaLiviLy o Lhosc wc managc, Lcach, and lcad.
Wc all sLarLcd ouL as vcry crcaLivc liLLlc bcings whcn wc wcrc childrcn. Pablo
Picasso said, Fvcry child is an artist. Thc problcm is how Lo rcmain an arLisL
oncc wc grow up." How do wc rcmain crcaLivc` Sadly adulLs, usually
uninLcnLionally, sLarL puLLing lids on childrcn's crcaLiviLy in ordcr Lo gcL Lhcm
Lo conormLo iL in. No wondcr Lhcn LhaL by Lhc Limc wc rcach adulLhood
oursclvcs, wc'vc had a loL o Lhc insLincLual crcaLiviLy snucd ouL in us. By Lhcn
wc also oLcn havc a skcwcd idca LhaL crcaLiviLy is jusL or Lhc arLisLs, noL or
Lhc rcsL o us cvcryday pcoplc.
WRIGHT
So Lhcn whaL is crcaLiviLy or us cvcryday pcoplc`
NOONAN
PuL simply, crcaLiviLy mcans cnvisioning somcLhing in your own uniquc,
original, imaginaLivc waypcriod. Its a vcry simplc conccpL.
WRIGHT
Wc oLcn hcar crcaLiviLy and innovaLion uscd inLcrchangcably. Is Lhcrc a
dicrcncc bcLwccn crcaLiviLy and innovaLion`
NOONAN
InnovaLion is usually considcrcd Lo bc Lhc sccond sLcp or aspccL o
crcaLiviLy, iL has Lo do wiLh bringing whaL you cnvisioncd ouL inLo Lhc univcrsc.
How many pcoplc havc rcgrcLLcd kccping LhaL idca in Lhcir own back pockcL
whilc Lhcy LhoughL on iL," whilc Lhc pcrson down Lhc road brings Lhc samc
idea ouL and makcs a killing on iL or somconc aL his or hcr workplacc proposcs
the idea and gcLs LhaL promoLion hc or shc was hoping or`
The innovation step is whcrc noL only individuals gcL Lrippcd up, buL
organizaLions as wcll. I a company has a loL o pcoplc coming up wiLh onc idca
aLcr anoLhcr, buL no onc Lo implcmcnL Lhcm, Lhcy'rc dcad in Lhc waLcr. I your
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crcaLors arc noL good implcmcnLcrs, iL's oLcn wisc Lo havc Lwo scparaLc
LcamsLhc crcaLors and Lhc innovaLors/implcmcnLcrs.
Onc basic Lhing LhaL can hclp us acLivaLc our crcaLiviLy is Lo consciously
sLarL looking aL oursclvcs as crcaLivc bcings and Lo acknowlcdgc our own
crcaLiviLy.
In my kcynoLcs and workshops I oLcn ask audicncc mcmbcrs Lo Lhink o
somcLhing LhaL Lhcy havc donc in Lhc pasL or do in Lhc prcscnL LhaL is crcaLivc.
I givc Lhcm a liLLlc biL o Limc Lo Lhink abouL Lhis, bccausc noL cvcryonc has a
ready answcr. In acL, somc pcoplc arc Lruly sLumpcd. In LhaL casc, I hclp Lhcm
cxpand Lhc idca o whaL LhaL crcaLivc acLiviLy mighL look likc. Somc pcoplc
mighL do scrap booking or painLing which, Lo many o us, arc morc obviously
crcaLivc." OLhcrs, howcvcr, mighL havc comc up wiLh a ncw opcraLing sysLcm
aL work, wriLLcn a company ncwslcLLcr, or madc Lhc mosL awcsomc yard dcsign
in Lhcir ncighborhood. Thcsc arc all cxamplcs o Lhcir bcing crcaLivc, ycL wc
oLcn don'L rccognizc Lhcm as such. Thc cool Lhing is LhaL whcn wc sLarL
noLicing and acknowlcdging our own crcaLiviLy, iL spirals and wc ind oursclvcs
doing morc and morc crcaLivc Lhings. CrcaLiviLy bcgcLs crcaLiviLy!
WRIGHT
So, as you said, crcaLiviLy is noL jusL rcscrvcd or Lhc arLisLs, iL's rcally or all
o us!
NOONAN
CorrccL. All wc havc Lo do is changc our mindscL abouL crcaLiviLy. In my
programs, I am consLanLly amazcd by Lhc numbcr o pcoplc who Lcll mc poinL
blank LhaL Lhcy arc noL crcaLivc. Somc cvcn usc Lhc provcrbial, I don'L havc a
crcaLivc bonc in my body!" or I'm noL in Lhc arLs, so I don'L nccd crcaLiviLy."
ThaL's whcn I poinL ouL LhaL cvcry singlc pcrson has a crcaLivc sidc Lo his or hcr
natureeveryone! ThaL's whcn I Lcll Lhcm that traditional artists are not the
only oncs who do crcaLivc LhingscrcaLiviLy isn'L only abouL sculpLurc and
painLings and musical scorcs. ThaL's whcn I poinL ouL LhaL cvcry pcrson and
organizaLion nccds crcaLiviLy i Lhcy wanL Lo bc cxccllcnL and Lhrivc.
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Thc Amcrican ManagcmcnL AssociaLion conducLcd a survcy o ivc hundrcd
CFOs rom many dicrcnL iclds. Thc CFOs wcrc askcd whaL was Lhc numbcr
onc componcnL Lo cnsurc LhaL Lhcir organizaLions would survivc and Lhrivc.
Across Lhc board Lhc answcr was Lo pracLicc crcaLiviLy and innovaLion. And,
hey, ivc hundrcd CFOs can'L bc wrong, righL`
This is whcn I Lcll my audicncc LhaL many pcoplc havc a limiLcd vision abouL
crcaLiviLy. Thcy Lhink crcaLiviLy is or Lhosc oLhcrs"LhaL crcaLiviLy is
mysLcrious and clusivc. Thc acL is, crcaLiviLy is simply abouL:
Doing somcLhing dicrcnLly rom how iL's bccn donc bcorc
Fnvisioning somcLhing in your own uniquc, original, imaginaLivc way
Coming up wiLh somcLhing whcn you havc no budgcL or iL
CrcaLing a LoLally ncw producL, scrvicc, dirccLion, or way o Lhinking
Bcing cncrgizcd and in flow by coming up wiLh somcLhing ncw
CrcaLiviLy can puL irc inLo a sLallcd projccL and movc iL Lo complcLion. IL
can hclp you gcL unsLuck! CrcaLiviLy can savc your company moncy. When your
cmployccs arc bcing morc crcaLivc, Lhcy will bc morc likcly Lo ind soluLions Lo
in-housc problcms. This is a boLLom-line-soluLion approach bccausc it then
saves you or your organizaLion Lhc cosL o hiring ouLsidc consulLanLs Lo igurc
Lhings ouL. Thcsc arc vcry concrcLc ouLcomcs Lo crcaLiviLy.
So sincc crcaLiviLy is such a good idca, I hclp my audicnccs rccognizc Lhcir
own crcaLiviLy and Lhc rcsulLs arc asLonishing! Onc busincsswoman lcL my
program in Lcarso joy. Shc said or ycars shc had iL hammcrcd inLo hcr LhaL
shc was not a crcaLivc pcrson. Whcn Lhc ah-ha" wcnL on or hcr in my kcynote
that she was crcaLivc, shc clL shcd been given a ncw lcasc on lic and couldn'L
waiL Lo, as shc said, sprcad hcr crcaLiviLy wings!"
IL's imporLanL Lo ask yourscl, WhaL pricc do you and your organizaLion pay
or not bcing crcaLivc, cspccially in Lhis day and agc` How many Michclangclos
arc in your organizaLion, jusL waiLing Lo bc handcd a 'hammcr and chiscl`"
Onc o Lhc Lhings I implorc o my clicnLs and audicnccs is Lhis: Unlcash
your crcaLiviLydo noL go Lo your gravc wiLh any o your masLcrpicccs sLill
insidc o you!"
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WRIGHT
Nancy, LhaL's a grcaL conccpL or all o us Lo considcr. WhaL arc somc o Lhc
other steppingstones that the masLcrs usc`
NOONAN
Wcll, Lwo Lhings LhaL arc connccLcd and Lhat inherently run the master
arLisLs' cngincs arc changc and risk. Think o iL Lhis wayi Lhc masters
wcrcn'L comorLablc wiLh Laking Lhc risk Lo changc Lhings up, wc would all sLill
bc looking aL cavc arL. As wondcrul as cavc arL is, picLurc how visually boring it
would bc i LhaL was Lhc only arL crcaLcd in Lhc cnLirc world all Lhrough Lhc
agcs. Corrcspondingly, as an cxamplc in our modcrn world, i compuLcr
scicnLisLs wcrcn'L also willing Lo Lakc Lhc risks Lo makc changcs, our compuLcrs
would sLill bc Lhc sizc o rooms! Hard Lo imaginc wiLh Lhc ncarly minisculc
compuLcrs LhaL wc cnjoy now.
WRIGHT
ThaL's or surc.
NOONAN
Thc challcngc wiLh changc is LhaL wc, as humans, arc gcncrally
uncomorLablc wiLh changc. IL makcs us insccurc and so wc oLcn do whaLcvcr
wc can Lo avoid iL. And ycL, progrcss and growLh only occur whcn onc is willing
Lo proacLivcly cmbracc changc. And Lo cmbracc changc in spiLc o Lhc risks LhaL
go along wiLh changc.
WiLh Lhc way Lhings arc going in Lhc world nowadays, changc is occurring
consLanLly and in ways wc could noL havc imagincd, cvcn a ycar ago. World
markcLs arc LccLcring, homc loans arc hard to get, people are losing their
homcs and jobschangc is all around us, whcLhcr wc likc iL or noL. So Lhc
qucsLion is, How can wc gcL morc comorLablc wiLh changc, sincc iL's hcrc`"
Onc way is Lo proacLivcly sLarL making changcs in our own livcs on a rcgular
basis. Whcn wc gcL inLo Lhc low o making changcs rcgularly, Lhcn whcn
changc is imposcd upon us, iL is noL so jarring.
ScLh Codin Lalkcd abouL changc and risk in his book, Purple Cows: Transform
your Business by Being Remarkable. Hc said LhaL in Lhis day and agc whcn Lhc
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Lhings LhaL uscd Lo work jusL arcn'L working any longcr, its now sacr Lo bc
risky. Imaginc LhaLsacr Lo bc risky! This is cspccially grcaL ncws or Lhosc
who arc unduly sacLy conscious! In Lhcir landmark book, In Search of Excellence,
Tom PcLcrs and RobcrL WaLcrman poinLcd ouL LhaL a spccial aLLribuLc o Lhc
succcss-oriented, positive, and innovaLing cnvironmcnL is a subsLanLial
Lolcrancc or ailurc."
The master arLisLs naLurally know LhaL iL is sacr Lo bc risky. I Lhcy arcn't
consLanLly giving pcoplc somcLhing radically ncw Lo look aL and Lhink abouL,
Lhcir arL would bc labclcd sLalc" and Lhcy would all by Lhc waysidc. FiniLo. OuL
o busincss. Iikcwisc, succcssul CFOs, adminisLraLors, busincss owncrs,
procssionals, cducaLors, and oLhcrs who succccd and sLay in busincss know
Lhis, Loo.
For all o Lhcm, Laking Lhc risks Lo makc changcs is impcraLivc Lo sLaying in
busincss and Lhriving. I we wanL Lo sLay in Lhc busincss" o living and working
at our highest and best levels as our own masLcrs o succcss, wc nccd Lo changc
Lhc pcrspccLivc LhaL Lhc majoriLy o pcoplc holdLhaL ailurc is a ncgaLivc. A
much bcLLcr way Lo vicw ailurc is Lo scc iL noL as a ncgaLivc, buL as simply a
way Lo gaLhcr inormaLion. IL Lclls us LhaL a" docsn'L work, so wc should Lry
b," c," or d." No usc crying ovcr spilL milk! CaLhcr your inormaLion, apply iL
Lo whaL you'rc doing, and movc on. Whcn arLisLs painL whaL Lhcy dccm to be a
bad" painLing, whaL happcns` Thcy jusL painL ovcr iL! So can wc! IL's LhaL
simplc. WhaL a rccing conccpL LhaL is, oncc wc Lruly gcL iL. 3usL painL ovcr iL!
The masLcr arLisLs know LhaL iL scrvcs no onc Lo sLay sLuck, sLaring
inccssanLly aL our bad painLings" and our obsLaclcs, insLcad o moving pasL
Lhcm. Iconardo da Vinci's world-amous masLcrpiccc, Lhc Mona Lisa, did not
always look as iL docs now, in iLs inal orm. Bccausc o inrarcd Lcchnology, wc
can now scc undcr Lhc suracc o painLings. Thcrcorc, wc know LhaL aL onc
poinL Iconardo had painsLakingly painLcd a nccklacc on Lhc woman. Thc
Rcnaissancc, Lhc Limc in which Lhis work was donc, ocuscd on classical
simpliciLy and clariLy, oLcn bcspcaking LhaL lcss is morc." Iconardo
apparcnLly rcalizcd LhaL Lhc nccklacc dcLracLcd rom Lhc painLing and iLs
simpliciLy and painLcd ovcr iL. A misLakc` A ailurc` No. An improvcmcnL! And
as onc o Lhc mosL purposcully visiLcd works o arL in Lhc world, wiLh millions
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o pcoplc vicwing iL cvcry ycar in Lhc Iouvrc muscum in Paris, iL is an
undcniablc masLcrpiccc and succcss.
WRIGHT
The true masLcrs know whcn Lo old iL and movc on, iL sccms.
NOONAN
No qucsLion. Thcy also know LhaL gcLLing somc disLancc rom Lhc work can
bc vcry bcncicial. I you'vc cvcr sccn an ImprcssionisL painLing by Claudc
Monet, August Renoir, or Mary CassaLL, you know LhaL whcn you gcL up closc
Lo Lhc work, iL jusL looks likc a bunch o liLLlc blobs. IL's whcn you gcL a good
disLancc rom iL LhaL Lhc wholc painLing comcs inLo ocus. And isn'L LhaL Lruc in
lic` SomcLimcs wc'rc so closc Lo a problcm or a challcngc that wc can'L sccm Lo
scc Lhc soluLion. Wc nccd Lo sLcp back and gcL a rcsh pcrspccLivc so iL can all
comc inLo sharper ocus.
In acL, onc o Lhc mosL cccLivc Lhings wc can do is Lo puL somc acLual
disLancc bcLwccn oursclvcs and Lhc issuemovc ovcr and ocus on somcLhing
clsc or a whilc. Whcn you comc back Lo iL, you oLcn scc iL wiLh a rcsh vision, a
ncw clariLy. Thc amous iLccnLh ccnLury VcncLian painLcr, TiLian, would
commonly Lurn a painLing acing Lhc wall and noL look aL iL or wccks or
monLhs. Hc said whcn hc camc back Lo iL, hc oLcn kncw immcdiaLcly whaL Lhc
painting needed to be complcLcknowlcdgc hc'd bccn sLruggling Lo gcL whcn
hc was kncc dccp" in Lhc painLing carlicr. Whcn wc scc a problcm wiLh rcsh
cycs, wc oLcn scc Lhings in ways wc couldn'L scc bcorc and wc cnd up wiLh a
much morc succcssul ouLcomc.
WRIGHT
Nancy, Lo bccomc a masLcr, docs onc nccd Lo Lakc a soliLary paLh`
NOONAN
David, everyone goes along the path or the steppingstones of success in his or
hcr own way. Howcvcr, Lhrough Lhc agcs, iL has provcn Lo bc vcry bcncicial Lo
connccL wiLh oLhcrs as you go along. You'vc hcard sLorics abouL Lhc arLisLs, or
cxamplc, congrcgaLing or hours in Lhc Parisian cacs, Lalking abouL Lhcir arL,
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somcLimcs cvcn gcLLing inLo hcaLcd argumcnLs abouL which sLylc or Lcchniquc
was supcrior Lo oLhcrs. AlLhough I'm noL suggcsLing wc havc Lo Lakc iL Lo Lhc
argumcnL lcvcl, iL is vcry hclpul Lo gcL LogcLhcr wiLh oLhcrs in our iclds.
3oining associaLions, calling collcagucs Lo mccL or cocc, having a phonc chaL,
or mccLing wiLh pcoplc who work in oLhcr dcparLmcnLs can broadcn our own
knowlcdgc basc and spark idcas wc mighL noL cvcr havc LhoughL o on our own.
McnLoring is also cxcccdingly hclpul in moving us Loward our succcss. I
comc rom a amily whcrc many o Lhc mcn arc clccLricians. Thcy havc
csLablishcd sLcps whcrc Lhcy sLarL as an apprcnLicc, movc up Lo bcing a
journcyman, and ulLimaLcly graduaLc Lo bccomc a masLcr clccLrician. Whilc
they are going through these dicrcnL phascs (all Lhc whilc applying Lhc
componcnLs o Lhc ormula o mastery: MasLcry = Skills + Knowlcdgc +
Fxccllcncc), Lhcy arc working sidc-by-sidc wiLh oLhcrs who havc surpasscd
Lhcm Lo a highcr lcvcl, bcing mcnLorcd by Lhcm and lcarning rom Lhcir
wisdom and cxpcricncc. ParL o Lhc Lraining Lhc master artists also wcnL
Lhrough was Lo bc apprcnLiccd Lo arLisLs who wcrc alrcady MasLcrs. For
cxamplc, Michclangclo was apprcnLiccd Lo Lhc master arLisL, Chirlandaio and
Iconardo da Vinci Lo Andrca dcl Vcrrocchio, Lhey also set up their easels in
ronL o masLcrpicccs and copicd Lhcm. Icarning how Lhc master artists had
laid down Lhc painL, how Lhcy had approachcd lighL and linc and shapc and
color and LcxLurc gavc Lhcm a dccpcr lcarning Lhcy could Lhcn apply to
dcvcloping Lhcir own sLylcs.
You know, I Lhink onc o Lhc misLakcs wc oLcn makc in Lhc workplacc or in
our livcs Loday is Lo gcL Lo a placc whcrc wc no longcr Lhink wc nccd mcnLors.
Our pridc gcLs in Lhc way or wc gcL Loo complaccnL and Lhink wc'vc pretty
much lcarncd iL all. Howcvcr, Lhc LruLh is LhaL somc o Lhc mosL succcssul
pcoplc in Lhc world arc oncs who conLinuc Lo lcarn and bc mcnLorcd rom
oLhcrs. IL's an imporLanL piccc Lo mastery and parL o the steppingstones to
success proccss.
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WRIGHT
Nancy, you'vc givcn us somc grcaL ncw sLraLcgics and insighLs as Lo how wc
can crcaLc masLcry in our livcs and work Lo gcncraLc our own succcss. Thank
you or joining us.
NOONAN
David, iL's bccn my plcasurc. I look orward Lo hcaring rom rcadcrs to
conLinuc" Lhc discussion! My conLacL inormaLion will ollow.
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A B O U T T HE A U T HOR
Based upon LwcnLy-ivc ycars o studying masLcry, human poLcnLial cxpcrL
Nancy Noonan is soughL ouL by corporaLions, associaLions, and organizaLions
Lo rcigniLc and rcocus Lhcir pcoplc. Shc hclps Lhcm dcvclop Lhcir own scnsc o
masLcry (Mastery = Knowledge + Skills + Excellence) to unleash their greatest
poLcnLial, achicving pcrsonal and organizaLional cxccllcncc Lo producc
cxLraordinary rcsulLs. Uniqucly combining hcr corporaLc background wiLh
ycars o collcgc Lcaching as an awardcd MasLcr Tcachcr," Nancy Lakcs Lo Lhc
stage today as a procssional spcakcr, auLhor, workshop/rcLrcaL lcadcr,
aciliLaLor, consulLanL, and coach. To cnsurc hcr kcynoLcs and workshops arc
both informative and entertaining, Nancy draws on hcr Irish hcriLagc o naLural
sLoryLcllcrs and humorisLs, as wcll as hcr own cxpcricncc in improv.
NANCY NOONAN
The Art of Mastery
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C HA P T E R NI NE T E E N
Happincss: Thc SubjccL FducaLors Ovcrlookcd
An InLcrvicw wiLh . . . JoAnne Veeck
DAVID WRIGHT (WRIGHT)
Today wc arc Lalking Lo 3oannc Vccck. 3oannc is a crcdcnLialcd Lcachcr and a
mcmbcr o Lhc NaLional Spcakcr's AssociaLion. For ovcr iLccn ycars shc has
dcvoLcd hcrscl Lo Lhc rcscarch and sLudy o PosiLivc Psychology and LoLal-body-
wcll-bcing, in addiLion Lo bcing Lhc VP o a rcLail drug chain. 3oannc's passion is
cducaLing pcoplc on Lhc scicnLiically provcn Lcchniqucs and LruLhs abouL
complcLc and lasLing happincss. Hcr mission is Lo bring ouL Lhc acLs LhaL no
maLLcr who you arc, whcrc you arc or whcrc you havc comc rom, you can bc
happier Lhan you cvcr drcamcd possiblc. 3oannc, wclcomc Lo Stepping Stones to
Success. WhaL inLrigucs you abouL PosiLivc Psychology and sincc iL is a ncwcr
scicncc, will you Lcll us a liLLlc morc abouL iL`
JOANNE VEECK (VEECK)
WhaL I lovc and ind so ascinaLing abouL PosiLivc Psychology is Lhc almosL
insLanL, posiLivc cccL iL has on pcoplc's livcs. In acL, iL's quiLc inccLious! Oncc
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Lhc scicnLiically provcn Lcchniqucs arc inLroduccd and applicd Lo individuals, a
ncw-ound, inLcrnal cncrgy is discovcrcd and lic-alLcring changcs arc madc.
Ovcr Lhc coursc o jusL a cw wccks, Lhcsc ccl-good changcs bccomc habiL-
orming. This oLcn results in Lhc dcsirc Lo acquirc morc knowlcdgc and skills. IL
inLrigucs, cxciLcs, and givcs mc grcaL plcasurc Lo Lcach, obscrvc, and bc a parL o
this relativcly ncw arcna o scicncc LhaL involvcs Lhc LransormaLion o Lhc mind,
body, and soul.
Psychology is a scicncc LhaL dcals wiLh hcaling and rcpairing a mcnLal illncss
and/or Lhc worsL Lhings in lic LhaL pcoplc can cndurc, ulLimaLcly lcaving an
individual wiLh liclong cmoLional pain and sucring. IL is Lhc rcscarch o
psychological disordcrs and Lhc cccLs o a dysuncLional amily lic and/or a
sLrcssul cnvironmcnL. WiLh psychological Lhcrapy, Lhc goal or hopc is Lo hclp
Lhc paLicnL ind a balanccd pcacc o mind and uncLion in a rclaLivcly normal and
socially acccpLcd capaciLy.
PosiLivc Psychology, on Lhc oLhcr hand, rccognizcs and dcals wiLh discasc,
dysuncLion, and damagc, buL docs noL rcmain solcly ocuscd on iLs ncgaLivc
cccLs. Thc oundaLion o Lhis ncw scicncc was builL on whaL is good, whaL is
known abouL human sLrcngLhs, and whaL is righL. Ovcr Lhc lasL Lcn ycars,
scicnLiic mcLhods havc bccn discovcrcd LhaL can noL only prcvcnL scrious
problcms rom occurring in Lhc irsL placc, buL LhaL will also bring awarcncss Lo
cxplosivc pcrsonal sLrcngLhs, couragc, and drivc. Thc mcLhods," Lricd and Lruc,
will surpass mcrc conLcnLmcnL lcvcls and gcncraLc cclings o joy and jubilaLion.
Simply sLaLcd, PosiLivc Psychology is a giL Lo humankind. IL can opcn closcd
minds, hcal discasc-illcd minds, and bring awarcncss Lo all minds o Lhc happy"
lic wc arc mcanL Lo havc and wcll dcscrvc.
I parLicularly likc Dr. MarLin Scligman's (DirccLor o Pcnn SLaLc PosiLivc
Psychology CcnLcr) inLcrprcLaLion, PosiLivc PsychologisLs will makc Lhc world a
happicr placc, parallcl Lo Lhc way clinical psychologisLs havc madc Lhc world a
lcss unhappy placc." (www.auLhcnLichappincss.sas.upcnn.cdu/dcaulL.aspx,
acccsscd Novcmbcr l3, 2000.) So, whilc wiping ouL a bad Lhing is hclpul,
building a good Lhing is cvcn bcLLcr!
JoAnne Veeck
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WRIGHT
From your rcscarch o PosiLivc Psychology and ovcrall happincss, whaL do you
ccl is Lhc singlc mosL imporLanL discovcry you havc madc`
VEECK
WiLhouL hcsiLaLion, bascd on ovcr iLccn ycars o rcscarch and cxpcricncc,
Lhc singlc mosL imporLanL discovcry I havc madc is LhaL happincss can bc LaughL
and iL should bc rcgardcd as a subjccL in our schools and vicwcd cqually as
imporLanL as rcading and wriLing. IL should bcgin aL an carly agc wiLh on-going
insLrucLion and Lraining aL cvcry gradc lcvcl Lhrough high school and collcgc. I
you Lhink Lhis sounds crazy, as you conLinuc rcading, you may changc your
LhoughL.
In an arLiclc, LiLlcd WcllingLon Lo Civc Pupils TimcLablcd Icssons in
Happincss," in April o 2006, iL sLaLcs WcllingLon Collcgc is Lo givc pupils
LimcLablcd lcssons in how Lo lcad happicr livcs." Thc class, PSHF (Pcrsonal,
Social, and HcalLh FducaLion), will givc Lhc sLudcnLs skills Lo incrcasc Lhc
likclihood o happincss wiLh lic and how Lo channcl Lhc cmoLional pains o scL-
backs cn rouLc." IL has also bccn rcporLcd LhaL Cambridgc and Harvard
UnivcrsiLics havc noL only inLroduccd classcs on happincss, buL aL Harvard, in
2006, iL bccamc Lhcir mosL popular coursc.
IL wasn'L diiculL Lo arrivc aL Lhc discovcry LhaL happincss can bc LaughL. In
200l, aL Lhc cnd o a onc-hour prcscnLaLion I dclivcrcd Lo a classroom o scvcnLh
and cighLh gradcrs, LiLlcd, Happy Hour," I was plcascd buL noL surpriscd by Lhc
avorablc and cncrgcLic commcnLs rom Lhc sLudcnLs. Somc raiscd Lhcir hands Lo
Lcll mc Lhcy had lcarncd morc in LhaL onc hour Lhan Lhcy had rom prcvious,
morc ormal, long-Lcrm, moLivaLional-Lypc programs.
WhaL caughL mc complcLcly o guard, Lhough, wcrc Lhc commcnLs rom Lhc
Lcachcrs, sLa mcmbcrs, and gucsLs. In a noLc, onc Lcachcr sLaLcd, From Lhc
vcry bcginning o your spccch I ound myscl umbling around my dcsk in scarch
o a pcncil Lo Lakc noLcs. A loL o your inspiring inormaLion was unamiliar Lo
mc and I didn'L wanL Lo miss a Lhing." AnoLhcr Lcachcr wroLc, I clL your
mcssagc succcssully rcachcd pcoplc o all agcs." And a Lhird Lcachcr said Lo mc
pcrsonally, I can'L cvcn imaginc how many livcs you changcd Loday, including
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my own." I was inviLcd back Lo LhaL parLicular middlc school in Roscvillc,
Caliornia, Lhrcc dicrcnL Limcs Lo spcak Lo Lhcir sLudcnLs and sLa mcmbcrs.
From LhaL day orward I branchcd ouL Lo dicrcnL Lypcs o groups o all agcs,
buL rcmaincd ocuscd on Lhc imporLancc and cccLivcncss o Lcaching
happincss." I havc rcccivcd counLlcss lcLLcrs rom audicncc mcmbcrs and clicnLs
buL onc o Lhc mosL LhoughL-provoking was rom a woman, S. Sanborn, rom
Sloughhousc, Caliornia, who wroLc, I am in LoLal agrccmcnL wiLh you LhaL
happincss nccds Lo bc a subjccL LaughL in schools! 3usL Lhink how many billions
o dollars our counLry would savc in mcdicinc and Lhcrapy! Scriously, iL should bc
lookcd aL as prcvcnLaLivc mcdicinc, wiLh Lax brcaks Lo parcnLs whosc childrcn
aLLcnd Lhc courscs." Ms. Sanborn clL so sLrongly abouL Lhis maLLcr, shc
concludcd hcr lcLLcr wiLh Lhis sLaLcmcnL, I Lhcrc is anyLhing I can do in supporL
o implcmcnLing your idca/passion inLo our cducaLional curriculum, plcasc lcL
mc know."
ChrisLophcr PcLcrson, PhD, wroLc, Thc good lic can bc LaughL." Ycs, many
cxpcrLs and procssionals in Lhc icld o PosiLivc Psychology now know Lhis Lo bc
Lruc. PcLcrson conLinucd wiLh, Thc good lic is hard work and Lhcrc arc no
shorLcuLs Lo susLaincd happincss." This sLaLcmcnL, my ricnds, in my opinion, is
alsc. AlLhough you musL ocus and sLay on Lhc righL paLh during your journcy Lo
happincss, dccming iL Lo bc hard work," is sLricLly in Lhc opinion o Lhc
bcholdcr! My clicnLs, collcagucs, and ricnds ind iL Lo bc upliLing, cxciLing, and
posiLivcly challcnging. I havc cvcn hcard somc say LhaL ovcr a pcriod o Limc,
Lhcy havc ound Lhc proccss Lo susLaincd happincss Lo bc un and easy.
WRIGHT
You Lalk abouL giving lccLurcs on your passion, Lhc subjccL o happincss,
through a one-hour presentation you rccr Lo as Happy Hour." Thc lasL Limc I
goL happy" in an hour, I didn'L ccl vcry good Lhc ncxL day. Scriously, is iL
rcalisLic Lo say somconc can bccomc happy in an hour wiLhouL going Lo Lhc local
pub`
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291
VEECK
Thc answcr Lo LhaL qucsLion is, yes! I likc Lo Lhink o Happy Hour" as bcing
similar Lo waLching a compclling prcvicw or a movicyou can'L waiL Lo go and
scc iL. ALcr cxpcricncing Happy Hour," you can'L waiL Lo go and livc iL. IL is a
vcry spcciic and inormaLivc ovcrvicw/inLroducLion Lo whaL will hopcully
bccomc Lhc irsL day o Lhc rcsL o your lic. Morc spcciically, onc audicncc
mcmbcr had Lhis Lo say rcgarding Happy Hour, 3oannc Lakcs popular,
convcnLional, LradiLional, and acadcmic psychology and Lurns iL all on iLs cars.
ALcr lisLcning Lo hcr, I ound myscl lcaving Lhc vcnuc ccling an inch Lallcr Lhan
whcn I had cnLcrcd." (D. Clcland, SacramcnLo, Caliornia)
Happy Hour is a compilaLion o iLccn ycars o rcscarch and complcLc
dcdicaLion Lo noL only undcrsLanding happincss, buL rcdcining iL or modcrn
day living. QuiLc dicrcnL rom how wc'vc bccn condiLioncd Lo Lhink, iL docs noL
advocaLc spcnding a licLimc pursuing iL, raLhcr, iL cmphasizcs Train, RcLain,
and Cain" (Lhc Happy Hour moLLo) Loday, and spcnd Lhc rcsL o your lic living
happily cvcr aLcr."
For many rcasons, Lhc Lcrm, idca, pcrccpLion, conccpL, dciniLion, cLc. o Lhc
word happy" has bccomc disjoinLcd. A vocabulary word dccmcd simplc and
basic, happy" has bccomc, Lo mosL pcoplc, a mysLcry or a puzzlc Loo hard Lo
solvc. Thc rcason is LhaL iL is noL simplc" or basic." SLudy aLcr sLudy has, in
acL, lcd somc procssionals Lo bclicvc LhaL happincss is ciLhcr noL possiblc or noL
probablc.
This is an old ashioncd way o Lhinking and is bascd largcly upon our naLions
pasL whcn acLors o war, Lhc grcaL Dcprcssion, aminc, discasc, and simply
sLruggling Lo survivc wcrc a way o lic. AlLhough Lhc pasL is jusL LhaLthe
pastand wc nccd Lo gcL ovcr iL," wc can'L ignorc LhaL iL was Lhc rock boLLom"
our counLry hiL during Lhosc ycars LhaL uclcd Lhc cncrgy in our ciLizcns Lo
rcbuild Lhcir livcs and Lhcir counLry. And, whaL a succcss sLory iL was! Thcir qucsL
and duc diligcncc Lo bccomc Lhc mosL powcrul counLry in Lhc world Look hold.
BuL as sLaLisLics Lcll us now, wc havc Lo ask oursclvcs, did wc puL our sLrcngLh,
cncrgy, and dcLcrminaLion Lo Lhc bcsL usc`
In an inlucnLial acadcmic papcr, MarLin Scligman, Lhc UnivcrsiLy o
Pcnnsylvania psychologisL who launchcd Lhc posiLivc psychology movcmcnL, and
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Fd Dicncr o Lhc UnivcrsiLy o Illinois wroLc, AlLhough cconomic ouLpuL has
riscn sLccply ovcr Lhc pasL dccadc, Lhcrc has bccn no risc in lic saLisacLion
during Lhis pcriod and Lhcrc has bccn a subsLanLial incrcasc in dcprcssion and
disLrusL." So, Lhc answcr is obviousapparcnLly wc did noL puL our cncrgy Lo Lhc
bcsL usc.
Now, Lhc qucsLion is, do wc havc any cncrgy lcL or whaL's mosL imporLanL
Lhc rcbuilding o hopc, moralc, scl-worLh, and cmoLional wcll-bcing` Think
abouL iL: how can Lhc ciLizcns o our naLion wakc up cvcry morning and acc Lhcir
ncw daily challcngcs wiLh cnLhusiasm and dcLcrminaLion or makc posiLivc
changcs in socicLy whcn dcprcssion and disLrusL" arc looming among Lhcm`
And, i Lhc cclings o hopclcssncss and dcspair arc indccd incrcasing," how long
will iL Lakc bcorc our naLion is illcd wiLh non-producLivc, non-caring, and
lcLhargic individuals` Could iL bc LhaL Lhis is cxacLly whaL wc'rc cxpcricncing
righL now` David Camcron, a BriLish opposiLion lcadcr, said in a spccch in 2006,
IL's Limc wc admiLLcd LhaL Lhcrc's morc Lo lic Lhan moncy, and iL's Limc wc
ocuscd noL jusL on CDP, buL on CWBgcncral wcll-bcing."
Mr. Camcron has sincc organizcd a QualiLy o Iic Policy Croup Lo cxaminc
ways govcrnmcnLs can lcgislaLc Lo boosL naLional conLcnLmcnL lcvcls." (The
Greenville Sun, AugusL 2007) Finally, Lhc word goL ouL somcwhcrc in Lhc world
LhaL Lhcrc's no airy godmoLhcr and no magic wand. How many morc busincsscs
nccd Lo ail and how much morc dcspair do wc Lhc pcoplc" nccd Lo cndurc
bcorc Lhc lcadcrs o our naLion rcalizc our conLcnLmcnL lcvcls" could also sLand
a boosL"` CrcaL sLridcs could bc madc, oncc again, in Lhis counLry wiLh Lhc hclp
o our govcrnmcnL. Financial supporL or on-going programs Lo Lcach and Lrain
Lhc olks o Lhis naLion how Lo boosL Lhcir conLcnLmcnL lcvcls" would bc puLLing
our moncy and our cncrgy Lo iLs opLimal usc.
Thc succcss and ovcrall cccLivcncss o such programs LhaL sLimulaLc minds
and causc us Lo wiLncss Lhc rcbirLh o hiddcn cncrgy LhroughouL our counLry can
only bc imagincd. In my onc-hour scssion wiLh Lhc inLcnL Lo boosL conLcnLmcnL
lcvcls" Lhrough Lhc usc o scicnLiically provcn Lcchniqucs, Lhis is onc o Lhc
rcsponscs I rcccivcd: Dcar 3oannc, I jusL wanLcd Lo Lhank you or sharing your
incrcdiblc knowlcdgc. You arc a vcry inspiring woman. I know LonighL has
changcd my lic and I will pass iL on Lo my childrcn and cvcryonc clsc around mc.
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293
I rcally hopc you havc anoLhcr Lalk soon bccausc I will inviLc cvcryonc I know Lo
comc." (3. Hankins, Ioomis, Caliornia.)
So, oncc again, ycs," wiLh an opcn mind, you can acLually bcgin a ncw lic o
happincss in an hour. WiLh Lhis known LruLh, whaL dcgrcc o grcaLncss could bc
cxcrciscd world-widc i programs similar Lo minc Look placc on a schcdulcd basis
LhroughouL much o our livcs` For now, unorLunaLcly, wc can only wondcr.
WRIGHT
Who inspircd you Lo inspirc oLhcrs`
VEECK
Thcrc havc bccn a numbcr o pcoplc who havc inspircd mc. Two o whom, I'm
proud Lo say, jusL happcn Lo bc my parcnLs.
My moLhcr, Pcnny 3ccrs, grcw up wiLh an abusivc and alcoholic aLhcr. AL
agc sixLccn, unablc Lo convincc hcr moLhcr Lo Lakc hcr Lhrcc youngcr broLhcrs
and lcavc hcr aLhcr, my moLhcr ran away rom homc. For Lhc ncxL Lhrcc ycars
shc carricd Lhrcc jobs and madc a ncw lic or hcrscl. As badly as shc misscd hcr
moLhcr and broLhcrs, shc kncw shc could ncvcr go back. AL nincLccn shc mcL and
cll in lovc wiLh my aLhcr, Ccorgc 3ccrs, and a ycar laLcr Lhcy wcrc marricd. My
aLhcr hclpcd my moLhcr Lurn hcr cmoLional scars inLo sLars" and uncovcr inncr
sLrcngLh shc ncvcr kncw shc had. (Turn your scars inLo sLars" is a phrasc crcaLcd
and oLcn uscd by Dr. RobcrL Schullcr o Lhc CrysLal CaLhcdral.)
NoL only was Lhcir marriagc o iLy-six ycars ull o lovc and rcspccL, shc
spcnL hcr lic giving gcncrously and caring or oLhcrs and raiscd Lwo daughLcrs Lo
do Lhc samc. NoL only did shc scL Lhc sLandard or a scllcss licsLylc, hcr mcssagc
Lo hcr daughLcrs was clcar and lcd by cxamplcwhcn your lic isn'L going in Lhc
dirccLion you wanL or yourscl, Lurn around!
My aLhcrmy ricnd, my boss, and my mcnLorwas onc in Lcn million! Hc
was ablc Lo succcssully balancc a lawlcss work cLhic and pcrsonal lic sccond Lo
nonc. Hc had honcsLy, inLcgriLy, and an immcnsc compassion or cvcryonc who
sLcppcd in and ouL o his lic.
AL Lhc ripc old agc o LhirLccn, my aLhcr bcgan his long-Lcrm carccr o LhirLy-
our ycars wiLh Walgrccns. IaLcr, hc was scoopcd up by Lwo oLhcr gianL rcLailcrs
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who, wcrc also in awc o his qualiLy and succcssul pcrormancc as a leader and as
a gcnuinc, scnsiLivc, and caring man. Thcn, onc day, aL agc iLy-ivc, hc dccidcd
Lo lcavc Lhc corporaLc world bchind and hc quiL his job. BuL don'L lcL LhaL ool
you, Lhis wasn'L Lhc cnd by any mcans. In acL, iL was jusL Lhc bcginning! In l0S4,
aLcr iLccn-hour-days and cighLccn monLhs o rcscarching a ncw conccpL o
rcLail, hc opcncd up Lhc irsL o a ivc-sLorc dccp discounL" drug chain in
SacramcnLo, Caliornia. For LwcnLy-Lhrcc ycars hc owncd and opcraLcd a
succcssul busincss cmploying closc Lo onc Lhousand pcoplc.
To sum up why hc was so succcssul ouLsidc o his dcLcrminaLion and passion
or hard work, in 2006, an arLiclc was wriLLcn abouL him in Lhc Sacramento
Magazine. Ioyal, gcncrous, caring, gcnuinc, and ricnd arcn'L words usually used
Lo dcscribc somconc's boss. Company CFOs arc oLcn LhoughL o as aloo. This is
noL Lhc casc wiLh Ccorgc 3ccrs. Whcn pcoplc comc Lo work or him Lhcy sLay.
IL's common Lo ind cmployccs wcaring iLccn and LwcnLy-ycar pins." His
mcssagc was clcar: To cxpcricncc succcss in iLs LrucsL orm, whcLhcr in our
busincss, pcrsonal lic or boLh, wc havc Lo pcrmancnLly changc and Lrain our
LhoughLs and ocus on making cvcryonc around us ccl good. Thcn and only Lhcn
will wc gcL back whaL wc havc givcn outsucccss bcing jusL onc small piccc o
our pic.
I was blcsscd Lo bc cmploycd and guidcd by a boss who shincd Lhc lighL or all
who sharcd his paLh and who jusL happcncd Lo bc my dad. I I could bc hal as
inspiring as my aLhcr, I'd paL myscl on Lhc back and say, 3ob wcll donc."
WRIGHT
OuLsidc o your parcnLs, who would you say has had Lhc biggcsL inlucncc on
your lic and carccr`
VEECK
I you'vc noLiccd, Lhcrc is morc squarc ooLagc dcvoLcd Lo Lhc scl-hclp"
sccLion in book sLorcs Lhan mosL oLhcr caLcgorics. I would havc Lo assumc iL's
onc o Lhc largcsL bccausc iL's onc o Lhc mosL proiLablc. So, i Lhis is Lhc casc,
hclp" bcing aL our disposal, I'vc oLcn wondcrcd why Lhcrc is so much cmoLional
pain and sucring. Arc Lhc books bcing boughL buL noL rcad or rcad buL noL
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rcLaincd or rcLaincd buL noL cxcrciscd` AlLhough I don'L havc Lhc cxacL answcr Lo
LhaL qucsLion, whaL I do know is LhaL i Lhc inormaLion in mosL scl-hclp books
was rcad, rcLaincd, and pracLiccd rcpcaLcdly, a qualiLy lic would prcvail and
Lhcrc would bc lcss nccd or conLrovcrsial and dangcrous mood cnhancing drugs.
To answcr your qucsLion, Lhosc who havc inlucnccd mc includc cvcry onc o
Lhc auLhors o Lhc scvcral hundrcd books LhaL cncompass scl-help,
cnhanccmcnL, and cnlighLcnmcnL. BuL, in narrowing Lhc scarch, iL is Lhc
ollowing our mcn who havc casL a pcrmancnL and posiLivc spcll on my
understanding, attaining, and apprcciaLion o Lhc good lic:
Dr. Robert Schuller
Through Lhc dozcns o inspiraLional books wriLLcn by Dr. RobcrL Schullcr,
minisLcr o Lhc CrysLal CaLhcdral, Cardcn Crovc, Caliornia, hc was Lhc onc who
irsL LaughL" mc how Lo Reach Out For New Life, Lhc LiLlc o onc o his books.
This book was a giL LhaL camc Lo mc aL a Limc whcn I was busy"busy setting
Lhc wrong prioriLics in bcLwccn raising a amily and working ull-Limc. I placcd iL
on a bookshcl, along wiLh Lhc oLhcr books I'd gcL Lo somcday." Scvcral ycars
laLcr, or no known rcason, I blcw o Lhc dusL LhaL had collccLcd on Lhc book and
auLomaLically opcncd iL Lo pagc six. My cycs zcrocd in on Lhcsc words: In Lhis
book I wanL Lo sharc wiLh you a proccssLhc PossibiliLy Thinking Proccss
which will lcad Lo pcrmancnL, crcaLivc changc in your lic. You will bcgin by
bclicving Lhcrc is a morc cxciLing lic ahcad o you, you will bcgin Lo scc LhaL
Lhcrc is morc knowlcdgc, morc happincss, ncw opporLuniLics, grcaLcr prospcriLy,
richcr scl-esLccm waiLing or you. A ncw you will bc born wiLh unlimiLcd powcr."
Such a convincing mcssagc," I LhoughL. Is Lhcrc somconc who wouldn'L rcad
on`" Anxious or whaL I had rcad Lo Lakc hold in my lic, I noL only rcad on," I
rcad cvcry book hc wroLc. WhaL I lcarncd was Lhc proccss." WhaL I'vc
cxpcricnccd, sincc, is Lhc pcrmancnL, crcaLivc changc in my lic," cxacLly how
Dr. Schullcr dcscribcd iL in LhaL irsL paragraph.
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Gary Zukav
Cary Zukav, auLhor o The Seat of the Soul, The Heart of the Soul and Soul
Stories, Lhrough Lhc combinaLion o psychological insighL and spiriLualiLy, has
givcn mc invaluablc awarcncss inLo Lhc many whys" o whaL wc do and answcrs
Lo lic's qucsLions. Thcrc is much Lo bc gaincd in his books, buL a sLrong
cmphasis is ccnLcrcd on lcarning how Lo bccomc awarc o our cclingsall o
Lhcm all o Lhc Limc bccausc iL is Lhc parL o oursclvcs LhaL conLrols much o whaL
wc do. AlLhough Lhc proccss is boLh challcnging and rcwarding, iL is a criLical
dcvclopmcnL o Lhc mind or a grcaLcr human cxpcricncc. Oncc you rccognizc
and arc in conLrol o your cclings, Mr. Zukav rcminds us in Lhc Seat of the Soul
LhaL Your licgood or badis your choicc. As you shinc brighLcr, as your lighL
and powcr incrcasc wiLh cach rcsponsiblc choicc, so docs your world!"
The Dalai Lama
Thc Dalai Iama, Lhc spiriLual lcadcr o TibcL and a Nobcl Prizc winncr, and
Dr. Howard CuLlcr joincd orccs and wroLc Lhc book, The Art of Happiness: A
Handbook for Living. I would lovc Lo scc Lhis book uscd jusL likc a daily planncr or
a pursc, pockcL, or briccasc bccausc iL Lcachcs Lhc rcadcr, Lhrough a dccp sourcc
o inncr pcacc, how Lo dccaL Lhc daily and ongoing obsLaclcs o angcr,
disappoinLmcnL, jcalousy, rcscnLmcnL, cLc. Hc sLaLcs and rcpcaLs Limc and Limc
again, Your sLaLc o mind is Lhc kcy Lo happincss." I Lhcrc is a lack o Lhc inncr
disciplinc LhaL brings calmncss o mind, no maLLcr whaL cxLcrnal aciliLics or
condiLions you havc, Lhcy will ncvcr givc you Lhc cclings o joy and happincss
LhaL you arc sccking."
I believe The Art of Happiness should bc rcquircd rcading aL high school and
collcgc lcvcls bccausc I agrcc wiLh Lhc Dalai Iama, Fvcn Lhough our socicLy docs
noL cmphasizc Lhis, Lhc mosL imporLanL usc o knowlcdgc and cducaLion is Lo
help us understand Lhc imporLancc o cngaging in morc wholcsomc acLions and
bringing abouL disciplinc wiLhin our minds . . . Lo cccL changcs rom wiLhin Lo
dcvclop a good hcarL."
JoAnne Veeck
297
Dr. T. Colin Campbell
In my opinion, Dr. T. Colin Campbcll should bc rcgardcd as onc o Amcrica's
hcrocs. Hc spcnL his cnLirc working carccr rcscarching Lhc rclaLionship bcLwccn
nuLriLion, hcalLh, and discasc. Hc has hclpcd many pcoplc Lurn Lhcir livcs
around, including minc, in his book, The China Study. Through tests and studies
LhaL hc conducLcd world-widc, hc inorms us o oods LhaL givc us cncrgy and
makc us look and ccl good, vcrsus oods, all Loo availablc, LhaL Lakc cncrgy away,
causc dramaLic mood swings, makc us aL, and cvcnLually causc scrious illncsscs.
WiLh childhood obcsiLy, diabcLcs, and canccr, on Lhc risc, along wiLh soaring
hcalLh carc cosLs, Lhis is a book LhaL should bccomc a rcquircd LcxLbook or our
schools and Lhcir scicncc programs. IL cxplains Lhc LruLh abouL dicL and hcalLh. IL
will noL only changc livcs, iL may cvcn savc livcs!
WRIGHT
WhaL arc somc o Lhc obsLaclcs pcoplc acc in Lhc pursuiL o happincss`
VEECK
I you askcd onc hundrcd dicrcnL pcoplc LhaL qucsLion, you'd gcL onc
hundrcd dicrcnL answcrs, such as: unlucky, no ricnds, bad amily
cnvironmcnL, dead-cnd job, cclings o incrioriLy and dcspair, and so on. BuL in
my book, Lhcrc is only onc obsLaclc. IL's simplc, wc havc ncvcr bccn Lold Lhc
LruLh abouL happincss. Wc'vc ncvcr lcarncd how Lo aLLain iL or cvcn how Lo
pursuc iL. Wc'rc hopcul LhaL our parcnLs, Lcachcrs, and lcadcrs will guidc our
childrcn down Lhc road Lo succcss, buL how can Lhcy do a good job aL guiding
somconc clsc's lic whcn Lhcy'rc having a hard Limc guiding Lhcir own` How can
wc ccl, display, or Lcach a subjccL wc know so liLLlc abouL` Bascd on Lhc currcnL
sLaLisLics o ovcrall disconLcnLmcnL lcvcls in Amcrica, iL appcars wc can'L.
Thc LruLh abouL happincss is iL's noL luck or good orLunc, succcss or amc,
plcasurc or saLisacLion, good hcalLh or ouLcr looks. IL is aLLaining conLcnLmcnL
Lhrough inncr disciplinc and scl-worLh. AlLhough Lhc acLors I mcnLioncd can
conLribuLc Lo happincss, Lhcy musL bc builL upon a good mcnLal aLLiLudc and
ouLlook so Lhc sLaLc o happincss can rcmain solid during lic's ups and downs.
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Now, lcL's Lalk a liLLlc abouL how Lo pursuc" happincss. IL's a proccss LhaL
rcquircs lcarning how Lo Lransorm our minds. Fach and cvcry onc o us can
accomplish Lhis wiLh ocuscd Lraining and by rcpcaLing ccrLain cxcrciscs and
Lcchniqucs Lo amiliarizc oursclvcs wiLh Lhc bcncicial aspccLs o posiLivc
cmoLions and bchaviors. AL Lhc samc Limc wc musL lcarn and bc awarc o Lhc
harmul aspccLs o ncgaLivc cmoLions. Thcn, bascd on Lhc naLural dcsirc Lo
cxpcricncc good cmoLional cclings, wc musL consciously and dclibcraLely go
aLcr Lhcm. NcuroscicnLisLs havc provcn LhaL Lhc brain can lcarn rom ncw,
posiLivc inpuL and Lhc wiring in Lhc brain can acLually changc. WiLh scl-
disciplinc, our minds can gradually wipc ouL scl-inlicLing ncgaLivc LhoughLs and
cclings.
As I stated, it is a proccss. You may noL gcL iL down" ovcrnighL, buL you will
lovc bcing awarc and in conLrol o your LhoughLs and will cxpcricncc posiLivc
rcsulLs immcdiaLcly. Iiving posiLivcly will noL only changc how you vicw
yoursclLhc bcginning o scl-worthiL will changc how oLhcrs vicw you and
will havc a proound cccL on Lhc way you go abouL your daily lic. Wc Lrain hard
or cvcryLhing LhaL is imporLanL Lo us. Isn'L iL abouL Limc wc Lakc Lhosc samc
Lraining skills and apply Lhcm Lo whaL is mosL imporLanL or usour minds`
Finally, how do wc aLLain happincss` Wc aLLain happincss Lhrough Lhc
aLLainmcnL o rcal, hcarL-clL cclings o scl-worLh. I Lhink o scl-worLh as Lhc
Lrunk o Lhc Lrcc o lic rom which branchcs o lovc, orgivcncss, good hcalth,
compassion, couragc, scllcssncss, cnLhusiasm, pcrscvcrancc, succcss, joy, and
pcacc o mind grow cndlcssly and abundanLly. Simply sLaLcd, scl-worLh providcs
Lhc sLrcngLh and dcLcrminaLion nccdcd Lo conqucr our limiLlcss poLcnLial.
Surc, iL Lakcs dcLcrminaLion, Limc, and corL Lo dcvclop Lhc mindul habiLs
LhaL bring happincss. Thc good ncws is LhaL LhroughouL Lhc Lraining pcriod, you
will bc rcwardcd. You will discovcr ncwound cncrgy, cnLhusiasm, and opLimism
and will havc Lhc abiliLy Lo posiLivcly handlc daily challcngcs LhaL aL onc Limc in
your lic wcrc rcgardcd as obsLaclcs."
WRIGHT
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VEECK
Somc pcoplc Lhink succcss brings happincss and oLhcrs ccl happincss brings
succcss. WhaL makcs my mcssagc uniquc is LhaL I bclicvc happincss is succcss
and boLh arc rcadily availablc whcn you arc. 3usL whaL do I mcan by rcady whcn
you arc`" Thc day wc makc Lhc dccision Lo makc long-Lcrm, lic-altering
adjusLmcnLs in boLh our physical and cmoLional sclvcs is Lhc day wc will bcgin to
ccl Lhc posiLivc cccLs o mind ovcr maLLcr. How can wc makc LhaL changc` IL's
simplc! IL sLarLs wiLh a singlc LhoughL.
Rcscarch has provcn wc havc wcll ovcr Lcn Lhousand LhoughLs a day. Whcn
wc arc scriously rcady Lo cxpcricncc happincss/succcss bcyond our wildcsL
drcams, Lhc irsL sLcp is bccoming awarc and lcarning Lhc valuc o cach onc o
our Lhousands o LhoughLs and Lhc cnormous rolc cach plays on our livcs. For
cxamplc, whcn wc Lhink or say, Oh, I could ncvcr do LhaL," wc'rc righLwc
never could do LhaL bccausc wc arc guidcd by our LhoughLs. ThoughLs arc our
lcadcrs and i our lcadcrs convincc us wc can ncvcr do somcLhing, wc'll bclicvc
Lhcm and sucr a licLimc o conscqucnccs surrounding LhaL onc ncgaLivc
LhoughL. In acL, our cnLirc rcaliLy will bc bascd on an illusory scnsc o who wc
arc or whaL wc can do. Our LhoughLs dirccLly accL our cclings, which, in Lurn,
accL our bchavior, our words, and ulLimaLcly our cnvironmcnL.
As wc bccomc conscious o our LhoughLs, iL mighL surprisc us to learn that so
many o Lhcm arcn'L vcry posiLivc. I jusL lovc whcn LhaL happcns! IL provcs wc
havc Lhc inLcllccL and sLrcngLh o characLcr Lo admiL LhaL wc havc room and Lhc
dcsirc or scl-improvcmcnL. In acL, iL gcLs us rcady and anxious or Lhc ncxL
sLcp, which is qucsLioning why wc havc so many ncgaLivc and wasLcul LhoughLs.
Thcn wc comc Lo Lhc rcalizaLion LhaL iL is our LhoughLs, noL somconc or
somcLhing, LhaL arc Lhc causc o much o our cmoLional angcr, agony, and
sucring. This is a good Lhing! IL's an inLcrnal awakcning LhaL is boLh criLical and
csscnLial Lo inally sLop blaming oLhcrs and bcgin acccpLing rcsponsibiliLy or our
acLionsboth good and badand our own conLcnLmcnL lcvcls. Oncc wc'rc
conscious o our ncgaLivc LhoughLs and Lhcir dcsLrucLiviLy, wc simply nccd Lo
challcngc oursclvcs and changc our minds. I you Lhink iL's impossiblc Lo changc
your LhoughLs rom ncgaLivc Lo posiLivc on a spin o a dimc, Lry rcdirccLing LhaL
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LhoughL, Loo. IL's noL only possiblc, iL's casy, un, and guaranLccd Lo changc your
lic!
Scl-conidcncc, cncrgy, and cnLhusiasm sLcm rom a changc o aLLiLudc: Lhc
winning LickcL Lo susLaincd happincss and succcss. Succcss or ailurc bcgins wiLh
a thoughtour thoughtso, our choicc. Think" abouL LhaL!
WRIGHT
I Lhcrc rcally wcrc sLcppingsLoncs" Lo succcss, whaL would you inscribc on
Lhc irsL sLonc`
VEECK
Bcorc I answcr LhaL qucsLion, allow mc Lo ask you onc. Do you rcmcmbcr Lhc
lasL Limc you cxpcricnccd a migrainc, a backachc, Lhc lu, pncumonia, or worsc
yet, a morc scrious illncss` Wcrc you saying Lo yourscl, Wow, Lhis is grcaL! I'm
so happy`" I doubL iL. A journcy Lo complcLc happincssLhc ulLimaLc mcasurc o
succcssmusL involvc Lhc vchiclc LhaL is going Lo gcL us Lhcrc. Thcrcorc, in
answcr Lo your qucsLion, whaL I would inscribc on Lhc irsL sLcppingsLonc is onc
wordhealth.
In Lhc carly '70s, whcn I bcgan Lhc qucsL Lo lcarn morc abouL Lhc mind, liLLlc
did I know I would also bc rcscarching Lhc mcchanisms by which Lhc mind
inlucnccs Lhc body. SLudy aLcr sLudy has provcn LhaL unhcalLhy psychological
uncLioning can causc unrcsL and sLrcss in our livcs and can bc a dcLcrmining
acLor in our physical hcalLh as wcll. PaLLcrns o physiological and cmoLional
disharmony upscL Lhc chcmisLry o our bodics. AlLhough there is virtually no
qucsLion LhaL LhoughLs, cclings, moods, and aLLiLudc arc major conLribuLors Lo
our ovcrall hcalLh, somc scicnLisLs and docLors bclicvc iL gocs much dccpcr and
LhaL Lhc rclaLionship wc havc Lo our Lhinking is Lhc dirccL causc o boLh minor
and scrious illncsscs. Thcrcorc, i wc Lakc good carc o our Lhinking, our achcs,
pains, and worrics will disappcar.
AlLhough hcalLhy bodics bcgin wiLh hcalLhy LhoughLs, propcr dicL and
nuLriLion is nccdcd Lo susLain a good balancc, boLh physically and mcnLally, Lo
avoid discasc and illncss. UnorLunaLcly, onc o Lhc biggcsL misconccpLions in
our counLry is Lhc dciniLion o propcr" dicL and nuLriLion. Thcrc is convincing
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cvidcncc LhaL Lhc Amcrican dicL" is noL only ailing us, buL is a largc contributor
Lo Lhc incrcasc in Lhc risk o canccr, hcarL discasc, diabcLcs, and obcsiLy. Many
nuLriLionisLs ccl wc'rc bcing mislcd in Lhc LruLhs abouL ccrLain oods and
ingrcdicnLs. FxpcrLs Lhink ood companics should bc rcquircd Lo sLaLc all o Lhc
nuLriLion acLs" including Lhc acLs abouL Lhc hcalLh hazards in many o Lhc
ingrcdicnLs. Thc acL is, i olks wcrc cducaLcd abouL Lhc harmul cccLs o Lhc
oods Lhcy consumc, Lhcy'd swiLch Lo hcalLhicr oods, bccomc morc hcalLh
conscious, look and ccl bcLLcr, and our naLion's hcalLhcarc cosLs would likcly bc
cuL in hal.
Changing your dicL can changc your lic and Lhcrc's no bcLLcr proo o LhaL
sLaLcmcnL Lhan in Dr. T. Colin Campbcll's book, The China Study. Dr. Campbcll is
a disLinguishcd procssor aL Corncll UnivcrsiLy and has spcnL ncarly ivc dccadcs
rcscarching Lhc rclaLionship o dicL Lo discasc. Thc cccL o his indings could
Lurn Lhc psychological and physiological hcalLh carc o our naLion around.
And, inally, wc can'L ignorc Lhc inLcrconnccLcdncss bcLwccn physical acLiviLy
and mcnLal wcll-bcing in Lhc ovcrall conccpL o hcalLh. In addiLion Lo mcrcly
looking good, kccping our boncs sLrong, and mainLaining a hcalLhy hcarL,
rcscarch has provcn combining rcgular cxcrcisc and good nuLriLion ocrs cnergy,
good moods, alcrLncss, and an inLcrnal moLivaLion Lo conLinuc a licsLylc o
opLimal hcalLh.
WRIGHT
WhaL has bccn your grcaLcsL accomplishmcnL as a moLivaLional spcakcr and
wholc body wcllncss coach`
VEECK
I bclicvc my grcaLcsL accomplishmcnL is knowing Lhc posiLivc cccL I havc
had on peopleLhcir livcs and Lhcir dcsLinics. Pcoplc oLcn comc up Lo mc aL Lhc
cnd o a scssion and say, Thank you. I know cxacLly whaL I nccd Lo do now" or
You hclpcd mc igurc ouL whaL's bccn wrong." ThaL alonc is a Lruc ccling o
accomplishmcnL. In addiLion, whcn I hcar sLorics o dramaLic lic
LransormaLions, I ccl blcsscd Lo havc bccn Lhc moLivc and causc o Lhc Lurning
poinL in LhaL pcrson's lic. Thc ollowing arc somc cxamplcs:
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An audicncc mcmbcr who lisLcncd Lo my mcssagc on Lhrcc dicrcnL
occasions sLaLcd, Thcrc wcrc six words LhaL hiL mc likc a block o ccmcnL'Lakc
conLrol o your own dcsLiny.'!" Hc said LhaL unLil LhaL nighL, hc had noL rcalizcd
hc was jusL going Lhrough Lhc moLions o lic likc mosL pcoplcwaiLing and
waLching Lo scc whaL was Lo comc ncxL. Hc said, I sLarLcd Lo Lhink LhaL my lic
has bccn likc a ridc aL an amuscmcnL parkslow and sLraighL orward aL somc
Limcs, which is casy and comorLablc buL noL ncccssarily saLisying and Lhcn Loo
asL wiLh sharp Lurns aL oLhcr Limcs, which crcaLcs Lurmoil and can bc
righLcning. Fvcn Lhough you wanL Lo gcL o, you can'L. Now, I am no longcr a
vicLim o, 'LhaL's jusL Lhc way iL is.'!" Hc madc a dccision Lo Lakc chargc o his lic
and LhaL hc did. Today, Lhis orLy-ivc-year-old man has losL orLy unwanLcd
pounds and works ouL on a rcgular basis. Hc soughL ouL Lhc cmploymcnL o his
choicc, has a hobby that is equally rcwarding, and spcnds morc qualiLy Limc wiLh
his amily Lhan cvcr bcorc.
I was orLunaLc Lo bc ablc Lo spcak Lo a group o sLudcnLs aL Lhc UCSB campus
in SanLa Barbara, Caliornia. ALcrward, many o Lhc sLudcnLs waiLcd in line to
Lalk Lo mc. Somc sharcd Lhcir individual vicwpoinLs, and oLhcrs Lhcir pcrsonal
sLorics and siLuaLions. I was parLicularly Louchcd by a young lady in hcr rcshman
ycar.
Iaurcn had bccn accd wiLh irsL ycar collcgc challcngcs bcyond hcr
cxpccLaLions. Hcr dorm, pcrsonal, and acadcmic livcs wcrc noL going wcll. Fvcry
wcckcnd shc rchcarscd a phonc call in hcr mind Lclling hcr parcnLs shc was
coming homc. 3usL six wccks bcorc Lhc cnd o hcr irsL ycar, wiLh no onc Lo Lurn
Lo, nowhcrc Lo go and no longcr ablc Lo handlc hcr dcprcssion, shc madc Lhc
dccision Lo pack up and lcavc. Two days bcorc shc was schcdulcd Lo lcavc, a
sororiLy sisLcr askcd Iaurcn Lo accompany hcr Lo somc random lccLurc on
happincss." Fccling obligaLcd Lo hclp a ricnd ouL, shc agrccd Lo go.
AL Lhc cnd o my lccLurc, Iaurcn, Loo, waiLcd Lo Lcll mc hcr sLory. Trying Lo
hold back hcr Lcars, Iaurcn Lold mc shc was inally ablc Lo makc scnsc o hcr
siLuaLion aL UCSB. Shc rcalizcd Lhc causc and kncw whaL shc had Lo do Lo Lurn
hcr lic around. Fillcd wiLh cmoLions and an obvious abundancc o inLcrnal
LhoughLs and rclic, shc procccdcd Lo Lcll mc shc clL iL was hcr parLicular lcss-
than-ulilling cnvironmcnL in Lhc dorms LhaL was Lhc causc o hcr dcspair. In
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onc hour in onc nighL, Iaurcn madc many ncw dccisions. NoL only did shc sLop
rcciLing Lhc words Lo a phonc call shc ncvcr madc Lo hcr parcnLs or lcavc school,
shc madc arrangcmcnLs Lo livc wiLh ricnds and collcagucs shc kncw would
cnhancc, noL hindcr, hcr cnvironmcnL during hcr sophomorc ycar. Iaurcn has
sincc graduaLcd rom UCSB wiLh lying colors and has said Lhcy wcrc Lhc bcsL
Lhrcc" ycars o hcr lic.
AnoLhcr woman, marricd wiLh Lwo young childrcn, Look somc o Lhc books I
had rccommcndcd on a Lrip shc and hcr husband had planncd Lo Hawaii. Shc
Lold mc Lhc books inspircd hcr so much LhaL halway Lhrough Lhc Lrip shc wanLcd
Lo pack up, gcL homc, and bcgin hcr ncw lic. AlLhough shc didn'L cuL hcr Lrip
shorL, Lhc day aLcr shc goL homc shc rcsigncd rom hcr job o scvcn ycars and
signed up or onlinc inancc classcs. Today shc is cnjoying Lhc indcpcndcncc and
inancial rccdom o owning hcr own busincss. Shc Lold mc shc's living Lhc lic
shc LhoughL or so long was only in hcr drcams. AlLhough I inspircd hcr Lo
rccognizc iL's noL jusL a mythyou rcally can changc Lhc dirccLion o your lic
sLorics likc hcrs and many oLhcrs arc whaL inspirc mc Lo conLinuc my passion or
Lcaching Happincss"Lhc subjccL Lhc cducaLors ovcrlookcd!
WRIGHT
WhaL is Lhc main mcssagc you wanL your rcadcrs Lo Lakc wiLh Lhcm`
VEECK
Thcrc arc Lwo parLs in answcring Lhis qucsLion.
Part 1: Thc rcscarch has bccn donc and Lhc acLs havc bccn documcnLcd. MosL
o Lhc Lurmoil and pcrsonal hardships wc cxpcricncc, whcLhcr wc rcalizc iL or
noL, arc scl-inlicLcdday aLcr day, ycar aLcr ycar and gcncraLion aLcr
gcncraLion. Why do wc inlicL cmoLional pain and hardships upon oursclvcs` Onc
answcr is LhaL many o us Lhink" wc don'L dcscrvc bcLLcr or wc arc supposcd Lo
cxpcricncc Lhc samc livcsgood or badas our parcnLs. AnoLhcr is LhaL many
pcoplc pcrccivc Lhc good lic" as unrcalisLic and acccpL Lhc noLion Lhcy'rc noL
going Lo bc a parL o Lhc lucky cw who will cxpcricncc iL. BuL Lhc rcal rcason is
Lhis: MosL pcoplc do noL know how or how casy iL is Lo makc posiLivc changes in
Lhcir livcs, conscqucnLly, posiLivcly accLing Lhc livcs and cnvironmcnL around
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Lhcm. I wc don'L know how Lo sccurc cmoLional wcll-bcing, scl-worLh, and
happincss in our own livcs, how can wc Lcach Lhcsc valuablc lic lcssons Lo our
childrcn and/or our sLudcnLs`
Part 2: Through scicnLiic sLudics and scholarly rcscarch, iL has bccn provcn
Lhcrc arc mcLhods, sysLcms, principlcs, and Lcchniqucs LhaL can Lcach us how Lo
look wiLhin oursclvcs and aLLain Lhc ulLimaLc goal o complcLc happincss.
InormaLion rom Lhis rcscarch is rcadily availablc and aL our disposal in cvcry
imaginablc ormaL, now morc Lhan cvcr bcorc.
My mcssagc is Lhis: Humans arc luidwc arc ncvcr jusL onc" Lhing, ncvcr
sLagnanL. Wc can Lhink, spcak, and bchavc in any way, in any momcnL. IL's our
choicc. So, i you choosc Lo pursuc, noL pcrccivc, Lhc lic you wcrc mcanL Lo livc,
iL sLarLs wiLh LhaL onc LhoughL, LhaL onc choicc! Thc ncxL sLcp is Lo lcarn Lhc how
Lo's by rcading books, rcscarching Lhc InLcrncL, aLLcnding moLivaLional scminars,
and Lhcn pracLicing Lhc ncw Lcchniqucs all day, cvcry day! CraLiying changcs
occur almosL insLanLly during Lhis proccss, which makc iL quiLc Lhrilling. Ovcr a
shorL pcriod o Limc, you'll bccomc apprcciaLivc o Lhc knowlcdgc LhaL oundcd
your ncw abulous lic. You will bc ablc Lo Lcach" Lhcsc skills Lo your amily,
sharc Lhcm wiLh your ricnds, and Lakc crcdiL or a changc Loward an cmoLionally
prospcrous naLion!
WRIGHT
3oannc, I havc ccrLainly gaincd a loL rom Lhis convcrsaLion and am sure the
rcadcrs havc as wcll. Thank you or sharing your widc dcpLh o knowlcdgc wiLh
us and bcing a parL o Lhis projccL.
VEECK
IL's bccn my plcasurc. Thank you!
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A B O U T T HE A U T HOR
3OANNE 3EFFERS VFFCK is a divcrsc and dynamic individual. Having boLh
livcd and sLudicd abroad, shc graduaLcd rom UnivcrsiLy o Lhc Paciic, in
Caliornia, carning hcr dcgrcc in FducaLion. 3oannc also complcLcd a ycar o
graduaLc school aL San Francisco SLaLc UnivcrsiLy whcrc shc sLudicd
Psychology/Child DcvclopmcnL and carncd a licLimc Lcaching crcdcnLial.
From l0S4200S 3oannc was cmploycd as Vicc PrcsidcnL o a ivc-store
drug chain in SacramcnLo, Caliornia. In l000, sLill ascinaLcd wiLh psychology,
shc cmbarkcd upon a ncwcr icld o scicncc, PosiLivc Psychology, Lhc
undcrsLanding o whaL iL Lakcs" and Lhc mcLhods uscd Lo makc livcs lourish
and Lhrivc.
In 2001, on her days o, 3oannc cnLcrcd Lhc school sysLcm again, buL Lhis
Limc as a moLivaLional cducaLor. Bascd on hcr ycars o rcscarch and dcdicaLion
Lo Lhc wcll-bcing o oLhcrs, shc succcssully crcaLcd a lic-alLcring/onc-o-a-
kind scssion or boLh childrcn and adulLs callcd, Happy Hour," which
sLraLcgically Lcachcs lcssons on happincss, Lhc subjccL Lhc cducaLors
ovcrlookcd.
Today, 3oannc has Lakcn Happy Hour" Lo a highcr lcvcl and dcvoLcs hcr
Limc spcaking Lo a widc varicLy o groups o all agcs on Lhc complcxiLics and the
unLold LruLhs abouL Lhc aLLainmcnL o happincss. Hcr moLLo is Train, RcLain,
and Cain Lhc unbclicvablc lic LhaL awaiLs you!"
JOANNE VEECK
916-847-0213
joanncjjhappyhour.com
www.jjhappyhour.com
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DIRECTORY
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LV DAHLMAN
The LVD Group
0S40 Hcdgc Bcll
McKinncy, TX
072.345.56S3
lvLhclvdgroup.com
www.Lhclvdgroup.com
JOANNA CAMERON
Trance Lady Productions, Inc
McIcan, VA 22l0l
703-538-7123
drjcamcronaol.com
www.joannacamcron.com
www.hypnosisandsLrcss.com
www.Lrancclady.com
JACK CANFIELD
The Jack Canfield Companies
P.O. Box 30SS0
Santa Barbara, CA 93130
Phonc: S05.563.2035
Fax: S05.563.2045
www.jackcanicld.com
SHELLEE HALE
Camandago, Inc.
227 Bellevue Way NE #80
Bellevue, WA 98004
shcllcccamandago.com
www.camandago.com
www.coachshcllcc.com
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Tifphanie Tucker
2750 N.W. l06
th
Street
Miami Cardcns, Florida 33056
7S6.326.6l42
TiphanicTuckcrgmail.com
www.womcnundcrconsLrucLion.com
EARL DAVIS
P.O. Box S2006
Tampa, FI 336S2
813-672-3445
www.crcaLcwinncrs.org
SASKIA RELL
(07S) 546-6265
saskia.rocllvcrizon.ncL
www.illuminaLcdLransormaLion.com
www.suiLcasculloaiLh.com
DR. DEEPAK CHOPRA
The Chopra Center
20l3 CosLa dcl Mar Rd.
Carlsbad, CA 92009
inochopra.com
www.chopra.com
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PAULA EDER, PHD
PO Box l57
FranccsLown, NH 03043
(603) 547-6696
paulaLhcLimcindcr.com
www.ThcTimcFindcr.com
www.FindingTimc.ncL
KATHY PERRY
16616 Vallcly Drivc
Tampa, FI 336lS
813-789-9580
KaLhykaLhypcrry.com
www.kaLhypcrry.com
SALLIE FELTON
P.O. Box 264
HamilLon, MA 0l036
978-626-0090
sallicsallicclLonliccoach.com
www.sallicclLonliccoach.com
JOHN MORRISSEY
17171 Shirley Street
Omaha, NF 6Sl30
Oicc: 402-502-3994,
Cell: 402-980-9798
jmorrisscy2cox.ncL
johnmorrisscyinLcrnaLional.com
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INDRANI N. GORDIA
0505 Six Pincs Drivc, SuiLc S2l0
The Woodlands
(2Sl) 300-6563
indraniindraniliccoach.com
www.IndranisIighL.com
RICK MILLER
Choices & Success LLC
5 Croydon Road
MorrisLown, N3 07060
073.267.S367
www.choiccsandsucccss.com
LYN JEFFRESS
l2032 SF KcnL-Kanglcy Road, SuiLc 255
KcnL, WA 0S030
253-239-1387
lynjimagincduLurc.com
www.imagincduLurc.com
DR. DENIS WAITLEY
The Waitley Institute
P.O. Box l07
Rancho SanLa Fc, CA 02067
www.dcniswaiLlcy.com
DIRECTORY
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LINDA MEEUWENBERG
6l0 Drivcr Avc.
WinLcr Park, FI 327S0
(23l) 50S.l740 (ccll)
(23l) 072.44S0 (voicc mail)
lindalindapda.com
www.lindapda.com
NANCY NOONAN
The Art of Mastery
S02 W. Mulbcrry SLrccL
Iouisvillc, CO S0027
720-304-3597 or 877-684-8507
nnnancynoonanspcaks.com
www.nancynoonanspcaks.com
JOANNE VEECK
916-847-0213
joanncjjhappyhour.com
www.jjhappyhour.com
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