Lt's pointless to liken yourself to a lawyer friend if you're training to become a chef. Self-comparation is only motivating if you use it to harness your own abilities. Don't compare yourself to anyone, but to a range of people in a similar field.
Lt's pointless to liken yourself to a lawyer friend if you're training to become a chef. Self-comparation is only motivating if you use it to harness your own abilities. Don't compare yourself to anyone, but to a range of people in a similar field.
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"What they don't realise is this mindset can mean they don't present themselves well in a given situation. "They can be self-deprecating, and [the resuli is] they're not taken very seriously. For example, they can be so sure they won't get a job that they under-prepare and undersell themselves."
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disappointed, or it's in an area you have never felt particularly confident, then it's \..",':i::t: important to get a good friend to talk this through with you; someone who really sees the best in you, so you look Next, you need to make sure you're think, 'My ex seems to prefer this or that at things from better angles," she advises. making the right comparisons. lt's ... so l'll do that to win him back'." "When I feel my life isn't as great as pointless to liken yourself to a lawyer "lSelf-comparisonl is only motivating so-and-so's, I tell my friends about it. lt's friend if you're training to become a if you use it to harness your own abilities so comforting to hear that they suffer the chef. lnstead, look at a range of people and stretch yoursell not to criticise and exact same kind of anxieties," says 27- in a similar field to yours, rather than punish yourself," warns Shaw. year-old Lee. "No matter what, there'll focusing in on just one person. lf all else fails, make an effort to focus always be someone who's doing better As Shaw points out, "lt's important on the positives in your life and how lthan you], but the key is to keep doing not to use a comparison to negatively these measure up to others. Chances are, your thing regardless. Their success view yourself and change as a result. even being a talented Hollywood actress doesn't have to equal your failure." For example, it's certainly no good to has its drawbacks in comparison. fl
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